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Speaker 3: I agreed to try an open relationship with my boyfriend

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Speaker 3: and I kept getting disrespected.

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Speaker 4: Well could have seen this coming.

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Speaker 3: So me Mel thirty one and my boyfriend Meil twenty

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Speaker 3: four have been together for about eight months.

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Speaker 5: Two dudes.

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Speaker 3: He had told me that he wants to be in

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Speaker 3: a polynamorous relationship. I let him know that I do

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Speaker 3: not have any interest in being polly. He kept bringing

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Speaker 3: up the topic and wanting to open up the relationship. Finally,

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Speaker 3: about three months ago, I said I would try it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's such a good idea. The thing that you

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Speaker 4: didn't want to do at all. He had to push

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Speaker 4: you into trying.

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Speaker 1: He kept hitting that, he kept like poking the day

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Speaker 1: you know, like, no, it's gonna come out eventually.

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Speaker 4: I love peer pressure in my relationships.

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Speaker 3: I said, as long as there was communication, a Google calendar,

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Speaker 3: and a task list, and he let me know ahead

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Speaker 3: of time that we can try it.

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Speaker 5: Wow.

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Speaker 1: I looked at that, I said, where are those words?

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Speaker 3: Coming from I just think those are the only tools

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Speaker 3: you need to have a successful open marriage.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: My only thing was that I had Monday and tuesdays off,

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Speaker 3: so those are our days. Yeah, absolutely, I have something

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Speaker 3: I have to tell you what. This comes from Bernie

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Speaker 3: Brent on the the and if you listening your own stories,

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Speaker 3: go to the Arside Showcase stories.

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Speaker 5: I'm sub Reddit, I'm Riley.

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we're.

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Speaker 5: Gonna be goofy.

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Speaker 3: All right, you're gonna comment your experiences and if you

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Speaker 3: know anyone in the Polly or your Polly, please comment

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Speaker 3: down below how they are doing this right or maybe.

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Speaker 1: Wrong, or if your name's Polly, why not just.

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Speaker 4: Comment, just comment regardless.

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Speaker 3: Fast forward everyone, Fast forward a couple of weeks and

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Speaker 3: I find out he has a couple of hangouts planned.

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Speaker 5: So just what this gen z's calling it these days?

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Speaker 4: Hang out hangouts? We're just hanging out.

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Speaker 1: Snooching, something's hanging out, that's show.

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Speaker 3: And I asked about the details of the hangouts and

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Speaker 3: it was this guy we'll call Alec, and he was

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Speaker 3: going to take him out to breakfast and pay for everything.

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Speaker 4: How with what money?

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Speaker 5: I told him that that was a date.

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend told me no, it wasn't and that it

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Speaker 3: was just friends. He said that this was an old

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Speaker 3: friend and they were gonna catch up.

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Speaker 4: So weird to actively lie and cheat in an open relationship,

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Speaker 4: like you got what you wanted? Just be honest. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: what are you thinking?

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Speaker 6: What are you thinking?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 5: It's like how long has he had this breakfast plan for?

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Speaker 4: Oh? Ages?

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Speaker 3: Oh, now here comes the punter. This was planned on

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Speaker 3: a Monday. I'm off Monday.

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Speaker 1: It's the Monday. Wait a minute, they're hanging out on Monday.

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Speaker 1: That's my day off?

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Speaker 5: What also wild to plan a hangout like this on

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Who does think? Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I under start my work week.

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Speaker 1: Sorry Monday, make me upset and brunch.

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Speaker 3: Monday and brunch that that should not exist. Munch, you're

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Speaker 3: wild for that. I let him know this, and he

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Speaker 5: M on Monday.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, I stay up all day Monday and go

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Speaker 3: A couple of weeks later was my birthday.

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Speaker 4: They better not have had brunch plans on your birthday.

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Speaker 3: I was super excited because one of my love languages

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Speaker 3: is getting it. I'm gifts.

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Speaker 1: I love giving and receiving gifts.

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Speaker 5: I love giving gifts and I love receiving. And my

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Speaker 4: Uh huh.

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Speaker 3: I know this kind of sounds shallow, but even if

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Speaker 3: My birthday fell on a Monday.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, not every other Monday.

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Speaker 3: I get off work and find out he has plans

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Speaker 3: to meet up with another guy.

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Speaker 4: That's actually I would like, genuinely if my boyfriend had

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Speaker 3: Ripping his head off, both of them. I thought maybe

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Speaker 3: this was a cover up so he can get me

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Speaker 3: a gift.

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Speaker 4: No, that's so depressing.

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Speaker 5: Hopey says, I was wrong.

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Speaker 3: He admitted to me later that he forgot until my

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Speaker 3: roommate texted him letting him know that it was my

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Speaker 3: birthday and if I was going to do something.

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Speaker 5: Up.

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Speaker 4: My boyfriend forgets my birthday.

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Speaker 5: Mind youude.

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Speaker 3: This was already around one PM that he realized it

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Speaker 3: was my birthday.

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Speaker 4: If you're not wake up next to me giving me

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Speaker 4: a little smooch and saying happy birthday with like a

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Speaker 4: wake up, all right, all right?

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Speaker 3: He ran out and got a store bought cake and

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Speaker 3: some flowers. In my mind, this was strike too, but

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Speaker 3: I had let it slide. I was honestly very hurt.

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Speaker 3: We had a very big argument, and I thought we

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Speaker 3: for us. A couple of weeks later, it was Valentine's

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Speaker 3: Day on a Saturday. Everyone take a breath.

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Speaker 4: Thank god it's not on a Monday.

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Speaker 5: I was really excited, and I planned out a whole thing.

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Speaker 5: He planned everything else, So Foria.

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Speaker 4: That's pretty awesome.

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Speaker 5: I had a letter for each.

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Speaker 3: Hour planned where he would open it and find a

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Speaker 4: Stop stop No.

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Speaker 3: There were some that had gift cards attached them, door Dash, Steam, PlayStation,

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Speaker 3: in store, et cetera. His love language is words of affirmation.

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Speaker 3: Some of the love letters were words of affirmation.

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Speaker 4: You're great, You're so awesome. Every day you light up

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Speaker 3: I was super excited the day before, he lets me

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Speaker 3: know that he has a hangout with another guy, plug

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Speaker 3: on alad break up.

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Speaker 4: Why are we still with him? You didn't even want

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Speaker 5: I was really hurt.

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Speaker 3: To be honest, I'd let him know this and he

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Speaker 3: pm to ten pm. I said okay and waited for him.

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Speaker 3: He didn't end up coming home until four pm. I

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Speaker 3: decided to sacrifice my sleep and stay up to have

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Speaker 3: Valentine's Day with my boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: At this point, op what are we doing?

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Speaker 4: Opie.

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Speaker 3: In the next month, I found out he had reached

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Speaker 3: out to two more of his exes, wanted to go

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Speaker 3: on a weekend trip with one of them, and the

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Speaker 3: other while he was talking to over discord. Mind you,

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Speaker 3: the one he was talking to over Discord broke his

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Speaker 3: heart and he's still in love with him. The one

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Speaker 3: over Discord does not have feelings for him whatsoever. The

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Speaker 3: one that he wanted to go on a weekend trip with,

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Speaker 3: we will call Eric. He stated that Eric was going

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Speaker 3: to uber an uber for him to his house and

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Speaker 3: he'll uber to him back at the end of the

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Speaker 3: weekend trip. Okay, mind you, the uber is about one

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Speaker 3: hundred and ten dollars one way.

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Speaker 4: Lordy, lord Lord.

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Speaker 3: Eric was also going to pay for all his food

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Speaker 3: and of course Devil's letters for my boyfriend. I felt

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Speaker 4: Stop stop PSA, stop, oh Pe, this relationship is bad

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Speaker 4: and you should break up with your boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: We had another argument of where I had let him

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Speaker 3: know I.

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Speaker 5: Wasn't comfortable with Polly.

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Speaker 3: Yet he agreed to set up dinner so we can meet.

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend asked me to drive him to Eric's house

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Speaker 3: to see if that would calm me down. No, it

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Speaker 3: would not do that, that would save him an uber trip.

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Speaker 4: Yeah that's true, op.

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Speaker 3: I said, yes, that would most likely calm me down

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Speaker 3: and we can have that dinner with Eric. Fast forward

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Speaker 3: to the day of and we get in the car

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Speaker 3: to drive to Eric's house and he drops on me

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Speaker 3: that we will just do a call and not dinner.

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Speaker 3: What in the car we just do a call and

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Speaker 3: not dinner? And also we do a phone call and

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Speaker 3: through meeting these guys. This did not sit well with me,

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Speaker 3: going to answer, I felt very good and I said no,

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Speaker 3: I've dropped him off to his weekend and left. Eric

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Speaker 3: they were all on Monday's mother eving Monday.

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Speaker 4: Stop opie, I don't want to hear another complaint. I

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Speaker 4: don't want to hear another complaint. Oh.

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Speaker 5: He used the same excuse of forgetting.

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Speaker 4: Huh, I don't want to hear another complaint. Stop it,

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Speaker 4: stop it you wake up, slap, slap, wake up.

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Speaker 3: A couple of weeks ago, he came back from his

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Speaker 3: date and he was wearing all new clothes and jewelry

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Speaker 3: very uncomfortable. I told him I'm not comfortable with Polly anymore.

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Speaker 3: Honestly tried and it was not for me. My boyfriend

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Speaker 3: has stated that I am overreacting and being unfair. Am

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Speaker 3: I the a hole for this?

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Speaker 4: Yes to me, because you haven't broken up yet, and

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Speaker 4: that's my thoughts.

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Speaker 1: Fair.

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Speaker 4: The only answer to this is break up with him.

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Speaker 4: You're not comfortable and he still wants to do it.

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Speaker 4: It's over, yum.

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Speaker 3: Because the open relationships that we've seen, they set up

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Speaker 3: boundaries and then they go after it. Yeah, you had

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Speaker 3: clear boundaries, no Mondays and Tuesdays.

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Speaker 1: And the first one was no, I don't want to

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Speaker 1: be Paully.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah.

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Speaker 3: Well then once he gilded you into it, no Mondays

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Speaker 3: and Tuesdays, and that was the first one he valulated. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: He said he was just choosing to love me, but

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Speaker 5: Didn't you see that?

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Speaker 3: I let them know that that was impossible since we

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you think the fact that, yeah, the roommate was

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Speaker 3: Oh well, I thought he was in LA came out

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Speaker 5: My ex even ate.

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Speaker 3: The whole gift basket that was there to welcome us

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Speaker 5: Oh that's it. Is there more of this?

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Speaker 1: I'll take a look. That's it, yike.

