WEBVTT - Ep. 80 — Saving on medical expenses, refinancing student debt + busting the myth about balance 0:00:16.640 --> 0:00:22.239 Hey hey, hey, hey, we're back. We'll back. We're back, 0:00:22.280 --> 0:00:24.560 We're back. I think I prefer taping on this. 0:00:24.600 --> 0:00:25.800 Day on Monday. 0:00:26.360 --> 0:00:29.120 I do because I feel like my life belongs to 0:00:29.160 --> 0:00:30.600 the Live with Your Academy on Sunday. 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:36.480 So okay, so it's Monday, our New days talking shop schedules. 0:00:36.720 --> 0:00:39.479 I know, this is how the sausage gets made, you. 0:00:39.440 --> 0:00:42.440 Guys, exactly, you gotta make the donuts. So this as 0:00:42.479 --> 0:00:45.639 you're getting to see all the behind the scenes. But yeah, 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:47.400 I think I like it. I was like, I like 0:00:47.479 --> 0:00:51.239 this day because Monday's also like for for business, I 0:00:51.320 --> 0:00:53.800 take a day off of well I'm supposed to take 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:55.960 a day off a week and like, like everybody who 0:00:56.040 --> 0:00:57.760 I work with knows, you're not supposed to like send 0:00:57.800 --> 0:01:00.240 me stuff on Mondays. I mean, I still work on Monday, 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:03.080 but it's just I don't have to, like my schedule 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:07.280 is completely empty, you know. And so and then like 0:01:07.319 --> 0:01:10.840 for Sierra, my coo, she's the other like super hard 0:01:10.880 --> 0:01:14.480 working that she gets Wednesdays off, and so just because 0:01:14.959 --> 0:01:18.600 we tend to work on weekends sometimes not always, but sometimes, 0:01:18.640 --> 0:01:21.680 so it's like no matter what, even if we work weekends, 0:01:21.760 --> 0:01:23.200 you get this one day off. You know. 0:01:23.959 --> 0:01:27.200 Yeah, it's like people who own restaurants restaurants clothes on Mondays? Right, 0:01:27.480 --> 0:01:30.360 Is that fact the same kind of thing? Mm hmm, 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:33.679 I'm having I had one of the most Monday Mondays ever. 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:34.720 Really. 0:01:34.959 --> 0:01:40.480 Yeah. Well it started out with I got off a stop, 0:01:40.560 --> 0:01:42.959 like my brain malfunction. You know, when you just you 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:45.720 do your routine, you know exactly which stop to get 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:47.920 off at. I don't even have to look for the 0:01:48.040 --> 0:01:50.840 names of the stations. It's just I feel when it's 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:53.360 my stop coming up. And today I just I don't 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:55.840 know what my brain. I just had a short circuit. 0:01:55.840 --> 0:01:58.280 I need a software update or something. But I got 0:01:58.280 --> 0:02:01.360 off a stop early, which was really annoying, and then 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:02.840 I had to wait, like, you know, forever for the 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:05.960 next train. And then you don't take the train to 0:02:05.960 --> 0:02:07.360 work every day, but you know what it's like, like 0:02:07.400 --> 0:02:09.680 it's crazy trying to take the train, Like there's always 0:02:09.680 --> 0:02:12.600 a mad dash, and you know, when you're the first 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:15.400 person off the train and you're like right by the staircase, 0:02:15.680 --> 0:02:19.079 you better go because you have like the entire you know, 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:22.160 this entire army coming behind you bearing down on you. 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:24.200 And I happened to be the first person out of 0:02:24.200 --> 0:02:27.120 the station, and I ran down the stairs and I 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:28.520 was like, oh my god, they're coming for me. They're 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:30.360 coming for me. And then when I was trying to 0:02:30.360 --> 0:02:32.040 go back up the stairs because you have to go 0:02:32.120 --> 0:02:35.000 down and then up, my shoes caught on the staircase 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:39.400 and I went down so hard, so hard, and I 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:41.640 couldn't and it hurts so bad, and then you just 0:02:41.720 --> 0:02:44.440 you can't stay there because you're gonna get trampled. I 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:46.680 was just gonna say that, Like, so I felt like 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:49.720 a like the weak link and like a herd or something. 0:02:50.280 --> 0:02:53.639 So like got out and like ran to Starbucks. Yeah 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:55.720 that's how my day started. So I'm icing my knee 0:02:55.800 --> 0:02:58.359 right now. Those my steps are no joke. 