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Speaker 1: Bugging up and hold on type. We got it for

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Speaker 1: you here. It is called berry LETTA subject All eyes

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Speaker 1: on me. Dear Stephen Shirley. I am a thirty three

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Speaker 1: year old married woman with a great body, pretty faced,

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Speaker 1: long healthy hair, and a lot of confidence. I got

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Speaker 1: make sure I'm well taken care of in all ways

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Speaker 1: except for one. My hobby does not give me compliments

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Speaker 1: anymore or comment on my hair and nails like he

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Speaker 1: at work, the Jim and via social media. It's not

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Speaker 1: what you're thinking. My husband and I have a great

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Speaker 1: sex life. It's his attention that I so desperately crave.

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Speaker 1: I love dressing up and turning heads when I walk

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Speaker 1: in a room, and I love it when I post

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Speaker 1: pictures on Instagram and a bunch of racy compliments come

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Speaker 1: pouring in from men. The only problem is my husband

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Speaker 1: does not like it, and he thinks I'm insecure and pathetic.

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Speaker 1: But when my twenty six year old sister comes around

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Speaker 1: in her cute, form fitting athletic wear, he has no

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Speaker 1: problems with giving her compliments. I have told him that

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Speaker 1: it makes me jealous when he does that. And he

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Speaker 1: told me that it's fine for my sister to push

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Speaker 1: real career. Yet I think he does it to irritate me.

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Speaker 1: I have told him I can't go on for too

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Speaker 1: much longer without being wanted and appreciated by him. What's

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Speaker 1: wrong with him? Or am I the crazy person in

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Speaker 1: all of this? I'm trying to get where you think

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Speaker 1: I think he does. I mean, you said it. He

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Speaker 1: takes very good care of you. You said that, and

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Speaker 1: I think you're his wife. Now. Your husband does not

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Speaker 1: want you posting pictures on social media for other men

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Speaker 1: to look at you and lear at you and all

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Speaker 1: of that. No man wants that. And when you say

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Speaker 1: just exactly what are you wearing? I want to know this.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I really really hope you're not dressing too

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Speaker 1: sexy or you're not dressing too sexy. No, I don't, Steve,

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Speaker 1: And I mean I can guess and with too much

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Speaker 1: know that can get you the wrong kind of attention.

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Speaker 1: I don't think you want that kind of attention, but

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Speaker 1: sometimes the way you dress will bring on that kind

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Speaker 1: of attention. All right? Is that wrong? Yes? It is,

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Speaker 1: But you know, just keep that in mind. The kind

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Speaker 1: problem with. He already has a problem with it. I'm

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Speaker 1: sure with you know, with you posting these kinds of pictures,

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Speaker 1: you're his wife, he doesn't want to see that. He

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Speaker 1: doesn't want to see you on social media look at

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Speaker 1: all sexy. You know, if if you do it in

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Speaker 1: a classy way, I'm sure that's okay. But it's just

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Speaker 1: I'm getting vibes from this letter that that's not what

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Speaker 1: you're doing, all right, So just keep that in mind,

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Speaker 1: reel it in. You can dress sex without showing everything,

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Speaker 1: you know, leaves a little mystery for your husband and

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Speaker 1: all of that. You can do that. And about him

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Speaker 1: complimenting your sister, I mean, I think there are clues

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Speaker 1: in there. You know, when he says she's under thirty,

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Speaker 1: you know, encourage her, let's say, but you're his wife,

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Speaker 1: you already have the man, and he's taking care of you,

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Speaker 1: So why can't that be enough? Steve? You know, surely

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Speaker 1: what you said. But still I must address a few things,

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Speaker 1: do you boo? You know that we like now? The

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Speaker 1: biggest problem in this letter she thirty three, her sister

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Speaker 1: twenty six, seven year difference them seven years and made

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Speaker 1: Thirty three year old married woman with a great body,

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Speaker 1: I got married four years ago, and my husband works

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Speaker 1: for one excuse me. My husband does not give me

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Speaker 1: Your husband don't give you compliments on your hand nails. Now.

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Speaker 1: These pictures you put on Instagram's the men that you

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Speaker 1: say is calling in because see you say you love

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Speaker 1: posting pictures on Instagram, and and I love posting pictures

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Speaker 1: your Instagram? Oh, by what your hair and nails? Girl?

