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Speaker 1: eighty three says so I, twenty nine, female have lived

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Speaker 1: next door to my neighbors Tom and Melinda for my

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Speaker 1: whole life, and he and his family have always been

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Speaker 1: really nice. He has a son, Teddy, who's about eighteen

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Speaker 1: to nineteen, so about ten years younger than OPI.

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Speaker 2: Wait, if you're eighteen, I feel like your name needs

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Speaker 2: to go from Teddy to ted ted.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're no ted ted.

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Speaker 2: No one should call you teddy unless you are taller

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Speaker 3: Two hundred pounds, and then you're Teddy. Yep, then you

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Speaker 3: can be called Teddy.

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Speaker 1: Interesting. There's a class that goes Teddy, ted Teddy yep, okay,

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Speaker 1: Teddy because like if you're that big or just like

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Speaker 1: a giant Teddy bear. Sure. My parents moved out of

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 1: And my neighbor has always been there for advice if

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Speaker 1: I needed it quick, and we have dinner every weekend.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, they're super close. Anyway. Yesterday, around midlate afternoon,

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Speaker 1: in front of my neighbor's house, music still blaring. I

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Speaker 1: that I could hear their shifty music from inside my house.

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Speaker 1: Teddy and his friend had the audacity to start laughing

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Speaker 3: I yelled at Teddy that.

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Speaker 1: It's common courtesy to not blare your music while driving

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Speaker 3: Hold on time out.

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Speaker 1: This sounds like it's during the day, during the day,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, that's fine, right.

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Speaker 1: Midlate afternoon, un And he's playing music and singing and

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're not looking too good right now.

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Speaker 1: You are the a whole one hundred percent. Also, this

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he can call you a Karen. He has the

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Speaker 1: Well, you shouldn't be saying anything to him about this.

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Speaker 1: That's wild. Why are you calling his music shifty?

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Speaker 3: Probably meant to say shitty.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, either one. That's rude. This is rude like your

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Speaker 3: So far you're the ale.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so far, you are the a whole. Five minutes later,

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Speaker 1: I assumed he was going to apologize for Teddy's behavior,

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Speaker 1: me right now. That really hurt me, and I shut

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Speaker 1: I just got a text from Melinda that I was

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Speaker 2: I feel like Ope left out some yeah information. If

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Speaker 1: Now, I'm wondering if there's something missing here because like

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Speaker 3: But like, yeah, okay, I feel like everyone's a hole here.

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Speaker 1: That was an a whole response for sure.

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Speaker 3: Everyone's being the a hole.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, everyone needs to hold hands and look at each

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Speaker 1: Everyone needs to like take a breath because everyone's reacting

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Speaker 2: Not outragel what with Sam Whenever you guys need to

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I look at my brother like this, and I talked

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Speaker 3: And then he laughs and then he does that too

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Speaker 3: above him, smart, don't do anything.

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Speaker 1: We just walk away and then eventually we come back

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Speaker 3: Sorry, I don't know what it's like having a sister,

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Speaker 1: When the presumed offending teenager the driver was leaving anyway.

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Speaker 1: They weren't harming anyone, damaging any property, or driving recklessly.

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Speaker 1: It seems like everyone overreacted here. But since you're asking

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think that sums it up really well. Everyone's overreacting.

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Speaker 1: But if we're asking whether ope's the ale or not,

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Speaker 1: People shouldn't be going through neighborhoods blaring music period, it's

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Speaker 3: What do you mean is wrong?

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Speaker 1: It seems like this was a very brief moment where

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Speaker 1: and was singing a song.

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Speaker 2: I have done this, Opie. Hopefully this does offend you. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, to go on with your day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like you're watching TV and you hear someone like

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Speaker 3: It is whack.

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Speaker 1: Like I've had neighbors who blast music until you know,

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Speaker 2: I am that neighbor back home, I'm like the neighbor

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Speaker 2: that did that because my landlords said.

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Speaker 1: Wait, story time, okay, story okay, okay. So because I

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Speaker 1: You need to look up your town's noise regulations because

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Speaker 1: noise in a neighborhood is to be expected. Loud music

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Speaker 1: You should have calmly talked to the parents about how

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Speaker 1: them an apology for verbally assaulting their child. That's not

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Speaker 1: That's what I was gonna say. Like, people are like,

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Speaker 1: I'm not. No, it wasn't my fault, like totally not

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Speaker 3: Yeah, the only way you're as if it was for am.

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Speaker 3: Oh boy, I get it.

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Speaker 1: I'm the a whole. We got there. We got there eventually.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, finally, I don't know why. My first thought when

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Speaker 1: just having fun. I also understand that I overreacted to

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Speaker 3: W parents.

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Speaker 1: The parents are just like they were, like, we left

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Speaker 3: Have an okay story again.

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Speaker 1: We have three okay story times. My parents called me

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Speaker 2: If they apologize. I want to go see if there

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Speaker 3: Should not have done that, not cuol, not cute.

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Speaker 3: Sucks the B word. Yeah, the heck.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it should always be fun, like bitch please, Yeah

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Speaker 3: I have a story about being loud, okay, go.

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Speaker 2: My brother and I whenever we got an apartment together in Tennessee,

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Speaker 2: And like my brother the first six months of moving in,

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Speaker 2: We didn't have internet at our house. Yeah in North Carolina.

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Speaker 2: Yeah until like twenty twenty three.

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Speaker 1: Yes, you like, I gotta use this.

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Speaker 2: So he's like, I'm playing Fortnite, playing with friends, smashing

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Speaker 3: Yeah, try me crazy bad. But like our neighbors knew

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Speaker 2: My brother said, I hear the kids all the time,

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Speaker 2: I would say we were way louder than they were, okay,

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Speaker 3: Was definitely way loud. I felt really bad. Yeah I

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Speaker 3: Anyway, Oh, I was thinking about having a bonfire so.

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Speaker 3: No, then it's lame, but like the fire.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but okay, Well it depends on how big your

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Speaker 1: And they're just like teeny tiny and I'm like I

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Speaker 1: I love sitting next to a bonfire, roasting marshmallows one

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Speaker 3: What Joe do you have? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Oh, being in a community base in the South, my

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Speaker 1: All right.

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Speaker 3: We got two most stuffs crash all right.

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Speaker 1: Neighbor offered my mom one dollar for part of her

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Speaker 1: This is Okop, home to the craziest true stories on Earth.

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia and Riley. How much would you charge to

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Speaker 2: A good few hundred bucks because that ain't my driveway,

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Speaker 2: Maybe three hundred bucks in it's yours.

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Speaker 1: Yeah exactly. I was thinking, just like the space in

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Speaker 3: You can own it, But I still have to park there.

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Speaker 1: So my last d says, this might be the wrong

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Speaker 1: My seventy four year old mom's neighbor, mid sixties males,

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Speaker 3: How many kids do you have? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: We're about to find out, including the ones belonging to

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Speaker 3: Maybe they live in another country.

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Speaker 1: So he just needs space to store the cars.

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Speaker 3: Maybe they live in New York City.

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Speaker 1: That's weird. My mom somewhat reluctantly agreed under the condition

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Speaker 2: Houses do be like touch and tips recently interesting phrase.

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Speaker 1: We're moving on. A few years went by, the neighbor

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Speaker 1: one dollar. When she said no, all hell broke loose.

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Speaker 1: What so he's already pushing onto their property. The mom like,

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Speaker 1: OPI's mom still paid for this stuff, like still paid

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Speaker 1: it got even more aggressive and ridiculous. His wife showed

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00:18:14,440 --> 00:18:16,760
Speaker 1: up crying over how they can't live without the extra

440
00:18:16,840 --> 00:18:20,600
Speaker 1: driveway space. They started strategically parking their cars to make

441
00:18:20,640 --> 00:18:23,840
Speaker 1: it as difficult on the workers as possible. The workers,

442
00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:27,120
Speaker 1: what workers? The people that were like pin like filling

443
00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:30,119
Speaker 1: the driveway? Oh oh okay. They threatened to report the

444
00:18:30,160 --> 00:18:33,119
Speaker 1: workers to ICE, despite having no knowledge of the immigration

445
00:18:33,200 --> 00:18:37,480
Speaker 1: status of the workers, so they're also racist. Yikes. In response,

446
00:18:37,560 --> 00:18:41,119
Speaker 1: they rather hilariously pulled up everything around and under the

447
00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:44,000
Speaker 1: Sun's car so only the tires were still on the driveway.

