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Speaker 1: I'm not exaggerating on this at all. His name was Pablo.

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Speaker 1: I know, it sounds like an awful sounds like an

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Speaker 1: at that point, and he was the horniest little fucker

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Speaker 1: out in the hallway at lunch and everyone would just laugh,

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Speaker 1: Like I guess it was just a different time now

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Speaker 2: I just want to know if it was like regular thought,

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Speaker 2: like if they had like regular size dicks, or if

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Speaker 1: I guess if we're going off the proportion of his body,

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Speaker 3: That's sick.

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Speaker 4: Laugh Kyle, that's Kyle.

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Speaker 5: All I care about is my name in the city

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Speaker 5: that I'm from. I'm seven to. I feel like I'm

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Speaker 5: gonna smoke it to It's I don't really give them

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Speaker 5: tugging my excuses that I'm young and I'm only getting

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Speaker 5: the know. Does somebody shut and told I'm on, Puget,

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Speaker 5: I'm on?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Hey guys, now, yo, man, that's how mar pronounces

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Speaker 1: her all her ages.

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Speaker 3: Now, yeah, I've been taking like, uh, like these edibles

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Speaker 3: So I took like this shroom edible last night. Tell

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Speaker 3: me more. Oh my god, that was some of the

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Speaker 3: my eyes open. Like you ever been like laying down

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Speaker 3: and you're watching something but your brain is not like, oh,

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Speaker 3: like sleep proalysis. Yeah, it no, not that, it's like

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Speaker 3: it's not relaying what you're watching. And then you realize like,

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Speaker 3: oh shit, I'm like watching TV, like you're staying at

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Speaker 3: So this sounds like good sleep paralysis. Yeah, no, no,

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Speaker 3: this is this was This isn't the one where you

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Speaker 3: and druggs you and it's now like going through your

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Speaker 1: Yeah, is there much difference, Like to try to cut

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Speaker 1: I was like, you know, no more coniac just wine.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's not as long as you're not. It's

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Speaker 3: not like an every night thing, gotcha. I'm not taking

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Speaker 3: the shits every night. But I took one last night

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Speaker 3: and I was like, you know, took a shower, popped

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Speaker 3: the edible, and then you start just like getting into

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Speaker 3: Not you're not tripping, yeah, but things start kind of

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Speaker 1: As an avid weed smoker, is there a big difference

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Speaker 3: It's because of the microdocent thing, Like you don't have

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Speaker 3: tripping out Like I'm not really with that tripping out shit,

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Speaker 3: and I don't really like that. Have you done it though,

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Speaker 3: me off the Mali. That's just paranoim.

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Speaker 1: Like I think if you take enough mally like you

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Speaker 1: If you go in being like all right, I do

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Speaker 3: Yeah it do it properly, But I really encourage you

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Speaker 1: Our generation has kids later, gets married later, so dogs

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Speaker 3: What's the craziest thing you purchased during COVID? Oh?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I forgot crazy, you know what. I saw you

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Speaker 1: I bought a bike, that's not crazy. I just everybody

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Speaker 1: had any crazy purchases during I didn't. Oh, I mean

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Speaker 3: That was I think, as far as I took it.

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Speaker 7: I just traveled a lot. I traveled the entire fand.

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Speaker 1: How really, so many people I've me were so fucking

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so you were part of that. She was a

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Speaker 6: She was going to third world countries and coffin on

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Speaker 7: I was traveling in America.

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Speaker 3: That was fun, fun, man, I mean, aside from the

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Speaker 3: but whatever, what you didn't purchase anything? Crazy? Mm hmm.

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Speaker 3: I think a PlayStation you gaming is played it twice,

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Speaker 1: It wasn't out that I feel like you're not a

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Speaker 3: What everyone's on a sega.

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Speaker 1: What was the first gaming system you guys had as kids? Uh?

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Speaker 3: Eithern Atari Nintendo sixty four that was your damn y'all

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Speaker 6: I had a game Boy that was like the first

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Speaker 7: Too don't do that was addicted to deaf gentlemen. That

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Speaker 3: It was on every other thing too.

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Speaker 3: But Nintendo GameCubes.

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Speaker 3: Like the Mario Kart. Y'all remember Neo Geo, But I

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Speaker 3: I had every played I had, no I had like, well, yeah,

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Speaker 3: get you know what I'm saying, like the fucking Sega's

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Speaker 3: first Dreamcast dream?

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Speaker 3: Once you start. Once you start, just collect you look

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Speaker 3: under your console. You got like five systems you like? Damn? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I guess, I mean, and sixty four was my my favorite.

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Speaker 3: I think Sega Dreamcast is underrated. I played in sixty

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Speaker 6: that's the only time I'll play video games, is that

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Speaker 6: sixty four?

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Speaker 3: With the Nintendo to have to shoot the ducks.

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Speaker 3: We about to play game. Yo, every single Nintendo game

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Speaker 1: We just always thought he was weird and high all

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Speaker 1: And what it feels like weird is I guess a

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Speaker 1: double check my kids not autistic or bipolar. I know

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Speaker 6: A bunch of candy and watch him organize it. Just

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Speaker 3: See what happened.

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Speaker 1: Like, we have one autistic kid at my separates the

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Speaker 3: Didn't Chris, didn't Christy Christy d do that? We went

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Speaker 1: I don't know what his real name was. I don't

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Speaker 1: I always there was a Mexican that was easily thirty

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Speaker 1: I'm not exaggerating on this at all. His name was Pablo.

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Speaker 1: and he was the horniest little fucker you'd ever been

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Speaker 3: In his thirties, for sure was the dick.

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Speaker 1: I guess, if we're going off the proportion of his body,

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Speaker 2: I just want to know if it was like regular thought,

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Speaker 3: Grown men have.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but it could he was mentally challenged, little person

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Speaker 3: Yes, looking back now, I can taking place in Queens

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Speaker 7: He needed to be in jail.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he was working.

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Speaker 1: I'm under selling what he would do at any point.

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Speaker 1: If he would, he would go to all four lunches

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Speaker 3: Off every day. You would see his dick like clockwork.

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Speaker 3: Yes you knew what Tom, and.

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Speaker 1: I mean you also have a high school kids laughing

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Speaker 3: It's because it's because he was a little person that

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Speaker 1: And isn't an excuse too, because like z Man wasn't

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Speaker 1: doing that, he was just pumping out dates for us. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I just think you were.

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Speaker 3: It was a guy on my lock that he could

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Speaker 3: was just like, how do you know what was infant? Again?

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Speaker 3: You grow up with kids, you don't you know what

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Speaker 1: My man, you buy your yearbook, bout your yearbook?

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Speaker 3: By chance? Can you by their yearbook photo? No one

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Speaker 3: I want to know what do you think senor quote was?

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Speaker 1: He was never never graduating, that's something so like he

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Speaker 1: And when I was a freshman, he was there. When

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Speaker 3: And I don't think that's how it goes.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes.

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Speaker 1: No adult in that school was like, can we not.

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Speaker 3: Have him do this? Wait, the adults knew he was

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Speaker 1: Yes, that's crazy. I thought he was just doing that

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Speaker 1: But I'm sure there's some girls that are fucking traumatized

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Speaker 3: Crazy the shout out Pablo. No not, we're not shouting out.

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Speaker 5: Why not?

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Speaker 3: If you know what Pablo is at, please go call

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Speaker 3: the police and have him.

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Speaker 1: whatever therapist that I guess was teaching that class needs

441
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Speaker 1: to be fired because.

442
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Speaker 3: That's fucking nuts insane. How's everyone's mental health? You haven't

443
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Speaker 3: done a mental health checking.

444
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Speaker 8: In a while?

445
00:19:53,440 --> 00:19:57,080
Speaker 3: Oh god, yeah we haven't. I'm pretty good, I'm pretty

446
00:19:57,119 --> 00:20:00,800
Speaker 3: pretty even killed right now? Have you ever not been even? Yeah?

447
00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:06,320
Speaker 3: For real? You are montage check one. Oh yeah.

448
00:20:06,359 --> 00:20:06,479
Speaker 8: Man.

449
00:20:06,600 --> 00:20:08,560
Speaker 3: Some days where I'm just like I don't want to

450
00:20:08,560 --> 00:20:10,200
Speaker 3: get out of bed, don't want to wash my ass.

451
00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:12,119
Speaker 3: I don't want to brush my teeth, don't want to

452
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Speaker 3: do You never had those days of a marriage.

453
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Speaker 7: I just never thought you would admit to having them.

454
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Speaker 3: What I'm not human like, we don't have We don't

455
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Speaker 3: all have like bad days. That's what we've been trying

456
00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:22,600
Speaker 3: to explain to you for years.

457
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Speaker 2: Of course, I have bad days. I've talked about a

458
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Speaker 2: lot of my bad days. Bad bitch just have bad

459
00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:31,000
Speaker 2: days too, who megan? Bad bitches have bad days too.

460
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Speaker 3: Especially when they got to take that makeup off. It's tough.

461
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Speaker 3: Is that like a daily activity? Yeah, exactly, that's when

462
00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:43,879
Speaker 3: they get depressed when they had to make it's so expensive.

463
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Speaker 3: What a ruse man. They really got you guys. Speaking

464
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Speaker 3: of makeup, I've seen Rihanna's opening a fency beauty in China,

465
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Speaker 3: which means she's about to make another two billion dollars

466
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Speaker 3: or something like that.

467
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Speaker 1: Probably more. She might own that country by the end

468
00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:02,359
Speaker 1: of the time. Yeah, so everyone's mental health is exactly

469
00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:06,240
Speaker 1: the same. All right, cool, I'm actually doing a lot better.

470
00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:09,760
Speaker 1: I thought you your quietness I thought was a tell. No,

471
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Speaker 1: that's when they don't want to talk about it, like,

472
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Speaker 1: all right, making fun of them all but sometimes it's

473
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Speaker 1: like that quietness is like someone asks me, ask me directly.

474
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Speaker 3: If i'm someone asks me if I'm okay that you

475
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Speaker 3: mention it. How are you I'm doing better?

476
00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:22,760
Speaker 7: I'm doing really good.

477
00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:23,240
Speaker 3: Yeah.

478
00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:27,720
Speaker 1: So anyway, I know you've had some feelings with the

479
00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:29,800
Speaker 1: twenties to thirty things, some feelings.

480
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but outside of that, outside of my birthday, I'm

481
00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:34,960
Speaker 2: actually feeling pretty good.

482
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Speaker 7: I think it's the going to the gym and like

483
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Speaker 7: eating better thing. I guess it does help.

484
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Speaker 3: It's a big thing.

485
00:21:40,240 --> 00:21:40,440
Speaker 7: Yeah.

486
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Speaker 1: So you think you'll leave people in your twenties, No,

487
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Speaker 1: I feel like.

488
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Speaker 2: I've I feel like you should have gotten that done

489
00:21:47,760 --> 00:21:50,080
Speaker 2: by like twenty five. There's no reason you're going into

490
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Speaker 2: thirty or like when people say leaving people in the

491
00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:54,119
Speaker 2: past year, like, damn, if you did it right in

492
00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:55,760
Speaker 2: the past couple of years, you wouldn't have to do

493
00:21:55,840 --> 00:21:56,359
Speaker 2: that every year.

494
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Speaker 3: Like the people in my life are good.

495
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Speaker 7: I'm good.

496
00:21:59,600 --> 00:21:59,840
Speaker 9: I was.

497
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Speaker 3: I was always on that side.

498
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Speaker 1: I always found it weird, like new year and new me,

499
00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:06,880
Speaker 1: Like this is the same. If you're a shitty person,

500
00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:10,000
Speaker 1: then the time change isn't gonna Yeah.

501
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Speaker 3: That's not what changes it.

502
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Speaker 1: But I don't know if that's what helps you, Like,

503
00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:16,240
Speaker 1: maybe you need that one point, Like my thirtieth birthday,

504
00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:19,520
Speaker 1: everyone else that was fucked up out of here, like

505
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:20,760
Speaker 1: I can pick a day.

506
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Speaker 3: It's funny, strategy works for people.

507
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Speaker 6: It's funny you mentioned that because I was doing I

508
00:22:24,880 --> 00:22:29,040
Speaker 6: was shuffling through voicemails the last few days and someone

509
00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:32,160
Speaker 6: left the voicemail that reminded me of that in terms

510
00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:35,240
Speaker 6: of setting boundaries and importantly with people that you love

511
00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:37,320
Speaker 6: that are in your life. But as you become older

512
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Speaker 6: and you you know, move into a new apartment or

513
00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:42,480
Speaker 6: get new things, and you're kind of becoming an individual,

514
00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:45,400
Speaker 6: how do you respect and love those people but also

515
00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:48,000
Speaker 6: be like, this is my space. I need to be alone.

516
00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:50,920
Speaker 6: So I kind of want to share this one. And

517
00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:53,280
Speaker 6: I know it's early in the episode, but this conversation

518
00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:54,600
Speaker 6: just directly reminds me of that.

519
00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:57,359
Speaker 3: I'll play for you, guys. I would love to hear it.

520
00:22:57,760 --> 00:22:59,600
Speaker 3: Please do all right?

521
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Speaker 8: Was good, y'all. I'm just calling in tell y'all that

522
00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:07,840
Speaker 8: I really appreciate the pod. I've been listening to it

523
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:09,680
Speaker 8: for a while now, and I think you guys are great.

524
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:13,240
Speaker 8: Keep doing what you're doing. The main reason for calling y'allymous.

525
00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:16,960
Speaker 8: I finally got my first apartment and I'm figuring out

526
00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:18,800
Speaker 8: how I want to furnish this thing. And I saw

527
00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:21,440
Speaker 8: something on the pod a while back. I think I

528
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:25,800
Speaker 8: wanted to preacheeron episodes. Uh, y'all had some bean bags

529
00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:27,920
Speaker 8: and it came with a bean bag ottoman. I thought

530
00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:30,159
Speaker 8: that was fire, So I wanted to see where.

531
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Speaker 3: Y'all got that.

532
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:34,639
Speaker 8: Another thing is what the new apartment comes setting new

533
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:38,200
Speaker 8: boundaries for my family. So I don't really have the

534
00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:43,320
Speaker 8: best relationship with my mom and my sister.

535
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Speaker 3: You know, you know, we like this.

536
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Speaker 8: It were tight, you know, it's I love them to death,

537
00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:54,760
Speaker 8: but they can be a bit much. And you know, man,

538
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 8: And I'm trying to get in this new apartment and

539
00:23:56,600 --> 00:23:59,080
Speaker 8: making my own and I kind of need to set

540
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Speaker 8: a boundary. So what would y'all do in a situation

541
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Speaker 8: where your boundaries keep getting tested? All right, thank y'all,

542
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:11,120
Speaker 8: y'all doing pease?

543
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:15,119
Speaker 3: What do you do when your boundaries keep getting tested?

544
00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:18,440
Speaker 3: I'm assuming by family and friends that always want to

545
00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:20,440
Speaker 3: come over, is what his question was.

546
00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm assuming he must have lived with his parents,

547
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:26,680
Speaker 6: are at least somewhere where they felt more comfortable just

548
00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:29,200
Speaker 6: easily coming or like being accessible and like more in

549
00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:31,440
Speaker 6: his life and now with his own space, He's like, chill,

550
00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:35,159
Speaker 6: this is my apartment. When I want you here, come here.

551
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 6: If not, I need my time alone.

552
00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:40,120
Speaker 3: I think it's just I think that's that's it right there.

553
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:43,200
Speaker 3: You just let your family and friends know, like you know,

554
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:46,040
Speaker 3: like no, I'm not you know, I don't want a

555
00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:49,120
Speaker 3: bunch of people in my space, or you know I'm

556
00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:52,680
Speaker 3: trying things differently. You know, this is my sanctuary. This

557
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,720
Speaker 3: is where I clear my head after work or whatever,

558
00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:57,840
Speaker 3: like you know. I mean, you got to set you

559
00:24:57,960 --> 00:24:59,560
Speaker 3: have to set those boundaries. I think it's healthy to

560
00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:03,120
Speaker 3: set those boundaries. It can come across a little fucked

561
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:06,359
Speaker 3: up to family and friends sometimes, but I think if

562
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:08,280
Speaker 3: you just let them know, like you know, sometimes come over.

563
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 3: But then at times like no, I don't want no

564
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 3: company in my house, I think that's okay to have

565
00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:18,199
Speaker 3: that in place for your own mental health. I'm looking for.

566
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:22,800
Speaker 1: Your answers because I very well could have done this

567
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 1: exact voicemail. I'm so fucking bad with boundaries with my family.

568
00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:33,480
Speaker 1: I let my family steamroll me. My house is open

569
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:35,600
Speaker 1: to anyone whenever the fuck they want, even if I

570
00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:36,199
Speaker 1: don't want them.

571
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:37,359
Speaker 3: There anything to.

572
00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:43,720
Speaker 1: Do with family boundaries, money, time, resources, anything.

573
00:25:44,840 --> 00:25:45,960
Speaker 3: Is on the tape.

574
00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 1: I am a whore with my family and I can't

575
00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:52,560
Speaker 1: stand it. I've went I've talked with multiple therapists about it.

576
00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 1: Every time I try to put my foot down, I

577
00:25:55,640 --> 00:26:00,160
Speaker 1: get the you know, the Irish mother guilt of when

578
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:03,320
Speaker 1: you hate me? Like what about family? And I fucking

579
00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:06,679
Speaker 1: buckle every single time. Like then add in a kid,

580
00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:10,720
Speaker 1: It's like, can't deprive my family of seeing the newest

581
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:12,480
Speaker 1: person in our flag.

582
00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:13,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm so bad at this.

583
00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 1: I have no advice for you. If you figure it out,

584
00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 1: can you call back and give me advice?

585
00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:18,479
Speaker 5: Oh?

586
00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 3: Me?

587
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:23,320
Speaker 1: And then I feel like anytime I go back to

588
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:25,200
Speaker 1: therapy and they're like, so, how to go this week

589
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,560
Speaker 1: with what we talked about with boundaries, I'm like, yeah, no,

590
00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:28,119
Speaker 1: I did what we.

591
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 3: Talked about and didn't work. Family Still, just my.

592
00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:32,960
Speaker 1: Mom must have a better therapist because she sees through

593
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:36,640
Speaker 1: all this bullshit and finds her way every single time.

594
00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 3: I think that. I mean because I think the older

595
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:42,719
Speaker 3: you get, it's easier to set those boundaries. I think

596
00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:45,440
Speaker 3: when you're younger. It's like, you know, especially if it's

597
00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 3: like your first new apartment and you know, your family

598
00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:50,719
Speaker 3: wants to see, like you know your space and how

599
00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 3: you're doing, checking up on you. Friends want to come over,

600
00:26:52,960 --> 00:26:54,920
Speaker 3: Like now you got your own spot, we can be

601
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:57,120
Speaker 3: here all night if we want, we can crash here.

602
00:26:57,720 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 3: You got to set those boundaries, man, because people will

603
00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 3: just find a way to fucking abuse it. And you know,

604
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:04,760
Speaker 3: especially when they know that you have a tough time

605
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 3: telling them no. People can sense that, like they feel

606
00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 3: that they know, like, oh, he's not going to say no,

607
00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 3: and then the first time you do say no, that

608
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:14,920
Speaker 3: shit cuts like a knife, like oh shit, like he said,

609
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:17,400
Speaker 3: I can't come over, like he said, I can't spend

610
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:21,119
Speaker 3: the night like no, like I have. But I think

611
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 3: it gets easy if you have, like if you have

612
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 3: like a relationship.

613
00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:28,359
Speaker 6: I think it's kind in his singing that he's not

614
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:31,359
Speaker 6: the closest with them, even though they're still pushing up

615
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:32,399
Speaker 6: on his personal space.

616
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, but if he that's to me, that's if you're

617
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 3: not as close with your family, that's easier to set

618
00:27:38,280 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 3: those boundaries, like we not like that, Like why you're

619
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 3: trying to be at my house, Like, no, we can

620
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,399
Speaker 3: go somewhere, we can go go eat or something like that,

621
00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:48,360
Speaker 3: hang out outside, but you're not coming to my house.

622
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:50,119
Speaker 2: I mean, I get what you're saying all, but I

623
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,760
Speaker 2: think when the relationship isn't super close, it is a

624
00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:54,639
Speaker 2: little bit tougher.

625
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 3: Like if I was to say, don't come to my house, yes, because.

626
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,360
Speaker 2: You're when you're super close with your family, you don't

627
00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:03,240
Speaker 2: have no like you have no problem cussing your t

628
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,200
Speaker 2: went out and going off on her and saying whatever,

629
00:28:05,359 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 2: like girl gets no. But like somebody who you're close

630
00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 2: to but not super close, like it's like, oh, yeah,

631
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 2: we love each other, but we're not you kind of

632
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:15,639
Speaker 2: suck tiptoe around them a little bit more, whereas with

633
00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 2: your super close siblings you're like, girl, fuck you, no,

634
00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 2: leave me alone.

635
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:20,520
Speaker 3: I want to be bothered. But you wouldn't talk like

636
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,879
Speaker 3: that close it for me, Like if I'm close to

637
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:25,600
Speaker 3: my family, it's hard for me to tell him though,

638
00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 3: Like that's hard, you know what I mean. But if

639
00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:30,920
Speaker 3: it's like you have that cousin that you don't really

640
00:28:31,400 --> 00:28:36,360
Speaker 3: talk to maybe once every seven eight months, No, you're

641
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 3: not coming to my house, Like I don't even know

642
00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:39,960
Speaker 3: you could be on the run right now. You could

643
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 3: have snitched on some niggas in the last eight months

644
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:43,720
Speaker 3: and they looking for you like you're not coming in here,

645
00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:46,240
Speaker 3: Like I love that that's where your mind. Yeah, yeah,

646
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 3: because you don't know. If you don't see somebody for

647
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:50,240
Speaker 3: a while, it's like we have snitched, right, Not not

648
00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 3: that they had to sit, but you just don't know.

649
00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 3: You just don't know what they got going on. Like

650
00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 3: if I haven't seen you in three years, you know

651
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:57,800
Speaker 3: how much shit you could have done in three years

652
00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:00,239
Speaker 3: and gotten into I don't know who you are. You're

653
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 3: not coming in my house.

654
00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 1: I just think if you're raised kind of to what

655
00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:05,760
Speaker 1: Demarica sai, if you're raised in a household where things

656
00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:08,960
Speaker 1: never get resolved, like you beef with each other and

657
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:11,240
Speaker 1: then move on to the next day like nothing happened

658
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:13,440
Speaker 1: because we're family and we love each other and things

659
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 1: are never addressed or resolved. That sets a tone where

660
00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:20,120
Speaker 1: even if you don't feel comfortable with them around or

661
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 1: want to express that hey, I just this isn't the

662
00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:25,440
Speaker 1: right time for me, that that doesn't even exist in

663
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:27,800
Speaker 1: that type of family. We could be beef and it's like, yeah,

664
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 1: I'm still coming over. We're family. I'm still I'm still

665
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:33,120
Speaker 1: living here for the next month. Yeah, we're family.

