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Speaker 2: My mother's furious that I plan to exclude my family

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Speaker 2: from my future wedding, but I'm not even engaged yet.

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Speaker 3: She's like, I know you're not getting married yet, but

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Speaker 3: in the future I'm gonna be very mad.

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Speaker 2: I've been watching wedding drama reddit posts on YouTube for

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Speaker 2: a while and picked up the habit of planning my

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Speaker 2: wedding while watching. I'm only twenty three female, I'm not engaged,

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Speaker 2: knowing do I have a partner, but I have anxiety

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Speaker 2: and thought it would be nice to plan ahead to

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Speaker 2: take away some stress in the future. And by the way,

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Speaker 2: this comes from you dash no Rewitch and Espanol Tiana

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Speaker 2: six zero three two And if you want to submit

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Speaker 2: your own stories, go to Roka Storytime subreddit. I've not

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Speaker 2: bought anything, but I just write down my ideas I

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Speaker 2: have a composition notebook. The first few pages are a

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Speaker 2: table contents, and I have number of the pages to

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Speaker 2: make it easy for me to add in new ideas

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Speaker 2: when I get them. The details are not important, but

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Speaker 2: I just want you to understand the setup to the situation.

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Speaker 2: So my parents know I'm not dating anyone, and I

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Speaker 2: love them so much, especially my father, who stood up

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Speaker 2: for me in this situation. My mother, on the other hand,

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Speaker 2: is big on family comes first and reading my stuff

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Speaker 2: if I leave it in a communal space in the house.

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Speaker 2: She's read my journal before and thought we were past that.

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Speaker 2: I was wrong. Like I said before, my wedding plan

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Speaker 2: is just in a normal notebook, but on the front

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Speaker 2: I wrote confidential plans, most awesome wedding ever. Details inside

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Speaker 2: keep out, okay, girl, Well that's like, oh, that's like

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Speaker 2: having like a giant treasure dress and being like, reach

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Speaker 2: is my treasure, but it is pure treasure inside. But

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Speaker 2: stay out, all right. When I went to bed, I

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Speaker 2: left it out, thinking nothing of it. I went to

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Speaker 2: work the next day and as I was leaving, I

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Speaker 2: saw my mom at the Kinchen table. But I was

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Speaker 2: mother was not pissed, but salty.

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Speaker 4: In the book, I have.

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Speaker 2: A section for guests, one for friends, and one for family.

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Speaker 2: I included some cousins from my mom's side, but no

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Speaker 2: answer uncles on my father's side. We only talked to

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Speaker 2: one of his sisters and her husband and kids, and

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Speaker 2: I had all of them on the list. My mom

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Speaker 2: knows that I know all the names of her siblings

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Speaker 2: and their kids and asked why they weren't on the list.

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Speaker 2: I asked why she read the book if it was mine.

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Speaker 2: She said I left it out and she was curious.

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Speaker 2: I once again told her that I didn't like it

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Speaker 2: her line that family is important and they'll be there forever,

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Speaker 2: and my friends will come and go. Here's the thing.

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Speaker 2: I'm the youngest cousin by four years. I have thirteen

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Speaker 2: cousins on my mom's side, ten of which are male

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Speaker 2: female cousin's names, and one male cousin who is attracted

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Speaker 2: to the same gender, and I love him. Most of

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Speaker 2: my family are heavy Republicans, and I believe a lot

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Speaker 2: been shy about my opinions on them. At most family events,

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Speaker 2: because of nothing in common with them. They never made

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Speaker 2: the choice to get to know me, nor have I

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Speaker 2: tried to get to know them, because THEE and I

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Speaker 2: If I'm having my wedding, I want to be surrounded

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Speaker 2: But my father told me it's my wedding, and as

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Speaker 2: will be happy with whatever I choose. It's my day

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Speaker 2: and my choice. And he's always been my number one

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Speaker 2: I just want to know if I'm the a hole

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Speaker 2: for writing that down. I could have easily written in

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Speaker 2: don't know what to do from here. Any advice would

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Speaker 2: since I'm nowhere getting married. So there's some comments, but

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Speaker 2: one that was your journal. Yeah, you could write the

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Speaker 2: your journal, and that's yours. That's that's your space to

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so it's like, I.

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Speaker 3: Love my mother, she's amazing.

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Speaker 2: I will invite all my family to the wedding, and

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Speaker 2: I love my mom. No, so you're not anything for

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Speaker 2: writing or not writing anything. And then also it's your

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Speaker 3: Well, I think you could bring up the reasons why

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Speaker 3: is not relevant. Yes, uh, the wedding is a hypothetical,

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Speaker 3: and I think bringing up a hypothetical is kind of

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Speaker 2: safe and comfortable around family, which is something super ballid

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Speaker 2: to tell your mom about. Comment one to a youth.

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Speaker 2: That's all I got, because this is dumb as Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's pretty dumb. Op is very childish, so is OPI's mom.

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Speaker 2: A dream book on a wedding that is even on

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Speaker 2: the table must be wishful thinking or tossing out ideas.

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Speaker 2: Op seems to know it's nothing serious or set in stone,

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Speaker 2: So no biggie. The fact that her mom read it

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Speaker 2: there isn't even a perspective groom, No wonder OPI has

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Speaker 2: anxiety issues. Comment to this is so dumb. Why you

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, that's a lot of people do that.

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Speaker 2: A lot of people do that.

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Speaker 3: A lot of people go on like you know, like

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Speaker 2: Planet since they're like kids, and like, oh, I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: A lot of people do that.

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Speaker 2: Reply the same reason girls used to have a hope chest.

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Speaker 2: She wants to be married someday and is always dreaming

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Speaker 2: This girl is very young and hopeful about all the

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Speaker 2: something constructive to do. So why the heck not? Are

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Speaker 2: you single or did you have a wedding? It's safe

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Speaker 2: to assume you are a man. Some women start planning

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Speaker 2: their weddings as children, seeing as they are fed the

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Speaker 2: bs of the greatest day of your life basically from

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Speaker 2: freaking infancy. Who gives a crap If you don't like it,

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Speaker 2: don't read it, let alone bother the comment do.

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Speaker 4: You feel heard?

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Speaker 2: Do you feel better now?

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Speaker 5: Being the negative nancy pants that you are? If this

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Speaker 5: girl wants to plan in her future. More power to her.

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Speaker 5: It's her mama that I have got the drama. She's

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Speaker 5: wont getting her pants. He's in a twister. We are

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Speaker 5: hypothetical scenarios. Dreamer's gonna dream. No need to be a

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Speaker 5: dude about it. Damn, I feel like that was ope.

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Speaker 5: Another comment defending herself like a chest.

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Speaker 4: Okay, it's quite normal in this play.

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Speaker 2: Whatever my journal comment number three, I'm forty two, my

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Speaker 2: your mother has shown you she doesn't give a dang

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Speaker 2: about your consent. That's also the problem. That is a

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Speaker 2: complete invasion of trust.

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Speaker 6: Invasion.

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Speaker 2: You need to just ignore her when she started talking

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Speaker 2: about topics she was not invited to and look at

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Speaker 2: moving out. Oh Pi, I am looking at moving out,

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Speaker 2: to thank everyone who gave me advice on the situation

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Speaker 2: I asked about, and not the notebook itself. A lot

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Speaker 2: very much, but she has never been good with boundaries,

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Speaker 2: my thoughts when I need to vent, maybe this situation

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Speaker 2: There are also some who have asked why I'm planning

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Speaker 2: for it since I was seventeen, but if my anxiety

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Speaker 2: on many things to help reduce stress, and I know

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Speaker 2: be prepared a bit. I don't want something that is

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Speaker 2: is by no means super serious, and I just jot

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Speaker 2: it could easily change five years from now or even tomorrow.

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Speaker 2: I get that it may seem a bit crazy to others,

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Speaker 2: and that's completely valid. I don't write in it often,

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Speaker 2: maybe once a week or once every other week. There

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Speaker 2: have been quite a few people who said this is

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Speaker 2: a bit much, and maybe it's time to put it

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Speaker 2: aside until the day comes when I need it. I

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Speaker 2: think people on the internet need to mind their freaking business.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mind a business.

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Speaker 2: It's not even know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: But you could be a bit much in your journal.

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Speaker 2: And it's not even a bit much. It's just normal.

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Speaker 2: Or maybe it should be thrown out and I could

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Speaker 2: start a new one later on in life when I'm

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Speaker 2: actually engaged. And if you want to engage with us more,

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Speaker 2: or maybe actually engage in marriage, you can listen to

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Speaker 2: full episodes of stories just like this. Just go to Spotify,

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Speaker 2: Apple Podcasts, or your favorites podcast app and search. Okay,

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Speaker 2: story time, and we'll marry.

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Speaker 3: You, Maria.

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Speaker 2: We've already had several stream marriages. We have another update.

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Speaker 2: Once again, thank you to everyone who responded. I really

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Speaker 2: do appreciate the feedback and outside perspective. A few people

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Speaker 2: this is so long and I appreciate anyone who has

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Speaker 2: read all of this haha. Comments come at one, Oh honey.

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Speaker 2: Idea boards and journals like this are both normal and

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Speaker 3: Yes.

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Speaker 2: If anything, they're a great way to pass the time

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Speaker 2: and use this stress relief. Like interest, all pinterest is

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Speaker 2: swapping DIY tips. You just have a hard copy of

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Speaker 2: yours you jot into every now and again. However, when

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Speaker 2: it comes to your mom, I would suggest talking to

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Speaker 2: actions have consequences. But therapy for the journal itself. Nah,

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Speaker 2: even your therapist would see that as a non issue

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Speaker 2: as it's an idea board in journal form that is

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Speaker 2: I'll bet your dollars to donuts that they have a

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Speaker 2: doing it old school and there's nothing wrong with that.

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Speaker 3: My final thoughts on this one, I think, really it's

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Speaker 2: It's also not even the point of us, and it's irrelevant.

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Speaker 3: She doesn't needs to respect your boundaries in general. Yes,

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Speaker 7: And then my.

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Speaker 3: Last thought is just kind of a general thing about journals,

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Speaker 3: I never people do. And it's like it's interesting though,

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Speaker 3: My entitled grandfather won't support my relationship but still expects

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Speaker 3: to be invited to the wedding. No no, no Grandpa.

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Speaker 3: Trigger warning for elderly abuse and also Alzheimer's. My husband,

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Speaker 3: thirty six male, and I twenty two female, got married

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Speaker 3: in February of twenty twenty three. The drama that came

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Separate Chairs sixty three

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Speaker 3: go to our slashowkea storytime severed it. The first thing

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Speaker 3: This was the first time my grandfather had met my

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Speaker 2: In their defense, the Grandpa's probably having a lot of

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Speaker 3: The next day was wonderful. My husband and I got ready.

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Speaker 2: This sweet. It's like a great little wedding, Yeah, small

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Speaker 3: After saying farewell to everyone, we went back home. The

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Speaker 3: Beast are stealing plenty of something together. My mom even

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Speaker 2: What was the story about.

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Speaker 3: It's about the grandpa being like super unsupportive of the relationship.

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Speaker 3: But it seems like he's just being a grumpy old

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it seems like he was just being his old

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Speaker 4: They got solved.

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Speaker 3: Recently my grandpa called my mom up and told her

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Speaker 3: Grandpa planned to take her to a doctor the next day.

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Speaker 3: We didn't hear a thing on Friday. Come Saturday morning,

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Speaker 3: At some point, they just stop eating. Oh, my grandma

438
00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:25,359
Speaker 3: is a whole eighty three pounds at this point, whoa

439
00:19:25,680 --> 00:19:28,400
Speaker 3: and looks like a skeleton. My grandpa stays at home

440
00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:30,600
Speaker 3: while Grandma goes to the hospital of the ambulance.

441
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Speaker 2: I feel like you could have given that context before

442
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Speaker 2: all the other stuff.

443
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Speaker 3: Ye, this seems like the mostly relevant thing. And also

444
00:19:38,600 --> 00:19:43,520
Speaker 3: I do think that if your grandma is just unwell,

445
00:19:43,600 --> 00:19:45,760
Speaker 3: it's I think you can make the case that grand

446
00:19:46,080 --> 00:19:48,399
Speaker 3: grandpa is not able to take care of her.

447
00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:50,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, was he not making sure she was eating?

448
00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:53,480
Speaker 3: It doesn't seem so, in which case that like she

449
00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:57,080
Speaker 3: needs to either be with another family member or you know,

450
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Speaker 3: in a senior's home. My uncle, her son, is my

451
00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:04,600
Speaker 3: grandpa's first visitor. My uncle is a disabled VET, and

452
00:20:04,640 --> 00:20:06,880
Speaker 3: come late July is planning to go to New York.

453
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Speaker 3: For whatever reason, he has my grandma tag along to

454
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Speaker 3: be his caregiver, not to enjoy the trip, but to

455
00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:16,240
Speaker 3: clean up after him because his legs are no longer functional.

456
00:20:16,720 --> 00:20:18,920
Speaker 3: He was not shot overseas, but rather in his home

457
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Speaker 3: because the police showed up for some reason. Whoa My

458
00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:24,400
Speaker 3: uncle says, the police just broke in and didn't say anything.

