WEBVTT - Ep. 3 “We don’t STFU” 0:00:03.080 --> 0:00:07.000 We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion to 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:11.760 talk back. We just want to start today's show off 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:16.279 by thinking, everybody for tuning in, and this is episode No. 0:00:16.440 --> 0:00:23.400 But three. Treat I'll treat it, y'all if we talk back. Period. 0:00:23.960 --> 0:00:26.279 I miss y'all. That's what I tell nickas when I 0:00:26.320 --> 0:00:33.800 ain't seen him, even if I missed you. So this 0:00:33.880 --> 0:00:36.800 is one of your hosts, AJ and this is tam Man. 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:41.080 How was your weekend? Girl? They extended to quarantine in Charlotte. Yes, 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:43.920 they extended the ship and I'm just tired of saying. 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:47.159 I'll be watching them videos from Atlanta in Houston. I'll 0:00:47.200 --> 0:00:48.720 be wanting to go. And there's like a part of 0:00:48.760 --> 0:00:51.560 me that's like, girl, fund that ship, just lived your life. 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:53.600 And then the other part of me is like, girl, 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:56.920 be a responsible adult. What the fund is wrong with you? 0:00:57.160 --> 0:01:02.280 Go out catch that book here. All weekend, I watched 0:01:02.680 --> 0:01:05.720 then funck on Bridgetina. I watched that back and forth 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:11.160 a couple of times, and nothing do some vegetables just 0:01:11.200 --> 0:01:15.240 doing stupid ass, dumb shit. I made a TikTok, I 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:18.080 did a silhouette challenge. I don't never do no fucking TikTok. 0:01:18.160 --> 0:01:21.000 That's how bored I was. I took a children's app 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:24.160 and slutted it out with a silhouette challenge, just like 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:28.920 all these other adults everybody board forgive us. What can 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:31.280 you do? What'd you do over the weekend? I don't 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:35.399 do much of nothing. Man, laying around the house, cook breakfast, lunch, 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:38.039 and dinner. I just feel like the fucking lunch lady, 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:44.560 A big booty cafeteria lady. Ain't ill my beans? Yeah, 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:46.600 well you look like the little lady when I call 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:52.000 you with that body all you get what you get? Right? 0:01:52.280 --> 0:01:55.680 You want these pancakes or not making pancakes or some 0:01:55.720 --> 0:01:57.960 ship and I call you, don't get these same old pancakes. 0:01:57.960 --> 0:02:01.720 You're gonna get the same old push put them out 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:05.080 on the side. So look, we do celebrate Black history 0:02:05.120 --> 0:02:09.560 from January one to December thirty one year around, yes, 0:02:09.800 --> 0:02:12.440 But for the month of February, we do want to 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:15.040 have a little bit of a little known Black history 0:02:15.120 --> 0:02:18.360 and some baddies who talked back. Yes, honey. So I 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:22.119 have a woman who came before Rosa Parks. You might 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:25.040 not know about this. Her name was Clawed at COVID 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:28.120 and at the age of fifteen. She got on the bus. 0:02:28.200 --> 0:02:31.079 She did not get up before Rosa did it. They 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:34.560 made Rosa the face of that movement, but Honey clawed 0:02:34.600 --> 0:02:37.840 that at fifteen, sat down and she said, and I quote, 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:40.600 it felt like so jouring. The truth was on one 0:02:40.680 --> 0:02:43.440 side pushing me down, and Harriet Tubmant was on the 0:02:43.440 --> 0:02:46.280 other side of me pushing me down. I couldn't get up. 0:02:46.800 --> 0:02:49.280 Little sis did not want to get up. Fifteen years old, 0:02:50.040 --> 0:02:52.440 y'all get in the back. I was here first period. 