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Speaker 1: This is How Men Think with growthsl and Gavin to

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Speaker 1: grab and I hear radio podcast. Welcome to another episode

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Speaker 1: of How Men Think. My name is Brooks Like and

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Speaker 1: this is the most unique episode we've ever done. I'm

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Speaker 1: currently doing this from my home office here in Los Angeles, California.

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Speaker 1: So I've got no Gavin with me. I've got no

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Speaker 1: Rick with me, I've got no Dmitri, I've got no Ryan.

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Speaker 1: But we do have a very special guest with us today,

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Speaker 1: somebody that's going to help you, guys, cope with the

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Speaker 1: current situation of coronavirus coronavirus which we're all dealing with

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Speaker 1: in this unique time. And we'll get to him in

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Speaker 1: a second, but right now, I hope you are at

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Speaker 1: home practicing your social distancing. I am here in our

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Speaker 1: house in l a uh and the purpose of this

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Speaker 1: show is we want to help ease this easier anxiety,

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Speaker 1: easier stress, help improve the quality of your life during

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Speaker 1: this once in a lifetime almost time that we're currently in.

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Speaker 1: So we have if we're all going through these mental issues.

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Speaker 1: I know there's a lot of economic issues and stress

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Speaker 1: there as well, but there's a lot mentally that's going

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Speaker 1: on with us right now. That's carrying weight for a

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Speaker 1: lot of people. You have parents at home, you have

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Speaker 1: kids at home, you have to cook, clean and and

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Speaker 1: provide schooling, all these kinds of things. So there's a

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Speaker 1: lot going on. There's a big discussion about people are

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Speaker 1: very stressed out and very anxious in this time, and

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Speaker 1: so we thought what better way to tackle that problem

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Speaker 1: than to bring on a specialist, someone who deals and

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Speaker 1: has dealt with the most uncertain of uncertain and stressful times,

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Speaker 1: a former US Navy seal. And I want to welcome

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Speaker 1: him to the show, Mr Pat the set. Pat, how

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Speaker 1: are you, my friend doing? Doing great? Brother? Thank you Brooks.

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Speaker 1: It's it's great to be here, excited to kind of

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Speaker 1: talk to your audience, and I know it's it's interesting.

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Speaker 1: We are really at a very kind of um stressful

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Speaker 1: and a certain time I think for most of us

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Speaker 1: on a global skin ailed this type of stress that's

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Speaker 1: a little bit unbounded. We don't know how long it's

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Speaker 1: gonna go on for. This is gonna be something that

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Speaker 1: we're dealing for me, you know, for the next couple

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Speaker 1: this is going to be something that is going to

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Speaker 1: fundamentally change how we interact with one another and how

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Speaker 1: we go about our lives UH for the next several

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Speaker 1: years or potentially and definitely, UM, it's kind of a

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Speaker 1: unique time and so UM it's it's it's really nice

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Speaker 1: to be here to be able to talk with UH

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Speaker 1: with your audience about some early some of the principles

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Speaker 1: and lessons learned that I took from my time in

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Speaker 1: the team's UM and I think it's something that you know,

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Speaker 1: most team guys would say, Hey, this is these are

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Speaker 1: tried true principles that we leverage both in training and

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Speaker 1: and I love that, And I'm a team guy. To

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Speaker 1: being a professional hockey player, it was all about team

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Speaker 1: and you guys take team to another level. And so

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Speaker 1: I'm I first and foremost want to thank you for

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Speaker 1: your service. I am a huge fan of every single

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Speaker 1: service men and woman UM, and especially the cream of

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Speaker 1: the Cross, the U. S. Navy Seals. I just I

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Speaker 1: am over here just fan boying over you. Man. I

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Speaker 1: love to do this again sometime when I can actually

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Speaker 1: meet meet you. We're doing this phone call over Skype

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Speaker 1: right now. Um But one thing that I do know

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Speaker 1: about being on a team is fundamentals are so important.

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Speaker 1: They set the foundation for success. And so what I

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Speaker 1: want is to dive into your story and as a U. S.

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Speaker 1: gonna say that you deal I'll let you speak to

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Speaker 1: it more. But you deal with the unpredictable circumstances as

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Speaker 1: much as maybe anybody in the world. That's what you

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Speaker 1: guys trained for. And so the world, everybody listening to

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Speaker 1: And I would love for you to sort of make

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Speaker 1: this simple for our audience to lay a foundational layer

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Speaker 1: direct our audience towards that are just gonna the low

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Speaker 1: times the individuals get elevated. But I would say that,

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Speaker 1: team first, whether we're on an operation, whether we're training,

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Speaker 1: you know, we try to espouse and really live this

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Speaker 1: you elevate the team over the self. And I think

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Speaker 1: it's it's an important thing to focus on now because

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Speaker 1: is really under times of stress, um, when you feel

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Speaker 1: especially now with social distancing and being isolated, when you

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Speaker 1: we do is we focus on other people, right, And

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Speaker 1: so when the when the pain and the suffering, when

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Speaker 1: Because by doing so, it not only gets me out

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Speaker 1: And Hell Week is you're you're awake, you're cold, you're wet,

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Speaker 1: to others. So can you can you do something for

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Speaker 1: service of others? For me personally, and I think most

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Speaker 1: people that go through seal training would a test to

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Speaker 1: the same fact that it's always easier if you're focused

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Speaker 1: on others. So, um that that's kind of one thing

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Speaker 1: have any questions or thought on that. Yeah, A man,

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Speaker 1: I love it, um one. I just admire team people.

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Speaker 1: group is and just being part of something greater than

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Speaker 1: yourself is so powerful. And so I love what you've

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Speaker 1: that whole thing of what you said right there. And

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Speaker 1: I also love how you said can I take a strain?

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Speaker 1: Can I? I'm thinking about applying this to people at

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Speaker 1: know that I can go for a walk around the block.

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Speaker 1: by engaging something with intention and awareness that you're asserting

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Speaker 1: only increase your increase your perception and ability to control things, um,

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Speaker 1: but it actually allows you to control things more. So

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Speaker 1: you may start with a load of laundry, or start

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Speaker 1: by hugging your wife, or start by going for a walk.

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Speaker 1: But that leads to the next thing, leads to the

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Speaker 1: next thing, leads to the next thing. We're very quickly

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Speaker 1: you're out of this mode where you're back on your

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Speaker 1: heels and kind of received to your center of gravity

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Speaker 1: is forward. You're leaning in your asserting control and you

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Speaker 1: just start um reasserting kind of confidence and so that

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Speaker 1: things you can do if you feel like you're losing control.

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Speaker 1: As we think about Made for and what we do

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Speaker 1: with Made For, so Andrew talks about UM Andrews Humman

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Speaker 1: again or neuroscientists and lead adviser Made For. Andrew talks

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Speaker 1: about this concept of neuroplasticity, this idea that your brain

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Speaker 1: is malleable over your entire life, and you can you

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Speaker 1: can shape it or to your benefit, or you can

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Speaker 1: shape it to your detriment, depending upon how you how

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Speaker 1: you engage it, and how you leverage it. And so

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Speaker 1: they're really two ways over the course of your life

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Speaker 1: to UM to create brain change. In leveraging this concept

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Speaker 1: of neuroplasticity, one is by having a short intense experience, right,

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Speaker 1: something that can be um tremendously positive or can be

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Speaker 1: tremendously traumatic. Right. It could be I was in a

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Speaker 1: bad car accident, I lost a family member, uh, or

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Speaker 1: a really positive experience to my wife, whatever, whatever the

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Speaker 1: thing is, I'm very short. Duration. Intense experience is a

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Speaker 1: one way to rewire the brain um and the effects

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Speaker 1: of it can last um for a long period of time. Young.

