Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make.
Speaker 2: Horrible decision, hey, or have We are hitting the stage
Speaker 2: baby one night.
Speaker 1: Oh in New York City.
Speaker 2: We haven't done any other shows this year, but Mandy's
Speaker 2: leaving for Atlanta, so we decided we need one night
Speaker 2: all together in New York City.
Speaker 1: That's right, So Tuesday, December third, at Sony Hall, we
Speaker 1: are bringing you.
Speaker 3: A very very special show that you do not want
Speaker 3: to miss.
Speaker 2: You've never seen this show before. It's only gonna happen
Speaker 2: for one night.
Speaker 3: That's it, dad, So make sure you get your tickets now.
Speaker 3: You can go to the Sony Hall website to get
Speaker 3: your tickets one night only with Mandy Bee and WEEZYWTF.
Speaker 3: You can also check the link in our bio on
Speaker 3: our Instagram to get tickets as well.
Speaker 1: We cannot wait to see you again.
Speaker 3: That is Tuesday, December third at Sony Hall here in
Speaker 3: New York City.
Speaker 1: Get your tickets now, see you there, boob Beach, I
Speaker 1: can say Happy Halloween. We don't need to sing anything.
Speaker 4: Horrible decision.
Speaker 2: I don't like to go with Oh, that's what you're
Speaker 2: trying to do.
Speaker 5: Damn it?
Speaker 4: Like you know what?
Speaker 2: No, Okay, Welcome y'all to another episode of horrible Decisions.
Speaker 1: I am a playboy.
Speaker 2: Funny, Oh, I'm a priest, mainly because you bought the
Speaker 2: wrong costume. So I bought a non costume and a
Speaker 2: priest costume for me and my nigga to wear next
Speaker 2: week at this party. And I literally grabbed the wrong one.
Speaker 1: But I know the non costume is way less material
Speaker 1: than this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's just a bag, So I just grabbed
Speaker 2: the bag.
Speaker 1: I knew one bag. That's crazy. So you ain't looking
Speaker 1: the bag.
Speaker 4: Non costume on right now?
Speaker 1: You don't have all one?
Speaker 4: I hope not.
Speaker 1: But anyway, that would be funny if y'all swapped it.
Speaker 2: Edn just asked Mandy what she was, and that to
Speaker 2: me was a gug because it's like, hello, hello, you
Speaker 2: know from the years.
Speaker 4: Be is the Bee for Bunny and Mandy Bee.
Speaker 2: But are you gonna wear that outfit with jeans tonight
Speaker 2: be a normal person?
Speaker 4: Oh no, I have a whole nother.
Speaker 2: Because really it's just a body suit. If you went
Speaker 2: that with jeans, I'd be like, oh, yeah, she's gonna go.
Speaker 1: To dr Oh yeah no no, no, no, no no
Speaker 1: no no. I have another bad body suit. You saw what?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 4: Have you been other animals before? Folloween? Oh?
Speaker 1: Have I been other animals before? For Halloween?
Speaker 3: No, like I've been. I've done the nun I've done
Speaker 3: Back in the day we was, we was broke, so
Speaker 3: we used to have to make some so like, I
Speaker 3: think I'm one of my favorite outfits that I remember
Speaker 3: growing up with Shanaia Swain.
Speaker 2: Okay, oh my god, no act bringing it up again?
Speaker 1: What I'm just thinking? Why not?
Speaker 3: And then over the last few years, like I've been
Speaker 3: in Ninja, I've been beatled, you know, I'm trying.
Speaker 4: To think that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, wait, what other my best I have ever done
Speaker 2: was like Egyptian Goddess. I just looked good in greens
Speaker 2: and gold and ship like that. That I wanted my
Speaker 2: nigga to be Tarzan because of his locks so I
Speaker 2: could be Jane. And he was like, yeah, he wants
Speaker 2: to be Lenny and Lisa. I'm like, no, let's be pretest.
Speaker 1: To nuts, but that's gonna look like how y'all just
Speaker 1: dressed normally? That's what I said. Really did people say
Speaker 1: that to us all the time?
Speaker 2: I mean, not that you look like them, but dressing
Speaker 2: like they'll already, do you know, it's just a that's
Speaker 2: why people say that he got locked.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: It was like, y'all gonna look like y'all not in
Speaker 1: a costle. I don't want to do that, bro.
Speaker 2: So I did Chucky one year that was really good
Speaker 2: where I didn't have your make up.
Speaker 1: Let me think another one that was good.
Speaker 4: Sloodiest costumes you have done?
Speaker 1: The nun out.
Speaker 4: The nuns don't.
Speaker 1: It's like they don't even make no like respectable nuts.
Speaker 1: Like these nuns be whole. It's literally late.
Speaker 3: It's mesh and latex, like I had crosses over my tits.
Speaker 1: Baby.
Speaker 2: However, I was thinking about doing you have to Earn
Speaker 2: a Bunny this year, just because I thought about doing
Speaker 2: like an alt bunny. I was thinking about wearing the
Speaker 2: whole thing with just the mouth out and then the
Speaker 2: bunny ears.
Speaker 1: I've seen that like a little gimp that mm hmm.
Speaker 1: I like that. I'm not mad at that.
Speaker 2: Y'all want to wear something slutty. I wanted to be
Speaker 2: a little Kim with the titty out, and I was like,
Speaker 2: I guess I saw that, but my titty ain't new enough.
Speaker 2: I was like, my titty gonna be all the way down.
Speaker 4: The little purple outfit look good.
Speaker 1: Not my titty. You would see my toity, but you
Speaker 1: have a.
Speaker 3: Big book you get naked all yeah, yeah, but my titty,
Speaker 3: it wouldn't look like the little Kim titty. But I
Speaker 3: literally looked at that costume. I was just like with
Speaker 3: one of my o boos, like obu, like not my
Speaker 3: boo anymore. And I literally like was telling him, I ye,
Speaker 3: think I want these tips done in the next year.
Speaker 1: I want them done.
Speaker 3: So maybe while you're in Asia next year, I'm gonna
Speaker 3: be healing from my tips getting done.
Speaker 4: I think that's what I want done. So you're so,
Speaker 4: do you mind me asking where you are at right now?
Speaker 4: What sizing? Witch?
Speaker 3: I barely wear bras, but it's a double D and
Speaker 3: I would like to go down to a sea like
Speaker 3: the full seed.
Speaker 4: Is that a big cut? I don't know.
Speaker 2: It's the anchor that's the problem.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I want it without an anchor. I
Speaker 1: don't know they could do it inside. You know what
Speaker 1: anchor is?
Speaker 2: What I say, A lot of time reductions. They do
Speaker 2: have some inside. She's right, but most reductions it's a
Speaker 2: line down from the areola and it goes like this.
Speaker 1: It's a terrible scar. I don't like the scar, and bitch,
Speaker 1: I keloid.
Speaker 4: So what we're doing.
Speaker 2: I don't want to touch a black thing to say
Speaker 2: that's fine. I got keloid.
Speaker 4: I mean no, I'm not.
Speaker 1: I don't know white people. Do white people that are
Speaker 1: far health? Is that not a thing? Because I don't
Speaker 1: know white.
Speaker 5: People with I've never heard of a white person mentioned.
Speaker 5: I don't know keloid and white people don't go together.
Speaker 4: They don't do white people.
Speaker 1: This is crazy. We are educating you guys.
Speaker 2: Per huge although anyone can get them.
Speaker 1: Mainly WHOA listen to this.
Speaker 2: Out of fifty two percent of patients, four percent we're white.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, oh yeah, you know what for that.
Speaker 2: Restaurant Latino black? Uh?
Speaker 3: And the ones that was white they had some lineage, Yes,
Speaker 3: they they had some bit. Anyways, before we started this podcast,
Speaker 3: we were talking because you know, we'd be talking now
Speaker 3: sometimes before the pod.
Speaker 4: What why you laughing? Do you want to mention that
Speaker 4: you guys have a love show coming up soon?
Speaker 3: Oh bitch, yes, we'll hopefully be talking that day. If
Speaker 3: you guys haven't yet, make sure you get tickets. We
Speaker 3: are at Sony Hall on Tuesday, December third, one, not
Speaker 3: only plus one, not only.
Speaker 2: And you know what, it is not gonna be a
Speaker 2: Horrible Decisions live show as.
Speaker 1: You may have seen. It'll be us live, but it
Speaker 1: won't be the type of show that it'll.
Speaker 2: Be a new version of what you've been seeing. Yep,
Speaker 2: Oh my god, really quick?
Speaker 1: Did you guys?
Speaker 2: Does the threesome episode come out before this?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: Okay, well, just to let y'all know how to threesome?
Speaker 2: And I said, I didn't know if she listens to
Speaker 2: Horrible Yep, she does.
Speaker 3: Count out to yet well, sorry, you guys, it's ruined.
Speaker 3: Y'all won't hear that story for another month? Went over
Speaker 3: the schedule?
Speaker 1: Yo? No, lie? Though, I even said, oh no she does.
Speaker 1: She's less being black against.
Speaker 4: She might I had an idea.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: She hit me this morning and was like, because we
Speaker 2: were like sending pictures last night, me and him and her,
Speaker 2: and she was like, sorry for listening, Actually no, no, sorry,
Speaker 2: it's my life. Okay, So she said, I went on
Speaker 2: a podcast called and we Have Gay Sex and it's
Speaker 2: a white pot. I was like, no one's ever gonna
Speaker 2: hear me on this. Shout out to them. They were
Speaker 2: great we need to have them on a fature on it.
Speaker 2: So she asked me, was like, yo, I've heard a
Speaker 2: few of your episodes, but I can't listen to it
Speaker 2: because it's a little too crazy for work. And I
Speaker 2: listened on my speaker, which is something you'd be saying.
Speaker 3: Oh no, no, no, I I'm not gonna lie Wheezy. Filming
Speaker 3: that episode, I was uncomfortable. I was like, whoa, whoa,
Speaker 3: don't do that.
Speaker 1: Shut up.
Speaker 3: I was just like, even you guys listening right now,
Speaker 3: we're gonna get into some ship. And I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: people are at work listening to this. After after, after
Speaker 3: we stopped recording, I was like, oh my god, what
Speaker 3: if someone is what if someone has their kids in
Speaker 3: their car and Wheezy starts saying this, or then I
Speaker 3: was like, oh my god, or they their headphones disconnect
Speaker 3: and this.
