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Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion to

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Speaker 1: talk back. We just want to start today's show off

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Speaker 1: by thinking, everybody for tuning in, and this is episode No.

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Speaker 1: But three. Treat I'll treat it, y'all if we talk back. Period.

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Speaker 1: I miss y'all. That's what I tell nickas when I

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Speaker 1: ain't seen him, even if I missed you. So this

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Speaker 1: is one of your hosts, AJ and this is tam Man.

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Speaker 1: How was your weekend? Girl? They extended to quarantine in Charlotte. Yes,

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Speaker 1: they extended the ship and I'm just tired of saying.

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Speaker 1: I'll be watching them videos from Atlanta in Houston. I'll

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Speaker 1: be wanting to go. And there's like a part of

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Speaker 1: me that's like, girl, fund that ship, just lived your life.

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Speaker 1: And then the other part of me is like, girl,

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Speaker 1: be a responsible adult. What the fund is wrong with you?

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Speaker 1: Go out catch that book here. All weekend, I watched

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Speaker 1: then funck on Bridgetina. I watched that back and forth

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Speaker 1: a couple of times, and nothing do some vegetables just

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Speaker 1: doing stupid ass, dumb shit. I made a TikTok, I

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Speaker 1: did a silhouette challenge. I don't never do no fucking TikTok.

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Speaker 1: That's how bored I was. I took a children's app

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Speaker 1: and slutted it out with a silhouette challenge, just like

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Speaker 1: all these other adults everybody board forgive us. What can

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Speaker 1: you do? What'd you do over the weekend? I don't

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Speaker 1: do much of nothing. Man, laying around the house, cook breakfast, lunch,

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Speaker 1: and dinner. I just feel like the fucking lunch lady,

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Speaker 1: A big booty cafeteria lady. Ain't ill my beans? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: well you look like the little lady when I call

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Speaker 1: you with that body all you get what you get? Right?

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Speaker 1: You want these pancakes or not making pancakes or some

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Speaker 1: ship and I call you, don't get these same old pancakes.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna get the same old push put them out

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Speaker 1: on the side. So look, we do celebrate Black history

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Speaker 1: from January one to December thirty one year around, yes,

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Speaker 1: But for the month of February, we do want to

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Speaker 1: have a little bit of a little known Black history

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Speaker 1: and some baddies who talked back. Yes, honey. So I

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Speaker 1: have a woman who came before Rosa Parks. You might

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Speaker 1: not know about this. Her name was Clawed at COVID

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Speaker 1: and at the age of fifteen. She got on the bus.

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Speaker 1: She did not get up before Rosa did it. They

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Speaker 1: made Rosa the face of that movement, but Honey clawed

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Speaker 1: that at fifteen, sat down and she said, and I quote,

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Speaker 1: it felt like so jouring. The truth was on one

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Speaker 1: side pushing me down, and Harriet Tubmant was on the

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Speaker 1: Little sis did not want to get up. Fifteen years old,

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Speaker 1: y'all get in the back. I was here first period.

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Speaker 1: So the spirit to her as not the movie. I know,

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Speaker 1: that's right. We salute you, Claude, that cold black Patty

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Speaker 1: who talked back ship to me, it sounds like a

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Speaker 1: little bit of colorism in there. Why she wasn't the

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Speaker 1: face of that movement. M well, that's what another episode

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Speaker 1: right there. So obviously we can't have a podcast called

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Speaker 1: We Talked Back without talking about talking back. Do you

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Speaker 1: think talking back is not not being submissive? It's like

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Speaker 1: not one of the characteristics of a submissive woman, a

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Speaker 1: virtuous woman. Um, that's a slippery slope because you can

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Speaker 1: On the motherfucker you know what I'm saying. Like, so

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Speaker 1: sometimes talking back and be like, well, you're stupid, you

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Speaker 1: don't I'm the leader, I'm the you know. It just

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Speaker 1: depends on the delivery and the tone. Honestly, when you're

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Speaker 1: I mean, but I'm just not doscile and I just

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Speaker 1: and still have a voice at the same time. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So if saying ship, is that considered being submissive? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so something that might be being submissive to others it

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Speaker 1: Even the nigger could be like say one more motherfucking thing.

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Speaker 1: That's where I got it. I'm like, h I was

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Speaker 1: I just I gotta you know, I gotta say what

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Speaker 1: So she was saying basically how she loves being submissive

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Speaker 1: does that all? And tell us it just like picking

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Speaker 1: when you say real man, what is a real man?

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Speaker 1: A man that is capable of taking care of all

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Speaker 1: know he's making the best decision for both of you.

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Speaker 1: If you are in a household where you're paying fifty

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Speaker 1: a voice. You know what I'm saying. This man can't say, Hey,

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Speaker 1: I'm about to go out and buy a brand new carter.

