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Speaker 2: Give them names.

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Speaker 1: Uh, thirty five SIS is going to be Jennifer Jennifer,

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Speaker 1: and then thirty seven SIS will be Camela, Camella Jennifer

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Speaker 1: and Camella. Okay, all right. Me and my husband got

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Speaker 1: legally married through court first, and we are having our

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Speaker 1: wedding reception next summer. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 1: Aggressive Wave at nine three nine four on the r

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Speaker 1: slash Okay story time, Subredda. It's so before this happened,

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Speaker 1: I like we're about to.

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Speaker 2: Get into the Lord of the Ring saw.

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Speaker 1: Oh, okay, Okay, before this happened, I've asked my sisters

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Speaker 1: if thirty seven female Kamela SIS will be my maid

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Speaker 2: You say Jennifer, Jennifer and Caamela Jennifer.

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Speaker 1: And Kamela and Jennifer. Thirty five female will be my bridesmaid.

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Speaker 1: In my culture, it is traditioned asked the oldest sibling

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Speaker 2: I think Kamela is the older sister, and Camela and

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Speaker 2: Jennifer is the second older sister.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and op is twenty seven. I'm gonna remember. All right,

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Speaker 1: does did Lisa show up? Look? Do you see Lisa's.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a sticker, but it's not short.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's a sticker.

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Speaker 2: Lisa Rage and me. Thank you for the twenty minute.

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Speaker 1: All right, I've asked my sister thirty seven will be

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Speaker 1: course they can, and they'll always support me anyway they

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Speaker 1: She would also tell me how I'm rushing things. We

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like sometimes you read stories where that's

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Speaker 2: Me, Oh my goodness. After Opie apologized, she didn't even

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Speaker 1: Because she likes him. All right, what are your conspiracy theory?

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Speaker 1: After our legal wedding, out of nowhere, my thirty seven

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm wondering did something happen between the sister Camilla

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Speaker 1: Seanna Elizabeth on Facebook says sister saw soon to be

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm wondering. I'm wondering, like, did she find

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Speaker 2: You too, Tea Ravetti for the fifty bucks. They're not

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Speaker 1: She wouldn't get months without talking to me and to

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Speaker 1: to us now. Come this past weekend, about a year

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Speaker 1: for doing this, for cutting off my sisters, for basically

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Speaker 1: But what do we think so far? No?

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Speaker 2: I will say that someone in the common said, ope,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly so, And this was the reaction that's done.

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Speaker 1: She's done so much already to.

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Speaker 2: To its supposed to be the main of honor.

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Speaker 1: How does that make sense? How do you like cut

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Speaker 2: And like, I'll be there at the wedding though, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: She's already made the angel moves. I don't think there's

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Speaker 1: Oh. I think the last step we can do is

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Speaker 2: Think then they're gone. They're gone.

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Speaker 1: I don't like. I don't know if it makes sense

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Speaker 1: but we got its update show. I just want to

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Speaker 2: I told my sister in law's boyfriend she was seeing

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Speaker 2: saying pretty bad things about me. One of the things

440
00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:25,680
Speaker 2: was that I prefer authors over family. What does that mean? Which,

441
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:29,680
Speaker 2: I is just an absurd thing, absurd thing to get

442
00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:32,480
Speaker 2: out of all of this, But I digress. He thanked me,

443
00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:35,840
Speaker 2: and that was that. Honestly, the situation caused me so

444
00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:39,119
Speaker 2: much stress because we were literally living in the same house,

445
00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:43,320
Speaker 2: so that kind of treatment didn't feel great. Fast forward

446
00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:46,199
Speaker 2: to today's situation. About a couple of weeks before she

447
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:49,320
Speaker 2: ended things with her then boyfriend, she had started talking

448
00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:52,840
Speaker 2: with another guy that she had an almost thing with.

449
00:22:53,119 --> 00:22:56,200
Speaker 2: All long distance relationships. By the way, she.

450
00:22:57,480 --> 00:22:59,000
Speaker 1: Really really long distance.

