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Speaker 1: Hello, Hi, Welcome to gek Mail. For those who have

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Speaker 1: not listened to this before, this is me ranting and

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Speaker 1: reading viewer mail. It's a solo podcast. A lot of

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Speaker 1: podcasts are conversations between two people, but this particular episode

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Speaker 1: is a mon no log, it's a monologue. It's a

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Speaker 1: one log, one person. That person is me, and I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna try to make words come out of my mouth

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Speaker 1: for an hour based on emails that people are sending me.

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Speaker 1: Normally I take phone calls from people, but you know,

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Speaker 1: I like to throw in these little gek mail episodes

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Speaker 1: from now and then and just now, just now, I

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Speaker 1: was like, what the I'm gonna just fucking start recording

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Speaker 1: and I don't even know what I'm gonna say. I'm

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Speaker 1: just gonna have to rant. There's a like I'm having

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Speaker 1: my mouth for the next ninety minutes. It's only been

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Speaker 1: like one minute, but I learned. But here's the thing.

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Speaker 1: When you're climbing a mountain, you can't be looking at

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Speaker 1: the peak. You gotta look at the your shoes. I

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Speaker 1: read that on Reddit somewhere I'm a crazy person. Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, I am alive. I have escaped my existential

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Speaker 1: crisis for today. Who knows when demons will visit me

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Speaker 1: once more, But in this very moment, which is all

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Speaker 1: I have and all I know for sure, the demons

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Speaker 1: let's do that. Let's talk to some people telepathically via email.

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Speaker 1: So let's do that. Okay, this first one, they said,

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Speaker 1: all right. The subject line is guys in relationships liking

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Speaker 1: please keep this email anonymous. How do you feel about

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Speaker 1: guys who are in relationships liking obvious thirst traps on

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Speaker 1: social media? Do you find that disrespectful towards their partner?

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Speaker 1: Social media has really blurred the line of flirting. If

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Speaker 1: with sexual photos, it's an obvious I'm interested and I

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Speaker 1: like what I see point blank. I don't see why

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Speaker 1: some men don't see this as a problem when they're

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Speaker 1: in a serious relationship. What are your thoughts. I mean,

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Speaker 1: the funny thing, Well, here's the thing is, like, I

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Speaker 1: guess I'm curious if this person is talking about like

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna assume this person is talking about like Instagram

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Speaker 1: models and shit like I mean, I mean, Instagram just

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Speaker 1: throws porn at you. Life just throws porn at you,

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Speaker 1: as you, as you, as you, you, just constantly. I

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Speaker 1: mean maybe I don't know, maybe it's just me, maybe

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Speaker 1: it's my own algorithm, but yeah, that's that's that's I'm

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Speaker 1: sure a lot of people's algorithms. Is you go to

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Speaker 1: I get, like, look, it's Here's the funny thing is

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Speaker 1: that it's like obviously it's like natural and inherent to

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Speaker 1: I don't get is liking it. Like what's the point, Like,

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Speaker 1: but like, yeah, if some lady is like an Instagram

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Speaker 1: I don't understand what there I mean some here's the thing,

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Speaker 1: Mark Zuckerberg and his his homies, uh created the like

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Speaker 1: to do it for some reason. But I mean, what

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Speaker 1: And if it's not then great. You know, I'm not

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Speaker 1: a I'm gonna tell this story. This is the fun.

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Speaker 1: This is one of the hardest times I've ever left

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Speaker 1: This better be an emergency. And uh my friend Devan

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Speaker 1: he's like, so you know when you comment something on Facebook,

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Speaker 1: He's like, he's like, so you mean like your cousins

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Speaker 1: I respect that. All right? Moving on, all right. This

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Speaker 1: is from fish Hat subject line funny Gecko Man. Okay,

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Speaker 1: Hello Lyle. I am a fella who likes watching movies

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Speaker 1: and playing videos, and I'm gonna assume that means video games.

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Speaker 1: I am a fellow who likes watching movies and playing

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Speaker 1: video games and doing nothing. I just finished high school

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Speaker 1: friends in university. My course is filled with too many

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Speaker 1: because so many of them got weird Reddit humor, and

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Speaker 1: Any advice on how to make life more fulfilling, I'm

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Speaker 1: quite bored. I have a lot of thoughts about this.

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Speaker 1: I mean, look, at the end of the day, man,

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Speaker 1: it's like the the world I think like, in the

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Speaker 1: most part kind of reflects back whatever you put into it,

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Speaker 1: find what you're looking for. So if you're like, oh,

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Speaker 1: with them, well, then yeah, those people are weird and

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Speaker 1: you're not gonna get along with them. But if you're

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Speaker 1: kind of like all right, maybe, uh, by the way

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Speaker 1: you sound, by the way you're on your computer all

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Speaker 1: the time watching weird shit, I'm sure you're not you. You.

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Speaker 1: Here's the thing, fish hat is, you're too chronically online,

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Speaker 1: but I don't know. I think. I mean, you just

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Speaker 1: gotta do shit, that's the thing. You just gotta do

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Speaker 1: things like what do you like? You're in university, You're

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Speaker 1: I assume you gotta find something to do. I don't know, kickball, uh,

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Speaker 1: start a movie club? Yeah? Again, all this ship, all

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Speaker 1: and you know, I've had I've had a lot of

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Speaker 1: I've had that thought and had it be depressing, right,

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Speaker 1: But I've also had that thought and had it be

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Speaker 1: the opposite where it's like, Okay, well, if no one's

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Speaker 1: a by the way, this is all just like armchair

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Speaker 1: Is like, the actual actions that I think you have

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Speaker 1: like crazy, like you don't have to climb Mount Everest

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Speaker 1: Hey Lyle, hope you're well wondering if you remember us

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Speaker 1: recent fight we had over a chair. Driving along in

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Speaker 1: how old are How old are you that you're like,

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Speaker 1: They're the chairs that they're gonna have. Are you're gonna

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Speaker 1: But what is your take on this fight? And more importantly,

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Speaker 1: I'm doing the email podcast where I'm like, I wish

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Speaker 1: I could talk to this person because I want to know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how autism works in the terms of

425
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Speaker 1: like picking the special interest and if it's like, like,

426
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Speaker 1: this is my special interest because it just is what

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Speaker 1: it is, or if like this guy can give me

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Speaker 1: a detailed, genuine explanation as to exactly why he likes

429
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Speaker 1: Garfield so much. I'm not I'm not sure but I

430
00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:05,960
Speaker 1: like this landline. Yeah, I'm gonna shadow at it. This

431
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:08,560
Speaker 1: is YouTuber I like, I forget his fucking name, it's

432
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Speaker 1: Polygon something, but he does like cursed products and he

433
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 1: did it. He did a video about cursed Garfield products.

434
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 1: When you're having an existential crisis, there's really nothing better

435
00:26:21,359 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 1: to watch than like some fucking YouTube video of a

436
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 1: guy like talking about like Garfield plushies, because that's that,

437
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:33,679
Speaker 1: because that guy in that video is so grounded in reality,

438
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Speaker 1: you know. Okay, this is okay. This is from Felix

439
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Speaker 1: Existential Career Crisis Need Gecko Wisdom. I'm gonna try my best, man,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna try my best I don't know how, I

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Speaker 1: don't know. Yeah, I'm I'm gonna try whatever. Okay, let's

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Speaker 1: just try because we're here. Hay Lyle. I'm Felix twenty

443
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Speaker 1: eight industrial designer. For the past few years, I've been

444
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Speaker 1: bouncing between corporate jobs, hoping to land the right one

445
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:03,960
Speaker 1: with a cool apartment, a partner, some recognition would finally

446
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:14,119
Speaker 1: make the depression fade. Ooh okay, right now, I design

447
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 1: three D custom consoles and controllers for Triple A Game Studios.

448
00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:21,160
Speaker 1: That sounds cool, and then he writes it sounds cool,

449
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 1: and it kind of is. But the job pays less

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00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:25,119
Speaker 1: than my last one and still leaves me with that

451
00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:29,840
Speaker 1: gnawing what's the point feeling? I smoke weed daily morning

452
00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:32,960
Speaker 1: tonight just to stay afloat. This past year has been rough.

453
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:35,639
Speaker 1: I lost several people around me, and it cracks something open. Now.

454
00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:38,280
Speaker 1: I'm seriously considering leaving the big city, moving back to

455
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Speaker 1: the forest where I grew up, building a workshop, maybe

456
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Speaker 1: getting a dog, a simple life with low consumption and

457
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Speaker 1: minimal stress. But I've been in Montreal ten years. My girl,

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Speaker 1: my friends, my girlfriend who's doing her master's and wants

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Speaker 1: an academic career, they're all here. Part of me worries

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Speaker 1: I'll miss out on building something real for myself if

461
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Speaker 1: I drop out now. So should I lean into the

462
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Speaker 1: quiet life and say screw it to ambition or is

463
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:07,080
Speaker 1: this just another escape patch from the work I still

464
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:10,479
Speaker 1: need to do? Would love your take, Gecko. Ooh, you know, actually,

465
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Speaker 1: I'm actually have a lot of thoughts about this, and

466
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Speaker 1: they're all kind of dependent on a few things, and

467
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Speaker 1: as Actually that's funny. I think you know. I've been

468
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:31,920
Speaker 1: doing the Gecko since I was twenty two and I'm

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Speaker 1: twenty seven now, and I think I probably would have

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Speaker 1: answered this differently then than I would now, because I

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Speaker 1: think then I would be like, yeah, go into the woods,

472
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Speaker 1: do you live your thing? Do go for it, brother,

473
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Speaker 1: But now I'm a little bit more like, Look, the

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Speaker 1: people in your life, like your girlfriend and your friends

475
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Speaker 1: and the people that you know in Montreal, are like

476
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 1: you know, I mean that that's the meaning of life

477
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 1: is the relationships that you cultivate with other people, and

478
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:16,360
Speaker 1: those people ground you into reality. And it's like it's

479
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Speaker 1: like one of, if not the most important things, is

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Speaker 1: having fucking people around you who can ground you into reality.

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Speaker 1: Some people aren't like that. Some people would be super

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Speaker 1: happy living in the fucking woods alone. I'm not one

483
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Speaker 1: of them, and I don't know if you are one

484
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Speaker 1: of them, because I don't know you. I would prefer

485
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Speaker 1: to be in a big if you know, being in

486
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Speaker 1: a big city with a bunch of friends and a

487
00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 1: girlfriend sounds great, but clearly you're like, are getting gnawed

488
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:51,600
Speaker 1: by some shit that you gotta escape from smoking weed,

489
00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 1: which I have no idea about. I've never done that before,

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Speaker 1: so I can't relate there. No, I'm just uh, I'm

491
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:07,480
Speaker 1: just messing around. I can relate there. And let's see,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna reread this email considering what I guess you

493
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Speaker 1: are building a workshop getting at a simple life with

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Speaker 1: low consumption, a minimal stress. Why do you have to

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Speaker 1: Here's what I'm with. Here's here's one of the points

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Speaker 1: that this email is making that I disagree with. Is

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Speaker 1: this idea that to achieve a simpler life with low

498
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Speaker 1: consumption and minimals well, there's a few things. Is like,

499
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Speaker 1: do you have to leave Montreal to achieve this, like

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Speaker 1: to make your depression fade. I've been doing a lot

501
00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 1: of I've doing a lot of like research on depression.

502
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Speaker 1: Research used to me and you go to the library

503
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 1: and you read several books, and now it just means

504
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 1: you frantically google and talk to chat Gypt and go

505
00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:07,000
Speaker 1: on Reddit and sit and think. So I've been doing

506
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Speaker 1: whatever that means, if that means research, And I don't know,

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00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:17,720
Speaker 1: if I don't know, if I don't know if I'm

508
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 1: telling you this not to say that it doesn't, because

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Speaker 1: I'm not sold on the fact that it doesn't. But

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Speaker 1: I wrestle you said, I hope I land the right thing,

511
00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:32,960
Speaker 1: and I wrestle with the idea that such a thing exists.

512
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 1: I low key thinking, I hold out hope for the

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00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 1: fact that that that like alignment is not a myth.

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00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 1: You know that everything's not just like random, and you

515
00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 1: kind of pick I'm holding up hope that like alignment

516
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 1: is like a real fucking thing. But I don't know.

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Speaker 1: You want to build a workshop. What kind of workshop

518
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Speaker 1: do you want to build? You want to get a dog?

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00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 1: Why can't you like, can you not like can you

520
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 1: not find Why do you have to move to the

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00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:12,280
Speaker 1: woods to find peace? I would I would ask yourself

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00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:16,480
Speaker 1: for that, because you might not have to. I don't know.

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00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 1: I don't know enough about you to know kind of

524
00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:22,800
Speaker 1: what you want and what you're like, what the what

525
00:32:22,840 --> 00:32:33,640
Speaker 1: the underlying feelings beneath this are. But I mean, yeah,

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00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 1: you could get a dog. That sounds that sounds like

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00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 1: a lot of work. I don't know if this was help.

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Speaker 1: This isn't this, by the way, gak Mail. I don't

529
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Speaker 1: think gak Mail isn't really like me. I feel like

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Speaker 1: gak Mail is less me giving advice and more give

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Speaker 1: me your life. And I'm going to ponder about it

532
00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 1: from an external perspective I'm not. I don't know if

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00:32:57,400 --> 00:33:00,040
Speaker 1: I have advice I have I don't know if I

534
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 1: advice for any of these things. I'm not. I'm not

535
00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 1: an advice guy. But I like to ponder, so I'm

536
00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 1: gonna ponder you, Felix. My pondering, though, is telling me

537
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:20,920
Speaker 1: that there's a weird like all or nothing thing going

538
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:25,200
Speaker 1: on here of like, I can either stay in the

539
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:27,959
Speaker 1: city or like, what is it? I can either? Like

540
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 1: it's like either why why is your only option abandoning

541
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:37,320
Speaker 1: your life and moving to the woods. You know, men

542
00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 1: will abandon their life and move to the woods before

543
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 1: going to therapy, and God and God don't I know

544
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:46,320
Speaker 1: that firsthand? Okay, well, good luck, Felix. What what what?