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Speaker 4: So now, if he's stuck living with his stupid.

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Speaker 5: Ex, why did he do this over the phone?

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Speaker 4: Why does he even want to live with op? That's

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Speaker 5: He used him to get there. He loved me. That

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Speaker 4: Weird. It's such a weird plan. Doesn't make any sense

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that update where he found his ex living with

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, so well, Pee, I think you gotta

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Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna read

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Speaker 4: My boyfriend and I met at a spicy party and

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Speaker 1: Is this a meet cute or is that cute meet?

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Speaker 4: Last Saturday, I mailed twenty four attended a spicy party

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Speaker 4: crowd wasn't doing anything for me until this guy, Rupert

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Speaker 4: male twenty four entered. By the way, this comes from,

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Speaker 4: I'm back and hungry and if you want to submit

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Speaker 4: your own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime

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Speaker 4: separate it.

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm key on, and we're here to get

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Speaker 4: Us scoofly, but we don't have all the answers. We

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Speaker 4: I was I and Rupert the night and I made

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Speaker 1: Over to him, make him my way downtown to Rupert

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Speaker 4: Nay Man. When it happened, we immediately made out and

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Speaker 4: did the entire dance Okay, Prior to going to the

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Speaker 4: the whole time. Where do they host these things like

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Speaker 1: It's just like another It's just another party.

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Speaker 1: There's snacks and drinks. It's just everyone's a little bit

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Speaker 1: I've never done any of those things.

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Speaker 4: Too messy. Anyway, he said he was glad that I

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Speaker 4: He would sit next to me and would put his

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Speaker 4: We snuggled the entire night after we hooked up. He

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Speaker 4: He looked into my eyes and smiled while snuggling. He

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Speaker 4: asked me for my zodiac side and said that he'll

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Speaker 1: Oh, this is so in La. This is so in

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Speaker 1: La or New York.

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Speaker 5: It could be.

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Speaker 4: It could be Yale. Yale is known for having parties.

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Speaker 1: No the zodiac thing. No, no, the zodiacting.

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Speaker 4: We had a discussion about past relationships, hobbies, and similar interests.

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Speaker 1: Did I throw like a whistle at this? This is

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Speaker 4: The way, you still have this one person's house kit.

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Speaker 1: Could we do this, I don't know, on a date

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Speaker 4: I'm not gonna yack. You're yam If you love this,

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Speaker 4: I can see him standing next to me or eyeing

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Speaker 4: the guys that do we showered together at? Are we

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: It is a shower there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, people could get clean, I guess.

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Speaker 4: So we showered together and he gave me another innocent kiss.

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Speaker 4: I don't want to scare him off because I'm really

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Speaker 4: think of him. I've never been in a relationship or

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Speaker 6: But what do you think?

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Speaker 1: I mean? I'm not the professional to give you advice

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but it seems like y'all like each other.

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Speaker 1: If y'all like each other, it's just date date ask.

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Speaker 4: Him datesy, you already do the little kisses you.

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Speaker 1: You already shook hands and shook hands, So go out

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Speaker 1: a day?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Why not we just make this a little bit more intimate,

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Edit?

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Speaker 4: I asked him out.

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Speaker 1: And he said yes, Yeah, I look at that.

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Speaker 4: And he followed up asking me to a concert on

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 4: Update three weeks later.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, Okay, do you think they're still together?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 4: I think they're going to be together forever. Basically, the

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Speaker 4: Since the Spicy Party, we've been seeing each other every week.

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Speaker 4: This week is the only week we haven't seen each

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Speaker 4: for it. We're now exclusive. We have decided to stop

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Speaker 4: exclusive we can get to know more about the other person.

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Speaker 4: We also haven't had spicy sleep since the Spicy Party.

453
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Speaker 1: Wow, that is interesting, guys.

454
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Speaker 4: I kind of like that. I mean, I think everyone.

455
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Speaker 1: I kind of like that. You guys already did it first,

456
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Speaker 1: but now you're going to know each other again. We

457
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Speaker 1: just did the steps backwards.

458
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I kind of like not. I mean, I

459
00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:03,119
Speaker 4: also think that anyone can you know, have spice to

460
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Speaker 4: sleep at anytime when you're you know, meeting, as long

461
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Speaker 4: as as long as there's consents and your consent and

462
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Speaker 4: you're being safe. But I think it's like, I think

463
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Speaker 4: it's sweet that you guys decided to take them, you know,

464
00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:17,040
Speaker 4: like you're like, we're already we already know that we're compatible.

465
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Speaker 4: Let's ease into this.

466
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Speaker 1: Let's see if we're compatible. Yeah.

467
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Speaker 4: I like that our feelings for each other were too

468
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Speaker 4: quick to develop, and we want to ensure that the

469
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Speaker 4: relationship catches up to that first.

470
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Speaker 6: I think that's nice.

471
00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:30,720
Speaker 4: We both agreed we'll be intimate again once more time passes.

472
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Speaker 4: So yeah, thank you to everyone who told me to

473
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Speaker 4: take a chance. I'm incredibly happy right now. I've never

474
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Speaker 4: felt this way towards anyone, so these are all new

475
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Speaker 4: to me. It seems like he's as crazy towards me

476
00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:43,760
Speaker 4: as I am to him. I never thought I would

477
00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:46,160
Speaker 4: ever receive this kind of affection from someone that isn't

478
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Speaker 4: just a friend. Hopefully it becomes official before the first

479
00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:52,520
Speaker 4: half of the year ends and we've got an update too.

480
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Speaker 4: It just keeps coming. I think you're gonna last forever.

481
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Speaker 1: Oh, I mean they they tried to and they just

482
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Speaker 1: kept coming.

483
00:20:59,560 --> 00:21:02,280
Speaker 4: So true. I think this is going awfully well. And

484
00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:04,000
Speaker 4: we've got an update seven months later.

485
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Speaker 1: M boyfriend calling it boyfriend.

486
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Speaker 4: They're gonna be boyfriends. Here's the big conclusion.

487
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Speaker 1: We're boyfriends and nice.

488
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Speaker 4: We made it official last September twelfth, so today is

489
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Speaker 4: our one week anniversary after dating for almost eight months now.

490
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Speaker 4: The reason why we decided to take our time was

491
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Speaker 4: because our fear was that we met at a spicy

492
00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:27,280
Speaker 4: party and where we were spicy, sleepily not on par

493
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Speaker 4: with where we wanted the relationship to be, So we

494
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Speaker 4: didn't even think of being intimate till we were like

495
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Speaker 4: two to three months into the relationship.

496
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Speaker 1: Wow, I mean like at that point, why are we

497
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Speaker 1: not just official?

498
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Speaker 4: It was a challenge given where we met. I'm sure

499
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Speaker 4: it's expected that we're both guys with high libido and

500
00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:44,360
Speaker 4: waiting with torture, but we both wanted the relationship to progress.

501
00:21:44,600 --> 00:21:46,439
Speaker 1: Uh you know what they call that edging.

502
00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:49,439
Speaker 4: It's true. As for me, two weeks into dating, I

503
00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:53,160
Speaker 4: realized I have our OCD, so I immediately started going

504
00:21:53,200 --> 00:21:55,320
Speaker 4: to therapy twice a week, and it's been a breath

505
00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:57,720
Speaker 4: of fresh air. Turns out, choosing not to eat because

506
00:21:57,760 --> 00:21:59,959
Speaker 4: your own thoughts made you sad and guilty is actually

507
00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:03,680
Speaker 4: not normal. Glad you realized that I live with OCD

508
00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:06,600
Speaker 4: my entire life with just different themes, and it was

509
00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:09,320
Speaker 4: eye opening to know why certain things are just difficult

510
00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:11,440
Speaker 4: for me. Rupert and I like to joke that it's

511
00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:14,280
Speaker 4: actually a throuple because my therapist really helped me so much.

512
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:16,080
Speaker 4: I don't think I would be able to navigate my

513
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Speaker 4: first real relationship if I didn't pursue it. Unfortunately, for

514
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Speaker 4: the naysayers, neither one of us went back to the

515
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Speaker 4: spicy party, nor did we cheat on each other. But

516
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Speaker 4: to be honest, that was a concern of mine since

517
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Speaker 4: some of my fantasies were a bit overwhelming. But my

518
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Speaker 4: thoughts do not define who I am. We are driven

519
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:35,439
Speaker 4: by our values. Therapy and being in a happy, healthy,

520
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:39,119
Speaker 4: stable relationship is also forcing me to become better. I

521
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:41,639
Speaker 4: had a bad relationship with certain habits that I have

522
00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:44,760
Speaker 4: since I really thought I'd be the kind of person

523
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Speaker 4: to cheat given how my past life looked. But I've

524
00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:50,320
Speaker 4: had several invites from that old world, and I said,

525
00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:53,320
Speaker 4: note all of them. I deleted several social media accounts

526
00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:55,440
Speaker 4: and cleaned up the algorithm on the ones I kept

527
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:57,560
Speaker 4: slightly strange that You're like, I thought it would be

528
00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:00,080
Speaker 4: the guy that cheats. You're like, yeah, a little strange,

529
00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:01,880
Speaker 4: but you're not, so that's good.

530
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Speaker 1: I think it had to do with, uh, this is

531
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 1: like Opie's first relationship and just never really understood all

532
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 1: of that. Yeah, boundaries, and I commend you for taking

533
00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:14,080
Speaker 1: this really slow and yeah, really really figuring her out

534
00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:16,400
Speaker 1: what you want and who you want to be with.

535
00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:19,760
Speaker 1: And that's great for your your partner as well. With Rupert,

536
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:21,080
Speaker 1: good job, good job.

537
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:23,560
Speaker 4: A little bit left sounds like I gave up things

538
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:25,840
Speaker 4: that made me who I am. But to be honest,

539
00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:29,040
Speaker 4: with therapy, working out and finally feeling safe with someone

540
00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:31,639
Speaker 4: that isn't just a friend, I realized they were old

541
00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 4: coping mechanisms and I was just chasing highs because my

542
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:37,439
Speaker 4: old life was so tragic. But with the proper tools,

543
00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:39,880
Speaker 4: I actually have better ways to deal with things now.

544
00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:42,359
Speaker 4: So yeah, when I look at Rupert, it still feels

545
00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:44,760
Speaker 4: surreal that I actually got them. I have never been

546
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Speaker 4: miloved in my entire life. My parents are traditional religious boomers,

547
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:51,879
Speaker 4: So for someone to attend to my wants and needs

548
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:55,760
Speaker 4: everything something inside me aches in the best way. I

549
00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:58,760
Speaker 4: now get why they say a healthy relationship changes you.

