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Speaker 1: Welcome back to the podcast. Episode two two three. Got

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Speaker 2: album a long time ago, and they did Psalm thirteen.

431
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Speaker 3: They wrote a song and.

432
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Speaker 2: Just listen to that album of songs of all of

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Speaker 2: these SOMs, because that is a similar cry, you know,

434
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Speaker 2: throughout that throughout Psalms and throughout that record, but that

435
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Speaker 2: that song in particular of Psalm thirteen. Just put it

436
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Speaker 2: on repeat when you're driving and let let that just

437
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Speaker 2: kind of like be what you meditate on, what you

438
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Speaker 2: think of. So when you start to kind of go

439
00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:02,359
Speaker 2: here and you're like, no, he's been good to me,

440
00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:06,680
Speaker 2: like and you're not the first one to suffer and

441
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Speaker 2: all those and just be open like, man, what is

442
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Speaker 2: God gonna like speak to me through through that?

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Speaker 3: So easy way to just keep it.

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Speaker 1: That's a great the.

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Speaker 3: Front of mind.

446
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Speaker 1: That's a great idea that it's a great record. What's

447
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Speaker 1: interesting is that when you when you think about Psalm

448
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Speaker 1: thirteen or the mini Psalms that are laments or questions

449
00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:30,199
Speaker 1: to God are wrestling with God's what's interesting about it all.

450
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 1: It's like you go, how could these people? Why is

451
00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:36,679
Speaker 1: that good to wrestle with God? Well, the answer usually

452
00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:41,680
Speaker 1: is you're in communication with him. You're bringing it to him.

453
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 1: That's what he wants. Bring it to me. You got questions,

454
00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:48,320
Speaker 1: don't go try to find it in the world. Bring

455
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Speaker 1: it to me. Ask me, how will I leave you forever?

456
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Speaker 1: How long will I hide my face from you? Ask

457
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Speaker 1: me come to me, join me in fellowship, Get on

458
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Speaker 1: your knees, because when you do that, you're in a relationship.

459
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:08,440
Speaker 1: We're directly talking, we're communicating, and that's often forgotten.

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Speaker 3: Oh for sure.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes it's like God, why yeah, why yeah? But you're

462
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Speaker 1: talking to him.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: It's almost like there's this we're presenting a lack of

465
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Speaker 2: faith if we ask the hard questions and it's like, no,

466
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Speaker 2: I want to believe even deeper. And if I ask

467
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Speaker 2: in I wrestle. That's how I'm going to get to

468
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Speaker 2: the deeper. So go and ask those questions, for sure, wrestle.

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Speaker 1: Bernie and Bernie asked a question earlier on where do

470
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Speaker 1: the word podcast come from? I have no idea. I

471
00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:47,920
Speaker 1: looked up a history of the word podcast, and I'm

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Speaker 1: not that I can't immediately see the answer. So I

473
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Speaker 1: would say comment below. If you're listening on a on

474
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Speaker 1: a platform that allows you to comment, someone look it

475
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Speaker 1: up for us and find out the history of the

476
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Speaker 1: word pod cast. Be interested speaking to podcast. If you

477
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Speaker 1: have a question for me, email podcast at grangersmith dot com.

478
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Speaker 1: And this question comes from Alex says, Hey Granger I'm

479
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:19,119
Speaker 1: a longtime fan of you and the podcast. I'm thirty

480
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 1: years old and in twenty eighteen, I married my wife,

481
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Speaker 1: whom I was with for ten years at the time,

482
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 1: and we had a beautiful little girl together. Throughout our relationship,

483
00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:29,879
Speaker 1: I had a hard time being faithful to her and

484
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 1: we ended up getting divorced. In twenty twenty, I met

485
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Speaker 1: the love of my life and the most amazing woman.

486
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Speaker 1: We are so happy together every single day. After being

487
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Speaker 1: together three years, I went to a concert with some

488
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:45,160
Speaker 1: of my buddies and there was a woman that was

489
00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 1: sitting next to me and we were having a good

490
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:48,479
Speaker 1: time during the show and I ended up getting her

491
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Speaker 1: number and some things were said. My girlfriend saw these texts,

492
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Speaker 1: knowing my past, she left me. She is the love

493
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Speaker 1: of my life and all I want is to be

494
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Speaker 1: with her. Some just comes over me and I make

495
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:05,240
Speaker 1: these horrible decisions and they end up flipping my world

496
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 1: upside down. I'm not a bad man, I just know.

497
00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:12,960
Speaker 1: I just don't know how to stop these mistakes. I

498
00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:17,600
Speaker 1: don't want to cheat. I don't want to be this man. Alex.

499
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:22,520
Speaker 1: That's a good one man. So no real question in there, right,

500
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:25,360
Speaker 1: just to like confession, that's a good question. It's a

501
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 1: good confession because I don't think I've ever seen a

502
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:39,360
Speaker 1: question quite like this one. And and the it's impossible, Alex,

503
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 1: it's impossible for me to give to give you a

504
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 1: good it's not a question. So it's I don't know

505
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 1: if I should say answer or analysis of this without

506
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 1: heavily leaning on my biblical worldview. Same with Burns and

507
00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:59,600
Speaker 1: there are there are a couple of things from my

508
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 1: biblical worldview that just scream at me from this email.

509
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:07,560
Speaker 1: And one of them is and probably not definitely not

510
00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:10,680
Speaker 1: the thing you're thinking about, but here it is. This

511
00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:15,560
Speaker 1: one line says I'm not a bad man. Now. What's

512
00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:18,840
Speaker 1: crazy about that is that that's the common understanding. In fact,

513
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:22,320
Speaker 1: Luke Bryan has a song. Have you ever heard that song?

