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Speaker 1: This is Amy and TJ Love Stories.

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Speaker 2: Welcome everyone to this episode of Amy and TJ. It's

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Speaker 2: our special Love Stories series and we have the honor

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Speaker 2: of being with Jonathan and Harley Knight Rodriguez. I love

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Speaker 2: a hyphenated last name that speaks to just the union

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Speaker 2: that we are going to be diving into to find

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Speaker 2: all about their beautiful relationship Between Jonathan and Harley and

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Speaker 2: you all. You don't need any introduction because you have

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Speaker 2: been in our lives for oh so long. But thank

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Speaker 2: you both for being with us and for being willing

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Speaker 2: to share all of these private details about your love life.

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Speaker 2: And everyone listening is so appreciative because we're all more

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Speaker 2: connected than we think.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that is true.

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Speaker 2: We all deal with some of the same stuff, don't we,

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Speaker 2: in relationships, So we are asking you the same questions

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Speaker 2: we ask all of our couples. So thank you all

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Speaker 2: for agreeing. You have no idea what we're about to

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Speaker 2: ask you.

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Speaker 4: No, no, no, now now, I'm like I'm sweating.

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Speaker 3: Now oh boy?

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Speaker 5: All right, and we are going to begin with our

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Speaker 5: first question. In five words or less, describe your relationship today.

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Speaker 3: Five words?

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Speaker 4: Oh, my goodness, amazingly, spectacular, settled.

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Speaker 1: It could be five or less happy.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: You know, it's just we're at that point in our

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Speaker 4: age as well as our relationship that you know, it

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Speaker 4: just feels good. It feels we're not in our twenties

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Speaker 4: and thirties and battling all the demons that come along

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Speaker 3: Like we're in our fifties.

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Speaker 4: We're settled, we're content, we're happy, we're continually building what

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Speaker 4: you know, what we started eighteen years ago.

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Speaker 6: So yeah, all right, so let's go back eighteen years.

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Speaker 6: So we do that first. Actually, let me get your

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Speaker 6: five words.

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Speaker 7: Oh oh god, I'd say I was gonna say settled

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Speaker 7: as well. Effortless, yeah, content and just growing, growing with

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Speaker 7: each other. Yeah, growth that the end. Love still love.

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Speaker 6: So all right, so now let's go back the eighteen

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Speaker 6: you'll said eighteen years. So I'm curious if you all

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Speaker 6: can remember this. Who said I love you first?

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Speaker 7: Oh my god, see it's been that Yeah, it's been

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Speaker 4: I don't remember, but I would say it would have

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Speaker 4: been him, just because I was like in a period

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Speaker 4: in my life where you know, new kids were.

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Speaker 3: Getting back together.

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Speaker 4: I was traveling back and forth to LA I was

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Speaker 4: really unsure that this would last, you know, just because

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Speaker 4: of the distance and you know all that, so you

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Speaker 4: you definitely I'll give it to Hardy.

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Speaker 7: Well, it took me, yeah, because I was single for

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Speaker 7: such a long time and I was very just afraid

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Speaker 7: to get into another relationship. So I've been single part

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Speaker 7: five years before meeting him, and I was like, I

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Speaker 3: My friends had their relationships were you.

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Speaker 7: Know, on the rocks, and and then I kind of

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Speaker 7: meet this guy and I was like, oh things have changed.

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Speaker 7: You know. It was very very unexpected, very and in

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Speaker 3: I was very reserved.

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Speaker 7: But after a while I would have been the one

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Speaker 2: This is Harley. Do you remember the moment. It's funny.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's you look back eighteen years ago. Do

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Speaker 7: It was it was I remember like the day we

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Speaker 7: of those things that we never That's why I said

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Speaker 7: effortless at the beginning. It was there was never a

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Speaker 7: So There wasn't a significant like I love you, this

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Speaker 5: But yeah, so it was just confirmation of what you

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Speaker 7: I think we were just older too, and in our

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Speaker 7: already had been through relationships and it was again I

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Speaker 6: All right, So we're going to ask you to tap

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Speaker 6: into the memory again because we're going to go back.

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Speaker 6: All right, tellas how long how long did you date

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Speaker 6: before you got engaged? If there was an engagement, how

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Speaker 6: long did you date before you got engaged? How long

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Speaker 3: Wow, date a long time.

