1 00:00:00,840 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: Okay, it is time for CLR. 2 00:00:04,200 --> 00:00:06,800 Speaker 2: We're going to ask the CLO Chief Love Officer, Steve 3 00:00:06,880 --> 00:00:10,240 Speaker 2: Harvey in the building Taylor in. 4 00:00:10,280 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 1: Virginia Beach Rights. 5 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:14,440 Speaker 2: I'm in my late twenties and I got married when 6 00:00:14,480 --> 00:00:17,080 Speaker 2: I was nineteen years old because I got pregnant. 7 00:00:17,440 --> 00:00:19,439 Speaker 1: My husband's white. I'm black and Asian. 8 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:22,480 Speaker 2: When my son was born, he was very brown skinned, 9 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:25,960 Speaker 2: so my in laws wanted a DNA test. Turns out 10 00:00:26,040 --> 00:00:29,400 Speaker 2: my husband is not the father, but he's never said 11 00:00:29,400 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 2: a word about it to me or our son. My 12 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:35,520 Speaker 2: son is eight now and his biological father has been 13 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:38,839 Speaker 2: asking to meet him for a very long time. My 14 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:42,120 Speaker 2: husband freaks out whenever I bring this subject up. Is 15 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:45,880 Speaker 2: it wrong to keep my son from his father? 16 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:58,280 Speaker 3: Absolutely? Absolutely? Is it? Absolutely? Is? Absolutely is the fact 17 00:00:58,360 --> 00:01:01,680 Speaker 3: that you've told you. Look, I don't know if you 18 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 3: told your son that he has a different biological father, 19 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 3: But is it wrong to keep your son from this man? 20 00:01:10,640 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 3: It absolutely one, And there's nothing, no debate or question 21 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:19,640 Speaker 3: about it. It is wrong and there is no justification 22 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:27,120 Speaker 3: to it. None. Well, so I admire your husband for 23 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:30,759 Speaker 3: standing up and taking it and standing up and being 24 00:01:30,800 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 3: that stand up guy, because he is one hell of 25 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 3: a dude your husband is, and I understand him not 26 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 3: wanting to ruffle a boat and all this here. I 27 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:44,360 Speaker 3: understand that. But this boy should know his father, and 28 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:46,760 Speaker 3: his father should know his son period. 29 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:49,600 Speaker 1: All Right, Taylor, It's going to. 30 00:01:49,640 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 3: Be difficult and challenging, but those that's the rule of life. 31 00:01:53,760 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, all right. 32 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 2: Moving on to Chevelle in Montgomery, Chevelle says, my husband 33 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:02,280 Speaker 2: and mine mother thick as thieves, and I think she's 34 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 2: allowing my husband to cheat on me. My mother's house 35 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 2: is the gambling spot in our community, and all of 36 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:11,120 Speaker 2: the drunks hang out there. I saw on Facebook that 37 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 2: one of my husband's exes was at my mom's recently 38 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 2: and posted a picture with my husband in the background. 39 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:19,639 Speaker 2: I cursed my husband out, and he said it was innocent. 40 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:23,639 Speaker 2: My mother told me I overreacted, did I. 41 00:02:23,800 --> 00:02:28,800 Speaker 3: Well, if it's your mama's gambling spot, your mama making money, 42 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:33,040 Speaker 3: chafe and run. I'm just gonna keep it one hundred 43 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:39,919 Speaker 3: with you, mature. Yeah, it's bigger than that picture there 44 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:42,600 Speaker 3: in that gambling and ye looking you know how it 45 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 3: is in the hood. As speaks as after I joined, 46 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:49,000 Speaker 3: everything closed, they go over there kind of like a 47 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:52,839 Speaker 3: like a low budget basement tavern, and it's a gambling house. 48 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:56,359 Speaker 3: Ain't nowhere you can go gamble se casinos? So no, 49 00:02:56,520 --> 00:03:02,239 Speaker 3: I think it's absolutely you know your mama. I don't 50 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:05,280 Speaker 3: think your mama is allowing him to cheat. I don't 51 00:03:05,320 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 3: even know if cheating is involved in this at all. 52 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:09,520 Speaker 3: But your mama got a gambling house. 53 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:12,359 Speaker 1: What are his exes doing over there? 54 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:15,119 Speaker 3: Though they both well you know, I mean she over 55 00:03:15,160 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 3: there gambling buying dreams? Yeah, yeah, mama trying to make money? 56 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:27,880 Speaker 3: Worried about this Facebook? Yeah? All him? 57 00:03:31,480 --> 00:03:36,760 Speaker 2: My husband's over there with his ex all right, Sophia 58 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 2: and Albuquerque says. My husband is twenty nine. I'm twenty seven. 59 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:43,440 Speaker 2: He works as a retail manager and I work from 60 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 2: home with my own sex video chat room. I make 61 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:49,480 Speaker 2: a lot of money and my husband doesn't mind it 62 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 2: since it's all online. 