1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:12,239 Speaker 1: M from grandmothers who whispered in their baby girl in 2 00:00:13,440 --> 00:00:16,920 Speaker 1: two fathers on dimly lit street corners, instructing young soldiers 3 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,959 Speaker 1: to always keep their eyes open. You be queen, you 4 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:24,279 Speaker 1: will fired, you will pass through centuries on the hands 5 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: of your daughters. They called you wisdom. Proverbs on the 6 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: backs of diamond eyed school children who groomed into hymnals 7 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 1: recited by amethyst holding urban philosophers who recited neighborhood commandments 8 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: out of the windows of restored alchemyo chariots to keep 9 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: the warmth of their blood, be wise, be smart, being black, 10 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 1: opal brown parts, bloodstone, and prayer. Be every form of 11 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 1: Jim see king told, scribe, scribe, told son, son, told wife, 12 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:00,080 Speaker 1: wife told her daughter, and daughter told the ant. This 13 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:03,320 Speaker 1: is And the ancestors told me that you would come 14 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:08,639 Speaker 1: to give you wisdom. They said you would come dropping 15 00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 1: Dropping the Jim, Hey Stewie Brown, and you are listening 16 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:16,680 Speaker 1: to the Dropping Jim's podcast. Today's episode features one of 17 00:01:16,720 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 1: the most brilliant and elevated financial planners in all of 18 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: the world, definitely one of the leading wealth managers. Business managers. 19 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: Happens to be my business manager, so he knows where 20 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:32,959 Speaker 1: all the bodies are buried, and I actually haven't listed 21 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:36,959 Speaker 1: as my emergency contact on most days. My dear friend, 22 00:01:37,160 --> 00:01:40,480 Speaker 1: Humble Loukanga, welcome, thank you, thank you, thank you, thanks 23 00:01:40,480 --> 00:01:42,600 Speaker 1: for having me. So I want to give a brief 24 00:01:42,680 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 1: rundown on Humble. He is many many things, um, but 25 00:01:46,200 --> 00:01:51,360 Speaker 1: specifically he's a wealth manager for professional athletes, entertainers, executives 26 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 1: and thought leaders. You have your NBA, your CFP, and 27 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:59,360 Speaker 1: you're the founder of Lifeline Financial Group. You're also on 28 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 1: the board of trust Sees at the University of New 29 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: Mexico and you currently have offices in Denver in l A. 30 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:09,400 Speaker 1: Some of the biggest clients out there. Yeah, I know, um, 31 00:02:09,440 --> 00:02:12,120 Speaker 1: you know, I won't get into your very private but 32 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 1: I'll talk about the clients that are in print because 33 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:17,799 Speaker 1: the Hollywood Reporter recently did a big profile on you 34 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:20,799 Speaker 1: in your life story in your career and quote in 35 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: the article were some of your clients like ray DeAndre 36 00:02:25,080 --> 00:02:30,360 Speaker 1: Hopkins as a client, um, Nicole Kine and myself right 37 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:33,639 Speaker 1: right right, right right, lucky me. Yeah. I always kid 38 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 1: that I got all the queens in Hollywood. Man, Listen, 39 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:40,120 Speaker 1: I got all the queens. Has amazing, you know, Humble 40 00:02:40,320 --> 00:02:42,080 Speaker 1: so I want to give everybody a little backstory and 41 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:44,840 Speaker 1: how we know each other and how we started working together. 42 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:48,280 Speaker 1: We initially met in Hawaii. That's the first time we met. 43 00:02:48,919 --> 00:02:51,920 Speaker 1: We were at the Pro Bowl. We met. My husband 44 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:54,400 Speaker 1: had got voted into the Pro Bowl, so we were 45 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:57,680 Speaker 1: out there. You were there with another client who had 46 00:02:57,720 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: introduced us to you Times Flying, and I just remember, 47 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 1: you know, I remember thinking, what a fascinating guy. You know, 48 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 1: And this is many moons ago, but I remember we 49 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:12,360 Speaker 1: we ended up all of us at a big dinner together, 50 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:16,120 Speaker 1: and you and I just kind of went off, remember, 51 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:18,480 Speaker 1: like we had no idea what everyone else at the 52 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 1: table was talking about. And we initially bonded because we 53 00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 1: had both just read um outlier spend Malcolm Gladwell Yeah, 54 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: and we're like, oh my god, and we just you know, 55 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:32,440 Speaker 1: and ever since then, you know, we have been thick 56 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: as thieves. When I say that you are my emergency contact, 57 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:39,400 Speaker 1: I mean that very literally. You know, um, anytime you know, 58 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:42,120 Speaker 1: you sign up for anything, it's like, okay, spouse, family member, 59 00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:46,600 Speaker 1: emergency contact. Humble is my emergency contact on everything, specifically 60 00:03:46,600 --> 00:03:49,840 Speaker 1: because I'm like, listen, if something goes down, this is 61 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:52,360 Speaker 1: the person that I know will give me how to dodge. 62 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: Absolutely absolutely, you have. Um you have a really really 63 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 1: really rich and huge kind of life story. And they 64 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 1: did a great job of talking about it in the 65 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: Hollywood Reporter piece. So if you guys get a chance, 66 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 1: just as a compliment to this episode, definitely look up 67 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 1: Humble on Google and check out that article. He also 68 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: did with another one of his clients, a really intensive, 69 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:19,760 Speaker 1: great two hour discussion podcasts. It's called now What podcasts. 70 00:04:19,839 --> 00:04:22,919 Speaker 1: You know, you you spoke extensively about some of your upbringing. 71 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:24,640 Speaker 1: But if you give people like, you know, just a 72 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:26,919 Speaker 1: little bit of background about you, man, you're taking me 73 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:29,799 Speaker 1: down memory lane with the with the pro bowl. You know. Um, 74 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:33,000 Speaker 1: it's crazy now that we've been together, you know, seven 75 00:04:33,040 --> 00:04:36,200 Speaker 1: eight not years, I mean, uh in retrospect, I mean 76 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:39,880 Speaker 1: you were believing in twenty four year old financial managers. 77 00:04:39,920 --> 00:04:47,279 Speaker 1: So that's kind of crazy spirit of a six year old. Yeah, 78 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 1: your knowledge, Yeah, you gotta do. You gotta treat those 79 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:53,960 Speaker 1: Ugandan years like dollar years. But yes, so a background, 80 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:57,280 Speaker 1: you know, Um, I grew up in in Uganda, small 81 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:59,920 Speaker 1: country in East Africa. I grew up in a villa 82 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 1: called my Socca. I came from very very humble beginnings 83 00:05:03,080 --> 00:05:05,320 Speaker 1: and you know, no pun intended, but in the sense 84 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:07,920 Speaker 1: of my parents grew up in the heights of like 85 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:12,000 Speaker 1: Saydia means regime, right so and Idia mean man. If 86 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: you do some research on him, I think Time magazine 87 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:15,839 Speaker 1: had him was a top five dictator of all time. 88 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 1: He was pummaging through the villages, you know, raping, killing, 89 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:23,320 Speaker 1: massacres um and those times were really hard on the country. 90 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 1: He was kicking people out. It was a very very 91 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:28,160 Speaker 1: crazy time in Uganda. And our parents, my father, you know, 92 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:30,200 Speaker 1: if you think about his story, right, my father had 93 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 1: ten siblings and only ones alive right now, you know 94 00:05:32,880 --> 00:05:35,039 Speaker 1: what I mean. My mother side of the family, same 95 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:37,960 Speaker 1: story us as children, even my own family. You know, 96 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:39,720 Speaker 1: I lost my sisters, you know, when they were young, 97 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:43,120 Speaker 1: both of them. I've lost my brother. So I'm a 98 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 1: thirty two thirty just turned thirty three. I'm the oldest 99 00:05:46,200 --> 00:05:48,680 Speaker 1: male in my family. I was. I've been lucky to escape, 100 00:05:48,760 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 1: you know, but I grew up and uh, I grew 101 00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:52,640 Speaker 1: up in this village man fetching water. I didn't get 102 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:54,599 Speaker 1: my first pair of shoes, man, that I that I owned. 103 00:05:54,600 --> 00:05:57,880 Speaker 1: There were mind so I was like eleven. Uh, you know, 104 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:00,880 Speaker 1: no electricity, you know, no indoor plumbing, just you know, 105 00:06:00,920 --> 00:06:03,039 Speaker 1: just just living in a thoroughwall country. And I was 106 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 1: so lucky to get a political asylum that allowed me, 107 00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:09,160 Speaker 1: that allowed um, my mother and my father to uh 108 00:06:09,279 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 1: to bring us to America. So we landed in Denver, Colorado, 109 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:14,000 Speaker 1: where you know, you can start to breathe a little bit. 110 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 1: And you know, it's crazy because when I when you arrive, 111 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:18,240 Speaker 1: on one hand, you feel so lucky that you have 112 00:06:18,400 --> 00:06:20,000 Speaker 1: you have a new chance of life. But other hand, 113 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:21,440 Speaker 1: you have that survivor's guilt because a lot of the 114 00:06:21,480 --> 00:06:23,880 Speaker 1: people you're never going to see again, most likely, right, 115 00:06:23,920 --> 00:06:26,039 Speaker 1: So um so then you have this just this guilt 116 00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:28,719 Speaker 1: that like yeah, yeah, and you just feel like I 117 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:30,600 Speaker 1: have to be worthy of this blessing, Like whatever I 118 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:32,440 Speaker 1: do with my life has to be worthy that I 119 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:33,839 Speaker 1: was spared, you know what I mean, why am I? 120 00:06:33,880 --> 00:06:35,120 Speaker 1: And you know why am I lucky than any of 121 00:06:35,200 --> 00:06:37,800 Speaker 1: my you know, siblings or anybody else? Right? So I 122 00:06:37,839 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 1: got here, man, it was really humble, and I really 123 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:42,680 Speaker 1: couldn't speak English of course, or you know, barely, you know, uh, 124 00:06:42,720 --> 00:06:44,839 Speaker 1: And so you know you have to go backwards you know, 125 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 1: you like, in first second grade learning how to put 126 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:48,719 Speaker 1: a bcs together, you know, learn how to put it 127 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:51,159 Speaker 1: down together, what a bourbon is, how to construct a sentence. 128 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:53,400 Speaker 1: And I'm sitting on chairs and don't even fit me, 129 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:55,800 Speaker 1: but I'm trying to find my way, you know. But um, 130 00:06:56,200 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 1: I was really lucky in the fact that I could 131 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:01,800 Speaker 1: learn past and uh progress very quickly, ended up being 132 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:05,159 Speaker 1: a really really top student, and then tragedy just kept coming. 133 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:07,760 Speaker 1: So by seventh grade, I'm I'm caught up to my 134 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:11,400 Speaker 1: peers and maybe accelerating. Everything's going great. I'm adjusted to America, 135 00:07:11,480 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: so let's call it, you know. Three years in, but 136 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:16,000 Speaker 1: then heading into high school, my mother has this this 137 00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 1: crazy stroke that left the pair last from neck down. 138 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 1: Right in that moment, you don't have a mother anymore 139 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:23,360 Speaker 1: in a sense, because she can't walk, she can't talk, 140 00:07:23,840 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 1: and they gave her six months to live because he 141 00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:26,800 Speaker 1: thought that, you know how, she would go in and 142 00:07:26,800 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 1: out of comas, you know, because of a stroke. And 143 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 1: my father, who has probably had the biggest impact of 144 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 1: my life, who has showed me in the physical sense, 145 00:07:33,880 --> 00:07:36,360 Speaker 1: what love looks like and what devotion looks like, you know, 146 00:07:36,400 --> 00:07:37,800 Speaker 1: they wanted to put my mom in like one of 147 00:07:37,800 --> 00:07:40,240 Speaker 1: those hospice hospitals where you know, she can have like 148 00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:42,240 Speaker 1: a sienna or somebody come like take it to, you know, 149 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:45,000 Speaker 1: just to our dying days. And my father was like, 150 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:47,560 Speaker 1: that's not happening, you know, he said, listening, Now we 151 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: have to take it to a specialist. That's one thing. 152 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 1: Maybe you can get an ambulance. But to take her 153 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 1: to the bathroom to brush your teeth, to brush your hair, um, 154 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 1: to bathe her, I'm gonna do that, right. My my 155 00:07:57,840 --> 00:08:01,400 Speaker 1: mother cleaned people's homes during the day. My father cleaned 156 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:05,360 Speaker 1: restaurants and in office buildings at night. But in Uganda, 157 00:08:05,400 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 1: they were professors, right, yeah, yeah, you know. And my 158 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:11,840 Speaker 1: father has a very crazy story in the sense that 159 00:08:12,400 --> 00:08:15,080 Speaker 1: of how of how much heartbreak has been through. Right, 160 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 1: So if we pause my story and just get I 161 00:08:17,480 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 1: give you a quick like movie trailer in my father's life. 162 00:08:20,040 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 1: So imagine growing up nine in Massacca, in this uh 163 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:27,440 Speaker 1: in this village. But you are a savant in like 164 00:08:27,720 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 1: in finance and economics, so much so that all of 165 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 1: these top schools are just grabbing you to go to school. 166 00:08:33,440 --> 00:08:36,960 Speaker 1: You know, um and then so and so then you 167 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:39,120 Speaker 1: get this opportunity to go to the University of a 168 00:08:39,240 --> 00:08:42,840 Speaker 1: Robe in Kenya to to to learn statistics and economics. 169 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:45,240 Speaker 1: You do so well that you get a scholarship to 170 00:08:45,280 --> 00:08:47,640 Speaker 1: come to southern California, you know what I mean to 171 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:51,160 Speaker 1: and you get your MBA and public administration and economics. 172 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 1: You go back to your country and you start to 173 00:08:54,280 --> 00:08:56,840 Speaker 1: all your dreams are starting to come true. Right, Um, 174 00:08:56,880 --> 00:08:59,920 Speaker 1: you're very prominent, uh in in the government. My father 175 00:09:00,280 --> 00:09:03,200 Speaker 1: rose up at the time. Um, the coffee administration was 176 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:05,960 Speaker 1: the biggest cash cow for as far as export for 177 00:09:05,960 --> 00:09:07,880 Speaker 1: for for our country. And my father was the head 178 00:09:07,920 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 1: of that entire operation. Right, so he's um, he's accomplished. 179 00:09:12,160 --> 00:09:13,959 Speaker 1: You know, he's probably the third or fourth powerful man 180 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 1: in the country. Um. You know, he was one of 181 00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:18,880 Speaker 1: the few guys then who had who had a car 182 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:20,760 Speaker 1: and who had a show for an a driver. I 183 00:09:20,760 --> 00:09:25,760 Speaker 1: mean he had really went from um this village into prominency. 