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Speaker 2: Oh, I gotta sing on my own. If you're wondering

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Speaker 2: what we're talking about, check out our last episode. We

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Speaker 2: had some big news. It's some sad news but also

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Speaker 2: exciting news too about the future of the show. So yeah,

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Speaker 2: you should listen to it. But if you're here for

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Speaker 2: Branna Bishen question to answer, you have questions, We have answers,

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Speaker 2: but not the kind of answers that you could sue

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Speaker 2: us for, because this is for entertainment purposes only, right

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Speaker 2: that you're going to take what we say with the

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Speaker 2: smallest grain of salt, because essentially we're just talking to

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Speaker 2: want to do, I suggest that you will lean on

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Speaker 2: over to your lawyer attorney. You're a doctor, your lawyer, whoever,

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Speaker 2: And yet you know you're just like I had heard.

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Speaker 2: But what do you think to the person that you

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Speaker 1: Okay, today we got money questions, a couple of like

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Speaker 1: juicy ones. Let's start to miss Tiffany. The Budgetnista alich

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Speaker 1: Angara from IG has an interesting question about budgeting. She says,

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Speaker 1: I try to pay for everything with my rewards credit

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Speaker 1: My question is should I have a separate section in

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Speaker 2: Oh, I see what she's saying. Yes, I'm gonna I'm gonna.

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Speaker 1: All right, miss budgetista, what do you have to say

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Speaker 1: about this budgeting question?

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Speaker 2: Well, Ana, this question actually comes up more than you

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Speaker 2: you don't have to reflect it under credit cards. So

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Speaker 2: which you already have in this one line item up here. Now,

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Speaker 2: if you came to me and we were doing your budget,

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Speaker 2: And there were all these creators who were like specifically

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Speaker 2: Right, and who wants to be there by yourself if

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Speaker 2: or really a tool for you to bless other people.

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Speaker 1: I think that's a wonderful way to do it. I

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Speaker 1: have a love hate with my rewards cards.

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Speaker 2: Now all you do?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, homegirl, I can't be paying off my bills in

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Speaker 1: full each month we see previous episode, Well are you able?

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Speaker 2: Because sometimes with points, you know, how like they can

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Speaker 1: work you're doing. You never know who's listening and what's

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Speaker 1: happening in their lives that your information will help them with.

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Speaker 1: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Yes, not only did Lizzie pooh gear, tomorrow's her birthday. Actually,

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Speaker 2: well you guys will Her birthday is a second is

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Speaker 2: the first, so you won't. We're taping this on Monday.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, so I'm like, look at her. Do do

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Speaker 2: I have to get her present? We just got a car?

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Speaker 1: Listen that is between you and.

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Speaker 2: I know, you know she really wants to. I might

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Speaker 2: get them for her because she's been such a good kid.

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Speaker 2: She really wants the Airmax head homes. I know she

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Speaker 2: really wants some Airbax headphones.

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Speaker 1: If you got it, give it. That's all I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: Right, so we don't see. I was gonna surprise her,

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Speaker 2: but then I was like, she's probably gonna want some

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Speaker 2: specific color because she's busy like that. So we're gonna see.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna see what kind of attitude she gives me.

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Speaker 2: So we're gonna have breakfast tomorrow for her birthdays. I'm

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Speaker 2: excited to see her.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's all, have a birthday breakfast so wholesome. Okay, y'all.

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Speaker 1: For the fifth we're trying to say goodbye, goodbye.

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Speaker 2: Bye, and it's a churche goodbye, you know, like they're

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Speaker 2: five minutes by, let you go.

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Speaker 1: But what I was.

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Speaker 2: Saying, by y'all until next week.

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Speaker 1: Bye