514
00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 2: It's like Greater Smith's the only country that I used

515
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:30,080
Speaker 2: to listen to he retired though Luke Brian is a.

516
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:34,200
Speaker 1: Song called gets called something like I Believe All people

517
00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 1: are good. It's this idea like I believe all people

518
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 1: are good. We're mostly good, and that is, it's a

519
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 1: common idea, and most people think that most people that

520
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 1: think they're good are most people that think that most

521
00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:52,720
Speaker 1: people are good. And Alex is one of them. And

522
00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:56,360
Speaker 1: he says I'm not a bad man. And and so

523
00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 1: he's trying to reconcile this, like as I'm watching the

524
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:01,880
Speaker 1: struggle in the in the email, It's like, man, I'm

525
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:05,240
Speaker 1: trying to wrestle with the idea that I'm not bad.

526
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:09,400
Speaker 1: I'm good, But I just don't know how to stop

527
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Speaker 1: making these mistakes. What's going on? I'm not crazy, Granger,

528
00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 1: but I you know, I I don't understand how a

529
00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:22,360
Speaker 1: good man like there's bad men out there. That's that's

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Speaker 1: what he's insinuoud.

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Speaker 2: That's what he's It's almost like this standard of good

532
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Speaker 2: and bad that is, And he doesn't mention anything about

533
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 2: God or Jesus or a biblical worldview, right he doesn't.

534
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:35,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, he doesn't.

535
00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, So his standard or his idea, his worldview of

536
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:43,960
Speaker 2: what good and bad is is probably going to be

537
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:46,160
Speaker 2: very different than I know.

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Speaker 1: It's great and hey, Alex, I love you, bro, and

539
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Speaker 1: I'm really glad you asked this in this way so

540
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Speaker 1: that we could answer it in this way, because it's

541
00:31:57,280 --> 00:32:01,080
Speaker 1: it's really important to talk about you say, I'm not

542
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:06,320
Speaker 1: a bad man, insinuating that there must be bad men.

543
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:10,520
Speaker 1: There must be people that that are like child traffickers

544
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:17,600
Speaker 1: and rapist murders, the bank robbers, there's there's there must

545
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:20,320
Speaker 1: be some guys like in the hills of South America

546
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:23,320
Speaker 1: that are doing really bad things. Hey, I'm just going

547
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 1: to a concert getting the girl's number, and I just

548
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 1: I like beautiful women. Hey, how do you fault me

549
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:33,920
Speaker 1: on that? Guys? I love beautiful women. That's what That's

550
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 1: what he's saying, Okay, And it's it's really important for

551
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 1: us to kind of reel this in because you emailed

552
00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 1: this podcast under this biblical worldview. And here's what the

553
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 1: Bible says. No one is good, not even one. The

554
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 1: Bible says, all of you have gone astray, all have

555
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Speaker 1: sinned and fall short of the glory of God, all

556
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:03,240
Speaker 1: of you. That is a crazy thought in the opposite

557
00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:06,800
Speaker 1: of the world and so instead of like this grating

558
00:33:06,840 --> 00:33:10,200
Speaker 1: on a curve, Like there's these really bad men in

559
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 1: South America that do these horrible things in child trafficking,

560
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:15,520
Speaker 1: and then there's these men that like rob banks. That's

561
00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 1: the second tier, and then there's like the third tier

562
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:23,160
Speaker 1: that's like the drunk dad that neglects his children. And

563
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:25,960
Speaker 1: then here's where I am. I'm like the fourth tier,

564
00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 1: and that's like just kind of just can't really stay

565
00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 1: faithful to a girlfriend. So I'm not bad. The Bible says, no,

566
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Speaker 1: all of you bad, all of you, all of your sinners,

567
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Speaker 1: oh even you priest, even you monks, even you Buddhist

568
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: climb in the mountain in the Himalayas, You're all bad,

569
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Speaker 1: And we go, what what about our own conscience agrees

570
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Speaker 1: that this is true, because the reason the monks climb

571
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:57,240
Speaker 1: those mountains is because they feel it in them. They

572
00:33:57,320 --> 00:33:59,880
Speaker 1: feel the evil in them, and they're trying everything that

573
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Speaker 1: can to eradicate it and try to meditate long enough,

574
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Speaker 1: or try to be good long enough, or try try

575
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 1: to sacrifice enough things, or to try to try to

576
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:15,080
Speaker 1: read enough of scripture, or try to deny themselves. Women

577
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:19,520
Speaker 1: like that. That's another bad thing to try to say

578
00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:21,279
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna be celibate, you know, like I'm not.

579
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:23,879
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna I'm not gonna be with any women ever.

580
00:34:23,920 --> 00:34:26,440
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna be seeing. These are all things that

581
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:29,480
Speaker 1: man creates to try to fight against the urge that

582
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:32,680
Speaker 1: they are bad. They don't want to admit they're bad.

583
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:34,879
Speaker 1: They want to say they're they're good, and they're trying

584
00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:37,200
Speaker 1: to fight this world, the urge. But the fact is,

585
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:40,360
Speaker 1: it's not the world. It's not the culture, it's not society.

586
00:34:40,680 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 1: It's you, Alex. You need to hear this. You are bad.

587
00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 1: And I could say that because I have the same disease.

588
00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 1: It's called sin. We inherited it from our ancestors. And

589
00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:01,080
Speaker 1: there's no way you're born. Not one human is born

590
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:05,919
Speaker 1: without it. In fact, if you've do you have kids, yeah,

591
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 1: you have a beautiful little girl. I guarantee you. You

592
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:09,960
Speaker 1: saw her at two years old, you knew she was

593
00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 1: a sinner, and she was born with it. There is

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00:35:13,719 --> 00:35:17,760
Speaker 1: no not even a child that is good. There's innocent children.