666
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 3: Huh yeah, Like oh no, I said un till he

667
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:40,920
Speaker 3: got that off in the mirror before. Like that sounds

668
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:41,600
Speaker 3: like a monologue.

669
00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:45,960
Speaker 2: My advice to you is that if you're uncomfortable every

670
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:49,440
Speaker 2: single time that they are there, the feeling by not

671
00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 2: setting boundaries, you're trying to avoid the feeling in this

672
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:56,800
Speaker 2: shame of like letting them down or that awkward uncomfortableness

673
00:29:56,840 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 2: that comes with that conversation. But you only got to

674
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 2: have that conversation and once or twice and then the

675
00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 2: boundary is set and you're done with that discomfort. Whereas

676
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:07,720
Speaker 2: if you keep letting them walk all over you and

677
00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 2: not saying anything, then you're uncomfortable multiple times until for

678
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 2: the rest of your life, until you set that boundary.

679
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:15,760
Speaker 2: So do you want to be uncomfortable, really really uncomfortable

680
00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:18,480
Speaker 2: one or two times, or uncomfortable for the remainder of

681
00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 2: your relationship because you won't set a boundary.

682
00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 3: Do they live in the same city.

683
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:23,880
Speaker 6: I'm wondering if this is like a case, is that

684
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:25,840
Speaker 6: he just got an apartment in the city that his

685
00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 6: sister and mom live in. I'm trying to like think

686
00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 6: of this logistically, because if it's about them being in

687
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 6: your personal space, then like find a coffee shop or

688
00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 6: like a bookstore somewhere that you can meet, take that

689
00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 6: like hour two hours, have your time there together, and

690
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:41,400
Speaker 6: then be like, all right, I'm going back to my place.

691
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 6: I want to be in my space alone. If it's

692
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 6: really about them being in your space, just find somewhere

693
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:46,920
Speaker 6: that can be like the meetup spot.

694
00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 2: And if they do come to your space without your

695
00:30:48,840 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 2: permission or after you set a boundary, you got to

696
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 2: make people uncomfortable.

697
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 3: They don't need a key.

698
00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:54,760
Speaker 7: You have to make people uncomfortable.

699
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 2: People come to my house and I'll come up after

700
00:30:57,160 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 2: them with like cleaning wipes, I picked up, put coasters down,

701
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:02,440
Speaker 2: I'm cleaning up around.

702
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:06,120
Speaker 7: I'm going to make you extremely uncomfortable until you get like.

703
00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:07,760
Speaker 3: You want to leave, until you be like I'm never

704
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 3: going over there.

705
00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly what happens If they already have a key

706
00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 1: and know the garage code and know the back.

707
00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:16,560
Speaker 3: You got to buy another house, Rory. You need to

708
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 3: chase that, not tell anybody where. It is simple, see

709
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:20,560
Speaker 3: what I do.

710
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 6: Yeah, look at mall we still do. We've in moss

711
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:25,680
Speaker 6: moved how many times we don't even know where the

712
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 6: old players.

713
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 8: Mom.

714
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 1: My mom will find find a way to guilt trip

715
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 1: me to give her the new address, her most recent one.

716
00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:34,360
Speaker 3: Your current home has to be the decoy home. You

717
00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 3: don't love your mom? Yes, I love you, Mom.

718
00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:42,480
Speaker 1: That's one on one. Yeah, that's that's illmatic, Like that one.

719
00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 1: That's a classic. We've been through that. It's celebrated its

720
00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 1: twenty fifth year. Like that's that's what her newest one

721
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:51,840
Speaker 1: is telling me about her best friend's son, who I know,

722
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:52,800
Speaker 1: who's a good guy.

723
00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:53,600
Speaker 3: I like him a lot.

724
00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 1: Just how amazing he is.

725
00:31:56,760 --> 00:32:00,200
Speaker 3: He he just had a daughter, maybe like a year

726
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,040
Speaker 3: before mar was born, and just.

727
00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 1: Tells me how amazing what this relationship is with his

728
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 1: mom and the daughter and the grandma, and how they

729
00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 1: all fucking live in this amazing house. Like that's all

730
00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 1: she does to try to guilt trip me because the

731
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 1: direct shit isn't working.

732
00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 3: It's like Machiavelli. Shit, Yeah, I would literally ignore her.

733
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 6: Every parent tried. My mom used to try to do

734
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:21,880
Speaker 6: shit like that about like when we were in high school.

735
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 6: Compare it, Oh so and So's you know, studying so

736
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:26,240
Speaker 6: hard and going to this school and like good for them,

737
00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 6: Like I'm not that person.

738
00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:31,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, I hate that. And my mom we've talked it out.

739
00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 3: We're good. But like that was like always a thing

740
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 3: for a while.

741
00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:35,800
Speaker 1: It just it does get a little like demeaning and

742
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:38,480
Speaker 1: hurtful when it's like you're not a piece of shit,

743
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:41,800
Speaker 1: Like if I was like some bum on her couch

744
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 1: and was like, oh, look, so and So's son is

745
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:49,600
Speaker 1: getting his masters, Like I could see that strategy to

746
00:32:49,760 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 1: like try to motivate you, like you're on my couch, Like,

747
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 1: look what people you grew up with are doing.

748
00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:55,880
Speaker 3: I'm not a bum.

749
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 1: Stop telling me how successful everyone else is just because

750
00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:00,320
Speaker 1: they have a better relationship with their mother. Maybe you

751
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:04,080
Speaker 1: should look in a fucking mirror. Maybe you should be

752
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 1: more like that mom. And I shouldn't be more like that.

753
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:08,320
Speaker 3: Son, exactly? Did you ever think of it that way? Mom?

754
00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:09,760
Speaker 3: And they can't say that.

755
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:11,240
Speaker 7: Why can't you say that?

756
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 3: A clip it? Why can't you say that?

757
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:16,680
Speaker 1: Because I know my mom and it's like she's at

758
00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:18,920
Speaker 1: the age where it's it's over, like.

759
00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:21,040
Speaker 3: There's no development happening.

760
00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's not like one day gonna be like, you

761
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:23,880
Speaker 1: know what, I think you and I should go to

762
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:26,240
Speaker 1: therapy together and like really work on our issues. She's

763
00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 1: set in her ways, it's going to be that way,

764
00:33:27,600 --> 00:33:30,360
Speaker 1: so I have to adjust for my own peace to

765
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 1: get around that.

766
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:34,400
Speaker 2: That's exactly you're not at peace because she won't leave

767
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:36,120
Speaker 2: your abode, so like you need to.

768
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 1: But making peace with that will bring me peace rather

769
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:42,640
Speaker 1: than try to change her, because that'll never have it

770
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:45,640
Speaker 1: and just make me more insane. So you know, I

771
00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 1: say those comments to my therapists and I get them

772
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 1: off my chest.

773
00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:55,280
Speaker 3: It's interesting like getting older, like and then seeing the

774
00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:59,480
Speaker 3: dynamic of the relationship between you and your parents, Like

775
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 3: it's a interesting thing. Like me and my mom have

776
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:05,719
Speaker 3: always been like super close, but like the older I get,

777
00:34:05,760 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 3: the more I'm noticing like my mom was in this

778
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:12,839
Speaker 3: phase of she's still no matter what, she still looks

779
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,480
Speaker 3: at me like I'm her baby, and I'm just like

780
00:34:15,760 --> 00:34:17,879
Speaker 3: you should be saying things like yeah, did you eat?

781
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:20,200
Speaker 3: Did you I'm like, yes, I ate. I'm a chrome man,

782
00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:22,279
Speaker 3: Like what do you mean that I eat? Yes?

783
00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:22,719
Speaker 8: I ate?

784
00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 3: But you got to understand that parents just you know,

785
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:30,920
Speaker 3: especially depending on relationship, maybe they feel like it was

786
00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:34,759
Speaker 3: some things that they didn't get to do when you

787
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 3: were younger, or time they didn't get to spend, or

788
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:40,040
Speaker 3: you know, they replace certain scenarios in their head and

789
00:34:40,800 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 3: they see that their baby is now out in the

790
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:46,880
Speaker 3: world doing their own thing and traveling and you know,

791
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:50,160
Speaker 3: making a living for themselves, and they feel kind of

792
00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 3: like a disconnection maybe where it's like maybe you don't

793
00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 3: see your parents as much as you used to, you

794
00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:58,279
Speaker 3: don't go to your parents' house as much as you

795
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:01,919
Speaker 3: used to, and I think that they try to hold

796
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:04,600
Speaker 3: on by any means, like so then they'll throw things

797
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:06,360
Speaker 3: in there to remind you of like your childhood, like

798
00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 3: remember like you always said, no matter what, you will

799
00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:12,320
Speaker 3: always be mama's baby. And it's like, yeah, that's not

800
00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 3: when I said that. Remember saying that. That's how long

801
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:20,680
Speaker 3: ago that was. Yeah, it's like, oh, yeah, I'm always

802
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 3: going to be, you know, like your son. But it's

803
00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 3: like I have a life, like you know what I mean. Sometimes,

804
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:28,360
Speaker 3: But you gotta understand it's hard for parents like to

805
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 3: accept that their children are now grown and have their

806
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 3: own lives, like.

807
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:35,600
Speaker 2: Especially feel that their own especially if they don't have

808
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:38,799
Speaker 2: their own life and When I say their own life,

809
00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 2: I mean hobbies and things that keep them active and distracted. Yeah,

810
00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:45,600
Speaker 2: because when my mother is out with her friends and

811
00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 2: she's like she don't give don't think about me. But

812
00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:51,520
Speaker 2: any other day she calling me every literally once a day, Yeah,

813
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:52,719
Speaker 2: like what you're doing?

814
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:53,319
Speaker 3: What did you eat?

815
00:35:53,360 --> 00:35:54,839
Speaker 7: I just had a chicken tender. It was great.

816
00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, Mom. Like she sends me pictures of herself.

817
00:35:57,680 --> 00:35:59,320
Speaker 2: I'm like, Mom, I know what you look like. I

818
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 2: have not for what you look like.

819
00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:04,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's parents for you, man, Like you know,

820
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 3: you just gotta understand. Like I'm feeling that with my nephew.

821
00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 3: He just turned eight and I could already feel like

822
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 3: him now developing into his own little person and got

823
00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:18,840
Speaker 3: his friends. And it's like, you used to call me

824
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:21,880
Speaker 3: every day, FaceTime me every day. Now I gotta FaceTime

825
00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 3: him like like, yo, what's up with you? Like you

826
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 3: all right? He don't pay me no mind, Like even

827
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:29,600
Speaker 3: if he's on the phone, he's doing something. And I

828
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:30,520
Speaker 3: can empathize with that.

829
00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:33,120
Speaker 1: But this, like to the point of you saying your

830
00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 1: mom tells you you'll always be her baby. That also

831
00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:40,000
Speaker 1: means she's always the parent and you have to adjust

832
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:40,799
Speaker 1: to what your kid is doing.

833
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:41,359
Speaker 3: You're a parent.

834
00:36:41,600 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, so if that never stops, then the parenting can

835
00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:46,200
Speaker 1: never stop. And you need to adjust to what's going

836
00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:47,279
Speaker 1: on in my life.

837
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:47,879
Speaker 3: You're my parent.

838
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 1: You're the one person that should have to adjust to

839
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 1: anything that I'm doing, no matter what. Yeah, and if

840
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:55,520
Speaker 1: I can see, of course how that would suck. And

841
00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:58,880
Speaker 1: I'm sure you know once Amara gets old and doesn't

842
00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 1: want to hang out with me a much, it's gonn

843
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:02,840
Speaker 1: be fucking devastating. I'm gonna do stupid shit like texture,

844
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 1: like a selfie, like hey remember your dad. I know

845
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:09,120
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do that shit too, But still as the parent.

846
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:11,920
Speaker 3: We're gonna text that slide video. Yeah, well remember this day.

847
00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:15,319
Speaker 1: No, I do think, as as a kid, God willing,

848
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 1: if your parents make it to a certain age, it

849
00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:18,680
Speaker 1: is your responsibility to take care of your parents and

850
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:21,880
Speaker 1: one car of you. But while they are able, they

851
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 1: are still your parent and they need to give you

852
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 1: that grace as there as a parent. We're not friends, yes,

853
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:34,880
Speaker 1: but that's not it's parent and then friend, we're not

854
00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:38,120
Speaker 1: friends over parents. So I don't owe you the exact

855
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:39,320
Speaker 1: same thing you actually owe me.

856
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:42,640
Speaker 3: Some understanding. You're my parent.

857
00:37:43,160 --> 00:37:46,440
Speaker 1: I know we are not afforded any luxury of understanding

858
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 1: out in the world. We should get it from our family. So, yeah,

859
00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:51,120
Speaker 1: you still have to be a parent. Even if I'm

860
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:55,239
Speaker 1: grown and you're older, you still have to parent. Don't

861
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:57,839
Speaker 1: call me, always be your baby if you're not still

862
00:37:57,880 --> 00:37:58,200
Speaker 1: a parent.

863
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 7: And a lot of a lot of parents weren't parenting

864
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:02,080
Speaker 7: in that.

865
00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 2: Like you weren't my emotional support animal when I was

866
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:07,480
Speaker 2: a kid, and now that I'm an adult, you need

867
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:09,440
Speaker 2: an emotional support animal, and you need it to be me.

868
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 7: We didn't.

869
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:13,320
Speaker 2: That was not our relationship when we were when I

870
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 2: was younger. Don't try to make that our relationship when

871
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:18,480
Speaker 2: I'm older. That's a relationship that has to start from

872
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:20,720
Speaker 2: the very beginning. I'm not talking about all everybody's relationship

873
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 2: with their parents, because some people do have healthy relationships

874
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:26,359
Speaker 2: with their parents. But speaking for me, my mother is like, well,

875
00:38:26,360 --> 00:38:28,799
Speaker 2: why don't you need me? Like her like that's her thing,

876
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:31,359
Speaker 2: like she you don't need me all the time. It's like, yeah,

877
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 2: but when I did need you, you weren't there. So

878
00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:37,319
Speaker 2: like now it's like I'm super independent, I know how

879
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:38,720
Speaker 2: to handle my emotions well, that's.

880
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:41,040
Speaker 3: Why she's trying to be there now. Yeah, she probably

881
00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:43,000
Speaker 3: feel like at one point she wasn't. I learned how

882
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:45,399
Speaker 3: to self soothe, and that's parents and that's parents guilt,

883
00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 3: like you know, but I'm grateful for the relationship that

884
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:50,080
Speaker 3: I have with my parents, like because I see some

885
00:38:50,280 --> 00:38:53,759
Speaker 3: people's relationship with their parents and I'm like, I haven't

886
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:56,120
Speaker 3: talked to your mom in years. Same.

887
00:38:56,400 --> 00:38:59,399
Speaker 1: In no way am I doing like the fuck me? Yeah,

888
00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:02,640
Speaker 1: I I never want to sound that way. I'm privileged

889
00:39:02,719 --> 00:39:05,640
Speaker 1: and had a good childhood. Of course, my parents are

890
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 1: not perfect. We went through our ship, we go through it.

891
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:08,040
Speaker 3: Nobody's perfect.

892
00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 1: But yeah, no, I'm if we're going down that run,

893
00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 1: I'm bro I see some people never imagine some of

894
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:16,520
Speaker 1: my friends what they went through with lack of parents

895
00:39:16,560 --> 00:39:18,640
Speaker 1: and parents that I Yeah, I don't want to sound

896
00:39:18,680 --> 00:39:22,040
Speaker 1: like I'm complaining, just having a conversation based off boundaries

897
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:24,080
Speaker 1: because I have the privilege of having both my parents

898
00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:27,480
Speaker 1: and my life, which I fully appreciate and feel blessed

899
00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 1: to have. And that's probably also why I cave a

900
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:33,839
Speaker 1: lot within shit, It's like, dude, I especially my parents

901
00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:36,359
Speaker 1: getting older, the amount of deaths in the last two

902
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:39,880
Speaker 1: years that have happened with my family and like surrounding friends,

903
00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 1: Like I'm watching my cousins lose their parents, Like this.

904
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 3: Ship is saying tough. Yeah.

905
00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:48,200
Speaker 1: So that's also probably why I give in a lot too.

906
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 3: It's like and then you realize, like, man, listen, man,

907
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:54,279
Speaker 3: we do lifeish. Life is sure. It's not like they snitched. Yeah,

908
00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:56,120
Speaker 3: Like they even come in the house. You ain't got

909
00:39:56,200 --> 00:39:58,040
Speaker 3: to rego, like it's okay, you can come and you

910
00:39:58,080 --> 00:39:58,799
Speaker 3: can come chill man.

911
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:00,239
Speaker 6: So yeah, I think a lot of it is just

912
00:40:00,320 --> 00:40:02,840
Speaker 6: remembering for the most part at least, like the intentions

913
00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:05,920
Speaker 6: from your parents are like pure. They're doing it because

914
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:07,840
Speaker 6: they care. The delivery might not be the best, but

915
00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:09,759
Speaker 6: it's pure.

916
00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 3: Yeah. Sometimes how they say yeah it's not the best,

917
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:15,640
Speaker 3: they mean well yeah, So how they convey it is

918
00:40:15,640 --> 00:40:18,279
Speaker 3: a little like balkward, but it's like at the at

919
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:20,680
Speaker 3: the core, it's love and yeah.

920
00:40:20,920 --> 00:40:23,440
Speaker 6: And whereas when I was younger and say, like my mom,

921
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:25,759
Speaker 6: would you know constantly you know, when a parent is

922
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:28,319
Speaker 6: so transfixed on you doing one specific thing that they'll

923
00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:30,480
Speaker 6: just say it a hundred times and then I'll get

924
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:33,120
Speaker 6: to that I'll snap and be like I got it,

925
00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:35,480
Speaker 6: and then it's like, Okay, the younger me would do that,

926
00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:38,200
Speaker 6: but now I'm saying it, but just in a better way.

927
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:41,160
Speaker 6: I'll just do the thing and text my mom like, hey,

928
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 6: by the way, got this done? Just easier nerves, Just

929
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:45,920
Speaker 6: just relax.

930
00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:49,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, as a question, you have half siblings through, right, Yes,

931
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:54,160
Speaker 1: so yeah, I'm not we're here without half siblings, but

932
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:59,040
Speaker 1: everyone here has half brothers and half sisters. Is the

933
00:40:59,160 --> 00:41:02,960
Speaker 1: relate what is the relationship like? And how does that

934
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:05,640
Speaker 1: work as being a sibling If you may have a

935
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:09,880
Speaker 1: great relationship with your pops but another sibling doesn't, Like.

936
00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:11,399
Speaker 3: How does that work?

937
00:41:11,840 --> 00:41:15,600
Speaker 1: It's I'm just as an only child, I've always been

938
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:19,759
Speaker 1: curious about this difficult horrible Yeah, it wasn't making it

939
00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:20,279
Speaker 1: a race thing.

940
00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:24,200
Speaker 3: It's difficult. True, it's difficult to kind of like navigate

941
00:41:24,280 --> 00:41:28,719
Speaker 3: through that. But I think like kind of like this conversation,

942
00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 3: you just reassure like, yo, listen, man, you know we

943
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:34,400
Speaker 3: don't we're not going to have dad forever. We're not

944
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 3: going to have mom forever. Like yeah, maybe they didn't

945
00:41:38,560 --> 00:41:41,560
Speaker 3: get it right, but remember they were just young trying

946
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:44,319
Speaker 3: to figure it out too, Like you know, no parent

947
00:41:44,440 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 3: is going to get it right all the time, but

948
00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 3: get experiences. Yea.

949
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 6: But to Roy's point, which side of the token were you, like,

950
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 6: because my two older brothers or my half brothers, and

951
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:55,480
Speaker 6: they were my dad's first crack at like marriage in

952
00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:56,760
Speaker 6: the household that failed.

953
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:58,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm the family.

954
00:41:58,200 --> 00:42:00,360
Speaker 6: I'm the result of the one with me and my

955
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:02,279
Speaker 6: brother with me and Kendall, and I that that he

956
00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:05,000
Speaker 6: figured it out, So that that was two sides of

957
00:42:05,040 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 6: the coin. It's like, are you the half that didn't

958
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:08,960
Speaker 6: work out with the marriage? Are you the half that did?

959
00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:12,040
Speaker 6: I definitely didn't work out, So you're on the not workouts.

960
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:16,080
Speaker 1: Are either Bruce Jenner family or the Bruce It's kind

961
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:18,160
Speaker 1: of weird. Well, Bruce Jenner ran from his original family

962
00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:19,439
Speaker 1: and then raised ten kids.

963
00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:22,400
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, no, No, it wasn't like that. Like my

964
00:42:22,640 --> 00:42:26,600
Speaker 3: my my dad was just you know, battling addiction in

965
00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 3: and out of prison. So none of us really had

966
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 3: like dad like he was, you know, in and out

967
00:42:36,080 --> 00:42:38,480
Speaker 3: of out of the system and you know, dealing with

968
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 3: his addiction and his and his mental health and things

969
00:42:40,640 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 3: like that. But as we got older, we started to

970
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:50,319
Speaker 3: develop that bond. Dad was around more and you could

971
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 3: see him actively trying to make up for the times

972
00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:57,719
Speaker 3: he wasn't around. But you know, like I tell you know,

973
00:42:58,200 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 3: me and my brother was talking a few years ago,

974
00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:02,000
Speaker 3: and it was like you got to just tell him,

975
00:43:02,040 --> 00:43:04,440
Speaker 3: like you don't got to try to make up for that,

976
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:07,880
Speaker 3: Like it's okay, Like we're here now, we all have,

977
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 3: you know, a healthy relationship. Now let's just keep building

978
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:13,920
Speaker 3: on that, like, don't try to make up for you know,

979
00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:17,600
Speaker 3: the mishaps in the past. But it's I think as

980
00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 3: long as everybody is open minded and willing to get

981
00:43:20,160 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 3: to a place of understanding, forgiveness, love, respect, I think

982
00:43:27,280 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 3: it's it's it's you know, it's pretty easy to navigate,

983
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 3: but you have to be at that point of forgiveness

984
00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:37,040
Speaker 3: and not harboring on shit. You know, you weren't around,

985
00:43:37,120 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 3: and you weren't at my first game, and it's like

986
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:42,680
Speaker 3: he wasn't at none of our first games. We told you.

987
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:45,400
Speaker 1: I mean, you guys sound very mature and that what

988
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:46,880
Speaker 1: do you think you guys are kind of an exception

989
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:49,520
Speaker 1: to that situation.

990
00:43:51,239 --> 00:43:53,440
Speaker 2: If he wasn't there for any of you, then one

991
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:55,760
Speaker 2: of y'all can't be upset with each other. Like for example,

992
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:58,839
Speaker 2: I was Me and my little sister were the kids

993
00:43:58,880 --> 00:44:02,040
Speaker 2: where like we were like my dad's like crack at,

994
00:44:02,160 --> 00:44:05,520
Speaker 2: like really really raising like a family. So they're at

995
00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:09,480
Speaker 2: before me and my older siblings. Relationship developed and we

996
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:13,359
Speaker 2: created a stronger bond. I am a certified daddy's girl.

