Speaker 1: Hello, Hi, Welcome to gek Mail. For those who have
Speaker 1: not listened to this before, this is me ranting and
Speaker 1: reading viewer mail. It's a solo podcast. A lot of
Speaker 1: podcasts are conversations between two people, but this particular episode
Speaker 1: is a mon no log, it's a monologue. It's a
Speaker 1: one log, one person. That person is me, and I'm
Speaker 1: gonna try to make words come out of my mouth
Speaker 1: for an hour based on emails that people are sending me.
Speaker 1: Normally I take phone calls from people, but you know,
Speaker 1: I like to throw in these little gek mail episodes
Speaker 1: from now and then and just now, just now, I
Speaker 1: was like, what the I'm gonna just fucking start recording
Speaker 1: and I don't even know what I'm gonna say. I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna have to rant. There's a like I'm having
Speaker 1: a thought right now. That's like, oh my god, I
Speaker 1: have to keep talking, just making words come out of
Speaker 1: my mouth for the next ninety minutes. It's only been
Speaker 1: like one minute, but I learned. But here's the thing.
Speaker 1: When you're climbing a mountain, you can't be looking at
Speaker 1: the peak. You gotta look at the your shoes. I
Speaker 1: read that on Reddit somewhere I'm a crazy person. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, I am alive. I have escaped my existential
Speaker 1: crisis for today. Who knows when demons will visit me
Speaker 1: once more, But in this very moment, which is all
Speaker 1: I have and all I know for sure, the demons
Speaker 1: are at bay and I'm ready to motherfucking pod. So
Speaker 1: let's do that. Let's talk to some people telepathically via email.
Speaker 1: So let's do that. Okay, this first one, they said,
Speaker 1: keep it anonymous, So I just I guess I could
Speaker 1: just make up names for all the emailers, all right, whatever,
Speaker 1: all right. The subject line is guys in relationships liking
Speaker 1: thirst traps on Instagram. Uh okay, this person says, Hey, Geck,
Speaker 1: please keep this email anonymous. How do you feel about
Speaker 1: guys who are in relationships liking obvious thirst traps on
Speaker 1: social media? Do you find that disrespectful towards their partner?
Speaker 1: Social media has really blurred the line of flirting. If
Speaker 1: a guy is taking a second to like a post
Speaker 1: with sexual photos, it's an obvious I'm interested and I
Speaker 1: like what I see point blank. I don't see why
Speaker 1: some men don't see this as a problem when they're
Speaker 1: in a serious relationship. What are your thoughts. I mean,
Speaker 1: the funny thing, Well, here's the thing is, like, I
Speaker 1: guess I'm curious if this person is talking about like
Speaker 1: I'm gonna assume this person is talking about like Instagram
Speaker 1: models and shit like I mean, I mean, Instagram just
Speaker 1: throws porn at you. Life just throws porn at you,
Speaker 1: as you, as you, as you, you, just constantly. I
Speaker 1: mean maybe I don't know, maybe it's just me, maybe
Speaker 1: it's my own algorithm, but yeah, that's that's that's I'm
Speaker 1: sure a lot of people's algorithms. Is you go to
Speaker 1: your explore page and it's just, uh, it's just thirst traps.
Speaker 1: I get, like, look, it's Here's the funny thing is
Speaker 1: that it's like obviously it's like natural and inherent to
Speaker 1: like look at it, you know. But I guess what
Speaker 1: I don't get is liking it. Like what's the point, Like,
Speaker 1: what is the point? I mean, I guess what's the
Speaker 1: point of of a like on anything? Now I'm getting nihilistic,
Speaker 1: but like, yeah, if some lady is like an Instagram
Speaker 1: model and she has a eight million likes on her photo,
Speaker 1: I guess I don't I don't understand what the like
Speaker 1: is I guess I don't understand. I mean I could
Speaker 1: say that about a lot of things. To be honest,
Speaker 1: I don't understand what there I mean some here's the thing,
Speaker 1: Mark Zuckerberg and his his homies, uh created the like
Speaker 1: in a lab with psychologists to make us feel inclined
Speaker 1: to do it for some reason. But I mean, what
Speaker 1: do I think? I don't see why some men don't
Speaker 1: see this as a problem when they're in a serious relationship.
Speaker 1: Relationship boundaries are are kind of like there's no I mean,
Speaker 1: this is just my opinion is that like these are
Speaker 1: things that are like worked towards with other people. So look,
Speaker 1: if you're if you're dating somebody worked, you know, they're
Speaker 1: they're they're they're imagine, they're imaginary. So I mean there's
Speaker 1: some of them are obvious and implied. But it's like, look,
Speaker 1: if you're with a guy and you don't want him
Speaker 1: to like sexual photos on you know, wanting to like
Speaker 1: Instagram models photos, you know, an ideal world, you tell
Speaker 1: him that and he decides whether or not that you know,
Speaker 1: that's a that's a deal breaker for him. And if
Speaker 1: it is, then cool, you guys were meant to be
Speaker 1: And if it's not then great. You know, I'm not
Speaker 1: a good relationship advice person. This does remind me of
Speaker 1: a I'm gonna tell this story. This is the fun.
Speaker 1: This is one of the hardest times I've ever left
Speaker 1: in my life. My I was with my friend and
Speaker 1: we we were like, we were just hanging out and
Speaker 1: we noticed that I think I I'm like friends with
Speaker 1: my friend's dad on Facebook. And I was like, dude,
Speaker 1: your dad commented on this. There's like these Okay, So
Speaker 1: there was this like Facebook group and I think it
Speaker 1: was called Beautiful Tits or something like that, and there
Speaker 1: was like a hot lady who posted a photo and
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, it's clearly not the lady's profile.
Speaker 1: It's just like a post. It's like a it's like
Speaker 1: a profile, uh that like just posts these kinds of photos.
Speaker 1: And my friend's dad like commented on it, being like
Speaker 1: where do you live? And I brought this up to
Speaker 1: my friend and we were laughing about it, and we
Speaker 1: Uh so, my my friend calls his dad and his
Speaker 1: dad answers and he's like he's like, uh, He's like, Devin,
Speaker 1: what do you want, I'm I'm his My friend's dad
Speaker 1: is like a like a like a he's very into yoga,
Speaker 1: and he was like, uh, Devan, what do you want.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to teach a bun. I'm trying to teach
Speaker 1: a class on how to become a beam of light.
Speaker 1: This better be an emergency. And uh my friend Devan
Speaker 1: is like, uh yeah, it actually is an emergency. And
Speaker 1: he's like, so you know when you comment something on Facebook,
Speaker 1: everyone can see it, right, And he goes and my
Speaker 1: friend's dad goes, oh fuck, oh no, oh no, oh no,
Speaker 1: oh no. And then we and then me and my
Speaker 1: friend just we walk his dad through how to how to.
Speaker 1: He's like, he's like, so you mean like your cousins
Speaker 1: and like aunts, like they can all see that. And
Speaker 1: I'm just laughing my ass off while my friend coaches
Speaker 1: his dad on how to delete uh those Instagram comments.
Speaker 1: And then eventually my friend's dad cools down and he's like, look,
Speaker 1: I just wanted to know where that lady lived. She
Speaker 1: was pretty hot, and I was like, I you know,
Speaker 1: I respect that. All right? Moving on, all right. This
Speaker 1: is from fish Hat subject line funny Gecko Man. Okay,
Speaker 1: Hello Lyle. I am a fella who likes watching movies
Speaker 1: and playing videos, and I'm gonna assume that means video games.
Speaker 1: I am a fellow who likes watching movies and playing
Speaker 1: video games and doing nothing. I just finished high school
Speaker 1: and now I am in Uni. I haven't got a
Speaker 1: driver's license or a job, so I just feel like
Speaker 1: a lazy bum. Most of the time. I'm constantly rotting
Speaker 1: in my room and watching slow I've got three friends
Speaker 1: I hang out with, and I have only made two
Speaker 1: friends in university. My course is filled with too many
Speaker 1: odd people that I don't know how to interact with
Speaker 1: because so many of them got weird Reddit humor, and
Speaker 1: I don't know how to interact with those people anyway.
Speaker 1: Any advice on how to make life more fulfilling, I'm
Speaker 1: quite bored. I have a lot of thoughts about this.
Speaker 1: I mean, look, at the end of the day, man,
Speaker 1: it's like the the world I think like, in the
Speaker 1: most part kind of reflects back whatever you put into it,
Speaker 1: you know, and you also kind of like tend to
Speaker 1: find what you're looking for. So if you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: these people are weird and I'm not gonna get along
Speaker 1: with them, well, then yeah, those people are weird and
Speaker 1: you're not gonna get along with them. But if you're
Speaker 1: kind of like all right, maybe, uh, by the way
Speaker 1: you sound, by the way you're on your computer all
Speaker 1: the time watching weird shit, I'm sure you're not you. You.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing, fish hat is, you're too chronically online,
Speaker 1: I think, to other yourself from from other chronically online people.
Speaker 1: You know. I mean, I don't know. I don't know you,
Speaker 1: but I don't know. I think. I mean, you just
Speaker 1: gotta do shit, that's the thing. You just gotta do
Speaker 1: things like what do you like? You're in university, You're
Speaker 1: on a fucking walkable campus with thousands of other people.
Speaker 1: I assume you gotta find something to do. I don't know, kickball, uh,
Speaker 1: start a movie club? Yeah? Again, all this ship, all
Speaker 1: this shit just reflects back whatever it is that you
Speaker 1: you put into it. So I mean, you just gotta
Speaker 1: do shit. I don't. I don't have a better I think.
Speaker 1: I feel like I've talked about this a and by
Speaker 1: the way, funny thing about this is a lesson I
Speaker 1: keep having to relearn in my own personal life because
Speaker 1: there's been plenty of times where I'm like, you know,
Speaker 1: in my room, rotting and being like I'm just rotting
Speaker 1: and you know, I've had I've had a lot of
Speaker 1: iterations of things in my life where I have put
Speaker 1: out into the world, whether it's like, you know, I mean,
Speaker 1: just doing the fucking whole Gecko thing, or doing stand up,
Speaker 1: or like going on a trip or fucking you know,
Speaker 1: joining a club, or like joining an email list that
Speaker 1: has events going on and going out like to a
Speaker 1: thing or talking to someone I have talking like you
Speaker 1: have to exert your like you have to like exert
Speaker 1: yourself upon the universe, you know, because nothing, nothing will
Speaker 1: just like come to you naturally. But that's but that's
Speaker 1: kind of like by the way, I like that. I've
Speaker 1: had had that thought and it scared me a lot.
Speaker 1: You know, I've had that thought, and it's recently recently,
Speaker 1: like in the last week actually, I had that thought,
Speaker 1: the whole thought of like nobody's coming to save you.
Speaker 1: And I had that thought at a time where like
Speaker 1: during a like emotional period where I felt very physically weak,
Speaker 1: and so the idea that nobody is coming to save
Speaker 1: me was like kind of fucking terrifying because it's like, well,
Speaker 1: if nobody's coming to save me, I know me, I
Speaker 1: know how my executive functioning works. I know how my
Speaker 1: brain works and my body works and all that shit,
Speaker 1: and if I'm my only hope were fucked. You know,
Speaker 1: I've had that thought and had it be depressing, right,
Speaker 1: But I've also had that thought and had it be
Speaker 1: the opposite where it's like, Okay, well, if no one's
Speaker 1: coming to save me, that's good because I can look
Speaker 1: at you know, there's like there's very e this is
Speaker 1: a by the way, this is all just like armchair
Speaker 1: philosophy shit that I'm just diarrheaing from my mouth because
Speaker 1: I've been just thinking about it in my own life.
