WEBVTT - A Courthouse Cakewalk with Serena Pitt 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:04.280 Hell, we suck at being newlyweds? Kylen miller Key and 0:00:04.600 --> 0:00:10.520 Jared Haven an iHeartRadio podcast. What's going on? Everyone, Welcome 0:00:10.560 --> 0:00:13.480 to an all new episode of Help We Suck at 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:17.119 Being Newlyweds. It's a new week, it's a new episode, 0:00:17.280 --> 0:00:22.800 and Kaylyn, we still suck at being fiances? That really 0:00:23.040 --> 0:00:26.160 float off your tongue. Well that was the first time. Yeah, 0:00:26.200 --> 0:00:28.319 in Joe, I've been practicing all morning for the past 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:31.000 three minutes, just in my head, running cycles through and 0:00:31.080 --> 0:00:33.919 making sure I was prepared for the podcast today. Um, 0:00:34.280 --> 0:00:36.519 We've got a great episode for you guys today. Jared's 0:00:36.560 --> 0:00:38.280 not here, so you know it's going to be a 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:41.319 good one. Kaylyn, why don't you tell the listeners who 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:43.000 are guest it's going to be this week? Oh, I'm 0:00:43.040 --> 0:00:45.879 so excited. Today we have Serena Pitt and she is 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:49.600 just the sweetest person ever. She is wonderful, also engaged 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:53.040 to Joe. Also met her fiance on Bachelor and Paradise, 0:00:53.080 --> 0:00:54.800 so we have a lot to chat about. How do 0:00:54.800 --> 0:00:56.520 you know she's the sweetest person her We went to 0:00:56.560 --> 0:00:59.840 Mexico together. You said that about Marie and Kenny too, 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:03.360 as if I was like forgetting a fact that we 0:01:03.440 --> 0:01:06.280 hung out with all of them, Serena, I went to 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:09.560 Mexico together, different from Paradise. I see. I thought you 0:01:09.600 --> 0:01:12.480 were saying only from knowing her at Paradise you decided 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:15.320 that she's the swetest person here. No, we've traveled together. Okay, 0:01:15.360 --> 0:01:18.600 well that's great. Then I definitely concede to your knowledge. 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:21.000 You know more than I do she's a swetest person ever. 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:22.920 I thought you were saying just from the time that 0:01:22.959 --> 0:01:25.160 we spent with her on Paradise and she was very sweet, 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:26.760 But I don't think that's enough time to make the 0:01:26.800 --> 0:01:29.200 distinction that she's the sweetest person ever. Correct. That's why 0:01:29.240 --> 0:01:31.200 that's not what I always said, And I understand. I 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:32.720 don't even know why I'm still talking about it, to 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:36.200 be honest. Let's bring Serena. Yeah, let's get Serena pitt 0:01:36.240 --> 0:01:39.280 in here. Huh. Serena, Welcome to the podcast. We're so 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:40.760 happy to have you here. I don't even know like 0:01:40.760 --> 0:01:42.520 we introduced you before you got on. We didn't really 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:46.120 do a proper segue into having you co host with 0:01:46.200 --> 0:01:48.360 us today. So for the listeners out there, you obviously 0:01:48.440 --> 0:01:50.320 know Serena. She was from Bachelor in Paradise, I want 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:55.920 to say season seven, Yeah, no, season eight, seventh, season 0:01:56.320 --> 0:02:01.240 seven seven? I think no, no, no no, no, it was eight. 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:05.960 It was oh yeah, no it seven because the last 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:08.120 film was eight, right it was. I was for some 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:10.800 reason thinking that Ashley and Jared got engaged on season seven, 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:13.280 but no, that was season five, so yeah, because that 0:02:13.320 --> 0:02:16.240 was Joe's first season, right right, because they need to 0:02:16.280 --> 0:02:20.120 start titling the seasons. It's easier with Bachelor Batchel Rat 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:23.959 because you're like, oh, like Matt James's season, But with Paradise, 0:02:24.000 --> 0:02:26.359 they need