451
00:22:59,760 --> 00:23:02,560
Speaker 2: I hate that I knew all this info because why

452
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:06,480
Speaker 2: But anyway, she was talking to this old fling while

453
00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 2: still with her boyfriend.

454
00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:12,160
Speaker 1: She's juggling. She is juggling, and we don't like it.

455
00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:14,239
Speaker 2: And I always told her, you know, if you're not

456
00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:17,040
Speaker 2: interested in your boyfriend, just break up with them, stop

457
00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:17,880
Speaker 2: playing with them.

458
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:19,959
Speaker 1: Yes, fox facts, just break up.

459
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:24,760
Speaker 2: She always told me she would break up with him,

460
00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:29,720
Speaker 2: but she never did until she finally did. Then a

461
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:32,199
Speaker 2: couple days past and he messages me saying that he

462
00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:35,360
Speaker 2: felt her so distant, not as engaging as she would

463
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Speaker 2: be with him, or she would sometimes just not talk

464
00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:38,040
Speaker 2: to him.

465
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Speaker 1: At all because she's cheating. Because she's cheating because he's

466
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Speaker 1: juggling and she's not even doing a good job. If

467
00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 1: you're a good juggler, everyone feels taken care of.

468
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:51,120
Speaker 2: If you're a good juggler, all balls are equal.

469
00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 3: Golden rules.

470
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Speaker 1: Whoa the golden rule right there?

471
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Speaker 2: An, I didn't fully mean that I know how to juggle.

472
00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:09,960
Speaker 1: Don't tell her WHOA.

473
00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 2: I maybe she was talking to someone else and I

474
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:20,040
Speaker 2: really didn't want to say anything. But this guy really

475
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 2: just begged me and to tell him the truth. He

476
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:25,560
Speaker 2: knew I knew something, and I felt so bad not

477
00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:28,280
Speaker 2: being honest. So I did tell him that she was

478
00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:32,600
Speaker 2: indeed talking to this other guy, which I feel like

479
00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:35,640
Speaker 2: me they have that type of relationship if they talked

480
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Speaker 2: a lot.

481
00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:38,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's like what we I think, well with

482
00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:39,760
Speaker 1: what we say on the show is if you have

483
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:42,040
Speaker 1: a relationship with the person, tell them directly if you

484
00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:43,399
Speaker 1: don't anonymous message.

485
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:46,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, I told him. I don't know what their conversations

486
00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:51,280
Speaker 2: consisted of, but they were talking, but that's it. I

487
00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:53,439
Speaker 2: guess he kind of had the idea that she was cheating.

488
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:56,680
Speaker 2: I don't know, but that was the conversation. Throughout all

489
00:24:56,760 --> 00:24:58,679
Speaker 2: of this, she was adamant she was not going to

490
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Speaker 2: go back with her boy her then boyfriend. Fast forward

491
00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:05,800
Speaker 2: a couple of months, she was still on talking terms

492
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Speaker 2: with the new guy, but because she was friendly with

493
00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:11,160
Speaker 2: her then boyfriend's mom, I guess they would talk. Why.

494
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:11,840
Speaker 2: I don't know.

495
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:16,880
Speaker 1: She was so basically friends the boyfriend's mom.

496
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Speaker 2: Yeah, So basically what she's saying is Opie, Like Opie

497
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:27,680
Speaker 2: finds out that her sister in law and her boyfriend broke.

498
00:25:27,480 --> 00:25:31,040
Speaker 1: Up, Opie finds out that her sister in law boyfriend.

499
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Speaker 2: Broke yeah, and so sister in law starts talking to

500
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,879
Speaker 2: long distance relations like the new guy, but at the

501
00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 2: same time. A couple months later, she's she has a

502
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Speaker 2: relationship with her ex boyfriend's mom, so she starts talking

503
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Speaker 2: to him again.