448
00:18:44,119 --> 00:18:46,000
Speaker 1: Then the Sun showed up at the door and told

449
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Speaker 1: my mom, I just made my first million dollars and

450
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Speaker 1: I'm going to buy the house and make your life miserable.

451
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Speaker 3: Who what? Okay?

452
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Speaker 1: You know what we were talking about the seas and

453
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Speaker 1: Desist order on our previous stories, and this I think

454
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Speaker 1: this is where you can bring us synthesised.

455
00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:01,800
Speaker 3: Yeah.

456
00:19:01,840 --> 00:19:03,960
Speaker 1: One day I was in the backyard and the guy

457
00:19:04,040 --> 00:19:07,280
Speaker 1: was leaning over the fence yelling f you. When I

458
00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:09,639
Speaker 1: turned around, he said, oh, I'm sorry, I thought you

459
00:19:09,680 --> 00:19:10,440
Speaker 1: were your mother.

460
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Speaker 2: What.

461
00:19:13,800 --> 00:19:16,840
Speaker 1: They eventually sold the house for nearly five hundred k

462
00:19:17,119 --> 00:19:23,040
Speaker 1: under asking price. The new neighbors are lovely as dang God,

463
00:19:23,359 --> 00:19:28,439
Speaker 1: thank God, but Jesus. To yell at an old like

464
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Speaker 1: a woman in her.

465
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Speaker 3: Sixties seventy four year old mother.

466
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Speaker 1: Oh, sorry, the dad is in this. The other guy's

467
00:19:34,880 --> 00:19:37,840
Speaker 1: in the sixties seventy four year old woman, I'd say,

468
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Speaker 1: f you.

469
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Speaker 2: What kind of person do you have to be to

470
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Speaker 2: do that? Yi, I would never yell that to an

471
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Speaker 2: older woman.

472
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Speaker 1: I don't think I would yell at anyone, but that's

473
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Speaker 1: especially not like an older woman who's my neighbor.

474
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Speaker 3: I would yell at people, but not mean.

475
00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:58,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I actually I actually do have a really

476
00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:01,480
Speaker 1: good neighbor story. Oh my god. Okay, story time. Actually

477
00:20:01,560 --> 00:20:06,000
Speaker 1: it's now because we finished the story. Okay, story time.

478
00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:09,960
Speaker 1: My previous apartment, we basically have a balcony. Yeah, like

479
00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:11,800
Speaker 1: the third floor, and we had a balcony, and then

480
00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:14,560
Speaker 1: the lady next to us also had a balcony, so

481
00:20:14,600 --> 00:20:17,800
Speaker 1: they weren't connected, but you could like basically hear and

482
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Speaker 1: see the other balcony. So it's like my balcony, her balcony,

483
00:20:21,040 --> 00:20:23,520
Speaker 1: but she had a she was like this older lady,

484
00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:26,000
Speaker 1: and she had this fence surrounding her balcony, so we

485
00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:28,040
Speaker 1: couldn't see into it, but like the way that it

486
00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:29,800
Speaker 1: was set up, you could see on to ours. And

487
00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:33,119
Speaker 1: so this happened multiple times where we would be out

488
00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:35,560
Speaker 1: in the balcony, like you know, my room. One roommate

489
00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:37,520
Speaker 1: was out there at one point and she was like

490
00:20:37,560 --> 00:20:40,119
Speaker 1: talking to her boyfriend and I guess like laughed at

491
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Speaker 1: something that he said, and this insane woman started like

492
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Speaker 1: yelling at my roommate, who was not paying loud and

493
00:20:47,080 --> 00:20:51,560
Speaker 1: was like, you are laughing annoying and you're what did

494
00:20:51,600 --> 00:20:54,600
Speaker 1: she say? Shoot, she was like, you're a misogynist for

495
00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:57,879
Speaker 1: like talking to her boyfriend. They weren't saying anything crazy either.

496
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Speaker 1: She was just like, hey, are you coming over today's

497
00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:02,879
Speaker 1: And yeah, she was like you're a misogynist and you

498
00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:06,119
Speaker 1: have no respect for yourself and I hate your laugh.

499
00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:08,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh the last one must kind of hurt.

500
00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:12,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, she was like what and she came inside. She's like,

501
00:21:12,160 --> 00:21:15,440
Speaker 1: our neighbor was just yelling at us. And then another time,

502
00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:18,200
Speaker 1: at like maybe eight o'clock, I was watching a movie

503
00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:20,320
Speaker 1: with my friends, not loud, like maybe Harry Potter, I

504
00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:22,399
Speaker 1: think you're watching, and the door was uh. We had

505
00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:24,280
Speaker 1: the window open because it was really hot out and

506
00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:27,000
Speaker 1: she starts yelling at us to like she's like, tie

507
00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:29,679
Speaker 1: got off. And it wasn't even loud. We just had

508
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Speaker 1: the window open it like at eight o'clock.

509
00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:32,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know.

510
00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:35,040
Speaker 1: She was horrible. We hated her. And also all day

511
00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:37,240
Speaker 1: long her dog would bark, so I was like, why

512
00:21:37,240 --> 00:21:40,160
Speaker 1: are you complaining about noise when you're the problem. Yeah.

513
00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:41,760
Speaker 1: But never Actually I don't think we ever saw her

514
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Speaker 1: face because you never met her.

515
00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:44,560
Speaker 3: Well, we always knew her voice.

516
00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:46,440
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, I know she was the worst. That's my

517
00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:47,320
Speaker 1: neighbor story.

518
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Speaker 3: Neighbor.

519
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Speaker 2: This my neighbor's going up with my grandparents and my aunt, yeah,

520
00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:52,840
Speaker 2: and my great grandfather.

521
00:21:53,440 --> 00:21:54,720
Speaker 1: Your neighbors were just your family.

522
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:55,760
Speaker 3: It was my family.

523
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Speaker 1: It's fun.

524
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Speaker 2: Well yea, I don't think I've ever explained, no, I've

525
00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:01,440
Speaker 2: ever explained to you guys, like how I like grew up.

526
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:03,320
Speaker 3: You know, I lived like in a little compound.

527
00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:04,080
Speaker 1: That's fun.

528
00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:06,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, So like here's my hand. I lived here and

529
00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:09,600
Speaker 2: then through a little patch of woods. It's my aunt's

530
00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:12,320
Speaker 2: house up here, and then below that is my grandparents house,

531
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:14,320
Speaker 2: and through another little patch of woods is my great

532
00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:16,080
Speaker 2: grandfather's house, he's still alive today.

533
00:22:16,119 --> 00:22:16,600
Speaker 3: And then my.

534
00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:19,040
Speaker 2: Cousin's house, her cousin's house down here. So I would

535
00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:21,359
Speaker 2: like walk through a little patch of woods see my aunt,

536
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:24,080
Speaker 2: see my grandma, and my grandma had a log cabin.

537
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:25,840
Speaker 2: I grew up at a saw mill, and like the

538
00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:28,640
Speaker 2: wood is from our sawmill. Yeah, and then we would

539
00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:30,879
Speaker 2: walk through another little bit awesome actually and be with

540
00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:33,119
Speaker 2: my great grandpa and we had like an in between

541
00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:36,840
Speaker 2: little compound places garden, orchard, baby goats, garden.

542
00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:38,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm literally so jealous.

543
00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:40,320
Speaker 3: It was amazing.

