1 00:00:01,360 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: Right now, it is time for today's Strawberry Letter. If 2 00:00:04,160 --> 00:00:07,240 Speaker 1: you need some advice on relationships, on dating, on work, 3 00:00:07,280 --> 00:00:11,080 Speaker 1: on sex, on parenting, and more, please submit your Strawberry 4 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 1: letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and click submit to 5 00:00:14,160 --> 00:00:16,759 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. Was there anything you wanted to add to that? 6 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: If you don't send as D letters, you will never 7 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:24,479 Speaker 1: be famous. We will be real loser. Is that what 8 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:30,320 Speaker 1: you said? This could be your only chance at fame letters, 9 00:00:31,880 --> 00:00:34,440 Speaker 1: that we could be reading your letter on the air, 10 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one right now. Buckle 11 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: up and hold on tight. We gotta for you. Here 12 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 1: it is the straw Buried Letter. Subject my man's daughter 13 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 1: saw it all. Dear Stephen Shirley, My fiance and I 14 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:50,520 Speaker 1: have been together for a while, but we don't live 15 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 1: in the same city, so we do everything we can 16 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 1: to spice keep the spice in our relationship. We spend flirt, 17 00:00:57,960 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 1: We send flirty texas and the splicit pictures, and when 18 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 1: we're together, it is on and popping. The texas and 19 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:09,480 Speaker 1: pictures we send are so raunchy, risque and vulgar that 20 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:13,640 Speaker 1: a porn star would blush. We can't help it. Well, 21 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:17,120 Speaker 1: now we have a big problem. My man has a 22 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 1: fifteen year old daughter and I have always had a 23 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:24,280 Speaker 1: great relationship with her until recently when she went through 24 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:27,920 Speaker 1: her daughter's phone, her father's phone and saw it all. 25 00:01:28,480 --> 00:01:31,679 Speaker 1: Since then, she does not want anything to do with 26 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:35,040 Speaker 1: me or her dad. She has not visited him since 27 00:01:35,080 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 1: this incident. I have reached out to her, but she 28 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:40,880 Speaker 1: will not speak to me. I am so hurt because 29 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: she thought of me as her stepmom and I called 30 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 1: her my daughter. My man is crushed and he doesn't 31 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:49,640 Speaker 1: know what to do. By the way, she has been 32 00:01:49,640 --> 00:01:53,760 Speaker 1: punished several times for going through other people's things, but 33 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 1: this time is different. I do now know how. I 34 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,320 Speaker 1: do not know how to fix this or if it 35 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:02,400 Speaker 1: can be fixed. I think my man could be doing 36 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 1: more to help. He's got to step up, or his 37 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: relationship with his daughter may not ever be the same. 38 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:10,320 Speaker 1: I need some real advice on how to handle this 39 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: and keep my family together. Please help, Wow, dear, please help. Yeah, 40 00:02:17,160 --> 00:02:22,720 Speaker 1: this is a mess right here. This is a big problem. 41 00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:26,720 Speaker 1: This young lady has been punished already for going through 42 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:29,440 Speaker 1: people's things, and you know that's the problem. When you 43 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 1: go through people's things A lot of times you find 44 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:35,079 Speaker 1: what you don't want to find, and you see what 45 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:37,399 Speaker 1: you don't want to see or what you'd never think 46 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:40,000 Speaker 1: in a million years you would see. This is her dad. 47 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:43,520 Speaker 1: She's traumatized. This is her soon to be step mom 48 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 1: that you know she highly looks up to, and at 49 00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:49,239 Speaker 1: a fifteen year old, she as a fifteen year old, 50 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:52,119 Speaker 1: she cannot process this. It's hard for her to process. 