595
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:22,839
Speaker 1: There's a difference between innocent and sinful, and children are sinful. Man,

596
00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:26,959
Speaker 1: They're born with it. So that's the worldview that that's

597
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:30,920
Speaker 1: like the groundbreaking idea that's gonna just shatter this whole email.

598
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:34,279
Speaker 1: Right at the bat, we go, Yeah, we knew you

599
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 1: were bad. You're the only one in this table right here, Alex,

600
00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 1: that didn't know you were bad. You didn't know that

601
00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:45,320
Speaker 1: your flesh, this lustful idea, that your flesh is reaching

602
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:48,200
Speaker 1: out to these women. You thought that was something the

603
00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 1: world was doing to you because of culture. Maybe you're

604
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:53,799
Speaker 1: blaming it on porn. Are you blaming it on Instagram

605
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 1: because it showed you? Are you blame it on this concert?

606
00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:58,000
Speaker 1: And these friends took me and this girl is so

607
00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:00,640
Speaker 1: beautiful and I'm gonna blame it on her. The Muslims

608
00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:02,880
Speaker 1: blame it on the women, like you shouldn't dress like

609
00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:06,320
Speaker 1: that cover up because I don't want to look at you,

610
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 1: because I don't want to indulge my flesh, because I

611
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:11,359
Speaker 1: can't help it if I see you, if I see

612
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:18,960
Speaker 1: more than your eyeslits. And so with that, this is

613
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:23,360
Speaker 1: taking a long time, sorry, but under I love this

614
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 1: idea though, because it's this is this is what the

615
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:32,360
Speaker 1: world says, and the contrary to the world, the Bible says,

616
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:37,480
Speaker 1: because of your sin, you can't be with God. You're

617
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:41,120
Speaker 1: you're out, you're disqualified. You want to be with God.

618
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:43,720
Speaker 1: Here's how you get to be with God. Be perfect.

619
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:47,799
Speaker 1: Your heavenly father's perfect, so you should be perfect. That's

620
00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:51,279
Speaker 1: how you get to heaven by being perfect. Oh wait

621
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 1: a minute, Alex, you've already failed. I'm sorry, man, You're

622
00:36:55,160 --> 00:37:00,439
Speaker 1: not going to make it to heaven. Bernie, are you perfect? No? Neither.

623
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Speaker 2: So we failed one thing you just said, though, you

624
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:07,120
Speaker 2: said this is how you're gonna get to heaven.

625
00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:07,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

626
00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 3: I don't know if he wants.

627
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:10,879
Speaker 1: To go there, that's true.

628
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:12,719
Speaker 3: I don't know if he believes in that. I don't know.

629
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Speaker 2: I think all he's trying to do is not cheat

630
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 2: on his girlfriend or like get a girlfriend.

631
00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 1: Okay, let's go there, so so so build that. Yeah, okay,

632
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 1: we're slowly building.

633
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:25,480
Speaker 3: I can without the one without the other.

634
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,279
Speaker 1: Alex, We're slowly building this story for you. And what

635
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:31,640
Speaker 1: we're trying to say is you're screwed, dude, because you

636
00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:34,320
Speaker 1: got you want to live. You want you want to

637
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:37,760
Speaker 1: have eternal life in the presence of your creator in heaven.

638
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 1: You got to be perfect, and you've already failed it. Okay,

639
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:45,120
Speaker 1: So the only alternative to going to heaven is hell.

640
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 1: You don't want to go there. This life is short,

641
00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:52,960
Speaker 1: it's fleeting, it's a vapor, it's gone, So you better

642
00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 1: get it while you can. And you might as well

643
00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:57,480
Speaker 1: just cheat on every girlfriend and get it where you can,

644
00:37:57,680 --> 00:38:00,920
Speaker 1: because you've already screwed and you groot yourself out of

645
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:04,839
Speaker 1: any opportunity after this besides eternal punishment, eternal wrath. That's

646
00:38:04,880 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 1: what the Bible says. Is that good enough to get

647
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 1: maybe get him thinking about it? Yeah, so I got

648
00:38:15,160 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 1: something to tell you, though, I do have good news.

649
00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:22,400
Speaker 1: I'm in the same boat, Alex, and so's Bernie, and

650
00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 1: so's every other man and woman that have walked on

651
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:30,360
Speaker 1: this planet since Jesus. No one is perfect. We're all bad.

652
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:34,480
Speaker 1: So God knows this. So God, in his love for

653
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:37,720
Speaker 1: his people, because he knows that he's perfect, he can't.

654
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 1: If Heaven is this perfect place, it can't have you, Alex.

655
00:38:41,719 --> 00:38:44,759
Speaker 1: That would ruin it. You're a cancer. You can't be

656
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:49,320
Speaker 1: in heaven. You're a disease that can't be there. Otherwise

657
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:52,719
Speaker 1: it's not heaven anymore. It's corrupted. So God knows this.

658
00:38:54,040 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 1: He knows you're corrupted, he knows you have this cancer,

659
00:38:56,560 --> 00:38:58,960
Speaker 1: this disease, and he knows I do too. So in

660
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 1: his leve he goes all you people, all you sinners

661
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 1: that have rejected me, that have turned from my way.

662
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 1: I'm going to give you a way to get to me.

663
00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 1: I'm going to give you a way that you cannot

664
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Speaker 1: earn to get you in heaven without you being perfect.

665
00:39:16,400 --> 00:39:18,959
Speaker 1: You need to be perfect to get here. I'm going

666
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 1: to give you perfection a gift. It's a gift of grace.