544
00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:43,600
Speaker 1: That sounds awesome. Oh, this is giving me very much

545
00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:46,919
Speaker 1: like prairie Little House on the Prairie vibes. Yeah, like

546
00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:49,240
Speaker 1: the first book before they moved to the prairie.

547
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Speaker 3: Oh wow.

548
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:51,640
Speaker 1: I don't know if you've ever read Last on the Prairie.

549
00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:52,560
Speaker 3: I'm kind of against it.

550
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:54,400
Speaker 1: It was one of my favorite you're kind of against it.

551
00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:56,199
Speaker 2: Yeah, I thought it was too like, well, I mean

552
00:22:56,240 --> 00:22:58,920
Speaker 2: it's for girls. I know, That's why I did not.

553
00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:00,880
Speaker 1: Anything is for girls. Can read it the other way.

554
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,959
Speaker 1: But it was marketed towards girls.

555
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 3: You know, I just didn't. I loved it.

556
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:08,000
Speaker 1: I thought it was so good.

557
00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I need to tell you something sad

558
00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:11,400
Speaker 3: one day about that.

559
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 1: About Little House in the Prairie.

560
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:15,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, what just another day, not today.

561
00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:17,360
Speaker 1: Okay, let me be happy about Little House.

562
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:18,520
Speaker 3: You can be.

563
00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:22,040
Speaker 1: I actually have a really funny story about Little I

564
00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:25,520
Speaker 1: was in a college class on American literature because I

565
00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:29,440
Speaker 1: was a literature major, and we were talking a lot

566
00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:34,040
Speaker 1: about how in certain books and stuff, how you have

567
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:37,879
Speaker 1: like I'm trying to explain it, like stuff against Native America,

568
00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:41,160
Speaker 1: like it was, you know, like portraying Native American Native

569
00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:43,479
Speaker 1: Americans in a bad light or just having like the

570
00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:48,919
Speaker 1: white settler story and stuff stuff like that. And basically

571
00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:51,960
Speaker 1: we were in class one day and our teacher was

572
00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 1: like starting off with the conversation and she was like,

573
00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:57,720
Speaker 1: has anyone here read a Little House in the Prairie.

574
00:23:57,880 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 1: And I like raised my hand and looked like two

575
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:01,119
Speaker 1: other people raise their hands. I was like yeah. I

576
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:02,920
Speaker 1: didn't say anything, but I was like, oh my god,

577
00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 1: I love Little House in the Prairie. And she was like,

578
00:24:05,119 --> 00:24:07,760
Speaker 1: Little House in the Prairie was horrible and she went

579
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,479
Speaker 1: on this rantom ale like how it had all these

580
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:11,360
Speaker 1: bad things, and I was like, oh, yeah, it does

581
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:14,480
Speaker 1: have bad things. I was like, I feel really bad

582
00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:18,719
Speaker 1: for liking them out. Oh but yeah, no, it definitely

583
00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:21,320
Speaker 1: does have problems because it was written a long time ago.

584
00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:22,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, people were different back then.

585
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it was one of my favorite books growing up.

586
00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 3: Dang it.

587
00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:29,359
Speaker 2: Now I'm going to be imagining the like comments of oh,

588
00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:31,119
Speaker 2: that sounds like you lived on Little House of the

589
00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:32,440
Speaker 2: Prairie and I'm from the South.

590
00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:34,800
Speaker 3: Come on, Sophia, no little hose. No no, he put

591
00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:35,359
Speaker 3: me in a corner.

592
00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:38,720
Speaker 1: Aesthetically not like the problem in Little House in the

593
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:40,840
Speaker 1: Prairie was not that they lived on the prairie or

594
00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:42,159
Speaker 1: that they lived in a log cabin.

595
00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:44,960
Speaker 2: Well, if it's aesthetically the same, then it's probably cool.

596
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:46,720
Speaker 2: Like the problems were probably the same.

597
00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:49,440
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think it's just my teacher was

598
00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 1: mainly talking about how, like how the story was written,

599
00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:54,080
Speaker 1: how it was Yeah, yeah.

600
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:54,919
Speaker 3: Read this next story.

601
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:58,679
Speaker 1: Okay, sorry that was a long tangent. All right, this

602
00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:01,919
Speaker 1: last story the day am I the a hole for

603
00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:05,120
Speaker 1: not agreeing with my other roommates about my roommates girlfriend

604
00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:09,920
Speaker 1: paying rent? This is okayop Home to the Craziest True

605
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:14,879
Speaker 1: Stories on Earth. I'm Sophia and Riley. If Sam's girlfriend

606
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:18,800
Speaker 1: didn't pay rent, Sam doesn't have a girlfriend. If Sam's

607
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 1: potential girlfriend wait, hold on.

608
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:24,439
Speaker 2: If Sam's potential girlfriend isn't paying rent and my fridge

609
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:27,440
Speaker 2: space is cut in half, I'm going to cause problems.

610
00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:29,840
Speaker 2: But if she is paying rent, yeah, then I'm cool

611
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 2: with it. Yeah, but I don't care. As long as

612
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:33,520
Speaker 2: Ren's gonna paid, I don't care. But if my fridge

613
00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:34,680
Speaker 2: space is getting messed with.

614
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:35,160
Speaker 1: That's true.

615
00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:36,200
Speaker 3: Going hand, that's true.

616
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 1: I don't we have such a small fridge.

617
00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:38,760
Speaker 3: We just need another fridge.

618
00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:41,199
Speaker 1: We just need another fridge. Yeah, I don't know. We

619
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:44,440
Speaker 1: need to put Yeah, we just need fridge, fridge, fridge. Anyway,

620
00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 1: So I love home cooked meals, says she wrote this

621
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Speaker 1: me who's not paying rent? I twenty seven female live

622
00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:55,920
Speaker 1: in a large apartment with a few different roommates. There's

623
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 1: Harry and Mia twenty four mail and twenty five female,

624
00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:00,880
Speaker 1: myself and Derek twenty eight mail.

625
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:02,760
Speaker 3: Sounds like new girl, does it?

626
00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:05,399
Speaker 1: That would be if there were four guys and one girl.

627
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:06,119
Speaker 2: This is this?

628
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:08,479
Speaker 3: Does it sound two guys and two girls.

629
00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:11,359
Speaker 1: Harry and Mia are dating and share a room, and

630
00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 1: Derek and I agree to split rent three ways and

631
00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:16,199
Speaker 1: let those two split it between themselves. I think this

632
00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:19,160
Speaker 1: is relevant. Later, Okay, Derek got a new girl from

633
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:22,240
Speaker 1: the last summer, Molly, twenty seven female. Okay, so wait,

634
00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 1: MIA's no, no, no, okay, So now it's Harry, Mia, Derek Molly.

635
00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:27,600
Speaker 1: Now that they've been together for a bit, they've started

636
00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 1: staying at each other's places. Molly stays over at our

637
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:32,720
Speaker 1: apartment maybe two to three times a week, four nights.

638
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Speaker 4: Max.

639
00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 1: Harry and Mia recently approached me saying that they think

640
00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:38,720
Speaker 1: Mollie should start contributing to rent, or at least to

641
00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 1: utilities or groceries, now that she's over so much. I

642
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:44,720
Speaker 1: don't agree. Here's why. One Yeah, before they go into

643
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 1: the thing. I don't think that's enough to constitute paying rent.

644
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:49,800
Speaker 1: I don't think two to three times a week is

645
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:52,560
Speaker 1: enough where I would be like she should be paying rent.

646
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, No, I don't think.

647
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:57,879
Speaker 1: No, she's not living there. Also, are they cooking together?

648
00:26:58,000 --> 00:27:00,000
Speaker 1: Because otherwise why would she be paying for groceries?

649
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 3: Yeah?

650
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 2: Because I feel like staying in the same room as

651
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:03,680
Speaker 2: well as a rinse is getting paid. Is she stay

652
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:04,280
Speaker 2: in the same room.

