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Speaker 1: My fiance demanded I stopped being friends with my ex

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Speaker 1: or she call off the wedding, marry her, marry the friend.

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Speaker 1: This comes up from a throwaway account for obvious reasons.

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Speaker 1: I'm hoping to gain some insight by posting here. Some

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Speaker 1: outside opinions are something I would be very grateful for

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Speaker 1: right now. So background, My ex girlfriend Emma twenty six

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Speaker 1: and I twenty six male, were together for nine years.

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Speaker 2: That's a while a lot of years.

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Speaker 1: We got together quote unquote when we were thirteen and

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Speaker 1: broke things off when we were twenty two. That's a

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Speaker 1: long time forwaradive years account.

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Speaker 3: It's a long relationship to start at thirteen. I know

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Speaker 3: relationship only last two weeks.

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Speaker 1: In thirteen, I knew a couple. We had a family

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Speaker 1: friend who dated someone for like six years from twelve

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Speaker 1: to high school. Dude, you know who. Think about it

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Speaker 1: and you'll remember. You'll remember one of the things. When

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Speaker 1: we were twenty two. We were friends since first grade.

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Speaker 1: We grew up together, our families became quite close, and

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Speaker 1: our friendship circles were always intertwined at some point or another.

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Speaker 1: This will be important later. We drifted in different directions

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Speaker 1: as we got older, and we realized that we wanted

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Speaker 1: what we wanted from our relationships were ultimately different. We

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Speaker 1: no longer had romantic feelings for one another, so we

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Speaker 1: decided we would be better off as friends. We were

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Speaker 1: best friends anyway. There hasn't been anything romantic since we

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Speaker 1: broke up. Nothing of a spicy sleep nature, a quick

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Speaker 1: hug here and there to say goodbye at most, but

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Speaker 1: from other stories, realized the hug is too long, and

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Speaker 1: there's movement in the pants, then flag.

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Speaker 2: The pants run away to avoid a rant.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, kind of worked three seconds or less. I'd say,

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Speaker 1: it's like kind of like the five second rule.

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Speaker 3: You could only have a three second hug.

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Speaker 1: Five second hug. Hug I'll say five seconds maybe five seconds,

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Speaker 1: five second hug.

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Speaker 4: Because of you. Someone like beats and you know what

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Speaker 4: those beats are.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, how long was my hug with you this morning? Riley?

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Speaker 4: That was a good three beats.

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Speaker 1: I think it was longer. We danced, We danced together.

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Speaker 1: I was giving you this. That's agree with you, guys, Okay,

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Speaker 1: So I truly haven't felt that way that way. Also

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Speaker 1: in quotes about her since things ended, and she's the same.

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Speaker 1: The breakup was very amicable. I'm gonna stop right here.

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Speaker 1: So if you had a partner who had a friend

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Speaker 1: or who had a relationship that went on for nine

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Speaker 1: years and now they are friends with them close friends

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Speaker 1: but nothing romantic, would that make you uncomfortable? I want

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Speaker 1: to know in the poll you'd be uncomfortable or not

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Speaker 1: with a nine year relationship turned friendship.

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Speaker 3: I think it would just depend on how they interacted

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Speaker 3: with each other.

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Speaker 5: I think like this, I think it could be okay

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Speaker 5: because it's like childhood friends.

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Speaker 2: You know, It's like, oh, we were each other's first

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Speaker 2: kiss marine. Yeah, like it's kind of part of it.

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Speaker 1: They were definitely more than each other's first kiss, sure,

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Speaker 1: but they.

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Speaker 3: Were started at thirteen. I think that I don't know

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Speaker 3: for me that changed.

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Speaker 5: You can I think you could drift into a childhood

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Speaker 5: friendlane long term possibly, but also could be.

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Speaker 2: Marn and that if you know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think they just keep an eye on how

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Speaker 1: I think the potential for fallout is higher than if

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Speaker 1: you didn't have that friend. And what is Chad saying?

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Speaker 1: I vote one or two uncomfy or not? Let us know.