184 00:09:25,960 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 1: Right then the change in power came, right the violence, 185 00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, those those years of you know, 186 00:09:34,440 --> 00:09:37,440 Speaker 1: in our country, like there's no voting system, like the 187 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:40,800 Speaker 1: powers made a power being taken. So when somebody wants 188 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:42,960 Speaker 1: to come be president and they but they have they 189 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 1: have an army coup. They come in for everybody, right, so, um, 190 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:50,880 Speaker 1: you know they took everybody else out. That's how they 191 00:09:50,880 --> 00:09:53,080 Speaker 1: that's how they deal, that's how they deal with high officials. 192 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:56,240 Speaker 1: And my father suffered such a such a such loss, 193 00:09:56,240 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: you know, because my mother was was a second wife. 194 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:01,079 Speaker 1: But my father had be or mom before he met 195 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:02,880 Speaker 1: my mother. He had uh I don't talk about this 196 00:10:02,920 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 1: a lot, but I'm I'm hoping he can help somebody. 197 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:08,160 Speaker 1: But he had um, you know, wife, two daughters, and 198 00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:10,000 Speaker 1: they planned to kill him. Right, They're planning to stop 199 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:11,880 Speaker 1: his car. But when he stopped his car, he wasn't 200 00:10:11,880 --> 00:10:13,839 Speaker 1: in there for whatever reason. I think they got to 201 00:10:13,880 --> 00:10:16,800 Speaker 1: schedule wrong. But they executed everybody in that in that car. 202 00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:20,600 Speaker 1: His wife, his daughter's, his driver executed him. Can you 203 00:10:20,640 --> 00:10:23,400 Speaker 1: imagine just just just because just you know what I mean. 204 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 1: So he had to come home and find out about 205 00:10:25,160 --> 00:10:27,760 Speaker 1: that on television like like like he didn't even know, right, 206 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:30,079 Speaker 1: Like it was crazy. My father never shared these stories 207 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:32,839 Speaker 1: with me, man, because he died young. But my aunt 208 00:10:32,880 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 1: tells me all these stories now, which which now that 209 00:10:35,400 --> 00:10:37,559 Speaker 1: I'm now that I'm a father and I'm and I'm 210 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:39,600 Speaker 1: a young man. It helps me understand my father more, 211 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:42,160 Speaker 1: but it also helps me understand why I'm this way too, right, 212 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 1: because literally we come from the same cloth. So when 213 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:46,560 Speaker 1: that happens to his first family and he gives everything up, 214 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:48,400 Speaker 1: you know, he's like, you can have this, you know, 215 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:50,720 Speaker 1: it's not worth it. On the eleven year gap where 216 00:10:50,720 --> 00:10:52,319 Speaker 1: he goes back to the village and he's just doing 217 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:54,960 Speaker 1: community work and he's teaching and he's a professor, and 218 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:58,800 Speaker 1: he's just he's just more um into community empowerment and 219 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:01,480 Speaker 1: gets away from the big in that in in in 220 00:11:01,520 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 1: that big life. And that's when he meets my mother, 221 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:06,959 Speaker 1: you know, uh, Joey Lucana you know, um, and the 222 00:11:07,080 --> 00:11:09,959 Speaker 1: name is like fitting right, and she brought joy back 223 00:11:10,000 --> 00:11:12,680 Speaker 1: in his life. Um, and then they had us, and 224 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:15,360 Speaker 1: then he loses more children, right, so you get here 225 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:18,480 Speaker 1: and literally that's why when they're saying, you know, to 226 00:11:18,559 --> 00:11:22,439 Speaker 1: sender somewhere, he's like, no, no, are you kidding me? Yeah, 227 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:26,640 Speaker 1: this is yeah, this is the woman that my mother 228 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 1: restored my father's ability to love, you know what I mean, 229 00:11:29,520 --> 00:11:32,080 Speaker 1: Like she she she restored his ability to to smile, 230 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:34,600 Speaker 1: to to taste again, you know, what I mean to to, 231 00:11:35,040 --> 00:11:38,120 Speaker 1: you know, to to live a rich life again, you know. 232 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:40,400 Speaker 1: And they had such an amazing chemistry because my mother, 233 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:43,360 Speaker 1: my mother was very vibrant, right, a big personality and 234 00:11:43,360 --> 00:11:46,400 Speaker 1: and sweet. And my mother was renegading the sense back 235 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:49,200 Speaker 1: then most women were, you know, and even to this 236 00:11:49,280 --> 00:11:50,959 Speaker 1: day and and and her and and and you've got 237 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:53,920 Speaker 1: almost African countries and more traditional this day. Just they 238 00:11:53,960 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 1: stay home and to take care of the family. But 239 00:11:56,040 --> 00:11:59,319 Speaker 1: my mother was like an entrepreneur. She had like shopping stores, 240 00:11:59,520 --> 00:12:03,960 Speaker 1: she was she was shipping cars from you Gonta to Japan. Yeah. 241 00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:06,800 Speaker 1: So so that energy is like it's like revide my 242 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:10,400 Speaker 1: father to say this young lady and in the seventies 243 00:12:10,440 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 1: thing you Gonda, like, who's an incredible, incredible like business woman, right, 244 00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:17,160 Speaker 1: So she restored his love and then they had, you know, 245 00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 1: four of four of us. And you know, but when 246 00:12:19,160 --> 00:12:21,280 Speaker 1: when we came there to start over again, right, my 247 00:12:21,360 --> 00:12:23,560 Speaker 1: father is like he's he's lived so many lives and 248 00:12:23,600 --> 00:12:25,400 Speaker 1: when you get here and now you have kids and 249 00:12:25,400 --> 00:12:27,160 Speaker 1: you have you have a country that maybe it's not 250 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:30,400 Speaker 1: honoring um you know, your degrees or your resume or 251 00:12:30,520 --> 00:12:33,240 Speaker 1: your um because you know you're doing it somewhere else, 252 00:12:33,360 --> 00:12:35,559 Speaker 1: or you got your degree back in the nineteen seventies 253 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:37,319 Speaker 1: or all these things, and you got you know, you 254 00:12:37,400 --> 00:12:39,520 Speaker 1: gotta you gotta get to it, you know what I mean. 255 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:41,320 Speaker 1: And the Cricket thing to do was just clean, you know, 256 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:45,040 Speaker 1: because uh that's what they did. But when when my mother, 257 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:47,040 Speaker 1: when my father decided to take care of my mother 258 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:49,760 Speaker 1: had that stroke and my father decided to take care 259 00:12:49,800 --> 00:12:52,880 Speaker 1: of her seven now he put the responsibility of like 260 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:55,959 Speaker 1: cleaning the restaurants on me, you know what I mean. 261 00:12:56,880 --> 00:12:58,840 Speaker 1: I was fourteen, I was a freshman in high school, 262 00:12:58,880 --> 00:13:02,400 Speaker 1: you know, fourteen about to be fifteen, and so literally 263 00:13:02,880 --> 00:13:05,199 Speaker 1: I would, let's just say, I wake up, like say 264 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:07,719 Speaker 1: six o'clock, be at the bus stop of sixty five, 265 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:10,200 Speaker 1: be a school by seven fifteen, get done with school 266 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:13,480 Speaker 1: three um uh, go to go to practice and have 267 00:13:13,520 --> 00:13:16,040 Speaker 1: an opter school activity, come home, do my homework, take 268 00:13:16,080 --> 00:13:19,440 Speaker 1: a nap. By ten o'clock, I'm at Bennigan's or Golden 269 00:13:19,520 --> 00:13:25,040 Speaker 1: Kroral cleaning toilets, cleaning a restaurant. I'm back three thirty 270 00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:27,480 Speaker 1: two hour nap. And I did that for three years 271 00:13:27,480 --> 00:13:28,839 Speaker 1: and three and a half years, you know what I mean. 272 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:31,880 Speaker 1: So but it wasn't that journey you know where I'm like, 273 00:13:31,880 --> 00:13:34,800 Speaker 1: you're averaging like three hours. It was crazy, you know 274 00:13:34,840 --> 00:13:37,559 Speaker 1: it was, and it was, But it wasn't that journey 275 00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:39,679 Speaker 1: where like I would I would be like vacuum. I 276 00:13:39,679 --> 00:13:41,920 Speaker 1: would be like my father like dropped me off, and 277 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:44,600 Speaker 1: like we'd be I'd be like vacuum or like like cleaning, 278 00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:48,160 Speaker 1: like um, a restaurant or whatever. And I'm thinking to myself, this, this, 279 00:13:48,360 --> 00:13:50,640 Speaker 1: this curse of poverty is gonna stop with me, right, 280 00:13:50,800 --> 00:13:54,040 Speaker 1: So I'm manifesting that, um that in my life. I'm 281 00:13:54,040 --> 00:13:55,959 Speaker 1: just I'm just speaking out loud. This curse of poverty 282 00:13:56,040 --> 00:13:57,559 Speaker 1: is gonna stop with me. This curse of poverty is 283 00:13:57,559 --> 00:13:59,520 Speaker 1: gonna start with me. It's gonna stop with me, right 284 00:13:59,559 --> 00:14:01,440 Speaker 1: Like like if you do a timeline of the of 285 00:14:01,559 --> 00:14:04,800 Speaker 1: that name of my name I'm going to when you 286 00:14:04,840 --> 00:14:07,440 Speaker 1: get to my my chapter, things are going to be different, 287 00:14:07,520 --> 00:14:11,920 Speaker 1: you know. Um. But in that journey, that's where I learned, 288 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:14,120 Speaker 1: you know, sacrifices. Where I learned is where I got 289 00:14:14,120 --> 00:14:16,640 Speaker 1: my work ethic. But it's also it was also very 290 00:14:16,640 --> 00:14:19,440 Speaker 1: you know, very very very very painful, right because every 291 00:14:19,440 --> 00:14:21,320 Speaker 1: step you take, like you know, things are happy that 292 00:14:21,360 --> 00:14:23,400 Speaker 1: you really can't control, you know, so you know, we 293 00:14:23,480 --> 00:14:25,560 Speaker 1: found a way. But that's a little bit about my background, 294 00:14:25,720 --> 00:14:28,840 Speaker 1: you know. Um, and from there, you know, I graduated 295 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:31,120 Speaker 1: obviously high school, I went, I went to Inversity in 296 00:14:31,280 --> 00:14:34,360 Speaker 1: Mexico and got undergraded my master's there. I left and 297 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:37,560 Speaker 1: got into you know, business and representative of managing finances 298 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:41,200 Speaker 1: for for really with these dynamic people. And I haven't 299 00:14:41,240 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 1: looked back since. You know. So when I tell my story, 300 00:14:43,640 --> 00:14:45,920 Speaker 1: when I when I share my story in retrospect, you know, 301 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:48,320 Speaker 1: you have to relive things. So it's hard. But um, 302 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:49,960 Speaker 1: but I'm open to talk about it now because I'm 303 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:51,800 Speaker 1: just I just want to inspire, like somebody I did 304 00:14:52,080 --> 00:14:55,120 Speaker 1: to say, man, anything, anything is possible, like if you 305 00:14:55,280 --> 00:14:57,400 Speaker 1: if you just don't give up, no matter you know, 306 00:14:57,360 --> 00:14:59,480 Speaker 1: no matter what. And then my mother ended up dying 307 00:14:59,480 --> 00:15:02,320 Speaker 1: from natal right and routes to go bury here. You know, 308 00:15:02,520 --> 00:15:05,440 Speaker 1: my father died. So I'm sitting here burying both parents, 309 00:15:05,680 --> 00:15:09,800 Speaker 1: you know, you know, like relatively the same time. It's crazy, 310 00:15:09,920 --> 00:15:13,600 Speaker 1: so um, and this is all before yeah, this is 311 00:15:13,680 --> 00:15:16,760 Speaker 1: this is it's it's it's life is life is crazy man, 312 00:15:16,800 --> 00:15:18,560 Speaker 1: in a sense of like you can't control what can 313 00:15:18,560 --> 00:15:20,720 Speaker 1: happen to you. But the thing about it, though, is 314 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:23,400 Speaker 1: like if tragedy should come, right, may may come when 315 00:15:23,400 --> 00:15:25,320 Speaker 1: you're young. That way, you're the rest of your life 316 00:15:25,480 --> 00:15:28,760 Speaker 1: to have these like this wisdom and these tenants and 317 00:15:28,840 --> 00:15:32,680 Speaker 1: this fortitude and this resiliency. Uh, and then the later 318 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:34,360 Speaker 1: of your life because you're gonna spend more time being 319 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:36,640 Speaker 1: old than you are being young, than at least that 320 00:15:36,760 --> 00:15:39,880 Speaker 1: those those years will be great because you're unshakable, like 321 00:15:39,920 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 1: you literally unshakable. And not that bad things don't continue 322 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:47,520 Speaker 1: to happen, but that the meaning you drive you derive 323 00:15:47,600 --> 00:15:51,760 Speaker 1: from them stays consistent, you know. So um yeah, let 324 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:54,880 Speaker 1: it happen young and let your heart stay open. Yeah yeah, 325 00:15:54,960 --> 00:15:57,240 Speaker 1: because because sometimes you know, if if you go through 326 00:15:57,240 --> 00:15:59,080 Speaker 1: your whole life you've never been through anything, and then 327 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:01,000 Speaker 1: it hits you later, you don't you don't you have it. 328 00:16:01,080 --> 00:16:03,320 Speaker 1: You don't have that muscle memory, you know, so you 329 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:07,120 Speaker 1: haven't built through the resilience. Yeah, yeah, you know. And 330 00:16:07,240 --> 00:16:09,880 Speaker 1: this is what always kind of puts me in all 331 00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:12,040 Speaker 1: of you. And and something I've always wanted to ask 332 00:16:12,080 --> 00:16:16,440 Speaker 1: you given your background, Um, given the immense amount of 333 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 1: trauma that you didn't even have, you know, the luxury 334 00:16:19,800 --> 00:16:22,360 Speaker 1: of being able to take time to work through right 335 00:16:22,560 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 1: like you know, because you're going through trauma, but you've 336 00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:27,240 Speaker 1: got to learn a new language. You're going through trauma, 337 00:16:27,320 --> 00:16:30,280 Speaker 1: but your mom you know, things are worse, so you 338 00:16:30,320 --> 00:16:32,800 Speaker 1: need to stay present in the moment, and you need 339 00:16:32,840 --> 00:16:36,160 Speaker 1: to stay helpful. You're going through trauma, but and assimilating 340 00:16:36,240 --> 00:16:38,960 Speaker 1: to a new country, but you gotta work all night. 341 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:41,200 Speaker 1: You know, all of these things, and then you lose 342 00:16:41,200 --> 00:16:44,080 Speaker 1: your parents. Something that has always really struck me about 343 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:48,080 Speaker 1: you is the level of enthusiasm enjoy that you carry 344 00:16:48,120 --> 00:16:51,280 Speaker 1: yourself with, you know, and I think for people if 345 00:16:51,280 --> 00:16:53,560 Speaker 1: people follow you on Instagram they'll know this it's at 346 00:16:53,640 --> 00:16:56,600 Speaker 1: age two humble or if they meet you in person, um. 347 00:16:56,600 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 1: But you know, you have this huge smile that's just 348 00:16:59,520 --> 00:17:05,560 Speaker 1: really charming presence about yourself and this this overall positivity. 349 00:17:05,600 --> 00:17:07,520 Speaker 1: You know, any You've given me some of the best 350 00:17:07,600 --> 00:17:10,760 Speaker 1: quotables you know, I've ever heard in my life. You're 351 00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:14,000 Speaker 1: always just the king of of lifting other people up, 352 00:17:14,080 --> 00:17:17,399 Speaker 1: friends and clients. Given your history, how do you still 353 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:22,880 Speaker 1: manage to be kind and to believe in the goodness 354 00:17:22,960 --> 00:17:25,359 Speaker 1: of the world. Wow, that saw that's such a really 355 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:28,360 Speaker 1: great question. When I think about being say happy, right, 356 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:30,920 Speaker 1: I've always thought about it as because people have asked 357 00:17:30,920 --> 00:17:32,359 Speaker 1: me how do you how do you stay so happy? 358 00:17:32,400 --> 00:17:34,360 Speaker 1: And in my mind, it's like it's one of the options. 359 00:17:34,960 --> 00:17:37,400 Speaker 1: It's one of the options, you know, Like, like it's 360 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:41,360 Speaker 1: the same way you can be mad, angry, happy, It's 361 00:17:41,520 --> 00:17:43,360 Speaker 1: one of the options. That's what's on your menu. I'm 362 00:17:43,400 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 1: having happy. Yeah, I mean, it's one of the options, right, 363 00:17:45,800 --> 00:17:49,080 Speaker 1: It's like, let me, let me have that, right. But also, 364 00:17:49,359 --> 00:17:53,359 Speaker 1: if you're happy with how things are, then you can't 365 00:17:53,480 --> 00:17:56,680 Speaker 1: be mad at how things were, because it's some things 366 00:17:56,760 --> 00:18:01,600 Speaker 1: don't happen. Some things don't happen, you know what I mean. 367 00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:06,840 Speaker 1: So so so I you can't have it both ways, man, 368 00:18:06,920 --> 00:18:08,560 Speaker 1: you can't. You can't be you know what I mean. 369 00:18:08,600 --> 00:18:10,040 Speaker 1: You can't. You can't. You gotta let you have to 370 00:18:10,080 --> 00:18:12,760 Speaker 1: let it go, you know. But the foundation of my life, though, 371 00:18:12,880 --> 00:18:15,320 Speaker 1: is gratitude. And that's the lesson I share with anybody 372 00:18:15,359 --> 00:18:19,080 Speaker 1: that listens to me. It's impossible to be sad all 373 00:18:19,119 --> 00:18:23,399 Speaker 1: the time and grateful all the time at the same time. 374 00:18:23,720 --> 00:18:26,320 Speaker 1: Your mind would explode before that happens, right to this, 375 00:18:26,440 --> 00:18:29,160 Speaker 1: So when you are really unhappy or just it's because 376 00:18:29,160 --> 00:18:31,240 Speaker 1: you're not practicing gratitude, you know what I mean, It's 377 00:18:31,280 --> 00:18:34,200 Speaker 1: like you are, and explain explain that for people, because 378 00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:35,879 Speaker 1: I think you know a lot of people. When you 379 00:18:35,920 --> 00:18:38,760 Speaker 1: think of the term gratitude, it's thankful for all I got, 380 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:40,920 Speaker 1: wake up in the morning, thank you God for all 381 00:18:40,960 --> 00:18:45,239 Speaker 1: I have. What is practicing gratitude look like? You know, 382 00:18:45,640 --> 00:18:47,800 Speaker 1: I touch a great question, Okay, Like when you think 383 00:18:47,840 --> 00:18:51,480 Speaker 1: about gratitude, and I'm talking about the physical form of it, right, 384 00:18:51,560 --> 00:18:53,840 Speaker 1: not just like oh thank you, thank you, you know, 385 00:18:53,920 --> 00:19:00,359 Speaker 1: and just passing by practicing gratitude hashtag blessed hashtag right. 