Speaker 1: Is briefly shut you up?
Speaker 2: Is everyone how long has everyone been working a horrible decisions?
Speaker 4: While I would say maybe six.
Speaker 2: And a half of the whole time, Dave, what would
Speaker 2: you say about four years? Since that maybe five was
Speaker 2: maybe one more year than Dave. Anything, I know, I
Speaker 2: think I was someone's asshole. No, I get no, no, no,
Speaker 2: I'm not saying it was just that.
Speaker 1: It was cool. But I was just like, wow, because
Speaker 1: when you were shot Dandy. I that's my point.
Speaker 4: You came four times in that story, bro. It was
Speaker 4: a long story, and I was like, whoa, damn.
Speaker 1: Like, this is the whole ride from them picking.
Speaker 4: Up They say that whole time, you know.
Speaker 2: It was, But I was like, it's a bitch, it
Speaker 2: was given dimpsey. I felt like, can you interrupt me?
Speaker 1: That was a straight like.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was straight down because I'm learning, and I
Speaker 2: was like, this.
Speaker 4: Is kind of a lot of damn. Whoa. I was like,
Speaker 4: I should have interrupted, bitch. I was like, after the
Speaker 4: second time you came, we should have stopped you, you know, ship.
Speaker 1: Like when when I tell my story this like then
Speaker 1: what then?
Speaker 5: What?
Speaker 1: Then? We're going back and forth? Is jokes? Yours? Was like,
Speaker 1: am I supposed to be listening.
Speaker 4: To and Mandy? When I came this time, I couldn't stop.
Speaker 4: I was like, oh god, it was a lot, yeah, bitch.
Speaker 1: Even when I told my gang Bang story, there was
Speaker 1: a lot of interruptions. It was banter back and forth.
Speaker 3: You had questions, but I ain't asked you no questions
Speaker 3: I'll let you get your story off. And I was like,
Speaker 3: this is like Eroica, this is like.
Speaker 4: A It was a lot. Thank you, look, thank you,
Speaker 4: thank you the whole great. This is a compliment. Look, bitch,
Speaker 4: you're welcome.
Speaker 1: I ain't in a rut.
Speaker 4: Yo.
Speaker 3: Anyways, before we look at us, we fucking sidebarred, like
Speaker 3: we got coke and our ship again.
Speaker 1: Mandy, they didn't hear that one, y'all.
Speaker 3: We dra coke on a crack cocaine.
Speaker 1: Anyways, No, low key, I would have ordered that any time. Yeah, No,
Speaker 1: that was crazy. We're never I would. I couldn't sleep.
Speaker 1: I was twice same season.
Speaker 3: That is crazy. That is crazy. So there was a
Speaker 3: there was a story being shared and I know it's uh,
Speaker 3: you know, we're dropping this Halloween the week of Halloween,
Speaker 3: but we are getting into the holiday season, and there
Speaker 3: was a story being shared before we started, and the
Speaker 3: word micro cheating came up.
Speaker 1: Yes, someone I know got micro cheated on it. And
Speaker 1: she come in and she really is saying micro cheated,
Speaker 1: Like that's where we know. I've never heard that word.
Speaker 4: Again, I never heard that day.
Speaker 1: Have you heard of micro cheating?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 3: So I ended up looking up the definition and we're
Speaker 3: going to get into the conversation around micro cheating, especially
Speaker 3: when the holidays comes up. What we constitute is such
Speaker 3: and let's see where this takes us. So, micro cheating
Speaker 3: is a term used to describe a series. A series
Speaker 3: I think is important of small actions that can indicate
Speaker 3: someone is either emotionally or physically involved with someone other
Speaker 3: than their partner. It can be difficult to ident to
Speaker 3: define and identify, and is sometimes considered anethical This is interesting,
Speaker 3: an ethical gray area. So here's some examples of micro cheating,
Speaker 3: and then we'll get into our experiences with it, if
Speaker 3: we think we've done it, and what to look for
Speaker 3: during the holiday season. So examples of micro cheating include
Speaker 3: flirting with someone other than your partner, even if it's
Speaker 3: just online, keeping interactions with someone a secret, such as
Speaker 3: deleting messages or using nicknames.
Speaker 1: That's a big one. Oh yeah, Sharing.
Speaker 3: Intimate thoughts or feelings with someone other than your partner.
Speaker 3: I want to get to that, because I that's an
Speaker 3: interesting one. Liking or I hate this one, liking or
Speaker 3: commenting on someone's social media. I'm not doing that. Comparing
Speaker 3: your partner unfavorably to someone else. Oh, that's trash. Developing
Speaker 3: romantic feelings for someone else, not making it clear you're
Speaker 3: inner relationship with someone, joining a dating site, leaving your
Speaker 3: wedding ring at home, keeping a dating profile to see
Speaker 3: if you get matched with someone else, or giving your
Speaker 3: phone number to someone you find attractive.
Speaker 4: Can I add one?
Speaker 1: Please add one?
Speaker 4: Send someone photos of yourself?
Speaker 1: Oh, selfie interesting? I don't want that, you know why?
Speaker 1: I know that one's a good one. Why even with
Speaker 1: the selfie?
Speaker 2: Yes, at my desk, just got to the movie.
Speaker 1: I just got to work with Mandy. Read our dinner.
Speaker 1: Now I'm gonna go to the movies. Look at my popcorn?
Speaker 1: What is the intent behind the picture though you look
Speaker 1: that moment?
Speaker 4: Well?
Speaker 1: No, what if it is just this is where I'm at?
Speaker 1: Who does that? And I've never I've been friends with
Speaker 1: these two for how long? And I ain't never? Send
Speaker 1: it your self? Well if have we sent pictures to
Speaker 1: each other before?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Well have you guys sent pictures to each other?
Speaker 1: I'm like trying to think I feel like we had.
Speaker 5: That's recently with the uh the law camera ship.
Speaker 2: With the no we were sitting No, that doesn't count. No,
Speaker 2: that doesn't count. That's more technical, he ever sent yourself
Speaker 2: and I invited you?
Speaker 1: Did I not? Did I send you any pictures from
Speaker 1: the Larry.
Speaker 2: Junovit wolf is not a selfie? First, we're friends, and
Speaker 2: I'm like, I feel like i've seen him. We're not
Speaker 2: that's that wouldn't be cheating.
Speaker 3: But that's what I'm saying. How who who identifies what's purpose?
Speaker 4: Let's go back to the micro cheating ass because I
Speaker 4: don't know, I don't know what y'all I like. But
Speaker 4: my point is that, like, let's say, if you had
Speaker 4: a partner, or if he had a partner, I'm pretty
Speaker 4: sure his partner would have like, could I.
Speaker 1: Ask you are sending a lar June thing he loves?
Speaker 4: I'm saying, like a selfie? No even a selfie?
Speaker 1: So selfie? I agree.
Speaker 3: So then let me ask both of you guys that,
Speaker 3: because y'all have both been in long term relationships, would
Speaker 3: it be a problem if one of your home girls
Speaker 3: were sending you selfies?
Speaker 5: Why would a woman ever send me yourself interesting?
Speaker 4: Y'all are really I don't care. My friend has always
Speaker 4: sent me a selfie, Like it's not a big deal.
Speaker 5: That's weird to me.
Speaker 2: I completely agree with and ethically the relationship they know.
Speaker 4: I'm like, bestie, Like, if it's.
Speaker 2: Not someone that it's a sexual relationship with. He claimed
Speaker 2: to have a platonic friend and she was like, I'm
Speaker 2: just like, what interesting and let's I.
Speaker 4: Don't know if that what's the point.
Speaker 1: But see, I'm also.
Speaker 3: Someone that's not going through someone's I don't think I
Speaker 3: would ever know it's this doesn't.
Speaker 2: Have to do we're not talking about going through phone.
Speaker 1: No, but I'm saying I don't.
Speaker 3: But even if I saw, like we're together and I
Speaker 3: look over and it's a selfie, I don't. I don't
Speaker 3: think I would have a problem with the girl, So.
Speaker 2: I would no, no, no, So it's selfie if it's
Speaker 2: like a group thing. Now, if it's in linger right,
Speaker 2: if she's like, uh, if it's sexual a nature, no,
Speaker 2: it's the update. And here's why interesting men and women
Speaker 2: having platonic friendships. We need a lot of boundaries in
Speaker 2: my opinion, to keep it as a platonic friendship. For one,
Speaker 2: when any friendship, any of my homeboys, even Alex, I
Speaker 2: always remember when we hired Alex Black Panther came out
Speaker 2: that week and we went to the movies and he said,
Speaker 2: is this a date?
Speaker 1: And I said no, and he was.
Speaker 2: Like, okay, I'm just making sure cool. That was years ago, right,
Speaker 2: There's always this question of like, what is this between
Speaker 2: platonic friends in the beginning, I believe that every time.
Speaker 3: To be fair, it'sh is one of my friends that
Speaker 3: I talk to almost every day, and I'm looking through
Speaker 3: our text messages. He only has one selfie of me
Speaker 3: and it's from our like on tour, one of my
Speaker 3: tour outfits.
Speaker 4: Any selfies like that?
Speaker 3: And then I say him, me at the game, You're right,
Speaker 3: there's no selfie even you're right, You're right.
Speaker 1: That's different. I say, like, that is that? Okay? I
Speaker 1: say him, like a shot of me at the Cowboys game?
Speaker 2: Last interesting you make You're trying to make me look
Speaker 2: at you. I will say micro cheating for me, for
Speaker 2: sure would be a secret friendship or like, if you're
Speaker 2: keeping uh someone a secret to me, that's absolutely micro
Speaker 2: cheating because there's some sort of intent for that to
Speaker 2: be something more than just a friend.
Speaker 1: That's hell of micro.
Speaker 3: Like you keeping someone a secret or I don't know
Speaker 3: this person is your friend, but you talk to them
Speaker 3: a lot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's super micro cheating.
Speaker 2: Yeah, to me, it's the intention of keeping the relationship.
Speaker 2: What is that and when that isn't necessarily something that
Speaker 2: feels platonic, right, like the friendship isn't really I think
Speaker 2: new friendships are something that should be discussed in this one, right.
Speaker 2: So when you have established friends before you date someone,
Speaker 2: that's kind of different because we can't come for those people, right.