51 00:02:52,960 --> 00:02:57,160 Speaker 1: So this is a major problem for everybody all around. 52 00:02:57,320 --> 00:03:00,920 Speaker 1: And quite frankly, you know, I don't know what to 53 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:02,919 Speaker 1: tell you to do. Um. You know, you want to 54 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:05,680 Speaker 1: keep your family together. Maybe you can start with some 55 00:03:05,760 --> 00:03:08,640 Speaker 1: sort of family therapy. You know, you got to try 56 00:03:08,639 --> 00:03:11,520 Speaker 1: and talk to this this young girl and see if 57 00:03:11,520 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: you can get through to her on a different level. 58 00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 1: I mean, but it's going to be hard because she's 59 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 1: seen you like this. So you know, you got to 60 00:03:21,080 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 1: talk about the respect level. Now, you got to talk 61 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 1: about the fact that she sees you is probably somebody 62 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 1: nasty and just someone that she doesn't want to deal with. 63 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 1: You know, she's so disappointed and upset with her dad. 64 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 1: But I think in this instance you and her dad 65 00:03:38,640 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 1: are going to have to sit her down and talk 66 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 1: to her, especially her dad. But give it a little time, 67 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 1: Let some time go by, and then maybe maybe you 68 00:03:46,560 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 1: can all come to the table and have a conversation. 69 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:52,720 Speaker 1: You know, tell her it was an accident. You didn't 70 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 1: mean to for her to see all of this. And 71 00:03:56,480 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 1: you know, I don't know this. This is a tough 72 00:03:58,960 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 1: one for me, Steve, not for you. Yeah, it ain't 73 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 1: nothing you can do. That is nothing you can do. 74 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 1: Let's just start with the fact. Can't turn it down 75 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 1: just a little bit, because what I'm about to say 76 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:26,320 Speaker 1: I need everybody's undivided. Okay, here's the whole letters in 77 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:32,320 Speaker 1: this right here we seeing flirty texas and explicit pictures, 78 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 1: and when we're together it's own in Poppa. Here is 79 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:42,800 Speaker 1: the killer. The text and pictures we seen are so runchy, 80 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:50,839 Speaker 1: ri scate and vulgar that a pawn star would blush. 81 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:56,240 Speaker 1: I hadn't done it. What she's saying is what Stormy 82 00:04:56,360 --> 00:05:04,120 Speaker 1: Daniels did. We're President Trump. Ain't nothing. Wow, y'all been 83 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:10,360 Speaker 1: doing photo photo shoots and set ups from Blacktail magazine. 84 00:05:11,640 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 1: Black Tail, Yeah, that's how raunchy yo. Black Tail was 85 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 1: a black porno magazine with no makeup artists, with no 86 00:05:24,760 --> 00:05:29,480 Speaker 1: no touch up. So photo, we're taking this picture, we're 87 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:34,320 Speaker 1: printing it. We ain't got money for touch up, stretch marks, 88 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 1: bullet wounds, bruising cuts, very close veins all love it? 89 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:48,840 Speaker 1: Bite mind. Now, what my question to you is when 90 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:55,200 Speaker 1: you say raunchy risk skate and vocal that a pawn 91 00:05:55,360 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 1: star war blush, let me ask you a couple of questions. 92 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:01,320 Speaker 1: You obviously have sent a hitch you where your right 93 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 1: foot was on the floor? Well, where was your left foot? 94 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:07,599 Speaker 1: She did not put that in the letters. I'm just 95 00:06:07,680 --> 00:06:11,599 Speaker 1: asking because how raunchy as we talking? Baby? She said it? 96 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 1: If your left foot let me explain something to you, 97 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:18,960 Speaker 1: was higher than your pelvic in that picture right there? 