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Speaker 4: Welcome to another episode of Humble Batties. I am Alexis Stodameyer.
Speaker 5: I'm Ashley Nicole, and I am Cherl Risotto and we
Speaker 5: are the whole Batties.
Speaker 1: We bet and we're just coming off of award season.
Speaker 4: We had Golden Globes, we've had the oscars, yes, and it's.
Speaker 1: Just all the partyn.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I love watching like the red carpets and the gowns
Speaker 2: and looking at all the looks and you know, seeing
Speaker 2: what was going on.
Speaker 5: What was different this time? What do you think was different?
Speaker 5: It's time? Ashley and we going.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, first of all, the girls have been catching
Speaker 2: a little heat from the aunties.
Speaker 1: Yes they have.
Speaker 2: Sherry said that the girls are naked. She said she
Speaker 2: don't like these outfits with the girls showing all their
Speaker 2: bodies and everything on the red carpet, which I think
Speaker 2: about that.
Speaker 4: I'm all for sexiness, I'm all for body like positive
Speaker 4: body image.
Speaker 1: We see people.
Speaker 4: It's already hard enough being in the spotlight, let alone
Speaker 4: people criticizing every nook and cranny, every weight gain, weight loss,
Speaker 4: Oh are you pregnant? Oh maybe I just had a
Speaker 4: couple burgers like laid off of me. And I feel
Speaker 4: like the girls are confident. They are just exuding this
Speaker 4: confidence and we have to acknowledge that.
Speaker 2: I agree.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm here for it.
Speaker 5: I love it.
Speaker 1: I'm here for it. Embracing your curves.
Speaker 4: We're seeing every we're seeing every the beautiful skin, we're
Speaker 4: seeing tattoos.
Speaker 3: My question is how far would you go? Would you
Speaker 3: go as far as Kanye's wife? Okay, well there, okay,
Speaker 3: go ahead, as far as we're gonna do with the scale,
Speaker 3: or would we keep it bring it back? I remember
Speaker 3: when Sierra came on with what did she wear? I
Speaker 3: forgot what she were, but people was criticizing or Rihanna.
Speaker 2: Rihanna did it back in the day, Sanna did it.
Speaker 5: Everybody's it.
Speaker 2: I feel like we're not gonna be this young and
Speaker 2: fine forever. Okay, So you got as well, you know
Speaker 2: what I'm saying, live your life. If you're confident in
Speaker 2: your body, it's yours.
Speaker 5: And you know, I had me little outfit.
Speaker 2: Well I show it was like a show in Africa
Speaker 2: and it was sexy and we was in the Motherland.
Speaker 2: So I said, go ahead, girl, the tits out because
Speaker 2: I didn't have my tits out.
Speaker 5: And nipples was out. It was a little pickable, it
Speaker 5: was a little it was very it was cute, it
Speaker 5: was it was Yeah, it was sexy.
Speaker 2: Clip was sexy. You know what I'm saying. But I
Speaker 2: just feel like, you know, it's your body. You should
Speaker 2: be confident in it, Like you go to the gym,
Speaker 2: you work out, like you wear hard for this body
Speaker 2: says like show it off if you want to.
Speaker 4: And not only that, we are at a certain age
Speaker 4: too again where you working hard, we're maintaining we're also
Speaker 4: public figures and we just want to be ourselves. And
Speaker 4: I think it's people look at social media as I
Speaker 4: like what she's wearing.
Speaker 1: I like how she did that. We have similar body types.
Speaker 2: Okay, so what do you guys have girls? What do
Speaker 2: you say to your daughters? Like, what do you say
Speaker 2: to the other women who are like your daughters are
Speaker 2: looking up to you and like would you want your
Speaker 2: daughter to wear this? And like what if a man
Speaker 2: is looking at your daughter wearing Like, what do you
Speaker 2: say to that?
Speaker 4: Well, first of all, my daughters are different age demographic.
Speaker 4: First of all, I'm forty two years young, so like
Speaker 4: there's maturity in that. There's also a sense of safety too,
Speaker 4: where it's probably fashion forward and y'all know that I'm
Speaker 4: pretty conservative for the most part. But y'all know, y'all
Speaker 4: seen them pictures on the ground in the bikinis.
Speaker 2: I'll sexy, Lexy be popping out now, and I'm proud
Speaker 2: of that. I'm proud of my curves.
Speaker 4: I'm proud of really my imperfections, and so y'all gonna
Speaker 4: see it in a tasteful matter but also very artistic
Speaker 4: and sexy. So my darters, for example, they do they
Speaker 4: dress for their age group.
Speaker 1: I can say that I'm confident with that there, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and they're confident that.
Speaker 4: They know that, Mom, you're fly, You're dope. Like I'm
Speaker 4: in a swimming suit. There's a beach in the background.
Speaker 4: It's not like I'm walking down the street.
Speaker 2: I think there's a way to do it. And I
Speaker 2: feel like if you're on a red carpet with you
Speaker 2: know they, you're supposed to be here, supposed to make
Speaker 2: a statement. It's supposed to have us talking about it exactly.
Speaker 2: That's the whole point of it. And I think that
Speaker 2: anybody who sees something wrong with it, I think it's
Speaker 2: just a bit of projection, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: And I feel like they want to wear it too.
Speaker 4: They just what you're asking ch Cherill that what Bianca
Speaker 4: were Kyae's wife?
Speaker 1: That was just that's way, Oh that's too much.
Speaker 2: But I think it was how it happened too. The
Speaker 2: way he Kanye stood there next to her like as
Speaker 2: if like, look at my wife, like I want you
Speaker 2: to look at her in her body. It was strange.
Speaker 2: It was very performative.
Speaker 5: It was very like.
Speaker 4: Isn't he always performative? Isn't he always like pick the
Speaker 4: women that he wants? As amused that people are going
Speaker 4: to talk about that, people are going to see and
Speaker 4: they want low key, and it's like.
Speaker 1: He wants people to I think he wants all.
Speaker 4: The men and all the women to be envious of
Speaker 4: who he chose an ego thing, like it's kind of scary.
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 2: The way he did it to me is I don't
Speaker 2: like it. That's why I said. It has to be
Speaker 2: in a way, right, it has to be it has
Speaker 2: to come from like a confidence place that it comes from.
Speaker 3: Right if she was doing it before Kanye, she wasn't
Speaker 3: doing this before Kanye.
Speaker 5: So it's like he basically brainwashed.
Speaker 2: And also we don't hear from her. We don't hear, like,
Speaker 2: she doesn't does she talk? Have y'all heard her talk before?