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:04.119 Yeah, no they aren't. It's like the city like and yeah, 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:07.799 New York Penn Station. Like if that morning commute that 0:03:07.919 --> 0:03:10.840 like eight thirty ish, and then that afternoon or evening, 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:14.239 what that evening commute. First of all, it's I can't 0:03:14.240 --> 0:03:16.480 even imagine if I was coming from another country, Like 0:03:16.560 --> 0:03:18.920 I'm afraid that's a Joysey girl who like you know, 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:21.200 it's no stranger to the train, Like if I get 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:23.320 caught out and they have a meeting and I happen 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:25.440 to have to come back at like between four and five, 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:27.000 I'm like, oh my god, Oh my god, oh my god. 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:31.480 Because everyone gathers. There's like a bazillion people stuck together 0:03:31.639 --> 0:03:34.560 looking at the little board, and it's like when it 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:38.960 changes to your train, like track three, and everyone will yo, manny, 0:03:39.000 --> 0:03:39.840 that's a scary thing. 0:03:39.920 --> 0:03:42.360 Yes, It's like when they release the horses at a 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:44.520 race or like a dog race or something. 0:03:45.600 --> 0:03:47.120 And if you don't get out, get out the way, 0:03:47.120 --> 0:03:50.040 people are like, get out that way. I mean, I 0:03:50.040 --> 0:03:51.920 think to myself, Yo, what if I had a kid 0:03:51.960 --> 0:03:53.840 with me, I would just be like, you know what, 0:03:53.960 --> 0:03:55.960 I'm gonna go eat dinner and come back an hour. 0:03:56.040 --> 0:03:58.760 When it's not like death, it's called crazy. 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:02.000 It's dangerous. And you know, I always think of the city. 0:04:02.040 --> 0:04:04.280 I know people, you know, we don't drive cars series 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:07.600 so people may think that, you know, our commutes are 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:10.160 somehow easier, but I feel like it's just as treacherous. 0:04:10.240 --> 0:04:13.280 And like walking on the New York City sidewalks is 0:04:13.400 --> 0:04:15.840 like commuting. It's like you have your lane, you need 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:17.360 to pull over to the shoulder if you're going to 0:04:17.400 --> 0:04:19.039 do things like text, don't try and text in the 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:20.680 middle of the road or stop in the middle of 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:23.760 a road. You need to signal before you turn. Sometimes 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:27.839 it's like it's it's insane and people are people are. 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:31.520 Mean, Yeah, because you know everybody, Yeah, it's crazy. People 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:34.200 who normally wouldn't be like evil. They will push you 0:04:34.440 --> 0:04:36.599 and you're like, oh my gosh, that's my shoulder. They 0:04:36.680 --> 0:04:37.080 don't care. 0:04:37.760 --> 0:04:40.560 So solidarity to anybody who had like a hellish Monday 0:04:40.560 --> 0:04:43.440 morning commute, because I feel you a man. But the 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:48.279 day turned around. Coworker brought in cookies. Yeah, that's always nice, 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:49.960 and one of my girlfriends just happened to be in 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:52.080 the neighborhood and I had a nice long lunch and 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:54.720 sometimes you just need like a little pick me up. 0:04:55.279 --> 0:04:57.400 Today was like the most productive Monday. I had an 0:04:57.400 --> 0:05:00.440 allowed time Like this morning, like I woke up a 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:03.119 little bit before my alarm, and I was like, today, 0:05:03.160 --> 0:05:05.320 you're not gonna do what you normally do. You're not 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:07.640 going to hit this alarm because I started going back 0:05:07.640 --> 0:05:11.440 to the gym in the morning at six and typically 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:14.320 six is when my alarm goes off, and then I 0:05:14.320 --> 0:05:16.440 don't leave the house for like seven thirty and then 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:19.320 I catch the traffic back and I told myself, Tiffany, 0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:20.760 we're not doing that today. And I was like, today, 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:22.719 you're actually going to do work today. You're going to 0:05:22.760 --> 0:05:25.400 make your to do list, and you're gonna like things 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:27.560 that you've been waiting forever to do, You're going to 0:05:27.560 --> 0:05:29.520 get them done today. So I'm like literally in the bed, 0:05:29.600 --> 0:05:33.000 I still close halfway out of rim, like coaching myself 0:05:33.040 --> 0:05:34.640 like you got this, you got this. Today, it's going 0:05:34.680 --> 0:05:36.720 to be different. And I was like, and I've done 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:38.240 this before and then I wake up and have the 0:05:38.279 --> 0:05:40.960 same day I always have. But today I was like, 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:42.920 look at you. I mean I didn't get a back six. 