98 00:06:19,080 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 1: Who that's raunch you get now now that we've covered 99 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:28,520 Speaker 1: Now that's risk skate. That's risk skate. Now that you 100 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:32,239 Speaker 1: got your foot up, hide in your pelvit, what would 101 00:06:32,360 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 1: make it runchy? What did you do? Well, now you 102 00:06:37,760 --> 00:06:43,120 Speaker 1: start that had movement in it. Raunchy is movement? So 103 00:06:43,279 --> 00:06:48,080 Speaker 1: you didn't send a video? Okay, we'll have Yeah. Steve's 104 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:50,920 Speaker 1: response coming up at twenty three after the hours subject 105 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 1: my man's daughter saw it. All you're listening to show? 106 00:06:56,800 --> 00:06:59,679 Speaker 1: All right? Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. 107 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 1: Subject My man's daughter saw it all. This fifteen year 108 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:07,600 Speaker 1: old girl then broke into her daddy's phone, and since 109 00:07:07,680 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 1: they live a party in relationship, they send each other 110 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 1: explicit pictures. The text and pictures were seeing are so raunchy, 111 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 1: risk and vulgar that a pawn star with blood. We 112 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:22,680 Speaker 1: can't help it. Well, the problem is the girl and 113 00:07:22,800 --> 00:07:25,000 Speaker 1: found the picture, and since she then saw it, she 114 00:07:25,040 --> 00:07:27,680 Speaker 1: don't want anything to do with me or her daddy. 115 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 1: But we didn't punish this girl before for going through 116 00:07:32,040 --> 00:07:34,360 Speaker 1: other people's things, but this time is different. I don't 117 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:36,560 Speaker 1: know how to fix it or can be fixed. This 118 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:41,240 Speaker 1: can't be fixed. But now let reenterate. You sent a 119 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 1: picture that was raunchy, risk, skate, and vulcan. My breakdown 120 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:50,600 Speaker 1: is how to picture was the three things risk skate 121 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 1: picture is your foot is on the floor, your right 122 00:07:56,000 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 1: foot is flat on the floor, your left foot is 123 00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:05,600 Speaker 1: somewhere up higher than your pilvet. That makes for risque picture. 124 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:09,880 Speaker 1: What made the picture rumpche runchy was you put that 125 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:13,080 Speaker 1: special effect on it where you was a humping real flash, 126 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:16,280 Speaker 1: you was boomeranging your picture. Now you got that in there, 127 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:21,080 Speaker 1: then what made it vulgar was something was in your hand. 128 00:08:21,760 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 1: Oh the only other thing you could have been doing. 129 00:08:25,440 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 1: You neck it and you barefoot, you on your toes 130 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:32,319 Speaker 1: on your right foot, but your left foot is flat 131 00:08:32,440 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 1: up against that wall. I'm talking about, flat up gainst 132 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:40,439 Speaker 1: that wall. So that's the breakdown between risque, runchy and volt. Yeah. 133 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:43,199 Speaker 1: Now you hadn't done all this hill wow, and you 134 00:08:43,400 --> 00:08:48,840 Speaker 1: turning round talking back over your shoulder at the camera, 135 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:51,800 Speaker 1: and you didn't mention his name. So the little girl 136 00:08:51,920 --> 00:08:56,880 Speaker 1: thank us. Hell now all she and you guys. Yeah, 137 00:08:56,920 --> 00:09:01,440 Speaker 1: and you got minny splinty what you know to look back, 138 00:09:02,559 --> 00:09:08,319 Speaker 1: but she could damn there see it yours probably, And 139 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:10,640 Speaker 1: when you got your leg up that high, you damn 140 00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:12,800 Speaker 1: nig got you look right over your shoulder and right 141 00:09:12,840 --> 00:09:16,960 Speaker 1: behind your shoulder. Blat out daddy. That's why she don't 142 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:19,200 Speaker 1: want to talk to nobody. Now. Now, the girl don't 143 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:23,440 Speaker 1: want to talk to y'all because her damn daddy. It's 144 00:09:23,640 --> 00:09:27,840 Speaker 1: just the nats this shit. Oh yeah, I'm gonna tell 145 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:32,160 Speaker 1: you one thing, Because my daddy did some pornographic around 146 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:35,880 Speaker 1: me one time. I would not pornographic to me just 147 00:09:36,160 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 1: around me, which would have been today, would have been pornographic. 