Speaker 1: Does she haven't?
Speaker 2: She doesn't have a voice. So it's like, now we
Speaker 2: just see this woman. She's naked and he's standing there
Speaker 2: fully clothed, and it's just like, what is this? This
Speaker 2: is all we know of hers? Like, we don't know,
Speaker 2: we haven't heard anything from her and we've seen her
Speaker 2: whole hood cat, you.
Speaker 5: Know what I mean.
Speaker 2: So it gives off a different message. Whereas these other
Speaker 2: women that we're talking about, these other beautiful women, they
Speaker 2: were talking about Meghan the Stallion her. Yeah, it was a.
Speaker 1: Few little Kim infamously did, which.
Speaker 2: Was that these women are known to have like strong voices,
Speaker 2: strong opinions, strong following, strong following. So and they're making
Speaker 2: a statement. So I think it's different, and that's why
Speaker 2: it's important, like the context of things.
Speaker 1: And it goes the Red Carpets a big deal.
Speaker 4: There's been months of meeting with designers getting the right size.
Speaker 4: It's been talked about, it's been seen, it's been drawn out,
Speaker 4: it's been you know, hands sewn for.
Speaker 1: This particular person.
Speaker 4: For us to be sitting here having a conversation about
Speaker 4: it right now, so I feel like it did did
Speaker 4: his job.
Speaker 2: Fashion also comes in waves, and right now the wave
Speaker 2: is you know, showing it off. You know, next year
Speaker 2: it might be something different, but right now the ladies
Speaker 2: are showing up and showing out.
Speaker 1: Taking of oscars.
Speaker 3: Let's talk about this at the party with our girl
Speaker 3: Teana take.
Speaker 2: Everybody talking the rumors with her and Aaron Pierre.
Speaker 4: Aaron Pierre, Okay, yeah, yeah, okay. They are in a
Speaker 4: choke hold with us, even to the point where my
Speaker 4: girls were like, Mom, can you ask I T T.
Speaker 2: I was like, no, that's not my business of our business.
Speaker 2: And y'all that looks so good. Looks great, breaking the internet. Okay,
Speaker 2: just see some of the comments. They were like, it's giving,
Speaker 2: p R is.
Speaker 1: Giving put together that? Yeah, either matter exactly. It looks great.
Speaker 5: They both look beautiful.
Speaker 1: Awesome.
Speaker 5: Her outfit missus.
Speaker 2: She never she doesn't.
Speaker 3: Have to do.
Speaker 1: No, she's very very chill.
Speaker 2: Cut the face, the face is always. Beat the body.
Speaker 5: Yeah, body, she gets to move your body like a snake.
Speaker 3: Mo.
Speaker 5: She can dance.
Speaker 1: She's alive.
Speaker 5: We love alive.
Speaker 2: She Jeli's bad. Shout out to the Taylor.
Speaker 5: We love you.
Speaker 2: We love you out there breaking the internet getting all
Speaker 2: these awards, like, and we need to talk about what's
Speaker 2: coming up next, like what we got see because.
Speaker 1: What's going on?
Speaker 5: What's up?
Speaker 2: Sis?
Speaker 1: But you know, she did it. She made a statement.
Speaker 4: You know, she's been very public about her relationship, her
Speaker 4: with her ex husband and the father of her children
Speaker 4: and really how she is maneuvering and it's it could
Speaker 4: be lonely sometimes.
Speaker 1: So what do y'all.
Speaker 4: Feel about the fact that she posted this on her
Speaker 4: page as well as he did.
Speaker 3: I feel like she has healed, She's ready to start
Speaker 3: a new journey. You know, she's ready for another relationship
Speaker 3: and she's owned it. I'm happy for her, Like I
Speaker 3: love it. I feel like she you know, she's over
Speaker 3: that situation. She has healed herself, she's her career is amazing,
Speaker 3: she's there's nothing else.
Speaker 5: Now it's time for me to date again.
Speaker 4: Do you feel like it's a time the place to
Speaker 4: have that social media post for like, you know, we're official,
Speaker 4: We're posting Instagram official.
Speaker 2: That's the thing. I feel like take social media like
Speaker 2: they put too much like weight on social media post
Speaker 2: Like just because I talk about it with a man,
Speaker 2: it doesn't necessarily mean I'm with him. I agree with that,
Speaker 2: and it's whatever y'all want it to be what y'all think.
Speaker 2: If that's what y'all want to think, fine.
Speaker 1: I think that's awesome.
Speaker 2: I mean, I think Tiana is living her best life.
Speaker 2: I think you know she should. That man is a
Speaker 2: beautiful man, and he is okay, And why wouldn't I
Speaker 2: take a picture with him and beautiful exactly like we
Speaker 2: find picture. Yeah, I think it's beautiful. I think she's
Speaker 2: living her life. I think she's having a great time.
Speaker 2: I think she is just in a space of really
Speaker 2: just living, you know, and whatever comes to her comes
Speaker 2: to her. Yeah, I love it. Yeah, so you know,
Speaker 2: do your thinggle like we see you.
Speaker 5: Never out of my name's and like you want and.
Speaker 1: The mom want.
Speaker 5: I love it.
Speaker 4: Do you feel like you are letting the world know
Speaker 4: that you're available, that you are confident by posting your
Speaker 4: boot or just posting things that you have, or just
Speaker 4: really just anything in general? Do you what do you
Speaker 4: all feel how social media has impacted your relationships and
Speaker 4: also just like your personalities.
Speaker 3: I feel like, you know, we're already in the public's eye,
Speaker 3: so people want to know, and you know, we expose
Speaker 3: so much.
Speaker 5: It's like they're watching us every minute.
Speaker 3: So whatever we post, they're going to develop their own
Speaker 3: opinion about it anyway.
Speaker 1: But it's good bad or indifferent, good.
Speaker 5: Bad, ugly, it's all. We can't hide it.
Speaker 3: We can't sugarcoat nothing because we're in the public sye now.
Speaker 3: So when we post the good, they're going to speak
Speaker 3: on it. When we post the bad, they're going to
Speaker 3: speak on it. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I think it's interesting because I feel like I feel
Speaker 2: like I do post a lot. I feel like I
Speaker 2: am transparent, like we're on a TV show. So I
Speaker 2: feel like I am putting a lot out there. But
Speaker 2: I hear from a lot of people like you need
Speaker 2: to post this, You need to post that. You need to,
Speaker 2: you know, show us how you do this, show us that.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, damn, Like I feel like I'm already
Speaker 2: doing a lot, and they want more, Like people want more,
Speaker 2: they really want to, really know. I think I'm stuck
Speaker 2: in like social media of like twenty sixteen era or something,
Speaker 2: because it was like, you know, you could share it. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you could really show little things literally and it was enough.