to start giving them like a creative title 0:02:26.440 --> 0:02:29.119 so people can identify. If you could name your season 0:02:29.160 --> 0:02:32.200 in Paradise, what would you name it? Oh, gosh, I 0:02:32.240 --> 0:02:39.520 don't know, um, dumpster fire. Then I got engaged. What 0:02:39.520 --> 0:02:44.720 would you name ours? Yeah, baster and Paradise chow. I mean, 0:02:44.800 --> 0:02:48.400 but I feel like every season is it's never like yeah, 0:02:48.480 --> 0:02:52.200 it's never like beautiful aways exactly. It's never what you 0:02:52.240 --> 0:02:54.440 think it's going to be. Well, I think every season 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:56.400 has one defining moment, so I think you just have 0:02:56.440 --> 0:02:57.840 to think about what the defining moment is. In the 0:02:57.919 --> 0:03:02.440 name of years, every season has tears where they could 0:03:02.440 --> 0:03:05.680 like create a theme within every season, right, that's true. 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:09.400 Bachelor in Paradise eighties edition, and then you just show up, 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:11.400 We're in eighties closed the whole time someone did that? 0:03:11.480 --> 0:03:13.480 Was that your season? Yeah, we did like an eighties 0:03:13.720 --> 0:03:16.359 prom theme. Yeah, they like brought us a bunch of 0:03:16.400 --> 0:03:19.040 like eighties clothes. That's so fun. But then they could 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:22.320 make like the whole overarching theme as well, like everyone 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:25.320 stays in eighties the whole time. Eighties swimsuits that would 0:03:25.320 --> 0:03:28.799 be re intros would be eighties themed, the food would 0:03:28.840 --> 0:03:34.080 be eighties themes. You can't really, Yeah, that was so hard. 0:03:34.440 --> 0:03:36.440 You think Kitlan has a lot of clothes, Now, imagine 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:37.920 you had to go to show that was eighties theme 0:03:38.000 --> 0:03:40.320 for a whole month. She get a whole new wardrobe. 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:42.920 I mean, well, I was in Paradise. I just wore 0:03:42.960 --> 0:03:45.119 the same shirt and swim trunks every single day. Did Joe? 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:48.280 He packed half a suit case. You're allowed to bring 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:50.400 two full ones, right in a small one. He brought 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:53.640 one half packed suit case of T shirts and shorts. 0:03:54.280 --> 0:03:57.400 Oh my gosh. That's I think. Say, men's stay doing 0:03:57.440 --> 0:04:02.120 the least, right, we stay doing Men's Day. Even when 0:04:02.120 --> 0:04:04.720 I was on Bachelorette, I brought a Duffel bag and 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:06.120 that was all I brought. And there were guys on 0:04:06.160 --> 0:04:08.560 my season that I brought like three checked bags with 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:12.640 like the vacuum technology that would like shrink yourself. Yeah. 0:04:12.680 --> 0:04:14.760 I actually tried that out when I was going on 0:04:14.800 --> 0:04:16.680 the show, but I felt like I could like squeeze 0:04:16.680 --> 0:04:20.080 a lot more in. I get. The theory is it's 0:04:20.120 --> 0:04:23.840 just funny to see grown men. I mean, I guess 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:25.200 you know, it's it's weird to say a lot, but 0:04:25.279 --> 0:04:26.760 it was just funny to see grown men putting that 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:30.040 much effort into their clothes. I don't know why. I 0:04:30.120 --> 0:04:31.800 just thought it was kind of silly. Well, you also 0:04:31.880 --> 0:04:33.880 grew up in a mountain town where people don't care. 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:36.040 Typically you also showed up with the Duffel bags, like 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:38.880 they could say the same about you. That's one percent true, 0:04:38.920 --> 0:04:43.080 That's very true. All right, So season seven, Serena, welcome 0:04:43.279 --> 0:04:47.320 you famously. Well it's not what made you famous, obviously, 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:49.880 but you and Joe are famously now married if I 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:53.000 remember correctly. So you guys got married. We did, But 0:04:53.160 --> 0:04:55.040 you can you explain this all to me? Because I 0:04:55.040 --> 0:04:57.839 saw the Instagram post. But it looked like it was 0:04:57.880 --> 0:05:01.320 just like an intimate thing versus like a full on 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:04.840 wedding ceremony, which I think as they're still planning on having, right. Yeah. Yeah, 0:05:04.880 --> 0:05:09.440 So we got into the wedding planning process, like we started, 0:05:09.640 --> 0:05:12.360 we picked a wedding planner and kind of started looking 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:15.640 at venues, and we just didn't want to wait the 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:18.520 whole year to get married. We thought it'd be fun 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:22.760 to kick off the wedding process with an actual wedding. 