997
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:16,360
Speaker 2: When you didn't have your dad to be that to you.

998
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:19,359
Speaker 2: Hearing your younger siblings say oh she's a daddy's girl.

999
00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:21,680
Speaker 2: Oh she's just this and that it can cause resentment

1000
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 2: and like eye roll, Sure, oh yeah, he's the greatest

1001
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 2: dad ever.

1002
00:44:24,239 --> 00:44:25,560
Speaker 7: He wasn't a great dad to me.

1003
00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:27,040
Speaker 3: But that's why I said, you got to be at

1004
00:44:27,080 --> 00:44:33,120
Speaker 3: that place of forgiveness, maturity, understanding, Like well, I think

1005
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:35,959
Speaker 3: we're just all at that place where it's like pop,

1006
00:44:36,000 --> 00:44:37,960
Speaker 3: it's cool, like we not you know what I'm saying

1007
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:41,080
Speaker 3: that it doesn't trust me. I know I got friends

1008
00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:44,239
Speaker 3: that to this day still hate their parents. But you

1009
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:46,920
Speaker 3: have to get to that place of forgiveness and just understand,

1010
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:49,560
Speaker 3: like yo, like when we're born, we just feel like

1011
00:44:49,600 --> 00:44:51,359
Speaker 3: because we just know our parents have always been as

1012
00:44:51,600 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 3: always been our parents, you don't realize, like yo, they

1013
00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 3: were teenagers at one point they were trying to figure

1014
00:44:56,120 --> 00:44:58,040
Speaker 3: out life. They were partying, they were trying to like

1015
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 3: have fun like they we were trying to figure shit out,

1016
00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 3: like and then add drug addiction into that. It's like

1017
00:45:06,120 --> 00:45:07,800
Speaker 3: as you become an adult and you out in the

1018
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:09,319
Speaker 3: world and you start looking around, like you just look

1019
00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:10,640
Speaker 3: at some of the friends that you went to school

1020
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 3: and where they're at in their lives. Now, it's like

1021
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:14,680
Speaker 3: you understand, like damn, like we was all just in

1022
00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:18,320
Speaker 3: high school. Now like this dude is strung out, this

1023
00:45:18,520 --> 00:45:21,680
Speaker 3: dude is dead. This dude got five kids by four

1024
00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:24,320
Speaker 3: different women. Like you start realizing like, oh shit, this

1025
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:27,120
Speaker 3: is what our parents went through, Like we are now

1026
00:45:27,200 --> 00:45:29,279
Speaker 3: what our parents were doing like or what they were

1027
00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 3: going through and learning what they were learning like, so

1028
00:45:31,360 --> 00:45:34,680
Speaker 3: I can't you can't put so much, you know, wait

1029
00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:36,400
Speaker 3: on your parents. So if you weren't there, its like

1030
00:45:37,200 --> 00:45:38,880
Speaker 3: they may have tried, but then they were human and

1031
00:45:38,920 --> 00:45:40,759
Speaker 3: they were young and they was trying to figure shit out,

1032
00:45:40,800 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 3: and then they got arrested, and you know, it's like shit,

1033
00:45:44,160 --> 00:45:47,759
Speaker 3: life happens, and having kids and trying to navigate it

1034
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:50,239
Speaker 3: is not as easy as people make it out to be.

1035
00:45:50,280 --> 00:45:53,479
Speaker 3: It's like, give some grace to your parents for damn. Like, Okay,

1036
00:45:53,520 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 3: I understand, but only if you know that your parents

1037
00:45:56,280 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 3: genuinely are at a place of like, damn, I see

1038
00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 3: now if you're parents is still like well, look y'all

1039
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:03,640
Speaker 3: turned out all right, Like it's like, yeah, but that's

1040
00:46:03,719 --> 00:46:05,399
Speaker 3: not the energy to have, like you know what I'm saying,

1041
00:46:05,440 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 3: Like you can't, you can't do that. But I am

1042
00:46:07,560 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 3: grateful that in a lot of ways that my dad

1043
00:46:10,680 --> 00:46:14,879
Speaker 3: did have a bunch of kids because family is so big.

1044
00:46:14,960 --> 00:46:16,480
Speaker 3: Now I have a bunch of nieces and nephews that

1045
00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:18,799
Speaker 3: are doing beautiful things. I have a bunch of brothers

1046
00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:21,359
Speaker 3: and sisters that are you know, doing things. And it's

1047
00:46:21,480 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 3: like I get it now, Like now I'll understand it.

1048
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:27,120
Speaker 3: Like selfishly, you wanted your parent to be there all

1049
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 3: the time. But it's like as you become an adult,

1050
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:32,440
Speaker 3: you're like, oh, this is pretty cool. Like I got

1051
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:34,839
Speaker 3: a brother that lives in Arizona. I got a brother

1052
00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:37,360
Speaker 3: that live in Florida. I got sister that live in Texas.

1053
00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 3: I got you know what I'm saying, So you start,

1054
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:41,560
Speaker 3: I got nieces and nephews all over the map where

1055
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:44,840
Speaker 3: and they're doing good things. And everybody is you know, striving.

1056
00:46:45,800 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 3: It's like, I can't be mad, Like what exactly would

1057
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:49,200
Speaker 3: I be mad at?

1058
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:54,880
Speaker 7: Did your mom ever keep you from absolutely your other siblings?

1059
00:46:55,160 --> 00:46:57,719
Speaker 3: Oh no, no, no, not my siblings. My dad at

1060
00:46:57,760 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 3: one point, yes, but only because he was still Yeah,

1061
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 3: he addiction and shit like that.

1062
00:47:02,680 --> 00:47:06,280
Speaker 2: But times like when it comes to like the baby mamas,

1063
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:07,960
Speaker 2: they don't fuck around with each other.

1064
00:47:08,040 --> 00:47:09,719
Speaker 3: It's like old I mean it was it was some

1065
00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 3: of that, you know, when I was young. Now looking

1066
00:47:12,200 --> 00:47:13,920
Speaker 3: back I could I know it was some of that,

1067
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 3: But once we reached a certain age, that energy wasn't

1068
00:47:18,440 --> 00:47:20,520
Speaker 3: it wasn't going. My mother was always on the side

1069
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:24,560
Speaker 3: of if you want that relationship, then go have that relationship,

1070
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 3: build that relationship. She never kept me from it. She

1071
00:47:28,719 --> 00:47:30,759
Speaker 3: you know, hid certain things from me that she didn't

1072
00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:32,880
Speaker 3: want me to see, you know what I mean, just

1073
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:34,680
Speaker 3: because I was young and she you know, you're just

1074
00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:37,040
Speaker 3: not at an age where that's the type of things

1075
00:47:37,080 --> 00:47:40,080
Speaker 3: you should be exposed to. But as I got older,

1076
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:44,080
Speaker 3: my mom was one hundred percent like champion and building

1077
00:47:44,080 --> 00:47:47,319
Speaker 3: a relationship with my dad and my siblings, like.

1078
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:50,600
Speaker 7: A relationship with any of your siblings that aren't hers.

1079
00:47:50,960 --> 00:47:55,279
Speaker 3: Absolutely, my mom got my mom got one of my brothers, uh,

1080
00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:58,280
Speaker 3: the job that he still currently has and he's probably

1081
00:47:58,360 --> 00:48:00,719
Speaker 3: had that job for like twenty years, and my mom

1082
00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:02,839
Speaker 3: got him that job. You know what I'm saying. It's

1083
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:04,800
Speaker 3: like things like that. It's like, yo, we family, Like

1084
00:48:04,840 --> 00:48:07,160
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, Like no matter what, like, yo,

1085
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:09,920
Speaker 3: we family. Bro Like the way it happened, maybe you

1086
00:48:09,960 --> 00:48:12,000
Speaker 3: know selfishly you wanted things to go a different way.

1087
00:48:12,520 --> 00:48:14,320
Speaker 3: It didn't go that way. So what are we gonna do?

1088
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:16,239
Speaker 3: Just be for the rest of our life? Like that's

1089
00:48:16,280 --> 00:48:18,600
Speaker 3: fucking crazy, Like helly, don know, we ain't doing that.

1090
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:21,719
Speaker 3: But again, you have to be at that space where

1091
00:48:21,760 --> 00:48:26,000
Speaker 3: you're willing to accept that and embrace that. You can't

1092
00:48:26,040 --> 00:48:29,680
Speaker 3: fight against that, Like you'll embrace it. We're family, love

1093
00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:32,879
Speaker 3: each other. We only here for a short time. Don't

1094
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:35,440
Speaker 3: spend it being upset because you didn't have a relationship

1095
00:48:35,480 --> 00:48:37,000
Speaker 3: with a man that you wanted and you want him

1096
00:48:37,000 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 3: to be around and just only be with you, Like,

1097
00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 3: I get it, But it didn't go that way.

1098
00:48:41,760 --> 00:48:44,800
Speaker 1: When your father was like at the point that it

1099
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 1: made sense to like start I guess to make amends

1100
00:48:47,080 --> 00:48:49,800
Speaker 1: and all that entire thing were all your siblings on

1101
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:52,880
Speaker 1: board to have that process or was it kind of

1102
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 1: staggered in an individual experience with each person as far

1103
00:48:56,160 --> 00:48:58,279
Speaker 1: as the time it took, or was this like a

1104
00:48:58,360 --> 00:49:00,719
Speaker 1: group chat, like, hey, we're ready to talk to dad.

1105
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 3: I think it just got to a point where and

1106
00:49:04,640 --> 00:49:09,320
Speaker 3: it's funny. I think I think death in the families

1107
00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:13,920
Speaker 3: brought us a lot closer. Yeah, you know, it's it's unfortunate,

1108
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:18,680
Speaker 3: but I think that like when my brother passed, that

1109
00:49:18,960 --> 00:49:22,680
Speaker 3: was like the I think that was the moment where

1110
00:49:22,719 --> 00:49:26,399
Speaker 3: it was like, yo, yeah, we have to be here

1111
00:49:26,480 --> 00:49:28,239
Speaker 3: for each other. We have to love each other, we

1112
00:49:28,400 --> 00:49:30,719
Speaker 3: have to spend time with each other, we have to

1113
00:49:30,800 --> 00:49:33,759
Speaker 3: check in on each other, we have to That was

1114
00:49:33,840 --> 00:49:36,840
Speaker 3: the moment where it was like, you know, we have

1115
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:38,800
Speaker 3: to make sure we have this bond and this connection

1116
00:49:38,920 --> 00:49:41,640
Speaker 3: with each other because we never know, you know what

1117
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:45,359
Speaker 3: I'm saying, and you know, one of us goes, there's

1118
00:49:45,440 --> 00:49:47,440
Speaker 3: so many you know, if you don't have that relationship,

1119
00:49:47,440 --> 00:49:50,400
Speaker 3: it's so many things unanswered. There's so many conversations you

1120
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:53,719
Speaker 3: didn't get to have, and you start to have resentment

1121
00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:56,600
Speaker 3: to that. And we just realized, like why didn't we

1122
00:49:56,680 --> 00:50:00,000
Speaker 3: why didn't we ever build these moments and these memory

1123
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:02,759
Speaker 3: reason and this bond like for what like it's it's

1124
00:50:02,840 --> 00:50:06,319
Speaker 3: just stupid. And you know, again, it takes a lot.

1125
00:50:06,520 --> 00:50:08,520
Speaker 3: It takes a you know a lot to get to

1126
00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:13,240
Speaker 3: that space, but it's absolutely worth it. And it's beautiful

1127
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:17,440
Speaker 3: once you get over that hump of personal feelings, personal

1128
00:50:17,520 --> 00:50:19,440
Speaker 3: resentment and shit like that. Once you get over that

1129
00:50:19,640 --> 00:50:26,960
Speaker 3: hump on the other side of that, it's beautiful. That

1130
00:50:27,120 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 3: was really great. Thank you guys for sharing all that.

1131
00:50:30,040 --> 00:50:33,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've always been very curious with the half sibling

1132
00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:36,279
Speaker 1: relationship is like growing up, So I appreciate you guys

1133
00:50:36,320 --> 00:50:37,759
Speaker 1: for sharing personal stuff like that.

1134
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:39,759
Speaker 3: It's fun that we get older. It's fun having a

1135
00:50:39,800 --> 00:50:42,440
Speaker 3: relationship with your siblings. Yeah, that was really cool.

1136
00:50:43,680 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 1: Maybe let's uh, I don't think we're in a damp mood,

1137
00:50:47,040 --> 00:50:48,160
Speaker 1: but let's light it up a little bit.

1138
00:50:49,120 --> 00:50:52,360
Speaker 6: Well, I mean, yeah, let's let's fall into our strongest

1139
00:50:52,560 --> 00:50:54,400
Speaker 6: expertise relationship advice.

1140
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:57,920
Speaker 7: I got scared. I thought that was going to go

1141
00:50:58,000 --> 00:50:58,440
Speaker 7: somewhere else.

1142
00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:04,560
Speaker 3: I thought it was boundaries. I thought it was boundary.

1143
00:51:04,640 --> 00:51:07,319
Speaker 6: Well, I obviously had that conversation not gone that, which

1144
00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:09,440
Speaker 6: was great, But had it not gone that longer?

1145
00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 3: In that direction.

1146
00:51:10,320 --> 00:51:12,560
Speaker 1: I did have a perfect followup for that, but let's

1147
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:13,560
Speaker 1: just switch it up real quick.

1148
00:51:13,600 --> 00:51:13,960
Speaker 3: That's cool.

1149
00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:17,520
Speaker 4: Hey guys, it's MAXI from Jersey. But I want to

1150
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:21,759
Speaker 4: be exact Max. She loved me. She's like a little

1151
00:51:21,760 --> 00:51:24,839
Speaker 4: sister in my head. So let me just get straight

1152
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:27,560
Speaker 4: to the point. Oh, I've been friends with this guy

1153
00:51:27,760 --> 00:51:29,719
Speaker 4: we'll call him John for like thirty plus years. I

1154
00:51:29,800 --> 00:51:34,680
Speaker 4: haven't seen him and maybe about twenty years. So a

1155
00:51:34,719 --> 00:51:36,440
Speaker 4: few weeks ago, he dms me and tells me that

1156
00:51:36,600 --> 00:51:38,879
Speaker 4: he moved back to me own and he really wants

1157
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:40,759
Speaker 4: to see me. So I'm like, all right, cool, it's

1158
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:42,920
Speaker 4: my friend, let me you know, let's go meet up

1159
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:44,680
Speaker 4: with each other. So we meet up with each other

1160
00:51:45,239 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 4: and he tells me that he's going through a divorce.

1161
00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:51,719
Speaker 4: So I was like, all right, I'm sorry to hear that.

1162
00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:52,040
Speaker 3: Whatever.

1163
00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:54,040
Speaker 4: But then he looks at me and he's like, but

1164
00:51:54,760 --> 00:51:56,560
Speaker 4: you've always been the one that I've always wanted.

1165
00:51:56,400 --> 00:51:59,440
Speaker 7: To be with, which threw me for Luke, because.

1166
00:52:00,760 --> 00:52:03,640
Speaker 4: No, I don't know, he was just never my side,

1167
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:07,120
Speaker 4: kast word for hanging out, have a good good time.

1168
00:52:07,480 --> 00:52:11,360
Speaker 6: We get all right, Well, never his type. Never, he

1169
00:52:11,560 --> 00:52:13,680
Speaker 6: was never her type. What do you think happens between them.

1170
00:52:14,360 --> 00:52:16,520
Speaker 3: I'm still a little confused. He was never her type.

1171
00:52:16,560 --> 00:52:18,680
Speaker 1: They've known each other for thirty years, but haven't seen

1172
00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:22,160
Speaker 1: each other in twenty years. So at ten years old,

1173
00:52:22,200 --> 00:52:26,000
Speaker 1: they weren't each other's type. He's never been my old

1174
00:52:26,120 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 1: she is, you're in here. I was assumed late thirties,

1175
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:30,880
Speaker 1: early forties, so.

1176
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:34,200
Speaker 3: She hasn't seen him in thirty years. They've known each

1177
00:52:34,200 --> 00:52:36,520
Speaker 3: other for thirty years, they have seen each other in

1178
00:52:36,680 --> 00:52:40,880
Speaker 3: twenty or so. Oh so they were probably young teenagers

1179
00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:43,360
Speaker 3: like Bami middle maybe twelve thirteen.

1180
00:52:43,760 --> 00:52:44,600
Speaker 7: Yeah, oh he.

1181
00:52:44,680 --> 00:52:48,600
Speaker 2: Sounds young, okay, giving her her little sister, so she's

1182
00:52:48,600 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 2: probably around like she's probably between thirty five and forty.

1183
00:52:51,520 --> 00:52:54,000
Speaker 3: All right, So even then though he was the ugly duckling,

1184
00:52:54,400 --> 00:52:56,520
Speaker 3: but he was a scrawny nerd in school.

1185
00:52:56,640 --> 00:52:58,279
Speaker 6: It's not like it's not she didn't see him in

1186
00:52:58,480 --> 00:53:02,040
Speaker 6: twenty years. We know Instagram, but you got a photo, like,

1187
00:53:02,080 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 6: it's not like they still know what each other looks like. Oh,

1188
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:07,680
Speaker 6: my point is she's saying he was never he's never

1189
00:53:07,760 --> 00:53:09,640
Speaker 6: my type. What do you think happens between the two

1190
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:09,880
Speaker 6: of them?

1191
00:53:09,960 --> 00:53:13,719
Speaker 3: Oh, he fucked. They definitely fuck drunk. We end up

1192
00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:16,719
Speaker 3: back at my place and we saw this coming leap

1193
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:18,280
Speaker 3: together swag.

1194
00:53:18,440 --> 00:53:21,120
Speaker 4: So that was Friday night. Saturday night, I tell him

1195
00:53:21,120 --> 00:53:21,640
Speaker 4: to come over.

1196
00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:23,920
Speaker 3: Just so we can hang out the next night talk

1197
00:53:24,000 --> 00:53:24,560
Speaker 3: for a little bit.

1198
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:27,480
Speaker 4: He said he would come over Sunday. Sunday he comes over,

1199
00:53:29,000 --> 00:53:33,759
Speaker 4: and of course we sleep together again, and then that's

1200
00:53:33,760 --> 00:53:37,680
Speaker 4: when he starts telling me how much he misses me,

1201
00:53:37,920 --> 00:53:40,120
Speaker 4: loves me, wants to be with me, blah blah blah

1202
00:53:40,120 --> 00:53:42,719
Speaker 4: blah bhlah. Bad thing is I don't want to be

1203
00:53:42,880 --> 00:53:46,319
Speaker 4: with him now. My question is how can I let

1204
00:53:46,440 --> 00:53:48,040
Speaker 4: him down easy and tell him I don't want to

1205
00:53:48,040 --> 00:53:49,600
Speaker 4: be with him, but I still do want to be

1206
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:50,319
Speaker 4: friends with him?

1207
00:53:50,719 --> 00:53:53,560
Speaker 3: This is this is the easiest. Oh Max, you're a

1208
00:53:53,800 --> 00:53:58,000
Speaker 3: fucking demon. He's playing the dude. You took him out

1209
00:53:58,040 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 3: of the friend zone. He's playing with that nookie on him,

1210
00:54:01,320 --> 00:54:03,560
Speaker 3: and now you're trying to put him back into friend zone.

1211
00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:06,920
Speaker 3: She made the mistake. Yeah, I hate women like that.

1212
00:54:08,600 --> 00:54:10,480
Speaker 3: It was fucked up that after he confessed that he

1213
00:54:10,560 --> 00:54:12,759
Speaker 3: really wanted her, and you know, he told her that

1214
00:54:12,840 --> 00:54:16,040
Speaker 3: why he was in it. Oh oh oh, I love you,

1215
00:54:16,680 --> 00:54:18,800
Speaker 3: I want to be with you. It sounded like he

1216
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:19,720
Speaker 3: said that before.

1217
00:54:19,920 --> 00:54:20,560
Speaker 7: I think he said that.

1218
00:54:20,640 --> 00:54:23,960
Speaker 3: Before that he said that while it was missionary. I

1219
00:54:24,040 --> 00:54:26,560
Speaker 3: think he said it again. But let's go with her story.

1220
00:54:26,640 --> 00:54:29,480
Speaker 1: They met up before and he said that to early,

1221
00:54:29,520 --> 00:54:30,960
Speaker 1: I'm getting divorced, but you were always the one I

1222
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:33,279
Speaker 1: wanted to be with. You're my fucking soulmate. Yeah, twin flame.

1223
00:54:33,560 --> 00:54:35,080
Speaker 1: Then he said I love you and I want to

1224
00:54:35,120 --> 00:54:36,160
Speaker 1: be with you. While he was hitting it.

1225
00:54:36,360 --> 00:54:38,560
Speaker 3: She was like, oh, no, you're not really my type.

1226
00:54:38,840 --> 00:54:41,000
Speaker 3: But then, you know, blame it on the alcohol. They

1227
00:54:41,040 --> 00:54:41,399
Speaker 3: went back.

1228
00:54:41,480 --> 00:54:43,840
Speaker 1: He definitely said that while fucking face to face, and

1229
00:54:43,960 --> 00:54:47,480
Speaker 1: she probably responded, she's fucked up for that. This is

1230
00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:49,359
Speaker 1: the easiest way to let him down. You're going through

1231
00:54:49,400 --> 00:54:52,840
Speaker 1: a divorce. I don't want to get right into a

1232
00:54:52,920 --> 00:54:55,720
Speaker 1: relationship with someone that's coming out of a long term divorce.

1233
00:54:56,000 --> 00:54:58,120
Speaker 1: We could be cool, we could be friends, we can

1234
00:54:58,200 --> 00:55:02,520
Speaker 1: fuck around, but nah, like you be single.

1235
00:55:02,280 --> 00:55:05,440
Speaker 3: For a little you gotta stop fucking him. Agreed, And

1236
00:55:05,560 --> 00:55:07,560
Speaker 3: she's going to be mature about you. Stop fucking.

1237
00:55:07,600 --> 00:55:10,839
Speaker 1: You're giving like logical, real advice. That's not the world

1238
00:55:10,880 --> 00:55:12,440
Speaker 1: we live in. Being they're going to continue to fuck

1239
00:55:12,760 --> 00:55:16,319
Speaker 1: having for women's brain, So just telling me you're coming,

1240
00:55:16,560 --> 00:55:18,240
Speaker 1: which is the truth in my opinion.

1241
00:55:19,360 --> 00:55:22,640
Speaker 3: Old woman you're not attracted to is crazy.

1242
00:55:23,040 --> 00:55:24,719
Speaker 6: Well, that's what I'm saying. That's cap like you do

1243
00:55:24,840 --> 00:55:26,719
Speaker 6: that when you're young. That young shit, you do that

1244
00:55:26,760 --> 00:55:28,319
Speaker 6: when you like early. You're attracted to him. You fucked

1245
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:30,080
Speaker 6: him twice in less than forty eight hours, and she

1246
00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:31,920
Speaker 6: told him to come back over attracted.