Speaker 1: Is like, the actual actions that I think you have
Speaker 1: to take to create some form of change are not
Speaker 1: like crazy, like you don't have to climb Mount Everest
Speaker 1: to make a friend. You know, they're they they're kind
Speaker 1: of like I think there are interactions that are like
Speaker 1: process wise quite simple, but like emotionally difficult and like
Speaker 1: uh scary, you know, like talking to new people are
Speaker 1: going out to do new shit. But it's it's a
Speaker 1: good thing, right because if the whole idea of like, oh,
Speaker 1: no one's coming to save you, and it's just just
Speaker 1: if you looked because and the reason I say it's
Speaker 1: a good thing is because if you looked into your
Speaker 1: soul and you look at yourself in the mirror and
Speaker 1: you were like, I have literally tried fucking everything, and
Speaker 1: you know, God blessed. Some people can do that, and
Speaker 1: they I don't haven't found a salvation of any kind.
Speaker 1: But if you can, like look at yourself in the
Speaker 1: mirror and honestly go, I can try everything, and most
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't even think that's even physically possible,
Speaker 1: because nobody can. Physically. There's not enough life, there's not
Speaker 1: enough years in our life span to literally try everything.
Speaker 1: But it's good because it means there's still It means
Speaker 1: that there's probably still shit you haven't tried that might
Speaker 1: work for you to make friends and enjoy your life.
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna talk about a little thing. I'm going
Speaker 1: a little crazy here, but I'm gonna tal about a
Speaker 1: little thing called it's called the eighty twenty principle. I
Speaker 1: think about it all the time. Hold on, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: google this. It's called the Piratio principle. It changed my
Speaker 1: fucking life. I learned about it from this guy Tim
Speaker 1: Ferris back when I was in like high school, Okay.
Speaker 1: The eighty twenty principle suggests that eighty percent of results
Speaker 1: come from twenty percent of causes, which means that you
Speaker 1: might think that the like making a bundant, making friends
Speaker 1: and creating changes is like going to be this crazy endeavor,
Speaker 1: but it might just mean changing like literally five percent
Speaker 1: of your routine, you know, like you could like you
Speaker 1: could do one really small, like even just like going out,
Speaker 1: like for this guy in college, Like just go start
Speaker 1: going to a club. How fucking easy is that? Take
Speaker 1: your body and move it into a room once a week.
Speaker 1: You know, it's not you don't have to or I
Speaker 1: don't know, I don't know. These are just this is
Speaker 1: just all This is just suggest and thoughts and philosophies
Speaker 1: that I'm I'm kind of working through because yeah, I
Speaker 1: have I have these same thoughts. But yeah, think about that.
Speaker 1: The eighty twenty principle research that fucking shit, all right?
Speaker 1: Eating eating warm? All right? This is from CJ subject
Speaker 1: line eating warm versus cold meats? Hi GEK, I'm wondering
Speaker 1: if you have an opinion on warm versus cold, as
Speaker 1: in DELI meats warm versus COLDAI meats. My sister thinks
Speaker 1: it's extra fucked up to eat cold meat because the
Speaker 1: animal's body is warm, so it's creepier for humans to
Speaker 1: kill them and then cool down their bodies before eating.
Speaker 1: Hold on, there's more to this email. But to your
Speaker 1: sister's point in terms of like the creepiness of like
Speaker 1: eating a thing that was alive, I feel like the
Speaker 1: opposite is creepy. Oh okay, wait, okay, okay, hold on,
Speaker 1: I like my I skimmed the rest of this email
Speaker 1: and it's okay. I'm gonna read the rest of the email,
Speaker 1: screaking for them to. But I think eating worm eating
Speaker 1: warm meat is weirder because it's closer to the experience
Speaker 1: of taking a bite out of a living animal. I
Speaker 1: love to eat a nice cold turkey sandwich. Thoughts. Thanksgk Okay,
Speaker 1: I was about it agree. I was about to agree
Speaker 1: with you before even knowing that we were on the
Speaker 1: same page. But if we're talking strictly, uh, in terms
Speaker 1: of like what's fucked up or like what's like creepy, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's definitely creepier to eat the warm one because it's like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is like what the chicken's body, this is what
Speaker 1: the chicken felt like. When it was still in the body.
Speaker 1: But I don't really think about my meats in terms
Speaker 1: of creepiness, in terms of just the pleasantness of eating them.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go warm, Yea, I'm gonna I'm gonna go warm.
Speaker 1: I like my ass some some chicken parmesan sandwiches. I
Speaker 1: was this is a dumb observation, but I always forget
Speaker 1: that it's like a like a living thing. Any time
Speaker 1: I eat chicken, I'm like, oh, yeah, this thing was
Speaker 1: sort of conscious and then I now I'm eating it.
Speaker 1: I've had that thought a bunch of time. I'm not
Speaker 1: going I'm not going vegetarian. Don't please don't comment on
Speaker 1: this being like you need to go vegetarian vegetarian because
Speaker 1: I'm not doing it. Yeah. I mean, there's thoughts and
Speaker 1: philosophies and beliefs and whatnot, and then there's like and
Speaker 1: then there's the human brain that I have that's like,
Speaker 1: I want to eat a fucking chicken parmesan sandwich, and
Speaker 1: that usually whatever. I don't I don't know anything about
Speaker 1: neuro jiz, but that part of that part of the
Speaker 1: brain is gonna win. It's gonna win pretty much every time. Okay,
Speaker 1: this is from Eli. Subject line, I have not watched
Speaker 1: anything from you, Hey, Lyle. I have never watched a
Speaker 1: single video of yours, listened to a single podcast, or
Speaker 1: watched more more than a few clips from you. I
Speaker 1: stay following, though, because I think you bring something special
Speaker 1: to this blue ball that I'm compelled to keep my
Speaker 1: eye on. I don't know exactly what that is, but
Speaker 1: I know it's there. Have a good one, Lyle, sayonara here,
Speaker 1: but that's hold on. If you follow me, you have
Speaker 1: to have at least watched something you In the body
Speaker 1: of the email, you just you the you contradict the
Speaker 1: subject if you had said you have literally don't have
Speaker 1: any idea of like you don't even know what this
Speaker 1: email is and it was just whatever. Well, well, all right, well,
Speaker 1: thank thanks for the thanks for the premonition, Eli, it's nice.
Speaker 1: All right. This is from Simone uh okay. Subject line
Speaker 1: is vosecto me for a PlayStation five couple from Uckland.
Speaker 1: Hey Lyle, hope you're well wondering if you remember us
Speaker 1: from your show at the Tuning Fork in Uckland, New Zealand,
Speaker 1: couple of years ago. I remember that show. It was
Speaker 1: a fun show. My partner Liam was the first guy
Speaker 1: to be brought up, and our submission was trading a
Speaker 1: PS five verb asectomy. Okay, I vaguely remember this. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna I vaguely remember this, but I'm gonna fill in
Speaker 1: the vagueness with context clues and say that you promised
Speaker 1: that you would buy your partner a PlayStation five. We
Speaker 1: got of a sectomy. Okay. We are now happily married.
Speaker 1: Our one year wedding anniversary is in October. At the
Speaker 1: wedding we had a picture of you, me and Liam
Speaker 1: all together pulling peace signs printed and stuck up. That's cool,
Speaker 1: God damn. However, for this submission, I will explain a
Speaker 1: recent fight we had over a chair. Driving along in
Speaker 1: Avondale parentheses a suburb of Uckland for all the non Ucklanders, which, okay, Evandale.
Speaker 1: I spot a beautiful old chair on the side of
Speaker 1: the road, bright yellow, my favorite color, wooden handles and
Speaker 1: leg mid century modern design. We immediately pull over and
Speaker 1: I claim this chair is mine. Liam is immediately not pleased.
Speaker 1: To be fair, it is slightly tattered on the bottom
Speaker 1: and in need of a sand, but perfectly fined after
Speaker 1: a bit of tidying up, and I am an Avid
Speaker 1: dia wire. The argument pertained to him feel like I
Speaker 1: never let him pick up random things off the street. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna assume is you're if the rest of this
Speaker 1: email is gonna be hilarious to me, if your boy
Speaker 1: Liam is like a taxi thermist, and by the way,
Speaker 1: and I ever read the rest of the email, by
Speaker 1: the way, if your boy Liam is a taxidermist, he's
Speaker 1: fucking right. I don't know what the rest of his
Speaker 1: email is, but he's fine. I'm just gonna I'm gonna
Speaker 1: answer an email that you didn't send me based on
Speaker 1: facts about your life that aren't true, because I want
Speaker 1: to make this statement because it's because because whatever is
Speaker 1: I think If I think Uh picks up furniture from
Speaker 1: the street to fix it up, wife, and picks up
Speaker 1: dead animals from the street to tax or demise them husband,
Speaker 1: I think that's a fair thing. I think that's a
Speaker 1: fair thing. I don't think that that's what this I
Speaker 1: don't think that's the direction this email is going. But
Speaker 1: oh my god, what if it is I was writing
Speaker 1: on the last time. All right, let's see what direction
Speaker 1: this email is going. Okay, he feels like I never
Speaker 1: let him pick up random things off the street, and
Speaker 1: the fact that we have a small place that is
Speaker 1: already struggling with the amount of stuff we have. My
Speaker 1: POV is this is a quality piece of furniture that
Speaker 1: I will hold on to for years to come. These
Speaker 1: kind of roadside finds are rare. We often dream about
Speaker 1: having in our funiture. We often dream about having in
Speaker 1: our future home a grandma and grandpa chair each in
Speaker 1: the lounge, and this is to be my grandma chair. Bro,
Speaker 1: how old are How old are you that you're like,
Speaker 1: I mean, this is it's sweet. That's actually a sweet thought.
Speaker 1: How old are you that you're like, this is the
Speaker 1: chair I'm gonna be in when I'm ninety, by the way,
Speaker 1: you're gonna by the way, by the what year is it,
Speaker 1: twenty twenty five? Let's say you're no older than thirty.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna assume by twenty eighty five. Holy shit, yeah,
Speaker 1: by twenty eighty five. Wait, no, I'm an idiot. Ninety
Speaker 1: How fucking old will I be when I in twenty
Speaker 1: eighty five? Sixty? Let's say you're ninety, yeah, whatever, I'll
Speaker 1: say you're ninety, I fight twenty eighty five. No, that
Speaker 1: math is still wrong. No, twenty eighty five. Twenty eighty five.
Speaker 1: They're the chairs that they're gonna have. Are you're gonna
Speaker 1: hate them. We're gonna have chairs that like can talk
Speaker 1: to you. I don't know why I said that, Like
Speaker 1: it's cool whatever. Anyway, the fight is now over and
Speaker 1: we've arranged the house and bargained the deal that Liam
Speaker 1: gets to pick the couch we get in the future.
Speaker 1: But what is your take on this fight? And more importantly,
Speaker 1: whose side are you on? Look forward to coming and
Speaker 1: seeing your next show in Uckland. Love and miss you.
Speaker 1: Ghek cheers Simon and Liam. I gotta yeah, maybe I'll
Speaker 1: do another. I want to do another down under run.
Speaker 1: Uh Okay, what the fuck was I going to say?