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:57.200 So the spirit to her as not the movie. I know, 0:02:57.320 --> 0:03:02.160 that's right. We salute you, Claude, that cold black Patty 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:05.040 who talked back ship to me, it sounds like a 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:07.440 little bit of colorism in there. Why she wasn't the 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:10.560 face of that movement. M well, that's what another episode 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:13.840 right there. So obviously we can't have a podcast called 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:20.320 We Talked Back without talking about talking back. Do you 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:23.280 think talking back is not not being submissive? It's like 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:26.040 not one of the characteristics of a submissive woman, a 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:30.839 virtuous woman. Um, that's a slippery slope because you can 0:03:30.960 --> 0:03:35.160 talk back in a way that is respectful, in a 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:39.600 way that is you know, more communication than talking down. 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:41.440 On the motherfucker you know what I'm saying. Like, so 0:03:41.520 --> 0:03:46.520 sometimes talking back and be like, well, you're stupid, you 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:49.160 don't I'm the leader, I'm the you know. It just 0:03:49.200 --> 0:03:51.760 depends on the delivery and the tone. Honestly, when you're 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:54.560 talking back to your man, what do you think? Possibly 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:57.960 I mean, but I'm just not doscile and I just 0:03:58.000 --> 0:04:00.920 don't sit back. I don't either. That's likely why I 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:05.360 got no man. I'm learning how to be more submissive 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:08.600 and still have a voice at the same time. Yeah, 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:12.440 because for me, like not talking back, it's just me 0:04:12.640 --> 0:04:16.640 not saying anything. So he's either like zero or a hundred. 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:21.960 So if saying ship, is that considered being submissive? Yeah, 0:04:22.360 --> 0:04:25.320 so something that might be being submissive to others it 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:29.119 might be passive aggressive, but I ain't never not saying ship. 0:04:29.760 --> 0:04:32.360 Even the nigger could be like say one more motherfucking thing. 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:35.240 That's where I got it. I'm like, h I was 0:04:35.600 --> 0:04:44.120 mow say something like something coming out of my mouth. 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:47.240 I just I gotta you know, I gotta say what 0:04:47.320 --> 0:04:49.720 I mean. I mean when I say all the time. Right, 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:52.080 So what you think about what's the girl from uh 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:56.000 the real genie? My I think that's her name. Um. 0:04:56.360 --> 0:05:00.760 She was saying some things about her relationship with young Jeezy, 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:05.920 So she was saying basically how she loves being submissive 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:08.160 in her relationship with her man. She didn't really say 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:10.440 geez or whatever, but she was saying, like, you know, 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:13.560 she's used to being her own boss, being her own manager, 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:15.400 doing this at a third and when she comes home 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:18.560 she takes pleasure and being able to take that code 0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:22.159 off and let her man run things. But what exactly 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:24.080 does that all? And tell us it just like picking 0:05:24.120 --> 0:05:26.520 out what food we're gonna eat today? Like, what does 0:05:26.720 --> 0:05:30.000 being submissive really mean in a relationship? Because I feel 0:05:30.040 --> 0:05:32.840 like the black community has taken this and ran with 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:35.760 