0:05:23.400 --> 0:05:26.120 And also, we just had so much like extravagance and 0:05:27.360 --> 0:05:30.800 publicity around our relationship, Like we thought it'd be really 0:05:30.800 --> 0:05:33.800 cool to do something just super kind of untraditional and intimate. 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:35.960 I mean, nothing about our relationship has been traditional to 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:39.000 this point anyway, so like why start now. So we 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:41.120 kind of looked into getting married at the courthouse. We 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:43.080 have some friends here that did it during the pandemic. 0:05:44.000 --> 0:05:45.560 And you can't like wake up and just like show 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:47.200 up at the courthouse and get married, Like it's not 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:49.159 like Vegas. You have to kind of like put in 0:05:49.200 --> 0:05:51.720 the paperwork and you do a call with them. And 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:53.960 it was about a three week process from the time 0:05:53.960 --> 0:05:57.599 we first submitted the application to our actual courthouse appointment, 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:00.279 so we were allowed to bring one witness, so we 0:06:00.320 --> 0:06:05.440 brought Natasha Parker from our season and she was our witness. 0:06:05.480 --> 0:06:07.359 She like signed the form and then you go into 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:09.520 this room and like we didn't really know what we 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:12.240 were getting ourselves into. We were just like, yeah, like 0:06:12.279 --> 0:06:14.000 we go, we'll sign some documents and we'll be married. 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:15.560 But they make you like I mean, like if you 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:17.039 saw the video, like we had to like they're like 0:06:17.080 --> 0:06:20.800 stand hold each other's hands. Um, So it was very 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:23.680 surreal and like actually so emotional because you're like saying 0:06:23.680 --> 0:06:25.800 your vows and I don't know, it was like eight 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:28.000 forty five in the morning on like a weekday, Like 0:06:28.120 --> 0:06:30.240 we didn't really like you could see how we're dressed. 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:34.960 Were like, yeah, I was thirty dollars. It was so cheap, 0:06:35.120 --> 0:06:37.640 Like I don't know, like after we did it, really 0:06:37.640 --> 0:06:39.120 do we still want to do a whole wedding, Like 0:06:39.520 --> 0:06:41.240 it's going to be so much more. This was like 0:06:41.320 --> 0:06:45.159 the cheapest thing ever. But yeah, it was great. Honestly. 0:06:45.200 --> 0:06:46.920 We went and we had like breakfast after and then 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:49.279 my parents flew in that night to take us for dinner, 0:06:49.560 --> 0:06:51.520 which was fun. Um, we got to like surprise all 0:06:51.560 --> 0:06:54.640 of our friends, like we just got married. Who I 0:06:54.680 --> 0:06:58.039 have so many questions? Yeah, go ahead, this sounds like 0:06:58.160 --> 0:07:03.440 my dream and too late. It's too late. Okay. So 0:07:03.480 --> 0:07:06.080 my first question is you said it was thirty bucks. Well, actually, 0:07:06.279 --> 0:07:07.680 like I said, I've got a million questions. Let me 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:08.920 start with the first one that came into my head 0:07:08.960 --> 0:07:11.000 when you were talking. So you said it took three 0:07:11.040 --> 0:07:15.680 weeks from planning it to doing it, leading up to 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:17.680 those leading up to that day those three weeks, were 0:07:17.680 --> 0:07:19.840 you