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Speaker 4: We dated a long time before we go. We got

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Speaker 4: engaged in twenty sixteen, so that was what's that eight years?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, so we were long distanced for the longest time,

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Speaker 7: twenty eighteen. I mean we were going back and forth,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and it's it's just funny that, you know, more

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Speaker 4: than half of our relationship has been not living together.

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Speaker 4: I mean, if it's if, if it's he you know,

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Speaker 4: he was in LA for work and then in New

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Speaker 4: me traveling for work, you know, so you know, thank

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Speaker 4: goodness for for for patients and trust and understanding that

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Speaker 4: you know this guy has to you know, go through

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Speaker 4: all that. And yeah, it's it's been. It's been quite

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Speaker 4: a journey. And I would say in the beginning I

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Speaker 4: relationships they just couldn't deal with it. They were like,

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Speaker 4: what do you mean You're leaving for three months? And

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Speaker 4: then like, you know, calling every day, what are you doing?

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Speaker 3: What is the what is that?

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Speaker 4: So, you know, just to have somebody that's secure, patient,

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Speaker 3: It's been amazing.

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Speaker 1: And the engagement was in twenty sixteen. When did you

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Speaker 3: We actually are not officially officially married. Oh wait, we

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Speaker 3: are married, you know, twenty twenty two.

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Speaker 5: We have in our notes that you got married. What's

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Speaker 4: Well, you know, it's all like we we're married, you know,

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Speaker 2: Wait, but can I ask a question because normally we

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Speaker 2: don't ask this when you have heterosexual couples, because I

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Speaker 2: guess maybe wrongly, So we assume the man proposed to

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Speaker 2: to become fiances? And I guess ultimately yeah, married in air.

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Speaker 3: Quotes, you know.

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Speaker 4: And that's funny that, you know, as to man in

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Speaker 4: so long because we're like, you know, who.

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Speaker 3: Proposes, who does this? Who does? Like there's no real rules.

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Speaker 4: And I just got to a point where we took

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Speaker 4: a trip to Africa with our with our moms, and

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Speaker 4: I was like, this is this is the time. So

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Speaker 4: you know, I ran out and got rings and I

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Speaker 5: Yeah that's very sweet.

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Speaker 6: Okay, So now you've been together a long time, so

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Speaker 6: let's for whatever period of time you would consider your

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Speaker 6: marriage or maybe even go through your whole relationship. What

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Speaker 6: and you point to like, wow, that was the best

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Speaker 6: you know what.

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Speaker 4: The whole time has been the best, you know, I mean,

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Speaker 4: I think that's what life's all about, if you you

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Speaker 4: know what I mean. We go through some hard times

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Speaker 4: in life and relationships, but personally we've we've never had that.

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Speaker 4: It's just been since day one, just you know, a

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Speaker 4: growing and different stages of our relationship.

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Speaker 3: I mean, the first.

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Speaker 4: Stage was the long distance and then you know, we

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Speaker 4: we say we're settled now because we just built a

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Speaker 3: So we're you know, we're we're we have roots now.

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Speaker 4: So this is just a whole new journey now of

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Speaker 4: of you know, having well we've we've had a lot

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Speaker 7: But yeah, but this was you know how they say,

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Speaker 7: like building a home, it's almost you get divorced over

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Speaker 7: was a lot of things that were like I don't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm curious, having spent so much time long distance

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Speaker 3: I hate being a part.

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Speaker 4: Like He'll go I go away for months at a time,

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Speaker 7: We get you know, you get into your rituals, you know,

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Speaker 7: So when we were, you know, living apart from each

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Speaker 7: was like that honeymoon phase every time. So you know,

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Speaker 7: so you know, we didn't really fight. Everything was amazing. Yeah,

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Speaker 7: but now we understand each other. We you know, there

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Speaker 7: are times when you know, we we disagree on stuff,

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Speaker 7: but then and then he goes. You know, he's usually

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Speaker 7: outside on the tractor, like for eight hours a day anyway,

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Speaker 7: So we have our space there.

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Speaker 6: You know, wow, on the tractor. Didn't know the tractor

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Speaker 6: was just coming into this. That's a different episode.

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Speaker 1: We'll have to time.

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Speaker 6: We have a question, all right, we're gonna know now

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Speaker 6: switch to now a little segment you kind of tee

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Speaker 6: us up there having to do with fights and disagreements.