1247
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:33,120
Speaker 3: To him, he must it must have been good. If

1248
00:55:33,120 --> 00:55:34,839
Speaker 3: you told him to come back over, it was good.

1249
00:55:35,120 --> 00:55:36,680
Speaker 3: It was good for sure. She just don't want to

1250
00:55:36,680 --> 00:55:38,880
Speaker 3: be with him. They fuck Friday. She said, let's do

1251
00:55:38,960 --> 00:55:42,520
Speaker 3: this again tomorrow on Saturday. He said I can't. She said, okay, Sunday.

1252
00:55:42,880 --> 00:55:44,799
Speaker 3: You like this guy and I don't.

1253
00:55:45,480 --> 00:55:47,880
Speaker 7: I wouldn't put like on it. But the sex was

1254
00:55:47,920 --> 00:55:49,120
Speaker 7: good the first time she had it, she said, the

1255
00:55:49,120 --> 00:55:49,640
Speaker 7: first time.

1256
00:55:49,520 --> 00:55:51,799
Speaker 3: She had issues. Women are crazy, she said.

1257
00:55:51,800 --> 00:55:53,040
Speaker 7: The first time she had it, she was drunk.

1258
00:55:53,080 --> 00:55:54,680
Speaker 3: It must have been good. So she did it again.

1259
00:55:55,080 --> 00:55:57,600
Speaker 2: And you know, and since this is no shade to you,

1260
00:55:57,680 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 2: because I don't know you, some women like the feeling

1261
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:03,560
Speaker 2: of being wanted and being pursued, but they know they

1262
00:56:03,600 --> 00:56:04,640
Speaker 2: don't want nothing with that man.

1263
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:06,400
Speaker 7: But it was an ego boost. Men do it all

1264
00:56:06,440 --> 00:56:07,040
Speaker 7: the time too, but.

1265
00:56:07,120 --> 00:56:09,800
Speaker 3: She said she's not attracted to him. Yeah, how do

1266
00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:11,920
Speaker 3: you sleep and lay with somebody you're not attracted?

1267
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:14,080
Speaker 1: I thought she said he's not my he's not her type.

1268
00:56:14,200 --> 00:56:17,680
Speaker 1: So I'll ask you two part questions. After you fucked

1269
00:56:17,719 --> 00:56:19,800
Speaker 1: with a girl, how she ever said to you? It's crazy,

1270
00:56:19,840 --> 00:56:22,680
Speaker 1: this happened in a polite way. It's crazy this happened. Like,

1271
00:56:22,800 --> 00:56:26,080
Speaker 1: you're not even really my type. It's weird that this happened.

1272
00:56:26,120 --> 00:56:27,360
Speaker 1: And two, were you offended by that?

1273
00:56:28,840 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 3: No, I don't really care. If I already hit you

1274
00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:31,239
Speaker 3: can say whatever.

1275
00:56:31,719 --> 00:56:34,480
Speaker 1: I've had that conversation with more than one woman. They're like, yeah, this,

1276
00:56:34,680 --> 00:56:37,080
Speaker 1: you're not really my type. It's weird that, like I

1277
00:56:37,239 --> 00:56:39,279
Speaker 1: like you, You're the only white man I've ever slept with.

1278
00:56:40,040 --> 00:56:44,040
Speaker 1: There's that's happened before. Have I been saying, have you

1279
00:56:44,040 --> 00:56:45,520
Speaker 1: ever been an experimental white boy?

1280
00:56:45,760 --> 00:56:50,600
Speaker 3: Yeah? More so in college I've been an experiment. I'm

1281
00:56:50,600 --> 00:56:55,800
Speaker 3: always the side step experiment. It happened. I checked mad boxes.

1282
00:56:55,920 --> 00:56:58,080
Speaker 1: Because then, you know, in high school everyone's just horny

1283
00:56:58,120 --> 00:57:00,840
Speaker 1: and no one really has like, yeah experiences. Once I

1284
00:57:00,920 --> 00:57:03,840
Speaker 1: got to college, that's when I had women like you

1285
00:57:03,920 --> 00:57:04,359
Speaker 1: have never.

1286
00:57:05,200 --> 00:57:06,080
Speaker 3: Slept with a white guy.

1287
00:57:06,600 --> 00:57:10,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'll you know, I know everyone's incredible and

1288
00:57:10,520 --> 00:57:13,080
Speaker 1: they're amazing and they've never done anything wrong in their lives.

1289
00:57:14,360 --> 00:57:16,600
Speaker 3: I maybe took advantage of that a few times. Man.

1290
00:57:16,680 --> 00:57:18,840
Speaker 3: I took advanmine once, like, all right, bet, I'll be

1291
00:57:18,920 --> 00:57:20,040
Speaker 3: your guinea pick this white girl.

1292
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:21,600
Speaker 1: You're gonna get me pussy because you just want to

1293
00:57:21,680 --> 00:57:25,920
Speaker 1: do I know you don't. Really, it's the it's the theory.

1294
00:57:25,960 --> 00:57:27,760
Speaker 1: I know you don't like me, but I'm not what

1295
00:57:27,840 --> 00:57:28,840
Speaker 1: I'm not going to capitalize.

1296
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:32,280
Speaker 3: I did it. I was young. I fucked that white

1297
00:57:32,320 --> 00:57:33,240
Speaker 3: girl from Mother Africa.

1298
00:57:33,320 --> 00:57:35,160
Speaker 2: She was like, pussy. If you ate her pussy, then

1299
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:37,840
Speaker 2: it wasn't for Mother Africa. You ate white pussy in

1300
00:57:37,960 --> 00:57:39,800
Speaker 2: my life, you ate colonizer pussy.

1301
00:57:40,640 --> 00:57:45,280
Speaker 3: Of course, I have I eat white I've eaten white

1302
00:57:45,280 --> 00:57:47,960
Speaker 3: pussy before. Who hasn't eaten white pussy? Are you kidding me?

1303
00:57:48,880 --> 00:57:52,440
Speaker 3: I've eaten white pussy? All right? Are you kidding me?

1304
00:57:52,720 --> 00:57:55,440
Speaker 3: Definitely eating somebody who didn't eat white bread before? Like,

1305
00:57:55,560 --> 00:57:57,840
Speaker 3: are you kidding me? Who hasn't eaten? Much more dangerous

1306
00:57:57,840 --> 00:57:59,920
Speaker 3: than white pussy? Absolutely, But I did it for my

1307
00:58:00,120 --> 00:58:01,800
Speaker 3: African I was in there trying all kind of shit

1308
00:58:01,880 --> 00:58:04,320
Speaker 3: on that white girl. You're you the first black guy

1309
00:58:05,120 --> 00:58:09,000
Speaker 3: were watch this. I think I might have put on

1310
00:58:09,640 --> 00:58:13,520
Speaker 3: Kent into Wakanda. Yeah, I went crazy. I went crazy.

1311
00:58:13,560 --> 00:58:16,040
Speaker 3: I did had roots from Chad. I did it for Chadwick.

1312
00:58:16,120 --> 00:58:18,680
Speaker 3: I was like, yo, listen, man, this is for Chadwick. Yeah,

1313
00:58:18,720 --> 00:58:21,840
Speaker 3: I went crazy. I went crazy. Wasn't even what year

1314
00:58:21,960 --> 00:58:24,200
Speaker 3: was this, No, this was like, this was like two

1315
00:58:24,280 --> 00:58:26,680
Speaker 3: years ago ago. Okay, this was like.

1316
00:58:26,640 --> 00:58:28,840
Speaker 6: Three or four Yearsusyn White puzzy for the first time

1317
00:58:28,880 --> 00:58:29,439
Speaker 6: three years ago.

1318
00:58:29,600 --> 00:58:30,360
Speaker 3: Not for the first time.

1319
00:58:30,560 --> 00:58:31,960
Speaker 1: You hit it from the back like this the whole

1320
00:58:32,000 --> 00:58:36,600
Speaker 1: time for the Bronx. Oh no, I'm sorry, it's.

1321
00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:39,600
Speaker 3: Like this yea. Yeah, I did it for the Bronx though. Yeah.

1322
00:58:40,000 --> 00:58:43,200
Speaker 1: But I feel like women do sleep with people that

1323
00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:46,600
Speaker 1: were not their initial type mm hmm, and like end

1324
00:58:46,720 --> 00:58:49,160
Speaker 1: up liking them sometimes men, So I think you're looking

1325
00:58:49,200 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 1: at this different. She didn't be like yo, I found

1326
00:58:51,480 --> 00:58:54,160
Speaker 1: him ugly as fuck. It wasn't really her type. So

1327
00:58:55,800 --> 00:58:59,960
Speaker 1: without an actual conversation or a vibe check or chemistry,

1328
00:59:01,120 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 1: wasn't visually what she usually goes for.

1329
00:59:04,200 --> 00:59:06,520
Speaker 3: That happens with women, that happens with men too. Yeah,

1330
00:59:06,560 --> 00:59:09,760
Speaker 3: but but this is somebody she's known for so many years,

1331
00:59:09,920 --> 00:59:12,760
Speaker 3: and she she always felt like he wasn't her type.

1332
00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:15,080
Speaker 3: So that now, why all of a sudden, now do

1333
00:59:15,200 --> 00:59:16,480
Speaker 3: you give him some pussy ball?

1334
00:59:16,520 --> 00:59:18,040
Speaker 1: If you have not seen me in twenty years, you

1335
00:59:18,080 --> 00:59:20,560
Speaker 1: don't know me. True, you don't know me.

1336
00:59:20,680 --> 00:59:22,440
Speaker 3: Absolutely. I agree with you in that, But that's seen

1337
00:59:22,480 --> 00:59:24,040
Speaker 3: me in two years. But that's what makes it. But

1338
00:59:24,160 --> 00:59:26,680
Speaker 3: that's what makes this situation even more weird to me

1339
00:59:26,800 --> 00:59:29,760
Speaker 3: is because Yo, you don't notice per year y'all knew

1340
00:59:29,760 --> 00:59:33,200
Speaker 3: each other when y'all were younger, just kind of relinked

1341
00:59:33,280 --> 00:59:34,800
Speaker 3: up and kind of getting to know each other again,

1342
00:59:34,840 --> 00:59:37,080
Speaker 3: and then the first time y'all hang out, like now

1343
00:59:37,160 --> 00:59:38,880
Speaker 3: he gets to have sex.

1344
00:59:40,040 --> 00:59:43,240
Speaker 7: Yeah, since I'm not gonna lie to you like then you.

1345
00:59:43,240 --> 00:59:45,760
Speaker 3: Want to tell him like, nah, I ain't feeling you

1346
00:59:45,880 --> 00:59:47,840
Speaker 3: like that. And it's like she played it like a guy.

1347
00:59:48,560 --> 00:59:50,520
Speaker 3: That's what I'm But that's why I'm saying she's a demon.

1348
00:59:51,040 --> 00:59:51,400
Speaker 9: You have.

1349
00:59:52,960 --> 00:59:55,760
Speaker 2: Kinds an easy out because in all honesty, this nigga

1350
00:59:55,840 --> 00:59:58,280
Speaker 2: just got a divorce and he's older and now he

1351
00:59:58,400 --> 01:00:00,160
Speaker 2: can't go out here in these streets and move moved

1352
01:00:00,200 --> 01:00:01,960
Speaker 2: the way that he used to move when he was

1353
01:00:02,040 --> 01:00:05,000
Speaker 2: younger and you were a safe thing, like, oh, I

1354
01:00:05,080 --> 01:00:07,800
Speaker 2: have a great relationship with her, she's attractive, and he

1355
01:00:08,560 --> 01:00:10,960
Speaker 2: romanticized the fuck out of it because he's scared to

1356
01:00:10,960 --> 01:00:13,480
Speaker 2: be alone. Use that, just say you don't really want me.

1357
01:00:13,560 --> 01:00:15,200
Speaker 2: You're just going through a diverse and you're looking for

1358
01:00:15,320 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 2: a safety net and I can't be that for you.

1359
01:00:17,160 --> 01:00:18,080
Speaker 2: Let's pretty sure that's how.

1360
01:00:18,120 --> 01:00:22,400
Speaker 3: Niggas end up underneath your car. That's all right, you

1361
01:00:22,520 --> 01:00:24,240
Speaker 3: pak when she park and go to work, nigga layup

1362
01:00:24,280 --> 01:00:26,400
Speaker 3: under the car and put the belt on like Cape Fear.

1363
01:00:26,480 --> 01:00:30,040
Speaker 3: Remember then the doors. That's how it happens. Don't not

1364
01:00:30,240 --> 01:00:32,720
Speaker 3: don't put me in the friend zone for twenty plus years. Okay,

1365
01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:35,360
Speaker 3: then take me out and then decide you're gonna put

1366
01:00:35,400 --> 01:00:37,160
Speaker 3: me back in the friend zone. Don't do that to me.

1367
01:00:37,480 --> 01:00:38,560
Speaker 7: You gotta let it go now.

1368
01:00:38,680 --> 01:00:40,840
Speaker 3: Fuck that, man, that shit gets fire. You're doing it.

1369
01:00:40,880 --> 01:00:42,200
Speaker 3: You do need to let it go. Fuck that in

1370
01:00:42,240 --> 01:00:44,440
Speaker 3: a lot of episodes. Fuck that. Should we have her

1371
01:00:44,480 --> 01:00:48,600
Speaker 3: on not? Hell no, Patreon, No, we'll blurr face now

1372
01:00:48,640 --> 01:00:52,120
Speaker 3: we cool. I'm not, I'm not really tripping off. Change

1373
01:00:52,120 --> 01:00:54,080
Speaker 3: your voice. Just put everything right here. Just to put

1374
01:00:54,080 --> 01:00:56,400
Speaker 3: a hologram I do it all right?

1375
01:00:56,480 --> 01:01:01,480
Speaker 1: Two thousand and eight, moved to New Jersey. Mark Anderson

1376
01:01:01,600 --> 01:01:04,400
Speaker 1: senior on the track team. My first week pulls me aside,

1377
01:01:04,440 --> 01:01:07,000
Speaker 1: puts his arm around me, and says, yo, if it's

1378
01:01:07,040 --> 01:01:11,280
Speaker 1: from bayone, leave it alone. And I've lived and died

1379
01:01:11,360 --> 01:01:15,400
Speaker 1: by that, and I think it. It tells true here

1380
01:01:16,720 --> 01:01:19,640
Speaker 1: she's from bayone, New Jersey. If it's from bayone, leave

1381
01:01:19,640 --> 01:01:20,000
Speaker 1: it alone.

1382
01:01:20,120 --> 01:01:21,120
Speaker 3: Right across the Hudson.

1383
01:01:21,480 --> 01:01:25,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, granted I didn't listen to that advice, but maybe

1384
01:01:25,080 --> 01:01:25,640
Speaker 1: this guy ship.

1385
01:01:26,280 --> 01:01:28,840
Speaker 3: Do you remember the first black girl you slept with? Yeah?

1386
01:01:29,160 --> 01:01:29,360
Speaker 9: You do?

1387
01:01:29,880 --> 01:01:31,360
Speaker 3: Did you lose your vigendy two black woman?

1388
01:01:31,480 --> 01:01:31,520
Speaker 9: No?

1389
01:01:31,760 --> 01:01:32,360
Speaker 3: She was halfway.

1390
01:01:34,400 --> 01:01:36,360
Speaker 7: Don't sorry, we've been doing so well.

1391
01:01:36,960 --> 01:01:41,320
Speaker 3: What he was going to make a molesting Joe could

1392
01:01:41,360 --> 01:01:44,640
Speaker 3: have been a black man. Thank you for that, Julie.

1393
01:01:44,720 --> 01:01:46,920
Speaker 3: You know you, I mean, it probably wasn't, and that's

1394
01:01:47,160 --> 01:01:49,800
Speaker 3: most likely to like I think that you know I'm in.

1395
01:01:49,800 --> 01:01:52,640
Speaker 1: The room, right, Yeah, I mean you could tell you know, like,

1396
01:01:52,680 --> 01:01:56,000
Speaker 1: I'm right, you guys are having a side conversation.

1397
01:01:56,040 --> 01:01:57,960
Speaker 3: No, no, I just all right.

1398
01:01:58,640 --> 01:02:00,960
Speaker 1: The second girl I ever slept with was black. The

1399
01:02:01,000 --> 01:02:04,360
Speaker 1: first girl was half white, half Spanish, okay, got it,

1400
01:02:04,600 --> 01:02:09,080
Speaker 1: like you know that she looked more like a dirty,

1401
01:02:09,160 --> 01:02:13,360
Speaker 1: poor white but wasn't fully white. Okay, all right, Bill's

1402
01:02:13,440 --> 01:02:16,800
Speaker 1: character shout out to her, shout out to them one night.

1403
01:02:16,840 --> 01:02:18,680
Speaker 6: So what's so, what's the what's the game plan here?

1404
01:02:18,760 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 6: She needs to stop playing games?

1405
01:02:20,680 --> 01:02:23,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, man, stop don't do that. You shouldn't. You shouldn't

1406
01:02:23,160 --> 01:02:24,480
Speaker 3: take a guy to the friend zone that you had

1407
01:02:24,520 --> 01:02:26,840
Speaker 3: in there for twenty plus years and then he's going

1408
01:02:26,880 --> 01:02:30,400
Speaker 3: through a divorce. Now you give him some sympathy. Sex.

1409
01:02:31,000 --> 01:02:33,920
Speaker 7: Doubling back on the yo. Doubling back on it is

1410
01:02:34,160 --> 01:02:34,480
Speaker 7: knowing you.

1411
01:02:34,520 --> 01:02:36,400
Speaker 3: Still don't work. Like that's crazy.

1412
01:02:37,240 --> 01:02:39,920
Speaker 6: And you know she just left this voicemail. I bet

1413
01:02:39,960 --> 01:02:42,959
Speaker 6: you they're meeting tonight or likes.

1414
01:02:42,720 --> 01:02:44,520
Speaker 3: And you know why it's really whack because he liked

1415
01:02:44,560 --> 01:02:48,120
Speaker 3: it for so many years. He finally got it and

1416
01:02:48,200 --> 01:02:50,040
Speaker 3: then he just open. He's just like dumped, like, yo,

1417
01:02:50,160 --> 01:02:50,680
Speaker 3: I love you.

1418
01:02:50,880 --> 01:02:52,680
Speaker 1: And he's in such a vulnerable place going through it.

1419
01:02:54,160 --> 01:02:54,920
Speaker 1: She's gonna crush it.

1420
01:02:55,040 --> 01:02:57,840
Speaker 6: I love you part after he hit he led with

1421
01:02:58,040 --> 01:03:01,560
Speaker 6: that and then you let him hit heed what I

1422
01:03:01,640 --> 01:03:01,880
Speaker 6: love you.

1423
01:03:02,080 --> 01:03:04,480
Speaker 3: He was like I've always wanted to be that's different.

1424
01:03:05,120 --> 01:03:07,840
Speaker 3: It's worse on her part, But if he didn't leave

1425
01:03:07,880 --> 01:03:09,560
Speaker 3: what I love you? Though he said I love you

1426
01:03:09,600 --> 01:03:11,320
Speaker 3: why they were having sex or right after they had

1427
01:03:12,080 --> 01:03:12,640
Speaker 3: that's not what she.

1428
01:03:12,640 --> 01:03:14,400
Speaker 6: Said when they were when they met, he was like,

1429
01:03:14,520 --> 01:03:16,240
Speaker 6: I've always wanted to be with you. I always saw

1430
01:03:16,320 --> 01:03:18,880
Speaker 6: us together. And that was like him airing out his

1431
01:03:19,040 --> 01:03:22,160
Speaker 6: divorce and his regret for his last relationship. And then

1432
01:03:22,440 --> 01:03:24,600
Speaker 6: she slept with him, and then he said I love it,

1433
01:03:24,680 --> 01:03:27,280
Speaker 6: and then he said it again, like because he meant

1434
01:03:27,320 --> 01:03:29,400
Speaker 6: it the first time before they fucked, and then they

1435
01:03:29,440 --> 01:03:32,480
Speaker 6: fucked again. So now you're going to tell my man

1436
01:03:32,600 --> 01:03:35,440
Speaker 6: after he poured his heart out twice and you gave

1437
01:03:35,520 --> 01:03:39,400
Speaker 6: him pussy both times, they're gonna be like, actually, I'm good.

1438
01:03:39,560 --> 01:03:42,680
Speaker 3: She's fucked up. He fucked up. He fucked up, he emptiest,

1439
01:03:42,720 --> 01:03:45,919
Speaker 3: He emptied his heart and his loins, Which I mean.

1440
01:03:46,400 --> 01:03:49,160
Speaker 1: If you balance it out twenty three, twenty four or not,

1441
01:03:49,640 --> 01:03:50,080
Speaker 1: is it worth it?

1442
01:03:50,280 --> 01:03:51,880
Speaker 3: Sometimes I just.

1443
01:03:51,880 --> 01:03:53,920
Speaker 1: Think she has the easy out because he's coming out

1444
01:03:53,920 --> 01:03:55,880
Speaker 1: of a divorce. You like, it's an easy, easy out.

1445
01:03:56,240 --> 01:03:57,840
Speaker 1: Do you remember the first white girl you slept with?

1446
01:03:57,920 --> 01:04:01,360
Speaker 1: What was your first trip to Morris Park? Who was

1447
01:04:01,440 --> 01:04:04,480
Speaker 1: the first white what Italian girl with a racist U

1448
01:04:05,360 --> 01:04:08,200
Speaker 1: father in the Bronx? Did you fucked the one Italian

1449
01:04:08,200 --> 01:04:10,760
Speaker 1: girl that I actually dated? Her father was cool as fuck,

1450
01:04:10,960 --> 01:04:14,320
Speaker 1: he was super cool. I can't remember the first white

1451
01:04:14,360 --> 01:04:15,480
Speaker 1: girl I slept with.

1452
01:04:16,720 --> 01:04:19,320
Speaker 3: I can't. I'm trying to think about who was the

1453
01:04:19,560 --> 01:04:23,080
Speaker 3: first white You just get that much pussy? No, I

1454
01:04:23,240 --> 01:04:25,560
Speaker 3: just low. I just been fucking for that many years.

1455
01:04:26,840 --> 01:04:29,760
Speaker 3: The first white girl. I cannot remember. Who's the first

1456
01:04:29,800 --> 01:04:33,479
Speaker 3: white girl had sex with? It's and that's that's why

1457
01:04:34,760 --> 01:04:37,160
Speaker 3: I don't remember. I cannot remember the first white girl

1458
01:04:37,200 --> 01:04:37,520
Speaker 3: slept with.

1459
01:04:37,640 --> 01:04:39,280
Speaker 1: Damaris, Remember the first white girl you slept with?

1460
01:04:39,880 --> 01:04:41,560
Speaker 7: I've never slept with a white woman in my life.

1461
01:04:41,720 --> 01:04:47,520
Speaker 3: Really wars out there, there's some white warriors out there.

