1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 1: We're ready in with Becca Tilly and I Heart Radio Podcast. 2 00:00:08,440 --> 00:00:14,840 Speaker 1: Hello everybody, it's Beccatilli and Doanya here do that every time, 3 00:00:14,840 --> 00:00:17,280 Speaker 1: like you're so surprised, Well, you never know what you're 4 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 1: gonna get. You know, It's true, It's true, like a 5 00:00:19,360 --> 00:00:21,800 Speaker 1: box of skittles. It's been so long since I've seen you, 6 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 1: it has been boughts of skittles. I feel like you 7 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:26,840 Speaker 1: know exactly what you're going to get. Wait, isn't it 8 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: the saying what is it? You never know? Ch I 9 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:35,200 Speaker 1: see the confusion there, like all we wanted the most 10 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:39,479 Speaker 1: like quoted movie quotes of all time from Forrest Gump. 11 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:42,920 Speaker 1: I've really been struggling today, by the way, like the 12 00:00:42,960 --> 00:00:45,680 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving holiday and really mess with my head. I feel 13 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:49,040 Speaker 1: like you went really hard this Thanksgiving. I really did. 14 00:00:49,360 --> 00:00:52,680 Speaker 1: Like it wasn't a RESTful like you went to Disneyland. 15 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 1: You had a very eventful Thanksgiving break. I did. It 16 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:01,240 Speaker 1: wasn't very RESTful. But yeah, I'm still just combobulated this morning. 17 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:02,600 Speaker 1: I feel like I've just been a little bit of 18 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:05,640 Speaker 1: a mess. So my apologies, it's okay. I'm just glad 19 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: you're here and then I'm here. Yeah, I know we 20 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:12,800 Speaker 1: haven't seen each other and since Tuesday, it's time for us, 21 00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:16,479 Speaker 1: a long break for us. Well, that goes a new mother. 22 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 1: I'm y'all, I am a full blown dog mom and 23 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 1: I am embracing it and not getting a lot of sleep, 24 00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 1: which is so rare, but it's totally changed my perspective, 25 00:01:28,200 --> 00:01:30,839 Speaker 1: like I'm not I'm having to care for this other 26 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:35,520 Speaker 1: little living creature and it's not all about me and 27 00:01:35,560 --> 00:01:39,040 Speaker 1: how much sleep I get to get. Now it's different 28 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 1: mom life. It's mom life, and like everything she does, 29 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, is this okay? I'm gonna need to be 30 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:46,920 Speaker 1: like on Xanex when I'm a real mom because I'm 31 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:50,720 Speaker 1: gonna need to be sedated. And I always thought I'll 32 00:01:50,760 --> 00:01:54,280 Speaker 1: be a relaxed mom because like I want my cage, 33 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:56,560 Speaker 1: Like I'm pretty chill in general, but I also like, 34 00:01:57,360 --> 00:01:59,320 Speaker 1: I want to have a baby that goes to other people. 35 00:01:59,360 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 1: And isn't you know, super high maintenance. My kid's gonna 36 00:02:02,520 --> 00:02:05,760 Speaker 1: be so high maintenance, it's gonna be a nightmare. Yeah, Beta, Well, 37 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 1: I feel like I'll spare the details. But she had 38 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:10,680 Speaker 1: a little bit of something and he took her to 39 00:02:10,720 --> 00:02:12,800 Speaker 1: the vet, and I'm like, I feel like that's pretty common. 40 00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 1: She had a virus. Oh yeah, but I took her 41 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:18,400 Speaker 1: to the vet. I didn't take her to the vet 42 00:02:18,440 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 1: because I took her to the vet because it was her, like, 43 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: she had to go for a health checkout. And then 44 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 1: she had she had and the stomach gives you that 45 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 1: morning and so I and they asked for like a 46 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: stool sample anyway, So I just took that and they 47 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:32,720 Speaker 1: tested and she had a virus. So you weren't a 48 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:36,360 Speaker 1: good intuition, Yeah you do. But she's still having issues. 