like, was there any weird feeling in the air, 0:07:20.040 --> 0:07:22.400 not like weird but like bad decision weird, But like 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:25.360 were you getting excited? Were you getting nervous? Like what 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:28.360 was kind of going through your head? I don't know. 0:07:28.520 --> 0:07:31.680 I don't think it really like hit us that we 0:07:31.680 --> 0:07:34.760 were doing it until the night before, like we talked 0:07:34.760 --> 0:07:37.840 about it enough and like we knew we were getting married, 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:39.520 Like I didn't have that like oh my god, what 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:42.080 are we doing? Like should we wait? Feeling like we 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:44.000 were very much like, yeah, we're getting me, this is great. Whatever. 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:46.320 And then the night before I remember us blaying and 0:07:46.400 --> 0:07:48.320 bad looking at each other and being like, oh my god, 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:52.440 we're getting married tomorrow. That's insane. Because I feel like 0:07:52.440 --> 0:07:54.640 when you do a whole wedding, you have like almost 0:07:54.680 --> 0:07:59.040 a whole year leading up to that moment, like wrap 0:07:59.080 --> 0:08:01.320 it around your head that like, Okay, I'm getting married. 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:04.000 I'm getting married, Like it's really like drilled into your 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:06.120 head for a whole year, right, like all of these 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:09.560 decisions are being made for us. It was like twenty 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:11.760 minutes on the laptop to book an appointment and then 0:08:11.760 --> 0:08:14.760 we had like a zoom call and like in between that, 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:17.760 like we weren't really thinking about it, and the night 0:08:17.760 --> 0:08:20.120 before we were like wow, And then even the morning 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:21.840 of we just kept looking each other thing, I cannot 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:23.800 believe we're about to go get married right now, Like 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:28.320 this is insane, But we were so excited. Like it was. 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:32.240 It was very easy and it was just fun. And yeah, 0:08:32.320 --> 0:08:34.320 when it came to the vows and stuff, was it 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:37.839 did you guys prepare vows like leading like every day 0:08:37.920 --> 0:08:39.720 leading up to it in the sense where it was 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:41.800 what your real vows would have been at your real 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:43.920 get a big blowout wedding or was it more of 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:46.360 just like an off the cuff kind of spontaneous thing. 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:49.520 So when we went, we didn't realize that we were 0:08:49.559 --> 0:08:51.000 going to have to like stand at the podium and 0:08:51.040 --> 0:08:53.200 like even like say vows to each other. We thought 0:08:53.200 --> 0:08:55.240 it was going to be because like I've only been 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:57.000 to like one wedding, and I remember at my cousin's wedding, 0:08:57.040 --> 0:08:59.240 like they sat down at a table and basically signed 0:08:59.280 --> 0:09:01.880 their marriage sins, and I just thought that that was 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:03.439 going to be the whole process of the courthouse. I 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:05.640 didn't realize they were going to have like someone they're 0:09:05.679 --> 0:09:07.960 marrying us essentially, which I guess I should have. I 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:11.760 just didn't know. So we didn't have anything prepared. Like 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:14.160 we were even shocked by that part of it. So 0:09:14.200 --> 0:09:16.160 we were basically just repeating what they were saying to 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:19.719 us back to each other, which is very short. It's 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:22.600 just like do you take Joe to be your husband? Essentially, 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:26.880 And for our wedding, I think we will prepare like 0:09:27.040 --> 0:09:28.760 vows because we're still going to have a full wedding. 