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Speaker 6: Every couple deals with it. But we'll start out with

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Speaker 6: the light one. What's the do you have a daily disagreement,

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Speaker 6: a minor little annoyance or something with each other or

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Speaker 6: She absolutely hates it. We're not fighting about it every day,

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Speaker 4: And that's that's probably the biggest daily controversy that we have.

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Speaker 6: Is it because you all can't agree, like you like

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Speaker 3: No, there's too much on TV now.

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Speaker 4: what was on and now it's just it's too much,

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Speaker 5: What do you usually end up watching? Do you have

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: We watch a lot of stuff like true crime.

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Speaker 3: long as they're not a documentary made about me. True crime, Oh.

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Speaker 5: God, exactly, exactly. As long as it's not about you,

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Speaker 3: So rare?

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Speaker 4: And you know, it's funny because when I met him,

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Speaker 4: And met him and he's just so like, you know, whatever,

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Speaker 4: let's talk about it and let's work through it.

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Speaker 3: He's so even keeled.

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Speaker 3: Is not normal. And then you know, you're you know, not.

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Speaker 4: Even a few months in I was like, Okay, this

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Speaker 4: is this is what relationships about. You know, you you

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Speaker 4: you have to communicate and you have to be upfront

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Speaker 4: do it in a way that is mean or you know,

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Speaker 3: You know, you respect exactly.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean the only things that we would like

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Speaker 7: like that, you know what I mean, Like he really

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Speaker 7: But then we finally figure something out or we just

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Speaker 6: Now, you all have been together quite a while. Everybody

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Speaker 3: We're boring. We are so boring.

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Speaker 7: If not, wow, after yeah, it's been eighteen years. And

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Speaker 7: usually they say, you know, like every seven years you

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Speaker 7: is because we have the space. You know, he goes

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Speaker 7: we are parted.

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Speaker 3: You know what.

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Speaker 4: I know when we lived in Manhattan, we had a

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Speaker 3: That was tough. That was tough.

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Speaker 4: And I think if we stayed in New York in

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Speaker 4: of each other every single day, oh, it would be yeah, game.

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Speaker 2: On babe, right there, Like wait a minute, I mean,

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Speaker 2: we know it's crazy. We were like for years fighting

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Speaker 2: child Yeah that right there.

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Speaker 1: Only provacy I got this week is when I took

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Speaker 5: I mean, he's not even kidding, Like that's it. Manhattan,

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Speaker 2: So yeah, and when it's negative four feels like negative

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Speaker 6: Let's turn to the household, now, fellas. Some of the

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Speaker 4: No, Well we agree. I do the outside, he does

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Speaker 4: the inside. So it's you know, and thank goodness he

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Speaker 4: shirts are folded up, just amazing.

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Speaker 3: He's obsessed with me.

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Speaker 7: He hates the laundry, and I'm like, oh, this is

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Speaker 7: a green thumb. He's you know, like I said before

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Speaker 7: the tractor, he's always, you know, fixing things outside. So

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Speaker 7: I said, I would never be able to touch that.

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Speaker 7: So you deal with that and I'll deal with the inside.

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Speaker 7: So that it works out really well.

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Speaker 5: That works so well.

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Speaker 2: I love that strategy inside outside, But that works.

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Speaker 1: The best and simplest scenario I've heard any couple. I

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Speaker 5: I love that.

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Speaker 2: What are your thoughts on date nights? Do you all

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Speaker 2: make or prioritize times where you actually go out and

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Speaker 7: We haven't done that in a while, especially with a dog.

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Speaker 7: Our son go ahead and get out of here, our needy,

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Speaker 7: we would always, you know, we'd go out to dinner

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Speaker 7: and and and that would be like like our date night.

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Speaker 7: We wouldn't we wouldn't set set a certain night, but

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Speaker 7: But now that we have this one, now we understand,

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Speaker 7: date night is seldom. It's very really forced yourself.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I mean I I you know, we make

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Speaker 3: And you know.

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Speaker 4: Our other house, we have no TVs, no internet, so

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Speaker 4: and it's it's so amazing, Like I know, we're just

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Speaker 3: It's just us.

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Speaker 2: I love that two people who made their livings and

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Speaker 2: I guess that does make sense, because that is kind

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: No, And just nowadays we're just we're bombarded and it's

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Speaker 3: And the kids now, I mean, I can't even imagine

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Speaker 2: Now, do you all have any rules in your relationship?