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Speaker 1: and you're gonna hear about it. Right, So do you think, uh,

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Speaker 1: it was easier to be submissive in a society where

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Speaker 1: She cleaned people houses after hours, like she worked. My grandfather,

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Speaker 1: So she always had to say so in her household.

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Speaker 1: Just a fussy ass, leady talking ship, which I really

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Speaker 1: I roll with my eyes y'all, y'all can't see me.

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Speaker 1: Whatever and whatever, nigger, yes, because I got something to

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Speaker 1: I'm wrong, I'll just be quiet. But so when you're wrong.

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Speaker 1: Do you do you have the capacity to say, hey,

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Speaker 1: you're right and I was wrong. Absolutely, absolutely, I do

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Speaker 1: So I just don't want to talk about it no more.

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Speaker 1: You've experienced that with me as well, right, absolutely, And

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Speaker 1: I don't know how healthy that is. I am capable

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Speaker 1: and we'll handle it then. But today, for the sake

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Speaker 1: But for the most part, I always got some ship

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Speaker 1: as far as I can, like some catch up a

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Speaker 1: I rather lived by my fucking self. If I want

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Speaker 1: for their relationship I'm not telling women, um, like, that's wrong.

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Speaker 1: I don't mind tricking on the nigga. Like, it's just

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Speaker 1: some people in life that I want to see happy

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Speaker 1: with money, like having fun, Like I want my dude

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Speaker 1: to be that person. But like, I'm okay with him

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Speaker 1: But I probably would never put myself in a situation

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Speaker 1: First of all, the man sometimes get a little he

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Speaker 1: feels emasculated success in comparison to him exactly, and that

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Speaker 1: causes problems because it's like a tug Awards. Remember that

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Speaker 1: I disagree. It is your job to make a man

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Speaker 1: So it's just like I'm magging. That is not nagging, nigger?

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Speaker 1: al right. Someone else said, give that man some head. Wow,

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Speaker 1: Have you ever met a man like? I don't like

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Speaker 1: But my boyfriend his parents were together, and their relationship

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Speaker 1: She did teach me some things about being more submissive,

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Speaker 1: You know? Anywhere? Like if we're out of the barbecue,

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Speaker 1: I got down exactly, make yours to mama, sit your down.

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Speaker 1: That's all that is. But no, sometimes sometimes we should

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Speaker 1: She was, um, what's his name? Wow's baby mama. Obviously

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Speaker 1: to me sometime. All right, let's see what else they said.

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Speaker 1: She respects that I, as the alpha man follower of God,

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Speaker 1: and you want me to follow you. Cut it right

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00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:52,440
Speaker 1: straight to hell. I need to see your damn resume. Right,

424
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:56,640
Speaker 1: Be what I asked and not make me ask all

425
00:22:56,720 --> 00:23:01,200
Speaker 1: the time? What is that? Be what I asked? What

426
00:23:01,359 --> 00:23:08,720
Speaker 1: you ask me. I can't beat myself a puppy and

427
00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 1: make me ask all the time. When I think of that,

428
00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:14,240
Speaker 1: like I just wish she would cook and clean or something.

429
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,840
Speaker 1: I don't know what. Then, Okay, So I feel like

430
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:20,159
Speaker 1: being submissive would be easier when your only responsibility is

431
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:24,280
Speaker 1: the household, but when you are also responsible for bills

432
00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:26,320
Speaker 1: and stuff like that, it's kind of hard not to

433
00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:28,879
Speaker 1: have say. So, Like, I know some people that you

434
00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:31,800
Speaker 1: know where the woman is a breadwinner. She's not gonna

435
00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:33,320
Speaker 1: play him and be like, look, nigger, you're in the

436
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:36,240
Speaker 1: control for real here. So she is a type of

437
00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:40,160
Speaker 1: woman that makes him feel like a man, but she's

438
00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:43,080
Speaker 1: still the breadwinner, so she doesn't emasculate him at all.

439
00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:46,879
Speaker 1: Like he struggles with being the man he wants to be.

440
00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:49,440
Speaker 1: That that's in his mind mentally. I just, you know,

441
00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:52,040
Speaker 1: I feel bad for these brothers out here. Sometime they

442
00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 1: got they got a hard man to goodness, they got

443
00:23:56,320 --> 00:24:00,280
Speaker 1: it hard. I saw yesterday on social media where these

444
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:03,480
Speaker 1: men were asking women for money. Did you see that ship?

445
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:06,399
Speaker 1: You sent that ship to me, these niggers and something.