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:31.559 So for that reason, because we're already married, we then 0:09:31.640 --> 0:09:35.440 want to kind of say something a little more personalized. Gotcha, 0:09:35.480 --> 0:09:37.400 And I kind of answered my last question, well not 0:09:37.440 --> 0:09:40.160 my last, but another big question I had was because 0:09:40.200 --> 0:09:43.920 you guys already had the wedding per se. I would 0:09:43.920 --> 0:09:47.400 imagine you could save so much money by having a 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:50.720 party that looks like a wedding but not calling it 0:09:50.760 --> 0:09:52.880 a wedding. And since you're not saying the word wedding, 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:55.000 you're going to save you fifty on all of the 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:59.120 expenses and everything. Yeah, yeah, we've been we've been learning 0:09:59.120 --> 0:10:01.400 that too, that the minute you tell any venue or 0:10:01.480 --> 0:10:04.160 vendor that you're having a wedding, the prices are so 0:10:04.240 --> 0:10:06.200 much more expensive than if you're just like, yeah, we're 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:09.160 just throwing a party, which is crazy to me, and 0:10:09.240 --> 0:10:12.840 like just the cost overall of weddings, Like for the 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:15.600 first few months we were kind of like what are 0:10:15.640 --> 0:10:19.040 we doing, Like we're already married. It was thirty dollars, 0:10:19.120 --> 0:10:21.840 Like we could just have some like intimate dinner with 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:24.920 our family and friends or like throw a reception or 0:10:25.000 --> 0:10:28.000 I don't know, like this money could literally go to 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:30.920 a home that we're spending on this wedding. Like it's 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:35.680 really jarring finding out how expensive weddings are. But with 0:10:35.840 --> 0:10:38.720 that being said, I'm not someone that like grew up 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:40.600 dreaming of my wedding, but at the same time, like 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:42.800 I still want that experience, Like you only get it 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:44.719 once in your life, like I want to walk down 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:47.120 the aisle, like I want to wear a white dress, 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:50.480 and like if we don't do it now, we're never 0:10:50.480 --> 0:10:53.000 gonna do it. Like I don't think I'll ever look 0:10:53.040 --> 0:10:55.280 back and like I might be like, wow, that was 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:56.600 a lot of money, But I don't think I'll ever 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:59.520 look back and like regret doing it. But like I 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:01.160 would be scared that I would look back and be 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:04.480 like wow, like I missed out on something in my 0:11:04.520 --> 0:11:07.439 life that like would have been this like huge celebration 0:11:07.480 --> 0:11:10.800 of like Joe and my relationship. And like we do 0:11:11.000 --> 0:11:13.160 like have our family and friends like all over the place, 0:11:13.200 --> 0:11:15.360 like Minor in Toronto and his or in Chicago. So 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:18.080 like for us, it's important to have like that coming 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:20.520 together of everyone because it's not like we're gonna have 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:23.480 that like for a lot of events in our lives, 0:11:23.480 --> 0:11:25.160 Like it's not like gonna be like Sunday dinners with 0:11:25.160 --> 0:11:28.600 our parents together necessarily. So being able to have like 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:32.160 everyone come together in one place is kind of like 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:35.360 what the like big driving force was for us to 0:11:35.720 --> 0:11:38.320 kind of do the wedding. I love that. Are you 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:40.880 gonna do like a bachelortte bridle shower all of that. 0:11:41.320 --> 0:11:42.679 I mean, I do a bachelort. I just booked to 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:46.199 my bachelort actually, like two days ago. We're gonna go 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:49.840 to Vegas. I've never been, so I'm excited. The best 0:11:49.840 --> 0:11:52.400 place ever. Yeah. Oh yeah, you guys live there, don't 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:57.200 you know. Yeah, so that'll be fun. And then I 0:11:57.200 --> 0:11:59.080 don't know if I'm gonna do a bridle shower or not. 