1 00:00:01,320 --> 00:00:03,960 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if 2 00:00:04,000 --> 00:00:08,560 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, on dating, on work, on sex, 3 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:13,640 Speaker 1: on parenting, and more, please please please submit your Strawberry 4 00:00:13,720 --> 00:00:17,599 Speaker 1: Letter to Steve RVFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. 5 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:19,919 Speaker 1: We could be reading your letter live on the air, 6 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:22,800 Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one right here today, 7 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:25,920 Speaker 1: and you never know it could be yours. So right, yes, 8 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 1: all right, ladies dolling me, it's time for the Strawberry Letter. 9 00:00:29,160 --> 00:00:33,920 Speaker 1: My good friend, Shirley Strawbary, Thank you, my good friend Junior. Subject. 10 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 1: Slide to the left, slide to the right, and back 11 00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 1: it up. You're ready to pack it up? All right? 12 00:00:41,120 --> 00:00:47,000 Speaker 1: Everybody clap you not about a line dance, Carla, promise 13 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:53,160 Speaker 1: you and listen. We might need a disclaimer on this letter, 14 00:00:53,200 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: so if you have small children in the car with you, 15 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 1: you don't want them to hear this. So okay, Dear Stephen, Shirley, 16 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:02,240 Speaker 1: I'm fifty seven years old and the man that I 17 00:01:02,280 --> 00:01:05,600 Speaker 1: have been dating is a sex fiend. He's slightly younger 18 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 1: than I am, so I let him think he's in control. 19 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:10,920 Speaker 1: I've given him my credit card so he can pay 20 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: our bill at restaurants, so he will feel like he's 21 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:17,400 Speaker 1: running things. I am all about building up the black man, 22 00:01:17,680 --> 00:01:20,000 Speaker 1: but I'm not into making a man think he's putting 23 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 1: it down when he's really not. He's truly not a 24 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:26,400 Speaker 1: good lover, and since I'm falling for him, I want 25 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 1: to be patient and work with him. He's asked me 26 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:32,480 Speaker 1: to do some things too, and I thought about doing 27 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 1: it to please him. Let me give you the story 28 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 1: of how we met. I was working a summer jam 29 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:42,479 Speaker 1: concert last year to help out a friend. My boyfriend 30 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 1: came up to me and asked if I had a lighter. 31 00:01:45,600 --> 00:01:49,280 Speaker 1: Turned out that he had weed, so we ducked behind 32 00:01:49,280 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 1: the fence to smoke. Then the DJ played the Cha 33 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:56,400 Speaker 1: Cha Slide and he wanted to go dance. I barely 34 00:01:56,480 --> 00:01:58,440 Speaker 1: knew how to do the dance, so he put his 35 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:01,680 Speaker 1: hands on my hips I could keep up. He told 36 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 1: me to slide to the left, slide to the right, 37 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: and I followed his lead. That became our joke, and 38 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 1: he uses it whenever we have sex. But a week 39 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:14,720 Speaker 1: ago he jokingly said it during sex and then add 40 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:17,919 Speaker 1: it now, back it up, so I scoot it back. 41 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:21,280 Speaker 1: He laughed and said back it up again, and I 42 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:25,920 Speaker 1: realized he meant an entirely different thing. I'm not into 43 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 1: that kind of mess, and I let him know it. 44 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 1: He said it was cool, and I thought we moved 45 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: past that, but he hasn't. He said he can guarantee 46 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 1: our intimacy will be better if I try that. I'm 47 00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:40,400 Speaker 1: not desperate for a man, but I must admit that 48 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:42,960 Speaker 1: I kind of like him and I'm kind of curious 49 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 1: about backing it up. Can you offer me any advice? 