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Speaker 1: The other way is really by taking small steps done

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Speaker 1: with intention and awareness over time, and that really is

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Speaker 1: the model that made for falls into So our program

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Speaker 1: is ten months long. Each month we deliver um a kit. Uh,

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Speaker 1: we deliver a kid. Two people inside the kid is

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Speaker 1: the relevant science, a tool that someone might use, and

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Speaker 1: kind of a challenge designed around what's the smallest fundamental

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Speaker 1: thing we can get you to do well? You will

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Speaker 1: recognize a benefit of your actions, right, and so these

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Speaker 1: are very simple things. We focus on what we call

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Speaker 1: them baseline elevating practices, These things that habits of kind

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Speaker 1: of body and mind that not only increase your capacity

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Speaker 1: to do that thing well, but increase your capacity across

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Speaker 1: multiple domains of your life. So we look at, you know,

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Speaker 1: for example, we look at gratitude, we look at movement,

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Speaker 1: we look at exposure in a your social connection, breathwork,

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Speaker 1: all of these things that you intuitively know are good

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Speaker 1: for you and that engaging them makes you feel better.

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Speaker 1: But for whatever reason, you've lost touch with right. Yeah, well,

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Speaker 1: just especially now, like a lot of those things that

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Speaker 1: I think people people have a I mean, we're practicing

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Speaker 1: social distancing, but that doesn't mean our lives stop. You know,

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Speaker 1: like you you told your if you can go out

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Speaker 1: and go for a walk around the block. Yesterday I

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Speaker 1: I saw one person in four hours. I was completely

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Speaker 1: removed um from society. I mean, there's still ways to

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Speaker 1: continue your life. You just have to be a little

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Speaker 1: more creative. But like I'm reading your list here of

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Speaker 1: the things that you touched on. You said gratitude, you

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Speaker 1: said being in nature, connection, breathwork, hydration, rest, fuel, clarity, vision, movement,

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Speaker 1: all of those things. I think, like you said, I

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Speaker 1: think people need to intentionally put these things into their

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Speaker 1: lives in new and unique ways that maybe they couldn't before.

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Speaker 1: You know, you can go to the gym. Now you

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Speaker 1: can't go to the GM. Gyms are closed here in

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Speaker 1: l A. So but how can you still move within

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Speaker 1: the space um that you have where you currently live,

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Speaker 1: whether it's a house, whether it's apartment. How can you

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Speaker 1: be creative and move in there? How can you have

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Speaker 1: gratitude when you can be up talking to people all

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Speaker 1: the time. How can you still have gratitude, um and

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Speaker 1: pass on giving or gratitude to others? How can you

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Speaker 1: get proper rest? You know, at this time we should

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Speaker 1: be getting more rest than ever before. Um. I love

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Speaker 1: to love, you know. And hydration. I mean, man, I'm

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Speaker 1: looking at this list, and you know what I'm thinking of, Pat,

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking of We create as a professional athlete, and

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Speaker 1: I'm a million percent sure as a Navy seal you

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Speaker 1: create good habits one because they're good, but to they're

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Speaker 1: a great fallback in a time of stress or anxiety

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Speaker 1: or uncertainty. And do that as an individual athlete, and

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Speaker 1: we do that collectively as a team. We have systems,

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Speaker 1: we have structures, we have set plays. Now within that

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Speaker 1: we're going to have creativity. But if things start going

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Speaker 1: awry and and things are falling apart a little bit,

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Speaker 1: we always have this thing to come back for. So

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Speaker 1: like personal habits, for me, preparing for a game, I

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Speaker 1: prepared for the game the same way. So whether it

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Speaker 1: was the first game of the year or the biggest

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Speaker 1: game seven Stanley Cup Playoffs, biggest magnitude game of the year,

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Speaker 1: my heart didn't change, you know. So so when an

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Speaker 1: unpredictable circumstance came. I had habits that could make me

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Speaker 1: feel comfortable, prime me, get me ready to go, um

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Speaker 1: and just ease that sort of anxiety and uncertainty a

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Speaker 1: little bit. And that's why this list, this made for lists,

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Speaker 1: these ten things that you have on your get made

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Speaker 1: for dot com for our listeners, you can check this out. Um,

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Speaker 1: I just think it's perfect. I think it's a great

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Speaker 1: found and layer for people to regain control of their

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Speaker 1: lives right now. Yeah, No, I love it. I love

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Speaker 1: how you framed it. It's um, there's that a whole mantra. Right.

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Speaker 1: You don't rise to the you don't rise to the occasion,

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Speaker 1: You fall to the level of your training. Right. And

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Speaker 1: so for you as a as a form of professional athlete,

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Speaker 1: you you had such a solid foundation that you've built

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Speaker 1: that compelled you to excellence when you were on the ice, right,

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Speaker 1: you cultivated a mindset of excellence and you were your

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Speaker 1: excellence that and every your performance on the ice came

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Speaker 1: not a result of anything magical you did on the ice,

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Speaker 1: but rather the mountain of work that you put in

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Speaker 1: underneath that. Like, the byproduct of having that solid foundation

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Speaker 1: is how you showed up on the ice, and that

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Speaker 1: carries over into how you live your life. I'm certain

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Speaker 1: of it because I mean, I just I know your mindset,

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Speaker 1: and I know kind of I feel like I know

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Speaker 1: your mindset because I know the type of person you are.

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Speaker 1: That you're a type of person. My sense is, um,

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Speaker 1: that is always on a growth trajectory, right, You're never

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Speaker 1: comfortable being static and and and that you use whatever

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Speaker 1: the experience to grow from. And I think it's especially

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Speaker 1: imperative right now that you know. And I don't want

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Speaker 1: to in any way minimize the very real challenges that

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Speaker 1: people are dealing with. People are losing their jobs, people

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Speaker 1: have family members that are dying, people are going to

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Speaker 1: the hospital, and all of those are very real. Um

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Speaker 1: and and my just my heart goes out to people

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Speaker 1: experiencing that. But I would say for the majority of

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Speaker 1: your listeners and the majority of us that are are

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Speaker 1: phase of this, but are trying to manage. The challenge

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Speaker 1: associated with with coronavirus is that this can be an

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Speaker 1: opportunity for growth. What you have to see it, and

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Speaker 1: you have to decide how you're going to grow through

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Speaker 1: this experience and growth from this experience doesn't mean doesn't

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Speaker 1: have to mean all right, I'm going to learn a

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Speaker 1: language or take up guitar. I'm gonna you know, give

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Speaker 1: in the best shape of my life growth and simply mean,

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Speaker 1: what are small positive pursuits that I can take every day?

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Speaker 1: They're going to help me bring my best to the world. Right,

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Speaker 1: That's how we think about it, right, For like, we

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Speaker 1: have this kind of this this mantra that a better

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Speaker 1: world begins with the best you. But the best to

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Speaker 1: you is not someone that just shows up one day

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Speaker 1: and like, hey, you've arrived. The best you comes from

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Speaker 1: the small little things you do every day. So that's

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Speaker 1: that's kind of how we think about it. But I

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Speaker 1: love how I love how you framed it, and the

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Speaker 1: fundamentals matter. I mean, that's you know, in the Seal Teams,

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Speaker 1: when you find yourself under really heightened levels of stress,

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Speaker 1: you notice that, hey, very quickly, your your gross motor

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Speaker 1: skills or or your fine motor control starts to degrade.