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:02.880 I'm still kind of up in the air. My like 0:12:03.000 --> 0:12:05.720 really close family friend has offered to throw me one 0:12:05.760 --> 0:12:07.600 if I want it. It's just a matter of like 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:11.360 it would kind of just be like the same people 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:14.400 going on my bachelorette and then like my family because 0:12:14.679 --> 0:12:16.640 and like obviously Joe's family would be invited, but like 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:18.880 they live in Chicago, Like if they all lived in 0:12:18.920 --> 0:12:21.000 the same place, they feel like it would be or 0:12:21.000 --> 0:12:23.000 if like they were all able to come, like it'd 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:25.600 be really special to have like everyone in one room. 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:28.320 But I don't know, I don't, like I already feel 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:31.440 a little weird about the bachelorette. Like having an event 0:12:31.520 --> 0:12:33.640 that surrendered around me, where like I feel a sense 0:12:33.640 --> 0:12:38.080 of responsibility for everyone to have a good time makes 0:12:38.120 --> 0:12:42.480 me really anxious and a little uncomfortable at least, like 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:45.040 with the wedding, it's shared with Joe, so we'll see. 0:12:45.240 --> 0:12:48.199 I'm up in the air on the bridal shower. Yeah, 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:51.280 I was gonna say how your engagement party was, because 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:54.960 he is the same way and he had fun at 0:12:54.960 --> 0:12:57.160 the engagement party, but yeah, he doesn't love the pressure. 0:12:57.720 --> 0:13:00.559 Well it's a pressure. Yeah, I like how you said 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:02.800 it too. At those things, at those shared events, you 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:06.800 share the burden of attention, I guess. But then at 0:13:06.840 --> 0:13:09.320 your bachelor at part of your bachelor party, your bridle shower, 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:11.960 whatever it is, it's just you. But also on the 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:14.040 other side of it too, it's like those people that 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:15.800 are going to that are like your closest friends, So 0:13:15.880 --> 0:13:18.319 maybe it's less of a pressure because you know, you 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:21.520 know and love those people. So we're in the process 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:23.000 right now. Well, I guess I'm in the process of 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:25.319 planning my bachelor party and she's already got hers plan 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:28.160 but um, yeah, that's not for a few more months. Anyway, 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:31.319 where are you going. I'm going to San Diego. Just 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:33.480 making it easy for everyone, and I'm I don't know 0:13:33.480 --> 0:13:35.959 if you're having someone planned your bachelorette but they have 0:13:36.080 --> 0:13:39.000 made it so easy. I'm using Batch to Basic and 0:13:39.280 --> 0:13:41.600 they just sent me like the whole itinerary and they 0:13:41.760 --> 0:13:45.640 send everyone like payment reminders, So oh my god, that's amazing. 0:13:45.679 --> 0:13:48.319 I was actually looking at one I think it's called 0:13:48.400 --> 0:13:53.480 I'm in Miami Batch or something like that, and I 0:13:53.600 --> 0:13:55.040 was if I went to Miami, like they would have 0:13:55.040 --> 0:13:57.080 been great. But I think because we're one of Vegas, 0:13:57.120 --> 0:14:01.880 like we're partnering with the hotel like the Venetian, so 0:14:01.920 --> 0:14:05.080 I feel like a lot of activities will take place 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:08.440 at the resort essentially. But if I was to do 0:14:08.480 --> 0:14:12.360 it somewhere like Miami or Arizona like something like that, 0:14:12.400 --> 0:14:14.640 where I'm like booking dinners, I feel like having someone 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:17.959 planet for you is so helpful. Yes, that's a nice 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:21.320 thing about Vegas. Yeah, it's very very concentrated in the area. 