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Speaker 5: We never go to bed angry.

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Speaker 2: Or we never curse when we're upset with each other,

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Speaker 7: It's never been a set rule, but it just kind

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Speaker 7: of came naturally where, especially when he's gone out of

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Speaker 7: every single night. There has maybe there's been one because

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Speaker 6: What do you all think about that idea of some

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Speaker 1: Some therapists will tell you that's a bad idea. What

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Speaker 3: No, I don't think you should go to bed angry.

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Speaker 4: I mean, and it's it's just you deal with what's

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Speaker 7: Yeah, you're gonna carry it on the next day. And

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Speaker 7: then it just keeps getting bigger and bigger and bigger,

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Speaker 7: even if it's not. You don't have to say like, oh,

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Speaker 7: before saying you know what, before you know, before you

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Speaker 2: But what I'm just curious because it doesn't sound like

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Speaker 2: But if and when you do, what is it typically over?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, it's it's it's like silly stuff and it's.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it'll be something.

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Speaker 7: Let's say he'll leave clothes on the floor instead of

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Speaker 7: So it's like, you know, it's like really it's right there,

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Speaker 7: you know. But stuff like that, it's it's it's stuff

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Speaker 3: But yeah, it's tiny little stuff like that. There's quirks, no,

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Speaker 4: And you know, we tell friends and they think we're crazy,

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Speaker 3: It's it's really this is a match made in heaven.

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Speaker 4: It's been the most amazing eighteen years of being together

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Speaker 4: and working through issues.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I don't I don't know.

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Speaker 7: It's you would have to like punch me or through me,

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Speaker 7: like like for it to be like all right now.

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Speaker 3: It's a fight.

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Speaker 1: You know, I think I might know.

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Speaker 6: This might this next question that we asked every couple

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Speaker 6: seems silly now they don't have a lot of issues.

444
00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:48,679
Speaker 6: But what do you all think about the idea of

445
00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:52,400
Speaker 6: couples therapy and have you all ever gone to it?

446
00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:58,280
Speaker 4: I've gone to a lot of individual therapy, and I

447
00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:01,360
Speaker 4: think by doing that, I have avoided couple's therapy.

448
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:03,560
Speaker 5: I think that's amazing.

449
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:10,840
Speaker 7: Yes, yeah, and I believe in it. Yeah, I mean

450
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:15,240
Speaker 7: I think at the very beginning it's probably not necessary.

451
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:17,440
Speaker 7: I think, if you if you know the red flags

452
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:19,919
Speaker 7: and you know you could deal with all right, this

453
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:21,960
Speaker 7: is not the right person, we don't have to really

454
00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:24,879
Speaker 7: go to therapy just but I think down the line

455
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:28,200
Speaker 7: in a relationship, I think definitely, you know, because people

456
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:32,639
Speaker 7: do change, they evolve and to different people, and maybe

457
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:35,240
Speaker 7: you need a therapist to bring it back.

458
00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:39,000
Speaker 4: And I think you get in a routine where you

459
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:43,959
Speaker 4: don't even realize you know your bad behaviors or you

460
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:48,480
Speaker 4: know the way you're reacting to your spouse, and then

461
00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:53,040
Speaker 4: it just escalates and just gets worse and worse. So then, yeah,

462
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:56,400
Speaker 4: therapy is good. I think everybody had some therapy.

463
00:24:56,600 --> 00:24:57,600
Speaker 7: Yeah, have you?

464
00:24:58,080 --> 00:25:00,199
Speaker 2: And again, doesn't sound like you all fight off And

465
00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:04,800
Speaker 2: but have there been any aha moments or any great

466
00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:09,879
Speaker 2: lessons learned about yourself through having any kind of disagreement

467
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 2: with the person who you love, this person who you

468
00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:13,959
Speaker 2: want to spend the rest of your life with. We

469
00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 2: often talk about being a mirror, like if you really

470
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:18,840
Speaker 2: love someone, you can see yourself in a way you

471
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:22,359
Speaker 2: didn't before, when you see yourself reflected from the person

472
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:25,760
Speaker 2: you love, especially when things aren't going great. Have you

473
00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:30,000
Speaker 2: learned any lessons as you all have evolved together?

474
00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:35,880
Speaker 3: We need to start fighting?

475
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:39,520
Speaker 7: Yeah, this is this is.