504
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 1: To the ex boyfriend, not the mom, so probably little

505
00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:52,719
Speaker 1: so now she's juggling them both again again. After that,

506
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:54,800
Speaker 1: he after he had found out she was already kind

507
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Speaker 1: of cheating, so he's just following into the juggle in

508
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:01,480
Speaker 1: his hands.

509
00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:04,240
Speaker 2: She was asking a lot about him, about what he's

510
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:06,959
Speaker 2: up to, and telling her that she wasn't going to

511
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:12,640
Speaker 2: take him from her, take him from her. I was like, WTF,

512
00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:16,119
Speaker 2: why is she telling your mom that? Oh, so she

513
00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 2: is talking to the she is having Oh sorry I

514
00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:22,640
Speaker 2: missed something, Okay, why I don't know. So in one

515
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:26,920
Speaker 2: of those conversations with then boyfriend's mom, she was asking

516
00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 2: a lot about him, about what he's up to, and

517
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:31,479
Speaker 2: telling her that she was going to take him from her.

518
00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 2: I was like, WTF, why is she telling your mom that? Okay,

519
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:38,760
Speaker 2: this is weird. This is where I felt I feel

520
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 2: I messed up. I told him about her endeavors with

521
00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 2: the new guy. This guy was literally loving her up

522
00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:47,879
Speaker 2: with like gifts and things, sending her food deliveries to

523
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:48,720
Speaker 2: her house and stuff.

524
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:51,760
Speaker 1: A swine says, I'm lost on this story. Let's get

525
00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 1: back to juggling. Can you give me a little recap

526
00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 1: of the story, because I think I'm a little lost

527
00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 1: to you. Also, anybody mean to Joseph Vadola beer Quist,

528
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:00,040
Speaker 1: we will fight you.

529
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:00,600
Speaker 2: Who's me?

530
00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just saw Josephine saying someone's being mean,

531
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:05,600
Speaker 1: don't be mean, don't be mean. And Jon fine, I'm

532
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:07,320
Speaker 1: not sure where your joke is, but we will find it.

533
00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 1: I think you did send a dono somewhere.

534
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 2: Okay, So what just happened? And we have op Uh

535
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 2: used to have a good relationship with her sister in law,

536
00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:17,679
Speaker 2: and then sister in law was kind of you know,

537
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:20,520
Speaker 2: had a little fit on her birthday.

538
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 1: The hair did not want to be moved and in

539
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:24,680
Speaker 1: the car.

540
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:28,119
Speaker 2: Started smack talking op Ye. So op, He's like, you

541
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:30,960
Speaker 2: know what, I was helping your boyfriend make a gift

542
00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:31,320
Speaker 2: for you.

543
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:33,160
Speaker 1: I'm gonna call him up and.

544
00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 2: Say, hey, I don't want to make this gift anymore,

545
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:38,439
Speaker 2: and then later on she finds out that this sister

546
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 2: in law is kind of behind going behind her boyfriend's

547
00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 2: back and talking to someone.

548
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and she feels like she has a relationship. Yeah.

549
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:48,400
Speaker 2: And so boyfriend calls her up and says, I feel

550
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 2: like she's, you know, seeing someone else. Do you know

551
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 2: anything about this? And she says, yes, she's been talking

552
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:55,240
Speaker 2: to someone else. So they break up. Sister in law

553
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:58,399
Speaker 2: and boyfriend break up. Months go by, she's still talking

554
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,879
Speaker 2: to this new guy, but then she starts talking to

555
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 2: her ex boyfriend's mom and by association.

556
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:08,880
Speaker 1: Her boy boyfriend, and now they're kind of back together.

557
00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:11,080
Speaker 2: Yes, but she's still talking to the.

558
00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:15,040
Speaker 1: Distance boyfriend and that's where we are. Okay, that makes sense.

559
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:16,160
Speaker 1: I feel like that makes sense.

560
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 2: So this new guy is sending her food deliveries to

561
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 2: her house and stuff. Lol. I don't know where she

562
00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 2: even got the courage to send a person she doesn't

563
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 2: even know in person her address.

564
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:31,520
Speaker 1: Oh, she sent the long distance guy her address.