it because they feel like black women are incapable of 0:05:35.880 --> 0:05:39.039 being submissive in a relationship with a black man, which 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:41.599 isn't true. When I did a poll over the weekend 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:46.479 and I had like quite a few hundred people respond Really, 0:05:46.520 --> 0:05:48.560 you did a poll, like two men or women? I 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:54.360 asked both, I said, ladies, are you submissive? Said? I 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:57.960 let him run ship? And then said girl, fuck that? 0:05:58.400 --> 0:06:01.640 So half half a little over half said that they were. 0:06:02.560 --> 0:06:06.719 And then I asked the men are black women submissive? 0:06:06.960 --> 0:06:09.560 Let me find these results because it was crazy. It 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:15.400 was twenty eight percent said that black women were submissive 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:22.800 percent percent. So black men, according to this pole, don't 0:06:22.880 --> 0:06:26.480 believe that black women are submissive to them. But who 0:06:26.600 --> 0:06:28.520 are those black men? Because I feel like if a 0:06:28.640 --> 0:06:32.240 black woman has like a real man, like, being submissive 0:06:32.400 --> 0:06:34.880 will come naturally because you trust him, you know, to 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:37.800 lead you in the right direction, so you're following. So 0:06:37.960 --> 0:06:40.440 when you say real man, what is a real man? 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:43.040 A man that is capable of taking care of all 0:06:43.120 --> 0:06:46.000 aspects of your life? Following him is easy because you 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:47.880 know he's making the best decision for both of you. 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:50.080 If you are in a household where you're paying fifty 0:06:50.080 --> 0:06:52.360 percent of the damn bills, you're gonna want to have 0:06:52.480 --> 0:06:55.360 a voice. You know what I'm saying. This man can't say, Hey, 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:57.920 I'm about to go out and buy a brand new carter. 0:06:58.000 --> 0:06:59.640 You know both of you want to have to pay 0:06:59.720 --> 0:07:04.120 for right, So he needs half of your So if 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:05.880 he were to go out and go purchase this car 0:07:06.080 --> 0:07:09.440 and European the bills, it's gonna be a whole problem 0:07:09.520 --> 0:07:12.120 and you're gonna hear about it. Right, So do you think, uh, 0:07:12.720 --> 0:07:15.760 it was easier to be submissive in a society where 0:07:16.080 --> 0:07:19.360 women weren't afforded the lifestyles that we have now. Like 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:22.480 you know, back in great grandma time, she didn't work. 0:07:22.760 --> 0:07:25.000 She didn't work no fucking where. She took care of 0:07:25.080 --> 0:07:27.880 the kids and that in the household, that was her job. 0:07:28.160 --> 0:07:30.600 I come from a lineage of women that worked, like 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:34.160 my grandma was a bootlegger. She worked at a hotel. 0:07:34.640 --> 0:07:39.480 She cleaned people houses after hours, like she worked. My grandfather, 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:41.480 from what I heard, because I never met him, he 0:07:41.600 --> 0:07:44.320 was an alcoholic, so he worked, but he was full 0:07:44.360 --> 0:07:47.080 of ship at the same time, you see what I'm saying. 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:49.040 So she always had to say so in her household. 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:50.840 As far as I'm concerned, because the way my mom is, 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:52.640 I'm pretty sure she got it from her goddamn mom. 0:07:53.200 --> 0:07:56.680 Just a fussy ass, leady talking ship, which I really 0:07:56.800 --> 0:07:59.600 tried my best not to be that woman. I try 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:02.400 not to complain about ship a lot of times. But 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:06.360 I roll with my eyes y'all, y'all can't see me. 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:12.000 Whatever and whatever, nigger, yes, because I got something to 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:14.440 say about every guy the thing. And if I'm wrong, 0:08:14.520 --> 0:08:18.480 I'm wrong, I'll just be quiet. But so when you're wrong. 