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:45.719 I did six thirty because I was like, honestly, I can't. 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:48.600 But I did get to the gym, and I added, 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:50.800 so I'm doing this thing at the gym where when 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:53.960 I first start, like, I work best when I added 0:05:53.960 --> 0:05:57.480 little things on, like if like my best friend Drino, 0:05:57.560 --> 0:05:59.000 when she goes back to the gym, she has to 0:05:59.000 --> 0:06:01.479 go back hard and not meet well, I'll never come back. 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:04.039 So Week one was just go to the gym and 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:06.120 do twenty minutes to cardio and go home. That's it. 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:08.760 So now we're in week two and well stretching first 0:06:08.760 --> 0:06:11.680 and then twenty minutes. So now week two is stretching 0:06:12.279 --> 0:06:14.680 ads cardio go home. So that's what we're doing all 0:06:14.720 --> 0:06:16.760 this week, and then week three I'll add something else 0:06:16.839 --> 0:06:19.240 on because I need to like slowly bring things on. 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:21.680 So today I started off at the gym. I had 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:24.560 my to do list. I actually typically I have either 0:06:24.640 --> 0:06:27.320 inside or outside product to day, meaning like I'm either 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:29.320 going to be inside all day and like knock out 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:32.000 all my inside work, but I'll never make it to like, 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:34.919 you know, run errands or I'm like ripping and running 0:06:34.960 --> 0:06:37.039 errands all day long. And today, for the first time 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:39.200 and I don't know how long, I actually got all 0:06:39.200 --> 0:06:42.359 my inside work done. And I hate going to the 0:06:42.360 --> 0:06:45.640 mail like to like mail stuff or and you know, 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:47.440 I had to go to Staples and some other craft 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:49.279 and I actually did it. I was like, who are you? 0:06:49.640 --> 0:06:52.400 And I got back in the house before five, and 0:06:52.440 --> 0:06:55.440 I was like, get a nag that pep talk works, 0:06:55.760 --> 0:06:58.440 because you know, entrepreneurial life people just think. That's why 0:06:58.440 --> 0:06:59.919 I don't like when people trying to make it seem 0:06:59.920 --> 0:07:03.520 like actionneur life is like the most awesome thing ever 0:07:03.600 --> 0:07:05.320 all the time. I mean, don't get me wrong. 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:09.760 It looks terrible. It can't be honestly, it just takes 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:11.320 so much self motivation, you. 0:07:11.280 --> 0:07:14.200 Know, hey when I say some more and literally there 0:07:14.200 --> 0:07:16.640 are weeks when I'm like, who are you tippany yo? 0:07:16.720 --> 0:07:18.560 There are weeks when I'm like if people only knew 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:21.520 this has been HGTV Binge week and have done nothing, 0:07:23.040 --> 0:07:24.840 and I'm just like people will say to be stuff 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:27.480 like girl, you know, I didn't want to live because 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:29.400 I know you're so busy, and I'm like, uh, I'm 0:07:29.440 --> 0:07:32.040 actually in my pjs right now, but okay. 