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Speaker 1: That you're even you know, just ability to kind of

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Speaker 1: control your voice and your tone. You start to get

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Speaker 1: a little bit or you can get a little bit sluggish,

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Speaker 1: and really when that happens, you have to fall back

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Speaker 1: on fundamentals. Right, How How am I using my breath

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Speaker 1: to kind of regulate my mind and my body? How

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Speaker 1: am I? Um? You know, how am I? How am

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Speaker 1: I gratitude? How can I? How am I finding a

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Speaker 1: silver lining in this moment of like extreme stress or

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Speaker 1: dress or like these very simple things? Uh matter? So? Um, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I I geek out about the fundamentals

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Speaker 1: all day long. I think they're they're too often overlooked,

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Speaker 1: and I think, um, often times, you know, people, it's

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Speaker 1: very easy. Look, here's the deal. Like, if I wanted

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Speaker 1: to have a successful company and guarantee success, I would

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Speaker 1: auto up some pills. I would slop and tried and

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Speaker 1: audit and I would say like, hey, this is your

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Speaker 1: pill that's going to give you success. And I could

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Speaker 1: sell a lot of them and it would be very easy.

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Speaker 1: But that's just not the kind of person I am.

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Speaker 1: And like, you know, it may work for someone for

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Speaker 1: a week, but in the long run, it's going to

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Speaker 1: do more harm than it does good. I think there

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Speaker 1: are so many bads and gimmicks and like hacks out

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Speaker 1: there that you know, it's that people get skip bombarded

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Speaker 1: with a lot of like marketing stuff, and my message

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Speaker 1: is like that, it's not that, hey, you need to

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Speaker 1: go by you need to join our program and try

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Speaker 1: made for I would love it if you checked it out.

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Speaker 1: But the message really is like, think about the fundamental

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Speaker 1: essential elements like strip away all the branding and all

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Speaker 1: the marketing, and like, ultimately, what is someone telling you

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Speaker 1: action that you're taking worthy of your time and is

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Speaker 1: it making you better? Is it making you feel better?

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Speaker 1: Is it making you show up better in the relationships

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Speaker 1: in your life that matter? Is it making you more

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Speaker 1: intentional and how you're moving through your day? You know,

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Speaker 1: That's that's how I think about it. And apologize again,

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Speaker 1: I could geek out about this all day. Lef uh Pat,

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Speaker 1: you're speaking my language, man, I mean that's why. If

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Speaker 1: you look at my Netflix right now, dude, it's every

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Speaker 1: single Special Ops Navy seal that's all I've been watching.

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Speaker 1: I'm just a huge fan of And here's why. Truthfully,

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Speaker 1: why because you guys are the pinnacle. You're the tip

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Speaker 1: of the sword. You know, you're the peak of the

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Speaker 1: mountain and the way you got there was from small

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Speaker 1: little efforts. You didn't just jump up there, you know,

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Speaker 1: you didn't just arrive there and become overnight this overnight success.

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Speaker 1: And it's the same as an athlete. And we had

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Speaker 1: this quote. I wrote it down right here because I

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Speaker 1: wanted to share with our listeners. We had this up

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Speaker 1: in our locker room so that this was in front

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Speaker 1: of our eyes every single day. It's a Robert Collier quote,

643
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Speaker 1: and it says success is the sum of small efforts,

644
00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 1: repeated day in and day out. And it's how I

645
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 1: feel about you guys. That's why I have an admiration

646
00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 1: for you guys. And it was one of the things

647
00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:32,480
Speaker 1: I was most proud of in my career as a

648
00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:35,520
Speaker 1: professional athlete. Is it wasn't that I had these I

649
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:38,600
Speaker 1: didn't just acquire or wasn't burnt or born with these

650
00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:46,400
Speaker 1: world class skills. I made incremental, incremental improvements every single day.

651
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:48,440
Speaker 1: And I always said about myself, I was the best

652
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 1: at getting better. That's how I looked at myself as

653
00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 1: an athlete. I was the best at getting better as

654
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:57,120
Speaker 1: every day I made improvements that led to just an

655
00:32:57,160 --> 00:33:01,280
Speaker 1: amazing abundance of ability in the sport. Of hockey and

656
00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 1: what you guys do as Navy seals and um. And

657
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 1: so when I think about people, if I can, because

658
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 1: we you and I both believe we're not we're not here.

659
00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 1: It's not a quick fix. You know, we're not going

660
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:15,360
Speaker 1: to solve all your problems right now. You're not gonna

661
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:17,240
Speaker 1: just a one eight in your life. But what you

662
00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 1: can do are some of the things, some little things

663
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 1: that are gonna start showing up every day in your life.

664
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Speaker 1: I'm a huge proponent of rest, Like I'm a huge advocate.

665
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 1: I always say rest as a weapon. The first thing

666
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 1: I asked when people are they say their lives out

667
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 1: of control. They say they're not healthy, they don't energetically

668
00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 1: feel well. My first question is how are you sleeping?

669
00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:41,320
Speaker 1: You know when you wake up in the morning. So

670
00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 1: for our listeners, if you I'm I'm fearful that people

671
00:33:44,800 --> 00:33:47,440
Speaker 1: are sitting at home binge watching Netflix until like two

672
00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 1: in the morning, and then they wake up and I

673
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:52,880
Speaker 1: feel like crap. Um, My wife and I we go

674
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:55,680
Speaker 1: to bed at nine o'clock nine fifteen, we get nine

675
00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:59,200
Speaker 1: hours and of sleep, and it's like six o'clock six fifteen.

676
00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:03,120
Speaker 1: We're waking up ready to poll because we've prioritized our rest.

677
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:07,920
Speaker 1: Um drinking just drinking enough water is a very simple thing.

678
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:11,160
Speaker 1: Um all right now, I have my Getty or my Yetti,

679
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 1: I have my sums jugged with me sitting right here

680
00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:15,640
Speaker 1: on the on the desk because I'm doing this chat

681
00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:19,480
Speaker 1: with you, um drinking water. Rest. And also I think

682
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:23,399
Speaker 1: this time, I think it's equally important as ever for

683
00:34:23,440 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 1: people to continue to dream, you know, as you the

684
00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:30,440
Speaker 1: growth mindset, Like, I don't think we put our lives

685
00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:33,719
Speaker 1: on pause here, and I think the people that are

686
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:36,239
Speaker 1: doing that are somewhat struggling. But the people that are

687
00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 1: using this, as you said, as an opportunity, I believe

688
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:42,720
Speaker 1: everything is an opportunity. Right now is the most unique

689
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:46,440
Speaker 1: opportunity maybe we've ever had in our lives. Two. I

690
00:34:46,440 --> 00:34:50,320
Speaker 1: think so much creation and greatness in the world is

691
00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:53,520
Speaker 1: going to come from this um clarity for our own

692
00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 1: perspective of life, for what's important for our place in

693
00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:59,879
Speaker 1: the universe. Um Man, I'm geeking out on this right now.

694
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:01,920
Speaker 1: Got me fired up. I love it. I love it.

695
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:04,520
Speaker 1: It's so good. It's so good. Like also, just to

696
00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:06,239
Speaker 1: share what you talked about, I love what you said

697
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:08,719
Speaker 1: is the first thing is like take action, any direction,

698
00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:11,880
Speaker 1: any action, you know, any port in the storm. Just start.

