1 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,960 Speaker 1: Hey everybody, Emily Badi here coming in with the last 2 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:27,640 Speaker 1: episode of season fourteen of Hurdles A. It's been a 3 00:00:27,680 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 1: little bit of an unconventional week for the podcast, large 4 00:00:30,440 --> 00:00:34,080 Speaker 1: in part due to the fact that I am all 5 00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: over the place. 6 00:00:35,040 --> 00:00:35,400 Speaker 2: Akaa. 7 00:00:35,640 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 1: I am in Florence, as I speak about in this 8 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:41,720 Speaker 1: week's marathon recap. I want to say thanks so much 9 00:00:41,760 --> 00:00:44,559 Speaker 1: to everyone for so many of your kind words in 10 00:00:44,600 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 1: response to. 11 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:48,160 Speaker 2: That, your emails, your d ms. 12 00:00:48,880 --> 00:00:51,280 Speaker 1: It's so appreciated it and I'm so happy that you 13 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:55,040 Speaker 1: love the recap episode for. 14 00:00:55,040 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 2: Five Minute Friday this week. 15 00:00:56,040 --> 00:00:58,640 Speaker 1: I don't talk about my personal life really ever on 16 00:00:58,680 --> 00:01:03,440 Speaker 1: the podcast, very very rarely, and I'm not really going 17 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:06,440 Speaker 1: to talk about it today, but I am going. 18 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:08,640 Speaker 2: To tell you a story about. 19 00:01:08,400 --> 00:01:11,120 Speaker 1: What happened yesterday walking around Florence. I wish that the 20 00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 1: story was like I met the most beautiful man and 21 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 1: we are now going to travel to the Amalfi Coast 22 00:01:18,160 --> 00:01:19,760 Speaker 1: and I'm actually not coming over a month, and no, 23 00:01:19,880 --> 00:01:22,360 Speaker 1: that's not what this story is. But every time I'm 24 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 1: in Florence, I book a session with a photographer through 25 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:30,880 Speaker 1: Airbnb Experiences. It's something that I've loved doing over the 26 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:34,760 Speaker 1: last couple of years just to have photos, a snapshot 27 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:36,279 Speaker 1: of this time in my life. 28 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:38,920 Speaker 2: Coming here is so special to me. 29 00:01:39,319 --> 00:01:43,760 Speaker 1: And so yesterday I was working with a woman named Tamara, 30 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:47,119 Speaker 1: who was in her mid twenties, and we were walking 31 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 1: around the streets and she asked me. She says, I 32 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:54,320 Speaker 1: absolutely love to talk to people who are from New 33 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:56,560 Speaker 1: York about dating. And I was like, oh, yeah, why 34 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 1: is that? And she's like, well, I'm in this Facebook group. 35 00:01:58,800 --> 00:01:59,920 Speaker 1: I died when she told me this. 36 00:02:00,320 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 2: I'm in this. 37 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 1: Facebook group called are We Dating the Same Guy? And 38 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:09,000 Speaker 1: in it, the stories that women post about their dating 39 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:13,119 Speaker 1: experiences in New York are absolutely ludicrous. And so she's 40 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 1: telling me all about this Facebook group, which I immediately 41 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:18,840 Speaker 1: joined upon getting back to the room, and yeah, it 42 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: is some crazy stuff. I can say that not most 43 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:24,600 Speaker 1: of my dating experiences are nothing like what I'm reading 44 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:27,679 Speaker 1: in this group. So God bless women dealing with the 45 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:31,280 Speaker 1: chaos in New York, regardless of whatever your sexual preference is. 46 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 1: But she said to me, you must date so much 47 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 1: in New York. It seems like there's so many options. 48 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:38,960 Speaker 1: There's so many people, like, millions and millions of people. 