WEBVTT - Everybody Loves Sal 0:00:03.520 --> 0:00:06.080 What made you say yes to the show. When I 0:00:06.120 --> 0:00:08.920 stumbled upon this opportunity, I was like, this is something 0:00:09.000 --> 0:00:12.800 where they're filtering out so many people, such an intense process. 0:00:13.320 --> 0:00:17.279 Who is your favorite cast member on the show. My 0:00:17.320 --> 0:00:21.160 favorite cast member on the show is have your ex broken? 0:00:21.200 --> 0:00:27.800 Titchu up? You know they probably did. Uh. I've got 0:00:28.160 --> 0:00:31.639 a few more messages than you. I bet you've got 0:00:31.680 --> 0:00:39.479 a lot of girls slid from your Dan's boy. Hi. Everyone, 0:00:39.680 --> 0:00:41.880 I'm so happy to have you here with me today. 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:44.720 As always, thank you so much for joining me. I'm 0:00:44.720 --> 0:00:46.760 your host Cheeky's and today is going to be a 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:50.520 pretty exciting episode. That's because today's guest is a cast 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:55.440 member from the popular Netflix reality show Love Is Blind. Guys, 0:00:55.520 --> 0:00:58.440 I've watched the entire show and I've enjoyed every single 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:00.720 minute of it. I'm not even joking. So I'm super 0:01:00.720 --> 0:01:03.160 excited to talk to today's guest about a bunch of 0:01:03.200 --> 0:01:06.040 different topics. So let's get right into it. This is 0:01:06.400 --> 0:01:19.280 cheek Ease and Chill. Alright, So it's promised. I'm sitting 0:01:19.319 --> 0:01:22.520 here with the one and only sell the Door Perez. 0:01:24.000 --> 0:01:26.640 You know him as Seal, and as I mentioned earlier, 0:01:26.720 --> 0:01:29.120 he is a start on the reality show Love Is 0:01:29.160 --> 0:01:31.720 Blind season two. If you guys haven't seen it yet, 0:01:31.840 --> 0:01:35.160 you guys can binge the entire season on Netflix now, 0:01:35.200 --> 0:01:37.520 and I'm telling you it's a must watch. So sal 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:40.320 welcome to the show. How are you? Thank you? I 0:01:40.920 --> 0:01:43.160 am really there. You know, it's been a little bit 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:46.759 different since the show ended. But I'm great, I'm great, 0:01:46.800 --> 0:01:50.120 and I yeah, I'm excited to be here. Thank you 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:52.280 so much. I'm so excited to talk to you. And okay, 0:01:52.320 --> 0:01:54.240 now let let me let's just get right into it. 0:01:54.280 --> 0:01:56.880 You said that it's been a little different since, like 0:01:57.000 --> 0:01:59.800 the show ended. Why in what way? Well, just for 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:02.360 off the bat, I'm such a private person, like to 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:05.360 begin with, so just seeing people like giving me such 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:10.000 so much support and being stopped like in random situations 0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:12.400 in my life has been an adjustment. But you know, 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:15.360 people are so nice here and they're so considerate. They're like, 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:17.840 is this okay? Can I can I talk to you 0:02:17.880 --> 0:02:21.480 a little man? How cute? Where do you live? I 0:02:21.560 --> 0:02:26.120 live in a wicker Park in Chicago, Illinois. Oh nice, Okay, 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:29.040 I heard somewhere. You're from El Paso? Is that correct? Yes, 0:02:29.160 --> 0:02:31.880 that's always home for me. El Paso, Texas. I was 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:35.679 not born there, but I was raised there so since 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:38.120 I was two years old, and then eventually made them 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:41.960 move over to Chicago. Okay, so let's get into love 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:45.280 is Blind. So you say that you're a very you know, 0:02:45.320 --> 0:02:49.240 a reserved or private person. What made you say yes 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:51.840 to the show, to this experiment? Because you're you're in 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:55.119 your early thirties, right, So what made you feel like, Okay, 0:02:55.160 --> 0:02:57.720 I'm gonna take the sleep of faith? You know, originally 0:02:57.840 --> 0:03:01.120 I I thought it would be really fun to try it. 0:03:01.440 --> 0:03:04.600 To be completely honest, I was tired of the apps. 0:03:05.000 --> 0:03:07.160 I had no real luck there. I feel like I 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:09.840 got a lot of judgment on those apps when I 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:13.080 was on there. And you know, it's so easy to 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:17.079 swipe on somebody if if whatever, if they have just 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:19.600 not the right picture or something like that, then it's 0:03:19.639 --> 0:03:21.920 easy to just like, all right, next person, you know 0:03:21.960 --> 0:03:25.959 what I mean. So when I stumbled upon this opportunity, 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:28.400 I was like, okay, I mean, this is something where 0:03:28.400 --> 0:03:31.120 they're filtering out so many people. This is such an 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:35.280 intense process. It's backed by research, it's backed by people 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:37.760 who are like, this is supposed to work. I don't 0:03:37.760 --> 0:03:39.440 know how much I could say, but there were so 0:03:39.480 --> 0:03:42.800 many questions I had to answer before actually being accepted 0:03:42.840 --> 0:03:45.560 into this. So just right off the bat, I was like, 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:47.720 all right, if all of these people are going through this, 0:03:47.960 --> 0:03:50.120 I want to see if this actually works. So I 0:03:50.160 --> 0:03:52.240 was like, I'm going to step out of my comfort 0:03:52.280 --> 0:03:54.600 zone a little bit. And you know, even though I 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:56.600 am more of a private person, I was just like, 0:03:56.640 --> 0:03:58.240 I want to put it out there. Let's see this 0:03:58.280 --> 0:04:01.200 could be an opportunity for growth. Then maybe I end 0:04:01.240 --> 0:04:04.120 up marrying at the end of it. Well that's good though. 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:06.520 You're open. You're open to the idea. And did you 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:09.440 really feel like, okay, if I meet that girl, like 0:04:09.520 --> 0:04:11.360 I'm ready to get married, like you're ready to take 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:14.160 that step. I definitely felt like I was ready to 0:04:14.200 --> 0:04:17.880 find my person absolutely, yeah. Yeah, But it was I 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:19.400 had to go into it with an open mind and 0:04:19.440 --> 0:04:22.520 open heart and be just very open to the experience. 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:24.400 You know, I knew that going I was just like, 0:04:24.480 --> 0:04:27.680 I'm just gonna go hard, I'm gonna be emotional, I'm 0:04:27.720 --> 0:04:30.040 gonna be vulnerable, I'm gonna be open with these people 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:32.320 and just put my heart on the line. And that's 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:36.240 exactly what I did, so you did, and I loved you. 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:39.720 I was like, well, I'm like, honestly, I watched it, 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:42.479 like I got stuck on the show, and you really 0:04:42.520 --> 0:04:44.320 stood out to me because of that. I was like, 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:47.560 he looks like a genuine person, Like he is in 0:04:47.640 --> 0:04:50.000 touch with his emotions, he's very honest, he knows what 0:04:50.040 --> 0:04:54.279 he wants because you're very young, and usually men like 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:56.320 aren't ready you know, quote unquote, like until they're like 0:04:56.320 --> 0:04:59.359 their mid thirties, late thirties. But like, I think because 0:04:59.400 --> 0:05:01.039 of your family, and I'm telling I feel like I 0:05:01.040 --> 0:05:02.600 know you right, but I feel like I met your 0:05:02.640 --> 0:05:04.760 sisters on the show. And then I'm like, he comes 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:08.520 from a good traditional family, it looks like, and he 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:11.040 has a good head on his shoulders. So I was like, dude, 