49 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 1: So now I so the vet gave me, first of all, 50 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 1: the nicest lady of all time is her vet. I'm 51 00:02:41,639 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 1: so excited. And she gave me her personal cell phone 52 00:02:44,600 --> 00:02:46,920 Speaker 1: number in case I have questions. And I'm like, you 53 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:50,639 Speaker 1: just made the biggest mistake of your life. Totally. I've 54 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 1: texted her, so she's like my new friend. I've texted 55 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 1: her more. Caroline. My sister was like, yeah, when your 56 00:02:56,440 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: new vet becomes your new best friend, because that's texted her. 57 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 1: So this is like I know that you're that's a woman, 58 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 1: but this is very Meredith Gray. You know, when she 59 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:07,320 Speaker 1: had the dog, she got really close with her best 60 00:03:07,320 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 1: She ended up dating her bet, but you're not gonna 61 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 1: dat your bet. But I'm just saying, this is storyline 62 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:15,520 Speaker 1: is really falling in line with your life kind of. Yeah, 63 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:19,640 Speaker 1: it's a stretch a little bit. But I did watch 64 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: the Winter finale, finally did, and h okay this. I 65 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: knew she was gonna do this because she just disagrees 66 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:29,160 Speaker 1: with me to get a rise out of me. I 67 00:03:29,160 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 1: didn't think it was bad. I didn't think it was bad. 68 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 1: But you've been like poopooing the last couple episodes, and 69 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 1: I think that they've all been pretty up to part. Okay, 70 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:44,160 Speaker 1: if you asked if you did like a pole, people 71 00:03:44,160 --> 00:03:46,680 Speaker 1: are disagreeing with you. I don't think a lot of 72 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: people wrote me and they were like, I know that 73 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 1: the past few episode, Like before I even watched the 74 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 1: Winter Finale, people are like, I know that past few 75 00:03:52,920 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: episodes have been disappointing, but this one's actually really okay. 76 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 1: What about the final episode made you go wow? It 77 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 1: was just in hints like it brought back that the 78 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 1: cliffhanger was really good. It brought back that feeling of 79 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:07,600 Speaker 1: what's going to happen. There's something dramatic happening. The other 80 00:04:07,640 --> 00:04:12,720 Speaker 1: episodes have been like Owen and Amelia dancing around you. 81 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 1: It's just there's been no storyline. There was an actual 82 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 1: storyline in this episode. The ending where Joe is trying 83 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:21,240 Speaker 1: to save the kid's life because he can't get that 84 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: thing injected it's going to kill him, and then her 85 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:26,919 Speaker 1: ex husband shows up. That was that was great. That 86 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:29,600 Speaker 1: was the only part that I was like, Oh, that's good. 87 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 1: I'm just I just I felt like it was the 88 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 1: first time where the hour flew by and I was like, 89 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:35,160 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I can't believe it's about to end, 90 00:04:35,200 --> 00:04:37,240 Speaker 1: whereas the other ones, I'm kind of like, all right, 91 00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 1: what how much time do we have left? It is 92 00:04:39,720 --> 00:04:42,040 Speaker 1: a little annoying, though, that we don't have a new 93 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 1: episodeuntil