459
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Speaker 3: Police say otherwise, But because my uncle was sleeping at

460
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Speaker 3: the time, he reached for a weapon. He now no

461
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Speaker 3: longer won.

462
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Speaker 2: My god that's a crazy story.

463
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Speaker 3: Why the police were there? I don't know. I wasn't there.

464
00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:39,480
Speaker 3: But anyways, now he needs twenty four to seven care

465
00:20:39,560 --> 00:20:41,879
Speaker 3: around the clock. Wow, And anytime he goes on a

466
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Speaker 3: trip somewhere he gets his eighty eight year old mother

467
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Speaker 3: to care for him for free. Is this while she

468
00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:47,560
Speaker 3: has Alzheimer's?

469
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Speaker 2: Don't please used to be taken care of anyone?

470
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Speaker 3: What is this family? You need to get your grandma help.

471
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Speaker 3: First thing my uncle does is make a Facebook post

472
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Speaker 3: about Grandma's condition and then jump straight into now this

473
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Speaker 3: woman things hard on me. Come July to August, when

474
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Speaker 3: I go to New York, I'll.

475
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Speaker 7: Need a caregiver.

476
00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:07,920
Speaker 3: He makes three more posts afterwards, throughout the day, updating

477
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Speaker 3: about her condition and then tagging but I need more

478
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Speaker 3: help than she does. My uncle also dms me and

479
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Speaker 3: my mom to see if we can help him. We

480
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Speaker 3: both tell him politely no. This concludes Saturday. Sunday, my

481
00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:22,880
Speaker 3: mom makes it to the hospital my grandma's at where

482
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Speaker 3: she meets my uncle. He doesn't greet my mom and

483
00:21:25,480 --> 00:21:28,080
Speaker 3: stepdad with HI, how are you or glad you made

484
00:21:28,119 --> 00:21:31,399
Speaker 3: it safe, just straight up asks my mom, hey about

485
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Speaker 3: New York? Are you gonna help.

486
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Speaker 2: I'm just imagining, like you calm, You're like, how is she?

487
00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:38,239
Speaker 2: He's like, oh, or me or not?

488
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Speaker 3: Who cares about my mom? My stepdad cut my uncle

489
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Speaker 3: off and told him no. My uncle then proceeds to

490
00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:47,199
Speaker 3: ask if my youngest brother could help, and again my

491
00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:51,959
Speaker 3: stepdad told my uncle no. My stepdad then full followed

492
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Speaker 3: up with that my grandma's current condition is more important

493
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Speaker 3: than some stripeah, And he's like, what do you mean?

494
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Speaker 4: It's New York.

495
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Speaker 3: By this point in time, my grandpa has not shown

496
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Speaker 3: up to the hospital once. I don't think he cares

497
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Speaker 3: about your grandma. My mom, that lives a thousand plus

498
00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:11,880
Speaker 3: miles away and drove sixteen plus hours to see grandma,

499
00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:14,440
Speaker 3: made it to the hospital before a man that lives

500
00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:17,000
Speaker 3: thirty minutes away, the same man that noticed a few

501
00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:21,080
Speaker 3: days prior that Grandma had not been eating and did nothing. Suddenly,

502
00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:23,359
Speaker 3: because my mom is at the hospital, my grandpa wants

503
00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:26,679
Speaker 3: to go. My grandpa gets there and doesn't even go

504
00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:29,360
Speaker 3: into the room. He just stands out in the lobby.

505
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Speaker 3: My mom and stepdad leave because they're beyond furious with

506
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Speaker 3: the man for letting my grandma starve and do nothing

507
00:22:34,960 --> 00:22:38,040
Speaker 3: about it until she was at a passing away stoor.

508
00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:41,960
Speaker 3: I'm furious as well. My mom hasn't spoken a single

509
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:44,160
Speaker 3: word to my grandpa since the whole thing has come

510
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Speaker 3: to light. My mom and stepdad come by to visit

511
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Speaker 3: my husband and I. Mom grabbed a quick shower, and

512
00:22:49,840 --> 00:22:52,080
Speaker 3: my stepdad and I rode up and he dropped Mom

513
00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:55,200
Speaker 3: off overnight. I was unable to visit my grandma due

514
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Speaker 3: to my husband and I having one car and my

515
00:22:57,160 --> 00:22:59,920
Speaker 3: husband works. I am a stay at home mom wife

516
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Speaker 3: due to my uncle issues of my own. As far

517
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Speaker 3: as my uncle and grandpa are aware, they stayed at

518
00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:10,120
Speaker 3: an airbnb. Nope, my stepdad's leapt over at our place

519
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:12,520
Speaker 3: until the hospital also allowed him to stay with Mom

520
00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:16,800
Speaker 3: overnight at the hospital. Now it's Monday. Once again, my

521
00:23:16,920 --> 00:23:19,240
Speaker 3: uncle has asked my mom about the trip to New York.

522
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Speaker 3: My uncle also makes a Facebook group chat with me,

523
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Speaker 3: my grandpa, some of my mom's cousins, and then two

524
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:29,159
Speaker 3: random but strangers. My uncle excludes my mom and stepdad

525
00:23:29,280 --> 00:23:32,400
Speaker 3: from this chat, so I slip on my little Sherlock

526
00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:36,280
Speaker 3: home hat and investigation mode. My uncle gave a few

527
00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:39,160
Speaker 3: small updates, but not the larger ones. My grandma wasn't

528
00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 3: supposed to get a feeding to but before the doctors

529
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:43,720
Speaker 3: could give it to her, my grandma woke up. Oh

530
00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 3: it started eating great, yea amazing. She ate lunch and dinner,

531
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Speaker 3: and my mom was happy because my grandma was at

532
00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:54,000
Speaker 3: least awake now. However, once my grandma was awake, we

533
00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:57,919
Speaker 3: learned about her mental state. My grandma was convinced she

534
00:23:57,960 --> 00:24:00,080
Speaker 3: was at home and did not realize she was in

535
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:02,640
Speaker 3: the hospital no matter how many times she woke up.

536
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:05,520
Speaker 3: I actually got to visit her on Monday, and she

537
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 3: had torn out her ibs. At the point, she has

538
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:10,880
Speaker 3: been combative with the nursing staff and only calmed down

539
00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 3: when my mom confronted her. My grandma couldn't even remember

540
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:17,320
Speaker 3: my uncle called him Jack and the bean stock, and

541
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:20,760
Speaker 3: refused to talk to someone she didn't know. This yeah,

542
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:24,439
Speaker 3: very sad. The next day, my grandma ended up growing

543
00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:27,920
Speaker 3: even more aggressive. The reason why my grandma couldn't understand

544
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Speaker 3: why my grandpa had not been to see her.

545
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Speaker 7: Once she flew into.

546
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:36,399
Speaker 3: A rage minorly harmful or minorly hurt my mom through food,

547
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:40,160
Speaker 3: et cetera. The nurses had to sedate her to calm

548
00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:43,680
Speaker 3: her down. My uncle just stated, oh, well, she's bipolar,

549
00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 3: just a manic episode, Uncle, and Grandpa's freaking' suck well.

550
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,320
Speaker 3: I decided to update the little group chat about the situation,

551
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:53,719
Speaker 3: and my uncle said he was doubting my mom on

552
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Speaker 3: what happened and that there's no way it could just

553
00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:58,720
Speaker 3: be the dementia and it was all because she was

554
00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:01,920
Speaker 3: off her METS. I do believe that, yes, her bipolar

555
00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 3: condition played into that, but her dementia is what is

556
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 3: causing her to not release realize where she's at, causing

557
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:11,359
Speaker 3: her to not recognize her kid, and also why she

558
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:13,879
Speaker 3: would believe she was at her home and is upset

559
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:16,760
Speaker 3: that my grandpa won't come upstairs to see her. My

560
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:19,400
Speaker 3: mom is fed up at this point. She is exhausted

561
00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:22,159
Speaker 3: and beyond furious. Emotions are high, and my uncle is

562
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 3: the one who has to say so on my grandma's healthcare.

563
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,879
Speaker 2: Oh really, why why is he he's the only one

564
00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:28,560
Speaker 2: who doesn't care?

565
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Speaker 7: Why is he would let this happen? Who let this happen?

566
00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:37,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, like she was his caregiver, but he has to

567
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Speaker 2: say over her medical.

568
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Speaker 3: It really doesn't make sense why he would have a

569
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Speaker 3: say over the healthcare when he is also not in

570
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:44,879
Speaker 3: a place where he can care for himself. So my

571
00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 3: mom decides to leave and head home since she did

572
00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 3: all that she was able to do. My mom feels

573
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Speaker 3: like she's failed my grandma and feels like crap because

574
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Speaker 3: she can't do more. My uncle is saying, my mom

575
00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:57,399
Speaker 3: is lying, and I sent a very long message in

576
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Speaker 3: the group chat, chewing him out along with my grandpa

577
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:03,439
Speaker 3: as well. Suddenly he's not doubting what my mom is saying,

578
00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:06,159
Speaker 3: but then randomly brings up a time where my grandma

579
00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:08,320
Speaker 3: threw him across the countertop when he was younger when

580
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 3: she first had bipolar episodes. A whole day after my

581
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:14,920
Speaker 3: mom had left and made it safely home, my grandpa

582
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 3: finally visits my grandma. My grandpa has cancer and has

583
00:26:19,200 --> 00:26:22,400
Speaker 3: radiation treatment at the same hospital he went to see her,

584
00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:25,040
Speaker 3: solely because he was already going to be there. Now,

585
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:28,320
Speaker 3: my grandma is refusing to eat and becoming more and

586
00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:32,159
Speaker 3: more combative without Mom to help. But my uncle and

587
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 3: grant my grandpa, who have to say, told my mom

588
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Speaker 3: that they needed the help. My grandpa was expecting my

589
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:40,440
Speaker 3: mom to go help him out. My uncle was expecting

590
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:44,800
Speaker 3: her to help out him as well. However, my uncle

591
00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:47,040
Speaker 3: is at least visiting my grandma, but is trying to

592
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:50,280
Speaker 3: push for at home care. Sadly though, that's not going

593
00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:52,040
Speaker 3: to work with everything that led up to her being

594
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Speaker 3: in the hospital in the first place. And since my

595
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:56,959
Speaker 3: mom has been gone, I think my uncle is starting

596
00:26:56,960 --> 00:27:00,119
Speaker 3: to see that my mom wasn't lying about anything and

597
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:03,359
Speaker 3: that my grandma's time on earth is shorter than it

598
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:06,640
Speaker 3: should have been. But by the way, you can listen

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Speaker 3: And there is a little bit more to this story.

602
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Speaker 3: But this is just just so incredibly sad that this

603
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:20,000
Speaker 3: poor woman is being treated just terribly by the people

604
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Speaker 3: that are supposed to be taking care of her.

605
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Speaker 2: The people to her, and it's her son and her

606
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 2: her son and her husband, son and her.

607
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 3: Husband who are supposed to be your caretakers, are are

608
00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 3: not taking care of her. And the only people that

609
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:36,119
Speaker 3: seem to actually value her life and want to care

610
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:38,520
Speaker 3: about her well being are OPI and her mom, who

611
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:43,080
Speaker 3: are are not able to you know, advocate in the

612
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:45,439
Speaker 3: way that they should be able to because they're probably

613
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:49,440
Speaker 3: not on like you know, legally allowed to. Grandma is

614
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 3: still in the hospital as far as I know, and

615
00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:54,880
Speaker 3: her mental state seems to be dropping fast. It's possible

616
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 3: that since she was starved, it punted her dementia into overdrive.

617
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Speaker 3: I haven't spoken to either my uncle or grandpa since

618
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 3: I choot them out. My mom and grandma deserve better,

619
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Speaker 3: and no one treats my mother that way. My mom

620
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 3: and I are thankful my grandma is at least now

621
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 3: getting the care she needs, but we both wish we

622
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:13,440
Speaker 3: could do more to help. I will give updates when

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Speaker 3: they're available, and there are some comments to finish the

624
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Speaker 3: story off. Comment one says sounds like Grandma needs someone

625
00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:20,720
Speaker 3: to advocate for her. She may do better in a

626
00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 3: dementia unit where she is sure to get better care.

627
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 3: I am sorry you and your family are going through

628
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 3: all this. Grandma is lucky to have you and your mom.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

630
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:33,199
Speaker 3: No, definitely needs way better care. Like if you can

631
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Speaker 3: look into a dementia care unit, as that comment said,

632
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:39,920
Speaker 3: that would probably be the best possible thing to do

633
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 3: for her.

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00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

635
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Speaker 3: I hope get her away from these other people.

636
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 2: I hope your grandma gets the caresh.

637
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:47,360
Speaker 3: Me too, But that is the end of that story.

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Speaker 4: To my left.

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00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:33,440
Speaker 7: What can I say?

656
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:35,800
Speaker 4: But I can do simple stuff rather nicely.

657
00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 6: I already sew stuff for my family and friends as

658
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:42,400
Speaker 6: gifts regularly, little outfits for the kids or cosplays, just

659
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 6: easy stuff that can be worn, even if there are

660
00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 6: a few defects on it. They had planned on a

661
00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 6: no frill wedding with close family and friends only, and

662
00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 6: my sister in law had her eyes on a flowing

663
00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 6: layered Gressien tunic style dress, rather easy to do and

664
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:58,000
Speaker 6: not too expensive as far as materials needed.

