Speaker 1: Welcome back to The Stephen A.
Speaker 2: Smith Show, the special edition of The Stephen Ate Smith Show,
Speaker 2: which really is the Stephen Nate Smith Show because it's
Speaker 2: an episode dedicated to nephew tism.
Speaker 1: As they say with Josh himself, we already did videos,
Speaker 1: we already did your tweets. Now we're going to get
Speaker 1: to your phone calls. Are you ready for this?
Speaker 3: Ready?
Speaker 1: Behave yourself? Please? Please? Okay, let's go to Anthony and Illinois.
Speaker 1: You're live of Stephen. What's up? Anthony?
Speaker 3: What's up? Stephen Nate? As my question to you, my
Speaker 3: question to you brother is can we make your nephew
Speaker 3: a regular on your show? Why your nephew.
Speaker 4: Is my anti TV too?
Speaker 3: He must he must see to me, Stephen?
Speaker 1: Why why?
Speaker 3: Why? The man is? The man is quite entertaining? He
Speaker 3: swagged out. He's smooth with hell, sitting on your on
Speaker 3: your podcast with you. It should be you should you
Speaker 3: should change the name to the Smith Show.
Speaker 5: I ain't even I ain't even gonna say nothing like that?
Speaker 1: Are you? Are you seeing him? Are you seeing how?
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say nothing? Anthony? You know that that
Speaker 1: you seeing him? He swagged out, swagged out. Anybody could
Speaker 1: take a.
Speaker 2: Bunch of Jean's and take a scissors and bunch of
Speaker 2: bunch of holes in them.
Speaker 5: Anthony and Chicago, you got a pH d something like that.
Speaker 1: You sound extra smart.
Speaker 5: And Steve Stephen, they has a pH d that they
Speaker 5: gave him at his school for being famous. But we
Speaker 5: ain't gonna talk about that.
Speaker 1: But you said extra so so.
Speaker 2: Me so me graduating with honors, being one of the
Speaker 2: most successful graduates from the institution in the institution's history.
Speaker 2: That has nothing to do with me. See receiving an
Speaker 2: honorary doctor, It's only because.
Speaker 5: I'm famous, That's right. Honorary means be giving it to
Speaker 5: you again.
Speaker 2: You got a bachelor's because because because I've earned it.
Speaker 5: You earned a bachelor's degree.
Speaker 3: Stephen, that he got to be on your should man,
Speaker 3: he goat.
Speaker 1: And is he not on?
Speaker 2: You got to give him? You gotta take him in
Speaker 2: the listen. He could always have his own show. He
Speaker 2: don't have to be sitting next to me and don't
Speaker 2: bother me. But we both know he don't want that,
Speaker 2: no matter how much is sorry he has to say
Speaker 2: otherwise I do.
Speaker 5: I just gotta use I'm gonna use his credit card
Speaker 5: and star my own show. You don't worry about it's coming.
Speaker 3: To say, Hey, I appreciate.
Speaker 1: Trouble maker. You need a more trouble maker, Anthony, we
Speaker 1: read the love, bro. Be ready to stop. Stop it
Speaker 1: all right, Let's go to Tyler. You're live with steven
Speaker 1: a Tyland, Omaha. Talk to me, steven A.
Speaker 6: How's it going?
Speaker 1: Man? Hey, I'm near the nephew. How you think is
Speaker 1: going for me? Man?
Speaker 6: How you think with his family?
Speaker 3: Man? You know what it is?
Speaker 6: Go ahead, bro, So recently I was in a relationship.
Speaker 6: I don't know if it's the Omaha women down here
Speaker 6: something like that. Everything was going well, right, We're paying
Speaker 6: back and forth on dates. The camaraderie, the banter was there,
Speaker 6: and all of a sudden, she just hits me with
Speaker 6: a text that's basically like, hey, this isn't gonna work.
Speaker 6: And this came out of left field. We had just
Speaker 6: gotten off going on a date pretty much right after
Speaker 6: that text came out. So stephen A, how do you
Speaker 6: not even how do you bounce back from that?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 6: How do you make sure that kind of shit doesn't happen?
Speaker 1: Okay, let's go to a couple of things. A couple
Speaker 1: of points.
Speaker 2: You said y'all were going out and dates and was
Speaker 2: back and forth paying for the dates.
Speaker 6: Is that what you said I paid for I paid
Speaker 6: for the majority of them.