January. You know, I'm I'm more annoyed more than that, 94 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 1: I'm annoyed that you're trying to act like that episode 95 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:51,000 Speaker 1: wasn't so much better than the other one. It really 96 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:55,160 Speaker 1: wasn't like I was like, oh, just trying to trying 97 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 1: to anger me. Most shows go nine in the fall 98 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 1: and third teen in the spring, the eight in the fall, 99 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:08,719 Speaker 1: and be eight in the fall. That makes sixteen in 100 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 1: the spring. But are you including the two hour premiere 101 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 1: because those two hours, Yes, I'm including that this is 102 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:19,840 Speaker 1: this is very well hopefully, hopefully it's exciting, and they 103 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: continue on this like path the exciting episodes, and still 104 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:28,000 Speaker 1: there's no one to invest in romantically for me. What 105 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:34,240 Speaker 1: about de Luca and his new intern don't care? What 106 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:36,719 Speaker 1: about it? Maybe a patient's going to come and want 107 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:39,360 Speaker 1: a date mare. I feel like they're kind of I 108 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:42,680 Speaker 1: feel like what they're insinuating with right now that she's like, 109 00:05:42,720 --> 00:05:45,440 Speaker 1: okay on her own, I don't love that. I don't 110 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:47,559 Speaker 1: either like is she just going to be alone until 111 00:05:47,560 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 1: this series is over? I don't know. But I watched 112 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:52,479 Speaker 1: an old episode and even just like she and Derek 113 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:55,640 Speaker 1: just were walking into the hospital together having normal conversation. 114 00:05:55,680 --> 00:05:58,920 Speaker 1: I was like, ah, I missed this like dynamic between 115 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:01,080 Speaker 1: the two of them. And so maybe in their head 116 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:05,560 Speaker 1: they're like, Okay, we can't fop it. I don't like it. 117 00:06:05,960 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 1: They're like, we can't find something that compares to that. 118 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 1: So she's maybe she's better off on her own. But 119 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:13,680 Speaker 1: I don't necessarily like that either. It's a lose lose 120 00:06:13,760 --> 00:06:17,320 Speaker 1: for me. It's a lose lose for me too, Although 121 00:06:17,480 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 1: I would really like for her to meet somebody, preferably 122 00:06:20,520 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 1: a patient. I know, but I just feel like Al's 123 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:25,560 Speaker 1: gonna be like, no comparison. Yeah, but I mean she 124 00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 1: has to move on. Life moves forward. It does move forward. 125 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 1: Speaking of um, you made some bold moves this weekend, 126 00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:37,719 Speaker 1: I did you? Can we talk about what you texted 127 00:06:37,760 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 1: me before you text him? Because it was really funny. 128 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:43,320 Speaker 1: I saw your mom. Oh yeah, okay. So I've sent 129 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: a lot of time with my family over this weekend 130 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 1: and my mom, um, they were asking me about the 131 00:06:47,920 --> 00:06:49,560 Speaker 1: guy that I met at my slava last weekend. I 132 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:51,040 Speaker 1: talked to you guys about that, and I told you 133 00:06:51,120 --> 00:06:53,479 Speaker 1: my mom invited like every single man under the sun 134 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:56,839 Speaker 1: to our family get together and I ended up really 135 00:06:56,880 --> 00:06:59,920 Speaker 1: hitting it off with one of them, and having heard 136 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:01,480 Speaker 1: of him, it's been like a week and I had, 137 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 1: you know, he said, do you have Facebook? I said, no, 138 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: do you