1462
01:04:48,680 --> 01:04:51,360
Speaker 1: I just feel like there's probably a lot of beautiful,

1463
01:04:51,440 --> 01:04:55,320
Speaker 1: poor white women in Syracuse that we're just giving it up. Well,

1464
01:04:55,360 --> 01:04:57,200
Speaker 1: they got to be poor, because there's a lot of

1465
01:04:57,240 --> 01:04:59,800
Speaker 1: poor whites in up state New York. Yeah, like a

1466
01:05:00,000 --> 01:05:02,880
Speaker 1: abundance support. Like the worst team of beings that are.

1467
01:05:03,720 --> 01:05:07,440
Speaker 7: I mean, the worst. A mixed girl. She was French

1468
01:05:07,520 --> 01:05:08,240
Speaker 7: and black.

1469
01:05:09,200 --> 01:05:16,200
Speaker 2: Okay, she's gorgeous, gorgeous cappuccino, But yeah, what's what's wrong

1470
01:05:16,240 --> 01:05:17,720
Speaker 2: with French mother?

1471
01:05:17,760 --> 01:05:19,320
Speaker 3: A black mother, black mother?

1472
01:05:20,000 --> 01:05:20,280
Speaker 8: Wow?

1473
01:05:20,600 --> 01:05:23,720
Speaker 3: Whoa she got that season and she can make you

1474
01:05:23,760 --> 01:05:29,720
Speaker 3: a season croissant. I like that, m spicy, A spicy croissant.

1475
01:05:31,960 --> 01:05:33,720
Speaker 1: That sounds like something Hillary Clint would eat on the

1476
01:05:33,720 --> 01:05:39,080
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club. Hy she was just hot, dunk her dunk

1477
01:05:39,120 --> 01:05:40,440
Speaker 1: her croissant in the hot sauce.

1478
01:05:45,680 --> 01:05:48,520
Speaker 6: There's another call that is the inverse of this that

1479
01:05:48,640 --> 01:05:50,360
Speaker 6: I forgot I had on here. I think would be

1480
01:05:50,440 --> 01:05:51,480
Speaker 6: a fun follow.

1481
01:05:51,280 --> 01:05:56,040
Speaker 3: For this last one. Yo, what's up? Rory Maul?

1482
01:05:56,160 --> 01:06:01,280
Speaker 9: Julian demeris back from Chicago and bys especially from demeris

1483
01:06:01,760 --> 01:06:04,840
Speaker 9: as a relationship advice. So I apologize in advance. I'm

1484
01:06:04,880 --> 01:06:06,840
Speaker 9: in a situation with this girl. She and I met

1485
01:06:06,880 --> 01:06:09,560
Speaker 9: through Tender. We had a really good time together. We click,

1486
01:06:09,680 --> 01:06:12,520
Speaker 9: everything's in sync, but ultimately my college education comes for

1487
01:06:12,600 --> 01:06:15,600
Speaker 9: anything else. So I told her straight up that I

1488
01:06:15,640 --> 01:06:17,560
Speaker 9: don't want to be in a relationship, but we could

1489
01:06:17,560 --> 01:06:20,160
Speaker 9: be friends, but have touk up anymore. He says, that's fine.

1490
01:06:20,240 --> 01:06:22,040
Speaker 9: I just woke up with my fiance anyway, but I

1491
01:06:22,120 --> 01:06:24,920
Speaker 9: do still want to hook up, so I'm cool with that.

1492
01:06:25,480 --> 01:06:27,600
Speaker 9: So we were what I considered to be friends of benefits.

1493
01:06:28,760 --> 01:06:31,479
Speaker 9: So the reason why I'm messing for advice because people

1494
01:06:31,600 --> 01:06:34,560
Speaker 9: tell me that I'm misleading her because we go off

1495
01:06:34,600 --> 01:06:38,200
Speaker 9: her coffee, we go hiking, hang out with her family,

1496
01:06:38,280 --> 01:06:41,280
Speaker 9: she hangs up with my friends, and ultimately dance. Things

1497
01:06:41,320 --> 01:06:43,680
Speaker 9: came to a head when she told me that she

1498
01:06:43,840 --> 01:06:46,760
Speaker 9: feels as though we're in a relationship by every metric

1499
01:06:46,920 --> 01:06:51,320
Speaker 9: but THET but the title. I told her that I

1500
01:06:51,360 --> 01:06:53,600
Speaker 9: thought we were friends with benefits. So friends come first,

1501
01:06:53,600 --> 01:06:57,320
Speaker 9: benefits comes second, and sit well with her for some reason.

1502
01:06:58,480 --> 01:07:00,560
Speaker 9: So people are agreeing with their saying mind words, we're

1503
01:07:00,640 --> 01:07:03,439
Speaker 9: matching my actions. I'm saying, by definition it is because

1504
01:07:03,440 --> 01:07:06,600
Speaker 9: we're friends first looking up after you know, go hiking

1505
01:07:06,720 --> 01:07:08,680
Speaker 9: with or graving a couple of coffee with your friends?

1506
01:07:08,760 --> 01:07:12,040
Speaker 9: Can you really see your friends? Any advice would help,

1507
01:07:12,240 --> 01:07:13,800
Speaker 9: especially from the bears. Thank you guys.

1508
01:07:13,840 --> 01:07:14,360
Speaker 6: I have a good one.

1509
01:07:14,480 --> 01:07:14,720
Speaker 3: Peace.

1510
01:07:16,400 --> 01:07:21,200
Speaker 1: This is another voicemail I want y'all answer to because

1511
01:07:21,200 --> 01:07:24,360
Speaker 1: when I was in the streets, I was this guy

1512
01:07:24,600 --> 01:07:27,880
Speaker 1: and I thought it was okay because I thought it

1513
01:07:27,960 --> 01:07:30,080
Speaker 1: was more of a respect level. If I'm fucking with you,

1514
01:07:30,880 --> 01:07:32,400
Speaker 1: I want to go do the things that I also

1515
01:07:32,560 --> 01:07:34,440
Speaker 1: like to do with somebody. I enjoy fucking and being

1516
01:07:34,480 --> 01:07:37,760
Speaker 1: around Then you get this whole stamp of like we're

1517
01:07:37,800 --> 01:07:39,880
Speaker 1: doing relationship shit. Now, we're just doing things that I

1518
01:07:40,040 --> 01:07:42,600
Speaker 1: find fun. If we're fucking and I like to be

1519
01:07:42,680 --> 01:07:46,240
Speaker 1: around you, we're not gonna go go karting. I like

1520
01:07:46,320 --> 01:07:48,960
Speaker 1: to go kart We're not just gonna go do shit.

1521
01:07:49,440 --> 01:07:53,640
Speaker 1: It's not like you're coming to Thanksgiving, so we can't

1522
01:07:53,720 --> 01:07:55,280
Speaker 1: just go have fun. Like I can't take you to

1523
01:07:55,320 --> 01:07:57,280
Speaker 1: a restaurant I like because I like to eat that food.

1524
01:07:57,360 --> 01:07:58,680
Speaker 1: I'd eat this food if you were here or not.

1525
01:07:58,800 --> 01:08:00,560
Speaker 1: But because you're here and I like your company, are like,

1526
01:08:00,640 --> 01:08:02,680
Speaker 1: fucking you, why can't we eat these tacos together?

1527
01:08:04,560 --> 01:08:07,080
Speaker 2: So this goes into the conversation that we have a

1528
01:08:07,160 --> 01:08:12,240
Speaker 2: lot about what reality versus perception is right. So technically

1529
01:08:12,760 --> 01:08:15,920
Speaker 2: he's not wrong. He's treating her like a friend with

1530
01:08:16,240 --> 01:08:19,720
Speaker 2: the added benefits. But when you're in a situation like that,

1531
01:08:20,000 --> 01:08:21,680
Speaker 2: or thinking of a situation like that, you have to

1532
01:08:21,760 --> 01:08:26,439
Speaker 2: look at how other people handle, how the majority handles

1533
01:08:26,479 --> 01:08:30,400
Speaker 2: the same situation as you. The majority of men, not all,

1534
01:08:30,600 --> 01:08:33,560
Speaker 2: but the majority of men do not treat women that

1535
01:08:33,680 --> 01:08:36,639
Speaker 2: they are not in a relationship with with dignity respect

1536
01:08:36,760 --> 01:08:38,519
Speaker 2: or like they want to spend extra time with each other,

1537
01:08:39,040 --> 01:08:42,960
Speaker 2: friends with majority, the one that fucks.

1538
01:08:42,680 --> 01:08:43,400
Speaker 7: Men, none of y'all.

1539
01:08:43,560 --> 01:08:46,080
Speaker 2: What I'm telling you is men are not nice to

1540
01:08:46,240 --> 01:08:49,360
Speaker 2: women that they are not in relationships with a lot,

1541
01:08:49,439 --> 01:08:52,080
Speaker 2: and they don't often take women that they're not in

1542
01:08:52,160 --> 01:08:54,960
Speaker 2: relationships with all these places that he names, It is

1543
01:08:55,040 --> 01:08:57,559
Speaker 2: not often that women you are just fucking are meeting

1544
01:08:57,600 --> 01:09:00,559
Speaker 2: your family and hanging out and going all these places

1545
01:09:00,600 --> 01:09:03,560
Speaker 2: with you and seeing you regularly. That is not the

1546
01:09:03,720 --> 01:09:04,400
Speaker 2: average man.

1547
01:09:04,479 --> 01:09:06,240
Speaker 3: Do you just fucking the girl like, I don't think

1548
01:09:06,240 --> 01:09:09,000
Speaker 3: you're need to meet my damn family exactly. That's not fun.

1549
01:09:09,120 --> 01:09:11,479
Speaker 3: What about like activities? He's said, A coffee walk, that's

1550
01:09:11,560 --> 01:09:11,960
Speaker 3: my bag.

1551
01:09:12,160 --> 01:09:14,880
Speaker 1: And I'm saying, like, all right, what if I'm not

1552
01:09:14,960 --> 01:09:16,360
Speaker 1: ready to be in a relationship and I make that

1553
01:09:16,439 --> 01:09:17,800
Speaker 1: clear from the beginning, and we know what it is,

1554
01:09:17,840 --> 01:09:20,360
Speaker 1: we're doing the friends with benefit thing. What if I'm

1555
01:09:20,400 --> 01:09:23,160
Speaker 1: also not good at dogging women out? What if I'm

1556
01:09:23,160 --> 01:09:25,120
Speaker 1: not good at your four am, your bitch come through

1557
01:09:25,200 --> 01:09:28,560
Speaker 1: to get fucked? What if I like, what if what

1558
01:09:28,680 --> 01:09:32,000
Speaker 1: if after we fuck? I'm like, you know it's nine am, Like, hey,

1559
01:09:32,320 --> 01:09:34,160
Speaker 1: I know, I know a really good diner. Hold me,

1560
01:09:34,280 --> 01:09:35,559
Speaker 1: do you want to go get some breakfast?

1561
01:09:35,720 --> 01:09:36,400
Speaker 3: I want to be held.

1562
01:09:37,280 --> 01:09:38,120
Speaker 7: I definitely want to be held.

1563
01:09:38,240 --> 01:09:39,120
Speaker 3: Of course, I want to be help.

1564
01:09:39,240 --> 01:09:39,400
Speaker 9: Yeah.

1565
01:09:39,479 --> 01:09:40,559
Speaker 3: No, y'all don't want to be help.

1566
01:09:40,720 --> 01:09:40,760
Speaker 9: No.

1567
01:09:41,240 --> 01:09:45,759
Speaker 2: Listen, you guys being little schoon calver and you're decent

1568
01:09:45,880 --> 01:09:47,920
Speaker 2: people and people can appreciate that. But what you have

1569
01:09:48,000 --> 01:09:51,080
Speaker 2: to understand is that sometimes you just have to do

1570
01:09:51,160 --> 01:09:53,240
Speaker 2: that with the right person because the wrong person will

1571
01:09:53,320 --> 01:09:56,519
Speaker 2: attach feelings to that. But I also think that you

1572
01:09:56,600 --> 01:10:00,400
Speaker 2: can do that and still establish boundaries throughout that, Like

1573
01:10:00,520 --> 01:10:02,360
Speaker 2: you just got to keep dropping that hint that you're

1574
01:10:02,439 --> 01:10:05,080
Speaker 2: not in a relationship even when y'all doing shit as friends.

1575
01:10:05,520 --> 01:10:07,439
Speaker 2: You have to keep dropping the hint and like keep

1576
01:10:07,800 --> 01:10:10,640
Speaker 2: reiterating you're the homie with good pussy, Like you're the

1577
01:10:10,680 --> 01:10:13,040
Speaker 2: homie with good pussy. This is not going anywhere. I've

1578
01:10:13,080 --> 01:10:14,840
Speaker 2: been victim. I've been that girl before you got a

1579
01:10:14,880 --> 01:10:18,479
Speaker 2: bus on her face and give her a pound, all right,

1580
01:10:18,560 --> 01:10:20,040
Speaker 2: so big, I just.

1581
01:10:20,080 --> 01:10:22,640
Speaker 3: Think great area can exist in it. Like so the

1582
01:10:22,760 --> 01:10:24,800
Speaker 3: marriage you've been that victim, I've been. I've definitely been

1583
01:10:24,920 --> 01:10:27,360
Speaker 3: victim to that. Yeah of just getting fucked.

1584
01:10:27,640 --> 01:10:28,639
Speaker 7: Okay, hold on, whoa?

1585
01:10:29,800 --> 01:10:32,880
Speaker 1: I think every person. Yes, I've been just fucked before

1586
01:10:32,920 --> 01:10:34,240
Speaker 1: and like, damn, that's all she wanted to.

1587
01:10:34,320 --> 01:10:38,360
Speaker 2: We've all went into situations where originally this was not

1588
01:10:38,520 --> 01:10:41,280
Speaker 2: supposed to be more than what it was, but but

1589
01:10:41,560 --> 01:10:45,240
Speaker 2: a relationship developed or like you know, feelings developed in

1590
01:10:45,360 --> 01:10:47,960
Speaker 2: this friends with benefits thing. We're spending time together, we're

1591
01:10:48,000 --> 01:10:50,400
Speaker 2: doing all these activities together. So in my younger years,

1592
01:10:50,720 --> 01:10:51,920
Speaker 2: I have been victim to that.

1593
01:10:52,439 --> 01:10:54,160
Speaker 3: So you've never just been a nigga just hit and

1594
01:10:54,200 --> 01:10:55,400
Speaker 3: it it never just stopped speaking to you.

1595
01:10:57,680 --> 01:11:00,120
Speaker 2: Maybe when I was like maybe nineteen twenty. Yeah, I

1596
01:11:00,160 --> 01:11:02,519
Speaker 2: fel like every girl's had that happen. Everybody's been ghosted,

1597
01:11:02,640 --> 01:11:05,800
Speaker 2: everybody's been ghosted. I think most men have had that

1598
01:11:05,800 --> 01:11:06,320
Speaker 2: happen to them.

1599
01:11:07,280 --> 01:11:12,200
Speaker 1: Absolutely, But also like another example, say I want to

1600
01:11:12,240 --> 01:11:14,880
Speaker 1: go to the Blue Note to see some jazz. I

1601
01:11:15,120 --> 01:11:16,920
Speaker 1: don't want to bring my homeboy. I would want to

1602
01:11:16,960 --> 01:11:20,280
Speaker 1: bring the girl I am currently fucking and like her company,

1603
01:11:20,760 --> 01:11:22,400
Speaker 1: am I sending relationship singles?

1604
01:11:23,360 --> 01:11:25,360
Speaker 3: You just have to establish to that. Like it's just

1605
01:11:25,439 --> 01:11:28,840
Speaker 3: I think if I'm in the jazz with somebody's relationships.

1606
01:11:28,400 --> 01:11:29,800
Speaker 1: See, that's where I think, fuck up because it goes

1607
01:11:29,800 --> 01:11:31,639
Speaker 1: to my if I took to the Little Baby Show

1608
01:11:31,640 --> 01:11:33,800
Speaker 1: and nottted on her face and said peace, I'm sending

1609
01:11:33,840 --> 01:11:35,080
Speaker 1: the signs that I was just trying to beat.

1610
01:11:36,120 --> 01:11:38,800
Speaker 3: But what if I just like jazz better taking a

1611
01:11:38,920 --> 01:11:42,360
Speaker 3: girl to the Blue Note, that's some very intimate sy

1612
01:11:42,560 --> 01:11:43,800
Speaker 3: What if I like the Blue Note?

1613
01:11:44,240 --> 01:11:46,360
Speaker 1: No, I brought the Blue not up there in particular

1614
01:11:46,520 --> 01:11:48,680
Speaker 1: for this convers that girl that you just smashed it.

1615
01:11:49,600 --> 01:11:52,920
Speaker 3: Okay, but see this is that's relationship ship. You taking

1616
01:11:53,000 --> 01:11:56,640
Speaker 3: her out, You're taking her to a jazz club. That's intimacy.

1617
01:11:56,800 --> 01:11:59,320
Speaker 2: That's like, it's either a relationshipship or I'm trying to

1618
01:11:59,760 --> 01:12:03,040
Speaker 2: I'm trying to court you. Shit, it shouldn't be considered

1619
01:12:03,080 --> 01:12:05,800
Speaker 2: that I agree with you. But you can't sit up

1620
01:12:05,800 --> 01:12:07,600
Speaker 2: here and say, well, I don't think of it like this,

1621
01:12:07,760 --> 01:12:09,160
Speaker 2: so the rest of the world shouldn't.

1622
01:12:09,200 --> 01:12:11,760
Speaker 3: It don't work like this if you take that same

1623
01:12:11,840 --> 01:12:15,960
Speaker 3: girl to the Blue Note and then she then hits

1624
01:12:16,000 --> 01:12:19,080
Speaker 3: you like two weeks later, like in a conversation like yo,

1625
01:12:19,240 --> 01:12:21,240
Speaker 3: like I ain't gonna really I'm really feeling you like now,

1626
01:12:21,240 --> 01:12:24,080
Speaker 3: if she starts developing feeling, you can't be surprised. Of course,

1627
01:12:24,120 --> 01:12:26,000
Speaker 3: you go to the fucking Blue Note to see fucking

1628
01:12:26,280 --> 01:12:28,360
Speaker 3: Arris Martin and friends. What the fuck are you talking about?

1629
01:12:28,400 --> 01:12:32,120
Speaker 3: Grad Like, are you kidding me?

1630
01:12:32,280 --> 01:12:32,800
Speaker 8: Like you got it?

1631
01:12:32,880 --> 01:12:36,160
Speaker 3: That's intimacy, that's like, that's gonna open a woman's emotions up.

1632
01:12:36,320 --> 01:12:37,960
Speaker 1: So I'm glad you brought that up. That would be

1633
01:12:38,080 --> 01:12:41,519
Speaker 1: my next point. If we have no clear communication of

1634
01:12:41,600 --> 01:12:43,840
Speaker 1: what this is. Yes, I would never be mad at

1635
01:12:43,880 --> 01:12:45,800
Speaker 1: a girl looking at me like you're courting me right now.

1636
01:12:46,479 --> 01:12:48,519
Speaker 1: But if we start out the way this guy said

1637
01:12:49,200 --> 01:12:51,360
Speaker 1: him and that girl knew they were friends with benefits,

1638
01:12:51,920 --> 01:12:54,439
Speaker 1: we're friends and we're fucking If I set that tone

1639
01:12:54,479 --> 01:12:58,240
Speaker 1: from the beginning and it's an understanding, you can't then

1640
01:12:58,320 --> 01:13:00,120
Speaker 1: turn around and be like, well you took me to

1641
01:13:00,160 --> 01:13:03,000
Speaker 1: the blue note, so things have changed. I've been very

1642
01:13:03,080 --> 01:13:05,360
Speaker 1: clear that this is friends with benefits and I also

1643
01:13:05,439 --> 01:13:08,559
Speaker 1: love Terris Martin. Oh no, that doesn't mean relationship. Arris

1644
01:13:08,640 --> 01:13:09,320
Speaker 1: is not gonna wed us.

1645
01:13:10,080 --> 01:13:11,800
Speaker 7: You were clear about that eight months ago.

1646
01:13:11,960 --> 01:13:13,840
Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that it's clear now you might have

1647
01:13:13,960 --> 01:13:16,960
Speaker 2: because that's my point because and you just ain't just

1648
01:13:17,080 --> 01:13:17,960
Speaker 2: fucking oh, I just.

1649
01:13:18,640 --> 01:13:19,479
Speaker 3: That's what's going on here.

1650
01:13:20,760 --> 01:13:23,839
Speaker 6: You can't have the conversation once and then go extended

1651
01:13:23,960 --> 01:13:27,080
Speaker 6: months with time doing these things, you have to reiterate.

1652
01:13:27,120 --> 01:13:28,520
Speaker 3: You have to over communicate.

1653
01:13:28,600 --> 01:13:31,080
Speaker 6: When you're towing the line between friends with benefits and

1654
01:13:31,400 --> 01:13:35,320
Speaker 6: borderline and relationship behavior, you have to It's like just

1655
01:13:35,400 --> 01:13:37,960
Speaker 6: there's a comedian that has a joke Napergotzi about reminding

1656
01:13:38,000 --> 01:13:40,040
Speaker 6: his daughter that the dog is going to die anytime,

1657
01:13:40,400 --> 01:13:42,479
Speaker 6: and he would do it for like six weeks because

1658
01:13:42,520 --> 01:13:44,080
Speaker 6: the doctor said the dog was going to die in

1659
01:13:44,200 --> 01:13:46,320
Speaker 6: like a day, but it never died. So he said,

1660
01:13:46,360 --> 01:13:47,840
Speaker 6: I was so far into it that I just had

1661
01:13:47,880 --> 01:13:49,360
Speaker 6: to keep telling her. Yet now you know so and

1662
01:13:49,439 --> 01:13:51,320
Speaker 6: so sick she's going to die. And then he said,

1663
01:13:51,560 --> 01:13:53,800
Speaker 6: when it eventually happened, he told her and it's as

1664
01:13:53,800 --> 01:13:55,679
Speaker 6: if he was the first time he told her that news,

1665
01:13:55,680 --> 01:13:58,360
Speaker 6: and she lost her shit. Well, in this case, you

1666
01:13:58,479 --> 01:14:01,280
Speaker 6: have to remind her, yo, we're not in a relationship.

1667
01:14:01,640 --> 01:14:04,080
Speaker 6: These things can happen throughout, but it's not going to

1668
01:14:04,160 --> 01:14:06,200
Speaker 6: lead to a relationship. You can't just tell her once

1669
01:14:06,320 --> 01:14:08,000
Speaker 6: and then three months like he's taking a blue note

1670
01:14:08,040 --> 01:14:09,280
Speaker 6: and be like, why is she feeling this way?

1671
01:14:09,280 --> 01:14:10,680
Speaker 3: Okay, now listen, her.

1672
01:14:10,680 --> 01:14:13,440
Speaker 7: Feelings are changing and she thinks that it's possible that yours.

