Speaker 1: Second date. If a date doesn't go quite according to plan,
Speaker 1: could be a bad thing, but could be a good
Speaker 1: thing too, Like one time, my plan going into the
Speaker 1: night was to pay the entire dinner bill, but forgot
Speaker 1: my wallet instead had to pivot, dined and dashed, ended
Speaker 1: up getting the whole meal for free. That turned out
Speaker 1: to be a good thing, and you found out your
Speaker 1: date was a really good runner exactly. You know, athletic
Speaker 1: athletics plans turns out to be good. And that was
Speaker 1: the case for one of our listeners, Megan, whose night
Speaker 1: got derailed in a good way and now she's needing
Speaker 1: our help. What's up, Megan? How you doing? Hey? Doing
Speaker 1: all right? A guy? We like people who can turn
Speaker 1: you know, lemons into lemonade, despite Jeffrey's whole situation. But yeah,
Speaker 1: as long as you make some vodka into the lemonade, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: So tell us about the guy that you want us
Speaker 1: to call. What's his name? His name is Curtis, Okay,
Speaker 1: and where'd you meet him? If we always needed to know? Well,
Speaker 1: we met online. Honestly, that's the first first date but
Speaker 1: I've had since I broke up with my long time
Speaker 1: relationship about oh, we love our a month ago. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: this is your rebound. You're getting back out there, Curtis
Speaker 1: know that. Yeah. I was straight up with him about
Speaker 1: this my first first date since I've been out there
Speaker 1: and it's been a long time. And so what we
Speaker 1: did is we made a plan. Okay, okay, So he
Speaker 1: was okay with that. He was like, let's plan everything
Speaker 1: out so you're not super nervous. That's a good idea.
Speaker 1: What was the plan. The plan was just to kind
Speaker 1: of go and see. But he turned up to be
Speaker 1: a really really great guy. Good So what do you
Speaker 1: guys do? We decided we're going to go to the bar,
Speaker 1: gonna have a couple of drinks, gonna go to a movie,
Speaker 1: and just kind of hang out. So you went to
Speaker 1: a theater. It wasn't like a Netflix and chill situation.
Speaker 1: Well no, because after we had the drinks at the bar,
Speaker 1: we just were like, you know what, we just want
Speaker 1: to continue talking and you can't do that at a
Speaker 1: movie theater. So we just stayed there. So cancel the
Speaker 1: plan to go to the theater. Just stay and get
Speaker 1: more drunk at the bar. I like that. That's a
Speaker 1: good plan. Beat, it's a better date to be honest. Ye, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean it must have been going pretty well. Oh
Speaker 1: it's gone great. I mean we got kind of tipsy
Speaker 1: and I came back from the restroom and I told him, Curtis,
Speaker 1: you've got to see this picture that they've got in
Speaker 1: the restroom, oh, the ladies room. So he was like,
Speaker 1: he was like what, And I was like, come on,
Speaker 1: I will watch to make sure no one comes in you,
Speaker 1: but you've got to see this thing. It's hilarious. You
Speaker 1: know that he thinks something else is going to happen
Speaker 1: in the bathroom with you too, right, Maybe he's just
Speaker 1: like a restroom art connoisseur. That's just his big passion.
Speaker 1: So he said okay, like really reluctantly. So he was right.
Speaker 1: It was a trap. I pulled him into the handicap
Speaker 1: stall and I started to make out with him. You
Speaker 1: are delighted with yourself, look at you. That's fine. It's
Speaker 1: good for you having fun. I mean, was he into that?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah? I mean it only lasted a couple of
Speaker 1: minutes because he was like, look, we're in the ladies
Speaker 1: or let's get out of here. Oh cop, that's my record.