545
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:54,960
Speaker 1: What's the game studio? It does sound cool? Okay, let's

546
00:33:55,000 --> 00:34:01,960
Speaker 1: keep going. Oh, this one's fun. This is from Kendall's

547
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:06,720
Speaker 1: subject line I'm good friends with the cave Man now, Hey, Lyle.

548
00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 1: A while back, I listened to the Caveman episode while

549
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:12,719
Speaker 1: sweeping at my dead end job and followed him when

550
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:15,840
Speaker 1: you posted his Instagram. For those who aren't aware, I

551
00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 1: had a phone call on the podcast month ago, a

552
00:34:19,200 --> 00:34:22,480
Speaker 1: few weeks ago with this guy who moved to the

553
00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 1: Cayman Islands to go live in a cave, and I

554
00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:31,440
Speaker 1: posted his a clip of it on my Instagram along

555
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:34,920
Speaker 1: with his Instagram, and so I guess this person like

556
00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:40,399
Speaker 1: became friends with him. That's cool. Okay, she uses his name,

557
00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:41,600
Speaker 1: so I'm not gonna say his name. I'm gonna give

558
00:34:41,640 --> 00:34:46,160
Speaker 1: him different name. Turns out, Devin has a totally great

559
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,719
Speaker 1: taste in music. I replied to his story and we

560
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:52,480
Speaker 1: called for an hour that day making playlists and Spotify blends.

561
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 1: Since then, it's been really amazing getting to know each other.

562
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 1: We've had a lot of talks and I cherish him deeply.

563
00:34:57,600 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 1: Thank you for doing what you do and letting me

564
00:34:59,120 --> 00:35:03,360
Speaker 1: meet my friend. That's really cool. Thanks for sharing that.

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00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:07,600
Speaker 1: That's pretty cool. Let's read this email again. I I

566
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 1: really I want to like just set the expectations straight

567
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:13,760
Speaker 1: about kind of what I'm doing here, because I don't

568
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:19,520
Speaker 1: uh so, there are actually there are some things that

569
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:21,960
Speaker 1: stick out at me where I'm like, I will confidently

570
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:26,799
Speaker 1: give advice about that, but they don't. I mean, this

571
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:30,920
Speaker 1: podcast is like, you know, everyone's talking about every different

572
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:33,839
Speaker 1: subject of every different thing, and I too. And if

573
00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 1: if you if you claim to have good advice about everything.

574
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:41,080
Speaker 1: You're a fucking moron because nobody has good advice about everything.

575
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 1: So again, this is mainly just this is this is pondering.

576
00:35:47,840 --> 00:35:50,440
Speaker 1: It's ponder mail. Maybe maybe I'll start calling it ponder

577
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:57,080
Speaker 1: mail all right? Anyway, Okay, this is from Jalen. Subject

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Speaker 1: line my fiance broke up with me because of my

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00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:03,840
Speaker 1: eighth I'm interested in this because I've been doing a

580
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 1: lot of research aka talking to chat GPT, frantically googling,

581
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:10,960
Speaker 1: and frantically looking around on Reddit and thinking to myself

582
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:13,120
Speaker 1: in my own head. I've been doing a lot of

583
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 1: quote unquote research about adhd uh because I think I

584
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 1: think I have it. So anyway, I'll read this fucking email, Hi, Lyle,

585
00:36:25,680 --> 00:36:27,120
Speaker 1: I know it looks long by s why this is brief?

586
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:30,880
Speaker 1: A number A year ago today, I moved States to

587
00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:34,320
Speaker 1: close the distance from my partner. I got an apartment

588
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:37,560
Speaker 1: with my fiance and they proposed to me. Since then,

589
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,640
Speaker 1: I've worked overnight at a monotonous mind theming job with

590
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:43,319
Speaker 1: no one to talk to, making just a bit more

591
00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:46,239
Speaker 1: to cover my bills. I haven't had much chance to

592
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:49,040
Speaker 1: meet friends. I've slowly become more depressed and my ADHD

593
00:36:49,120 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 1: symptoms have gotten much worse. My partner expressed their concerns

594
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 1: with me on how I had started lacking on giving

595
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:59,240
Speaker 1: them the energy to show my appreciation and love for them. Ah.

596
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 1: I would have ideas for dates and want to get

597
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:03,239
Speaker 1: them flowers and anything extra to show appreciation, but I

598
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:05,400
Speaker 1: would always fail to follow through with it, feeling that

599
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 1: ADHD paralysis. Yeah, it took me until recently, when the

600
00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:12,320
Speaker 1: weather has gotten a bit better, to really get it

601
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:13,879
Speaker 1: into my head and try to get on top of it.

602
00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:16,279
Speaker 1: I started to make a little bit of progress and

603
00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:19,840
Speaker 1: I scheduled therapy and medication treatment. The day before my evaluation,

604
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 1: my partner told me they had given me too much

605
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:25,880
Speaker 1: of themselves. I made them feel like they weren't worth

606
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:29,439
Speaker 1: me changing for them and their patients had run out.

607
00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:31,799
Speaker 1: They say they still love me, but that they need

608
00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:34,480
Speaker 1: to have energy for themselves, as they'd really lost many

609
00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:36,880
Speaker 1: aspects of their life trying to keep the relationship together.

610
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:42,640
Speaker 1: And I could see it too. Getting a full diagnosis

611
00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:45,040
Speaker 1: the next day, I definitely have had ADHD my whole

612
00:37:45,080 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 1: life with massive symptoms, and many of them correlate to

613
00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:51,160
Speaker 1: why I couldn't keep up with life. Our least ends

614
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 1: in fall and at the same time, were both starting college.

615
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:55,960
Speaker 1: I'm hoping to make friends there and work on myself

616
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:57,839
Speaker 1: to try to get back with them. I love them

617
00:37:57,840 --> 00:38:01,080
Speaker 1: so much. I wait, hold on, let me backcheck this

618
00:38:01,239 --> 00:38:03,319
Speaker 1: are these sends in the fall? We're both starting college?

619
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Speaker 1: Are we sends in the fall? At the same time

620
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:07,360
Speaker 1: we're both starting college? Wait? How old are You're? Not?

621
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Speaker 1: Like eighteen? Are you? Because anytime I only say this

622
00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:18,720
Speaker 1: because like, are you? Maybe it's like a grad school

623
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:20,840
Speaker 1: or something, but I don't know what. I'm going to

624
00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:24,000
Speaker 1: assume that you're not just eighteen, because if you're eighteen

625
00:38:24,040 --> 00:38:26,920
Speaker 1: and you're getting married, and shit, you're already. This is

626
00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 1: this whole thing is good. Our least ends in the

627
00:38:31,120 --> 00:38:32,919
Speaker 1: fall and at the same time, we're both starting college.

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00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 1: I'm helping to make friends there and work on myself

629
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:36,480
Speaker 1: to try to get back with them. I love them

630
00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:38,040
Speaker 1: so much. I just hope I can get back on

631
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 1: track with my mental health and have the ability to

632
00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:42,400
Speaker 1: not only be a responsible adult, but give them the

633
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:45,600
Speaker 1: love they deserved. I love the podcast People with the Computer.

634
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:48,239
Speaker 1: Go buy your partner flowers. Go buy yourself flowers. You

635
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:54,320
Speaker 1: deserve it. Okay, I have a bunch of thoughts about this. Uh.

636
00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:56,279
Speaker 1: First of all, and I'm telling you that this is

637
00:38:56,320 --> 00:39:00,080
Speaker 1: incredibly new because I actually, I literally you've caught me

638
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:05,720
Speaker 1: on like the the You've caught me in the middle, Jalen.

639
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 1: You've caught me in the middle of me uh getting

640
00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:16,120
Speaker 1: my shit together with my ADHD. So again, let me

641
00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 1: ponder this. First of all, I I mean you, I

642
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 1: think I think you're approaching this and actually a pretty

643
00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 1: uh mature way. You know. That's fucking painful, dude, It's

644
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:36,600
Speaker 1: really it's painful, uh, because I'm sure that when uh,

645
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:40,920
Speaker 1: your fiance or whatever tells you that they still love you,

646
00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:43,480
Speaker 1: I'm sure they mean it. I'm sure they do love you.

647
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:47,560
Speaker 1: There's they're all the fucking time. There are situations where

648
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:51,560
Speaker 1: like you you you love somebody, but you know that

649
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:56,279
Speaker 1: the relationship won't work. That's like a that's like a

650
00:39:56,400 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 1: very adult breakup. You know. It's not not every breakup

651
00:40:02,160 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 1: is like oh I hate them, or oh I'm out

652
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:06,160
Speaker 1: of love with them, or like it's a messy thing.

653
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 1: A lot of fucking breakups are just like, you know,

654
00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 1: two people share a deep love for each other and

655
00:40:11,360 --> 00:40:13,880
Speaker 1: deep connection with each other, but that deep love and

656
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:18,640
Speaker 1: deep connection is incompatible with so many other aspects of

657
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:22,160
Speaker 1: uh their life and their future and their goals, and

658
00:40:22,200 --> 00:40:27,200
Speaker 1: so they just fucking don't. You can't hack it. So

659
00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 1: I get it, the whole thing. I I don't. I

660
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:34,360
Speaker 1: here's the thing, Jalen. First of all, if you're like eighteen,

661
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:37,520
Speaker 1: you just graduated from high school and you're starting college,

662
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 1: to please just please forget about this woman, you know

663
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 1: what I mean? Like, you're you have I don't. I

664
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:45,680
Speaker 1: don't really know where you are in your life with

665
00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 1: this shit. But if you have a lease, I assume

666
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:53,120
Speaker 1: you're like. But if you're your lease ends in the

667
00:40:53,239 --> 00:40:56,520
Speaker 1: you've got an apartment with your fiance and you're moving states,

668
00:40:56,560 --> 00:41:01,840
Speaker 1: you've got to be older than eighteen or maybe like nineteen.

669
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:05,640
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. I could see you

670
00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:10,279
Speaker 1: being older than eighteen, but younger than twenty. The fact

671
00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:16,360
Speaker 1: that you're starting college you're pretty young, So I you

672
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:18,800
Speaker 1: know what you know? All right? Fine, I'll do advice,

673
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 1: although well, okay, maybe this isn't advice. It's the results

674
00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:28,600
Speaker 1: of my pondering. The results of my pondering are that,

675
00:41:31,239 --> 00:41:34,719
Speaker 1: oh fuck, can you guys hear that there's a lawnmower.

676
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:37,359
Speaker 1: Do you guys hear that lawnmower? I don't know who

677
00:41:37,400 --> 00:41:39,160
Speaker 1: I'm not live, I don't know who I'm talking to

678
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:43,400
Speaker 1: this about. By the time I get the answer of

679
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 1: whether or not you guys could hear that lawnmower, this

680
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:47,600
Speaker 1: podcast will already be up and I won't be able

681
00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:49,800
Speaker 1: to do anything about it. But let me know in

682
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:51,840
Speaker 1: the comments if you could hear that lawnmower, just so

683
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 1: I know for the future not to also not do

684
00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 1: anything about it and just put it in the podcast. Okay.

685
00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 1: The results of my pondering are that I, Jalen, I

686
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:05,920
Speaker 1: understand that you're very young, probably and you very much

687
00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:15,520
Speaker 1: love this person, but like ideally you want to get better.

688
00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:17,759
Speaker 1: First of all, I believe that you can get better

689
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:22,799
Speaker 1: and that you can like take control of your ADHD

690
00:42:23,160 --> 00:42:29,120
Speaker 1: and like build a fulfilling life. I most of my

691
00:42:29,120 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 1: my you know, my I have AHD, most of my

692
00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:35,960
Speaker 1: very successful most of my friends who are like very

693
00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:39,319
Speaker 1: successful also have like pretty fucking crazy ADHD. Can you

694
00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 1: guys hear this lawnmower? Or am my insane? I'm gonna assume

695
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:46,960
Speaker 1: you can't hear it because it's far away. But a

696
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:49,279
Speaker 1: microphone is like ears, so if I can hear something,

697
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:54,200
Speaker 1: then the okay, anyway, I'm gonna be optimistic for you

698
00:42:54,239 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 1: that you can like overcome ADHD symptoms, you know, especially

699
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 1: if you haven't. Okay, Yeah, I started to make a

700
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:06,719
Speaker 1: little bit of progress. I scheduled therapy and medication treatment. Okay,

701
00:43:06,920 --> 00:43:12,680
Speaker 1: sick because he's if you've never done that before, that's

702
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:17,960
Speaker 1: actually great because it means that you can figure out.

703
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:21,200
Speaker 1: It means that, like, this is an untreated thing that

704
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:28,000
Speaker 1: you're now gonna put effort into figuring out, which is great.

705
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:34,880
Speaker 1: So I may, I hope, make the fucking uh, but

706
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 1: make it about Make it about yourself, man, Not like

707
00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:39,360
Speaker 1: this lady, because who knows what this lady's about to

708
00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:42,040
Speaker 1: go do? Who? Who knows who? Who? Who knows this lady?

709
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 1: This lady is moving on with her life. She has

710
00:43:48,239 --> 00:43:50,359
Speaker 1: this feeling where she's like, I have spent a lot

711
00:43:50,360 --> 00:43:56,440
Speaker 1: of time and energy. Uh, I've put a lot of

712
00:43:56,440 --> 00:43:59,600
Speaker 1: time and energy into this guy. Uh, And she did

713
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:03,840
Speaker 1: that big. She loves you and loved you and probably

714
00:44:03,880 --> 00:44:07,520
Speaker 1: still does. Honestly, it was probably hard for her, but

715
00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:09,279
Speaker 1: she can't do it. But she also loves herself and

716
00:44:09,320 --> 00:44:13,840
Speaker 1: she can't uh do it anymore, you know, so she's

717
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:18,719
Speaker 1: she's going on to make whatever decisions are, you know,

718
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:24,600
Speaker 1: work for her. So, uh, the results of my pondering

719
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:27,359
Speaker 1: are that you kind of got to do the same

720
00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 1: thing for yourself. Like you know, you're get you're gonna

721
00:44:31,320 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 1: get your You're trying to get your shit. You're trying

722
00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:34,840
Speaker 1: to get your shit together because you want your shit together,

723
00:44:34,880 --> 00:44:42,959
Speaker 1: not because you want to get this lady back. I also,

724
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 1: I also really truly feel like you're like super fucking young,

725
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:51,720
Speaker 1: and that this you're you, you're better, honestly, dude, Honestly,

726
00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 1: if you're like if you're like twenty one and you're

727
00:44:55,640 --> 00:44:58,759
Speaker 1: like and if you're twenty one, if you're if I'm

728
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:00,960
Speaker 1: gonna guess whatever, maybe like twenty if you're like twenty

729
00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:09,759
Speaker 1: one and your fiance broke up with you because of

730
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:13,759
Speaker 1: your ADHD, and and this is the catalyst of like

731
00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:17,319
Speaker 1: getting your ADHD shit under control. This is like the

732
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:20,480
Speaker 1: best thing that could ever happen to you. I think,

733
00:45:21,040 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 1: you know, having a catalyst to be like, oh, yeah,

734
00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:26,000
Speaker 1: there was a problem this whole time, and I need

735
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:28,879
Speaker 1: to fix it. So this could be a great thing.