Speaker 2: But what I do know is with new friendships, it's
Speaker 2: very very difficult, yes, because it's like, all right, well,
Speaker 2: why are you feeling the need? How did you platonically
Speaker 2: just meet this new woman in your life? What is
Speaker 2: their purpose?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 2: Like I literally said to my nigga the other day
Speaker 2: when we were joking about, you know, male and female friendships,
Speaker 2: and he was like, fuck, you know, you're almost going
Speaker 2: to always make a new friend because you're in an
Speaker 2: industry where you're making this network connection. But also even
Speaker 2: when you do that, there's got to be something serving
Speaker 2: from it. We were in La at a party. Dude
Speaker 2: came up to me. First few words, Yo, I work
Speaker 2: for Afrotech. I want to bring you back out like
Speaker 2: I've been trying to link you. I don't know if
Speaker 2: you check your DMS, can I get your number. I
Speaker 2: was like, I'll give you my email and he was like, oh.
Speaker 1: Wow, okay cool.
Speaker 2: And we talked about that in the car okay and
Speaker 2: he like, yo, Like, if it's work, I'm cool. But
Speaker 2: if that nigga was dming you for something else, I
Speaker 2: wouldn't be cool. But like rolling up on you when
Speaker 2: you were with your man, like I know how you felt,
Speaker 2: and if it really was work, I'm good. But for me,
Speaker 2: I wasn't, Like, I'm just like why, Like no, Also,
Speaker 2: like you're coming up to me, I'm on a d
Speaker 2: Like you would have found my email if you really
Speaker 2: wanted to book me. I've had mad people book me
Speaker 2: for things, TV shows, any fucking thing, you know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying. We got booked for Mad magazine Introjuice from
Speaker 2: an email, so you couldn't find that. So I just
Speaker 2: find that like when you make new connections with a partner,
Speaker 2: like it really does have to be a purpose, you
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, Like, I just don't see how
Speaker 2: people need to connect otherwise, how do you think you
Speaker 2: met someone cool at the club?
Speaker 4: No, you did it.
Speaker 3: So before we started potting, you said you'd rather you
Speaker 3: knew he'd put his whole dick in than micro cheat. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you would be more upset with the micro cheating than
Speaker 3: him going all the way.
Speaker 2: And why I think sex can be emotionless for men.
Speaker 2: And I think when men put time into things, they
Speaker 2: really care about it. I know that from men talking
Speaker 2: to me myself as a grown ass woman. I know
Speaker 2: when men are interested in me because they're spending their
Speaker 2: time building connections, sending a selfie of them talking about
Speaker 2: a bunch of nothing. I think when someone just fucks you,
Speaker 2: it's pretty much over with.
Speaker 4: So do you agree with that?
Speaker 1: Guys?
Speaker 4: I've definitely had like meaningless sex more all just physically,
Speaker 4: so I can, yeah, absolutely agree with that. But I
Speaker 4: let it be known, like I make sure I'm not
Speaker 4: playing with someone's like feelings or a situation like that
Speaker 4: to happen. Yeah, but then feelings get caught, it happens.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know if I have really I'm not
Speaker 3: a micro. I mean I communicate though, like and I'm
Speaker 3: very clear with the guys that I don't want What
Speaker 3: about the thing.
Speaker 2: About sorry you when you read something you read about
Speaker 2: sharing intimate thoughts and feelings? Oh yes, and I disagree
Speaker 2: with that, So that's really microgating. To me, I don't
Speaker 2: think that's micro cheating. And what's the context of the content.
Speaker 3: So but here's here's why, right, Like, when you're as
Speaker 3: a partner, and I think I bring this back to
Speaker 3: the fact that your partner is not going to be
Speaker 3: your all. And when I say you're all, that person
Speaker 3: is not going to be able to do exactly everything
Speaker 3: you want in bed, be the soundboard that you need
Speaker 3: in business, in friendship and family matters, in physical health
Speaker 3: and mental health.
Speaker 1: And so to me say, I'm say I'm.
Speaker 3: Dating someone who might be in the gym and is
Speaker 3: really good at business, but in terms of his mental
Speaker 3: or his his awareness in terms of mental health, I
Speaker 3: may not feel if it's absent and I find that
Speaker 3: one of my other male friends or even women friends
Speaker 3: because I'm bisexual and I've had my ex be jealous
Speaker 3: of a relationship I've had with a homegirl before, did
Speaker 3: you feel yeah, well, I mean, I mean I get that,
Speaker 3: but outside of sex, especially because sex isn't the big thing.
Speaker 3: If I'm leading into that person because maybe you don't
Speaker 3: have the capacity to be that person, it shouldn't be
Speaker 3: considered micro cheating because we can't expect our partner to
Speaker 3: be fully everything that we need them to do.
Speaker 1: I'll tell you. Let me give you an example.
Speaker 2: Yes, so something my ex said wants about a male
Speaker 2: friend of my life.
Speaker 1: Safe spaces.
Speaker 2: He basically felt like another man in my life was
Speaker 2: more of a safe space than he was. And I
Speaker 2: had something very traumatic happen and I did not call
Speaker 2: him first. Okay, I completely and a lot of should
Speaker 2: I agree with default nigga, but that he was right
Speaker 2: like you had all this family should happen and you
Speaker 2: call it this nigga first, But.
Speaker 3: You know what I you know what I compared to it.
Speaker 3: I know I joked about it by calling him my
Speaker 3: poly partner. But like Asante and I've talked about this,
Speaker 3: my ex was very jealous because he was a man
Speaker 3: and I had a very emotional relationship like I can
Speaker 3: emotionally platonic.
Speaker 1: But it still felt like some level of cheating. So
Speaker 1: let's be real here though.
Speaker 2: Yes, Vinnie and I have had that same thing right
Speaker 2: where we're almost thirteen years into friendship tattooed on each other.
Speaker 2: But the one thing that saves this whole thing is
Speaker 2: Vinnie and I don't like, yeah, have sex. Right, there's
Speaker 2: the safety right there. Man, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 2: Like your ex feels way better about your relationship with
Speaker 2: a sance because he knows y'a don't want to fuck
Speaker 2: each other. Now, I can't speak for your relationship with Ish,
Speaker 2: who I think is a straight dude, but I don't
Speaker 2: know how great it would be if you had this strong, emotional,
Speaker 2: deep friendship and connection where you're running to Ish instead
Speaker 2: of your nigga. I bet you he would have felt
Speaker 2: way more weird if it was that than a sante.
Speaker 2: Not saying your ex isn't a weird ass nigga for
Speaker 2: being jealous of a sante, but a straight man being
Speaker 2: your confidant over a gay dude is a hard Will
Speaker 2: straight guys get safe with their girls gay.
Speaker 3: For any any relationship now to be to be fair,
Speaker 3: because I would never be in a relationship with a podcaster.
Speaker 3: I will absolutely call Ish or even at me, and
Speaker 3: you talk quite a bit my partner. I will not
Speaker 3: vent to or go to for advice on this industry.
Speaker 1: That doesn't count though.
Speaker 2: That's not intimate thoughts and feelings that's worth but to me.
Speaker 2: So let's be very clear if something happened in a workplace.
Speaker 2: Let's take this to corporate America. If something was happening
Speaker 2: at work and you chose to call a male friend
Speaker 2: instead of venting you to your partner, your partner could
Speaker 2: still feel a way that you didn't come to him
Speaker 2: to tell him about work.
Speaker 4: What would you say is more of an intimate thought
Speaker 4: than if that's.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what's okay?
Speaker 2: So, for example, coming to Eden when you have a
Speaker 2: podcast issue makes sense industry experience too.
Speaker 1: Why am I call him my nigga for a podcast?
Speaker 2: Actually, I would even argue that I do the same
Speaker 2: thing if something goes on a podcast Shit, hell yeah,
Speaker 2: i'mna called Alex first, you know.
Speaker 1: But the ultimate thought or feeling, what's an intimate thought?
Speaker 2: I would say something that brings you emotional sadness that
Speaker 2: probably has to do with family, something that's wearing on
Speaker 2: your mental health, like maybe it's finances and you're feeling sad,
Speaker 2: self image, anything that could be something that's super personal
Speaker 2: that you don't want the public to know and the
Speaker 2: public to me outside of this relationship are platonic friends.
Speaker 2: We're gonna hold our deep and intimate shit. But also,
Speaker 2: I'm a writer in a different way on our relationship,
Speaker 2: like the way that I have loyalty to someone's secrets
Speaker 2: when we're in that place is very different. And maybe
Speaker 2: just the length in which my family shit goes is
Speaker 2: a little bit deeper, deeper than most people my age.
Speaker 3: So I think I think micro cheating is exactly what
Speaker 3: it even references. It's such a great area that I
Speaker 3: think creates chaos where chaos doesn't need to be made,
Speaker 3: and I think it puts expectations on your partner that
Speaker 3: are unrealistic.
Speaker 2: I actually think micro cheating is the lead on to
Speaker 2: the red flags.
Speaker 4: I don't think I can see that.
Speaker 1: I think if if I've got a nigga, who's fucking.
Speaker 2: Right depending on the sense, secretly messaging someone, you being
Speaker 2: on a dating app, half of those things, I get
Speaker 2: it that's.
Speaker 1: Leading like me, but me having these emotional.
Speaker 3: Conversations with someone else or hanging out with someone else,
Speaker 3: because it does mention physical and that's what our context
Speaker 3: was about. Physical planning to be around someone platonically because
Speaker 3: I just enjoy your energy.
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that I have to desire. It also
Speaker 1: doesn't mean.
Speaker 2: Use the word platonic actually in this, So that's I
Speaker 2: know you think the different. Yeah, but it doesn't mean
Speaker 2: just because is that you hanging without your friends or
Speaker 2: having an.
Speaker 3: Emotional connection to someone or even liking to be around
Speaker 3: them does not mean at all I want to be
Speaker 3: with you or I want to fuck you. True, just
Speaker 3: because I enjoy you as a person does not mean
Speaker 3: and I would allow my partner to enjoy many other
Speaker 3: people as a partner as a as a person.
Speaker 1: Men, women, family members. That's what I talk about when
Speaker 1: I when I say, like, we create these unrealistic like
Speaker 1: boundaries or dynamics with romantic partnerships that we don't create
Speaker 1: with all of the other relationships we had, you know,
Speaker 1: and I guess that's what you need, right.