386 00:19:02,440 --> 00:19:06,159 Speaker 1: Practicing gratitude to me is this daily walk where like 387 00:19:06,200 --> 00:19:08,840 Speaker 1: you are literally literally open up a book and you 388 00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:11,359 Speaker 1: write down what you're grateful for and why. What I 389 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:13,639 Speaker 1: do every single day, I dedicate that day to somebody 390 00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:16,000 Speaker 1: I love and I try to walk in their honor. 391 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:18,600 Speaker 1: So I wake up today and I said, okay, man, today, 392 00:19:18,680 --> 00:19:20,680 Speaker 1: this is from a great great grandfather that I've never 393 00:19:20,720 --> 00:19:22,840 Speaker 1: even met, who did enough for me to be here. 394 00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:24,879 Speaker 1: I'm going to represent what what what he would have 395 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:26,840 Speaker 1: hoped for me, and I walk in that. You know 396 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:29,720 Speaker 1: what I mean, gratitude is like the most important thing 397 00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:33,720 Speaker 1: in life because it allows you to always not live 398 00:19:33,760 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 1: in your own not not not not to live in yourself, 399 00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:38,119 Speaker 1: but to be to be giving and to and to 400 00:19:38,200 --> 00:19:41,359 Speaker 1: understand other people's plight and also understand like how blessed 401 00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:43,399 Speaker 1: you are. And I tell you all the time. You know, 402 00:19:44,359 --> 00:19:47,080 Speaker 1: we get so lost in America. Like you know, but 403 00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:49,080 Speaker 1: if you have a global if you have a global citizen, 404 00:19:49,119 --> 00:19:50,919 Speaker 1: if you're global citizen, and you see the rest of 405 00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:52,520 Speaker 1: the world, to be to be in the top one 406 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:54,800 Speaker 1: percent of the world, you gotta make like forty five 407 00:19:55,240 --> 00:19:57,920 Speaker 1: dollars to be in the top one percent of the world. Yeah, 408 00:19:58,040 --> 00:19:59,760 Speaker 1: the rest of the world would never own a car, 409 00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:03,000 Speaker 1: or buy a home or go to college. Are you 410 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:04,680 Speaker 1: kidding me? Like, you know, look at all the poverty 411 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:08,919 Speaker 1: in in in Africa, in South America, in Asia, you 412 00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:11,240 Speaker 1: know the thing. But these people are literally dying in 413 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:15,280 Speaker 1: in holding sales right now trying to get to America. Yeah, 414 00:20:15,359 --> 00:20:16,919 Speaker 1: you see what I'm saying. So it's so that you 415 00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:18,439 Speaker 1: have to have a global if you have if you 416 00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:20,840 Speaker 1: really have a global perspective and you look like you 417 00:20:20,880 --> 00:20:22,720 Speaker 1: look at the world, there's so much to be really 418 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:25,200 Speaker 1: really thankful for And so then you start to get 419 00:20:25,240 --> 00:20:27,560 Speaker 1: to the point where the things that used to bother you, 420 00:20:27,760 --> 00:20:29,840 Speaker 1: those feelings don't stay long. They visit, but they don't 421 00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:31,840 Speaker 1: spend the night, you know what I mean? And and 422 00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:33,560 Speaker 1: and that's to me not to visit, but they don't 423 00:20:33,600 --> 00:20:36,680 Speaker 1: spend the night. Write that down, yeah you know, but yeah, 424 00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:39,760 Speaker 1: it's yeah, they can visit. They can visit. Yeah, you're 425 00:20:39,880 --> 00:20:41,639 Speaker 1: you're you're a person, you know what I mean. And 426 00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:44,280 Speaker 1: and you you will be disappointed, you be heard that 427 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:45,960 Speaker 1: things will happen not going your way. But so they'll 428 00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:47,879 Speaker 1: let them. They'll visit, but they can't stay to night. 429 00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:51,239 Speaker 1: Well does forgiveness look like to you? First? And I'll 430 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:54,440 Speaker 1: forgive yourself? What do you mean? Um? I think we 431 00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:58,600 Speaker 1: are so hard on ourselves, you know, Um, But I 432 00:20:58,640 --> 00:21:01,080 Speaker 1: feel that every step of the in your journey of life, 433 00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:03,920 Speaker 1: you're making some of the biggest decisions with very little foresight. 434 00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:06,520 Speaker 1: And it's only in retrospect that you can see if 435 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:08,840 Speaker 1: that was the right decisions. So, as you go through life, 436 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:11,720 Speaker 1: you know, you can't find peace and someone else if 437 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:14,000 Speaker 1: you don't have peace in yourself. Right, I already say 438 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:16,520 Speaker 1: you can only meet someone as deeply as you've met yourself. 439 00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:20,160 Speaker 1: Sit still, deal with your own trauma, deal with your 440 00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:24,240 Speaker 1: own pain, deal with your own brokenness. Forgive yourself right first, 441 00:21:24,400 --> 00:21:28,160 Speaker 1: that createss abundant heart that you can then extend other 442 00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:30,840 Speaker 1: people to write. But but you gotta take care to 443 00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:34,760 Speaker 1: treat first, you know, or last the branches won't flourish. Right, 444 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:39,040 Speaker 1: I'm I'm a big believer that the way to begin 445 00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:41,000 Speaker 1: your journey the wholeness for yourself and the way to 446 00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 1: find yourself for healing yourself is through self inquiry. Right, 447 00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:49,440 Speaker 1: It's through like really excavating your thoughts, your past experiences, 448 00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:53,320 Speaker 1: asking yourself lots and lots of questions, and even when 449 00:21:53,320 --> 00:21:56,280 Speaker 1: you think you have an answer, ask more questions, digging. 450 00:21:56,480 --> 00:21:58,960 Speaker 1: So what does that look like for you, That that 451 00:21:59,040 --> 00:22:02,160 Speaker 1: experience of being able to get to a place where 452 00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:05,199 Speaker 1: you forgive yourself, that that experience of meeting yourself. I 453 00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:07,520 Speaker 1: should say, yeah, you know, and it's and it's and 454 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:09,600 Speaker 1: it's just and it's it's a journey, you know what 455 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:12,600 Speaker 1: I mean. It's it's it's it's that never has a destination, 456 00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:14,600 Speaker 1: but you but you are committed it to You are 457 00:22:14,720 --> 00:22:17,440 Speaker 1: just committed to it because you're still alive something justest 458 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:20,520 Speaker 1: have work to do. But for me, it's um, it 459 00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:24,280 Speaker 1: starts with like having a value system, right, having pillars, 460 00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:27,600 Speaker 1: having a value system almost like a board members that 461 00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:30,120 Speaker 1: I want to answer to everything, you know what I mean, 462 00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:33,199 Speaker 1: And the value system allows me to allows me to 463 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:35,800 Speaker 1: make sure that like if I'm honoring those five value 464 00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:37,199 Speaker 1: you know, there's a lot of values. You gotta pick 465 00:22:37,240 --> 00:22:40,600 Speaker 1: your own five that that you can I think like 466 00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:43,439 Speaker 1: like four or five values that you are not going 467 00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:48,399 Speaker 1: to compromise for anyone for anything. And you you know, 468 00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:51,000 Speaker 1: and you and you have those pillars, right, so like 469 00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:57,480 Speaker 1: minus freedom you know, uh, family, generosity, community, right and faith. 470 00:22:57,560 --> 00:22:59,600 Speaker 1: And so it's like when I'm oneing through decisions, I'm 471 00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:02,480 Speaker 1: making how they affected those five you know, um, and 472 00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:04,679 Speaker 1: if I don't feel good about it, I'm not doing it. 473 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:07,119 Speaker 1: I love you so that I actually didn't know that 474 00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:09,480 Speaker 1: you did that, but I did the same thing a 475 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:13,240 Speaker 1: few years ago. I kind of created a personal coat 476 00:23:13,280 --> 00:23:15,959 Speaker 1: of arms, if you will. You know those you know 477 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:18,639 Speaker 1: those shields you know they have and they would have 478 00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:21,240 Speaker 1: four different sections and we like aligning with the bird's 479 00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:23,440 Speaker 1: head or you know, but I kind of I kind 480 00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:25,800 Speaker 1: of made one of those for myself. And you know 481 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:30,119 Speaker 1: something that especially when I first started this journey of course, 482 00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:34,400 Speaker 1: you know healing. Yeah, when when you first start to 483 00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:37,480 Speaker 1: heal and transform and dive deeper into who you are, 484 00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:40,800 Speaker 1: you know, I thought similarly to you, I thought, how 485 00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:45,720 Speaker 1: how can I make this like a creed for my life? 486 00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:47,840 Speaker 1: You know? So I kind of I kind of came 487 00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:51,480 Speaker 1: up with a mission statement for myself, you know, is 488 00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:56,480 Speaker 1: my core belief system exists around the concepts of faith, loyalty, intimacy, 489 00:23:56,600 --> 00:24:00,159 Speaker 1: and adventure. I approached these with the knowing peace and 490 00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:03,760 Speaker 1: and proactive and their fulfillment. I flow effortlessly, using love 491 00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:07,479 Speaker 1: as a leading energy within which I operate daily. So 492 00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:10,920 Speaker 1: I kind of wrote that ASP as my mission statement, 493 00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:13,760 Speaker 1: and under that I broke down. You know what my 494 00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:17,480 Speaker 1: pillars are, which our faith, you know, um, spirituality and 495 00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:20,639 Speaker 1: the seeking of the sacred our paramount in my life. 496 00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:23,879 Speaker 1: I believe in resilience and transcendent thought. I'm going to 497 00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:26,359 Speaker 1: kind of speak through these, um because y'all don't need 498 00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:30,600 Speaker 1: to know all this. But the next filler was loyalty. 499 00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:34,240 Speaker 1: Honesty is the gift I give myself and others so 500 00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:38,199 Speaker 1: that I may build an unshakable trust. I support my 501 00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:41,080 Speaker 1: family above all else, and I'm fully committed to that. 502 00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:44,800 Speaker 1: We practice forgiveness. We treat one another with empathy and compassion. 503 00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:49,480 Speaker 1: Another pillar is intimacy. By communicating our thoughts and feelings, 504 00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:53,160 Speaker 1: we foster a deep connection. I believe in facilitating conversations 505 00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:56,000 Speaker 1: and experiences so that I may share closeness and a 506 00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:59,359 Speaker 1: bond that strengthens me with other people. And the last 507 00:24:59,359 --> 00:25:01,480 Speaker 1: one is at vent sure, I believe in fun. I 508 00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:04,760 Speaker 1: take this. I operate under the belief that the expiration 509 00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:07,800 Speaker 1: of the world and the exploration of myself brings much 510 00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:11,560 Speaker 1: joy into me. I learned from and respect other cultures, 511 00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,239 Speaker 1: and I regularly find moments in which to laugh and 512 00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:18,600 Speaker 1: enjoy company the people I love. Wow, So I kind 513 00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:21,199 Speaker 1: of you know, because that's powerful and and and just 514 00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:23,440 Speaker 1: know when, just know when you and being in your life, 515 00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:26,080 Speaker 1: like every second of every day, I've seen you put 516 00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:28,840 Speaker 1: this to work. You. Thank you. I've seen you. I 517 00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:31,440 Speaker 1: don't always do it perfectly, but I'm telling you, I've 518 00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:34,480 Speaker 1: seen you put in the work. You know, and the 519 00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:37,080 Speaker 1: and the and the queen that you're transforming into and 520 00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:41,920 Speaker 1: the and uh your spirituality. You're you're you're you're like 521 00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:44,520 Speaker 1: just the core of you and what that means to 522 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:48,760 Speaker 1: the people around you, you know, the the the pain 523 00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:51,440 Speaker 1: we've had to work through everything, Like you've just transformed 524 00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:57,080 Speaker 1: into this incredible soul. So thank you. That's the first 525 00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:59,479 Speaker 1: time you share with me those creed But it hit 526 00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:01,320 Speaker 1: me because I can say I can sit here and 527 00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,400 Speaker 1: look at you and tell you that's exactly how you're 528 00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:05,159 Speaker 1: lead in your life. Oh, thank you so much. So 529 00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:07,920 Speaker 1: that's that's powerful. That means a lot. It's funny because 530 00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:09,680 Speaker 1: that's actually the first time I've looked at it in 531 00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:12,120 Speaker 1: a couple of years. You know, when I first I think, 532 00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:14,520 Speaker 1: I think I made that maybe like six years ago, 533 00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:17,119 Speaker 1: six years ago, and you know, at first, like I 534 00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:18,760 Speaker 1: had printed it out and I would just have it 535 00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:21,840 Speaker 1: and it's kind of existing. I like to personally post 536 00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:25,879 Speaker 1: a lot of prayers of protection and just like ideology 537 00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:28,520 Speaker 1: like that right by my front door, and I take 538 00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:30,560 Speaker 1: a moment to take a breath and I read through 539 00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:33,119 Speaker 1: it before I kind of go into the world, right, 540 00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:36,000 Speaker 1: you know, it's like my armor. But yeah, that's my 541 00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:38,280 Speaker 1: first I'm actually reading that um and definitely reading that 542 00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:40,200 Speaker 1: loud to anybody and here I am telling it to 543 00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:43,600 Speaker 1: all y'all, but that's really powerful. But you know what said, 544 00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:46,040 Speaker 1: that's where it starts. All like you write it down 545 00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:50,000 Speaker 1: to really define your growth goals, you know, and you 546 00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:52,680 Speaker 1: have just wanted you have to you have to want 547 00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:55,440 Speaker 1: to be a good person. Yeah, you have to want 548 00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:57,119 Speaker 1: to do what's right because it's right, you know what 549 00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:59,520 Speaker 1: I'm saying. And you just you just have to fight 550 00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:02,440 Speaker 1: and and and uh and and just do it. You know. 551 00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:04,800 Speaker 1: I'm so proud of you. That's amazing. Thank you. Thanks 552 00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:06,560 Speaker 1: for sharing that. You know, I think too, because it's 553 00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:10,760 Speaker 1: like personal growth is so mystified sometimes and now in 554 00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,360 Speaker 1: this day and age, everything has a yin any yang. 555 00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:15,520 Speaker 1: So there's all the attributes of where we're at in 556 00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:18,640 Speaker 1: life right now, the chance to dive into that luxury 557 00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:21,879 Speaker 1: of figuring out who you are, finding your purpose and 558 00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:24,160 Speaker 1: have air quotes as I'm talking. But then there's also 559 00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:27,080 Speaker 1: the flip side of that. It becomes overexposed, It becomes 560 00:27:27,119 --> 00:27:30,720 Speaker 1: a lucrative way for people to manipulate the money, It 561 00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:33,760 Speaker 1: becomes surface in some ways. And so you know, when 562 00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:35,920 Speaker 1: you know that you want to grow or change something 563 00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:38,560 Speaker 1: in your life, you have to take it past that 564 00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:41,840 Speaker 1: surface level of posting the positive quote or the Bible 565 00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:45,200 Speaker 1: verse on Instagram, right, like you have to say to yourself, Okay, 566 00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:49,040 Speaker 1: I'm not this yet, but how can I embody? How 567 00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:52,160 Speaker 1: do I practice this? Just like you would with anything else. 568 00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:53,800 Speaker 1: And you know, at the time that I kind of 569 00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:56,119 Speaker 1: made that, I was working a lot like I was 570 00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:59,119 Speaker 1: when it comes to work. I'm so strategized, I'm so 571 00:28:00,040 --> 00:28:03,119 Speaker 1: very true committed, and you know, into the hustle, I 572 00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:06,080 Speaker 1: like the being tired and stressed out, and you know, 573 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:09,840 Speaker 1: I'm making lists and vision boards and plans and data 574 00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:12,639 Speaker 1: at it up. And you know, I decided I wanted 575 00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:16,760 Speaker 1: to apply all of that same logic to my personal development. 