have Instagram? I guess, you know, it's kind 139 00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:12,360 Speaker 1: of like aloof about it, and I guess because I 140 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:15,000 Speaker 1: wanted him to get my number. And I'm realizing that 141 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: that probably didn't translate well does that make sense? And 142 00:07:18,720 --> 00:07:21,360 Speaker 1: my parents helped me open my eyes to that that 143 00:07:21,720 --> 00:07:24,440 Speaker 1: he probably didn't translate, Well, my like wanting him to 144 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:28,120 Speaker 1: get my number was probably me seemed like me shutting 145 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 1: him down. He seemed, oh so, my mom said, you know, 146 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 1: you talk all this game on your podcast every week 147 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 1: about your childel to mama telling everybody to be bold 148 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:42,280 Speaker 1: and go after what they want. She's like, why don't 149 00:07:42,320 --> 00:07:44,000 Speaker 1: you put your money where your mouth is? And I 150 00:07:44,040 --> 00:07:49,360 Speaker 1: was like, yeah, called out to Shay, to Shay. So 151 00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 1: I got this guy's number. I found his number, by 152 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:59,080 Speaker 1: the way, and I sent him old text message said hey, no, 153 00:07:59,560 --> 00:08:04,640 Speaker 1: said than that his name which I will not call it. Um, 154 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 1: I got your number. I hope that's okay. Next time 155 00:08:07,960 --> 00:08:09,440 Speaker 1: you're on the West side. I'd love to grab a 156 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 1: drink sometimes. So that way, it's me saying still thinking 157 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:17,880 Speaker 1: about you. I want to and keep I'm interested. And 158 00:08:17,880 --> 00:08:20,880 Speaker 1: now the ball, here's the ball, and I just knocked 159 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:25,120 Speaker 1: it into your court. And he responded very promptly, I 160 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:28,080 Speaker 1: might add, which I enjoy. I don't like, you know, 161 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 1: I hate the games, very promptly and said that is 162 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:37,439 Speaker 1: totally okay. Like that, I got his number and sounds wonderful, 163 00:08:37,600 --> 00:08:39,440 Speaker 1: and let's keep in touch and try and plant something 164 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:44,080 Speaker 1: this week. This is exciting. So so now he could 165 00:08:44,160 --> 00:08:46,160 Speaker 1: potentially not make a plan and then I'll be sad 166 00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 1: and I'll probably cry and I'll be like, and then 167 00:08:48,120 --> 00:08:51,680 Speaker 1: I'll move forward, I'll move on. She can I tell 168 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:54,400 Speaker 1: them what you said about how you felt after texting, 169 00:08:54,720 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 1: just like, yeah, Tanya is like, I feel free, I 170 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:02,720 Speaker 1: feel liberate, like basically I am a woman. Hear me 171 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:05,520 Speaker 1: roar and then she's all and if he doesn't text back, 172 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 1: I'll probably cry and be really sad, Like well everybody, 173 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: I feel empowered, I feel vibrant, I feel alive, and 174 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:17,960 Speaker 1: I was like, until he doesn't text me, and then 175 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:20,360 Speaker 1: I'll be like really sad. But you have to wait. 176 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:22,959 Speaker 1: Now at this point, you wait for him to tex exactly. Okay, 177 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:25,320 Speaker 1: we do agree on that, but I think this is 178 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:27,760 Speaker 1: something that a lot of girls should do. It's like, 179 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 1: here's my handkerchief. I'm just gonna drop it for you 180 00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:33,600 Speaker 1: right here. If you want to pick it up, you can. 181 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:35,880 Speaker 1: If you don't, you can leave it on the ground. 