50 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:53,760 Speaker 1: Should I give in and try something new with him? What? No, No, 51 00:02:56,720 --> 00:03:00,320 Speaker 1: I can't and don't do that. Okay. You should never 52 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:03,720 Speaker 1: do anything that you're not comfortable with sexually. You should 53 00:03:03,760 --> 00:03:06,720 Speaker 1: never do that, and guess what it is. Okay. If 54 00:03:06,760 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 1: you don't, it's okay. You'll only be doing it to 55 00:03:10,240 --> 00:03:12,919 Speaker 1: please him, as you stated in your letter, And that's 56 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 1: just not good enough because you already said you're not 57 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: into that mess. Only do things if you want to, 58 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: because you feel if you feel any kind of pressure 59 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: from your partner, that means you don't want to do 60 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:27,799 Speaker 1: it and he's pressuring you, So don't do that. But 61 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:30,680 Speaker 1: here's my question, though, why would you want to waste 62 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 1: your time trying something new when you already said he 63 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 1: can't get the old right. Remember your own words quote, 64 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:40,600 Speaker 1: he's truly not a good lover. You said that. It 65 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:42,840 Speaker 1: sounds like to me, you're doing all the work in 66 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:46,400 Speaker 1: this relationship. You're paying for dinners by slipping him your 67 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 1: credit card. You're making him feel like he's in control, 68 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:54,040 Speaker 1: so he thinks he's running things. It's all him, him, him. Well, 69 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:57,400 Speaker 1: what is he doing for you you, I mean, other 70 00:03:57,440 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 1: than trying to get you to try something you're not into. 71 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 1: And now you say you're falling for him, But what 72 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:06,560 Speaker 1: are you falling for? You're falling for what? I mean? 73 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 1: What is he doing? I don't see that he's not 74 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:11,680 Speaker 1: a good lover. You pay for everything, you build him up. 75 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 1: What are you getting out of this? Nothing? You're not 76 00:04:14,440 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: getting anything according to your letter. I think you need 77 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 1: to chill. I think you've invested way too much in 78 00:04:20,600 --> 00:04:26,560 Speaker 1: this relationship with zero return. Steve, Well, well, well I 79 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:28,920 Speaker 1: gotta answer for this, and you don't have to worry 80 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 1: about this. They say, you don't have to get the 81 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:32,039 Speaker 1: kids out the ruin for this. This This is gonna 82 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:34,360 Speaker 1: be nothing graphic because we ain't even gonna get there. 83 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: Because it ain't gonna be necessary, because I'm gonna break 84 00:04:37,440 --> 00:04:40,599 Speaker 1: this down for you real simple. Slide to the left, 85 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 1: slide to the right. Now back it up, all right. Now, 86 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:46,640 Speaker 1: you're fifty seven years old. That's what the letter say. 87 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:49,840 Speaker 1: Now you've been dating a man that's a sex theme. 88 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:55,600 Speaker 1: He's slightly younger, so I'm gonna sue he's between forty 89 00:04:55,640 --> 00:05:01,560 Speaker 1: seven and fifty two. I'm gonna sue that's slightly younger. Okay, 90 00:05:01,560 --> 00:05:04,560 Speaker 1: we can go as low as forty if you want 91 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:07,359 Speaker 1: to go that far. Either way, this is gonna fit perfectly. 92 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:12,720 Speaker 1: He's slightly younger, so I let him think he's in control. 93 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: This is an important part of this letter. So now, 94 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:18,359 Speaker 1: how do you have to let him think he's in control. 95 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 1: I've given him my credit card so he can pay 96 00:05:21,520 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 1: our bill at restaurants, so he will feel like he's 97 00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:29,000 Speaker 1: running things. I'm all about building up the black man. Okay. 98 00:05:29,160 --> 00:05:32,960 Speaker 1: So he broke, Okay, let's just get to it. He broke. 99 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:36,840 Speaker 1: You're dating a man that's broke. You got to give 100 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:39,840 Speaker 1: him your credit card when y'all go to restaurant so 101 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 1: he can pay for a damn play the food so 102 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:44,880 Speaker 1: he can feel like he a man like he in control? 