Speaker 1: So I think we had a good time. How the
Speaker 1: day end. I mean, you're you're making out, you go
Speaker 1: back to your table and then what, well, you know,
Speaker 1: we weren't at a table. We were at the bar.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, And I mean the bartender was really nice,
Speaker 1: and I guess I might have been a little flirty
Speaker 1: with him. With the bartender two, you're like, hey, bartender,
Speaker 1: there's a picture in the bathroom that you have to
Speaker 1: I mean I wasn't that flirty. Okay, what type of
Speaker 1: flirty then? I mean just chit chatty and smiling and
Speaker 1: you know, talking Okay, how you talk to bartenders? Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: but you felt like it was something more there. I mean, honestly,
Speaker 1: it could just be that Curtis is like, Okay, she's
Speaker 1: just coming back into her own after being out of
Speaker 1: a relationship. You know, good for her. But I just
Speaker 1: am not I'm looking for something more serious. I mean,
Speaker 1: did he ever talk to you about that? You know,
Speaker 1: we never really got into that. We were just kind
Speaker 1: of like, hey, this is going to be a casual,
Speaker 1: fun vibe, and we never really talked about anything serious. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's good. Casual fun. It is always good. Yeah. I mean,
Speaker 1: no matter who you're with, I mean maybe you gave
Speaker 1: off that vibe where that's all you were looking for
Speaker 1: that night was just like a casual, fun night and
Speaker 1: didn't want to see him again. Yeah, and that's kind
Speaker 1: of how I went into the night. But you know,
Speaker 1: after talking with him and after the little makeout session,
Speaker 1: he is so he hasn't texted or called or anything.
Speaker 1: Have you reached out to him? No, I mean I've
Speaker 1: reached out to him several times, but he hasn't chexted
Speaker 1: back or anything. And I just don't know if I
Speaker 1: moved too fast or thanks. Maybe it was a flirting
Speaker 1: with the bartender. I don't know. Yeah, I mean it
Speaker 1: could be that, it could be something else. It could
Speaker 1: be that Curtis was with the bartender that night too.
Speaker 1: You moved in on his man. Oh, I really don't
Speaker 1: think so. Well, you never know. He's like, look, she's
Speaker 1: a liar. There's no art in their own. Let's not
Speaker 1: close the door to any possibilities. We're gonna play a song,
Speaker 1: we'll come back, we'll call Curtis and we'll find out
Speaker 1: why he's not calling you anymore when we do your
Speaker 1: second date update. All right, okay, all right, hold on date.
Speaker 1: It's another classic modern dating tale of girl meets boy.
Speaker 1: Girl lies to boy about a picture in the woman's bathroom,
Speaker 1: Girl makes out with boy in the handicap stall. Suddenly
Speaker 1: girl not getting a call back from boy. We've seen
Speaker 1: it a million times. Come on, Juliet, seriously, Now it's
Speaker 1: the million and one time because it's happened to one
Speaker 1: of our listeners, Megan, after she went out with a
Speaker 1: guy named Curtis and now he's ghosting. Have you ever
Speaker 1: thought that maybe he's a rule follower and it was
Speaker 1: morally corrupt for him to use the handicap stall. Oh
Speaker 1: that's a good point, you know, father, you Brook. I mean,
Speaker 1: if you're going to pick a stall, yeah, let's just
Speaker 1: stand on the toilet of the regular stall. There was
Speaker 1: just a line for people and wheelchairs the stall waiting
Speaker 1: to get it. That would be my luck, though, Jeffrey,
Speaker 1: is that what happened Megan? No, not at all. But
Speaker 1: I don't know if that was his issue, it might
Speaker 1: be okay, Actually be happy if that was it. If
Speaker 1: he was that good of a guy, let him go.
Speaker 1: I mean, here's the thing, Megan. If this doesn't work out,
Speaker 1: you are fresh out of a big relationship. We will
Speaker 1: find you somebody else on the text board or something,
Speaker 1: you know, and you had a bathroom trick that works,
Speaker 1: so yeah, score, or you could just fall back into
Speaker 1: that old relationship again, Jeffrey, it's just a backup part
Speaker 1: that is a cycle. Okay. I just want to see
Speaker 1: if you know, it's maybe something stupid I did or
Speaker 1: what I really want to try and make this work.
Speaker 1: He's pretty great. Okay, Well let's find out. We're going
Speaker 1: to dial his number right now, try and get your
Speaker 1: second date update? You ready? Ready? Okay, here we go. Hello. Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm looking for Curtis. This is Curtis. Hey, Curtis, how
Speaker 1: you doing? Man? My name is jeff from the radio
Speaker 1: show Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. No way, Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, you listen. Okay, see Jeffrey, somebody recognized you.