653
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think two to three times a week is not.

654
00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:08,919
Speaker 1: That is where I'm like the that's like a normal

655
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 1: amount for a.

656
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:10,160
Speaker 3: Partner to come over.

657
00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:13,000
Speaker 2: And if two, if they're sharing a bathroom, yeah, if

658
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:14,439
Speaker 2: they're not in the way, then it's fine. But if

659
00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:16,240
Speaker 2: they are in the way, then you could probably be

660
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 2: like hey.

661
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:18,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I don't think two or three times a

662
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:20,680
Speaker 1: week is enough to be like, hey, you should be

663
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:21,520
Speaker 1: paying rent for this.

664
00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:22,400
Speaker 3: Yeah.

665
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 1: So these are Opie's reasons. Number one, Molly helps clean

666
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:28,359
Speaker 1: pretty much every time she's over. If her and Derek

667
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 1: make dinner, she helps with all the dishes and clean up.

668
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 1: She's taken out the trash on her way out a

669
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 1: few times and always offers to help if she sees

670
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 1: one of us tidying up.

671
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:39,199
Speaker 3: Great, that's great, that's amazing. Love lead player, love it.

672
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 4: Two.

673
00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:42,680
Speaker 1: Mollie has never eaten our food. She often comes over

674
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:44,480
Speaker 1: and cooks dinner for all of us, which she definitely

675
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 1: does not have to do, and she always stops at

676
00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 1: the store for all the ingredients beforehand. I think the

677
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:51,080
Speaker 1: most she's ever taken from our fridge was a bottle

678
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 1: of water number three. As for utilities, I just don't

679
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:56,639
Speaker 1: think she's over enough to make a huge impact. She

680
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:59,359
Speaker 1: doesn't usually sour here, only doing so a handful of

681
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:01,960
Speaker 1: times in the month she's been coming over. Her and

682
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 1: Derek pretty much just make dinners on their dime, watch movies,

683
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 1: and sleep. That is so not enough to constitute being,

684
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:11,800
Speaker 1: you know, on paying rent. Absolutely not. And also like

685
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:15,439
Speaker 1: Derek is still paying rent that, you know, it's not

686
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:16,399
Speaker 1: like he's paying less.

687
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:17,160
Speaker 3: Yeah.

688
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:20,159
Speaker 1: Also I think it's like we already know that, So

689
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:23,879
Speaker 1: we have Derek and Opee paying split rent or you know,

690
00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:28,840
Speaker 1: and then Harah and Mia split the rest of the rent.

691
00:28:29,000 --> 00:28:32,440
Speaker 1: So it's not like I'm confused by what they're asking here,

692
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:35,880
Speaker 1: because why would like it feels like they're asking Mia

693
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: to lower the or sorry, not Miya, what's her name, Molly,

694
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:43,640
Speaker 1: Derek's new girlfriend to lower their rent basically, which is

695
00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 1: like that doesn't even make sense. If she were to

696
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 1: split rent, or if she were to pay rent, it

697
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:51,280
Speaker 1: would be like Derek and you know her playing you know,

698
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 1: splitting the rent together because they're renting at the same room,

699
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,960
Speaker 1: you know. But I don't think I think utilities maybe

700
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 1: but I don't think Again, I don't think she's over

701
00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 1: enough for her to be paying for utilities and she's

702
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 1: not using their groceries. This is weird. Sorry, what are

703
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:05,360
Speaker 1: you to say?

704
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 3: This is weird?

705
00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 2: No, that was my conspiracy is that Harry and Mia

706
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 2: are trying to lower Yeah, how much they're paying per month.

707
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 1: But that doesn't make any sense anyways. Harry and Mia

708
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 1: are really pushing for us to all confront Derek about this,

709
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:19,360
Speaker 1: and I refused. I don't think she's making enough of

710
00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 1: an impact where we need to demand money from her,

711
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:23,560
Speaker 1: and I feel like by doing that, she'll stop making

712
00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 1: dinners for us. Yeah. Yeah, well might sound selfish, but

713
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:30,400
Speaker 1: several times she's made my entire night for having a

714
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:33,120
Speaker 1: home cooked meal ready for me after work. Yeah, that's

715
00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 1: so sweet. She's there two to three times a week.

716
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 1: She's already paying enough, she's paying she's shaking dinner.

717
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:41,600
Speaker 3: If she was paying rent, I would just ask her

718
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 3: to do this.

719
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:45,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, this is crazy. I also don't think it's

720
00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 1: fair for the two people paying the least amount in

721
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 1: rent to be demanding this. Absolutely, we're sort of out

722
00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:54,040
Speaker 1: a standstill because Harry and Mia don't want to do

723
00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:56,800
Speaker 1: this confrontation on their own and I'm refusing to agree

724
00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 1: to it. They're pissed at me, and I just want

725
00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 1: them to let it go a hole. Hell no, no, no.

726
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 1: And I've known situations where people have their partners over

727
00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:09,200
Speaker 1: literally every night and practically a living and this is

728
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:12,040
Speaker 1: not that situation, Like if your partner's over every night. Again,

729
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:14,280
Speaker 1: we talked about this in like, did we talk about

730
00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 1: this in this episode or a previous episode about like

731
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:17,920
Speaker 1: staying in boundaries of.

732
00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:19,960
Speaker 3: Okay, earlier episode.

733
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 1: It might be, might have been earlier this episode. But

734
00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 1: if you don't know where we're talking about it, we

735
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,240
Speaker 1: probably just talked about it in a different episode. But

736
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:28,960
Speaker 1: I think that you need to have boundaries. Oh you

737
00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 1: need to like set boundaries and listen to your roommates

738
00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 1: boundaries about having a partner over all the time. But

739
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:38,400
Speaker 1: this is not it. She's not, you know, overstaying her welcome.

740
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:40,440
Speaker 1: She's there two to three times a week, she's making

741
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:43,280
Speaker 1: them dinners, she's buying your own groceries. That is not

742
00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 1: constituting as like overstepped. I don't think that's like a

743
00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:48,400
Speaker 1: place where you can be like that's overstapping your boundaries.

744
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:49,920
Speaker 1: That's overstepping our space.

745
00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:52,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think like the girlfriend's already doing enough

746
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:52,719
Speaker 2: by cooking.

747
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:53,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, she's cooking.

748
00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 3: That's my thing.

749
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,360
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, no, I think it's weird that they're complaining

750
00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 1: when they're already splitting rent.

751
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:02,280
Speaker 2: Yeah. I found this, like one comment that's kind of cool.

752
00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:03,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, what what's the comment?

753
00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 3: I added?

754
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 4: There?

755
00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 3: There is an update?

756
00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 1: Oh, there's an update. Yeah, hours ago. This is like fresh,

757
00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:14,040
Speaker 1: this is fresh off the process update.

758
00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 2: This happened yesterday, Yes, the day. Yeah, but no, she

759
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:21,560
Speaker 2: should not the Yeah, let's let's just get into it.

760
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, right into it. Update. So it's been a few

761
00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:27,360
Speaker 1: days and a lot has happened. I love to hear it.

762
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:29,440
Speaker 1: The day I made that post, I came home from

763
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 1: work to Derek at Molly's so they're not there, and

764
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:34,280
Speaker 1: Harry and Mea were watching a movie in the living room.

765
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 1: I decided to just bring up the situation to them.

766
00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:39,320
Speaker 1: Since Derek and Molly weren't around, I asked for reasoning

767
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:42,360
Speaker 1: on why she should be paying towards our apartment. Harry

768
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 1: was quiet, while Mia went on a rant accusing Molly

769
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,240
Speaker 1: of babying Harry by trying to clean up after him.

770
00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 1: She also thinks Molly's use of the kitchen and her

771
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 1: shared appliances was inappropriate, and that she was using our

772
00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:54,840
Speaker 1: Wi Fi like a free loader.

773
00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:55,240
Speaker 3: What.

