Speaker 1: Second Date updated, Alexis, you're in the dating world, and
Speaker 1: you told us a little while ago it's really easy
Speaker 1: for you to meet lots of attractive dudes. Oh sorry,
Speaker 1: was it when you're around attractive dudes, you're really easy?
Speaker 2: And that was.
Speaker 1: Something about really easy and attractiveness. I got this, But look,
Speaker 1: not everybody's on the dating sites for European rugby hunks
Speaker 1: like you are, Alexis. A lot of people just do
Speaker 1: the normal apps and they get really frustrated with that experience.
Speaker 1: So let's say you wanted to meet a nice, attractive
Speaker 1: man out in the world, naturally, but you just can't
Speaker 1: find it.
Speaker 3: Without getting into the scrum.
Speaker 4: Dvid.
Speaker 1: What do you do? That's where our listener Julia found
Speaker 1: herself recently, so let's talk to her and find out
Speaker 1: what she did. Julia, Welcome to the show.
Speaker 4: Hey guys, thanks for having me.
Speaker 1: Okay, are you?
Speaker 2: I mean, we've kind of noticed a trend lately where
Speaker 2: people have gotten off the apps.
Speaker 3: Is it something where you're trying to move away from that?
Speaker 5: I mean definitely, because it's kind of like it just
Speaker 5: doesn't feel as natural, and honestly, I feel like the
Speaker 5: apps come with a lot of like stigma of like
Speaker 5: what dating is nowadays, which is people just you know,
Speaker 5: have one thing in mind and then it's kind of
Speaker 5: like just.
Speaker 4: Onto the next one.
Speaker 5: And I'm not really here for that. I really want
Speaker 5: to authentically meet people and find my person.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, it was just instinct. Sorry, but it just
Speaker 1: sounds like you're just matured. That's great, that's great. We're
Speaker 1: all really happy for you. So what did you do?
Speaker 1: How did you make that transition from dating apps to
Speaker 1: the real world, Like, what's your strategy? I'm trying not
Speaker 1: to the trash can over here?
Speaker 5: Well, I mean I just tried to really kind of
Speaker 5: go on some like hobby websites and stuff like that,
Speaker 5: because I try to like put myself out there in
Speaker 5: those ways and finding things that maybe like guys would
Speaker 5: be at.
Speaker 2: Okay, so I run a little.
Speaker 5: Bit out of my cumber zone. I'm gonna warn you, guys.
Speaker 5: But definitely tried some different things.
Speaker 3: Okay, like what give us some examples. I'd love to hear.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 5: So the first thing I did was hiking, and I
Speaker 5: you know, I really thought that I would find more
Speaker 5: guys there. Out of the two times I went, it
Speaker 5: was more like a dozen girls and maybe like two
Speaker 5: or three guys.
Speaker 1: Okay, it's like all of the women all had the
Speaker 1: same idea to meet a guy there, and it just
Speaker 1: was girls, we.
Speaker 3: Still want to hike. A lot of our guys will
Speaker 3: like go on their own.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: And those guys also came with girls like they already
Speaker 5: were like teared up.
Speaker 3: They were forced to come. That makes sense.
Speaker 1: Okay, So hiking was a dud? What did you try?
Speaker 2: Not that?
Speaker 5: Yeah, so this was kind of funny. I actually was like,
Speaker 5: you know what, I don't think I would probably see
Speaker 5: many women at Dungeons and Dragons.
Speaker 4: That was definitely out of my comfort zone.
Speaker 1: I mean, any girl walking into a D and D, yeah,
Speaker 1: just to stare type. I don't necessarily think Dungeons and
Speaker 1: Dragons and go oh hot honky guys, rich guy.
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, so that's nerds always end up smart.
Speaker 1: Did you meet a guy there?
Speaker 5: It was definitely a little too nerdy for me. I
Speaker 5: could not really withstand it. I didn't say the whole time.
Speaker 1: Guys.
Speaker 3: Okay, so that's not where you met this guy?
Speaker 1: Did you find any hobby that actually panned out for you?
Speaker 5: So there was actually this kind of fun thing that
Speaker 5: I started to go into and it's called like old
Speaker 5: Cup kickball. I don't know if you guys are familiar
Speaker 5: with it.
Speaker 1: Old Cup.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so you have two teams and everybody has to
Speaker 5: hold a red solo cup and you're never allowed to
Speaker 5: put it down. It's a drinking game.
Speaker 1: It's a drinking game wall playing actual kickball.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's actually really fun, dude.
Speaker 3: That sounds awesome. And you start with this one, why.
Speaker 5: Right, okay, And you don't have to be like obliterated
Speaker 5: to play, you know, you just play. And it was
Speaker 5: a mix of guys and girls, so I was like
Speaker 5: a lot more comfortable and it was super laid back.