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Speaker 1: Put it in the chat. But I'm gonna keep going

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Speaker 1: through it now to the issue. My fiance Sarah twenty four,

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Speaker 1: and I've been together for almost three years and I

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Speaker 1: proposed a few days ago and we are set to

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Speaker 1: be married this year. I was so happy when she

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Speaker 1: said yes. A relationship has been great, amazing communication, always

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Speaker 1: smiling together. It's been wonderful. She knew about my past

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Speaker 1: with Emma, as I was very upfront with her about

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Speaker 1: are still friends. Our families still get together for sporting events,

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Speaker 1: really close. So I think that's pointing again to friend

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Speaker 1: groups intertwined And going over to the poll, it looks

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Speaker 1: like forty two percent of you guys would be uncomfy

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Speaker 1: and twenty nine would be like nah, sorry, that's twenty

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Speaker 1: nine votes fifty eight percent percent of grouple.

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Speaker 2: Most kind of split, but most people are okay with it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, most people, yeah, would be okay with it. Like

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think because we don't know of anything like

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Speaker 3: icky that's happened in the friends, you know, I think

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Speaker 3: it sounds like very yeah, yes, exactly right now. It

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Speaker 1: It seems like all of us in this room would

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Speaker 1: be okay with it. Is that true? Okay? Okay, Okay, Riley, Okay, Anthony.

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Speaker 1: So they are really close. They even have a weekly

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Speaker 1: pizza knight. We also have a weekly visa night. We

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Speaker 1: also have a few common friends. I didn't want Sarah

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Speaker 1: the right steps to show her that she is my

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Speaker 1: number one. I would always include her in family events,

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Speaker 1: have even tried to create our own rituals together. I

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Speaker 1: adore this girl. I think she is incredible. From the

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Speaker 1: Nothing could go wrong.

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Speaker 3: I guess we know that there are a lot of

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Speaker 3: family intertwined events that she's now going to. Would that

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Speaker 3: make you uncomfy to go to your your partner's ex's

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Speaker 5: And again, I think it all goes back to how

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Speaker 5: they interact because it could give family long time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, child, child, Yeah, thank you Christian. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: When you guys are you know, doing long hugs? Just

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Speaker 5: I'm like, it's all good. I'm not jealous.

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Speaker 1: Unless she hasn't voiced a single problem to me about

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Speaker 1: any of this until today. She would even encourage me

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Speaker 1: So it seems like everything is chill chill. Also, anybody

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Speaker 2: What's chill?

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Speaker 6: Sam?

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Speaker 1: Tina, I'm done with the twenty gifted membership? Ye spread

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Speaker 1: in the love we love to see it. And Josephe

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Speaker 1: Madola request Riley tipplink Please, Riley, where's my tip?

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Speaker 2: Give me that tip?

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Speaker 1: Give me that tip. Ryles, I was under the impression

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Speaker 1: Sarah really liked her, especially considering the extra effort she

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Speaker 2: Seems like everyone's happy. I thought they were friends.

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Speaker 1: Wow. She told me today, after taking time to think

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Speaker 1: she gave me an ultimatum to end our friendship or

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Speaker 1: she will end our relationship. She said, she feels disrespected.

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Speaker 1: I would even consider keeping someone I had a relationship

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Speaker 1: with in my life. I couldn't get a single word

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Speaker 1: I don't understand how any of this could happen. She

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Speaker 1: seemed happy. This is meant to be a positive time

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Speaker 1: in a relationship. She said, nothing has happened between her,

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Speaker 1: Emma or our families. Again, there's more to this story,

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Speaker 1: but really quick checkpoint right here. Is this a red

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Speaker 2: I think so.

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Speaker 3: I think giving an ultimatum, especially because it seems like

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Speaker 3: this is something that op has been fourth coming about.

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Speaker 2: Communicated the time.