665
00:29:58,200 --> 00:29:58,959
Speaker 4: So I agreed.

666
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 6: But with the lock down, well, things got complicated. Lockdown

667
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:05,360
Speaker 6: started in March. We were unable to get the fittings,

668
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 6: et cetera, and pretty soon they realized the wedding would

669
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:13,000
Speaker 6: have to be postponed. My sister in law lost it, crying,

670
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 6: screaming the whole shebang. Nothing we could do or say

671
00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:19,239
Speaker 6: could calm her down until my brother asked her what

672
00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:21,680
Speaker 6: she wanted to do instead, and she said she wanted

673
00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 6: now a big wedding as compensation.

674
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 4: Oh I don't know about that, chief.

675
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:33,600
Speaker 6: I mean, well, okay, I get her frustration, I really do.

676
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 6: But the main reason they were having a small wedding

677
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 6: was to save money to renovate the house and so

678
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 6: on and so forth. But that's none of my business.

679
00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 8: I know.

680
00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:47,000
Speaker 6: My brother relented and now they are planning a big

681
00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:49,600
Speaker 6: old wedding for twenty twenty one. Sister in law sent

682
00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:52,000
Speaker 6: me her new requirements and she wants a full skirt

683
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 6: with silk, bodised, lined, embroidered, trained the whole princess gig.

684
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 3: I will say that that word is bought up bodist.

685
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:07,000
Speaker 6: Oh, I thought it was bodhist bodist, bodist modest mouse that,

686
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 6: of course I will still pay for in full for

687
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:13,520
Speaker 6: the materials. I told her I didn't feel like I

688
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:16,320
Speaker 6: could do it, that it was too complicated for my skills,

689
00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:19,240
Speaker 6: and she went blist it. She said I was lying

690
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 6: that I had done complicated things before and that it

691
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 6: was just nothing more than a couple more stitches.

692
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:29,680
Speaker 7: Ah, dude, shit triggered over here, for sure. There are

693
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 7: so many situations when, like, is someone who doesn't sow

694
00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:35,040
Speaker 7: is like it's not that hard, and it's like, girl,

695
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 7: you have not so yeah, it's like everything is so

696
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:39,600
Speaker 7: much more complicated than it seems.

697
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 6: Go do it, then, go do it. Oh, it's just

698
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:44,880
Speaker 6: a couple more stitches. That's great, Go ahead and do it. Then.

699
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 7: No, it's a completely different system if you want all

700
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 7: that completely.

701
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 6: I have been trying to explain to my brother because

702
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 6: she doesn't want to speak to me anymore as I

703
00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:56,160
Speaker 6: am conspiring to ruin her wedding, that I do not

704
00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:59,080
Speaker 6: feel able to do it. His solution is that I

705
00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 6: buy the wedding dress she wants or I wouldn't be

706
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 6: invited to the wedding. So I said, okay. I said

707
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:08,200
Speaker 6: I wouldn't go because I couldn't do what they asked me. Boom, Yes, okay,

708
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:09,880
Speaker 6: thank god you have me. In the first half, I

709
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 6: was like, no, don't buy her wedding dress for her. Yeah,

710
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 6: I said I wouldn't go because I couldn't do what

711
00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 6: they asked me. I can't sew that dress, and I

712
00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:20,320
Speaker 6: certainly can't pay for what she wants. I'm now a

713
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 6: heartless big sister who doesn't approve of her little bro's

714
00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 6: wedding or wife. And honestly, I just want to tell

715
00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:29,080
Speaker 6: them all to go stitch their big mouths closed. And

716
00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:33,200
Speaker 6: there is an update, which is I I what, what

717
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:35,479
Speaker 6: is this? Just wedding fever?

718
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:41,040
Speaker 7: Like this is just dude. I'm like, triggered is absolutely

719
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:44,240
Speaker 7: the right word. There's just literally so many situations. I've

720
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 7: ranted so many times with my my other job is

721
00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 7: involving sewing, and I've ranted to the boss so many times,

722
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 7: like back and forth or there, just about people not

723
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 7: understanding what goes into sewing and like people asking us

724
00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,160
Speaker 7: to like do certain things, and it's like, na, oh,

725
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:04,240
Speaker 7: you don't get it, like it's right. It's like trying.

726
00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:07,400
Speaker 7: I was gonna build a house. It's like, oh, oh, like,

727
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:09,800
Speaker 7: can you just like make this little hut for me

728
00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:12,200
Speaker 7: or put up a tent? And then all of a sudden,

729
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:14,120
Speaker 7: it's like, oh no, actually I want a full house

730
00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:17,400
Speaker 7: with soundproof walls and everything.

731
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:19,760
Speaker 6: Right, It's like, well, it's just a couple more screws,

732
00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 6: hun some more wood.

733
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:25,000
Speaker 4: What's the difference. No, sir, No, sir, it's not what

734
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:25,440
Speaker 4: we do.

735
00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 6: Have an update here, let's see it. Hopefully there's some reconciliation.

736
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 6: I am really touched by the support and the many

737
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 6: great advices I receive. Many of you here or in

738
00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 6: private messages gave me ideas and leads on how to

739
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:40,000
Speaker 6: deal with this the best way possible, as well as

740
00:33:40,040 --> 00:33:42,840
Speaker 6: pointing out things I hadn't even considered. On Saturday, I'll

741
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 6: see my parents and I will explain to them that

742
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 6: as much as I appreciate their faith in my capacities,

743
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 6: I am not up to the task. And while their

744
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 6: support is amazing at this moment, and on that subject,

745
00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 6: it's misguided.

746
00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:55,000
Speaker 4: I will do an.

747
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 6: Itemized list of the costs of the first dress, the

748
00:33:57,800 --> 00:33:59,880
Speaker 6: one I agreed to make a quote from a pro

749
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:02,600
Speaker 6: professional seamstress of my town for the new dress my

750
00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 6: sister in law wants, and a few picked up examples

751
00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:08,720
Speaker 6: of the prices of off the rack dresses and show

752
00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:10,720
Speaker 6: it to them to demonstrate my point.

753
00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 4: Here you go, point being that that would be a

754
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:14,319
Speaker 4: lot to do.

755
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:16,239
Speaker 7: It's a lot, it's a lot.

756
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:18,400
Speaker 6: Many of you also pointed out that while my sister

757
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:20,800
Speaker 6: in law is planning on splurging, the question of who's

758
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:23,200
Speaker 6: going to shoulder the extra cost hasn't been raised.

759
00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:25,239
Speaker 4: I want to touch on that point with them as well.

760
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 6: Also raise the point that it's all nice and well

761
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:30,240
Speaker 6: to fa de planment comet.

762
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:31,439
Speaker 4: I hope that was close.

763
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 6: I think in English that translates to wishing upon the

764
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:38,279
Speaker 6: moon for a twenty twenty one wedding. It's not even guaranteed,

765
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 6: which is now that we're living in the future.

766
00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 4: That's a good point.

767
00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:43,160
Speaker 7: Yeah.

768
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 6: Yes, having her wedding ruined is hard and crappy and

769
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:49,040
Speaker 6: fed up. And to all of you here going through this,

770
00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:51,759
Speaker 6: I really hope the postponment will only bring you even

771
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:54,520
Speaker 6: better things. But it doesn't allow her to act like this,

772
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 6: and I will not go to that wedding unless big

773
00:34:57,719 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 6: apologies are made. Last, but not least, I had no

774
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:05,320
Speaker 6: idea there were that many fabric artists so is Embroiderous's

775
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:08,640
Speaker 6: stylists and such. And I had no idea this community

776
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 6: would be so supportive. And I also learned a lot.

777
00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:13,920
Speaker 6: So thanks to all of you again. I will update

778
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 6: next week when I've seen my parents and we have

779
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:18,600
Speaker 6: an update. Wow, do we think it's good or bad?

780
00:35:19,480 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 6: I'm scared, I'm saying bad.

781
00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:25,720
Speaker 7: I'm saying bad, all right, most of our stories, statistically

782
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:27,360
Speaker 7: statistic prove that this.

783
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:28,000
Speaker 3: Will be bad.

784
00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:31,239
Speaker 6: To just say that this is like this person being

785
00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:33,319
Speaker 6: like ear Zabdad in my wedding bag, and now you

786
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 6: will give me the dress you can't make.

787
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:39,040
Speaker 7: It was already a big ask for someone to make

788
00:35:39,080 --> 00:35:41,680
Speaker 7: your wedding dress. If this is someone that does not

789
00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 7: do this, like if someone I don't know what kind

790
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:45,880
Speaker 7: of stuff she makes, but if she usually makes like

791
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:49,560
Speaker 7: tope bags or something, or like little clothes, I guess

792
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:52,440
Speaker 7: she did mention she'll make little clothes that are wearable.

793
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 4: A wedding dress is a.

794
00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:57,799
Speaker 6: Big jump as a big jump big jump. So a

795
00:35:57,840 --> 00:36:00,680
Speaker 6: lot of things happened after a few requests. This is

796
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:02,279
Speaker 6: the kind of things I had promised, Like one of

797
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,959
Speaker 6: you so nicely said, mostly my sewing style is full

798
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:05,720
Speaker 6: on monet.

799
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:08,320
Speaker 4: Father, you are the best. It looks.

800
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 6: But for the love of everything that is nice in

801
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:12,279
Speaker 6: the world, don't look too closely at it. Okay, so

802
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:15,440
Speaker 6: we have the picture here, you see throw the picture

803
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:18,240
Speaker 6: upon the screen. I went to my parents on Sunday.

804
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 6: They understood very quickly the huge difference in skill set

805
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:24,319
Speaker 6: required to fulfill the new request. They also discovered the

806
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:28,439
Speaker 6: wondrous world of Ali Express and Wish counterfeit designer wedding

807
00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:31,360
Speaker 6: dresses because that's where they had gotten their price range

808
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:32,040
Speaker 6: ideas from.

809
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:35,319
Speaker 7: From Wish, they said, okay, this can be a one

810
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:36,720
Speaker 7: dollar wedding dress.

811
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:40,840
Speaker 4: Dude, it's just made out of toilet paper.

812
00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 7: Yeah, exactly, and dreams.

813
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 6: Quite a few laughs were had over the expectation versus

814
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 6: reality pictures I had found. We also went over the

815
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 6: extra costs of the new wedding, and I just advised

816
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:54,200
Speaker 6: to be careful as we didn't even know yet what

817
00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:57,640
Speaker 6: would be possible with the pandemic threat still lurking.

818
00:36:57,680 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 4: Around.

819
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 6: Two days later, my brother stopped by and before I

820
00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 6: could see him in real life, accompanied by future sister

821
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:06,200
Speaker 6: in law. Keep in mind that this is a recap

822
00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:08,160
Speaker 6: of what I have been told by my parents. I

823
00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:10,400
Speaker 6: was not here for this. Our parents did take my

824
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 6: side on the dress story, and at first it seemed

825
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:14,760
Speaker 6: that my future sister in law heard them out until

826
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 6: they said they weren't sure they could chip in for

827
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:19,680
Speaker 6: the extra costs of a store bought princess dress.

828
00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:23,560
Speaker 4: Then again, I wasn't here. This is what they told me. Happened.

829
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 6: My sister in law silently mouthed out a very foul

830
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:30,360
Speaker 6: word towards my mother, and my dad saw her do

831
00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:34,440
Speaker 6: this all heck broke close.

832
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:35,319
Speaker 7: Oh boy.

833
00:37:36,200 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 6: For a couple weeks, everyone was screaming at everyone else,

834
00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:41,759
Speaker 6: my bro not really siding with his wife to be

835
00:37:42,080 --> 00:37:42,920
Speaker 6: or our parents.

836
00:37:43,040 --> 00:37:45,680
Speaker 4: Our dad doesn't want anything to do with future sister

837
00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:48,560
Speaker 4: in law at all. Ever, what did she say?

838
00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 7: I really want to know?

839
00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:52,520
Speaker 6: So Dad wants nothing to do with her, but Mom

840
00:37:52,719 --> 00:37:55,640
Speaker 6: is more hopeful that a nice apology and some explanations

841
00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:57,880
Speaker 6: could man the fences. I still haven't been able to

842
00:37:57,960 --> 00:38:00,120
Speaker 6: catch my brother face to face, he called an. It

843
00:38:00,200 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 6: ended up rather sour since he threw my celibate status

844
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 6: at my face as a symbol of failure. But he

845
00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:08,680
Speaker 6: did later send me an apology text saying he loved me,

846
00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:10,520
Speaker 6: he wanted me at the wedding no matter what, and

847
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:12,880
Speaker 6: he would understand should I not want to sew the

848
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:15,960
Speaker 6: original dress anyway. And there was some sweet revenge here.