550
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Speaker 4: Unfortunately we both get in some way. But I prefer

551
00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:03,280
Speaker 4: that now to where I was a year ago. That's

552
00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 4: my last update. There you go.

553
00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:07,159
Speaker 1: You found love in a party place.

554
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, you guys made it and I love that.

555
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:12,600
Speaker 7: Yeah, And that's the end of the story. We're gonna

556
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Speaker 7: read the next one.

557
00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 1: My boyfriend was secretly contacting our landlord pretending to be me.

558
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Speaker 4: Catfish.

559
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Speaker 1: I female twenty nine, had been with my boyfriend, male

560
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Speaker 1: twenty nine for three years. We jumped into things fast

561
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Speaker 1: when we first met, spending every night together after only

562
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Speaker 1: a month or so of knowing each other, Wow, and

563
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Speaker 1: then moving in together at six months. Oh, you did

564
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Speaker 1: say it was fast. By the way, This comes from

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Speaker 1: user Lazy Honey ninety four to seventy two, and if

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Speaker 1: r slash Okay story time subredd it. I'm Keon, I'm Sophia,

568
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Speaker 1: and we're here to give goofy advice. We're just goofballs.

569
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Speaker 1: We don't know everything. We only know what we'd do,

570
00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:50,520
Speaker 1: so let us know what you do in the comments.

571
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:54,359
Speaker 1: As Hopie says, honestly, our relationship has never been consistently

572
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Speaker 1: good big red flag good, giant red flag.

573
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Speaker 4: And we moved really fast. We moved in after six months,

574
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Speaker 4: and he also hasn't been consistently good, but we're still together.

575
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Speaker 1: There's been trust issues, lying, conflict of morals, overall disconnect

576
00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:11,080
Speaker 1: and lack of compatibility. Something you would figure out, I

577
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Speaker 1: don't know, within the first couple of months of knowing someone.

578
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Speaker 4: Or before you move in with them.

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Speaker 1: Right after we moved in together, and right after I

580
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Speaker 1: had purchased a brand new money signed car, I lost

581
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Speaker 1: my high paying job. Thing snowballed from there. Yikes. Financially

582
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:30,760
Speaker 1: I was stable, but this sent as spiraling as he

583
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:33,080
Speaker 1: did not have consistent work either. And this is where

584
00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:36,080
Speaker 1: you break up with him, right, yeah, right right. I

585
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:38,439
Speaker 1: got pretty decent severance, but blew through it all, then

586
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:41,400
Speaker 1: went on employment insurance, then ended up getting a lower

587
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:44,520
Speaker 1: paying job with a long commute. It would take forever

588
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Speaker 1: to go through all the details, but essentially I got

589
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Speaker 1: into a mountain of debt and my credit is absolutely terrible. Gee,

590
00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:52,000
Speaker 1: I wonder why.

591
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Speaker 4: Dang this all snowballs?

592
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Speaker 7: Oh boy.

593
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Speaker 1: Currently he's on a trip to help with a family emergency.

594
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Speaker 1: I'm at home tonight. Our landlord knocks on the door

595
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Speaker 1: to serve us a request to pay. Apparently we are

596
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:09,240
Speaker 1: late on rent since January. I had no idea of this.

597
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:12,199
Speaker 1: I sent him money, my partner my portion monthly and

598
00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 1: expect him to pay her the full amount. The amount

599
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Speaker 1: we have to pay in fourteen days is almost ten

600
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Speaker 1: thousand dollars. Iike, that snowballs turning into an avalanche.

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Speaker 4: I think if OP was on the lease, I would

602
00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 4: wonder why the landlord wasn't messaging OP too.

603
00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 1: We'll probably find out why. Obviously I can't afford this

604
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 1: due to the above financial explanation. This was my sign

605
00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:42,280
Speaker 1: to get out. My landlord intended to slip the notes

606
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Speaker 1: under the door, and I had opened it to let

607
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:46,920
Speaker 1: the dog out at the same time. It was pure coincidence,

608
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:49,199
Speaker 1: and she had a feeling that I did not know

609
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,879
Speaker 1: due to my lack of communication on email and phone,

610
00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 1: which she had incorrect information for both. Oh, I feel sick.

611
00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 1: I don't even know what to do or to think.

612
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:03,080
Speaker 1: I need to leave, but my credit won't allow for

613
00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:06,920
Speaker 1: my approval literally anywhere. I'm going to have to spill

614
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 1: this whole situation to my parents, who truly like this

615
00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:12,280
Speaker 1: dude and expect us to have a future. Ooo. No,

616
00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:14,920
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's the lexapro or the gut

617
00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:17,720
Speaker 1: feeling I've had for years that this wouldn't work out,

618
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 1: but I'm weirdly calm. It feels like this was the

619
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 1: stars aligning for me to finally have a clear way out.

620
00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 1: I know this is going to be brutal, It's gonna

621
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 1: hurt like a witch, and I'm going to be so sad,

622
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:31,880
Speaker 1: but honestly, I'm slightly relieved that I have at least

623
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Speaker 1: some support for a way out. Please, if you have

624
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:37,080
Speaker 1: been in a similar situation which we luck, and send

625
00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:37,960
Speaker 1: advice my way.

626
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:39,000
Speaker 6: Good luck.

627
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:41,919
Speaker 1: Thanks everyone for your comments. Life has taken me for

628
00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:44,399
Speaker 1: a ride. It's my last post. We have an update.

629
00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:47,879
Speaker 1: Oh boy, there's a lot here to take in and

630
00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 1: to talk about.

631
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Speaker 4: I mean, I wonder if you can talk to your

632
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:54,600
Speaker 4: landlord and say, hey, I have been paying my boyfriend

633
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:55,440
Speaker 4: has been stealing that.

634
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:59,760
Speaker 1: Money, yeah, seeing him or something, but also.

635
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:02,320
Speaker 4: Prove that you have been sending him the money too.

636
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:05,600
Speaker 1: We need to talk about the elephant in the room, op,

637
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:07,400
Speaker 1: is your spending habits?

638
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:09,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, very concerning.

639
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:13,680
Speaker 1: Very yeah, at least you know. But you're like, I

640
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:16,560
Speaker 1: have a huge amount of credit card debt. I you

641
00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 1: know all of this, I blew through all of my money. Yeah,

642
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:21,440
Speaker 1: that was.

643
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:23,919
Speaker 4: Like, spend really expensive car.

644
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:24,879
Speaker 1: What are we doing?

645
00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:27,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, very concerning. I would talk to your parents and say, hey,

646
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 4: I'm in a very dire financial straits and also my

647
00:28:31,560 --> 00:28:33,159
Speaker 4: boyfriend has been stealing all my money.

648
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:35,880
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think this is where you take a huge

649
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 1: just refresh of life, stay at home for a little bit,

650
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:42,320
Speaker 1: gather yourself, and then start back up, start new. Yeah,

651
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:45,480
Speaker 1: but definitely break up with your boyfriend. We have an update.

652
00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 1: He had taken a red eye home from his trip

653
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 1: and had to start work once he had landed, so

654
00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:52,920
Speaker 1: we didn't talk in the morning. I don't care. We

655
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 1: are talking immediately.

656
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:57,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, immediately the second you get home. You stole my money?

657
00:28:57,440 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, the lord stop by. We had a conversation about

658
00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:04,240
Speaker 1: something really important through the day. I was persistent overtext

659
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:06,040
Speaker 1: that this wasn't something I was going to be able

660
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Speaker 1: to get past, and it seemed like we were kind

661
00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 1: of amicably breaking.

662
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:13,280
Speaker 4: Up amicably amicably. He stole your money?

663
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 1: What are we doing? There's too much going on. He

664
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 1: was upset that I made that decision and didn't want

665
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 1: to work through it, but seemed to accept it. He

666
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 1: encouraged me to tell my parents, which I did. They

667
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 1: knew I was heartbroken and upset, so they said they

668
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 1: were coming to me right away. They live about an

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Speaker 1: hour and a half away. As soon as I mentioned

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00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 1: their trip to me, he became upset and didn't want

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Speaker 1: my parents to come over.

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00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 4: Too bad. We're broken up.

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Speaker 1: You don't have a time out. He said, you should

674
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Speaker 1: tell your parents.

675
00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:43,600
Speaker 4: So why did you tell your parents?

676
00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:47,200
Speaker 1: Why did you tell your parents to come over? I

677
00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:50,720
Speaker 1: felt uncomfortable with how things were going, so I packed

678
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 1: what I could and left immediately with my parents. The

679
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 1: coming days were tough. He was going through the stages

680
00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 1: of grief daily and reaching out to me a lot.

681
00:29:58,960 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 4: I don't feel bad.

682
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,160
Speaker 1: I don't feel bad either. A few days later, my

683
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 1: landlord calls me and the information she has for me

684
00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 1: changes everything. He has not only given false email and

685
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:12,800
Speaker 1: phone for me, he was actively contacting her as me

686
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:14,080
Speaker 1: with them.

687
00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 4: Yikes.

688
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 1: Since the start of our lease over a year ago.

689
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 1: He has been lying and involving me as a backup

690
00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 1: independently over text to our landlord to explain month's worth

691
00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 1: of late rent. He had claimed he had been robbed

692
00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 1: not true. That his mother had passed and he had

693
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 1: to pay for a funeral not true, She's also alive,

694
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:39,880
Speaker 1: and other various lies. She sent me screenshots, email chains,

695
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:44,280
Speaker 1: fake bank transfers, etc. Some of the messages he was

696
00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:47,840
Speaker 1: sending her were during a family vacation that my parents

697
00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:51,200
Speaker 1: paid for, telling her he was at the hospital. This

698
00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 1: was a planned, calculated, and labor intensive lie that he's

699
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 1: put together. Honestly, I'm shocked that I dated this man

700
00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 1: for three years and didn't know who he really was

701
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 1: or what he was capable of.

702
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 4: Me too, girl, That's why we don't move in after

703
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 4: six months. Yeah, not that that it can't work out.

704
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:09,080
Speaker 1: Some people it does work it out, does work out,

705
00:31:08,840 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 1: did not work out, But this is one of those

706
00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 1: cases it did not. I didn't tell him that I

707
00:31:12,400 --> 00:31:14,840
Speaker 1: knew the depth of what he went through for these lies.

708
00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 1: I had so many belongings at our previously shared space

709
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:20,480
Speaker 1: that I needed to get out before it got messy.

710
00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:23,000
Speaker 1: I kept things calm as much as I could and

711
00:31:23,040 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 1: finally got out today.

