Speaker 1: Second date of date. What activities count as dates? I mean,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of things you could do, like a
Speaker 1: romantic evening out. Yeah, drinks in a movie, that's a
Speaker 1: good one. Romantic unicycle ride, one on top, one on bottom,
Speaker 1: you're on bottom of the wheel, if you ever do that?
Speaker 1: Like where where are you? Are you seat or shoulders? Oh?
Speaker 1: I see, was just running over the top of the other.
Speaker 1: I didn't understand. It's like a little pyramid on the
Speaker 1: unicycle you I sure, yeah, I could see Michault riding
Speaker 1: on your shoulders. Anyway, A lot of stuff can classify
Speaker 1: as a date, but this one, I don't know if
Speaker 1: it counts really why? And you know, we're pretty lenient
Speaker 1: here when it comes to what is allowed as a
Speaker 1: date here, but I'm not really sure about this one.
Speaker 1: Let's just welcome to the show, Jessica. Jessica, how you doing? Hi?
Speaker 1: How are you? Would you do Jessica, like your taxes
Speaker 1: together or something? Well, I still think that would count.
Speaker 1: We'll get to your date night activity in just a second.
Speaker 1: First one, don't you tell us about the guy that
Speaker 1: we're going to call? Who is he? Where'd you meet him? Oh? Well,
Speaker 1: his name is Lewis, and um, I met him on Tinder? Okay,
Speaker 1: did you make the first contact? Yeah? Contact whatever the word?
Speaker 1: Did you hit him up first? Oh my god, you guys.
Speaker 1: Did you inquire with him? Did you make his acquaintance?
Speaker 1: What did you What did you say to get his attention?
Speaker 1: You know, I just said Hi, how are you? And
Speaker 1: all you have to do for us? Oh? Coming on
Speaker 1: a little strong there with that, don't you think, Jessica.
Speaker 1: But anyway, so what did you and Lewis end up doing? Well?
Speaker 1: I mean, this is how it just worked out. I
Speaker 1: know it sounds kind of weird, but he helped me
Speaker 1: move on the first date? Help you move? Yeah? Were
Speaker 1: you just hitting up tinder? Funny one guy with the truck? Oh,
Speaker 1: come on a day with me? Yeah? I mean we
Speaker 1: could figure out a real date to meet or a
Speaker 1: night to meet because I was just running around trying
Speaker 1: to figure out where I was going to move Max
Speaker 1: and the the only real date was the day of
Speaker 1: my move and he was fine with it. Okay, So
Speaker 1: so you suggested it like, hey, yeah, you can help
Speaker 1: me move, wow? And he actually said yes. I mean
Speaker 1: that tells you that he's definitely a good guy, just right, yeah,
Speaker 1: or you know what I think. But honestly, it could
Speaker 1: be a good like sign if you're a match or
Speaker 1: not right, like because movie I could either be a
Speaker 1: fun experience or it can turn into like an argument
Speaker 1: over you're not doing something right experience. Well, like you know,
Speaker 1: it shows you if you can work together. Absolutely, So
Speaker 1: how did it go, Jessica? Well, you know what, he
Speaker 1: just showed up that day and she had a great attitude,
Speaker 1: like he was super cool. Okay, And did you have
Speaker 1: other friends helping you or was it just you and him? Well?
Speaker 1: I could have asked other friends, but it would have
Speaker 1: been weird with a tender date, So was just him
Speaker 1: and I? Did you at least, like when people help
Speaker 1: you move, you have to get him like pizza at
Speaker 1: the end of the night in beer, Like that's just
Speaker 1: kind of status quo. Did you go to dinner or
Speaker 1: anything at the end? Yeah, after we moved, Like, I
Speaker 1: offered to pay him because I felt so bad. You
Speaker 1: offered to pay him? You said, yeah, and he didn't
Speaker 1: accept that. So I did say, they have a pizza
Speaker 1: and drinks, and so that's what we did. Okay, he Tony.
Speaker 1: I'm still trying to figure out if there was like
Speaker 1: a love connection there, Like did you guys bond? Yeah?