699
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:14,239
Speaker 1: One of the things that I've really used this time

700
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:18,080
Speaker 1: for is because we can't do a lot of things

701
00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:20,440
Speaker 1: were just inside the house. He can't be outside the

702
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:24,360
Speaker 1: house doing things everywhere. I've really focused on pride of

703
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:29,560
Speaker 1: work in everything I do. So even before this conversation,

704
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:33,400
Speaker 1: reading you, reading articles that you spoke about your background,

705
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:37,279
Speaker 1: being prepared for this conversation. But one area that I've

706
00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:41,960
Speaker 1: really done it in is cooking. I wasn't. I was

707
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:46,240
Speaker 1: an awful cook path like I just terrible, just terrible. Um.

708
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 1: And now I'll spend like I'll spend an hour like

709
00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:56,080
Speaker 1: prepping ingredients, looking up recipes and it's it's really like

710
00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:59,160
Speaker 1: invigorated me and given me life in a new unique

711
00:35:59,160 --> 00:36:01,920
Speaker 1: way and an appre creation for food and for conscious

712
00:36:01,920 --> 00:36:05,439
Speaker 1: eating that I never had before. Some things in your

713
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:08,399
Speaker 1: life that you are currently doing that are new opportunities

714
00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:13,359
Speaker 1: that you've never looked at, are given time to before. Yeah, man,

715
00:36:13,440 --> 00:36:15,719
Speaker 1: I got I love you brought up so much that

716
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:21,799
Speaker 1: to just resonates, um it is. I'm very much in

717
00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:25,000
Speaker 1: the thick of it right now. I've got this company

718
00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:28,320
Speaker 1: that I'm working on I've got, um, these these twins

719
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:30,719
Speaker 1: that I'm trying to raise, and I think that, and

720
00:36:30,760 --> 00:36:33,719
Speaker 1: then I'm trying to be a good husband um to

721
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:37,840
Speaker 1: my wife. And so it's I will tell you, there

722
00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:40,960
Speaker 1: are every day I wake up and I'm not sure

723
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:43,239
Speaker 1: if my head is above or below water, but I'm

724
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 1: fairly certain I'm still swimming, and I'm just like, okay,

725
00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 1: I'm still swimming. Like it's still good. But what I

726
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:53,680
Speaker 1: find is that where I'm really trying to um to

727
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 1: grow is in just being present with my my wife

728
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:03,480
Speaker 1: and children, to really maintain some some sacred time where

729
00:37:03,840 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 1: it's just them and I'm fully immersed in it. And

730
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:08,560
Speaker 1: it doesn't mean I mean it could it could be

731
00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 1: as you know, it could be bast time, it could

732
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:13,440
Speaker 1: be during meal time, it could be you know, when

733
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:15,920
Speaker 1: one baby is kind of rolling around and poop is

734
00:37:15,960 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 1: going everywhere, and like really just trying to like be

735
00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 1: present for these moments because like they're they're fleeting, right,

736
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:25,120
Speaker 1: They're gonna pass, and like very soon a week is

737
00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:26,560
Speaker 1: going to turn into a month, it's gonna turn into

738
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:27,880
Speaker 1: a few years, and like these I'm not going to

739
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:30,440
Speaker 1: get these moments back. So that's really where I am

740
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:32,400
Speaker 1: investing my time is to try to be present with

741
00:37:32,440 --> 00:37:34,719
Speaker 1: my wife. It's interesting and and and my kids. It's

742
00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 1: interesting that you brought up cooking. I have to make

743
00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:41,120
Speaker 1: a mention of my wife. We have we just started

744
00:37:41,120 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 1: sleeping again, maybe I guess a month and a half ago. Uh.

745
00:37:45,360 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 1: The first six seven months of raising these girls there

746
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:52,680
Speaker 1: first has been has induced a level of stress that

747
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:55,560
Speaker 1: was kind of born to us before. I think, you know,

748
00:37:55,600 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 1: we didn't recognize just how much raising twins it's going

749
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 1: to take out of us. But the thing that my

750
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:02,920
Speaker 1: wife has been like pinning her hopes on was she

751
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:04,719
Speaker 1: had a birthday a couple of weeks ago, and like her,

752
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 1: her big reward was she this past week was going

753
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 1: to go to a cooking camp and just be by

754
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:13,839
Speaker 1: herself and do some self care and learn how to cook,

755
00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 1: because she, like you, is kind of just rediscovering this

756
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:19,880
Speaker 1: passion for cooking. And unfortunately, coronavirus turned that off and

757
00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 1: she's not there. And so it's been it's been amazing

758
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 1: to watch her her resilience in bouncing back from you know,

759
00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 1: having this like perfect that was good. That was the

760
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:32,880
Speaker 1: finished line that she was moving towards at least in

761
00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:34,960
Speaker 1: the in the short term, that like all of a sudden,

762
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 1: got pushed a lot farther out, And just watching her

763
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 1: respond to that has been She's done it with such grace,

764
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 1: and I just, you know, I find uh, I find

765
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:45,839
Speaker 1: so much inspiration in how she kind of moves through

766
00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:49,279
Speaker 1: the day and she, Um, she doesn't care at all

767
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:51,920
Speaker 1: that I was a Navy seal. Um. She she just

768
00:38:52,040 --> 00:38:54,200
Speaker 1: demands that I show up every day and that that

769
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:57,000
Speaker 1: I served her and these kids. So I'm kind of

770
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:58,560
Speaker 1: rambling there, but I don't know, I just wanted to

771
00:38:58,760 --> 00:39:01,960
Speaker 1: put a knot out there her. I think I think

772
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 1: presence is one of the single most underrated things in life,

773
00:39:08,719 --> 00:39:13,080
Speaker 1: just truly in life, especially in a relationship like true presence. Um.

774
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 1: That's one thing actually too that I'm working on right now.

775
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:19,480
Speaker 1: I used to, Pat, I used to like eat breakfast

776
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:21,800
Speaker 1: and read at the same time. Or I used to

777
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:23,840
Speaker 1: I would always be doing something. I'd be doing yardwork,

778
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:26,120
Speaker 1: listening to a podcast. So try and maximize. I'm a

779
00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:28,399
Speaker 1: growth mindset guy, right just like you are. We trying

780
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:32,040
Speaker 1: to maximize our time. How much information can we digest?

781
00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:34,000
Speaker 1: How can we better our lives? How can we do

782
00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 1: in a week what other people would do in a month. Um.

783
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 1: And what I found was like, that's putting me under

784
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:42,319
Speaker 1: some anxiety and some stress. And there's just too much

785
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 1: stimulation in my life. And so one thing I'm trying

786
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:47,560
Speaker 1: to work on is doing one thing at a time.

787
00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:50,520
Speaker 1: You know. So when I eat, I want to consciously

788
00:39:50,640 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 1: eat and like and just absorb the nourishment of the food,

789
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:57,480
Speaker 1: would be grateful for the food and then move on

790
00:39:57,640 --> 00:40:00,440
Speaker 1: to whatever I'm doing next and just be presn't in

791
00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:03,440
Speaker 1: that And presence in a conversation means you're not on

792
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:06,760
Speaker 1: your phone. Presence in a task means you're solely focused

793
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:10,440
Speaker 1: on the task. And I've just I've seen the quality

794
00:40:10,760 --> 00:40:15,440
Speaker 1: of of my work, of my performance when training, of

795
00:40:15,640 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 1: my communication. Um just I've seen it all elevate just

796
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:24,239
Speaker 1: by simply being president focusing on that task at hand.

797
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 1: It's one thing I love that you put on it too.

798
00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 1: It's it's massive, I mean, there is It's very easy

799
00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:36,560
Speaker 1: to internalize this idea that busy is progress, that if

800
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:39,400
Speaker 1: we have lots of things going on, we're making measurable progress.