736
00:45:30,560 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 1: That's I mean, I don't I'm saying that many miles

737
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:37,279
Speaker 1: away reading this email without being in the emotions of it.

738
00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:42,279
Speaker 1: But maybe that maybe that's the perspective you want. Maybe

739
00:45:42,320 --> 00:45:44,840
Speaker 1: you want the perspective of somebody reading this with no emotions,

740
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:47,759
Speaker 1: without you know, having being in the emotions of it.

741
00:45:47,840 --> 00:45:51,480
Speaker 1: But yeah, that's that's what I think about all that shit. Wow,

742
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 1: it's been forty six minutes. We're still and we're going.

743
00:45:54,640 --> 00:46:03,840
Speaker 1: We're potting, We're potting it up. Let's see here. Okay,

744
00:46:04,560 --> 00:46:10,920
Speaker 1: this is a confession for therapy Gecko parentheses. I promise

745
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:15,440
Speaker 1: I'm normal. Hey, GEK, huge fan. I listen and re

746
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:18,000
Speaker 1: listen to your podcasts so often. Thank you for what

747
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:22,840
Speaker 1: you do. Thank you, Ross. This guy's name is Ross.

748
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:28,440
Speaker 1: I would appreciate some advice on a rather unique issue

749
00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:32,560
Speaker 1: I've been experiencing. I will ponder your issue. I don't

750
00:46:32,600 --> 00:46:34,400
Speaker 1: know if I can advise it, but I will ponder it.

751
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:37,040
Speaker 1: I am a twenty six year old man, and I

752
00:46:37,080 --> 00:46:40,240
Speaker 1: have developed a rather unique fetish. I have a fetish

753
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:49,719
Speaker 1: for when girls are sick with cold or flu. What

754
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:56,840
Speaker 1: the fuck, man, I've never I've never heard of that

755
00:46:56,880 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 1: in my life. I feel like, you know, I've been

756
00:47:03,239 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 1: on the you know, besides just doing this podcast, I've

757
00:47:06,200 --> 00:47:11,239
Speaker 1: browsed the internet for many wasted hours, and yet this

758
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:16,320
Speaker 1: is the first time I'm hearing of this fetish. Okay,

759
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:18,360
Speaker 1: I have a fetish for when girls are sick with

760
00:47:18,480 --> 00:47:21,640
Speaker 1: cold slash flu. This is, for the most part, been

761
00:47:21,680 --> 00:47:24,480
Speaker 1: relatively healthy for me, as I have always been able

762
00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:31,080
Speaker 1: to find women who are willing to indulge this ridiculous desire. Dude,

763
00:47:31,239 --> 00:47:35,359
Speaker 1: what does that mean? What the fuck does that mean?

764
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:40,200
Speaker 1: Does that are you like? Are you like like? Are

765
00:47:40,239 --> 00:47:45,319
Speaker 1: these like? Are you convincing women to like intentionally get

766
00:47:45,480 --> 00:47:48,840
Speaker 1: sick for you? Now that I am single, I have

767
00:47:48,880 --> 00:47:51,279
Speaker 1: found that my fetishistic nature has been leading to other

768
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:55,720
Speaker 1: problems in my life. In the bedroom, asking the women

769
00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:59,560
Speaker 1: I've been with to sniff or rub their nose has

770
00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:02,040
Speaker 1: never been a major issue because, of course, this is

771
00:48:02,080 --> 00:48:05,160
Speaker 1: a very easy thing to do. Okay, So you're this

772
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:07,839
Speaker 1: is okay, So you all right, okay, all right, this

773
00:48:07,880 --> 00:48:12,839
Speaker 1: is less uh weird than I thought that You're you

774
00:48:12,960 --> 00:48:17,839
Speaker 1: want women to act as if they have a coal

775
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:24,080
Speaker 1: and like like fake sneeze and fake cough. Can you

776
00:48:24,120 --> 00:48:28,680
Speaker 1: fake cough? Can you fake cough. You can only really

777
00:48:28,760 --> 00:48:33,440
Speaker 1: real cough. You can go chew. How do you fake snees?

778
00:48:33,760 --> 00:48:38,200
Speaker 1: But you can't fake cough. I still coughed, even though

779
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:40,239
Speaker 1: I mean, you can cough intentionally, but you can't like

780
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:47,520
Speaker 1: fake a cough. Okay, blah blah blah blah blah uh

781
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:49,600
Speaker 1: in the bedroom asking the women I've been with to

782
00:48:49,640 --> 00:48:51,920
Speaker 1: sniffer rub their nose. It has ever been a major issue, because,

783
00:48:51,920 --> 00:48:54,319
Speaker 1: of course this is very easy to do, and my

784
00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:58,600
Speaker 1: enthusiasm for seeing that usually leads to better sex for

785
00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:02,760
Speaker 1: us both. But I have began to experience some issues

786
00:49:02,800 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 1: with it outside of the bedroom. Now. Whenever I am

787
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:10,000
Speaker 1: with a woman who has a cold, I instinctively become

788
00:49:10,239 --> 00:49:15,840
Speaker 1: overly affectionate, offering to help them with things, complimenting them, etc.

789
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 1: But the moment they're well again, this altruism goes away.

790
00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:22,480
Speaker 1: This ridiculous fault in my brain has been causing a

791
00:49:22,480 --> 00:49:24,880
Speaker 1: lot of stress, because, as funny as it may sound,

792
00:49:24,960 --> 00:49:30,120
Speaker 1: it's incredibly frustrating to become temporarily infatuated with people you

793
00:49:30,360 --> 00:49:34,920
Speaker 1: barely know, just because they happen to be unwell. I

794
00:49:35,120 --> 00:49:39,120
Speaker 1: meditate and exercise and avoid porn, and avoid porn to

795
00:49:39,239 --> 00:49:42,000
Speaker 1: manage this ridiculous fetish. But I was wondering if the

796
00:49:42,040 --> 00:49:45,200
Speaker 1: gek himself could give me some advice. Well, this one

797
00:49:45,239 --> 00:49:53,839
Speaker 1: definitely is a ponderer more than an advisor, I cure.

798
00:49:53,920 --> 00:49:56,520
Speaker 1: I wish we could talk on the phone. You got

799
00:49:56,520 --> 00:49:58,520
Speaker 1: to call into the podcast because there's so many more

800
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:04,000
Speaker 1: questions I have about this temporary Well here's it. I'm

801
00:50:04,200 --> 00:50:09,280
Speaker 1: temporarily infatuated with people I barely know. Why are you?

802
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:16,840
Speaker 1: I in what situations are you with people who you

803
00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:21,600
Speaker 1: barely know who are also sick? Because you in most

804
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:25,520
Speaker 1: situations where you're with people, most of the situations where

805
00:50:25,560 --> 00:50:28,319
Speaker 1: you would be around people that you barely know are

806
00:50:28,360 --> 00:50:35,040
Speaker 1: situations where people who are sick avoid. So is I mean,

807
00:50:35,160 --> 00:50:38,600
Speaker 1: is this like is it like ladies who are like

808
00:50:39,360 --> 00:50:44,759
Speaker 1: on Tinder or something and you like they're they're sick,

809
00:50:44,800 --> 00:50:46,440
Speaker 1: but they meet up with you anyway. I have no

810
00:50:46,520 --> 00:50:48,640
Speaker 1: advice for this at all. This is this is I

811
00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:59,000
Speaker 1: appreciate the vulnerability that you have in sharing this. It's advice. No,

812
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:03,200
Speaker 1: I the whole like having like a you know, it's

813
00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:06,880
Speaker 1: weird like these these are you don't control. I empathize

814
00:51:06,880 --> 00:51:08,720
Speaker 1: with you on this like thing of like you don't.

815
00:51:09,200 --> 00:51:13,040
Speaker 1: You don't really control what you're attracted to. That's that's

816
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:17,239
Speaker 1: the thing. You don't have control. So if you're like,

817
00:51:17,520 --> 00:51:22,000
Speaker 1: fucking if this is your thing and you're like, I

818
00:51:22,040 --> 00:51:25,080
Speaker 1: am just attray. I find women who have a cold

819
00:51:25,160 --> 00:51:28,799
Speaker 1: or flu attractive. That's just this is just something I

820
00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:31,840
Speaker 1: think you were just cursed with. I don't know if

821
00:51:32,320 --> 00:51:37,359
Speaker 1: you can beat it. I'm not an expert on these things.

822
00:51:37,680 --> 00:51:44,520
Speaker 1: There's people who are like like sex fetish therapist people.

823
00:51:45,200 --> 00:51:49,200
Speaker 1: I mean, go talk to one of them, because I

824
00:51:49,200 --> 00:51:51,239
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know if like fetishes can be

825
00:51:51,239 --> 00:51:57,879
Speaker 1: beaten or like, uh controlled. Most of the time they're

826
00:51:57,920 --> 00:52:04,160
Speaker 1: just surrendered to. So yeah, I don't know this. Go

827
00:52:04,200 --> 00:52:06,799
Speaker 1: talk to like a sex therapist or some shit. Maybe

828
00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:08,839
Speaker 1: they could give you, Maybe they could give you a

829
00:52:08,920 --> 00:52:15,919
Speaker 1: real perspective on this. I wish I had a joke.

830
00:52:17,840 --> 00:52:24,080
Speaker 1: Let me think, Let me think of a joke, something

831
00:52:24,120 --> 00:52:29,439
Speaker 1: about like a sneeze is as good as an orgasm?

832
00:52:29,480 --> 00:52:32,640
Speaker 1: Do I wish? I wish I had jokes. I don't

833
00:52:32,680 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 1: have many jokes. I'll try, I'll try. I'll come up

834
00:52:35,960 --> 00:52:44,279
Speaker 1: with jokes later. Okay, all right, okay, uh This is

835
00:52:44,280 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 1: from Marco subject line chat gpt as a therapist. Hey, ghek,

836
00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:51,680
Speaker 1: I started using chat scheapt as a therapist. It's actually

837
00:52:51,680 --> 00:52:54,080
Speaker 1: working pretty well. The worst part I had with therapy

838
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:56,040
Speaker 1: was actually doing the stuff that we talked about. With

839
00:52:56,160 --> 00:52:58,520
Speaker 1: chat cheapt, I can go back and read the output

840
00:52:58,920 --> 00:53:02,160
Speaker 1: to get motivated again. I can use it anytime I want,

841
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:05,920
Speaker 1: and it's free. Did you ever try it? Thanks Marco?

842
00:53:08,920 --> 00:53:13,960
Speaker 1: So Okay, first of all, I actually, like, okay, before

843
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Speaker 1: hold on, I'm gonna get into an argument with myself

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Speaker 1: about like we all fucking know the whole uh uh,

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Speaker 1: you know, like pros and cons of AI type of shit.

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00:53:23,960 --> 00:53:29,839
Speaker 1: But on a personal level, me Lyle, I, I use

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00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:34,680
Speaker 1: chat gpt uh for this kind of shit all the time.

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Speaker 1: I do. Like what I do is I journal and

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Speaker 1: then I copy and paste it into chat geapt and

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00:53:41,640 --> 00:53:45,600
Speaker 1: then chatchapt like kind of spits back reflections to me.

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00:53:46,200 --> 00:53:48,960
Speaker 1: And I know, I know it's like a controversial practice

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00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:52,319
Speaker 1: and I'm I don't have thoughts about that, but I

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00:53:52,360 --> 00:53:56,160
Speaker 1: do I do personally. I personally I do this, you know,

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00:53:56,239 --> 00:53:58,520
Speaker 1: I do this like I use it every day. I

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00:53:58,600 --> 00:54:02,319
Speaker 1: use it, you know, I wasalking about like you know

856
00:54:02,440 --> 00:54:07,719
Speaker 1: with like uh uh like like I'm trying to work

857
00:54:07,760 --> 00:54:10,239
Speaker 1: on like ADHD shit, and so I'll be talking to

858
00:54:10,280 --> 00:54:12,000
Speaker 1: it and I'll be like, you know, I have like

859
00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:14,720
Speaker 1: an actual psycho. You know, you should like you should

860
00:54:14,760 --> 00:54:17,880
Speaker 1: have an actual psychiatrist. You should have an actual therapist.

861
00:54:17,920 --> 00:54:22,120
Speaker 1: You shouldn't like chatchept, shouldn't like be replacing these things.

862
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:26,239
Speaker 1: And by the way, by the way, just to like, uh,

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00:54:26,719 --> 00:54:29,600
Speaker 1: these are just expressions of how I'm living my own life.