Speaker 1: I mean, I kind of get I kind of get it.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing is, I don't have enough information about
Speaker 1: his side of the argument. I although I'll say this
Speaker 1: if if there has been yeah, actually, hold on, I'm
Speaker 1: kind of if I have to fill in the blanks
Speaker 1: on the information here, I'm going to say that I
Speaker 1: agree with Liam because I'm gonna let's assume my boy
Speaker 1: Liam like saw like an HD saw like he saw
Speaker 1: like a TV on the side of the road and
Speaker 1: he was like, babe, let's babe, stop, let's let's pick
Speaker 1: up this TV. And you were like, no, We're not
Speaker 1: picking up a TV from the side of the road, okay.
Speaker 1: And then later down the drive you're like, oh, oh,
Speaker 1: let's stop, let's pick up this chair, and we pick
Speaker 1: up the chair, and I'm Liam, I would be pissed.
Speaker 1: I would be like, what the fuck? You can just
Speaker 1: pick up shit from the side of the road and
Speaker 1: I can't. I still think maybe he's I still think
Speaker 1: he wants to pick up dead animals from the street
Speaker 1: and by and look, I if that's what he wants.
Speaker 1: I I still I think that's fair. I think that's
Speaker 1: fair if that's what he wants to do. So I
Speaker 1: am I am on Liam's side, I think because I
Speaker 1: don't really have my understanding is that he wants to
Speaker 1: do the same. He wants to pick up furniture from
Speaker 1: the street. But you can because you the furniture is
Speaker 1: what you you like the furniture more. Yeah, I'm a mom.
Speaker 1: I'm on his side. Let him bring home a dead
Speaker 1: raccoon and then maybe you know, when he dies, he
Speaker 1: can the technology will be around, so that he can
Speaker 1: place his spirit in the raccoon and then you can
Speaker 1: hang out with the raccoon. Okay, uh, let's let's keep going.
Speaker 1: This is is from THEO subject line. I am obsessed
Speaker 1: with Garfield. Hey, Lyle, I am probably autistic, and my
Speaker 1: special interest is Garfield. I have an entire bookshelf in
Speaker 1: my house dedicated to Garfield. I have a Garfield landline
Speaker 1: that I won in an eBay bidding. Ward it's pretty cool.
Speaker 1: I'll attach a picture of it. And he attached the
Speaker 1: picture of his his Garfield phone. This is pretty cool.
Speaker 1: Does is this the landline connected to anything? Okay? That's all.
Speaker 1: Love you, God bless Alasagna. I really wish I could
Speaker 1: talk to this person. There's a lot of times when
Speaker 1: I'm doing the email podcast where I'm like, I wish
Speaker 1: I could talk to this person because I want to know.
Speaker 1: I don't know how autism works in the terms of
Speaker 1: like picking the special interest and if it's like, like,
Speaker 1: this is my special interest because it just is what
Speaker 1: it is, or if like this guy can give me
Speaker 1: a detailed, genuine explanation as to exactly why he likes
Speaker 1: Garfield so much. I'm not I'm not sure but I
Speaker 1: like this landline. Yeah, I'm gonna shadow at it. This
Speaker 1: is YouTuber I like, I forget his fucking name, it's
Speaker 1: Polygon something, but he does like cursed products and he
Speaker 1: did it. He did a video about cursed Garfield products.
Speaker 1: When you're having an existential crisis, there's really nothing better
Speaker 1: to watch than like some fucking YouTube video of a
Speaker 1: guy like talking about like Garfield plushies, because that's that,
Speaker 1: because that guy in that video is so grounded in reality,
Speaker 1: you know. Okay, this is okay. This is from Felix
Speaker 1: Existential Career Crisis Need Gecko Wisdom. I'm gonna try my best, man,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna try my best I don't know how, I
Speaker 1: don't know. Yeah, I'm I'm gonna try whatever. Okay, let's
Speaker 1: just try because we're here. Hay Lyle. I'm Felix twenty
Speaker 1: eight industrial designer. For the past few years, I've been
Speaker 1: bouncing between corporate jobs, hoping to land the right one
Speaker 1: with a cool apartment, a partner, some recognition would finally
Speaker 1: make the depression fade. Ooh okay, right now, I design
Speaker 1: three D custom consoles and controllers for Triple A Game Studios.
Speaker 1: That sounds cool, and then he writes it sounds cool,
Speaker 1: and it kind of is. But the job pays less
Speaker 1: than my last one and still leaves me with that
Speaker 1: gnawing what's the point feeling? I smoke weed daily morning
Speaker 1: tonight just to stay afloat. This past year has been rough.
Speaker 1: I lost several people around me, and it cracks something open. Now.
Speaker 1: I'm seriously considering leaving the big city, moving back to
Speaker 1: the forest where I grew up, building a workshop, maybe
Speaker 1: getting a dog, a simple life with low consumption and
Speaker 1: minimal stress. But I've been in Montreal ten years. My girl,
Speaker 1: my friends, my girlfriend who's doing her master's and wants
Speaker 1: an academic career, they're all here. Part of me worries
Speaker 1: I'll miss out on building something real for myself if
Speaker 1: I drop out now. So should I lean into the
Speaker 1: quiet life and say screw it to ambition or is
Speaker 1: this just another escape patch from the work I still
Speaker 1: need to do? Would love your take, Gecko. Ooh, you know, actually,
Speaker 1: I'm actually have a lot of thoughts about this, and
Speaker 1: they're all kind of dependent on a few things, and
Speaker 1: as Actually that's funny. I think you know. I've been
Speaker 1: doing the Gecko since I was twenty two and I'm
Speaker 1: twenty seven now, and I think I probably would have
Speaker 1: answered this differently then than I would now, because I
Speaker 1: think then I would be like, yeah, go into the woods,
Speaker 1: do you live your thing? Do go for it, brother,
Speaker 1: But now I'm a little bit more like, Look, the
Speaker 1: people in your life, like your girlfriend and your friends
Speaker 1: and the people that you know in Montreal, are like
Speaker 1: you know, I mean that that's the meaning of life
Speaker 1: is the relationships that you cultivate with other people, and
Speaker 1: those people ground you into reality. And it's like it's
Speaker 1: like one of, if not the most important things, is
Speaker 1: having fucking people around you who can ground you into reality.
Speaker 1: Some people aren't like that. Some people would be super
Speaker 1: happy living in the fucking woods alone. I'm not one
Speaker 1: of them, and I don't know if you are one
Speaker 1: of them, because I don't know you. I would prefer
Speaker 1: to be in a big if you know, being in
Speaker 1: a big city with a bunch of friends and a
Speaker 1: girlfriend sounds great, but clearly you're like, are getting gnawed
Speaker 1: by some shit that you gotta escape from smoking weed,
Speaker 1: which I have no idea about. I've never done that before,
Speaker 1: so I can't relate there. No, I'm just uh, I'm
Speaker 1: just messing around. I can relate there. And let's see,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna reread this email considering what I guess you
Speaker 1: are building a workshop getting at a simple life with
Speaker 1: low consumption, a minimal stress. Why do you have to
Speaker 1: Here's what I'm with. Here's here's one of the points
Speaker 1: that this email is making that I disagree with. Is
Speaker 1: this idea that to achieve a simpler life with low
Speaker 1: consumption and minimals well, there's a few things. Is like,
Speaker 1: do you have to leave Montreal to achieve this, like
Speaker 1: to make your depression fade. I've been doing a lot
Speaker 1: of I've doing a lot of like research on depression.
Speaker 1: Research used to me and you go to the library
Speaker 1: and you read several books, and now it just means
Speaker 1: you frantically google and talk to chat Gypt and go
Speaker 1: on Reddit and sit and think. So I've been doing
Speaker 1: whatever that means, if that means research, And I don't know,
Speaker 1: if I don't know, if I don't know if I'm
Speaker 1: telling you this not to say that it doesn't, because
Speaker 1: I'm not sold on the fact that it doesn't. But
Speaker 1: I wrestle you said, I hope I land the right thing,
Speaker 1: and I wrestle with the idea that such a thing exists.
Speaker 1: I low key thinking, I hold out hope for the
Speaker 1: fact that that that like alignment is not a myth.
Speaker 1: You know that everything's not just like random, and you
Speaker 1: kind of pick I'm holding up hope that like alignment
Speaker 1: is like a real fucking thing. But I don't know.
Speaker 1: You want to build a workshop. What kind of workshop
Speaker 1: do you want to build? You want to get a dog?
Speaker 1: Why can't you like, can you not like can you
Speaker 1: not find Why do you have to move to the
Speaker 1: woods to find peace? I would I would ask yourself
Speaker 1: for that, because you might not have to. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know enough about you to know kind of
Speaker 1: what you want and what you're like, what the what
Speaker 1: the underlying feelings beneath this are. But I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: you could get a dog. That sounds that sounds like
Speaker 1: a lot of work. I don't know if this was help.
Speaker 1: This isn't this, by the way, gak Mail. I don't
Speaker 1: think gak Mail isn't really like me. I feel like
Speaker 1: gak Mail is less me giving advice and more give
Speaker 1: me your life. And I'm going to ponder about it
Speaker 1: from an external perspective I'm not. I don't know if
Speaker 1: I have advice I have I don't know if I
Speaker 1: advice for any of these things. I'm not. I'm not
Speaker 1: an advice guy. But I like to ponder, so I'm
Speaker 1: gonna ponder you, Felix. My pondering, though, is telling me
Speaker 1: that there's a weird like all or nothing thing going
Speaker 1: on here of like, I can either stay in the
Speaker 1: city or like, what is it? I can either? Like
Speaker 1: it's like either why why is your only option abandoning
Speaker 1: your life and moving to the woods. You know, men
Speaker 1: will abandon their life and move to the woods before
Speaker 1: going to therapy, and God and God don't I know
Speaker 1: that firsthand? Okay, well, good luck, Felix. What what what?
Speaker 1: What's the game studio? It does sound cool? Okay, let's
Speaker 1: keep going. Oh, this one's fun. This is from Kendall's
Speaker 1: subject line I'm good friends with the cave Man now, Hey, Lyle.
Speaker 1: A while back, I listened to the Caveman episode while
Speaker 1: sweeping at my dead end job and followed him when
Speaker 1: you posted his Instagram. For those who aren't aware, I
Speaker 1: had a phone call on the podcast month ago, a
Speaker 1: few weeks ago with this guy who moved to the
Speaker 1: Cayman Islands to go live in a cave, and I
Speaker 1: posted his a clip of it on my Instagram along
Speaker 1: with his Instagram, and so I guess this person like
Speaker 1: became friends with him. That's cool. Okay, she uses his name,
Speaker 1: so I'm not gonna say his name. I'm gonna give
Speaker 1: him different name. Turns out, Devin has a totally great
Speaker 1: taste in music. I replied to his story and we
Speaker 1: called for an hour that day making playlists and Spotify blends.
Speaker 1: Since then, it's been really amazing getting to know each other.
Speaker 1: We've had a lot of talks and I cherish him deeply.
Speaker 1: Thank you for doing what you do and letting me
Speaker 1: meet my friend. That's really cool. Thanks for sharing that.
Speaker 1: That's pretty cool. Let's read this email again. I I
Speaker 1: really I want to like just set the expectations straight
Speaker 1: about kind of what I'm doing here, because I don't
Speaker 1: uh so, there are actually there are some things that
Speaker 1: stick out at me where I'm like, I will confidently
Speaker 1: give advice about that, but they don't. I mean, this
Speaker 1: podcast is like, you know, everyone's talking about every different
Speaker 1: subject of every different thing, and I too. And if
Speaker 1: if you if you claim to have good advice about everything.
Speaker 1: You're a fucking moron because nobody has good advice about everything.