Speaker 2: But now no, they want to sit in your They
Speaker 2: want to sit in your bedroom with you while you
Speaker 2: get dressed. They want to sit y'all, want to sit
Speaker 2: in the bathroom and watch me wash my face.
Speaker 1: What water do you drink? Yeah?
Speaker 2: So I'm not there yet, but I'm trying to get
Speaker 2: there with it, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm there yet. I just need to
Speaker 3: record more. Like i feel like I'm an open book.
Speaker 3: You feel you live, Yeah, you go live live should
Speaker 3: be following. They asked me questions. I love to interact,
Speaker 3: you engage.
Speaker 2: Engage, you are very engage. I'm working on like setting
Speaker 2: the camera up, I'll be forgetting. I'd be like in
Speaker 2: my head, I'm like, oh, yeah, later, I'm gonna do this. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and then I get ready. I'm like, fuck, I didn't
Speaker 2: show them, but I did to get ready. Now I'm
Speaker 2: just I'm ready.
Speaker 5: Because maybe want to know.
Speaker 1: I'm a story girl, y'all know.
Speaker 4: I prefer the story over a post like I need
Speaker 4: to post more and have something like there, but you a.
Speaker 5: Motivational I'd rather just stories.
Speaker 2: Like come catch me up with the past, like you
Speaker 2: bring the Oh yeah, you always the past.
Speaker 5: She'll pull up stuff swinging in here, remember this time?
Speaker 2: My damn, don't post that I was ugly back then.
Speaker 1: Those archives. I love an archive. I love an archive.
Speaker 1: I love to motivate.
Speaker 4: So I'm a story, just a quick snapshot because I
Speaker 4: don't have time to be at it.
Speaker 1: I'm just not.
Speaker 2: I just too when I'm having a good time, I
Speaker 2: don't remember to post, like if I'm having a black
Speaker 2: in the moment, I'm in the moment, I'm not like, oh,
Speaker 2: let me get my phone and da D like I'm
Speaker 2: really having a good time, Like I'm not thinking about
Speaker 2: my phone. But I feel like those are the moments
Speaker 2: that I need to be y'all want to see you know.
Speaker 4: We started in the era with the social media where
Speaker 4: we before social media, where we just showed up where
Speaker 4: we would party, we would sweat out, we would dance,
Speaker 4: we would just have a good time. Now everything is
Speaker 4: very much like I have to prove that I was here.
Speaker 4: I have to show that I was here, and you're
Speaker 4: we will turn up in the phone to be down.
Speaker 3: So I'll say though, because I was in Africa and
Speaker 3: I never had my phone, like I was just having
Speaker 3: them off the ground.
Speaker 2: And so in Africa, they were like, y'all need to
Speaker 2: be on snap.
Speaker 1: They were like, I hear Snap is great for marketing.
Speaker 2: Now we have to get our snapchats. So y'all follow
Speaker 2: us on Snapchat because that's where we're gonna be at.
Speaker 2: We're gonna be posting all our exclusive content on snap Now.
Speaker 3: You just post whatever however you feel follow us. I'm
Speaker 3: Cherrelle don Risotto.
Speaker 2: I'm Ash three Underscore Nicole and I'm to.
Speaker 1: Be to.
Speaker 2: Get her up as soon as we get done filming. Okay,
Speaker 2: we got to get it together. So yes, but yeah,
Speaker 2: social media is running things like you got to stay on.
Speaker 5: Top of it.
Speaker 2: It's always always evolving.
Speaker 4: And I feel like you know it's it's also turned
Speaker 4: into obviously a huge business. You can get marketing deals,
Speaker 4: you can get paid by posting, which y'all know it's
Speaker 4: the second and third and fifth job, you know what
Speaker 4: I mean, And it can become taxing, but it's beneficial
Speaker 4: to you know, just the masses they want to They
Speaker 4: want you to post. They want you to show where
Speaker 4: you are, who you hang in with. Constant content, absolutely
Speaker 4: creative content, and just always.
Speaker 3: Being the.
Speaker 1: Content creator.
Speaker 5: Core content.
Speaker 1: We need more contents.
Speaker 4: But people getting they're getting paid off of it. They
Speaker 4: want to know what drink is it that you are
Speaker 4: having in the morning that gives you this energy or
Speaker 4: this glow, whether it be true or not.
Speaker 1: They getting a check for it. Yeah, so I see it.
Speaker 1: Do y'all feel like you How do you feel about
Speaker 1: posting your families?
Speaker 3: I don't like posting my kids and they don't like
Speaker 3: it either. I'm not going to force it up on them.
Speaker 3: Serenity is at an age where she don't understand what's
Speaker 3: going on. So but people ask about her, They're like,
Speaker 3: she's like the niece of social media.
Speaker 5: So French fry, we'll be in the airport. That's French frow.
Speaker 5: My god, that she got me. I'm like, damn, my
Speaker 5: baby is famous. Everybody try is.
Speaker 3: But as far as my older kids, my son, they
Speaker 3: don't like to be Denim has his own personality.
Speaker 5: He loves it.
Speaker 1: But my older two you just know that they just
Speaker 1: like they don't.
Speaker 5: Do their own thing. They're like, don't put me on here, mom.
Speaker 1: Yeah, mine are the same way, like Deuce could care less.
Speaker 2: And then my kids, well, my oldest, he's he wants
Speaker 2: to be on social media. He wants to be a YouTuber,
Speaker 2: he wants to be all the things social media, and
Speaker 2: he is like he's he's really good. But I personally
Speaker 2: I don't want him to be on Like I don't
Speaker 2: mind him making videos and then like letting us post
Speaker 2: it for him, but I don't want him personally on.
Speaker 1: Social media and looking for other content.
Speaker 2: It's a lot going on on social media. It's well
Speaker 2: for me, it's a lot of it's just a lot
Speaker 2: of things that I don't want him seeing every day constantly.
Speaker 2: Like I know, I can't hide him from stuff, and
Speaker 2: I'm not.
Speaker 5: Trying to control the I don't.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't want him constantly seeing certain things like negativity, language,
Speaker 2: no joke exactly. So yeah, if I could just protect
Speaker 2: him as long as I can, like I will. I
Speaker 2: think it's you know, there's other stuff that he can
Speaker 2: be busy with and entertained within social media and I
Speaker 2: and I'm not and you know, if it was really
Speaker 2: his dream to be a YouTuber, would definitely help him.