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Speaker 1: These are not endorsements of like, uh uh well, I

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Speaker 1: did do an ad read for chatchept, which I guess

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00:54:37,040 --> 00:54:39,600
Speaker 1: is literally an endorsement, But I mean, I I fuck,

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Speaker 1: I do I do endorse I like chatche using. I

868
00:54:45,520 --> 00:54:47,799
Speaker 1: like chatchept as a therapist. Fucking I'm gonna just say

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Speaker 1: I like it as a therapist. I use it as

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Speaker 1: a therapist. I get why people are freaked out. But

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00:54:55,760 --> 00:54:58,040
Speaker 1: here's the fucking thing, man, here's the fucking thing. It

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00:54:58,280 --> 00:55:03,279
Speaker 1: is like p people like, real therapy is just so

873
00:55:03,640 --> 00:55:09,080
Speaker 1: goddamn like, there's ways to get it. There's ways to

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00:55:09,120 --> 00:55:13,120
Speaker 1: get it. If you're like financially struggling, there's shit like

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00:55:13,239 --> 00:55:20,719
Speaker 1: going to there's shit like going to uh like a

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00:55:20,920 --> 00:55:24,279
Speaker 1: like a college campus or whatever. And you can like

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00:55:24,360 --> 00:55:31,439
Speaker 1: work with psych students. There's probably clinics that will help

878
00:55:31,440 --> 00:55:35,319
Speaker 1: you for free. But oh but like overall, uh, it's

879
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:40,040
Speaker 1: really hard for a lot of people to get therapy

880
00:55:40,120 --> 00:55:42,359
Speaker 1: without having to pay. Like I mean, god, damn dude

881
00:55:42,360 --> 00:55:44,400
Speaker 1: in New York City a therapist, but that insurance is

882
00:55:44,440 --> 00:55:48,440
Speaker 1: like two hundred and twenty dollars for like forty five minutes.

883
00:55:48,480 --> 00:55:51,880
Speaker 1: Like it's it's it's insane. And not only that is

884
00:55:51,960 --> 00:55:55,719
Speaker 1: like you when you schedule an appointment, like you can

885
00:55:55,760 --> 00:55:56,960
Speaker 1: be like in a like you can be in like

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00:55:57,000 --> 00:56:01,040
Speaker 1: a crazy like like like can you get like like

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00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:03,040
Speaker 1: you get me going crazy? Right? And you'd be like,

888
00:56:03,080 --> 00:56:05,839
Speaker 1: I need to fucking talk to someone right now. And

889
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:07,879
Speaker 1: so you call a therapist and they're like, all right,

890
00:56:08,000 --> 00:56:10,280
Speaker 1: I had I can schedule you in in two weeks,

891
00:56:10,320 --> 00:56:13,200
Speaker 1: and I'm like, bitch, I'm fucking going crazy right now.

892
00:56:13,320 --> 00:56:15,000
Speaker 1: I don't know what the fuck I'm gonna thinking two weeks.

893
00:56:15,000 --> 00:56:16,759
Speaker 1: I don't know how about feel in two weeks. That's

894
00:56:16,800 --> 00:56:20,759
Speaker 1: a different guy. This guy right now needs to you know.

895
00:56:21,520 --> 00:56:28,759
Speaker 1: And so look for me personally, I like this is

896
00:56:28,800 --> 00:56:31,880
Speaker 1: just this is purely an expression of my own life

897
00:56:32,440 --> 00:56:37,160
Speaker 1: and why I like the tool is. You can use

898
00:56:37,200 --> 00:56:40,239
Speaker 1: it anytime you want. You can use it at three

899
00:56:40,239 --> 00:56:48,120
Speaker 1: o'clock in the morning. It's free. And I like what

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Speaker 1: it has to I like what it tells me. It

901
00:56:49,960 --> 00:56:53,359
Speaker 1: tells and I'm like and I and I say, shit, like, dude,

902
00:56:53,360 --> 00:56:55,920
Speaker 1: can you explain this to me from like a brain

903
00:56:56,080 --> 00:57:00,560
Speaker 1: chemical perspective? You know? Can you give me like offs

904
00:57:01,040 --> 00:57:04,680
Speaker 1: to read up on who who philosophy wise could help

905
00:57:04,719 --> 00:57:06,439
Speaker 1: me with that? Like it it's it's it's a good

906
00:57:06,480 --> 00:57:10,399
Speaker 1: it's a good tool for this. I don't look, look,

907
00:57:11,480 --> 00:57:14,120
Speaker 1: I have no idea what some people are like, don't

908
00:57:14,120 --> 00:57:20,720
Speaker 1: ever put anything personal in it, because who knows where

909
00:57:20,720 --> 00:57:22,800
Speaker 1: it's going. And I guess I guess, yeah, it's being

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00:57:22,880 --> 00:57:25,600
Speaker 1: used to train the thing. But uh, this is just

911
00:57:25,920 --> 00:57:32,080
Speaker 1: again an expression of how the tool has genuinely personally

912
00:57:32,120 --> 00:57:34,160
Speaker 1: been very helpful to me in my life and apparently

913
00:57:34,200 --> 00:57:45,000
Speaker 1: into the life of this this uh emailer. But yeah,

914
00:57:45,040 --> 00:57:48,240
Speaker 1: I think it's I think it should be like supplementary.

915
00:57:48,240 --> 00:57:49,840
Speaker 1: I don't think you should like use it to replace

916
00:57:50,200 --> 00:57:53,080
Speaker 1: a therapist. But it works well. I mean, like here,

917
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Speaker 1: let me go to my fucking chatchy BT shit, what

918
00:57:57,160 --> 00:57:59,520
Speaker 1: did I just do? Also, I don't know. Part of

919
00:57:59,560 --> 00:58:08,080
Speaker 1: me is like like yeah, like I'll fucking be like, yeah,

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00:58:08,120 --> 00:58:10,960
Speaker 1: I use it. I use it a lot for like

921
00:58:12,040 --> 00:58:15,040
Speaker 1: helping me with my Like like today I was like,

922
00:58:15,680 --> 00:58:18,360
Speaker 1: can you recommend me? I kind of I kind of

923
00:58:18,440 --> 00:58:20,520
Speaker 1: use it. The way the chat cept is kind of becoming.

924
00:58:20,560 --> 00:58:24,240
Speaker 1: It's becoming like the new Google search. It's kind of

925
00:58:24,280 --> 00:58:29,920
Speaker 1: the evolution of the of the Google search where I'm like,

926
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Speaker 1: you know, tell me about this thing where normally people

927
00:58:35,480 --> 00:58:39,959
Speaker 1: would just take their whole question and throw it into

928
00:58:40,240 --> 00:58:42,040
Speaker 1: and throw it into Google, where it's like now they

929
00:58:42,040 --> 00:58:44,440
Speaker 1: can do it into chat chaput and it kind of goes,

930
00:58:45,040 --> 00:58:53,000
Speaker 1: uh goes into like you know, searches for shit. Anyway,

931
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Speaker 1: that's just that, that's just my experience and apparently this

932
00:58:59,480 --> 00:59:04,560
Speaker 1: guy's experien PS. I have a loud stomping upstairs and neighbor.

933
00:59:04,600 --> 00:59:11,000
Speaker 1: How should I resolve that? Ask them politely to stop

934
00:59:11,080 --> 00:59:22,280
Speaker 1: doing that? Okay, all right, this is from Kayla. Uh

935
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Speaker 1: there's no subject. Hey, Gek, I just wanted to say

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Speaker 1: I'm such a fan of your show and happy I

937
00:59:27,280 --> 00:59:31,480
Speaker 1: found it. I recently got into the dental hygiene program. Previously,

938
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Speaker 1: my advisor said how I was wasn't not going to

939
00:59:36,920 --> 00:59:39,760
Speaker 1: get in the Previously my advisor said, how I okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm gona assume this is a TYPEO. Previously my advisor said,

941
00:59:42,440 --> 00:59:44,240
Speaker 1: how I was not going to get into the program

942
00:59:44,280 --> 00:59:46,200
Speaker 1: for three to five years. So this is such a

943
00:59:46,240 --> 00:59:48,560
Speaker 1: huge change of plans for me. I have a trip

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00:59:48,600 --> 00:59:51,160
Speaker 1: scheduled for this October to go to Maine. I don't

945
00:59:51,200 --> 00:59:53,520
Speaker 1: want to cancel, and I mean some of the stuff

946
00:59:53,640 --> 00:59:58,240
Speaker 1: I have already paid for is refundable, is unrefundable. The

947
00:59:58,520 --> 01:00:03,160
Speaker 1: program is super competitive and overall hard. Is it bad?

948
01:00:03,200 --> 01:00:04,840
Speaker 1: I still want to go on this week long trip

949
01:00:04,880 --> 01:00:07,560
Speaker 1: and bite the bullet? Or should I call it off? Dude?

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01:00:07,680 --> 01:00:10,520
Speaker 1: Not wanting to fall behind. I haven't been on vacation

951
01:00:10,680 --> 01:00:13,640
Speaker 1: in so long, and not getting and getting not the

952
01:00:13,720 --> 01:00:17,160
Speaker 1: program was deaf not in my Okay, well, there's a

953
01:00:17,160 --> 01:00:20,200
Speaker 1: bunch of spelling errors in this or not typos. Okay,

954
01:00:20,200 --> 01:00:22,080
Speaker 1: I haven't been on a vacation in so long and

955
01:00:22,120 --> 01:00:24,560
Speaker 1: getting the program was deaf. Not on my list of things.

956
01:00:25,920 --> 01:00:27,600
Speaker 1: Very grateful it is there, though, But should I stay

957
01:00:27,640 --> 01:00:35,760
Speaker 1: or should I go? Oh? You should probably uh, you

958
01:00:35,760 --> 01:00:39,200
Speaker 1: should probably not go to man, I'm gonna that's yeah,

959
01:00:39,240 --> 01:00:42,480
Speaker 1: that's that's the result of my pondering is that if

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01:00:42,520 --> 01:00:45,600
Speaker 1: you just got into a fucking thing that is super

961
01:00:45,600 --> 01:00:51,440
Speaker 1: competitive that you've been dying to go go into, I

962
01:00:51,520 --> 01:00:53,760
Speaker 1: do not think. Yeah, I think I think falling behind

963
01:00:53,800 --> 01:00:58,000
Speaker 1: for a week is not a good idea. I mean,

964
01:00:58,040 --> 01:00:59,240
Speaker 1: you can always do that, you can always do the

965
01:00:59,280 --> 01:01:07,320
Speaker 1: trip later, I would say, but I think it's would

966
01:01:07,360 --> 01:01:11,720
Speaker 1: be good to prioritize doing the program, especially because the

967
01:01:11,720 --> 01:01:14,240
Speaker 1: trip is like a very like short term thing and

968
01:01:14,280 --> 01:01:17,360
Speaker 1: you'll always be able to take more trips. This is

969
01:01:17,400 --> 01:01:25,000
Speaker 1: my thought about your life. Um let's see, this is

970
01:01:25,040 --> 01:01:32,280
Speaker 1: from Simon. Hey, Lyle, my name is Simon. Feel free

971
01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:34,880
Speaker 1: to give me any name you want. Okay, I'm gonna

972
01:01:34,880 --> 01:01:38,280
Speaker 1: call you Simon. The subject line is I keep being

973
01:01:38,320 --> 01:01:43,280
Speaker 1: disappointed by women with daddy issues. Okay. I'm a French

974
01:01:43,320 --> 01:01:47,480
Speaker 1: guy into arts and music. Love your expo idea, by

975
01:01:47,520 --> 01:01:50,360
Speaker 1: the way, thank you, And I keep having problem with

976
01:01:50,480 --> 01:01:54,120
Speaker 1: my relationships lately. Should I read this in a French accent? No? Sorry,

977
01:01:54,200 --> 01:01:56,160
Speaker 1: I'm gonna dump my boring life, but I feel like

978
01:01:56,200 --> 01:01:58,560
Speaker 1: you could help me out. I can ponder you, Simon.

979
01:01:58,640 --> 01:02:03,960
Speaker 1: I will ponder your situation. Okay. Well, oh, it's been

980
01:02:04,000 --> 01:02:08,000
Speaker 1: an hour already. Look at that. Well, to get straight

981
01:02:08,160 --> 01:02:10,000
Speaker 1: to it. In my love life, I tend to end

982
01:02:10,080 --> 01:02:13,440
Speaker 1: up with more alternative kind of women, since I'm kind

983
01:02:13,520 --> 01:02:19,040
Speaker 1: of alternative myself, but having somewhat of a fatherly figure

984
01:02:19,360 --> 01:02:23,280
Speaker 1: by being a bigger guy with a movie dad bod,

985
01:02:23,520 --> 01:02:26,120
Speaker 1: kind of fat, kind of buff, and by being very

986
01:02:26,160 --> 01:02:28,360
Speaker 1: caring and nice with a thick beard. Okay, so you

987
01:02:28,520 --> 01:02:32,600
Speaker 1: have a fatherly vibe, is what you're telling me? Okay,

988
01:02:33,040 --> 01:02:35,880
Speaker 1: all of that to say, I literally only dated girls

989
01:02:35,960 --> 01:02:39,880
Speaker 1: with daddy issues and it always ended poorly. Where I

990
01:02:39,920 --> 01:02:42,080
Speaker 1: need help is that the only relationship I've been in

991
01:02:42,280 --> 01:02:45,440
Speaker 1: was with my first girlfriend, which was four years ago,

992
01:02:45,520 --> 01:02:49,240
Speaker 1: and I keep stumbling on her. She doesn't recognize me

993
01:02:49,320 --> 01:02:51,440
Speaker 1: since I changed a lot physically, but I feel like

994
01:02:51,440 --> 01:02:55,000
Speaker 1: if I had another chance with her, I would end up. Well,

995
01:02:55,640 --> 01:02:58,120
Speaker 1: should I respect her and leave her bee? Or should

996
01:02:58,120 --> 01:02:59,880
Speaker 1: I try to talk to her and see if I

997
01:03:00,040 --> 01:03:06,800
Speaker 1: can have another chance with her? Well, I mean, you

998
01:03:06,880 --> 01:03:09,400
Speaker 1: keep What do you mean by you keep stumbling on

999
01:03:09,760 --> 01:03:14,760
Speaker 1: her and she doesn't recognize you? What is that? Does it?

1000
01:03:14,840 --> 01:03:16,680
Speaker 1: When you say stumbling on her? Is that like like

1001
01:03:16,800 --> 01:03:20,480
Speaker 1: her shit comes up? Like in your like social media

1002
01:03:20,680 --> 01:03:22,840
Speaker 1: feeds or like, because if she if you're saying she

1003
01:03:22,840 --> 01:03:26,080
Speaker 1: doesn't recognize you, that means you guys have talked enough

1004
01:03:26,120 --> 01:03:31,720
Speaker 1: for her to say that, Bro, it's worth a hail Mary.