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Speaker 3: And also she could have said these specific things are

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Speaker 3: making me uncomfortable. Rather she said, you can't be friends

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Speaker 5: The fact that she said you having anyone in your

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Speaker 5: like maybe if that's what two people agree upon, like whatever,

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Speaker 5: But that is such a switch up, And why wasn't

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Speaker 5: anything brought up in the years prior.

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Speaker 1: It's like being a stripper. We like, you know how

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Speaker 1: we've read those stories this wait, wait, stay with me,

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Speaker 1: all right, let me cook. So you know how we've

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Speaker 1: read those stories where a guy will start dating a

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Speaker 1: and then when it gets serious, he's like, I don't

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Speaker 1: want you to keep stripping. It's like, I've been forth

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Speaker 1: right with all of this information from the beginning. If

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Speaker 1: you didn't like this, you should have told me in

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Speaker 1: the beginning of the relationship.

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Speaker 3: You know, and take the girl on the stripper.

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Speaker 1: You can't take the girl on the stripper, and you

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Speaker 1: can't take the family friend X out of your husband.

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Speaker 3: That actually doesn't translate that ring.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what to do.

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Speaker 5: Thanks for the the only one.

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Speaker 1: I needed that I needed. I don't want to be out.

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Speaker 3: It made sense, It did make sense. It was just

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Speaker 3: your your final closing thoughts.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah it was a finish thought, but maybe not

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Speaker 1: a good one. Sam's bad take. So I don't know

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Speaker 1: a relationship at the moment. Does that change anything for anyone?

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Speaker 1: Let us know in the chat.

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Speaker 2: Below, makes it harder for them to cheat on each other.

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Speaker 6: That's what these people say.

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Speaker 1: He's blaming his dirty, dirty people, the story.

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Speaker 2: People, these stories that are crazy.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I can't believe he's blaming you guys.

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Speaker 1: We don't claim him, don't talk every day, and don't

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Speaker 1: see each other one on one very frequently, Sarah. It's

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Speaker 1: to put an end to that behavior as well. I

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Speaker 1: can't control what my family does, who they see, or

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Speaker 1: who they are friends with. They have been nothing but

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Speaker 1: don't know what to do. Is my friendship wrong? Should

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Speaker 1: I talk to our families? Or is this ultimatum unfair?

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Speaker 1: We have an edit relevant comments and a big fat,

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Speaker 1: juicy update that is somewhat soon after, but really quick.

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Speaker 1: I want to ask chat all of the questions that

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Speaker 1: I just asked, and ask John and Sophia, what do

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Speaker 1: you think what to do? Is the relationship wrong, the

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Speaker 1: friendship wrong? Is the ultimatum unfair? What do guys think?

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Speaker 5: I think generally, Yeah, when an ultimatum is entered into

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Speaker 5: the chat of life, that is you know LFGSGA.

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Speaker 1: Dude, John slowly turning Jen out.

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Speaker 3: When your partner is an op sometimes you have to

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Speaker 1: Sometimes you have to.

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Speaker 2: My conspiracy theory. Take your conspiracy theory and raise you.

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Speaker 3: Oh I see you and raise you.

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Speaker 3: We're cheating together and now Sarah is running off with Emma.

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Speaker 3: That was what I said, John said, and then have

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Speaker 1: Victorious Abs says Sarah is being weird. Her ultimatum is

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Speaker 1: Did something change? Did something happen? I don't know what

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Speaker 3: Her and she just leaves voicemails and say.

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Speaker 2: I want choices for breakfast.

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Speaker 4: He's like, do you.

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Speaker 2: And she's like, god, choice.

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Speaker 1: So you have the update. It's a been a very

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Speaker 1: I said, I wouldn't attend any get togethers Oh. I

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Speaker 2: even she's like, make a choice, Yeah, a simple make

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Speaker 2: Much, Sarah.

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Speaker 1: This is what she says. She says, where are you?