712
00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 4: Ooh, bad, situation keeps getting worse and worse. Yikes, I'm

713
00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:33,840
Speaker 4: glad that you're out of there. Lawyer up, Yeah, lawyer up,

714
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:37,600
Speaker 4: and also start working on paying off your credit card debts.

715
00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:40,240
Speaker 1: Slowly but surely there's a little bit left. Let's go,

716
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 1: ahad and finish it up. Unfortunately, it looks like he

717
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 1: may stay in the condo, which really puts me in

718
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 1: a tough spot with racking up this debt to our

719
00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:51,080
Speaker 1: landlord moving forward. Although I had paid him my portion

720
00:31:51,160 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 1: of rent those months as we were on the lease together,

721
00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 1: I'm still legally obligated to this debt. The landlord and

722
00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 1: I now have a fabulous relationship, so I am hoping

723
00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:03,239
Speaker 1: we can work out something amongst ourselves and she can

724
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 1: proceed with going to court with only him.

725
00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:06,120
Speaker 6: Yeah.

726
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:07,000
Speaker 1: I hope so too.

727
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 4: I mean, you can also get a lawyer, and so

728
00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:14,600
Speaker 4: I think, because presumably you have proof of transfers or

729
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 4: money transfers of you paying him what you owe for

730
00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:20,920
Speaker 4: the rent, you can prove that he stole that money.

731
00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 1: Then you also have the your landlord's yeah like proof yeah, literally,

732
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 1: document thinking yes, yeah, thanks for all the good lucks,

733
00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:32,360
Speaker 1: reality checks, words of encouragement, and everything in between. This

734
00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 1: has been a really rough period in my life, but

735
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 1: I know that my life will flourish without this in

736
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:39,520
Speaker 1: my life. I don't even know where to begin. I

737
00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:42,120
Speaker 1: can't believe this is happening. And that's the end of

738
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Speaker 1: that story.

739
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:44,840
Speaker 4: Good luck, Opie.

740
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:48,120
Speaker 1: So much luck. I wish you mountains of luck.

741
00:32:48,400 --> 00:32:52,160
Speaker 4: Bowyer up, talk to your landlord, talk to your parents,

742
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:53,320
Speaker 4: get that support.

743
00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 1: I think you also need to just lay low for

744
00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:59,000
Speaker 1: just a good amount of time. Don't buy anything, don't

745
00:32:59,040 --> 00:33:03,560
Speaker 1: be spending on some ridiculous things. But I mean this

746
00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 1: is this is for you job yeah, bingo, just next time,

747
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,560
Speaker 1: whenever you get into another relationship. Also, don't rush into it.

748
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:13,560
Speaker 1: Take it's left, take it really slow. But I think

749
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:16,600
Speaker 1: go life at a new pace. I think you got

750
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Speaker 1: this best of luck.

751
00:33:18,360 --> 00:33:20,080
Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna read

752
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Speaker 7: the next one.

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Speaker 1: Hey, key on here, we're going to get back to

754
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755
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Speaker 2: My friend demanded to share my room on our trip.

756
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:31,480
Speaker 2: I just got divorced, so I refused.

757
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 1: Baby girl needs them alone time.

758
00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:36,600
Speaker 2: Everyone involved is in their early forties female. I recently

759
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 2: got divorced and it has been very rough going. I

760
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 2: went to therapy in and helped me tremendously. I am

761
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:43,880
Speaker 2: finally starting to feel like my old self. I just

762
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:46,680
Speaker 2: got off of my rusty dusty, as my grandma would say,

763
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:50,080
Speaker 2: hit the gym, reconnected with my friends. I feel good again.

764
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 2: My ex and I used to take frequent vacations, which

765
00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 2: I enjoyed. There is no reason for me to stop now,

766
00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:57,600
Speaker 2: so I decided to organize a trip with my friends.

767
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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Significant Break three sixteen,

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Speaker 2: and if you want to submit your own stories, go

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Speaker 2: to the r slash Okay storytime subreddit. I'm Savannah, I'm Keon,

770
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 2: and we are here to give some good advice in

771
00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:09,640
Speaker 2: a little goofy way. But we don't have all the answers.

772
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:11,240
Speaker 2: We only tell you what we would do in the situation,

773
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:13,000
Speaker 2: but you shall us know what you would do down

774
00:34:13,080 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 2: in the comments. As Op says, I asked five of

775
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 2: my friends if they wanted to go, and three said yes.

776
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:21,799
Speaker 2: Diane was one of the ones who said no, as

777
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 2: she already scheduled a few vacations and had limited time available.

778
00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:28,480
Speaker 1: You sucked, Diane. I'm just kidding you, Diane. Make more

779
00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:30,440
Speaker 1: time for your friend who just got divorced.

780
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:32,879
Speaker 6: Come on, Diane, what's more important here?

781
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:36,760
Speaker 2: No problem? So I researched and found a four bedroom airbnb.

782
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:39,359
Speaker 2: Everyone will have their own room. One friend and I

783
00:34:39,480 --> 00:34:41,960
Speaker 2: each have the master rooms, one bed in each room,

784
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:44,799
Speaker 2: and the other two friends each have a double room,

785
00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:47,600
Speaker 2: two separate beds in each room. Everything is set, flights

786
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 2: are booked, It's one month away. We're excited, and that

787
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:53,719
Speaker 2: brings us to this weekend. Diane called me and said

788
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:56,200
Speaker 2: one of her trips fell through and she now has

789
00:34:56,239 --> 00:34:58,000
Speaker 2: availability to go with us on our trip.

790
00:34:58,120 --> 00:34:58,400
Speaker 4: Great.

791
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:00,920
Speaker 2: I told her that our host has more properties. I'll

792
00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 2: ask her if she has another one near ours, or

793
00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:05,239
Speaker 2: if she can recommend a hotel that is close to us.

794
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 2: Diane got upset and asked why can't she stay with us?

795
00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:10,399
Speaker 2: I told her all rooms are taken. She knows this.

796
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 2: I was telling her about the trip all along. She

797
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 2: then asked, why can't I switch rooms with one of

798
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:17,759
Speaker 2: my friends and she and I share a double room.

799
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 2: I told her that I didn't want to. Now call

800
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 2: me selfish, call me mean, call me whatever, but make

801
00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:27,680
Speaker 2: sure to add that I'm a grown adult woman who

802
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 2: needs her space. I just spent twelve years sharing a

803
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:34,120
Speaker 2: room with my ex. I've happily adjusted to being alone.

804
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:36,520
Speaker 1: Oh, he just wants to fart in her own room. Yeah,

805
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:37,440
Speaker 1: she's like in peace.

806
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:39,960
Speaker 4: I really I want to walk around.

807
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 6: You're not gonna let me do.

808
00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:44,280
Speaker 1: I want to starfish on my bed for once.

809
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:48,360
Speaker 2: The other ladies are rarely away from their husbands and kids,

810
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:51,000
Speaker 2: so they want their space as well. From the very beginning,

811
00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:53,479
Speaker 2: the decision was that everyone would have their own room.

812
00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:56,200
Speaker 2: I explained this to Diane. She doesn't get it, or

813
00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:58,720
Speaker 2: doesn't want to get it. She then called my friends

814
00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:00,799
Speaker 2: she is friends with them through me, who are going

815
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:02,719
Speaker 2: on the trip, to see if they will share with her.

816
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,839
Speaker 2: They all said no and suggested that she get an

817
00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:08,920
Speaker 2: airbnb or hotel near us and we'll all hang out together.

818
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:11,400
Speaker 2: I just want to state we all are professional women

819
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:14,040
Speaker 2: who make good money, so money isn't the issue here.

820
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:17,400
Speaker 2: Diana often travels solo because she doesn't want to negotiate

821
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:17,920
Speaker 2: with anyone.

822
00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:20,640
Speaker 1: Her words, Then why she negotiating right now?

823
00:36:20,800 --> 00:36:22,799
Speaker 4: You know that's the million dollar question here.

824
00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:26,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's agree let's make the negotiations a little short here.

825
00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 2: She had her own room on the group trip that

826
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:31,719
Speaker 2: fell apart. We are not suggesting anything that she has

827
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:35,000
Speaker 2: done previously, so now she isn't talking to any of us.

828
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:37,160
Speaker 2: I feel bad that I don't feel bad as much

829
00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:37,960
Speaker 2: as I should.

830
00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:40,960
Speaker 1: No, don't feel bad. Yeah, I don't feel bad.

831
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:43,200
Speaker 2: It's just like we all kind of want to enjoy

832
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:46,160
Speaker 2: the vacation, and I feel like if we were, you know, together,

833
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:48,319
Speaker 2: sharing the room whatever, It's just you know, we all

834
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:49,799
Speaker 2: agreed that we wouldn't.

835
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 1: So Also, your plans fell through. That's an issue and

836
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:56,399
Speaker 1: not an ish me girl. Sorry, very true. Don't put

837
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 1: your problems on to me because you couldn't commit to

838
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:01,480
Speaker 1: these plans. Your plans were already set, they fell through.

839
00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 1: You're more than welcome to come, but you're not welcome

840
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 1: to stay in my bed.

841
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 6: There, you got it.

842
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 2: I've been through enough in the last year. I've just

843
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 2: learned how to handle my feelings again. I can't manage

844
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:13,839
Speaker 2: hers as well. She knew we had finalized this trip.

845
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 2: She knows everyone is looking to get away from their

846
00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:19,080
Speaker 2: own reasons. We don't want drama, and she is bringing

847
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 2: it to us. Am I the a hole for not

848
00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 2: accommodating her, and there is an update.

849
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 4: I don't think so.

850
00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:25,760
Speaker 1: She can accommodate herself.

851
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:28,719
Speaker 2: It's just that these were plans and you asked and

852
00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:32,360
Speaker 2: she's like, no, it's fine, like I have other things.

853
00:37:32,440 --> 00:37:34,799
Speaker 2: Those fell through. So now everyone has to change their

854
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 2: plans around this girl.

855
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:38,280
Speaker 4: No. Yeah, and it's also a month away.

856
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:41,200
Speaker 1: Sorry, your plans fell through. Sucks to suck. You're more

857
00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:43,840
Speaker 1: than welcome to come hang out, Go get a hotel nearby.

858
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:46,279
Speaker 1: We are not sharing a room with you, especially if

859
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:48,759
Speaker 1: the financial things are not a problem here. What are

860
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 1: we doing? What are we talking about?

861
00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:53,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like, just girl, you got to accept the

862
00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:55,319
Speaker 2: loss on this one. But the thing is, it's not

863
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 2: like they're uninviting her or no, you know, like making

864
00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:00,520
Speaker 2: her feel like no you can't come, said yeah you

865
00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:02,440
Speaker 2: can come, you just can't, like we just don't want

866
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:03,319
Speaker 2: to share a room.