Speaker 1: So again, this is mainly just this is this is pondering.
Speaker 1: It's ponder mail. Maybe maybe I'll start calling it ponder
Speaker 1: mail all right? Anyway, Okay, this is from Jalen. Subject
Speaker 1: line my fiance broke up with me because of my
Speaker 1: eighth I'm interested in this because I've been doing a
Speaker 1: lot of research aka talking to chat GPT, frantically googling,
Speaker 1: and frantically looking around on Reddit and thinking to myself
Speaker 1: in my own head. I've been doing a lot of
Speaker 1: quote unquote research about adhd uh because I think I
Speaker 1: think I have it. So anyway, I'll read this fucking email, Hi, Lyle,
Speaker 1: I know it looks long by s why this is brief?
Speaker 1: A number A year ago today, I moved States to
Speaker 1: close the distance from my partner. I got an apartment
Speaker 1: with my fiance and they proposed to me. Since then,
Speaker 1: I've worked overnight at a monotonous mind theming job with
Speaker 1: no one to talk to, making just a bit more
Speaker 1: to cover my bills. I haven't had much chance to
Speaker 1: meet friends. I've slowly become more depressed and my ADHD
Speaker 1: symptoms have gotten much worse. My partner expressed their concerns
Speaker 1: with me on how I had started lacking on giving
Speaker 1: them the energy to show my appreciation and love for them. Ah.
Speaker 1: I would have ideas for dates and want to get
Speaker 1: them flowers and anything extra to show appreciation, but I
Speaker 1: would always fail to follow through with it, feeling that
Speaker 1: ADHD paralysis. Yeah, it took me until recently, when the
Speaker 1: weather has gotten a bit better, to really get it
Speaker 1: into my head and try to get on top of it.
Speaker 1: I started to make a little bit of progress and
Speaker 1: I scheduled therapy and medication treatment. The day before my evaluation,
Speaker 1: my partner told me they had given me too much
Speaker 1: of themselves. I made them feel like they weren't worth
Speaker 1: me changing for them and their patients had run out.
Speaker 1: They say they still love me, but that they need
Speaker 1: to have energy for themselves, as they'd really lost many
Speaker 1: aspects of their life trying to keep the relationship together.
Speaker 1: And I could see it too. Getting a full diagnosis
Speaker 1: the next day, I definitely have had ADHD my whole
Speaker 1: life with massive symptoms, and many of them correlate to
Speaker 1: why I couldn't keep up with life. Our least ends
Speaker 1: in fall and at the same time, were both starting college.
Speaker 1: I'm hoping to make friends there and work on myself
Speaker 1: to try to get back with them. I love them
Speaker 1: so much. I wait, hold on, let me backcheck this
Speaker 1: are these sends in the fall? We're both starting college?
Speaker 1: Are we sends in the fall? At the same time
Speaker 1: we're both starting college? Wait? How old are You're? Not?
Speaker 1: Like eighteen? Are you? Because anytime I only say this
Speaker 1: because like, are you? Maybe it's like a grad school
Speaker 1: or something, but I don't know what. I'm going to
Speaker 1: assume that you're not just eighteen, because if you're eighteen
Speaker 1: and you're getting married, and shit, you're already. This is
Speaker 1: this whole thing is good. Our least ends in the
Speaker 1: fall and at the same time, we're both starting college.
Speaker 1: I'm helping to make friends there and work on myself
Speaker 1: to try to get back with them. I love them
Speaker 1: so much. I just hope I can get back on
Speaker 1: track with my mental health and have the ability to
Speaker 1: not only be a responsible adult, but give them the
Speaker 1: love they deserved. I love the podcast People with the Computer.
Speaker 1: Go buy your partner flowers. Go buy yourself flowers. You
Speaker 1: deserve it. Okay, I have a bunch of thoughts about this. Uh.
Speaker 1: First of all, and I'm telling you that this is
Speaker 1: incredibly new because I actually, I literally you've caught me
Speaker 1: on like the the You've caught me in the middle, Jalen.
Speaker 1: You've caught me in the middle of me uh getting
Speaker 1: my shit together with my ADHD. So again, let me
Speaker 1: ponder this. First of all, I I mean you, I
Speaker 1: think I think you're approaching this and actually a pretty
Speaker 1: uh mature way. You know. That's fucking painful, dude, It's
Speaker 1: really it's painful, uh, because I'm sure that when uh,
Speaker 1: your fiance or whatever tells you that they still love you,
Speaker 1: I'm sure they mean it. I'm sure they do love you.
Speaker 1: There's they're all the fucking time. There are situations where
Speaker 1: like you you you love somebody, but you know that
Speaker 1: the relationship won't work. That's like a that's like a
Speaker 1: very adult breakup. You know. It's not not every breakup
Speaker 1: is like oh I hate them, or oh I'm out
Speaker 1: of love with them, or like it's a messy thing.
Speaker 1: A lot of fucking breakups are just like, you know,
Speaker 1: two people share a deep love for each other and
Speaker 1: deep connection with each other, but that deep love and
Speaker 1: deep connection is incompatible with so many other aspects of
Speaker 1: uh their life and their future and their goals, and
Speaker 1: so they just fucking don't. You can't hack it. So
Speaker 1: I get it, the whole thing. I I don't. I
Speaker 1: here's the thing, Jalen. First of all, if you're like eighteen,
Speaker 1: you just graduated from high school and you're starting college,
Speaker 1: to please just please forget about this woman, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? Like, you're you have I don't. I
Speaker 1: don't really know where you are in your life with
Speaker 1: this shit. But if you have a lease, I assume
Speaker 1: you're like. But if you're your lease ends in the
Speaker 1: you've got an apartment with your fiance and you're moving states,
Speaker 1: you've got to be older than eighteen or maybe like nineteen.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. I could see you
Speaker 1: being older than eighteen, but younger than twenty. The fact
Speaker 1: that you're starting college you're pretty young, So I you
Speaker 1: know what you know? All right? Fine, I'll do advice,
Speaker 1: although well, okay, maybe this isn't advice. It's the results
Speaker 1: of my pondering. The results of my pondering are that,
Speaker 1: oh fuck, can you guys hear that there's a lawnmower.
Speaker 1: Do you guys hear that lawnmower? I don't know who
Speaker 1: I'm not live, I don't know who I'm talking to
Speaker 1: this about. By the time I get the answer of
Speaker 1: whether or not you guys could hear that lawnmower, this
Speaker 1: podcast will already be up and I won't be able
Speaker 1: to do anything about it. But let me know in
Speaker 1: the comments if you could hear that lawnmower, just so
Speaker 1: I know for the future not to also not do
Speaker 1: anything about it and just put it in the podcast. Okay.
Speaker 1: The results of my pondering are that I, Jalen, I
Speaker 1: understand that you're very young, probably and you very much
Speaker 1: love this person, but like ideally you want to get better.
Speaker 1: First of all, I believe that you can get better
Speaker 1: and that you can like take control of your ADHD
Speaker 1: and like build a fulfilling life. I most of my
Speaker 1: my you know, my I have AHD, most of my
Speaker 1: very successful most of my friends who are like very
Speaker 1: successful also have like pretty fucking crazy ADHD. Can you
Speaker 1: guys hear this lawnmower? Or am my insane? I'm gonna assume
Speaker 1: you can't hear it because it's far away. But a
Speaker 1: microphone is like ears, so if I can hear something,
Speaker 1: then the okay, anyway, I'm gonna be optimistic for you
Speaker 1: that you can like overcome ADHD symptoms, you know, especially
Speaker 1: if you haven't. Okay, Yeah, I started to make a
Speaker 1: little bit of progress. I scheduled therapy and medication treatment. Okay,
Speaker 1: sick because he's if you've never done that before, that's
Speaker 1: actually great because it means that you can figure out.
Speaker 1: It means that, like, this is an untreated thing that
Speaker 1: you're now gonna put effort into figuring out, which is great.
Speaker 1: So I may, I hope, make the fucking uh, but
Speaker 1: make it about Make it about yourself, man, Not like
Speaker 1: this lady, because who knows what this lady's about to
Speaker 1: go do? Who? Who knows who? Who? Who knows this lady?
Speaker 1: This lady is moving on with her life. She has
Speaker 1: this feeling where she's like, I have spent a lot
Speaker 1: of time and energy. Uh, I've put a lot of
Speaker 1: time and energy into this guy. Uh, And she did
Speaker 1: that big. She loves you and loved you and probably
Speaker 1: still does. Honestly, it was probably hard for her, but
Speaker 1: she can't do it. But she also loves herself and
Speaker 1: she can't uh do it anymore, you know, so she's
Speaker 1: she's going on to make whatever decisions are, you know,
Speaker 1: work for her. So, uh, the results of my pondering
Speaker 1: are that you kind of got to do the same
Speaker 1: thing for yourself. Like you know, you're get you're gonna
Speaker 1: get your You're trying to get your shit. You're trying
Speaker 1: to get your shit together because you want your shit together,
Speaker 1: not because you want to get this lady back. I also,
Speaker 1: I also really truly feel like you're like super fucking young,
Speaker 1: and that this you're you, you're better, honestly, dude, Honestly,
Speaker 1: if you're like if you're like twenty one and you're
Speaker 1: like and if you're twenty one, if you're if I'm
Speaker 1: gonna guess whatever, maybe like twenty if you're like twenty
Speaker 1: one and your fiance broke up with you because of
Speaker 1: your ADHD, and and this is the catalyst of like
Speaker 1: getting your ADHD shit under control. This is like the
Speaker 1: best thing that could ever happen to you. I think,
Speaker 1: you know, having a catalyst to be like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: there was a problem this whole time, and I need
Speaker 1: to fix it. So this could be a great thing.
Speaker 1: That's I mean, I don't I'm saying that many miles
Speaker 1: away reading this email without being in the emotions of it.
Speaker 1: But maybe that maybe that's the perspective you want. Maybe
Speaker 1: you want the perspective of somebody reading this with no emotions,
Speaker 1: without you know, having being in the emotions of it.
Speaker 1: But yeah, that's that's what I think about all that shit. Wow,
Speaker 1: it's been forty six minutes. We're still and we're going.
Speaker 1: We're potting, We're potting it up. Let's see here. Okay,
Speaker 1: this is a confession for therapy Gecko parentheses. I promise
Speaker 1: I'm normal. Hey, GEK, huge fan. I listen and re
Speaker 1: listen to your podcasts so often. Thank you for what
Speaker 1: you do. Thank you, Ross. This guy's name is Ross.
Speaker 1: I would appreciate some advice on a rather unique issue
Speaker 1: I've been experiencing. I will ponder your issue. I don't
Speaker 1: know if I can advise it, but I will ponder it.
Speaker 1: I am a twenty six year old man, and I
Speaker 1: have developed a rather unique fetish. I have a fetish
Speaker 1: for when girls are sick with cold or flu. What
Speaker 1: the fuck, man, I've never I've never heard of that
Speaker 1: in my life. I feel like, you know, I've been
Speaker 1: on the you know, besides just doing this podcast, I've
Speaker 1: browsed the internet for many wasted hours, and yet this
Speaker 1: is the first time I'm hearing of this fetish. Okay,
Speaker 1: I have a fetish for when girls are sick with
Speaker 1: cold slash flu. This is, for the most part, been
Speaker 1: relatively healthy for me, as I have always been able
Speaker 1: to find women who are willing to indulge this ridiculous desire. Dude,
Speaker 1: what does that mean? What the fuck does that mean?