667
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 1: It's I'm gifting you. The Bible calls it righteousness. We

668
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:29,960
Speaker 1: can call it goodness. I'm going to give you the

669
00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:33,600
Speaker 1: goodness that it requires to get here. And I'm gonna

670
00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:37,800
Speaker 1: do it through my Son, through his righteousness, his perfection,

671
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 1: his goodness, not yours. You don't have it. I'ma give

672
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:45,160
Speaker 1: it to you through him. If you believe, turn from yourself,

673
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 1: turn from your ways. Look to him. He died on

674
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:54,480
Speaker 1: the cross for the sins of people just like you, Alex.

675
00:39:55,200 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 1: Look to him, and he forgives, he heals, he redeems.

676
00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:06,360
Speaker 1: And then what happens after that, it's crazy. If you believe,

677
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:10,280
Speaker 1: if you are a child of God, after that, through repentance,

678
00:40:10,320 --> 00:40:12,920
Speaker 1: which means turning from yourself and looking to him. If

679
00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:17,360
Speaker 1: you do that, something changes in you in a way

680
00:40:17,400 --> 00:40:22,240
Speaker 1: that you start to hate that sin. It doesn't totally

681
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:25,960
Speaker 1: go away, at least not at the beginning, but when

682
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:29,360
Speaker 1: that girl at the concert shows up and you start talking,

683
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:33,440
Speaker 1: something inside you goes, oh, this is disgusting. I hate this.

684
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 1: My flesh wants to do it, but I don't like it,

685
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:39,520
Speaker 1: so I gotta I got, I can't do it. Sorry,

686
00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:41,880
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. I gotta tell you, girl, I actually

687
00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:46,000
Speaker 1: have a serious girlfriend, someone I love. So I'm so sorry,

688
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:48,279
Speaker 1: but no, I'm not gonna take your number. And then

689
00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:51,359
Speaker 1: you're gonna go what has happened? Why am I so different? Now?

690
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 1: What's going on with me?

691
00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:57,920
Speaker 2: And also before you would even get into that situation

692
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Speaker 2: that you would have to tell that girl that what

693
00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:09,440
Speaker 2: he also gives us is community, biblical community of you know, accountability. Yeah, well, grazier,

694
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Speaker 2: what if I told you, like, oh, yeah, man, I'm

695
00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 2: gonna go to this concert by myself and there's gonna

696
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:15,919
Speaker 2: be a bunch of pretty girls there and probably gonna

697
00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:18,440
Speaker 2: drink and like just dance with them, and you're.

698
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:19,440
Speaker 1: Gonna be you have a history.

699
00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:21,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you're.

700
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,680
Speaker 2: Gonna be like, bro, no me and you are going,

701
00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 2: you know, to do whatever else that we could do.

702
00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:28,880
Speaker 2: We're gonna go fishing, we're gonna go camping, and we're

703
00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 2: gonna do something different because you know that that's a

704
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 2: bad idea. And I'd be like, dude, you're right, man,

705
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 2: that's a bad idea. Iron sharpening, iron boom. So yeah,

706
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:45,640
Speaker 2: I think that hear that message. And I think that

707
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 2: there's a hopefully a community that.

708
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:51,840
Speaker 3: You are a part of.

709
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:53,960
Speaker 2: If you're not that you become a part of that

710
00:41:53,960 --> 00:41:56,960
Speaker 2: can walk alongside you in that journey.

711
00:41:57,000 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 1: So next I as can come from anonymous, it says

712
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Speaker 1: I have had a crush on a girl for almost

713
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 1: three years now. I haven't told her. I know her

714
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:10,160
Speaker 1: for years. Yeah, that's a long time to not tell her.

715
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:12,560
Speaker 1: I know her family well, and I've spent time with

716
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:15,799
Speaker 1: her a lot. There's a lot that won't fit into

717
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:19,960
Speaker 1: this email that would help the story more. I am

718
00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:23,920
Speaker 1: feeling like it's time to tell her since I'm positive

719
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:26,600
Speaker 1: that she likes me because of many different things that

720
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 1: have happened, and we could start dating shortly after. My

721
00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 1: question is this, should I tell her parents that I

722
00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:37,680
Speaker 1: like her? For them to tell me to do what's

723
00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:42,080
Speaker 1: best and since they deserve to know, since it's their daughter,

724
00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 1: or should I just tell her? Also, there are so

725
00:42:47,520 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 1: many different things that have happened to me that makes

726
00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 1: me think that she likes me. I still have a

727
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:56,600
Speaker 1: fear of her rejecting me, which would cause me so

728
00:42:56,680 --> 00:42:59,320
Speaker 1: much heartbreak and pain because of how much I truly

729
00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:01,799
Speaker 1: love her and everything that I've done for her. How

730
00:43:01,840 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 1: should I go about.

731
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:05,880
Speaker 2: We jump from having a crush on her to like

732
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:08,960
Speaker 2: deeply really quick?

733
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:14,240
Speaker 1: Man, how should I go about doing these things? Telling

734
00:43:14,280 --> 00:43:16,759
Speaker 1: her these things? If she is going to reject me.

735
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:19,560
Speaker 1: I try to trust God, but it just the thought

736
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:21,760
Speaker 1: of her rejecting me still concerns me. Thank you Granger.

737
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:27,480
Speaker 2: All right, bro, I love you man like I hear

738
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 2: the youth in your voice, and I love it. I

739
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:33,720
Speaker 2: love your asking the questions. I would have never thought

740
00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:35,879
Speaker 2: of that question that you asked. But man, I think

741
00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:39,640
Speaker 2: it's brilliant. Talk to her parents, like I think Vodi

742
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 2: Bacham says that. Yeah, Like, talk to her parents and

743
00:43:43,560 --> 00:43:46,560
Speaker 2: tell them your intention. A lot of people wait until

744
00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 2: they're gonna ask them to marry them, to ask for

745
00:43:49,719 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 2: the hand. It's like, well, shoot, I wish you would

746
00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:53,880
Speaker 2: have asked me whenever you started, because I would have

747
00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:55,399
Speaker 2: said no, And now I got to tell you no.