1005
01:03:31,960 --> 01:03:34,160
Speaker 1: What And let's unless if she like and let's unless

1006
01:03:34,160 --> 01:03:37,280
Speaker 1: if she was like unless if like when you guys

1007
01:03:37,280 --> 01:03:39,360
Speaker 1: broke up, she was like, never talk to me ever again,

1008
01:03:40,280 --> 01:03:42,600
Speaker 1: I don't really I don't know where this and I

1009
01:03:42,640 --> 01:03:45,800
Speaker 1: don't know where this relationship ended or how it ended.

1010
01:03:46,360 --> 01:03:49,760
Speaker 1: But if it didn't end in like a horrible way,

1011
01:03:50,600 --> 01:03:57,800
Speaker 1: there's no harm in having a conversation, right if it

1012
01:03:57,800 --> 01:04:01,320
Speaker 1: didn't end in a horrible way, know, fucking go for

1013
01:04:01,440 --> 01:04:03,800
Speaker 1: a go for a hail Mary, I mean, don't. I mean, look,

1014
01:04:03,840 --> 01:04:06,320
Speaker 1: I think maybe not a hail Mary in the sense

1015
01:04:06,320 --> 01:04:07,520
Speaker 1: of like, I've always been in love with you and

1016
01:04:07,560 --> 01:04:09,280
Speaker 1: I can't live without you, and you know, hell Mary,

1017
01:04:09,320 --> 01:04:11,680
Speaker 1: and like you know, Hey, how you doing? What's up?

1018
01:04:11,720 --> 01:04:15,200
Speaker 1: You want to talk on the phone, like what you've

1019
01:04:15,200 --> 01:04:17,040
Speaker 1: been up to? Like you like you like? I think

1020
01:04:17,040 --> 01:04:19,360
Speaker 1: it's very I think it's again, unless if she was

1021
01:04:19,400 --> 01:04:23,360
Speaker 1: like never talked to me ever again, I think it's fair,

1022
01:04:24,000 --> 01:04:29,960
Speaker 1: uh to just initiate like a normal ass conversation. Why

1023
01:04:30,000 --> 01:04:33,280
Speaker 1: not What does daddy issues mean? Does it just mean

1024
01:04:33,360 --> 01:04:36,280
Speaker 1: like she had a poor relationship with her dad or

1025
01:04:36,320 --> 01:04:41,920
Speaker 1: she just likes you know, I feel like, well, I

1026
01:04:41,960 --> 01:04:45,640
Speaker 1: feel like, uh, don't women in general like kind of

1027
01:04:45,680 --> 01:04:49,200
Speaker 1: like the daddy or like the like the fatherly arch like.

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01:04:49,240 --> 01:04:50,840
Speaker 1: I mean, women in general, I think are like just

1029
01:04:50,880 --> 01:04:55,480
Speaker 1: attracted to like competence, you know. So maybe it's just

1030
01:04:55,600 --> 01:05:03,840
Speaker 1: like you're, you know, you're you're a nice competent guy.

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01:05:04,000 --> 01:05:09,919
Speaker 1: I don't know, but yeah, fucking dear thing, go throw

1032
01:05:09,920 --> 01:05:16,600
Speaker 1: a hail mary. Why not? All right, let's see? Uh

1033
01:05:17,080 --> 01:05:20,680
Speaker 1: but yeah again with that hail Mary, don't be like, hey,

1034
01:05:20,840 --> 01:05:23,600
Speaker 1: wid you up, but just be like, hey, how you been?

1035
01:05:23,680 --> 01:05:25,840
Speaker 1: Can we talk? I just want to see how you're doing.

1036
01:05:25,920 --> 01:05:32,160
Speaker 1: See if it maybe naturally evolves from there, I suppose. Uh. Okay.

1037
01:05:32,320 --> 01:05:39,080
Speaker 1: This is from Laura subject line shrooms and the delusion

1038
01:05:39,120 --> 01:05:42,840
Speaker 1: that I'm incredibly interesting lyle. In my day to day life,

1039
01:05:42,880 --> 01:05:45,400
Speaker 1: I mostly keep to myself. But on Shrooms I become

1040
01:05:45,640 --> 01:05:50,360
Speaker 1: violently convinced that the world would benefit from a ten

1041
01:05:50,480 --> 01:05:54,640
Speaker 1: part docuseries about my life, and not because of any

1042
01:05:54,840 --> 01:05:58,840
Speaker 1: trauma or triumph or character arc. I mean the monotony,

1043
01:05:59,160 --> 01:06:02,480
Speaker 1: like how I organize my spice drawer. I live a

1044
01:06:02,680 --> 01:06:05,520
Speaker 1: very regular existence that everyone on earth can relate to.

1045
01:06:05,680 --> 01:06:08,360
Speaker 1: But I get this deeply persuasive feeling that if I

1046
01:06:08,400 --> 01:06:12,480
Speaker 1: could just explain myself well enough, people would be fascinated

1047
01:06:12,520 --> 01:06:16,240
Speaker 1: by me and I by them. Sure, I go down

1048
01:06:16,240 --> 01:06:18,680
Speaker 1: the usual rabbit holes about how we're all connected and

1049
01:06:18,720 --> 01:06:20,960
Speaker 1: life is amazing, YadA, YadA. But I also believe I

1050
01:06:21,000 --> 01:06:23,000
Speaker 1: could talk about how I store my cereal or how

1051
01:06:23,040 --> 01:06:25,959
Speaker 1: I avoid making eye contact with mannequins, and the world

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01:06:26,000 --> 01:06:28,960
Speaker 1: would lean in like I'm giving a ted talk. I

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01:06:29,000 --> 01:06:33,040
Speaker 1: also get weirdly emotional about handmade and thrifted things, like

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01:06:33,120 --> 01:06:35,360
Speaker 1: I'll stare at a vintage mug and think about the

1055
01:06:35,480 --> 01:06:37,720
Speaker 1: entire life it lived before ending up in my room.

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01:06:38,080 --> 01:06:42,600
Speaker 1: The craftsmanship, the stories, the tragedy of being microwaves safe

1057
01:06:42,720 --> 01:06:49,200
Speaker 1: yet so emotionally fragile. I spiral. So is this narcissism?

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01:06:49,560 --> 01:06:52,160
Speaker 1: Is it the mushrooms? Is it just being a person

1059
01:06:52,240 --> 01:06:55,280
Speaker 1: in the Internet era? Anyway? Thought I'd ask a lizard

1060
01:06:55,400 --> 01:07:00,480
Speaker 1: spiritually yours, Laura M I have. I have a lot

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01:07:00,480 --> 01:07:03,360
Speaker 1: of ponders on this. Uh. First of all, no, you're

1062
01:07:03,400 --> 01:07:07,680
Speaker 1: not an artist. All right, I'm gonna get I'm gonna

1063
01:07:07,720 --> 01:07:10,000
Speaker 1: get like a little woo woo kind of I'm gonna

1064
01:07:10,000 --> 01:07:11,640
Speaker 1: get like a little bit woo woo. And I'm trying

1065
01:07:11,680 --> 01:07:13,280
Speaker 1: not to get too woo woo because I don't want to. Like,

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01:07:13,960 --> 01:07:18,400
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I mean I think there is.

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01:07:19,440 --> 01:07:23,560
Speaker 1: I mean, human beings. Ye okay, I'm gonna get woo woo.

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01:07:23,680 --> 01:07:29,440
Speaker 1: Human beings contain this kind of innate, uh you know,

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01:07:29,560 --> 01:07:34,480
Speaker 1: creativity within them just by nature of like we all

1070
01:07:34,800 --> 01:07:37,440
Speaker 1: are are, like we all are. We know, two people

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01:07:37,480 --> 01:07:41,680
Speaker 1: have the exact same experience, even if, like you know,

1072
01:07:41,840 --> 01:07:44,280
Speaker 1: if they're fucking conjoined twins, they're still looking at it

1073
01:07:44,720 --> 01:07:49,560
Speaker 1: from a physically a different perspective because they're not sharing eyes. Right,

1074
01:07:50,240 --> 01:07:53,840
Speaker 1: So I think people have like an innate desire to

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01:07:54,960 --> 01:08:00,520
Speaker 1: share of themselves. Whether that and whether you have the

1076
01:08:00,560 --> 01:08:02,720
Speaker 1: innate desire to share of yourself by just like telling

1077
01:08:02,760 --> 01:08:07,240
Speaker 1: a friend about your day or by you know, creating

1078
01:08:07,240 --> 01:08:10,360
Speaker 1: some kind of art centered around your life experience. And

1079
01:08:10,400 --> 01:08:12,920
Speaker 1: you can really talk yourself out of doing it. And

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01:08:13,000 --> 01:08:15,280
Speaker 1: I've done this to myself or a lot. I've done

1081
01:08:15,320 --> 01:08:17,599
Speaker 1: this to myself a lot. You can talk yourself out

1082
01:08:17,600 --> 01:08:20,640
Speaker 1: of doing it by saying that you're not interesting. But

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01:08:22,479 --> 01:08:24,320
Speaker 1: I don't know what's the point of that, right, what's

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01:08:24,360 --> 01:08:26,639
Speaker 1: the point of that? I mean, even just reading this email,

1085
01:08:26,640 --> 01:08:32,920
Speaker 1: this is a nicely written email, Like, no, it's not mark.

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01:08:33,200 --> 01:08:37,920
Speaker 1: You're not a narcissist for wanting to create or wanting

1087
01:08:37,960 --> 01:08:43,280
Speaker 1: to I typically think narcissism. Narcissism is kind of like,

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01:08:45,160 --> 01:08:46,760
Speaker 1: I don't know why am I sitting here pretending like

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01:08:46,840 --> 01:08:49,880
Speaker 1: I know what narcissism? Let me google it? What really

1090
01:08:49,880 --> 01:08:51,800
Speaker 1: is narcism? Because that word kind of gets thrown around

1091
01:08:51,840 --> 01:08:57,880
Speaker 1: all the time. Narcissism is a personality trait characterized by

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01:08:57,880 --> 01:09:01,320
Speaker 1: an excessive sense of self importance, need for admiration, and

1093
01:09:01,360 --> 01:09:11,960
Speaker 1: a lack of empathy for others. I think that, Uh No,

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01:09:12,000 --> 01:09:16,799
Speaker 1: I don't think it's like narcissistic to want to express yourself.

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01:09:16,840 --> 01:09:20,600
Speaker 1: I think it's like pretty inherently human. And I'm not

1096
01:09:20,640 --> 01:09:23,920
Speaker 1: reading this is I'm not reading in you being a narcissist.

1097
01:09:23,920 --> 01:09:30,920
Speaker 1: I'm reading that you just want to express yourself good,

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01:09:31,040 --> 01:09:33,799
Speaker 1: become you know, become convinced that the world would benefit

1099
01:09:33,840 --> 01:09:35,320
Speaker 1: from what you have to say. Why the fuck not?

1100
01:09:35,680 --> 01:09:40,280
Speaker 1: That doesn't that doesn't that I can't see a universe

1101
01:09:40,280 --> 01:09:44,040
Speaker 1: where that's a bad thing, right, I mean, I think

1102
01:09:44,080 --> 01:09:45,559
Speaker 1: it only it's only become an only it was a

1103
01:09:45,560 --> 01:09:50,000
Speaker 1: bad thing if you like. Self importance is not like

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01:09:50,240 --> 01:09:54,120
Speaker 1: self importance and self esteem is not like I am

1105
01:09:54,200 --> 01:09:56,799
Speaker 1: so much better than everyone else and I am awesome

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01:09:57,080 --> 01:09:59,360
Speaker 1: and what I have to say is the most important

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01:09:59,400 --> 01:10:04,519
Speaker 1: thing ever. But it is like, like I think, I

1108
01:10:04,520 --> 01:10:07,280
Speaker 1: think like healthy self esteem is probably something of like

1109
01:10:08,200 --> 01:10:11,280
Speaker 1: I am confident that I am a human being of value.

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01:10:11,520 --> 01:10:15,080
Speaker 1: I am confident that I matter and the things I

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01:10:15,120 --> 01:10:22,040
Speaker 1: have to say matter, and you know, uh uh, and

1112
01:10:22,040 --> 01:10:28,559
Speaker 1: that confidence can complete this can completely coexist with also

1113
01:10:28,760 --> 01:10:31,280
Speaker 1: other people matter. Also what other people have to say

1114
01:10:31,360 --> 01:10:33,439
Speaker 1: is important. And you don't have to believe, by the way,

1115
01:10:33,439 --> 01:10:35,360
Speaker 1: you don't have to believe that every single person is

1116
01:10:35,360 --> 01:10:38,560
Speaker 1: important or that every single thing that everyone has to

1117
01:10:38,560 --> 01:10:44,120
Speaker 1: say is important, because that's that's an unrealistic belief to hold.

1118
01:10:45,400 --> 01:10:49,200
Speaker 1: But uh, I don't know, I don't know. This is man,

1119
01:10:49,479 --> 01:10:54,200
Speaker 1: this is like super this is super like therapy fucking bullshit.

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01:10:54,400 --> 01:10:57,880
Speaker 1: But it's like you, you are a person. So when

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01:10:57,920 --> 01:11:01,360
Speaker 1: you like if a friend came to you and was like, hey,

1122
01:11:01,360 --> 01:11:04,080
Speaker 1: I have this idea to do this thing, and you

1123
01:11:04,120 --> 01:11:08,880
Speaker 1: were like, you were like, Nah, that's stupid. Nobody gives

1124
01:11:08,880 --> 01:11:10,120
Speaker 1: a fuck what you have to say, and you're just

1125
01:11:10,200 --> 01:11:13,080
Speaker 1: kind of being a narcissist. So you shouldn't write a book,

1126
01:11:13,120 --> 01:11:16,120
Speaker 1: and you shouldn't make a thing. You'd be a fucking asshole,

1127
01:11:16,160 --> 01:11:18,840
Speaker 1: You'd be a you'd be a dick. Right, So when

1128
01:11:18,840 --> 01:11:20,479
Speaker 1: you do that to yourself, you're just being a dick

1129
01:11:20,680 --> 01:11:25,280
Speaker 1: to yourself. Damn, that makes perfect sense. People have been

1130
01:11:25,280 --> 01:11:28,599
Speaker 1: saying that a lot throughout to me, throughout my life,

1131
01:11:29,000 --> 01:11:30,840
Speaker 1: and it's clicking. It's starting to click a little bit.