Speaker 1: Does that are you like? Are you like like? Are
Speaker 1: these like? Are you convincing women to like intentionally get
Speaker 1: sick for you? Now that I am single, I have
Speaker 1: found that my fetishistic nature has been leading to other
Speaker 1: problems in my life. In the bedroom, asking the women
Speaker 1: I've been with to sniff or rub their nose has
Speaker 1: never been a major issue because, of course, this is
Speaker 1: a very easy thing to do. Okay, So you're this
Speaker 1: is okay, So you all right, okay, all right, this
Speaker 1: is less uh weird than I thought that You're you
Speaker 1: want women to act as if they have a coal
Speaker 1: and like like fake sneeze and fake cough. Can you
Speaker 1: fake cough? Can you fake cough. You can only really
Speaker 1: real cough. You can go chew. How do you fake snees?
Speaker 1: But you can't fake cough. I still coughed, even though
Speaker 1: I mean, you can cough intentionally, but you can't like
Speaker 1: fake a cough. Okay, blah blah blah blah blah uh
Speaker 1: in the bedroom asking the women I've been with to
Speaker 1: sniffer rub their nose. It has ever been a major issue, because,
Speaker 1: of course this is very easy to do, and my
Speaker 1: enthusiasm for seeing that usually leads to better sex for
Speaker 1: us both. But I have began to experience some issues
Speaker 1: with it outside of the bedroom. Now. Whenever I am
Speaker 1: with a woman who has a cold, I instinctively become
Speaker 1: overly affectionate, offering to help them with things, complimenting them, etc.
Speaker 1: But the moment they're well again, this altruism goes away.
Speaker 1: This ridiculous fault in my brain has been causing a
Speaker 1: lot of stress, because, as funny as it may sound,
Speaker 1: it's incredibly frustrating to become temporarily infatuated with people you
Speaker 1: barely know, just because they happen to be unwell. I
Speaker 1: meditate and exercise and avoid porn, and avoid porn to
Speaker 1: manage this ridiculous fetish. But I was wondering if the
Speaker 1: gek himself could give me some advice. Well, this one
Speaker 1: definitely is a ponderer more than an advisor, I cure.
Speaker 1: I wish we could talk on the phone. You got
Speaker 1: to call into the podcast because there's so many more
Speaker 1: questions I have about this temporary Well here's it. I'm
Speaker 1: temporarily infatuated with people I barely know. Why are you?
Speaker 1: I in what situations are you with people who you
Speaker 1: barely know who are also sick? Because you in most
Speaker 1: situations where you're with people, most of the situations where
Speaker 1: you would be around people that you barely know are
Speaker 1: situations where people who are sick avoid. So is I mean,
Speaker 1: is this like is it like ladies who are like
Speaker 1: on Tinder or something and you like they're they're sick,
Speaker 1: but they meet up with you anyway. I have no
Speaker 1: advice for this at all. This is this is I
Speaker 1: appreciate the vulnerability that you have in sharing this. It's advice. No,
Speaker 1: I the whole like having like a you know, it's
Speaker 1: weird like these these are you don't control. I empathize
Speaker 1: with you on this like thing of like you don't.
Speaker 1: You don't really control what you're attracted to. That's that's
Speaker 1: the thing. You don't have control. So if you're like,
Speaker 1: fucking if this is your thing and you're like, I
Speaker 1: am just attray. I find women who have a cold
Speaker 1: or flu attractive. That's just this is just something I
Speaker 1: think you were just cursed with. I don't know if
Speaker 1: you can beat it. I'm not an expert on these things.
Speaker 1: There's people who are like like sex fetish therapist people.
Speaker 1: I mean, go talk to one of them, because I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know if like fetishes can be
Speaker 1: beaten or like, uh controlled. Most of the time they're
Speaker 1: just surrendered to. So yeah, I don't know this. Go
Speaker 1: talk to like a sex therapist or some shit. Maybe
Speaker 1: they could give you, Maybe they could give you a
Speaker 1: real perspective on this. I wish I had a joke.
Speaker 1: Let me think, Let me think of a joke, something
Speaker 1: about like a sneeze is as good as an orgasm?
Speaker 1: Do I wish? I wish I had jokes. I don't
Speaker 1: have many jokes. I'll try, I'll try. I'll come up
Speaker 1: with jokes later. Okay, all right, okay, uh This is
Speaker 1: from Marco subject line chat gpt as a therapist. Hey, ghek,
Speaker 1: I started using chat scheapt as a therapist. It's actually
Speaker 1: working pretty well. The worst part I had with therapy
Speaker 1: was actually doing the stuff that we talked about. With
Speaker 1: chat cheapt, I can go back and read the output
Speaker 1: to get motivated again. I can use it anytime I want,
Speaker 1: and it's free. Did you ever try it? Thanks Marco?
Speaker 1: So Okay, first of all, I actually, like, okay, before
Speaker 1: hold on, I'm gonna get into an argument with myself
Speaker 1: about like we all fucking know the whole uh uh,
Speaker 1: you know, like pros and cons of AI type of shit.
Speaker 1: But on a personal level, me Lyle, I, I use
Speaker 1: chat gpt uh for this kind of shit all the time.
Speaker 1: I do. Like what I do is I journal and
Speaker 1: then I copy and paste it into chat geapt and
Speaker 1: then chatchapt like kind of spits back reflections to me.
Speaker 1: And I know, I know it's like a controversial practice
Speaker 1: and I'm I don't have thoughts about that, but I
Speaker 1: do I do personally. I personally I do this, you know,
Speaker 1: I do this like I use it every day. I
Speaker 1: use it, you know, I wasalking about like you know
Speaker 1: with like uh uh like like I'm trying to work
Speaker 1: on like ADHD shit, and so I'll be talking to
Speaker 1: it and I'll be like, you know, I have like
Speaker 1: an actual psycho. You know, you should like you should
Speaker 1: have an actual psychiatrist. You should have an actual therapist.
Speaker 1: You shouldn't like chatchept, shouldn't like be replacing these things.
Speaker 1: And by the way, by the way, just to like, uh,
Speaker 1: these are just expressions of how I'm living my own life.
Speaker 1: These are not endorsements of like, uh uh well, I
Speaker 1: did do an ad read for chatchept, which I guess
Speaker 1: is literally an endorsement, But I mean, I I fuck,
Speaker 1: I do I do endorse I like chatche using. I
Speaker 1: like chatchept as a therapist. Fucking I'm gonna just say
Speaker 1: I like it as a therapist. I use it as
Speaker 1: a therapist. I get why people are freaked out. But
Speaker 1: here's the fucking thing, man, here's the fucking thing. It
Speaker 1: is like p people like, real therapy is just so
Speaker 1: goddamn like, there's ways to get it. There's ways to
Speaker 1: get it. If you're like financially struggling, there's shit like
Speaker 1: going to there's shit like going to uh like a
Speaker 1: like a college campus or whatever. And you can like
Speaker 1: work with psych students. There's probably clinics that will help
Speaker 1: you for free. But oh but like overall, uh, it's
Speaker 1: really hard for a lot of people to get therapy
Speaker 1: without having to pay. Like I mean, god, damn dude
Speaker 1: in New York City a therapist, but that insurance is
Speaker 1: like two hundred and twenty dollars for like forty five minutes.
Speaker 1: Like it's it's it's insane. And not only that is
Speaker 1: like you when you schedule an appointment, like you can
Speaker 1: be like in a like you can be in like
Speaker 1: a crazy like like like can you get like like
Speaker 1: you get me going crazy? Right? And you'd be like,
Speaker 1: I need to fucking talk to someone right now. And
Speaker 1: so you call a therapist and they're like, all right,
Speaker 1: I had I can schedule you in in two weeks,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, bitch, I'm fucking going crazy right now.
Speaker 1: I don't know what the fuck I'm gonna thinking two weeks.
Speaker 1: I don't know how about feel in two weeks. That's
Speaker 1: a different guy. This guy right now needs to you know.
Speaker 1: And so look for me personally, I like this is
Speaker 1: just this is purely an expression of my own life
Speaker 1: and why I like the tool is. You can use
Speaker 1: it anytime you want. You can use it at three
Speaker 1: o'clock in the morning. It's free. And I like what
Speaker 1: it has to I like what it tells me. It
Speaker 1: tells and I'm like and I and I say, shit, like, dude,
Speaker 1: can you explain this to me from like a brain
Speaker 1: chemical perspective? You know? Can you give me like offs
Speaker 1: to read up on who who philosophy wise could help
Speaker 1: me with that? Like it it's it's it's a good
Speaker 1: it's a good tool for this. I don't look, look,
Speaker 1: I have no idea what some people are like, don't
Speaker 1: ever put anything personal in it, because who knows where
Speaker 1: it's going. And I guess I guess, yeah, it's being
Speaker 1: used to train the thing. But uh, this is just
Speaker 1: again an expression of how the tool has genuinely personally
Speaker 1: been very helpful to me in my life and apparently
Speaker 1: into the life of this this uh emailer. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I think it's I think it should be like supplementary.
Speaker 1: I don't think you should like use it to replace
Speaker 1: a therapist. But it works well. I mean, like here,
Speaker 1: let me go to my fucking chatchy BT shit, what
Speaker 1: did I just do? Also, I don't know. Part of
Speaker 1: me is like like yeah, like I'll fucking be like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I use it. I use it a lot for like
Speaker 1: helping me with my Like like today I was like,
Speaker 1: can you recommend me? I kind of I kind of
Speaker 1: use it. The way the chat cept is kind of becoming.
Speaker 1: It's becoming like the new Google search. It's kind of
Speaker 1: the evolution of the of the Google search where I'm like,
Speaker 1: you know, tell me about this thing where normally people
Speaker 1: would just take their whole question and throw it into
Speaker 1: and throw it into Google, where it's like now they
Speaker 1: can do it into chat chaput and it kind of goes,
Speaker 1: uh goes into like you know, searches for shit. Anyway,
Speaker 1: that's just that, that's just my experience and apparently this
Speaker 1: guy's experien PS. I have a loud stomping upstairs and neighbor.
Speaker 1: How should I resolve that? Ask them politely to stop
Speaker 1: doing that? Okay, all right, this is from Kayla. Uh
Speaker 1: there's no subject. Hey, Gek, I just wanted to say
Speaker 1: I'm such a fan of your show and happy I
Speaker 1: found it. I recently got into the dental hygiene program. Previously,
Speaker 1: my advisor said how I was wasn't not going to
Speaker 1: get in the Previously my advisor said, how I okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gona assume this is a TYPEO. Previously my advisor said,
Speaker 1: how I was not going to get into the program
Speaker 1: for three to five years. So this is such a
Speaker 1: huge change of plans for me. I have a trip
Speaker 1: scheduled for this October to go to Maine. I don't
Speaker 1: want to cancel, and I mean some of the stuff
Speaker 1: I have already paid for is refundable, is unrefundable. The
Speaker 1: program is super competitive and overall hard. Is it bad?
Speaker 1: I still want to go on this week long trip
Speaker 1: and bite the bullet? Or should I call it off? Dude?
Speaker 1: Not wanting to fall behind. I haven't been on vacation
Speaker 1: in so long, and not getting and getting not the
Speaker 1: program was deaf not in my Okay, well, there's a
Speaker 1: bunch of spelling errors in this or not typos. Okay,
Speaker 1: I haven't been on a vacation in so long and
Speaker 1: getting the program was deaf. Not on my list of things.