Speaker 1: The majority of them. But she actually paid for subdates
Speaker 1: one of them.
Speaker 6: And that's it. And that's basically because I had gotten
Speaker 6: up and she had paid for it.
Speaker 1: How old are you, bro, I'm twenty five. Okay. Secondly,
Speaker 1: I got to ask you a personal question.
Speaker 2: Yeah, did y'all connect with each other intimately?
Speaker 6: Uh? Not on that level?
Speaker 1: Now?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 2: Okay, Well if you didn't, well then you know I mean,
Speaker 2: I mean, you know, yeah, I mean she did. She
Speaker 2: she she wasn't feeling you, bro right, I mean we did.
Speaker 3: We did.
Speaker 6: We didn't go all the way. It's just like we did.
Speaker 6: We did a little bit, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like I don't I don't know where you mean a
Speaker 1: little bit. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm okay, all right, Well let me say this to you.
Speaker 1: You know she wasn't feeling you.
Speaker 2: I mean, you know, you might have got close enough
Speaker 2: and it wasn't enticing enough for it to continue.
Speaker 5: How many dates did you did you pay for? Uh?
Speaker 6: Just about all of it? I can't remember how many.
Speaker 1: Remember what was it more than like can you count
Speaker 1: your hands?
Speaker 6: It's pasted like double digits. I think we went on
Speaker 6: like ten or eleven days. It was like once a week.
Speaker 5: Listen, I got if you if you're following me, which
Speaker 5: it sounds like you need to listen.
Speaker 1: I got her budget.
Speaker 5: I don't spend more than two hundred unless you know
Speaker 5: I cracked that third note, crack yourself.
Speaker 1: To get up watching.
Speaker 2: It's not lying to the public, because you know that's
Speaker 2: not true. You know, don't give me a C note analysis.
Speaker 2: Be quiet, Be quiet before you incriminate yourself even more.
Speaker 2: It's not small, okay, and you're playing around too much.
Speaker 1: Stop it.
Speaker 2: Next next call, let me go to let's go here,
Speaker 2: Let's go to Johnny in California. You live steven A
Speaker 2: and this dude, what's up Johnny?
Speaker 4: Hey, stephen A. I just want to say before I start,
Speaker 4: I'm a huge fan. I've been watching you since I
Speaker 4: was like fourteen years old, and I first started getting
Speaker 4: into American sports. I'm Mexican, so really I just follow
Speaker 4: like soccer, but I started watching you, and you got
Speaker 4: me into basketball and football more so, I just want
Speaker 4: to start off with that. My question I just want
Speaker 4: to give a little bit of context. My girlfriend and
Speaker 4: I just a couple of days ago. You've been together
Speaker 4: for two and a half years officially okay.
Speaker 1: And.
Speaker 4: Basically the last few months haven't been so well. Haven't
Speaker 4: been going so good. Me and her both lost our jobs,
Speaker 4: and we also lost the apartment where we were living at,
Speaker 4: so I had to come back to live with my mom.
Speaker 4: And it's obviously it's hard not having a job, seeing
Speaker 4: my mom work every day, and there's not really much
Speaker 4: I can do. But besides that, I'm trying to keep
Speaker 4: my relationship happy, and I'm sure the circumstances have something
Speaker 4: to do with I can noticeably tell my girlfriend isn't
Speaker 4: in like the best mood, not towards me, but I
Speaker 4: guess towards like the world. And I'm kind of just
Speaker 4: like I wish I could be that that pillar for
Speaker 4: her to be like. You know, I know we're both
Speaker 4: in a rough spot, but I'm here for you and
Speaker 4: I want to try to do everything that we can
Speaker 4: to get out of this mess. And I've heard you
Speaker 4: tell your story multiple times, so I know you're not
Speaker 4: you know, you're used to being in those type of
Speaker 4: difficult situations, so I wanted to see if you could
Speaker 4: give me some advice.
Speaker 2: Wow, a couple of things. First of all, I'm very,
Speaker 2: very very sorry for your situation. You're going to be
Speaker 2: a little bit quiet on this one. You understand what
Speaker 2: I'm saying, because it ain't like you're gonna give him
Speaker 2: some sound advice or.
Speaker 1: Just sit back.