565
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 2: So we could send her things.

566
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 1: I guess.

567
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:34,920
Speaker 2: I guess this hit a soft spot for him, because

568
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:36,920
Speaker 2: the reason they broke up was because he didn't send

569
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:39,240
Speaker 2: her a Valentine's day gift to her when he had

570
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 2: said it was on the way. Basically, she didn't want

571
00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:45,160
Speaker 2: to be with them because he was broke. Last month,

572
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 2: she tried to get into contact with him again, but

573
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:49,240
Speaker 2: she asked me to talk her up with him. I guess,

574
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 2: but I was hesitant because why would I want to

575
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 2: do that in the first place. So now she is

576
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:57,600
Speaker 2: asking Ope to talk her up to her ex boyfriend.

577
00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 1: Which why would OP do that when sister lies still

578
00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:05,240
Speaker 1: talking to another guy, still talking to another guy and

579
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 1: not being like, not being very nice.

580
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:12,720
Speaker 2: Not being nice. By the way, you can be nice

581
00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:14,560
Speaker 2: to us and join us live every week to at

582
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 2: three pm PST.

583
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:17,000
Speaker 1: Just tap her profile, just tap it.

584
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:20,760
Speaker 2: She noticed my hesitation, so she took matters into her

585
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 2: own hands and messaged him through her mom's phone, talking

586
00:29:24,400 --> 00:29:26,600
Speaker 2: as if she was mother in law. I guess, talking

587
00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 2: her up. I knew about this because then boyfriend messaged

588
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 2: me and wanted me to confirm if all he had

589
00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 2: said about the new guy and her was true, and.

590
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:37,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's still with her. I don't understand.

591
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 2: I'm confused because he says then boyfriend, but it sounds.

592
00:29:40,400 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 1: Like he was with her. Then they started talking again

593
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 1: and that he's like, all right, I'm confirming that I'm

594
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 1: not going to be with her.

595
00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah uh and yeah I confirmed. So he accepted

596
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 2: that and that was that. A couple days past and

597
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 2: she confronts me about it. I had completely forgotten about

598
00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:59,720
Speaker 2: the whole situation, honestly, so she caught me off guard

599
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 2: when she confronted me. She asked if I had told

600
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 2: them about the other guy and I said yes. She

601
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:09,520
Speaker 2: was so mad because then boyfriend was indecisive about getting

602
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 2: back with her because of the situation.

603
00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:12,880
Speaker 1: Okay, so we were right.

604
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:15,120
Speaker 2: She claimed that I wasn't relevant for him to know

605
00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:18,520
Speaker 2: anything since they weren't together anymore. Because of this, I

606
00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 2: got the coldest shoulder again. But this was literally everyone

607
00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 2: this time, mother in law, father in law, both sister

608
00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 2: in laws, and this had really stressed me out so much.

609
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 1: And it's probably because they want her to get back

610
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:35,440
Speaker 1: together with this guy, but it's not good enough for

611
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 1: the guy.

612
00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:39,200
Speaker 2: No. Although I reached a point where my relationship with

613
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:40,840
Speaker 2: my mother in law and father in law had been

614
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 2: so rough that I felt this as a kind of

615
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:46,480
Speaker 2: breather oh, that she doesn't have to talk to that. Yeah,

616
00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:49,440
Speaker 2: I don't socialize as I did before with them, not

617
00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:51,720
Speaker 2: out of guilt, but because I realized I felt so

618
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 2: much better in my own bubble with my husband and

619
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 2: a baby. But that's another story on its own.

620
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:02,479
Speaker 1: Well again, this is of our own from our sas. Okay,

621
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 1: Storytime sub rendit. You could submit your stories there, but

622
00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 1: I don't think you're the a. I think what you

623
00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 1: did was you told the truth to someone who needed to.

624
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 1: He asked you, and I yeah, who asked.

625
00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:18,200
Speaker 2: It's not even like you reached out to them and

626
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:19,240
Speaker 2: said I knew, you know, I know.