Speaker 2: But there's other things that I know he's really interested in,
Speaker 2: so I try to just guide him to those things,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean.
Speaker 3: It's so funny, So look Phil and then we took
Speaker 3: them to the Soho House. Their personalities are too much alike.
Speaker 3: So we was at the Soho House and the music
Speaker 3: was playing. We were by the pool field dancing on
Speaker 3: one side, then on dancing on the other, and they
Speaker 3: stole the.
Speaker 5: Show like it was so hilarious, like love that.
Speaker 3: It's crazy, Like they bring you down to anyways, so
Speaker 3: at least you have entertain Yes, the people love them,
Speaker 3: like their person is so crazy. They get along so great,
Speaker 3: and their personalities is like very outgoing.
Speaker 5: They love to entertain.
Speaker 2: They do, yeah, they do, and they will put on
Speaker 2: a full show, a full show.
Speaker 1: I grew up doing that. You know, you just want
Speaker 1: to enjoy.
Speaker 5: What you got.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 1: It's like a pastime. You know, it's very traditional.
Speaker 2: But now they're doing it for social media instead of
Speaker 2: for the parents.
Speaker 4: But they getting paid some of the top you know,
Speaker 4: social media content creators are children. They're just opening up
Speaker 4: gifts and toys right now.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're making a ton of money.
Speaker 2: Ryan, I not know my babies. My babies love Ryan,
Speaker 2: well they did anyway when they were younger, and yeah,
Speaker 2: for sure, so but I mean, I don't know. I
Speaker 2: just would love to control that situation for as long
Speaker 2: as I can, you.
Speaker 5: Know what I mean?
Speaker 4: Now, what about significant others or booths? Like going back
Speaker 4: to how like speculating with like Tea and Aaron. I
Speaker 4: know we just were talking about that, but like what
Speaker 4: do y'all think about posting your mate for social media?
Speaker 4: And even us like you know us, yeah, us with
Speaker 4: a new boot, Like do you feel like when do
Speaker 4: you feel like it's time to like maybe make it
Speaker 4: Instagram official or would you do something a little different
Speaker 4: this time? So I know that's two different questions, but
Speaker 4: let's let's talk about it, ladies.
Speaker 2: Talk about it you posted him or not?
Speaker 5: What?
Speaker 3: First of all, I don't have him, I know, I'm
Speaker 3: I don't know where yet, but you know, it was
Speaker 3: a lot because in my previous relation relationship, everyone looked
Speaker 3: up to Chad and I. Chad would post constantly like
Speaker 3: we stayed on social media and then it was a good.
Speaker 3: Right when we broke up and everything they were posting, posting, posting,
Speaker 3: it was the bad.
Speaker 4: So I feelt like everybody was chiming on y'all relationship.
Speaker 2: Everybody y'all were in their blogs like every single day
Speaker 2: and multiple blogs they really really yeah breakup.
Speaker 3: They were into the breakup and still to this day,
Speaker 3: people are tagging Chad, people are tagging me.
Speaker 5: Y'all need to get back together, said it. And third,
Speaker 5: it's not the same that we looked up to y'all.
Speaker 5: Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: But I feel like if I would to go again,
Speaker 3: and if I ever was to get into another relationship,
Speaker 3: I probably would keep it from social.
Speaker 2: Media because of what you went through with Chat.
Speaker 5: It's just too much. I feel like it's too much pressure.
Speaker 5: I just seen.
Speaker 3: Actually today Yandy, you know, confronting another person in regards
Speaker 3: to her M and D Z's relationship, like people be
Speaker 3: so invested into it, and you know you're going to
Speaker 3: have your problems and you're going to go through things,
Speaker 3: but to.
Speaker 5: Just always always at.
Speaker 3: Braining and when you I feel like when you when
Speaker 3: you high like the good in your relationships so so much,
Speaker 3: I feel like it's a group over there that's like
Speaker 3: waiting for the dawn tear it down. And yeah, you know,
Speaker 3: I respect Gandy and her relationship. She's like, you know,
Speaker 3: we all go through things. Nobody, no relationship is perfect. None,
Speaker 3: even the ones that think that, oh, you know, the
Speaker 3: people who look like y'all have a perfect relationship, you
Speaker 3: don't know what they went through. But I respect Gandy
Speaker 3: because at the end end of the day, she know
Speaker 3: her man isn't perfect, She's not perfect. The fact that
Speaker 3: she's like, nobody's gonna tear my family apart. Yeah, I
Speaker 3: know my husband go through things. I'm gonna still stick
Speaker 3: beside him.
Speaker 5: I respect that.
Speaker 3: But it takes a lot for a woman to stand
Speaker 3: there and say that in the public side.
Speaker 2: It is a lot.
Speaker 5: It's a lot.
Speaker 1: It is a lot. She's fighting for her marriage, she's
Speaker 1: fighting for her.
Speaker 3: Their theirs ain't nobody gonna come and take tear this
Speaker 3: family apart. I know that's right, But you get the
Speaker 3: you read the comments and it's like, girl, you crazy
Speaker 3: that man outside this and and the third.
Speaker 2: That's because they're miserable.
Speaker 5: But their man outside too, they're livable.
Speaker 2: They're miserable.
Speaker 3: It's crazy, but that's what you have to deal with
Speaker 3: when you're in the public size.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you have everyone else's opinion, and it's already hard
Speaker 4: enough with family members, let alone you have outside sources
Speaker 4: that really they speculate.
Speaker 1: It's a it's a vicious cycle.
Speaker 4: They're speculating, Oh maybe they're dating, ooh, what's going on?
Speaker 4: And then you finally get linked to somebody, then you
Speaker 4: are in a relationship with them. Then the next thing
Speaker 4: they're like, ooh is it a breakup? Or ooh, what's next?
Speaker 4: Can we get an engagement ring? I mean, it's just
Speaker 4: always something where the masses are trying to manipulate and
Speaker 4: the relationship.
Speaker 3: People men and women. Their mission is not to come
Speaker 3: to that person. Their mission is I'm gonna see how
Speaker 3: I can tear that up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, misery for sure.
Speaker 3: You see people that are really out there that's like that.
Speaker 3: Their mission is to come in tear that. Oh y'all
Speaker 3: living too happy? Let me see if I can come, Yeah,
Speaker 3: tear some ship up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's messed up. People are crazy.
Speaker 1: I don't think.
Speaker 4: I think I'm gonna be married again and no one
Speaker 4: would even like I feel like y'all would know obviously,
Speaker 4: but not the people.