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Speaker 1: neighbors started to come out onto their porches. It was

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00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:01,840
Speaker 1: a crap show. My parents came outside too, and my

440
00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:04,480
Speaker 1: mother started to try and talk to her. They've always

441
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:07,320
Speaker 1: gotten along well, and she wasn't responding to me no

442
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:13,080
Speaker 1: matter how much I tried. Sarah wasn't having it. Really

443
00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:18,600
Speaker 1: quick pausing here, what do you do in this kind

444
00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:19,160
Speaker 1: of situation?

445
00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:21,640
Speaker 3: I think you go back inside.

446
00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:23,520
Speaker 1: You go back inside and just not deal with it.

447
00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 1: And it's like, hey, like, I'm not going to talk

448
00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:28,240
Speaker 1: to you this way. Talk to me when you're a

449
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:29,000
Speaker 1: little bit calmer.

450
00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:32,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know what else. I mean, she's screaming

451
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 3: at you, she's not listening. I think it's worse to

452
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:38,399
Speaker 3: just have like to take that. I don't thinkah, I

453
00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 3: don't think anyone should just have to take someone screaming

454
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:42,000
Speaker 3: at them for no reason.

455
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:44,040
Speaker 2: I'm happy to sit down and talk. But yeah, but

456
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:45,280
Speaker 2: this is not like this.

457
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 1: If this happened to me, this would be like prevorce territories.

458
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:53,400
Speaker 3: Absolutely, no one should ever be screaming at someone.

459
00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 2: It like, yeah, like for this and pulling up randomly.

460
00:24:57,400 --> 00:25:00,359
Speaker 2: It's like, yeah, after parents happen, he's just like what

461
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:05,160
Speaker 2: I don't understand. I literally have given zero context.

462
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:08,320
Speaker 1: Of any sense except like, all you know is she's

463
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:12,440
Speaker 1: jealous of your ex girlfriend. That's all you know. Benji

464
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 1: Sola says prevorce. Actually, I would love to know pull,

465
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:18,920
Speaker 1: prevorce or talk. I will say really quick.

466
00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, oh I wonder if there's uh some like mental

467
00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:27,320
Speaker 5: health things that are happening with her.

468
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, possibly.

469
00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:31,479
Speaker 1: Character.

470
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,280
Speaker 5: It seems extremely out of character from what everything Oh

471
00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:36,560
Speaker 5: he's told us, So yeah, maybe that's something that I

472
00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:37,040
Speaker 5: think that could.

473
00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:38,480
Speaker 3: I think that's a definite impossibility.

474
00:25:38,640 --> 00:25:42,560
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah. Tia says, Sarah's gone. Craig Craig, Courtney Robinson

475
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:48,080
Speaker 1: La Salle says prevorce. I cau a, we got our

476
00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:50,960
Speaker 1: we got our people over on Twitch say, I agree.

477
00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:54,480
Speaker 1: Car says I think they need to communicate. Maybe there

478
00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:58,600
Speaker 1: is an underlying issue. I definitely agree they need to communicate.

479
00:25:58,680 --> 00:26:04,879
Speaker 1: I don't think she's the Smithy Tiffy says pre wars.

480
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:09,439
Speaker 1: Queen Procrastination says both talk and prevorce. I think so

481
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 1: so prevorce regardless of tut.

482
00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:12,600
Speaker 3: Just to figure out what's going on.

483
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:16,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, we got some voting. It looks like one hundred

484
00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:21,520
Speaker 1: percent prevorse right now, love our community over here on thirteen,

485
00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 1: I have one vote for talk. They're coming in, But

486
00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:34,280
Speaker 1: let's get back into this story. We got some we

487
00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:38,000
Speaker 1: got we got some stuff to get through. So she

488
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:42,480
Speaker 1: told me she knew what I had been doing behind

489
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:46,119
Speaker 1: her back, that her family knew, and I was lucky

490
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 1: enough to be given a chance to cut my ties

491
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:53,200
Speaker 1: and move on after having an affair for so long.

492
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:57,360
Speaker 1: I have never cheated on her, let alone have an affair.