Speaker 1: You listen to the show. Uh no, but I know
Speaker 1: somebody who does. Okay, kind that's also jeff That's cool.
Speaker 1: Thank them. Well, we're doing a segment on our show
Speaker 1: called a second date Update. Yeah I figure that too.
Speaker 1: Oh oh, are you sure you haven't. Megan messaged me
Speaker 1: that this was going to be happening. So she warned
Speaker 1: you that we were going to call. I don't know
Speaker 1: if she knew for sure that I saw her message,
Speaker 1: but yeah, she said this is something that she might
Speaker 1: try to do to contact me. Are you saying like
Speaker 1: she messaged you like five minutes ago right before we called,
Speaker 1: or this was days ago that she warned you this
Speaker 1: might happen. It's more like, when isn't she messaging me? Oh?
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, she didn't say that. She said she
Speaker 1: had texted you a couple of times and hadn't heard
Speaker 1: back after your guys's date at the bar. No, no happening.
Speaker 1: How many How many texts are we talking? I'm gonna
Speaker 1: say around three hundred? Wow, Oh that's it. Okay, I
Speaker 1: was worried for a second. It's only three What is
Speaker 1: there to say? Three times? How have you not blocked her?
Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, well, there's really no point, as you
Speaker 1: can see, like she's gonna try to contact me by
Speaker 1: any means. All right, Well, before we talk about why
Speaker 1: this is happening, let's just refocus on the date for
Speaker 1: a second, because Curtis, we spoke with Megan, and from
Speaker 1: her perspective, she said it went really well. She seemed
Speaker 1: so normal. Yeah, no, that part of it is pretty true.
Speaker 1: Actually it did go pretty well. So wait when you
Speaker 1: ended the date, right, she said, you guys took to
Speaker 1: Uber's home. Did you have plans to call her and
Speaker 1: go out again? Yeah? No at that point. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: had a lot of fun. I would have loved to
Speaker 1: go out again for sure. What happened, Yeah, why did
Speaker 1: she send you so many texts? I don't know. So
Speaker 1: what happened is that went home, I took a shower,
Speaker 1: came out of the shower, and there was about four
Speaker 1: texts from her, and then so I responded, yeah, you
Speaker 1: had a great night, thanks, and so I went to bed.
Speaker 1: When you're just done with the date, sometimes it is like, hey,
Speaker 1: I had a lot of fun. Sorry if I'm talking
Speaker 1: too much, just want you to know know. I'm thinking there's
Speaker 1: four tex right, okay, not horrible. Did you not respond
Speaker 1: to those initial four tex? He said he did? He did,
Speaker 1: Yeah I did. I said, yeah, I had a lot
Speaker 1: of fun, and yeah, hopefully we can do it again, okay.
Speaker 1: And then and then you woke up the next morning,
Speaker 1: you went to bed, You woke up the next morning,
Speaker 1: then what Then there was about another twenty text messages
Speaker 1: saying what just saying what? A good time she had,
Speaker 1: and then sorry for messenging you so late. I hope
Speaker 1: you can get this hopefully, things like that, it sounds
Speaker 1: like she doesn't know how to put the phone down. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it sounds like she really likes you though doesn't or
Speaker 1: she just an obsessive person. That means she really likes someone. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So when I quit responding, it kind of made the
Speaker 1: snowball effect. The twenty messages became sixty messages, which became
Speaker 1: two hundred messages. It just got a real crazy, real
Speaker 1: quick oh stressed, and you just never told her anything
Speaker 1: after that. You've just let it snowball and continue to
Speaker 1: this point, I couldn't keep up with one to pick
Speaker 1: which one to respond to. So no, man, you have
Speaker 1: such a good attitude about this right now I would
Speaker 1: be freaked out. I'm so glad we're not doing textual
Speaker 1: healing right now. That's where people through via text message, Curtis,
Speaker 1: if you don't listen. So yeah, wow, this one's much
Speaker 1: easier because instead of going with text, we just have
Speaker 1: the person jump on the phone and let you know
Speaker 1: that they've been on the other line listening this entire
Speaker 1: time and want to talk to you much less messy. Yeah, sorry, Curtis. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I figured this was going to happen too, honestly. Okay, Okay, Megan,
Speaker 1: did you warn him that this that you were waiting
Speaker 1: on the other line this whole time? Did you text
Speaker 1: him during this conversation? No? I didn't. But I'm really surprised.