1132
01:11:30,840 --> 01:11:32,240
Speaker 1: It's honestly clicking with me a little bit as I'm

1133
01:11:32,280 --> 01:11:34,360
Speaker 1: talking about it. This is not an original by the way,

1134
01:11:34,360 --> 01:11:38,880
Speaker 1: These are not original thoughts. These are ponders that are

1135
01:11:39,080 --> 01:11:47,400
Speaker 1: just kind of clicking clicking to me. Um, you know anyway, Uh,

1136
01:11:47,479 --> 01:11:50,200
Speaker 1: you should do so, go make a make a fucking TikTok.

1137
01:11:50,240 --> 01:11:53,280
Speaker 1: Why not write a book? Do something? You don't have

1138
01:11:53,400 --> 01:11:57,400
Speaker 1: a ten part docuseries? Make a ten part docuseries on

1139
01:11:57,439 --> 01:11:59,639
Speaker 1: your phone and your room, on your computer that used

1140
01:11:59,640 --> 01:12:04,160
Speaker 1: to write this email. Yeah, do so. I mean there's

1141
01:12:04,240 --> 01:12:06,240
Speaker 1: the we live in We live in a world where

1142
01:12:06,240 --> 01:12:08,519
Speaker 1: it's easier than ever to express yourself to the masses,

1143
01:12:08,600 --> 01:12:12,320
Speaker 1: So uh, take advantage of that for whatever the fuck

1144
01:12:12,320 --> 01:12:16,000
Speaker 1: it's worth. Before. No, I'm not gonna be a doomer.

1145
01:12:16,000 --> 01:12:20,439
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna end that with a doomer perspective. But

1146
01:12:20,560 --> 01:12:23,559
Speaker 1: uh yeah, go go do a thing. Also, a lot

1147
01:12:23,560 --> 01:12:26,680
Speaker 1: of the boring, you know, boring things are good to

1148
01:12:26,760 --> 01:12:30,800
Speaker 1: talk about because they're like most of life is kind

1149
01:12:30,800 --> 01:12:35,840
Speaker 1: of boring. So I mean, yeah, talk about how you

1150
01:12:35,880 --> 01:12:40,439
Speaker 1: store your cereal. Someone will find it interesting. Everyone's crazy,

1151
01:12:41,160 --> 01:12:47,840
Speaker 1: all right, Sorry, um, let's keep going. All right. This

1152
01:12:47,880 --> 01:12:52,880
Speaker 1: is from K Dog, subject line some words about seeing

1153
01:12:52,880 --> 01:12:58,920
Speaker 1: you in Portland and traveling to Japan. Hello, mister Gecko man.

1154
01:12:59,280 --> 01:13:02,080
Speaker 1: My name is Kdog, and I am being so brave

1155
01:13:03,160 --> 01:13:05,880
Speaker 1: and sending you some words for gekmel because I think

1156
01:13:05,920 --> 01:13:08,280
Speaker 1: about calling you a decent amount, but I get phone

1157
01:13:08,320 --> 01:13:10,559
Speaker 1: call stage right about it. I've seen you twice in

1158
01:13:10,560 --> 01:13:12,759
Speaker 1: person in Portland and met you both times after the show.

1159
01:13:13,040 --> 01:13:15,880
Speaker 1: Both of the pictures I have with you are not great,

1160
01:13:15,920 --> 01:13:17,599
Speaker 1: so I need you to come back so we can

1161
01:13:17,760 --> 01:13:19,760
Speaker 1: try again. Okay, I'm gonna try to do that. The

1162
01:13:19,840 --> 01:13:21,000
Speaker 1: last time you were in town, I went to your

1163
01:13:21,000 --> 01:13:23,720
Speaker 1: share with my ex and they were an evil manipulator

1164
01:13:24,400 --> 01:13:27,720
Speaker 1: and I should have taken someone else. I hope that

1165
01:13:27,800 --> 01:13:30,160
Speaker 1: the guy you talked to on stage who was saying

1166
01:13:30,200 --> 01:13:32,679
Speaker 1: something about hooking up with his ex's friends or sister

1167
01:13:33,720 --> 01:13:36,840
Speaker 1: or something whoeveryone in the crowd hated got broken up

1168
01:13:36,880 --> 01:13:41,760
Speaker 1: with by his girlfriend that was with him there. I won't, Okay,

1169
01:13:41,760 --> 01:13:43,840
Speaker 1: I'm trying to remember that I really want to go

1170
01:13:43,880 --> 01:13:45,360
Speaker 1: to Japan next year, and I love to know what

1171
01:13:45,400 --> 01:13:47,840
Speaker 1: your recommendations are for things to see, especially if it's

1172
01:13:47,840 --> 01:13:50,400
Speaker 1: something I couldn't find out from a Google search about

1173
01:13:50,400 --> 01:13:53,080
Speaker 1: the best things to see in Japan? Do you think

1174
01:13:53,120 --> 01:13:55,559
Speaker 1: I would be safe to just go by myself as

1175
01:13:55,600 --> 01:13:57,400
Speaker 1: a woman. I'm tired of waiting for one of my

1176
01:13:57,400 --> 01:13:59,640
Speaker 1: friends to be able to afford traveling so I can

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01:13:59,680 --> 01:14:03,840
Speaker 1: have a try rappl buddy, leve you k dog. Umm,

1178
01:14:05,320 --> 01:14:08,080
Speaker 1: here's the thing, I don't really I I don't really

1179
01:14:08,080 --> 01:14:10,080
Speaker 1: want to answer the do you think I would be

1180
01:14:10,120 --> 01:14:12,679
Speaker 1: safe to go by myself to Japan as a woman,

1181
01:14:12,800 --> 01:14:17,519
Speaker 1: because I have never gone to myself by Japan as

1182
01:14:17,560 --> 01:14:21,960
Speaker 1: a woman. Uh So I'm not, like, you know, I

1183
01:14:21,960 --> 01:14:24,360
Speaker 1: don't really I don't want to like speak from that

1184
01:14:24,520 --> 01:14:28,200
Speaker 1: perspective that I do not have. But I will say that, uh,

1185
01:14:28,479 --> 01:14:31,200
Speaker 1: I'll say this, Japan is like the safest fucking place

1186
01:14:31,240 --> 01:14:35,719
Speaker 1: that I've ever been. It's it's I think it's consistently ranked.

1187
01:14:35,720 --> 01:14:40,320
Speaker 1: I think Tokyo is like consistently ranked as like one

1188
01:14:40,360 --> 01:14:43,840
Speaker 1: of the safest. Let me, let me actually google this

1189
01:14:45,240 --> 01:14:50,720
Speaker 1: is Tokyo the safeest city in the world. Tokyo is. Yeah,

1190
01:14:50,760 --> 01:14:52,920
Speaker 1: Tokyo is generally considered one of the safest cities in

1191
01:14:52,960 --> 01:14:55,759
Speaker 1: the world. There is there's a huge culture of safety

1192
01:14:55,800 --> 01:15:00,200
Speaker 1: and security. There's no there's really like no crime ime,

1193
01:15:01,160 --> 01:15:03,959
Speaker 1: there's not there's really like not a lot of poverty.

1194
01:15:04,000 --> 01:15:07,760
Speaker 1: It's like it's like a incredibly I can't again, I

1195
01:15:07,960 --> 01:15:11,960
Speaker 1: don't have the I don't have the uh equipment to

1196
01:15:12,160 --> 01:15:15,240
Speaker 1: speak about specifically, like the you know, going there alone

1197
01:15:15,280 --> 01:15:17,880
Speaker 1: as a woman, but like in general, it's like the

1198
01:15:17,920 --> 01:15:22,400
Speaker 1: safest place I've ever been. I don't have recommendations for

1199
01:15:22,479 --> 01:15:25,080
Speaker 1: things to see. I just go just go to the

1200
01:15:25,560 --> 01:15:28,439
Speaker 1: What I would do is I would just write down

1201
01:15:29,080 --> 01:15:31,040
Speaker 1: there's a lot of neighborhoods that you should just walk

1202
01:15:31,080 --> 01:15:34,400
Speaker 1: around in. You know, there's a Soaksa, there's a Kiabara

1203
01:15:34,640 --> 01:15:41,040
Speaker 1: there's Shibuya, there's Shinjuku, there's kabuuk Cho. Uh yeah, just

1204
01:15:41,080 --> 01:15:43,439
Speaker 1: go to all those fucking places and just walk around

1205
01:15:44,439 --> 01:15:47,559
Speaker 1: figure shit out. It's awesome. I have a fun time, man,

1206
01:15:47,640 --> 01:15:49,559
Speaker 1: spam Rocks, And good on you for going by yourself

1207
01:15:51,360 --> 01:15:53,240
Speaker 1: if you've never if you have a place you really

1208
01:15:53,280 --> 01:15:55,200
Speaker 1: fucking want to go to and you can afford to

1209
01:15:55,240 --> 01:15:57,639
Speaker 1: go and you can make it and your friends don't

1210
01:15:57,720 --> 01:16:03,519
Speaker 1: just fucking go. You know I'm with you on that. Okay, Um,

1211
01:16:05,280 --> 01:16:08,240
Speaker 1: all right, let me do a couple few more. My

1212
01:16:08,320 --> 01:16:11,200
Speaker 1: grandma has a crush on a football player. Hello. My

1213
01:16:11,320 --> 01:16:13,519
Speaker 1: dad and I are fans of a certain football team

1214
01:16:13,560 --> 01:16:16,400
Speaker 1: that just recently got good, and my grandma was intrigued

1215
01:16:16,400 --> 01:16:19,160
Speaker 1: by her excitement. She doesn't understand the game at all,

1216
01:16:19,200 --> 01:16:21,000
Speaker 1: but when I taught her about some of the players,

1217
01:16:21,000 --> 01:16:23,240
Speaker 1: she caught feelings for one of them in particular. Her

1218
01:16:23,240 --> 01:16:25,880
Speaker 1: passion is now greater than my dad's and mine combined.

1219
01:16:26,160 --> 01:16:28,000
Speaker 1: I think it's cute and hilarious, but I also don't

1220
01:16:28,000 --> 01:16:31,040
Speaker 1: live with my family anymore. Where my dad is subjecting her.

1221
01:16:31,640 --> 01:16:34,719
Speaker 1: It's subjected to her asking the same football questions every day,

1222
01:16:35,040 --> 01:16:37,639
Speaker 1: and it's taking a toll on him. Is there anything

1223
01:16:37,640 --> 01:16:41,479
Speaker 1: I can do to help my dad's sanity? Wait a minute,

1224
01:16:42,280 --> 01:16:46,840
Speaker 1: your dad is going insane because his mom is asking

1225
01:16:46,920 --> 01:16:52,479
Speaker 1: him questions about football. You know what, man, Look, we

1226
01:16:52,960 --> 01:16:54,920
Speaker 1: have no idea how long we have with our parents.

1227
01:16:55,120 --> 01:16:58,160
Speaker 1: We have no idea. We have no idea how long

1228
01:16:58,200 --> 01:16:59,720
Speaker 1: we have with our parents. We have no idea how

1229
01:16:59,720 --> 01:17:02,360
Speaker 1: long we have with any fucking thing or any fucking

1230
01:17:02,400 --> 01:17:08,200
Speaker 1: one in our fucking lives. So any stupid, non malicious

1231
01:17:08,280 --> 01:17:13,200
Speaker 1: interaction that you can have with people that you like

1232
01:17:13,479 --> 01:17:17,200
Speaker 1: is good. Sorry, I'm giving you too existential of an answer,

1233
01:17:17,240 --> 01:17:19,160
Speaker 1: but that's where my head is at right now. So

1234
01:17:19,200 --> 01:17:24,400
Speaker 1: that's that's what I got in my pondering. All right,

1235
01:17:24,439 --> 01:17:30,200
Speaker 1: I can do a few more, let's see, all right.

1236
01:17:30,320 --> 01:17:33,439
Speaker 1: Gek mail, Hey Ghek. My name is Steven. I am

1237
01:17:33,479 --> 01:17:35,479
Speaker 1: thirty four years old and work as a truck driver

1238
01:17:35,560 --> 01:17:37,840
Speaker 1: for Wugmans. I'm writing to you because lately I have

1239
01:17:38,000 --> 01:17:40,120
Speaker 1: been feeling like I am just wasting my life away.

1240
01:17:40,520 --> 01:17:43,200
Speaker 1: I wake up, go to work, come home, watch some TV,

1241
01:17:43,320 --> 01:17:45,479
Speaker 1: and go to bed. Every day, even on my days off,

1242
01:17:45,479 --> 01:17:47,240
Speaker 1: I just feel like a couch potato and do little

1243
01:17:47,240 --> 01:17:50,040
Speaker 1: to nothing because I don't know how to be productive

1244
01:17:50,080 --> 01:17:52,280
Speaker 1: with my time? Is there anything you do to keep

1245
01:17:52,280 --> 01:17:55,839
Speaker 1: yourself productive when you're not podcasting? Thanks for what you do, Steven.

1246
01:17:59,320 --> 01:18:02,360
Speaker 1: You know it's funny, man. I this is a lot

1247
01:18:02,400 --> 01:18:03,840
Speaker 1: of what I've kind of been thinking about with my

1248
01:18:03,880 --> 01:18:07,160
Speaker 1: existential crisis, and a lot of like the concept of

1249
01:18:07,800 --> 01:18:14,120
Speaker 1: quote unquote wasting time and like you know, like life

1250
01:18:14,200 --> 01:18:22,000
Speaker 1: optimization and shit like that. I can't really answer the

1251
01:18:22,080 --> 01:18:25,439
Speaker 1: question of what would be productive with your time. I'm

1252
01:18:25,520 --> 01:18:31,080
Speaker 1: coming around to the idea I'm coming. I used to not.

