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Speaker 1: I need your opinion. We have a computer in our

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Speaker 1: My son had clearly been looking at something he shouldn't

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Speaker 1: I reluctantly checked the computer's history and did a search

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Speaker 1: nasty stuff on that computer. Girl, my son is into

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Speaker 1: and blindfolds eighteen. I'm not sure if he's just curious

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Speaker 1: My husband jokingly said that he's disappointed our son didn't

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Speaker 1: Too much. I was shocked. He is completely favoring our son.

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Speaker 1: this now, we could be raising a pervert Morning show family.

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Speaker 1: What do you think is this normal man behavior? Please

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Speaker 1: help me? Double standard? Is really edwark in your house?

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Speaker 1: I must tell you, ma'am, a writer of this letter,

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Speaker 1: Too much too soon for your eighteen year old son.

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Speaker 1: and yes, especially under your roof and on your computer.

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Speaker 1: And also you do need to stop this now, you

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Speaker 1: you guys need to present a united front to your

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Speaker 1: wrong road here. I mean, I know that young men

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Speaker 1: He was clutching the pillow and all that. You knew

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Speaker 1: need to talk to him. An eighteen year old boys

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Speaker 1: they do stuff like this. I've never been an eighteen

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Speaker 1: Oh for porn? Oh yeah, but my dad came in there.

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Speaker 1: That's my boy. That is my boy. So that's nothing

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Speaker 1: into Jay's answer and Tommy's answer subject. What kind of

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Speaker 1: the name of this true story. Herbert White would draw

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Speaker 1: I for the first six months I was so thin

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Speaker 1: draw it. I mean, it was just so real. It

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Speaker 1: in the jay. Thank you, I'm not finished, hurried, we

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Speaker 1: gotta get to the nephew. He would draw the nastiest

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Speaker 1: Come on, now, I have it, not let me have

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Speaker 1: the mother. The boar is starting out to advance. Okay,

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Speaker 1: einy thing. Now, and you need to talk to this

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Speaker 1: You're gonna get your ass. Okay, black women not having

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Speaker 1: you thought you're hitting lebante. You're in I know, damn well.

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Speaker 1: I got key lard skin. You don't need that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: listen to meet lady. Your son's pawn. Gotta start out

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Speaker 1: black pawn. Like Junior said, Okay, ain't but two people.

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Speaker 1: They ain't doing nothing. They didn't shot it with a

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Speaker 1: cell phone. It's real cheat. Somebody didn't pass in front

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Speaker 1: the titles of the of the of the films you're

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Speaker 1: Boots are Captain Kane, Captain Kane Alonge, Calvin kan Alonge.

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Speaker 1: That that's regular. Okay. If you don't scream, I won't hollow.

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Speaker 1: you gotta get that stuff now. Mama. Here's what I

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Speaker 1: really want you to do, more than anything, to some gloves,

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Speaker 1: some gloves and some ammonia. You need to wipe this

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Speaker 1: damn computer down. Okay. All them pillows on that couch

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Speaker 1: need to be cleaned. Them speakers and that chap, all

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Speaker 1: of that stuff needs to be clean. But have a

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Speaker 1: Start your pawn slow. That's all time I want you

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Speaker 1: to do. Started slow, gloves and pemmonia. Let's clean this computer.

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Speaker 1: That's all I What do you think about? What do

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Speaker 1: you think about the dad? Though? Tommy his react, Well,

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Speaker 1: I think daddy. Daddy should be the one to say something.

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Speaker 1: Close the room, talk about it. How was it? Boy?

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Speaker 1: Let me watch it with you? All right? Yeah, don't

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