Speaker 2: Okay, here's the deal, Johnny, and I want you to
Speaker 2: understand that I'm not saying this out of selfishness. I
Speaker 2: know what it's like to be unemployed. I know what
Speaker 2: it's like to wonder whether or not you can pay
Speaker 2: your bills. I know what it's like to you know,
Speaker 2: be at home with moms and having to depend on
Speaker 2: that because you can't find for yourself.
Speaker 1: I've been there.
Speaker 2: Having said that, here's the point that you need to understand, Johnny,
Speaker 2: can you still hear me?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 1: His stuff that you got to understand.
Speaker 2: Don't prioritize saving your relationship, prioritize getting yourself back on
Speaker 2: your feet, because the relationship is partially in trouble because
Speaker 2: of your circumstances. Certainly, she's miserable because she lost her job,
Speaker 2: and her ability to take care of herself is compromised.
Speaker 2: But if you were still employed and you were in
Speaker 2: a position to help handle your business and ultimately help
Speaker 2: her handle her business, it wouldn't be as trying. The
Speaker 2: fact that you are in the same situation as her
Speaker 2: means you can't do anything for her. And if you
Speaker 2: can't do anything for her, why would she be happy.
Speaker 2: It's already unhappy for her to look at her own
Speaker 2: inability to really take care of herself at this particular
Speaker 2: moment in time. How you think she's feeling if she
Speaker 2: turned around and she looking at her man.
Speaker 1: And he can't do anything for her either.
Speaker 2: So what you have to understand is that, and it's
Speaker 2: not it's not right or wrong, it's nothing like that.
Speaker 1: But what you have to understand is that.
Speaker 2: When you are a man, your priority is to provide
Speaker 2: and protect and when you are unemployed you can't usually
Speaker 2: do either. So when that so, when that is your reality,
Speaker 2: that is a license. It's not to say you don't
Speaker 2: call it. It's not to say you don't reminder you
Speaker 2: love it, not to say that you don't show affection
Speaker 2: whenever you can. But when you and your circumstances are bad,
Speaker 2: you have to prioritize doing what you need to do
Speaker 2: to make sure you take care or you so you
Speaker 2: can position yourself to take care of her, and you
Speaker 2: tell her that you like Listen, I love y'all, want
Speaker 2: to be with you.
Speaker 1: I miss you the whole nine.
Speaker 2: But y'all, I gotta take care of me, so I
Speaker 2: can't take care of you. So understand that's what I'm
Speaker 2: gonna be focused on it. You tell her that that's
Speaker 2: what you do. I'm gonna give you an opportunity, Josh,
Speaker 2: to add. You ain't gonna add nothing.
Speaker 3: Think.
Speaker 4: Thank you can be as sill as you are, bro,
Speaker 4: Thank you God conversation.
Speaker 1: Thank God, you have nothing to add.
Speaker 2: I'm serious, Bro, Johnny, Johnny, you can't take care of it.
Speaker 2: You cannot take care of anyone if you cannot take
Speaker 2: care of yourself.
Speaker 4: It's funny that you say that, because I was just thinking, like,
Speaker 4: I have my own going un Luckily, before I lost
Speaker 4: my job, I took up a property and casualty license.
Speaker 4: Of course, that's what I'm working on right now.
Speaker 2: Okay, what I'm saying, I don't I don't need a soliloquy,
Speaker 2: I don't need a dissertation. All I'm telling you is
Speaker 2: you have to be able to offset her struggles.
Speaker 1: That don't mean you.
Speaker 2: Got to go and pay her mortgage and pay her
Speaker 2: car and all this stuff, but you got to be
Speaker 2: able to do something for your woman. Otherwise, your woman
Speaker 2: one day is gonna look your way and be like,
Speaker 2: why am I with him?
Speaker 1: He can't do anything for me. That's what happens.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Okay, I was trying to like this soliloquy. I
Speaker 4: was trying to add to what you said that you
Speaker 4: kind of just pushed me to doing something. I was scared.
Speaker 4: I was just saying that I have you know, I
Speaker 4: have thought about telling her we got to do this ourselves.
Speaker 4: I can do what I gotta do, but I guess
Speaker 4: the fear of losing the relationship. It's scared of me.
Speaker 1: But you're gonna You're gonna.