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:22.000 Do you do you have the capacity to say, hey, 0:08:22.520 --> 0:08:27.280 you're right and I was wrong. Absolutely, absolutely, I do 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:30.280 have the capacity to say I was wrong. But if 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:32.319 I don't feel like I'm wrong either, I'm going to 0:08:32.480 --> 0:08:35.640 just not talk about it anymore, because I mean, I'm 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:38.160 not the type of person who wants to convince somebody 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:42.280 else of my ideas or what I think about a situation. 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:44.240 So I just don't want to talk about it no more. 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:47.040 You've experienced that with me as well, right, absolutely, And 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:49.520 that's how I am with my man. I don't know. 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:55.040 I don't know how healthy that is. I am capable 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:57.559 of letting things go. So if I feel like I'm 0:08:57.600 --> 0:09:01.240 in a situation where I can't get my point across 0:09:01.320 --> 0:09:03.160 and your point isn't getting across to me, I'm okay, 0:09:03.200 --> 0:09:04.800 we're not talking about it no more. But here's the 0:09:04.880 --> 0:09:08.880 only thing that is going to resurface in different ways whatever, 0:09:10.840 --> 0:09:13.360 and we'll handle it then. But today, for the sake 0:09:13.400 --> 0:09:15.760 of my fucking brain, I'm not talking about it no more. 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:18.600 But for the most part, I always got some ship 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:21.160 to say. I always got rebuttaled for something which may 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:26.800 get on people's nerves. But m so, what about what 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:29.719 else about being submiss So Jennie, for people to put 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:32.280 that video out there like they're trying to say something 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:34.480 to black woman, I kind of felt offended by it 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:37.120 a little bit because you know, she has a black 0:09:37.200 --> 0:09:39.360 man who's willing to lead her, and she's so happy 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:41.760 about it. But that's her second marriage. She wouldn't even 0:09:41.760 --> 0:09:44.400 give her first husband a child, So now you have 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:48.400 this man, which before did you see the herd? What 0:09:48.520 --> 0:09:51.760 she said she like white meat keeps her lee, but 0:09:52.000 --> 0:09:54.800 dark meat is just for fun or something. So basically, 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:57.480 black men are a condiment. We're a condiment for her 0:09:57.520 --> 0:09:59.120 as far as I can, like some catch up a 0:09:59.200 --> 0:10:02.320 Mayo money Mustard type ship. And I noticed what ts 0:10:02.320 --> 0:10:04.280 are like in the Shade Room. They love to put 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:07.040 the thing out there about splitting rent. It's like clickbait 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:09.640 for black for the black community in America. So what's 0:10:09.679 --> 0:10:12.679 your what is your thoughts on splitting rent with your boyfriend? 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:14.840 I rather lived by my fucking self. If I want 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:17.480 a roommate, my idea of having a man is not 0:10:17.679 --> 0:10:21.520 me paying half the bills. I understand, like, yeah, some 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:23.400 people may do that in their relationship because it works 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:27.199 for their relationship I'm not telling women, um, like, that's wrong. 