Speaker 2: So for example, you and I had discussed on another
Speaker 2: episode about how we think liking pictures isn't a big.
Speaker 1: Deal, right.
Speaker 2: Whatever boundary people have in their relationship is theirs. And
Speaker 2: for me, I can already tell from this conversation if
Speaker 2: someone else is more of a confidant to you than
Speaker 2: I am besides a brother or family member or yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm not good with that. Another woman being your confidant
Speaker 2: and shoulder to lean on is not okay with me.
Speaker 2: I need to be the person that we keep this
Speaker 2: in house with, and I do think I need a
Speaker 2: hierarchy for that in my life and in my future
Speaker 2: committed relationships.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 3: I would say this then can be something that maybe
Speaker 3: you should talk to with your partners because I am
Speaker 3: on the opposite side. I don't want to be somebody's
Speaker 3: everything and take that on, and I don't mind someone
Speaker 3: leaning into someone else, man or woman.
Speaker 2: I'm really surprised that you would be okay with in
Speaker 2: a committed relationship a homegirl that they're that deeply. I
Speaker 2: would say that right now in my life, my closest
Speaker 2: friend that's a man, was engaged and then they're no
Speaker 2: longer engaged, and we've shared a lot of discussion about that.
Speaker 2: But to me, that's more a problem solving with each other,
Speaker 2: like I'm even in a relationship like, to me, that's
Speaker 2: very problem and a lot of men and women dynamics.
Speaker 2: He actually just sent me this video I wanted to share.
Speaker 2: I thought it would be really good for horrible. I
Speaker 2: was gonna put in another moment, but four forty five
Speaker 2: love you easy, send me this.
Speaker 6: I got a female friend, lover her to death, right,
Speaker 6: She's like my annoying ass big sister, she'd be pissing
Speaker 6: me off. But the conversations we have come from a
Speaker 6: completely different point of view. Right, So, when I'm expressing
Speaker 6: myself and I'm telling my side of the story, or
Speaker 6: if I'm telling my perspective of something that I went
Speaker 6: through with a girl that I talked to, whatever the
Speaker 6: case may be, she responds back to me from a
Speaker 6: point of view of hey, stop letting this girl play
Speaker 6: with you like this, because this is what she's on
Speaker 6: and I feel like every man on the planet needs that.
Speaker 6: And the fucking problem right now in our world is
Speaker 6: that a lot of men are teaching men how to
Speaker 6: interact with women, but there's not a lot of women
Speaker 6: teaching men how to interact with women.
Speaker 4: Women.
Speaker 2: Now, why this is important is because most platonic meal conversation,
Speaker 2: when it gets deep for me, is that's helping each other.
Speaker 2: It is not the other way around. It's me leaning
Speaker 2: on my male friends for guidance. In another way, it's
Speaker 2: problem solving. It's not this fucking I'm spilling like you
Speaker 2: an actor, bae.
Speaker 1: That's not platonic. To me, we were never going to
Speaker 1: be platonic. That's I let him know.
Speaker 2: Every call I wanted to me, that's it. That's intimate,
Speaker 2: whether you talk sexual or not. The way you tried
Speaker 2: on the phone with.
Speaker 1: Me and him were not platonic.
Speaker 2: I know you weren't, but I'm saying that's sharing intimate
Speaker 2: thoughts and feelings. This shit is more problem solving, the
Speaker 2: same thing you brought up about PODT.
Speaker 1: You know what's crazy.
Speaker 3: A lot of the conversations I had with Actor Bae
Speaker 3: in in dissection of it, I brought to Ish okay,
Speaker 3: and so I've shared a lot of the same traumas
Speaker 3: two different perspectives, which is why I would never so
Speaker 3: you are my partner of that.
Speaker 1: Like I brought yes the traumas in which that I
Speaker 1: brought to Actor Bae.
Speaker 3: Maybe I didn't cuite a ish about it, but when
Speaker 3: I was talking to Actor Bay and we were indulging
Speaker 3: each other in it, I did actually bring some of
Speaker 3: those things because I did want to hear Issh's perspective
Speaker 3: on it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you wanted ishes advice. You want to get deeper
Speaker 2: with that, not advice. There's reason I was listening to
Speaker 2: his trauma.
Speaker 1: You said what you wanted to do. We were exchanging traumas.
Speaker 1: But what I'm saying, is that's advice.
Speaker 3: Know the things that I opened up to to Actor Bay,
Speaker 3: I opened up two issues.
Speaker 2: Well, I'm just saying from what if you we want
Speaker 2: the person you're sharing You never met this man. You're
Speaker 2: sharing things with him to get me with me, to
Speaker 2: get deeper with me.
Speaker 3: I believe in getting deep with my friends as well.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I yeah, we just we agree to disagree with.
Speaker 2: This is honestly a very good debate because there's someone
Speaker 2: listening right now. No no, no, that like literally had
Speaker 2: this situation.
Speaker 4: You guys guilty of any of those things like secret messaging? Yeah,
Speaker 4: I mean so do you. That's cheating right there straight through.
Speaker 1: I mean when I when I was with my ex.
Speaker 4: I was thrown off that nigga.
Speaker 3: And then when we were on our breaks, I went
Speaker 3: right back to step chat like but when I was
Speaker 3: with him, I was with him. When I wasn't, I'm
Speaker 3: talking to other people. And also that was another thing
Speaker 3: like where the niggas hated the teetering. When I was
Speaker 3: with him and nigga would hit me, I'd be like, yep,
Speaker 3: back with my man.
Speaker 1: Yesterday you had it.
Speaker 3: I know yesterday I was trying to eat that ass
Speaker 3: from the back. But now we got back together, so
Speaker 3: we can't really micro cheating.
Speaker 4: You know what I mean.
Speaker 2: Like I let them know when I was on a break,
Speaker 2: I was I was ready as soon as that nigga said,
Speaker 2: we beck, I let them niggas know I'm back with
Speaker 2: my man. Sorry, Well, I was gonna say deleting messages.
Speaker 2: I've deleted some stuff where I was talking shit. However,
Speaker 2: now that we're talking about micro cheating, I realize it's
Speaker 2: mainly because the cheating is someone that you could be
Speaker 2: cheated on with. Can't be your homegirl, can't be your
Speaker 2: gay friend. I think we got to pull that out.
Speaker 1: I can't be my homegirl.
Speaker 2: I fucked my homegirl, right, I'm saying your homegirl, if
Speaker 2: you're fucking her, then that's different. But I'm saying, like,
Speaker 2: I think that's probably the difference with this because the
Speaker 2: cheating is putting your relationship at risk. So who is
Speaker 2: someone that can put your relationship at risk?
Speaker 3: I think any any and air body can put your
Speaker 3: relationship at risk?
Speaker 1: Period, true period, Because be.
Speaker 2: Very clear, just because he gave today it on me,
Speaker 2: he ain't gonna take a little pussy like.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just saying, anyways, I.
Speaker 3: Want to get to our vanilla ship because in us
Speaker 3: talking as well just about relationships, I wanted to go
Speaker 3: over some sex myths that could potentially be holding your
Speaker 3: relationship back. So micro cheating could be holding your relationship
Speaker 3: back or be a sign that it's over. But there
Speaker 3: are sex myths that are actually affecting relationships in the bedroom.
Speaker 3: So I wanted to go over these and I wanted
Speaker 3: to know y'all thoughts on them and if you agree
Speaker 3: that this myth could potentially be ruining relationships. So the
Speaker 3: first one is spontaneity is key. There's a belief that
Speaker 3: sex should always be spontaneous and unplanned. Holding this myth
Speaker 3: can lead to no sex at all. With busy lives,
Speaker 3: it's easy for sex to slip off of a priority list.
Speaker 3: Solution schedule sex into your life. Do y'all believe that
Speaker 3: the idea that sex should just be always spontaneous could
Speaker 3: be ruining you having sex at all in a relationship?
Speaker 1: Yeah, because a lot of us, yeah, pretty much of us.
Speaker 2: Are we all playing sex? I'm gonna tell you exactly who.
Speaker 2: Because we think this is putting it on the calendar
Speaker 2: type shit, like right, They do people, and let me
Speaker 2: tell you what it is.
Speaker 1: You free Saturday?
Speaker 2: Like hello, if you're like, it's really simple, Like, let's
Speaker 2: stop fucking acting like we're all not scheduling sex.
Speaker 3: Bro Well, this one, this one, this one, I really like.
Speaker 3: Another myth is that penetrative sex is the only real sex.
Speaker 3: And this is what I like because this is where
Speaker 3: I'm like, I like all the other shit happening right
Speaker 3: now around sex too. So there's this misconception that sex
Speaker 3: is only valid if it involves penetrative intercourse. Such a
Speaker 3: myth neglects the diversity of sexuality and intimate activities, which
Speaker 3: is why I'm outing this, while adding pressure to perform
Speaker 3: penetrative sex, potentially leading to performance issues for both men
Speaker 3: and women, it neglects other form of sexual pleasure that
Speaker 3: can be equally or more sexually satisfying. So I wanted
Speaker 3: to talk about this because a lot of times, if
Speaker 3: you ask someone if they've had sex, their idea is
Speaker 3: this being sex. Penis and vagina are actually engaging in
Speaker 3: whatever sex they identify as sex, Whereas to me, there
Speaker 3: is like the person that I see now, I've seen
Speaker 3: him a lot of times this year, and we don't
Speaker 3: always have sex, but there's other parts about us hanging
Speaker 3: out with each other that I find fulfillment.
Speaker 1: Michael Jading. There's no micro cheating.
Speaker 3: We're not together, but or we've just done oral sex
Speaker 3: which has been very pleasurable, or like I've been around
Speaker 3: him and I've been on my period, so I've got
Speaker 3: to watch him engage with someone else. Like there's other
Speaker 3: ways in which you could have sex with someone. And
Speaker 3: y'all know, I still like the trash being taken out,
Speaker 3: but even cuddling. I just had a boyfriend experience a
Speaker 3: couple months ago where a guy flew in literally just
Speaker 3: to be here and play boyfriend. I baked them cookies
Speaker 3: and we cuddled and watched what is It?
Speaker 1: GENV?
Speaker 3: The other thing to the boys, and we cuddled all night,
Speaker 3: and then the next day rode scooters in the park
Speaker 3: and I was so fulfilled. I was like, I'm good,
Speaker 3: I don't even need intimacy right now.