Speaker 1: Very grateful it is there, though, But should I stay
Speaker 1: or should I go? Oh? You should probably uh, you
Speaker 1: should probably not go to man, I'm gonna that's yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's the result of my pondering is that if
Speaker 1: you just got into a fucking thing that is super
Speaker 1: competitive that you've been dying to go go into, I
Speaker 1: do not think. Yeah, I think I think falling behind
Speaker 1: for a week is not a good idea. I mean,
Speaker 1: you can always do that, you can always do the
Speaker 1: trip later, I would say, but I think it's would
Speaker 1: be good to prioritize doing the program, especially because the
Speaker 1: trip is like a very like short term thing and
Speaker 1: you'll always be able to take more trips. This is
Speaker 1: my thought about your life. Um let's see, this is
Speaker 1: from Simon. Hey, Lyle, my name is Simon. Feel free
Speaker 1: to give me any name you want. Okay, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: call you Simon. The subject line is I keep being
Speaker 1: disappointed by women with daddy issues. Okay. I'm a French
Speaker 1: guy into arts and music. Love your expo idea, by
Speaker 1: the way, thank you, And I keep having problem with
Speaker 1: my relationships lately. Should I read this in a French accent? No? Sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna dump my boring life, but I feel like
Speaker 1: you could help me out. I can ponder you, Simon.
Speaker 1: I will ponder your situation. Okay. Well, oh, it's been
Speaker 1: an hour already. Look at that. Well, to get straight
Speaker 1: to it. In my love life, I tend to end
Speaker 1: up with more alternative kind of women, since I'm kind
Speaker 1: of alternative myself, but having somewhat of a fatherly figure
Speaker 1: by being a bigger guy with a movie dad bod,
Speaker 1: kind of fat, kind of buff, and by being very
Speaker 1: caring and nice with a thick beard. Okay, so you
Speaker 1: have a fatherly vibe, is what you're telling me? Okay,
Speaker 1: all of that to say, I literally only dated girls
Speaker 1: with daddy issues and it always ended poorly. Where I
Speaker 1: need help is that the only relationship I've been in
Speaker 1: was with my first girlfriend, which was four years ago,
Speaker 1: and I keep stumbling on her. She doesn't recognize me
Speaker 1: since I changed a lot physically, but I feel like
Speaker 1: if I had another chance with her, I would end up. Well,
Speaker 1: should I respect her and leave her bee? Or should
Speaker 1: I try to talk to her and see if I
Speaker 1: can have another chance with her? Well, I mean, you
Speaker 1: keep What do you mean by you keep stumbling on
Speaker 1: her and she doesn't recognize you? What is that? Does it?
Speaker 1: When you say stumbling on her? Is that like like
Speaker 1: her shit comes up? Like in your like social media
Speaker 1: feeds or like, because if she if you're saying she
Speaker 1: doesn't recognize you, that means you guys have talked enough
Speaker 1: for her to say that, Bro, it's worth a hail Mary.
Speaker 1: What And let's unless if she like and let's unless
Speaker 1: if she was like unless if like when you guys
Speaker 1: broke up, she was like, never talk to me ever again,
Speaker 1: I don't really I don't know where this and I
Speaker 1: don't know where this relationship ended or how it ended.
Speaker 1: But if it didn't end in like a horrible way,
Speaker 1: there's no harm in having a conversation, right if it
Speaker 1: didn't end in a horrible way, know, fucking go for
Speaker 1: a go for a hail Mary, I mean, don't. I mean, look,
Speaker 1: I think maybe not a hail Mary in the sense
Speaker 1: of like, I've always been in love with you and
Speaker 1: I can't live without you, and you know, hell Mary,
Speaker 1: and like you know, Hey, how you doing? What's up?
Speaker 1: You want to talk on the phone, like what you've
Speaker 1: been up to? Like you like you like? I think
Speaker 1: it's very I think it's again, unless if she was
Speaker 1: like never talked to me ever again, I think it's fair,
Speaker 1: uh to just initiate like a normal ass conversation. Why
Speaker 1: not What does daddy issues mean? Does it just mean
Speaker 1: like she had a poor relationship with her dad or
Speaker 1: she just likes you know, I feel like, well, I
Speaker 1: feel like, uh, don't women in general like kind of
Speaker 1: like the daddy or like the like the fatherly arch like.
Speaker 1: I mean, women in general, I think are like just
Speaker 1: attracted to like competence, you know. So maybe it's just
Speaker 1: like you're, you know, you're you're a nice competent guy.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but yeah, fucking dear thing, go throw
Speaker 1: a hail mary. Why not? All right, let's see? Uh
Speaker 1: but yeah again with that hail Mary, don't be like, hey,
Speaker 1: wid you up, but just be like, hey, how you been?
Speaker 1: Can we talk? I just want to see how you're doing.
Speaker 1: See if it maybe naturally evolves from there, I suppose. Uh. Okay.
Speaker 1: This is from Laura subject line shrooms and the delusion
Speaker 1: that I'm incredibly interesting lyle. In my day to day life,
Speaker 1: I mostly keep to myself. But on Shrooms I become
Speaker 1: violently convinced that the world would benefit from a ten
Speaker 1: part docuseries about my life, and not because of any
Speaker 1: trauma or triumph or character arc. I mean the monotony,
Speaker 1: like how I organize my spice drawer. I live a
Speaker 1: very regular existence that everyone on earth can relate to.
Speaker 1: But I get this deeply persuasive feeling that if I
Speaker 1: could just explain myself well enough, people would be fascinated
Speaker 1: by me and I by them. Sure, I go down
Speaker 1: the usual rabbit holes about how we're all connected and
Speaker 1: life is amazing, YadA, YadA. But I also believe I
Speaker 1: could talk about how I store my cereal or how
Speaker 1: I avoid making eye contact with mannequins, and the world
Speaker 1: would lean in like I'm giving a ted talk. I
Speaker 1: also get weirdly emotional about handmade and thrifted things, like
Speaker 1: I'll stare at a vintage mug and think about the
Speaker 1: entire life it lived before ending up in my room.
Speaker 1: The craftsmanship, the stories, the tragedy of being microwaves safe
Speaker 1: yet so emotionally fragile. I spiral. So is this narcissism?
Speaker 1: Is it the mushrooms? Is it just being a person
Speaker 1: in the Internet era? Anyway? Thought I'd ask a lizard
Speaker 1: spiritually yours, Laura M I have. I have a lot
Speaker 1: of ponders on this. Uh. First of all, no, you're
Speaker 1: not an artist. All right, I'm gonna get I'm gonna
Speaker 1: get like a little woo woo kind of I'm gonna
Speaker 1: get like a little bit woo woo. And I'm trying
Speaker 1: not to get too woo woo because I don't want to. Like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I mean I think there is.
Speaker 1: I mean, human beings. Ye okay, I'm gonna get woo woo.
Speaker 1: Human beings contain this kind of innate, uh you know,
Speaker 1: creativity within them just by nature of like we all
Speaker 1: are are, like we all are. We know, two people
Speaker 1: have the exact same experience, even if, like you know,
Speaker 1: if they're fucking conjoined twins, they're still looking at it
Speaker 1: from a physically a different perspective because they're not sharing eyes. Right,
Speaker 1: So I think people have like an innate desire to
Speaker 1: share of themselves. Whether that and whether you have the
Speaker 1: innate desire to share of yourself by just like telling
Speaker 1: a friend about your day or by you know, creating
Speaker 1: some kind of art centered around your life experience. And
Speaker 1: you can really talk yourself out of doing it. And
Speaker 1: I've done this to myself or a lot. I've done
Speaker 1: this to myself a lot. You can talk yourself out
Speaker 1: of doing it by saying that you're not interesting. But
Speaker 1: I don't know what's the point of that, right, what's
Speaker 1: the point of that? I mean, even just reading this email,
Speaker 1: this is a nicely written email, Like, no, it's not mark.
Speaker 1: You're not a narcissist for wanting to create or wanting
Speaker 1: to I typically think narcissism. Narcissism is kind of like,
Speaker 1: I don't know why am I sitting here pretending like
Speaker 1: I know what narcissism? Let me google it? What really
Speaker 1: is narcism? Because that word kind of gets thrown around
Speaker 1: all the time. Narcissism is a personality trait characterized by
Speaker 1: an excessive sense of self importance, need for admiration, and
Speaker 1: a lack of empathy for others. I think that, Uh No,
Speaker 1: I don't think it's like narcissistic to want to express yourself.
Speaker 1: I think it's like pretty inherently human. And I'm not
Speaker 1: reading this is I'm not reading in you being a narcissist.
Speaker 1: I'm reading that you just want to express yourself good,
Speaker 1: become you know, become convinced that the world would benefit
Speaker 1: from what you have to say. Why the fuck not?
Speaker 1: That doesn't that doesn't that I can't see a universe
Speaker 1: where that's a bad thing, right, I mean, I think
Speaker 1: it only it's only become an only it was a
Speaker 1: bad thing if you like. Self importance is not like
Speaker 1: self importance and self esteem is not like I am
Speaker 1: so much better than everyone else and I am awesome
Speaker 1: and what I have to say is the most important
Speaker 1: thing ever. But it is like, like I think, I
Speaker 1: think like healthy self esteem is probably something of like
Speaker 1: I am confident that I am a human being of value.
Speaker 1: I am confident that I matter and the things I
Speaker 1: have to say matter, and you know, uh uh, and
Speaker 1: that confidence can complete this can completely coexist with also
Speaker 1: other people matter. Also what other people have to say
Speaker 1: is important. And you don't have to believe, by the way,
Speaker 1: you don't have to believe that every single person is
Speaker 1: important or that every single thing that everyone has to
Speaker 1: say is important, because that's that's an unrealistic belief to hold.
Speaker 1: But uh, I don't know, I don't know. This is man,
Speaker 1: this is like super this is super like therapy fucking bullshit.
Speaker 1: But it's like you, you are a person. So when
Speaker 1: you like if a friend came to you and was like, hey,
Speaker 1: I have this idea to do this thing, and you
Speaker 1: were like, you were like, Nah, that's stupid. Nobody gives
Speaker 1: a fuck what you have to say, and you're just
Speaker 1: kind of being a narcissist. So you shouldn't write a book,
Speaker 1: and you shouldn't make a thing. You'd be a fucking asshole,
Speaker 1: You'd be a you'd be a dick. Right, So when
Speaker 1: you do that to yourself, you're just being a dick
Speaker 1: to yourself. Damn, that makes perfect sense. People have been
Speaker 1: saying that a lot throughout to me, throughout my life,
Speaker 1: and it's clicking. It's starting to click a little bit.
Speaker 1: It's honestly clicking with me a little bit as I'm
Speaker 1: talking about it. This is not an original by the way,
Speaker 1: These are not original thoughts. These are ponders that are
Speaker 1: just kind of clicking clicking to me. Um, you know anyway, Uh,
Speaker 1: you should do so, go make a make a fucking TikTok.
Speaker 1: Why not write a book? Do something? You don't have
Speaker 1: a ten part docuseries? Make a ten part docuseries on
Speaker 1: your phone and your room, on your computer that used
Speaker 1: to write this email. Yeah, do so. I mean there's
Speaker 1: the we live in We live in a world where
Speaker 1: it's easier than ever to express yourself to the masses,
Speaker 1: So uh, take advantage of that for whatever the fuck
Speaker 1: it's worth. Before. No, I'm not gonna be a doomer.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna end that with a doomer perspective. But
Speaker 1: uh yeah, go go do a thing. Also, a lot
Speaker 1: of the boring, you know, boring things are good to
Speaker 1: talk about because they're like most of life is kind
Speaker 1: of boring. So I mean, yeah, talk about how you
Speaker 1: store your cereal. Someone will find it interesting. Everyone's crazy,
Speaker 1: all right, Sorry, um, let's keep going. All right. This
Speaker 1: is from K Dog, subject line some words about seeing
Speaker 1: you in Portland and traveling to Japan. Hello, mister Gecko man.