103 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:52,240 Speaker 1: Really at fifty, he can't buy you nothing to eat. Okay, 104 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:56,039 Speaker 1: so you're dating a man broke. But I'm not into 105 00:05:56,080 --> 00:05:58,719 Speaker 1: making a man thinking he's putting it down when he's 106 00:05:58,720 --> 00:06:02,400 Speaker 1: really not. He's true not a good lover. Wait a minute, 107 00:06:02,760 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 1: let me get this right. So he broke, she said it, 108 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 1: and he ain't a good lover? Who him? Yeah? And 109 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 1: now you in here, you don't want to tell him 110 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 1: he putting it down because he really ain't putting it down. 111 00:06:18,960 --> 00:06:22,120 Speaker 1: But you all into building up the black man. So 112 00:06:22,240 --> 00:06:30,560 Speaker 1: you dating this broke non lovemaking this what? Right? And 113 00:06:30,600 --> 00:06:32,560 Speaker 1: then later on in the letter you say you're falling 114 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:38,880 Speaker 1: for what you're falling fall Hell? Hang on, Steve, hang 115 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:43,600 Speaker 1: on two of your response coming up in twenty three 116 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:47,479 Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter. Subject Slide to 117 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:50,040 Speaker 1: the left, slide to the right, and back it up. 118 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:55,360 Speaker 1: We'll be back right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey 119 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:58,599 Speaker 1: Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's 120 00:06:58,640 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 1: strawberry letter. The subject is the slide to the left, 121 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:04,480 Speaker 1: slide to the writing, back it up. Now, this is cool, 122 00:07:05,360 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: but this letter is way off. We don't need a disclaimer. 123 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:11,239 Speaker 1: We're not even gonna get to that part. You're fifty seven, 124 00:07:11,240 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 1: you're dating a slightly younger man. I'm gonna say anywhere 125 00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 1: from forty to fifty two. I'm gonna say he's in 126 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:27,160 Speaker 1: that range now because he's a sex fiend, he's slightly younger, 127 00:07:27,440 --> 00:07:30,080 Speaker 1: and so I let him think he's count in control. 128 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:33,240 Speaker 1: So now you gotta give him your credit card so 129 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:36,160 Speaker 1: he can pay our bill at restaurants, so he'll feel 130 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: like he's running things. I'm all about building up the 131 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:44,480 Speaker 1: black man. What No, you're not building him up. He's 132 00:07:44,560 --> 00:07:48,960 Speaker 1: tearing you down. He can't pay for a play, the food, 133 00:07:49,080 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 1: But the sex fiend over here working up all these appetites. 134 00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 1: Sex fiend can't pay for no food. Now you all 135 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 1: into that, But I am not into making a man 136 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 1: think he's putting it down and he's really not. He's 137 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:03,880 Speaker 1: truly not a good lover. And since I'm falling for him, 138 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:05,880 Speaker 1: I want to be patient and work with him. What 139 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:10,520 Speaker 1: are you falling? Fall? He came by no food and 140 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: he don't make love good. What are you falling far? 141 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:19,000 Speaker 1: He asked me to do some things too, and I 142 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: thought about doing it to please him. What else you 143 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:24,640 Speaker 1: got to do? You're buying all the food. You're laying 144 00:08:24,680 --> 00:08:27,240 Speaker 1: there acting like it's good and it ain't now what 145 00:08:27,280 --> 00:08:29,840 Speaker 1: he wants you to do. Let me give you the 146 00:08:29,840 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 1: story how we met. I was working at a summer 147 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:35,120 Speaker 1: jam concert last year. Okay, that's old. They don't even 148 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:38,920 Speaker 1: have him no more summer jams. You at the summer Jams, 149 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:41,200 Speaker 1: they don't. They still got him staying here. I know, 150 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:43,400 Speaker 1: but that's what I'm saying. Oh that that's all the 151 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:50,280 Speaker 1: old as all when they're calling him summer jams all 152 00:08:50,320 --> 00:08:59,640 Speaker 1: this is fifty and l They can't jam jam all jam. Yeah. 153 00:08:59,800 --> 00:09:06,839 Speaker 1: That headliner this summer Jam was the Manhattan Kiss. They 154 00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:12,600 Speaker 1: get back to the letter. Okay, crazy, My boefriend came 155 00:09:12,679 --> 00:09:14,160 Speaker 1: up to me and asked me if I had a 156 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:16,600 Speaker 1: light to turn out. He has some weed? Y'all. Duck 157 00:09:16,679 --> 00:09:20,199 Speaker 1: behind the fist to smoke. Another old ass move, Young 158 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:24,280 Speaker 1: ass people smoke in the open. They at the damn show, 159 00:09:24,400 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 1: They in the building smoking weed. That's another old ass move. 160 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:33,439 Speaker 1: You duck behind the fist to smoke some weed. It's legal, 161 00:09:33,640 --> 00:09:37,600 Speaker 1: damn near everywhere. What is y'all ducking behind the fifth folk? 162 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 1: That's cause you old your dass people smoke weed in 163 00:09:41,320 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 1: the quick trip at the gas station, young people smoking weed. 164 00:09:47,280 --> 00:09:50,559 Speaker 1: Then the DJ played the Chi Chi slide. But I 165 00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:57,360 Speaker 1: tell you, m oh lord, that's some jam. I barely 166 00:09:57,440 --> 00:09:59,960 Speaker 1: knew how to do the dance. Now, you old as squat. 