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Speaker 1: It's time to Catch a Cheater Only on the Double Show.

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Speaker 2: Alicia is on the phone today for to Catch a Cheater.

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Speaker 2: She's been married to her husband Edward for three years,

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Speaker 2: but now she thinks something might be going on, so

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Speaker 2: we'll see if we can.

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Speaker 3: Help her out.

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Speaker 2: Sorry about that, Alicia, what's going on? Why do you

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Speaker 2: think that your husband Edward's cheating?

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Speaker 4: Hi? Well, I mean it's kind of a it's kind

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Speaker 4: of a bit of a story.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 4: Well, we work for the same company, but we work

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Speaker 4: in at different departments, so we've never really had to

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Speaker 4: interact that much. I have a different boss in my

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Speaker 4: department and my husband, Edward is the boss in his department.

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Speaker 4: And you know, we're both very professional at work, and

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Speaker 4: we're very by the book. So when we come home,

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Speaker 4: we don't really talk very much about work, and it's

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Speaker 4: been good for us in the relationship, but sometimes it

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Speaker 4: can be a little a little boring. But you know,

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Speaker 4: we just don't really talk talk about our days, I

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Speaker 4: guess when we get home until about until about a

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Speaker 4: month ago, some things have just gotten sort of rocky

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Speaker 4: in the past month, and my husband and I have

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Speaker 4: been going to therapy trying to work with a therapist

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Speaker 4: and then trying to talk things. But it doesn't really

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Speaker 4: feel like things are getting better. It just feels like

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Speaker 4: everything is sort of plateaued and they've not gotten worse.

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Speaker 4: And I just feel like Edward, I don't know, he

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Speaker 4: seems very attached, he feels he seems like he's bored,

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Speaker 4: like he just wants to not come home or not

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Speaker 4: really like talk to me. And I feel like I've

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Speaker 4: tried everything I could think of to like spice things

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Speaker 4: up and keep him interested.

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Speaker 5: Are you bored?

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Speaker 4: No? You know, I mean I've been we've been married

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Speaker 4: for a while, you know, well not a while, but

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Speaker 4: three years. So it's a long time to be married.

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Speaker 4: And you know, it's comfortable now, so I'm not really bored.

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Speaker 4: But I mean there are times when things have gotten

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Speaker 4: sort of complacent, but that I think that's just life.

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Speaker 6: Sure, do you think that he's actually cheating on you

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Speaker 6: or do you think that because he's bored that he might.

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Speaker 4: Well, here's the thing is we you know, we both

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Speaker 4: take separate cars to work, even though we're going the

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Speaker 4: same place, but we both get home. He usually gets

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Speaker 4: home a little later, but now he's been getting home

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Speaker 4: like a few hours later than he usually does. And

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Speaker 4: he's also been getting text from his secretary Lizzy right

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Speaker 4: before we go to bed at ten eleven, which is

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Speaker 4: pretty late for us. And I've asked him, like, why

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Speaker 4: does your secretary keep texting you? What does she need

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Speaker 4: to talk to you about.

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Speaker 3: Like eleven o'clock at night?

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Speaker 4: And he says, oh, it's just work, and he's very

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Speaker 4: you know, I'll say, stop talking, like, stop being like that,

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Speaker 4: like you're being creaky right now.

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Speaker 3: I don't like that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean it's very like he just has like

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Speaker 4: these prepared answers to kind of shoot me down whenever

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Speaker 4: I ask him anything about Lizzy to where I don't

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Speaker 4: feel comfortable talking about it. But I don't think that's

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Speaker 4: appropriate or that she probably needs to text him that late.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, no, I think you think you're right. Does

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Speaker 5: Lizzie know you?

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Speaker 4: Does? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: She knows me.

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Speaker 5: Okay.

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Speaker 6: I mean, coworkers don't need to be texting that late

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Speaker 6: unless you're working on a special project and it's like

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Speaker 6: a one time thing, but.

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Speaker 5: That's like not an everyday thing. Yeah, I mean, could

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Speaker 3: Working on a special project.