182 00:09:36,040 --> 00:09:40,040 Speaker 1: The hanker. That's a good thing. Okay, Um, yeah, I 183 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:42,960 Speaker 1: I guess it seems like what very little that I 184 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 1: know about him, he seemed clearly if he was scared 185 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 1: to ask for a number and ask if you're on 186 00:09:47,760 --> 00:09:51,200 Speaker 1: Facebook first. Maybe your move at that point would have 187 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:56,320 Speaker 1: been like, why don't I give you my number? That's okay, 188 00:09:56,440 --> 00:09:58,760 Speaker 1: I should move now. There are a lot of things 189 00:09:58,760 --> 00:10:01,160 Speaker 1: that could have done differently than night of. But I 190 00:10:01,200 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 1: feel good about my decision until he dozen times in 191 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:08,040 Speaker 1: my back were really sad. But um, so we'll see 192 00:10:08,080 --> 00:10:11,800 Speaker 1: he has a week with a week okay, well, okay, 193 00:10:11,840 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 1: so we're giving a week as of yesterday from yesterday, okay, 194 00:10:16,040 --> 00:10:19,800 Speaker 1: I feel good. Yeah, I feel really good until I don't. 195 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:22,800 Speaker 1: I can't wait to talk to you next Monday and 196 00:10:22,960 --> 00:10:25,319 Speaker 1: get updates on this. You know, I love your your 197 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 1: dating life adventures because I don't have any. Yeah, which, 198 00:10:28,960 --> 00:10:30,800 Speaker 1: speaking of, we need to get you on a date. 199 00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:32,720 Speaker 1: They like, I don't want to go on a date. 200 00:10:34,120 --> 00:10:36,080 Speaker 1: I know, I don't know. I hate dating like I 201 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:38,080 Speaker 1: hate the small I don't like it. I have to 202 00:10:38,240 --> 00:10:40,720 Speaker 1: raise your hand if you like dating. No hands are 203 00:10:40,800 --> 00:10:44,319 Speaker 1: up in the studio. Was married? They have dated that 204 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:48,240 Speaker 1: they're not that they weren't born married. Yeah, nobody likes dating. 205 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:50,560 Speaker 1: You have to do it. I know. It's just like 206 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 1: I have a baby now, I know I gonna like 207 00:10:55,320 --> 00:10:58,679 Speaker 1: someone gonna want to single mom like me is tired, 208 00:10:58,840 --> 00:11:01,280 Speaker 1: and I think somebody will want to need to be 209 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 1: home with my baby at a certain hour. Yes, okay, okay, 210 00:11:06,320 --> 00:11:08,640 Speaker 1: well yeah, I do have a friend who like has 211 00:11:08,679 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 1: guys and she's like, what about him? What about him? 212 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:14,320 Speaker 1: And I said I was interested? But I told her 213 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:15,959 Speaker 1: I was like, she goes, how should I connect to? 214 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:19,600 Speaker 1: Like give my number? Great? Can you also give her 215 00:11:19,640 --> 00:11:23,000 Speaker 1: my number so I can help push this along? Wait? 216 00:11:23,040 --> 00:11:25,960 Speaker 1: What give her my number so that she don't need 217 00:11:26,000 --> 00:11:30,319 Speaker 1: too many? Uh? Like yeah that if I get pushed 218 00:11:30,360 --> 00:11:34,640 Speaker 1: too much, I shut down. It's a personality trait that 219 00:11:34,679 --> 00:11:40,120 Speaker 1: I have. Anyways, um wait, I'm just saying I want 220 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:42,120 Speaker 1: to get you on this train, Like let's start dating. 221 00:11:42,880 --> 00:11:45,480 Speaker 1: We do this every like we talk about this every 222 00:11:45,480 --> 00:11:47,559 Speaker 1: other day, Like how we're going to put ourselves out 223 00:11:47,559 --> 00:11:49,199 Speaker 1: there and go out to cute dinner so we can 224 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:51,880 Speaker 1: meet guys and we don't we stay at home and 225 00:11:51,920 --> 00:11:55,079 Speaker 1: watch Gray's Anatomy. Where what am I gonna do now 226 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:57,120 Speaker 1: that Grey's Anomy is off? We should actually plan to 227 00:11:57,160 --> 00:11:59,160 Speaker 1: do something like Thursday nights should be like our night. 228 00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:02,320 Speaker 1: I think we should like recap our like what go 229 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:05,280 Speaker 1: through and watch our favor like our favorite episodes from 230 00:12:05,320 --> 00:12:09,600 Speaker 1: all the seasons, and talk about those that didn't take 231 00:12:09,640 --> 00:12:14,160 Speaker 1: long um, and then I think we should do like quizzes, 232 00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:17,480 Speaker 1: like we should do quizzes like I was reading someone. 