446
00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 1: I was disgusted. I was on the toilet reading that

447
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:13,560
Speaker 1: ship this morning, begging for money. That's the quickest way

448
00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:15,680
Speaker 1: to get rid of me. Asked me for a ride

449
00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:17,960
Speaker 1: too many times and asked me for some fucking money

450
00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 1: when I never asked you for ship. That's go that

451
00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:22,520
Speaker 1: go for men or women. Like God, damn, if I'm

452
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:24,920
Speaker 1: just I feel like I'm just doing too much, I'm

453
00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:28,520
Speaker 1: gonna GOOTI your ask. You're the type you're target though,

454
00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:31,439
Speaker 1: Like how I look like a trick? You what are

455
00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:33,960
Speaker 1: you saying? Not like a trick, but you just very

456
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:36,200
Speaker 1: got that very giving spirit and people can feel it.

457
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:39,000
Speaker 1: It'd be old people. Motherfucker's no not to ask me

458
00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:41,520
Speaker 1: for ship. I'd be looking like bit, I'm the last

459
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:45,359
Speaker 1: motherfucker resort. I got that face when you come asking

460
00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 1: me for stuff. Yeah, I had an old ladies asked

461
00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:49,200
Speaker 1: me for a ride from the grocery store one day,

462
00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:51,440
Speaker 1: and she was like, God just told her to ask

463
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:53,879
Speaker 1: me because I just looked like I look nice and

464
00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:57,800
Speaker 1: so I just looked like you in your car and

465
00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 1: you took her home, didn't you? Yea, she did. It

466
00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 1: was her birthday, birthday. She was about to try to

467
00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:07,040
Speaker 1: walk home with I would have put right down the street.

468
00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:08,680
Speaker 1: You ain't know that, you ain't know you might have

469
00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:10,720
Speaker 1: been driving to your dad. Girl, this is a little

470
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:13,639
Speaker 1: ass lady, A little old lady. What's she gonna do? Well,

471
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 1: that's different. But grown ass woman. I have had grown

472
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:20,680
Speaker 1: as men asked me for money before, men that I

473
00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:24,520
Speaker 1: never asked for money before. I'm telling everybody you're playing

474
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:27,479
Speaker 1: it's so much wrong with that. But I don't want

475
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,480
Speaker 1: to make it seem like a nigga can't fall on

476
00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:32,320
Speaker 1: hard times and he can't go to a woman that

477
00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:34,880
Speaker 1: he knows for help. We do it. The nigga's all

478
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:40,080
Speaker 1: go to your mama. Mama ain't got no one all

479
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:43,919
Speaker 1: right now. You can't go to your mama, don't come

480
00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:46,720
Speaker 1: to me. They ran the well drive with mama. And

481
00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:49,040
Speaker 1: then you ain't even my dick at that, Like, that's

482
00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:50,720
Speaker 1: not my dick, and I don't pay for the dick,

483
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:52,800
Speaker 1: So no, I don't have funn at all? Is that

484
00:25:52,840 --> 00:26:03,600
Speaker 1: expensive as yet? You're gonna start paying for it? That

485
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:12,200
Speaker 1: ps eight, Mama got it? That's something for you baby. Yeah,

486
00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:13,919
Speaker 1: at that point, I guess we'll be paying for niggas

487
00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:17,040
Speaker 1: to leave, right, because that's what niggas who pay for pussy.

488
00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:18,639
Speaker 1: They're not paying for you to stay, they're paying for

489
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 1: you to go peacefully. Right. They're paying for no issues

490
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:26,720
Speaker 1: because pussy extorts nigga's okay period, especially if you got

491
00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 1: a woman and you're sucking off, like you won't have

492
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 1: to pay me to shut the funk up. So if

493
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 1: let's say, if you was a nigga and you were,

494
00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:37,000
Speaker 1: you know, going through a rough patch, how do you

495
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 1: navigate that with women? Do you not ask for help?

496
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 1: So you're asking all of us? So you're just asking

497
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:44,159
Speaker 1: them one you think that got the most money? Or

498
00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:46,320
Speaker 1: do I look stupid to you? Because I feel like

499
00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:49,200
Speaker 1: usually most people you're not gonna ask somebody who you

500
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 1: think on and say no. So at what point did

501
00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:53,640
Speaker 1: you look at me and say, hey, actually dumb ask

502
00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:57,240
Speaker 1: gonna say? Yeah, she won't give me that funny, But

503
00:26:57,320 --> 00:26:59,359
Speaker 1: that's because I asked them first. They don't get a chance.

504
00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:05,280
Speaker 1: But listen, if if I had gotten money from him before,

505
00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:08,119
Speaker 1: then yeah, I might have had that for him. But Nina,

506
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:11,399
Speaker 1: this is just a pussy and dick exchange. Surely, like

507
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 1: I've never required you. I never voiced you about this

508
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:18,240
Speaker 1: pussy before, so why are you calling me? But I don't.

509
00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 1: Never have nobody asked for me, me for money. It's

510
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,040
Speaker 1: very rare. I don't want to talk about my knees.