867
00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 1: Easy ultimatum here. If you want to come, get your

868
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 1: own room Airbnb, get your own whatever, and you can

869
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:11,400
Speaker 1: hang out. If you can't do that, then don't come.

870
00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:13,800
Speaker 1: You are not sharing a bed with any of us.

871
00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:16,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, and don't make us feel bad. We still want

872
00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:17,000
Speaker 4: you here.

873
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:18,759
Speaker 2: But now you're making a big deal like you guys

874
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:21,399
Speaker 2: don't want me to sleep, you know, in the same room.

875
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:23,360
Speaker 4: Maybe why is because I stank.

876
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:25,000
Speaker 6: Like no girl.

877
00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 4: We just all decided that we don't want to share rooms.

878
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:28,319
Speaker 4: That's it.

879
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:29,040
Speaker 6: Nothing on you.

880
00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:31,840
Speaker 2: There's an update I posted over a month ago about

881
00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:34,320
Speaker 2: my friend who invited herself last minute to my vacation.

882
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:36,800
Speaker 2: I want to clear a few things that kept coming

883
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:39,320
Speaker 2: up in the comments. When I wrote the post, everything

884
00:38:39,400 --> 00:38:42,400
Speaker 2: just happened, and my frustration showed in my writing. Diane

885
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:44,879
Speaker 2: is a good friend of mine. I don't hate her.

886
00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 2: She can just be a bit much at times. I

887
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:49,640
Speaker 2: said that she invited herself because she didn't ask to

888
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:52,319
Speaker 2: join us. After our plans were finalized. She told us

889
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 2: she was coming and expected us to accommodate her. We

890
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:57,720
Speaker 2: all specifically wanted our own rooms. The other ladies wanted

891
00:38:57,719 --> 00:39:00,840
Speaker 2: to enjoy their spouse slash kid free time time alone.

892
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:03,360
Speaker 2: This was my first vacation in a long time without

893
00:39:03,400 --> 00:39:05,960
Speaker 2: the ex hubby, so I just needed some space.

894
00:39:06,239 --> 00:39:08,520
Speaker 4: I hope you can understand now For the updates.

895
00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 2: Although I was voted not the a hole, many commented

896
00:39:11,920 --> 00:39:14,200
Speaker 2: that maybe I wasn't a good friend. I felt bad

897
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:17,160
Speaker 2: about that, so I gave Diane another call to work

898
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:19,959
Speaker 2: things out, and she answered. She wanted to know why

899
00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:22,319
Speaker 2: I wouldn't accommodate her, and I told her what I

900
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 2: said above. I also reminded her of our previous trips

901
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 2: where we roomed together. That took us down memory lane

902
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:30,400
Speaker 2: where we talked about all the things we used to

903
00:39:30,400 --> 00:39:30,839
Speaker 2: get into.

904
00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:31,360
Speaker 6: Lol.

905
00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:34,560
Speaker 2: It turned into a pleasant hour long conversation. I discussed

906
00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 2: why it wouldn't be a good idea for us to

907
00:39:36,160 --> 00:39:39,600
Speaker 2: share rooms. We just have different travel styles. I liked

908
00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:42,120
Speaker 2: to get up early, walk around shop. She wants to

909
00:39:42,120 --> 00:39:44,880
Speaker 2: sleep in and veg out. The last time we shared

910
00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:47,720
Speaker 2: a room was a disaster. There were a few hiccups

911
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:49,959
Speaker 2: on that trip, and she complained about it all day

912
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:52,640
Speaker 2: and then again at night when we were in the room.

913
00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:56,000
Speaker 2: I had no reprieve from the non stop complaints. She

914
00:39:56,239 --> 00:39:59,359
Speaker 2: was not always like that. She grew less tolerant over time,

915
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:01,760
Speaker 2: as we all are, but she took it to an extreme.

916
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 2: She said she doesn't complain, she just observes where there

917
00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:05,640
Speaker 2: can be improvements.

918
00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 6: LOL.

919
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:10,360
Speaker 4: Don't like it. I'm not complaining, but it could improve

920
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:10,880
Speaker 4: a little bit.

921
00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:14,520
Speaker 1: I'm just sitting there getting my list ready to give

922
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:17,279
Speaker 1: you my improvements. But I'm not gonna complain because my

923
00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:18,160
Speaker 1: improvements are better.

924
00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:19,880
Speaker 4: Yeah. Like huh.

925
00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:23,360
Speaker 1: Also, if you guys have had previous travel like I

926
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:25,680
Speaker 1: was gonna say, Oh, how bad could it be because

927
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:28,399
Speaker 1: you guys maybe have never traveled together. You guys have

928
00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:33,320
Speaker 1: traveled together, You guys have past experiences. You guys cannot

929
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 1: be in the same room, especially if one of you

930
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:37,560
Speaker 1: is a morning person and one of you is I

931
00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:39,680
Speaker 1: sleep till when I wake up. This is not gonna

932
00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:40,279
Speaker 1: work out, not.

933
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:43,960
Speaker 2: In unfortunately, and I don't know why she would want

934
00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 2: to cause problems about that when it didn't work out

935
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:47,600
Speaker 2: in the first place.

936
00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:50,720
Speaker 1: The easiest thing here is get your own room.

937
00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:51,640
Speaker 4: We worked it out.

938
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:54,360
Speaker 2: The other ladies also made peace with her. Diane and

939
00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 2: a friend joined our trip and stayed at a nearby property.

940
00:40:57,360 --> 00:40:57,640
Speaker 1: Nice.

941
00:40:57,719 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 2: They were welcome to join us at our pool and activities.

942
00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 2: Of course, the beginning was not smooth sailing. We had

943
00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:06,239
Speaker 2: our vacation set up where we had two days of

944
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 2: group excursions. The remaining days we would play it by

945
00:41:09,560 --> 00:41:12,360
Speaker 2: year just agreed to meet for dinner. I told Diane

946
00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 2: she and her friend could join us on the excursions.

947
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:17,520
Speaker 2: She complained that they started too early. She went to

948
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:20,560
Speaker 2: the first one and complained that each stop was too short.

949
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:22,880
Speaker 2: We should have went with a private tour, et cetera.

950
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 2: I pulled her to the side and asked her to

951
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 2: stop complaining. To her credit, she stopped until we went

952
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:31,200
Speaker 2: to dinner, and then she complained about everything all over it.

953
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 1: Oh, I can't If this were me, I'd be like,

954
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:36,680
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm not doing anything with you. Yeah,

955
00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:39,879
Speaker 1: I go complain somewhere else. I'm here on vacation. I'm

956
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:41,960
Speaker 1: not here on vacation to listen to you complain.

957
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:42,640
Speaker 5: Yeah.

958
00:41:42,640 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 6: I just want to invite her.

959
00:41:43,719 --> 00:41:45,640
Speaker 1: If she can come, she can come. But if I

960
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:47,920
Speaker 1: hear a complain like I gave her three strikes, third strike,

961
00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:49,680
Speaker 1: I'm not talking to you this entire trip.

962
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:52,719
Speaker 2: I suggested that she not join the other excursion, as

963
00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:55,239
Speaker 2: it would be more of the same. She asked if

964
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:58,640
Speaker 2: I didn't want her around. I said, not for the excursion.

965
00:41:58,840 --> 00:41:59,200
Speaker 4: Lol.

966
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:01,760
Speaker 2: So so we met for dinner on the other excursion

967
00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 2: day and hung out on other days. With the exception

968
00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 2: of the one excursion.

969
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 6: It went pretty well.

970
00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:10,720
Speaker 2: So that is it, nothing too dramatic, and we managed

971
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:14,480
Speaker 2: to say friends through it. Well, okay, well, you know,

972
00:42:14,640 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 2: I guess you just care about her and lover, which

973
00:42:17,840 --> 00:42:20,839
Speaker 2: I understand, but you know, don't let her boss your own.

974
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:22,520
Speaker 1: Yeah she sounds exhausting.

975
00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:24,160
Speaker 6: Yeah, she gets on her nerves.

976
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 2: You know, maybe go a little low contact and then

977
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:29,200
Speaker 2: you know, I have those friends where it's like I

978
00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:31,719
Speaker 2: can only take them in doses. Yeah I love them,

979
00:42:31,800 --> 00:42:34,399
Speaker 2: but like only for like a day and then I'm like.

980
00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:36,480
Speaker 1: Okay, I remember why we.

981
00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:38,960
Speaker 4: Could pick this up next week, you know type of thing.

982
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 6: So completely understand it.

983
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:42,279
Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story. We're going to

984
00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:43,280
Speaker 7: read the next one.

985
00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:47,560
Speaker 2: Hey, it's Angie, your favorite Riley's girlfriend is here.

986
00:42:47,680 --> 00:42:49,200
Speaker 6: We're going to get back to the stories.

987
00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:51,480
Speaker 4: But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

988
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:55,719
Speaker 1: My friend's girlfriend sent us a lengthy complaint about my behavior.

989
00:42:56,080 --> 00:42:57,160
Speaker 1: We're cutting them both.

990
00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 6: Snip snip.

991
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 1: My husband and I host a top game on a

992
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:04,240
Speaker 1: semi regular basis until a few months ago that included

993
00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:06,319
Speaker 1: Joe and his girlfriend Carrie. Cool. Before I go into

994
00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:09,120
Speaker 1: what happened, let me give you a little background. By

995
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:11,879
Speaker 1: the way, this comes from user Flimsy two seventeen oh four,

996
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 1: and if you want submit your own stories. Go to

997
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Speaker 1: the r slash Okay storytime, supbred it. I'm key On

998
00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 1: and I'm Savannah and we're here to give goofy advice.

999
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:22,719
Speaker 1: We're just goofballs. We don't know much unfortunately, so see

1000
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 1: exactly that's all she knows. Dude again, see let us

1001
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:28,880
Speaker 1: know what you guys do in the comments pretty please.

1002
00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 1: As op says, my husband and I tried our best

1003
00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 1: to be kind for Joe's sake, but Carrie is a

1004
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 1: difficult person. She thinks she's entitled to say and do

1005
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:41,800
Speaker 1: whatever she wants. We're regardless of the consequences without comment.

1006
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:44,280
Speaker 1: At one point, my husband said it's important to consider

1007
00:43:44,320 --> 00:43:47,319
Speaker 1: how our actions affect others, and she responds with, that's

1008
00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 1: your opinion. In the tabletop game, when we were playing,

1009
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:53,759
Speaker 1: whenever we started strategizing, her character would get bored and

1010
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 1: wander off to get attention by doing plot derailing things

1011
00:43:56,719 --> 00:43:59,800
Speaker 1: like breaking the law in front of the town guards.