748
00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:59,239
Speaker 2: Now it's gonna be awkward, and no. I think if

749
00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 2: you go to the parents and you share with them. Look,

750
00:44:04,040 --> 00:44:07,280
Speaker 2: me and Jenny, we've been really close for these three years.

751
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:10,400
Speaker 2: I feel like she likes me. I got these little

752
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:14,520
Speaker 2: you know, she's flirting. She did this, and I kind

753
00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:16,160
Speaker 2: of want to tell her how I feel about her

754
00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 2: and maybe date her. What are you guys thinking about that?

755
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 2: And that's gonna tell you a lot. Yeah, because they

756
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:25,879
Speaker 2: know their daughter and mom may look at you.

757
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 3: And be like, bro, now, don't don't do that.

758
00:44:29,040 --> 00:44:33,240
Speaker 2: She she likes Johnny. She's been in love with Johnny forever.

759
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 2: And you're gonna save yourself a lot of embarrassment. And

760
00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:38,759
Speaker 2: you can just tell the parents, okay, keep this between us,

761
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 2: and then you just go on being a friend and

762
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:42,239
Speaker 2: looking for somebody else.

763
00:44:43,080 --> 00:44:46,279
Speaker 3: But they could also affirm and be like, she talks

764
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:47,160
Speaker 3: about you all the time.

765
00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:52,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, you probably should totally tell her, and you, guys

766
00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:55,840
Speaker 2: date and we appreciate you. You're gonna, let's say you do

767
00:44:55,960 --> 00:45:00,399
Speaker 2: go on to marry this love of your life. You're

768
00:45:00,400 --> 00:45:05,120
Speaker 2: gonna build some trust with those parents and a foundation.

769
00:45:05,320 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 2: It's going to be great.

770
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 1: So yeah, man, if in doubt, just tell him.

771
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:10,799
Speaker 3: Uh there is.

772
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:13,400
Speaker 1: Vodie Bacham actually wrote a book about it, but I

773
00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:15,200
Speaker 1: think he speaks a lot like on YouTube about it.

774
00:45:15,239 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 1: But but I remember when I first got into that idea.

775
00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 1: I was telling London this my daughter and from the

776
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:25,359
Speaker 1: perspective that Bernie and I both have daughters. From that perspective,

777
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:27,320
Speaker 1: it's like it's like a no brainer. Oh yeah, I

778
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:30,959
Speaker 1: would love that, like selfishly as a father, Yes, tell

779
00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:36,239
Speaker 1: me first, don't tell her. So Vodi says he has

780
00:45:36,239 --> 00:45:39,200
Speaker 1: trained his daughter to say to answer a boy that says,

781
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:42,279
Speaker 1: do you want to go on a date? And the

782
00:45:42,320 --> 00:45:48,000
Speaker 1: girl says, what did my dad say? I'm taking that

783
00:45:48,280 --> 00:45:51,880
Speaker 1: for sure, So I started just putting that into London.

784
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:55,400
Speaker 1: So that's like, yeah, that's her reaction, what did my

785
00:45:55,480 --> 00:46:00,880
Speaker 1: dad say? Next question comes from Megan says, Hey, I'm

786
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:04,319
Speaker 1: a junior high school student, which is the age at

787
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:06,480
Speaker 1: which everyone and their mother seems to be asking the

788
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:09,360
Speaker 1: dreaded question, so what are you going to do with

789
00:46:09,440 --> 00:46:13,399
Speaker 1: your life? Whereas I am forced to reply each time,

790
00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:17,280
Speaker 1: I'm not quite sure yet I've gotten so much advice

791
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:20,640
Speaker 1: from so many people about my future, but I'm still

792
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:24,359
Speaker 1: left feeling uncertain and a little afraid to commit. I

793
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:27,160
Speaker 1: have put much prayer and tears into this topic, but

794
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:30,360
Speaker 1: I still feel as though I'm a loss at a

795
00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:34,200
Speaker 1: loss for the answer. How can I clearly hear what

796
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:37,799
Speaker 1: the Lord wants me to do? Does there have to

797
00:46:37,800 --> 00:46:40,880
Speaker 1: be a deadline on this decision? And how do I

798
00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:45,840
Speaker 1: know when people ask me about what my future holds? Sorry,

799
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:48,680
Speaker 1: that was a long question, but I know you'll do

800
00:46:48,719 --> 00:46:52,040
Speaker 1: your best to answer and understand my side of things. Sincerely, Megan.

801
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:55,240
Speaker 1: Great question for Bernie today.

802
00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:57,839
Speaker 2: Well, I'm not sure if anybody listened to episode two

803
00:46:57,880 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 2: twenty two, but a very similar question led to my

804
00:47:00,640 --> 00:47:04,440
Speaker 2: first breakdown on the podcast and left me in tears.

805
00:47:04,560 --> 00:47:07,239
Speaker 2: So what s Granger seemed to think about this?