511
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:25,760
Speaker 1: She's a grown woman now, but she might have been

512
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,240
Speaker 1: eighteen or so. And I've always been trying to put

513
00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:31,560
Speaker 1: her ass onto games since forever, since she started using

514
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:34,080
Speaker 1: her vagina, because once you start using your pussy, that's

515
00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:37,399
Speaker 1: no longer your mom responsibility or your daddy's responsibility. Whoever

516
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:39,000
Speaker 1: using it need to be taken care of it as

517
00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:41,160
Speaker 1: far as I'm certain, period. But she literally was trying

518
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:44,240
Speaker 1: to Western Union and Nigga twenty dollars, and I'm like, girl,

519
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:48,400
Speaker 1: it caused twenty dollars twenty dollars, Like, if you don't

520
00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 1: know that, you shouldn't be using your vagina the fun.

521
00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 1: I hate what somebody asked me to let me hold

522
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 1: twenty dollars. Ten dollars here, just what are you about

523
00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:01,920
Speaker 1: to do with this gas dollars? But what are you

524
00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 1: gonna do with ten dollars? That's stupid to ask somebody

525
00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 1: to borrow that. Ye, No, I feel sorry for these niggas.

526
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:10,399
Speaker 1: He'll me the girl in the club on Saturday, and

527
00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:13,320
Speaker 1: come Monday he'd be like, hey, baby, how you doing?

528
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 1: Just so stressed? Oh what's wrong? I just have just

529
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:23,199
Speaker 1: so many bills they're piling up. I don't really want

530
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:25,520
Speaker 1: to share this with you. We just met, Like, no, baby,

531
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:32,360
Speaker 1: what's going on? Got him? Yeah? My HVAC went out

532
00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 1: in my house. The kids need uh school supplies. It's

533
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 1: just it's very stressful right now. That's all I can

534
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:41,760
Speaker 1: think about. Yes, I can't think about sucking your dicks,

535
00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:44,480
Speaker 1: so can't you assist? Right? And that is good? And

536
00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:48,520
Speaker 1: that's how that works. I know. Niggas be like again, right,

537
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:55,760
Speaker 1: every bit I met Saturday, h back went out dad, right, nigga,

538
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 1: whether the age back working or now is usage tax?

539
00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:05,960
Speaker 1: When you hear a bit like this so stressed that

540
00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 1: long side, she's about to ask you for somebody, hang up,

541
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:12,160
Speaker 1: I mean why not? Nigga's don't mind asking for pussy

542
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 1: like they're going to ask you for what they want,

543
00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 1: So why are we afraid to ask them for what

544
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:18,960
Speaker 1: we want? It's not I mean, I get that, but

545
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:21,560
Speaker 1: like you met him on Saturday. On Monday, you already

546
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:24,080
Speaker 1: sign hard. I don't do that. But I mean, but

547
00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:26,600
Speaker 1: if that's if that's all she wants from him, like

548
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 1: she might as well just put it on the table

549
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 1: right then, sat Wait, men could do the same thing

550
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 1: instead of playing and letting us meet their representative first days.

551
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 1: But I'm trying to hear that. Hey, I try to

552
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 1: see that head like me and ask me. Don't come

553
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 1: out Yeah, never getting this pussy? What that mouth? Dude?

554
00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:45,840
Speaker 1: Ask for money? That's what it do. Hey, you can

555
00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 1: pay to play the hell not for really. You don't

556
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 1: be selling pussy for real, not for real, about for fake.

557
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:57,120
Speaker 1: You ain't abody to just be using me to hell up.

558
00:29:57,480 --> 00:30:00,600
Speaker 1: This ain't no cheap thrill. Yeah you know, because man

559
00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:03,760
Speaker 1: will definitely still steal your damn youth. And beauty and everything. Man,

560
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:05,960
Speaker 1: he funked up out here about some damn ball and

561
00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:09,120
Speaker 1: just just losing weight. Yeah, so if I got to

562
00:30:09,160 --> 00:30:11,080
Speaker 1: go through all that, you got to pay for submission.

563
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 1: You gotta pay me to shut the funk up. And

564
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 1: you know, and pay doesn't even mean financial. He can

565
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,400
Speaker 1: just build you. Look at Ashley, I wish I could

566
00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:20,400
Speaker 1: see her face. She's looking at me like, Bim, you're

567
00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:23,560
Speaker 1: talking about no pay. I mean it could be monetary,

568
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:25,960
Speaker 1: but you haven't had somebody come into your life and

569
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:29,720
Speaker 1: like make you want to boss up more, like just

570
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: build your spirit in a way. Come in my life.

571
00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 1: I was driving the clips came along a couple of

572
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:38,200
Speaker 1: months later, I had a range Rover and he didn't

573
00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 1: spend no money on me, but he spoke life into me. Baby.