576 00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:18,879 Speaker 1: I said, let me sit down and really take some 577 00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:21,720 Speaker 1: notes about myself. What are my needs? What am I lacking? 578 00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:24,520 Speaker 1: What am I great at? What can I enhance? And 579 00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:26,360 Speaker 1: so that's why I kind of took time to say, 580 00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:29,080 Speaker 1: what is the mission statement of my life? And what 581 00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:31,720 Speaker 1: are the pillars that hold that up to be true? 582 00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:34,600 Speaker 1: What are the active things that you can do every 583 00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:37,520 Speaker 1: day that make that mission true and make it grow? 584 00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:40,720 Speaker 1: You know, absolutely, and uh, and You've done it. I've 585 00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:43,600 Speaker 1: seen it. You've done it. I've seen it. I'm proud 586 00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:45,280 Speaker 1: of you, and I think and you know, we put 587 00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:48,160 Speaker 1: so much time into so many other things, but we 588 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:51,240 Speaker 1: never take a step back and take care of the vessel. 589 00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:54,520 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Because your vessels where everything's 590 00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:56,719 Speaker 1: being poured out of. Yeah, you know what I mean. 591 00:28:56,800 --> 00:28:58,360 Speaker 1: So you gotta you gotta take care of the vessel. 592 00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:00,240 Speaker 1: And yeah, that's actually something I want to talk to 593 00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:03,960 Speaker 1: you about. Yeah, yeah, talk about taking care of the vessel. 594 00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:06,920 Speaker 1: I worry about you a lot. I know, I can 595 00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:08,920 Speaker 1: be anywhere I can. I'm like in London, I could 596 00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:10,640 Speaker 1: be anywhere around the world, and I get a text 597 00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:12,560 Speaker 1: from Debt, Hey, checking in on you. How you doing? 598 00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:15,800 Speaker 1: Are you eating? Did you take your vitamins? You know 599 00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:18,200 Speaker 1: what I mean? Like, Hey, did you meditate today? You know? 600 00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:20,920 Speaker 1: Are you good? You're You're the only thing about this. 601 00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:24,280 Speaker 1: You're the only client ever to actually send me a 602 00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:28,720 Speaker 1: SPA treatment. When you did that, he was like, remember 603 00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:30,360 Speaker 1: you called me. He was like, listen, you're gonna don't 604 00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:33,120 Speaker 1: care what you're doing the debt. You're gonna cancel your afternoon. 605 00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:36,720 Speaker 1: I've already booked it, remember that about Yeah, I've already 606 00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:38,280 Speaker 1: booked it already set up and if you don't go 607 00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:39,960 Speaker 1: home and lose my money. But that was like, it 608 00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,560 Speaker 1: was like, yeah, that was so sweet because at the 609 00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:45,600 Speaker 1: time you were out. We both live in Los Angeles now, 610 00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:49,080 Speaker 1: but at the time I think you were living in Yeah. 611 00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:52,600 Speaker 1: I was like Google, I looked up like amazing massage 612 00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:55,440 Speaker 1: or you know, like I think it was like I 613 00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:57,840 Speaker 1: had some energy work too, and yeah, and I was 614 00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:00,040 Speaker 1: like take the day off. You're having a point me 615 00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,840 Speaker 1: at this time. There's two times in my career that 616 00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:06,480 Speaker 1: I couldn't find the words right and like that I 617 00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:10,600 Speaker 1: remember distinctively. Um one was one of my clients, uh 618 00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:14,400 Speaker 1: Scheck mcmanusk um before we were just starting to work together. 619 00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:16,880 Speaker 1: He called me and he said hello in Yugana in Luganda, 620 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:19,720 Speaker 1: you know, he called like he like you know what 621 00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:21,479 Speaker 1: I mean, and it was just such a sweet thing 622 00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:24,040 Speaker 1: for him. Hello, I used to be that thoughtful. It 623 00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:25,760 Speaker 1: feels so good to hear you. Yeah, I was like, 624 00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,480 Speaker 1: but I used to. And then that day when when 625 00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:30,920 Speaker 1: you uh and and that spot, it's like, uh, those 626 00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:32,960 Speaker 1: those days, those moments stick out for me. It's just like, 627 00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:35,120 Speaker 1: you know, somebody thinking about you. But yeah, so you're 628 00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:40,120 Speaker 1: worried about me. Huh, I legitimately sorry, I'm gonna guys, 629 00:30:40,120 --> 00:30:42,240 Speaker 1: I'm gonna take some SIPs of water. Sometimes they were 630 00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:45,880 Speaker 1: talking because I'd be thirsty. Um. Yeah, I really I 631 00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:49,080 Speaker 1: really worry about you sometimes because you have a really 632 00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:53,680 Speaker 1: big destiny, and I think anybody that meets you feels 633 00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:57,400 Speaker 1: the weight of who you are and who you're meant 634 00:30:57,480 --> 00:31:00,360 Speaker 1: to be. Yeah, in that first handshake, you know, like 635 00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:04,000 Speaker 1: kind of you have this deliberateness about you and this 636 00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:08,120 Speaker 1: incredible professionalism, this incredible drive, but really bigger than that, 637 00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:12,400 Speaker 1: this this profoundly deep empathy about you. So you are 638 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:16,560 Speaker 1: the kind of person who you're very busy, like here 639 00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:19,920 Speaker 1: than probably the busiest person any of us know, you know, 640 00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:23,080 Speaker 1: like you have so many a list clients that are 641 00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:26,040 Speaker 1: doing world changing things right, and you're one of these 642 00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:28,160 Speaker 1: people that when you work with people, you're really the 643 00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:31,000 Speaker 1: one stop shop. Like you'r who I go to about finances, 644 00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:36,440 Speaker 1: about legal stuff, about life stuff, about ideas, about connections. 645 00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:39,120 Speaker 1: You know, like you're just one of those people that's 646 00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:43,600 Speaker 1: really a tool that connector you know. And so but 647 00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:45,920 Speaker 1: you still find so much time for your clients. And 648 00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:47,760 Speaker 1: I remember I was at a rough point in my 649 00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:50,520 Speaker 1: life many months ago, and no matter what day it was, 650 00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:53,080 Speaker 1: no matter what time it was, you could be in 651 00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,440 Speaker 1: a board meeting. You know, if you would, you would 652 00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:57,160 Speaker 1: stop what you were doing and you would sit on 653 00:31:57,240 --> 00:32:00,080 Speaker 1: the phone with me for however long I need it. 654 00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:03,480 Speaker 1: And I'm a very long winded person, so these weren't 655 00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:05,800 Speaker 1: you know. It wasn't like, okay, let me step out 656 00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:08,280 Speaker 1: real quick. Good, No, it was like, you know, I 657 00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:11,120 Speaker 1: would tie you to the phone for an hour or more. 658 00:32:12,240 --> 00:32:14,720 Speaker 1: And then when I started meeting more of your clients 659 00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:16,720 Speaker 1: and they would share that you would do the same 660 00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:18,880 Speaker 1: things for them. And then I'm trying to do the math, 661 00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:21,360 Speaker 1: and I'm like, well, there's only twenty four hours of 662 00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:23,960 Speaker 1: a day, you know. And I remember I asked you 663 00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:26,040 Speaker 1: about it once and I'm like, how how do you 664 00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:29,440 Speaker 1: find the time to be so much to so many people? 665 00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:32,040 Speaker 1: You know you had kind of shared that, well, you know, 666 00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:33,920 Speaker 1: the work still has to get done. So if I 667 00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:36,520 Speaker 1: had to take an hour or four hours to help 668 00:32:36,600 --> 00:32:39,560 Speaker 1: someone in crisis today, I still do my work. So 669 00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:42,920 Speaker 1: that takes away from my time with myself, That takes 670 00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:45,680 Speaker 1: away from me at home, and I you know, the 671 00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:48,040 Speaker 1: work is still going to get done, and that just 672 00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:52,320 Speaker 1: really stuck with me. One the level of self sacrifice 673 00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:55,200 Speaker 1: that you give to other people. And then it also 674 00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:58,520 Speaker 1: really hurt my heart because I thought about you, and 675 00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:01,520 Speaker 1: I thought about how hard you work and how much 676 00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:05,320 Speaker 1: you do for people on just a mental soul you 677 00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:08,560 Speaker 1: know level, and I'm like, wait, but who's going to 678 00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:12,800 Speaker 1: refill him? So how do you do that? How are 679 00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:15,479 Speaker 1: you juggling this? Nor have you had to set more 680 00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:18,479 Speaker 1: boundaries in your life and not take on things from 681 00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:21,160 Speaker 1: other people? You know? How do you fill your cup? Oh? 682 00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:23,960 Speaker 1: That's amazing, you know it's uh. When when I hear 683 00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:26,960 Speaker 1: you describe it, I'll go, my goodness, I'm maybe I 684 00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:32,280 Speaker 1: am taking on a lot, but honestly I love this. 685 00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:36,720 Speaker 1: It's like, um, the honor of my life is to 686 00:33:36,920 --> 00:33:41,280 Speaker 1: serve these families that are like to protect them and 687 00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:44,080 Speaker 1: fight for their for their dreams and help you guys 688 00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:47,680 Speaker 1: build your wealth and you know, like meeting your newborn 689 00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:50,320 Speaker 1: son quest and know when he's good forever. You know 690 00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:54,440 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Yeah, Like that's like Dad, I mean, 691 00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:57,840 Speaker 1: I love what I do so much because of the 692 00:33:57,920 --> 00:33:59,920 Speaker 1: people I'm doing it with, but also like the empire 693 00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:03,440 Speaker 1: we're having in this world. And um and I always 694 00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:05,960 Speaker 1: say cliches, the cliches because they because because they're true, 695 00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:08,520 Speaker 1: you know. But like you know, I've never doesn't even 696 00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:11,839 Speaker 1: the hardest day doesn't feel like work, if that makes sense, 697 00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:13,839 Speaker 1: because I'm just trying. I know that once I cracked 698 00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:15,719 Speaker 1: this code for a client, once I figured this out, 699 00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:18,080 Speaker 1: you know, they're gonna take off and and and change 700 00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:20,239 Speaker 1: their family's lives. So there's two things. I really love 701 00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:23,320 Speaker 1: what I do, right, but too when I started this business, 702 00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:24,840 Speaker 1: I thought, in this business, I was like, I just 703 00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:27,040 Speaker 1: want to protect these people. I don't want to be 704 00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:29,600 Speaker 1: taking advantage of I want to teach finance. I want 705 00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:31,160 Speaker 1: to make sure they build wealth. I was on a 706 00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:33,839 Speaker 1: mission right and and and and I would and I'm 707 00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:37,040 Speaker 1: dedicated to that mission. But what came back to me 708 00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:41,920 Speaker 1: was seeing, you know, clients become family. Yeah, like I 709 00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:44,640 Speaker 1: don't know, I told you my story, like my whole 710 00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:48,440 Speaker 1: family has wiped out, so like my client's man's family, 711 00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:50,799 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And so that devotion comes 712 00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:52,400 Speaker 1: from a sense of you know, I look at you 713 00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:54,480 Speaker 1: like my sister, like this is this is my family, 714 00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:56,680 Speaker 1: you know. So that's been the greatest blessings to have 715 00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:59,120 Speaker 1: a new family that like idi amine can't take from me. 716 00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:06,520 Speaker 1: So I like that. I Um, it's it's it's you give. 717 00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:11,000 Speaker 1: But the people you've given to, I'm filling you back up, 718 00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:13,439 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Um and uh. And I've 719 00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:16,040 Speaker 1: been really and I said light attracts like, but I've 720 00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:18,480 Speaker 1: been really lucky to just work with clients that are 721 00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:21,800 Speaker 1: so not only the so dynamic, but there's such good people. 