167 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:02,160 Speaker 1: Who the hell I don't know how to do the slide? 168 00:10:04,320 --> 00:10:08,959 Speaker 1: Who don't know how to slide to the slides? Who 169 00:10:09,080 --> 00:10:16,480 Speaker 1: don't know that slide? What is your stupid telling you 170 00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:21,680 Speaker 1: slide to the left, to the right? Two steppers, he tearried, 171 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:29,760 Speaker 1: Chris Paff. Now you all stupid as square man man. 172 00:10:31,480 --> 00:10:34,439 Speaker 1: I followed his lead. That became our joke and uses 173 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 1: it whenever we have sex. But a week ago, he joked, 174 00:10:37,080 --> 00:10:39,559 Speaker 1: he said, doing sex, he's said the backing up, So 175 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:41,559 Speaker 1: I screwed it back. He laughed and said back it 176 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 1: up again. I realized he had meant something entirely different. 177 00:10:44,840 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 1: I'm not into that kind of messing. I let him 178 00:10:46,920 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 1: know it. He said it was cool. He thought we 179 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:51,280 Speaker 1: am I thought we had moved past that, but he hasn't. 180 00:10:51,600 --> 00:10:55,200 Speaker 1: He said he can guarantee our intimacy will be better 181 00:10:55,320 --> 00:10:58,280 Speaker 1: if I try that. Now, before I get into that 182 00:10:58,400 --> 00:11:00,360 Speaker 1: lit me ex play. You say I'm not death before 183 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:02,480 Speaker 1: a man, but I missed the myth. I kind of 184 00:11:02,600 --> 00:11:05,760 Speaker 1: like him. You are desperatefore a man. You're dating a 185 00:11:05,880 --> 00:11:08,880 Speaker 1: man who can't buy you a plate of food. You're 186 00:11:08,880 --> 00:11:11,839 Speaker 1: giving your credit card. You're dating a man who's not 187 00:11:12,000 --> 00:11:15,400 Speaker 1: a good lover. You're dating a man who gotta ball 188 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:17,960 Speaker 1: your lighter for him to light his weed while y'all 189 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:21,800 Speaker 1: high behind the fence with y'all old ass. You met 190 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:24,439 Speaker 1: him at a summer jam. He tried to teach you 191 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:27,360 Speaker 1: to child child slide. Who in the hell don't know 192 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 1: how to do the slide? Stop saying that, who don't 193 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:34,920 Speaker 1: know the slide? My nephew is a deacon at the 194 00:11:34,960 --> 00:11:40,319 Speaker 1: Cleveland Church of Christ, and he know the slide. My 195 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:48,160 Speaker 1: sister Mona's saved eighty seven years old. Mona know the slide. 196 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:54,959 Speaker 1: My sister probably had a stroke. My sister still do 197 00:11:55,160 --> 00:11:58,840 Speaker 1: the slide. She don't go to the left that good 198 00:11:58,960 --> 00:12:04,079 Speaker 1: no more, but she still do the stye to the 199 00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:08,000 Speaker 1: left is a little short stempers, but she get over 200 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 1: the eventually. Can you offer me some advice? Should I 201 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:15,320 Speaker 1: give it in or try something new with him? Listen 202 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:18,880 Speaker 1: to me, see this ain't the first time he hadn't 203 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:21,800 Speaker 1: been accused of not being a good lover. This is 204 00:12:21,920 --> 00:12:24,360 Speaker 1: his them. He's not a good lover. So now he 205 00:12:24,440 --> 00:12:28,720 Speaker 1: didn't incorporated this new move that he guarantee you. Hell yeah, 206 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:34,360 Speaker 1: it's gonna be shocking. Yell yeah, I'm telling you right now, 207 00:12:34,440 --> 00:12:37,679 Speaker 1: it's gonna be shocking. You're backing all up the wrong thing. 208 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:40,319 Speaker 1: I'm telling you right there where I'm constipated. This shocking, 209 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:44,959 Speaker 1: all right. Most people are shocked when they constipated. Do 210 00:12:45,080 --> 00:12:48,679 Speaker 1: you know anything else? It's gonna be extra shocking. But yeah, 211 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 1: he needs all that. He isn't adequate. I tell you 212 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 1: what we do this. I bet I bet you'll be surprised. 213 00:12:55,440 --> 00:12:58,440 Speaker 1: I bet you'll be gonna who woo. Then, hell yeah, 214 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 1: all right, Pup. On Today's Strawberry Letter, It's don't know 215 00:13:05,440 --> 00:13:09,400 Speaker 1: harder do to Dawn Slot on Instagram and Facebook. Check 216 00:13:09,440 --> 00:13:12,560 Speaker 1: out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand and coming up 217 00:13:12,559 --> 00:13:15,600 Speaker 1: in forty six minutes after the hour, Sports Talk with Junior. 218 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:19,680 Speaker 1: Right after this, you're listening to the Day Harvey Morning Show.