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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need

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Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please

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Speaker 1: one right here, right now. Buggle up, hold on tight,

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Speaker 1: we gotta put you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject my side piece lives with us.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I need some real honest advice because

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Speaker 1: I'm in a serious situation. I've been married for fifteen

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Speaker 1: years to a very beautiful and wonderful woman. Lately the

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Speaker 1: went through a bad divorce and needed a fresh start

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Speaker 1: in a new city. So my wife and I invited

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Speaker 1: so it was not hard for her to find a

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Speaker 1: we had to work daily. I used to get off

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Speaker 1: life with her sister. She admitted that she hadn't had

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Speaker 1: December of last year, we were satisfying each other sexually,

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Speaker 1: but I can't do that to my wife. I need

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Speaker 1: wife being suspicious. How should I handle this? Please? Please help? Okay, Well,

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Speaker 1: why are you even thinking about this? I mean, I

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Speaker 1: know because it's right there in front of you. And yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's in your face every day. And lust is real.

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Speaker 1: I know that. And your wife is not performing you

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Speaker 1: say like she's like she used to. But I am

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Speaker 1: glad you wrote to us before before you actually slept

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Speaker 1: with your sister in law, and I couldn't agree with

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Speaker 1: You love your wife. You said she was beautiful and wonderful,

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Speaker 1: you gotta think about what's at stake here. I'm sure

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Speaker 1: about it. You know with your brain. I'll say that

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Speaker 1: if you do your wife's sister, you can really kiss

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Speaker 1: life as you know it goodbye. You can do that,

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Speaker 1: especially if your wife finds out the trust will be broken.

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Speaker 1: There will be unimaginable, unimaginable hurt to the beautiful and

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Speaker 1: You got to think about these things, and you could

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Speaker 1: Is your sister in law worth all of this? Is

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Speaker 1: I'm assuming that it would all go down, so I

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Speaker 1: Shirley's gonna give you a very good perspective. And Shirley's

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Speaker 1: when you open the letter right there, what you're saying

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Speaker 1: You're opening the letter letting me know she ain't did

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Speaker 1: And in this letter right here, right right off that line,

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Speaker 1: Does it happen? You really thought that? Dog? You though

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Speaker 1: I ain't saying it don't happen. It could, but you

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Speaker 1: they called bills and responsibility. It's just called I gotta

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Speaker 1: go to work. I'm tired. You're just saying you only

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Speaker 1: You tied when you get home. I got some fun

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Speaker 1: your ass after this breakthough, Hang on, Steve. All right,

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject side

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Speaker 1: last time. I'm gonna first share with you brother that

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Speaker 1: so I read between the line. Shirley gave great advice.

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Speaker 1: boy stop, and it didn't just happen all of a sudden,

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Speaker 1: it went from three times a week, not jazzed down

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Speaker 1: here we go. Yeah, ago, her sister got a bad divorce,

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Speaker 1: here you go. Her sister's a great woman. She got

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Speaker 1: This didn't accidentally happen, dog, You did this on purpose.

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Speaker 1: Let's just be real. Your lackluster sex life. You threw

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Speaker 1: you know the rules of manhood, homie. You know the rules,

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Speaker 1: you home me? Oh, that's how it start, and you

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Speaker 1: guess what it got good to you? Now? My sister

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Speaker 1: Now here, you're trying to be righteous on me, but

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Speaker 1: I can't do that to my wife. Boy, stop, boys stop.

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Speaker 1: you won't tap a strange chick outside, man, miss me

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Speaker 1: yourself and now you're talking about but I can't do

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Speaker 1: that to my wife. You're not already done it to

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Speaker 1: your wife. Now. Here's the only fix you got right here.

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you what I want to do. Here's what

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Speaker 1: you gotta say. I don't want to hurt your sister,

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Speaker 1: and I'm sure you don't either, So we should end

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Speaker 1: this now and and you should prepare to move out.

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Speaker 1: I will agree to how much ever time you need.

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Speaker 1: But can we please agree to end this because I'm

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Speaker 1: ashamed of what I've done and I don't want to

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Speaker 1: hurt her, and I know you don't eat, So can

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Speaker 1: we please? I'm big end this? Please? All right? We'll

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