1253
01:18:32,880 --> 01:18:37,120
Speaker 1: I'm coming around to the idea that like there's inherent

1254
01:18:38,040 --> 01:18:45,479
Speaker 1: value in productivity in simply existing. I'm lately coming I'm not.

1255
01:18:45,640 --> 01:18:50,080
Speaker 1: I'm not. I've been thinking about that a lot. I've

1256
01:18:50,120 --> 01:18:53,799
Speaker 1: been presenting that as my as an idea to myself,

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Speaker 1: that there's just inherent value and productivity in existing on earth,

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01:19:01,400 --> 01:19:05,759
Speaker 1: because if you're like a nihilist and you're like nothing

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01:19:05,880 --> 01:19:14,000
Speaker 1: really matters, then just existing is like good enough. Which again,

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01:19:14,080 --> 01:19:16,120
Speaker 1: it's like you could look at you could take a

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01:19:16,160 --> 01:19:19,559
Speaker 1: fucking nihilist thing and be like, you could run with

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01:19:19,600 --> 01:19:21,559
Speaker 1: it in a very negative direction, but you could really

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01:19:21,640 --> 01:19:23,720
Speaker 1: run with it in a positive direction and be like

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01:19:27,240 --> 01:19:33,160
Speaker 1: you know, just existing is productive. But okay, that's again,

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01:19:33,520 --> 01:19:36,120
Speaker 1: that's an existential thing, and I want to get into

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01:19:38,479 --> 01:19:41,120
Speaker 1: what I what I think, I really feel. That's just

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01:19:41,160 --> 01:19:43,080
Speaker 1: an idea. That's just an idea that is answering me.

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01:19:43,160 --> 01:19:45,040
Speaker 1: What I really feel, honestly at this point is like

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01:19:45,479 --> 01:19:48,599
Speaker 1: the problem I have with the just existing is enough,

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01:19:49,479 --> 01:19:51,519
Speaker 1: or the the problem I have with the whole idea

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01:19:51,520 --> 01:19:53,880
Speaker 1: of like just existing is enough and like you are

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01:19:54,000 --> 01:19:56,559
Speaker 1: enough is this thing of like if somebody, if you're

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01:19:56,600 --> 01:20:01,000
Speaker 1: like unhappy and you're restless and you're sad and you're

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01:20:01,000 --> 01:20:04,840
Speaker 1: miserable and blah blah blah, and somebody tells you, well,

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01:20:04,880 --> 01:20:09,439
Speaker 1: you're enough, that feels like shit because if I'm so enough,

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01:20:09,560 --> 01:20:12,559
Speaker 1: why am I miserable? You know? So that's that's the

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01:20:12,600 --> 01:20:17,760
Speaker 1: catch twenty two of just existing is enough. And that's

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01:20:17,880 --> 01:20:20,600
Speaker 1: kind of the problem I have with that argument. But

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01:20:20,600 --> 01:20:23,920
Speaker 1: it's coming into my head and I'm entertaining it and

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01:20:24,000 --> 01:20:29,599
Speaker 1: thinking about it. But okay, back to you, Stephen, I

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01:20:29,840 --> 01:20:32,800
Speaker 1: do the whole idea of like I do nothing because

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01:20:32,800 --> 01:20:34,759
Speaker 1: I don't know how to be productive with my time.

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01:20:36,680 --> 01:20:38,880
Speaker 1: It depends on what your goals and your values are

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01:20:39,400 --> 01:20:42,120
Speaker 1: and what you want out of life based on what

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01:20:42,200 --> 01:20:48,320
Speaker 1: your experience has been thus far, you know, and I can't,

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01:20:49,000 --> 01:20:56,559
Speaker 1: and so I guess not advice pondering. My pondering about you,

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01:20:57,000 --> 01:21:00,800
Speaker 1: Steven is just like think about your like what do

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01:21:00,840 --> 01:21:03,920
Speaker 1: you want? What you want? Like, do you want to

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01:21:04,000 --> 01:21:08,320
Speaker 1: have more fulfilling relationships? Well, then okay. Productivity would look

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01:21:08,400 --> 01:21:13,120
Speaker 1: like do you taking action on things that would put

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01:21:13,160 --> 01:21:18,559
Speaker 1: you in places where you can make more connections with

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01:21:18,680 --> 01:21:25,599
Speaker 1: more people? You know? Do you want more money? Okay?

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01:21:25,720 --> 01:21:29,840
Speaker 1: Then being productive would be, you know, trying to figure

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01:21:29,880 --> 01:21:34,120
Speaker 1: out how to make more money by like fucking looking

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01:21:34,160 --> 01:21:36,720
Speaker 1: at what jobs you can do, or what schooling you

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01:21:36,720 --> 01:21:39,000
Speaker 1: can get, or maybe a business that you could start

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01:21:39,120 --> 01:21:40,880
Speaker 1: or something like that. You know. Do you just want

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01:21:40,920 --> 01:21:43,919
Speaker 1: to be physically healthy? You know you can be productive

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01:21:43,960 --> 01:21:51,200
Speaker 1: by eating better? You know? Yeah, the whole like like

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01:21:52,080 --> 01:21:58,880
Speaker 1: this this email kind of I guess h presents productivity?

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01:21:58,960 --> 01:22:05,120
Speaker 1: Is this like objective thing? When it is kind of subjective?

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01:22:06,160 --> 01:22:08,439
Speaker 1: Although it's weird because if you if you ask someone

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01:22:08,479 --> 01:22:10,720
Speaker 1: why they're doing something, and then you keep going and

1304
01:22:11,000 --> 01:22:12,479
Speaker 1: you're like, well, why are you doing this? Well because this?

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01:22:12,560 --> 01:22:14,600
Speaker 1: Well why that? Well, why why that? It goes to

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01:22:14,680 --> 01:22:17,920
Speaker 1: a it kind of goes to a It kind of

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01:22:17,920 --> 01:22:20,200
Speaker 1: brings it kind of brings me to a full circle

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01:22:20,360 --> 01:22:26,400
Speaker 1: of the just existing is enough thing. But that's a

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01:22:26,400 --> 01:22:27,880
Speaker 1: bunch of woo woo. But that's a bunch of woo

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01:22:27,920 --> 01:22:32,559
Speaker 1: woo bullshit. I'm in I'm entertaining the idea of of that.

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01:22:32,640 --> 01:22:35,559
Speaker 1: But it strikes me a little bit as some woo

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01:22:35,600 --> 01:22:40,439
Speaker 1: woole bullshit, because, Uh, as a human being, we're endowed

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01:22:40,439 --> 01:22:48,360
Speaker 1: with like consciousness and the ability to you know, identify

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01:22:48,720 --> 01:22:54,759
Speaker 1: whatever tools are at our disposal, however maximal or minimal

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01:22:54,800 --> 01:22:57,479
Speaker 1: they are, and go, huh, how can I use these

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01:22:57,479 --> 01:23:00,800
Speaker 1: tools to like to do something new and get out

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01:23:00,840 --> 01:23:03,280
Speaker 1: of the rut? You know? And I and I and

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01:23:03,320 --> 01:23:10,400
Speaker 1: I think that that's good. But I'm still entertaining the

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01:23:10,439 --> 01:23:15,400
Speaker 1: idea of enoughness. I'm still I've been thinking about it. Yeah,

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01:23:15,400 --> 01:23:20,360
Speaker 1: that's my ponder about your life, Steven. Okay, let's see

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01:23:20,360 --> 01:23:23,720
Speaker 1: an hour and twenty five. Let's let's make it to

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01:23:23,760 --> 01:23:26,559
Speaker 1: an hour and a half. Let's make this a nice, juicy,

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01:23:27,560 --> 01:23:45,520
Speaker 1: nice juiced up gek male uh let's see uh okay,

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01:23:45,880 --> 01:23:51,680
Speaker 1: uh this is from no. Let's not do this, Let's

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01:23:51,720 --> 01:23:57,400
Speaker 1: not do that one. Let's do Let's do something something chill.

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01:23:57,760 --> 01:24:04,879
Speaker 1: Let's do just find something chill to do. Uh? Okay,

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01:24:05,120 --> 01:24:09,520
Speaker 1: all right, This is from Dylan Uh subject line marijuana

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01:24:09,560 --> 01:24:13,599
Speaker 1: and music. Dylan says, hello, my green friend. I recently

1329
01:24:13,600 --> 01:24:15,680
Speaker 1: got out of the army, so I tried weed and

1330
01:24:15,760 --> 01:24:20,080
Speaker 1: loved it. Or recently I discovered Pantera, Metallica and Pink Floyd.

1331
01:24:20,640 --> 01:24:23,320
Speaker 1: That ship elevates me and makes me want to run

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01:24:23,360 --> 01:24:32,880
Speaker 1: through a wall. That's the whole email. Is that good

1333
01:24:33,240 --> 01:24:36,640
Speaker 1: to want to run through a wall? Is wanting to

1334
01:24:36,720 --> 01:24:40,679
Speaker 1: run through a wall a good thing? Or is that?

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01:24:41,160 --> 01:24:43,200
Speaker 1: Is that like a superman thing, like a powerful thing?

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01:24:44,960 --> 01:24:47,000
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, smoking weed and listening to music is

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01:24:47,040 --> 01:24:53,559
Speaker 1: pretty awesome. I'm we talk about weed all the fucking

1338
01:24:53,600 --> 01:24:59,679
Speaker 1: time on this podcast and sometimes and I weed weed

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01:24:59,760 --> 01:25:04,600
Speaker 1: is a two. Lately I think we'd uh. I I

1340
01:25:04,880 --> 01:25:06,200
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know how I feel about weed.

1341
01:25:06,520 --> 01:25:09,559
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's destroying me or my My

1342
01:25:09,600 --> 01:25:14,639
Speaker 1: brain is in a bit of a fragile state and

1343
01:25:14,920 --> 01:25:18,120
Speaker 1: I'm always trying to solve for X on my own,

1344
01:25:21,080 --> 01:25:25,400
Speaker 1: you know, mental stability, and I don't know where weed

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01:25:26,880 --> 01:25:33,320
Speaker 1: uh fits in that. But I can say, over the

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01:25:33,360 --> 01:25:35,960
Speaker 1: course of my life I've had a lot of awesome

1347
01:25:36,040 --> 01:25:37,960
Speaker 1: times smoking weed. I've had a lot, I've had a

1348
01:25:37,960 --> 01:25:39,439
Speaker 1: lot of I've had a lot of times smoking weed

1349
01:25:39,479 --> 01:25:41,240
Speaker 1: where I'm like this sucks, I'm never gonna do this again,

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01:25:41,280 --> 01:25:42,719
Speaker 1: and then a lot of times where I'm like, Wow,

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01:25:42,880 --> 01:25:50,720
Speaker 1: this is fucking awesome. I love doing this. Say with that,

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01:25:50,920 --> 01:25:57,040
Speaker 1: do with that what you will? Okay, let's do okay,

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01:25:57,240 --> 01:26:01,960
Speaker 1: uh I'm okay. This is from EJ subject line I'm

1354
01:26:01,960 --> 01:26:05,200
Speaker 1: playing all the Devil May Cry games instead of revising

1355
01:26:05,840 --> 01:26:08,080
Speaker 1: high gak long story short. I'm writing this about eight

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01:26:08,120 --> 01:26:11,280
Speaker 1: hours before my final psychology exam in the UK, and

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01:26:11,320 --> 01:26:13,320
Speaker 1: instead of revising as much as I should have, I

1358
01:26:13,400 --> 01:26:16,320
Speaker 1: decided to complete the entirety of Devil May Cry one

1359
01:26:16,360 --> 01:26:19,240
Speaker 1: in three parentheseeson, we don't speak about two? What's wrong

1360
01:26:19,240 --> 01:26:21,960
Speaker 1: with Devil May Cry? Too? And I'm planning on playing

1361
01:26:22,200 --> 01:26:24,760
Speaker 1: I've never played Devil May Cry? What is? What is?

1362
01:26:25,160 --> 01:26:31,360
Speaker 1: I'm gonna google this Devil Devil May Cry? Is it

1363
01:26:31,439 --> 01:26:40,920
Speaker 1: like a which one? Are we on? Okay? Okay, ninja theory? Okay,

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01:26:40,960 --> 01:26:47,080
Speaker 1: looks like we're un five five six anyway. I don't

1365
01:26:47,120 --> 01:26:50,679
Speaker 1: know this, I don't know why any that's important Okay,

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01:26:50,720 --> 01:26:52,559
Speaker 1: I'm planning. I'm playing through four and five two. Only

1367
01:26:52,560 --> 01:26:55,000
Speaker 1: problem is I might be risking going to university and

1368
01:26:55,080 --> 01:26:58,040
Speaker 1: getting kicked out. Is it worth it? Definitely not? But

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01:26:58,080 --> 01:27:01,040
Speaker 1: will I keep doing it? Probably anyway. Anyways, by the

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01:27:01,040 --> 01:27:03,479
Speaker 1: time you're reading this, I will probably already have sat

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01:27:03,520 --> 01:27:05,360
Speaker 1: the exam. Wish me luck, and I hope you all

1372
01:27:05,439 --> 01:27:07,600
Speaker 1: right too. If you decide to include me in the podcast,

1373
01:27:07,960 --> 01:27:12,439
Speaker 1: please refer to me as egg Man. Thank you, And

1374
01:27:12,479 --> 01:27:17,040
Speaker 1: then he sent me screenshots of all the achievements he's

1375
01:27:17,040 --> 01:27:21,080
Speaker 1: gotten on doublemacry. All right, what's my Do I have

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01:27:21,080 --> 01:27:26,120
Speaker 1: a ponder about this? No, I don't really have a

1377
01:27:26,120 --> 01:27:29,160
Speaker 1: ponder about this. I mean, I love video games. I

1378
01:27:29,200 --> 01:27:30,880
Speaker 1: don't know if I've ever let a video game ruin

1379
01:27:30,960 --> 01:27:40,160
Speaker 1: my life. Maybe I have. I mean yeah, I mean,

1380
01:27:40,200 --> 01:27:44,920
Speaker 1: look if you told if you tallied up all the

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01:27:44,960 --> 01:27:49,880
Speaker 1: time I've spent in my life playing video games and say, hey,

1382
01:27:49,920 --> 01:27:53,120
Speaker 1: instead of doing that, you could have learned Spanish and

1383
01:27:53,479 --> 01:27:56,439
Speaker 1: you'd be in Mexico right now with a beautiful woman

1384
01:27:56,760 --> 01:28:01,120
Speaker 1: and all these a bunch of you know, friends, a

1385
01:28:01,160 --> 01:28:03,719
Speaker 1: bunch of new Mexican friends, and that would be your life.