722 00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:24,200 Speaker 1: So we just fill each other, fill each other, you 723 00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:26,680 Speaker 1: know what I mean. We just we just filled each other. So, 724 00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:29,279 Speaker 1: but this is actually my dream, you know what I'm saying, 725 00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:32,200 Speaker 1: Like I'm actually living my dream. And and I guess 726 00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:35,279 Speaker 1: so paranoid sometimes because I think it's I think I'm 727 00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:37,440 Speaker 1: gonna wake up and stop a bucket on my head 728 00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:40,200 Speaker 1: and uganda, you know what I'm saying, fetching water and 729 00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:42,439 Speaker 1: so I get to my office every day. Of course 730 00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:44,040 Speaker 1: it was a dream. I was doing a podcast, you 731 00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:46,560 Speaker 1: know what I mean. In Los Angeles would baby like 732 00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:51,120 Speaker 1: drinking whatever whatever this stuff is Like I used to 733 00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:53,600 Speaker 1: fetch water. Yeah, I used to fetch water. So it's 734 00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:55,759 Speaker 1: like I don't I don't believe. I don't. I really 735 00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:57,960 Speaker 1: don't believe, Like I live and I don't believe anything. 736 00:35:58,040 --> 00:36:00,399 Speaker 1: It's like actually real, I feel like I'm even I'm 737 00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:03,719 Speaker 1: in this dream and I'm just trying to like sick 738 00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:06,480 Speaker 1: my teeth into it as much as I can before 739 00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:10,239 Speaker 1: before I wake up. You know, Oh humble, you got 740 00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:14,919 Speaker 1: all the gems, I swear. So you recently celebrated your birthday? Yeah, yeah, 741 00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:20,879 Speaker 1: yeah with you. Yeah we did it up. We celebrated 742 00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:24,960 Speaker 1: in Mexico, and yeah, we did some fun stuff. It 743 00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:27,960 Speaker 1: was great. It was great. Actually many things that cannot 744 00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:33,880 Speaker 1: be talked about on this podcast. But what is something 745 00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:37,040 Speaker 1: that you're walking into this new year of life with, 746 00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:40,239 Speaker 1: you know, at this age, having you know, the kind 747 00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:45,640 Speaker 1: of wisdom that is just so painstakingly earned. Man, that's 748 00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:48,600 Speaker 1: a great word. Yeah, this next year? What does that 749 00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:50,560 Speaker 1: feel like? What does that look like? Because you're still 750 00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:54,320 Speaker 1: so young? Yeah, yeah, you know, you're so young and 751 00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:56,880 Speaker 1: you're at the top of your craft and you've lived 752 00:36:57,440 --> 00:37:00,880 Speaker 1: five lifetimes, right, and I'm feel good, you know, I'm 753 00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:03,160 Speaker 1: feeling great. So I I there's a lot of when 754 00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:04,320 Speaker 1: I look at what I want to do, and I 755 00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:07,920 Speaker 1: look at like a triangle, right, an equilateral triangle. One 756 00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:12,680 Speaker 1: side of that triangle is my relentless pursuit of financial 757 00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:16,719 Speaker 1: and generational freedom for the families I'm responsible for, right 758 00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:20,520 Speaker 1: locked in the other part of that triangle is philanthropy, 759 00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:23,880 Speaker 1: right um, finding ways to continue to have an impact 760 00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:26,439 Speaker 1: on the children of a country. But and a new 761 00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:30,520 Speaker 1: side of the triangle that I'm getting into, UM storytelling, 762 00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:34,920 Speaker 1: you know, UM and uh you know, producing films and 763 00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:39,200 Speaker 1: and and television and uh and even docuseries that I 764 00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:41,120 Speaker 1: want to do. I really want to do two things 765 00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:43,239 Speaker 1: with this with this part of this journey. One, I 766 00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:47,600 Speaker 1: want to tell stories of women of color, especially Black women, 767 00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:50,360 Speaker 1: who are the heroes of their own story. Like nobody 768 00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:53,640 Speaker 1: saved them, you know, no husband came, no white guy 769 00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:56,839 Speaker 1: on a horse. Like they changed the curse of their 770 00:37:56,880 --> 00:38:01,560 Speaker 1: family through pure pain, and they took their changed everything. 771 00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:03,919 Speaker 1: I want to find those stories and tell stories because 772 00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:07,200 Speaker 1: nobody wants to have an honest conversation about the sacrifices 773 00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:10,480 Speaker 1: that black women, you know, indoor on the behalf of 774 00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:14,520 Speaker 1: broken men. And and I want to tell those stories 775 00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:17,080 Speaker 1: and and show them as the as the heroes, as 776 00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:18,759 Speaker 1: a superhero that they are. Right. I know, all the 777 00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:20,840 Speaker 1: women listening right now, just take a big breath. You 778 00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:25,239 Speaker 1: know somebody and too and too, I want to I 779 00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:27,880 Speaker 1: want to. I want to tell stories that make vulnerability 780 00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:32,200 Speaker 1: cool and fight this toxic masculinity that's affecting us, especially 781 00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:34,879 Speaker 1: as as black as black men. You know, I want 782 00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:36,959 Speaker 1: to help black men feel. I want to help black 783 00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:39,440 Speaker 1: men heal. And I want to tell stories that that 784 00:38:39,640 --> 00:38:43,279 Speaker 1: are very very impactful, that can that can do those 785 00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:46,040 Speaker 1: two things. You know. Um, I want to sit there 786 00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:48,759 Speaker 1: for just one second because I want to dive into that. 787 00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:53,719 Speaker 1: That's something another thing that I just love about you, 788 00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:56,080 Speaker 1: and I love seeing that you put into the world. 789 00:38:56,440 --> 00:38:59,000 Speaker 1: You're a big hugger, a big hugger. You can give 790 00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:02,040 Speaker 1: some of the hugs in life, right, Like there's like 791 00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:05,680 Speaker 1: only like you. There's a couple of people that just 792 00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:09,399 Speaker 1: give those hugs that you remember, you know. And that's 793 00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:11,160 Speaker 1: something that I see you do, especially a lot with 794 00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:14,680 Speaker 1: your male clients. You know, like like the physicality of touch, 795 00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:18,120 Speaker 1: like not just like a quick little bumper dab. It's like, now, 796 00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:22,240 Speaker 1: give me a tight hug, get this hog in my seat. 797 00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:25,080 Speaker 1: When you are managing someone's money, you know everything about them, 798 00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:28,680 Speaker 1: right It's a it's a very intimate, deep trusting how 799 00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:33,320 Speaker 1: much toilet paper they orders. I know, I know, I 800 00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:36,879 Speaker 1: know everything. You know what I'm saying, um, and I'm 801 00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:39,759 Speaker 1: a volt, so that some stuff I'll be like, I 802 00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:43,560 Speaker 1: don't want humble to know to what I just thought. 803 00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:50,480 Speaker 1: Let me go take out some cash system, right, that 804 00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:53,120 Speaker 1: cash of food. But when you when when you met 805 00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:55,759 Speaker 1: when you are managing finances for some of the some 806 00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:58,680 Speaker 1: of the biggest names in sports, right, these alpha males 807 00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:02,600 Speaker 1: that are warriors and their gladiators, right, and they've taken 808 00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:05,799 Speaker 1: they've they've changed their family's name through their physicality. Man, 809 00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:09,040 Speaker 1: you start to really see the pain they come from, 810 00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:12,120 Speaker 1: the families, they come from, the neighborhoods, they come from, 811 00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:15,319 Speaker 1: the trauma they're fighting, you know. And when you humanize 812 00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:18,720 Speaker 1: them and you and you, you take away the helmet, 813 00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:21,880 Speaker 1: you take away the athletic prowess, and you look at 814 00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:25,280 Speaker 1: the core of this human spirit. More than managing their wealth, 815 00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:29,080 Speaker 1: I need to manage their wellness, you know what I mean. 816 00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:33,160 Speaker 1: I will fly in and have the most intimate conversation. 817 00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:35,440 Speaker 1: You know what I mean. I will fly in just 818 00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:39,080 Speaker 1: to give them a hug. I'm gonna create a space 819 00:40:39,480 --> 00:40:42,040 Speaker 1: where they can tell me anything and I force them 820 00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:44,719 Speaker 1: to and going to help them heal. Right, and and 821 00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:48,520 Speaker 1: so to me, I can't give the whole world a hug, right, 822 00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:52,080 Speaker 1: or I can't. I can't give every um black man 823 00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:54,279 Speaker 1: a hug because because I understand their pain. So I'm like, 824 00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:57,480 Speaker 1: how do you tell stories that can be entertaining, that 825 00:40:57,560 --> 00:41:00,319 Speaker 1: can be impactful, that can be profound. But we can, 826 00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:03,920 Speaker 1: but we can start to heal, just start to cry, 827 00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:06,719 Speaker 1: start to feel, you know, because if we don't do that, 828 00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:10,239 Speaker 1: then we're going to destroy everything we touch, our families, marriages, 829 00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:14,280 Speaker 1: um our careers, you know, because we're just walking around 830 00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:17,760 Speaker 1: with this pain nobody talks about with his open wounds, 831 00:41:17,840 --> 00:41:20,720 Speaker 1: nobody's dealing with, you know, and and trying to find 832 00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:24,480 Speaker 1: um peace and and and and chasing women are trying 833 00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:27,480 Speaker 1: to find peace in gambling, trying to find peace and achievement. 834 00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:30,279 Speaker 1: I mean some people, so folks, they're just hiding from 835 00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:33,080 Speaker 1: the trauma. Right. And but what we wasn't We would 836 00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:35,840 Speaker 1: never talked to feel, never talked to feel. Like like 837 00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:37,920 Speaker 1: I thought about it, I said, my father was an 838 00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:40,560 Speaker 1: amazing man, my hero, but I can probably count him 839 00:41:40,560 --> 00:41:42,239 Speaker 1: on one hand. I mean, like when you know what 840 00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:45,640 Speaker 1: I mean, like if he ever hugged me. I remember, 841 00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:50,160 Speaker 1: I remember touch means so to me. So I remember 842 00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:51,680 Speaker 1: one of my clients said the real est thing to 843 00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:53,680 Speaker 1: me one day. He was like, man, humble, you're the 844 00:41:53,880 --> 00:41:55,920 Speaker 1: only man in my life that's never let me down. 845 00:41:56,800 --> 00:41:58,960 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. And you know, another client 846 00:41:59,040 --> 00:42:02,360 Speaker 1: told me, may you the only has told me you 847 00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:05,480 Speaker 1: loved me? M you know what I mean? And so 848 00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:07,799 Speaker 1: like I make these guys, I don't care who you are, 849 00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:10,080 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. You know, I give these 850 00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:12,399 Speaker 1: guys the biggest hugs and I tell him I lovel 851 00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:14,800 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? And uh, and and I 852 00:42:14,960 --> 00:42:17,359 Speaker 1: forced them to have a safe place, you know. Um, 853 00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:19,279 Speaker 1: Like when you when you watch one of the movies 854 00:42:19,280 --> 00:42:21,120 Speaker 1: that really had a big impact in with Fences, right, 855 00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:24,640 Speaker 1: you're seeing Denzelo's character. He did such an amazing job, 856 00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:26,960 Speaker 1: but you can see his trauma will let him connect 857 00:42:26,960 --> 00:42:28,160 Speaker 1: to his son, you know what I mean. It was 858 00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:30,239 Speaker 1: like like he's right there in front of him, but 859 00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:32,480 Speaker 1: he just can't feel, you know what I mean. And 860 00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:36,120 Speaker 1: that and and he's destroying his family from that maximina 861 00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:39,080 Speaker 1: and that toxicity. Right, but I see it every day 862 00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:41,560 Speaker 1: as well. So something I would say all all the 863 00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:45,840 Speaker 1: time is you can't have real, real generation to change 864 00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:48,719 Speaker 1: until you see coldness for yourself, you know what I mean? 865 00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:51,440 Speaker 1: You know, of course, you know, like being able to 866 00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:56,480 Speaker 1: have access you know, to education and build your finances, 867 00:42:56,800 --> 00:43:00,560 Speaker 1: get great employment, like all of those things are absolutely valuable, 868 00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:07,240 Speaker 1: but real, real soul level generational change, right like breaking 869 00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:11,840 Speaker 1: of the quote unquote generational curses, you know, healing the 870 00:43:11,920 --> 00:43:15,480 Speaker 1: traumas and not passing them on. That can only happen 871 00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:18,960 Speaker 1: when you devote yourself to seeking wholeness or to holding 872 00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:22,759 Speaker 1: yourself to heal a thousand percent a thousand percent. And 873 00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:26,919 Speaker 1: we've never we've never had the tools or the safe 874 00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:30,400 Speaker 1: haven to feel you know what I mean? Men? You know? 875 00:43:30,560 --> 00:43:33,719 Speaker 1: So that's third part of that trial was I'm looking 876 00:43:33,719 --> 00:43:35,960 Speaker 1: forward to this year. Um, what's the name of your 877 00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:39,759 Speaker 1: production company? That's your too full, too ful Productions? Which 878 00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:43,399 Speaker 1: is too is like slang and in Luganda, my native tongue, 879 00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:45,480 Speaker 1: when somebody's being really honest, you you know, they say 880 00:43:45,560 --> 00:43:49,040 Speaker 1: something really honestly like to put too foul, like like 881 00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:54,120 Speaker 1: real he's talking about gospel truth, you know, you keeping 882 00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:57,920 Speaker 1: it out to do you know? Yeah, So I just 883 00:43:58,000 --> 00:43:59,960 Speaker 1: want to tell line of stories and I'm so luck 884 00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:02,319 Speaker 1: to be around so many, to be around so many 885 00:44:02,480 --> 00:44:05,960 Speaker 1: like incredible storytellers, um creators, And I come up with 886 00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:08,680 Speaker 1: these amazing ideas that I think are amazing, and then 887 00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:10,920 Speaker 1: I just give them to people that I that I 888 00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:14,359 Speaker 1: trusted and they helped me. But you know, I take 889 00:44:14,400 --> 00:44:16,399 Speaker 1: a step back, what, like, what is my real calling 890 00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:19,239 Speaker 1: in my life? Right? The real calling? Like you know, 891 00:44:19,320 --> 00:44:21,279 Speaker 1: this finance whatever you want to call whatever you want 892 00:44:21,280 --> 00:44:23,680 Speaker 1: to call me this this this fine this finance here 893 00:44:23,840 --> 00:44:27,279 Speaker 1: or this financial manager. Um. What I do is what documented, 894 00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:30,040 Speaker 1: but why I do it, um is what inspires me. 895 00:44:30,320 --> 00:44:33,879 Speaker 1: And I do it to to just help families heal 896 00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:37,919 Speaker 1: and transform, you know, and and and and yeah, sure 897 00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:40,600 Speaker 1: finances is a is a core part of that, but 898 00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:42,879 Speaker 1: it's more than just managing wealth. It's it's it's really 899 00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:46,759 Speaker 1: managing wellness and making and just helping people transform. And 900 00:44:46,960 --> 00:44:48,840 Speaker 1: I want to do that on a greater scale, you know. 901 00:44:48,960 --> 00:44:50,319 Speaker 1: And I think that's why I'm starting to step out 902 00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:52,799 Speaker 1: a little bit and tell my story. I'm so glad 903 00:44:52,880 --> 00:44:55,160 Speaker 1: you are. Yeah, I mean for years you've been telling 904 00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:56,800 Speaker 1: me too, and people have been telling me too. But 905 00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:58,560 Speaker 1: I just never wanted to be a target you know 906 00:44:58,880 --> 00:45:01,120 Speaker 1: and U. But but at the end of the day, 907 00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:02,600 Speaker 1: it's not about me. I just want to I want 908 00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:04,799 Speaker 1: to use my pain and my journey and I want 909 00:45:04,840 --> 00:45:07,320 Speaker 1: to I want to I want to uplift and and 910 00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:11,680 Speaker 1: uh and inspire people around the world to turn tragedy 911 00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:13,960 Speaker 1: into triumph. Yeah you know what I mean. And I 912 00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:17,160 Speaker 1: think I can. I can speaker, I can speak on 913 00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:20,840 Speaker 1: that confidently, right, So, um, yes, that's what That's what 914 00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:23,720 Speaker 1: I'm really looking forward to. But while I have such 915 00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:27,960 Speaker 1: a mastermind, uh, such a multi HYPHENI in front of me, 916 00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:31,240 Speaker 1: I really want to also give people some like game 917 00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:35,239 Speaker 1: right for their careers and for their finances. You have 918 00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:37,560 Speaker 1: your hands and a lot of things, as you've just shared. 