Speaker 5: So you would be whole married and won't let nobody know.
Speaker 1: Not ready, Yeah, I feel but y'all would know.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know what I'm saying. My people would know
Speaker 4: the the not the masses. I don't have to and
Speaker 4: I wasn't. I had a public marriage. I was like
Speaker 4: covered in Vogue. It was essence all these things, and
Speaker 4: spent a lot of money on the wedding, and so
Speaker 4: it was like I get that, I already been there,
Speaker 4: done that again. I would still have a beautiful ceremony.
Speaker 4: I believe in marriage and all that, but like it
Speaker 4: wouldn't have to be you have a.
Speaker 5: Beautiful ceremony and all that. They don't know, not.
Speaker 2: Necessarily while you locking our phones up.
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe they're gonna look at them public records. Oh
Speaker 3: lyck Sun.
Speaker 5: Got married to such?
Speaker 1: I mean, you just never know.
Speaker 3: I think nowadays, actually, when you're a public, a big
Speaker 3: public Figurelets yeah.
Speaker 1: Well I think there are ways.
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I feel like, I mean, I've been married, but I
Speaker 2: want to talk. So I just feel like I I
Speaker 2: want everybody to know who I'm with, and like, first
Speaker 2: of all, I want everybody to know who I'm with
Speaker 2: because if he is doing anything crazy, like I'm gonna
Speaker 2: fucking find out.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you're gonna find out.
Speaker 3: But still it's them little people that's gonna come. That
Speaker 3: whole mission is to come here. It's three people.
Speaker 5: It's still gonna be people.
Speaker 2: It's still gonna be people. But I'm just saying it's
Speaker 2: easier for me to find out now, I ain't got
Speaker 2: to do so much to find ship out.
Speaker 5: Okay, what's gonna happen?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: I mean in this really no, we ain't talking about
Speaker 2: because I'm talking about just put yourself okay. Well, yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean I just feel like in general, I will
Speaker 2: want my relationship to be public one because it's like,
Speaker 2: I don't know private. I mean, I don't know, maybe
Speaker 2: because I just haven't.
Speaker 3: Private and secret, private and peaceful. I feel like it's
Speaker 3: so much better.
Speaker 2: Because I agree with private and peaceful, just like a
Speaker 2: low key person who's not like girl that low key?
Speaker 5: You turn them high key and then they're like, oh,
Speaker 5: I want he.
Speaker 2: Like what if you're I mean, you're a public person,
Speaker 2: but what if you're with somebody who's not like a
Speaker 2: public a person in the public eye, So then it's
Speaker 2: not like so big you know what I mean? You
Speaker 2: wouldn't go public with them?
Speaker 1: No, that's why how I feel. I just wouldn't.
Speaker 4: I don't have to be public again. I will be
Speaker 4: in publish. Yeah, you wouldn't post a picture.
Speaker 5: I would not.
Speaker 3: I probably would never ever, No, I guess because and
Speaker 3: it's too much.
Speaker 4: And with y'all there would be tons of pictures, but
Speaker 4: for the masses, it would not be.
Speaker 5: No girl, you know she was such as such. I can't.
Speaker 2: I don't understand because I haven't been in this situation.
Speaker 5: But that's not that's amazing.
Speaker 2: I mean I love that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but even but even but even you can get
Speaker 4: like people that are envious that they know that Phil
Speaker 4: posts you all the time and you you know.
Speaker 5: Me all the time.
Speaker 2: But I feel like he.
Speaker 1: Supports you in the comments. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5: He watched every home That's what I'm saying. That's wait,
Speaker 5: a minute.
Speaker 2: The first on the big screen, girl looking for you
Speaker 2: watch already.
Speaker 1: But people see that he's very supportive.
Speaker 2: Don't like it either. I've be seeing people to don't
Speaker 2: they try it? But it's fine.
Speaker 3: That's why I don't want a public relationship, because people
Speaker 3: can look at your relationship and like, just I can
Speaker 3: do something.
Speaker 5: And that's fine.
Speaker 1: Try it.
Speaker 2: Exactly.
Speaker 5: Yeah, part y'all ain't going nowhere. Y'all best friends.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's that's a good topic.
Speaker 5: Like that was good.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I just think, you know, social media is a
Speaker 4: big deal and again being public figures and on different levels,
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, we have to protect some
Speaker 4: kind of peace and privacy, especially because we are raising children.
Speaker 4: We do have businesses, we like to turn up, we
Speaker 4: like to have a good time. But it's a time
Speaker 4: and a place for all of that, you know. So
Speaker 4: I just feel like people also want to know. They're
Speaker 4: curious because they don't have to live in very protected
Speaker 4: like we do. You know, we have to be careful
Speaker 4: when we post when we're away, we travel for you know,
Speaker 4: the safety reasons.
Speaker 2: To a question, what about posting like your you know,
Speaker 2: you going out having fun, having a good time with
Speaker 2: your girls, but like your business partners follow you or
Speaker 2: like somebody you're doing business with, Like, what do you
Speaker 2: feel do you do you think you should like hide
Speaker 2: them from like your stories? No, or do you let
Speaker 2: them see?
Speaker 3: I'll let them see because you're my business partner, supposed
Speaker 3: to accept every part of me.
Speaker 2: Okay, maybe not business partners, but like you're.
Speaker 3: Doing business people, Yes, no, you're going to You're going
Speaker 3: to see them see everything.
Speaker 5: Well, yeah, so what y'all be? Who are y'all close?
Speaker 1: Friends?
Speaker 2: And who is that for? No?
Speaker 1: Clods is different?
Speaker 3: Yes, friends is different from you seeing me partying and
Speaker 3: having fun like because my my biggest thing, and I
Speaker 3: teach my agents this all the time. People want to
Speaker 3: feel like they can relate in the real estate world.
Speaker 3: Most of my clients, especially the women clients, they came
Speaker 3: to me because they either liked my style, they liked
Speaker 3: the way I operated in business.
Speaker 5: They loved something about me.
Speaker 1: It wasn't advertising, and it wasn't.
Speaker 3: Just because I was a business woman. It was like, oh,
Speaker 3: we have the same style, or oh I love the
Speaker 3: fact that you don't want go on to a lord.
Speaker 3: Because I felt like I could be myself.
Speaker 2: I didn't have to be like this, like you know,
Speaker 2: they are su not every day, like that's not me.
Speaker 2: I could be myself. I can show up and then
Speaker 2: I feel like, you know, the clients that I work with,
Speaker 2: they want to work with me because I'm me, not
Speaker 2: because I'm not. They could go find an old white
Speaker 2: man real to her. If that's what they want.