Speaker 1: So we did. Um, we really got to know each other.
Speaker 1: You know. He told me that he was overseas, like
Speaker 1: if he played guitar things like I didn't know from
Speaker 1: the sendew profile. I found out he could lift seventy
Speaker 1: pounds and he's really good at lifting. It was late,
Speaker 1: what was like the low light of the evening outside
Speaker 1: of just the overall move like he's not calling back,
Speaker 1: so like, what was there any bad time? Yeah? Well,
Speaker 1: I have a harp and it's a little bit large.
Speaker 1: Did you say a harp like the instrument like a
Speaker 1: fall harp? Wow? Worst things are enormous. You're rich an
Speaker 1: zero people with heart. Classy people have heart. So it
Speaker 1: makes sense if we don't know anybody. But he didn't
Speaker 1: like the harp. It was too heavy. Yeah, so like,
Speaker 1: I mean we did have a trouble moving it in
Speaker 1: and out of the truck. Did it lead to a
Speaker 1: fight or an argument or anything? No, it just was heavy. Okay,
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I mean it sounds like kind of a
Speaker 1: stressful date if I'm the guy. But I mean, how
Speaker 1: did things end? Well? I mean after that, I walked
Speaker 1: him through the door and I kissed him. Oh oh dude,
Speaker 1: I like that. A real forward harpist. She's like, I
Speaker 1: busted out my piccolo first, and I said, I call
Speaker 1: him after I got settled a bit, and so that's
Speaker 1: how we ended it. Did you call him? Yeah, so
Speaker 1: I did text him after cool days and then texted
Speaker 1: him again and I didn't hear back. Okay, I mean
Speaker 1: it seems pretty cut and dry. I probably thought that
Speaker 1: you were like asking him to do another favor for you.
Speaker 1: Move somewhere else, right, help a friend move now, offered
Speaker 1: him money. It does feel like you were just using
Speaker 1: him for that. No, I was pretty clear about it,
Speaker 1: like I said, no, next time, we're gonna have fun.
Speaker 1: We're just gonna only have fun. Okay, it's only the
Speaker 1: first date that you gotta earn it like we're unpacking
Speaker 1: the well, let's find out what's going on. We're gonna
Speaker 1: play a song. We'll come back and call Lewis and
Speaker 1: try and get you your second date update. Okay, thank you,
Speaker 1: Hold on, Jessica. Today's second date update features the musical
Speaker 1: stylings of our listener Jessica, who owns a giant harp
Speaker 1: and her date Lewis knows that because he helped her
Speaker 1: move it along with everything else in her apartment. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because that was their date helping her move. I mean,
Speaker 1: if your first date on tender was helping someone move,
Speaker 1: would you go out with him again? Jessica's hoping the
Speaker 1: answer is yes, Yeah, I get better from there? Right? Yes?
Speaker 1: I bet Jessica you would even pay for another dinner
Speaker 1: for him, because moving is expensive and it's pretty cool
Speaker 1: what Lewis did for you there. Yeah, yeah, I would.
Speaker 1: But wouldn't you guys do that for a second date? Ye? Words,
Speaker 1: But Jessica, you are a woman who knows the systems
Speaker 1: and knows how to work out, don't you? Is that
Speaker 1: the only reason that you're doing this is just for
Speaker 1: the free dinner? Hey? Can I get a card? We
Speaker 1: are not hating, not a woman who likes a deal. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be hard for me to be invested in days.
Speaker 1: I really like him. It has nothing to do with
Speaker 1: any free dinner. Okay. Good, it's nice that you say that,
Speaker 1: even if you don't believe it helps me with this. Right,
Speaker 1: let's call Lewis. Are you feeling ready? Jessica? Who are Okay? Here?
Speaker 1: We go, I'm in a Dillar's number right now. Hello, Hey,
Speaker 1: is this Lewis? Yeah, let's see. Hey Lewis, how you doing.
