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Speaker 1: All right, Steve DK and Steve HARVEYFM rights. I realized

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Speaker 1: that this might be a therapy issue. But anyway, my

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Speaker 1: parents were bad parents. My mom had me when she

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Speaker 1: was fifteen, and it was clear that my teen parents

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Speaker 1: were more interested in being young than being parents. As

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Speaker 1: a result, I have almost no relationship with them. That changed, however,

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Speaker 1: when I had kids of my own. Now they're going

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Speaker 1: out of their way to be the best and most

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Speaker 1: doting grandparents ever, and I find myself resenting the heck

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Speaker 1: out of it. They're giving me the quote get over

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Speaker 1: it vibe. But this isn't something that I've been able

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Speaker 1: to just shake off any advice.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, bro, listen, parenting doesn't come with the manual.

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Speaker 2: And they had you so young. I mean they were

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Speaker 2: kids trying to raise a child, So you had children

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Speaker 2: raising a child. I mean if they made huge mistakes,

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Speaker 2: they didn't get it right, but you turned out fine. Look,

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Speaker 2: by the grace of God, here you are. Now you

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Speaker 2: have a family. Now they now they trying to get

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Speaker 2: it right. Man, They just trying to get it right.

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Speaker 1: You.

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Speaker 2: Resenting is not going to help the situation at all.

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Speaker 2: It does nothing. Plus they're older now, they just know

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Speaker 2: more about life, and I'm pretty sure they wish they

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Speaker 2: could get over it. I mean, you know, I'm pretty

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Speaker 2: sure they wish they had done a lot of things differently.

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Speaker 2: But you have an opportunity, man, to let it go,

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Speaker 2: you know, because you're saying that. They're saying they got

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Speaker 2: these get over it vibes. But and that's because there's

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Speaker 2: nothing they can do to go back and rectify, so

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Speaker 2: they're just trying to get it right moving forward.

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Speaker 1: So they yes, no, yeah, yeah, for your parents trauma

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Speaker 1: and stuff like that, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Just say yes, he should probably seek therapy. Therapy is

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Speaker 2: really good for you.

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Speaker 1: It is, for sure.

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Speaker 3: My parents. My parents beat me. They beat me. I'm

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Speaker 3: right now. If I could go back and put charges

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Speaker 3: on my parents for the way he beat me, I would.

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Speaker 3: I'd walk in the courtroom and turn a right in.

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Speaker 3: I should will, sure, But I'm fine. I'm doing well.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we got over because we had to. That's funny.

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Speaker 3: We're doing well.

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Speaker 1: Therapy might work for him, so yeah, I think I

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Speaker 1: think he should try it. All right, we have time

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Speaker 1: for another one. See this is the joyceling on Facebook.

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Speaker 1: She says, I love my parents, but they are the

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Speaker 1: worst and totally miserable almost all of the time. When

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Speaker 1: they're not doing the jobs that they hate or spending

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Speaker 1: time with people they don't like, they're arguing with each

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Speaker 1: other about stuff that's not important. I know they used

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Speaker 1: to be happy, but I've never seen it. I wouldn't

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Speaker 1: even know where to begin to try and help them,

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Speaker 1: but I do know that I don't want to end

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Speaker 1: up like them. So here's a question. Is being around

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Speaker 1: them more likely to make me end up being like them?

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Speaker 1: Or is it a good guide on how to not

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Speaker 1: live my life? Wow?

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Speaker 2: Oh these people, hey, real judging on the parents. You know.

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Speaker 2: I keep telling y'all that parenting is hard. It is hard.

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Speaker 2: It is it's hard, man, And you are going to

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Speaker 2: make a lot of mistakes as a parent. I know

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Speaker 2: I have. We probably all had difference. Yeah, y'all want

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Speaker 2: to hold it against a parent to the day you die.

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Speaker 2: You know they didn't go ahead. But man, people make mistakes,

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Speaker 2: and you going to find that out when you become

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Speaker 2: a parent. You're going to get it wrong a lot

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Speaker 2: of times, plenty times, because like right now, I had

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Speaker 2: one one child told me that they loved languages, not gifts.

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Speaker 2: They love languages, words, and I don't specialize in words,

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Speaker 2: but you take these gifts though I ain't seem to

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Speaker 2: give back now one of them love signs, not now

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Speaker 2: one I wanted verbal Okay cool, come in here and

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Speaker 2: ask me for something else. Watch this hire know what

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna do. What I love?

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Speaker 1: Yeah. One more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show coming

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Speaker 1: up in twenty minutes after. Right after this, you're listening

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Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show