849
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 6: My dad was so incensed at what had happened that

850
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:20,719
Speaker 6: he took me to the fabric shop the very next

851
00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:23,480
Speaker 6: day and told me to go wild and get yourself

852
00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 6: enough fabric for a princess dress. So one pattern and

853
00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 6: three weeks of intense self challenging later. It's full of

854
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:32,759
Speaker 6: mistakes and crooked sewing, but it was made with the

855
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:36,400
Speaker 6: ardent fervor of self righteousness. And there's a link for

856
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 6: the dress here. And I swear to the heavens that

857
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:41,600
Speaker 6: if she doesn't apologize to my parents, I will wear

858
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 6: this at her wedding. Ooh so like a crazy, awesome

859
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:50,439
Speaker 6: princess dress for herself. Yeah, we have another edit here.

860
00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:52,840
Speaker 6: Thank you everyone for the kind words towards my family

861
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:55,719
Speaker 6: here and in private messages. The sewing pattern for the

862
00:38:55,840 --> 00:39:00,400
Speaker 6: yellow dress is the McCall forty one.

863
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 4: I'm sorry. I could have sworn it was a simplicity.

864
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:04,239
Speaker 4: My bad.

865
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 7: How dare you op?

866
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:06,080
Speaker 6: Yes?

867
00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:07,239
Speaker 4: Dare ow dare you?

868
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 6: My inspiration wasn't the Bell Dress, sorry, nor was it

869
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:14,160
Speaker 6: the Hamilton musical, which I admit I haven't seen yet.

870
00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:16,880
Speaker 6: It was a book I had read recently and loved,

871
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 6: an old horror novel called The King in Yellow, and

872
00:39:20,120 --> 00:39:22,960
Speaker 6: I wanted to be a queen in Yellow, ominous and

873
00:39:23,040 --> 00:39:25,759
Speaker 6: angry and powerful when I picked the fabric because I

874
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:28,080
Speaker 6: was pissed and angry and heard at what had happened,

875
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 6: and I was indeed feeling spiteful. And by the way,

876
00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 6: I'll never feel spiteful. If you go listen to full

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00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:39,760
Speaker 6: or iHeartRadio wherever you get your podcast, just search Okay

879
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:43,120
Speaker 6: story Time, and you will have a basically unlimited amount

880
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:46,040
Speaker 6: of stories to choose from. So there is a little

881
00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:48,919
Speaker 6: bit of story left. Let me see if I can

882
00:39:49,280 --> 00:39:51,919
Speaker 6: pull up the dresses really quick.

883
00:39:52,080 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 4: But it looks like that's not like really a wedding dress.

884
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:59,120
Speaker 4: It's like just a really beautiful dress that she made.

885
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:03,240
Speaker 6: Yeah, would kind of upstage, but she's not wearing white.

886
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 7: Yeah, she mentioned it was yellow.

887
00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:07,879
Speaker 6: That would be too far. Yeah, yeah, let's finish it off.

888
00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 6: So okay, here we go. Here's what the sister in

889
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:17,320
Speaker 6: law mouthed, I'm so excited. Well, here's a quick French lesson.

890
00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:20,520
Speaker 6: You can worsen a lot of slurs by adding uh,

891
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:24,719
Speaker 6: I think it's but e, but it's as say probably

892
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:30,680
Speaker 6: at the end like uh uh yeah exactly. For example,

893
00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:36,200
Speaker 6: une khone is a stupid woman, une konas is a stupid, despicable,

894
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:41,200
Speaker 6: mean woman. Ah ah, I see the slur she used

895
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:42,799
Speaker 6: was that of that category.

896
00:40:42,920 --> 00:40:47,080
Speaker 4: Hence my usually mellow dad flying off his handle. PS.

897
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:50,279
Speaker 6: I've decided to name that dress, and yes, thanks to

898
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:52,879
Speaker 6: you all, she will now and forever be known as

899
00:40:53,320 --> 00:40:58,200
Speaker 6: Spike dress. And that is the end of that story.

900
00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:03,320
Speaker 7: My egotistics. Mister law invited my husband's ex to her wedding.

901
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:07,200
Speaker 7: We didn't even know that they were friends. WHOA how

902
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:11,920
Speaker 7: you invite the X to the wedding? Warning long and

903
00:41:12,040 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 7: ranting throwaway because this is easily identifiable and I don't

904
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:18,400
Speaker 7: want it linked back to my main account TILDR. At

905
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:20,960
Speaker 7: the end, background to dear husband and I have been

906
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 7: married for seven years. His only request for our wedding

907
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:25,879
Speaker 7: was to include the sister in law, mother in law,

908
00:41:25,920 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 7: and father in law in somewhere by the way. This

909
00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:30,759
Speaker 7: comes from Nightmare Wedding zero three four And if you

910
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:32,359
Speaker 7: want to submit your own stories, just go to our

911
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:35,880
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912
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 7: Sister in law and my brother ended up being our

913
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:42,239
Speaker 7: witnesses as we had no bridesmaids or groomsmen. I used

914
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:45,279
Speaker 7: to organize large and small scale events professionally and can

915
00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 7: work with pretty much any budget or interests. I offered

916
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:51,760
Speaker 7: to help free of charged and was ignored. Dear husband

917
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:54,160
Speaker 7: is sister in law's only sibling. He was not invited

918
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:56,680
Speaker 7: to participate or help in any way. Sister in law

919
00:41:56,840 --> 00:41:59,279
Speaker 7: is in her late forties. She has no children and

920
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:03,480
Speaker 7: is a absorbed hipster. Her future husband is in his

921
00:42:03,640 --> 00:42:06,760
Speaker 7: late fifties with four grown children from a previous marriage.

922
00:42:06,800 --> 00:42:11,000
Speaker 7: He is a tragic hipster, tight jeans, swayed chelsea boots,

923
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:13,400
Speaker 7: non ironic plaid, and a man.

924
00:42:13,400 --> 00:42:17,240
Speaker 4: But hey, hey, hey, there's nothing wrong with plaid.

925
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:21,799
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, as a Midwesterner, there's nothing wrong with a

926
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:22,560
Speaker 6: little bit of.

927
00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 7: Plaid and pretentious. Not my favorite person, but I'm not

928
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 7: the one who must spend any time within. Even my

929
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:32,200
Speaker 7: ever polite mother in law finds him boring, and she

930
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:35,239
Speaker 7: could probably find something nice to say about edia mean.

931
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 7: My sister in law is getting married this weekend. She

932
00:42:38,120 --> 00:42:40,120
Speaker 7: has been planning her wedding for over a year and

933
00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 7: is getting married in the middle of nowhere in a

934
00:42:42,640 --> 00:42:45,120
Speaker 7: national park. It is a half hour drive from the

935
00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:48,560
Speaker 7: closest place for a family to stay along winding tracks.

936
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:51,399
Speaker 7: It is over a six hour drive from our home.

937
00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 7: She does not live in this area, or live close,

938
00:42:53,680 --> 00:42:56,200
Speaker 7: come from this area, or have a particular need to

939
00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:59,280
Speaker 7: have the event at such a remote quarterer of this area.

940
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:01,840
Speaker 7: It is a busy summer weekend and the area is

941
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:04,759
Speaker 7: a massive draw for tourists, so everywhere to stay has

942
00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:07,759
Speaker 7: a two night minimum. We had accommodation sorted through my

943
00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:10,000
Speaker 7: mother in law, who wanted us to stay until mid

944
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:12,600
Speaker 7: next week and do the six hour drive home on

945
00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:15,840
Speaker 7: my birthday. My dear husband and I have small daughters

946
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:18,320
Speaker 7: who were asked to be flower girls, despite sister in

947
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 7: law meeting them four times during their entire lives. The

948
00:43:21,160 --> 00:43:25,400
Speaker 7: dresses are frankly hideous navy blue polyester sign with an

949
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:29,040
Speaker 7: ugly bow in chartruse, and sister in law requested that

950
00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:31,880
Speaker 7: we buy them shoes and a floral headpiece that would

951
00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 7: cost one hundred and thirty dollars per child. Her maid

952
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:37,360
Speaker 7: of honors suggested putting it on a credit card. We

953
00:43:37,360 --> 00:43:40,759
Speaker 7: can afford this kind of crap. But for shoes with laces.

954
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:42,759
Speaker 7: They are too young to be able to do them

955
00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 7: up themselves, and getting them on would be like trying

956
00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:48,439
Speaker 7: to put ice skates on an octopus that they will

957
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:51,360
Speaker 7: grow out of in three months. Yeah.

958
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:53,440
Speaker 4: No, just complete waste of money.

959
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:54,320
Speaker 6: Entirely.

960
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 7: I found an alternative that is suitable in the right color,

961
00:43:57,719 --> 00:44:01,239
Speaker 7: and she eventually tolerated. She wants her bridal party and

962
00:44:01,239 --> 00:44:03,640
Speaker 7: flower girls to go down the aisle after her weird

963
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 7: but fine. Her bridal party is five bridesmaids including the

964
00:44:07,239 --> 00:44:10,080
Speaker 7: mother in law, and four flower girls. Future husband has

965
00:44:10,120 --> 00:44:13,040
Speaker 7: four groomsmen. This is for a wedding with sixty guests,

966
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 7: so twenty five percent of the total attendees would be

967
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:16,720
Speaker 7: standing at the altar.

968
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:18,240
Speaker 3: That's really funny.

969
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:19,720
Speaker 4: That's a lot funny.

970
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:23,400
Speaker 7: Yet somehow dear husband doesn't get a roll of any

971
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 7: time not a nusher, not a witness, nothing. When I

972
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:29,160
Speaker 7: heard about this, I started thinking that maybe sister in

973
00:44:29,200 --> 00:44:32,560
Speaker 7: law was becoming something of a bride's ella. You think

974
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:34,360
Speaker 7: you were starting to think?

975
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:38,440
Speaker 4: I know, my brain just turned on.

976
00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 7: I've realized I'm slightly suspicious of this situation. Oh ob

977
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 7: so naive. Her location is a farm, her dress code

978
00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:54,360
Speaker 7: is cocktail attire, her ceremony seating is hey bales ah.

979
00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:57,319
Speaker 7: At this point it's camp, and I'm now in love

980
00:44:57,320 --> 00:45:01,680
Speaker 7: with the bridezilla. So it's enough sid decisions to be endearing.

981
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:04,240
Speaker 4: You know, yeah, I kind of feel that a little bit.

982
00:45:04,280 --> 00:45:08,120
Speaker 7: Has someone with fairly severe hay allergies and a need

983
00:45:08,200 --> 00:45:10,480
Speaker 7: to be able to drive. More on that later. This

984
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:12,759
Speaker 7: was going to be painful, and it would have been

985
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:15,640
Speaker 7: torturous for an eighty three year old family member or

986
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 7: family friend who recently had a double hip replacement. When

987
00:45:19,120 --> 00:45:21,799
Speaker 7: asked to provide a chair for him, that response was

988
00:45:22,080 --> 00:45:24,600
Speaker 7: it would ruin the photo. When asked if our daughters,

989
00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:27,400
Speaker 7: who she demanded be at the location two hours earlier

990
00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:30,600
Speaker 7: than anyone else, could get changed upon arrival, we were

991
00:45:30,600 --> 00:45:33,520
Speaker 7: told that there wouldn't be a room available. The ceremony

992
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:36,880
Speaker 7: is mid afternoon with drinks and nibbles served before dinner

993
00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:39,399
Speaker 7: at six point thirty pm. My children go to bed

994
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:43,040
Speaker 7: half an hour drive away. At six forty five pm.

995
00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:46,840
Speaker 7: Sister in law suggested that I ask them to wake

996
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:49,440
Speaker 7: up later in the morning so that they could stay

997
00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:52,399
Speaker 7: for the meal. Sister in law has never interacted much

998
00:45:52,400 --> 00:45:54,120
Speaker 7: with small children, and it shows.

999
00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:56,040
Speaker 4: It does show shows if.

1000
00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 7: These are children that are too small to lace up

1001
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:04,280
Speaker 7: their own shoes, Yeah, they have, just there's no negotiating

1002
00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:05,719
Speaker 7: what time they would have.

1003
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:08,520
Speaker 4: Set schedule, yes, whether you like it or not.

1004
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:11,719
Speaker 7: When this was rejected as an option, she suggested that

1005
00:46:11,840 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 7: my parents drive six hours to collect the children in

1006
00:46:15,160 --> 00:46:18,719
Speaker 7: the evening and take them back to our accommodation, where

1007
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:21,399
Speaker 7: there was not a room for them. They would not

1008
00:46:21,440 --> 00:46:23,680
Speaker 7: be invited to the wedding, nor would they want to come,

1009
00:46:23,840 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 7: to be honest, and everything in the area is booked out.

1010
00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 7: Perhaps they could rent a camper van. The Bridesaila asks no,

1011
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:35,239
Speaker 7: They were to cat sit for us at our home

1012
00:46:35,280 --> 00:46:38,200
Speaker 7: and celebrate a birthday with friends. The location has six

1013
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:41,160
Speaker 7: bedrooms on site, as well as camping plots for double tents.

1014
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:43,799
Speaker 7: Sister in law and future husband are in one room

1015
00:46:43,920 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 7: his two older children and partners are in two rooms.

1016
00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:49,680
Speaker 7: His other two children are sharing the fourth. His mother,

1017
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:53,040
Speaker 7: heavy drinker in her late eighties, and his best man,

1018
00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:56,840
Speaker 7: heavy drinker in his late fifties, have the fifth and sixth.