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:34.760 We need we need to do once a week just 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:38.880 post a real, like a in real life image on Instagram, 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:41.640 Like I'm going to post the fifth hour of my 0:07:41.760 --> 0:07:45.320 seven hour America or Great British Bakeoff Marathon, which I 0:07:45.360 --> 0:07:48.200 indulged in on Saturday. That's when I baked pretzels, Like 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:52.080 that was literally my entire day was pretzels and watching 0:07:52.120 --> 0:07:55.360 baking shows and like a little bit of Netflix, you know, 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:58.080 like I think people need that like little breath of 0:07:58.120 --> 0:08:00.600 fresh air, like oh yeah, you're humans. You're not always 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:03.800 on because you can't be you can't. I like what 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:05.600 you said too, about not trying to go back to 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:08.480 the gym all at once, because I do what Drina 0:08:08.520 --> 0:08:10.920 does too. I'm like, Okay, I'm gonna, I'm gonna. I 0:08:11.000 --> 0:08:12.600 just I don't want to just lose ten pounds. I 0:08:12.640 --> 0:08:14.560 got to run a half marathon in two months, you know, 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:17.840 And when you set those crazy expectations, like you're just 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:20.680 setting yourself up for failure, not to mention, if you 0:08:20.680 --> 0:08:22.120 try and do too much at once, when you get 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:23.680 back to the gym after a while, you just get 0:08:23.720 --> 0:08:26.320 so sore yep that you can't go the next day. 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:28.840 It's so because what I really told myself, because you know, 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:32.040 sometimes you just like, ugh, Like honestly, in the last 0:08:32.320 --> 0:08:33.680 I want to say, year and a half, I've gained 0:08:33.720 --> 0:08:36.440 like twenty pounds. This is the biggest I've ever been. 0:08:37.200 --> 0:08:40.720 I like, I've never typically like my max weight for me. 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:42.599 So I'm five to eight, and you know, like I 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:44.280 always had a little booty. You know, I'm African, So 0:08:44.320 --> 0:08:47.920 I'm like, okay, but I'm I'm slim. My Bill was 0:08:47.960 --> 0:08:50.720 typically slim, muscular like my whole life. My dad's side 0:08:50.720 --> 0:08:53.400 of the family is short and muscular. My mom's signs 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:55.800 long and lean, so I was like a perfect blend 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:59.360 between the two slim muscular build. So I always looked 0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:02.640 slim than my weight suggested, you know, so people would 0:09:02.640 --> 0:09:03.720 look at me and be like, what are you like 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:05.720 one twenty. I'm like, yeah, I tried one forty five, 0:09:05.960 --> 0:09:07.840 so I never minded weighing a little bit more. But 0:09:07.920 --> 0:09:09.960 my max weight used to be like one sixty five, 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:12.040 and I'm like once sixty five was like ooh, got 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:14.440 a little booty, got some thighs. I never really have 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:17.000 much of a bus but still looks slim. Girl. I'm 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:19.840 like one eighty three. I'm like, who is this woman? 0:09:20.240 --> 0:09:22.840 Who DAEs? And I'm like when did this happen? Of 0:09:22.880 --> 0:09:26.280 course Superman is like, yes, he's like my max. He 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:28.240 was like, just don't go over three hundred. Were good. 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:31.280 I'm like three hundred, dude, Oh I remember you said that. 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:33.720 Yeah, I wonder if every man has a limit. 0:09:34.360 --> 0:09:36.920 I'm sure they do, but ee hundred. 0:09:36.559 --> 0:09:39.680 Looks different on some people. Like some people, it just 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:42.880 depends on your body type. Yes, And You're like, I 0:09:42.920 --> 0:09:47.360 don't even think for your height that weight isn't even 0:09:47.400 --> 0:09:49.320 that bad, Like, but I know what it feels like 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:52.199 when you when that's like enough. Twenty pounds is enough 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:55.320 to where your pants are feeling tight. That's where everything 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:58.400 you want to wear, and that's that's demoralizing, and that's really. 0:09:58.280 --> 0:10:00.280 What it is. Because I didn't notice because like in 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:02.880 the mirror, I'm like, okay, I definitely see more button, 0:10:02.920 --> 0:10:05.839 more thighs, but I didn't really notice until like I'm 0:10:05.880 --> 0:10:08.640 putting on my jeans, like and I'm not I don't 0:10:08.679 --> 0:10:11.439 typically wear like tight, tight clothes, and I'm putting on 0:10:11.520 --> 0:10:14.160 my jeans and that are like half a size or 0:10:14.240 --> 0:10:16.000 size larger anyway, because that's how I like to wear 0:10:16.040 --> 0:10:18.679 my clothes. And there I can't even wear them. I'm like, wait, 0:10:18.880 --> 0:10:21.240 did these drink? And then I tried another pair. I 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:23.880 have like twenty pairs of jeans and I'm like, wait, weight, 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:26.920 none of these fits? And I'm really like, I lest say. 0:10:26.920 --> 0:10:30.079 It took me a minute to realize, wait, am I bigger? 