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Speaker 1: Subject the Cookie Lady is back in town. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I'm a forty three year old woman and I have

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Speaker 1: a small group of friends who have all known each

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Speaker 1: other since high school. We've been strict about quarantining, so

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Speaker 1: we agreed to meet once a week for drinks and dinner.

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Speaker 1: It's really helped us feel better and maintain a sense

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Speaker 1: of normalcy with all the craziness going on in the world.

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Speaker 1: About a month ago, another girl who went to high

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Speaker 1: school with us moved back into town. But there's just

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Speaker 1: one problem. She's slept with all of our husbands, yes,

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Speaker 1: all of them. This girl was very promiscuous and yeah,

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Speaker 1: she was very promiscuous in high school and was known

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Speaker 1: for being the girl that all the guys went to

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Speaker 1: for some easy cookie. She even gave a cookie away

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Speaker 1: when she was in college. So now me and the

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Speaker 1: group are concerned because she reached out to us and

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Speaker 1: said that she would love to be in our weekly gatherings.

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Speaker 1: The problem is that we don't trust her and we

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Speaker 1: don't really think she's going to fit in well with us. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it was a long time ago, but some of that

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Speaker 1: resentment is still there. Also, she is still single and

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Speaker 1: in much better shape than the rest of us who've

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Speaker 1: had several children. We are afraid that our husbands will

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Speaker 1: see her and have flashbacks of how she was in

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Speaker 1: high school and college. My husband saw a photo of

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Speaker 1: her on Facebook and said he couldn't believe how good

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Speaker 1: she still looks. I'm not sure why he was comfortable

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Speaker 1: enough to tell me that, but it really put me

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Speaker 1: on edge. I call my best girlfriend and told her

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Speaker 1: that I don't think we should bring this woman into

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Speaker 1: our close knit group. She agreed. Do you think we're

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Speaker 1: being overly sensitive about this? No, nope, I don't think

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Speaker 1: you're being overly sensitive at all. I think you're right

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Speaker 1: on point. I think you have a reason to be

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Speaker 1: concerned about girlfriend. This woman, the cookie lady as you

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Speaker 1: call her, has slept with all of your husbands. They

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Speaker 1: weren't your husband's then, but you know that was a

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Speaker 1: long time ago, but the thought of it probably still

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Speaker 1: pains you a little bit or something. You still feel

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Speaker 1: some kind of way about it, and you know this

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Speaker 1: woman could be trouble. She could be trouble. You don't know.

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Speaker 1: Can people change, Yes, absolutely, they can change. Most definitely

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Speaker 1: did she change? We don't know who knows if she's

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Speaker 1: changed or not. But there is a reason you don't

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Speaker 1: trust her. I think I would take this as a

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Speaker 1: wake up call, though I really would. I'm switching gears

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Speaker 1: here a little bit. I would take this as a

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Speaker 1: wake up call because your husband, you said in the letter,

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Speaker 1: commented when you showed him a picture of her on

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Speaker 1: Facebook that she still looks good and he felt very

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Speaker 1: comfortable saying that to you. Red flag. So she's in

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Speaker 1: great shape, you're saying, and you guys aren't because you've

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Speaker 1: had children, you know, which means that your friends aren't

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Speaker 1: in good shape either. They've had children too, and you

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Speaker 1: said several So I think what you and your girls

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Speaker 1: could do and maybe should do. Instead of meeting to drink,

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Speaker 1: you know, with the whole group drink and eat, maybe

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Speaker 1: just the ladies could start like a diet club, start

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Speaker 1: working out together. Okay, all right now I'm gonna remember

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Speaker 1: that comment, right. I mean, maybe you guys him not

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Speaker 1: just the girls, just the ladies, no men, no husbands.

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Speaker 1: This way, I think you ladies will have a chance

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Speaker 1: to meet with her, feel her out, you know, see

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Speaker 1: if if she's changed, See if you guys want to

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Speaker 1: future you do want to bring her around your husband.

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Speaker 1: You got to see. People do change. But I think

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Speaker 1: you know, if you're feeling not so good about the

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Speaker 1: way you look because of what your husband said about her,

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Speaker 1: that's a good time to meet up and do something

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Speaker 1: about it. Steve, Well, normally I don't start at the

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Speaker 1: back of the letter, but that's where Sherley you started,

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Speaker 1: so I feel compelled to do the same thing. After

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Speaker 1: this whole letter. The question is, do you think we're

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Speaker 1: being overly sensitive about this. No, Now, why do I

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Speaker 1: think you're not being overly sensitive? Three things? I think

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Speaker 1: y'all scared. I think y'all should be scared. And I

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Speaker 1: think she could have changed, but your husbands ain't interested

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Speaker 1: in change. Now, let us begin with the letter forty

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Speaker 1: three went to college with this girl. You get together

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Speaker 1: with all your friends, y'all, with the school with doing

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Speaker 1: the quarantine every friday, y'all having a good time. About

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Speaker 1: a month ago, another girl went to high school with y'all,

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Speaker 1: moved back into town. Here she comes, but it's just

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Speaker 1: one problem. She has slept with all our husbands. Yes,

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Speaker 1: all of them. Well, damn, how many of y'all listen?

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Speaker 1: Because that ain't that ain't got a number, all of them,

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Speaker 1: every last one of them. We need to do some

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Speaker 1: testing in this little group here. That's what we need

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Speaker 1: to do. Some damn testing. Is this little group right here?