919 00:45:37,640 --> 00:45:40,120 Speaker 1: I mean, you know again, you are running some of 920 00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:44,480 Speaker 1: the finances for the biggest hitters in Hollywood right now, 921 00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:49,120 Speaker 1: the biggest hitters in sports, executives, lots and lots of creatives. 922 00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:52,520 Speaker 1: You have, your your network is massive. The people that 923 00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:55,759 Speaker 1: you know and have great relationships with in entertainment and 924 00:45:55,880 --> 00:46:00,839 Speaker 1: finance and government and yeah, you got everybody right. Yeah, 925 00:46:00,880 --> 00:46:04,680 Speaker 1: I'm lucky. So how how do you get to that place? Like? 926 00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:07,200 Speaker 1: What what is one of the things that really helped 927 00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:10,879 Speaker 1: you to build and maintain relationships in your field of work. 928 00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:13,279 Speaker 1: Oh wow, that's a great question. Um, I want let 929 00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:15,680 Speaker 1: me take a step back, and no man is an island, right, So, 930 00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:18,920 Speaker 1: like I think that my biggest quality is I know 931 00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:23,160 Speaker 1: how to develop talent. So my my team is impeccable, 932 00:46:23,480 --> 00:46:27,640 Speaker 1: you know, like my guys, you know, Brandon, Wiobo, Matt, 933 00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:31,480 Speaker 1: like my guys incredible, you know how big guys. Your 934 00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:35,040 Speaker 1: staff Now, we got we about we had seventeen right 935 00:46:35,080 --> 00:46:37,239 Speaker 1: now and then to twenty four by June because we 936 00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:40,239 Speaker 1: were kind of a hiring frenzy. But but you know, 937 00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:42,200 Speaker 1: I've been with you know, my staff, So first you 938 00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:45,480 Speaker 1: got us wrong. First you you I've um, my team 939 00:46:45,600 --> 00:46:48,800 Speaker 1: is just impeccable, right and uh and we built a 940 00:46:49,120 --> 00:46:52,160 Speaker 1: company culture. There's no bosses, there's no hierarchy, there's nothing. 941 00:46:52,280 --> 00:46:54,080 Speaker 1: There's not in that nature. Man, it's just just like 942 00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:57,960 Speaker 1: undervoted love for the mission, the mission, the mission, the missions. 943 00:46:58,000 --> 00:47:00,160 Speaker 1: No job is too No job is too small, job 944 00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:03,920 Speaker 1: is too big? Right. Um? So but to maintain relationships, 945 00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:06,960 Speaker 1: you know, always build relationships. For me, it's like I've 946 00:47:07,000 --> 00:47:10,880 Speaker 1: always wanted to be around like minded people, you know 947 00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:13,160 Speaker 1: what I mean? And so like I like, I love 948 00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:14,800 Speaker 1: sitting down this morning and saying, hey, what are you 949 00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:17,719 Speaker 1: working on right now? That's that's really inspiring you. Or 950 00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:19,680 Speaker 1: tell me, tell me a book that you just read 951 00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:22,600 Speaker 1: man that has changed your perspective on something. And I 952 00:47:22,680 --> 00:47:24,960 Speaker 1: want to be around light, you know what I mean? 953 00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:28,400 Speaker 1: And uh, because then light attracts light, you know. But 954 00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:31,920 Speaker 1: how I build what what I'm becoming is through a 955 00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:36,719 Speaker 1: pure devotion to humanity. I forget the money, forget the 956 00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:40,799 Speaker 1: I mean the at tension. That stuff is not real, 957 00:47:40,960 --> 00:47:43,120 Speaker 1: Like it's it's not real because it's crazy. When the 958 00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:45,520 Speaker 1: Hollywoo reported it a story on me, right, um, now 959 00:47:45,640 --> 00:47:48,279 Speaker 1: everybody's it's hidening me. I'm the same guy, you know 960 00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:50,080 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But it's just like people think that 961 00:47:50,239 --> 00:47:52,680 Speaker 1: once you've got people validate you, that now you validated. 962 00:47:53,040 --> 00:47:55,680 Speaker 1: But no, like I don't, I don't. I'm I'm grateful, 963 00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:58,040 Speaker 1: but I'm so committed to like the devotion of the 964 00:47:58,160 --> 00:48:00,920 Speaker 1: human spirit and like and like making sure that the 965 00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:03,360 Speaker 1: people I'm responsible for I taken care of, right, And 966 00:48:03,440 --> 00:48:05,080 Speaker 1: so I tell people the time, like you have to 967 00:48:05,160 --> 00:48:07,200 Speaker 1: figure out what that means for you, like, because if 968 00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:09,680 Speaker 1: you're chasing money, Well, you're not really chasing that purpose. 969 00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:12,120 Speaker 1: Even if you do attain the money, you're gonna feel 970 00:48:12,200 --> 00:48:16,680 Speaker 1: so empty. Yeah, you know what I mean. It's like 971 00:48:16,840 --> 00:48:19,359 Speaker 1: it's like it's like, when it's all said and done 972 00:48:19,400 --> 00:48:21,560 Speaker 1: and you're ninety years old, what impact did you have 973 00:48:21,920 --> 00:48:23,879 Speaker 1: on others? Like, how did you how did you serve? 974 00:48:23,960 --> 00:48:27,000 Speaker 1: Answer to me, My leadership style is servitude. I just 975 00:48:27,080 --> 00:48:30,240 Speaker 1: love to serve, serve, serve, serve, serve, and that creates 976 00:48:30,320 --> 00:48:34,279 Speaker 1: like this flow of of of of goodness that attracts people, 977 00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:36,239 Speaker 1: you know, and they tell people and other people tell 978 00:48:36,280 --> 00:48:38,840 Speaker 1: people and then you just you just keep serving, you know. 979 00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:41,000 Speaker 1: So that's that's my that's my mindset. And I think 980 00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:45,239 Speaker 1: your your network grows as you help more people. Yeah, 981 00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:46,839 Speaker 1: you know, I think a lot of people come into 982 00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:48,080 Speaker 1: it saying like, Okay, what can you do for me? 983 00:48:48,239 --> 00:48:50,000 Speaker 1: But I've never thought about it that way, even even 984 00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:52,160 Speaker 1: when I was in a kid, right, just like naturally, 985 00:48:52,200 --> 00:48:54,120 Speaker 1: even when I was starting out, I was always like, Okay, 986 00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:56,120 Speaker 1: I'm gonna help this person get here. I'm gonna help 987 00:48:56,160 --> 00:48:58,239 Speaker 1: this person get here. I'm gonna help this person get here. 988 00:48:58,280 --> 00:49:01,000 Speaker 1: And I tell people all the time, you can accomplish anything. 989 00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:03,480 Speaker 1: You can accomplish all that you want out of your 990 00:49:03,560 --> 00:49:05,440 Speaker 1: life if you help as many people as you can 991 00:49:05,560 --> 00:49:09,160 Speaker 1: get all that they want out of life. You know 992 00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:13,959 Speaker 1: what I mean, Because the high tide lips all boats. Yeah, 993 00:49:14,400 --> 00:49:16,760 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And so service service service, 994 00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:19,239 Speaker 1: you know, And that's how And basically, so the cheat 995 00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:23,560 Speaker 1: code really is be authentic and be a good person. Help, 996 00:49:23,920 --> 00:49:26,719 Speaker 1: don't don't don't don't say what, don't say what can 997 00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:28,640 Speaker 1: somebody do for me? What can I do for you? 998 00:49:28,880 --> 00:49:30,319 Speaker 1: Or yeah, you want to do this, Okay, I'm going 999 00:49:30,360 --> 00:49:31,800 Speaker 1: to connect you with this person. And you want to 1000 00:49:31,840 --> 00:49:33,399 Speaker 1: do this, I'm gonna connect you with this person. Even 1001 00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:35,520 Speaker 1: when I was younger and and uh and I wanted 1002 00:49:35,560 --> 00:49:37,279 Speaker 1: to get like some advice of eighteen years old, trying 1003 00:49:37,280 --> 00:49:39,400 Speaker 1: to figure things out, and I would call like mentors. 1004 00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:41,400 Speaker 1: I would say, hey, listen, I want to come more 1005 00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:44,440 Speaker 1: your grass for thirty minutes of your time. Wow, you 1006 00:49:44,480 --> 00:49:48,240 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying that again, So, like I always 1007 00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:50,960 Speaker 1: knew that if I it always has to be like 1008 00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:52,600 Speaker 1: it can't be a one way you know what I mean. 1009 00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:54,560 Speaker 1: You can't be like I gotta feed you. I think 1010 00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:57,400 Speaker 1: that's one of the biggest things that young people make, right, 1011 00:49:57,520 --> 00:50:00,480 Speaker 1: because a big buzzword is mentor, like find a mentor, 1012 00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:04,279 Speaker 1: or you know, get an internship or you know. But 1013 00:50:04,600 --> 00:50:06,520 Speaker 1: it's this sense that young people have, and I think 1014 00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:09,279 Speaker 1: it's really because they just when you're when you're at 1015 00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:12,160 Speaker 1: a certain age, life has always revolved around you and 1016 00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:15,200 Speaker 1: your home and at your school, so that narrative continues 1017 00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:18,160 Speaker 1: until you get a little bit more life experience. But 1018 00:50:18,400 --> 00:50:22,239 Speaker 1: you think that everybody needs to just give to you 1019 00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:27,040 Speaker 1: because you're asking. I give knowledge, give time, give opportunity, 1020 00:50:27,600 --> 00:50:29,920 Speaker 1: all simply because you're asking for it. And in no 1021 00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:33,560 Speaker 1: way do you see the need to reciprocate their relationship 1022 00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:36,160 Speaker 1: or give of whatever it is that you have. You 1023 00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:39,239 Speaker 1: know that that I think that for me, that's my 1024 00:50:39,320 --> 00:50:42,360 Speaker 1: biggest frustration when I've had interns in the past and 1025 00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:45,560 Speaker 1: what I hear, you know, from other people about about 1026 00:50:46,480 --> 00:50:50,200 Speaker 1: young minds that they've worked with, because it is a relationship. 1027 00:50:50,280 --> 00:50:53,120 Speaker 1: It's just I don't know, you like that you have 1028 00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:55,040 Speaker 1: my child, you know what. I think. I think a 1029 00:50:55,080 --> 00:50:57,160 Speaker 1: lot of people want the mentor to take on the 1030 00:50:57,320 --> 00:50:59,719 Speaker 1: role of a pseudo parent, of course, you know, like 1031 00:50:59,800 --> 00:51:01,480 Speaker 1: I want to be able to have whatever kind of 1032 00:51:01,560 --> 00:51:04,239 Speaker 1: bad or brady behavior I want, but still see the 1033 00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:08,000 Speaker 1: best in me. Still give me chances and give me opportunities. 1034 00:51:08,080 --> 00:51:10,520 Speaker 1: And you know it's I think the people that figure 1035 00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:13,920 Speaker 1: that out younger do the best. That That's one of 1036 00:51:14,000 --> 00:51:16,840 Speaker 1: the series I knew. I knew, like even in my 1037 00:51:17,040 --> 00:51:19,839 Speaker 1: very first internship and you know, getting started. I used 1038 00:51:19,840 --> 00:51:22,480 Speaker 1: to intern at a label and interned for Universal, I 1039 00:51:23,040 --> 00:51:26,719 Speaker 1: interned for Interscope, I interned at a radio station. But 1040 00:51:26,920 --> 00:51:28,560 Speaker 1: I was always like, what can I do for you 1041 00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:32,000 Speaker 1: outside of the jest, you know, the very typical I'll 1042 00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:35,120 Speaker 1: go get your coffee. People can get their own damn coffee. 1043 00:51:35,160 --> 00:51:37,040 Speaker 1: What can I do for you? What do you need? 1044 00:51:37,680 --> 00:51:39,920 Speaker 1: What are your pressure? How can how can I enhance 1045 00:51:40,280 --> 00:51:42,839 Speaker 1: whatever you're working on without you telling me? How can 1046 00:51:42,880 --> 00:51:45,920 Speaker 1: I be intuitive to what your needs are and provide something? 1047 00:51:46,719 --> 00:51:48,239 Speaker 1: You know, to be able to have the honor of 1048 00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:51,440 Speaker 1: getting your time and getting your attention and your opportunity. 1049 00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:54,720 Speaker 1: The more people you can help, the bigger your inmpluments 1050 00:51:54,760 --> 00:51:56,160 Speaker 1: are going to be and everything else they're going to 1051 00:51:56,280 --> 00:51:58,520 Speaker 1: come to that. But one thing that I was I 1052 00:51:58,600 --> 00:52:01,480 Speaker 1: tell young people they're listening, is just start where you 1053 00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:05,640 Speaker 1: are and be excellent, Like be like if you if 1054 00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:09,719 Speaker 1: if right now you are stock in the shelves at 1055 00:52:09,960 --> 00:52:14,040 Speaker 1: office depot, be that be the greatest like at that 1056 00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:17,799 Speaker 1: role than anybody in the company. You know, because when 1057 00:52:17,840 --> 00:52:20,319 Speaker 1: you start to practice like habits of excellence, you get 1058 00:52:20,400 --> 00:52:22,520 Speaker 1: just like muscle memory and then one day what you 1059 00:52:22,640 --> 00:52:25,520 Speaker 1: really want to do or whatever's gonna happen, and guess what, man, 1060 00:52:25,600 --> 00:52:27,680 Speaker 1: you have the you have those habits, you know. And 1061 00:52:27,760 --> 00:52:29,279 Speaker 1: I tell people in the time, like if you know, 1062 00:52:29,320 --> 00:52:30,640 Speaker 1: how are you gonna take over the role? And you 1063 00:52:30,680 --> 00:52:33,320 Speaker 1: can't you don't make your bed in the morning, like 1064 00:52:33,840 --> 00:52:36,239 Speaker 1: you's know what I'm saying. I don't like like it. 1065 00:52:36,640 --> 00:52:40,640 Speaker 1: It's a discipline of just you know. And I'm like, 1066 00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:43,360 Speaker 1: just more than knowing what you want to do with 1067 00:52:43,480 --> 00:52:47,280 Speaker 1: your life, is just like getting really good at getting 1068 00:52:47,360 --> 00:52:50,040 Speaker 1: really good, you know what I'm saying. And it's like 1069 00:52:50,120 --> 00:52:53,279 Speaker 1: and and just dominating where you are because doors start 1070 00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:55,839 Speaker 1: to open, you know, the mean doors start to open 1071 00:52:55,880 --> 00:52:58,279 Speaker 1: and you'd be surprised it's gonna come. Someone's gonna notice that. 1072 00:52:58,320 --> 00:52:59,480 Speaker 1: I'm like, man, you need to come work for me. 1073 00:52:59,680 --> 00:53:01,880 Speaker 1: You need to do this because you are just so 1074 00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:05,440 Speaker 1: committed to where you are mediocre is so prevalent. So 1075 00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:09,480 Speaker 1: when you are seeking excellence, man, you stand out, comediate, 1076 00:53:10,320 --> 00:53:14,920 Speaker 1: you stand out, you know, and uh, but you're not 1077 00:53:15,160 --> 00:53:17,239 Speaker 1: gonna turn it on. Like it's it's like if you 1078 00:53:17,280 --> 00:53:19,600 Speaker 1: don't if you don't have excellence, if you don't have 1079 00:53:19,840 --> 00:53:22,640 Speaker 1: discipline and habits that you practice, even if you're an 1080 00:53:22,680 --> 00:53:25,200 Speaker 1: opportunity comes, you're not going to be able to take 1081 00:53:25,200 --> 00:53:28,239 Speaker 1: advantagement because you do not have the muscle memory. Yeah, 1082 00:53:28,880 --> 00:53:30,600 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It's almost like going to 1083 00:53:30,640 --> 00:53:32,239 Speaker 1: work out, right, you go to