Speaker 3: You're not having anything correct, Like people can relate.
Speaker 4: And that's what I feel is the trend now and
Speaker 4: being really you know, on the forefront of marketing and
Speaker 4: is really just being yourself. It's being authentic. It's being
Speaker 4: your true self.
Speaker 1: What is it that gets you motivated? Is it working out?
Speaker 4: What's your I see your discipline, So I'm like, okay,
Speaker 4: she's disciplined.
Speaker 1: This is what she does?
Speaker 3: Is military or this understand she's advertising? Yes, mom, she
Speaker 3: she's very responsible or whatever y'all see that I'm in
Speaker 3: with in culinary school, I'm creative in the dishes or
Speaker 3: whatever the case may be.
Speaker 4: It's low key, just you know, being authentic. How can
Speaker 4: you relate to this person?
Speaker 2: Because I do be feeling some kind of way when
Speaker 2: the like, well, my kids ain't in school no more,
Speaker 2: but like when they was in school, and like the
Speaker 2: teachers or like the principal would follow me on Instagram.
Speaker 1: You mean them from where they used to go.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like for the second I was like, I don't know,
Speaker 2: Maybe I do now, but for a second I was like,
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, like principal so and so it's following me.
Speaker 5: I don't know want them to girl, because.
Speaker 4: Let me tell you the mama's there was one teach
Speaker 4: some of my my base, some of.
Speaker 2: My mama school teacher, and my mama be I haven't
Speaker 2: I get it check on my side that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like the moms.
Speaker 4: There's a lot of moms, like in the the pts that.
Speaker 1: Follow me and they be hitting me back, babe, hitting
Speaker 1: me back. They'd be like, yo, last night you got
Speaker 1: a time. I was like, did you know?
Speaker 4: I was like, just make sure you give me them
Speaker 4: notes because I'm definitely not gonna.
Speaker 1: Make it to the next meeting the morning me.
Speaker 4: But you know, it's just we living our authentic sels
Speaker 4: and I feel like that is what is the top
Speaker 4: tier of just social media.
Speaker 1: Now, who are you?
Speaker 4: And we want to know, We want to relate whether
Speaker 4: you're upset, where you're sad, where you're angry, where you're
Speaker 4: you know, distressed, but you're getting over things, you're overcoming.
Speaker 1: I feel like that is the that's the wave.
Speaker 2: I definitely got to step it up into a little
Speaker 2: bit more of like showing like just a deeper I
Speaker 2: feel like.
Speaker 5: The fun Ashley.
Speaker 3: Okay, we see this, mom, we see this wildlife Ashley.
Speaker 3: Let's see the party to turn up the.
Speaker 1: Friends less of the turn up you do.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I've seen more of wildlife Ashley.
Speaker 2: Oh well yeah, but that's me to my core though,
Speaker 2: when y'all see you, when y'all see me doing And
Speaker 2: I was trying to go on the safari the whole time.
Speaker 4: I've been there, it's that's out of the way, but
Speaker 4: it's worth it. So next time we will go, I'll
Speaker 4: be there with you, doing the historical sites and everything
Speaker 4: like that.
Speaker 5: Never out of money names like you and the more one.
Speaker 3: All right, you guys listen. But we haven't gotten into it.
Speaker 3: And it's been all over the blog, but it's a
Speaker 3: it's a topic that it's not talked about in the world,
Speaker 3: and I feel like I want to hear the perspective
Speaker 3: from you guys as women. Anthony Edward's top NBA player,
Speaker 3: has been in the blogs in regards to having another baby, right,
Speaker 3: and he's saying that he does not want he's giving
Speaker 3: up rights.
Speaker 5: He don't want any rights.
Speaker 2: You know, he's gonna pay the money, right, He'll pay
Speaker 2: the money, pay the child support.
Speaker 5: But he told her financial responsibility. But he don't want
Speaker 5: no physical.
Speaker 4: Custoding, nothing to do so, no visitation, none of that.
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, So what would you do?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 3: This was the situation from me reading there was a
Speaker 3: text message. She hit him up. She was like, let's
Speaker 3: talk about it. I'm pregnant. He was like, basically, he
Speaker 3: don't want nothing, to do it and get rid of it.
Speaker 3: She decided to keep the baby as a woman if
Speaker 3: you were with the man, and he said it like listen,
Speaker 3: I don't have I can't do that.
Speaker 5: I can't be in.
Speaker 3: Your child's life, in the child's life, so just get
Speaker 3: rid of it.
Speaker 5: Like I'm focusing on me and my family. What would
Speaker 5: you do?
Speaker 1: So this is definitely that's a tough situation. I don't
Speaker 1: know the backstory of, like, you know, if they had.
Speaker 4: A relationship, because he's in a relationship. Oh okay, so
Speaker 4: that is another layer.
Speaker 2: So it was a one time thing like this, I
Speaker 2: think they were messing around, but he is in a
Speaker 2: serious RELATIONSHI and that's why he just wants to He
Speaker 2: still wants to be financially responsible, like here, here's the
Speaker 2: here's some of the money in the baby.
Speaker 1: But he's like, please do not, I don't need to
Speaker 1: have contact.
Speaker 3: Or she even when she found out she was pregnant,
Speaker 3: he was like getting an abortion.
Speaker 1: As too.
Speaker 4: Participating parties, you you know, when you decided to lay
Speaker 4: down and you know, have relations, there comes, and of
Speaker 4: course we all know how that baby comes.
Speaker 1: So with that being.
Speaker 4: Said, I feel like both parties had the decision to
Speaker 4: make are we going forward with this or not? Obviously
Speaker 4: one said yes, I'm going to keep the show, and
Speaker 4: we don't know if that's her first, last only, whatever
Speaker 4: the case may be, whatever her motivation is. Whereas him
Speaker 4: coming from his side already being in a relationship with children,
Speaker 4: I'm assuming I don't know, yes, and also being in
Speaker 4: the spotlight, and you know, just it's a lot of
Speaker 4: pressure on his end in hers too. I don't know
Speaker 4: anybody's situation, but just coming off of just stories and
Speaker 4: things like that, it has to be an agreement between
Speaker 4: the two because what you're deciding to do when you
Speaker 4: decide to keep a child, As we all know as
Speaker 4: parents and mothers, it starts from the time of conception.
Speaker 4: You know, our bodies start to change, especially being a woman,
Speaker 4: and our minds are just going off the radar, and
Speaker 4: you want somebody there with you to go through this.