574
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 1: He gone, he went to jail. ChIL you and these niggas, Man,

575
00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:53,880
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is. All my niggas end

576
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:55,200
Speaker 1: up in jail. I don't know if I got the

577
00:30:55,280 --> 00:31:01,360
Speaker 1: Kardashian cursed the ghetto version where I just don't say

578
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:06,120
Speaker 1: that those to me. I'm lying. I'm joking. You walk

579
00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:08,480
Speaker 1: around head with a pistel. You said his ass up.

580
00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:13,360
Speaker 1: Some you know, like because when I think about being submissive,

581
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 1: I think about that movie, Like I know that's like

582
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 1: the B D S M type ship, But I think,

583
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:25,160
Speaker 1: what else? What else do men expect from women in

584
00:31:25,240 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 1: a relationship? Did you watch that movie? Like she had to? Yeah,

585
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 1: I didn't eat a certain way, yeah, a certain address,

586
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 1: certain Yeah. So what is it that men want from

587
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:42,000
Speaker 1: a submissive woman? What does that really mean? What does

588
00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 1: that look like? Do we know it's an exchange of power? Right?

589
00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 1: I just felt like being submissive. I said what I

590
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 1: said and that's final, and walk out the room. And

591
00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 1: I was sped to sit and while he walking out

592
00:31:55,720 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 1: the room, my whole fucking shoe it's following him, Like, yeah,

593
00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:02,360
Speaker 1: what the hell are you yelling at? First of all,

594
00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:05,520
Speaker 1: that's final. I know adults don't start statements off where

595
00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 1: first of all, But first of all, nigga, who the

596
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:09,880
Speaker 1: hell are you yelling at? That's not how we're gonna

597
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:12,120
Speaker 1: handle things. But I just could imagine, like that's what

598
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 1: the nigga saying, who wants his woman to be submissive?

599
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 1: And then he walks out and then you just go

600
00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:21,600
Speaker 1: to washing the dishes, or I think about people that

601
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 1: I know personally that are like the women who are

602
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 1: kind of docile and the type of men that they're

603
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:28,760
Speaker 1: with I'd never be with. They're not to me. They

604
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 1: don't exemplify like you said, what's that ill man like,

605
00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:34,960
Speaker 1: it's just certain little characteristics about them that say band

606
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:37,480
Speaker 1: and I just can't funk with. I don't understand, Like,

607
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 1: why are you being this like quiet, like conservative little

608
00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 1: lady for this man? Will you really run ship in

609
00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:47,680
Speaker 1: this relationship? Or maybe it's a tactic. Yeah, that's what

610
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 1: I think. It's. It's a tactic like him think he ruined,

611
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:54,840
Speaker 1: and that's what I'm gonna start some covert and that's

612
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 1: what I'm gonna start doing. I'm just gonna let this

613
00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 1: nigga think that he's in charge, and we'd be bad

614
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:08,520
Speaker 1: is let him think he running. Maybe that's the thing.

615
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 1: So basically, you submissive bitches are just bad and sneaky, right,

616
00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 1: That's what it is. It's just a real life covert

617
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:19,720
Speaker 1: way of running your relationship and peacefully to keep the

618
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 1: peace interesting. I'm gonna apply that. Let's see how that

619
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 1: works for me. Subchess moves not check as this chest. Yes, honey, okay,

620
00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:29,959
Speaker 1: we understand, Okay, we see you, you little sneaky can

621
00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 1: have nance pictures. We see you are submissive, washing dishes,

622
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:37,680
Speaker 1: berfoot It's a tactic. So look, before we move on

623
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:45,760
Speaker 1: to the next segment, let's have a word from our sponsors. Look,

624
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 1: so a while in my search to better understand what

625
00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:53,160
Speaker 1: being submissive really means being submissive, I guess it goes

626
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 1: back to like biblical terms. All right, So this article says,

627
00:33:57,040 --> 00:34:00,240
Speaker 1: rather it is assumed um that the wife to be

628
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 1: a passive participant while her husband bosses her around, or

629
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:06,360
Speaker 1: that she is to wait on him hand and foot

630
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:09,080
Speaker 1: while he does nothing embarks orders at her. It's a

631
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 1: common misconception. Being a submissive wife does not mean you

632
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Speaker 1: are your husband's slave. To better understand what it means

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Speaker 1: to be a submissive wife, let's take a closer look

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Speaker 1: at the definition of the actual word. So, the word

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Speaker 1: submissive is defined as inclined or ready to submit, or

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Speaker 1: to put oneself under authority of another. So let's look

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Speaker 1: at it. Let's look at what it means like biblically, okay,

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Speaker 1: So to be submissive means to put yourself under the

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Speaker 1: authority of your husband and Fanshians and Heathens. That's me Um, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think it's Ephesians Aphisians give five. Husbands are instructed

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Speaker 1: to love your wives just as Christ also loved the

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Speaker 1: church and gave himself up for her and an Amphibians two.