1012
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 1: One way to ensure she brought something up all the

1013
00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 1: time was to say now. She often brought up playing

1014
00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:07,879
Speaker 1: at their house, which was thirty minutes out of the way.

1015
00:44:07,960 --> 00:44:10,799
Speaker 1: She convinced Joe to go on a divorce show with her, No,

1016
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 1: they've never even been engaged. Then kept suggesting my husband

1017
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:15,840
Speaker 1: and I could also get on TV and make a

1018
00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:18,760
Speaker 1: few hundred bucks, and she couldn't understand why we weren't interested.

1019
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:21,720
Speaker 1: Worst of all, she often made tone deaf jokes about

1020
00:44:21,719 --> 00:44:25,520
Speaker 1: topics multiple people in the room had trauma with. Okay,

1021
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 1: this is a lot of background information of someone I

1022
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:30,120
Speaker 1: already hate. I don't like this person.

1023
00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:33,120
Speaker 4: I mean, she just seems like the absolute worst.

1024
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:35,440
Speaker 1: She's absolute worst and the ultimate pick me.

1025
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:36,360
Speaker 4: Yep.

1026
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:39,280
Speaker 1: Now on the Joe. Joe was never the most punctual

1027
00:44:39,320 --> 00:44:42,719
Speaker 1: person in the world, but Carrie magnified that. They asked

1028
00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:44,799
Speaker 1: us to move the game to a weekday evening so

1029
00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:48,000
Speaker 1: Carrie could have the weekend for her occasional freelance work

1030
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:51,600
Speaker 1: as a clown. Even with the move, they frequently canceled

1031
00:44:51,600 --> 00:44:55,640
Speaker 1: with little notice, often because Carrie had whoopsie planned something

1032
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:58,040
Speaker 1: and forgot to put it on the calendar. Again. When

1033
00:44:58,080 --> 00:45:00,560
Speaker 1: they did show up, they could be over hour late,

1034
00:45:00,600 --> 00:45:03,840
Speaker 1: always very important reasons, like she really wanted McDonald's instead

1035
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:05,880
Speaker 1: of the pizza we'd already ordered. It became such an

1036
00:45:05,960 --> 00:45:08,920
Speaker 1: issue that we moved the star time later, so naturally

1037
00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 1: they started arriving later. This is what you do. Because

1038
00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:14,719
Speaker 1: I do this, I will call myself out. I am

1039
00:45:14,719 --> 00:45:15,360
Speaker 1: not punctual.

1040
00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:17,959
Speaker 2: I'm not either. I hate being like early or on time.

1041
00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:18,799
Speaker 2: I have to be late.

1042
00:45:18,960 --> 00:45:22,080
Speaker 1: My excuse is I'm Filipino. Filipino time is a thing.

1043
00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:22,799
Speaker 1: Don't hate me.

1044
00:45:23,200 --> 00:45:25,680
Speaker 4: But also, yeah, mine's teeter time.

1045
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:27,600
Speaker 1: Yeah. See, you get it, you get it.

1046
00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:29,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, my whole family.

1047
00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:31,319
Speaker 1: So there is a thing to do with this. You

1048
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 1: set the time at say six pm, but reality it's

1049
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:38,800
Speaker 1: set for seven pm. Like, hey, come at six pm. Cool,

1050
00:45:38,840 --> 00:45:41,320
Speaker 1: we have an hour to do whatever. Maybe get ready,

1051
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 1: but seven pms when things start. Yeah, great, that's all

1052
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 1: you do. Very easy solution. A couple of weeks before

1053
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:49,279
Speaker 1: my birthday, I texted the group saying I had made

1054
00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 1: plans for the weekends before and after the actual day

1055
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 1: and invited the group to join either Joe and carry.

1056
00:45:54,719 --> 00:45:56,640
Speaker 1: We're going to be out of town for both weekends.

1057
00:45:56,640 --> 00:45:59,359
Speaker 1: But at their suggestion, the group planned a low key

1058
00:45:59,480 --> 00:46:02,040
Speaker 1: game night on my birthday, which was a Tuesday. The

1059
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:06,000
Speaker 1: saturday before, Joe cancels. Why does he cancel? He just

1060
00:46:06,120 --> 00:46:09,560
Speaker 1: remembered he had concert tickets that day. I hate people

1061
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 1: like this.

1062
00:46:10,880 --> 00:46:11,920
Speaker 6: It's so exhausting.

1063
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:13,920
Speaker 2: It's like we want to include you because we like

1064
00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:16,440
Speaker 2: you there, but it's like you don't feel like you

1065
00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:17,399
Speaker 2: want to be here.

1066
00:46:17,440 --> 00:46:18,640
Speaker 6: There's always something more important.

1067
00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 1: You always take and take and take, you never give.

1068
00:46:21,320 --> 00:46:24,760
Speaker 1: Joe said he was sorry. Carrie said, it's not my fault.

1069
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:27,360
Speaker 1: I don't even like rock concerts. Let's move it to Monday.

1070
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:29,719
Speaker 1: As they knew, Hubby and I had limited to no

1071
00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:32,480
Speaker 1: reception over the weekend, so even if I had wanted

1072
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 1: to coordinate rescheduling, it was too late. I wrote, I'm

1073
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:38,759
Speaker 1: celebrating my birthday on the day I was born with

1074
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:41,759
Speaker 1: whoever wants to join. That Tuesday, another friend got sick

1075
00:46:41,800 --> 00:46:44,120
Speaker 1: and we ended up canceling the night altogether for this.

1076
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:48,720
Speaker 1: In various more serious, unrelated reasons, that week was really rough,

1077
00:46:49,080 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 1: Hubby and I decided to cancel our next game night,

1078
00:46:51,280 --> 00:46:53,839
Speaker 1: saying I was still feeling raw about everything and wasn't

1079
00:46:53,920 --> 00:46:56,480
Speaker 1: up for hangout just yet. Everyone else said they understood

1080
00:46:56,600 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 1: and to take care. Carrie, on the other hand, said

1081
00:46:59,719 --> 00:47:01,840
Speaker 1: if they they could still bring me a present. Oh,

1082
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:03,960
Speaker 1: that's very nice of carry. Carrie asked, if they can

1083
00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:06,319
Speaker 1: still bring me a present? I said, I'd appreciate it,

1084
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:09,280
Speaker 1: but just needed some space for the moment. She exploded.

1085
00:47:09,480 --> 00:47:11,799
Speaker 1: I got a lengthy text about how she doesn't like

1086
00:47:11,840 --> 00:47:13,759
Speaker 1: the way I've been speaking to her. They had gotten

1087
00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:16,319
Speaker 1: the tickets months ago. It was an honest mistake, and

1088
00:47:16,520 --> 00:47:19,480
Speaker 1: acting like we've done something wrong is not okay. She said.

1089
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:22,040
Speaker 1: My text were aggressive and made her feel scolded, that

1090
00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 1: I should have sent her a personalized message if I

1091
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:25,840
Speaker 1: had a problem, and that I have no right to

1092
00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:27,919
Speaker 1: have a problem anyway. Oh so I just can't feel

1093
00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:28,760
Speaker 1: the way I want to feel.

1094
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:32,880
Speaker 2: So not only can I not tell you what's on

1095
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:35,640
Speaker 2: my mind, I also have no right to do that anyway.

1096
00:47:35,680 --> 00:47:39,680
Speaker 1: Their emotions invalid to carry, huh. At one point, I

1097
00:47:39,760 --> 00:47:42,480
Speaker 1: mentioned how deflating it can be to clean and prep

1098
00:47:42,520 --> 00:47:45,799
Speaker 1: a house only for people to cancel. So she suggested

1099
00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:49,200
Speaker 1: they help by hosting the game at their house. Oh

1100
00:47:49,239 --> 00:47:51,719
Speaker 1: and by the way, they'd like to come by really soon.

1101
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 1: With the present, the present got brought up a lot

1102
00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:57,600
Speaker 1: late in the conversation. They accidentally copy and pasted the

1103
00:47:57,640 --> 00:48:00,400
Speaker 1: full dialogue with Chad GPT they'd been and using to

1104
00:48:00,480 --> 00:48:02,080
Speaker 1: write to us. That's embarrassing.

1105
00:48:02,160 --> 00:48:04,320
Speaker 4: That is so funny that they're like yeah, we just

1106
00:48:04,360 --> 00:48:06,759
Speaker 4: can't deal with this chat gebut please tell me how

1107
00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:08,880
Speaker 4: to deal with this horrible, horrible friend.

1108
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:11,200
Speaker 1: I have no idea how to talk to one of

1109
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 1: my closest friends to do it for me chat GBT.

1110
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 4: I really need to give them the present right now.

1111
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:18,400
Speaker 4: They need this present right now, or they'll hate me.

1112
00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:21,480
Speaker 1: Carrie defends using chat GPT by saying she was just

1113
00:48:21,600 --> 00:48:25,759
Speaker 1: using it to make the conversation less emotional, I mean fair.

1114
00:48:26,120 --> 00:48:28,600
Speaker 1: We could see she had written things like add in

1115
00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:32,200
Speaker 1: that I want monitor her feelings. I really did try

1116
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:35,080
Speaker 1: to smooth things over, but ultimately she decided to walk

1117
00:48:35,120 --> 00:48:37,520
Speaker 1: away from the game. She told Joe she was going

1118
00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:40,440
Speaker 1: to show grace by stepping aside so that he can

1119
00:48:40,520 --> 00:48:43,279
Speaker 1: maintain a friendship with us. All she asked was he

1120
00:48:43,400 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 1: make it clear that he agrees we're being unfair and

1121
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:48,640
Speaker 1: that she's done nothing wrong. The problem was my trauma,

1122
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:50,759
Speaker 1: and he was not going to tolerate or calling her

1123
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:54,359
Speaker 1: rude or insensitive. Well graceful as that was of her.

1124
00:48:54,840 --> 00:48:58,319
Speaker 1: Our friendship with Joe has also ended. Ooh, we have

1125
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:03,400
Speaker 1: an update, but dang, that was really loud. Cleaning my

1126
00:49:03,480 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 1: hands of that because you're just a headache. Why am

1127
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:08,560
Speaker 1: I always accommodating to her when she just sucks? She

1128
00:49:08,640 --> 00:49:12,720
Speaker 1: sounds toxic. No need to have her in my life anymore. Great, Sorry, Joe.

1129
00:49:12,880 --> 00:49:15,319
Speaker 1: If that's who you're with, and that's you know, the

1130
00:49:15,360 --> 00:49:18,920
Speaker 1: ship that's sinking, you're sinking with it, unfortunately. Bye.