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:22.920 You can just kind of like not really even leave 0:14:22.920 --> 0:14:25.160 the Venetian if you don't want to. Yeah, I feel 0:14:25.200 --> 0:14:28.640 like it's like an all inclusive resort, but everything's really 0:14:28.680 --> 0:14:33.240 expensive and it's exactive all inclusive minus the inclusivity, and 0:14:33.440 --> 0:14:36.560 the prices are super high. Yeah, mine's gonna be in 0:14:36.640 --> 0:14:39.080 Jackson and that's gonna be similar, Like we're the only 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:41.880 real lodging you can book is like hotel rooms. And 0:14:42.320 --> 0:14:44.840 I don't have like a best man or anything like that. 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:47.520 But there's gonna be like fourteen people at my bachelor party, 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:49.440 and so it's just like a big, big burden to 0:14:49.920 --> 0:14:53.360 schedule that for everyone, especially when I am awful at planning. 0:14:53.440 --> 0:14:57.320 So yeah, yeah, I message my girlfriends and was like, 0:14:57.480 --> 0:15:00.200 we're doing a destination wedding, so like, if this there's 0:15:00.200 --> 0:15:02.360 a lot to ask, like, don't feel pressured to come, 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:03.760 but like I'm trying to just think of it like 0:15:03.800 --> 0:15:06.640 a big girls trap versus like a batchelat party. But 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:09.720 then obviously my girlfriends are like, we want the balloons, 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:11.880 we want the dick straws, we want it all. Like 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:13.560 all right, well then you can bring it. I'm not 0:15:13.640 --> 0:15:18.080 packing that in my suitcase. Right. Where's the wedding. Um, 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:22.000 it's in Charleston, South Carolina. Oh beautiful? Yeah that like 0:15:22.040 --> 0:15:25.560 an old cigar factory. It's like an industrial kind of venue. Nice. 0:15:26.320 --> 0:15:28.240 You always talk about Charleston, don't you. Yeah? I love 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:31.520 it there have you guys been? Yeah? I used to 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:33.440 live in North Carolina, so I was like four hours 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:37.080 from there. I think, oh nice would go whenever I could. Yeah, 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:40.640 it's really the South, so he'll never go. I hate it. 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:42.880 I've never had a positive experience down there, but I've 0:15:42.880 --> 0:15:44.920 also just never really traveled down there. So I mean, 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:46.480 look like if you had asked me if I was 0:15:46.520 --> 0:15:48.880 going to get married in the South, like I definitely 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:52.040 would have said no. How I didn't think I would 0:15:51.600 --> 0:15:56.040 yet on that we just wanted we wanted a destination wedding, 0:15:56.600 --> 0:15:58.280 but we want it in the US. So we kind 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:01.240 of told our planner, like just research a bunch of 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:05.200 different like weekend getaway cities that are going to be 0:16:05.360 --> 0:16:09.320 accessible for people from Toronto Chicago and also just fun 0:16:09.680 --> 0:16:11.680 like our friends want to go. They want to like 0:16:11.760 --> 0:16:14.040 day drink and party, and we just want if we're 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:15.880 going to make people travel like, we want it to 0:16:16.200 --> 0:16:18.680 feel enjoyable for them where they're going and easy as 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:22.680 much as possible. So we were looking at Austin, Texas, 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:27.240 We're looking at Charleston, we were looking at Nashville, which 0:16:27.240 --> 0:16:30.320 we're kind of like all big like wedding cities, like 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:33.160 Nash's got like a million venues, and then just our 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:36.480 favorite venue is Charleston. And I spent some time in 0:16:36.560 --> 0:16:38.600 Hilton head South Carolina, So I'd been there like two 0:16:38.680 --> 0:16:41.480 or three times before, and just we thought it would 0:16:41.480 --> 0:16:42.720 be a good fit. And then when we went and 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:44.320 checked out the venue, we're like, yeah, this is great. 