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Speaker 4: I don't think so, but it's I don't think so.

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Speaker 4: I think work is just normal.

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Speaker 3: As it's always been. I don't.

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Speaker 4: I don't think they have anything special going on right now.

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Speaker 4: But it's also just like the way he responds in

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Speaker 4: his tone whenever I ask him about it, he gets

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Speaker 4: very defensive.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, not a good Defensiveness is usually not a good

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Speaker 2: sign when it comes to that.

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Speaker 3: Well, we'll see if we can help you out.

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Speaker 2: You already told us a grocery store, you guys are

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Speaker 2: rewards card members at, So we'll call pretend to be

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Speaker 2: from the grocery store and say that every single month,

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Speaker 2: we choose one lucky rewards member who gets free flowers

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Speaker 2: delivered to anybody that they want, and we'll see if

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Speaker 2: he sends us to you or to somebody else.

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Speaker 3: Okay, o, great, thank you.

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Speaker 2: If lay Song, come back and get your to Catch

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Speaker 2: a teater next right in the middle of to Catch

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Speaker 2: a teeter if you're just joining us. Alicia is on

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Speaker 2: the phone and she thinks that her husband of three years, Edward,

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Speaker 2: might be cheating. So we're about to call him and

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Speaker 2: pretend to be from the grocery store that he's a

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Speaker 2: rewards member at, and tell him that every single month

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Speaker 2: we choose one lucky rewards member who gets free flowers

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Speaker 2: delivered from our floral department, and we'll see if he

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Speaker 2: sends those to his wife, Alicia or to somebody else.

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Speaker 2: But first, Alicia, why don't you refresh our memory of

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Speaker 2: your situation?

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Speaker 4: My husband and I have been having lately, has been

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Speaker 4: going to therapy and thanks, it's much gotten worse that

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Speaker 4: they haven't really gotten better. And lately he hasn't been

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Speaker 4: coming home from work right away, and he's been getting

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Speaker 4: chext from his sex cherry pretty late at night and

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Speaker 4: won't tell me what they're about, and gets pretty defensive

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Speaker 4: when I ask him. So, just wondering what's going on?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, me too, see if we can find out for you.

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Speaker 3: Are you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 5: Yes?

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Speaker 3: Okay, here we go.

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Speaker 2: Hello, Hi, this is corrible calling from SO. I was

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Speaker 2: looking for a rewards card member named Edward. Yes speaking

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Speaker 2: Hi Edward. Please don't hang up. This is not a

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Speaker 2: marketing phone call. I'm actually calling to say congrats here

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Speaker 2: this month's big winner.

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Speaker 3: Wow, yeah, I must be Uh must be my lucky day?

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Speaker 3: Would I win the flowers?

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Speaker 2: Every single month, we choose one lucky Rewards Card member

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Speaker 2: at random to say thank you very much for being

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Speaker 2: a customer and chopping with us. You've won thirty six

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Speaker 2: long stem red roses, a box of candy or chocolate,

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Speaker 2: and a card to be delivered to anybody that you

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Speaker 2: want within the fifty United States.

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Speaker 3: It's a three hundred and sixteen dollars value. Actually wow.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, no, thank you, thank you.

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Speaker 3: I'm in Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Can I tell you who to make it up to?

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Speaker 5: All right?

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Speaker 2: Let me get my form pulled up then, and okay,

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Speaker 2: first thing I'll need is the first and last name

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Speaker 2: of the person you want to send him to.

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Speaker 1: Sure, yeah, make it up to Lizzy.

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Speaker 3: Okay, great, I will do that.

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Speaker 2: And is there anything you would like to put on

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Speaker 2: a card before I get the address and stuff?

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Speaker 4: Sure?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, put Alicia.

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Speaker 1: I listened to the show too, and Lizzy is my

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Speaker 1: free pass. Okay, whoa, what are you serious right now?

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Speaker 1: Putting me on the show? Putting me on blast?

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Speaker 3: You know I listened to the show. I know your voice, buddy.