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Speaker 1: Wife are told to be subject to your own husband

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Speaker 1: as to the Lord. And it says when a husband

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Speaker 1: loves his wife as he loves the church, and when

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Speaker 1: women focus on their role to love and be subject

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Speaker 1: to their husband's According to scripture, marriage is loving, kind

648
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Speaker 1: and harmonious, not abusive or a slave master relationship. Submission

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Speaker 1: is a voluntary action by the wife. It is a

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Speaker 1: God driven desire to please your husband and act under

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Speaker 1: his authority, just as Christians are to act under the

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Speaker 1: authority of the Church. This article also says, while the

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Speaker 1: husbands are to be the head of the household, the

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Speaker 1: wife is not commanded to keep her mouth shut and

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Speaker 1: never give her opinion on matters. She speaks with wisdom

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Speaker 1: and faithful instruction is on her tongue, and that's Proverbs.

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Speaker 1: The wife can and should share her thoughts on important

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Speaker 1: family and household topics with her husband, but she should

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Speaker 1: do so in a way that is pleasing to God.

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Speaker 1: How choose your words carefully, don't argue to prove a

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Speaker 1: point um, just to be right. And it says like

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Speaker 1: in a in a biblical marriage, the wife is the

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Speaker 1: helpmate of her husband. She should support him and give counsel.

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Speaker 1: So technically, in Biblical terms, sounds like the wife runs it.

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Speaker 1: And we can look at that throughout history, like back

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Speaker 1: in the medieval times or like the eighteen seventeen eighteenth century,

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Speaker 1: like women were under men. But if you watch these movies,

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Speaker 1: they rand ship. They were always the ones in the

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Speaker 1: bedroom given counsel to her husband. Still we're still doing

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Speaker 1: We're still definitely doing right. So that's what I mean.

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Speaker 1: And it says ultimately he is to make decisions based

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Speaker 1: on sound biblical knowledge and his wife's wisdom and faithful instruction.

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Speaker 1: The wife is to support her husband and back his

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Speaker 1: decisions even when she doesn't agree. This might be from

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Speaker 1: the Old test the New test Man. We already know

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Speaker 1: that Wise was laying up in the bed. Whoever wrote

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Speaker 1: the New Testament. The wifs like, you need to change

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Speaker 1: that ship because this thing says, uh, there's one scripture

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Speaker 1: to buy what that says, um dal should not fordicate

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Speaker 1: with the neighbor's wife, But I don't say shit about

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Speaker 1: that bitch round the corner. So I'm pretty sure that

682
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Speaker 1: ship was switched up in the New Testament by somebody

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Speaker 1: pillow talking with their damn wife. Do you think maybe

684
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Speaker 1: because like our generation, like we kind of question everything

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Speaker 1: because we have more information. We have the Internet, you know,

686
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Speaker 1: so a lot of people question religion, a lot of

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Speaker 1: people question um, you know, just everything. We're always searching

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Speaker 1: for hire a better understanding of everything. So maybe that's

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Speaker 1: why we've gotten away from the traditional Yeah, that the

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Speaker 1: biblicul traditional husband wife dynamic in the homes. Well, I

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Speaker 1: think there's a lot of different factors that play a

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Speaker 1: part in that, you know, social media, Internet, like all

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Speaker 1: this information. Gender roles are changing. I'm still a woman,

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Speaker 1: I mean, was born a woman and identify what you

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Speaker 1: just gender roles genders are changing, you know, so we're

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Speaker 1: entering the age of Aquarius. We're in it. A niggas

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Speaker 1: little pis just different. Damn. I feel like these niggas

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Speaker 1: want to be like they want to be the bad bitches.

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Speaker 1: Think about the eighties. When I look at the Isley Brothers,

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Speaker 1: I don't understand how anybody talks about how the meagles

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Speaker 1: dressed and like those niggas had their shirt tied up

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00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:37,359
Speaker 1: like skinny pants on and makeup. So ain't nothing change.

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Speaker 1: Ain't nothing new under the sun. But I'll tell you

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Speaker 1: what men and women were in the household, so that

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Speaker 1: that that is different. We now a lot of us

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Speaker 1: were raised by singer moms, like you said, we didn't

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Speaker 1: see that that husband wife dynamic. Like my dad was

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Speaker 1: in my house until I was about eight. But for

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Speaker 1: the most part, I was raised by a single woman.

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Speaker 1: So and she's like a boss follow but I kind

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Speaker 1: of want they're to come in and be like you know,

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Speaker 1: but he has to have money, right, well, obviously he has.

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Speaker 1: That's for submission, so noladays. And even then you paid

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Speaker 1: for submission. You see what I'm saying, not paid. The

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Speaker 1: wife wasn't working anywhere. You see what I'm saying. The

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Speaker 1: man was a breadwinner. So yes, I'm going to listen

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Speaker 1: to you because my livelihood depends on you. It's just

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Speaker 1: different now because we have to take care of ourselves.