Speaker 1: My name is jeff from the radio show Broken Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the Morning. Really yeah, really mean? Oh cool? What's
Speaker 1: up guys? Hey? Hellois, thanks for listening obviously. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm a big fan. Okay. I was wondering if it
Speaker 1: was that or you're just one of, you know, Jeffrey's
Speaker 1: Craigslist clients. I didn't know which. You can fall into
Speaker 1: both categories. It's okay, Yeah, that's funny. Who's Jeffrey? Oh okay, okay,
Speaker 1: a little dagger right there. Yeah, I'm just kidding. I
Speaker 1: know it's you treating me like my parents. Dude, I like,
Speaker 1: we're so we're doing a second date update right now.
Speaker 1: You obviously know how those work. Oh yeah, okay, all right?
Speaker 1: And so you went out with somebody who also listens
Speaker 1: to our show named Jessica. Oh right, Jessica. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: did you consider that a date? Yeah? I guess so. Okay.
Speaker 1: I mean she said it ended with pizza and a kiss,
Speaker 1: which I think qualifies as a date. I mean I
Speaker 1: also kissed my movers when I moved all four of them.
Speaker 1: But for me, app wasn't a date, was it? Tongue
Speaker 1: with tongue? Look, I'm just kidding again. I'm okay, I
Speaker 1: got you. I mean she told us that, Like, she
Speaker 1: let you know that it was going to be you
Speaker 1: helping her move, and you seem to be okay with it.
Speaker 1: It's not like you were going in blind to this date, right.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Like I didn't want to seem like a jerk,
Speaker 1: and it seemed like that she needed help, So yeah,
Speaker 1: I was trying to help out. It was just that
Speaker 1: was the first one totally. It was it was nice,
Speaker 1: like once we got done with everything, we conversed and
Speaker 1: did like normal date stuff. Obviously she felt the same
Speaker 1: way as you did, because that's why she's asking us
Speaker 1: to reach out to you right now. She's confused why
Speaker 1: after having a really good time, you've been kind of
Speaker 1: avoiding her. Well, I'm a bit confused. Why are you confused?
Speaker 1: I mean she said she was the one that kissed
Speaker 1: you at the end of the night. Yeah, and that
Speaker 1: was nice. I just um, let me lay the sp
Speaker 1: for you guys. As I was leaving, I went downstairs,
Speaker 1: right and I was looking at the mailboxes there, you know,
Speaker 1: it's got everybody's name on the mailboxes and stuff. And
Speaker 1: I looked at her unit and it said mister and
Speaker 1: missus on it. It was wait from her current place
Speaker 1: or her new place, because maybe it was like a
Speaker 1: previous tenant. If it was her new place, well maybe maybe.
Speaker 1: And that's thought to run across my line. I'm here,
Speaker 1: you got it all wrong, Okay, Okay, Jessica, remember you're
Speaker 1: supposed to wait till I call you in. Oh sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I thought it interrupted at this point. And so, yeah, Lewis,
Speaker 1: there's Jessica. She's been one to talk to. Hey, um, okay,
Speaker 1: you obviously knew she was listening. Louis, it sounds like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I kind of was suspicious for that from the start,
Speaker 1: I know. Okay, Well, now that you are both on, Jessica,
Speaker 1: what's going on with the mister and missus thing on that? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean you got you have it all wrong, Louis, Like,
Speaker 1: the reality is I'm not married, and I don't know
Speaker 1: why it's those mister misses, but I'm not married. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: So so the mister and missus is from the previous tenant.
Speaker 1: That's what you're saying. Well, I mean I'm in an
Speaker 1: open relationship. Yeah, yes, I'm with another guy, but we're
Speaker 1: in an open relationship. You're in an open relationship, and
Speaker 1: the other dude wasn't helping move, like you had to
Speaker 1: find somebody on Tinder. Yeah, we know he's out of town.
Speaker 1: So he's out of town most of the time anyway.
Speaker 1: And yeah, so like those were his golf clubs. Oh,
Speaker 1: I mean it's our golf clubs. But yeah, you made
Speaker 1: him move the other Like, why wouldn't you tell him that? Well?