49 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 1: And I said to her, you know can'tribly. I guess 50 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:46,640 Speaker 1: I don't really, and she asked me why, and I said, 51 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:50,280 Speaker 1: it just hasn't been a priority for me. You know, 52 00:02:50,320 --> 00:02:52,160 Speaker 1: over the last few years, I've really made it a 53 00:02:52,200 --> 00:02:55,200 Speaker 1: priority to invest in myself, invest in my business, and 54 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 1: that's where my focus has been. And I don't regret it. 55 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:00,320 Speaker 1: I don't regret it at all. I think I'm into 56 00:03:00,360 --> 00:03:03,200 Speaker 1: a season where I am really ready to make some 57 00:03:03,240 --> 00:03:07,520 Speaker 1: shifts and prioritize dating and that aspect of my personal life. 58 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 1: But in the meantime, this is where I am now, 59 00:03:11,760 --> 00:03:16,480 Speaker 1: and I feel truly good with that. I feel as 60 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:21,600 Speaker 1: though many individuals have some kind of thought, opinion, feeling 61 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: about a woman that is in her mid thirties and single, 62 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:28,799 Speaker 1: and in New York it's common, but in general, I 63 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:33,480 Speaker 1: would say it's less common maybe, And I cannot let 64 00:03:33,639 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 1: and will not let those people make me feel any 65 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:37,880 Speaker 1: kind of way about the choices that I have made 66 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:41,320 Speaker 1: in my life. Granted, that can be easier said than done, 67 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:45,040 Speaker 1: but I know, having had so many of these conversations 68 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 1: with other women, both single and not single, that it's 69 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:55,080 Speaker 1: a common feeling and it's a valid feeling, and all 70 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:57,320 Speaker 1: we can do is be honest. 71 00:03:57,000 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 2: With ourselfs about where we are at can be, and 72 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 2: I can be this is where I'm at. 73 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: I am confident in the decisions that I've made, what 74 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 1: I have chosen to prioritize, and where I am at 75 00:04:07,440 --> 00:04:11,200 Speaker 1: in my life. And I also wouldn't mind having a 76 00:04:11,240 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: long term partner. It's both, and so I give myself 77 00:04:15,440 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 1: the grace in the season to be where I am 78 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 1: and know that what is meant to be in my 79 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 1: life is what it is meant to be in my life. 80 00:04:22,560 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 2: And I share this with you. 81 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:26,960 Speaker 1: But I also kind of shared these sentiments with Tamra 82 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:30,520 Speaker 1: as we walked around Florence, and she she think me 83 00:04:30,600 --> 00:04:33,599 Speaker 1: were my perspective and that was kind of special. It 84 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:36,159 Speaker 1: was kind of special to see the light bulbs go 85 00:04:36,279 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 1: off for her and know that I was also staying 86 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 1: really true to myself and not allowing someone else's opinion 87 00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:46,440 Speaker 1: or thought, albeit unintentionally for sure, to make me feel 88 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:49,279 Speaker 1: any sort of way, because I get to decide how 89 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 1: I feel. I really can't wait to see those photos. 90 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:57,599 Speaker 1: My prompt for you this week, what are your priorities 91 00:04:57,680 --> 00:05:01,120 Speaker 1: right now? What are you focused on? What's important to you? 92 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:04,600 Speaker 1: My prompt for you this week? What is important to you? 93 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:09,320 Speaker 1: What are your priorities? And now a listener question. 94 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:14,200 Speaker 3: Hi, Emily, this is Ro's congratulations on the Berlin Marathon. 95 00:05:14,360 --> 00:05:17,680 Speaker 3: I can't wait to hear all about it. I had 96 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 3: a question for you. I decided to listen to your 97 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 3: twenty twenty two New York City Marathon review since I'm 98 00:05:23,839 --> 00:05:26,760 Speaker 3: running the New York City Marathon for the first time 99 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 3: this year, and I noticed that in your podcast you 100 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 3: mentioned that you decided to run that race without any music. 101 00:05:34,720 --> 00:05:36,880 Speaker 3: I have yet to do that. I've done most of 102 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:39,480 Speaker 3: my runs with music, but I wanted to know what 103 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:42,680 Speaker 3: was your decision behind it. You did you do this 104 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:46,400 Speaker 3: race without any music? What was your experience, how do 105 00:05:46,480 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 3: you get used to it? How do you decide when 106 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:51,600 Speaker 3: you want to listen to music or not. I'd love 107 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:52,480 Speaker 3: to get your feedback. 