801
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:42,239
Speaker 1: And I think that I think it's I think it's

802
00:40:42,280 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: smoke and mirrors, it's not a real thing, right, And

803
00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:49,560
Speaker 1: so presence, real presence and being intentionally focused on immersed

804
00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 1: in whatever it is that you're doing and maximizing it's

805
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:55,319
Speaker 1: getting the most out of that experience. That's really how

806
00:40:55,440 --> 00:40:57,880
Speaker 1: you how you make progress and how you you know,

807
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:02,120
Speaker 1: Andrew likes to say the are these are stairs not trampolines, right,

808
00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:05,480
Speaker 1: It's one step at a time, and it's just such

809
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 1: a it's just such a great visual, right, Like trampolines

810
00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:11,279
Speaker 1: aren't useful, right. You hear these people chasing kind of

811
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:14,480
Speaker 1: flow states and peak experiences and like coming off of

812
00:41:14,560 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 1: whatever thing and like they trampolined up. They saw it

813
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:18,560
Speaker 1: for a little bit and they come back down and

814
00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:20,759
Speaker 1: then they're looking for the next trampoline. And that's that's

815
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:22,640
Speaker 1: no way to live, right, And that's not what you

816
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:25,920
Speaker 1: want to do. Is it's kind of adopt enduring practices

817
00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:31,360
Speaker 1: mindset small steps and cultivate a momentum and a mindset

818
00:41:31,440 --> 00:41:33,880
Speaker 1: that kind of compels, you know, propels you forward. And

819
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:37,239
Speaker 1: I think presence, just being present in whatever it is

820
00:41:37,280 --> 00:41:39,400
Speaker 1: you're doing, is a huge part of that. So I

821
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:41,560
Speaker 1: love that, I love that you're that you're doing that

822
00:41:41,600 --> 00:41:44,520
Speaker 1: as well. It's very cool. Um, we've had you for

823
00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 1: forty five minutes. I don't want to keep you for

824
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:47,680
Speaker 1: too long because I know you've got two young ones

825
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:49,920
Speaker 1: and your wife and a company to run everything. But

826
00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:52,080
Speaker 1: i'd love to You've touched on two things that I

827
00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:54,400
Speaker 1: just want to get just I'm trying to pull as

828
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 1: much value as I can right now. UM. And honestly note,

829
00:41:57,480 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 1: I'd love to meet you in person path and just

830
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:03,879
Speaker 1: have a full on discussion about like the Navy seal experience. UM,

831
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:06,800
Speaker 1: but you touched on two things for our audience to

832
00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:09,279
Speaker 1: get started right now. For people that are in a rut,

833
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:12,880
Speaker 1: one take action in any direction. Just decide that you're

834
00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:17,040
Speaker 1: gonna put one foot forward in whatever, UM practice. It

835
00:42:17,080 --> 00:42:19,640
Speaker 1: could be a personal development practice. It could be I'm

836
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:21,879
Speaker 1: gonna do laundry to I'm gonna make the bed this morning,

837
00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:24,560
Speaker 1: I'm gonna connect with my spouse, I'm gonna make a

838
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:28,080
Speaker 1: phone call to somebody, anything like that. So start one

839
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:33,240
Speaker 1: take action to be more present. Those are two ways

840
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:35,799
Speaker 1: that are very easy to start, that are gonna take

841
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 1: that are going to improve the quality of people's lives.

842
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:40,879
Speaker 1: What are like three, four and five that you think

843
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 1: could really again basic things that you think really will

844
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 1: help people in this time? Is it rest is being

845
00:42:50,680 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: in nature? Like? What other three? What are three, four

846
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:55,600
Speaker 1: and five that you think our listeners could really use

847
00:42:55,640 --> 00:42:59,000
Speaker 1: it this time? So I so I think three principles

848
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:01,600
Speaker 1: to lean on this concept of you know, if you're

849
00:43:01,640 --> 00:43:05,839
Speaker 1: feeling isolated, focus on others, right, Um, figure out how

850
00:43:05,920 --> 00:43:08,120
Speaker 1: you can be in service to others. Uh. If you're

851
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:12,239
Speaker 1: feeling like you have a like you're losing control and um,

852
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:15,320
Speaker 1: you're a little bit on more, take action. Uh, just

853
00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:19,239
Speaker 1: by taking action in whatever form at whatever size, is

854
00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:21,800
Speaker 1: going to give you confidence and allow you to reassert control.

855
00:43:22,120 --> 00:43:24,760
Speaker 1: And the third piece, um, the third kind of principle

856
00:43:24,920 --> 00:43:26,759
Speaker 1: or mindset that I would lean on is if you're

857
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 1: feeling a sense of overwhelmed, that there is just too

858
00:43:30,840 --> 00:43:33,440
Speaker 1: much going on for you to for you to deal

859
00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:35,399
Speaker 1: with and you just don't know where to start move

860
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 1: the finish line right if if if the finished line

861
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:40,600
Speaker 1: for you right now is hey, I've got to I've

862
00:43:40,640 --> 00:43:43,279
Speaker 1: got to How am I going to get through the

863
00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:45,040
Speaker 1: rest of this year? How am I going to get

864
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 1: through the rest of you know, the semester with my

865
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 1: my kids at home and homeschooling, and that's just too

866
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 1: much to think about. Move that, move that finished line

867
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:55,200
Speaker 1: in a little bit closer to a place where you

868
00:43:55,280 --> 00:43:57,960
Speaker 1: feel comfortable that you can progress to, and then when

869
00:43:58,000 --> 00:43:59,520
Speaker 1: you get to that spot, you can move the finish

870
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:01,480
Speaker 1: line again. It's a it's a technique that we use

871
00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 1: in the teams and training and operations, and I think

872
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:06,200
Speaker 1: it's really really valuable. And you know, there's lots of

873
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:09,400
Speaker 1: ways to deliver that same message, but I like this

874
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:12,040
Speaker 1: kind of concept of moving the finish line in terms

875
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:15,359
Speaker 1: of steps, concrete steps that you can do. I would say,

876
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:20,000
Speaker 1: you know, sleep is critical, and just I sleep and

877
00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:22,920
Speaker 1: recovery right, making sure that you're taking time, you know,

878
00:44:23,120 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 1: it's important I think to view this challenge as an

879
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:29,200
Speaker 1: opportunity and find ways to grow in the face of

880
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:32,080
Speaker 1: the challenging circumstance that we find ourselves in, but also

881
00:44:32,200 --> 00:44:34,120
Speaker 1: take time for self care. And if that means for

882
00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:37,239
Speaker 1: you that like, hey, today you just can't and you

883
00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:39,680
Speaker 1: are going to take a nap, or you're going to

884
00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:41,440
Speaker 1: go to bed at nine o'clock and you're gonna turn

885
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:44,040
Speaker 1: off Netflix and and read a book and just kind

886
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:46,200
Speaker 1: of power down for a little bit do that. It's

887
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:48,799
Speaker 1: important that you um that you care for your body

888
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:50,359
Speaker 1: in that way. It will just allow you to show

889
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 1: up better for yourself and others the next day and

890
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:55,480
Speaker 1: every day going forward. And recognize that we're not in

891
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:58,080
Speaker 1: a sprint. We're in a marathon and maybe even ultramaterathon.