774
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:58,280
Speaker 1: I let her rant before I asked what exactly they

775
00:31:58,280 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 1: think Mollie should be paying?

776
00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 3: I think they don't have enough money and they're.

777
00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:05,560
Speaker 1: Just trying to I'm sorry, you think that Molly's use

778
00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 1: of the kitchen and making you dinners is inappropriate? What?

779
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:12,080
Speaker 1: And they're also shared appliances?

780
00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, if it did bother you that much, you can

781
00:32:15,080 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 2: have a conversation.

782
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, you could be like, hey, like I'm gonna use

783
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 1: we don't use you don't only use Derek's appliances.

784
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:22,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is so weird.

785
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 2: Though, this is really weird that I hate that that

786
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 2: doesn't feel like family because I don't feel like family.

787
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 1: No, She's like it's already been established that she's cleaning

788
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:30,320
Speaker 1: up after herself.

789
00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 4: So I don't know.

790
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:32,600
Speaker 2: It's like whatever you cook, it's like family. It's like,

791
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:34,000
Speaker 2: oh great, there's cookies here.

792
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:36,760
Speaker 1: No I yeah, I think the only thing I would

793
00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 1: be annoyed at and the seven four is like a partner,

794
00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 1: like cooking in the kitchen and not cleaning up. And

795
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:42,600
Speaker 1: then I have to clean up after them.

796
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:44,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, like that's yeah, No.

797
00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:46,160
Speaker 1: Make sure that you're like if you're again, if this

798
00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 1: is not your house, make sure that you are leaving

799
00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:50,160
Speaker 1: that kitchen spall us fact or make sure that like

800
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 1: you know, whoever you cooked with is cleaning up after yourself.

801
00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:55,840
Speaker 1: Mia said she should either split rent with all of

802
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:57,880
Speaker 1: us or take on the internet bill. I asked if

803
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 1: she meant we should split the rent five ways going forward,

804
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 1: since that would raise her and Harry's share of it.

805
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:04,840
Speaker 1: She said no, since when we moved in she never

806
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 1: agreed to someone else being over as often as Molly is.

807
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 1: She's not over that often.

808
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:11,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like it sounds like Molly and Harry are

809
00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:13,360
Speaker 2: like lower. It wouldn't affect them, It.

810
00:33:13,360 --> 00:33:17,240
Speaker 1: Wouldn't affect their rent. No, so I have to She meant,

811
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 1: we should let's spend five ways. Since oh so oppea, sing,

812
00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 1: should we split the red five ways? But that would

813
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 1: raise their rents?

814
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:26,720
Speaker 3: I guess Molly and Derek are like.

815
00:33:26,760 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 1: Paying less already, they're.

816
00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:30,120
Speaker 2: Already paying less. But how can we get paid? How

817
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 2: can we pay even more or less?

818
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 4: Yeah?

819
00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:34,040
Speaker 2: Well she can split the internet bill. Yeah, well, she

820
00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 2: can pay for some of the utilities. That's what it sounds.

821
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 1: Like, because they want Derek to pay his full thing

822
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:41,800
Speaker 1: and her also to pay more. Yea, so it wouldn't

823
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:44,120
Speaker 1: just be they would don't even want Derek to pay less,

824
00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:45,520
Speaker 1: they just want someone to pay more.

825
00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 3: No, No, don't split the rent five ways. We's split the utility.

826
00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 1: Molly like, yeah, yeah, no, that's weird. I disagreed and

827
00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 1: laid up my reasoning similar to how I did in

828
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 1: my previous post. I also said that she was really

829
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:00,959
Speaker 1: insistent on Molly paying a share of the rent. Then

830
00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 1: we either start splitting five ways, or she splits Derek's

831
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 1: piece with him the way she does with Harry's. Me

832
00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:08,600
Speaker 1: and her got into an argument about it, and eventually

833
00:34:08,640 --> 00:34:10,839
Speaker 1: she turned to Harry and said, you really have nothing

834
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:12,800
Speaker 1: to stay. He shrugged and said, I don't think we

835
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,799
Speaker 1: should push this. Mia got red in the face and

836
00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:17,839
Speaker 1: told him to go to their room, and they fought

837
00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:19,719
Speaker 1: in there for a while. Uh oh, nikes. So it

838
00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:22,000
Speaker 1: seems like maybe Mia is like the one who's actually

839
00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 1: having an issue with us. I decided to go out

840
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 1: for food as I didn't really feel like being home

841
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:29,000
Speaker 1: listening to them yelling through the walls.

842
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:29,400
Speaker 3: Lol.

843
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:31,720
Speaker 1: I got back. An hour later, and Mia was gone

844
00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:34,319
Speaker 1: and Harry was back in the living room watching TV.

845
00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:36,960
Speaker 1: I asked what happened. He shrugged and said Mia went

846
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:40,120
Speaker 1: to stay at her mom's. Oh. The next night, Derek

847
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:43,120
Speaker 1: was back. No Molly. I pulled them aside while Harry

848
00:34:43,200 --> 00:34:45,400
Speaker 1: was in his room and told them what happened, suggesting

849
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:47,600
Speaker 1: we all sit down and hash this out before Mia

850
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 1: comes back. Harry came out and right away he told

851
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 1: us we don't need to worry. Mia probably wasn't coming

852
00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 1: back to live here. Wow. Wait, what do you think?

853
00:34:56,160 --> 00:34:59,400
Speaker 1: Do you think it's just that like MIA's actually jealous

854
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:02,640
Speaker 1: or sorry? Not like, Oh my god, I ride it.

855
00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 1: Oh shoot, I.

856
00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:10,319
Speaker 3: Didn't see.

857
00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:12,720
Speaker 1: I was gonna ask you what you thought was actually

858
00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:14,759
Speaker 1: going on, but I I just said it.

859
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:18,760
Speaker 2: Okay, because I was getting hints that me and Henry

860
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:19,319
Speaker 2: were like.

861
00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:20,279
Speaker 3: Were like a thing.

862
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:21,879
Speaker 1: Me and Harry are a thing.

863
00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:23,439
Speaker 3: Me and Harry are a thing.

864
00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:26,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, Derek and Molly are together, and MEA and Harry

865
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:27,160
Speaker 1: are partners.

866
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:29,000
Speaker 3: And Mia is jealous of Derek.

867
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:31,480
Speaker 1: No, Mia is jealous of Molly. So Derek and Molly

868
00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:32,440
Speaker 1: are the ones.

869
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:36,240
Speaker 2: Who my gosh, that even crossed my mind. So Mia

870
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:38,480
Speaker 2: is upset that Molly is with Derek.

871
00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:39,440
Speaker 1: I will know.

872
00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:41,400
Speaker 3: We don't know, we don't know, we don't know. Okay,

873
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:41,839
Speaker 3: I just.

874
00:35:41,760 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 1: Saw they were jealous, and then I accidentally said it.

875
00:35:43,719 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 3: Oh whoa, whoa, whoa.

876
00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:47,640
Speaker 1: We don't know what's going on. We're about to find out. Go.

877
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 1: He broke down and told us Mia has been jealous

878
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 1: of Molly. What the heck thinking she's doing all of

879
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:56,239
Speaker 1: these nice things for us to try and get with him.

880
00:35:57,400 --> 00:36:00,640
Speaker 1: Person she's nice, Jesus, it's been an argument they've been

881
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:05,160
Speaker 1: having basically since Molly started coming around. Yo, she's insecure,

882
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,360
Speaker 1: he said. He tried telling me over and over that

883
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 1: Molly is nice to all of us, even her, and

884
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Speaker 1: he doesn't know why she thinks there's some sort of

885
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:14,280
Speaker 1: elaborate plan to get with him. Mia just never relented,

886
00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:15,800
Speaker 1: and when he didn't stuck up for her to me

887
00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:18,759
Speaker 1: in her argument, she decided he didn't value her. She

888
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:21,320
Speaker 1: packed up a bag and left and texted him today

889
00:36:21,360 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 1: saying she'll come get the rest this week. We comforted him,

890
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:26,400
Speaker 1: had a few drinks and honestly ended up having a

891
00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 1: nice night with the three of us. So, yeah, Mia

892
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 1: is gone and not coming back. Harry seems to have

893
00:36:31,239 --> 00:36:33,440
Speaker 1: made peace with that. Derek and Molly are making his

894
00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:36,799
Speaker 1: homemade pizza tonight and I'm really excited about coming home

895
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Speaker 1: to it. Lol.