Speaker 5: Everybody was really.
Speaker 1: Cool't so this is where you ended up meeting a guy?
Speaker 4: Then?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 3: Yes, actually this is where.
Speaker 1: I met Chad U Chad Chad.
Speaker 3: Name is Chad Chad Chad? H Okay yeah not a hat.
Speaker 5: Dad, but maybe will be one days.
Speaker 3: Of course you met a Chad y.
Speaker 4: Okay, Yeah, I ended.
Speaker 5: Up meeting him because I was actually like on a
Speaker 5: roll chilling it.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 5: I went to go run for home and the cup
Speaker 5: that I had it was full because I really wasn't
Speaker 5: drinking that much and ended up spilling all over me.
Speaker 1: Guys, just what all the guys on the team wanted?
Speaker 3: Yeah, my t shirt. I didn't mean this game.
Speaker 5: It was definitely invented by a man.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, how did that lead to Chad?
Speaker 5: So he ended up coming out with a towel, super
Speaker 5: sweet guy. He like even took off his shirt, which,
Speaker 5: mind you, is super hot. Odd took off his shirt
Speaker 5: and he gave it to me so I could cover
Speaker 5: up because my shirt was Why do I like it's sweaty?
Speaker 3: Nobody's working that hard at kickball no matter what.
Speaker 5: I guess he must have like a good immuneism or
Speaker 5: like our systems like each other, because I didn't even
Speaker 5: notice that.
Speaker 1: So he de robed in front of you and gave
Speaker 1: you his dirty clothes.
Speaker 5: So that was definitely a swift move. He got some
Speaker 5: brownie points for that.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, so is this the date or is
Speaker 1: there more after this?
Speaker 5: No, we'll see. I actually got his number, which was awesome.
Speaker 5: It was cool, and I didn't really get much out
Speaker 5: of him after that, Like we kind of just spoke
Speaker 5: a little bit. I like kind of hinted that like
Speaker 5: maybe he could ask me on a date or something.
Speaker 5: I didn't really like throw myself over all over him.
Speaker 2: Isn't it kind of obvious when you asked for a
Speaker 2: dude's number that that's what you want.
Speaker 3: Literally that happened.
Speaker 5: And then like I literally asked for his two shirt
Speaker 5: and I was like, oh good ways, Like if I
Speaker 5: can return it, that'll be like another thing.
Speaker 2: That's how you ask You asked, like, oh, give me
Speaker 2: your number so I can give you your shirt back.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, did you give him your shirt to
Speaker 1: wear to tradition? And I feel like it should be
Speaker 1: tit for tak Yeah.
Speaker 5: I mean I could give him my bro.
Speaker 1: She's like I would have. Maybe that was the missing move.
Speaker 1: We're gonna come back and call Chad for you and
Speaker 1: find out what happened in the drinking hold cup kickball scenario.
Speaker 1: We're gonna find your kickball king. Yeah, what or maybe
Speaker 1: what went right with your second date update? Right after
Speaker 1: this second date update if you're just joining us, we're
Speaker 1: in the middle of a second date update with our
Speaker 1: listener Julia, who met a guy named Chad at a
Speaker 1: brand new event that we just heard about called hold
Speaker 1: Cup Kickball Fun.
Speaker 3: It's a great name.
Speaker 1: Involves drinking, kicking rubber balls, all the ingredients of just
Speaker 1: a really, really good time.
Speaker 3: We forgot to mention shirtless men.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're not supposed to be shirtless. The only Chad
Speaker 1: was shirtless was because Julia accidentally spilled her cup all
Speaker 1: over herself while running home to the home plate. Sorry
Speaker 1: not running home in my fear. We got just making
Speaker 1: sure people, because you've never heard of this sport.
Speaker 5: Keep going trying like run.
Speaker 1: She was making her way down the third baseline, ended
Speaker 1: up spilling the drink all over herself, and so Chad
Speaker 1: came to the rescue and offered her his own shirt
Speaker 1: off his back. Just a true hero. It sounds like,
Speaker 1: honestly a nice guy.
Speaker 2: Well, Julia got his numbers, saying like, hey, I'll give
Speaker 2: you your shirt bag and your number.
Speaker 3: Do you still have the shirt? We never asked?
Speaker 5: Yeah, actually I do still have a shirt. I never
Speaker 5: got to meet up with him again.
Speaker 4: You sleep with it.
Speaker 1: Every night, clutched in her arms. Right now, Well, let's
Speaker 1: see if we can at least get him on the
Speaker 1: phone first, and maybe we'll get his shirt back to
Speaker 1: him and even get you a date. But I'm going
Speaker 1: to dial his number right now.
Speaker 2: Why do I feel like he's still topless shirt.
Speaker 1: That was his one shirt. Okay, well, let's see I'm
Speaker 1: dialing his number right now. Here we go. Hello, Hey,
Speaker 1: we're looking to talk to Chad.