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:14.400 if this girl gets your ship together, Mallory, okay, this 0:05:14.440 --> 0:05:16.760 is my show, obviously, whatever I want, guys, Okay. So 0:05:16.800 --> 0:05:18.200 I was like, if she gets her ship together, she's 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:20.960 gonna take a really good man. And then we'll talk 0:05:21.000 --> 0:05:23.800 about that a little later. But that's just my take 0:05:23.880 --> 0:05:26.480 from the show. So I admire that that you took 0:05:26.600 --> 0:05:29.000 that leap of faith and you were open to that 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:33.360 experience and that experiment because I'm sure it was scary. 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:35.680 I'm pretty sure it was, but I think it's so 0:05:35.920 --> 0:05:39.000 badass because I was very interested. I'm like, yeah, like 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:41.719 this is another way, a more genuine fear way to 0:05:41.760 --> 0:05:44.560 meet someone. Yeah, and it thinks I feel like there 0:05:44.640 --> 0:05:47.599 you get frozen into indecision when you have too many choices, 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:50.599 and I feel like that's what these apps today are 0:05:50.800 --> 0:05:53.560 geared towards. It's just giving you so many you know, 0:05:53.640 --> 0:05:56.200 and you never take the time to get to know 0:05:56.320 --> 0:06:00.279 somebody sincerely, you know. And then so this experience was 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:03.920 so intense, cheeky, like it was just that was our 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:07.680 job seven. You know. It's just like finding the person 0:06:07.760 --> 0:06:10.440 that you connect with that you want to spend the 0:06:10.440 --> 0:06:12.120 rest of your life with. And when you put that 0:06:12.200 --> 0:06:15.720 much pressure on one task, like you could really get 0:06:15.800 --> 0:06:18.200 far in that in that goal, you know, you could 0:06:18.200 --> 0:06:22.320 really just because that's your main focus. Yeah. Yeah, And 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:23.800 it was was it for two weeks that you guys 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:28.039 were in the pods? Um, technically it was like ten 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:32.240 days of pod dating. The whole experience I think took 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:35.080 about three weeks, just because we would take breaks or 0:06:35.120 --> 0:06:38.120 we weren't like going into the pods every day. Yeah, 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:39.599 I kind of figured and that was like one of 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:42.479 my questions because I mean, I come from like reality TV, 0:06:43.120 --> 0:06:45.240 so I just know that even when they would do 0:06:45.320 --> 0:06:47.600 like the edits or like they would cut certain things, 0:06:47.640 --> 0:06:49.560 I'm like, oh my god, they're just creating drama. Then 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:51.640 you watch it and then you're like, Okay, it wasn't 0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:53.880 that bad, you know, But because I know how it works, 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:55.200 I was a wondering. I'm like, I wonder if they 0:06:55.200 --> 0:06:57.360 were there straight for two weeks or did they take 0:06:57.400 --> 0:07:00.840 like you said, breaks in between. Um, you know, it's television, guys, 0:07:00.880 --> 0:07:05.080 it's television. Certain magic has to happen dates. But don't 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:07.479 get me wrong, Like some days it was harder to 0:07:08.279 --> 0:07:11.080 go on those dates because sometimes like my longest date 0:07:11.200 --> 0:07:13.679 was maybe two and a half hours, three hours inside 0:07:13.680 --> 0:07:18.360 of a pod with oh yeah, and you you just 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:20.920 sit there and it's okay to be bored with your person, 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:23.000 you know, Like, but we would just sitting there and talk, 0:07:23.160 --> 0:07:28.320 we just hang out. And sometimes these didn't make it 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:30.600 on there. Like on some other dates, I would pass 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:35.000 out a little bit. I was gonna ask, I