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01:28:03,760 --> 01:28:06,680
Speaker 1: Then I guess I ruined. I guess I've ruined I've No,

1387
01:28:06,760 --> 01:28:08,439
Speaker 1: I don't think I've ruined my life playing video games.

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01:28:08,479 --> 01:28:13,519
Speaker 1: I've ruined an infinite amount of potential lives by playing

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01:28:13,560 --> 01:28:17,479
Speaker 1: video games. I've ruined an infinite amount of But we

1390
01:28:17,600 --> 01:28:20,800
Speaker 1: ruin infinite amounts of potential lives every day with every

1391
01:28:20,840 --> 01:28:25,160
Speaker 1: action that we take. You don't get through life without

1392
01:28:25,240 --> 01:28:30,559
Speaker 1: ruining and infinite amounts of potential lives. So maybe that's

1393
01:28:30,560 --> 01:28:34,280
Speaker 1: what that's what this guy is doing. He's just he's

1394
01:28:34,320 --> 01:28:37,599
Speaker 1: just ruining an infinite amount of potential lives with all

1395
01:28:37,640 --> 01:28:39,639
Speaker 1: the decisions that he makes with his life that don't

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01:28:39,760 --> 01:28:44,559
Speaker 1: lead in the infinite directions of those infinite lives. And

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01:28:44,640 --> 01:28:47,519
Speaker 1: you know what, I don't know, man, I love video games.

1398
01:28:47,560 --> 01:28:51,160
Speaker 1: I think video games are awesome. I'm really I'm really

1399
01:28:53,560 --> 01:28:59,720
Speaker 1: powering through grand theft. Thought of six is the thing

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01:28:59,720 --> 01:29:01,479
Speaker 1: I think I care about the most in my entire

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01:29:01,520 --> 01:29:03,880
Speaker 1: life right now. I might be saying that, No, I'm

1402
01:29:03,920 --> 01:29:06,560
Speaker 1: actually not saying I was about to say, I'm not exaggerating,

1403
01:29:06,560 --> 01:29:08,759
Speaker 1: But no, that's actually not what I'm what I'm thinking.

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01:29:08,880 --> 01:29:14,000
Speaker 1: That's not Uh, it's not an exaggeration. I fucking I

1405
01:29:14,000 --> 01:29:16,760
Speaker 1: fucking love video games. I'm so excited for a Grand

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01:29:16,800 --> 01:29:19,320
Speaker 1: Theft Ato six. I saw this comp I saw, I

1407
01:29:19,439 --> 01:29:22,360
Speaker 1: was I was thinking about making a video about this,

1408
01:29:22,600 --> 01:29:26,880
Speaker 1: but I saw this comment on I. Since it came

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01:29:26,920 --> 01:29:30,160
Speaker 1: out eight or nine days ago, I've been watching the

1410
01:29:30,160 --> 01:29:32,400
Speaker 1: Grand Theft Ato six trailer at least four times a day.

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01:29:32,479 --> 01:29:34,800
Speaker 1: That's not that's not an exaggeration. In fact, that's actually

1412
01:29:34,800 --> 01:29:38,400
Speaker 1: that might actually be an embellishment. I might I watch

1413
01:29:38,439 --> 01:29:44,120
Speaker 1: it all the time. I saw a comment that said

1414
01:29:44,160 --> 01:29:49,360
Speaker 1: something like, hey, hey everyone, we should use First of all,

1415
01:29:49,520 --> 01:29:51,280
Speaker 1: hold before I say this comment. First of all, this

1416
01:29:51,360 --> 01:29:53,519
Speaker 1: game is this is like the This is the first

1417
01:29:53,520 --> 01:29:57,200
Speaker 1: time in a long time I have really felt like

1418
01:29:57,400 --> 01:30:02,840
Speaker 1: I was part of something of like a of like

1419
01:30:03,080 --> 01:30:06,600
Speaker 1: I felt where I felt like I was deeply connected

1420
01:30:08,000 --> 01:30:15,000
Speaker 1: to like a massive world event on a personal level.

1421
01:30:15,760 --> 01:30:20,519
Speaker 1: Maybe that's a little fucked up to say, but it it.

1422
01:30:20,520 --> 01:30:24,479
Speaker 1: It's true, Maybe covid I felt deeply good. But do

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01:30:24,600 --> 01:30:26,280
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? I feel like this is

1424
01:30:26,280 --> 01:30:28,680
Speaker 1: an experience because this, like the whole comment section of

1425
01:30:28,760 --> 01:30:30,880
Speaker 1: the Grand Theft thoughto six trailer, is just people being

1426
01:30:30,920 --> 01:30:34,639
Speaker 1: like dude. I was fifteen years old when this came out,

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01:30:34,680 --> 01:30:37,880
Speaker 1: and I had to like convince my parents to buy

1428
01:30:37,920 --> 01:30:42,120
Speaker 1: it for me. And now I'm twenty eight or twenty seven,

1429
01:30:42,560 --> 01:30:44,160
Speaker 1: and I can just get it myself. This is all

1430
01:30:44,200 --> 01:30:46,559
Speaker 1: like like we all remember because it was too When

1431
01:30:46,640 --> 01:30:49,120
Speaker 1: the trailer for Grant'stal five came out, I was in

1432
01:30:49,200 --> 01:30:53,439
Speaker 1: middle school. I was taking a shit in my in

1433
01:30:53,520 --> 01:30:58,200
Speaker 1: the bathroom at my middle school, and I had I

1434
01:30:58,200 --> 01:31:01,479
Speaker 1: had the iPhone one or whatever the fuck, and I

1435
01:31:01,680 --> 01:31:03,840
Speaker 1: was watching the trailer for grandraft Lotal five. And I

1436
01:31:03,960 --> 01:31:07,479
Speaker 1: watched the Grand Theft Lotal five trailer every single day

1437
01:31:08,240 --> 01:31:11,439
Speaker 1: when I was in middle school. And and I haven't

1438
01:31:11,439 --> 01:31:15,680
Speaker 1: had a feeling like that since it's been it's been

1439
01:31:15,840 --> 01:31:19,719
Speaker 1: thirteen years, twelve thirteen years since I had that feeling

1440
01:31:20,240 --> 01:31:24,400
Speaker 1: that I had when Super Smash, Brothers Brawl and Portal

1441
01:31:24,439 --> 01:31:27,599
Speaker 1: two and Grand Theft Lotal five came out. I haven't

1442
01:31:27,600 --> 01:31:28,960
Speaker 1: had that feeling in a long time. There's been a

1443
01:31:28,960 --> 01:31:31,160
Speaker 1: lot of there's been there's been games that I've played.

1444
01:31:32,240 --> 01:31:35,519
Speaker 1: I can't think of a game on that level of

1445
01:31:35,920 --> 01:31:39,040
Speaker 1: magnitude that I've played. I mean, Read the Redemption two

1446
01:31:39,200 --> 01:31:41,439
Speaker 1: was fucking sick, but I played that game way way

1447
01:31:41,520 --> 01:31:44,400
Speaker 1: way after it came out. I played that like five

1448
01:31:44,479 --> 01:31:47,480
Speaker 1: years after it came out. I haven't been like anticipating

1449
01:31:47,520 --> 01:31:50,960
Speaker 1: a video game this much since Grandraft Lot of Six.

1450
01:31:51,560 --> 01:31:53,640
Speaker 1: And anyway, in the comments section is a bunch of

1451
01:31:53,720 --> 01:31:57,120
Speaker 1: people who have who have had my exact life experience,

1452
01:31:57,800 --> 01:32:01,439
Speaker 1: who who are like the this, like I haven't I

1453
01:32:01,479 --> 01:32:07,439
Speaker 1: haven't had this feeling for so long, and like people

1454
01:32:07,479 --> 01:32:09,360
Speaker 1: write this, and then the comments get I have like,

1455
01:32:09,640 --> 01:32:12,519
Speaker 1: you know, million four a comment will be like, oh,

1456
01:32:12,520 --> 01:32:13,840
Speaker 1: I haven't had this feeling and so long, and I'll

1457
01:32:13,840 --> 01:32:15,920
Speaker 1: have like four hundred thousand likes and that's It's the

1458
01:32:15,960 --> 01:32:23,840
Speaker 1: most scene I think I've felt in a while, which

1459
01:32:23,840 --> 01:32:26,880
Speaker 1: is funny because I posted a video about depression and

1460
01:32:26,880 --> 01:32:28,400
Speaker 1: then a bunch of people commented on it, and I

1461
01:32:28,760 --> 01:32:32,479
Speaker 1: feel more seen, not not not to not to not to,

1462
01:32:32,520 --> 01:32:34,280
Speaker 1: not to down. The comments I got on that video

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01:32:34,280 --> 01:32:37,080
Speaker 1: are incredibly sweet, But I just there's something about the

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Speaker 1: comments of the Grand Theft Thought of six trailer where

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I have never I have never been more

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Speaker 1: happy to be a nameless entity in a sea of

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Speaker 1: infinite other people than I am to be, you know.

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Speaker 1: A hundred of the two hundred and eighty six million

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Speaker 1: views on the grandft thought of six trailer. I feel

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Speaker 1: deeply connected that it's like a religion at this point. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: I saw a comment that said something like on May,

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Speaker 1: I said, I saw a comment and said something like,

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Speaker 1: so the game was delayed. The game was supposed to

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Speaker 1: come out this September, and then it got delayed to

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Speaker 1: May twenty six, twenty twenty six. And I saw a

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Speaker 1: comment that said, hey, everyone, let's use this as a

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Speaker 1: way to better ourselves so that we can make a

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Speaker 1: plan on how we can improve ourselves. And you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't remember these act comment, but it was like,

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Speaker 1: how we can improve ourselves and achieve our dreams and

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Speaker 1: fix up our lives so that a year from now

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Speaker 1: when the game comes out, we can feel like we

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Speaker 1: earned it. And a couple people wrote under that, being

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Speaker 1: like that's fucking gay, shut up, which is which was

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Speaker 1: an inevitability when he posted that comment, that was an inevitability.

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Speaker 1: But I saw this and I was like, that fucking

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Speaker 1: comment slaps. This is just something I wish I had.

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Speaker 1: I wish it took a screenshot of it. I wish

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Speaker 1: I had it because this was just some random fucking

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Speaker 1: guy who caught this comment. We had like twenty six likes.

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Speaker 1: But I saw it and I was like, Wow, this

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Speaker 1: person is spitting with that comment. So I'm gonna try

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Speaker 1: to I'm gonna try to take that to heart. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna try because of because I I am fully optimistic

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Speaker 1: that I will continue to be a conscious human being

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Speaker 1: a year from now. We're not slowing down. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: be We're gonna continue existing at least until this game

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Speaker 1: comes out. And I would like to I that comment

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Speaker 1: inspired me, like I'd like to look back on, you know,

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Speaker 1: May of twenty twenty five, when I'm in May of

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty six and be like that was a good year.

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Speaker 1: It was a good year's time. We improved. And as

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Speaker 1: the reward, I will be play uh grand Theftoto six

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Speaker 1: for like a month. There is no you know, the

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Speaker 1: whole like wave of magic wand and you could be

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Speaker 1: literally doing anything. There's no I've I was thinking about it,

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Speaker 1: and I think what I would be doing is playing

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Speaker 1: granded thoughto six, there's no other because sometimes you're like

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Speaker 1: playing a video game, or you're scrolling red or you're

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Speaker 1: doing some kind of like what is traditionally considered a

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01:35:29,080 --> 01:35:32,840
Speaker 1: low value activity and you're like, oh, I should be

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Speaker 1: doing something productive right now. You know that's we covered

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Speaker 1: a few emails like that today. That thought will not

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Speaker 1: enter my brain, uh for a single second that I

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Speaker 1: am playing Grand Thoto six. When I'm playing graand the

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Speaker 1: thought of six, I will the only thought I will

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Speaker 1: be having when I'm playing gra Thoto six is me

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Speaker 1: on my couch holding this PlayStation controller at this moment

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Speaker 1: in time, between two walls of oblivion. All the time

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Speaker 1: there ever will be and all the time there ever was,

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Speaker 1: I am. I am exactly exactly who I want to

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Speaker 1: be and where I want to be in this infinite

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Speaker 1: universe at this time. That is the thought I will

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Speaker 1: be having the entire time I am playing Grand Theft

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Speaker 1: Auto six. Anyway, Okay, thanks for listening to gek Mail.

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Speaker 1: I hope you enjoyed it. If you want to, I'll

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Speaker 1: probably do more of these. So you can send an

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Speaker 1: email to therapy Geckomail at gmail dot com and maybe

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Speaker 1: I'll read it at some point in the future. Also,

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Speaker 1: I also like you could send me an email and

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01:36:39,800 --> 01:36:42,400
Speaker 1: I maybe maybe I'll read it in six months, because

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Speaker 1: I don't know how I don't really have a schedule

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Speaker 1: list to when I do these episodes. Thank you all

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Speaker 1: for listening, Thank you all for hanging out. Let me

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Speaker 1: know in the comments section on Spotify if you know anything.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I read all the comments. I'm crazy.

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Speaker 1: I probably shouldn't. I don't think it's good for my health.

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Speaker 1: But uh, I mean they're all nice, everyone's particular, everyone's

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Speaker 1: everyone's been nice. But I don't know. I I think

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Speaker 1: you only wanna You only want to take in so

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Speaker 1: much information at a time. Our brains were only meant

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01:37:18,600 --> 01:37:21,960
Speaker 1: to take in so much information at a time. Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, thanks everyone, see you, see you, see you.

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Speaker 1: Next episode goes on the line, taking your phone calls

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01:37:31,040 --> 01:37:35,120
Speaker 1: every night, goes to his He's teaching you a loud

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Speaker 1: in them of your life, but he's not really an expert.