1019
00:46:56,880 --> 00:47:00,279
Speaker 7: It was suggested that we camp shared toilet block one

1020
00:47:00,360 --> 00:47:03,400
Speaker 7: hundred yards away, but that the children would need to

1021
00:47:03,440 --> 00:47:07,560
Speaker 7: be wary of the partially concealed stream in the camping field,

1022
00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:10,560
Speaker 7: and that the two tenths would not necessarily be near

1023
00:47:10,600 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 7: each other.

1024
00:47:11,160 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 6: This is all the worst thing you could ever hear

1025
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:17,240
Speaker 6: as a parent or an elderly person.

1026
00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:21,359
Speaker 7: So they expect these I'm assuming, like two or three

1027
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:24,960
Speaker 7: year olds to like be intents that are not near

1028
00:47:25,040 --> 00:47:25,560
Speaker 7: each other.

1029
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:29,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's this is this is absurd.

1030
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:35,000
Speaker 7: Oh, it's crazy. This is crazy. So far so entitled fine.

1031
00:47:35,400 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 7: We made our piece with showing up, having a terrible time,

1032
00:47:38,719 --> 00:47:42,400
Speaker 7: smiling for the mandatory photos, and never thinking about it again.

1033
00:47:42,840 --> 00:47:45,439
Speaker 7: Then last Friday, my sister in law dropped a fun

1034
00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:49,040
Speaker 7: bombshell in a perfunctory text, Hi, there, wanted to let

1035
00:47:49,120 --> 00:47:52,279
Speaker 7: you know, so you weren't surprised that I invited your

1036
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 7: ex to the wedding. I forgot about the title. Oh boy,

1037
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:58,160
Speaker 7: she is an important friend to me, and I hope

1038
00:47:58,200 --> 00:48:00,480
Speaker 7: that we all can have a good time my wedding

1039
00:48:00,520 --> 00:48:03,880
Speaker 7: with fun and peace. Neither he nor I knew that

1040
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:05,959
Speaker 7: his ex was a friend of the sister in law.

1041
00:48:06,239 --> 00:48:09,160
Speaker 7: She has never mentioned this person in the decade that

1042
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:12,480
Speaker 7: I've known her. The ex lives a long haul flight away.

1043
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:15,759
Speaker 7: This is not a last minute thing. Deer husband has

1044
00:48:15,800 --> 00:48:19,000
Speaker 7: spent over twelve years trying to get past the trauma

1045
00:48:19,040 --> 00:48:20,920
Speaker 7: of the relationship and the damage it did.

1046
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:21,239
Speaker 2: Tip.

1047
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:23,480
Speaker 7: Oh wow, so it's more than just an X. This

1048
00:48:23,640 --> 00:48:26,360
Speaker 7: is what I'm assuming is probably like an abusive partner.

1049
00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:29,359
Speaker 4: It's like that the X the X.

1050
00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:33,000
Speaker 7: He is finally in a mentally really healthy space, and

1051
00:48:33,080 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 7: yet sister law thinks that dropping this on him a

1052
00:48:36,000 --> 00:48:37,520
Speaker 7: week before is okay.

1053
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 3: Not okay.

1054
00:48:39,040 --> 00:48:41,840
Speaker 7: I went into full mama bear mode and pulled my

1055
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 7: children and myself out. My dear husband was crying, trying

1056
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:48,040
Speaker 7: to figure out what was actually going on. I wrote

1057
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:49,840
Speaker 7: to mother in law, telling her that dear husband was

1058
00:48:49,880 --> 00:48:51,840
Speaker 7: willing to go and that we would all go to

1059
00:48:52,000 --> 00:48:55,319
Speaker 7: but f nowhere as accommodation is booked, but that three

1060
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:57,800
Speaker 7: of us would stay home and enjoy a day.

1061
00:48:57,640 --> 00:48:58,840
Speaker 3: Of exploring the area.

1062
00:48:59,040 --> 00:49:02,480
Speaker 7: Mother in law wrote back, uninviting us on the entire trip.

1063
00:49:02,600 --> 00:49:06,040
Speaker 7: Dear husband shut down completely, dude.

1064
00:49:06,000 --> 00:49:09,520
Speaker 6: Why is this family suck so bad?

1065
00:49:09,800 --> 00:49:13,879
Speaker 7: There's no thinking or consideration at all. I called mother

1066
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 7: in law and she finally admitted that she had known

1067
00:49:16,640 --> 00:49:19,280
Speaker 7: the ex was coming for six months, but that sister

1068
00:49:19,320 --> 00:49:21,400
Speaker 7: in law had asked her not to tell us so

1069
00:49:21,440 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 7: that she could tell us in her own time. I

1070
00:49:24,120 --> 00:49:25,839
Speaker 7: want to throw up at that. That makes me want

1071
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:26,400
Speaker 7: to throw.

1072
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:28,200
Speaker 4: Up angrily in her own time.

1073
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:31,600
Speaker 6: You mean at the worst possible time to cause the

1074
00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:35,600
Speaker 6: most amount of distress, right, you little monster.

1075
00:49:35,840 --> 00:49:38,440
Speaker 7: It's not like this is like a partner that cheated

1076
00:49:39,440 --> 00:49:42,400
Speaker 7: in their relationship. Like that's something where it's like, okay, whatever,

1077
00:49:42,600 --> 00:49:44,680
Speaker 7: tell you in your own time. You're the one that

1078
00:49:44,760 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 7: has to do it. This is different. Your mom can

1079
00:49:47,560 --> 00:49:50,560
Speaker 7: definitely tell you that their their terrible ex is gonna

1080
00:49:50,560 --> 00:49:51,360
Speaker 7: show up at a wedding.

1081
00:49:51,440 --> 00:49:54,520
Speaker 6: Yeah, heads up, six months, heads up, Probably a different

1082
00:49:54,560 --> 00:49:55,520
Speaker 6: situation than one week.

1083
00:49:55,960 --> 00:49:58,320
Speaker 7: Mother in law didn't want to do anything to distract

1084
00:49:58,400 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 7: or ruin sister in law's happy Today. The outcome of

1085
00:50:01,200 --> 00:50:03,760
Speaker 7: this nightmare is that we aren't going to the middle

1086
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:07,080
Speaker 7: of nowhere saving us twelve hours driving. We have gone

1087
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:10,200
Speaker 7: completely no contact with sister in law and never liked

1088
00:50:10,239 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 7: future brother in law anyway, so definitely no loss there,

1089
00:50:13,640 --> 00:50:16,799
Speaker 7: and have decided not to see or communicate with mother

1090
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:19,600
Speaker 7: in law or father in law for this foreseeable future.

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Speaker 7: They have no other grandchildren, and I know I am

1092
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 7: being punitive by keeping them apart, but I am furious

1093
00:50:24,800 --> 00:50:28,880
Speaker 7: beyond words. Dear husband is distraught, and I'm so angry

1094
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:31,080
Speaker 7: on his path that I hope I never see his

1095
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:35,640
Speaker 7: family again. Lest I say something unpleasant, there is an update,

1096
00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:38,000
Speaker 7: But what are we thinking?

1097
00:50:38,640 --> 00:50:40,800
Speaker 4: Yeah? I support no contact.

1098
00:50:40,440 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 7: Here, absolutely, absolutely, the.

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00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:48,080
Speaker 6: Very least with like the sister in law and the brother. Yeah,

1100
00:50:47,640 --> 00:50:49,520
Speaker 6: and then.

1101
00:50:49,440 --> 00:50:52,200
Speaker 7: The sauch a nightmare. And for my own clarification, the

1102
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:54,600
Speaker 7: sister in law is like, oh p's sister in law,

1103
00:50:54,640 --> 00:50:55,560
Speaker 7: so it's.

1104
00:50:55,480 --> 00:50:58,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's her husband's actual sisters.

1105
00:50:58,719 --> 00:51:03,960
Speaker 7: Yeah, dude, dude, that's crazy. If there's an ex that

1106
00:51:04,080 --> 00:51:10,479
Speaker 7: has that much like mental distraught and like trauma on

1107
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:13,680
Speaker 7: your brother, why would you even want to be friends

1108
00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:14,040
Speaker 7: with them?

1109
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:17,920
Speaker 4: Don't invite her to the freaking wedding, don't, Yeah, not.

1110
00:51:18,040 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 7: At all, or just don't even talk to ever. That's crazy.

1111
00:51:22,560 --> 00:51:25,759
Speaker 7: But there is an update. So it has been so

1112
00:51:25,840 --> 00:51:28,279
Speaker 7: interesting to read the comments coming through. Just as a

1113
00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:31,920
Speaker 7: quick update to the comments, My husband's ex stole a

1114
00:51:32,040 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 7: huge amount of money from him and was physically oh

1115
00:51:36,120 --> 00:51:39,800
Speaker 7: my gosh. Yeah, he ended up in the hospital multiple times,

1116
00:51:39,920 --> 00:51:42,560
Speaker 7: only to be told that as a larger man she

1117
00:51:42,880 --> 00:51:44,440
Speaker 7: wasn't culpable.

1118
00:51:44,120 --> 00:51:45,359
Speaker 2: Like because.

1119
00:51:46,920 --> 00:51:50,800
Speaker 4: Oh yes, small she can't be held liable for her.

1120
00:51:50,640 --> 00:51:56,160
Speaker 7: Beaten Oh my gosh, that's crazy, that's crazy. Absolutely, no

1121
00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:59,600
Speaker 7: contact with the sister. That is unacceptable, not even to

1122
00:51:59,719 --> 00:52:01,919
Speaker 7: just invite her to the wedding at this point, it's

1123
00:52:01,960 --> 00:52:04,719
Speaker 7: like to be in contact with her at all.

1124
00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:06,880
Speaker 4: This is say, your best friends with this person.

1125
00:52:07,160 --> 00:52:11,880
Speaker 7: Yes, yes, oh my gosh. He had PTSD for years

1126
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:14,799
Speaker 7: on top of anxiety, always had it and has made

1127
00:52:14,920 --> 00:52:17,919
Speaker 7: amazing progress. Thought of having to see her again pulled

1128
00:52:18,000 --> 00:52:20,840
Speaker 7: him back to a very dark spot in his history

1129
00:52:21,120 --> 00:52:23,800
Speaker 7: that he had worked really hard to get past. The

1130
00:52:23,920 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 7: children are also four year old twins. Yeah, very very

1131
00:52:27,080 --> 00:52:31,240
Speaker 7: little children. I am a judgmental witch. I never claimed

1132
00:52:31,320 --> 00:52:33,600
Speaker 7: to not be. My future brother in law is a

1133
00:52:33,640 --> 00:52:36,680
Speaker 7: clown who has no money, no prospect of ever having

1134
00:52:36,680 --> 00:52:41,480
Speaker 7: any money is ugly not my opinion, only and has

1135
00:52:41,520 --> 00:52:44,600
Speaker 7: an unpleasant demeanor. So not only is he broke his heck,

1136
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:46,560
Speaker 7: he's also freaking ugly.

1137
00:52:47,719 --> 00:52:53,560
Speaker 4: He's a broke ugly bridge troll. Get him, get him,

1138
00:52:53,719 --> 00:52:54,400
Speaker 4: get him.

1139
00:52:54,280 --> 00:52:56,759
Speaker 7: Get him. I can only imagine that my sister in

1140
00:52:56,840 --> 00:53:00,000
Speaker 7: law thinks he is good in bed. Has no one

1141
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:03,759
Speaker 7: I know who has met him can find any redeeming features,

1142
00:53:03,960 --> 00:53:06,160
Speaker 7: including mother in law and father in law.

1143
00:53:06,200 --> 00:53:08,399
Speaker 6: Well, a sister in law sounds like she suck, so

1144
00:53:08,560 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 6: it makes sense she find a partner with someone else

1145
00:53:10,960 --> 00:53:11,960
Speaker 6: who's as well.

1146
00:53:12,120 --> 00:53:14,880
Speaker 7: Yeah, maybe this is just the partner that she deserves.

1147
00:53:15,040 --> 00:53:19,520
Speaker 7: Another answer to a commenter is not relevant, but it

1148
00:53:19,600 --> 00:53:23,120
Speaker 7: is something that I find utterly distasteful when no attempt

1149
00:53:23,160 --> 00:53:25,560
Speaker 7: is made to carb it. I'm aware that it is

1150
00:53:25,680 --> 00:53:28,279
Speaker 7: an et cetera, et cetera, but there are so many

1151
00:53:28,280 --> 00:53:30,960
Speaker 7: ways that it can be managed without negative impact on others.

1152
00:53:31,120 --> 00:53:33,879
Speaker 7: Future brother in law's mom starts drinking at about nine

1153
00:53:33,960 --> 00:53:36,520
Speaker 7: am and becomes rude and aggressive by two pm, so

1154
00:53:36,680 --> 00:53:39,920
Speaker 7: we'll probably be completely slashed by three pm when the

1155
00:53:39,960 --> 00:53:42,799
Speaker 7: ceremony starts. We haven't heard anything from any of the

1156
00:53:42,840 --> 00:53:46,640
Speaker 7: family at all, and I'll give enough about it XO.

1157
00:53:46,840 --> 00:53:48,920
Speaker 3: And there is a second update.