0:10:27.440 --> 0:10:29.800 You shouldn't be splitting bills with your man. Like how 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:32.080 if you love this person and that's the situation, y'all 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:36.040 are in and it works go forward, especially if you're 0:10:36.080 --> 0:10:39.160 the situation where the woman makes way more than a man. 0:10:39.920 --> 0:10:42.000 I don't mind tricking on the nigga. Like, it's just 0:10:42.120 --> 0:10:44.160 some people in life that I want to see happy 0:10:44.360 --> 0:10:47.800 with money, like having fun, Like I want my dude 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:51.120 to be that person. But like, I'm okay with him 0:10:51.160 --> 0:10:54.000 making more money than me. I'm not. It's not a competition. 0:10:54.440 --> 0:10:56.920 But I probably would never put myself in a situation 0:10:57.120 --> 0:10:58.760 again in life because I'm not gonna say I've never 0:10:58.800 --> 0:11:00.800 been there. I don't took a nigga on vacasion before. 0:11:01.600 --> 0:11:04.599 First of all, the man sometimes get a little he 0:11:04.720 --> 0:11:09.439 feels emasculated success in comparison to him exactly, and that 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:12.079 causes problems because it's like a tug Awards. Remember that 0:11:12.120 --> 0:11:14.720 episode of Martin when he found out Junia was making 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:20.640 more than him the whole damn food. It may be subconscious, 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:22.680 they may not know that that's the problem, and they 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:24.880 may be laughing out for other reasons, but it's not 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:26.920 my duty to make you feel like a man. It's 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:29.640 either you are you aren't. A real man could walk 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:32.720 in the room and not say a word, and everybody 0:11:32.840 --> 0:11:35.120 in there knows that that's a man because its aura. 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:39.319 I disagree. It is your job to make a man 0:11:39.440 --> 0:11:43.200 feel like to make your man feel strong and powerful 0:11:43.280 --> 0:11:45.920 all the time. That's your job. That's your job as 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:48.880 his woman. We need each other to do that. We 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:51.679 need each other for that. Sometimes it just depends how 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:56.760 deeply going into it, Like you know exactly, I'm always 0:11:56.760 --> 0:11:58.880 going to encourage the man, and I'm with you, But 0:11:59.120 --> 0:12:01.320 have you ever been with what a dude who had less? 0:12:01.440 --> 0:12:03.680 They kind of act like you owe them something. They 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:05.959 act like the world kind of owe them something like 0:12:06.080 --> 0:12:08.280 you mean less, like like less money than you have 0:12:08.800 --> 0:12:10.520 I have. Like I said, I don't took a nigga 0:12:10.800 --> 0:12:13.920 on vacation before, and broke niggas be the most disrespect 0:12:14.000 --> 0:12:17.160 to me. Like broke men are usually the ones that's 0:12:17.160 --> 0:12:23.240 going to cheat on you. Yes, deck in time, that's it. 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:25.880 Like while you running around, you may not be able 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:27.679 to fun him as much as he would like to 0:12:27.720 --> 0:12:30.240 get fun because you gotta work. I just wish rich 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:32.280 niggas are the ones who cheat the most. They have 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:34.439 the capacity and the money to do it. You know, 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:37.760 broke niggas they can't cheat. They probably cheat, but not 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:41.040 as good as cheat. Girl, Like you know that dropping 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:42.920 a woman off to work and taking her car, that's 0:12:42.960 --> 0:12:45.240 a real thing. And a lot of women have men 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:47.439 dropping their ass off the work and they're going to 0:12:47.480 --> 0:12:55.719 funk on some bits who work from home. Verizonizing just 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:02.920 shout out to Verizon, we love y'all. Girl, ain't working 0:13:02.960 --> 0:13:08.880 all that oldt. I'm dropping d d off. I'm rof 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:13.800 so I don't know. I'm not opposed to me and 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:15.480 Smiths for the most part, but if something