think, 0:07:35.040 --> 0:07:39.160 did you ever take naps? Dude? Yeah? They give you 0:07:39.240 --> 0:07:43.080 really comfortable love his blind blankets, and so I was nice. 0:07:43.560 --> 0:07:45.480 Well I remember one time, but I won't say who 0:07:45.520 --> 0:07:47.360 I was on the date with, but yeah, I came 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:53.400 a little bit. And then you wake up and you're like, oh, Dane, yeah, yeah, 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:56.840 you're so respectful. That's so nice of you not to 0:07:56.880 --> 0:07:59.720 say who it was, because you've had two connections, right too, 0:07:59.720 --> 0:08:03.120 strong connections, am I am? I correct? You know for me, 0:08:03.360 --> 0:08:07.880 I had I had three. There were actually deep to 0:08:08.040 --> 0:08:11.240 and I really did connect pretty closely towards the end 0:08:11.240 --> 0:08:13.080 of it, but then we fizzled out at the end 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:16.480 when we were like top three people, Um, we have 0:08:16.600 --> 0:08:21.160 pettled out by then. But towards the end, I was 0:08:21.240 --> 0:08:24.200 pretty set on Mallory, like it was just like Mallory 0:08:24.360 --> 0:08:26.840 or nobody. And the other two people that were in 0:08:26.880 --> 0:08:29.960 my top three understood that. I think they felt it 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:32.640 was just like people talk, you know. I was talking 0:08:32.679 --> 0:08:34.960 to the guys and the girls were talking to the girls, 0:08:35.000 --> 0:08:37.360 you know, and so we kind of get around. Yeah, 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:40.320 and it got around, and and we never Mallory and 0:08:40.320 --> 0:08:43.200 I were never territorial about each other. It was just 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:45.520 kind of like we understood that, hey, we have a 0:08:45.559 --> 0:08:48.160 strong connection here. And we're having fun with each other 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:50.520 and that's it, you know, like there was no real 0:08:50.600 --> 0:08:54.960 poeticition for that, you know. So yeah, another one of 0:08:55.000 --> 0:08:56.920 my favorites is Deep Deep. I felt like she was 0:08:57.000 --> 0:09:00.520 just a very genuine, great person and I was so 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:02.679 proud of her decision to be honest, I was like, 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:07.560 oh my god, I was so happy at her, Natalie, 0:09:07.559 --> 0:09:11.120 honestly because I just felt like, sorry, guys, spoiler alert 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:12.840 here if you guys haven't watched the show, but go 0:09:12.960 --> 0:09:15.280 watch it. You'll see what I'm talking about. But Natalie, 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:17.560 I love. She's such a genuine person too, I feel, 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:19.719 I mean, from what I could see. But yeah, Deep 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:22.720 D was awesome. And now that we're talking about Mallory, 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:27.920 so let me take a deep breath, guys, she really 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:29.920 upset me at the end. Okay, I'm not I'm not 0:09:29.920 --> 0:09:32.240 talking crap about nobody. It's just once you see the show, 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:34.559 it just but you know what, I respect your decision 0:09:34.760 --> 0:09:38.520 like lack in, but I just felt like you guys 0:09:38.520 --> 0:09:41.800 did have a connection in the pod. You guys were 0:09:41.840 --> 0:09:44.800 like vibing and you could tell like how her eyes 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:47.440 would just light up when you know, you guys would 0:09:47.480 --> 0:09:49.440 talk and then I don't know what the heck happened. 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:55.000 What do you think happened? Honestly, He's like, there was 0:09:55.080 --> 0:09:59.920 stuff that did happen off camera. We we we were 0:10:00.080 --> 0:10:03.800 just not seeing eye together. And I take very seriously, 0:10:03.880 --> 0:10:07.120 like when somebody hears hears me out well, and when 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:09.520 I do want us to listen to you and to 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:12.160 repeat what you are saying to me so that you 0:10:12.200 --> 0:10:17.760 know that I am listening to You're good guy. Sorry, okay, sorry. 