892
00:44:58,239 --> 00:45:00,799
Speaker 1: So rest is important. The other thing that I think

893
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:04,320
Speaker 1: is really important, Uh, it's just movements, right. And you

894
00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:06,360
Speaker 1: notice that I don't say I don't say exercise, I

895
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:09,480
Speaker 1: don't say training, and it's there's take the performance aspect

896
00:45:09,760 --> 00:45:12,359
Speaker 1: of it out of it. Just move your body, even

897
00:45:12,440 --> 00:45:14,759
Speaker 1: if that means going for a walk, or if it

898
00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:16,920
Speaker 1: means you know, standing up in your living room and

899
00:45:17,280 --> 00:45:19,399
Speaker 1: kind of bouncing around and kind of sensing into where

900
00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 1: you're holding stress and trying to release stress and like

901
00:45:22,040 --> 00:45:24,200
Speaker 1: roll around on the floor. It doesn't have to be

902
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:26,839
Speaker 1: complicated to make a difference. But make sure that you're

903
00:45:26,880 --> 00:45:29,759
Speaker 1: moving your body every day. I can't it's hard to

904
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 1: overstress how important that is from a band brain chemistry standpoint,

905
00:45:32,960 --> 00:45:35,239
Speaker 1: but also just from a physical health and how do

906
00:45:35,280 --> 00:45:37,279
Speaker 1: you show up? And then I think, you know the

907
00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 1: last thing is we we have this. You know, it's

908
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:46,440
Speaker 1: very humans are amazing at normalizing uh, their circumstances, right,

909
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:49,560
Speaker 1: And so when we normalize the situation, we can go

910
00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 1: on autopilot, right, And so we maybe you went to

911
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:55,600
Speaker 1: the grocery store and all they had was jump food

912
00:45:55,840 --> 00:45:58,200
Speaker 1: and whatever, like you just grab as much you can

913
00:45:58,239 --> 00:45:59,960
Speaker 1: and you brought it home. And you're sitting at home,

914
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:02,040
Speaker 1: and because you're stuck at home your board, and you're

915
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:05,000
Speaker 1: just constantly kind of like you know, eating and maybe

916
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:07,839
Speaker 1: eating things that you wouldn't ordinarily eat. I would just say,

917
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:11,880
Speaker 1: you know, focus on or think about and be present

918
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:14,239
Speaker 1: enough to know what you're putting in your body and

919
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:16,880
Speaker 1: how it's affecting you. And and you notice I'm not

920
00:46:17,000 --> 00:46:19,920
Speaker 1: saying like eat fruits and vegetables and nuts and like

921
00:46:20,040 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 1: avoid this and avoid that. That's not what I'm saying

922
00:46:22,080 --> 00:46:24,600
Speaker 1: at all. I'm just saying, be present to what you're

923
00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:26,800
Speaker 1: putting in your body and how it's affecting you. And

924
00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:29,120
Speaker 1: if you can have that subtle shift and awareness, I

925
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:31,920
Speaker 1: think it'll play. It'll pay dividends for you, both in

926
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:34,439
Speaker 1: your energy levels and how you're showing up, but also

927
00:46:34,560 --> 00:46:37,560
Speaker 1: how you're kind of responding to the stress that you're feeling.

928
00:46:37,800 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 1: Um alread these times, so that that I think those

929
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 1: are promised some things that I would think about it

930
00:46:42,480 --> 00:46:45,200
Speaker 1: and that anyone could put into action at this time.

931
00:46:45,239 --> 00:46:47,120
Speaker 1: It's certainly things that we that we lean into in

932
00:46:47,160 --> 00:46:57,400
Speaker 1: the teams. Where can people find made for? Can you

933
00:46:57,440 --> 00:46:59,239
Speaker 1: talk about that for people that because you do a

934
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:02,319
Speaker 1: ten month program like a more elaborate right now, we're

935
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:04,799
Speaker 1: trying to give snack able, bite size things to people

936
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:07,080
Speaker 1: that are listening. But for people that are listening like, yeah,

937
00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:08,800
Speaker 1: it's time for me to take action. I want to

938
00:47:08,800 --> 00:47:10,800
Speaker 1: improve the quality of my life. I want to be

939
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 1: in on this program. Where can people find made for? Yeah?

940
00:47:16,280 --> 00:47:18,480
Speaker 1: Thank thank you for asking for asking the question. That

941
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:23,040
Speaker 1: our website is www dot get made for dot com,

942
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Speaker 1: g E T M A D E f O R

943
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Speaker 1: dot com. You can find us there. You can follow

944
00:47:28,600 --> 00:47:31,880
Speaker 1: us on Instagram um at made for or you can

945
00:47:31,960 --> 00:47:35,920
Speaker 1: find me on Instagram pat Underscore made for um and

946
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 1: so you can you can sign up there, learn more

947
00:47:38,040 --> 00:47:41,200
Speaker 1: about learn more about us on our website or uh,

948
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:42,920
Speaker 1: you know, reach out to us on social and I'm

949
00:47:42,960 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 1: happy to answer any questions uh that people may have

950
00:47:46,200 --> 00:47:48,840
Speaker 1: UM and also for your listeners. You know, it's interesting

951
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:52,759
Speaker 1: we did not design Made for for coronavirus. We didn't

952
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:54,840
Speaker 1: know that this was happening. We designed made for to

953
00:47:54,920 --> 00:47:59,880
Speaker 1: give people sustainable practices of habit and mind of mindsets

954
00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:02,759
Speaker 1: that they can uh, that they can take on and

955
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:05,160
Speaker 1: that will help them bring your best to the world. Uh.

956
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:07,719
Speaker 1: And we did this wide way before Corona showed up.

957
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:10,640
Speaker 1: But it so happens that now with people isolating, whether

958
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:13,479
Speaker 1: they're you know, it's your company that um, everyone's working

959
00:48:13,480 --> 00:48:16,840
Speaker 1: from home, or just people are distancing in general, we

960
00:48:16,960 --> 00:48:19,640
Speaker 1: kind of end up having the perfect product for the

961
00:48:19,719 --> 00:48:21,520
Speaker 1: perfect time and that you know, we send kids to

962
00:48:21,560 --> 00:48:23,680
Speaker 1: your home. We give you the steps and the tools

963
00:48:23,719 --> 00:48:26,080
Speaker 1: and the science that you need to uh to adopt

964
00:48:26,120 --> 00:48:28,680
Speaker 1: these practices and um and we kind of put you

965
00:48:28,760 --> 00:48:30,480
Speaker 1: on the to put you on a long game, like

966
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 1: we're gonna take these stair steps over ten months to

967
00:48:33,520 --> 00:48:36,520
Speaker 1: get you in a place uh, just kind of bringing

968
00:48:36,560 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 1: your best self to the world. So, if your listeners

969
00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 1: are interested in Made for when you want to check

970
00:48:40,160 --> 00:48:42,520
Speaker 1: us out our website and you ultimately decide you wanna,

971
00:48:42,840 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 1: you wanna, um, you want to join and become a member,

972
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:48,040
Speaker 1: we have my team sent me a code to share

973
00:48:48,080 --> 00:48:52,080
Speaker 1: with your members. If that's okay. UM, it's just it's uh.