233 00:12:17,559 --> 00:12:20,280 Speaker 1: Since people always send me Grays Anatomy quizzes, which I 234 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:23,520 Speaker 1: truly appreciate, I aced them every time, but I think 235 00:12:23,520 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 1: it'd be fun to like question each other if we know. 236 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:28,480 Speaker 1: I have to tell you that Gray's Anatomy really does 237 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:31,240 Speaker 1: bring people together because I was giving blood last week 238 00:12:31,679 --> 00:12:34,079 Speaker 1: and I had my Meredith Grays my spirit animal swetch 239 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:36,120 Speaker 1: it on and the man that was giving blood across 240 00:12:36,120 --> 00:12:37,920 Speaker 1: from me was like, oh, do you watch Gray's Anatomy? 241 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:40,480 Speaker 1: And I said do I point out at it? And 242 00:12:40,480 --> 00:12:42,080 Speaker 1: then the girl that was taking my blood was like 243 00:12:42,200 --> 00:12:45,520 Speaker 1: me too, and we all collectively had a very nice 244 00:12:45,600 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 1: Kumbaya moment. I mean it really true. The people that 245 00:12:49,400 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 1: write me and say that they're just starting it for 246 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:53,679 Speaker 1: the first time, those are my favorites because I feel 247 00:12:53,679 --> 00:12:56,720 Speaker 1: like I've I've done something great with my life that 248 00:12:56,760 --> 00:12:59,079 Speaker 1: I've inspired people to do that. I have a Grace 249 00:12:59,160 --> 00:13:02,680 Speaker 1: quiz for you later if you want to please. I 250 00:13:02,760 --> 00:13:05,040 Speaker 1: love what the listener wanted was for you too to 251 00:13:05,120 --> 00:13:08,360 Speaker 1: have a beat. Okay. The email said that you should 252 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:10,880 Speaker 1: take a grays quiz and whoever loses the other one 253 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:14,920 Speaker 1: gets to text whatever they want from their phone. Oh 254 00:13:15,040 --> 00:13:22,920 Speaker 1: I like this. I okay, I'm so in. We'll get 255 00:13:22,920 --> 00:13:29,200 Speaker 1: to that later. Okay, okay, So wait, something we forgot 256 00:13:29,200 --> 00:13:31,120 Speaker 1: Remember last week we were like, oh yeah, we forgot 257 00:13:31,160 --> 00:13:34,000 Speaker 1: to ask a guy question and we remembered it. And 258 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:36,760 Speaker 1: we've kind of neglected this segment lately, but I'm here 259 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:39,760 Speaker 1: to bring it back. We have a ton of ask 260 00:13:39,840 --> 00:13:43,000 Speaker 1: a guy emails from listeners, which I love because it's 261 00:13:43,880 --> 00:13:46,720 Speaker 1: not are like made up things not made up, but 262 00:13:46,760 --> 00:13:48,520 Speaker 1: you know, it's like people going through stuff and they 263 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:52,760 Speaker 1: want answers, and we're here to help with amazing advice. 264 00:13:52,800 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 1: If I do say so, those that can't teach do 265 00:13:56,040 --> 00:13:59,080 Speaker 1: or what is it? Those that can't do teach and 266 00:13:59,120 --> 00:14:03,480 Speaker 1: those that can't get my friend give dating advice. That 267 00:14:03,640 --> 00:14:06,560 Speaker 1: is so true. I feel like I give so much 268 00:14:06,679 --> 00:14:09,640 Speaker 1: dating advice, and I'm like, I promise you I'm not 269 00:14:09,760 --> 00:14:11,440 Speaker 1: the person you want to be at, but it's pretty 270 00:14:11,440 --> 00:14:16,079 Speaker 1: sound advice. I agree. Yeah. Um, First though, I want 271 00:14:16,080 --> 00:14:18,600 Speaker 1: to talk about man crates. Can we get our man 272 00:14:18,600 --> 00:14:24,160 Speaker 1: crates open? It is a set packaged really cute. Yeah, so, okay, 273 00:14:24,240 --> 00:14:27,840 Speaker 1: we got coasters and then are these beer glasses. Beer glasses. 274 00:14:28,280 --> 00:14:35,480 Speaker 1: They're actually called Oh they say Becca, Oh my god, sorry, Tanya, 275 00:14:35,520 --> 00:14:40,440 Speaker 1: they just say Becca. Okay, this is the cutest thing ever. 276 00:14:40,520 --> 00:14:43,440 Speaker 1: They give me beer glasses and then coasters and they 277 00:14:43,440 --> 00:14:51,600 Speaker 1: say scrubbing in with Becca. That's so cute. My brother 278 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:54,360 Speaker 1: in law drinks a lot of beer. This is serious. Okay. 279 00:14:54,440 --> 00:14:57,360 Speaker 1: I know that we talk about these things a lot, 280 00:14:57,400 --> 00:15:01,560 Speaker 1: but this is actually such an amazing gift. It comes 281 00:15:01,600 --> 00:15:06,119 Speaker 1: with snacks that you would eat while you're drinking your beer. Peanuts, 282 00:15:06,440 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 1: past those pistachios, pistachios. This is amazing. This is really cute. 283 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:17,280 Speaker 1: This is a really great