0:10:31.960 --> 0:10:34.280 I stepped out a scale. I said what is this number? 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:37.520 And I said, okay, Tiffany, like twenty pounds. That's a 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:40.000 lot in a year, so we're gonna need. 0:10:40.440 --> 0:10:44.439 I could gain that a month. Mine scared, I got, shoot, 0:10:45.000 --> 0:10:47.559 you can get That's just that's just like that's the 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:49.520 kind of weight where if you just give yourself, you know, 0:10:49.880 --> 0:10:52.240 five or six months and like just change a couple 0:10:52.320 --> 0:10:54.920 of things, you can get you can get back to 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:55.720 fighting weight. 0:10:56.480 --> 0:10:57.920 I just want to you know what it is, it's 0:10:58.000 --> 0:11:00.800 less the weight, more the Okay, Tiffany, you live like 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:03.440 a sedentary lifestyle because I'm like always sitting in front 0:11:03.480 --> 0:11:06.440 of a computer, and i just want to get back 0:11:06.440 --> 0:11:11.000 into regular exercise and decent eating, like because that used 0:11:11.000 --> 0:11:12.640 to be me and then one day I just fell 0:11:12.679 --> 0:11:14.480 off a cliff and literally it was nothing for me 0:11:14.559 --> 0:11:17.320 to have like, oh, it's nighttime, I'm hungry, let me 0:11:17.360 --> 0:11:19.679 have some ice cream and some cereal and ooh, let 0:11:19.679 --> 0:11:20.960 me went to the store to get a Snickers bar 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:23.920 and it's midnight. And then like not have moved all 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:26.920 the day before or that day. And so I'm just like, Tiffany, 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:28.959 you have to move at least three times a week 0:11:29.200 --> 0:11:31.520 and eat eat decent. You know, you don't have to like, 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:33.760 you know, I'm not gonna not have pizza. But at 0:11:33.760 --> 0:11:35.400 the same time, I'm like I need a salad in 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:37.520 here every once in a while. So you know, that's 0:11:37.559 --> 0:11:40.160 like I'm taking that approach to just life in general 0:11:40.200 --> 0:11:42.679 business Like I used to think, like I have to 0:11:42.720 --> 0:11:44.520 be a beast and Gohard twenty four to seven and 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:47.000 I'm like, yeah, you don't. I mean you can, but 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:50.079 all for what you know. So instead even like with 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:53.600 like business life, I'm learning like one to chill and 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:55.319 you know when to be like all right, it's beastmo, 0:11:55.400 --> 0:11:59.000 but you know that whole Like Gary Vee is awesome, 0:11:59.120 --> 0:12:01.400 but I could not live that Gary v lifestyle were 0:12:01.440 --> 0:12:04.600 every single second it seems like it's schedule for beast mode. 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:06.840 I mean, how exhausting. I feel like he's gonna drop 0:12:06.880 --> 0:12:09.200 dead one day on one of his videos. 0:12:10.520 --> 0:12:13.480 I feel like, well, I'm over the whole beast mode 0:12:13.520 --> 0:12:15.719 hashtag for I have this one friend of uses it 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:19.920 all the time. But I think there's I think too, 0:12:19.960 --> 0:12:22.320 and like people posting about you know, I'm doing this, 0:12:22.400 --> 0:12:23.920 I'm doing that, and like here's my to do list, 0:12:23.960 --> 0:12:25.800 here's so much of accomplished. I don't know how much 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:28.240 of it, Like are they really happy doing all that? 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:30.839 And like being at that level of exertion like all 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:33.560 the time because you only can do so much, Like 0:12:34.040 --> 0:12:36.679 I may be killing it at work, Like before the wedding, 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:39.160 I was I was killing it with wedding and planning, 0:12:39.280 --> 0:12:41.800 killing it with work, having a terrible social life and 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:44.240 like bad eating habits. I feel like you can't, like 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:47.160 I can only do through two things maybe amazingly at 0:12:47.200 --> 0:12:49.320 one time. Mm hmmm, and then you're gonna have to 0:12:49.400 --> 0:12:51.560 like kind of be nice to yourself and get back 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:55.280 to you know, trying to just find like there's