work out and like 1084 00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:33,880 Speaker 1: maybe you trying to put up two hundred pounds and 1085 00:53:33,920 --> 00:53:35,880 Speaker 1: it's heavy and you can't do it, but you keep 1086 00:53:35,920 --> 00:53:38,680 Speaker 1: going and keep going and keep going. Eventually you you 1087 00:53:38,800 --> 00:53:41,480 Speaker 1: do it. You know the way it didn't change, you 1088 00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:43,839 Speaker 1: got stronger. But but I see so many people wasting 1089 00:53:43,880 --> 00:53:46,640 Speaker 1: their lives just like like the opportunity is here, but 1090 00:53:46,760 --> 00:53:48,840 Speaker 1: your character isn't ready. It's not ready, like you know, 1091 00:53:48,880 --> 00:53:51,400 Speaker 1: and it's like and wherever you are, like right now, 1092 00:53:51,600 --> 00:53:55,800 Speaker 1: you're you're in the mail room, right, kill it, kill it, 1093 00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:57,719 Speaker 1: kill it, because if you can't kill the marl room, 1094 00:53:57,719 --> 00:53:59,759 Speaker 1: you're gonna you're gonna kill this next level. And you know, 1095 00:54:00,040 --> 00:54:02,759 Speaker 1: I think is a is hard for people now. So 1096 00:54:02,920 --> 00:54:05,120 Speaker 1: you and I are both at the very top end 1097 00:54:05,520 --> 00:54:09,640 Speaker 1: of millennials at that point. Yeah, technically we're considered millennials, right, 1098 00:54:09,680 --> 00:54:12,880 Speaker 1: but we are at the very very tippity top of it. 1099 00:54:13,520 --> 00:54:17,600 Speaker 1: So we remember a life prior to cell phones. Really 1100 00:54:17,640 --> 00:54:20,080 Speaker 1: like the girl, you just write me that letter and 1101 00:54:20,200 --> 00:54:23,719 Speaker 1: folded up fancy, you know, let me let me unfolded, 1102 00:54:23,800 --> 00:54:29,680 Speaker 1: make it a little shape. Damn, I haven't thought about that. 1103 00:54:30,520 --> 00:54:32,080 Speaker 1: We had to work, but yeah, you know, so we 1104 00:54:32,239 --> 00:54:35,080 Speaker 1: remember life prior to social media. I was in college 1105 00:54:35,120 --> 00:54:38,120 Speaker 1: when Facebook launched, when you still needed it to You 1106 00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:41,000 Speaker 1: still needed to actually be a college student to sign 1107 00:54:41,120 --> 00:54:46,000 Speaker 1: up for Facebook. It was called the Facebook dot com. Yeah, 1108 00:54:46,560 --> 00:54:49,160 Speaker 1: you know, the Black Planets and the my Space anyway, 1109 00:54:49,239 --> 00:54:52,719 Speaker 1: So we remember life life before those things. Um, which 1110 00:54:52,840 --> 00:54:55,040 Speaker 1: is truly a blessing now I'm realizing. But I think 1111 00:54:55,080 --> 00:54:57,399 Speaker 1: what's really tough for young people now that are trying 1112 00:54:57,440 --> 00:54:59,480 Speaker 1: to develop their character and go out and get it 1113 00:54:59,760 --> 00:55:02,680 Speaker 1: is all of the social proof. Like when we were 1114 00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:05,840 Speaker 1: when we were starting, there was at most I was 1115 00:55:05,960 --> 00:55:08,800 Speaker 1: putting pictures up once in a while on my MySpace 1116 00:55:08,880 --> 00:55:11,719 Speaker 1: page that I scanned into my computer. You know what 1117 00:55:11,800 --> 00:55:14,720 Speaker 1: I mean. So it's like, and there wasn't a section 1118 00:55:15,040 --> 00:55:18,239 Speaker 1: for like, you know, a bio in the sense that Hi, 1119 00:55:18,480 --> 00:55:21,880 Speaker 1: I'm a you know whatever, I'm the CEO of you 1120 00:55:22,360 --> 00:55:25,719 Speaker 1: double down production something that does not exist yet or 1121 00:55:25,880 --> 00:55:28,120 Speaker 1: you know. So I think for now for a lot 1122 00:55:28,200 --> 00:55:32,600 Speaker 1: of people, because everything they think, everything about their identity 1123 00:55:33,120 --> 00:55:36,120 Speaker 1: is wrapped around what their social proof is, what they 1124 00:55:36,160 --> 00:55:39,160 Speaker 1: can be perceived as a proof. Nobody wants to be 1125 00:55:39,320 --> 00:55:44,239 Speaker 1: seen when they're starting. Everybody wants to be seen seen 1126 00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:49,520 Speaker 1: from a standpoint yeah of people. You know, you want 1127 00:55:49,560 --> 00:55:52,600 Speaker 1: people to compare yourself themselves to you. You want people 1128 00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:54,719 Speaker 1: to have a little what are they doing? You know? 1129 00:55:54,840 --> 00:55:57,640 Speaker 1: And it doesn't because their minds work that way. Doesn't 1130 00:55:57,680 --> 00:55:59,960 Speaker 1: give them the opportunity to be grateful for where they're 1131 00:56:00,040 --> 00:56:03,000 Speaker 1: at in the starting point and to just slowly cultivate 1132 00:56:03,120 --> 00:56:05,400 Speaker 1: and grind and build where you want to be. They 1133 00:56:05,480 --> 00:56:08,080 Speaker 1: have to wake up and be it or they're worthless, 1134 00:56:08,480 --> 00:56:11,200 Speaker 1: you know. And so it takes out the understanding of 1135 00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:14,359 Speaker 1: how work in the world works. It's such a big way. Yeah, 1136 00:56:14,640 --> 00:56:17,680 Speaker 1: it's so true. And our say comparison as a thief 1137 00:56:17,719 --> 00:56:21,320 Speaker 1: of joy, you know what I mean, because your journey 1138 00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:24,440 Speaker 1: is your journey. It's yours. It's your journey. Man, like 1139 00:56:25,000 --> 00:56:27,600 Speaker 1: you you we all got built different cards and so 1140 00:56:28,120 --> 00:56:30,200 Speaker 1: may just play your hand as well as you can 1141 00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:33,480 Speaker 1: and be proud of that. But they you know, it's 1142 00:56:33,880 --> 00:56:35,719 Speaker 1: so true what you're saying, because when I take a 1143 00:56:35,719 --> 00:56:37,640 Speaker 1: step back and look at the where we are with 1144 00:56:37,760 --> 00:56:40,040 Speaker 1: social media, it is the first time, at least in 1145 00:56:40,120 --> 00:56:44,000 Speaker 1: my life that people think people are disposable. Yeah, like people, 1146 00:56:44,080 --> 00:56:46,000 Speaker 1: what you think people are disposable because you can just 1147 00:56:46,239 --> 00:56:48,919 Speaker 1: follow on follow or swipe rights right, like you said, people, 1148 00:56:49,080 --> 00:56:52,080 Speaker 1: It's just it's crazy, you know, so that the value 1149 00:56:52,080 --> 00:56:55,759 Speaker 1: of humanity isn't a very crazy fun. It's a very 1150 00:56:55,920 --> 00:56:57,960 Speaker 1: it's a crazy function. Right now where we are we 1151 00:56:58,280 --> 00:57:00,840 Speaker 1: really crazy sensitized. I don't know if that's even the 1152 00:57:00,960 --> 00:57:03,040 Speaker 1: right word to use for this, but like, for instance, 1153 00:57:03,160 --> 00:57:06,239 Speaker 1: right like someone could have a million followers, but now 1154 00:57:06,440 --> 00:57:08,719 Speaker 1: if there's someone else that has four million followers, then 1155 00:57:08,719 --> 00:57:11,480 Speaker 1: they're not yet and you're and you're thinking to yourself, well, yeah, 1156 00:57:11,520 --> 00:57:15,520 Speaker 1: they have a million followers, but whatever, that's one million people. 1157 00:57:15,800 --> 00:57:18,120 Speaker 1: Like these numbers are getting so big that you can't 1158 00:57:18,120 --> 00:57:20,480 Speaker 1: even wrap your mind around it for it to seem 1159 00:57:20,560 --> 00:57:23,040 Speaker 1: like a real thing, you know, like I think one 1160 00:57:23,080 --> 00:57:28,160 Speaker 1: of the Kardashians has one hundred million followers, one hundred 1161 00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:32,320 Speaker 1: million people. I can't even envision that. That's that's like 1162 00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:36,240 Speaker 1: a whole country, right, Yeah, it's bizarre, it's a very 1163 00:57:36,640 --> 00:57:38,320 Speaker 1: but you also have to feel you also have to 1164 00:57:38,800 --> 00:57:40,800 Speaker 1: you also take a step back and you kind of 1165 00:57:40,800 --> 00:57:42,480 Speaker 1: seeing that you have to ask yourself what impact that 1166 00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:45,720 Speaker 1: you're making with your Yeah? Yeah, how much do you 1167 00:57:45,800 --> 00:57:48,160 Speaker 1: like really mean to you? You know, why are you 1168 00:57:48,320 --> 00:57:51,640 Speaker 1: tied to that as your as your measure of how 1169 00:57:51,720 --> 00:57:53,880 Speaker 1: you feel about yourself? And it's not all our fault. 1170 00:57:53,880 --> 00:57:57,080 Speaker 1: I mean in reality, like this is this is a 1171 00:57:57,160 --> 00:58:01,479 Speaker 1: new drug, been programmed some of the ways that we feel. 1172 00:58:02,040 --> 00:58:04,480 Speaker 1: It's not even in our own wheelhouse to feel that 1173 00:58:04,560 --> 00:58:07,880 Speaker 1: way like we have been trained to feel. And then 1174 00:58:07,960 --> 00:58:09,800 Speaker 1: you have to try to figure out that you feel 1175 00:58:09,880 --> 00:58:11,880 Speaker 1: this way and try to reel it back in. Um, 1176 00:58:12,440 --> 00:58:15,360 Speaker 1: that's interesting. It's also it's also but it's also so 1177 00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:18,680 Speaker 1: great because it's like now you have access to some 1178 00:58:18,760 --> 00:58:20,000 Speaker 1: of them, you know what I mean, Like, can you 1179 00:58:20,080 --> 00:58:21,920 Speaker 1: imagine that we were coming up you could I couldn't 1180 00:58:21,960 --> 00:58:24,160 Speaker 1: talk to like a Malcolm Gladwell, I just hit him 1181 00:58:24,240 --> 00:58:26,480 Speaker 1: up and we talk on or I couldn't you can 1182 00:58:26,640 --> 00:58:29,480 Speaker 1: talk like you you didn't know what your favorite person like, 1183 00:58:29,800 --> 00:58:31,280 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? You didn't like the people 1184 00:58:31,320 --> 00:58:33,520 Speaker 1: You're world The world seem so far and like, but 1185 00:58:33,600 --> 00:58:35,680 Speaker 1: now we're still connected, and now we're seeing things happen 1186 00:58:35,720 --> 00:58:38,640 Speaker 1: in real time. We're seeing pros, you know, police brutality, 1187 00:58:38,640 --> 00:58:40,960 Speaker 1: We're seeing like things happen in real time. You know, 1188 00:58:41,040 --> 00:58:43,640 Speaker 1: we're having the same conversations. So there's so much there's 1189 00:58:43,680 --> 00:58:45,760 Speaker 1: so much great things happening right now. But from the 1190 00:58:45,800 --> 00:58:47,960 Speaker 1: young people, man, it's like you want to just make 1191 00:58:48,000 --> 00:58:53,480 Speaker 1: sure that like dream your dreams, but don't pretend, like, 1192 00:58:53,760 --> 00:58:56,520 Speaker 1: don't pretend like if that's what you want to do it, 1193 00:58:57,360 --> 00:59:00,440 Speaker 1: don't don't have two lives right where on or on 1194 00:59:00,480 --> 00:59:04,160 Speaker 1: your socials, you know what I mean. Don't calm people, Yeah, 1195 00:59:04,400 --> 00:59:07,160 Speaker 1: don't calm your don't calm yourself. You know, like you 1196 00:59:07,360 --> 00:59:09,880 Speaker 1: have your dreams, but don't pretend, like, put that grind 1197 00:59:09,960 --> 00:59:13,000 Speaker 1: and put that work in and really be and really 1198 00:59:13,080 --> 00:59:14,920 Speaker 1: get to where you want to go instead of instead 1199 00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:17,400 Speaker 1: of instead of having one life that you that you 1200 00:59:17,600 --> 00:59:20,760 Speaker 1: present and then the real life that you that you 1201 00:59:20,920 --> 00:59:23,200 Speaker 1: live because the only person you're hurting is yourself. Right, 1202 00:59:23,240 --> 00:59:25,360 Speaker 1: you got a chance to figure out who you are, 1203 00:59:25,880 --> 00:59:28,640 Speaker 1: to love, who you are for for where you are. 1204 00:59:30,040 --> 00:59:34,240 Speaker 1: What is what's one of the biggest difficulties that you 1205 00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:37,720 Speaker 1: experience working with clients who have a lot of wealth. 1206 00:59:38,040 --> 00:59:40,560 Speaker 1: Everybody is really different, but I think the biggest, the biggest, 1207 00:59:40,680 --> 00:59:44,800 Speaker 1: the hardest challenge is slowing everything down and taking this 1208 00:59:45,120 --> 00:59:47,640 Speaker 1: winning this race out of turtle space and keeping the 1209 00:59:47,720 --> 00:59:54,920 Speaker 1: wolves away because is you know, family members, right, uh, friends, 1210 00:59:55,800 --> 00:59:58,280 Speaker 1: you know, old pastors, you know, the whole, the whole. 1211 00:59:58,520 --> 01:00:01,520 Speaker 1: Because what happens, especially in sports, to your salaries public 1212 01:00:01,960 --> 01:00:03,520 Speaker 1: that's crazy to me, you know what I mean? Like 1213 01:00:03,560 --> 01:00:06,040 Speaker 1: that the second client signs a big deal is everywhere 1214 01:00:06,120 --> 01:00:09,000 Speaker 1: or espen Now now your pastors calling, You're saying, we 1215 01:00:09,080 --> 01:00:10,800 Speaker 1: gotta fix the roof and it's gonna be two and 1216 01:00:10,960 --> 01:00:13,200 Speaker 1: fifty dollars, you know what I mean. Every every dinner 1217 01:00:13,240 --> 01:00:16,320 Speaker 1: you have, they're looking at you like, you know, every 1218 01:00:16,400 --> 01:00:19,080 Speaker 1: family member doesn't want to work, and nobody wants to work. 1219 01:00:19,160 --> 01:00:21,600 Speaker 1: It's just like it's so much, it's so much pressure, 1220 01:00:22,000 --> 01:00:23,880 Speaker 1: and they want to have the same level of lifestyle 1221 01:00:23,920 --> 01:00:25,439 Speaker 1: as you. You know, what I mean they want yeah, 1222 01:00:25,480 --> 01:00:27,920 Speaker 1: so and it's like and and also you know when 1223 01:00:27,960 --> 01:00:30,800 Speaker 1: you come into money, so so suddenly you're still you're 1224 01:00:30,840 --> 01:00:33,680 Speaker 1: still young, you know, but you have so much, right, So, 1225 01:00:34,240 --> 01:00:36,040 Speaker 1: how do you how do you get a young person 1226 01:00:36,120 --> 01:00:38,320 Speaker 1: you buy in right away, especially with their careers are 1227 01:00:38,320 --> 01:00:41,360 Speaker 1: going to be short, right? Um, So you know the 1228 01:00:41,440 --> 01:00:43,840 Speaker 1: challenges are there, but the most the hardest thing though 1229 01:00:44,080 --> 01:00:49,360 Speaker 1: is behavior, behavior, behavior behavior. You have to influence behavior, 1230 01:00:49,800 --> 01:00:52,479 Speaker 1: you have to change behavior because how you spend money 1231 01:00:53,000 --> 01:00:57,920 Speaker 1: is directly linked to your value system, directly linked. You know. 1232 01:00:58,360 --> 01:01:00,919 Speaker 1: That's how to solve case is they just chase the money, 1233 01:01:01,160 --> 01:01:04,680 Speaker 1: you know, that's what this person is into money? You know, 1234 01:01:04,760 --> 01:01:06,400 Speaker 1: So how do you get someone not to buy the 1235 01:01:06,480 --> 01:01:10,840 Speaker 1: chain and not to give money to their family members 1236 01:01:10,920 --> 01:01:13,760 Speaker 1: and their friends, and not to pay everybody's rent? And 1237 01:01:14,280 --> 01:01:17,440 Speaker 1: there's a difference, there's a difference between hoping and enabling, right, 1238 01:01:17,720 --> 01:01:20,840 Speaker 1: And there's a difference also, um, And also it's like, 1239 01:01:21,000 --> 01:01:23,680 Speaker 1: what tell me what's important to you and then let's 1240 01:01:23,720 --> 01:01:26,000 Speaker 1: make sure that every decision we make is directly linked 1241 01:01:26,040 --> 01:01:29,160 Speaker 1: to those values. If you're telling me the generational wealth, 1242 01:01:29,280 --> 01:01:31,919 Speaker 1: making sure that your your all these people are gonna 1243 01:01:31,960 --> 01:01:36,720 Speaker 1: be good. Well, uh, those decisions directly, those decisions helping 1244 01:01:36,800 --> 01:01:39,479 Speaker 1: that you know, so it's happened, really honest conversations. Money 1245 01:01:39,640 --> 01:01:42,160 Speaker 1: is just a tool for freedom, um. And it's and 1246 01:01:42,200 --> 01:01:43,800 Speaker 1: if you, if you're able to use it right, you 1247 01:01:43,880 --> 01:01:46,600 Speaker 1: can free yourself and your family from a life of limitations, 1248 01:01:47,320 --> 01:01:49,560 Speaker 1: especially for us people of color, where this country will 1249 01:01:49,640 --> 01:01:51,480 Speaker 1: never be for us, right, it's just not the way 1250 01:01:51,480 --> 01:01:54,080 Speaker 1: it's set up. Right. So you want your children's children 1251 01:01:54,160 --> 01:01:56,880 Speaker 1: to never be never have a ceiling. You want them 1252 01:01:56,920 --> 01:01:59,400 Speaker 1: to be free from all fear, all limitation. That's what 1253 01:01:59,560 --> 01:02:02,240 Speaker 1: that's what's a powerful about this. And so any single 1254 01:02:02,360 --> 01:02:05,720 Speaker 1: person that's like taking you from that, from that point 1255 01:02:05,840 --> 01:02:08,280 Speaker 1: in your life, it's just not worth it, you know. Um. 1256 01:02:08,680 --> 01:02:12,400 Speaker 1: And I'm not saying don't help, but sometimes you have 1257 01:02:12,520 --> 01:02:14,520 Speaker 1: to take a step back and realize, Okay, am I 1258 01:02:14,600 --> 01:02:17,120 Speaker 1: really helping? Am I really enabling? And is there a 1259 01:02:17,160 --> 01:02:18,880 Speaker 1: better way to do so? So I always tell clients 1260 01:02:18,960 --> 01:02:21,600 Speaker 1: is this, if somebody calls your family, member, cousin, friend, whatever, 1261 01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:23,640 Speaker 1: anybody calls you're asking you for money, it's just simply 1262 01:02:23,680 --> 01:02:25,480 Speaker 1: just tell them just to write up a three four 1263 01:02:25,520 --> 01:02:28,160 Speaker 1: page business plan. See if they'll do it. And then 1264 01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:32,200 Speaker 1: you're thinking, yeah, don't do it. Want to give me 1265 01:02:32,280 --> 01:02:36,080 Speaker 1: this just to go to go, you know what I mean? 1266 01:02:36,560 --> 01:02:38,240 Speaker 1: Or just make them do a little work, you know 1267 01:02:38,280 --> 01:02:41,120 Speaker 1: what I mean? Or hey, I want to get into this. Okay, cool, 1268 01:02:41,280 --> 01:02:44,640 Speaker 1: I'll pay for your courses, you know. So like make 1269 01:02:44,720 --> 01:02:48,280 Speaker 1: people meet you, make people meet you, Um, at least halfway, 1270 01:02:48,440 --> 01:02:50,800 Speaker 1: you know. But um, it's it's it's tough to it's 1271 01:02:50,840 --> 01:02:53,000 Speaker 1: it's tough when you're younger because of the survivor's guilt 1272 01:02:53,160 --> 01:02:55,640 Speaker 1: and the way people make you feel. And also, um, 1273 01:02:55,800 --> 01:02:57,080 Speaker 1: you don't want to be the only person on the 1274 01:02:57,160 --> 01:02:59,720 Speaker 1: hill by yourself. Right, So I'm like, you'll pick your 1275 01:03:00,000 --> 01:03:02,680 Speaker 1: ball and let's go. Everybody can't come? Yeah, and you're young. 1276 01:03:02,840 --> 01:03:06,160 Speaker 1: Everybody more people, Yeah, you gotta everybody can come. What 1277 01:03:06,400 --> 01:03:11,960 Speaker 1: are ways that the average person without much extra unspoken 1278 01:03:12,040 --> 01:03:16,280 Speaker 1: for income, you know, how can they start financially empowering themselves? 1279 01:03:16,400 --> 01:03:19,680 Speaker 1: The great question I think the first thing for anyone 1280 01:03:19,760 --> 01:03:22,360 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, um, is like, have 1281 01:03:22,480 --> 01:03:24,320 Speaker 1: a conversation about money and what it means to you. 1282 01:03:24,400 --> 01:03:26,040 Speaker 1: What what does it mean? What does it mean? Right? 