493
00:26:57,680 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 1: I love Sarah. I wanted to marry her and be

494
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:02,919
Speaker 1: with her. It didn't matter what I said. She wouldn't

495
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 1: believe me, she wouldn't listen. She kept calling me every

496
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 1: name under the sun. My mother asked her to please

497
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:12,040
Speaker 1: come inside to talk, that it was a misunderstanding, that

498
00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:14,439
Speaker 1: I loved her, that they loved her, and we just

499
00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:18,679
Speaker 1: needed to talk it through. Sarah started calling her a

500
00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:24,600
Speaker 1: b no, a terrible mother, and a crappy person. Don't

501
00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:26,440
Speaker 1: talk to my model like that.

502
00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 3: That sounds like it could be a mental health thing.

503
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 6: Total.

504
00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:30,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe she just had like a kind of like

505
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: a like a.

506
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 3: Brepole er, like like a BPD kind of thing.

507
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:37,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, we don't We are not psychologists. We're

508
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:43,679
Speaker 1: not diagnosing but a little bit so is.

509
00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 3: I mean I know people who with you know, with

510
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:55,879
Speaker 3: like BPD, who have had these like barge you know, outbursts. Yeah,

511
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:58,000
Speaker 3: so maybe this is something that needs to like go

512
00:27:58,080 --> 00:27:59,439
Speaker 3: to a therapist or get medicated for.

513
00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:05,640
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, one underd percent one under present. So

514
00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:10,760
Speaker 1: told her that she knew what I was apparently doing

515
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 1: and even encouraged it. How sick she was for that.

516
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:18,240
Speaker 1: My mother tried to explain herself that this wasn't what

517
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 1: was happening. That's when Sarah slapped her.

518
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:26,399
Speaker 2: Oh it is so game over. Out of nowhere.

519
00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:34,679
Speaker 1: Bull Force no silver Clover says, oh, hell no, you

520
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:37,119
Speaker 1: can disrespect me, but you cannot disrespect my mama.

521
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:38,520
Speaker 4: My mama.

522
00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: Yeah. Wow, wow, okay, are we still are we still

523
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:46,600
Speaker 1: trying to talk? Trying to talk?

524
00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:48,520
Speaker 4: You could change your vote, just.

525
00:28:49,040 --> 00:28:49,920
Speaker 6: Change your votes now.

526
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:55,200
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, reevestone twenty one. Here's a token for

527
00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 1: more reading time. We're going to give you thirty dollar.

528
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 1: We got thirty more minutes coming for you. We also

529
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 1: have a bunch of more donos that we will read too.

530
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 1: But Benji Sola says, oh, his girlfriend is crazy crazy. Yeah,

531
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:13,800
Speaker 1: it looks like some people are changing their votes. Preevorice

532
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:17,680
Speaker 1: yea is now eighty three percent. I think I'm in

533
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 1: the pre Wars camp. Oh god, yeah, but you definitely

534
00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:32,080
Speaker 1: should be. Oh man, okay, full force. So I went silent.

535
00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:40,680
Speaker 1: My mother started to cry. Sarah, Sarah the slapper, the

536
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:46,400
Speaker 1: girlfriend soon to be ex girlfriend hopefully started apologizing over

537
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 1: and over. It was instant regret, or at least it

538
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 1: looked that way. Do we forgive her?

539
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:59,240
Speaker 3: No? No, I think, okay, I still want to know why,

540
00:29:59,360 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 3: so let her.

541
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:00,960
Speaker 1: She apologized.

542
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:03,440
Speaker 2: It was instant regret.

543
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 4: She instant super bad.

544
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:10,720
Speaker 2: Will you forgive me?

545
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:14,040
Speaker 4: I should just go forward with the wedding?

546
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I heard. Maybe you know what. I think kids

547
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 1: will save the marriage. Just try to pump out some.

548
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 3: Kids, adage something borrowed, something blue, slap his mom.

549
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 1: And maybe you too. It didn't matter. It ended right there.