doesn't make 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:17.599 sense to me, it doesn't I'm gonna say something about it. 0:13:18.120 --> 0:13:19.880 Like I am not the type of person that just 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:21.800 shuts the funk up. And I feel like that's why 0:13:21.920 --> 0:13:24.679 black men like others. When I say others, I mean, 0:13:24.800 --> 0:13:27.960 you know, outside of the black community, they date others 0:13:28.080 --> 0:13:30.400 because it's safer, Like they want to do what they 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:32.040 want to do, and they want a woman that's gonna 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:34.400 shut the funk up about it. Let me tell you 0:13:34.480 --> 0:13:37.120 what my ex used to use. Throw this word at 0:13:37.160 --> 0:13:40.719 me a lot and it used to piss me off. Nag, 0:13:41.320 --> 0:13:44.960 you're nagging, nagging? Why are you always nagging me? As 0:13:45.000 --> 0:13:46.960 if they do? Why the funk? I gotta keep saying 0:13:47.000 --> 0:13:49.559 the same ship. That's why I'm starting to feel like 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:52.400 a nag because I'm saying the same thing over and 0:13:52.520 --> 0:13:58.240 over again and it's penetrating. Right, Yeah, that ship used 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:00.160 to piss me off. Nag and you nag and me? 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:04.360 Black women always nagging? Who started that nigger who just 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:06.080 wanted to do what he wanted to do? Same way 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:08.520 with a nigger who created gold? Digger like it was 0:14:08.559 --> 0:14:12.000 a nigga with no goal. You don't have no gold 0:14:12.120 --> 0:14:13.599 for me to dig, So how the fund can I 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:18.040 be a gold digger? Sir? I'm gonna do better about 0:14:18.120 --> 0:14:22.840 with my next nigger. I'm gonna do better. I'm gonna 0:14:22.920 --> 0:14:25.880 do better about. Let me start my current nigga. Pick 0:14:26.680 --> 0:14:30.120 my battles. I don't have to debate every thing because 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:33.480 I've been known to like go toe to toe about 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:37.760 everything in this next relationship, sometimes I will shut the 0:14:37.800 --> 0:14:39.600 funk up. So what kind of things in your last 0:14:39.920 --> 0:14:42.360 or that relationship where the guy was saying you were 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:44.400 a nagged? Like, what kind of things were you nagging 0:14:44.440 --> 0:14:47.680 about about, like when you finished drinking your beer, throw 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:50.040 the ball at something. You ain't gotta like take everyone 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:52.880 every single time. But when I get up, I shouldn't 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:55.440 have to pick up beer bottles all day from all 0:14:55.520 --> 0:14:58.560 over the house. Now it'd be little ship like that. 0:14:58.920 --> 0:15:02.280 Or so he to do this thing where he I 0:15:02.680 --> 0:15:04.760 didn't know what it was. Okay, So I used to 0:15:05.000 --> 0:15:07.600 come home from work and I find little two pieces 0:15:07.640 --> 0:15:10.480 of tape in the stairwell, two little pieces of tape 0:15:10.480 --> 0:15:15.200 in the kitchen, tape too, yeah, masking tape, two little 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:17.640 pieces of tape in the bedroom, two little pieces of 0:15:17.720 --> 0:15:21.440 taping the downstairs bathroom. Like Eventually I was like, Yo, 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:24.760 what the fuck up with these little two pieces of 0:15:24.880 --> 0:15:27.240 table all over the house every day when I get home? 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:31.080 How to clean it up? What are you doing? Said? 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:34.720 I don't crying. Let's tell you what this nigga said. 