1673
01:14:13,240 --> 01:14:15,400
Speaker 3: Have to let me let me. I'm the king of that.

1674
01:14:15,560 --> 01:14:19,439
Speaker 3: I've been through that. I'm the king of king. I'm

1675
01:14:19,479 --> 01:14:20,720
Speaker 3: the king of Yo. Do you want to go to

1676
01:14:20,760 --> 01:14:22,160
Speaker 3: the blue note? Just to let you know you're not

1677
01:14:22,320 --> 01:14:25,679
Speaker 3: my girl? She's not gonna like you're pretty a suave person.

1678
01:14:25,800 --> 01:14:26,160
Speaker 7: How do you say?

1679
01:14:26,240 --> 01:14:30,160
Speaker 3: Don't call me swave? You can swavish. Don't call me swavish.

1680
01:14:30,400 --> 01:14:34,880
Speaker 3: You cannot expect because and I'm told from experience, I've

1681
01:14:34,920 --> 01:14:35,200
Speaker 3: done that.

1682
01:14:35,320 --> 01:14:35,439
Speaker 5: Yo.

1683
01:14:35,600 --> 01:14:38,000
Speaker 3: This is just we're just hanging out, We just friends.

1684
01:14:38,080 --> 01:14:41,760
Speaker 3: It's not but if you having sex with a girl

1685
01:14:41,880 --> 01:14:46,719
Speaker 3: for ten months, you cannot be surprised when she starts

1686
01:14:46,800 --> 01:14:48,920
Speaker 3: developing real feelings. I'm telling you because I've been through

1687
01:14:48,920 --> 01:14:51,840
Speaker 3: this plenty of times. I'm like, damn, this is that's

1688
01:14:51,920 --> 01:14:54,840
Speaker 3: my best. I'm telling y'all, you can't do nothing. You

1689
01:14:55,000 --> 01:14:57,479
Speaker 3: can't do nothing consistently for ten months and then be

1690
01:14:57,600 --> 01:15:01,439
Speaker 3: surprised at results. I can't go and then get out

1691
01:15:01,439 --> 01:15:03,240
Speaker 3: the shot and like, damn, like I ain't expect to

1692
01:15:03,280 --> 01:15:04,000
Speaker 3: get up, nigga?

1693
01:15:04,040 --> 01:15:04,479
Speaker 9: What you thought?

1694
01:15:04,520 --> 01:15:07,000
Speaker 3: What's gonna happen after working out with ten months consistently?

1695
01:15:07,280 --> 01:15:08,400
Speaker 3: This is how toxic I am.

1696
01:15:08,560 --> 01:15:10,880
Speaker 6: But what's the way before what's the threshold on how

1697
01:15:10,960 --> 01:15:12,800
Speaker 6: long do they get that grace period of just being

1698
01:15:12,840 --> 01:15:15,040
Speaker 6: the friendly benefits before it makes that That's.

1699
01:15:15,080 --> 01:15:17,639
Speaker 1: That's exactly what I'm gonna get into. That's how toxic

1700
01:15:17,720 --> 01:15:20,360
Speaker 1: I was. If that conversation didn't happen within two months

1701
01:15:20,880 --> 01:15:23,559
Speaker 1: and we did the ten month thing. Yeah, I think

1702
01:15:23,640 --> 01:15:27,519
Speaker 1: we've entered the realm of we'll probably just be fucking

1703
01:15:27,560 --> 01:15:31,120
Speaker 1: each other forever when we're both singles swag, which is like,

1704
01:15:31,200 --> 01:15:33,160
Speaker 1: like I thought, because it never got brought up in

1705
01:15:33,240 --> 01:15:35,360
Speaker 1: that time, I think we've passed the time of this

1706
01:15:35,439 --> 01:15:38,200
Speaker 1: could be a relationship because no one said anything. And

1707
01:15:38,320 --> 01:15:40,160
Speaker 1: when you go find another guy, I'm not gonna feel

1708
01:15:40,160 --> 01:15:41,760
Speaker 1: a way like you should be able to go date.

1709
01:15:41,960 --> 01:15:44,760
Speaker 1: But when you're single again, and if I'm single, we're

1710
01:15:44,840 --> 01:15:47,120
Speaker 1: now in this realm of just text me and we

1711
01:15:47,200 --> 01:15:49,400
Speaker 1: can fuck because we like each other's company and sex

1712
01:15:49,640 --> 01:15:54,280
Speaker 1: fellas listening. Toxic, But that's how you say I'm with y'all. Nah,

1713
01:15:54,640 --> 01:15:56,559
Speaker 1: it's trust and believe.

1714
01:15:56,680 --> 01:15:59,760
Speaker 3: If you're dating or having sex with a girl for

1715
01:16:00,120 --> 01:16:04,200
Speaker 3: eight to ten or a year, she's going to develop

1716
01:16:04,240 --> 01:16:06,840
Speaker 3: feelings of a girl. She's gonna start feeling like she's

1717
01:16:06,880 --> 01:16:07,880
Speaker 3: your lady, she's your.

1718
01:16:07,800 --> 01:16:10,479
Speaker 2: Girlfriend, especially if you don't make And this is where

1719
01:16:10,560 --> 01:16:13,599
Speaker 2: I want to talk about their conversation. He's doing all

1720
01:16:13,680 --> 01:16:16,599
Speaker 2: this shit, and I'm getting the feeling that he's only

1721
01:16:16,760 --> 01:16:19,920
Speaker 2: doing it with her. So you're only fucking her, You're

1722
01:16:20,040 --> 01:16:22,840
Speaker 2: only doing all these activities and shit with her, you

1723
01:16:22,920 --> 01:16:27,280
Speaker 2: really enjoy her company. Like so when she says this

1724
01:16:27,439 --> 01:16:29,599
Speaker 2: is all relationship shit, which you need to come out

1725
01:16:29,600 --> 01:16:31,599
Speaker 2: and make it clearer, is say no. The difference between

1726
01:16:32,280 --> 01:16:34,439
Speaker 2: what we're doing in a relationship is the commitment to you,

1727
01:16:34,640 --> 01:16:36,920
Speaker 2: not the commitment to only that I'm only fucking you

1728
01:16:37,040 --> 01:16:40,920
Speaker 2: right now, the commitment to, hey, I have to consider

1729
01:16:41,000 --> 01:16:43,839
Speaker 2: you when I make life choices, and I am actively

1730
01:16:44,360 --> 01:16:46,680
Speaker 2: making time for you because this is what I have

1731
01:16:46,840 --> 01:16:49,400
Speaker 2: to do. I am committed to this relationship. He's not

1732
01:16:49,520 --> 01:16:52,000
Speaker 2: committed to Shorty. I'm assuming you're not committed to her.

1733
01:16:52,120 --> 01:16:53,800
Speaker 2: You're doing this because this is what you want to

1734
01:16:53,840 --> 01:16:55,400
Speaker 2: do for now. If you ever want to stop doing it,

1735
01:16:55,479 --> 01:16:58,200
Speaker 2: you'll do it. And that's the difference between a relationship

1736
01:16:58,280 --> 01:17:00,920
Speaker 2: and not being in a relationship. Is the commitment that

1737
01:17:01,080 --> 01:17:03,240
Speaker 2: I have to do this with this person because we've

1738
01:17:03,280 --> 01:17:05,120
Speaker 2: made this pack and we've entered into.

1739
01:17:05,000 --> 01:17:06,640
Speaker 3: This relationship, So that's what you need to tell her.

1740
01:17:06,960 --> 01:17:09,040
Speaker 2: But yeah, if you're just only fucking her and only

1741
01:17:09,120 --> 01:17:10,800
Speaker 2: doing all these things with her, I don't blame her

1742
01:17:10,920 --> 01:17:13,960
Speaker 2: for getting things misconstrued because what she's used to is

1743
01:17:14,000 --> 01:17:15,880
Speaker 2: if a man is doing this, he wants to.

1744
01:17:15,920 --> 01:17:16,320
Speaker 3: Be with me.

1745
01:17:17,120 --> 01:17:20,400
Speaker 6: And how often are they seeing each other? That's a

1746
01:17:20,400 --> 01:17:22,320
Speaker 6: big part of this too. That's a big part of it.

1747
01:17:22,400 --> 01:17:23,920
Speaker 6: Three days a week, that's a lot.

1748
01:17:24,240 --> 01:17:27,040
Speaker 3: Three days a week, that's your girl. Three days a week,

1749
01:17:27,040 --> 01:17:29,080
Speaker 3: that's your girl. Don't tell me that's not your wifey

1750
01:17:29,160 --> 01:17:31,000
Speaker 3: if you were three three days a week, Well, he

1751
01:17:31,000 --> 01:17:33,599
Speaker 3: didn't say, lady, it's at least three days a week,

1752
01:17:33,680 --> 01:17:38,240
Speaker 3: which that's relationship. That's your lady. Like if he find out,

1753
01:17:38,240 --> 01:17:40,120
Speaker 3: if he find out she fucking somebody else, hes gonna

1754
01:17:40,120 --> 01:17:43,120
Speaker 3: be hurt. He's tight. Yeah, that's your lady. Three days

1755
01:17:43,120 --> 01:17:45,960
Speaker 3: a week, you're gonna be tight. Yeah, that's what. If

1756
01:17:46,000 --> 01:17:49,120
Speaker 3: it's two days a week, how are you spreading out

1757
01:17:49,120 --> 01:17:54,639
Speaker 3: the two days? Is it a Monday Friday thing? Because Tuesday, Saturday, Saturday, Sunday,

1758
01:17:54,680 --> 01:17:59,519
Speaker 3: that's kind of your girl. That's your girl. Y'all file

1759
01:17:59,600 --> 01:18:01,120
Speaker 3: each other on your taxes. At that point.

1760
01:18:02,000 --> 01:18:04,040
Speaker 1: But then again, if you're linking up after work and

1761
01:18:04,080 --> 01:18:06,040
Speaker 1: both of you guys work, that's relationship ship too.

1762
01:18:06,280 --> 01:18:06,840
Speaker 3: Absolutely.

1763
01:18:07,640 --> 01:18:07,840
Speaker 8: Yeah.

1764
01:18:08,120 --> 01:18:11,120
Speaker 3: And here's the thing, though, it's okay to have relationships

1765
01:18:11,120 --> 01:18:14,280
Speaker 3: with multiple women if you want to be like, we're

1766
01:18:14,360 --> 01:18:16,160
Speaker 3: not committed, but like I have a relationship with you,

1767
01:18:16,240 --> 01:18:18,719
Speaker 3: I have a relationship to this other girl. Like, don't

1768
01:18:18,800 --> 01:18:22,000
Speaker 3: say that this ain't a relationship though, that's a relationship. Yeah.

1769
01:18:22,120 --> 01:18:24,680
Speaker 3: Taking a girl to the blue note and then like

1770
01:18:24,760 --> 01:18:27,519
Speaker 3: seeing her two days or three days of friendship, Yeah,

1771
01:18:27,520 --> 01:18:29,400
Speaker 3: it's a friendship. Yeah, it may not be yo, this

1772
01:18:29,520 --> 01:18:31,200
Speaker 3: is my girlfriend, No, this is my you know whatever,

1773
01:18:31,360 --> 01:18:34,640
Speaker 3: But that's a relationship. That's somebody that you're in a

1774
01:18:34,720 --> 01:18:38,880
Speaker 3: relationship with. And it's okay again, go back to compartmentalize

1775
01:18:38,920 --> 01:18:43,519
Speaker 3: things correctly so that nobody is blindsided, nobody's caught off guard,

1776
01:18:43,920 --> 01:18:46,080
Speaker 3: you know what it is, Just have that real conversation

1777
01:18:46,160 --> 01:18:48,840
Speaker 3: with each other, like, yo, are we sleeping with other

1778
01:18:48,880 --> 01:18:51,880
Speaker 3: people or not? Why is humans? Are we this bad

1779
01:18:51,880 --> 01:18:55,559
Speaker 3: at this? Because people? Humans just o forever ending. Because

1780
01:18:55,640 --> 01:18:58,240
Speaker 3: humans product, they ca can eat it too. Humans always

1781
01:18:58,240 --> 01:19:00,720
Speaker 3: try to be sneaky and it's all eat dog. You

1782
01:19:00,800 --> 01:19:00,920
Speaker 3: know what.

1783
01:19:01,160 --> 01:19:03,599
Speaker 2: Humans always fake afraid to hurt somebody's feelings, but they're

1784
01:19:03,600 --> 01:19:06,080
Speaker 2: not really afraid to hurt somebody's feelings. To make the

1785
01:19:06,120 --> 01:19:09,720
Speaker 2: afraid of it's uncomfortable, some having uncomfortable conversations.

1786
01:19:09,800 --> 01:19:11,360
Speaker 3: Some people really don't want to hurt people feeling.

1787
01:19:11,400 --> 01:19:13,240
Speaker 2: Of course, no, you don't want to hurt people's feelings,

1788
01:19:13,280 --> 01:19:14,920
Speaker 2: but that's not why you tell because you know eventually

1789
01:19:14,960 --> 01:19:16,560
Speaker 2: these girls feelings are going to get hurt. Becau's not

1790
01:19:16,640 --> 01:19:18,760
Speaker 2: why you don't keep reminding her that she's not your girlfriend. Well,

1791
01:19:18,800 --> 01:19:20,160
Speaker 2: you don't want to do that because it sucks up

1792
01:19:20,200 --> 01:19:21,599
Speaker 2: the mood, and that's you being selfish.

1793
01:19:21,720 --> 01:19:25,479
Speaker 1: There's a cloud in what you're in the mood. People

1794
01:19:25,520 --> 01:19:28,760
Speaker 1: need to accountability. People don't want people to find out

1795
01:19:28,840 --> 01:19:32,200
Speaker 1: about how they hurt their feelings because they wouldn't hurt

1796
01:19:32,200 --> 01:19:34,000
Speaker 1: their feelings if they never wanted to hurt their feelings.

1797
01:19:34,400 --> 01:19:35,720
Speaker 1: Now it's like, I don't want to tell her what's

1798
01:19:35,720 --> 01:19:38,640
Speaker 1: going on because it's going to hurt her feelings. You

1799
01:19:38,720 --> 01:19:42,240
Speaker 1: already did what hurt her feelings exactly, So don't say

1800
01:19:42,240 --> 01:19:43,720
Speaker 1: you don't want to hurt her feeling But sometimes you

1801
01:19:43,760 --> 01:19:45,680
Speaker 1: don't want her to find out and then have to

1802
01:19:45,800 --> 01:19:46,439
Speaker 1: deal with her.

1803
01:19:46,439 --> 01:19:50,200
Speaker 3: Hurt sometimes, you know, sometimes you can hurt somebody's feelings unintentional. Course,

1804
01:19:50,280 --> 01:19:52,519
Speaker 3: of course, that wasn't my intentpt to hurt. I didn't

1805
01:19:52,560 --> 01:19:54,680
Speaker 3: know that that would hurt your feelings, like you know

1806
01:19:54,680 --> 01:19:56,439
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, And sometimes that it like that.

1807
01:19:56,720 --> 01:20:00,799
Speaker 1: Also, humans are scumbags, and we even all make multiple

1808
01:20:00,880 --> 01:20:04,640
Speaker 1: mistakes even when we know they're wrong, only because that

1809
01:20:04,800 --> 01:20:08,439
Speaker 1: person may not find out about it. I could never

1810
01:20:08,520 --> 01:20:09,880
Speaker 1: be like, oh, I didn't want to hurt her feelings.

1811
01:20:09,920 --> 01:20:11,479
Speaker 1: You already did the act that you knew it hurt

1812
01:20:11,479 --> 01:20:14,400
Speaker 1: her fucking feelings. But you don't want to deal with

1813
01:20:15,560 --> 01:20:19,599
Speaker 1: her knowing that you hurt her feelings. That's really all

1814
01:20:19,680 --> 01:20:22,200
Speaker 1: it is. That's why people have to stop with that bullshit.

1815
01:20:22,960 --> 01:20:24,320
Speaker 1: Unless I don't I don't want to hurt her.

1816
01:20:24,560 --> 01:20:26,559
Speaker 3: You already did. She just doesn't know it yet.

1817
01:20:27,520 --> 01:20:30,640
Speaker 1: You're not a martyr here that you're being sneaky or.

1818
01:20:30,640 --> 01:20:32,240
Speaker 3: No, ghosting a girl because I didn't want to hurt

1819
01:20:32,240 --> 01:20:37,280
Speaker 3: her feelings. Ghosting her hurts like worst that was my ship,

1820
01:20:37,360 --> 01:20:38,920
Speaker 3: Like yo, let me just ghost because I don't want

1821
01:20:38,920 --> 01:20:42,559
Speaker 3: to hurt her feelings. That's gonna hurt her. But I mean,

1822
01:20:42,640 --> 01:20:44,120
Speaker 3: you know, trialing. Ever, you got to go through a

1823
01:20:44,160 --> 01:20:45,960
Speaker 3: couple of times and realize like, damn, that's fucked up.

1824
01:20:45,960 --> 01:20:46,880
Speaker 3: That's why you can't do that.

1825
01:20:47,760 --> 01:20:50,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, it just takes accountability and also understanding that we

1826
01:20:50,800 --> 01:20:54,479
Speaker 1: all go through these mismanagements and mistakes of what we

1827
01:20:54,560 --> 01:20:57,120
Speaker 1: think we're doing right and doing wrong and give people

1828
01:20:57,160 --> 01:20:58,880
Speaker 1: grace and just to be honest with people.

1829
01:20:59,880 --> 01:21:02,120
Speaker 2: You need to figure out why you don't want to

1830
01:21:02,120 --> 01:21:03,559
Speaker 2: be why you don't want to be with this girl.

1831
01:21:03,600 --> 01:21:05,120
Speaker 2: Because if you're going hiking with her, you're doing all

1832
01:21:05,160 --> 01:21:06,920
Speaker 2: this fun ship, you're taking her to meet your family,

1833
01:21:06,960 --> 01:21:08,920
Speaker 2: your family fuck with her, y'all having sex.

1834
01:21:09,000 --> 01:21:10,560
Speaker 7: I think you said that, y'all only having sex with

1835
01:21:10,640 --> 01:21:10,920
Speaker 7: each other.

1836
01:21:11,840 --> 01:21:14,280
Speaker 2: Why don't you want to be a girl? Why don't

1837
01:21:14,320 --> 01:21:16,120
Speaker 2: you Why don't you technically want to be with her?

1838
01:21:16,200 --> 01:21:18,519
Speaker 3: Because I know why he didn't want to be with her,

1839
01:21:18,600 --> 01:21:21,720
Speaker 3: because she fucked somebody he's cool with. That could be it.

1840
01:21:22,479 --> 01:21:26,280
Speaker 3: She fucked somebody that he close with, and he gonna

1841
01:21:26,280 --> 01:21:27,960
Speaker 3: look like, oh, like yo, you wife did like you.

1842
01:21:28,160 --> 01:21:30,320
Speaker 3: It's that that's what niggas don't. Niggas don't want that

1843
01:21:30,400 --> 01:21:34,679
Speaker 3: on they jacket. You're not wrong that at one point

1844
01:21:34,720 --> 01:21:37,640
Speaker 3: he was hitting it and now you hitting it, but

1845
01:21:37,760 --> 01:21:39,840
Speaker 3: you don't want to be the one that's like No,

1846
01:21:40,000 --> 01:21:40,360
Speaker 3: he said he.

1847
01:21:40,360 --> 01:21:41,880
Speaker 2: Met her on tended it was your turn, and you

1848
01:21:41,920 --> 01:21:44,240
Speaker 2: fell in love. He said he met her on tend

1849
01:21:44,320 --> 01:21:46,000
Speaker 2: her they met each other on Tenda.

1850
01:21:46,400 --> 01:21:48,720
Speaker 3: He didn't you didn't mash my home? No they didn't. Yeah,

1851
01:21:48,760 --> 01:21:49,920
Speaker 3: but god too.

1852
01:21:50,200 --> 01:21:54,240
Speaker 2: They said that they weren't relationship because then she said

1853
01:21:54,280 --> 01:21:55,640
Speaker 2: that she had just gotten out of one and he

1854
01:21:55,720 --> 01:21:57,200
Speaker 2: had just gotten out of one, like they had just

1855
01:21:57,280 --> 01:21:59,479
Speaker 2: got out of relationships and.

1856
01:21:59,520 --> 01:22:04,160
Speaker 1: Now they young people also fuck up myself included like

1857
01:22:04,200 --> 01:22:07,160
Speaker 1: when you meet a girl in a circumstance that isn't

1858
01:22:07,200 --> 01:22:09,160
Speaker 1: ideal in your brain as the way you wanted to

1859
01:22:09,240 --> 01:22:11,760
Speaker 1: meet your wife, you can't unsee her as that, even

1860
01:22:11,800 --> 01:22:14,599
Speaker 1: though it wasn't like a crazy situation at all. It's

1861
01:22:14,600 --> 01:22:16,679
Speaker 1: not like you met her in a fucking train or something.

1862
01:22:17,400 --> 01:22:20,920
Speaker 1: You just you know, especially when I was in my

1863
01:22:21,000 --> 01:22:23,840
Speaker 1: twenties meeting a girl on Instagram. It's fine now, yeah,

1864
01:22:24,680 --> 01:22:28,800
Speaker 1: but like in twenty fourteen, that was like.

1865
01:22:28,880 --> 01:22:29,320
Speaker 3: Day, I don't know.

1866
01:22:29,320 --> 01:22:32,560
Speaker 1: I like, yeah, I met her, Like my mom just

1867
01:22:32,600 --> 01:22:35,960
Speaker 1: asked how I met her. It's on Instagram. It comes

1868
01:22:36,000 --> 01:22:38,840
Speaker 1: off in your brain at that time very weird, and

1869
01:22:38,960 --> 01:22:41,639
Speaker 1: that can't be your story for your wife, even though

1870
01:22:41,680 --> 01:22:42,840
Speaker 1: everything about her is perfect.

1871
01:22:42,840 --> 01:22:44,160
Speaker 3: There's nothing wrong with how y'all met.

1872
01:22:44,560 --> 01:22:47,400
Speaker 1: We get along great, it's just not the fantasy that

1873
01:22:47,439 --> 01:22:49,360
Speaker 1: you had in your head when you were younger, and

1874
01:22:49,439 --> 01:22:52,760
Speaker 1: that blocks you from amazing shit. Same because what in

1875
01:22:52,880 --> 01:22:55,160
Speaker 1: your thirties at that point is like, I who gives

1876
01:22:55,200 --> 01:22:55,439
Speaker 1: a fuck?

1877
01:22:55,479 --> 01:22:56,160
Speaker 3: Do we like each other?