1158
00:53:49,080 --> 00:53:51,560
Speaker 4: Let's go go.

1159
00:53:51,800 --> 00:53:55,360
Speaker 7: The wedding happened last Saturday, and we weren't there. Yes,

1160
00:53:55,760 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 7: my children were a little sad, but I convinced them

1161
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:00,680
Speaker 7: to dress up for a family birthday in their shoes,

1162
00:54:00,880 --> 00:54:04,839
Speaker 7: nicest stresses, not the hideous bridesmaids ones were thankfully never

1163
00:54:04,880 --> 00:54:08,120
Speaker 7: posted to us, and pretty head bands. They seemed happy enough.

1164
00:54:08,160 --> 00:54:10,400
Speaker 7: My dear husband was a bit stressed until after the

1165
00:54:10,440 --> 00:54:12,319
Speaker 7: time in the morning when he couldn't have made it

1166
00:54:12,360 --> 00:54:14,360
Speaker 7: to the venue even if he had wanted to. He

1167
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:16,200
Speaker 7: ended up taking a nap at the time of the

1168
00:54:16,200 --> 00:54:20,360
Speaker 7: ceremony and commented afterwards that he slept through my sister's

1169
00:54:20,400 --> 00:54:24,359
Speaker 7: first wedding. First wedding. That's like calling World War one

1170
00:54:24,440 --> 00:54:27,160
Speaker 7: world War one. At the time, you know, it's like

1171
00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:29,279
Speaker 7: there's gonna be another. I just know it.

1172
00:54:29,400 --> 00:54:31,600
Speaker 4: Nobody wants to hear that.

1173
00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:32,640
Speaker 3: That's so funny.

1174
00:54:32,880 --> 00:54:35,440
Speaker 7: I received a birthday card from mother in law, postmarked

1175
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:37,600
Speaker 7: from the area of the wedding venue. I returned it

1176
00:54:37,640 --> 00:54:40,719
Speaker 7: to send her. I am not interested in whatever bs

1177
00:54:40,760 --> 00:54:43,200
Speaker 7: she may have written, but knowing her, she will have

1178
00:54:43,280 --> 00:54:46,439
Speaker 7: avoided anything of note. I wish I had something more

1179
00:54:46,480 --> 00:54:48,920
Speaker 7: interesting to report. That they had been washed away in

1180
00:54:49,000 --> 00:54:52,080
Speaker 7: a flood or all been poisoned by the cannabise. But

1181
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:55,600
Speaker 7: I haven't heard or seen anything about the event at all.

1182
00:54:55,640 --> 00:54:59,240
Speaker 7: But we do have another update. So baby let has changed.

1183
00:54:59,400 --> 00:55:00,600
Speaker 4: Let's hear about it.

1184
00:55:00,719 --> 00:55:03,520
Speaker 7: Let's see. So we haven't heard anything from mother in law,

1185
00:55:03,640 --> 00:55:06,239
Speaker 7: father in law, sister in law, or new brother in law.

1186
00:55:06,239 --> 00:55:08,439
Speaker 7: I'm a little surprised that mother and father in law

1187
00:55:08,560 --> 00:55:11,359
Speaker 7: haven't tried to contact your husband, as our children are

1188
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:15,560
Speaker 7: their only grandchildren. Does anyone have any hypotheses as to

1189
00:55:15,640 --> 00:55:19,239
Speaker 7: what might happen with them? Dear husband has gone into

1190
00:55:19,280 --> 00:55:21,920
Speaker 7: denial or not dealing with it mode. We have busy

1191
00:55:21,960 --> 00:55:24,840
Speaker 7: lives anyway, and are going away this weekend without the children.

1192
00:55:25,080 --> 00:55:26,000
Speaker 3: Thanks Mom and Dad.

1193
00:55:26,080 --> 00:55:27,960
Speaker 7: So have plenty to keep us busy.

1194
00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:32,720
Speaker 8: By the way, we have plenty of episodes with stories

1195
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:36,640
Speaker 8: just like this to keep you busy with entertainment. Just

1196
00:55:36,640 --> 00:55:40,279
Speaker 8: go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, whatever your favorite podcast app

1197
00:55:40,320 --> 00:55:40,680
Speaker 8: is in search.

1198
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:41,799
Speaker 7: Okay, story time, we.

1199
00:55:41,840 --> 00:55:43,520
Speaker 4: Got you, We've got you.

1200
00:55:43,760 --> 00:55:44,560
Speaker 7: But there's a.

1201
00:55:44,520 --> 00:55:45,240
Speaker 3: Little bit more.

1202
00:55:45,400 --> 00:55:48,359
Speaker 7: We have removed sister in law from our wills, as

1203
00:55:48,400 --> 00:55:51,000
Speaker 7: she was originally a trustee for our children and an

1204
00:55:51,000 --> 00:55:54,319
Speaker 7: executor as well as a beneficiary should all four of

1205
00:55:54,400 --> 00:55:55,280
Speaker 7: us pass away?

1206
00:55:55,520 --> 00:55:57,719
Speaker 3: Now she gets bup kiss.

1207
00:55:57,760 --> 00:56:01,320
Speaker 7: Not particularly vindictive, as it was unlikely that she wouldn't

1208
00:56:01,320 --> 00:56:03,759
Speaker 7: hear it, although as a trustee she would have been

1209
00:56:03,800 --> 00:56:06,719
Speaker 7: paid decently well and would have been able to embezzle

1210
00:56:06,760 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 7: a lot more should the urge have arisen. Any and

1211
00:56:09,719 --> 00:56:12,480
Speaker 7: all ideas for how we should proceed would be of interest.

1212
00:56:12,600 --> 00:56:17,920
Speaker 7: So go wild. What would your wild ideas be on

1213
00:56:17,960 --> 00:56:19,239
Speaker 7: how she can deal with this?

1214
00:56:19,520 --> 00:56:19,840
Speaker 4: See?

1215
00:56:19,880 --> 00:56:22,080
Speaker 6: Now this is I was getting this sense towards the

1216
00:56:22,160 --> 00:56:25,640
Speaker 6: end of the story. It's like OP, like, already one's gone,

1217
00:56:25,680 --> 00:56:27,240
Speaker 6: no contact with all these people.

1218
00:56:27,400 --> 00:56:31,560
Speaker 4: But now OP is like I want more drama. More like, no,

1219
00:56:31,680 --> 00:56:33,160
Speaker 4: you already won. It's over.

1220
00:56:33,239 --> 00:56:34,040
Speaker 7: Now it's over.

1221
00:56:34,280 --> 00:56:36,720
Speaker 4: Let it be just over. Move on with your life,

1222
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:40,719
Speaker 4: move forward. Hey, it's Sam. We're gonna get back to

1223
00:56:40,760 --> 00:56:41,240
Speaker 4: these stories.

1224
00:56:41,280 --> 00:56:43,279
Speaker 1: But here's three bits of ads from our sponsors that

1225
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Speaker 1: keep the show alive.

1226
00:56:44,760 --> 00:56:47,680
Speaker 6: I called out my entitled sister in laws over the

1227
00:56:47,719 --> 00:56:49,400
Speaker 6: top wedding demands.

1228
00:56:49,920 --> 00:56:50,799
Speaker 2: She lost it.

1229
00:56:51,320 --> 00:56:53,040
Speaker 7: Don't wake the bears.

1230
00:56:53,040 --> 00:56:57,360
Speaker 6: This is a marriage bears a barriage, so to speak.

1231
00:56:58,280 --> 00:56:59,719
Speaker 4: So a quick little backstory.

1232
00:56:59,800 --> 00:57:02,879
Speaker 6: My husband twenty one mail and his brother twenty five male,

1233
00:57:03,080 --> 00:57:04,920
Speaker 6: have always had a great relationship.

1234
00:57:04,960 --> 00:57:06,360
Speaker 4: His brother moved away when.

1235
00:57:06,200 --> 00:57:08,520
Speaker 6: He was younger, and even though they're now two hours apart,

1236
00:57:08,600 --> 00:57:12,319
Speaker 6: they still regularly talk and play games online together. By

1237
00:57:12,360 --> 00:57:14,799
Speaker 6: the way, this comes from user deleted, and if you

1238
00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:16,400
Speaker 6: want to submit your own stories, go to the r

1239
00:57:16,440 --> 00:57:20,960
Speaker 6: slash okay storytime subreddit and submit them. So my husband

1240
00:57:21,080 --> 00:57:23,680
Speaker 6: is one of six kids and they are all still

1241
00:57:23,680 --> 00:57:26,200
Speaker 6: in contact and on good terms. His parents are also

1242
00:57:26,440 --> 00:57:29,200
Speaker 6: still merry. About three years ago, his brother introduced us

1243
00:57:29,240 --> 00:57:31,840
Speaker 6: to his girlfriend. At the time, she was originally from

1244
00:57:31,840 --> 00:57:34,040
Speaker 6: a different state but moved here to be with him.

1245
00:57:34,040 --> 00:57:36,360
Speaker 6: Everything was fine until about a year into knowing her,

1246
00:57:36,400 --> 00:57:40,120
Speaker 6: when she started getting snotty and entitled. For one thing,

1247
00:57:40,240 --> 00:57:42,840
Speaker 6: she refused to work and expected him to support her

1248
00:57:42,880 --> 00:57:45,240
Speaker 6: and her mother, whom she had brought with her when

1249
00:57:45,280 --> 00:57:45,800
Speaker 6: moving here.

1250
00:57:45,880 --> 00:57:47,000
Speaker 4: She began going through.

1251
00:57:46,840 --> 00:57:50,360
Speaker 6: People's things, making snide comments and even told me that

1252
00:57:50,520 --> 00:57:52,640
Speaker 6: I was privileged and said she would use.

1253
00:57:52,480 --> 00:57:55,920
Speaker 4: Our daughter's name for her daughter while I was in labor.

1254
00:57:57,760 --> 00:58:00,240
Speaker 6: So she sounds like a real gem of a person,

1255
00:58:01,080 --> 00:58:03,760
Speaker 6: oh man. She also wore sweatpants to our wedding and

1256
00:58:03,800 --> 00:58:07,760
Speaker 6: fell asleep at their reception. Classic classy move. A lot

1257
00:58:07,760 --> 00:58:09,560
Speaker 6: of class, I'm sensing here.

1258
00:58:09,640 --> 00:58:10,040
Speaker 7: Oh yeah.

1259
00:58:10,080 --> 00:58:12,400
Speaker 6: For their weddings, we were told we need to purchase

1260
00:58:12,520 --> 00:58:16,200
Speaker 6: medieval costumes, drive the two hours to their town, bring

1261
00:58:16,200 --> 00:58:19,600
Speaker 6: food for the reception, play outside games, and just recently

1262
00:58:19,640 --> 00:58:21,640
Speaker 6: she added that we would need to take pictures on

1263
00:58:21,680 --> 00:58:25,040
Speaker 6: our phones for them since they couldn't afford a photographer.

1264
00:58:25,080 --> 00:58:27,000
Speaker 6: I mentioned to her that this all seemed like a

1265
00:58:27,000 --> 00:58:29,880
Speaker 6: lot to ask, especially considering they had refused to come

1266
00:58:30,120 --> 00:58:33,280
Speaker 6: for any family events prior to this, and she told

1267
00:58:33,280 --> 00:58:35,600
Speaker 6: me if I didn't like it, I didn't have to come.

1268
00:58:35,760 --> 00:58:37,960
Speaker 6: I should add that my husband is in this wedding.

1269
00:58:38,080 --> 00:58:40,840
Speaker 6: She stopped responding to me after I said their attitude

1270
00:58:40,920 --> 00:58:42,840
Speaker 6: was hurtful and started telling my mother in law that

1271
00:58:42,920 --> 00:58:45,640
Speaker 6: I was hurting her again and making up stories about

1272
00:58:45,720 --> 00:58:48,200
Speaker 6: us punting them out of our house. This has began

1273
00:58:48,280 --> 00:58:51,160
Speaker 6: to affect my husband's relationship with his brother, and I

1274
00:58:51,240 --> 00:58:52,439
Speaker 6: feel bad, But at.

1275
00:58:52,320 --> 00:58:54,920
Speaker 4: The same time, all of my in laws are happy.

1276
00:58:55,000 --> 00:58:57,960
Speaker 6: I said something to her and appalled at how snotty

1277
00:58:58,040 --> 00:59:00,439
Speaker 6: her and my brother in law have been lately. Am

1278
00:59:00,440 --> 00:59:02,640
Speaker 6: I the a hole for saying something? Oh?

1279
00:59:02,840 --> 00:59:07,120
Speaker 4: No, people normalize checking people. Yes, there's an edit.

1280
00:59:07,480 --> 00:59:09,520
Speaker 6: I feel like I should add that my current sister

1281
00:59:09,560 --> 00:59:12,400
Speaker 6: in law fifteen female has a birthday the day before

1282
00:59:12,440 --> 00:59:15,000
Speaker 6: their wedding. She specifically asked for it not to be

1283
00:59:15,120 --> 00:59:17,400
Speaker 6: on her birthday weekend before they had picked a date,

1284
00:59:17,480 --> 00:59:19,920
Speaker 6: because she wanted all the family here for her birthday.