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Speaker 1: It's not because we want to. It's a lot of

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Speaker 1: situations where we just have to, like we got no choice.

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Speaker 1: Ain't nobody doing it for you? Exactly? Because I know

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Speaker 1: that my age fact went out that ship doesn't work

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Speaker 1: every time. Niggas is tired of hearing that, right, But

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Speaker 1: I mean a man who got it. You may not

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Speaker 1: even have to ask in any type of way. I

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Speaker 1: know you love nothing more than like when a man

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Speaker 1: sleep money into your pa. I used to I had

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Speaker 1: one of those couple months back, a jerking because their dad.

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Speaker 1: Damn man. I feel like you might be the fans

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Speaker 1: at this point. Let me let me recalculate this bullshit

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Speaker 1: because he outlets. But yeah, so men, I really feel

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Speaker 1: like you have to pay for submission. They may need

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Speaker 1: to read this article so they can get a better understanding,

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Speaker 1: or they may need to read the Bible. I don't

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Speaker 1: know what you want, but they want a woman that

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Speaker 1: you know allows them to be a man and do

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Speaker 1: what they want to do and make a decisions for

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Speaker 1: the household. Then your woman cannot be bogged down with

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Speaker 1: stuff that's in the house and then having to go

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Speaker 1: outside the house and get the bread too. So let's

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Speaker 1: say you're dealing with this multi millionaire who still like

742
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Speaker 1: ship though he got all the money, but he disrespectful.

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Speaker 1: He don't hear what other women he's not blatantly out

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Speaker 1: here what other women, but he is and you know it.

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Speaker 1: Are you gonna submit to that? I mean, I guess

746
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Speaker 1: a lot of women do because they're being taken care of,

747
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Speaker 1: so they have retail therapy on the other end of that,

748
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Speaker 1: Like I don't. I mean, regardless of what, if you're man,

749
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Speaker 1: that's just out here sucking on you and embarrassing you.

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Speaker 1: Nobody want to have a bunch of money with no edges.

751
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 1: You just stressed out, your hair coming out at the

752
00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:11,920
Speaker 1: top and the crown. But toxic as millionaire niggas like

753
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:14,160
Speaker 1: tossed you back to the streets. I don't care how

754
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 1: much money you got. You are the devil. But there's

755
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Speaker 1: a lot of women who are made for that, Like

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Speaker 1: those women are made for that role to be with

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Speaker 1: those type of men, and those are the type of

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Speaker 1: women that they get, women that they can control with

759
00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:29,640
Speaker 1: that money. Like you can't do nothing if he's not

760
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Speaker 1: if he's not financing it. You can't do ship without him,

761
00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 1: but you can't eat without him. I don't ever want

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Speaker 1: to be in a situation like that where I don't

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Speaker 1: know where my next meal is coming from. If this

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Speaker 1: dude isn't providing it. I remember when I was younger,

765
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Speaker 1: I was living in Atlanta and I was dealing with

766
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Speaker 1: this Dominican drug lord. This nigga tried to put me

767
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Speaker 1: in like this nice as apartment downtown, and I would

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Speaker 1: not let him do it because I knew that was

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Speaker 1: something I could not afford without him. So I got

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Speaker 1: me a little partner to marry at a bit. It

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Speaker 1: was nine hundred dollars, like, this is something I can do.

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Speaker 1: You're not gonna put me in this three thousand dollar

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Speaker 1: apartment a month and then rule me, because that's what

774
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,160
Speaker 1: was gonna happen. He was gonna run my entire existence

775
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:14,960
Speaker 1: in that city. M you got me up, home boy,

776
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Speaker 1: I let you pay this nine hundred dollars a month.

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Speaker 1: I always was smarter than that. That Well, that's why

778
00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:22,959
Speaker 1: most black mamas make sure. They always tell your daughters,

779
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Speaker 1: make sure you have your own, and it's very important

780
00:42:26,080 --> 00:42:28,400
Speaker 1: to have your own. So then you have fuck you money.

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00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:30,960
Speaker 1: That's what I call it. It's fuck you money. It's

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Speaker 1: money like, yeah, I could take care of myself with

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Speaker 1: it without you, sir, So I don't mind losing you today,

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Speaker 1: it tomorrow. But if he was someone that I felt

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Speaker 1: like really genuinely loved me and had my best interests

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Speaker 1: at heart all the time, and someone that I could

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Speaker 1: really truly. I didn't trust him in that way. You know,

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Speaker 1: maybe if it was someone like that, I might have

789
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Speaker 1: taken that apartment, But nigga, you ain't gonna have me

790
00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:56,200
Speaker 1: out here looking like boo boo food like this, nigga,

791
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:58,920
Speaker 1: I was going to evade the institute in Atlanta, and

792
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Speaker 1: I had to pay out of pocket for a lot

793
00:43:01,640 --> 00:43:04,040
Speaker 1: of the fees, and that school was expensive. And I

794
00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:06,160
Speaker 1: would ask him for to wish him money and he

795
00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I got you and then never give

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00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:10,239
Speaker 1: it to me, so I got slicked. I was like, y'all,

797
00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:12,399
Speaker 1: i've seen this bag. I want to get this bag.