Speaker 1: I think I think you meet embarrassed and that's okaying,
Speaker 1: what are you doing? No, I mean we we were
Speaker 1: just like chit chatting and stuff, and I was just
Speaker 1: trying to keep the conversation going. I don't know why
Speaker 1: it so weird about it. I mean, there's definitely the
Speaker 1: shit happening on your end. I don't know if the
Speaker 1: chat has happened to Look, I'll defend you a little bit.
Speaker 1: I'm a flurry texter. We can call it where you're
Speaker 1: text and flurries. Yea, he send? How are you saying? Yeah? Seven?
Speaker 1: Though you stop, you don't keep going forever and ever?
Speaker 1: And you want you want to leave the person on
Speaker 1: the other end of the text message wanting more right,
Speaker 1: Like you want to leave him hanging, like you have
Speaker 1: other things going on in your life, the game, Like
Speaker 1: what happened? Were you just sitting staring at your phone, like,
Speaker 1: what's going through your head during this time? I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just wanted to talk to him, like you know,
Speaker 1: as if we were just sitting together at the bar
Speaker 1: talking back and forth. It was just whatever came into
Speaker 1: my head. I don't know why you all think that's
Speaker 1: so weird. They are like, yeah, I mean, Curtis is
Speaker 1: on the phone right now. Why don't you guys talk
Speaker 1: at this moment? This is the perfect opportunity to have
Speaker 1: a discussion. Sure, you know the all the messaging was excessive,
Speaker 1: but there's really no point of blocking your number because
Speaker 1: I know that you keep messaging me from other people's
Speaker 1: phones too, and all these different numbers. Last part you No, No,
Speaker 1: I have multiple phones. I have a phone for work,
Speaker 1: I have my private phone, and I text from both phones.
Speaker 1: For all she knows, he's not getting the text. Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't know how you guys are defending this behavior. Curtis.
Speaker 1: Please step in here and tell her what your boundaries.
Speaker 1: Trying to defend the person that actually listens to our show,
Speaker 1: person that's never heard of us before. My legan side.
Speaker 1: You could be great, but you need to tone it down. Curtis.
Speaker 1: You got to tell her your boundaries right now, so
Speaker 1: all the people texting them, because she obviously is not
Speaker 1: getting it. I mean, if you want to talk to me,
Speaker 1: he would just say, so, Megan, please stop texting to
Speaker 1: me again? Say it again, Curtis, would you pretty pretty
Speaker 1: please stop texting me? Don't do you get it? Megan?
Speaker 1: I mean, does that mean you don't want to talk
Speaker 1: to me at all? I want to be just really
Speaker 1: clear about this. You just don't want to talk to
Speaker 1: me or see me. You just have to come out
Speaker 1: and say that. Yes, that's what I'm saying. I don't
Speaker 1: know if we should talk anymore. You don't know or
Speaker 1: you know, you're not being clear with me, Curtis. I'm
Speaker 1: trying to be nice. I'm not sure of what you mean.
Speaker 1: You drop nice. Yeah, we're gonna have to be brutal here, Curtis.
Speaker 1: I think I'm just going to change my number. Gays,
Speaker 1: Oh say it likely? Oh wow? Oh see this is
Speaker 1: why I keep talking and I'm not getting a clear answer,
Speaker 1: and oh my god, points just text our text board
Speaker 1: anytime you feel like you want to text Curtis. Okay
Speaker 1: to him, I mean, you're a great guy, but you're
Speaker 1: just not really great at communication. I think that's a
Speaker 1: good lesson guys text back, be better communicators and also
Speaker 1: be better listeners, like Curtis, did you hear what she said? Okay,
Speaker 1: she's breaking up with you. She's not interested in seeing
Speaker 1: you because you don't know how to communicate properly. Damn.
Speaker 1: There we go. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.