1285
00:59:20,000 --> 00:59:21,920
Speaker 6: Now they're saying we need to come up there the

1286
00:59:22,000 --> 00:59:24,680
Speaker 6: day before on her birthday to help prepare their food,

1287
00:59:24,880 --> 00:59:26,920
Speaker 6: even though they know it's her birthday.

1288
00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:29,680
Speaker 4: Comment one, not the a hole. Here's what you do

1289
00:59:29,760 --> 00:59:30,960
Speaker 4: if you're petty like me.

1290
00:59:31,200 --> 00:59:34,640
Speaker 6: First you rent the most beautiful, elaborate, cream colored medieval

1291
00:59:34,720 --> 00:59:36,840
Speaker 6: dress so that you look better than her by far.

1292
00:59:36,960 --> 00:59:39,120
Speaker 4: Don't do that. Do not do that?

1293
00:59:39,200 --> 00:59:41,440
Speaker 6: Maybe not ye, do not as soon as you rent

1294
00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:43,800
Speaker 6: anything that's even close to a white dress.

1295
00:59:44,160 --> 00:59:46,200
Speaker 4: Now you're the villain. You don't want to be the villain.

1296
00:59:46,320 --> 00:59:49,480
Speaker 7: You could still make it elaborate and Queenlake if you

1297
00:59:49,520 --> 00:59:52,640
Speaker 7: want to upstage her. Yeah, but maybe like a red

1298
00:59:52,680 --> 00:59:55,320
Speaker 7: well that's also a thing as purple.

1299
00:59:55,800 --> 00:59:57,640
Speaker 4: Just something not wide or red.

1300
00:59:57,680 --> 00:59:59,920
Speaker 6: Please, if you don't have a costume rental place, learn

1301
01:00:00,080 --> 01:00:02,880
Speaker 6: have to sew today and make it real grand. Next,

1302
01:00:02,920 --> 01:00:06,680
Speaker 6: make one dozen deviled eggs, nothing more. Last, hire two

1303
01:00:06,720 --> 01:00:09,640
Speaker 6: minions who will follow you around carrying your very long

1304
01:00:09,720 --> 01:00:12,640
Speaker 6: dress train and have them respond to everything you say

1305
01:00:12,640 --> 01:00:15,440
Speaker 6: with yes, my queen. Then take pictures of her face

1306
01:00:15,520 --> 01:00:17,760
Speaker 6: and inbox me because I need a follow up. Op

1307
01:00:17,920 --> 01:00:20,760
Speaker 6: says lol, that made me laugh. I've been told that

1308
01:00:20,840 --> 01:00:23,080
Speaker 6: her dress is interesting, so to be honest, I could

1309
01:00:23,120 --> 01:00:23,920
Speaker 6: probably go in a.

1310
01:00:23,840 --> 01:00:25,040
Speaker 4: Sun dress and look fancier.

1311
01:00:25,160 --> 01:00:27,600
Speaker 6: Their wedding is less than two months away, so I'll

1312
01:00:27,640 --> 01:00:29,720
Speaker 6: make sure to follow up. And a reply to this

1313
01:00:29,800 --> 01:00:32,280
Speaker 6: says you should say that cameras and smartphones don't fit

1314
01:00:32,360 --> 01:00:34,480
Speaker 6: with the medieval costume and that you want to stay

1315
01:00:34,480 --> 01:00:37,640
Speaker 6: in character or just have the minions take photos.

1316
01:00:37,240 --> 01:00:39,840
Speaker 4: Of you with different people, like it's your own photo shoot.

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01:00:39,920 --> 01:00:40,720
Speaker 7: That's so funny.

1318
01:00:40,840 --> 01:00:41,920
Speaker 4: I support the minions.

1319
01:00:42,520 --> 01:00:43,240
Speaker 7: That's hilarious.

1320
01:00:43,280 --> 01:00:44,960
Speaker 4: I fully support the minion idea.

1321
01:00:45,080 --> 01:00:47,520
Speaker 7: Yeah. Make them dress up in those little like round

1322
01:00:47,600 --> 01:00:48,440
Speaker 7: puffy shorts.

1323
01:00:48,760 --> 01:00:50,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, and like have like a.

1324
01:00:49,960 --> 01:00:50,760
Speaker 7: Little feather hat.

1325
01:00:50,960 --> 01:00:52,760
Speaker 4: Make them dress like court justice.

1326
01:00:52,960 --> 01:00:53,840
Speaker 7: Yes exactly.

1327
01:00:53,960 --> 01:00:55,840
Speaker 6: Ooh, we have comment too that says you are the

1328
01:00:55,920 --> 01:00:59,320
Speaker 6: ale ooh hot take. It's literally just dressing up and

1329
01:00:59,360 --> 01:01:02,640
Speaker 6: bringing a shitlate. Sounds like an awesome wedding, not hard

1330
01:01:02,640 --> 01:01:05,000
Speaker 6: at all. You're kind of a killjoy. I think you're

1331
01:01:05,280 --> 01:01:08,080
Speaker 6: ignoring all of the other context to this.

1332
01:01:09,600 --> 01:01:09,920
Speaker 4: Opie.

1333
01:01:10,200 --> 01:01:12,720
Speaker 6: Yeah, Opie says, I think you'd be right if she

1334
01:01:12,760 --> 01:01:15,040
Speaker 6: hadn't been acting the way she has for the past

1335
01:01:15,200 --> 01:01:15,920
Speaker 6: two years.

1336
01:01:16,160 --> 01:01:17,800
Speaker 4: Context exactly, I.

1337
01:01:17,800 --> 01:01:20,400
Speaker 6: Mean me being in labor and then saying she would

1338
01:01:20,480 --> 01:01:21,880
Speaker 6: use the same name for her daughter.

1339
01:01:22,000 --> 01:01:23,000
Speaker 4: That's a bit much.

1340
01:01:23,320 --> 01:01:24,640
Speaker 7: I forgot about that.

1341
01:01:24,640 --> 01:01:25,320
Speaker 3: That's funny.

1342
01:01:25,400 --> 01:01:28,560
Speaker 4: You're just being Ah, she's what because she likes the name.

1343
01:01:29,000 --> 01:01:30,040
Speaker 4: You got a problem with that?

1344
01:01:30,160 --> 01:01:32,760
Speaker 7: Oh my god, Well, she's like screaming in pain having

1345
01:01:32,800 --> 01:01:33,360
Speaker 7: her child.

1346
01:01:33,480 --> 01:01:33,800
Speaker 4: Exactly.

1347
01:01:33,840 --> 01:01:36,240
Speaker 7: There's a prim a place, Yeah, there's a time of

1348
01:01:36,240 --> 01:01:36,640
Speaker 7: a place.

1349
01:01:36,720 --> 01:01:36,919
Speaker 2: Man.

1350
01:01:37,040 --> 01:01:39,720
Speaker 6: Also, it's not just dressing up and bringing a plate

1351
01:01:39,760 --> 01:01:41,880
Speaker 6: to share. This is a couple who has blown off

1352
01:01:41,880 --> 01:01:45,480
Speaker 6: the family for simple things like birthdays for years. Every

1353
01:01:45,520 --> 01:01:48,080
Speaker 6: time we invite them to something, there's always an excuse

1354
01:01:48,080 --> 01:01:51,160
Speaker 6: about money or time, and then they'll brag about expensive

1355
01:01:51,160 --> 01:01:54,040
Speaker 6: trips that they take and act like nothing happened. I'm

1356
01:01:54,160 --> 01:01:56,800
Speaker 6: used to being asked to do things for weddings. That's

1357
01:01:56,800 --> 01:01:59,440
Speaker 6: not an issue. Her behavior is the issue, and I'm

1358
01:01:59,440 --> 01:02:01,960
Speaker 6: not going to accommodate someone who treats her entire future

1359
01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:04,720
Speaker 6: family like crap. I do appreciate your opinion, though, and

1360
01:02:04,880 --> 01:02:06,560
Speaker 6: here is the update.

1361
01:02:06,760 --> 01:02:06,960
Speaker 7: Woo.

1362
01:02:07,480 --> 01:02:09,200
Speaker 4: The wedding was today.

1363
01:02:09,280 --> 01:02:12,200
Speaker 6: We arrived at the ceremony about fifteen minutes before it

1364
01:02:12,240 --> 01:02:14,440
Speaker 6: was supposed to start, as we had been told there

1365
01:02:14,520 --> 01:02:16,280
Speaker 6: was no rehearsal and to just be there when the

1366
01:02:16,320 --> 01:02:18,800
Speaker 6: other guests would get there. We arrived and my husband

1367
01:02:18,840 --> 01:02:21,120
Speaker 6: was greeted by his brother with where have you been?

1368
01:02:21,200 --> 01:02:23,880
Speaker 6: We've been going over everything and you weren't here. Hey, folks,

1369
01:02:24,040 --> 01:02:26,880
Speaker 6: that's what the rehearsal's for. Crazy thought, right.

1370
01:02:27,120 --> 01:02:30,960
Speaker 7: What a good time, what a good, efficient, convenient time.

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01:02:30,880 --> 01:02:31,360
Speaker 1: To do that.

1372
01:02:31,440 --> 01:02:35,120
Speaker 4: This is a lame blame all. This is lame crazy again.

1373
01:02:35,200 --> 01:02:37,280
Speaker 6: We had been told that there was no rehearsal, but

1374
01:02:37,320 --> 01:02:40,160
Speaker 6: apparently his brother had decided the night before that they

1375
01:02:40,160 --> 01:02:42,800
Speaker 6: would be going over everything an hour before the ceremony,

1376
01:02:42,840 --> 01:02:45,520
Speaker 6: and we were not informed. Anyway, my husband goes back

1377
01:02:45,560 --> 01:02:47,680
Speaker 6: to be with the wedding party and we sit down.

1378
01:02:47,800 --> 01:02:50,040
Speaker 6: They did end up getting a photographer, but she was

1379
01:02:50,160 --> 01:02:52,800
Speaker 6: very pushy and kept snapping in people's faces to get

1380
01:02:52,840 --> 01:02:56,440
Speaker 6: their attention. Ceremony was fine, typical wedding ceremony aside from

1381
01:02:56,600 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 6: renaissance outfits. But then we went to the reception. To

1382
01:02:59,800 --> 01:03:05,880
Speaker 6: be clear, I'm pro renaissance outfit to make that very clear, Yeah, exactly.

1383
01:03:05,920 --> 01:03:08,240
Speaker 4: The reception was outdoors in a barn.

1384
01:03:08,360 --> 01:03:10,120
Speaker 6: It had been raining all day, so there were a

1385
01:03:10,120 --> 01:03:12,840
Speaker 6: lot of bugs when we got there. No decorations had

1386
01:03:12,880 --> 01:03:14,880
Speaker 6: been set out, and there was only one table for

1387
01:03:14,920 --> 01:03:17,800
Speaker 6: people to eat at. The group was forty to forty

1388
01:03:17,800 --> 01:03:20,160
Speaker 6: five people. Two hours after we got there, they started

1389
01:03:20,200 --> 01:03:22,440
Speaker 6: bringing the food in. Apparently they had assigned one of

1390
01:03:22,440 --> 01:03:25,680
Speaker 6: the bride's older relatives to make all the food, and

1391
01:03:25,760 --> 01:03:28,240
Speaker 6: somewhere along the hustle and bustle of making food for

1392
01:03:28,280 --> 01:03:28,640
Speaker 6: all these.

1393
01:03:28,560 --> 01:03:32,440
Speaker 4: People, the poor man had a heart attack. Oh my god,

1394
01:03:32,800 --> 01:03:38,880
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh. You're working this man into the hospital. Wow,

1395
01:03:39,040 --> 01:03:40,360
Speaker 4: this is crazy.

1396
01:03:39,960 --> 01:03:43,160
Speaker 7: And I'm sure not paying him for all this work he's.

1397
01:03:43,000 --> 01:03:46,240
Speaker 4: Doing, yeah for free? Hey can you do this for

1398
01:03:46,320 --> 01:03:47,760
Speaker 4: free and also have a heart attack? Please?

1399
01:03:47,800 --> 01:03:48,080
Speaker 7: Thank you.

1400
01:03:48,600 --> 01:03:50,640
Speaker 6: He was rushed to the hospital and he is okay.

1401
01:03:50,720 --> 01:03:54,080
Speaker 6: But they had absolutely no backup plan. They ended up

1402
01:03:54,080 --> 01:03:56,400
Speaker 6: cooking all the food themselves. When they got to the reception,

1403
01:03:56,480 --> 01:03:59,480
Speaker 6: they cut the cake without announcing it, so the photographer

1404
01:03:59,480 --> 01:04:01,440
Speaker 6: had to haste to run over there to get pictures,

1405
01:04:01,440 --> 01:04:04,520
Speaker 6: and after the cake cutting, the bride's entire family disappeared,

1406
01:04:04,600 --> 01:04:06,280
Speaker 6: and we did not see them for the remainder of

1407
01:04:06,320 --> 01:04:07,080
Speaker 6: the time we were there.

1408
01:04:08,400 --> 01:04:13,680
Speaker 7: What the bride's entire family just irish, goodbye the whole family.

1409
01:04:14,000 --> 01:04:15,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, they're like looking around.