Speaker 4: It was.
Speaker 2: I think the emotional ship is way worse.
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 3: It was like it was intimacy overload that I just
Speaker 3: enjoyed so much. I was like wow, Like he brought
Speaker 3: his camera and I took him to the little ponds.
Speaker 3: I showed them all around Cuchral Park and I was
Speaker 3: just like, this is great to where literally I had
Speaker 3: a nigga come the next week who normally gives me
Speaker 3: all my intimacy, and I felt nothing damn right.
Speaker 1: And it was crazy.
Speaker 3: I never I didn't even think that, oh, I have
Speaker 3: placed this guy so high sexually, because it was so
Speaker 3: intimate that now that I've gotten my intimacy kick, it
Speaker 3: wasn't even the same. And I was like, oh, wow,
Speaker 3: I really think I enjoy intimacy on a level that's
Speaker 3: that involved dick and vagina at all. I don't know
Speaker 3: who the fuck I'm becoming, y'all. God damn shit is crazy.
Speaker 3: I did also want to it's disgusting. This is when
Speaker 3: we talk about a lot. Another myth is no communication
Speaker 3: is needed. Often people assume that once you're with a partner,
Speaker 3: you know their needs, you know what they like, you
Speaker 3: know how they like it, and so of course we
Speaker 3: always say talk to your partner, because the same way
Speaker 3: that maybe at one point in time I like you
Speaker 3: to ram my fucking vagina to fucking smithereens that can
Speaker 3: change over time. So the same way that someone may
Speaker 3: enjoy sex at one point may not be the way
Speaker 3: that they enjoy it again. And then the last one
Speaker 3: I wanted to bring up. I also want to send
Speaker 3: you this link so that y'all can look. This is
Speaker 3: from the New York Posts. And there's so many myths,
Speaker 3: but the other one I really like, More is always better.
Speaker 3: There is a misconception that the quantity of sexual encounters
Speaker 3: is proportional to the quality of a relationship. It prioritizes
Speaker 3: the quantity over the quality of sexual encounters, ignoring the
Speaker 3: importance of the emotional connection and intimacy. So a solution
Speaker 3: is to take the focus away from how much sex
Speaker 3: you're having and focus on the quality of the sex
Speaker 3: that you're actually having. Y'all agree with that, yeah, because
Speaker 3: I do know people sometimes if they're not having a
Speaker 3: lot of it, they will fit in quickies just to.
Speaker 1: Make it feel like we're fucking.
Speaker 3: That means we're good, we like each other because we're
Speaker 3: having all this sex, but it doesn't mean that it's
Speaker 3: actually good sex or sex that is meaningful.
Speaker 2: I've been convinced that most people don't really have mind
Speaker 2: blowing sex. Often, like because I could come from if
Speaker 2: I sat here long enough and fucking rub the seed
Speaker 2: that's greright, Like, it's not that I really don't think
Speaker 2: it has anything to do with like how you're really
Speaker 2: connecting with someone during sex. Also the intimacy I've done
Speaker 2: this with, like someone I've only slept with once, right,
Speaker 2: even if it's not intimate but more carnal. And it's like,
Speaker 2: but just a lot of people don't really know how
Speaker 2: to connec during sex. I've talked to so many friends
Speaker 2: that are scared of eye contact that like, wow, shit
Speaker 2: like that, Whereas I'm like, of course you're not fucking
Speaker 2: getting the shit fucked up, like you really can't get there.
Speaker 2: So what do you think that it's crazy? And maybe
Speaker 2: we can just I have some Halloween sex positions, but
Speaker 2: I really like that. What do you think it is.
Speaker 3: Sex tip wise about eye contact? Because is it if
Speaker 3: someone isn't giving you eye contact? Is it because they're
Speaker 3: actually uncomfortable? It's because they're insecure?
Speaker 4: What is it?
Speaker 3: Because even you gave that as a tip with giving
Speaker 3: with oral sex right, look them in the eyes. What
Speaker 3: do you think if so many of your homegirls say
Speaker 3: and I feel like eye contact is a hard one
Speaker 3: even for men. What is it about eye contact that
Speaker 3: makes it difficult.
Speaker 4: And we have been Okay, I remember when Jade and
Speaker 4: Jamal and they talked about that, like POV and I
Speaker 4: love eye contact when it comes to like head and
Speaker 4: everything like that. Okay, now during like fucking i'm it
Speaker 4: depends like it's like eye contact through the mirror. Oh
Speaker 4: I love that.
Speaker 1: Shit, No, you're not gonna lie.
Speaker 3: Eye contact during missionary is also a thing. But that's
Speaker 3: also I've been with guys too that can't look at
Speaker 3: me in the eye or they want to break the
Speaker 3: it's to sometimes.
Speaker 1: Is that what it is?
Speaker 5: That's me? I'm not I'm not really with the eye content.
Speaker 1: Why not?
Speaker 5: I just don't care for it almost breaks my concentration.
Speaker 2: That's interesting really, even when you're like in a super love.
Speaker 5: Making mode missionary, I'm one hundred percent with it. But
Speaker 5: head though, I don't know what it is. It pulls
Speaker 5: me out of focus.
Speaker 1: Really, you know what that is?
Speaker 5: No offense, No, I don't.
Speaker 1: It's a confidence thing.
Speaker 2: It's a woman looking you in the eye is more
Speaker 2: of her being in control than you, and you made
Speaker 2: me feeling a little bit more out of control. And
Speaker 2: see it looks he might saying he likes it you
Speaker 2: on your knees and you're giving me eye contact during
Speaker 2: the head like, so there's two two things. Right when
Speaker 2: edding gets head he probably wants to feel like, oh,
Speaker 2: she's taking over my body, whereas you might want to
Speaker 2: feel like I'm getting my dick suck like she's on
Speaker 2: her knees for me. So it's like, is this and
Speaker 2: like I can't say anymore.
Speaker 3: The eye contact maybe for you then puts her into
Speaker 3: the power position.
Speaker 2: Which and that they make the head It's uncomfortable because are.
Speaker 1: You are you?
Speaker 3: Are you not a personal but are are you full darm?
Speaker 3: Like you're not switched? Like is there any moment in
Speaker 3: sex where you actually like giving up power?
Speaker 5: Not really?
Speaker 1: Okay, that's what Yeah, I think that. So the thing with.
Speaker 2: Eye contact that I've learned specifically about my boyfriend today,
Speaker 2: one of my homegirls talked about how sexual he was,
Speaker 2: how much his energy was sexual. And I was in
Speaker 2: the room with them when they met. I was like,
Speaker 2: that's so weird. She said that, wait weird right, and
Speaker 2: so I was like, I was like she said that,
Speaker 2: I wasn't bothered, was like, why do you think she
Speaker 2: said that?
Speaker 1: He's like because I looked at her an eye? Do
Speaker 1: you know what's crazy about saying that?
Speaker 3: You remember when I was dating like the musician, the
Speaker 3: one that I showed you it looks like Lenny Kravitz.
Speaker 3: So I ended up going to one of his shows
Speaker 3: and we ended up talking. And it's so crazy because
Speaker 3: he brought that up to me. He felt like my
Speaker 3: energy was that I only wanted to have sex with him,
Speaker 3: and that I was very sexual with him, and I
Speaker 3: was like, what's crazy ist The two times we talked
Speaker 3: about kids, his upbringing, where he's from, we didn't even
Speaker 3: talk about sex, and I was like, yo, like I didn't.
Speaker 1: I literally said, how did you get that?
Speaker 4: Do you know?
Speaker 3: He said, because when we talked, I would be like this,
Speaker 3: and I was attentive and I would laugh it and
Speaker 3: and he literally was like, because you're in it. You
Speaker 3: were so into the conversation. I felt like you just
Speaker 3: wanted to fuck me. And I was like, no, I
Speaker 3: was really enjoying our conversation. And we literally had this
Speaker 3: conversation and I was like, Yo, that's crazy because I
Speaker 3: was listening to you and attentive and looking in your eyes,
Speaker 3: but all I wanted to do.
Speaker 1: Is eat your ass.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you crazy, I really powerful people like
Speaker 2: each other and eyes. Yes, Oh it made him. It
Speaker 2: made him feel like he was a piece of meat.
Speaker 2: And I was like, but I we didn't even talk. Bro,
Speaker 2: you're not looking at us more, look like this.
Speaker 4: Yeah, man, I guess you know. Let me just y.
Speaker 2: Wow, honestly eye contact. So we did this thing we
Speaker 2: tried not to talk for. We said we were gonna
Speaker 2: do it for four hours, right, but we were on vacation,
Speaker 2: so we're like, all right, we gotta break this. But
Speaker 2: we were in Palm Springs at the hotel together just
Speaker 2: eye contact. Bru said so much. I knew when he
Speaker 2: was I was getting on his nerves just fucking around
Speaker 2: with him. I knew when he was like wanted to
Speaker 2: fuck me more. I knew when he looked at me, like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, I love that. You actually know what
Speaker 2: you're saying that. Do you remember one of our tips
Speaker 2: we gave one time about I fucking technically, if you're
Speaker 2: across the room, you keeping eyes with somebody long enough.
Speaker 4: So you handle Can you handle that?
Speaker 1: Though?
Speaker 5: That is the only choosing signal I use that cont
Speaker 5: really yeah, that's the main one.
Speaker 1: So that's crazy.
Speaker 3: But so if you're having a conversation with a woman
Speaker 3: and she's looking at you in your eyes. Because now
Speaker 3: this comes back to maybe why this nigga shouldn't want
Speaker 3: to be so me talking to you in your eyes.
Speaker 3: Say we're at a bar and I meet, we catch
Speaker 3: eyes and I come and talk to you and I'm
Speaker 3: looking at you in your eyes.
Speaker 1: You you immediately think I want to suck your deck.
Speaker 5: I ain't saying that, but it's but it's you maybe
Speaker 5: affirming that you're interested in me. It's a choosing.
Speaker 4: That's agreedlight.
Speaker 5: That's always been my green light for women, always like
Speaker 5: if you especially if you look over twice, oh she
Speaker 5: want me? Oh my god?
Speaker 4: Yeah, oh yeah, yeah that looks over.
Speaker 1: Are you staring at a nigga? Yeah?
Speaker 4: Man?