806
00:47:07,520 --> 00:47:09,759
Speaker 1: Well, Okay, I'll just I'm gonna let you talk because

807
00:47:09,760 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 1: you've got a lot of stuff to say, Burns, but

808
00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:14,759
Speaker 1: I'll just jump in quickly and say, let me give

809
00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:17,400
Speaker 1: you an answer. This is a good answer. This is

810
00:47:17,400 --> 00:47:21,280
Speaker 1: the good answer to quickly answer the question when someone says,

811
00:47:23,520 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 1: what are you gonna do with your life? Or what

812
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:28,200
Speaker 1: does your future. Hold those are the two ways you

813
00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:31,680
Speaker 1: worded it, And if you're a Christian, I love to say,

814
00:47:32,400 --> 00:47:35,839
Speaker 1: my future is none of my business. It's good. It's

815
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:40,359
Speaker 1: all in the Lord's hands. Hey, listen, Meg, I hope

816
00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:43,920
Speaker 1: I can call you Meg. I knew Bernie at a

817
00:47:44,080 --> 00:47:46,360
Speaker 1: pivotal time in his life, and he knew me in

818
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:51,520
Speaker 1: a pivotal time. You younger, younger versions of ourselves, and man,

819
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 1: I mean, neither one of us we're doing what we're

820
00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:58,200
Speaker 1: doing now. Neither one of us planned on what we're

821
00:47:58,280 --> 00:48:02,719
Speaker 1: doing now, and we couldn't. So knowing what you're going

822
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:05,920
Speaker 1: to do with your life and your future is irrelevant

823
00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:09,040
Speaker 1: to what you're actually going to do. I know, I

824
00:48:09,560 --> 00:48:12,239
Speaker 1: recognize that the world wants to tell you that you

825
00:48:12,400 --> 00:48:16,280
Speaker 1: need to have a plan, and look at your age,

826
00:48:16,960 --> 00:48:23,280
Speaker 1: the plan should be just make good grades, diversify your hobbies,

827
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:27,360
Speaker 1: love the Lord, plant yourself in a really good church,

828
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:32,920
Speaker 1: surround yourself with godly girls. Do those things like that's

829
00:48:33,080 --> 00:48:36,000
Speaker 1: enough of a plan for a junior high kid. Make

830
00:48:36,000 --> 00:48:40,280
Speaker 1: good grades, diversify your hobbies, plant yourself in a good church,

831
00:48:40,640 --> 00:48:44,760
Speaker 1: and surround yourself with godly girls. Do that. That's your future.

832
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 1: Everything else you say it's none of my business. M h.

833
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:48,440
Speaker 3: That's good.

834
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:54,000
Speaker 2: She said something about still feeling uncertain, and I think

835
00:48:54,080 --> 00:48:58,360
Speaker 2: that that may just be a common thing that you feel.

836
00:48:58,600 --> 00:49:01,840
Speaker 2: Like in life, there's just things. Sometimes we just feel uncertain.

837
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:06,440
Speaker 2: But God does call us to be bold and courageous,

838
00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:11,720
Speaker 2: So there's in that uncertainty sometimes you have to walk through.

839
00:49:11,880 --> 00:49:13,200
Speaker 3: When I'm making decisions or.

840
00:49:13,120 --> 00:49:15,640
Speaker 2: Trying to figure something out, sometimes I walk through these

841
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:18,000
Speaker 2: three different questions.

842
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:22,040
Speaker 3: What does the Word say? Okay? Is there any between

843
00:49:22,080 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 3: my options? Is?

844
00:49:23,040 --> 00:49:26,759
Speaker 2: Is there an explicit direction that's given, Like I want

845
00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:30,560
Speaker 2: to do this? Well, the Bible specifically says like don't.

846
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:32,080
Speaker 2: So it's like, okay, well I'm not going to do that.

847
00:49:32,719 --> 00:49:33,080
Speaker 1: Okay.

848
00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:35,719
Speaker 2: Most of what you're probably dealing with is, you know,

849
00:49:35,880 --> 00:49:40,200
Speaker 2: what does the Word say about these options? What does

850
00:49:40,239 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 2: the church say?

851
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:42,760
Speaker 3: So if you are.

852
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:47,160
Speaker 2: Amongst you know, a community of people and you get

853
00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 2: to share with them, Hey, they you know, want to

854
00:49:49,120 --> 00:49:50,920
Speaker 2: do this or this, I don't know what to do,

855
00:49:51,040 --> 00:49:54,680
Speaker 2: feel uncertain and just listen to what they say. And

856
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:58,239
Speaker 2: then the last thing is what do you want to do? Like,

857
00:49:58,320 --> 00:50:02,160
Speaker 2: what's what's really like? You feel your heart kind of

858
00:50:02,239 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 2: like drawn to that thing and then work towards being

859
00:50:06,239 --> 00:50:09,320
Speaker 2: really good at that thing, whatever that path may be.

860
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:13,960
Speaker 2: I think what I said on the last one to

861
00:50:14,160 --> 00:50:19,320
Speaker 2: a very similar question, though, it's the hardest thing. And

862
00:50:20,400 --> 00:50:23,680
Speaker 2: I had a conversation with Stella, our ten year old,

863
00:50:24,400 --> 00:50:27,799
Speaker 2: last week about this when we don't know what to do,

864
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:32,240
Speaker 2: and what I was telling her is like, we really

865
00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:36,719
Speaker 2: need to just remove ourselves from distractions, find do what

866
00:50:36,800 --> 00:50:41,440
Speaker 2: Jesus did and he often retreated to desolate places alone

867
00:50:41,480 --> 00:50:45,560
Speaker 2: to pray, So find places to be alone, and you know,

868
00:50:45,640 --> 00:50:48,719
Speaker 2: she was it was an honest question, like sometimes like

869
00:50:48,840 --> 00:50:53,080
Speaker 2: I just feel like hearing God's voice is hard, which

870
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:57,840
Speaker 2: makes praying hard. Like I totally understand that I don't

871
00:50:57,840 --> 00:51:02,400
Speaker 2: know that solitude and retreat and meditation with God, and

872
00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:06,680
Speaker 2: I don't think that that is like a pill. It's

873
00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:08,360
Speaker 2: not a place you just go to like get a

874
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 2: quick answer. It's just it's a place that you constantly

875
00:51:13,000 --> 00:51:15,279
Speaker 2: go to. It's a place that I like long to

876
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:18,600
Speaker 2: just go to because I'm like kind of I don't

877
00:51:18,640 --> 00:51:20,279
Speaker 2: get it. A lot of times I'm like, God, you

878
00:51:20,280 --> 00:51:21,279
Speaker 2: gotta like help me here.