1283 01:03:26,040 --> 01:03:28,360 Speaker 1: Because I don't think people like is it it's to 1284 01:03:28,440 --> 01:03:30,560 Speaker 1: get rich? Is it to have nice things? Like what 1285 01:03:30,720 --> 01:03:32,800 Speaker 1: is it? What is it? Um? What is the value 1286 01:03:32,840 --> 01:03:35,480 Speaker 1: that you want to derive for money? From there, you 1287 01:03:35,680 --> 01:03:38,280 Speaker 1: have to start being disciplined and how you're spending. Right, 1288 01:03:38,400 --> 01:03:40,960 Speaker 1: so it's like figure out what are your bills? What 1289 01:03:41,080 --> 01:03:43,360 Speaker 1: your bills are? You know, and I said, I said 1290 01:03:43,360 --> 01:03:45,280 Speaker 1: pay yourself first. So before you pay your your bills, 1291 01:03:45,320 --> 01:03:47,320 Speaker 1: pay yourself first. But what I mean that say first, 1292 01:03:47,360 --> 01:03:50,120 Speaker 1: you know, put ten percent away first, and then oh yeah, 1293 01:03:50,160 --> 01:03:52,120 Speaker 1: you know, you know, whatever you can, whatever you can 1294 01:03:52,160 --> 01:03:54,439 Speaker 1: afford to. Just start to discipline of putting something away, 1295 01:03:54,520 --> 01:03:56,680 Speaker 1: pay both paying yourself first. You know, your check comes 1296 01:03:56,760 --> 01:03:59,080 Speaker 1: in and you're saving his account, you save ten percent 1297 01:03:59,200 --> 01:04:01,439 Speaker 1: whatever it may be. Paid yourself first. Then you start 1298 01:04:01,480 --> 01:04:04,400 Speaker 1: to pay your bills and over time like that discipline, 1299 01:04:04,480 --> 01:04:06,560 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, allowed you to to to 1300 01:04:07,160 --> 01:04:09,440 Speaker 1: start to build up your cash reserves. Right then you 1301 01:04:09,520 --> 01:04:11,520 Speaker 1: also have to think about debt. What kind of debt 1302 01:04:11,560 --> 01:04:13,080 Speaker 1: do you have? You know? And I think a lot 1303 01:04:13,160 --> 01:04:16,000 Speaker 1: of young people a man get to get really unraveled 1304 01:04:16,040 --> 01:04:18,520 Speaker 1: and consumer debt um and so a lot of credit 1305 01:04:18,560 --> 01:04:20,520 Speaker 1: card debt and so you have to figure out you 1306 01:04:20,520 --> 01:04:23,000 Speaker 1: gotta take care that that that debt as soon as possible, 1307 01:04:23,000 --> 01:04:26,560 Speaker 1: because just so crippling. This interest rates are crazy, right, 1308 01:04:26,680 --> 01:04:28,520 Speaker 1: and nobody prepares you for that. They walk, you walk on, 1309 01:04:28,760 --> 01:04:30,600 Speaker 1: you walk onto college campus, and you know, for a 1310 01:04:30,640 --> 01:04:32,760 Speaker 1: pizza and a T shirt. He's a he's he's a 1311 01:04:32,840 --> 01:04:34,760 Speaker 1: he's a he's a visa credit card. Not no one, 1312 01:04:36,240 --> 01:04:38,480 Speaker 1: you know. Literally that's what happens to me. And I 1313 01:04:38,520 --> 01:04:42,280 Speaker 1: think it's illegal. Now. When I was in college, it 1314 01:04:42,480 --> 01:04:44,480 Speaker 1: was like every time you went to the quad, there 1315 01:04:44,520 --> 01:04:46,640 Speaker 1: would be a new credit card company trying to sign 1316 01:04:46,680 --> 01:04:49,560 Speaker 1: you up and give you hot dog or slice the pizza. 1317 01:04:49,840 --> 01:04:52,520 Speaker 1: And you know, one days where I was running low, 1318 01:04:53,560 --> 01:04:56,200 Speaker 1: like well, dang, I wants the visa, I was signed 1319 01:04:56,240 --> 01:04:57,880 Speaker 1: up for the card. Now you know, I had no 1320 01:04:58,200 --> 01:05:02,160 Speaker 1: I had no financial literacy, had no concept of credit 1321 01:05:02,440 --> 01:05:04,240 Speaker 1: or what it could do to you, or you know 1322 01:05:04,600 --> 01:05:07,080 Speaker 1: even that you really had to pay it back right 1323 01:05:07,120 --> 01:05:10,560 Speaker 1: away or what it interests rate is you know, you know, 1324 01:05:10,960 --> 01:05:13,560 Speaker 1: and it's in trouble for a while. Man, that is 1325 01:05:13,640 --> 01:05:15,560 Speaker 1: that is crippling. You know, I had an old Navy 1326 01:05:15,640 --> 01:05:19,320 Speaker 1: card that almost took me out. Yeah, but you know, 1327 01:05:19,920 --> 01:05:23,800 Speaker 1: um having financial stability, Um, it's almost like you know, 1328 01:05:24,280 --> 01:05:27,440 Speaker 1: um getting in shape, right, It's very simple, like you know, 1329 01:05:27,680 --> 01:05:30,880 Speaker 1: you make this much, live like this, save this much, 1330 01:05:31,280 --> 01:05:35,120 Speaker 1: and and and and as you get more you you escalate. 1331 01:05:35,120 --> 01:05:38,640 Speaker 1: You in those disciplines, people just overspend, you know. I 1332 01:05:38,720 --> 01:05:42,360 Speaker 1: mean I see people all the time with balenci balenciagas 1333 01:05:42,400 --> 01:05:44,200 Speaker 1: on and I'm like, what what would you have an 1334 01:05:44,200 --> 01:05:46,600 Speaker 1: et T shirt on? You know what I mean? And 1335 01:05:46,840 --> 01:05:49,240 Speaker 1: and you're and you have you know, used to working 1336 01:05:49,280 --> 01:05:51,720 Speaker 1: in your Like it's just it's just changing the mindset 1337 01:05:51,800 --> 01:05:54,680 Speaker 1: of just not being a consumer but being um, you know, 1338 01:05:54,800 --> 01:05:56,960 Speaker 1: an investor if anything, like you know you're buying all 1339 01:05:57,000 --> 01:05:59,120 Speaker 1: this George may buy some Nike style, you know, go 1340 01:05:59,400 --> 01:06:01,840 Speaker 1: from being the consumer to be the investor, you know 1341 01:06:01,880 --> 01:06:04,440 Speaker 1: what I mean. So hard, we're not most of us 1342 01:06:04,440 --> 01:06:06,960 Speaker 1: are not tough financial literacy, you know, and most of 1343 01:06:07,080 --> 01:06:09,840 Speaker 1: us there's a lot of people whose parents weren't financially 1344 01:06:09,880 --> 01:06:12,280 Speaker 1: literally who you know exist see one pay check to 1345 01:06:12,360 --> 01:06:16,040 Speaker 1: one paycheck, So you just don't have that modeling, especially 1346 01:06:16,400 --> 01:06:18,920 Speaker 1: in black and brown communities. I feel like, you know, 1347 01:06:19,400 --> 01:06:21,880 Speaker 1: you know what's so crazy, there's so much survival, so 1348 01:06:22,160 --> 01:06:25,320 Speaker 1: much survival, and it's almost like even even like trying 1349 01:06:25,360 --> 01:06:27,440 Speaker 1: to talk ment to heaven you know, I try to 1350 01:06:27,480 --> 01:06:30,400 Speaker 1: do a lot of work workshops and enighbor and you know, 1351 01:06:30,880 --> 01:06:34,120 Speaker 1: an urban neighborhoods and talk about communities and trying to 1352 01:06:34,200 --> 01:06:37,600 Speaker 1: get people to put together will man. Man, it's like 1353 01:06:37,880 --> 01:06:40,360 Speaker 1: you know they you know, it's it's like it's almost 1354 01:06:40,400 --> 01:06:42,080 Speaker 1: like you've been beating up for so long that you're 1355 01:06:42,360 --> 01:06:45,160 Speaker 1: like your own your own life is worthy, right because 1356 01:06:45,200 --> 01:06:47,640 Speaker 1: think about it, the reason why you save, or I save, 1357 01:06:47,880 --> 01:06:51,800 Speaker 1: or anyone saves is because they innately believe that the 1358 01:06:51,960 --> 01:06:54,880 Speaker 1: feature will be better. Yeah, you know what I mean. 1359 01:06:55,480 --> 01:06:57,960 Speaker 1: It's like you you know, you're saving because you like 1360 01:06:58,080 --> 01:06:59,760 Speaker 1: life is going to get better, right, But if you 1361 01:06:59,800 --> 01:07:02,560 Speaker 1: don't have that home and you know, and like you 1362 01:07:02,640 --> 01:07:04,520 Speaker 1: just living day to day, it's very very hard. You know, 1363 01:07:04,600 --> 01:07:07,040 Speaker 1: it's very very very very hard to change that that 1364 01:07:07,520 --> 01:07:10,760 Speaker 1: that generation of that of that plight. So I'm sensitive 1365 01:07:10,760 --> 01:07:13,080 Speaker 1: to that. For sure. This is the age and we're 1366 01:07:13,080 --> 01:07:14,880 Speaker 1: gonna have to wrap up soon, but this is the 1367 01:07:15,000 --> 01:07:18,640 Speaker 1: age of the entrepreneur. So one way that I definitely 1368 01:07:18,720 --> 01:07:22,440 Speaker 1: see a lot of people elevating themselves um in the 1369 01:07:22,640 --> 01:07:26,400 Speaker 1: recent years is by having side hustles. It's by doing 1370 01:07:26,560 --> 01:07:29,080 Speaker 1: things on the side to add that extra money, so 1371 01:07:29,160 --> 01:07:32,200 Speaker 1: they have disposable income to do things like travel or 1372 01:07:32,480 --> 01:07:34,680 Speaker 1: save or you know, build towards something else. Like a 1373 01:07:34,760 --> 01:07:37,520 Speaker 1: lot of people are fully on their grind mode right now. 1374 01:07:38,680 --> 01:07:41,800 Speaker 1: What are what would you think are some ways that 1375 01:07:42,000 --> 01:07:46,440 Speaker 1: people can start generating extra income, even just small amounts, 1376 01:07:46,560 --> 01:07:48,840 Speaker 1: right Just to give you a little more breathing room, Yeah, 1377 01:07:49,280 --> 01:07:51,400 Speaker 1: we know, there there, there's there are a lot of 1378 01:07:51,480 --> 01:07:53,360 Speaker 1: things you can do to make extra income that I'm 1379 01:07:53,400 --> 01:07:56,520 Speaker 1: sure are legal. But this is what I fundamentally believe 1380 01:07:56,640 --> 01:07:59,200 Speaker 1: in my heart of hearts. The quicker you can find 1381 01:07:59,360 --> 01:08:01,640 Speaker 1: something that that just keeps you up at night that 1382 01:08:01,760 --> 01:08:03,560 Speaker 1: you love. I just want to sinking teething and put 1383 01:08:03,640 --> 01:08:09,560 Speaker 1: in ten years of undeniable persistence. That's how you transform 1384 01:08:09,640 --> 01:08:12,560 Speaker 1: your life because at some point you only get compensated 1385 01:08:12,600 --> 01:08:16,880 Speaker 1: based on how rare you are. Write that down, you 1386 01:08:16,920 --> 01:08:19,519 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. That's you will you will only 1387 01:08:19,600 --> 01:08:21,559 Speaker 1: get conservation how rare you are. You know, you can 1388 01:08:21,640 --> 01:08:25,000 Speaker 1: have six stand up comedy, six stand up comedians doing 1389 01:08:25,120 --> 01:08:27,760 Speaker 1: doing routines, but one is making. It's just like I'm 1390 01:08:27,800 --> 01:08:29,120 Speaker 1: telling you, you can be you know, you can be 1391 01:08:29,160 --> 01:08:31,680 Speaker 1: doing the same job. But so so it's like a 1392 01:08:31,800 --> 01:08:34,080 Speaker 1: lot of side houses to me, like it's it's almost 1393 01:08:34,200 --> 01:08:37,000 Speaker 1: like when when when the captain doesn't know what direction 1394 01:08:37,720 --> 01:08:40,160 Speaker 1: you know the ship is going no wind dis favorable, 1395 01:08:40,320 --> 01:08:42,720 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So it's like it's, you know, 1396 01:08:43,280 --> 01:08:47,640 Speaker 1: the quicker come, you know the quicker. You can just 1397 01:08:47,800 --> 01:08:50,160 Speaker 1: like lock in on something and put in ten years, 1398 01:08:50,320 --> 01:08:53,240 Speaker 1: you know, the quicker. You're gonna be gonna separate yourself 1399 01:08:53,360 --> 01:08:55,160 Speaker 1: and then the money will come, you know what I mean. 1400 01:08:55,840 --> 01:08:58,599 Speaker 1: But the nobody wants to Nobody wants to talk about 1401 01:08:58,640 --> 01:09:01,280 Speaker 1: ten years though, you know I say nobody wants to nobody. 1402 01:09:01,320 --> 01:09:03,800 Speaker 1: They just so I just feel like, if you're if 1403 01:09:03,840 --> 01:09:06,000 Speaker 1: you want to transform your life, you gotta you gotta 1404 01:09:06,080 --> 01:09:09,080 Speaker 1: lock in the way we think about time is so interesting. 1405 01:09:09,280 --> 01:09:12,280 Speaker 1: You know, ten years seems like an eternity. Actually, depending 1406 01:09:12,320 --> 01:09:15,040 Speaker 1: on what age you are in early twenties, ten years 1407 01:09:15,120 --> 01:09:19,519 Speaker 1: is unfathomable. Um, but ten years fly blink of an eye. 1408 01:09:20,400 --> 01:09:23,200 Speaker 1: And the thing that I've really realized is the time 1409 01:09:23,360 --> 01:09:26,479 Speaker 1: is going to pass anyway. It's going to pass anyway. 1410 01:09:26,520 --> 01:09:29,000 Speaker 1: You know, the time is gonna pass anyway. Because sometimes 1411 01:09:29,080 --> 01:09:32,400 Speaker 1: some of your goals seem very like insurmountable or like 1412 01:09:32,560 --> 01:09:34,320 Speaker 1: oh God, but that's gonna you know, if I want 1413 01:09:34,360 --> 01:09:36,479 Speaker 1: to do this, that's gonna take me four years to 1414 01:09:36,600 --> 01:09:38,320 Speaker 1: do and that so I'm just not even going to 1415 01:09:38,320 --> 01:09:40,400 Speaker 1: attempt this too much. Well, the time it's going to 1416 01:09:40,439 --> 01:09:42,920 Speaker 1: pass anyway, pass anyway, But the end of that four 1417 01:09:43,000 --> 01:09:45,479 Speaker 1: years or ten years or what will you have to 1418 01:09:45,600 --> 01:09:48,280 Speaker 1: show for it? Man? You know? And we get into 1419 01:09:48,320 --> 01:09:50,360 Speaker 1: our thirties, right, which is a crazy which is a 1420 01:09:50,600 --> 01:09:53,280 Speaker 1: crazy time because you know, I remember being a high 1421 01:09:53,320 --> 01:09:55,160 Speaker 1: school and fifties had the realist line. He was like, 1422 01:09:55,280 --> 01:09:57,920 Speaker 1: damn homie. In high school, he was the man homie. 1423 01:09:57,960 --> 01:10:00,400 Speaker 1: Well you know what happened to you, happened up you, 1424 01:10:00,600 --> 01:10:01,960 Speaker 1: and and it was just like you didn't thought about 1425 01:10:01,960 --> 01:10:04,000 Speaker 1: it because you was a kid. But now I'm thirty 1426 01:10:04,080 --> 01:10:06,040 Speaker 1: three and you're saying, like the people you grew up with, 1427 01:10:06,680 --> 01:10:09,040 Speaker 1: it's just like, man, that ten years can change everything, 1428 01:10:09,439 --> 01:10:12,840 Speaker 1: you know what, it can change everything? And so and uh, man, 1429 01:10:13,120 --> 01:10:15,600 Speaker 1: it's what you have to put in the work, and 1430 01:10:15,640 --> 01:10:18,599 Speaker 1: there's no way, there's no way around it, right, um. 1431 01:10:18,680 --> 01:10:21,560 Speaker 1: And I just think that sometimes people just want to 1432 01:10:21,720 --> 01:10:24,200 Speaker 1: like get there, right, But think about it, man, Like 1433 01:10:24,320 --> 01:10:26,000 Speaker 1: you if you if you were driving from New York 1434 01:10:26,040 --> 01:10:29,280 Speaker 1: City to California and the pitch dark, and the only 1435 01:10:29,360 --> 01:10:31,799 Speaker 1: thing you can see is the hundred feet of headlight. 1436 01:10:32,160 --> 01:10:33,680 Speaker 1: Right That's all you can see. But if you keep 1437 01:10:33,720 --> 01:10:35,880 Speaker 1: going forward, the next one to feet show up. You 1438 01:10:35,960 --> 01:10:37,720 Speaker 1: keep going forward, the next hun to fee show up. 1439 01:10:38,040 --> 01:10:40,800 Speaker 1: Eventually you get to California. Only see a hundred feet 1440 01:10:40,800 --> 01:10:43,320 Speaker 1: at a time, you know what I mean. And so 1441 01:10:43,479 --> 01:10:45,720 Speaker 1: to me, that's how life works. It's like, what is 1442 01:10:45,720 --> 01:10:48,000 Speaker 1: your hundred feet right now? So the hundred feet right now? 1443 01:10:48,040 --> 01:10:50,480 Speaker 1: Maybe okay, man, I need to go finish this accounting 1444 01:10:50,560 --> 01:10:54,080 Speaker 1: class or this design course. You'll go kill it, and 1445 01:10:54,160 --> 01:10:55,920 Speaker 1: then then the next hundred feet, you know what I mean. 1446 01:10:56,000 --> 01:10:58,599 Speaker 1: So when then you'll be you'll be surprised how far 1447 01:10:58,720 --> 01:11:00,760 Speaker 1: you've It's almost like when you keep your head down 1448 01:11:00,960 --> 01:11:03,080 Speaker 1: and you lock in. When you look up, you're surprised 1449 01:11:03,080 --> 01:11:04,760 Speaker 1: as far you went because you've been so you know 1450 01:11:04,800 --> 01:11:06,759 Speaker 1: what I mean when you like, I made that much headway? 1451 01:11:06,880 --> 01:11:08,840 Speaker 1: But harn I feed at the time. Are you avid reader? 1452 01:11:09,160 --> 01:11:11,439 Speaker 1: Oh my god? If man, you have, reading is the 1453 01:11:11,520 --> 01:11:13,880 Speaker 1: most important thing to me because it allows you. Reading 1454 01:11:13,960 --> 01:11:17,000 Speaker 1: is almost like having this like two months, like dinner 1455 01:11:17,240 --> 01:11:19,559 Speaker 1: with one of the most brilliant minds in the world. 1456 01:11:19,600 --> 01:11:21,880 Speaker 1: Can you imagine you read man? You gotta If you don't, 1457 01:11:22,000 --> 01:11:24,280 Speaker 1: you you got to read. You have to read, man, 1458 01:11:24,439 --> 01:11:27,200 Speaker 1: because it just changes how you read the world. You know. Yeah, 1459 01:11:28,760 --> 01:11:33,080 Speaker 1: so much, so much. Listen to podcasts, love podcasts, audio books, 1460 01:11:33,160 --> 01:11:34,160 Speaker 1: you know, And that's why I go back to a 1461 01:11:34,200 --> 01:11:36,120 Speaker 1: lot of people. You know, we have so much access 1462 01:11:36,120 --> 01:11:38,160 Speaker 1: to information that if you're not getting it done, you 1463 01:11:38,200 --> 01:11:41,160 Speaker 1: just don't want to. Yeah, and you can't and you 1464 01:11:41,240 --> 01:11:43,519 Speaker 1: can't teach one to and you can't teach one to 1465 01:11:43,880 --> 01:11:46,479 Speaker 1: like it's man Like, we've seen some crazy things in 1466 01:11:46,520 --> 01:11:49,439 Speaker 1: that generation. Man, We've seen some crazy We've seen people 1467 01:11:49,520 --> 01:11:52,800 Speaker 1: transfer Like, you can do anything if you just want to, 1468 01:11:53,080 --> 01:11:55,240 Speaker 1: and you really if you put that work in, you know. 1469 01:11:55,479 --> 01:11:59,400 Speaker 1: So I've never someone who's hard working, who's extremely disciplined 1470 01:11:59,479 --> 01:12:02,719 Speaker 1: and and works at their craft, you know, diligently daying 1471 01:12:02,760 --> 01:12:04,760 Speaker 1: and day out, like complain of bad luck. You know, 1472 01:12:06,800 --> 01:12:08,960 Speaker 1: I've never seen it. You're gonna get somewhere worth going, 1473 01:12:09,200 --> 01:12:13,200 Speaker 1: you know, before we get out of here, give everybody 1474 01:12:13,320 --> 01:12:18,080 Speaker 1: listening one book recommendation and one podcast recommendation. Definitely, definitely 1475 01:12:18,120 --> 01:12:21,479 Speaker 1: definitely this podcast, um, you know, but they're already here 1476 01:12:21,560 --> 01:12:24,080 Speaker 1: they're already here. I know the book that changed my 1477 01:12:24,160 --> 01:12:27,400 Speaker 1: life is Thinking Grow Rich. But Napoleon Hill. I think 1478 01:12:27,400 --> 01:12:28,920 Speaker 1: if you haven't read it, you gotta read it. Think 1479 01:12:28,960 --> 01:12:32,600 Speaker 1: and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. It's like, man, it 1480 01:12:32,720 --> 01:12:35,720 Speaker 1: just changes your mindset. It just really really really really 1481 01:12:35,800 --> 01:12:40,120 Speaker 1: changes your mindset. Um. And uh in a podcast that 1482 01:12:40,160 --> 01:12:42,439 Speaker 1: I really love that I listened to all the times. Uh. 1483 01:12:42,560 --> 01:12:44,960 Speaker 1: I like Tim Ferris podcast because seeing the views world 1484 01:12:45,000 --> 01:12:48,320 Speaker 1: class leaders and and he dissects like their and their 1485 01:12:48,640 --> 01:12:51,080 Speaker 1: qualities on how they got what they got, you know, 1486 01:12:51,400 --> 01:12:54,200 Speaker 1: and he breaks down he breaks it down. And I 1487 01:12:54,240 --> 01:12:56,280 Speaker 1: think for people that want to just learn about all 1488 01:12:56,360 --> 01:12:59,400 Speaker 1: types of different fasts, that's are really really good one. Um, yeah, 1489 01:12:59,560 --> 01:13:04,960 Speaker 1: that's what amazing. Write it down. Yeah, son, this is 1490 01:13:05,040 --> 01:13:08,960 Speaker 1: crazy to Thanks for having me, you know what I mean. Um, 1491 01:13:09,280 --> 01:13:11,800 Speaker 1: you know, I gotta say this, you know before I go. Um. 1492 01:13:12,520 --> 01:13:16,240 Speaker 1: You know, humility should be um a part of um 1493 01:13:16,680 --> 01:13:19,920 Speaker 1: of any person, especially when the successes of your life 1494 01:13:20,080 --> 01:13:24,000 Speaker 1: is because of the sacrifices of your friends. Right. And 1495 01:13:24,240 --> 01:13:28,400 Speaker 1: so as a man, I'm a I'm a African from Uganda, 1496 01:13:28,960 --> 01:13:32,360 Speaker 1: financial manager. This is crazy, right, what I've become is 1497 01:13:32,400 --> 01:13:35,720 Speaker 1: because you you guys believed in me when it when 1498 01:13:35,760 --> 01:13:38,400 Speaker 1: it was just like it doesn't make sense, you know 1499 01:13:38,439 --> 01:13:40,720 Speaker 1: what I mean to put your entire life into this 1500 01:13:40,880 --> 01:13:44,200 Speaker 1: young man's hands a years old, right, So to me, 1501 01:13:44,479 --> 01:13:46,320 Speaker 1: I just want to thank you and thank all my 1502 01:13:46,400 --> 01:13:49,920 Speaker 1: other my other clients to who have really really gave 1503 01:13:50,000 --> 01:13:52,559 Speaker 1: me a chance to to to to prove them right 1504 01:13:52,880 --> 01:13:56,200 Speaker 1: right and so, um, I'm honored to be in your podcast. 1505 01:13:57,000 --> 01:13:59,920 Speaker 1: I'm honored to be in your life, um, and I'm 1506 01:14:00,120 --> 01:14:04,640 Speaker 1: honored that i I've served you well you know, so 1507 01:14:05,040 --> 01:14:07,120 Speaker 1: thanks for having me for sure. Thank you, humble, Thank 1508 01:14:07,160 --> 01:14:11,120 Speaker 1: you for existing. Oh man, I'm grateful to God for you. 1509 01:14:11,160 --> 01:14:15,240 Speaker 1: I'm glad he made you. I'm honored to know you 1510 01:14:15,960 --> 01:14:19,120 Speaker 1: and very grateful that he made you. So. I love you. 1511 01:14:19,400 --> 01:14:24,519 Speaker 1: I love you more, I love you more. Peace, peace, big. 1512 01:14:24,600 --> 01:14:26,799 Speaker 1: Thank you for listening to this episode of The Dropping 1513 01:14:26,880 --> 01:14:30,759 Speaker 1: Gym's podcast. This show is executive produced by Adrian Scott 1514 01:14:30,960 --> 01:14:34,040 Speaker 1: and me Debbie Brown. 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