0:10:17.960 --> 0:10:20.000 Communication is so important to me. That's how I'm like, 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:24.040 it's true to everybody. It should be that it's the 0:10:24.160 --> 0:10:26.640 kindest and most considerate thing you could do for somebody 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:30.240 is sincerely listened to them actively and show them that 0:10:30.280 --> 0:10:34.200 you are with your body with everything you know. And uh, 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:37.120 I looked out for that, I really do. And I 0:10:37.160 --> 0:10:40.440 felt that when we were having discussions and arguments, I 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:43.280 found that we would have to have them multiple times, 0:10:43.760 --> 0:10:46.599 and I would start getting frustrated and unheard and I 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:49.200 would just be like, are you I would tell her, like, 0:10:49.240 --> 0:10:51.679 are you seriously asking me this again? Do you want 0:10:51.679 --> 0:10:54.880 me to explain myself again and discuss what I just 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:58.040 explained like two minutes ago? Like it was just it 0:10:58.120 --> 0:11:01.440 was frustrating and yeah, because sometimes I think what we 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:03.320 tend to do and I've learned this the hard way 0:11:03.559 --> 0:11:08.760 in relationships is we listen to react and not listen 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:11.760 to understand. And when you're in a relationship trying to 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:13.560 make something work, you need to really give that person 0:11:13.600 --> 0:11:17.439 your undivided attention and really show them I'm getting it, 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:19.040 and if I don't understand, I'm gonna ask you. But 0:11:19.080 --> 0:11:21.480 sometimes it's like I want to listen to just like 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:24.079 bark back at you, you know what I mean, And well, yeah, 0:11:24.120 --> 0:11:25.520 that's what I was gonna ask you, because I'm sure 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:27.160 a lot of things did happen off camera that we 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:30.680 weren't able to see, because you were pretty firm in 0:11:30.720 --> 0:11:32.360 your decision, Like I felt like it was like, from 0:11:32.360 --> 0:11:34.640 one moment to another, like you were really into it. 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:38.720 And then I was like, something must have happened behind 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:41.840 the cameras because you just completely were like I'm not 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:44.840 feeling this at all anymore. And I was really surprised 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:48.320 at the altar with your with your response, but I 0:11:48.360 --> 0:11:51.800 was also very proud. I was also very happy because 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:54.800 I just felt like, as a woman, you're watching and 0:11:54.840 --> 0:11:57.679 I'm like, I don't think she's the one I didn't 0:11:57.760 --> 0:12:00.520 feel it. I was like, I don't think she's ready. 0:12:00.559 --> 0:12:02.200 I think she wants to be ready and she's in 0:12:02.240 --> 0:12:05.320 love with the idea of being in love, but I 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:08.520 don't know if she's absolutely ready. That's just my personal opinion. Guys, 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:11.720 everyone that's listening, like, I'm not talking bad about Mary. 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:15.120 I think we all have our process and we have 0:12:15.240 --> 0:12:19.480 to respect that. But from what I got, I was like, 0:12:19.520 --> 0:12:21.560 I don't know if they're on the same frequency, you 0:12:21.600 --> 0:12:25.200 know what I mean? Yeah, No, I totally understand and 0:12:25.280 --> 0:12:28.040 hear what you're saying. And there were things that continue 0:12:28.080 --> 0:12:31.000 to happen off of the actual our actual storyline where 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:35.360 I was just like, I wanted to be sincere to 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:38.000 the experience case. I'm gonna be completely up with you. 0:12:38.040 --> 0:12:40.920 I wanted to still give it a shot because I'm like, 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:42.840 you know what, maybe I could have a change of heart, 0:12:42.960 --> 0:12:45.320 Maybe I'll feel differently when I'm there at the altar. 