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Speaker 5: Well, thank you for listening to the show.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you for listening to the show. Obviously.

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Speaker 2: Then you know your wife is on the phone, Alicia

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Speaker 2: and suspects that you might be messing around, So.

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Speaker 1: You are Alicia. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm cheating on you

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Speaker 1: with Lizzy.

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Speaker 4: I'm cheating on with you with Lizzia.

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Speaker 3: And I haven't mean anything. All right, listen, it's just musical.

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Speaker 1: But guess what, she's my past because you cheated first,

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Speaker 1: and you know this.

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Speaker 4: Did she tell you that? Did she tell you that

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Speaker 4: she's a cheater?

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Speaker 3: Did she tell you let them know? Alsia?

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Speaker 4: Do you want to tell themer?

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Speaker 3: Should I?

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Speaker 4: Alicia had sex with her? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Two months ago.

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Speaker 5: Do you know how I found out?

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Speaker 4: We drive separate.

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Speaker 1: So one day I came home, I found a condom

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Speaker 1: wrapper in the waste basket next to the bed in

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Speaker 1: my bed.

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Speaker 3: All right, do you think we use condom as now?

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Speaker 5: Okay?

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Speaker 6: So then I'm ashamed.

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Speaker 1: I felt being being cuckled by my my, your boss.

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Speaker 4: The way you deal with it is should cheat on

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Speaker 4: me with your secretary.

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Speaker 5: That's the way I deal with it with your secretary.

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Speaker 4: That's so cliche.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's the.

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Speaker 4: Way that you deal with it. To get back at.

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Speaker 1: Me, Oh, give me a break, Like we haven't gone

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Speaker 1: to therapy, Like we haven't gone through this that you

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Speaker 1: owe me. You admitted that we talked about having a

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Speaker 1: free past.

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Speaker 3: Guess what Lizzie is mine.

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Speaker 4: I tried to be a little bit double about it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was kind of obvious, But for you to

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Speaker 1: and call it out.

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Speaker 4: Are you kidding me?

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Speaker 3: Alicia? You hypocrite?

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Speaker 6: So you lied about it, and it kind of doesn't

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Speaker 6: make it better that you just didn't see it.

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Speaker 5: But Alicia, you don't. I mean, it.

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Speaker 2: Sounds like you know you guys obviously have a lot

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Speaker 2: to talk about or to not talk about it anymore.

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Speaker 4: I don't think you should just try to make it

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Speaker 4: an eye for an eye and get back at me

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Speaker 4: sleeping with your secretary and then lying to.

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Speaker 5: Me about it.

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Speaker 3: You were fine with an eye for an eye. You

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Speaker 3: said you owed me all right, Do I have a

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Speaker 6: Well, you suld have just told her that you have,

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Speaker 6: that you were taking advantage of the past. I mean,

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Speaker 6: at that point.

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Speaker 4: No, I'm sorry if I made you feel humiliated or

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Speaker 4: called you out. That was not what I wanted to do.

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Speaker 4: I just felt like you weren't talking to me and

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Speaker 4: you couldn't tell me what.

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Speaker 5: Was going on.

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Speaker 4: If you wanted a free pass, why didn't you have

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Speaker 4: this conversation with me?

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Speaker 6: Right?

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Speaker 1: Did you have a conversation with me before you do

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Speaker 1: you think I wanted any of this?

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Speaker 2: Okay, Aliciady, you got your answer.

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Speaker 4: So I just talk about this off the year when

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Speaker 4: we go home. I mean, I love you, and I don't.

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Speaker 3: I don't want to keep fighting with you. Do you

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Speaker 3: guys want to be together.

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Speaker 1: I didn't enjoy being with Lizzie. It was a one

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Speaker 1: time thing, and I'm I'm, I'm I'm calling it off.

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Speaker 3: I don't want to do it again. I only did

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Speaker 3: it because I felt like I had to gain some

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Speaker 3: kind of control all right back in the relationship. But no,

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Speaker 3: you're who I want to be with and I hate

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Speaker 3: I hate everything about it. I love you.

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