627
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 1: This wasn't unsolicited or anything.

628
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 2: It was them saying, I feel like, you know, there

629
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 2: might be seeing someone else? Is this trip?

630
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:26,280
Speaker 1: Yeah?

631
00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 2: And you said yes.

632
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 1: But we had another story for you before this stream ends.

633
00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:35,080
Speaker 1: But before we read that story, Uh, let's do some dono.

634
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: Stephanie vander Mule and thanks for the twenty dollars tip.

635
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:42,640
Speaker 1: My childhood dogs names are Sam and Sophia.

636
00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:46,080
Speaker 2: So funny. Oh way, there used to be a book

637
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:49,360
Speaker 2: called with little Bunnies in it that we we had

638
00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:51,480
Speaker 2: when we were kids, and it was like called Sam

639
00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 2: and Sofia or something. Oh really, yeah, I remember it's

640
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 2: in our house and it was about a big brother

641
00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:58,080
Speaker 2: Sam and his little sister Sophia.

642
00:31:58,240 --> 00:31:59,959
Speaker 1: I've never seen that.

643
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:02,040
Speaker 2: Oh it's at our parents' house.

644
00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 1: Oh, I no idea. And then jospin Madola Burquist, we did.

645
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:12,760
Speaker 1: We saw she's the maid of Dishonor. Now that's what

646
00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:13,520
Speaker 1: we didn't read.

647
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 2: We needed it.

648
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 1: Oh, we needed that. I'm sorry we read that so late.

649
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 1: But great joke, great joke, joke, all right, but we

650
00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 1: got four minutes and thirty seconds left on this stream.

651
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 1: We're going too And I just.

652
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Speaker 2: Want to point out that there's six hundred and eighty

653
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Speaker 2: people in the YouTube, one hundred and thirteen in the

654
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 2: Facebook and only the Twitch and only three hundred and

655
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Speaker 2: eighty seven likes.

656
00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 1: Five hundred. Do you even want to spin that wheel?

657
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 1: You know you could possibly get fifteen more minutes, You

658
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 1: could possibly get that wheel. Come on, all right, but

659
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 1: we got another story for you, possibly our last. I

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Speaker 1: just found out my in laws still hate me. I

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Speaker 1: refused to let me, I refused to let me son

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Speaker 1: around them. I refuse to let me.

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Speaker 2: So I'm just find out my in law still hit me.

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Speaker 2: I refuse to lend me someone.

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Speaker 3: We're gonna try for facale.

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Speaker 1: I'm twenty one female. I tell you I'm female. Also

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Speaker 1: so real, what are you doing? I'm trying. I'm trying,

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Speaker 1: and my husband is twenty two male. Together, we have

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Speaker 1: a nine month old son. Onto the issue. Since I

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Speaker 1: got together with my boyfriend, his extended family decided they

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Speaker 1: don't like me, which I honestly don't necessarily care about

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Speaker 1: because they are neutral to my face. And this gossip

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Speaker 1: about me behind my back. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 1: slash Okay story Time, so I'll read it. So my

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Speaker 1: sister in law eighteen female husband's sister tells me everything

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Speaker 1: she hears about me at gatherings, so through her, I

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Speaker 1: know they dislike me. And the fact that we had

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Speaker 1: a child together. After my son was born, we had

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Speaker 1: issues with my mother in law and father in law

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Speaker 1: due to different perspectives and cultural backgrounds when it comes

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Speaker 1: to how I want to raise my son. We had

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Speaker 1: to talk about six months ago, which is quite emotional

685
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Speaker 1: on my side, and then I thought all the issues

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Speaker 1: were solved. So it's like you have this emotional talk.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, everything everything's jel Everyone was good now.

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Speaker 1: And I guess there's a lot of issues because op's young.

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Speaker 1: Twenty one female, twenty two male. So yeah, the nine

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Speaker 1: months son.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and there might be there might be a little

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Speaker 2: bit of you know, the in law's kind of that

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Speaker 2: they're too young.