879
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:21,840
Speaker 3: I don't get it.

880
00:51:21,880 --> 00:51:24,000
Speaker 2: So I go back to that place. And the more

881
00:51:24,040 --> 00:51:27,320
Speaker 2: you go back to that place, the clearer that voice gets,

882
00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:30,239
Speaker 2: the clearer that direction gets. If you go once for

883
00:51:30,320 --> 00:51:33,920
Speaker 2: a prayer and an answer, it's just it's not going

884
00:51:34,000 --> 00:51:38,760
Speaker 2: to be the same. So it's this habit of getting

885
00:51:38,760 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 2: to that place of quiet and still in prayer to

886
00:51:42,520 --> 00:51:43,360
Speaker 2: give you some guidance.

887
00:51:43,400 --> 00:51:44,360
Speaker 3: So I hope that's helpful.

888
00:51:44,640 --> 00:51:47,000
Speaker 1: I've recognized that I might have said something wrong at

889
00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,120
Speaker 1: the beginning of this email, I might have read it wrong.

890
00:51:49,160 --> 00:51:50,560
Speaker 1: But as I'm seeing it now, it says I'm a

891
00:51:50,640 --> 00:51:54,560
Speaker 1: junior in high school. Did I say that wrong? I

892
00:51:54,600 --> 00:51:56,840
Speaker 1: don't know if I said junior high school. I'm in

893
00:51:56,920 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 1: junior high.

894
00:51:58,200 --> 00:51:59,279
Speaker 3: She's in junior high.

895
00:51:59,400 --> 00:52:02,080
Speaker 1: No, she's a junior in high school. And I think

896
00:52:02,120 --> 00:52:03,080
Speaker 1: I read it as she's.

897
00:52:02,960 --> 00:52:06,160
Speaker 2: In junior Yeah, you mentioned something, Okay, so I.

898
00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:09,560
Speaker 1: Just want to clear that up for you, Megan. But

899
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 1: but the the answer still doesn't change. And yeah, So

900
00:52:14,640 --> 00:52:17,719
Speaker 1: what Bernie says is so profound, and he always motivates

901
00:52:17,800 --> 00:52:22,759
Speaker 1: me and encourages me to find that wilderness and what

902
00:52:22,800 --> 00:52:27,960
Speaker 1: you're gonna hear when you when you get into this wilderness,

903
00:52:27,960 --> 00:52:30,839
Speaker 1: whatever that is in your life, where you're gonna hear

904
00:52:31,120 --> 00:52:33,520
Speaker 1: to the to the to The answer of what does

905
00:52:33,560 --> 00:52:36,880
Speaker 1: the Lord want me to do is always a lot

906
00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:40,759
Speaker 1: simpler than you think, because you think you're thinking in

907
00:52:40,840 --> 00:52:45,560
Speaker 1: terms of college or nursing school, or do I take

908
00:52:45,600 --> 00:52:49,480
Speaker 1: a year off, or you're thinking all these things. And

909
00:52:49,480 --> 00:52:52,200
Speaker 1: that's why my my counsel of just get good grades

910
00:52:52,480 --> 00:52:56,000
Speaker 1: and you can kind of pivot on anything later. If

911
00:52:56,000 --> 00:52:58,680
Speaker 1: you don't get good, good, good grades. That's so that's

912
00:52:58,880 --> 00:53:02,000
Speaker 1: not the end of the world either. But what you're

913
00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:04,359
Speaker 1: gonna find with the Lord, what he wants you to do,

914
00:53:04,719 --> 00:53:07,680
Speaker 1: is he wants you to glorify Him and enjoy him forever.

915
00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:12,160
Speaker 1: Like in the most simplest way, everything we do revolves

916
00:53:12,200 --> 00:53:17,560
Speaker 1: around that. Everything glorify Him and enjoy him forever. That's

917
00:53:17,600 --> 00:53:21,640
Speaker 1: what he wants you to do. And within that you'll

918
00:53:21,640 --> 00:53:26,920
Speaker 1: find all kinds of peace and hope, joy and understanding,

919
00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:29,800
Speaker 1: and these feelings of uncertainty just kind of go away

920
00:53:29,840 --> 00:53:33,919
Speaker 1: when you glorify Him and enjoy him forever. And that's

921
00:53:34,280 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 1: that comes in all different forms. It comes in the

922
00:53:38,320 --> 00:53:40,719
Speaker 1: and all of his things that he wants you to

923
00:53:40,760 --> 00:53:43,080
Speaker 1: do are all in the Bible, and you'll see him

924
00:53:43,080 --> 00:53:46,759
Speaker 1: everywhere ways to glorify him. Telling people the Gospel sharing

925
00:53:46,800 --> 00:53:49,560
Speaker 1: the Gospel to someone on the street, to a stranger,

926
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:56,440
Speaker 1: to your mom, reading your Bible, like coming up with

927
00:53:56,480 --> 00:53:59,479
Speaker 1: a reading plan, singing and praising on a Sunday morning

928
00:53:59,560 --> 00:54:03,960
Speaker 1: with all the saints in the pews around you, singing

929
00:54:04,280 --> 00:54:07,720
Speaker 1: and praising in a quiet time in your own car

930
00:54:08,000 --> 00:54:11,520
Speaker 1: with your headphones on, by yourself. There's all. There's a

931
00:54:11,600 --> 00:54:13,799
Speaker 1: thousand weeks. Bernie and I could sit here in a

932
00:54:13,840 --> 00:54:16,920
Speaker 1: thousand ways and tell you ways to glorify Him. And

933
00:54:17,000 --> 00:54:18,839
Speaker 1: that's what He wants you to do. And you can

934
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:20,719
Speaker 1: do it through jobs, you could do it. You could

935
00:54:20,719 --> 00:54:23,600
Speaker 1: do it through hobbies. But I want to tell you

936
00:54:23,640 --> 00:54:27,560
Speaker 1: don't over spiritualize this question. What does the Lord want

937
00:54:27,600 --> 00:54:31,480
Speaker 1: me to do? Is it community college? Is it? Stop it?