Speaker 4: This is Chad.
Speaker 1: Hey, Chad, you're on a radio show right now called
Speaker 1: Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 4: Hey, Hi, morning man.
Speaker 1: Don't do that sexy voice. Don't do that. Sorry, but Hi,
Speaker 1: it didn't sound that way. I think is not cool. Sorry.
Speaker 1: We're in a mood today because we heard a lot
Speaker 1: about you from one of our listeners named Julia.
Speaker 4: Oh, okay, you know who you're talking about.
Speaker 1: You met Julia at one of your old cup kickball events.
Speaker 1: You ended up giving her your shirt, right, Yes.
Speaker 3: We have bets on whether you're still walking around shirtless
Speaker 3: right now.
Speaker 1: Brook just wants a mental image, so not currently. Okay,
Speaker 1: can you take your shirt off to make her more
Speaker 1: comfortable with the rest they call?
Speaker 4: So.
Speaker 1: What we're doing here is called a second date update.
Speaker 1: And even though you haven't officially been out with Julia
Speaker 1: one on one yet, she wants to know if you'd
Speaker 1: be interested in maybe meeting up.
Speaker 4: To be honest, I've kind of tried to date and
Speaker 4: I don't know literally work out for me.
Speaker 3: Dating in general, I feel that.
Speaker 1: What do you mean?
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's just so many people ghost you nowadays before
Speaker 4: you even get to know them, isn't that?
Speaker 2: But isn't that kind of what you're doing? I mean,
Speaker 2: you're not getting back into Julia.
Speaker 1: Well, he never said. They never established like a dating thing.
Speaker 1: They just met at a kickball with that one time.
Speaker 2: Now you know you have someone that's super interested. I mean,
Speaker 2: she went through all the trouble of contacting us.
Speaker 3: She's not going to ghost you.
Speaker 4: I didn't know she was super interested until right now.
Speaker 4: To be honest, well.
Speaker 1: Hey, surprise, the girl really likes you after just meeting you.
Speaker 1: Most some time when a girl gets your number. But
Speaker 1: this is going to take all the stress out of
Speaker 1: it for you, because you know, if you're worried about
Speaker 1: girls whether they're interested or not, you know right up
Speaker 1: front here Julia is interested.
Speaker 3: It's a match.
Speaker 4: I thought she just wanted to give me my shirt back.
Speaker 4: I couldn't figure out a time. Maybe I mean that too.
Speaker 3: No, not that at all.
Speaker 2: Actually, yeah, it's so sweet, how literal you took that.
Speaker 2: But yet no, there was like her excuse to see
Speaker 2: you again.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, look I know you you clearly had some
Speaker 1: heartache and troubles with the dating one before, but would
Speaker 1: you be willing to give it a shot with Julia
Speaker 1: just one time?
Speaker 4: I mean, she kind of cool with my lifestyle. I
Speaker 4: guess you know I.
Speaker 3: Don't know lifestyle.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, yeah, I mean that's something that that you
Speaker 1: do when you hang out together, you learn about each
Speaker 1: other's lifestyle. So you just have to actually meet up
Speaker 1: with her once in person, and you don't have to
Speaker 1: hear it from me. You can actually hear it right
Speaker 1: from Julie because she's on the other line listening, wanting
Speaker 1: to talk to you.
Speaker 3: Julia, someone smiling.
Speaker 1: Yeah it's Julia. You can say hi to her.
Speaker 4: Hi, Julia. I didn't know you liked me like that.
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, I get some kind of clueless with this stuff.
Speaker 5: Well I'm kind of glad it was like me back
Speaker 5: kind of thing I'm taking instead of a not like
Speaker 5: me back thing.
Speaker 1: So you get a pass, Chad, You're smoother than you realize.
Speaker 1: Taking off the shirt at the kickball game was actually
Speaker 1: a great move.
Speaker 4: Yeah do buddy, Yeah, I take my clothes off all
Speaker 4: the time.
Speaker 1: What do you mean by head exactly that?
Speaker 5: Because I thought I was special, not for all the girls, right,
Speaker 5: I'm on a stripper or anything, if that's what you're thinking.
Speaker 3: I had my ones. Actually they're in my hands, Chad.
Speaker 3: What do I do with them now?
Speaker 1: Chad was just joking about taking his shirt off before.
Speaker 3: I guess I'll save these for the next time.
Speaker 4: Man.
Speaker 1: So are you up for going out with her? Chad?
Speaker 4: I mean, I wouldn't be honest about something because it's
Speaker 4: kind of burned me in the past. I just want
Speaker 4: to be up front of bout out it.
Speaker 5: Oh good, Okay, the suspense is killing me a little.
Speaker 1: What do you need to be honest about?