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Speaker 1: It ain't a man old instagram looking at how or nails?

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Speaker 1: So now what are you really doing? Like Shirley said,

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Speaker 1: what are you doing? You? And then I've been getting

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Speaker 1: and via social media. Oh it's not what you're thinking.

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Speaker 1: My husband. I have a great sex life. It's his

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Speaker 1: attention that I so desperately create. I lock. No, here

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Speaker 1: you go again. I love dressing up and turning heads

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Speaker 1: when I walk in a room. Girl, what have you

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Speaker 1: done to your damn how? I just want to know

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Speaker 1: what your head look like. Please send us pictures of

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Speaker 1: your head with your hands showing, because you don't turn

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Speaker 1: no you don't. We might eventually see your hair, but

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Speaker 1: at the first your ass is in hell clowning, and

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Speaker 1: I think I know what's going on now. I was

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Speaker 1: gonna tell you that your husband is jealous. I was

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Speaker 1: was gonna tell you that he wants ownership of his wife,

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Speaker 1: but I think it's moved to it. I'm so nervous

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Speaker 1: about all this head turning. What hairstyle could you possibly

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Speaker 1: have that could turn these men's hands like this? Polish

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Speaker 1: born on nothing? Will you look at the party tail

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Speaker 1: walking in here? Look at the weed? Look at the weed? Alright,

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Speaker 1: look hang on. Steve's thirty three year old woman to

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Speaker 1: sickle her horse. He don't compliment her no more on

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Speaker 1: her hand nails. So she didn't went to Instagram in

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Speaker 1: she gets racing comments, come polling from me and on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: Now she tried to trick me and Shelly, she thinks

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Speaker 1: she talking about her hand nail. We don't get a

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Speaker 1: damn about your head nails. It ain't one woman getting

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Speaker 1: prayed right. We won't you you want huntred, We don't

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Speaker 1: give you that for help. We get that from our girls,

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Speaker 1: hell do you have on on Instagram? Right? Girl? You

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Speaker 1: got news for you. It It ain't causing your hair. Now

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Speaker 1: when your sister come in, your baby's sister, who's twenty seven,

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Speaker 1: your husband ain't got no problem. She come in her cute,

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Speaker 1: her compliments. I haven't told him that it make me

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Speaker 1: jealous when he does that. He told me. Now listen

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Speaker 1: to this line. He told me that it's fine for

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Speaker 1: my sister to push the limits cause she is under thirty,

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Speaker 1: hear how men think for your sister to come in

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Speaker 1: want her to do? She gone dressed like that? That's

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Speaker 1: got you jealous? So now what you're wearing on Instagram?

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Speaker 1: Can we have your Instagram name? Give us a name?

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Speaker 1: Who is you? Hot pocket Kitten, no cut Linda? Who

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Speaker 1: doing something other than fixing your hair and painting your

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Speaker 1: nails Monica and Shirley and Carlins nails always look nice,

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Steve. Always these girls keep their hair right.

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Speaker 1: You don't never see these girls hand right, and these

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Speaker 1: that ain't turning no heads. Now you want your head turn,

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Speaker 1: you gotta do some men. Yeah, your head. You got

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Speaker 1: Or am I the crazy person in all of this? Well,

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Speaker 1: what you're doing now is you're seeking attention from other men,

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Speaker 1: which is now ticking him off. So since see, ma'am,

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Speaker 1: you're getting what you want. See, So you on Instagram

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Speaker 1: But like Shirley said, iss you you're fast. You're just

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Speaker 1: racy comments, right right. See, these ain't compliments. So you're

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Speaker 1: ain't shabby because I don't allow it. Can't coming here kind.

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Speaker 1: But then you know what, we don't come in here

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Speaker 1: You can go with caller called Tasha ass over there

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Speaker 1: I don't know what to tell you, lady. You got

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Speaker 1: to slow it down. You're gonna mester, you lose your family.

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Speaker 1: The fact that you ain't deleting the comments. People on

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Speaker 1: hundred and maybe that's why your husband complimenting your little sister.

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Speaker 1: Yeah on Instagram oh so, so, now what you say,

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