never 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:57.920 gonna be a perfect balance. I don't think it's like 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:00.360 I've read a really good quote one time about how 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:02.320 you have four burners in life. I'm going to try 0:13:02.320 --> 0:13:04.360 and remember the four burners, like one is family, one 0:13:04.440 --> 0:13:08.280 is health, one is friendships, and one is work. And 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:11.000 you can't have all four burners on it one time. 0:13:11.080 --> 0:13:13.600 You really only can do three max at one time, 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:16.199 and the other burner's just gonna have to And it's 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:18.560 not like it's not necessarily a bad thing. It's just 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:21.000 you just have to sort of like get in the 0:13:21.200 --> 0:13:25.000 like be nice and to yourself and then expect for 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:27.200 not everything to be going amazingly at the same time. 0:13:27.960 --> 0:13:30.000 To me, though, the better word is like harmony, where 0:13:30.000 --> 0:13:33.319 it's like, okay, you know, things are working together as 0:13:33.360 --> 0:13:36.320 they ought to because sometimes because balance assumes that everything 0:13:36.360 --> 0:13:39.120 is equally weighted, and harmony assumes that it all is 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:42.640 working together collectively, even though this thing might be a 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:44.480 little bit heavy at the moment than the other. So 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:50.800 I'm just working on harmony over balance. I support that, well, 0:13:50.920 --> 0:13:55.760 there is no balance exactly. This is I was totally 0:13:55.800 --> 0:13:59.480 I remembered this article that I read recently about Steve Harvey. 0:13:59.520 --> 0:14:01.120 Did you see this about his email? 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:04.360 Is this someone where he's really mean to his staff 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:05.319 members or something? 0:14:05.840 --> 0:14:09.480 Yeah, so he he wrote an email and I guess 0:14:09.520 --> 0:14:10.680 you tell me what you think, and I'll tell you 0:14:10.720 --> 0:14:13.080 what I think. So he's I'm just gonna like paraphrase it. 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:16.520 Steve Harvey wrote an email where he says like, let 0:14:16.520 --> 0:14:18.080 me see, maybe I can at least read one line 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:20.840 of it so you can. Okay, good morning everyone, welcome back. 0:14:21.120 --> 0:14:23.880 I'd like you alterview and adhere to the following notes 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:27.000 and rules for Steven Season five of my talk show. 0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:30.920 There will be no meetings in my dressing room. No 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:34.800 stopping by popping or popping in no one all caps. 0:14:35.320 --> 0:14:37.920 Do not come to my dressing room unless invited. Do 0:14:38.000 --> 0:14:40.360 not open my dress room door. This is all caps 0:14:40.400 --> 0:14:42.760 right now. If you open my door. Expect to be 0:14:42.840 --> 0:14:46.360 removed and then back to regular My security team will 0:14:46.360 --> 0:14:49.440 stop everyone from standing at my door who has the 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:52.240 intent to see or speak to me. I want all 0:14:52.320 --> 0:14:55.520 the ambushing to stop now. That includes TV staff. You 0:14:55.600 --> 0:14:59.360 must schedule an appointment. I've been taken advantage of by 0:14:59.360 --> 0:15:03.000 my lenience see lenient policy in the past. This ends now, 0:15:03.320 --> 0:15:06.120 all cats no more. Do not approach me while I'm 0:15:06.160 --> 0:15:08.520 in the makeup chair unless I ask to speak to 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:11.840 you directly, either knock or use the doorbell. I'm seeking 0:15:11.880 --> 0:15:14.720 more free time for me throughout the day. Do not 0:15:14.880 --> 0:15:17.040 wait in any hallway to speak to me. I hate 0:15:17.080 --> 0:15:20.240 being ambushed. Please make an appointment. I promise you I 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:22.480 will not entertain you in the hallway, and do not 0:15:22.560 --> 0:15:25.200 attempt to walk with me. If you're reading this, yes, 0:15:25.400 --> 0:15:27.680 I mean you. Everyone. Do not take offense to the 0:15:27.680 --> 0:15:30.280 new way of doing business. It's good for my personal 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:33.360 life and enjoyment. Thank you all, Steve Harvey. 