476
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:40,439
Speaker 3: All foreign to me.

477
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:41,679
Speaker 5: That's amazing.

478
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 4: Now I'm like, I want to I want to hear

479
00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:57,560
Speaker 4: the other couples. Yeah, now, any lessons. I mean, I think.

480
00:25:59,080 --> 00:25:59,920
Speaker 3: That this is top.

481
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 2: But I would say if you had had other it

482
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:07,400
Speaker 2: sounds like you, especially Jonathan, may have had other relationships

483
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 2: that weren't like the one you have with Harley. Maybe

484
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:15,879
Speaker 2: even going through those, what you've learned to appreciate about

485
00:26:16,040 --> 00:26:20,200
Speaker 2: Harley and about and vice versa Harley, about that, maybe

486
00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 2: you wouldn't have had you not gone through tougher times

487
00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:24,440
Speaker 2: in other relationships.

488
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:27,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, you know, I think you know, we're all

489
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 4: on a journey in life.

490
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,120
Speaker 3: We all have our own separate journeys.

491
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:37,000
Speaker 4: Then you put two couples together and you know we

492
00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 4: are on a journey together, but we're also individuals and

493
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:43,240
Speaker 4: we also have, you know, our own journey. If he

494
00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:48,520
Speaker 4: wants to go to Paris for the week with friends,

495
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 4: and I'm kind of like, I don't want to, you know,

496
00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:54,639
Speaker 4: I'm going to allow him to take the journeys on

497
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:57,920
Speaker 4: his life and in the paths and not hold him

498
00:26:57,960 --> 00:27:04,720
Speaker 4: back and not not hold a grudge or feel left out,

499
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 4: you know, And he does the same for me. It's like,

500
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 4: you live separate lives, but you also have to live.

501
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,080
Speaker 4: You you live separate lives, but you also live.

502
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:19,679
Speaker 3: I hope I'm making sense. You live together. You just

503
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:21,919
Speaker 3: have to let your spouse have a life.

504
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:25,080
Speaker 7: Yeah, And when you're saying about mirroring. One thing I've

505
00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 7: learned is is sometimes I guess you're you're maturity in

506
00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:33,199
Speaker 7: a relationship. Sometimes you think like you want to blame

507
00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 7: the other person for for something, and then and then

508
00:27:37,080 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 7: I have to take a step back and go, this

509
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 7: is something that's it's me, not that that person's living

510
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 7: their life. So what is it about me that that

511
00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:47,320
Speaker 7: that's bothering?

512
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:47,760
Speaker 1: You know?

513
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,959
Speaker 7: I mean I've learned that through not even therapy, but

514
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:55,120
Speaker 7: online stuff. Online therapy, I guess the things you hear. So,

515
00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:58,120
Speaker 7: so I've learned, like, you know, he's doing his thing

516
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:03,439
Speaker 7: that shouldn't offend me. What's wrong with the way I'm

517
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 7: thinking about it?

518
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 3: You know what I mean?

519
00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 7: Like, so, so I've learned that as we've gone along,

520
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 7: something like bothers me. I'm like, no, he's he's just

521
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:14,120
Speaker 7: living his life. He's doing the right thing. Something that's

522
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:17,359
Speaker 7: wrong with that I have to deal with? So or

523
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 7: not deal with?

524
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:18,520
Speaker 3: Work on?

525
00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 6: Where would you say, what's the role of friendship in

526
00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:34,280
Speaker 6: your relationship? We always asked she and I were literally

527
00:28:34,320 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 6: best friends for years before we ever started dating. And

528
00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 6: I know friendships can develop after romantic relationships start, But

529
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:45,560
Speaker 6: where where's friendship play into ule's romantic your marriage?

530
00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:46,040
Speaker 1: If you will?

531
00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:49,040
Speaker 7: Yeah, Well, we always say it's funny because the whole

532
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:53,640
Speaker 7: best friend thing. We have our our we don't call

533
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 7: each other best friends. You know, we're we have we

534
00:28:56,520 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 7: have our relationship, and but we have of our best friends.

535
00:29:00,960 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 7: There's stuff that we don't tell each other that we

536
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 7: tell our best friends. You know what I mean, There's

537
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:08,240
Speaker 7: there's different we tell each other stuff, but not every

538
00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 7: single thing. In that it's almost like your parents. Sometimes

539
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:15,720
Speaker 7: you're not your best friend with your parents. No, but

540
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:17,719
Speaker 7: do you have a role a different role different?