63 00:03:51,320 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 1: I've been able to help. 64 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:54,280 Speaker 2: Buy us a new house on my earnings, and I 65 00:03:54,280 --> 00:03:56,400 Speaker 2: wanted to work more hours so I could pay off 66 00:03:56,400 --> 00:04:00,120 Speaker 2: my student loans and build up our savings account. Then 67 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 2: I plan to get a decent job. My husband won't 68 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 2: allow me to take on more hours. We're still young, 69 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 2: so am I wrong for trying to stack money A 70 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 2: good question. 71 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 3: Well, you're not wrong for trying to stack money. You 72 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:16,920 Speaker 3: just have to ask you a question. Is stacking money? 73 00:04:17,040 --> 00:04:21,320 Speaker 3: Is at what expense? I don't see how he's okay 74 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:25,280 Speaker 3: with it up to this point. Yeah, but and now 75 00:04:25,320 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 3: you want to do more hours. He don't want you 76 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:31,240 Speaker 3: to do more hours. I think you've accomplished a lot 77 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 3: with it right now. You know, kind of like a 78 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:38,200 Speaker 3: drug dealer that finally gets a wrap record deal, you. 79 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:39,280 Speaker 1: Know, goes legit. 80 00:04:39,440 --> 00:04:41,839 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you know, you just got to quit selling 81 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:44,840 Speaker 3: dope at one point in time while you're gonna get busted. Now. 82 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:47,040 Speaker 3: I'm not saying that what you're doing is illegal. I 83 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:49,000 Speaker 3: don't know nothing about it. I ain't never been on one. 84 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 3: But what is you saying? Where you can buy a house? 85 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:55,720 Speaker 1: Though she made enough money that she could buy a house. 86 00:04:55,800 --> 00:04:58,360 Speaker 3: No, no, no, that's not the question. He's saying. What 87 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:01,159 Speaker 3: is what is she doing this show? What is you 88 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 3: talking about? 89 00:05:03,279 --> 00:05:03,599 Speaker 2: Okay? 90 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:07,800 Speaker 3: What did you say? I'm trying to figure out what 91 00:05:07,880 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 3: you could say to me to help make you buy 92 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:10,400 Speaker 3: a house? 93 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 1: On line makes a lot of money. 94 00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:14,040 Speaker 3: Lot? 95 00:05:15,279 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 1: Who are you talking to the student loans? 96 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:20,799 Speaker 3: Yeah, well she's. 97 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:21,280 Speaker 1: Saying a lot. 98 00:05:21,960 --> 00:05:25,440 Speaker 2: What she's saying a lot? She's looking Yeah, she's saying 99 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:30,680 Speaker 2: a lot. It's a video video sex video chat room. 100 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: A lot going on? Yes, all right, we're moving on. 101 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 2: Money in Tampa says or Amony in Tampa says I'm 102 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:44,039 Speaker 2: forty eight and I've been married eleven years. But my 103 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:47,479 Speaker 2: wife and I live in separate houses. She never sold 104 00:05:47,520 --> 00:05:49,960 Speaker 2: her house, and in the beginning of our marriage, we 105 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:53,000 Speaker 2: argued more than we made love, so she basically decided 106 00:05:53,279 --> 00:05:56,120 Speaker 2: we'd live in separate houses. It has worked out fine, 107 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 2: but our family and friends think we're nuts. Lately, though, 108 00:05:59,279 --> 00:06:01,599 Speaker 2: my wife has been going to bed really early, in 109 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 2: changing the locks in her house. I think the distance 110 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 2: has made her forget about me. Should I tell her 111 00:06:07,680 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 2: it's time to end this arrangement? 112 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:15,160 Speaker 3: Yeah? I think so. She didn't changed the lots, she's 113 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:18,560 Speaker 3: going to bed. Y'all ain't married, no damn one. I 114 00:06:18,800 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 3: just y'all just know each other on paople going to 115 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 3: bed early changing locks. Don't even come over here, not 116 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:31,200 Speaker 3: because now she don't want you creeping in that night. 117 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:37,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, in her space? M So what should he do? 118 00:06:38,279 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 3: What should he do? Go on foul? She gon sign 119 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:46,040 Speaker 3: him what y'all together for. Y'all ain't got to worry 120 00:06:46,040 --> 00:06:48,679 Speaker 3: about who get the house. Y'all both keep your own house. 121 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:54,719 Speaker 3: That's the biggest cut, is that house. If somebody lost 122 00:06:54,760 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 3: her foe, yeah, just go. Don't even worry about that. 123 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:03,479 Speaker 3: She keep her house, You keep your house. Irreconcilable differences, 124 00:07:03,839 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 3: y'all get divorced for seven to fifty. Y'all ain't got 125 00:07:06,120 --> 00:07:06,640 Speaker 3: no asset. 126 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 1: Yes, all right, thank you, Clo. You're listening to the 127 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 1: Hard Morning Show.