108 00:05:52,600 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 2: Thanks, you know I ran. 109 00:05:54,880 --> 00:05:56,760 Speaker 1: I want to say I've run twelve marathons now, and 110 00:05:56,800 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 1: I think I ran my first seven with music. It 111 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:03,279 Speaker 1: wasn't until I got to Chicago in twenty nineteen that 112 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 1: something just happened for me and I wanted to be 113 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 1: more present in that moment. I wanted to hear the 114 00:06:10,360 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 1: crowd and that happened. After the first half of that marathon. 115 00:06:15,279 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 1: I was on track to BQ, which I ultimately did 116 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 1: qualified for Boston, and I made the decision that I 117 00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:24,800 Speaker 1: wanted to hear what was happening around me, and so 118 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:27,919 Speaker 1: I took out my AirPods and that was kind of 119 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:29,920 Speaker 1: symbolic for me, and it's been something that I've done 120 00:06:29,920 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 1: in every marathon since. 121 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:33,440 Speaker 2: I always bring the air pods because I. 122 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:36,360 Speaker 1: Like the option to have music, especially if I'm going 123 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 1: through a difficult moment and maybe I feel as though 124 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 1: it could be my best interest to zone out a bit. 125 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:45,680 Speaker 1: But I ran Berlin half with music, half without music, 126 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:49,680 Speaker 1: and that was great. I found myself again leaning into 127 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 1: the crowds, wanting to be really present for where I am, 128 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: realizing that I was never going to get these moments 129 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:57,839 Speaker 1: back and saying and thinking like I want to be 130 00:06:57,920 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 1: where my feet are. 131 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:04,320 Speaker 2: I thought, I, how do I say this? 132 00:07:04,920 --> 00:07:09,800 Speaker 1: When I ran marathons with music, I couldn't imagine running 133 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:12,240 Speaker 1: them without it. But once I did it without it, 134 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 1: I realized how special of an experience it is to 135 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:19,440 Speaker 1: hear the crowds and be so immersed. My recommendation for 136 00:07:19,520 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 1: someone who might be hesitant about that would be go 137 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 1: on a training run without music, go on a few 138 00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 1: and know and recognize that that experience is going to 139 00:07:27,840 --> 00:07:30,560 Speaker 1: be very different than a race because in a marathon, 140 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:32,520 Speaker 1: there are so many people cheering, and you don't have 141 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 1: people cheering you on on a regular Tuesday morning running 142 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 1: around Central Park. 143 00:07:38,600 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't know. It's kind of hard to give 144 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:43,760 Speaker 2: recommendations for how to make that experience better. 145 00:07:44,240 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 1: But I would say if you are hesitant but know 146 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:50,080 Speaker 1: that you would like to try, give yourself the option. 147 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:53,000 Speaker 1: It's hard to cram things in your pocket, but use 148 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:54,840 Speaker 1: a spy belt, use some sort of a running belt, 149 00:07:55,560 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 1: and give yourself, yeah, the opportunity to try it. 150 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 2: You never know until you try. And good luck in 151 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:01,840 Speaker 2: New York. 152 00:08:01,840 --> 00:08:05,080 Speaker 1: If there is a marathon, gosh that I would say, 153 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:07,800 Speaker 1: like headphone freeze the way to go, especially if you 154 00:08:07,880 --> 00:08:08,840 Speaker 1: are a New Yorker. 155 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's uh, it's the New York Marathon. That's it 156 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 2: for this week. 157 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:17,320 Speaker 1: Make sure you are following along with Hurdle over on 158 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 1: Socials at Hurdle Podcasts. I'm over at Emily Body and 159 00:08:20,360 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 1: I would love some of your listener questions to come 160 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 1: back to for Season fifteen of hurdle. The link to 161 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:29,760 Speaker 1: leave me a voice message and ask me something special 162 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:33,959 Speaker 1: is in the show notes. Another hurdle concered, Catch you 163 00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:34,680 Speaker 1: guys next time.