Speaker 1: My name is Kdog, and I am being so brave
Speaker 1: and sending you some words for gekmel because I think
Speaker 1: about calling you a decent amount, but I get phone
Speaker 1: call stage right about it. I've seen you twice in
Speaker 1: person in Portland and met you both times after the show.
Speaker 1: Both of the pictures I have with you are not great,
Speaker 1: so I need you to come back so we can
Speaker 1: try again. Okay, I'm gonna try to do that. The
Speaker 1: last time you were in town, I went to your
Speaker 1: share with my ex and they were an evil manipulator
Speaker 1: and I should have taken someone else. I hope that
Speaker 1: the guy you talked to on stage who was saying
Speaker 1: something about hooking up with his ex's friends or sister
Speaker 1: or something whoeveryone in the crowd hated got broken up
Speaker 1: with by his girlfriend that was with him there. I won't, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to remember that I really want to go
Speaker 1: to Japan next year, and I love to know what
Speaker 1: your recommendations are for things to see, especially if it's
Speaker 1: something I couldn't find out from a Google search about
Speaker 1: the best things to see in Japan? Do you think
Speaker 1: I would be safe to just go by myself as
Speaker 1: a woman. I'm tired of waiting for one of my
Speaker 1: friends to be able to afford traveling so I can
Speaker 1: have a try rappl buddy, leve you k dog. Umm,
Speaker 1: here's the thing, I don't really I I don't really
Speaker 1: want to answer the do you think I would be
Speaker 1: safe to go by myself to Japan as a woman,
Speaker 1: because I have never gone to myself by Japan as
Speaker 1: a woman. Uh So I'm not, like, you know, I
Speaker 1: don't really I don't want to like speak from that
Speaker 1: perspective that I do not have. But I will say that, uh,
Speaker 1: I'll say this, Japan is like the safest fucking place
Speaker 1: that I've ever been. It's it's I think it's consistently ranked.
Speaker 1: I think Tokyo is like consistently ranked as like one
Speaker 1: of the safest. Let me, let me actually google this
Speaker 1: is Tokyo the safeest city in the world. Tokyo is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Tokyo is generally considered one of the safest cities in
Speaker 1: the world. There is there's a huge culture of safety
Speaker 1: and security. There's no there's really like no crime ime,
Speaker 1: there's not there's really like not a lot of poverty.
Speaker 1: It's like it's like a incredibly I can't again, I
Speaker 1: don't have the I don't have the uh equipment to
Speaker 1: speak about specifically, like the you know, going there alone
Speaker 1: as a woman, but like in general, it's like the
Speaker 1: safest place I've ever been. I don't have recommendations for
Speaker 1: things to see. I just go just go to the
Speaker 1: What I would do is I would just write down
Speaker 1: there's a lot of neighborhoods that you should just walk
Speaker 1: around in. You know, there's a Soaksa, there's a Kiabara
Speaker 1: there's Shibuya, there's Shinjuku, there's kabuuk Cho. Uh yeah, just
Speaker 1: go to all those fucking places and just walk around
Speaker 1: figure shit out. It's awesome. I have a fun time, man,
Speaker 1: spam Rocks, And good on you for going by yourself
Speaker 1: if you've never if you have a place you really
Speaker 1: fucking want to go to and you can afford to
Speaker 1: go and you can make it and your friends don't
Speaker 1: just fucking go. You know I'm with you on that. Okay, Um,
Speaker 1: all right, let me do a couple few more. My
Speaker 1: grandma has a crush on a football player. Hello. My
Speaker 1: dad and I are fans of a certain football team
Speaker 1: that just recently got good, and my grandma was intrigued
Speaker 1: by her excitement. She doesn't understand the game at all,
Speaker 1: but when I taught her about some of the players,
Speaker 1: she caught feelings for one of them in particular. Her
Speaker 1: passion is now greater than my dad's and mine combined.
Speaker 1: I think it's cute and hilarious, but I also don't
Speaker 1: live with my family anymore. Where my dad is subjecting her.
Speaker 1: It's subjected to her asking the same football questions every day,
Speaker 1: and it's taking a toll on him. Is there anything
Speaker 1: I can do to help my dad's sanity? Wait a minute,
Speaker 1: your dad is going insane because his mom is asking
Speaker 1: him questions about football. You know what, man, Look, we
Speaker 1: have no idea how long we have with our parents.
Speaker 1: We have no idea. We have no idea how long
Speaker 1: we have with our parents. We have no idea how
Speaker 1: long we have with any fucking thing or any fucking
Speaker 1: one in our fucking lives. So any stupid, non malicious
Speaker 1: interaction that you can have with people that you like
Speaker 1: is good. Sorry, I'm giving you too existential of an answer,
Speaker 1: but that's where my head is at right now. So
Speaker 1: that's that's what I got in my pondering. All right,
Speaker 1: I can do a few more, let's see, all right.
Speaker 1: Gek mail, Hey Ghek. My name is Steven. I am
Speaker 1: thirty four years old and work as a truck driver
Speaker 1: for Wugmans. I'm writing to you because lately I have
Speaker 1: been feeling like I am just wasting my life away.
Speaker 1: I wake up, go to work, come home, watch some TV,
Speaker 1: and go to bed. Every day, even on my days off,
Speaker 1: I just feel like a couch potato and do little
Speaker 1: to nothing because I don't know how to be productive
Speaker 1: with my time? Is there anything you do to keep
Speaker 1: yourself productive when you're not podcasting? Thanks for what you do, Steven.
Speaker 1: You know it's funny, man. I this is a lot
Speaker 1: of what I've kind of been thinking about with my
Speaker 1: existential crisis, and a lot of like the concept of
Speaker 1: quote unquote wasting time and like you know, like life
Speaker 1: optimization and shit like that. I can't really answer the
Speaker 1: question of what would be productive with your time. I'm
Speaker 1: coming around to the idea I'm coming. I used to not.
Speaker 1: I'm coming around to the idea that like there's inherent
Speaker 1: value in productivity in simply existing. I'm lately coming I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm not. I've been thinking about that a lot. I've
Speaker 1: been presenting that as my as an idea to myself,
Speaker 1: that there's just inherent value and productivity in existing on earth,
Speaker 1: because if you're like a nihilist and you're like nothing
Speaker 1: really matters, then just existing is like good enough. Which again,
Speaker 1: it's like you could look at you could take a
Speaker 1: fucking nihilist thing and be like, you could run with
Speaker 1: it in a very negative direction, but you could really
Speaker 1: run with it in a positive direction and be like
Speaker 1: you know, just existing is productive. But okay, that's again,
Speaker 1: that's an existential thing, and I want to get into
Speaker 1: what I what I think, I really feel. That's just
Speaker 1: an idea. That's just an idea that is answering me.
Speaker 1: What I really feel, honestly at this point is like
Speaker 1: the problem I have with the just existing is enough,
Speaker 1: or the the problem I have with the whole idea
Speaker 1: of like just existing is enough and like you are
Speaker 1: enough is this thing of like if somebody, if you're
Speaker 1: like unhappy and you're restless and you're sad and you're
Speaker 1: miserable and blah blah blah, and somebody tells you, well,
Speaker 1: you're enough, that feels like shit because if I'm so enough,
Speaker 1: why am I miserable? You know? So that's that's the
Speaker 1: catch twenty two of just existing is enough. And that's
Speaker 1: kind of the problem I have with that argument. But
Speaker 1: it's coming into my head and I'm entertaining it and
Speaker 1: thinking about it. But okay, back to you, Stephen, I
Speaker 1: do the whole idea of like I do nothing because
Speaker 1: I don't know how to be productive with my time.
Speaker 1: It depends on what your goals and your values are
Speaker 1: and what you want out of life based on what
Speaker 1: your experience has been thus far, you know, and I can't,
Speaker 1: and so I guess not advice pondering. My pondering about you,
Speaker 1: Steven is just like think about your like what do
Speaker 1: you want? What you want? Like, do you want to
Speaker 1: have more fulfilling relationships? Well, then okay. Productivity would look
Speaker 1: like do you taking action on things that would put
Speaker 1: you in places where you can make more connections with
Speaker 1: more people? You know? Do you want more money? Okay?
Speaker 1: Then being productive would be, you know, trying to figure
Speaker 1: out how to make more money by like fucking looking
Speaker 1: at what jobs you can do, or what schooling you
Speaker 1: can get, or maybe a business that you could start
Speaker 1: or something like that. You know. Do you just want
Speaker 1: to be physically healthy? You know you can be productive
Speaker 1: by eating better? You know? Yeah, the whole like like
Speaker 1: this this email kind of I guess h presents productivity?
Speaker 1: Is this like objective thing? When it is kind of subjective?
Speaker 1: Although it's weird because if you if you ask someone
Speaker 1: why they're doing something, and then you keep going and
Speaker 1: you're like, well, why are you doing this? Well because this?
Speaker 1: Well why that? Well, why why that? It goes to
Speaker 1: a it kind of goes to a It kind of
Speaker 1: brings it kind of brings me to a full circle
Speaker 1: of the just existing is enough thing. But that's a
Speaker 1: bunch of woo woo. But that's a bunch of woo
Speaker 1: woo bullshit. I'm in I'm entertaining the idea of of that.
Speaker 1: But it strikes me a little bit as some woo
Speaker 1: woole bullshit, because, Uh, as a human being, we're endowed
Speaker 1: with like consciousness and the ability to you know, identify
Speaker 1: whatever tools are at our disposal, however maximal or minimal
Speaker 1: they are, and go, huh, how can I use these
Speaker 1: tools to like to do something new and get out
Speaker 1: of the rut? You know? And I and I and
Speaker 1: I think that that's good. But I'm still entertaining the
Speaker 1: idea of enoughness. I'm still I've been thinking about it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's my ponder about your life, Steven. Okay, let's see
Speaker 1: an hour and twenty five. Let's let's make it to
Speaker 1: an hour and a half. Let's make this a nice, juicy,
Speaker 1: nice juiced up gek male uh let's see uh okay,
Speaker 1: uh this is from no. Let's not do this, Let's
Speaker 1: not do that one. Let's do Let's do something something chill.
Speaker 1: Let's do just find something chill to do. Uh? Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, This is from Dylan Uh subject line marijuana
Speaker 1: and music. Dylan says, hello, my green friend. I recently
Speaker 1: got out of the army, so I tried weed and
Speaker 1: loved it. Or recently I discovered Pantera, Metallica and Pink Floyd.
Speaker 1: That ship elevates me and makes me want to run
Speaker 1: through a wall. That's the whole email. Is that good
Speaker 1: to want to run through a wall? Is wanting to
Speaker 1: run through a wall a good thing? Or is that?
Speaker 1: Is that like a superman thing, like a powerful thing?