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:46.480 We love it so kind of like random, like we 0:16:46.520 --> 0:16:49.360 have we have no personal ties to this place, but 0:16:49.600 --> 0:16:52.600 it'll be cool, like we'll develop a personal tie to 0:16:52.680 --> 0:16:55.040 it because it'll be where we got married. Yeah. Yeah, 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:57.080 and as the Guy Factory is pretty cool. That's funny 0:16:57.080 --> 0:16:59.360 too because ours, yours is in a neutral location, so 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:01.920 it's like Joe's family and your family and your friends 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:04.479 are all having to go to this random place, and 0:17:04.480 --> 0:17:06.919 then ours is where I basically grew up. So I 0:17:06.920 --> 0:17:10.119 feel guilty because it's like, Okay, I'm familiar with the area, 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:12.520 a lot of my friends live close by. But then 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:14.359 Kaylin's family and friends all have to go out there 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:16.360 for the first time. So it's like no one's complaining 0:17:16.359 --> 0:17:18.560 about going to Aspen. Everyone's I was going to say, 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:22.240 like that's a pretty nice place to go to, right yeah, 0:17:22.240 --> 0:17:24.000 And I would say only like fifteen percent of the 0:17:24.040 --> 0:17:28.040 wedding are actually currently living in Basalter Aspen, maybe less, 0:17:28.119 --> 0:17:30.800 And that's true. It just does feel I don't know, 0:17:31.359 --> 0:17:33.040 like a neutral site would have made me. Not that 0:17:33.080 --> 0:17:35.359 I've actually felt this way until just now, but a 0:17:35.440 --> 0:17:37.199 neutral site, you know, kind of makes sense that way. 0:17:37.280 --> 0:17:39.159 No one is like, I mean, we did our engagement 0:17:39.200 --> 0:17:41.800 party in Toronto, if that makes you feel better, So 0:17:41.880 --> 0:17:46.200 we did make everyone travel there for that. But how 0:17:46.280 --> 0:17:49.480 involved is Joe and the wedding planning stuff? He's very involved. 0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:52.920 He's very involved. Oh yeah, yeah, I honestly like would 0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:55.760 be nervous make a decision without checking with him first, 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:57.800 not that he doesn't trust my decision making, but like 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:01.679 he is very opinion did just as in general as 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:04.119 a person. Um. But I like it, Like I like 0:18:04.240 --> 0:18:06.320 that he cares what like the save the dates look 0:18:06.400 --> 0:18:08.520 like and stuff like that, Like he helped me like 0:18:08.520 --> 0:18:11.560 pick our tasting menu, like all the cake flavors, like 0:18:11.920 --> 0:18:14.840 all the venues. Like it's been very fifty fifty. I'm 0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:18.400 a little bit more involved in like the administrative stuff 0:18:18.440 --> 0:18:20.399 of like going back and forth with the planner and 0:18:20.480 --> 0:18:22.800 like all of that. But that's just more of my strength. 0:18:23.880 --> 0:18:39.640 But yeah, he's he's all up in it. Becaus made 0:18:39.640 --> 0:18:43.400 any like weird decisions, like unique, quirky type of decisions, 0:18:44.760 --> 0:18:47.520 that's a good question, I don't think so. What would 0:18:47.520 --> 0:18:50.320 you define as a quirky decision for a wedding? Well, 0:18:50.400 --> 0:18:51.960 I really want to have ice cream cake instead of 0:18:51.960 --> 0:18:53.960 wedding cake and our wedding. You're about to say something else. 0:18:54.680 --> 0:18:56.600 I really also wants a lot of ideas. I really 0:18:56.640 --> 0:19:00.199 want to wear a penguin tuxedo. Okay, it's surprised, I 0:19:00.240 --> 0:19:03.800 really wanna Can I say it? No? Okay, I really 0:19:03.800 --> 0:19:06.760 want to a special musical act while Kayleen walks down 0:19:06.760 --> 0:19:09.040 the aisle. Joe's had you know what, Joe had a 0:19:09.080 --> 0:19:11.080