1131
00:49:19,200 --> 00:49:22,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, very self absorbed and just not empathetic at all.

1132
00:49:23,040 --> 00:49:28,160
Speaker 1: Zero accountability, doesn't care, zero empathy, zero sympathy. Great Bye,

1133
00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 1: I don't need you in my life.

1134
00:49:29,400 --> 00:49:30,240
Speaker 6: Good riddance.

1135
00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:33,160
Speaker 1: We have an update three months later. So I posted

1136
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:35,640
Speaker 1: here a couple months ago about how my husband Hubby

1137
00:49:35,640 --> 00:49:38,279
Speaker 1: for Simplicity, and I ended a long standing friendship with

1138
00:49:38,600 --> 00:49:42,440
Speaker 1: Joe after an argument with him and his girlfriend Carrie.

1139
00:49:42,520 --> 00:49:44,720
Speaker 1: In short, they asked me to make plans on my birthday,

1140
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:47,040
Speaker 1: canceled last minute when they remembered they had tickets to

1141
00:49:47,080 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 1: a rock concert, asked to bring a birthday president after

1142
00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:51,799
Speaker 1: I said I wasn't feeling up for hanging out, and

1143
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:54,799
Speaker 1: sent me a lengthy tirade when I said a simple no.

1144
00:49:55,200 --> 00:49:57,760
Speaker 1: At least, that was the breaking point. Really, the problem

1145
00:49:57,840 --> 00:50:01,359
Speaker 1: was Carrie is insufferable. She considers it a fundamental part

1146
00:50:01,400 --> 00:50:04,640
Speaker 1: of her personality to say and do whatever she wants, Wow,

1147
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:07,200
Speaker 1: that sounds awful, and if anyone has a problem with that,

1148
00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:10,160
Speaker 1: it's on them and they have no right to comment. Wow.

1149
00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:11,680
Speaker 1: Double it, double the awful.

1150
00:50:11,800 --> 00:50:13,879
Speaker 4: So she can do whatever she wants and no one

1151
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:14,880
Speaker 4: can do anything about it.

1152
00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:16,799
Speaker 1: And if you comment on it, you're a piece of crap.

1153
00:50:16,920 --> 00:50:19,279
Speaker 1: If you call me out on it, you suck. Wow. Ope,

1154
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:22,400
Speaker 1: he continues, no, really, Her core issue with me was

1155
00:50:22,400 --> 00:50:25,799
Speaker 1: that I made passive, aggressive comments that made her feel

1156
00:50:25,840 --> 00:50:28,799
Speaker 1: like she had to censor herself from saying whatever she

1157
00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:32,920
Speaker 1: wanted about sensitive topics, like really really serious topics that

1158
00:50:32,960 --> 00:50:34,440
Speaker 1: shouldn't be made fun of.

1159
00:50:34,680 --> 00:50:34,919
Speaker 5: Wow.

1160
00:50:35,040 --> 00:50:36,879
Speaker 1: I don't even need to read those. Those are both

1161
00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:39,920
Speaker 1: terrible things. When Helbi wrote, this isn't an attack on

1162
00:50:39,920 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 1: anyone's personality. I just think it's important to remember how

1163
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:46,480
Speaker 1: sometimes comments and jokes can affect people because of their experiences,

1164
00:50:46,800 --> 00:50:50,040
Speaker 1: whether you meant it or not, she responded, that's your

1165
00:50:50,080 --> 00:50:54,279
Speaker 1: opinion and left the conversation. My opinion is that you suck, Carrie.

1166
00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:55,560
Speaker 6: She doesn't care. That doesn't count.

1167
00:50:55,600 --> 00:50:59,719
Speaker 1: Yah know, Carrie, Wow, surprising a girl named Carrie doesn't care.

1168
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:03,600
Speaker 1: Carrie doesn't carry Oh, he continues, No, really, Her core

1169
00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:07,120
Speaker 1: issue with me was that I made passive, aggressive comments

1170
00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:09,920
Speaker 1: that made her feel like she had to censor herself

1171
00:51:10,080 --> 00:51:13,200
Speaker 1: from saying whatever she wanted about sensitive topics like really

1172
00:51:13,440 --> 00:51:17,040
Speaker 1: really serious topics that shouldn't be made fun of. Wow,

1173
00:51:17,160 --> 00:51:18,960
Speaker 1: I don't even need to read those. Those are both

1174
00:51:19,040 --> 00:51:22,000
Speaker 1: terrible things. When Hebby wrote, this isn't an attack on

1175
00:51:22,040 --> 00:51:24,600
Speaker 1: anyone's personality. I just think it's important to remember how

1176
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:28,600
Speaker 1: sometimes comments and jokes can affect people because of their experiences,

1177
00:51:28,880 --> 00:51:32,160
Speaker 1: whether you meant it or not, she responded, that's your

1178
00:51:32,200 --> 00:51:35,400
Speaker 1: opinion and left the conversation. My opinion is that you

1179
00:51:35,560 --> 00:51:36,440
Speaker 1: suck Carrie.

1180
00:51:36,520 --> 00:51:37,719
Speaker 6: She doesn't care. That doesn't county.

1181
00:51:37,840 --> 00:51:41,840
Speaker 1: I know, Carrie. Wow. Surprising a girl named Carrie doesn't care.

1182
00:51:42,160 --> 00:51:43,040
Speaker 6: Carrie doesn't carry.

1183
00:51:43,280 --> 00:51:45,960
Speaker 1: She later insisted on being included again in the conversation

1184
00:51:46,040 --> 00:51:50,239
Speaker 1: against my wishes, and said one more thing, then told

1185
00:51:50,320 --> 00:51:52,480
Speaker 1: us to never contact her again. I want to know

1186
00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:54,640
Speaker 1: that what was said. I am very happy to report

1187
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:57,160
Speaker 1: that we have not heard from Carrie, since it may

1188
00:51:57,200 --> 00:51:59,680
Speaker 1: have something to do with my blocking her on every platform,

1189
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:03,640
Speaker 1: but I'll never know. Unfortunately, it has not been as

1190
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:08,120
Speaker 1: easy to avoid Joe even more. Unfortunately, he has wholeheartedly

1191
00:52:08,160 --> 00:52:11,799
Speaker 1: embraced his girlfriend's care free attitude about people's feelings, so

1192
00:52:12,280 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 1: he sucks as well. He's letting it happen and doesn't

1193
00:52:15,120 --> 00:52:18,040
Speaker 1: see anything bad or wrong with it. Cool. Okay, I

1194
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:20,560
Speaker 1: really debated on how to explain the situation without making

1195
00:52:20,600 --> 00:52:23,920
Speaker 1: it obvious what activity it involves, but there's no helping it.

1196
00:52:24,120 --> 00:52:26,919
Speaker 1: This is about a LARP, in the words of Jen

1197
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:30,480
Speaker 1: barber Ich bin ein Nerd. For those who don't know,

1198
00:52:30,680 --> 00:52:33,760
Speaker 1: LARP or live action role playing is kind of interactive

1199
00:52:33,760 --> 00:52:36,920
Speaker 1: storytelling where players dress up as a character and engage

1200
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:40,560
Speaker 1: in simulated combat and intrigue in a shared, imaginary fictional world.

1201
00:52:40,640 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 1: A couple of years ago, we tried out a LARP

1202
00:52:42,680 --> 00:52:44,880
Speaker 1: with a group of friends that included Joe, Hubby and

1203
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:47,640
Speaker 1: I were instantly hooked. We have gone to just about

1204
00:52:47,680 --> 00:52:50,560
Speaker 1: every event and are responsible for a part of and

1205
00:52:50,680 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 1: setup of Takedown and getting that all ready and for fun,

1206
00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:57,480
Speaker 1: and have developed close friendships with many of other LARP players.

1207
00:52:57,600 --> 00:53:00,320
Speaker 1: Joe still goes more often than not. He tried bringing

1208
00:53:00,320 --> 00:53:04,160
Speaker 1: Carry once, but guess what, she wasn't a fan. It

1209
00:53:04,200 --> 00:53:06,239
Speaker 1: turns out she can be a clown or princess in

1210
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:08,239
Speaker 1: the park. All day, but within a few hours of

1211
00:53:08,280 --> 00:53:11,000
Speaker 1: realizing she can't be the main character in a cooperative game,

1212
00:53:11,200 --> 00:53:13,759
Speaker 1: her outdoor allergies got so bad that Joe needed to

1213
00:53:13,880 --> 00:53:16,040
Speaker 1: leave the event and take her home. She hasn't been

1214
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:19,120
Speaker 1: back since. So sad anyway, in a world where you

1215
00:53:19,120 --> 00:53:21,560
Speaker 1: can be anyone you want, Joe chose to be an

1216
00:53:21,600 --> 00:53:25,560
Speaker 1: a hole. His character is a conspicuously shady assassin. Whenever

1217
00:53:25,600 --> 00:53:27,840
Speaker 1: all the character whenever all the characters get together to

1218
00:53:27,880 --> 00:53:31,200
Speaker 1: strategize fighting the latest threat to town, he either refuses

1219
00:53:31,239 --> 00:53:33,600
Speaker 1: to be part of the conversation or he joins and

1220
00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:36,880
Speaker 1: calls everyone who disagrees with him stupid. He fought to

1221
00:53:36,880 --> 00:53:39,960
Speaker 1: get a specific item which was specifically or especially made

1222
00:53:40,000 --> 00:53:42,200
Speaker 1: for the game, and he hasn't remembered to bring it

1223
00:53:42,239 --> 00:53:45,000
Speaker 1: back since. One understood social guideline in the game is

1224
00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:48,000
Speaker 1: if you unlive a monster, you are typically entitled to

1225
00:53:48,080 --> 00:53:51,080
Speaker 1: loot it drops, which has in gain value. Joe is

1226
00:53:51,120 --> 00:53:54,120
Speaker 1: a notorious loute thief. At the last event, he was

1227
00:53:54,120 --> 00:53:57,080
Speaker 1: directly called out by multiple people for shyness wipe Blute

1228
00:53:57,120 --> 00:54:00,600
Speaker 1: out from under a brand new player. Those players who

1229
00:54:00,600 --> 00:54:03,200
Speaker 1: stick around long enough join guilts, which are small groups

1230
00:54:03,200 --> 00:54:06,439
Speaker 1: of people who pool in game skills and resources, stay

1231
00:54:06,440 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 1: in cabs together and generally have each other's backs. Joe

1232
00:54:09,680 --> 00:54:12,560
Speaker 1: has pointedly chosen to play alone and wears a blank

1233
00:54:12,600 --> 00:54:16,920
Speaker 1: guild banner to emphasize this. Oh no, he's a rogue,

1234
00:54:17,239 --> 00:54:20,680
Speaker 1: He's a lone wolf. He's a a hole.