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Speaker 3: Wow, I'm so sweet most Oh my god.

897
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Speaker 1: Yeah, Mia was the problem. I know she's gone, it's fun.

898
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Speaker 3: Wow, that's crazy. I did not even read that.

899
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Speaker 1: No, maybe that makes the other comment that we were

900
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Speaker 1: going to read make more sense. Yeah, yeah, yikes. This

901
00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:57,040
Speaker 1: is definitely Mia had some actual, like underlying issues when

902
00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:59,759
Speaker 1: she was like, Molly needs a parent. Yeah, I think

903
00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:01,239
Speaker 1: she was just trying to get her out and she

904
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 1: was like, oh if I make her pay rent, she

905
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Speaker 1: won't come around as well.

906
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Speaker 3: How can we get her to get out of here?

907
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:07,840
Speaker 1: Which is so weird.

908
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Speaker 3: That is so weird. Yeah. I did not like that

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Speaker 3: at all.

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Speaker 1: No me, No, those are all our stories.

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921
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922
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Speaker 5: My wife gave birth to a bi racial baby, which

926
00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:52,600
Speaker 5: clearly isn't mine and I want a divorce, but what

927
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 5: she did next made it near impossible.

928
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Speaker 4: Let's see what is going to happen here?

929
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:01,280
Speaker 5: A month ago, my wife gave birth to a black

930
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:04,360
Speaker 5: baby girl. We are both white.

931
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:07,480
Speaker 3: That's I mean coming out of the gate.

932
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:10,000
Speaker 6: That's that's that's a big accusation, Like, how are you

933
00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 6: sure is my initial?

934
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Speaker 4: Well, you know, I'm no, Uh, I'm no geneticist. Yeah,

935
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Speaker 4: no domas, I'm no, no domas.

936
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 5: I'm I'm not even a domas.

937
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Speaker 4: I don't.

938
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Speaker 5: I don't know shit, but uh, it seems like there

939
00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:33,360
Speaker 5: might be some somethings. So she was forced to admit

940
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:35,440
Speaker 5: that the child was a result of a one night

941
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:41,600
Speaker 5: stand last year. Oh yo, so she just came out

942
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:43,520
Speaker 5: the gate like, yes happened.

943
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 4: Yeah.

944
00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:50,960
Speaker 5: Also, man's shooting bullets from one night stand, one night

945
00:38:51,040 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 5: stand instapregnant man shooting bullets.

946
00:38:53,719 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 6: His his swimmers, His swimmers would beat Michael Phelps.

947
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Speaker 5: I know man, so I started the divorce proceed although

948
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 5: we're still living together for now. Between our two boys

949
00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:06,760
Speaker 5: age two and four, I've had paternity tests for them

950
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:09,320
Speaker 5: and they came back positive. So okay, so those kids

951
00:39:09,360 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 5: are his, Okay. Between our two boys age two and four,

952
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 5: I've had paternity tests done for them and they came

953
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:17,480
Speaker 5: back positive. Her infant daughter and her having lost her

954
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:21,360
Speaker 5: job to COVID living together as amicably as possible until

955
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:24,640
Speaker 5: the divorce is settled is an unfortunate necessity.

956
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Speaker 6: Right, So he can't just like kick. She technically could,

957
00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 6: but she'd be like her and the baby.

958
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:31,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's bad. That's bad. Okay.

959
00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:34,279
Speaker 5: Naturally, I have no ill will towards the baby, and

960
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Speaker 5: I've been disgusted by some of the comments I've heard

961
00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:40,120
Speaker 5: from family members, friends and coworkers and others, all who

962
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:43,440
Speaker 5: seem to be fixated on the racial angle of this awful,

963
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:45,840
Speaker 5: as if the most salient part of this isn't that

964
00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:47,839
Speaker 5: my wife cheated, but somehow it's with a black guy

965
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Speaker 5: and that the baby is black. But honestly, like this is,

966
00:39:51,680 --> 00:39:52,080
Speaker 5: that's not that.

967
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Speaker 4: What matters.

968
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:56,160
Speaker 5: What matters is the infidelity. And also I love how

969
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Speaker 5: like the husband is still trying to like do right

970
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 5: by life and by the kid. But like, hot, damn,

971
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:05,360
Speaker 5: he should have you know, seen this coming. Yes, you

972
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:07,440
Speaker 5: should have researched her beforehand or something.

973
00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:09,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, exactly. You can use public data check just to

974
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Speaker 6: be sure, you know what I mean.

975
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Speaker 5: Yeah, you can look up people as like real names,

976
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Speaker 5: their addresses, criminal records, any skeletons that might be in

977
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Speaker 5: the closet.

978
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Speaker 4: Exactly.

979
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Speaker 6: So if you have someone that you're not too sure about,

980
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Speaker 6: use public data check dot com or check our biolink.

981
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Speaker 4: Oh well, back to the stories.

982
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Speaker 5: So what really worries me, this is from a pie's

983
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 5: perspective and my two sons, is that they might pick

984
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Speaker 5: up on these narratives, like these things that are going on. Right,

985
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:35,120
Speaker 5: they're too young to really understand what's happening now, But

986
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Speaker 5: I'm worried that as they grow to understand the situation,

987
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 5: that they might grow to resent their half sister for

988
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 5: breaking up their parents' marriage.

989
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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, wow, I didn't even that didn't cross my mind.

990
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Speaker 5: Oh, he's thinking ahead, he's thinking, he's thinking so, I mean,

991
00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:54,239
Speaker 5: for everything that's going on, he's thinking very clearly and

992
00:40:54,320 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 5: very empathetically.

993
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Speaker 4: Which is really cool.

994
00:40:55,840 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 5: Yes, and worse, the resentment might express itself in a

995
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:02,400
Speaker 5: racist fashion. Yeah, yeah, under the influence of the aforementioned

996
00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 5: racist narratives, right, like if all the coworkers and families

997
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:06,799
Speaker 5: are saying racist, then it's like.

998
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:08,799
Speaker 4: The kids can pick up on it. One hundred percent.

999
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:12,279
Speaker 5: Yeah, damn, he's like playing forty chess over, yes, as

1000
00:41:12,280 --> 00:41:14,279
Speaker 5: he should be. Any thoughts on how I should try

1001
00:41:14,320 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 5: to influence my sons away from that perspective, It probably

1002
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 5: doesn't help that we live in a suburb with very

1003
00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:20,960
Speaker 5: few black people and their half sister is really the

1004
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 5: only black person my children. Now, Oh boy, yikes, Oh man,

1005
00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:29,920
Speaker 5: I don't know what well, just really quickly, Yeah, there

1006
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Speaker 5: is an updates before we get into it.

1007
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:33,920
Speaker 4: Okay, I hear what you think. One hundred percent.

1008
00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:37,359
Speaker 6: He should sit both of them down and like explain it,

1009
00:41:37,400 --> 00:41:40,359
Speaker 6: probably multiple times when as they grow up, you think,

1010
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:45,400
Speaker 6: like now, probably uh if they don't. So if he

1011
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:49,239
Speaker 6: starts seeing anything, he should do it immediately. Yeah, there's

1012
00:41:49,280 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 6: no reason why not to do it immediately. But you

1013
00:41:51,080 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 6: gotta do ito multiple times because they won't unders remember now.

1014
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:58,360
Speaker 6: But the subconscious biases can like sink in early and

1015
00:41:58,520 --> 00:41:59,879
Speaker 6: be carried out, So.