541
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:19,080
Speaker 3: Yeah.

542
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 4: Well it's it's like like parents sometimes when they're like, oh,

543
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 4: I'm best friends with my kids. No, you are there.

544
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:32,080
Speaker 4: You're the parent and they're the kids. You know, I

545
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:33,800
Speaker 4: mean with with friendly.

546
00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 1: But did that come out right?

547
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 5: I love that. That's hilarious.

548
00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 2: And in terms of like time apart, I know, Jonathan,

549
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 2: you are about to do a Las Vegas residency right, yes.

550
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 5: How long is that supposed to last? And how are

551
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:54,680
Speaker 5: you all handling that?

552
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 4: The Vegas residency is super easy. It's better than tour,

553
00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 4: you know, tour. I'll get on a bus and I

554
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 4: won't be home for three months.

555
00:30:06,840 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 3: Vegas two weeks in and out when we're done. So,

556
00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 3: you know, the past couple of years doing Vegas has

557
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 3: just been amazing. You know, it's like you're there, then

558
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 3: you get to come home.

559
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 7: And then I'll go out and visit or something for

560
00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:25,720
Speaker 7: a few days. Yeah, so you don't never go more

561
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:28,680
Speaker 7: than a month pretty much when he's on the road

562
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 7: or doing something that I'll go out and yeah, it's

563
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 7: ever been more than a month.

564
00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 6: So which helps and felts not as a matter of

565
00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:38,120
Speaker 6: being critical, of any other couple and how they do it.

566
00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:41,040
Speaker 6: But a lot of people look at successful couples they

567
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 6: want to know how they do it, and they also

568
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:44,840
Speaker 6: want to know what they're doing wrong. So if you

569
00:30:44,880 --> 00:30:47,360
Speaker 6: will cam for a moment for couples who are listening,

570
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 6: who want a long relationship that doesn't fight, like you

571
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 6: will do, what is it you will see in other relationships,

572
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 6: maybe one's close to you from a distance, what mistakes

573
00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 6: do you see other couple making? And you go if

574
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:04,360
Speaker 6: they would, just if they would, just do you see

575
00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 6: kind of a theme these days of relationships that if

576
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:09,960
Speaker 6: you could talk to all of them, you would say, hey, guys,

577
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:11,880
Speaker 6: be careful of.

578
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:16,720
Speaker 7: What Yeah, I see in some couples, like I don't

579
00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 7: know if you'd considered microaggression, but little things that you're

580
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 7: a dinner and in one one person will say to

581
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 7: the other little like little jabs.

582
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:27,720
Speaker 3: So those little.

583
00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:31,480
Speaker 7: Jabs like there's something there's truth to that, you know,

584
00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 7: I would say, either talk it out or just because

585
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:40,680
Speaker 7: we respect each each other, you know. So so I

586
00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 7: think mutual respect, if you can find it in each other,

587
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:51,320
Speaker 7: would be really important. I would recommend, But that's just

588
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:54,480
Speaker 7: my thing. Some some are not meant to be, you.

589
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 4: Know, yeah, no, And I mean I think I think

590
00:31:57,160 --> 00:32:01,080
Speaker 4: communication is a really really big thing. And I think,

591
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 4: you know, sometimes couples are afraid to communicate their feelings

592
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:07,960
Speaker 4: and they just hold it inside, and then it just

593
00:32:08,080 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 4: builds up. If you can really just express how you

594
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 4: feel in the moment or in a situation and just figure.

595
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:21,560
Speaker 7: It out, yeah, it becomes passive aggressive. Passive aggressive comments

596
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 7: are sometimes okay if there's something bigger there going on,

597
00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:25,520
Speaker 7: you know.

598
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 1: A lot of times involved.

599
00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, exactly.

600
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:33,440
Speaker 2: No one likes to hang out with the Bickersons, just

601
00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:38,600
Speaker 2: the little verbal jobs that constantly happen. Do you all

602
00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 2: make any specific effort to keep the spark alive? Do

603
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:46,360
Speaker 2: you have to make any special effort to keep the

604
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 2: spark alive?

605
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:48,200
Speaker 5: After eighteen years.

606
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, every every day, every day, I think

607
00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 3: is every day is a look at this man. Every

608
00:32:56,320 --> 00:32:57,640
Speaker 3: day is a spark.