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:37.240 I'm telling you, moms across America are laughing their asses 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:39.480 off right now and desperately wish they had this letter 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:42.720 and they could give it to their children. Like when 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:45.840 moms across America just want to read a book or 0:15:45.920 --> 0:15:48.360 I don't know, go number two without anyone walking down 0:15:48.360 --> 0:15:50.640 in the bathroom. 0:15:51.840 --> 0:15:53.520 I want to go to my nephew today and we 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:55.360 were playing, We're having a good time, and then I 0:15:55.400 --> 0:15:58.120 had to go pee girl because my sister, she of 0:15:58.200 --> 0:16:00.720 course was home because she has the niece and my 0:16:00.760 --> 0:16:02.440 niece and my nephew, so she's home. I just came 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:04.520 to visit. I went to go to the bathroom. Close 0:16:04.560 --> 0:16:07.480 the door. You would have thought that like I stole 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:09.640 his favorite toy. He was screaming outside the door like 0:16:10.280 --> 0:16:11.400 a bad like. 0:16:13.560 --> 0:16:15.640 Schu He didn't tell you can use the bathroom. 0:16:16.560 --> 0:16:18.160 And I was looking at her like, so, how do 0:16:18.200 --> 0:16:20.280 you peech? She's like I kind of don't. I just wait. 0:16:20.320 --> 0:16:24.280 He falls asleep. I was yo. He was losing his mind. 0:16:24.320 --> 0:16:27.800 I'm like, Roman, I'm just here. I'm just I just 0:16:27.800 --> 0:16:29.640 have to pee. He was just like, I don't care. 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:31.920 I don't care what you have to do. We're playing, 0:16:31.920 --> 0:16:35.000 we're having a good time. Name pain And I'm like, wow, 0:16:35.600 --> 0:16:38.280 so so what do you think about? Like what's he asked, 0:16:38.480 --> 0:16:39.640 What's I. 0:16:39.600 --> 0:16:43.720 One hundred percent understand where he's coming from. I like 0:16:43.840 --> 0:16:46.200 last week, it just there was just we have a 0:16:46.240 --> 0:16:49.800 small open concept office. Okay, I've had open concept offices 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:52.160 for my entire career. I feel like since I moved 0:16:52.160 --> 0:16:54.520 to New York, they're all the rage. You know, well 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:58.080 no walls, no doors, just you know, everyone's collaborating and creative. 0:16:58.520 --> 0:17:01.640 But that shit gets so in and distracting, and like, 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:04.160 sometimes you just need to sit in a quiet place 0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:06.600 and just focus on your work and not be distracted. 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:09.879 And last week I got really frustrated and I was like, 0:17:09.920 --> 0:17:11.280 I'm just going to go across the hall to this 0:17:11.400 --> 0:17:13.000 room and just like lock myself in here and have 0:17:13.080 --> 0:17:18.399 some quiet time. And I understand completely like that, and 0:17:18.440 --> 0:17:20.639 I'm sure he is, like, you know, being Steve Harvey, 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:22.840 being the boss of anything, people are constantly pulling you 0:17:22.840 --> 0:17:25.080 in a million directions and you need to have boundaries. 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:28.880 I think the tone of this email I think would 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:31.680 make me if I were if I were an employee 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:33.240 and I got this email, I'd be like, well, I'm 0:17:33.240 --> 0:17:35.399 never talking to him again. I'm afraid of him, Like 0:17:35.440 --> 0:17:37.560 I wouldn't approach him at all. There's a lot of 0:17:37.600 --> 0:17:40.119 rules in here. How could you remember all this? Like 0:17:40.359 --> 0:17:41.720 I'd be like, wait, did he say that I could 0:17:41.720 --> 0:17:43.399 talk to him in the break room. I can't remember, 0:17:43.880 --> 0:17:46.760 or was yeah, only by the elevator, Like what you know, 0:17:46.880 --> 0:17:48.120 I think it was a little intense. 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:53.160 Yeah, it's clear that this was written out of sheer frustration. Yeah, 0:17:53.200 --> 0:17:55.399 it's hard because when you have could this, this is 0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:58.479 what it read like to me, something happened, knee jerk reaction. 0:17:58.640 --> 0:18:03.959 I'm typing this the kermit type the team. But I 0:18:04.000 --> 0:18:08.200 completely understand and agree with the premise of what he's 0:18:08.240 --> 0:18:12.160 saying that basically, like because one like let's just say, 0:18:12.160 --> 0:18:14.000 you know, he's walking on the hallway and you're like 0:18:14.080 --> 0:18:16.960 sharing important information, Like I don't like, I'm the type 0:18:17.000 --> 0:18:19.080 that if you have to share something with me, I'm 0:18:19.080 --> 0:18:21.639 gonna need to write it down. You know, this is important, 0:18:21.840 --> 0:18:24.560 So like you sharing with me this is a casual walk. 0:18:24.600 --> 0:18:27.920 How do I process this part of the business while 0:18:27.920 --> 0:18:29.880