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00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:15,439
Speaker 1: You know how much the bag? And then I paid

799
00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:17,800
Speaker 1: my tuish with that money. I couldn't tell him that

800
00:43:17,880 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 1: I needed money for ship that would better myself. I

801
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:23,279
Speaker 1: had to say it was on some frivolous, dumbass ship

802
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:25,719
Speaker 1: to get the money, because he never wanted me to

803
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:29,080
Speaker 1: not need him child like he would. I want to

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00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:30,880
Speaker 1: hold me back in that way if it was like

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Speaker 1: take a class to wish it just anything that would

806
00:43:34,280 --> 00:43:36,359
Speaker 1: helped me be better and I feel like, never give

807
00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:38,759
Speaker 1: it to me. That's crazy. And I feel like that

808
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:41,360
Speaker 1: might be some guys with money. It might be like

809
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:44,320
Speaker 1: that they want a woman. They feel like we'll always

810
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:46,640
Speaker 1: need them something. And he'd be like, where the bag

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Speaker 1: at I bought you? Oh, it didn't go with this

812
00:43:48,320 --> 00:43:57,760
Speaker 1: outfit because the bag, don't it? This the bag myself. Okay,

813
00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:03,600
Speaker 1: So that's I've done. Bitch advice for the day. Use

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00:44:03,680 --> 00:44:06,880
Speaker 1: the bag to get the bag and not just some

815
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Speaker 1: damn LLC because in the state of North Carolina LLC

816
00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:13,400
Speaker 1: only caused as okay, there ain no money, start with that.

817
00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 1: If you get the bag, and that's they're gonna buy

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00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 1: your bag. Like I saw a post that said that

819
00:44:19,920 --> 00:44:23,719
Speaker 1: something about like women getting instead of getting a channel bag,

820
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:28,040
Speaker 1: had that nigga, start you a business. Excuse me? Starting

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Speaker 1: the business like doing the paperwork is only a dollars

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Speaker 1: in comparison in this bag that I don't have no money.

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Speaker 1: I can go resell his bag, right, but you could

824
00:44:36,120 --> 00:44:38,279
Speaker 1: if he's giving you an actual bag. But if he's

825
00:44:38,280 --> 00:44:40,440
Speaker 1: giving you money and you want to start a business

826
00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:44,239
Speaker 1: toward that business, that bad you because your business can

827
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Speaker 1: eventually buy you all the bags you want girl. So

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Speaker 1: what we've learned today classes, we're going to be submissive. Covertly,

829
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Speaker 1: we're gonna shut the funk up. Sometimes it's chest and

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Speaker 1: not checked this thing. So with that being said, I

831
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Speaker 1: have a random sex fact guys, that is very relatable. Okay,

832
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Speaker 1: So the egg in your body women chooses the winning sperm.

833
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:13,680
Speaker 1: So most of imagine conception as a race to the

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Speaker 1: egg where this fastest sperm wins and gets to the

835
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Speaker 1: egg and passes on the jeans to the baby to be.

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Speaker 1: This is one of those sex facts you should forget,

837
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:25,360
Speaker 1: says Jill Devol, she's a human sexuality expert. The narrative

838
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:28,520
Speaker 1: is biased with our cultural lens about men being competitive

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Speaker 1: and see violent words like drilling, burring, penetrating the egg

840
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:36,400
Speaker 1: while the egg the woman sits around passively waiting on

841
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:39,879
Speaker 1: the sperm to get to her egg. Right, that's bullshit, y'all.

842
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:44,640
Speaker 1: In reality, the eggs have sophisticated biological mechanisms that actively

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Speaker 1: choose which sperm they allow in and it isn't always

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Speaker 1: the first one to arrive. Okay, bitch, So your egg

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Speaker 1: is choosy. Your egg is a choosy bitch, and you

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Speaker 1: not being a tuosy bitch out here. That's why you

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Speaker 1: ain't getting pregnant. But I nigged you with right, because y'all,

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Speaker 1: egg is like girl, this nigga is, I don't want

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Speaker 1: this sperm. Look at these spirums coming over here. Y'all

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Speaker 1: better get on my faith, especially with the sugar daddy

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Speaker 1: old as slow ass sperg. If you act like no

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Speaker 1: baby about to be ugly, so be a choosy lover.

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Speaker 1: Be a choosy lover because your egg is because your

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Speaker 1: egg is choosing out here, all right, y'all. So if

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