Speaker 4: You know, you want a partner. But if he was like,
Speaker 4: you know what, I'm good from the jump, I feel
Speaker 4: like it's kind of on her. If she is ready
Speaker 4: to take that lead, we do have options, you know.
Speaker 4: But if she's like, you know what, I want to
Speaker 4: keep this child, I want to, you know, endure eighteen
Speaker 4: years of financial situation because per state is different. But
Speaker 4: most of the time you might as well say eighteen
Speaker 4: years is the cat for financial assistance. But it's a
Speaker 4: lifetime to be a mother. So am I willing to
Speaker 4: risk whatever, you know, money wise, mental wise, time wise,
Speaker 4: raising a child.
Speaker 1: Alone minus this guy? So what is the motivation?
Speaker 4: Did you just want him to be there, you know,
Speaker 4: for the financial gain, or is it like I really
Speaker 4: do want to be a mom.
Speaker 3: And that's that's that's the problem that we have, especially
Speaker 3: in our community. Like for me, if I already knew
Speaker 3: the situation, yeah, why am I bringing another child into
Speaker 3: this world exactly like, okay, we can put place the
Speaker 3: blame on the mail, but we know what we're doing too.
Speaker 5: To women. It's both parties.
Speaker 3: So a lot of people are like, okay, Anthony, like
Speaker 3: you was wrong, you was wrong, But when are y'all
Speaker 3: going to make sure that woman take her responsibility?
Speaker 4: And he's look y doing a great effort of saying,
Speaker 4: you know it, financially, I will do that swy and Z,
Speaker 4: which he said, so like he's probably doing quote unquote
Speaker 4: more than he should since he was like, I don't
Speaker 4: want anything to do with the child.
Speaker 3: I know another, but I know another a situation where
Speaker 3: it was a really it was a situationship, you know,
Speaker 3: the they slipped up had babies and the woman kept
Speaker 3: saying she was gonna, you know, have an abortion, get
Speaker 3: rid of them. She went to the appointments and she
Speaker 3: decided to keep the kids and they ended up with twins.
Speaker 5: And he, you know.
Speaker 3: He works a lot, travels a lot, and he's like,
Speaker 3: I can't do it, like it's a lot, I'm gonna
Speaker 3: miss out on so much trying too and sometimes it
Speaker 3: you know, when you forced to have another child.
Speaker 1: It's already bringing a little energy.
Speaker 3: It's bringing energy and they have like there you're pulling
Speaker 3: them away because they can't attach to those kids because
Speaker 3: they didn't.
Speaker 5: Want those kids. And it's like you're putting that father
Speaker 5: in a heart space.
Speaker 2: I think, you know, we can have the argument about
Speaker 2: like it's the woman's choice, but I think the woman's
Speaker 2: choice starts before conception, Like, yes, it takes two to tango,
Speaker 2: it takes to make a baby, but like I think, women,
Speaker 2: you know, it's our bodies, so we know when we're
Speaker 2: ovulating and when we're not. The man he doesn't know,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? We know you know, we
Speaker 2: know what's going on with our bodies. We know like
Speaker 2: when it's that time of the month when it's not.
Speaker 2: So I feel like that's when the responsibility is on
Speaker 2: the woman. It's like you know your body and if
Speaker 2: you know that, this situation might not work out if
Speaker 2: you know you so I feel like at that point,
Speaker 2: that's where I would say, like the responsibility is primarily
Speaker 2: on the woman, you know what I mean, Like, yeah,
Speaker 2: we know it's two people, but you don't have to
Speaker 2: lay down with that man knowing you ovulating. You know
Speaker 2: what happens if you know exactly you know what's going
Speaker 2: to happen if you have unprotected sex. So when it
Speaker 2: gets to the point of him making the decision like
Speaker 2: this is my decision, I feel like, you know you can. Yeah,
Speaker 2: at this point, I agree, and I feel like, you know,
Speaker 2: we have to be as women, we have to take
Speaker 2: on the responsibility of thinking of the child too, Like,
Speaker 2: you know, you're not married to this man. You know,
Speaker 2: you're not connected to him in any kind of way,
Speaker 2: So we have to think about, you know, the child
Speaker 2: at this moment, Like if I bring a child into
Speaker 2: this world, what is the quality of life? How is it?
Speaker 2: You know, like these are the things that as women
Speaker 2: you should be thinking about when you lay down with
Speaker 2: a man, Like.
Speaker 5: It just it just.
Speaker 3: But I feel like women don't think about that very
Speaker 3: you know, we are emotional creature.
Speaker 5: And we're laying down thinking like, oh, he loves me.
Speaker 5: And then two you never.
Speaker 2: Know, even a man could be telling you and doing
Speaker 2: all the right things and you're thinking he's going to
Speaker 2: be a great father and it ends up not being.
Speaker 2: But at the end of the day, like in this situation,
Speaker 2: you know, I really feel like the responsibility you know
Speaker 2: was on her like in the beginning, yeah, you know,
Speaker 2: And I hate like putting blame on people like that,
Speaker 2: But I hope that she isn't like trying to say
Speaker 2: that he's wrong for the decision that he made. I
Speaker 2: think he's making the best decision he can for himself
Speaker 2: his situation with you, because why bring that baby into
Speaker 2: the world knowing that he was a fling baby, you know,
Speaker 2: like that's already trauma, that's already absolutely so just go.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna take care of him, but you know, you
Speaker 2: need to figure out that situation. And I hate that
Speaker 2: sounds so bad.
Speaker 3: It sounds men should have a right as well. I
Speaker 3: know both of y'all, both parties are making dumb decisions
Speaker 3: before the baby is coming, you know, coming into this world.
Speaker 3: But I do feel like men shouldn't have a decision
Speaker 3: as well.
Speaker 2: But he need to wrap it up. Where are kind
Speaker 2: dum sir?
Speaker 3: Yeah, We're still gonna hold you accountable, Okay, Anthony Cay
Speaker 3: just be out here making babies talking about.
Speaker 4: He said he don't want to be the face of
Speaker 4: the NBA, you know, so he's trying to tal you
Speaker 4: want to live his life and he wants to make
Speaker 4: babies and make babies, I guess I mean and not
Speaker 4: the path.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 3: I love it, Anthony, baby, you better strap it up
Speaker 3: if you if you're gonna be out here, we.
Speaker 4: Can really just talk on it a little bit more
Speaker 4: before we close it up. But it's just, you know,
Speaker 4: it's it's it's a lot, It goes a lot of ways.