550
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:36,440
Speaker 1: I told her to go, that the engagement was off

551
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 1: and we were over that she needed to get her

552
00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:43,640
Speaker 1: things from my house. He was crying, still apologizing. But

553
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 1: you can't come back from that. She hit my mother.

554
00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 1: She's never not shown all the love in the world

555
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:52,640
Speaker 1: of Sarah, and for her to do that to someone,

556
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:57,120
Speaker 1: let alone someone that means that much to me was enough.

557
00:30:57,960 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 1: I don't know why she wouldn't listen to me. I

558
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 1: don't know why she chose to believe these other people

559
00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:04,320
Speaker 1: over me. And who are these other people?

560
00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:05,479
Speaker 3: Family? Her family?

561
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:09,080
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's true, why she wouldn't even talk, But

562
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:13,959
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter. I've never felt this empty. Also, we

563
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 1: do have some more context from op coming up in

564
00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 1: the relevant comments, so maybe we'll get some insight into

565
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 1: what was said. I need it to Sarah to make

566
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:28,680
Speaker 1: her have such such a giant out take.

567
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:31,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just know.

568
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 1: Let's keep going. So. I don't know why she wouldn't

569
00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 1: listen to me. I don't know why she chose to

570
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:39,040
Speaker 1: believe these other people over me, why she wouldn't even talk,

571
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:41,640
Speaker 1: But it doesn't matter. I've never felt this empty. I

572
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 1: gave three years of my life to someone who refused

573
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 1: even talk to me or believe me. I thought I

574
00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:51,920
Speaker 1: knew her, I thought she was kind. How can you

575
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 1: go so long with someone and not even know what

576
00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 1: they are capable of? All I know at this point

577
00:31:57,000 --> 00:32:01,200
Speaker 1: is that I planned to stay single for a while. Well, again,

578
00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 1: we have some context from Ope about maybe what her

579
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:14,160
Speaker 1: family has said, but really quick is there anything more

580
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:16,000
Speaker 1: that we do than just break up.

581
00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:17,920
Speaker 2: No, drop it.

582
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:21,480
Speaker 5: It's not literally, you do not have to do anything

583
00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 5: more because Sarah has just gone absolutely so far. She

584
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 5: doesn't deserve any more of OPI's energy and time. It's

585
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 5: cut it, move on and invest in bettering himself and

586
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 5: moving on.

587
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 3: For me, I do need the context, though, I would

588
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 3: want to know.

589
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:39,720
Speaker 2: I would just like.

590
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 3: Them to actually talk to.

591
00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:44,080
Speaker 2: Honestly, I don't even I don't know.

592
00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 5: I don't know if I maybe maybe eventually, like once

593
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 5: I've like calm him down, but I feel like that

594
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 5: like initial like after shock period.

595
00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:52,760
Speaker 2: I'm like, I never want to talk to you again.

596
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I saw if if we scroll up uh L.

597
00:32:57,480 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 1: Grace Burrows says, press charges, would you do that?

598
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 3: I think so? I mean, I I don't know.

599
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,720
Speaker 1: I don't know if I would, just because like.

600
00:33:08,040 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 3: Yeah she said no. Maybe she says no, but I

601
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 3: think great.

602
00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 1: Pead says, not f that restraining order. Maybe you do

603
00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:18,520
Speaker 1: report it for the restraining order because I was thinking, like, oh,

604
00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 1: you're gonna get into all of this law stuff that's

605
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:22,720
Speaker 1: going to be a hassle for for everyone. Might not

606
00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:26,560
Speaker 1: be worth it. But if you need a exactly restraining Yeah,

607
00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 1: I think call the police report it. Restraining order might

608
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 1: be good. But I saw a comment up there. It

609
00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:35,240
Speaker 1: went away, but they were like, she didn't dodge a bullet,

610
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:40,840
Speaker 1: she dodged the nuclear bomb. But yeah, this is this

611
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 1: is pretty bad. But we got some context. I I hope,

612
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:47,640
Speaker 1: I hope we get a little bit context in these

613
00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:53,160
Speaker 1: relevant comments of what and why this was said. I'm