1016
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:01,879
Speaker 5: You have like like do you check in two and four,

1017
00:42:02,239 --> 00:42:04,759
Speaker 5: like the like the two year old version of like, hey,

1018
00:42:05,120 --> 00:42:08,800
Speaker 5: you know, mommy and daddy are are going to live separately.

1019
00:42:10,239 --> 00:42:11,320
Speaker 4: This is your half sister.

1020
00:42:13,239 --> 00:42:14,759
Speaker 5: You know she might not look like you, but she

1021
00:42:14,920 --> 00:42:18,680
Speaker 5: is your sister, and uh and like you should.

1022
00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:20,400
Speaker 6: Yeah, there's no reason. There's no reason that you should

1023
00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:22,240
Speaker 6: have loved her the same way to her, feel angry

1024
00:42:22,320 --> 00:42:25,839
Speaker 6: at her, or feel anything like you know that wasn't

1025
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:29,880
Speaker 6: And I think just having that conversation like multiple.

1026
00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:30,719
Speaker 4: Times that's super smart.

1027
00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:33,080
Speaker 5: I've actually never thought about like I've always thought of

1028
00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:34,439
Speaker 5: that like oh, like when you had the sex talk

1029
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:36,319
Speaker 5: with your kids, yeah, or like stuff like that.

1030
00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:38,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, but like you can you can just have that

1031
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:40,400
Speaker 4: conversation multiple times at different levels.

1032
00:42:40,480 --> 00:42:44,200
Speaker 6: Yeah, Because I'm sure different scenarios require this thing. But

1033
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:46,319
Speaker 6: this I think he has gonna be careful of any

1034
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:49,799
Speaker 6: subconscious bias sinking and do it now early and then

1035
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:52,919
Speaker 6: just keep just do it and they'll obviously understand way

1036
00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:56,480
Speaker 6: more once they're probably like eight, nine, ten, eleven, they'll

1037
00:42:56,640 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 6: start it'll actually click what exactly what he's what he's said.

1038
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:01,160
Speaker 4: So there is an update.

1039
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 5: The big takeaway for me was that I'd need to

1040
00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 5: lead by example here, not excluding her in any way

1041
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:09,520
Speaker 5: because of her paternity, so that she and my sons

1042
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 5: would see her as a full member of the family.

1043
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 6: That's great, honestly, I've this approach is great. He's listening,

1044
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:16,120
Speaker 6: he's asking.

1045
00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:17,400
Speaker 4: Very smart.

1046
00:43:17,520 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 5: Also, I need to be more active in confronting the

1047
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 5: bigoted and ignorant nonsense I've been hearing and teach my

1048
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 5: son to do the same and to protect their sister.

1049
00:43:25,760 --> 00:43:26,840
Speaker 4: Yes, definitely.

1050
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:29,959
Speaker 5: I spoken to some of those responsible since and made

1051
00:43:30,000 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 5: clear of my feelings on this and that she is

1052
00:43:32,200 --> 00:43:34,319
Speaker 5: to be treated as a member of the family. And

1053
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:36,960
Speaker 5: if I find out that they've ever said things like

1054
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:39,359
Speaker 5: that to my sons or their sister, that they won't

1055
00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:40,640
Speaker 5: be allowed around us anymore.

1056
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:40,919
Speaker 4: Good.

1057
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:42,040
Speaker 3: So what you gotta do.

1058
00:43:42,280 --> 00:43:44,520
Speaker 5: I've spoken to my wife about this. I love he's

1059
00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:48,640
Speaker 5: still calling her his wife. Men's I kind of hear

1060
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:51,440
Speaker 5: people do that sometimes. Yeah, it's rough. I mean, when

1061
00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:53,280
Speaker 5: you think of someone for so long as your wife

1062
00:43:53,280 --> 00:43:55,480
Speaker 5: like it, I get it, shed and we're more and

1063
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:58,360
Speaker 5: less on the same page. She's been begging me to

1064
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 5: forgive her and not go through the divorce, but that's

1065
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:03,640
Speaker 5: not going to happen, even if I didn't consider the

1066
00:44:03,680 --> 00:44:06,799
Speaker 5: cheating unforgivable, I just don't feel any love for her

1067
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:09,480
Speaker 5: anymore other than the platonic affection for her as the

1068
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 5: mother of my children. My sons are handling this as

1069
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:14,600
Speaker 5: well as can be expected. My four year old doesn't

1070
00:44:14,640 --> 00:44:18,000
Speaker 5: fully understand, but is upset by the change in the household. Thankfully,

1071
00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:21,680
Speaker 5: he's easily distracted and baby, yeah give him like some

1072
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Speaker 5: A three DS.

1073
00:44:24,200 --> 00:44:26,480
Speaker 4: That's dating member three D.

1074
00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:31,759
Speaker 6: I guess that is dated. Huh oh psp, Yeah, that's

1075
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:34,200
Speaker 6: old that's old ship. I remember the thing with A

1076
00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:38,279
Speaker 6: or d S. D S was the first one DS,

1077
00:44:39,680 --> 00:44:41,680
Speaker 6: and I remember it was like you could send like

1078
00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 6: written messages or something with like people in your area.

1079
00:44:44,719 --> 00:44:49,800
Speaker 6: And that's how a certain things started. What between kids,

1080
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:51,960
Speaker 6: you know, you give you give a you know a

1081
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:55,839
Speaker 6: twelve year old coming into puberty no way, or just

1082
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:57,280
Speaker 6: like messaging each other.

1083
00:44:57,080 --> 00:44:59,080
Speaker 4: You know what I mean, like flirting and like your.

1084
00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:03,320
Speaker 6: Idea had any that was like I didn't have a DS,

1085
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:07,280
Speaker 6: but I I WITNERD. I witnessed whoa I like drawn

1086
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:09,960
Speaker 6: like dirty pictures. It's just like yeah, getting getting freaky

1087
00:45:10,000 --> 00:45:11,800
Speaker 6: with it. Whoa og sexting?

1088
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:13,920
Speaker 4: No way, that's crazy.

1089
00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 5: My two year old is thankfully too young to comprehend

1090
00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:18,239
Speaker 5: what's going on, but has definitely picked up on how

1091
00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:21,480
Speaker 5: withdrawn his mother has become. They're both fascinated with their

1092
00:45:21,480 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 5: new little sister. So there's that silver lining.

1093
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 4: That's good.

1094
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:28,440
Speaker 5: My wife isn't in good shape at all. She's depressed

1095
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 5: even before birth, and now with everything our divorce or

1096
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Speaker 5: infidelity being revealed in the backlash from family and friends,

1097
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:38,040
Speaker 5: postpartum depression and the exhaustion from raising an infant, she's

1098
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:41,160
Speaker 5: barely functional. Oh man, She's seeing a therapist, and I've

1099
00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:43,320
Speaker 5: been pressuring some of our family and friends to be

1100
00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:46,080
Speaker 5: supportive of her, because even if they think she deserves

1101
00:45:46,120 --> 00:45:48,240
Speaker 5: it in her current state, it's still making it harder

1102
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 5: for me and our children.

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00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:49,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, it makes sense.

1104
00:45:49,840 --> 00:45:53,759
Speaker 6: It's like why he get her to understand the error

1105
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:56,000
Speaker 6: for ways and growth from it. Like, no, yeah, I

1106
00:45:56,000 --> 00:45:58,319
Speaker 6: don't think continually punishing how much she still has to

1107
00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 6: be of the mother to that other exactly two kids.

1108
00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:03,080
Speaker 6: So you don't want her to like completely just go

1109
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 6: off the rails, right, She needs some support. Also, I'm

1110
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:10,080
Speaker 6: just realizing right now, like he didn't find out until

1111
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:13,920
Speaker 6: the baby was born. Like, imagine being in the waiting

1112
00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:17,040
Speaker 6: room or in the in the birthing room, I don't

1113
00:46:17,040 --> 00:46:19,319
Speaker 6: know what they call it, and like you're just like,

1114
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:21,319
Speaker 6: that's not my baby.