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, smoking weed and listening to music is
Speaker 1: pretty awesome. I'm we talk about weed all the fucking
Speaker 1: time on this podcast and sometimes and I weed weed
Speaker 1: is a two. Lately I think we'd uh. I I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know how I feel about weed.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's destroying me or my My
Speaker 1: brain is in a bit of a fragile state and
Speaker 1: I'm always trying to solve for X on my own,
Speaker 1: you know, mental stability, and I don't know where weed
Speaker 1: uh fits in that. But I can say, over the
Speaker 1: course of my life I've had a lot of awesome
Speaker 1: times smoking weed. I've had a lot, I've had a
Speaker 1: lot of I've had a lot of times smoking weed
Speaker 1: where I'm like this sucks, I'm never gonna do this again,
Speaker 1: and then a lot of times where I'm like, Wow,
Speaker 1: this is fucking awesome. I love doing this. Say with that,
Speaker 1: do with that what you will? Okay, let's do okay,
Speaker 1: uh I'm okay. This is from EJ subject line I'm
Speaker 1: playing all the Devil May Cry games instead of revising
Speaker 1: high gak long story short. I'm writing this about eight
Speaker 1: hours before my final psychology exam in the UK, and
Speaker 1: instead of revising as much as I should have, I
Speaker 1: decided to complete the entirety of Devil May Cry one
Speaker 1: in three parentheseeson, we don't speak about two? What's wrong
Speaker 1: with Devil May Cry? Too? And I'm planning on playing
Speaker 1: I've never played Devil May Cry? What is? What is?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna google this Devil Devil May Cry? Is it
Speaker 1: like a which one? Are we on? Okay? Okay, ninja theory? Okay,
Speaker 1: looks like we're un five five six anyway. I don't
Speaker 1: know this, I don't know why any that's important Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm planning. I'm playing through four and five two. Only
Speaker 1: problem is I might be risking going to university and
Speaker 1: getting kicked out. Is it worth it? Definitely not? But
Speaker 1: will I keep doing it? Probably anyway. Anyways, by the
Speaker 1: time you're reading this, I will probably already have sat
Speaker 1: the exam. Wish me luck, and I hope you all
Speaker 1: right too. If you decide to include me in the podcast,
Speaker 1: please refer to me as egg Man. Thank you, And
Speaker 1: then he sent me screenshots of all the achievements he's
Speaker 1: gotten on doublemacry. All right, what's my Do I have
Speaker 1: a ponder about this? No, I don't really have a
Speaker 1: ponder about this. I mean, I love video games. I
Speaker 1: don't know if I've ever let a video game ruin
Speaker 1: my life. Maybe I have. I mean yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: look if you told if you tallied up all the
Speaker 1: time I've spent in my life playing video games and say, hey,
Speaker 1: instead of doing that, you could have learned Spanish and
Speaker 1: you'd be in Mexico right now with a beautiful woman
Speaker 1: and all these a bunch of you know, friends, a
Speaker 1: bunch of new Mexican friends, and that would be your life.
Speaker 1: Then I guess I ruined. I guess I've ruined I've No,
Speaker 1: I don't think I've ruined my life playing video games.
Speaker 1: I've ruined an infinite amount of potential lives by playing
Speaker 1: video games. I've ruined an infinite amount of But we
Speaker 1: ruin infinite amounts of potential lives every day with every
Speaker 1: action that we take. You don't get through life without
Speaker 1: ruining and infinite amounts of potential lives. So maybe that's
Speaker 1: what that's what this guy is doing. He's just he's
Speaker 1: just ruining an infinite amount of potential lives with all
Speaker 1: the decisions that he makes with his life that don't
Speaker 1: lead in the infinite directions of those infinite lives. And
Speaker 1: you know what, I don't know, man, I love video games.
Speaker 1: I think video games are awesome. I'm really I'm really
Speaker 1: powering through grand theft. Thought of six is the thing
Speaker 1: I think I care about the most in my entire
Speaker 1: life right now. I might be saying that, No, I'm
Speaker 1: actually not saying I was about to say, I'm not exaggerating,
Speaker 1: But no, that's actually not what I'm what I'm thinking.
Speaker 1: That's not Uh, it's not an exaggeration. I fucking I
Speaker 1: fucking love video games. I'm so excited for a Grand
Speaker 1: Theft Ato six. I saw this comp I saw, I
Speaker 1: was I was thinking about making a video about this,
Speaker 1: but I saw this comment on I. Since it came
Speaker 1: out eight or nine days ago, I've been watching the
Speaker 1: Grand Theft Ato six trailer at least four times a day.
Speaker 1: That's not that's not an exaggeration. In fact, that's actually
Speaker 1: that might actually be an embellishment. I might I watch
Speaker 1: it all the time. I saw a comment that said
Speaker 1: something like, hey, hey everyone, we should use First of all,
Speaker 1: hold before I say this comment. First of all, this
Speaker 1: game is this is like the This is the first
Speaker 1: time in a long time I have really felt like
Speaker 1: I was part of something of like a of like
Speaker 1: I felt where I felt like I was deeply connected
Speaker 1: to like a massive world event on a personal level.
Speaker 1: Maybe that's a little fucked up to say, but it it.
Speaker 1: It's true, Maybe covid I felt deeply good. But do
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? I feel like this is
Speaker 1: an experience because this, like the whole comment section of
Speaker 1: the Grand Theft thoughto six trailer, is just people being
Speaker 1: like dude. I was fifteen years old when this came out,
Speaker 1: and I had to like convince my parents to buy
Speaker 1: it for me. And now I'm twenty eight or twenty seven,
Speaker 1: and I can just get it myself. This is all
Speaker 1: like like we all remember because it was too When
Speaker 1: the trailer for Grant'stal five came out, I was in
Speaker 1: middle school. I was taking a shit in my in
Speaker 1: the bathroom at my middle school, and I had I
Speaker 1: had the iPhone one or whatever the fuck, and I
Speaker 1: was watching the trailer for grandraft Lotal five. And I
Speaker 1: watched the Grand Theft Lotal five trailer every single day
Speaker 1: when I was in middle school. And and I haven't
Speaker 1: had a feeling like that since it's been it's been
Speaker 1: thirteen years, twelve thirteen years since I had that feeling
Speaker 1: that I had when Super Smash, Brothers Brawl and Portal
Speaker 1: two and Grand Theft Lotal five came out. I haven't
Speaker 1: had that feeling in a long time. There's been a
Speaker 1: lot of there's been there's been games that I've played.
Speaker 1: I can't think of a game on that level of
Speaker 1: magnitude that I've played. I mean, Read the Redemption two
Speaker 1: was fucking sick, but I played that game way way
Speaker 1: way after it came out. I played that like five
Speaker 1: years after it came out. I haven't been like anticipating
Speaker 1: a video game this much since Grandraft Lot of Six.
Speaker 1: And anyway, in the comments section is a bunch of
Speaker 1: people who have who have had my exact life experience,
Speaker 1: who who are like the this, like I haven't I
Speaker 1: haven't had this feeling for so long, and like people
Speaker 1: write this, and then the comments get I have like,
Speaker 1: you know, million four a comment will be like, oh,
Speaker 1: I haven't had this feeling and so long, and I'll
Speaker 1: have like four hundred thousand likes and that's It's the
Speaker 1: most scene I think I've felt in a while, which
Speaker 1: is funny because I posted a video about depression and
Speaker 1: then a bunch of people commented on it, and I
Speaker 1: feel more seen, not not not to not to not to,
Speaker 1: not to down. The comments I got on that video
Speaker 1: are incredibly sweet, But I just there's something about the
Speaker 1: comments of the Grand Theft Thought of six trailer where
Speaker 1: I'm like, I have never I have never been more
Speaker 1: happy to be a nameless entity in a sea of
Speaker 1: infinite other people than I am to be, you know.
Speaker 1: A hundred of the two hundred and eighty six million
Speaker 1: views on the grandft thought of six trailer. I feel
Speaker 1: deeply connected that it's like a religion at this point. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I saw a comment that said something like on May,
Speaker 1: I said, I saw a comment and said something like,
Speaker 1: so the game was delayed. The game was supposed to
Speaker 1: come out this September, and then it got delayed to
Speaker 1: May twenty six, twenty twenty six. And I saw a
Speaker 1: comment that said, hey, everyone, let's use this as a
Speaker 1: way to better ourselves so that we can make a
Speaker 1: plan on how we can improve ourselves. And you know,
Speaker 1: I don't remember these act comment, but it was like,
Speaker 1: how we can improve ourselves and achieve our dreams and
Speaker 1: fix up our lives so that a year from now
Speaker 1: when the game comes out, we can feel like we
Speaker 1: earned it. And a couple people wrote under that, being
Speaker 1: like that's fucking gay, shut up, which is which was
Speaker 1: an inevitability when he posted that comment, that was an inevitability.
Speaker 1: But I saw this and I was like, that fucking
Speaker 1: comment slaps. This is just something I wish I had.
Speaker 1: I wish it took a screenshot of it. I wish
Speaker 1: I had it because this was just some random fucking
Speaker 1: guy who caught this comment. We had like twenty six likes.
Speaker 1: But I saw it and I was like, Wow, this
Speaker 1: person is spitting with that comment. So I'm gonna try
Speaker 1: to I'm gonna try to take that to heart. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna try because of because I I am fully optimistic
Speaker 1: that I will continue to be a conscious human being
Speaker 1: a year from now. We're not slowing down. We're gonna
Speaker 1: be We're gonna continue existing at least until this game
Speaker 1: comes out. And I would like to I that comment
Speaker 1: inspired me, like I'd like to look back on, you know,
Speaker 1: May of twenty twenty five, when I'm in May of
Speaker 1: twenty twenty six and be like that was a good year.
Speaker 1: It was a good year's time. We improved. And as
Speaker 1: the reward, I will be play uh grand Theftoto six
Speaker 1: for like a month. There is no you know, the
Speaker 1: whole like wave of magic wand and you could be
Speaker 1: literally doing anything. There's no I've I was thinking about it,
Speaker 1: and I think what I would be doing is playing
Speaker 1: granded thoughto six, there's no other because sometimes you're like
Speaker 1: playing a video game, or you're scrolling red or you're
Speaker 1: doing some kind of like what is traditionally considered a
Speaker 1: low value activity and you're like, oh, I should be
Speaker 1: doing something productive right now. You know that's we covered
Speaker 1: a few emails like that today. That thought will not
Speaker 1: enter my brain, uh for a single second that I
Speaker 1: am playing Grand Thoto six. When I'm playing graand the
Speaker 1: thought of six, I will the only thought I will
Speaker 1: be having when I'm playing gra Thoto six is me
Speaker 1: on my couch holding this PlayStation controller at this moment
Speaker 1: in time, between two walls of oblivion. All the time
Speaker 1: there ever will be and all the time there ever was,
Speaker 1: I am. I am exactly exactly who I want to
Speaker 1: be and where I want to be in this infinite
Speaker 1: universe at this time. That is the thought I will
Speaker 1: be having the entire time I am playing Grand Theft
Speaker 1: Auto six. Anyway, Okay, thanks for listening to gek Mail.
Speaker 1: I hope you enjoyed it. If you want to, I'll
Speaker 1: probably do more of these. So you can send an
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Speaker 1: I'll read it at some point in the future. Also,
Speaker 1: I also like you could send me an email and
Speaker 1: I maybe maybe I'll read it in six months, because
Speaker 1: I don't know how I don't really have a schedule
Speaker 1: list to when I do these episodes. Thank you all
Speaker 1: for listening, Thank you all for hanging out. Let me
Speaker 1: know in the comments section on Spotify if you know anything.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I read all the comments. I'm crazy.
Speaker 1: I probably shouldn't. I don't think it's good for my health.
Speaker 1: But uh, I mean they're all nice, everyone's particular, everyone's
Speaker 1: everyone's been nice. But I don't know. I I think
Speaker 1: you only wanna You only want to take in so
Speaker 1: much information at a time. Our brains were only meant
Speaker 1: to take in so much information at a time. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, thanks everyone, see you, see you, see you.
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