1235
00:54:21,600 --> 00:54:25,520
Speaker 4: How hot of him?

1236
00:54:25,560 --> 00:54:29,040
Speaker 1: In short, he thinks he's playing the sneaky edgy loaner,

1237
00:54:29,200 --> 00:54:31,440
Speaker 1: but really he's just being a wiener. Heead for no reason.

1238
00:54:31,520 --> 00:54:33,480
Speaker 1: At the last event, we were hanging out with our

1239
00:54:33,520 --> 00:54:37,399
Speaker 1: friend Mac when he said, so, I'm team f Joe.

1240
00:54:37,440 --> 00:54:37,720
Speaker 5: Now.

1241
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:40,759
Speaker 1: Apparently, while checking in, Mac had been chatting to one

1242
00:54:40,760 --> 00:54:43,000
Speaker 1: of the game owners about how a cashier told him

1243
00:54:43,040 --> 00:54:45,239
Speaker 1: he looked like an attractive actor. Joe was in the

1244
00:54:45,320 --> 00:54:49,040
Speaker 1: room and decided to join the conversation to say, eh, yeah,

1245
00:54:49,160 --> 00:54:51,799
Speaker 1: except for the gap in your teeth. Mack responded that

1246
00:54:51,960 --> 00:54:54,960
Speaker 1: it was better than Joe's face if he didn't walk away.

1247
00:54:55,120 --> 00:54:57,560
Speaker 1: Half of our LARP group is already over Joe's crap.

1248
00:54:58,120 --> 00:55:00,600
Speaker 1: He's pissed off three to four guilds to the point

1249
00:55:00,719 --> 00:55:03,800
Speaker 1: that they refuse to heal when he goes down. Guys,

1250
00:55:03,880 --> 00:55:06,399
Speaker 1: I got the ray gun revive me before our fight

1251
00:55:06,520 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 1: he moved cabins to stay closer to us. He's had

1252
00:55:09,239 --> 00:55:12,040
Speaker 1: to move back because people near us distrust him so

1253
00:55:12,239 --> 00:55:14,920
Speaker 1: much that his character will be unlived on site. If

1254
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:19,120
Speaker 1: he approaches, several people downright avoid him. No one seeks

1255
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:21,440
Speaker 1: him out. Hubby and I might have felt bad for

1256
00:55:21,560 --> 00:55:23,799
Speaker 1: Joe if he hadn't taken to following us around like

1257
00:55:23,800 --> 00:55:26,640
Speaker 1: a lost puppy. Every event we've seen him, he tries

1258
00:55:26,680 --> 00:55:29,120
Speaker 1: to talk to us and we walk away without a word.

1259
00:55:29,719 --> 00:55:33,040
Speaker 1: Wherever we go, Joe is there, silently sitting in a

1260
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:36,160
Speaker 1: nearby corner within fifteen minutes. Hobby and I tried to

1261
00:55:36,160 --> 00:55:38,719
Speaker 1: test this and he ended up following us back and

1262
00:55:38,800 --> 00:55:42,400
Speaker 1: forth between buildings four to five times in just a

1263
00:55:42,440 --> 00:55:45,080
Speaker 1: couple of hours. We ended up unblocking him to say

1264
00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:48,520
Speaker 1: stop pestering us before we take formal action. He responded

1265
00:55:48,520 --> 00:55:51,960
Speaker 1: that we're pestering him by including his girlfriend, something they

1266
00:55:52,000 --> 00:55:54,400
Speaker 1: previously insisted on. He went out of his way to

1267
00:55:54,480 --> 00:55:58,000
Speaker 1: move cabins for us, and if you cannot handle me

1268
00:55:58,040 --> 00:56:00,000
Speaker 1: being there, then that is on you.

1269
00:56:00,120 --> 00:56:01,360
Speaker 6: He's learning from the best.

1270
00:56:01,840 --> 00:56:05,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, Holy Canoley, this guy's ravioli. Uh No, this guy's annoying.

1271
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:08,799
Speaker 2: They hate when like your friends get in a relationship,

1272
00:56:08,840 --> 00:56:12,560
Speaker 2: and then that person is the person who they are with.

1273
00:56:12,920 --> 00:56:17,280
Speaker 2: They start adapting their personality and traits, but they're bad

1274
00:56:17,400 --> 00:56:20,080
Speaker 2: traits and so annoying, and so it's just like, now

1275
00:56:20,120 --> 00:56:23,440
Speaker 2: you're turning into this other version, this now male version

1276
00:56:23,600 --> 00:56:25,600
Speaker 2: of this girl that we all.

1277
00:56:25,440 --> 00:56:27,680
Speaker 4: Hate, and now we have to hate you as well.

1278
00:56:27,760 --> 00:56:31,399
Speaker 2: And it's like, dude, we liked it before and now

1279
00:56:31,400 --> 00:56:34,880
Speaker 2: you're just another version of something everyone is annoyed with.

1280
00:56:35,120 --> 00:56:37,920
Speaker 1: Crazy to think that everyone hates you and your girlfriend

1281
00:56:37,920 --> 00:56:40,480
Speaker 1: and doesn't want to hang out with you, and yet

1282
00:56:40,480 --> 00:56:41,240
Speaker 1: we're the problem.

1283
00:56:41,640 --> 00:56:43,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not them. They don't do anything wrong and

1284
00:56:43,640 --> 00:56:44,719
Speaker 2: no one's allowed to comment on them.

1285
00:56:44,719 --> 00:56:47,400
Speaker 1: They're great. The fact that you go to these events

1286
00:56:47,480 --> 00:56:50,880
Speaker 1: and literally everyone looks at you like you are the

1287
00:56:50,920 --> 00:56:56,839
Speaker 1: scum of the earth is insane. And everyone instantly sees

1288
00:56:56,880 --> 00:56:59,280
Speaker 1: you on site like it's literally on site or you're done,

1289
00:56:59,320 --> 00:57:02,880
Speaker 1: which is crazy, like like what's the point. How do

1290
00:57:02,920 --> 00:57:04,280
Speaker 1: you not feel bad?

1291
00:57:04,440 --> 00:57:06,200
Speaker 4: And then everyone refuses to revive you?

1292
00:57:06,800 --> 00:57:09,319
Speaker 1: How do you not feel bad? I would talk to

1293
00:57:09,400 --> 00:57:10,759
Speaker 1: other people and I don't want to say this, but

1294
00:57:10,760 --> 00:57:12,600
Speaker 1: if he's still continuing to be an a hole after

1295
00:57:12,640 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 1: a genuine conversation which you guys already had see if

1296
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:18,200
Speaker 1: you guys can ban him. I mean, I love having communities,

1297
00:57:18,280 --> 00:57:21,120
Speaker 1: but like, this guy is just toxic for your community.

1298
00:57:20,680 --> 00:57:23,840
Speaker 4: And for everyone. It's not just like, you know, one

1299
00:57:23,880 --> 00:57:24,880
Speaker 4: person feels this way.

1300
00:57:24,960 --> 00:57:27,360
Speaker 2: There's like four or five guilds that are all like, Yeah,

1301
00:57:27,400 --> 00:57:28,120
Speaker 2: this guy sucks.

1302
00:57:28,160 --> 00:57:30,240
Speaker 1: We don't want to play with that's crazy. We got

1303
00:57:30,280 --> 00:57:32,720
Speaker 1: a little bit left. Let's see if it gets any crazier. Hope,

1304
00:57:32,760 --> 00:57:35,080
Speaker 1: he says. We don't know what he's hoping to accomplish

1305
00:57:35,160 --> 00:57:37,640
Speaker 1: with this. It's like he's playing the world's most annoying

1306
00:57:37,680 --> 00:57:40,400
Speaker 1: game of I'm not touching you. I'm not touching you.

1307
00:57:41,360 --> 00:57:43,880
Speaker 1: This whole situation has really made me question some things.

1308
00:57:44,120 --> 00:57:46,640
Speaker 1: Several people commented on my last post that Hubby and

1309
00:57:46,680 --> 00:57:48,800
Speaker 1: I let a lot of things slide that we shouldn't have.

1310
00:57:49,400 --> 00:57:52,120
Speaker 1: You're probably right. At the time, We've been friends with

1311
00:57:52,200 --> 00:57:54,400
Speaker 1: Joe for nearly a decade, so it seemed like a

1312
00:57:54,440 --> 00:57:57,760
Speaker 1: lot to cut ties over his latest girlfriend. Even now,

1313
00:57:57,840 --> 00:58:00,360
Speaker 1: I still wonder whether Joe was always this way and

1314
00:58:00,440 --> 00:58:03,120
Speaker 1: we just overlook things, or he's changed to be more

1315
00:58:03,200 --> 00:58:07,280
Speaker 1: like his girlfriend Carrie. Either way, he's very thoroughly burned

1316
00:58:07,320 --> 00:58:09,840
Speaker 1: that bridge. I hope this is the last I'll post

1317
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:13,320
Speaker 1: about this because Joe just leaves us, hopefully alone. That

1318
00:58:13,440 --> 00:58:15,320
Speaker 1: is the end of that story. I mean, if it's

1319
00:58:15,440 --> 00:58:17,080
Speaker 1: really getting to that point where see if you can

1320
00:58:17,080 --> 00:58:20,480
Speaker 1: ban them from that from warping. But if it has

1321
00:58:20,520 --> 00:58:22,600
Speaker 1: to get to like a restraining order, I don't know

1322
00:58:22,640 --> 00:58:24,840
Speaker 1: how it will happen or how it will work. But

1323
00:58:24,920 --> 00:58:28,000
Speaker 1: this guy just sounds like a walking headache. On top

1324
00:58:28,040 --> 00:58:31,440
Speaker 1: of that, his girlfriend Carrie is a bigger headache. So

1325
00:58:31,720 --> 00:58:33,080
Speaker 1: hopefully they just stay out of your lives and you

1326
00:58:33,080 --> 00:58:34,080
Speaker 1: don't have to deal with them anymore.

1327
00:58:34,800 --> 00:58:37,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, they both sound like they you know, they do

1328
00:58:37,880 --> 00:58:38,880
Speaker 2: great with each other and not.

1329
00:58:38,880 --> 00:58:39,560
Speaker 6: With anyone else.

1330
00:58:40,520 --> 00:58:42,520
Speaker 1: Good for them, stay away from everyone else, Thank you,

1331
00:58:42,560 --> 00:58:42,840
Speaker 1: bye

1332
00:58:43,240 --> 00:58:44,360
Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story.