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:38.040 This nigga said that he'd be beating this dick and 0:15:38.120 --> 0:15:40.600 he put tape over the front and back camera because 0:15:40.640 --> 0:15:45.600 he don't want anybody to like extort him. You're like 0:15:45.720 --> 0:15:47.840 he heard that they could record you while you're watching 0:15:47.960 --> 0:15:52.200 videos and like seeing the tape like random places after 0:15:53.160 --> 0:15:54.720 I was like, so, nigga, you mean to tell me 0:15:54.760 --> 0:16:00.360 I'm talking about taping the stairwell kitchen dicking my kitchen, 0:16:02.360 --> 0:16:08.040 basty motherfucker? This where? Give me what? So held don't 0:16:08.080 --> 0:16:10.600 be his dick downstairs and then walk up the stairs 0:16:10.720 --> 0:16:13.480 like take this why you probably get on Instagram right quick? 0:16:15.040 --> 0:16:17.720 In the stairway? What the funk? So I know when 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:19.840 and where are you even beating your dick at right? 0:16:20.240 --> 0:16:23.960 So it's just like I'm magging. That is not nagging, nigger? 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:25.880 What the fund is up? That's just a cop out 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:27.840 to make a black woman shut up? Are you nagging? 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:29.880 So you put it on nuts like we're doing something 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:32.280 bad when your mom would be telling you the same 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:34.640 damn thing. Clean the bear bottles up? What the fund? 0:16:34.680 --> 0:16:37.120 Are you doing all his tape? So maybe we're reminding 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:39.480 them of their mom when we're just asking them to 0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:43.240 be a damn adult and clean up after themselves the period? 0:16:43.760 --> 0:16:46.160 What's all this tape over the house? And are you 0:16:46.320 --> 0:16:48.880 really beating your dick this much? That was a question, 0:16:48.960 --> 0:16:52.360 like all the time, why are you beating your dick 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:57.520 this offense? Was he watching Florid and beating? Yeah? Yeah, 0:16:57.920 --> 0:17:01.360 maybe he was addicted to himself. I can't even understand 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:03.720 how much it too. Finally I had to dive to 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:06.240 ask the question, like, what is this tape all over 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:10.280 the house? That's weird as hell? Man, hold on, before 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:13.120 we get into anything else, let's pay some bills real quick. 0:17:16.080 --> 0:17:19.320 So based on this this I g poll like, what 0:17:19.440 --> 0:17:21.080 kind of responses did you get from men? And I 0:17:21.160 --> 0:17:22.960 hope it was men and not women because we didn't 0:17:23.119 --> 0:17:25.480 bitches always speaking out of turn. Now because this show, 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:28.600 it shows the names of the you know, the people 0:17:28.640 --> 0:17:31.200 who respond. So I just said, what does it mean 0:17:31.280 --> 0:17:35.359 to you for your woman to be submissive? And someone said, 0:17:35.880 --> 0:17:37.960 you don't have to be submissive, just take care of 0:17:38.000 --> 0:17:39.920 the house and I would provide and protect you and 0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:43.920 the kids. Makes it work. Don't nobody want to be 0:17:44.040 --> 0:17:48.520 battling their partner. Another guy said she respects our roles 0:17:48.560 --> 0:17:51.639 in the relationship and that she knows how, when and 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:54.320 why to allow me to lead her. So if your 0:17:54.320 --> 0:17:57.480 opinion half the bills, what's the roles in the relationship? 0:17:57.760 --> 0:18:01.520 I guess each individual relationship has to establish their own roles, 0:18:01.560 --> 0:18:04.359 because some women take that out for leaving their relationship 0:18:04.520 --> 0:18:06.880 and some men probably are comfortable with that, right, Yeah, 0:18:07.160 --> 0:18:09.760 I want a man to like be knowing what the 0:18:09.840 --> 0:18:13.600 fun is going on and is capable of making decisions 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:15.440 for both of us, even even if you go to 0:18:15.520 --> 0:18:17.120 a restaurant, like you already know what I like to eat, 0:18:17.200 --> 0:18:19.800 like he might order both of our foods. No, I 0:18:19.840 --> 0:18:23.160 don't want nobody to order. I've ordered my man food 0:18:23.200 --> 0:18:24.639 before because I know what he likes. I know what 0:18:24.720 --> 0:18:27.280 he would eat off the menu. Don't order shifting me. 0:18:27.280 --> 0:18:29.560 I'm looking at you like you're crazy. I do not 0:18:29.680 --> 0:18:34.720 