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:47.440 And that's why I didn't want to decide until I 0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:50.199 was there, Like I made a decision, I promised myself. 0:12:50.240 --> 0:12:53.559 I was like, for this last week, I don't want 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:56.719 anybody to know my decision because I haven't made it, 0:12:56.800 --> 0:12:59.520 yet I want to decide it there at the altar, 0:12:59.800 --> 0:13:02.400 and so I stuck to that. I didn't even tell 0:13:02.400 --> 0:13:05.160 my family. My family was worried. They were just like, 0:13:05.320 --> 0:13:07.480 what is he gonna say on the day of the wedding? 0:13:07.640 --> 0:13:10.480 No way, that was my question, like I did. So 0:13:10.600 --> 0:13:14.040 no one knew, You're not even your sisters, no one knew. Yeah, 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:16.960 and they even on the day of like you'll see 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:19.840 it if you watch it. My all of my siblings 0:13:19.840 --> 0:13:23.160 were holding hands like at the at my wedding because 0:13:23.160 --> 0:13:24.960 they just had no idea if I was actually going 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:26.760 to say yes or if I was gonna say no. 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:30.280 You know, but man, but regardless, like they were just 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:34.439 being very supportive of me. And Malory was not my person. No, 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:37.000 she wasn't, and she lost a good guy in my 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:40.880 personal opinion, you know me and my opinions. But okay, 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:43.680 so do you feel comfortable talking about why when you 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:46.040 got to the altar you said no, like besides the 0:13:46.080 --> 0:13:48.520 communication stuff or you just weren't. You don't have to 0:13:48.520 --> 0:13:51.640 give us details, but just you know, I'm wondering there 0:13:51.760 --> 0:13:57.559 was one moment that I knew, like, okay, as far 0:13:57.600 --> 0:14:00.800 as I'm concerned right now, this is what my answer 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:03.120 is going to be. But I'm going to continue going 0:14:03.160 --> 0:14:05.319 on this journey with you. But this is what I 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:07.600 already know. I'm gonna say, this is what I feel 0:14:07.679 --> 0:14:10.520 I'm leaning towards already, but I'm gonna still give us 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:14.040 a shot. I don't know if I can say what happened, 0:14:14.200 --> 0:14:18.120 because that's going to come out later. Oh I see, Okay, Yeah, 0:14:18.120 --> 0:14:21.200 I don't know, don't worry. Probably wouldn't like that. You're 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:23.400 gonna give me an exclusive out here, so they're gonna 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:28.760 be I'll be watching that. It revolved around just like 0:14:29.280 --> 0:14:32.000 this is what happens in relationships. I feel like it's 0:14:32.040 --> 0:14:34.360 nobody's fault. I feel like at the end of the day, 0:14:34.400 --> 0:14:36.480 we're just trying to make it work between us. We're 0:14:36.480 --> 0:14:39.280 trying to see if we can have a good relationship 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:41.800 between two people, and it takes two to do that. 0:14:42.320 --> 0:14:44.760 I'm sure that I had some things that maybe about 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:47.480 Mallory was looking for that I didn't provide for her. 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:50.400 But I'm just voicing the things that I felt weren't 0:14:50.400 --> 0:14:52.520 there for me, And a lot of that was just 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:56.920 the repetitive arguments that we kept having um and just 0:14:57.000 --> 0:14:59.600 like the lack of communication and connection that we kept 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:02.920 feeling and it was just we all have our work 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:05.200 to do ticks, like we all have our trounic that 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:07.440 we have to go through that we have to process. 