938
00:54:32,040 --> 00:54:35,400
Speaker 1: Unless it's like Bernie said, unless it's a sin, you know,

939
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:40,080
Speaker 1: it's like morally wrong, then the answers obviously know to that.

940
00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:42,520
Speaker 1: But I don't think you're asking anything that's morally wrong.

941
00:54:42,560 --> 00:54:45,080
Speaker 1: You're just trying to You're trying to know, Lord, what

942
00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:46,640
Speaker 1: do you want me to do? And I think that's

943
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:48,840
Speaker 1: the great place to come from. You were in the

944
00:54:48,920 --> 00:54:52,440
Speaker 1: perfect heart position to just get on your knees and

945
00:54:52,480 --> 00:54:55,279
Speaker 1: go God. I want to serve you. I want to

946
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:57,879
Speaker 1: love you, I want to praise you, want to tell

947
00:54:57,960 --> 00:55:01,920
Speaker 1: others about you. I want to be all of this,

948
00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:06,040
Speaker 1: not for me, but for you. God show me the path,

949
00:55:06,440 --> 00:55:09,840
Speaker 1: be the light to my feet, so I know the

950
00:55:09,880 --> 00:55:11,640
Speaker 1: way to glorify you. If you're in that kind of

951
00:55:11,680 --> 00:55:15,799
Speaker 1: heart position, you got nothing to worry about, no uncertainty

952
00:55:16,000 --> 00:55:18,399
Speaker 1: in your life because you never know what phone call

953
00:55:18,440 --> 00:55:22,520
Speaker 1: happens tomorrow, what email happens tomorrow, what new relationship comes

954
00:55:22,520 --> 00:55:26,480
Speaker 1: into your life today. You don't know what he has planned.

955
00:55:26,520 --> 00:55:28,439
Speaker 1: That's why at the very beginning I said, you tell

956
00:55:28,480 --> 00:55:30,960
Speaker 1: people the future is none of my business.

957
00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:34,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's so good man.

958
00:55:34,280 --> 00:55:37,120
Speaker 2: You as you were talking, you just kind of gave

959
00:55:37,160 --> 00:55:43,560
Speaker 2: me this image of this person standing in front of

960
00:55:43,600 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 2: this like huge brick wall and Meg, Meg, Yeah, Meg

961
00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:54,920
Speaker 2: is coming down a ladder off of the roof of

962
00:55:54,960 --> 00:55:59,080
Speaker 2: this really tall building with this huge brick wall and

963
00:55:59,120 --> 00:56:02,840
Speaker 2: she gets down to this person and the person says,

964
00:56:03,080 --> 00:56:09,040
Speaker 2: look at this. They used all these bricks to make

965
00:56:09,120 --> 00:56:14,040
Speaker 2: this beautiful picture of these these like enemies loving each

966
00:56:14,120 --> 00:56:17,480
Speaker 2: other or you know like that. Whatever the image is

967
00:56:17,680 --> 00:56:21,200
Speaker 2: is like, this is amazing. And Meg, you look up

968
00:56:21,200 --> 00:56:25,040
Speaker 2: at the wall you're like, Wow, So that's what my

969
00:56:25,080 --> 00:56:30,479
Speaker 2: life was about. I really was just putting one brick

970
00:56:30,520 --> 00:56:32,160
Speaker 2: at a time as I was.

971
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:33,760
Speaker 1: Told beautiful mosaic.

972
00:56:34,600 --> 00:56:36,399
Speaker 2: And then at the end, I think that's we get

973
00:56:36,440 --> 00:56:38,880
Speaker 2: so caught up and making our own mural and what

974
00:56:38,880 --> 00:56:41,880
Speaker 2: we want our legacy and our life to be. But

975
00:56:42,000 --> 00:56:44,680
Speaker 2: maybe it's just about listening to like what's the next

976
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 2: brick and the next one and the next one. And

977
00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:50,759
Speaker 2: I think at the end of that, the hope is

978
00:56:50,760 --> 00:56:53,680
Speaker 2: is that God has done something that's like, this is

979
00:56:53,719 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 2: who I am.

980
00:56:55,320 --> 00:56:56,239
Speaker 3: I just used this.

981
00:56:56,160 --> 00:56:58,760
Speaker 2: Person to lay these bricks, and that'd be pretty awesome.

982
00:56:58,760 --> 00:56:59,840
Speaker 2: I would I would love at the end of my

983
00:56:59,840 --> 00:57:03,160
Speaker 2: life Lifer to stand with you and us look back

984
00:57:03,200 --> 00:57:06,120
Speaker 2: and be like, didn't think he was drawing that picture?

985
00:57:06,239 --> 00:57:08,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't think he was doing that. But wow, man,

986
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:10,359
Speaker 3: what grace right.

987
00:57:10,480 --> 00:57:12,320
Speaker 1: That's beautiful. Man, what a beautiful way to end the

988
00:57:12,320 --> 00:57:15,360
Speaker 1: episode two. So we love you guys. We'll see you

989
00:57:15,360 --> 00:57:19,200
Speaker 1: next Monday. Thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith podcast.

990
00:57:19,240 --> 00:57:21,720
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