Speaker 4: He's a public figure, and you know he said standard exactly.
Speaker 4: The blogs are gonna chime in, but it.
Speaker 1: Can be a target.
Speaker 2: This is unfortunate for that baby. When that baby grow up,
Speaker 2: it's gonna My.
Speaker 3: Question is what she has kept the baby if it
Speaker 3: wasn't Anthony Edwards.
Speaker 5: See and there you go, Ques, what's that?
Speaker 3: So those are her questions you asked before you respond
Speaker 3: to what we're speaking on. Would she have kept the
Speaker 3: baby if it wasn't him? That's a great decision what
Speaker 3: you have made if it was a janitor worker and
Speaker 3: you just liked them.
Speaker 5: But he said he want to make it happen.
Speaker 4: And I'm sure with AffA Davis and court records and
Speaker 4: all whatever they got going on for paternity and all that,
Speaker 4: it'll come out if it does.
Speaker 2: So anyway, she probably don't give a damn about what
Speaker 2: we talking about right now, Like I could get this
Speaker 2: check and.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know so much. Still, it's good to
Speaker 1: have a partner there, you know, to help out.
Speaker 3: All Right, you guys, tell us your thoughts on how
Speaker 3: you feel about this situation. It's a tough situation for
Speaker 3: both parties. Until then we got something exciting. We got
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Speaker 5: Maw time, let's see who we got today.
Speaker 2: We got today, we.
Speaker 5: Got somebody from Florida.
Speaker 3: Okay, hey, Humble Baddies, it's Erica from Tallahassee arrigable and
Speaker 3: I need some serious advice. This is one of a
Speaker 3: roller coaster. This is one's roller coaster.
Speaker 1: I need to take notes.
Speaker 5: Take notes, girl.
Speaker 3: My husband and I have been together for seven years,
Speaker 3: and like any couple, we've had our ups and downs.
Speaker 3: Months ago, we separated for a month, and during that
Speaker 3: time he ended up getting another woman pregnant. At first,
Speaker 3: I was devastated and ready to call it quits, but
Speaker 3: after some deep conversations and therapy, he swears it was
Speaker 3: an accident.
Speaker 5: Now I'm torn.
Speaker 3: This man is the love of my life and I
Speaker 3: can't imagine myself with anyone else.
Speaker 5: But can I really move past this.
Speaker 3: So tell me, batties, would you stay and fight for
Speaker 3: your marriage or is this a red flat screaming run
Speaker 3: for the hills.
Speaker 5: Okay, run for the hills, tells.
Speaker 1: Damn you, this is tough.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Can you trust? Can your trust be rebuilt? Or once
Speaker 3: a line is crossed, is it game over?
Speaker 5: Help me out.
Speaker 2: Well, they were separated, so we got to get on.
Speaker 5: But you already stroking without a condom floor.
Speaker 4: I was gonna say, you're definitely putting some but they
Speaker 4: didn't know that they were gonna get back together either.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I feel like if you go so
Speaker 2: far as it gets somebody else pregnant, I feel like
Speaker 2: you was gone, like you you gone. And I don't
Speaker 2: know if I could I could get over another child
Speaker 2: and another child, I don't think I could because that
Speaker 2: changes the whole dynamic of our marriage now. And so
Speaker 2: whatever issues we already have, I feel like it's now,
Speaker 2: it's gonna be.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I'm saying, yeah, I agree.
Speaker 4: It becomes very toxic, it becomes very resentful, and.
Speaker 1: That's a hard place to heal from. It's a lot.
Speaker 4: And then now you have a physical face, you have
Speaker 4: a child that is evidence low key of infidelity or
Speaker 4: of evidence.
Speaker 2: And it soon keeps in a month Like a month
Speaker 2: is not that long. Yeah, so imagine if like it
Speaker 2: was longer, like you would have been diving into all
Speaker 2: kind of cootie cat with no uh kind of like
Speaker 2: uh uh.
Speaker 1: That's it is and I just are you.
Speaker 2: Is that how it works?
Speaker 3: Though?
Speaker 2: You get separated and then you can just go for whoever?
Speaker 2: Is that how that works?
Speaker 1: It should be communication, Like you know, separating, you're.
Speaker 2: You're supposed to like figure out what the issues are
Speaker 2: and like do you want to stay? Do you want
Speaker 2: to go? But went separation a lot of men and
Speaker 2: I noticed like a free pass to go have sex.
Speaker 2: They cope their coping mechanism, the negative coping mechanism of.
Speaker 3: Them being separated. It's just going out having a whole
Speaker 3: bunch of sex.
Speaker 5: It's sad.
Speaker 3: I've witnessed it because being in the military. I was
Speaker 3: in the eighty second Bort No this, I was in
Speaker 3: so com at mcdale Air Force Base and I was
Speaker 3: the only female and I would witness some of these
Speaker 3: guys go through breakups and they would just every night
Speaker 3: talk about, yeah, I had.
Speaker 5: This chicken at my house bro and I.
Speaker 3: You know, I asked screw screwed her, her and her
Speaker 3: and it's just chain but it's not it's not healing them.
Speaker 1: So I feel like it's temporary satisfaction.
Speaker 3: Yeah, temporary satisfaction. And I feel like, so they just
Speaker 3: wanted to just break up.
Speaker 2: Then don't say separated, because to me, separation means like
Speaker 2: we're taking time to really fix see if we can
Speaker 2: salvage it is supposed to be back marriage, you know,
Speaker 2: but if you go off and suck up some more
Speaker 2: than like.
Speaker 5: Just a lot of men go through that.
Speaker 3: They just to get to that temporary fixes, let me
Speaker 3: go screw this one, but they fall back into thinking
Speaker 3: about that person that they love well.
Speaker 2: Erica and Tallahassee, I don't know. I would say go
Speaker 2: ahead and file for divorces.
Speaker 5: That's what I was.
Speaker 3: I don't think I can make it work. It's going
Speaker 3: to be so many issues. Like it's time to move on, Erica.
Speaker 4: It's you have to you have to both be in
Speaker 4: a in a healthy space to really accept that.
Speaker 2: It's not getting healthy right now. It is very hard
Speaker 2: because if she.
Speaker 3: Ended up pregnant about another man, he ain't taking you back.
Speaker 1: See that's one thing that.
Speaker 5: They're taking you back.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and when you decide to stay, you now bringing
Speaker 4: the shout in your home too, which is a constant reminder,
Speaker 4: which is also another layer. So there therapy and that's
Speaker 4: what I.
Speaker 2: File for divorce and yeah, then go to therapy and yeah.
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