0:15:08.640 --> 0:15:11.000 I it didn't work, and it didn't work for us, 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:13.760 and there was there was things that got in the way, 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:16.720 both on both sides that we just I can't blame 0:15:16.720 --> 0:15:19.040 her for it because I've also been through stuff like 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:21.520 that before. You know, like I have gotten an upset 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:24.080 about things, and I'm talking about like previous relationships too, 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:26.160 Like I've messed up. I know what it is to 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:29.600 gas light people, and I've done that before to my girlfriends. 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:32.160 I'll be very sincere about that because I was I 0:15:32.240 --> 0:15:34.640 used to be insecure about myself and I used to 0:15:34.880 --> 0:15:37.520 have work that I needed to do. But I I 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:40.000 went to therapy and I did my work. I became 0:15:40.120 --> 0:15:43.720 more aware of like the emotions I was feeling because 0:15:43.760 --> 0:15:47.120 I knew that I couldn't love somebody. I couldn't love 0:15:47.160 --> 0:15:50.280 somebody because I didn't love myself. See, and that's when 0:15:50.320 --> 0:15:52.760 you know that you have healed that or you're on 0:15:52.880 --> 0:15:55.840 that path of healing. Because I think it's it's a 0:15:55.920 --> 0:15:58.600 lifetime thing, you know what I mean, like re evolved 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:00.680 and we grow and we change. But the fact that 0:16:00.720 --> 0:16:03.560 you can sit here and admit, hey, I used to 0:16:03.600 --> 0:16:06.760 do this. These were my toxic traits. And I feel 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:09.480 like you're supposed to learn from every relationship and grow 0:16:09.560 --> 0:16:11.840 from it and say, Okay, what am I going to 0:16:11.960 --> 0:16:14.040 do different in my next relationship? Not just blame the 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:17.000 other person all the time, but also say hey, yes, 0:16:17.520 --> 0:16:21.040 I can also do certain things differently. So that's that's 0:16:21.040 --> 0:16:30.680 awesome of you. Before we move on, I'm very curious, 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:36.000 what is your sign? Yes? Yes, I uh? I am 0:16:36.080 --> 0:16:44.440 in ferries with a Leo rising ana Taurus moon. Okay, perfect, Okay, Well, 0:16:44.520 --> 0:16:46.560 my brother Johnny is really good at like all the 0:16:46.640 --> 0:16:49.760 chart stuff. The thing is is that you're super connected 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:52.440 with your feelings and I like that. I think that 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:54.280 that was awesome because you were on television and you 0:16:54.320 --> 0:16:56.560 didn't care. You're like, You're like, I'm here to experience 0:16:56.600 --> 0:17:00.760 this and I'm not gonna put up a front like, um, homeboy, 0:17:00.800 --> 0:17:02.880 did what deep? This guy? What's his name? Don't even 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:07.360 Oh my god, shape yes do shake. I could not 0:17:07.480 --> 0:17:10.080 with with my life with him. I'm just like shake, 0:17:10.240 --> 0:17:12.639 just chill out like I think he kind of tried, 0:17:13.119 --> 0:17:15.960 but it's just there's no way. But you, on the 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:19.560 other hand, we're very connected to like your emotions, and 0:17:19.640 --> 0:17:21.800 you had no problem with shedding a tear two if 0:17:21.880 --> 0:17:24.480 need be. And that's not something that we see a lot, 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:27.919 especially in our culture, you know. I I wish that 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:30.679 it wasn't such a rare thing. I wish that it 0:17:30.760 --> 0:17:34.119 was just a human thing for for men to accept 0:17:34.240 --> 0:17:38.800 because we wear so much armor around that. And I 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:42.440 get emotional talking