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Speaker 1: Ain't y'all being extra friendly? And hey, lady, I know

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Speaker 1: you didn't think, lad, we're gonna go like this, but

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Speaker 1: I just want to throw that out. This girl was

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Speaker 1: very promiscuous in high school. There's no being that girl

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Speaker 1: that all the gas went to for some easy cooking everybody.

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Speaker 1: She even gave a cookie away where she was in college.

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Speaker 1: Oh so did what she do? Well? Hold on, hold on,

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Speaker 1: and I blame she the stadium, you know, concessions, lady,

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Speaker 1: cookie hair, get your cookaes hair, even calling it the

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Speaker 1: cookie in the first place, with your book. Look, we'll

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Speaker 1: have her. Two of Steve's response coming up at twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hours, So don't go anywhere. Subject

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Speaker 1: today of the Strawberry Letter, the Cookie Lady is back

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Speaker 1: in town. Get your cookies here. We'll be right back.

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Speaker 1: You're listening Morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject the cookie Lady is back

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Speaker 1: in town. Forty three year old lady got a group

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Speaker 1: together once a week doing this COVID to help her

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Speaker 1: deal with the craziness. They all being quarantined so everybody's safe.

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Speaker 1: They feel comfortable one another. Um. They got about a

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Speaker 1: month ago, another girl from their school came back to town.

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Speaker 1: But here's the problem. The girl is coming back to

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Speaker 1: town to slept with all of the group's husbands. All

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Speaker 1: of them ain't missed, No, damn body clean, sweep, total

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Speaker 1: bow everybody, Hey, cloas cockade everybody. She just come out

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Speaker 1: to castle and blow the trumpet. Cookcase you're crazy. She

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Speaker 1: even gave a cookie away when she was in college.

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Speaker 1: Now you're in the group is concerned, and rightfully so,

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Speaker 1: because she didn't reached out and says she would love

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Speaker 1: it being on that weekly gatherers. How she found out

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Speaker 1: about the gathering, Oh, for her had just come back

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Speaker 1: weekly gatherings. Maybe one of your husbands said, you know

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Speaker 1: what day they get together? Every Friday? Because if y'all

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Speaker 1: Unless y'all small ass town is really really small. Now

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Speaker 1: this whole group has been affiliated with one another. The

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Speaker 1: first thing we need to do we need some testing

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Speaker 1: done in this group. Let's just go back over there.

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Speaker 1: We need some damn testing going on in this time,

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Speaker 1: right and it ain't COVID. I ain't talking about COVID.

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Speaker 1: We need to get some testing done all right now

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Speaker 1: the problem is that we don't trust her, and we

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Speaker 1: really don't think she's gonna fit in well with us. Oh,

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Speaker 1: you don't think she will fit in well with y'all.

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Speaker 1: But you ain't ask y'all's husband. Still see what they think?

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Speaker 1: You know? So, now here we go. People change, things change.

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Speaker 1: Oh now she just slept with all y'all's men. Times

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Speaker 1: have changed. It was a long time ago, but some

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Speaker 1: of that resent me is there also now here we go.

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Speaker 1: She's still single and in much better shape than the

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Speaker 1: rest of us who've had several children. He'll go to

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Speaker 1: damn problem right here, she still banging. Oh now, Shirley

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Speaker 1: surprised me with her answer, Tommas, since y'all get together

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Speaker 1: still fine. Shirley did what Carlinil won't let me. Ever, dude,

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Speaker 1: I can't fashi. Ain't nobody I get called out? Oh

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Speaker 1: but now you're talking about instead of sitting around drinking,

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Speaker 1: why don't y'all's ass get together and eat the right

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Speaker 1: damned foods instead of drinking, Why don't y'all have celery

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Speaker 1: to get some of that weight off y'all's ass instead

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Speaker 1: how good she still looked, don't let this girl in

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Speaker 1: your group. She can't get in this group. It's a problem.

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Speaker 1: She's a Facebook problem. Now you don't think your husband

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Speaker 1: just said to the other hoods and man, you've seen something,

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Speaker 1: She still got it now, surely said now, first of all,

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Speaker 1: Now here she comes. I don't think we have a

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Speaker 1: solution to this letter, except you can't letting her banging

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Speaker 1: you told her you don't think that, and your girlfriend

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Speaker 1: agreed because she looked her up on Facebook too and said, loge,

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Speaker 1: do you think we're being overly sensitive? No? I don't.

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Speaker 1: Now do people change? Yes, they change, and obviously she

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Speaker 1: fifties and still holding together, that's a bad chick right there. Yeah. See,

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Speaker 1: because the chances of everybody holding it together in their

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Speaker 1: farties in fifties gets slimmer and slimmer. So now you're

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Speaker 1: gonna invite You're gonna invite the fat person to the

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Speaker 1: to the path eaton contest. How you think that's gonna

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Speaker 1: work out? This is a sad day, Yes it is, Yes,

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Speaker 1: it is because Sherton and according to Shirley, it is

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Speaker 1: gloom dude, and all this happy hour y'all having start

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Speaker 1: bringing celiby to these happy hours. As Shirley's suggested, you

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Speaker 1: could have had a va instead of that damn Margaret reader.

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Speaker 1: Think got skinny, Margarite, Take a picture of that girl

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Speaker 1: y'all ask quit eating? All right? Thank you? Steve. Post

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