1410
01:04:15,520 --> 01:04:17,800
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, the cake's going They turn around just just

1411
01:04:17,840 --> 01:04:21,120
Speaker 7: like dust. There's haybells, like a cartoon dust class exactly.

1412
01:04:21,480 --> 01:04:24,320
Speaker 7: You're just like of the wind, dude.

1413
01:04:24,640 --> 01:04:27,480
Speaker 6: Her mother did come to the barn every half hour

1414
01:04:27,560 --> 01:04:30,160
Speaker 6: or so to smoke a cigarette, but that was it.

1415
01:04:30,560 --> 01:04:34,000
Speaker 6: There was no dancing, no bouquet to toss because they

1416
01:04:34,120 --> 01:04:37,000
Speaker 6: carried lanterns instead, and the guests that were left kind

1417
01:04:37,000 --> 01:04:39,760
Speaker 6: of just stood around. Needless to say, it was chaos

1418
01:04:39,800 --> 01:04:43,360
Speaker 6: at its finest. Ah, what a terrible wedding. I'm so

1419
01:04:43,400 --> 01:04:44,720
Speaker 6: glad I wasn't at.

1420
01:04:44,760 --> 01:04:47,160
Speaker 7: This is so funny. Honestly, at this point I kind

1421
01:04:47,160 --> 01:04:50,600
Speaker 7: of wish I was there to just be like, it's

1422
01:04:50,640 --> 01:04:51,760
Speaker 7: just sounds miserable.

1423
01:04:52,240 --> 01:04:55,000
Speaker 6: Bug barn sticky, I'm out. I'm not staying in the bar,

1424
01:04:55,440 --> 01:04:58,000
Speaker 6: all right. The bug barn is where I draw the lines.

1425
01:04:58,040 --> 01:04:58,880
Speaker 3: That's I think fair.

1426
01:04:58,920 --> 01:05:01,080
Speaker 6: Thank you to everyone who come mented on the original post.

1427
01:05:01,160 --> 01:05:04,720
Speaker 6: I'm sure we will have many similar family gatherings in the.

1428
01:05:04,680 --> 01:05:05,960
Speaker 4: Future and there is an edit.

1429
01:05:06,160 --> 01:05:07,520
Speaker 6: So it turns out that the man who had the

1430
01:05:07,560 --> 01:05:10,880
Speaker 6: heart attack is the boyfriend of the bride's mother, and

1431
01:05:10,920 --> 01:05:12,600
Speaker 6: he faked the entire thing.

1432
01:05:13,000 --> 01:05:16,960
Speaker 4: All of these people suck. Oh my gosh, what are

1433
01:05:16,960 --> 01:05:17,480
Speaker 4: we doing?

1434
01:05:17,800 --> 01:05:19,160
Speaker 7: Oh my gosh.

1435
01:05:19,200 --> 01:05:22,920
Speaker 6: Apparently he is known for that.

1436
01:05:22,920 --> 01:05:25,640
Speaker 4: That's yeah, so funny. That's not a red flag, right,

1437
01:05:25,640 --> 01:05:26,600
Speaker 4: he is so funny.

1438
01:05:26,680 --> 01:05:28,720
Speaker 6: The mother of the bride lied about taking him to

1439
01:05:28,760 --> 01:05:30,960
Speaker 6: the hospital so he wouldn't have to make the food.

1440
01:05:31,080 --> 01:05:33,920
Speaker 6: And by the way, I won't lie to you about

1441
01:05:33,960 --> 01:05:35,880
Speaker 6: the fact that you can listen to full episodes and

1442
01:05:36,000 --> 01:05:39,960
Speaker 6: stories like this or wherever you get your podcasts, iHeartRadio, Spotify,

1443
01:05:40,040 --> 01:05:43,560
Speaker 6: Apple Podcast, wherever you listen, search Okay story Time, and

1444
01:05:43,680 --> 01:05:46,880
Speaker 6: there you will find the whole catalog to select from.

1445
01:05:46,920 --> 01:05:49,160
Speaker 6: There's some story left here. Let's go ahead and hop in.

1446
01:05:49,440 --> 01:05:51,520
Speaker 6: As if it wasn't bad enough, we found out that

1447
01:05:51,560 --> 01:05:54,000
Speaker 6: the mother of the bride didn't take any pictures at

1448
01:05:54,000 --> 01:05:56,520
Speaker 6: the wedding at all, and she just waited until brother

1449
01:05:56,560 --> 01:05:58,840
Speaker 6: in law's parents put their pictures on Facebook so she

1450
01:05:58,880 --> 01:06:01,320
Speaker 6: could post them as her I want to.

1451
01:06:01,240 --> 01:06:02,040
Speaker 7: Meet these people.

1452
01:06:02,320 --> 01:06:04,720
Speaker 4: I want to meet these people. That's crazy. I don't

1453
01:06:05,000 --> 01:06:06,160
Speaker 4: I don't want to meet these people at all.

1454
01:06:06,240 --> 01:06:07,040
Speaker 3: This is hilarious.

1455
01:06:07,160 --> 01:06:11,080
Speaker 7: They've gotta be like cartoon characters in some sort of

1456
01:06:11,160 --> 01:06:16,320
Speaker 7: like modern family type, like farcical like TV show where

1457
01:06:16,360 --> 01:06:20,280
Speaker 7: it's just everything is going wrong, there's no communication, everyone's

1458
01:06:20,360 --> 01:06:24,439
Speaker 7: stupid and doesn't know what they're doing, and it's just mad.

1459
01:06:24,560 --> 01:06:28,480
Speaker 6: Ever, it's just like I wedding goes wrong. That's like

1460
01:06:28,520 --> 01:06:31,960
Speaker 6: a Parks and rec like episode for sure. Yes, she

1461
01:06:32,080 --> 01:06:34,000
Speaker 6: also blew up at brother in law at the reception

1462
01:06:34,080 --> 01:06:36,080
Speaker 6: because no one was talking to her, even though she

1463
01:06:36,200 --> 01:06:38,200
Speaker 6: kept leaving to go smoke in her cabin.

1464
01:06:38,600 --> 01:06:40,680
Speaker 4: They are a very odd family.

1465
01:06:40,920 --> 01:06:45,320
Speaker 6: Yeah, you think there is some comments here about the

1466
01:06:45,600 --> 01:06:51,520
Speaker 6: fake heart attack. W ta F. The reply has got

1467
01:06:51,560 --> 01:06:52,920
Speaker 6: to say, I don't really blame him. Yeah, I mean

1468
01:06:52,960 --> 01:06:54,880
Speaker 6: getting put in charge of making all that food get

1469
01:06:54,880 --> 01:06:55,480
Speaker 6: me pretty hard.

1470
01:06:55,520 --> 01:06:58,120
Speaker 4: But faking a heart attack also kind of whack, kind

1471
01:06:58,160 --> 01:06:58,520
Speaker 4: of whack.

1472
01:06:59,280 --> 01:07:04,280
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's oh man, see communication just like talk, stand

1473
01:07:04,320 --> 01:07:06,120
Speaker 7: up for yourself. You don't have to just go to

1474
01:07:06,160 --> 01:07:09,320
Speaker 7: the hospital with your sword. Yeah it sounds expensive. That

1475
01:07:09,360 --> 01:07:10,919
Speaker 7: sounds like an expensive lie.

1476
01:07:11,040 --> 01:07:13,280
Speaker 6: But they didn't actually get end up in the hospital. Okay,

1477
01:07:13,280 --> 01:07:18,240
Speaker 6: well it was all a conspiracy. Yes, some additional info

1478
01:07:18,280 --> 01:07:20,920
Speaker 6: from op I wanted to add a comment explaining the

1479
01:07:20,960 --> 01:07:23,000
Speaker 6: timing of things a bit better because I know there

1480
01:07:23,080 --> 01:07:25,840
Speaker 6: was some confusion on when things happened. Wedding was Sunday.

1481
01:07:25,880 --> 01:07:28,800
Speaker 6: The original update was made on that same Sunday, but

1482
01:07:28,840 --> 01:07:30,520
Speaker 6: it took a couple of days to get approved, which

1483
01:07:30,560 --> 01:07:32,840
Speaker 6: is why it said today was the wedding and it's Wednesday.

1484
01:07:32,880 --> 01:07:35,560
Speaker 6: My daughter was born when I was eighteen. My husband

1485
01:07:35,600 --> 01:07:37,800
Speaker 6: was also eighteen. Yes, we were young and she was

1486
01:07:37,840 --> 01:07:40,200
Speaker 6: not planned, so that's why the timing seems weird. On

1487
01:07:40,240 --> 01:07:42,400
Speaker 6: that we do have another little girl now and have

1488
01:07:42,560 --> 01:07:45,760
Speaker 6: recently moved into our first house. Congratulations, Thank you everyone

1489
01:07:45,800 --> 01:07:48,160
Speaker 6: for making this something so sensational. I definitely did not

1490
01:07:48,200 --> 01:07:50,080
Speaker 6: expect it to get this big, but I appreciate it

1491
01:07:50,160 --> 01:07:52,000
Speaker 6: so much. I know a lot of people were asking

1492
01:07:52,040 --> 01:07:55,560
Speaker 6: why I considered the outfits, drive and various requests too much.

1493
01:07:55,640 --> 01:07:58,520
Speaker 6: Hopefully this explains this couple has not come to any

1494
01:07:58,520 --> 01:08:02,080
Speaker 6: family functions aside from Christmases and Thanksgiving once when they

1495
01:08:02,080 --> 01:08:04,280
Speaker 6: brought her mom. I don't personally have an issue with

1496
01:08:04,360 --> 01:08:06,120
Speaker 6: the drive. I have an issue with the fact that

1497
01:08:06,160 --> 01:08:08,320
Speaker 6: when we ask them to come for holidays, they use

1498
01:08:08,360 --> 01:08:10,640
Speaker 6: the long drive as an excuse, but then tell us

1499
01:08:10,680 --> 01:08:12,720
Speaker 6: it's nothing when we have to drive to them. It's

1500
01:08:12,760 --> 01:08:13,920
Speaker 6: a double standard type thing.

1501
01:08:14,000 --> 01:08:14,280
Speaker 7: Yeah.

1502
01:08:14,320 --> 01:08:16,680
Speaker 6: Absolutely, the outfits are not bad, but it was the

1503
01:08:16,720 --> 01:08:18,840
Speaker 6: way they let us all know we needed to wear them.

1504
01:08:18,880 --> 01:08:21,479
Speaker 6: We were told in these exact words, quote, if you

1505
01:08:21,520 --> 01:08:24,639
Speaker 6: don't show up in renaissance outfits, you will be avoided

1506
01:08:24,720 --> 01:08:27,720
Speaker 6: at the wedding. It's not that hard. Again, these are

1507
01:08:27,720 --> 01:08:31,599
Speaker 6: people who considered sweatpants inappropriate wedding outfit the double standard again,

1508
01:08:32,120 --> 01:08:34,800
Speaker 6: and no one told them to leave or avoided them.

1509
01:08:34,840 --> 01:08:37,800
Speaker 6: There was no RSVP, Their wedding invitations had no date

1510
01:08:37,880 --> 01:08:40,920
Speaker 6: nor RSVP, and full typed out web browser links on

1511
01:08:40,960 --> 01:08:43,440
Speaker 6: the back rather than we are registered at Amazon.

1512
01:08:43,960 --> 01:08:45,840
Speaker 4: That's insane.

1513
01:08:45,840 --> 01:08:51,320
Speaker 6: They just pasted it on the back of the paper

1514
01:08:52,600 --> 01:08:56,960
Speaker 6: https colin slash slash and then you have to type

1515
01:08:56,960 --> 01:09:01,000
Speaker 6: out like the entire paragraph of random numbers and slashes.

1516
01:09:00,600 --> 01:09:03,160
Speaker 4: And not doing that, Oh my, not doing that.

1517
01:09:03,160 --> 01:09:04,080
Speaker 7: That's hilarious.

1518
01:09:04,400 --> 01:09:05,560
Speaker 4: So that doesn't seem.

1519
01:09:05,320 --> 01:09:07,519
Speaker 6: That bad until you realize most of the relatives are

1520
01:09:07,560 --> 01:09:10,360
Speaker 6: older and have no clue what those links are. We're

1521
01:09:10,360 --> 01:09:13,519
Speaker 6: not Southern, although her family is. We are all from

1522
01:09:13,560 --> 01:09:17,160
Speaker 6: the good old Midwales and whoever said weird homeschool vibes

1523
01:09:17,200 --> 01:09:20,920
Speaker 6: were spot on a big homeschooled family and they're all

1524
01:09:21,000 --> 01:09:23,400
Speaker 6: very closely knit. I can understand why some people considered

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Speaker 6: me the A oh. I'm not saying they're wrong at all.

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Speaker 6: I probably did some a whole stuff on my part.

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Speaker 6: I'm just hoping to explain a bit better why I

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Speaker 6: said something and why I was offended. Hope that clear

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Speaker 6: stuff up. Hope you didn't declear up anything with me

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Speaker 6: because I was.

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Speaker 7: On your side.

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Speaker 6: All right, We're with you double standards absolutely, but that

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Speaker 6: is the end of that story.