609
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:03,719
Speaker 7: We got, like, we'll go on vacations because you know,

610
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 7: sometimes like you need to get away with each other,

611
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 7: you know, to get away from the daily thing. So

612
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 7: you know, we will try to take trips every you know,

613
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 7: a couple of times a year as much as we can.

614
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 7: But and I think that that keeps some of it alive,

615
00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 7: like the mundane, because you get into it, you get

616
00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 7: to the same rituals, the same you know, patterns. And

617
00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:33,720
Speaker 7: they were like, all right, we need to get out

618
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:36,560
Speaker 7: of here. We need some vacation time. Yeah, so that's

619
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:38,880
Speaker 7: a good time that we get away. Things are different

620
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:42,120
Speaker 7: and it brings back to us, back to like almost

621
00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:45,720
Speaker 7: when we were at the beginning, you know, like something new.

622
00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 7: Seeing new things around us too, keeps.

623
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 3: Fresh a little short honeymoons.

624
00:33:50,760 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 7: Yeah, exactly.

625
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:53,240
Speaker 5: What would you say?

626
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:57,360
Speaker 2: This sounds like an obvious generic question, but this will

627
00:33:57,440 --> 00:34:00,719
Speaker 2: kind of wrap it up with this. People look at

628
00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 2: a couple like you, and to TJ's point, they were like,

629
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 2: we want to know how to be more like you

630
00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:09,600
Speaker 2: or how to have a relationship like you. What would

631
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:14,399
Speaker 2: you say The key is to your relationship magic, your

632
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:21,399
Speaker 2: relationship success. Can you sum it up in any way now?

633
00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:22,759
Speaker 3: I still do so?

634
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:29,680
Speaker 4: No, No, No, I think I think I think we're

635
00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:33,759
Speaker 4: just both to very laid back people that we don't

636
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:38,279
Speaker 4: get rattled much. But also, you know, we make a

637
00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:41,319
Speaker 4: point of not rattling each other.

638
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:45,400
Speaker 7: Yeah, I would say, try not to change the other person.

639
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:49,879
Speaker 7: That's one thing that a lot of people going into

640
00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:54,279
Speaker 7: relationship they already have these expectations of this, this and this,

641
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 7: and it's it's not it's not real. So for me,

642
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:03,720
Speaker 7: it's just you know, not expectations, but not really high ones,

643
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:08,759
Speaker 7: and just yeah, get understanding each other and knowing that

644
00:35:08,880 --> 00:35:10,560
Speaker 7: I'm not going to change them. I love them for

645
00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:12,920
Speaker 7: who they are. They have their quirks and like, you know,

646
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:17,239
Speaker 7: this gets on my nerves. But besides that, it's let them,

647
00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:19,640
Speaker 7: let them be. I'm gonna be me, He's going to

648
00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:20,000
Speaker 7: be him.

649
00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:22,239
Speaker 3: And yeah, well, I mean I think that goes back

650
00:35:22,280 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 3: to the whole thing.

651
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:25,839
Speaker 4: Like we're on a journey as a couple, but we're

652
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:27,600
Speaker 4: also on journeys individually.

653
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:30,400
Speaker 3: So you you know, you have to you have to

654
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 3: live your life.

655
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:35,320
Speaker 1: Well, we you all have made our jobs so easy.

656
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:36,480
Speaker 1: We always we have to do it.

657
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 6: Write up to attack, introduce these This is going to

658
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:45,040
Speaker 6: be easy. The most loving and boring couple you will

659
00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:52,440
Speaker 6: ever hear from. You know, it's cool, Look that's awesome.

660
00:35:53,239 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 6: Look exciting is dangerous. Sometimes boring is great.

661
00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:57,839
Speaker 5: I'm telling you.

662
00:35:57,840 --> 00:36:02,360
Speaker 2: You get like, yes, when you get to a certain age, you're.

663
00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:06,680
Speaker 5: Like, hallelujah, I want peace. I'll take boring.

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Speaker 2: I just want Yeah, loving and boring sounds like heaven

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00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:15,239
Speaker 2: to me. So I hear you, We hear you. Once

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00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 2: you've lived enough life, isn't that like the goal the

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00:36:19,239 --> 00:36:20,560
Speaker 2: dream to understand?

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00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:20,960
Speaker 7: Yes?