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Speaker 1: Too young, if they're if they're not, like, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: if there's there come from a religious family or something,

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Speaker 1: maybe there's judgment there. But well I was wrong my

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Speaker 1: husband Okay, So I guess they are married. Recently hinted

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Speaker 1: that my mother in law and father in law still

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00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:59,760
Speaker 1: have issues with me, but they're just small things here

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Speaker 1: and there. I do a lot to appease them, which

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Speaker 1: involves me going out of my comfort zone quite a lot.

702
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:09,640
Speaker 1: Yet they always try to undermine my parenting decisions by

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Speaker 1: ignoring what I tell them. Example, they ask me if

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Speaker 1: my son can eat a certain dish they made. I'll

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Speaker 1: say no, he's too young for that. Then the wait

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Speaker 1: ten minutes, ask my husband, who didn't participate in the

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Speaker 1: former conversation, the same question in hopes of him going

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Speaker 1: over my decisions. When I sit right next to them.

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Speaker 1: Even better, they ask me in German and then him

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Speaker 1: and Russian because they know I barely understand anything. That's

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Speaker 1: kind of ye, dude, that's kind of watt.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's hurtful when when.

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Speaker 1: When you're being taught, like you're trying to in another

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Speaker 1: language right in front. Yeah, to be secrets, just to

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Speaker 1: have secrets. Like maybe you're playing game and then two

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Speaker 1: players are always speaking in French in their secret language, trying.

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Speaker 3: To make.

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Speaker 1: Which no one at the table can understand because they

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Speaker 1: want to do their katang in private. And oh, it

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Speaker 1: was Jenny speaks French. That's true, Jenny does speak French.

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Speaker 1: But they didn't know that. They didn't know that I

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Speaker 1: had got a girl on the inside. We had a

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Speaker 1: we had a cowboy caton Knight where we all dressed

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Speaker 1: up in cowboy outfits and talking silvering accents, silly accidents. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: I feel hurt because they gave me the impression. I

726
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 1: feel hurt because it gave me an impression everything was fine,

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Speaker 1: and they like me. I should call them mom and dad. Yeah,

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00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:40,839
Speaker 1: they go behind my back like everyone else. Few things

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00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:44,600
Speaker 1: case the family members criticized about me. A few things

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Speaker 1: the family members criticize about me. To give you a

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Speaker 1: little bit more insight as to why I like to

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Speaker 1: go over there less and why I don't feel comfortable

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Speaker 1: leaving them alone with my son to watch them. I

734
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Speaker 1: gained weight after having the baby. I had too big

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Speaker 1: of a baby bump. I don't want anyone else other

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Speaker 1: than my husband to change our son unless I explicitly

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Speaker 1: asked him too. I got pregnant by my husband and

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Speaker 1: not his ex girlfriend. I married him. I'm ugly. I

739
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:13,200
Speaker 1: had severe anxiety at birth. I still let everyone who

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00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:15,399
Speaker 1: wanted to hold my son do so, but I watched

741
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Speaker 1: him the whole time, not taking my eyes off my son.

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Speaker 1: I did not let anyone kiss our newborn and held

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Speaker 1: on to that rule. We are younger than husband's oldest cousin,

744
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:26,200
Speaker 1: but got married and had a child before her and

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Speaker 1: named him a name she chose for her future child.

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Speaker 1: We didn't know you chose for your future.

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Speaker 2: That was my name? What you have known?

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Speaker 1: I don't let wait. Are these things that are true

749
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Speaker 1: that OPI is doing?

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Speaker 2: Go to the top of them again?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so really quick. A few things the family members

752
00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:54,960
Speaker 1: criticized about me, So this is these are things that happened,

753
00:37:55,520 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 1: but op was criticized for. I don't let my son

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Speaker 1: drink a lot of water. They did it and nobody died,

755
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:08,359
Speaker 1: so of course I should do it.

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Speaker 2: It's a thing you're not supposed to give a baby water.

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Speaker 2: I think up to like maybe six weeks.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, we looked that up.

