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Speaker 1: Hi guys, and welcome back to another new episode of

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Speaker 1: Couch Talks. My name is Kat and if you are

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Speaker 1: wondering what couch Talks is, it is the bonus episode

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Speaker 1: of You Need Therapy that comes out every single Wednesday,

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Speaker 1: where I answer questions that you guys send into me,

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Speaker 1: and if you would like to send a question in

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Speaker 1: you can send that to Catherine at You Need Therapy

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Speaker 1: podcast dot com and hopefully one day I will get

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Speaker 1: to it. Always we like to remind you guys that yes,

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Speaker 1: I'm a therapist, and yes I am answering questions that

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Speaker 1: you send to a therapist. And at the same time,

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Speaker 1: this is not therapy. However, it could encourage you to go.

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Speaker 1: It could encourage you to talk about something specific in

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Speaker 1: your own therapy process if you're already going now. If

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Speaker 1: you can't tell I might sound sound a little weird

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Speaker 1: today because gosh, I have really bad allergies and I

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Speaker 1: don't think I've ever had allergies until the last couple

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Speaker 1: for the first time ever in my life yesterday thirty

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Speaker 1: two and it seems like this is my new journey,

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Speaker 1: So excuse my voice if I sound a little different.

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Speaker 1: Hopefully we'll be on the mend by next week. Now

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Speaker 1: before we jump into the questions, we're going to get

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Speaker 1: back to the attachment questions. And I have one more

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Speaker 1: that I want to share with you, guys. I wanted

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Speaker 1: to also thank you for all of the support you

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Speaker 1: have given my friend Katy and her family. And if

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Speaker 1: you listen to the last Couch Talks, I talked about

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Speaker 1: Ukraine and how I do have a friend whose family

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Speaker 1: is there, and it's really hard to one just know

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Speaker 1: what's going on in the world, but also see somebody

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Speaker 1: personally going through something that is so difficult and so scary.

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Speaker 1: But you guys, you know, really surprised me. And I'm

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Speaker 1: so overwhelmed with the support that you have given her.

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Speaker 1: She is so grateful, and she's been posting where she's

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Speaker 1: donating the money and what it's being used to buy.

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Speaker 1: And it's very cool because you can see like your

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Speaker 1: can't get access to that kind of stuff. Right now

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Speaker 1: it's really cool. So you don't know what I'm talking about.

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Speaker 1: You can listen to last week's episode, the Stand with

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Speaker 1: Ukraine episode, and you can follow my friend on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: Her name is Katia. Her Instagram name is at Nails

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Speaker 1: by Katia dot t n and you can stay donate

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Speaker 1: with that. You can donate to her venmo. You can

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Speaker 1: do all those things if you want to know other

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Speaker 1: wise you can help. I have a slide on the

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Speaker 1: Union Therapy podcast Instagram page that has ways and then

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Speaker 1: websites and links that you can get involved stand formed help.

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Speaker 1: So this week we are getting back into some attachment questions.

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Speaker 1: I have one question that I'm going to answer to

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Speaker 1: I also reached out and asked if I could read

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Speaker 1: But also sometimes I get a little bit not nervous,

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Speaker 1: I got full permission to read it, and here it is.

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Speaker 1: Hi Cat, I've been listening to your podcast for about

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Speaker 1: I have learned a lot about myself. I've been listening

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Speaker 1: to your series on attachment styles, and of course it

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Speaker 1: makes me wonder about myself and the people I have

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Speaker 1: had a reoccurring issue in our relationship where I feel

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Speaker 1: and then every few months it boils over and we have,

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Speaker 1: Thus they found themselves in a permanent commitment. Well, sure,

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Speaker 1: that could be true. I think there's also a room

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Speaker 1: the past. However, at that same point, like what was

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Speaker 1: So I hope that this was helpful, per usual, however

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Speaker 1: helpful that maybe again you can follow my friend Katya

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Speaker 1: at Nails by Katya Doten to help stay informed on

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Speaker 1: what's going on in Ukraine and in ways that you

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Speaker 1: Ukraine in general. And I hope you guys have the

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Speaker 1: day you need to have, the week you need to have.

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Speaker 1: I will talk to you guys again on Monday, hopefully

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Speaker 1: feeling much much better.