Speaker 1: Are your golf clubs in an open relationship? Can other
Speaker 1: people use your golf clubs? I like, Louisa, you still
Speaker 1: have a good sense of humor about this. Maybe maybe
Speaker 1: you're open to it. Maybe it's okay with you. I
Speaker 1: don't know. Yeah, I'm it's like people who are on
Speaker 1: Tinder are mostly in open relationships what they are really Yeah,
Speaker 1: people also disclose that in their profile. Yeah I've seen that,
Speaker 1: but they they're all honest about it in the bios.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's just your algorithm. Does your boyfriend know it's
Speaker 1: an open relationship? Good question? Yeah, I mean I don't
Speaker 1: think you. I don't think he minds that. I don't
Speaker 1: think he mind. I think yeah, And I didn't think
Speaker 1: Lewis would mind either. Okay, why didn't you talk about
Speaker 1: it right off the bat? I mean it feels like
Speaker 1: something you were hiding when you don't tell someone right away, right.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's hard to talk about like in the
Speaker 1: first date. You know, I could see that. I could
Speaker 1: see how like leading with that might turn a lot
Speaker 1: of people off. So maybe you hold it back for
Speaker 1: a date or two before you reveal I'm actually with
Speaker 1: another person in love with you, and then they can't
Speaker 1: leave you. Yeah, it's like a little a little fun
Speaker 1: little love trap. Yeah. I love a great idea with that.
Speaker 1: I feel like people who are in open relationships should
Speaker 1: be really, really upfront about it. Yeah. Bottom line is
Speaker 1: I didn't use him to move. That's why I'm calling
Speaker 1: to hang out with him again. So okay, don't accuse
Speaker 1: you that. Yeah, it's kind of weird that defensive about it. Lewis,
Speaker 1: I mean, how do you feel about this situation? Are
Speaker 1: you open to it? I'm kind of I'm kind of
Speaker 1: torn because I wish you would have just been upfront
Speaker 1: with me from the beginning, because time is sort of
Speaker 1: like a, I don't know. It's a commodity that I
Speaker 1: don't have a lot of, and I feel like you
Speaker 1: kind of wasted it a little bit. I just wish
Speaker 1: you would have been more up fun. Right. I appreciate
Speaker 1: you Lewis for saying this. But you know, maybe if
Speaker 1: you meet both of us, you might want to hang
Speaker 1: out with us. Oh yeah, I didn't even think about that, Lewis. Yeah,
Speaker 1: her other guy might be pretty cool. You could use
Speaker 1: like a cool guy friend along with your girlfriend. Right,
Speaker 1: So this is getting kind of weird for me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: weird or fun? Well, I mean it's sort of dependent.
Speaker 1: From my perspective, it's a little weirder, Like, what does
Speaker 1: this mean for us? We have to play for three
Speaker 1: people to go out to eat or just two? Like,
Speaker 1: where are we at on that? We only have one
Speaker 1: gift card, so we'll let you guys decide how you
Speaker 1: want to split it. But we are going to offer
Speaker 1: to send you guys out on another date. We will
Speaker 1: pay for that next date if you're up for it, Lewis.
Speaker 1: I mean, we had a great connection, Lewis, and I
Speaker 1: would hate for it not to at least explore explore
Speaker 1: hashtag exploration hashtag harp action dart Lady was going to
Speaker 1: be this. Oh, maybe that's the sign of an open relationship.
Speaker 1: If somebody owns at Lewis, I appreciate what you're saying, Esca,
Speaker 1: and that's just not what I'm looking for. You're you're
Speaker 1: a one partner type of Fellah Lewis. Yeah, I'm just
Speaker 1: not a thruffles kind of guy. You know, it's important
Speaker 1: to know about yourself, but not in your dating bio. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then Jessica, you may want to add into your
Speaker 1: dating profile what people are you know, what your expectations are. Yeah,
Speaker 1: just put a little harp in your profile. Everyone will know.
Speaker 1: Look at Jeffrey in the morning.