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00:36:21,120 --> 00:36:24,520
Speaker 3: Yes, no, you know, And I look at my life.

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00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 4: You know, I was thrown into an adult situation at

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00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:32,799
Speaker 4: a very young age, and I learned to like navigate

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00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:36,560
Speaker 4: the bs and know who's the bs er.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, you just I don't know where I'm going

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Speaker 3: with this.

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Speaker 7: But when you're younger, yeah, you you want an excitement

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00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:49,840
Speaker 7: and this and that and that and yeah, like you're saying, like, no,

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00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:51,319
Speaker 7: I want to stay in you.

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00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:52,120
Speaker 2: Know, don't.

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00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:55,759
Speaker 7: It's maybe it's an age thing.

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00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 2: It's like y'all aren't even Netflix and chilling though you're

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00:36:59,600 --> 00:37:01,080
Speaker 2: just five place and talking.

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Speaker 5: I mean, that's a whole other level. I'm impressed. We're

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00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:09,600
Speaker 5: both very impressed. But Jonathan and Harley, thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: This, by the way, just seriously, because this is something

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00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:14,600
Speaker 2: we really appreciate. We know a lot of people and

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00:37:14,640 --> 00:37:17,680
Speaker 2: we understand why don't really want to pull back the

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00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:20,759
Speaker 2: curtains into their private lives, into their love lives, because

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00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:24,560
Speaker 2: then you open yourself up for scrutiny and people judging.

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00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:28,160
Speaker 2: So but it's so helpful to see people who have

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00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 2: figured it out and made it work and been in

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00:37:31,440 --> 00:37:35,799
Speaker 2: crazy situations and been in the positions you all are

692
00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:38,759
Speaker 2: in and still found a way to make it work,

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00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,319
Speaker 2: and so we can all learn from you. And we

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00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:44,719
Speaker 2: just appreciate you opening up and being vulnerable and being

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00:37:44,760 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 2: honest and letting us in.

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Speaker 5: So thank you both, and we are.

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00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:52,240
Speaker 2: So excited to cheer your love on eighteen years in counting,

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00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 2: you know, and I.

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Speaker 3: Love that, the whole vulnerability thing. I mean, so many,

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00:37:57,800 --> 00:37:59,960
Speaker 3: like you said, so many people are so afraid of it.

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Speaker 4: Maybe it's just at my age, like I don't care anymore,

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00:38:04,400 --> 00:38:06,760
Speaker 4: Like you got to live your life.

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00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:08,160
Speaker 3: And we're all.

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00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:11,719
Speaker 4: Human, we all have we all have our things, and

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00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:15,839
Speaker 4: you know, just everybody joined together. And if you hear

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00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:19,560
Speaker 4: something you know somebody else is going through this, you're like, oh,

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00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:23,400
Speaker 4: I went through that, you know. Just be be together,

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00:38:23,520 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 4: support each other and just know none of us are perfect.

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00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 4: We're all just humans on our journey and support that's

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00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:33,400
Speaker 4: that's what one.

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00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well, Jonathan and Harley Knight Rodriguez, thank you for being

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Speaker 2: with us.

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00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:41,040
Speaker 5: We appreciate you, guys.

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00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:43,479
Speaker 7: Thank you, guys, all right, thank you.

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Speaker 1: Really, thank you so much for this.

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00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, Valentine's this, this is.

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Speaker 1: Really really cool you all.

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Speaker 6: I think the only other couple it's well, a couple

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00:38:52,200 --> 00:38:55,640
Speaker 6: been together longer. We had a couple of all that

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00:38:55,760 --> 00:38:58,319
Speaker 6: was married. They've been married seventy five years. He's ninety nine,

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00:38:58,440 --> 00:39:02,120
Speaker 6: she's ninety six. So it's cool. It's just such a

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00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:05,880
Speaker 6: diversity of couples, and it's the responses are amazing and

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00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:08,359
Speaker 6: everybody is gonna feel seen in listening to these. So

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00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 6: we are learning a lot from couples because we could

726
00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:14,120
Speaker 6: always improve our relationship. So trust me, you all said

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00:39:14,120 --> 00:39:16,919
Speaker 6: plenty that we can apply to our own relationship. Enough

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00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:19,840
Speaker 6: fellas for this, really thank you, thanks, thank you guys.

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Speaker 7: All right, all right,