1878
01:22:56,760 --> 01:22:59,320
Speaker 2: Bet when you meet girls in clubs or if you

1879
01:22:59,400 --> 01:23:02,000
Speaker 2: meet a girl, yeah, even if when you meet her,

1880
01:23:02,160 --> 01:23:04,679
Speaker 2: if you're well my homeboys told me I can't speak

1881
01:23:04,680 --> 01:23:07,160
Speaker 2: for all men. Is if you meet her and your

1882
01:23:07,240 --> 01:23:08,800
Speaker 2: first thought is all I want to fuck Like I

1883
01:23:08,840 --> 01:23:11,280
Speaker 2: want to fuck her, you'll never think of her as

1884
01:23:11,520 --> 01:23:12,280
Speaker 2: like a whole person.

1885
01:23:12,520 --> 01:23:14,920
Speaker 1: That's a young, young mentality that I had at one point.

1886
01:23:15,000 --> 01:23:17,360
Speaker 3: Now it's you'd never be that. But you grow out

1887
01:23:17,360 --> 01:23:18,880
Speaker 3: of that type of shit you said now people do

1888
01:23:19,280 --> 01:23:19,559
Speaker 3: you said?

1889
01:23:19,640 --> 01:23:19,760
Speaker 9: Now?

1890
01:23:19,920 --> 01:23:22,040
Speaker 3: When you see a girl, you don't automatically think like, damn,

1891
01:23:22,080 --> 01:23:22,720
Speaker 3: I want to fuck her?

1892
01:23:22,960 --> 01:23:23,000
Speaker 9: No?

1893
01:23:23,160 --> 01:23:25,040
Speaker 2: Well, he's basically saying like, if you meet a girl

1894
01:23:25,080 --> 01:23:26,760
Speaker 2: and your first thought is, oh, I want to fuck her,

1895
01:23:26,880 --> 01:23:28,519
Speaker 2: like that's your only thought is all I just want

1896
01:23:28,560 --> 01:23:30,720
Speaker 2: to fuck her? You'll never see her as oh, I

1897
01:23:30,840 --> 01:23:32,840
Speaker 2: want to get to know her, because when you saw her,

1898
01:23:32,960 --> 01:23:34,639
Speaker 2: she was drunk in the club having fun with her friends,

1899
01:23:34,640 --> 01:23:36,200
Speaker 2: and your first thought was I want to fuck her.

1900
01:23:36,479 --> 01:23:38,920
Speaker 2: So now she will always your whatever you try to

1901
01:23:38,960 --> 01:23:40,559
Speaker 2: do will always be you just trying to fuck her.

1902
01:23:40,720 --> 01:23:42,280
Speaker 2: You never wanted to get to know her. You never

1903
01:23:42,360 --> 01:23:44,719
Speaker 2: put her in a oh I could date her scenario.

1904
01:23:44,880 --> 01:23:45,040
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1905
01:23:45,080 --> 01:23:48,559
Speaker 1: Yeah, your initial your initial, your initial first impression wasn't

1906
01:23:48,600 --> 01:23:51,120
Speaker 1: based off it wasn't disrespect, but it wasn't respect.

1907
01:23:51,200 --> 01:23:54,040
Speaker 3: It was her respect. Let me give some pushback here.

1908
01:23:54,160 --> 01:23:56,160
Speaker 3: It's been a lot of girls that I'd be like, damn,

1909
01:23:56,200 --> 01:23:58,240
Speaker 3: I want to fuck her. After we fu I'm like,

1910
01:23:58,360 --> 01:24:00,400
Speaker 3: damn I like her. Oh No, No, you don't get

1911
01:24:00,400 --> 01:24:01,960
Speaker 3: to really know the person I hang out spend time

1912
01:24:02,280 --> 01:24:02,600
Speaker 3: O the.

1913
01:24:02,640 --> 01:24:05,400
Speaker 1: Coolest shit Jamison, I are saying the exact same thing

1914
01:24:05,479 --> 01:24:07,960
Speaker 1: you guys are saying. That happens, and right now in

1915
01:24:08,080 --> 01:24:11,360
Speaker 1: my life, that's exactly how I would operate. When you're younger,

1916
01:24:11,560 --> 01:24:14,799
Speaker 1: you have a different mentality and your judgment is clouded

1917
01:24:14,840 --> 01:24:18,920
Speaker 1: that way. There's plenty of times in my late twenties

1918
01:24:18,960 --> 01:24:20,800
Speaker 1: thirties when I saw y'all want to fuck that girl,

1919
01:24:20,920 --> 01:24:22,240
Speaker 1: fucked her, was like, I like her a lot.

1920
01:24:23,080 --> 01:24:24,360
Speaker 3: I'm not judging her based off that.

1921
01:24:24,439 --> 01:24:27,360
Speaker 1: When you're young, you have dumb impressions of how you

1922
01:24:27,520 --> 01:24:29,439
Speaker 1: view people and you can't get out of your head

1923
01:24:29,439 --> 01:24:31,479
Speaker 1: that that's some drunk girl at the club. Even though

1924
01:24:31,520 --> 01:24:33,880
Speaker 1: you like her a lot, that first impression is not

1925
01:24:34,040 --> 01:24:35,719
Speaker 1: based off the fairy tale you told yourself.

1926
01:24:35,880 --> 01:24:36,040
Speaker 9: I was.

1927
01:24:36,280 --> 01:24:37,680
Speaker 3: We're saying, we're all saying the same thing.

1928
01:24:37,760 --> 01:24:40,360
Speaker 2: I was never to drunk drunk pussy, but not like

1929
01:24:40,760 --> 01:24:43,360
Speaker 2: not stupid drunk, but just like stay in the club like.

1930
01:24:44,920 --> 01:24:45,000
Speaker 10: NK.

1931
01:24:45,320 --> 01:24:48,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, like she you se girl as drunk and I

1932
01:24:48,800 --> 01:24:49,040
Speaker 3: want to.

1933
01:24:51,320 --> 01:24:54,360
Speaker 1: Not like that, all right, just like having fun being

1934
01:24:54,360 --> 01:24:56,960
Speaker 1: a little club girl that night. Have I fucked a

1935
01:24:57,000 --> 01:24:57,720
Speaker 1: sloppy drunk girl?

1936
01:24:59,000 --> 01:25:03,000
Speaker 3: Well, I never. No, we're saying, no, you shouldn't do that,

1937
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Speaker 3: like qute drunk. Yeah, I know what, you're cute drunk? Yeah?

1938
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Speaker 3: All right.

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Speaker 6: Do you guys remember the gentleman that called in that

1940
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Speaker 6: said he was starting the true crime review channel on YouTube?

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Speaker 9: I do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: We asked him for a lot more information, gave him

1944
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Speaker 6: my thoughts some pretty good advice while he called back

1945
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Speaker 6: to give us an update on what he's done with

1946
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Speaker 6: his YouTube channel and everything since he was.

1947
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Speaker 3: Asking to separate the channels or something like that.

1948
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Speaker 6: Yeah, a few things. He was just starting to monetize.

1949
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Speaker 6: There was a bunch going on, So let's see where

1950
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Speaker 6: he's at.

1951
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Speaker 8: What's going on a gang?

1952
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Speaker 10: It is Mike, the movie review guy that emailed you

1953
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Speaker 10: all about a month ago to give you guys an

1954
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Speaker 10: update on what's been going on since I joined a

1955
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Speaker 10: partner program and kind of end off on a bit

1956
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Speaker 10: of a update that or could not spark another discussion,

1957
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Speaker 10: I'm not sure, so, long story short, I ended up

1958
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Speaker 10: making a separate channel for the true crime stuff. The

1959
01:25:52,000 --> 01:25:54,920
Speaker 10: name of my movie review channel is called Finally Watched It,

1960
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Speaker 10: which was a big reason why I asked the question

1961
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Speaker 10: in the first place, because obviously doing true crime on

1962
01:25:59,000 --> 01:26:02,280
Speaker 10: a channel called Finally might seem a bit off. Also,

1963
01:26:02,320 --> 01:26:03,880
Speaker 10: I wanted the true crime stuff to have a different

1964
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Speaker 10: editing style, so I did start a separate channel for

1965
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Speaker 10: the true crime stuff. That channel is called snap finger

1966
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Speaker 10: Lore because I cover stuff that, like you know, it's

1967
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Speaker 10: a super popular stuff that you got to snappy fingers

1968
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Speaker 10: to kind of remember.

1969
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Speaker 8: Now.

1970
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Speaker 10: I also am on TikTok and I am going to

1971
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Speaker 10: start posting on Instagram as well. Thank you guys for

1972
01:26:19,920 --> 01:26:22,320
Speaker 10: reminding me about just how many potential eyes I'm missing

1973
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Speaker 10: out on it just from not posting on those other platforms.

1974
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Speaker 10: So I do appreciate that, and I do plan on

1975
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Speaker 10: getting a face cam at some point. I don't have

1976
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Speaker 10: one now, because I know that helps with virality and

1977
01:26:30,200 --> 01:26:32,200
Speaker 10: stuff like that and make me more personable. I do

1978
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Speaker 10: plan on getting a facecam at some point now to

1979
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Speaker 10: get into a part two. Like I said in my

1980
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Speaker 10: previous email, I was living with my grandparents. Well I

1981
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Speaker 10: still am, and they don't charge me for rent, which

1982
01:26:42,280 --> 01:26:44,960
Speaker 10: they still don't. But recently my job has been calling

1983
01:26:45,040 --> 01:26:46,960
Speaker 10: for overtime and they said they're going to be like

1984
01:26:47,040 --> 01:26:49,479
Speaker 10: this heading into the middle of the summer, where it's

1985
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Speaker 10: going to be sixty hour work weeks, ten our shifts,

1986
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Speaker 10: six days a week. I'm only going to get one

1987
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Speaker 10: day off, and obviously that's going to cause me to

1988
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Speaker 10: really take a step back with content creation. So what

1989
01:26:58,160 --> 01:27:00,800
Speaker 10: I plan on doing instead is getting the easy little

1990
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Speaker 10: part time job just to keep my bills paid up

1991
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Speaker 10: that I do have, like car insurance and stuff, and

1992
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Speaker 10: then just do content creation full time.

1993
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Speaker 3: Not mad at the strategy. Wasn't it more of a

1994
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Speaker 3: statement than a question? Yeah, yeah, well it wasn't up there.

1995
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Speaker 6: Well, it just sounds like he's committing to this, making

1996
01:27:19,160 --> 01:27:22,600
Speaker 6: this more of his permits than rather than working around it.

1997
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Speaker 3: But then he has a new job starting the summer

1998
01:27:25,280 --> 01:27:26,880
Speaker 3: that is going to take most of his time. But

1999
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Speaker 3: he's saying he's walking away from that. Oh, he said,

2000
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Speaker 3: he's walking away from that job.

2001
01:27:30,520 --> 01:27:33,360
Speaker 6: He said, I'm leaving that because it's six hours. It's

2002
01:27:33,439 --> 01:27:35,600
Speaker 6: six days a week, ten hour shifts. He said, I

2003
01:27:35,640 --> 01:27:37,240
Speaker 6: don't have time to really work on this, so I'm

2004
01:27:37,280 --> 01:27:39,360
Speaker 6: gonna go get a part time job so I can

2005
01:27:40,479 --> 01:27:41,960
Speaker 6: do this. Oh, focus on this.

2006
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Speaker 1: I think that's smart though, because some people jump out

2007
01:27:46,120 --> 01:27:49,599
Speaker 1: the window way too quickly when they're they have their

2008
01:27:49,640 --> 01:27:51,320
Speaker 1: side hustle and it's like, I'm gonna quit my full

2009
01:27:51,360 --> 01:27:53,600
Speaker 1: time job and just do that. Yeah, it's cool to

2010
01:27:53,640 --> 01:27:55,479
Speaker 1: still keep a part time job, even.

2011
01:27:55,320 --> 01:27:57,000
Speaker 3: If it's got to keep money flowing in.

2012
01:27:57,240 --> 01:27:59,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, even if it's below what you were doing with

2013
01:27:59,760 --> 01:28:01,360
Speaker 1: your full time gig. Like if you want to go

2014
01:28:01,400 --> 01:28:04,280
Speaker 1: get a job at Starbucks because the hours work and

2015
01:28:04,360 --> 01:28:06,000
Speaker 1: you can do your side hustle in the meantime just

2016
01:28:06,040 --> 01:28:07,000
Speaker 1: at least have some income.

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Speaker 3: I think that's extremely smart. Sometimes you got to take

2018
01:28:10,000 --> 01:28:12,080
Speaker 3: a step back to you know, focus on what your

2019
01:28:12,160 --> 01:28:14,320
Speaker 3: passion is, and you know, if it means getting a

2020
01:28:14,320 --> 01:28:16,519
Speaker 3: part time job just so you can pay you know,

2021
01:28:16,640 --> 01:28:20,280
Speaker 3: car insurance, cell phone buildings. Like I mean, fortunate enough

2022
01:28:20,320 --> 01:28:22,920
Speaker 3: to have grandparents that are letting him live in their

2023
01:28:22,960 --> 01:28:25,639
Speaker 3: house rent free, so he doesn't have like a lot

2024
01:28:25,720 --> 01:28:28,240
Speaker 3: of bills, but like, you know, just small his own

2025
01:28:28,280 --> 01:28:33,040
Speaker 3: personal bills, con insurance, cell phone, food, clothes, sneakers, whatever,

2026
01:28:33,080 --> 01:28:37,120
Speaker 3: shit like that keep some money coming in. But yeah,

2027
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Speaker 3: good luck, man. Focus on your passion if you're able to,

2028
01:28:40,200 --> 01:28:44,240
Speaker 3: you know, uh, invest in your passion and build on

2029
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Speaker 3: your passions. I salute anybody else doing that. It's not easy,

2030
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Speaker 3: especially in these times. We know that a lot of

2031
01:28:49,720 --> 01:28:53,519
Speaker 3: people are you know, struggling. So I salute anybody that's

2032
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Speaker 3: trying to actively pursue and build on their passions.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so I wanted to I actually wanted to turn

2034
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Speaker 2: turn that into a wider question leading off of what

2035
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Speaker 2: you guys said. There are there's a huge rise of

2036
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Speaker 2: content creators because it's like the new entrepreneurial thing.

2037
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Speaker 7: Because everybody thinks that they can do it. Some people

2038
01:29:11,520 --> 01:29:12,640
Speaker 7: are good at it, some people are bad at it.

2039
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Speaker 2: But a lot of people on TikTok, especially who are

2040
01:29:15,520 --> 01:29:19,440
Speaker 2: getting big on TikTok, are quitting their jobs and realizing

2041
01:29:19,479 --> 01:29:22,120
Speaker 2: that they actually shit is not as even and is

2042
01:29:22,200 --> 01:29:25,080
Speaker 2: not as promising as they thought it would be. What

2043
01:29:25,160 --> 01:29:27,760
Speaker 2: would you guys's advice be to content creators, people who

2044
01:29:27,760 --> 01:29:31,280
Speaker 2: are creating podcasts or just doing content creation on social media?

2045
01:29:31,720 --> 01:29:33,639
Speaker 2: What would be your threshold where you could say, Okay,

2046
01:29:33,680 --> 01:29:36,439
Speaker 2: you guys should probably quit your job around here, Like,

2047
01:29:36,600 --> 01:29:39,720
Speaker 2: what do you think that's some loose requirements to be

2048
01:29:40,080 --> 01:29:41,120
Speaker 2: obviously not exactly.

2049
01:29:41,240 --> 01:29:44,200
Speaker 1: Everybody's situation is different. Good question, but it is case

2050
01:29:44,240 --> 01:29:46,400
Speaker 1: by case. Spase, I think it's figuring out what your

2051
01:29:46,479 --> 01:29:49,720
Speaker 1: overhead is, what your expenses are, and what type of

2052
01:29:49,760 --> 01:29:54,600
Speaker 1: lifestyle you want to live. Give yourself enough cushion, at

2053
01:29:54,680 --> 01:29:57,680
Speaker 1: least a year's worth of cushion before you quit a job.

2054
01:29:57,920 --> 01:30:00,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's just planning it safe.

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Speaker 6: That's a year's a long run. A lot of people

2056
01:30:04,640 --> 01:30:07,080
Speaker 6: don't have the luxury of having. Yeah, but I mean

2057
01:30:07,200 --> 01:30:10,080
Speaker 6: the standard, like a realistic one is three months rent.

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01:30:12,000 --> 01:30:14,519
Speaker 3: That's scary and you're jumping into you're jumping.

2059
01:30:15,120 --> 01:30:19,040
Speaker 6: Having enough liquid income to college coast for a year

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Speaker 6: is extremely difficult.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, for sure it is.

2062
01:30:21,680 --> 01:30:24,840
Speaker 1: But I mean I'm saying backups, like, all right, if

2063
01:30:25,200 --> 01:30:27,200
Speaker 1: someone's going to quit their job because their YouTube channel

2064
01:30:27,240 --> 01:30:30,240
Speaker 1: is popping, that means they have income coming in from

2065
01:30:31,160 --> 01:30:34,280
Speaker 1: ad sense, Right, I'm saying you should give yourself a

2066
01:30:34,479 --> 01:30:37,599
Speaker 1: year's worth of cushion for each month. I'm not saying

2067
01:30:37,640 --> 01:30:40,120
Speaker 1: you need a year's worth of money where you have

2068
01:30:40,240 --> 01:30:42,559
Speaker 1: no income coming in that you can survive, but if

2069
01:30:42,920 --> 01:30:46,240
Speaker 1: shit goes awful this month, you need to have those

2070
01:30:46,280 --> 01:30:48,479
Speaker 1: reserves there, and I think you need twelve months of

2071
01:30:48,520 --> 01:30:51,560
Speaker 1: that if you're really gonna quit your job and go

2072
01:30:51,720 --> 01:30:54,719
Speaker 1: out there and be safe and just as a risk takers.

2073
01:30:54,720 --> 01:30:56,800
Speaker 1: Some people don't give a fuck. I've been I don't

2074
01:30:56,800 --> 01:30:58,639
Speaker 1: give a fuck before. I just don't think everyone's built

2075
01:30:58,640 --> 01:30:58,800
Speaker 1: for that.

2076
01:30:59,600 --> 01:31:01,880
Speaker 3: It's a it's a scary, it's a scary place to

2077
01:31:02,000 --> 01:31:05,519
Speaker 3: kind of working though that I don't give a fuck,

2078
01:31:05,520 --> 01:31:08,080
Speaker 3: and I'm just going for it. That takes all that

2079
01:31:08,240 --> 01:31:10,280
Speaker 3: takes a certain type of person to kind of do

2080
01:31:10,400 --> 01:31:13,439
Speaker 3: that type of shit. Yeah, everybody, but everybody's not built

2081
01:31:13,479 --> 01:31:15,800
Speaker 3: for that. You know what a lot of people like

2082
01:31:15,880 --> 01:31:17,920
Speaker 3: to be playing. They play a lot of people spend there.

2083
01:31:18,520 --> 01:31:21,840
Speaker 3: It's unfortunate and I would recommend people don't live this way.

2084
01:31:21,880 --> 01:31:24,519
Speaker 3: But a lot of people live their lives just playing

2085
01:31:24,600 --> 01:31:27,439
Speaker 3: it safe their entire life, you know what I'm saying.

2086
01:31:28,200 --> 01:31:30,800
Speaker 3: And I think that's that's a fucking crazy way to live,

2087
01:31:30,880 --> 01:31:34,160
Speaker 3: Like you're just gonna live your entire life playing it safe.

2088
01:31:34,240 --> 01:31:37,799
Speaker 3: Like no, So take chances, I would say, take smart,

2089
01:31:38,000 --> 01:31:41,479
Speaker 3: educated chances. Like Rory said, you know, kind of have

2090
01:31:41,600 --> 01:31:44,320
Speaker 3: a cushion something to fall back on, a reserve.

2091
01:31:44,439 --> 01:31:47,400
Speaker 1: Gave a year's salary. That's extremely hard for anybody, no

2092
01:31:47,520 --> 01:31:50,160
Speaker 1: matter what your income, saving a year's salary. I'm saying

2093
01:31:50,240 --> 01:31:53,920
Speaker 1: that each month, knowing your expenses in your overhead, you

2094
01:31:54,000 --> 01:31:57,600
Speaker 1: should have a cushion set aside for each month of

2095
01:31:57,680 --> 01:32:00,360
Speaker 1: the year because you really never know where things ago.

2096
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Speaker 3: So yes, and if that don't work out, Minchell your

2097
01:32:06,280 --> 01:32:08,320
Speaker 3: feet on only fans, you know what I mean. It's

2098
01:32:08,400 --> 01:32:12,200
Speaker 3: it's a world for anybody that's athletes's foot. And I

2099
01:32:12,200 --> 01:32:16,479
Speaker 3: couldn't stop laughing. Crushi has athletes has beautiful feet. I agree.

2100
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Speaker 3: I'm just saying.

2101
01:32:16,960 --> 01:32:19,960
Speaker 1: Someone tweeted Crushi has athletes foot dudes is they're saying

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Speaker 1: that she hasn't shown her pinky toe on the only

2103
01:32:22,240 --> 01:32:23,439
Speaker 1: fans yet it was.

2104
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Speaker 3: A whole bunch. It was a whole bunch of dudes

2105
01:32:25,560 --> 01:32:28,920
Speaker 3: in my mind saving it. She hasn't shown her pinky toe.

2106
01:32:29,280 --> 01:32:33,240
Speaker 3: She's been like leaking photos or teasing photos from social

2107
01:32:33,520 --> 01:32:35,559
Speaker 3: but on her only fans, she's probably she's shown her

2108
01:32:35,600 --> 01:32:37,960
Speaker 3: full feet, Like you gotta pay for the full feet,

2109
01:32:38,120 --> 01:32:40,080
Speaker 3: that's what she does. This is the trailer I want

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Speaker 3: to pay.

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Speaker 7: For, Yes, Julian, it's one of the biggest fetishes in

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01:32:42,560 --> 01:32:44,200
Speaker 7: the world. Yes, it's something that people really want to

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Speaker 7: pay for.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. It's just her feet. Yeah, yeah, nice,

2115
01:32:50,040 --> 01:32:52,840
Speaker 3: good for her. Yeah she probably Now you look up

2116
01:32:52,840 --> 01:32:55,320
Speaker 3: and she didnet made a hunted k I like the

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01:32:56,479 --> 01:32:59,679
Speaker 3: feet and more feet only people.

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Speaker 1: If she can make one hundred thousand dollars taking a

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Speaker 1: photo of her foot from her iPhone, more power, I'll

2120
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Speaker 1: take the photo for you.

2121
01:33:06,760 --> 01:33:09,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what, just plenty of photos. What do

2122
01:33:09,080 --> 01:33:10,559
Speaker 3: you want to do? Get the baby oil? I got

2123
01:33:11,360 --> 01:33:17,559
Speaker 3: thirty five posts. Look at Julian five dollars a month.

2124
01:33:17,800 --> 01:33:23,759
Speaker 3: Jesus Christ, somebody's paying that's sick. Netflix isn't even people

2125
01:33:23,800 --> 01:33:27,080
Speaker 3: are people are paying that twenty five dollars to look

2126
01:33:27,120 --> 01:33:31,719
Speaker 3: at some feet? Yeah wow, good for her. Good for career,

2127
01:33:31,960 --> 01:33:35,280
Speaker 3: she's making money, has to be. I mean, do they

2128
01:33:35,320 --> 01:33:38,000
Speaker 3: show how many people are there? There's that private? I

2129
01:33:38,080 --> 01:33:42,160
Speaker 3: think that's private. Oh yeah, I don't think they show that. Damn,

2130
01:33:42,720 --> 01:33:43,759
Speaker 3: only fans is crazy.