Speaker 3: Maybe I like your shoes, nigga, calm down you. Maybe
Speaker 3: I like your dreads and how you got this little
Speaker 3: twisted thing tied up?
Speaker 1: Bro?
Speaker 2: I long recently and I have to walk up to
Speaker 2: him and I know he thought all about them, and
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm so sorry. Is it just me
Speaker 2: or were you in insecure? He was like, yeah, it
Speaker 2: was gros and two episodes.
Speaker 4: That's hilarious.
Speaker 1: I know he was like bitch, you ain't want to say, na,
Speaker 1: that's are you that nig? Thank you?
Speaker 4: I'm weak.
Speaker 2: Well, let's get into the horrible decision and you know
Speaker 2: what I actually can. It's gonna be outrageous role play
Speaker 2: scenarios as well as I can still get to some
Speaker 2: of these Halloween sex positions, baby, because if you and
Speaker 2: your little outfit go ahead and pull that thing to
Speaker 2: the side and get some you hear me, because I
Speaker 2: know you're all gonna be looking.
Speaker 1: Like, oh my Jesus peace.
Speaker 3: So here's one, and let me know if you guys
Speaker 3: are familiar with any of these as well. So this
Speaker 3: one is called the witches broomstick. To feel this flying feeling,
Speaker 3: one partner lies on their back flat on the bed
Speaker 3: as the other partner faces and straddles them until they
Speaker 3: feel penetration. With this move, you can move your hips
Speaker 3: and circles side to side or up and down while
Speaker 3: the broom guides you.
Speaker 1: The broom. The broom is the dick bro.
Speaker 2: Oh the come on, girl, I thought it was like
Speaker 2: jail sacks.
Speaker 4: Whoa, what's jill sick?
Speaker 1: They say, that's what lesbians do these Wait, they use
Speaker 1: the broom to do what sodom fuck each other like
Speaker 1: a strap.
Speaker 4: He was a broomstick.
Speaker 1: Yeah wait wait wait.
Speaker 2: And and y'all all have that reaction. But the bitch
Speaker 2: fucking her side of the room is crazy. Do you
Speaker 2: know they're making Michelin star meals in jail. That's crazy.
Speaker 3: Now, this is what I feel like Weezy might do
Speaker 3: because she'd be doing a lot.
Speaker 4: But I don't know what if you can do it.
Speaker 3: This one's called praculus, so sink your teeth in the
Speaker 3: next move. It has the same positioning as missionary, but
Speaker 3: a bit more biting and licking. Whoever may be in control,
Speaker 3: Wolf will start biting, We'll start biting and licking everywhere
Speaker 3: as though they can't get enough as they penetrate their partner.
Speaker 3: This will stimulate pleasure in every part of your body
Speaker 3: rather than just one, which is crazy. Because I've done this,
Speaker 3: I've like, especially like before giving head. I've like I
Speaker 3: like licking kneecaps, like biting, like.
Speaker 4: The inner thighs. Damn looking at when you might wait
Speaker 4: hold on? So I ask you a question, what do
Speaker 4: you be looking at when you'uing them? You keep your
Speaker 4: eyes closed, be.
Speaker 1: Looking at it?
Speaker 5: I think I do keep my eyes closed.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're just watching her.
Speaker 4: I mean I do.
Speaker 5: I think it's a combination of both.
Speaker 1: The thig What time is it? Four? Four four? And
Speaker 1: I'll do the last one before we get a mother.
Speaker 1: I want to number be able to say, oh wow, look.
Speaker 4: At two three three.
Speaker 5: Numbers can be a lot, Numbers can be helpful.
Speaker 2: Numbers could be you you give a spiritual bitch of
Speaker 2: consecutive number.
Speaker 5: Listen, you're trying to stay in the game. Think about
Speaker 5: numbers and I'm gonna just throw that out there.
Speaker 1: Okay, so give the tip. Give this tip.
Speaker 2: Horrible the girl that we gave the tip, keep going.
Speaker 1: Tell me.
Speaker 3: I think about numbers in what way do you do
Speaker 3: like a boom back, like a like a boom like
Speaker 3: a one two three, both.
Speaker 4: Bay six once?
Speaker 5: I might actually do math?
Speaker 1: No, bro way, what math is you doing besides spreading
Speaker 1: and dividing?
Speaker 5: Specifically, I think about I think this is gonna sound crazy,
Speaker 5: but I think about stocks.
Speaker 4: You be thinking about ian when you fucking.
Speaker 5: No, no, no, I'm trying to stay in the game
Speaker 5: and I'm not ready yet. I start thinking about.
Speaker 1: What is what?
Speaker 3: No, no, no, do you think of mad and stocks and bullshit?
Speaker 3: To stop from coming without you, but you're able to
Speaker 3: still stay hard.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Interesting, Wait that makes you hard.
Speaker 5: No, it doesn't make me hard.
Speaker 1: Yes, completely completely, so he doesn't come.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I mean, because that's interesting because that's
Speaker 3: such a boring topic. Like when I went to the
Speaker 3: to the dungeon with my ex and we were trying
Speaker 3: to get him in a chastity belt. We literally started
Speaker 3: talking politics to get him soft. So like the idea
Speaker 3: or thought of anything that's not sexual, I would assume, well.
Speaker 5: Or you got to consider the fact I'm still stroking,
Speaker 5: so I'm not getting soft because I'm being stimulated in
Speaker 5: the whole other.
Speaker 3: Way mentally, there's no way now I can't I want
Speaker 3: to fuck a guy who I know might be behind
Speaker 3: me fucking me thinking about goddamn.
Speaker 5: I'm not saying it happens every time, but I'm saying
Speaker 5: if i'm I'm in a space where I'm not ready yet,
Speaker 5: Like I'm not done, I'm not ready.
Speaker 1: So you're someone who can't get back up.
Speaker 4: You're a one and done.
Speaker 5: Most how are we getting this far?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 4: I never said how are we doing this?
Speaker 1: Okay, let's be clear.
Speaker 2: Most men have a fractory period that's longer than women. Right,
Speaker 2: So even when you come, like, it's still gonna take
Speaker 2: a moment to get back up. So coming is still
Speaker 2: a delay. Even if he could get back up in
Speaker 2: a minute.
Speaker 4: And a half.
Speaker 5: It really just depends because it depends on a lot
Speaker 5: of things. Like if a dude ain't really came in
Speaker 5: a while, he probably gonna get back up way faster. True,
Speaker 5: you get what I'm saying. So it just depends like
Speaker 5: if he ain't had sex in a long time and
Speaker 5: then he finally having sex, he probably gonna be good
Speaker 5: to go like way.
Speaker 4: Sooner maybe, like and men in the room like five
Speaker 4: minutes bad. I'm ready, that's pretty I'm feeling you. Oh yeah,
Speaker 4: stop jacking off. I'm right back up.
Speaker 3: Well, this is gonna be the last one before we
Speaker 3: get into these role playes. So so under arrest, of course,
Speaker 3: is another sex position you can get into for the holidays.
Speaker 2: What seems to be the problem, officer, So there's no
Speaker 2: problem with this move. The person receiving the warning.
Speaker 3: Bends over on the bed while the officer holds their
Speaker 3: risks firmly in place on their lower back. Once the
Speaker 3: receiving partner is in place, the giving partner penetrates from behind,
Speaker 3: restraining the risk from moving.
Speaker 1: Now I feel like I've done that.
Speaker 4: I think I have to doggy styles also.
Speaker 3: Doggy saw but not all the time do they bring
Speaker 3: your arms to your back. I don't mind the restraint.
Speaker 2: I do that almost every time I do dogs really,
Speaker 2: like on my own, I just put my hands back
Speaker 2: because I like the real I like this whole like
Speaker 2: rocking back and forth of the ground. So when when
Speaker 2: they're behind me, the only time my hands go behind
Speaker 2: me or normally to spread my cheeks because it allows
Speaker 2: them to get deeper, because you know, it pushes them away.
Speaker 4: A little bit.
Speaker 3: So I'll just only go back there and then I'm
Speaker 3: like head first and I'm black there, you know, and
Speaker 3: I'm just spreading my cheeks open so they could get deeper.
Speaker 4: But they like that.
Speaker 2: I don't think I really I don't really do the restraint,
Speaker 2: but I have like a trauma with like I feel
Speaker 2: like I'm classier.
Speaker 3: I need to be able to move like I've I've
Speaker 3: tried to do. Like the the ties. You know that
Speaker 3: that tie it goes under your mattress and then you're
Speaker 3: you're tied.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, like Valentine's.
Speaker 3: When I tell you I like, my anxiety kicks in.
Speaker 3: I realize I hate restraints in the bedroom. Maybe I've
Speaker 3: watched too much Lifetime Mavie. So, real quick, before we
Speaker 3: get out of here, let's go over some outrageous role
Speaker 3: plate scenarios. So I wanted to know real quick too.
Speaker 3: Have any of y'all in the room ever done something
Speaker 3: to where it wasn't the typical nurse and patient, teacher, student,
Speaker 3: doctor dah.
Speaker 4: Blah blah blah.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I told you mine was sick.
Speaker 1: Oh you're Valentin's day one, right.
Speaker 2: No, So I basically when I got my braces, or
Speaker 2: it was when we were I don't know if you
Speaker 2: bought we were talking about, Oh, it was when I
Speaker 2: had embrace. Okay, we're talking about how I would have
Speaker 2: to learn how to kiss again, and then we did
Speaker 2: this weird It just jumped into it. It was not planned,
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh my god, I feel like
Speaker 2: I don't know how to kiss. And then he was like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, I feel like I'm in school. And
Speaker 2: so then he sat me down. Okay, y'all was in
Speaker 2: seventh grade. That's cute.
Speaker 1: He was like, Okay, open your mouth.
Speaker 2: I was like, girls nasty, and it was like, ooh,
Speaker 2: still girl, I the hole we was.
Speaker 3: It's crazy because I went down this Reddit thread of
Speaker 3: all of these outrageous things that people have actually played out,
Speaker 3: and we talked about it on September's town hall. It's
Speaker 3: so interesting, weasy, and we might have to find a
Speaker 3: way to really talk about it soon eventually, if we
Speaker 3: find a way to talk about it the right way.
Speaker 4: What how does.
Speaker 1: Worry what you gonna say? So too soon?
Speaker 4: So there's eventually.