1115
00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 5: Dude, that would be fucked that. Really, I didn't even

1116
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:27,560
Speaker 5: think about it because you have.

1117
00:46:27,680 --> 00:46:31,839
Speaker 6: Because there's the delivery room. But for nine months, yeah,

1118
00:46:31,920 --> 00:46:34,359
Speaker 6: up to it. That's my kid, this is your child.

1119
00:46:34,400 --> 00:46:36,719
Speaker 6: You're getting read like you're just mentally and then that

1120
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:41,120
Speaker 6: like that switch up is just insane.

1121
00:46:41,120 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 4: Can you imagine? And so that would be so fucked Wow.

1122
00:46:45,840 --> 00:46:48,000
Speaker 5: It's become very obvious to me that even after the

1123
00:46:48,080 --> 00:46:50,240
Speaker 5: divorce is finalized, we're going to have to live together

1124
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:52,720
Speaker 5: for a while. She's in no shape to be taking

1125
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:55,480
Speaker 5: care of three kids without someone else around to support her,

1126
00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:57,720
Speaker 5: and I'm not willing to deprive her of her sons

1127
00:46:57,719 --> 00:47:00,640
Speaker 5: by seeking soul custody. It's also too difficult financially. She's

1128
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:02,399
Speaker 5: lost her job because of COVID. Like what you gonta

1129
00:47:02,440 --> 00:47:05,720
Speaker 5: do again? Salute to you, Opie. This is good stuff.

1130
00:47:06,000 --> 00:47:08,440
Speaker 5: As for the baby girl, she's healthy and fairly easy

1131
00:47:08,480 --> 00:47:11,319
Speaker 5: by baby standards. Since I've been helping take care for her,

1132
00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 5: I've bonded with her and I've discussed the possibility of

1133
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:16,720
Speaker 5: adopting her with my wife. She can't contact the father

1134
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:19,000
Speaker 5: as the only thing she knows about him is his

1135
00:47:19,040 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 5: first name, Damn bro.

1136
00:47:22,239 --> 00:47:25,040
Speaker 3: Come on, Opie's wife, come on?

1137
00:47:26,320 --> 00:47:31,480
Speaker 6: Oh god, Oh wat's that name be a fake name?

1138
00:47:32,040 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1139
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:33,120
Speaker 4: Damn Bro.

1140
00:47:33,960 --> 00:47:36,840
Speaker 5: And given our co parenting situation, it feels like adopting

1141
00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:39,200
Speaker 5: her as my daughter would be the best outcome for

1142
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:42,880
Speaker 5: all involved. However, there's been a wrench thrown in that plan.

1143
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:45,480
Speaker 5: It was brought to my attention that there may be

1144
00:47:45,560 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 5: a way of finding the baby's father, namely by having

1145
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:52,480
Speaker 5: her DNA tested by ancestry DNA. If the father or

1146
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:54,600
Speaker 5: one of the relatives has also taken the test, we

1147
00:47:54,680 --> 00:47:57,840
Speaker 5: may be able to find him through the DNA match database.

1148
00:47:58,000 --> 00:47:58,800
Speaker 4: Aha.

1149
00:47:58,840 --> 00:48:01,040
Speaker 5: If I'm being completely honest, I'm not happy about this.

1150
00:48:01,080 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 5: I've already started to think of this baby girl as

1151
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:07,240
Speaker 5: my daughter, and having him in our lives would massively.

1152
00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:08,200
Speaker 4: Complicate the family dynamic.

1153
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 5: Plus, we live in Seattle and she met him in Philadelphia,

1154
00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:13,920
Speaker 5: so god knows how they'd even make that work if

1155
00:48:13,960 --> 00:48:16,160
Speaker 5: they wanted to. However, I recognize that this is a

1156
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 5: selfish reaction. Man is being the most unselfish man in

1157
00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:22,120
Speaker 5: the universe right here. If we have the chance of

1158
00:48:22,160 --> 00:48:24,480
Speaker 5: finding her biological father, we owe it to her to

1159
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:27,040
Speaker 5: do so, if only so that she has the access

1160
00:48:27,080 --> 00:48:29,279
Speaker 5: to her paternal medical history and so she can have

1161
00:48:29,360 --> 00:48:31,759
Speaker 5: a relationship with him if and when she chooses to

1162
00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:34,680
Speaker 5: do so. I've read a few accounts by children raised

1163
00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:37,520
Speaker 5: by non biological parents, and a common thread is their

1164
00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 5: desire to meet their lost biological parent.

1165
00:48:39,840 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 4: So that's that.

1166
00:48:40,920 --> 00:48:43,960
Speaker 5: We've ordered an ancestry DNA kit for her, and I

1167
00:48:44,000 --> 00:48:46,560
Speaker 5: guess we'll decide on our next steps once we get

1168
00:48:46,560 --> 00:48:48,360
Speaker 5: the results back in a couple of months.

1169
00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 6: That's so challenging because it's like that person isn't expecting it.

1170
00:48:55,000 --> 00:48:57,840
Speaker 6: You have no idea if he wants any interaction with

1171
00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 6: the kid or not. And just by introducing it the

1172
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:04,480
Speaker 6: family dynamic, like you said, could yeah, you know, so

1173
00:49:04,840 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 6: you start fighting for or if he do he does

1174
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 6: once it, then he could start fighting for custody and

1175
00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:12,839
Speaker 6: then that, you know, wow, that's this.

1176
00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:15,120
Speaker 4: Kid's is why you don't cheat in the marriage. What

1177
00:49:15,160 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 4: would you do? Would I do?

1178
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:20,000
Speaker 5: I mean, I I think I think, I think we

1179
00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:22,239
Speaker 5: know what the right thing to do is. Yeah, Well,

1180
00:49:22,320 --> 00:49:23,759
Speaker 5: is it you know, is it the right thing? Well,

1181
00:49:23,760 --> 00:49:25,640
Speaker 5: so here's it's like, well, will it will it hurt

1182
00:49:25,719 --> 00:49:30,520
Speaker 5: the will it hurt how this baby girl is going

1183
00:49:30,560 --> 00:49:33,040
Speaker 5: to be raised? I think I think it's fair to

1184
00:49:33,239 --> 00:49:37,319
Speaker 5: first do the DNA test. But yeah, I guess it

1185
00:49:37,400 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 5: is the right thing by the person, by the the

1186
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:45,520
Speaker 5: person OPI's wife cheated with, because at the end of

1187
00:49:45,560 --> 00:49:48,319
Speaker 5: the day, that is their kid and they should know

1188
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:48,839
Speaker 5: about it.

1189
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:49,680
Speaker 4: But yeah, it does.

1190
00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:51,960
Speaker 3: It does.

1191
00:49:52,000 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 6: Putay, there's the risk of making things just way lesser

1192
00:49:55,120 --> 00:49:57,359
Speaker 6: than they are. I guess, I guess it is.

1193
00:49:57,840 --> 00:49:59,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like I think it.

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00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 5: This situation is who do you want to do right by?

1195
00:50:02,040 --> 00:50:03,560
Speaker 5: Do you want to do right by the baby girl

1196
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:06,000
Speaker 5: or this or the guy? And I feel like it

1197
00:50:06,120 --> 00:50:07,959
Speaker 5: might be more important to do right by the baby girl.

1198
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:12,680
Speaker 4: It should be. It's freaking complicentd Yeah, what would you do? Yeah?

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Speaker 6: Comment below what you do and why, because I'm We're stumped.

1200
00:50:16,320 --> 00:50:18,879
Speaker 6: We're stumped. If you thought this story was crazy, check

1201
00:50:18,920 --> 00:50:21,560
Speaker 6: out this one where the stepmom tries to steal the baby.

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Speaker 4: What's right here? Or check the link in the description