974
00:48:52,520 --> 00:48:56,480
Speaker 1: It's m F thinking. UH is the code and so

975
00:48:56,800 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 1: if when you're when you're checking out made for on

976
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977
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Speaker 1: and that will give you off the monthly or the

978
00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:09,879
Speaker 1: all in program. The program is designed as ten months

979
00:49:09,960 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 1: and each month builds on itself. But understand that, you know,

980
00:49:13,280 --> 00:49:15,399
Speaker 1: sometimes people don't want to fully commit, and so if

981
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:16,920
Speaker 1: you want to try it just for a month, you

982
00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:19,240
Speaker 1: can do one month at a time and there's no strings,

983
00:49:19,320 --> 00:49:22,120
Speaker 1: you can you can drop at any time. So um, listen,

984
00:49:22,200 --> 00:49:24,480
Speaker 1: Hey Brooks, really enjoyed being here. Thank you so much

985
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:26,120
Speaker 1: for giving me a form to kind of talk about

986
00:49:26,120 --> 00:49:27,920
Speaker 1: some of this stuff. And I love what you do

987
00:49:28,080 --> 00:49:30,560
Speaker 1: and kind of how you talk about showing up in

988
00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:32,919
Speaker 1: the world. I think it really matters. Um. I hope

989
00:49:32,960 --> 00:49:35,640
Speaker 1: people adopt some of the some of the things that

990
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 1: you're putting out there. And UH, I look forward to

991
00:49:38,239 --> 00:49:41,839
Speaker 1: uh to grabbing a beer or getting together sometime soon. Dude. Why,

992
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:43,799
Speaker 1: I just want to say thank you so one, thank

993
00:49:43,840 --> 00:49:46,239
Speaker 1: you so much for coming on. Pat. I appreciate it,

994
00:49:46,239 --> 00:49:48,080
Speaker 1: and I would love to grab a beer and just

995
00:49:48,160 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 1: pick your brain and hear all the stories in the training.

996
00:49:50,680 --> 00:49:54,440
Speaker 1: I just love I have such an admiration for what

997
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:57,839
Speaker 1: you guys do, what you're capable of doing. And even

998
00:49:57,880 --> 00:49:59,719
Speaker 1: at the start of the show you said, these are

999
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:02,600
Speaker 1: just ordinary people that are just find ways they build

1000
00:50:02,640 --> 00:50:05,880
Speaker 1: have us to do extraordinary things. Um, So I'd love

1001
00:50:05,920 --> 00:50:07,239
Speaker 1: to have a chat with you one on on just

1002
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:09,239
Speaker 1: in real life. And then to thank you so much

1003
00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:13,799
Speaker 1: for offering our our community the MF Thinking promo code

1004
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:17,320
Speaker 1: for get made for dot com. We always try and

1005
00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:22,120
Speaker 1: leverage our platform, leverage this podcast to make UM healthy,

1006
00:50:23,320 --> 00:50:26,800
Speaker 1: more inspiring, living, fitness, wellness, anything that we can do

1007
00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:30,239
Speaker 1: personal growth, more affordable for people, and especially at this

1008
00:50:30,440 --> 00:50:33,719
Speaker 1: time right people are seeking this kind of thing and

1009
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:36,879
Speaker 1: are maybe under some economic stress and if you're able

1010
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:40,200
Speaker 1: to provide that for our community, man Um, yes, I

1011
00:50:40,520 --> 00:50:42,880
Speaker 1: look forward to the opportunity to be able to serve

1012
00:50:42,960 --> 00:50:46,720
Speaker 1: your mission, um, just because you've done such a service

1013
00:50:46,840 --> 00:50:49,960
Speaker 1: for myself and for our audience or how many think

1014
00:50:50,000 --> 00:50:53,279
Speaker 1: audience today. So um, thank you so much, pat for

1015
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:55,680
Speaker 1: people that love you. I mean, we just did get

1016
00:50:55,760 --> 00:50:57,640
Speaker 1: made for dot com. But where can people find you?

1017
00:50:57,920 --> 00:51:00,359
Speaker 1: My friend? Are you on social media? Any where where

1018
00:51:00,400 --> 00:51:04,160
Speaker 1: can people get more of your personal story? I am yeah,

1019
00:51:04,200 --> 00:51:08,200
Speaker 1: you can. You can find me pat Underscore made for UM.

1020
00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:12,680
Speaker 1: That's on Instagram. My team's teach me about social media

1021
00:51:12,680 --> 00:51:14,759
Speaker 1: and how it works. So I guess it's at pat

1022
00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:19,799
Speaker 1: Underscore Underscore made for You can find me there, and UH, yeah,

1023
00:51:19,920 --> 00:51:22,840
Speaker 1: you know we I look forward to uh engaging with

1024
00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:26,320
Speaker 1: with anyone who's got questions or or you know whatever,

1025
00:51:26,400 --> 00:51:28,360
Speaker 1: whatever however I can be of service. I think you

1026
00:51:28,440 --> 00:51:30,840
Speaker 1: know it's it's so important. You know, you can do

1027
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:32,920
Speaker 1: made for you can't do made for whatever. But the

1028
00:51:33,120 --> 00:51:36,960
Speaker 1: very basic things that that Brooks, what you're talking about

1029
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 1: here and kind of what we talked about today. Everyone

1030
00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:42,800
Speaker 1: has this ability inside them, and you can you have

1031
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:45,640
Speaker 1: this capacity inside you. It's just a matter of using

1032
00:51:45,719 --> 00:51:49,080
Speaker 1: some very simple steps and practices to kind of um

1033
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:52,480
Speaker 1: to kind of activate you your innate ability to to

1034
00:51:52,600 --> 00:51:54,600
Speaker 1: achieve excellence and to and to bring your best self

1035
00:51:54,640 --> 00:51:57,480
Speaker 1: to the world. So I look forward to, uh Brooks,

1036
00:51:57,520 --> 00:51:58,719
Speaker 1: look forward to link it up in person one of

1037
00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:01,360
Speaker 1: these days, and UH look forward to continue the conversation.

1038
00:52:02,000 --> 00:52:05,040
Speaker 1: Honestly a lot of fun. Take care of that family,

1039
00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:08,560
Speaker 1: or stay active, stay safe and for all of our listeners.

1040
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:11,160
Speaker 1: Thanks for joining us. You guys, Stay active, stay stay

1041
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 1: stay safe, take care of one another, love one another,

1042
00:52:14,640 --> 00:52:16,279
Speaker 1: and we'll see you back here next week for another

1043
00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 1: episode of How Men Think. Pat You're awesome, dude. Probably

1044
00:52:23,040 --> 00:52:29,760
Speaker 1: that was fun for an impromptu session. Everything everything, um, everything,

1045
00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 1: you're saying everything, like I'm on the main four website

1046
00:52:32,160 --> 00:52:35,840
Speaker 1: right now. It's so it's so true, Like basic fundamentals, man,

1047
00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:38,040
Speaker 1: that's just how we start team stuff. We start with that.

1048
00:52:38,120 --> 00:52:40,680
Speaker 1: You just rely on that, that just becomes your It's

1049
00:52:40,719 --> 00:52:44,360
Speaker 1: almost it's just second nature. You don't even think about that.