2131
01:33:43,880 --> 01:33:45,640
Speaker 2: What would you guys show on your only fans? Me

2132
01:33:45,640 --> 01:33:48,639
Speaker 2: and Julian started subscriptions on Instagram. This is what's making

2133
01:33:48,760 --> 01:33:49,360
Speaker 2: us ask.

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Speaker 3: You, Yes, started subscriptions on Instagram.

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01:33:51,800 --> 01:33:55,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, fire personal pages people can subscribe to like a

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01:33:55,320 --> 01:33:57,640
Speaker 2: private you can do like private post private stories just

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01:33:57,720 --> 01:33:58,400
Speaker 2: for your subscribers.

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Speaker 6: So it's kind of like only fans for instact. But

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01:34:00,479 --> 01:34:02,400
Speaker 6: it's not it's gonna need to slap the only fans

2140
01:34:02,439 --> 01:34:03,000
Speaker 6: thing on it you.

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Speaker 1: Basically it kind of is though it is could it's

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Speaker 1: the same business model.

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01:34:07,160 --> 01:34:08,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't say that.

2144
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Speaker 2: It's your showing what you were not only fans, but

2145
01:34:10,400 --> 01:34:13,080
Speaker 2: it's the business model people are paying pay well a subscription.

2146
01:34:15,680 --> 01:34:16,880
Speaker 6: Well, that being said, I am going to do a

2147
01:34:16,920 --> 01:34:20,160
Speaker 6: beerd tutorial on my subscription. So I've been getting a

2148
01:34:20,200 --> 01:34:21,920
Speaker 6: lot of requests about what I do for my beard

2149
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Speaker 6: and I'll host it on there with my feet.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I was in a gym and

2151
01:34:29,120 --> 01:34:31,519
Speaker 1: a gym there was a high demand for my only fans,

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Speaker 1: what would they be demanding from you? I don't think anything.

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01:34:35,760 --> 01:34:38,479
Speaker 1: This is a hypothetic. This is based off the question

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01:34:38,760 --> 01:34:41,080
Speaker 1: how far would you take it? I'm not saying I'm

2155
01:34:41,120 --> 01:34:42,519
Speaker 1: in demand at all. I don't think anyone wants to

2156
01:34:42,520 --> 01:34:45,599
Speaker 1: see any of that. But like, let's say this alternate

2157
01:34:45,800 --> 01:34:48,519
Speaker 1: the upside down. Let's go with the upside down. Actually

2158
01:34:48,560 --> 01:34:49,320
Speaker 1: that has to do with kids.

2159
01:34:49,360 --> 01:34:50,759
Speaker 3: Let me leave that one alone.

2160
01:34:51,439 --> 01:34:54,280
Speaker 1: Just an alternate reality that there was a high demand

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01:34:54,360 --> 01:34:55,240
Speaker 1: for my only fans.

2162
01:34:55,960 --> 01:34:58,240
Speaker 3: I don't. I mean, I'd probably show most of it.

2163
01:34:59,400 --> 01:35:03,439
Speaker 3: Really we're getting but ass on only fans is sick.

2164
01:35:04,400 --> 01:35:06,840
Speaker 1: Oh, I would show my dick on only fans if

2165
01:35:06,880 --> 01:35:08,840
Speaker 1: I if I committed to doing the only fans thing,

2166
01:35:09,000 --> 01:35:12,400
Speaker 1: I show myself fucking I just don't think people want

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01:35:12,439 --> 01:35:13,160
Speaker 1: to see that all.

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01:35:13,280 --> 01:35:15,920
Speaker 7: What would you show on your subscriptions? Like, what would

2169
01:35:15,960 --> 01:35:17,280
Speaker 7: you show your hats?

2170
01:35:17,360 --> 01:35:20,599
Speaker 3: People want to see my sneakers. Everybody's been asking to see,

2171
01:35:20,600 --> 01:35:23,679
Speaker 3: like my sneaker collection pretty close to the feet. That's

2172
01:35:24,160 --> 01:35:27,000
Speaker 3: whole territory. Well, they do go on your feet, but

2173
01:35:27,680 --> 01:35:30,519
Speaker 3: I'm not showing my feet on the only fans like

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01:35:31,000 --> 01:35:33,639
Speaker 3: h subscription No, probably like just sneaker collection.

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01:35:35,320 --> 01:35:38,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, people, imagine a mall you could probably bring up

2176
01:35:38,200 --> 01:35:38,920
Speaker 2: on subscriptions.

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01:35:39,600 --> 01:35:44,000
Speaker 1: Imagine paying to go see some sneakers. You could google image.

2178
01:35:45,520 --> 01:35:45,920
Speaker 8: Is it like that?

2179
01:35:46,160 --> 01:35:48,439
Speaker 3: It's like that little damn all got those air forces.

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01:35:49,400 --> 01:35:51,519
Speaker 6: It's like that little Asian kid on YouTube that makes

2181
01:35:51,560 --> 01:35:54,400
Speaker 6: it killing just opening toys and other kids want to

2182
01:35:54,439 --> 01:35:55,559
Speaker 6: watch him open toys.

2183
01:35:55,880 --> 01:36:01,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, just go to Target, look at the toy like something.

2184
01:36:02,640 --> 01:36:03,599
Speaker 3: Pay but listen.

2185
01:36:03,720 --> 01:36:05,679
Speaker 2: I can't talk because I'll be on TikTok watching people

2186
01:36:05,760 --> 01:36:06,599
Speaker 2: organize their fridge.

2187
01:36:06,680 --> 01:36:08,519
Speaker 7: Me, my shit is fucked up.

2188
01:36:08,800 --> 01:36:12,040
Speaker 2: But I'm on TikTok for hours watching people just not

2189
01:36:12,160 --> 01:36:15,839
Speaker 2: even talking, organize their fridge, clean their bathrooms and like enthralled.

2190
01:36:16,640 --> 01:36:17,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, for hours.

2191
01:36:17,600 --> 01:36:20,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm I understand. Am I here to judge anyone?

2192
01:36:20,880 --> 01:36:22,920
Speaker 1: I think it's fucking nuts, But my brain works the

2193
01:36:22,920 --> 01:36:25,160
Speaker 1: same way. I catch myself in rabbit holes, Like why

2194
01:36:25,479 --> 01:36:28,280
Speaker 1: am I watching this woman fold clothes in her closet?

2195
01:36:28,479 --> 01:36:33,400
Speaker 3: Yeah? Ooh, there's something nice about folding. Now, it's therapeutic Yeah.

2196
01:36:33,600 --> 01:36:37,160
Speaker 2: There's a huge influx of male creators who are like

2197
01:36:37,520 --> 01:36:40,760
Speaker 2: just cleaning their houses and they have huge fans. I

2198
01:36:40,840 --> 01:36:43,080
Speaker 2: will sit up there and watch a man go to

2199
01:36:43,160 --> 01:36:46,479
Speaker 2: his house for hours, like it's the greatest shit in

2200
01:36:46,520 --> 01:36:48,840
Speaker 2: the world, and like women are going crazy over it.

2201
01:36:48,920 --> 01:36:51,080
Speaker 7: I think it's because like there's like this stigma.

2202
01:36:50,800 --> 01:36:53,000
Speaker 2: That men don't clean, right, So watching a man just

2203
01:36:53,120 --> 01:36:55,880
Speaker 2: like deep clean his house every day on Instagram, I

2204
01:36:55,960 --> 01:36:56,879
Speaker 2: subscribe immediately.

2205
01:36:56,920 --> 01:36:58,800
Speaker 3: I could do that way. I do that all the time.

2206
01:36:59,400 --> 01:37:01,800
Speaker 3: You should do it. You see my apartments clean as hell?

2207
01:37:02,040 --> 01:37:03,639
Speaker 3: You should you should do it. I love cleaning.

2208
01:37:04,120 --> 01:37:05,680
Speaker 7: Yeah, like.

2209
01:37:07,160 --> 01:37:09,680
Speaker 6: Propping a camera up and then walking away and like

2210
01:37:09,840 --> 01:37:11,519
Speaker 6: doing stuff as if I'm not being filmed.

2211
01:37:11,560 --> 01:37:14,519
Speaker 3: It's like it's just like it's so gay that my

2212
01:37:14,720 --> 01:37:16,160
Speaker 3: mind just won't let me get there.

2213
01:37:16,680 --> 01:37:18,679
Speaker 7: They made one of that dude in Target, and Target

2214
01:37:18,760 --> 01:37:19,599
Speaker 7: gave him a brand deal.

2215
01:37:19,640 --> 01:37:22,280
Speaker 3: It does not make that that behavior any less gay

2216
01:37:22,280 --> 01:37:24,360
Speaker 3: in my mind. Yeah, well I thought it.

2217
01:37:24,560 --> 01:37:26,160
Speaker 7: I thought it's not gay if you're making money from it.

2218
01:37:26,240 --> 01:37:29,200
Speaker 3: I thought that was a lot of shit because of money.

2219
01:37:30,720 --> 01:37:33,439
Speaker 6: Actually, they offer you money to do gay ship. Look

2220
01:37:33,479 --> 01:37:37,880
Speaker 6: at Hollywood exactly. The contract in the Byeline says, you

2221
01:37:38,160 --> 01:37:41,240
Speaker 6: make it's a five O one three. They are making

2222
01:37:41,400 --> 01:37:42,160
Speaker 6: money on that pro.

2223
01:37:44,920 --> 01:37:47,639
Speaker 2: Brand. It's like shooting a commercial without a team, if

2224
01:37:47,680 --> 01:37:50,120
Speaker 2: that makes sense. You're film you are filming.

2225
01:37:50,200 --> 01:37:52,880
Speaker 3: You are, yeah, but shooting the commercial. But I'm also

2226
01:37:52,920 --> 01:37:55,120
Speaker 3: the camera man. That's where it gets weird. Like I

2227
01:37:55,200 --> 01:37:57,760
Speaker 3: got everything, I got to keep moving the thing like

2228
01:37:57,960 --> 01:37:58,600
Speaker 3: and I.

2229
01:37:58,720 --> 01:38:01,920
Speaker 1: Was just like awkward with my friend holding the camera

2230
01:38:02,000 --> 01:38:02,759
Speaker 1: watching me sweep.

2231
01:38:03,120 --> 01:38:05,960
Speaker 6: Yeah, It's just like I can't as someone in production,

2232
01:38:06,160 --> 01:38:09,240
Speaker 6: I can't watch those videos without thinking the how it's

2233
01:38:09,320 --> 01:38:12,120
Speaker 6: made side of things. So like when he puts the

2234
01:38:12,680 --> 01:38:15,320
Speaker 6: when he parks his car, gets out, puts the camera

2235
01:38:15,479 --> 01:38:18,160
Speaker 6: outside the parking space, gets back in his car, and

2236
01:38:18,240 --> 01:38:20,559
Speaker 6: then pulls the car into the spot just for that shot.

2237
01:38:21,000 --> 01:38:21,800
Speaker 3: I'm like, I can't.

2238
01:38:21,920 --> 01:38:25,080
Speaker 6: I just can't separate knowing that he got out of

2239
01:38:25,120 --> 01:38:27,640
Speaker 6: his car, already parked it, put the camera up, and

2240
01:38:27,720 --> 01:38:29,679
Speaker 6: then re enacted that again.

2241
01:38:29,840 --> 01:38:30,960
Speaker 3: Like that you lost me.

2242
01:38:31,080 --> 01:38:33,160
Speaker 1: Specific to the target, things like when he sets up

2243
01:38:33,280 --> 01:38:36,439
Speaker 1: the tripod in Target and then walks from outside target

2244
01:38:36,600 --> 01:38:38,920
Speaker 1: into the building. If I was in that Target, I'm

2245
01:38:39,040 --> 01:38:41,280
Speaker 1: taking that tripod and that phone because they sell it

2246
01:38:41,320 --> 01:38:43,400
Speaker 1: at Target, and I'm gonna go to the check out. Yeah,

2247
01:38:44,080 --> 01:38:44,519
Speaker 1: it's thrown.

2248
01:38:44,560 --> 01:38:48,800
Speaker 3: I'm going right in my car. Content creation is It's

2249
01:38:48,840 --> 01:38:51,880
Speaker 3: an interesting world, man, fam Look at this, just that

2250
01:38:52,040 --> 01:38:54,880
Speaker 3: shot alone, that shot, All these shots.

2251
01:38:56,800 --> 01:38:57,040
Speaker 8: Come on.

2252
01:38:57,160 --> 01:38:58,439
Speaker 3: You know how long he had to like wait for

2253
01:38:58,520 --> 01:38:59,800
Speaker 3: it to be clear in the aisle.

2254
01:39:01,920 --> 01:39:04,160
Speaker 6: Don't don't even give me the distance shot. Look how

2255
01:39:04,240 --> 01:39:08,960
Speaker 6: far the camera is from where he's standing. Yes, that's

2256
01:39:09,000 --> 01:39:09,960
Speaker 6: some serial killing ship.

2257
01:39:10,840 --> 01:39:12,880
Speaker 3: He framed it. He probably puts some tape on the floor.

2258
01:39:13,240 --> 01:39:17,960
Speaker 6: Imagine you're imagine you're the minimum wage registered person and

2259
01:39:18,080 --> 01:39:21,320
Speaker 6: this guy's got a camera set up and you're checking

2260
01:39:21,400 --> 01:39:21,680
Speaker 6: him out.

2261
01:39:21,760 --> 01:39:24,000
Speaker 7: They probably know him by now. He goes there so much.

2262
01:39:24,280 --> 01:39:28,120
Speaker 3: I'm sure, yeah, they know. But I just can't. I mean,

2263
01:39:28,760 --> 01:39:29,679
Speaker 3: can you hate, though.

2264
01:39:29,760 --> 01:39:31,120
Speaker 7: You can't hate, That's what I'm saying.

2265
01:39:31,160 --> 01:39:33,519
Speaker 3: I'm like, you can, but I'm not sure.

2266
01:39:33,520 --> 01:39:35,200
Speaker 1: I'm not shitting on anyone that works at a register

2267
01:39:35,240 --> 01:39:38,400
Speaker 1: at Target by any means at all. But you can't

2268
01:39:38,439 --> 01:39:41,000
Speaker 1: clown someone that's just trying to do their work too.

2269
01:39:42,640 --> 01:39:44,800
Speaker 1: He's made money, he's he's at his job too.

2270
01:39:45,840 --> 01:39:49,720
Speaker 3: First of all, well, first of all, y'all missing, y'all

2271
01:39:49,720 --> 01:39:52,920
Speaker 3: missing the most serious all of this ship that Drake

2272
01:39:53,160 --> 01:39:56,880
Speaker 3: did it. No fuck that. This nigga went home, He

2273
01:39:56,960 --> 01:40:00,519
Speaker 3: went to Target, bought groceries, right, okay, when home cook

2274
01:40:00,560 --> 01:40:03,400
Speaker 3: the sofa meal bro He sat down in his home

2275
01:40:03,840 --> 01:40:05,960
Speaker 3: with a shirt and tie on and ate a meal.

2276
01:40:07,439 --> 01:40:13,320
Speaker 3: Porn poor and ground and what a shirt and tie on?

2277
01:40:14,160 --> 01:40:16,640
Speaker 2: That that type of content I would do, But it

2278
01:40:16,760 --> 01:40:19,920
Speaker 2: takes so much time with the editing because it's so

2279
01:40:20,080 --> 01:40:22,439
Speaker 2: much footage and so many different shots and so many

2280
01:40:22,479 --> 01:40:23,040
Speaker 2: different cuts.

2281
01:40:23,640 --> 01:40:25,200
Speaker 7: It takes way too much time for me. But I

2282
01:40:25,240 --> 01:40:25,920
Speaker 7: would definitely do that.

2283
01:40:26,000 --> 01:40:26,880
Speaker 3: And you gotta go to Target.

2284
01:40:26,920 --> 01:40:29,000
Speaker 6: Look how all of his videos are muted? Because I

2285
01:40:29,080 --> 01:40:31,240
Speaker 6: bet you ninety nine percent of his videos are Drake songs.

2286
01:40:31,800 --> 01:40:35,360
Speaker 3: Well that's why Drake redid his yeah, his little sketch thing.

2287
01:40:36,520 --> 01:40:38,640
Speaker 1: Well, what type of retainer would it take for you to, like,

2288
01:40:39,240 --> 01:40:41,000
Speaker 1: cheer with me on the weekends or go to Target

2289
01:40:41,080 --> 01:40:42,560
Speaker 1: and five times watch me?

2290
01:40:44,840 --> 01:40:50,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, bringing an actual videographer to shoot. That's crazy.

2291
01:40:50,680 --> 01:40:52,960
Speaker 7: Some of them do, some of them do. I was

2292
01:40:53,000 --> 01:40:55,439
Speaker 7: trying to fly on me out to Turks with me.

2293
01:40:55,920 --> 01:40:57,240
Speaker 7: Can't afford it, She's too expensive.

2294
01:40:57,560 --> 01:40:59,320
Speaker 2: But I wanted to fly on me out the Turks

2295
01:40:59,400 --> 01:41:01,479
Speaker 2: with me because my subscription service is gonna have all

2296
01:41:01,520 --> 01:41:03,200
Speaker 2: my Turks footage on there. I'm not posting nothing on

2297
01:41:03,280 --> 01:41:05,560
Speaker 2: my regular Instagram. So I want to yellw me to

2298
01:41:05,560 --> 01:41:07,040
Speaker 2: shoot it. Shoot us being thoughts.

2299
01:41:07,200 --> 01:41:12,080
Speaker 3: But like in four D in four D, being a

2300
01:41:12,160 --> 01:41:16,599
Speaker 3: thought in four D is hilariy D four kick doesn't

2301
01:41:16,640 --> 01:41:21,240
Speaker 3: really matter the quality, No, just new thoughts. Ship. Well,

2302
01:41:21,280 --> 01:41:21,800
Speaker 3: this was fun.

2303
01:41:21,920 --> 01:41:24,639
Speaker 1: I like Evergreen episodes where we're just checking on each

2304
01:41:24,640 --> 01:41:27,240
Speaker 1: other and shoot the ships, checking on the listeners, have

2305
01:41:27,360 --> 01:41:28,920
Speaker 1: some fun uh voicemails.

2306
01:41:28,960 --> 01:41:32,000
Speaker 3: This was cool. Yeah, there was some in depth emotional stuff.

2307
01:41:32,080 --> 01:41:35,439
Speaker 3: Some laughs, h some cries. This was This was great.

2308
01:41:35,560 --> 01:41:38,640
Speaker 3: Julian crowd a little bit. You know he's coming, all right,

2309
01:41:39,720 --> 01:41:42,040
Speaker 3: that just comes with the curls. Yeah, it's the curls

2310
01:41:42,080 --> 01:41:43,479
Speaker 3: you just dripping down his face. I give myself a

2311
01:41:43,520 --> 01:41:45,479
Speaker 3: haircut yesterday. Give yourself a haircut.

2312
01:41:45,520 --> 01:41:45,920
Speaker 7: You can tell.

2313
01:41:46,280 --> 01:41:48,880
Speaker 3: Really that's a comment. It looks good. I'm not going

2314
01:41:48,960 --> 01:41:50,120
Speaker 3: to you cut your full hair.

2315
01:41:50,439 --> 01:41:50,639
Speaker 8: Really.

2316
01:41:51,080 --> 01:41:54,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have a product in my hair for the

2317
01:41:54,200 --> 01:41:56,680
Speaker 3: first time in my life. Your hair looks good. A

2318
01:41:56,720 --> 01:41:58,439
Speaker 3: product is a little palmade in there.

2319
01:41:59,360 --> 01:42:03,400
Speaker 1: My guy will so well connected on Rivington whatever his like,

2320
01:42:03,560 --> 01:42:07,439
Speaker 1: All right, not, let's doing the actual number.

2321
01:42:08,800 --> 01:42:09,439
Speaker 3: So everyone can pull.

2322
01:42:10,560 --> 01:42:13,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, Willis has like his own lot of hair product.

2323
01:42:13,800 --> 01:42:16,320
Speaker 1: Oh fire, first time I've ever put product in my

2324
01:42:16,400 --> 01:42:17,040
Speaker 1: hair before.

2325
01:42:17,479 --> 01:42:22,200
Speaker 3: Ever in life, in life years, Swear to God. What

2326
01:42:22,280 --> 01:42:24,479
Speaker 3: about when you grew it out last time.

2327
01:42:24,960 --> 01:42:28,000
Speaker 1: During COVID, I didn't need to put product in my hair.

2328
01:42:28,439 --> 01:42:35,560
Speaker 3: I was playing Xbox and drinking drinking vodka. Yeah, that

2329
01:42:35,720 --> 01:42:37,720
Speaker 3: was the product. That was the last time I drank

2330
01:42:37,800 --> 01:42:40,960
Speaker 3: vodka was during the pandemic. Yeah. I don't know what

2331
01:42:41,000 --> 01:42:42,400
Speaker 3: I'm doing my hair. I'm just letting it grow do

2332
01:42:42,479 --> 01:42:43,880
Speaker 3: its own thing, right. I think we're all doing that.

2333
01:42:43,960 --> 01:42:45,720
Speaker 3: We're on our hair growth phase. Yeah.

2334
01:42:46,640 --> 01:42:49,519
Speaker 1: Today when I went to the barber after he lying

2335
01:42:49,560 --> 01:42:51,400
Speaker 1: this up, I was like, yeah, I gotta at least

2336
01:42:51,439 --> 01:42:51,960
Speaker 1: cut this down.

2337
01:42:52,160 --> 01:42:52,760
Speaker 3: But I didn't.

2338
01:42:53,080 --> 01:42:55,920
Speaker 1: This is still the same, Yes, off and off the top.

2339
01:42:56,280 --> 01:42:58,840
Speaker 1: It's none off the top, sides and shape up.

2340
01:42:59,040 --> 01:43:01,400
Speaker 3: Yeah. I like, all right, Well, this has been a

2341
01:43:01,439 --> 01:43:02,080
Speaker 3: fun episode.

2342
01:43:02,160 --> 01:43:02,400
Speaker 1: Gang.

2343
01:43:02,840 --> 01:43:04,599
Speaker 3: We will be back to talk to you guys soon.

2344
01:43:04,800 --> 01:43:10,439
Speaker 3: Be safe, be blessed, enjoy the spring. Spring has sprung, well,

2345
01:43:10,520 --> 01:43:12,559
Speaker 3: not as not in New York City as of yet,

2346
01:43:12,600 --> 01:43:15,559
Speaker 3: but soon we'll talk to us soon. Be safe. I'm

2347
01:43:15,560 --> 01:43:18,880
Speaker 3: that nigga. He's just ginger peace, no worry and now