Speaker 2: You're gonna lose it anyway if you don't take care
Speaker 2: of you, you gotta take the only Listen, when you
Speaker 2: are healthy and you have the capability to do for self,
Speaker 2: that's entirely different. If you were disable, it couldn't do
Speaker 2: anything from you. And you got a woman in your
Speaker 2: life that's dedicated. Now, she ain't gonna hold against you
Speaker 2: your limitations and your limitations.
Speaker 1: But when you healthy and.
Speaker 2: Vibrant, but you are devoid of opportunities and stuff like.
Speaker 1: That, women expect you to go out there and get those.
Speaker 2: I've been trying to tell this boy for years that
Speaker 2: reality if it listen for every brother who won't as
Speaker 2: a neighborhood will always remember that. Never underestimate that. When
Speaker 2: it comes to a woman, that's just a fact. Not
Speaker 2: with every one of them, but with a lot of them.
Speaker 2: That's the reality, the situation. And as a man, you
Speaker 2: should be thinking like that because it should inspire you
Speaker 2: to want to get yours just so you can have
Speaker 2: something to give.
Speaker 1: Period. You need to listen to that, don't argue. Last
Speaker 1: call Keisha in New Jersey. Your live is steven A.
Speaker 1: What's up? Keisha? How are you?
Speaker 7: Hey, Stephen? How are you?
Speaker 3: I you?
Speaker 1: How's everything?
Speaker 7: I'm good? I'm good. So I really have a question
Speaker 7: for Josh.
Speaker 1: Okay, yes, go ahead, go ahead. It depends on what
Speaker 1: it is, Keisha, but go ahead.
Speaker 7: It shouldn't be too bad. Hey, Josh, how are you?
Speaker 3: Hey?
Speaker 7: I'm good, okay, so good for contacts. I'm thirty nine.
Speaker 7: I've been divorced for six years, but I am trying
Speaker 7: to get back into the dating scene right now, I
Speaker 7: do want to reconnect with somebody from my past, But
Speaker 7: how should I know? Like he's the one out of
Speaker 7: all the others, you know?
Speaker 2: Right now, hold on, before Josh answers, let me get
Speaker 2: this straight, Keisha.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you are a grown ass woman. You are thirty
Speaker 1: nine years of age. You are divorced. Okay, you are
Speaker 1: an adult.
Speaker 2: You are divorced, which obviously means you've been married, and
Speaker 2: you call up to this show because you want Josh's
Speaker 2: advice about how to how to get back in the
Speaker 2: game per se.
Speaker 7: Well, see, you know, sometimes I want to disagree with Josh,
Speaker 7: but he does make sense, like in the weirdest way
Speaker 7: of thinking, and I just want a dude's experience or
Speaker 7: just advice because God.
Speaker 1: God bless you and good luck Josh the floors.
Speaker 5: Or go ahead, so so real quick, I'm gonna make
Speaker 5: it fast.
Speaker 1: Take your time. I want to hear it. Don't rush.
Speaker 1: I want to hear this. So I want to hear this.
Speaker 5: So so the next guy you meet, right, I know how,
Speaker 5: I know how you like to like hold out and
Speaker 5: stuff like that. Oh my god, please do it on
Speaker 5: the first night and I'm gonna tell you why you
Speaker 5: do it on the first night.
Speaker 1: Do not listen to that.
Speaker 5: No, no, no, no, let me let me tell you why
Speaker 5: you do it on the first night. Look, you don't
Speaker 5: want him to spend the next few months trying to
Speaker 5: convince you to do that, so you might as well
Speaker 5: get it out the way on night one.
Speaker 1: Time out. There's a huge difference between the first night
Speaker 1: and months down the road. Why I got to be
Speaker 1: the first night? How come it can't be a few weeks,
Speaker 1: a couple weeks something like that. You didn't have to
Speaker 1: say the first night.
Speaker 5: Because if she finds out that he's a waste of time,
Speaker 5: I don't want her to waste weeks find it out
Speaker 5: on night one?
Speaker 1: Give it out. Excuse me? You have a daughter? Uh huh,
Speaker 1: I do too. No, that is not advice that you
Speaker 1: give any lady. You don't sit up there and give
Speaker 1: literal advice. Oh.
Speaker 2: The first thing that you value your body, You value
Speaker 2: your soul.
Speaker 1: You value what you bring to the table.
Speaker 5: You value that, So you don't value the only thing
Speaker 5: that you can't get back, and that's Tom.