Speaker 1: Much CNC role playing happening. Huh. CNC is consensual non consent,
Speaker 1: my jam.
Speaker 3: But I wanted to read some of these and I
Speaker 3: wanted for y'all to say if they're as weird as
Speaker 3: they sound. Of course, there's the old librarian and teacher one,
Speaker 3: but here's some other ones, and this one I really like.
Speaker 3: By the way, y'all know, I'm not fully into nerd shit,
Speaker 3: so correct me if I'm saying these wrongs. Sure, this
Speaker 3: one was one of the most interesting, based on even
Speaker 3: an upcoming order if we get so use fan fic
Speaker 3: for inspiration.
Speaker 1: One of the cliche quote.
Speaker 3: Unquote, most most out there fix I can think of
Speaker 3: as one from Harry Potter. So this is where Neville
Speaker 3: falls in the lake and ends up getting felt up
Speaker 3: and penetrated anally and orally by a squid. He ends
Speaker 3: up enjoying it that when he gets over, he he
Speaker 3: when he gets done with it and pulled out by Blaze.
Speaker 1: Vinny is that the name?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know Neville, I don't know, Okay, Neville.
Speaker 1: You know Blaize Vinny?
Speaker 3: Uh So Neville asked Blaze not to tell anyone, and
Speaker 3: Blaze is like, why would I let the seeker get
Speaker 3: out before jumping in himself to get it on with
Speaker 3: the squid? So basically, so basically, how you would do
Speaker 3: it is imagine that you are one of Hogwarts students
Speaker 3: and the other one is a squid or tentacle stuff.
Speaker 3: In general, there's technical like sex toys that you can get.
Speaker 3: Look up tentacle porn for many ideas.
Speaker 1: This is how many times are you gonna say this?
Speaker 3: But clearly this is what I felt seen when I
Speaker 3: read this. This is calm down. I might just be
Speaker 3: at a tonical porn right now, leave me alone. Okay,
Speaker 3: then you need to start dating white man.
Speaker 4: No, I feel like.
Speaker 2: I could get a black man to do tentacle porn
Speaker 2: with me.
Speaker 1: But now, what do you.
Speaker 6: Mean?
Speaker 1: We just don't do that.
Speaker 3: Don't blake gripping black because I don't want people to
Speaker 3: say Mandy and Wheezy black.
Speaker 4: Oh they definitely should that.
Speaker 1: It's crazy because for.
Speaker 2: Example, you could be Mandy and Whezy mixed, or you
Speaker 2: could be Obama mixed.
Speaker 1: Don't do that. We are Obama. How are we not
Speaker 1: Obama mix?
Speaker 4: We are you know what I'm saying, No, no, no, no,
Speaker 4: you know what.
Speaker 2: I don't know what you're saying.
Speaker 1: No no no no no no mixed?
Speaker 4: Right you what's Obama?
Speaker 1: You mix?
Speaker 2: Or you could be making Margle mixed. Technically, Megan Markle
Speaker 2: doesn't even claim.
Speaker 4: All of the black.
Speaker 1: Claiming I'm talking about. We look at big umens level.
Speaker 1: When I go up to dykeman, they know a bitch black.
Speaker 4: I know I'm not.
Speaker 1: No a dykeman.
Speaker 3: They don't mistake me is spamic Wow, Wow, it's what
Speaker 3: that's crazy And we're not gonna do this right now.
Speaker 3: I think we literally destigmatize cakes in the black community.
Speaker 3: There is a black man that will allow me to
Speaker 3: enjoy tentacle porn.
Speaker 2: Pegging's fine, This is too far. That is sure, fuck
Speaker 2: him in the ass of the tentacle.
Speaker 1: He's Steve tripping.
Speaker 3: So you think if I pull out my dil doos,
Speaker 3: because you know, I like to be I like to
Speaker 3: role play like I'm having a gang bang with dildos.
Speaker 3: If I pull out one dial dough in a tentacle,
Speaker 3: it's gonna mess up the mood.
Speaker 2: I want to go back to a man who said
Speaker 2: me having a sensual threesome with too much No, no, no no.
Speaker 2: If you pull this out, yes, you're gonna judge me. Okay,
Speaker 2: what if it ain't purple?
Speaker 1: Them?
Speaker 2: Look at them look like OCTOPI.
Speaker 4: That's what But that's what it is. That's what I'm hing.
Speaker 4: It looks like too.
Speaker 1: What about the ones that look moro alien like?
Speaker 4: Yeah, that looks pretty crazy.
Speaker 2: It has a little things on it, the pop things.
Speaker 3: It might feel good, that's ridges in my pussy. It
Speaker 3: might be good it for me to feel it inside.
Speaker 2: It'll give me a different sensation than a regular Okay.
Speaker 3: Next one, This is where again CNC was brought up.
Speaker 3: This is where he brought up so rich, petulant housewife
Speaker 3: who keeps calling her private position for house calls for
Speaker 3: a bogus illness where she really just wants to fuck
Speaker 3: but he doesn't, but somehow she always wears him down.
Speaker 3: Another one, if you're in de bond in your CNC,
Speaker 3: this is where I don't know, maybe trigger warning. You
Speaker 3: can tie her up and then pretend that you're a
Speaker 3: leader of a sex trafficking ring and you want and
Speaker 3: and you need slash, want to test her out before
Speaker 3: you see.
Speaker 1: One.
Speaker 3: Now I'm judging you, bitch, So you want to be
Speaker 3: a test on me before you get sex traffic.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Jesus, Jesus, I'm here.
Speaker 1: Here's the similar idea for you guys.
Speaker 3: If you're into fan fiction, you're a warrior back from
Speaker 3: battle and she's your prize from war. She has to
Speaker 3: do whatever you say or be killed. I personally like
Speaker 3: to imagine call Drago for this one. Crazy okay, And
Speaker 3: someone said, you can tell we're into C and C.
Speaker 3: Another idea is you're a stalker. You break into her
Speaker 3: house in the middle of the night while her husband
Speaker 3: is out of town on business. You threaten to kill
Speaker 3: the kids. If she's not quiet and does what you ask,
Speaker 3: joke's on you. She's into the ship and focks you,
Speaker 3: right back now.
Speaker 1: This is a nasty one.
Speaker 3: Before we get out of here, and I was like, wow,
Speaker 3: this one's kind of crazy. This one's a fantasy that
Speaker 3: he wants to do but hasn't. But oh wait, no,
Speaker 3: I'm lying. This is a fantasy. Oh yeah, and a
Speaker 3: fantasy he won't admit to having.
Speaker 1: I'm lying. It's a girl.
Speaker 3: My husband and I are driving and I have to pee,
Speaker 3: but he won't stop and tells me to hold it.
Speaker 3: My squirming turns him on and he pets my pissy
Speaker 3: and teases me.
Speaker 2: I swear I'll piss all in his truck, so he
Speaker 2: pulls over but pushes me down in the weeds and
Speaker 2: tickles me until I piss my pants. Then he pisses
Speaker 2: all over me too, Then he bucks me. It makes
Speaker 2: me get dressed in my bra and pissy panties for
Speaker 2: the ride back home, half naked and miserable, which comes
Speaker 2: still leaking out of my slit.
Speaker 1: I think the octopus is worse. I don't like that?
Speaker 4: Is it because I want this? This is making the
Speaker 4: octopus a little better.
Speaker 3: Wait her sitting in piss filled clothes and being pushed
Speaker 3: into the weeds and bucked and pissed on is less
Speaker 3: than my tentacle dildo.
Speaker 4: Teach me no, see that. I think this is where
Speaker 4: we different because p I'm like, whoa.
Speaker 1: Wait, but do you think the tentacle dildo?
Speaker 4: That whole sequence you just described sounding way worse than t.
Speaker 2: That's what I think we see. I think it's just
Speaker 2: trying to judge me. I swear to god, I really
Speaker 2: I said, you're gonna have to fo o oh.
Speaker 4: I was definitely right.
Speaker 1: Okay, what was the worst one she named?
Speaker 4: Baby?
Speaker 1: You just might be sex trapped? You literally just made
Speaker 1: it actually playing it. Let me get you have to
Speaker 1: me before I all these other people. That was crazy.
Speaker 4: I just say, I've never done role playing in any sense.
Speaker 1: Whoa, it's so weird. Wait, y'all have never done role playing.
Speaker 4: It's not like it was like I just never thought
Speaker 4: about it.
Speaker 2: You know. You know what we did the other day
Speaker 2: and it was mad funny. I was swiping bitches on
Speaker 2: this app and he was sleeping and he woke up
Speaker 2: and he was like, what did you do it? Because
Speaker 2: I moved the phone. I was like, y'all, feel like
Speaker 2: I just cheated, and he's laughing. It was like, actually,
Speaker 2: the bitches of this app so he was like, show me.
Speaker 2: So I'm showing him the girls that matched us, and
Speaker 2: he started sucking me.
Speaker 1: I was looking. He was like, right her back. We
Speaker 1: were fucking, and I was like, that's how you freeing
Speaker 1: this again? But literally he woke up at two am.
Speaker 1: I just couldn't sleep.
Speaker 3: I'm not mad at that I've done. I've done. I've
Speaker 3: done the like we met at the bar thing I've done.
Speaker 3: I've done quite a bit of consensual non consent as well.
Speaker 1: But oh so I'm the problem.
Speaker 2: No, no, Nora, I've never done a sex drafficking one,
Speaker 2: but like I would do like the I'm a teenage
Speaker 2: girl at a party and drink too much. Oh my lord,
Speaker 2: please stop it, stop it trigger warning.
Speaker 1: I'm just what but I asked for it. We don't
Speaker 1: do that.
Speaker 4: I don't.
Speaker 1: You were being really judging rate?
Speaker 4: Damn she be to him have.
Speaker 2: A how she you know what? Well now junior senior year,
Speaker 2: you know what?
Speaker 5: Go off?
Speaker 2: Hey we have the sex podcast. Only I could judge
Speaker 2: this bitch.
Speaker 1: That is crazy. So stop. You're disgusting anyway, And you
Speaker 1: don't know what Dollar Vanilla talking about, y'all. He never
Speaker 1: role play with y'all.
Speaker 4: Old as never thought I don't even know where to start.
Speaker 1: Honestly, we were literally I do, like I know, I do.
Speaker 4: Like the meeting like my significant other at a bar
Speaker 4: kind of thing.