614
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 1: ready so embraced relevant comments. Stinker Bell great Name says

615
00:33:58,280 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 1: her behavior is extraordinary. I would reach out to a

616
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:04,360
Speaker 1: few friends of hers you could really know and can trust,

617
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:07,160
Speaker 1: and let them know what kind of bad shape she said. Honestly,

618
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:10,320
Speaker 1: this kind of sudden behavior and shift sounds like it

619
00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:13,560
Speaker 1: could be from a brain tumor or a mental health issue,

620
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:16,120
Speaker 1: which we have read stories before about someone getting a

621
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 1: brain tumor and their personality totally shifting. It also could

622
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 1: be that she was feeling stressed in some way and

623
00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 1: has some kind of breakdown under the stress. OPI responds,

624
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:29,000
Speaker 1: there's a few friends of hers I can contact, so

625
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:31,520
Speaker 1: I definitely, well, thank you. I still care about her

626
00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:33,880
Speaker 1: deeply and want nothing but the best of her best

627
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:36,439
Speaker 1: for her, but this just isn't something that I could

628
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:40,440
Speaker 1: move past. Kaylee Bean says, any possibility that Emma told

629
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:44,359
Speaker 1: Sarah that she was having an affair with you, which

630
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:47,400
Speaker 1: is the conspiracy theory that I said earlier, Sarah's behavior

631
00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:50,680
Speaker 1: is just too odd to come out of nowhere. Oh

632
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:54,480
Speaker 1: Pe responds, from what Sarah did tell me last night

633
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:57,200
Speaker 1: and from what she messaged me, since I think we're

634
00:34:57,200 --> 00:34:59,680
Speaker 1: getting a little bit of context right here, it was

635
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 1: members of her family that told her. Her family has

636
00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:05,879
Speaker 1: been has never been close to or met mine, only

637
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:09,719
Speaker 1: met them recently and briefly. They have declined every invitation

638
00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:12,640
Speaker 1: to get together. From what I know, they haven't gotten

639
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 1: to know any of Sarah's exes or their families. My

640
00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:19,960
Speaker 1: best guess is that the concept is extremely foreign to them,

641
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 1: so something had to be a miss in their eyes,

642
00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:27,319
Speaker 1: or maybe they just didn't like me. Sarah loves her family, though,

643
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 1: the fact that this news came from them is probably

644
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 1: why she believed it without any second thought. And final

645
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:39,960
Speaker 1: relevant comment with a response from op Zia says, how

646
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:42,399
Speaker 1: is your poor mother holding up after all this? Op

647
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 1: Opie responds, My mom is a tough, tough lady and

648
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 1: she's handling it well considering, but I haven't seen her

649
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:52,799
Speaker 1: this upset in a really long time. She was excited

650
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 1: about our wedding. She thought Sarah was the greatest girl

651
00:35:56,840 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 1: I've ever brought home. She considered her a daughter and

652
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:05,400
Speaker 1: a friend, which is why it hurts her the most.

653
00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:08,879
Speaker 1: I think she's definitely getting through. She's definitely getting there through.

654
00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:13,920
Speaker 1: She even started cracking jokes and I shouldn't and that

655
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:18,360
Speaker 1: I shouldn't just date anymore and buy a dog instead,

656
00:36:18,560 --> 00:36:22,760
Speaker 1: which is literally what my mom says every day. She says,

657
00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:24,960
Speaker 1: stop dating, buy a dog.

658
00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:33,120
Speaker 2: No, Oh my god, Wow, what.

659
00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:34,800
Speaker 4: I'm like?

660
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 3: I just need to know this.

661
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:38,240
Speaker 2: This this episode, it is felt like a movie.

662
00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:42,560
Speaker 1: It has it has it has. Last night it was

663
00:36:42,560 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 1: a movie.

664
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:44,840
Speaker 4: Would you be friends with your ex?

665
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:46,359
Speaker 1: Not this one?

666
00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, this one. The story was that you should

667
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:50,160
Speaker 3: be