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Speaker 2: I think we looked that up.

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Speaker 1: Who cares that it's harmful when they say it's not.

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Speaker 1: I refuse to give him the bottle so they could

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Speaker 1: take him alone to their homes. I breastfeed and that

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Speaker 1: request came when he was a week old. We don't

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Speaker 1: go over more than once a week. We don't do

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00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 1: life decisions they would want us to do, for example,

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Speaker 1: move into the flat next to them, like no, never.

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Speaker 1: I have a dominant personality and my own opinions. Big problem.

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Speaker 1: Me and my husband make decisions together and sometimes compromise

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Speaker 1: when we have different opinions. Very wrong. I should cave

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Speaker 1: in because he is the man in the house. Of

771
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Speaker 1: course I need to follow every decision he makes because

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Speaker 1: if that, if not, they call my husband a pussy

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Speaker 1: and he's not a real man.

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Speaker 2: These sound like the light full people.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: I also think it's really funny. And your husband was

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00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:13,000
Speaker 2: like some critiques small nothing, just like one or two things.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, like, don't even don't. Don't even it's not

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Speaker 1: even really anything. It's not even relevant. It's not even relevant. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: it couldn't skew nice if you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, if you if you take a look at

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Speaker 2: it with kind of like a glass half full.

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Speaker 1: Attitude, if you look at it and.

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Speaker 2: Exactly if you take it with a grain of salt,

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Speaker 2: and then throw the saw and the list shoulder and

786
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Speaker 2: burn it and burn it, and then.

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Speaker 1: Look into the ashes and try to interpret.

788
00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then look, throw some bones in there.

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00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 1: It could be positive, So get over it. The list

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Speaker 1: goes on, but you can see most of the reasons

791
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Speaker 1: are silly. Yet they have lengthy discussions about these flaws

792
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:58,080
Speaker 1: of mine. They always talk about these flaws, but never

793
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Speaker 1: with me. I don't care if my husband wants to

794
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:02,440
Speaker 1: still visit them like usual, but I don't want that

795
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Speaker 1: for me and our son. So would I be the

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Speaker 1: a hole for refusing contact with the extended family and

797
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Speaker 1: limiting contact with my mother in law and father in law?

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Speaker 1: There are some relevant comments and a response from OP.

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Speaker 1: What do you think, Sophia? Would OP be the a

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Speaker 1: hole for going limited contact?

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Speaker 2: And no cont No, I don't think so. I think

802
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:24,359
Speaker 2: that they've been really rude to her.

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00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:25,760
Speaker 1: You don't deserve the contact.

804
00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:27,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, you got to earn that contact.

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00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 1: Earn that contact. We got some relevant information. So my

806
00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:33,760
Speaker 1: in laws are immigrants. They come from a small village

807
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Speaker 1: in Russia to Germany twenty years ago. They always lived

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Speaker 1: in the same small city, which is a few streets

809
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Speaker 1: between each other at most. My husband had a very

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Speaker 1: family oriented, old school and close knit upbringing, which I

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Speaker 1: did not have. My family lives all over Germany, and

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Speaker 1: even though we are also Russian, my parents came here

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Speaker 1: when they were children, so they became more stat they

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Speaker 1: became more established in an up to date kind of way.

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Speaker 1: I see my extended family only a few times a year,

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Speaker 1: so I'm not used to a bunch of family members

817
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:06,799
Speaker 1: meddling in my life. Right now, it looks like everyone's saying,

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Speaker 1: not the A whole. I don't see anyone right now.

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Speaker 1: I don't the a who can give you your shacked sentense?

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Speaker 1: So good at that? So Ralpha Gommons confused at sixty three, No,

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Speaker 1: you would not be the a whole. You would be

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Speaker 1: taking care of yourself and protecting your child from people

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Speaker 1: that think it is fine to go against your wishes,

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00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:34,239
Speaker 1: go around your decisions, basking the same question to your

825
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:37,200
Speaker 1: husband in a different language, talking about you behind your back.