Speaker 1: Well it's better, that's a good question. Of course you
Speaker 1: value that. But the flip side to it is that
Speaker 1: who's to say that that's everything? It matters.
Speaker 2: But the point that I'm making to you is that
Speaker 2: it also matter is what you're giving up. Because let
Speaker 2: me tell you something, Keisha, Okay, and you'll know as
Speaker 2: a woman that I'm telling you the truth when I
Speaker 2: say this.
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter how much.
Speaker 2: You enjoy yourself with a man, you always walk away
Speaker 2: thinking about what you gave because you're because you, because
Speaker 2: because your because your body, your heart, your mind, et cetera.
Speaker 1: That means a lot.
Speaker 2: If you walk away thinking about what you gave, you
Speaker 2: gotta be cautious about what you give.
Speaker 1: Now. Again, I'm not telling you to wait forever.
Speaker 2: Will you do it at the pace that you want
Speaker 2: to do it, that you feel comfortable doing it. If
Speaker 2: that's one night, one month, six months, or whatever, fine,
Speaker 2: But the point that I'm making to you is you
Speaker 2: do what makes you comfortable.
Speaker 1: You don't listen to this man to.
Speaker 2: Say, oh, I gotta give it up on the first night,
Speaker 2: so a while, because why waste my time? That is
Speaker 2: horrible advice to give to any young lady out there.
Speaker 1: She horrible.
Speaker 5: She called into Nephewtism, not Uncle Tom and now I
Speaker 5: can't even get the word out, so you know what
Speaker 5: you do?
Speaker 1: No, No, I ain't gonna say go ahead, it's too late.
Speaker 1: You just DM me and then uh I did.
Speaker 7: But wait, I already DMed you and you didn't respond.
Speaker 7: I think he thought I was trying to ask you
Speaker 7: for money, so you left me all right now.
Speaker 2: I kind of think I think, knowing him, he probably
Speaker 2: thought you was trying to ask for something else. This
Speaker 2: dude is unbelievable. How did you possibly give that kind
Speaker 2: of advice?
Speaker 1: This is you right here? Keisha?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Keisha in Jersey?
Speaker 5: Yeah, all right, Well we're gonna end this show early
Speaker 5: because we in Jersey.
Speaker 1: No, No, set your ass down right now.
Speaker 2: Shows over, it's not overlough, excuse me.
Speaker 7: I'll be waiting for his response.
Speaker 2: No, no, Keshi, he was talking about getting up to
Speaker 2: see you know that boy said thirty nine.
Speaker 3: But I'm just.
Speaker 1: Any other questions, Keisha, I can't believe this.
Speaker 7: I think I think I'm gonna just wait for him
Speaker 7: to hit me back and see where this goes.
Speaker 1: You're wait for who to hit you back?
Speaker 7: Uh, mister Josh.
Speaker 2: Okay, hit you back for what? Because you want his advice?
Speaker 2: On a guy that you're interested in from your past.
Speaker 7: I mean he doesn't look too bad.
Speaker 2: I mean, hold on, you're talking about Josh. Yeah, hell
Speaker 2: to the no, oh my god, oh my lord. So so,
Speaker 2: in other words, Keisha, you weren't being totally forthcoming and
Speaker 2: honest when you called into this show.
Speaker 1: You said, you said, hold on it, you said.
Speaker 2: You have you are divorced, and that you want to date,
Speaker 2: and that you have somebody from.
Speaker 1: Your past that you were interested in seeing.
Speaker 2: And in less than one hundred seconds you looked at
Speaker 2: my nephew.
Speaker 1: And was like success, saying, yeah, you know, I mean,
Speaker 1: he doesn't look bad.
Speaker 2: And all of a sudden, the dude from your past
Speaker 2: is not the subject matter.
Speaker 1: It's Josh you do unsaying it right, He choose up,
Speaker 1: choose up. So, in other words, Kehip, you really called
Speaker 1: in here because you're interested in my nephew.
Speaker 2: Tobe.
Speaker 5: I don't know, maybe I don't, I don't know, want
Speaker 5: to man, she probably one of the few day guys.
Speaker 1: Another call. You have a wonderful evening.
Speaker 5: Let me take it, lady lady, lady Keys, I'm gonna
Speaker 5: hit you.
Speaker 7: Yeah, hurt.
Speaker 1: That's it for the special edition of the Stephen a
Speaker 1: smith schell. Lord, help us all
Speaker 3: H