Speaker 1: That's okay.
Speaker 2: I say this role playing just for example, like it's
Speaker 2: not always black and white. When I was like younger,
Speaker 2: I used to think role playing was I'm a nurse,
Speaker 2: you're a doctor with stress up. Sometimes we're in the
Speaker 2: middle of sex and we just start talking about some ship.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.
Speaker 2: But that because role playing, though, yeah, because like the
Speaker 2: voice is changing.
Speaker 4: Like oh different, no no, no, no, no no no.
Speaker 2: I for example, what's the name missed the glasses? Who
Speaker 2: nigga with all the person I'm you know, like for
Speaker 2: example this, let's just say we went out for drinks,
Speaker 2: regular date night, regular home, We start sucking, and then
Speaker 2: he might just say some ship like I can't believe
Speaker 2: you let me fuck you before your boyfriend came home, and.
Speaker 1: Then you just start going it's very much.
Speaker 3: And oh and see, okay, you're you're starting a scene
Speaker 3: in the middle already fucking Okay.
Speaker 1: I'm not sad at that. I mean, well, well, technically
Speaker 1: I've done that, Like I do that a lot.
Speaker 4: I mean, I've done that.
Speaker 2: Again where we we role play with the other dildos.
Speaker 3: Because maybe he's tired and I'm still like I want
Speaker 3: to keep fucking. So he brings in these. He's like, well,
Speaker 3: I need a break.
Speaker 2: Watching something he said during your closure talk is so crazy.
Speaker 4: I know, I know you're now do you have a tentacle?
Speaker 4: You said, what you have a tentacle dildo?
Speaker 1: I don't have a textic. I've been looking. I mean,
Speaker 1: I've been looking them up.
Speaker 3: I told you, I mean, y'all hear in another episode,
Speaker 3: like the egg laying ones. There's also some that are
Speaker 3: like the size of my four Like there's some that
Speaker 3: are like really big. So I ended up on like
Speaker 3: this video where this woman was getting gaped by a
Speaker 3: tentacle dido, Like they're massive. So I'm like, and then
Speaker 3: you know, they're different shapes. Some of them have points,
Speaker 3: some of them are thicker at the base. And I
Speaker 3: just don't know what type of tentacle I want to
Speaker 3: be sucked by. Just let me just say, I don't
Speaker 3: like I don't like the side.
Speaker 2: But right now, buddy, this show December third, someone's bringing
Speaker 2: your technical day.
Speaker 1: You might get a few people have brought me books. People,
Speaker 1: I don't do that.
Speaker 3: I got books too. Don't make it seem like you
Speaker 3: just get books. I'm about get tentacle. Don't try to No, no,
Speaker 3: I've got We both have gotten drugs with that one bitch.
Speaker 1: You drugged me in Detroit. Whoa you got drugged in Detroit? Bro,
Speaker 1: you don't remember. She brought me that popcorn and I
Speaker 1: was fucked up and I was like, I don't know
Speaker 1: if I can make this like, yeah, maybe I should
Speaker 1: have ate it edible hungry.
Speaker 2: First off, we gotta stop just accepting drugs from some
Speaker 2: of these people.
Speaker 1: Could be the haters on you. No, no, no, but
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. They could be wanting us.
Speaker 2: They could want to take us the funk out from nobody.
Speaker 4: No more.
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna hold you. After I see all these comments.
Speaker 2: Niggas could be wanting us gone. They think that we
Speaker 2: are ruined at society and culture, bitch. They literally think
Speaker 2: that we are the reason there's holes out. You know,
Speaker 2: I never thought when bitches be bringing me stuff they'd
Speaker 2: be like, there's no eggs in it.
Speaker 1: It's their mind, be bitch.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
Speaker 4: No, but they know I like it. Don't matter.
Speaker 1: You can't fight if you.
Speaker 2: In the hospital, bitch, I'm coming back to see another day.
Speaker 1: And it does be fear.
Speaker 3: We sometimes don't have picked or even know if they
Speaker 3: don't put their Instagram name on our gifts.
Speaker 1: Sometimes we know it gives a popcorn.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I keep calling you, bitch. I don't care that
Speaker 2: brought that popcord. Mandy I was on I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2: That shows how and it shows how much we didn't
Speaker 2: view ourselves a celebrities because we were taking drugs, cakes meals.
Speaker 1: That was last year.
Speaker 2: Oh, COVID, didn't scare your ass. You about to be
Speaker 2: Agent zero. I did not eat that guy. Damn park Work.
Speaker 2: I told you I can't do edibles.
Speaker 1: The worst.
Speaker 2: We had a show the night of a Taylor Swift show,
Speaker 2: so we had to stay in this really shitty hotel.
Speaker 1: That's right. It wasn't that shitty, was it?
Speaker 4: Oh? It was.
Speaker 2: That was a bad carpet. The fan was attached to
Speaker 2: the wall, and I was just like, well, don't do that.
Speaker 2: I was already in the sheet on my clothes, like
Speaker 2: you know, like the.
Speaker 4: High in a bad hotel.
Speaker 1: I got a plane. Wasn't was that Detroit or Chicago.
Speaker 1: Was that Detroit Orchago? It wasn't it Taylor Swift. It
Speaker 1: was the first. It was the first, trust me, I remember,
Speaker 1: oh I remember, oh yeah, that was I was like
Speaker 1: our group chat with Mandy and Vinnie, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Maybe we had no other We had no other options.
Speaker 2: All the hotels were gone because Tylor Swift was in town.
Speaker 1: That's right. We didn't even stay close to the venue.
Speaker 3: We was like thirty minutes out from the venue and
Speaker 3: we normally like to stay kind of closed.
Speaker 1: It was ghetto.
Speaker 2: I was shaking, I was googling hot like shitting it out.
Speaker 2: I was trying everything, two pieces of popcorn.
Speaker 4: And then she was like, again, she did not tell
Speaker 4: you this was it was too.
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Speaker 3: The last on the hotline, I started with breaking down
Speaker 3: kind of where I was mentally, and so many of
Speaker 3: you reassured me that I'm not a bad person, which
Speaker 3: I appreciate, but I didn't realize, which I guess I
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Speaker 3: the same life, just a little bit, maybe at different
Speaker 3: moments in our lives, but we all are going through
Speaker 3: the same fucking shit, trying to navigate life and life
Speaker 3: be life, and sometimes.
Speaker 1: I'm not in that place particularly anymore.
Speaker 2: By the time you guys hear this, y'all probably would
Speaker 2: have seen me cry on a regular episode.
Speaker 1: I've been dealing with grief lately. I lost a friend
Speaker 1: and former manager recently, and in dealing with grief, there
Speaker 1: was a lot of.
Speaker 3: This idea of closure or regret for not, you know,
Speaker 3: taking my trip to Tokyo or Dallas and spending more
Speaker 3: time with him. Because of course, if you know something
Speaker 3: is coming to an end or a person is leaving,
Speaker 3: you want to fill that up with great amazing memories, right,
Speaker 3: So boom story.
Speaker 1: Time, y'all.
Speaker 3: This this is really interesting because in speaking of closure,
Speaker 3: I did not know what closure would look like with
Speaker 3: a heartbreak. Yes, if you are sick of hearing about
Speaker 3: my ex, you could turn it off.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 3: However, this is almost like the universe was like, bitch,
Speaker 3: let me do this for you in this grieving moment,
Speaker 3: xyz element op so boom. So I go to the funeral,
Speaker 3: Rest in peace, Jason Hoodie.
Speaker 1: But so I go to the funeral and in Harlem.
Speaker 3: So I met the funeral over on one sixteenth, I
Speaker 3: think it was and funeral. And you know, after the funeral,
Speaker 3: you gotta go to the repast. So asking around, asking around,
Speaker 3: I'm starving. I did not eat that morning funeral. They
Speaker 3: had the viewing at ten, the funeral service from eleven
Speaker 3: to one, and then the repass was one to five.
Speaker 3: A bitch was hungry, a bitch was dehydrated. Because I
Speaker 3: had no more tears to cry. I just sat there
Speaker 3: and bawled my eyes out for literally about two hours.
Speaker 3: And so when it came time to eat, couldn't nobody
Speaker 3: tell me who cooked the food at the repast?
Speaker 1: And I was like, well, I just say go eat
Speaker 1: just anybody food.
Speaker 3: So went across the street to Amy Rus had smothered
Speaker 3: turkey wings, because that's my shit if I go to
Speaker 3: a motherfucking soul food restaurants. So I had smothered turkey
Speaker 3: wings with sutaine okra and make and cheese. And then
Speaker 3: I was with a friend of mine, Ayana and Ishmael,
Speaker 3: and we were like, you know what, I want to
Speaker 3: go grab a drink. This has been a heavy last
Speaker 3: two weeks with the realization that we lost our friend.
Speaker 3: The service was beautiful, but very heavily emotional and bitch,
Speaker 3: y'all know I'd be liking a drink. So we go
Speaker 3: on over to Harlem Tavern. We have a drink. About
Speaker 3: four more of our friends join us and end up
Speaker 3: heading back to the Repast.
Speaker 2: So as we're leaving the bar, though y'all ready for this.
Speaker 2: As we're leaving the bar.
Speaker 3: I see my ex's truck. Now, bitch, let me tell
Speaker 3: y'all how my heart against sake, But not really because
Speaker 3: I didn't know what emotions to have, because y'all know,
Speaker 3: I had already ran into the motherfucker at the park
Speaker 3: so where I had a whole panic attack.
Speaker 1: So I see his car and I'm like, I don't
Speaker 1: know if this is really his truck.
Speaker 3: But it makes sense because retired firefighter, that nigga gonna
Speaker 3: double park wherever. He don't believe in rules, he don't
Speaker 3: believe in tickets, he gonna park that car. So I
Speaker 3: look and see the car and I go to the
Speaker 3: front to see in the dashboard or you know, see
Speaker 3: any stickers to identify the vehicle, and it's his and
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, this nigga gotta be at Bixi. Bixi
Speaker 3: is the bar right in front of where his car was.
Speaker 3: So I tell my homegirl. I was like, bitch, is
Speaker 3: a nigga that broke my heart? This is car, this
Speaker 3: is my ex car. Bitch, let's just go into the bar,
Speaker 3: get a shot, and I'm gonna be loud with it,
Speaker 3: and I'm gonna make sure he see me and fill
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