about this because even after the show, 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:45.159 one of my cousins that we don't really spend a 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:47.359 lot of time together, we didn't really get to know 0:17:47.440 --> 0:17:49.280 each other a lot, but he reached out to me 0:17:49.359 --> 0:17:53.000 after the show and he was like, cousin, like, I 0:17:53.040 --> 0:17:56.280 don't I never met you man, Like, I never felt 0:17:56.320 --> 0:17:58.840 like I got to know you that way. But just 0:17:58.960 --> 0:18:02.280 seeing you and seeing you get emotional like that on 0:18:02.440 --> 0:18:06.920 screen and not carrying like it was it was very gosh, 0:18:06.960 --> 0:18:08.840 I'm so sorry. No, you're fine, or those you're ex 0:18:09.000 --> 0:18:12.200 hitting you up? Have your ex growfriend hit you up? 0:18:13.840 --> 0:18:21.359 You know they probably did. Uh, I've got a few 0:18:21.440 --> 0:18:24.600 more messages than usual. I bet you've got a lot 0:18:24.640 --> 0:18:30.560 of girls sliding your d ms. Boy, they're all beautiful 0:18:30.720 --> 0:18:38.600 and I'll eventually get positive messages. That's all. That's all good, good, 0:18:39.080 --> 0:18:43.760 But no, Yeah, it just just knowing that I reached 0:18:43.800 --> 0:18:46.679 at least one man or a few men that that 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:49.640 felt like they couldn't express that side of themselves, then 0:18:49.960 --> 0:18:53.080 mission accomplished. Honestly, chickies, But I really feel like that 0:18:53.160 --> 0:18:56.560 needs to be more of a more normalized and it 0:18:56.600 --> 0:18:59.399 shouldn't be a rare thing. And I think that men's 0:18:59.440 --> 0:19:03.040 specifically need to be the ones to show that we've 0:19:03.040 --> 0:19:05.360 heard it enough from everyone else. I feel like men 0:19:05.400 --> 0:19:09.000 need to step up and and show that vulnerability on screen. 0:19:09.160 --> 0:19:12.040 Men who have platforms me to show that because because 0:19:12.119 --> 0:19:16.000 guys are depressed, men are depressed, and it's a there's 0:19:16.000 --> 0:19:18.760 a lot of suicide with with with men. You like 0:19:18.800 --> 0:19:21.800 that that they feel lonely, they feel lost, and it's 0:19:21.800 --> 0:19:24.560 because if you don't have that sensitivity and you don't 0:19:24.560 --> 0:19:28.119 take off that armor, you lack all connections with people. Yeah, 0:19:28.240 --> 0:19:30.679 for sure, and you build up this tension you know 0:19:30.720 --> 0:19:33.320 what I mean, within you and you're not releasing. You 0:19:33.359 --> 0:19:36.320 need to release, like I always say, like I'll cry, 0:19:36.359 --> 0:19:38.000 like I'm a crier, and I just feel like it 0:19:38.080 --> 0:19:40.640 just cleanses my soul and I feel so much better afterwards. 0:19:40.680 --> 0:19:44.120 Imagine men in our culture that we're like and you're 0:19:44.119 --> 0:19:45.879 not supposed to cry, and you've gotta be a macho 0:19:45.960 --> 0:19:47.639 and this and that. It's like, dude, like, do you 0:19:47.720 --> 0:19:50.600 understand what you're doing to these to these men, like 0:19:50.920 --> 0:19:54.720 you're not allowing them to express themselves, and what happens 0:19:54.760 --> 0:19:58.200 It turns into depression, anxiety, anger. And this is why 0:19:58.240 --> 0:20:00.879 I think it was great that you, being like the 0:20:00.880 --> 0:20:02.960 age that you are, being Latino, being on this on 0:20:03.040 --> 0:20:06.880 this very famous show, Love his Mind, that you were 0:20:06.920 --> 0:20:09.080 able to just say, hey, like I'm connected with my Like, 0:20:09.119 --> 0:20:11.040 there's nothing wrong with that. Like I just like if 0:20:11.320 --> 0:20:14.080 anything that made you sexier, that made you like more attractive. 0:20:14.160 --> 0:20:17.119 I feel for women, I think that that's like I'm like, damn, 0:20:17.160 --> 0:20:19.560 Like that's beautiful. I'm sure a lot of women feel 0:20:19.560 --> 0:20:21.480 like that. So that's why I wanted to ask you, 0:20:21.520 --> 0:20:23.199 because I'm like, I'm glad that you're saying it. I 0:20:23.240 --> 0:20:26.879 think it should be more normalized for sure. So all guys, 0:20:26.920 --> 0:20:32.400 you heard it here first. Crying, Yes, crying is sexy, Okay, 0:20:32.640 --> 0:20:37.600 it makes a girl horny and I'm just skardy. Sorry sorry, okay, 0:20:37.640 --> 0:20:42.400 So anyway, but to kind of wrap that whole thing up, though, 0:20:42.520 --> 0:20:44.680 like I just want to say, like I even heard, 0:20:44.720 --> 0:20:47.880