play about my food losses like a sally What you're 0:18:34.720 --> 0:18:39.320 trying to say? I'm fat? First, I'll have don't scratch 0:18:39.440 --> 0:18:42.200 that with that. Niggas said, I'll have the lobster bens 0:18:42.320 --> 0:18:45.680 to start Hennessey stock Car. When you see that low, 0:18:45.760 --> 0:18:49.440 bring me another like, don't do that. Don't do that 0:18:49.720 --> 0:18:53.240 al right. Someone else said, give that man some head. Wow, 0:18:53.680 --> 0:18:57.439 So giving head is being some amissive interesting I mean, man, 0:18:57.560 --> 0:18:59.399 I don't I never met a man. I take that 0:18:59.520 --> 0:19:01.359 as put it in your mouth and shut the funk up. 0:19:02.960 --> 0:19:05.200 I've never met a man who didn't want head. Have you? 0:19:05.760 --> 0:19:07.159 Have you ever met a man like? I don't like 0:19:07.280 --> 0:19:09.440 getting my dicks up. I have an ax like that 0:19:09.760 --> 0:19:13.680 he did, like I barely I barely had to suck dick, 0:19:13.960 --> 0:19:16.320 and then my current relationship, like, I suck a lot 0:19:16.400 --> 0:19:19.399 of dick. So now I'm like, god, damn it, nig 0:19:19.720 --> 0:19:22.040 like didn't even like head like that it was nothing 0:19:22.080 --> 0:19:24.200 for him. Like that's weird because he just said it 0:19:24.240 --> 0:19:26.440 didn't feel like nothing to him. And I know I 0:19:27.119 --> 0:19:30.040 can give good head, I believe anyway. I never had 0:19:30.080 --> 0:19:31.720 somebody say, hey, I don't never run to that good 0:19:31.800 --> 0:19:33.919 head today. You know what the women do said they 0:19:33.960 --> 0:19:36.800 don't give good head, some women, not me, not this 0:19:37.200 --> 0:19:39.920 So what is good head consistent? We'll talk about that later. 0:19:40.680 --> 0:19:43.400 A lot of spit, I guess you know it depends 0:19:43.440 --> 0:19:45.959 on the man, because I had somebody tell me one 0:19:46.040 --> 0:19:50.800 time that he did not appreciate me spitting on his dick. Yeah, yeah, 0:19:51.520 --> 0:19:55.280 I've had that too, Like I don't want all that. 0:19:56.400 --> 0:19:59.639 It's going touching my balls at this point. What so 0:19:59.760 --> 0:20:02.240 you know the one dry head, right? Okay, Well, let 0:20:02.280 --> 0:20:04.680 me go get this uh fucking sand paper and I'll 0:20:04.720 --> 0:20:06.720 just struck it up and down your dick, sir. You 0:20:06.800 --> 0:20:09.840 want some cereal pussy, some cold pussy. What that dry 0:20:09.920 --> 0:20:12.760 head and cold pussy. The fun's going on. But he 0:20:13.200 --> 0:20:15.760 used their own. If you like it dry, give me 0:20:15.880 --> 0:20:18.840 this shape, he dick if you wanted all right, So 0:20:19.119 --> 0:20:22.359 that was where give that man some head? Uh, someone said, 0:20:22.480 --> 0:20:25.000 humble enough to listen, but but sure enough to follow 0:20:25.080 --> 0:20:30.840 with all trust, with all trust. So hard, I know, man, 0:20:31.880 --> 0:20:35.000 especially when you're coming from a household with the mama. Yeah, 0:20:35.320 --> 0:20:37.399 like she made all the decisions. And now I got 0:20:37.520 --> 0:20:39.960 to figure out. You didn't grow up watching that, you know. 0:20:41.240 --> 0:20:43.960 So I grew up in a single parent home. My 0:20:44.080 --> 0:20:46.359 father was always around, but he didn't live in the house. 0:20:46.840 --> 0:20:51.720 But my boyfriend his parents were together, and their relationship 0:20:51.880 --> 0:20:54.800 was an interesting one. I just felt like she was. 0:20:55.000 --> 0:20:57.560 She did teach me some things about being more submissive, 0:20:57.760 --> 0:21:00.399 like how I am with making plates and putting it 0:21:00.480 --> 0:21:02.359 at the table and taking it away from the table, 0:21:02.520 --> 0:21:05.160 and being that kind of woman, like not saying, nigga, 0:21:05.400 --> 0:21:08.159 make your own ship. You know that is something that 0:21:08.760 --> 0:21:11.240 a lot of women are like that. What is that about? 0:21:11.400 --> 0:21:13.760 You know? Anywhere? Like if we're out of the barbecue, 0:21:13.920 --> 0:21:16.800 if we're at home, anywhere, I'm making your play. Nobody 0:21:16.840 --> 0:21:19.960 can make my nigga place nobody, because Mama, I gotta 0:21:20.040 --> 0:21:21.879 know the funk you don't. Mama, set your ass there, 0:21:21.920 --> 0:21:27.040 I got down exactly, make yours to mama, sit your down. 0:21:27.320 --> 0:21:31.040 I know what he liked to eat, right, So yeah, 0:21:31.320 --> 0:21:35.320 all trust that's hard. I trust be though, but it's hard, 0:21:35.480 --> 0:21:37.360 like that's not is that real life? I can give 0:21:37.359 --> 0:21:42.800