1050
00:52:44,520 --> 00:52:49,200
Speaker 1: And sometimes, um, sometimes I've noticed that that I skip

1051
00:52:49,360 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 1: to the more intricate and the more detailed stuff when

1052
00:52:53,480 --> 00:52:55,480
Speaker 1: I'm trying to share and try and help people like

1053
00:52:55,640 --> 00:52:58,520
Speaker 1: elevate the quality of their lives, because the habits and

1054
00:52:58,560 --> 00:53:01,120
Speaker 1: the basic stuff are so habid true for me. But

1055
00:53:01,200 --> 00:53:03,879
Speaker 1: then I have to go back. I'm like, this person

1056
00:53:04,000 --> 00:53:08,160
Speaker 1: doesn't even sleep, like they barely even they don't even

1057
00:53:08,200 --> 00:53:12,000
Speaker 1: meet breakfast before, or like they have no concept of

1058
00:53:12,200 --> 00:53:15,600
Speaker 1: recovery or you know, and I'm like, wow, it's actually

1059
00:53:15,680 --> 00:53:19,000
Speaker 1: the fundamental things that I was taught so long ago

1060
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:22,799
Speaker 1: that allowed me to build upon that and have success. Um,

1061
00:53:23,000 --> 00:53:27,040
Speaker 1: so I love I love you people. Yeah you even

1062
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:30,560
Speaker 1: internalized all that. It's funny, like, you know, I might

1063
00:53:30,640 --> 00:53:32,279
Speaker 1: say this on the on the on the podcast, but

1064
00:53:32,400 --> 00:53:35,879
Speaker 1: like all the biggest, fastest, strongest guys that go into

1065
00:53:35,920 --> 00:53:39,640
Speaker 1: seal training are oftentimes the first to quit um. And

1066
00:53:40,239 --> 00:53:42,560
Speaker 1: you know, people have this sense of like what what

1067
00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:44,560
Speaker 1: do the Navy seal looks like or what you know,

1068
00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:46,520
Speaker 1: but they're always the first ones to quit, and it's

1069
00:53:46,560 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 1: because they've always been used to leaning back on kind

1070
00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:52,040
Speaker 1: of like they're you know, they're in eight talents and

1071
00:53:52,239 --> 00:53:53,560
Speaker 1: you know, kind of what they were born with, and

1072
00:53:53,600 --> 00:53:55,600
Speaker 1: they've never really been put outside their comfort zone. And

1073
00:53:55,880 --> 00:53:58,000
Speaker 1: when they find themselves outside their comfort zone, it's a

1074
00:53:58,080 --> 00:54:00,520
Speaker 1: very worn place for them to be in, like and

1075
00:54:00,600 --> 00:54:02,680
Speaker 1: they pull. They don't know how to kind of respond

1076
00:54:02,719 --> 00:54:05,680
Speaker 1: to that. But the people that you know are a

1077
00:54:06,440 --> 00:54:09,440
Speaker 1: little bit comfortable being uncomfortable and have kind of cultivated

1078
00:54:09,440 --> 00:54:12,320
Speaker 1: these very like basic foundational things are the ones that

1079
00:54:12,520 --> 00:54:15,720
Speaker 1: end up you know, doing well and training and combat

1080
00:54:15,760 --> 00:54:18,319
Speaker 1: and the teams and kind of moving forward. So yeah,

1081
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:22,320
Speaker 1: you know, it's it's funny, man. I Hey, just so

1082
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:25,480
Speaker 1: we like our first month is all about hydration, and

1083
00:54:25,520 --> 00:54:27,160
Speaker 1: it's it's a little bit of the science of it's

1084
00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:30,239
Speaker 1: like hydration, the science of like what's going on your

1085
00:54:30,320 --> 00:54:33,200
Speaker 1: hydrating and how if you have a loss of total

1086
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:36,360
Speaker 1: body water you start to notice very real cognitive and

1087
00:54:36,400 --> 00:54:39,000
Speaker 1: physical deficits. Like that's been proven out and lass and stuff.

1088
00:54:39,040 --> 00:54:41,880
Speaker 1: But there's no like what size fits all approach, right,

1089
00:54:41,880 --> 00:54:43,520
Speaker 1: there's no like any class of the water a day

1090
00:54:43,600 --> 00:54:45,879
Speaker 1: or whatever. And so what we tell people is like, hey,

1091
00:54:46,280 --> 00:54:48,680
Speaker 1: we're gonna give you this water bottle. It's got beads

1092
00:54:48,719 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 1: on it. We want you to just track your water

1093
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:52,720
Speaker 1: for twenty one days, and every time you drink a bottle,

1094
00:54:52,800 --> 00:54:54,279
Speaker 1: move a bead at the end of the day, of

1095
00:54:54,280 --> 00:54:56,759
Speaker 1: record how many bottles you drank, and just make a

1096
00:54:57,000 --> 00:54:58,920
Speaker 1: couple of sentences on like how you felt. And so

1097
00:54:59,040 --> 00:55:02,360
Speaker 1: we're trying to make people present and aware to a

1098
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:04,719
Speaker 1: small thing that they're doing every day and how it's

1099
00:55:04,760 --> 00:55:07,480
Speaker 1: affecting them and draw you know, make that connection a

1100
00:55:07,520 --> 00:55:10,000
Speaker 1: little bit more robust between like and action you're taking

1101
00:55:10,080 --> 00:55:12,799
Speaker 1: and how it's making you feel. And it's it'll blow

1102
00:55:12,920 --> 00:55:15,040
Speaker 1: it would blow your mind by like the things people

1103
00:55:15,120 --> 00:55:16,879
Speaker 1: come out of that month with they're like oh my god.

1104
00:55:17,000 --> 00:55:19,719
Speaker 1: Like you know, I became aware about this and like

1105
00:55:19,800 --> 00:55:23,000
Speaker 1: I stopped drinking cokes and now I'm exercising more. What

1106
00:55:23,040 --> 00:55:24,640
Speaker 1: I'm doing this, I'm doing that, And like all we

1107
00:55:24,719 --> 00:55:26,800
Speaker 1: did was tell people like trek your water like that's it.

1108
00:55:27,040 --> 00:55:31,640
Speaker 1: So Um, the fundamentals matter, you know, every every everyone,

1109
00:55:31,719 --> 00:55:35,240
Speaker 1: every professional knows that. But oftentimes the general public doesn't

1110
00:55:35,280 --> 00:55:37,799
Speaker 1: know that because they get marketed so much bullshit, UM

1111
00:55:38,239 --> 00:55:40,400
Speaker 1: that they don't. They lose sight of the fundamentals. So

1112
00:55:41,680 --> 00:55:44,359
Speaker 1: I appreciate your brother. UM, I'll let you go pat

1113
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:47,600
Speaker 1: it please, UM let me know how I are we

1114
00:55:48,120 --> 00:55:52,480
Speaker 1: the show can ever serve your mission further? UM, I

1115
00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:54,319
Speaker 1: would love to meet you in real person having into

1116
00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:58,520
Speaker 1: the studio. Just thank you so much for everything and

1117
00:55:58,600 --> 00:56:00,960
Speaker 1: for the promo code. Man, thank you so much. Um,

1118
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:04,000
Speaker 1: I can't imagine today, think of business right now and

1119
00:56:04,600 --> 00:56:06,400
Speaker 1: and people are already tight with their money and then

1120
00:56:06,480 --> 00:56:09,759
Speaker 1: giving people a discount on it. I mean, just high

1121
00:56:09,800 --> 00:56:13,239
Speaker 1: five to you man, Thank you so much. All good brother,

1122
00:56:13,360 --> 00:56:15,399
Speaker 1: happy to do it. And uh yeah man, let's let's

1123
00:56:15,400 --> 00:56:17,120
Speaker 1: connect one of these days when this this whole thing

1124
00:56:17,160 --> 00:56:19,680
Speaker 1: settles out. We're we're in Santa Monica, so I'm sure

1125
00:56:20,320 --> 00:56:23,239
Speaker 1: we're not too far away, but we're in the Hollywood Hills,

1126
00:56:23,360 --> 00:56:27,359
Speaker 1: so yeah, we're not far at all. Okay to look

1127
00:56:27,400 --> 00:56:31,000
Speaker 1: forward to it. Yeah, be safe, take care of cheers.

1128
00:56:34,080 --> 00:56:37,400
Speaker 1: E Stone, you're still there. I'm here, Betty. Awesome. That

1129
00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:38,480
Speaker 1: was a great episode. Man,