gift. Okay, So the hardest 284 00:15:17,320 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 1: gifts I have are for the men in my life, 285 00:15:20,160 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 1: preach sister. Yeah, so the men in my life seemed 286 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 1: to be like my hardest gifts because the girls, it's like, 287 00:15:27,800 --> 00:15:29,720 Speaker 1: I know what I like, so I can buy them. 288 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:33,000 Speaker 1: You know, I have an idea. Man, it's like what 289 00:15:34,240 --> 00:15:39,680 Speaker 1: I struggle so much. This Man Craves is a dream 290 00:15:39,760 --> 00:15:42,920 Speaker 1: for me. No, it's actually really really really brilliant, and 291 00:15:42,920 --> 00:15:47,920 Speaker 1: there's a different crate for like every niche niche niche. Wow, 292 00:15:48,240 --> 00:15:54,720 Speaker 1: you're not um. So they offer over a hundred hand 293 00:15:54,760 --> 00:15:57,640 Speaker 1: curated gift collections for every type of guy. So if 294 00:15:57,680 --> 00:16:01,400 Speaker 1: you have an outdoorsman, if you have a sports fan, attic, anything, 295 00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:04,480 Speaker 1: there's a gift for him and it comes in this 296 00:16:05,440 --> 00:16:10,760 Speaker 1: box that you really have to break open like a man, 297 00:16:11,280 --> 00:16:13,520 Speaker 1: and you really have to get in there. It'll entertain 298 00:16:13,640 --> 00:16:18,680 Speaker 1: him for hours if he's, you know, not the most 299 00:16:18,720 --> 00:16:21,680 Speaker 1: handy man. I was trying to think of a way 300 00:16:21,720 --> 00:16:24,360 Speaker 1: to gently say it. It's a good way to keep 301 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:27,680 Speaker 1: your man busy. It is when you're trying to watch 302 00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:31,160 Speaker 1: grays or like do your thing, you can here's your 303 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:33,160 Speaker 1: man crate and then he has to go into the 304 00:16:33,160 --> 00:16:36,600 Speaker 1: backyard and just hammered open. I also think personalized gifts 305 00:16:36,600 --> 00:16:39,360 Speaker 1: are really like special, and I think that that's really cute. 306 00:16:39,840 --> 00:16:42,920 Speaker 1: I know, I love this, So let me see the coaster. 307 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:46,880 Speaker 1: I needed coasters too, So this is wonderful. This is 308 00:16:47,000 --> 00:16:50,440 Speaker 1: really really cute. So they also they have a beer 309 00:16:50,480 --> 00:16:54,760 Speaker 1: opener on the back. Wow. Okay, so these coasters their 310 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:57,400 Speaker 1: personalized and then on the back there's a beer opener. 311 00:16:58,920 --> 00:17:02,640 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't drink beer, but neither, but I 312 00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:06,320 Speaker 1: could get a Coca cola and pop it open and 313 00:17:06,400 --> 00:17:10,080 Speaker 1: pour ice cold. Yeah, you totally could bottled. Yeah, that 314 00:17:10,240 --> 00:17:12,480 Speaker 1: is so fun. But they have like the you know, um, 315 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:13,879 Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of guys like the golf 316 00:17:13,920 --> 00:17:16,440 Speaker 1: and they have like the personalized golf I was gonna say. 317 00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:18,840 Speaker 1: They have a grill Master crate that comes with a 318 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:23,760 Speaker 1: brass knuckle meat tenderiser and cast iron smoker box. They 319 00:17:23,760 --> 00:17:26,159 Speaker 1: have personalized golf balls that we saw. They have a 320 00:17:26,200 --> 00:17:28,480 Speaker 1: Moscow mule kit, which I would get for like myself 321 00:17:28,560 --> 00:17:32,679 Speaker 1: or any of my girlfriends. This is such a great 322 00:17:32,720 --> 00:17:35,680 Speaker 1: gift and all you have to do you go to 323 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:39,760 Speaker 1: man crates dot com, pick your Man's crate and choose 324 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:42,480 Speaker 1: the delivery date, and then when his crate arrives, he 325 00:17:42,520 --> 00:17:45,480 Speaker 1: gets to pride that bad boy open with his own 326 00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:53,920 Speaker 1: laser engraved crowbar. Oh wow, I know, so manly, so manly. Um. 327 00:17:53,960 --> 00:17:56,800 Speaker 1: They have thousands of five star reviews and every man 328 00:17:56,840 --> 00:18:00,639 Speaker 1: crate comes with a hundred percent satisfaction guarantee, which Tanya's 329 00:18:00,920 --> 00:18:04,040 Speaker 1: yea ultimate gift. I'm fully satisfied right now. This was 330 00:18:04,480 --> 00:18:08,879 Speaker 1: very satisfying. Okay, so go to Man creates dot com 331 00:18:08,960 --> 00:18:11,800 Speaker 1: slash Becca to get five percent off your order. That's 332 00:18:11,840 --> 00:18:15,359 Speaker 1: five percent off at Man creates dot com slash Becca. 