Speaker 4: Kickball is not my only hobby. I actually, you know,
Speaker 4: I have other hobbies, guys, I like to do and uh, I'm.
Speaker 1: Kicking a ball right now. Most women like a man
Speaker 1: with many.
Speaker 5: Interests, all right, So what exactly is the other hobby?
Speaker 1: I'm like a little curious.
Speaker 4: Well, I like to go ghost hunting.
Speaker 1: Ghost hunting.
Speaker 4: We'll spend like weekends and we'll go out and go
Speaker 4: ghost hunting, and it's kind of something we enjoyed, like
Speaker 4: the hope to get on TV at some point or something.
Speaker 1: All the equipment and everything's interesting. Julie what's your take
Speaker 1: on that you find that this like.
Speaker 5: Legit paranormal activity, Like do you actually get like recording
Speaker 5: them anything scared?
Speaker 3: Is that why you're a touch?
Speaker 4: We do it. It's legit and yeah we're nude and everything,
Speaker 4: so it's you. Yeah, we don't wear clothes. It's very serious,
Speaker 4: like involving like ecoplasm and things like we don't want
Speaker 4: to get on our clothes. We want to go in
Speaker 4: there pure, you know.
Speaker 1: Into like haunted buildings. Let's hope we're not just like
Speaker 1: a band.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's kind of our niche where we're kind of
Speaker 4: different in that way than others.
Speaker 1: I could see that.
Speaker 2: As a TV show though, It's like they get in
Speaker 2: a frame combiners.
Speaker 1: But then are you accepting new members? Can any guy
Speaker 1: join and be part of the new ghost?
Speaker 5: Yeah? I wanted to know if there was any other
Speaker 5: girls like you, japp and to do this will trips with.
Speaker 2: I hope it's just a guy to be worried more
Speaker 2: about an exactly.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're saying you're still interested in this Juliet, even
Speaker 1: if he is going around naked with his buddies.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's why I have a hard time bringing this
Speaker 4: up because as soon as the lady finds out about it,
Speaker 4: I tend to get burned.
Speaker 3: That's why you're bringing up ghosting.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and he takes his clothes off while he.
Speaker 2: Does it, so I think it's the naked part that's
Speaker 2: probably hard for people.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Chad, I will tell you this. Julia has
Speaker 1: played Dungeons and Dragons before, so she is kind of nerdy.
Speaker 4: Oh that's weird.
Speaker 1: That's weird. She doesn't even know what Okay, maybe we
Speaker 1: don't need to be that judgment, got it. It's a
Speaker 1: it's a joke.
Speaker 4: Just so you know.
Speaker 5: I am not a fan of dungeons and dragons. I've
Speaker 5: definitely tried it a few times.
Speaker 1: Not my thing, Okay, Okay, I don't know where. We're
Speaker 1: kind of running short on time here, so we need
Speaker 1: to ask you.
Speaker 4: Chad.
Speaker 1: It feels like it's gonna happen.
Speaker 3: You can make a lot of money off this show. Proposal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Chad, you're still up for seeing Julia?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm down.
Speaker 1: Okay, And Julia, you're cool with dating a naked ghost hunter.
Speaker 5: I mean it's a little different, it's unique. I think
Speaker 5: I'll think I'll take it.
Speaker 1: That's how rough the current dating scene is you know what, fine,
Speaker 1: I'll take it.
Speaker 3: He looks out a shirt on. That's a good point.
Speaker 2: I mean, it's less creepy if you're a hot naked Yes,
Speaker 2: if you're.
Speaker 4: Ghost here touch one of my apps, freaking Jeffrey in
Speaker 4: the morning.
Speaker 1: We have talked to all different kinds of professions in
Speaker 1: this segment, doctors, mechanics, models, but never, at least not
Speaker 1: that I can remember. Have we ever talked to a
Speaker 1: sweet nude ghost hunter?
Speaker 3: Never before, Joe, I can't confirm who.
Speaker 1: Wants to like make it his full time gig. Nonetheless,
Speaker 1: why do I feel.
Speaker 2: Like and maybe this is me being judgy, but he's
Speaker 2: got to be the only really hot one. There can
Speaker 2: be multiple really hot naked ghost hunters.
Speaker 1: One's got a gun, Lexus and I like to think optimistically,
Speaker 1: and it's like a whole team of soccer players. I
Speaker 1: actually do hope that he gets a show. Though. It's
Speaker 1: really like Brooke described naked and afraid meets ghost hunting.
Speaker 3: Yeah, how did you get.
Speaker 5: All the girls watch?
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you're also scared ghost? All the girls actually
Speaker 3: come out, They're like, hello.
Speaker 1: No matter how weird your dating life gets, even if
Speaker 1: it's naked ghost hunters in your life. We can try
Speaker 1: and help you out. We'll call that person who's not
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