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Speaker 1: Those are all perfectly acceptable reasons for not sharing your

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Speaker 1: life or your child with them. If it were me,

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Speaker 1: I would happily tell them that their disrespect to you

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Speaker 1: as a parent, a wife to their son, and mother

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Speaker 1: of their grandchild, that they no longer are going to

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Speaker 1: be included in your lives, then you should do it.

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Speaker 1: There would be no chances and no forgiveness. Being family

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00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 1: does not come with endless chances clause, no honor forgive clause,

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Speaker 1: and no rights to be included. A boo, yeah bo yeah,

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Speaker 1: yeah yeah, thinking of.

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Speaker 2: I was thinking of Rono, I was thinking.

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Speaker 1: He also says that I think yeah was a thing

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Speaker 1: that people said and like the early to mid two

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Speaker 1: thousands chat can you confirm cha confirm chack affirm please?

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Speaker 2: Uh.

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Speaker 1: A Op responds, thank you. I know I should do that,

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Speaker 1: but I've been a really big doormat when it came

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Speaker 1: to this. Parents would became when it came to his parents,

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Speaker 1: because my own mom was on their side a few

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Speaker 1: times since they the things came out. But since these

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Speaker 1: things came out, she's on my side. I really struggled

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Speaker 1: to put up boundaries, but I know I need to

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Speaker 1: do that not only for me, but also for my

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Speaker 1: son's well beings.

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Speaker 2: Well, and there we have it, and that.

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Speaker 1: We have at the end of this story. Impulsively at

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Speaker 2: Uh.

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Speaker 3: three extra days.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's crazy.

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Speaker 1: It's it is a lot of extra content and also

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Speaker 1: I was seeing a bit ago, she released an our

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Speaker 1: it's super entertaining. It's really no. No, I just I

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Speaker 2: Before.

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Speaker 1: No. She made the first episode is why I am

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Speaker 1: never dating anyone again? Oh my gosh, I actually know

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Speaker 1: I think it says why I'm never dating men again.

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Speaker 3: Actually, oh okay, mid podcasts.

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Speaker 1: I texted her. I text her and I said, like, hey,

878
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Speaker 1: this was a great podcast. Keep it up.

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Speaker 3: He has so many more stories like this.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's crazy.

881
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Speaker 1: Well, but wow, if you want to see that, it

882
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Speaker 1: looks really nice today. Thanks. I got a haircut and

883
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Speaker 1: it looks I like it.

884
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Speaker 2: I like that you keep it. I like when it's

885
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Speaker 2: a little long, when you have your little bangs.

886
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Speaker 1: I'm thinking about getting a wolf cut at some point.

887
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Speaker 2: Well, you'd have to grow it out.

888
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Speaker 1: So I'd have to grow it out significantly.

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Speaker 2: It wouldn't It would be more like a little mullety

890
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Speaker 2: wolf cut, which I'm down long do a little Australian mullet.

891
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Speaker 2: Get a mustache wolf cut. All the Australian men have

892
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Speaker 2: mustaches and mullets.

893
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Speaker 1: I I mean, I think I could grow in a mustache.

894
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Speaker 1: I just don't know if it'll look good. Yeah something, Yeah,

895
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Speaker 1: it's kind of wolfy. I don't like that.

896
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Speaker 2: I think if you did, like a little short like

897
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Speaker 2: that would be nice.

898
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Speaker 1: Anyway. Yeah, well that's the end of this stream.

899
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Speaker 2: There's so many characters. Someone said, also cyborg Cyborg from

900
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Speaker 2: Teen Titans, But that is the end of the stream.

901
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Speaker 2: Let us know any other characters who say.

902
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Speaker 1: Boo, yeah, yeah, And if you haven't joined our discord,

903
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Speaker 1: you totally should. It's a comedy out there, more things coming. Uh.

904
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Speaker 1: It's pretty great. Uh. But if you love us, make

905
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Speaker 1: sure to subscribe.

906
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Speaker 2: We love you and tomorrow