148 00:09:39,720 --> 00:09:42,480 Speaker 1: My daddy was woke up naked one night and went 149 00:09:42,559 --> 00:09:45,360 Speaker 1: in the refrigerator and I was coming downstairs to use 150 00:09:45,440 --> 00:09:48,680 Speaker 1: the bathroom, and he was standing in the refrigerator drinking 151 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:54,160 Speaker 1: out of ice water bottle neck and I saw we 152 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:57,480 Speaker 1: didn't have money for therapy. I'm just gonna be honest 153 00:09:57,520 --> 00:10:06,320 Speaker 1: with you. I still ain't over. I'm still yeah trauma. Yeah, 154 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:12,160 Speaker 1: he wasn't as bright as today's turn around at me. 155 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 1: I contact, and then when he saw me, he continued 156 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:22,240 Speaker 1: to drink and put his damn hand on this hill. 157 00:10:28,120 --> 00:10:30,800 Speaker 1: You know. It was very different from me back then. 158 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:33,800 Speaker 1: So I didn't have to wear it about it. And 159 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:38,079 Speaker 1: so I was traumatized. This girl is traumatized. She not 160 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:41,439 Speaker 1: talking to you all her daddy. Y'all got to get 161 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:44,320 Speaker 1: in therapy, yeah, definitely, But she probably ain't gonna want 162 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:47,240 Speaker 1: to go. I mean, I mean if she goes by, 163 00:10:47,280 --> 00:10:49,199 Speaker 1: I said, what's she gonna do? What y'all gonna do, 164 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:52,319 Speaker 1: y'all gonna take the pictures and discuss each one, but 165 00:10:52,520 --> 00:10:57,559 Speaker 1: you know she's gone, Well maybe not. She might not 166 00:10:57,679 --> 00:11:00,480 Speaker 1: have the trouble for looking. Yeah, because she didn't got 167 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:03,040 Speaker 1: in trouble. Ain't gonna need a whipping her punishing her 168 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:05,679 Speaker 1: for this, because if y'all hadn't been sending all that 169 00:11:05,840 --> 00:11:09,440 Speaker 1: nasty man and what code your fiance got where fifteen 170 00:11:09,520 --> 00:11:11,520 Speaker 1: year old could get in it? I know, well you 171 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:14,760 Speaker 1: know why is it? Fifteen year old with his phone? 172 00:11:15,320 --> 00:11:19,040 Speaker 1: That's what? Yeah, thank you, Yeah, my own phone. But 173 00:11:19,160 --> 00:11:22,319 Speaker 1: I mean she has a problem obviously with being nosy 174 00:11:22,720 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 1: and go through other people's Well nosy then got you 175 00:11:26,200 --> 00:11:29,960 Speaker 1: in there? Yeah yeah, now your share off shot. Yeah, 176 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:33,120 Speaker 1: she's looking for something. But in due time this will heal, 177 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:35,760 Speaker 1: it will it will heal in time, But she gonna 178 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 1: go off to college, her own activities will begin. And 179 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 1: what y'all doing with pale and compassion and what these 180 00:11:42,880 --> 00:11:45,240 Speaker 1: kids out here doing right now? I'm telling y'all right now, 181 00:11:45,480 --> 00:11:48,080 Speaker 1: you think they'll get married? Who the lady who wrote 182 00:11:48,080 --> 00:11:52,319 Speaker 1: the letter and her fiance? Yeah, they go, Yeah, you 183 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:55,640 Speaker 1: cast that little girl and probably screen shot them pictures 184 00:11:55,640 --> 00:11:58,120 Speaker 1: and send them to her phone home. Yeah, that little 185 00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 1: girl right there, they had to probably had to go 186 00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:02,959 Speaker 1: on and get married and all that. So I don't know, 187 00:12:03,240 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 1: we really can't help. I don't know what to tell you. 188 00:12:06,600 --> 00:12:12,920 Speaker 1: I don't know how how nasty, the risque, runchy and vulgar. 189 00:12:13,480 --> 00:12:17,079 Speaker 1: There's levels, there's level So let me guess what another 190 00:12:17,160 --> 00:12:18,960 Speaker 1: picture you was on You was nicking on a bike 191 00:12:21,600 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 1: like her stationary bike. Yeah, she was nicking on because 192 00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:29,480 Speaker 1: she was exercising. And yeah on the tow of the friends, 193 00:12:33,160 --> 00:12:35,240 Speaker 1: and you got extra jiggy with it. You took to 194 00:12:35,280 --> 00:12:39,959 Speaker 1: see them. You have sent that pottle girl and all 195 00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 1: types of I feel sorry for the little girl. She 196 00:12:43,080 --> 00:12:45,439 Speaker 1: tried to get her mind wrapping. How nasty you and 197 00:12:45,559 --> 00:12:48,160 Speaker 1: her her damn daddy is And Steve, no one wants 198 00:12:48,200 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 1: to see their parents, nobody, No one wants like that. Ever. 199 00:12:53,360 --> 00:12:55,319 Speaker 1: Do you really don't want to see your mom? You 200 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:57,839 Speaker 1: don't want to stand and you definitely don't want to 201 00:12:57,920 --> 00:13:01,360 Speaker 1: hear him. But that's a whole other ship. 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