333 00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:19,679 Speaker 1: Man creates dot com slash Becca. That is so fun. 334 00:18:20,040 --> 00:18:23,040 Speaker 1: Pastachios are delicious. Okay, So now I'm ready to ask 335 00:18:23,080 --> 00:18:27,080 Speaker 1: a guy some questions. Um, we have an email from 336 00:18:27,119 --> 00:18:30,600 Speaker 1: Taylor and she says, Hi, I love, love, love your 337 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:34,760 Speaker 1: podcast so much. Tanya makes the greatest edition. I agree. 338 00:18:35,040 --> 00:18:37,080 Speaker 1: I'm just writing to remind you guys about to ask 339 00:18:37,119 --> 00:18:39,639 Speaker 1: a guy segment where you ask about their deal breakers. 340 00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:43,160 Speaker 1: That's when we forgot because we talked about our deal breakers. 341 00:18:43,720 --> 00:18:45,159 Speaker 1: You were going to do that on the episode with 342 00:18:45,200 --> 00:18:47,320 Speaker 1: Jenna Kramer but ran out of time. Hope to hear 343 00:18:47,359 --> 00:18:51,080 Speaker 1: about that, Thanks Taylor. UM, yes, I am so excited 344 00:18:51,119 --> 00:18:54,359 Speaker 1: about this because we're gonna call We're gonna call guys 345 00:18:54,400 --> 00:18:58,439 Speaker 1: today and really get down to the nitty gritty because 346 00:18:58,560 --> 00:19:01,320 Speaker 1: I think our deal breakers tend to be a longer 347 00:19:01,359 --> 00:19:06,080 Speaker 1: list than guys. I feel like what I've known guys 348 00:19:06,160 --> 00:19:08,960 Speaker 1: have deal breakers, Yes they do. Like what would they 349 00:19:08,960 --> 00:19:18,439 Speaker 1: be like? Oh like if Percival offended that if I 350 00:19:18,480 --> 00:19:20,680 Speaker 1: were a guy, I'd be like, Wow, she thinks we're 351 00:19:20,680 --> 00:19:28,480 Speaker 1: cave men. Like I don't have any feelings. I just 352 00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:31,240 Speaker 1: can't imagine what a guy's deal breakers would be like 353 00:19:32,359 --> 00:19:35,359 Speaker 1: I don't know, Like she doesn't cook, doesn't cook? About 354 00:19:35,359 --> 00:19:37,760 Speaker 1: a deal breaker? It could be for some guys. What 355 00:19:37,840 --> 00:19:42,320 Speaker 1: about if she has no um libido? Oh, not particularly 356 00:19:42,320 --> 00:19:48,280 Speaker 1: interested in that could be a deal breaker. Okay, we 357 00:19:48,359 --> 00:19:51,879 Speaker 1: have a guy who is the guy? This is Mike. 358 00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:56,120 Speaker 1: Oh hi, Mike, are you there? I am Hi. We 359 00:19:56,200 --> 00:20:00,880 Speaker 1: have some hard hitting questions for you today. Okay, I'm ready, 360 00:20:00,960 --> 00:20:03,000 Speaker 1: I think. Okay, so we're gonna ask you what are 361 00:20:03,119 --> 00:20:05,880 Speaker 1: what are your should I do? Top three deal breakers? Okay, 362 00:20:05,920 --> 00:20:08,480 Speaker 1: what are your top three deal breakers in a woman? 363 00:20:08,520 --> 00:20:11,439 Speaker 1: Like if you're dating someone? Which if if when you 364 00:20:11,480 --> 00:20:15,399 Speaker 1: were dating, what were your three top deal breakers? Top 365 00:20:15,480 --> 00:20:22,879 Speaker 1: three deal breakers? Let's see. Um, I would say I 366 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:26,479 Speaker 1: think more so than ever today in this age being present. 367 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:31,159 Speaker 1: Um So if if you to the crosses there somebody 368 00:20:31,200 --> 00:20:34,240 Speaker 1: you're not you can see they're not there, They're not listening, 369 00:20:34,480 --> 00:20:37,639 Speaker 1: they're not attentive. I eat on their phone or whatever. 370 00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:43,720 Speaker 1: I think that's important. Um. Probably on the same lines, 371 00:20:43,960 --> 00:20:49,760 Speaker 1: you know, maybe too self absorbed. Those would be big 372 00:20:49,760 --> 00:20:54,800 Speaker 1: ones for me, you know, just kind of getting to 373 00:20:54,840 --> 00:20:56,520 Speaker 1: the point of making sure the person has a good 374 00:20:56,520 --> 00:20:59,400 Speaker 1: heart and that they're that they're there for the right reasons. 375 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:02,840 Speaker 1: But those two things I think would be hugely important 376 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:06,600 Speaker 1: for me. Okay, So so basically being on their phone 377 00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:09,000 Speaker 1: too much and not being present in the conversation and 378 00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:14,720 Speaker 1: then being too like into themselves or into their selfie game. Yeah. Yeah, 379 00:21:14,880 --> 00:21:17,960 Speaker 1: but I may be a curmudgeon as it relates to that. 380 00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:20,920 Speaker 1: That may be what everybody wants these days, but those 381 00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:22,960 Speaker 1: things kind of rubbed me the wrong way. No, I 382 00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:24,960 Speaker 1: feel like that. I I mean, I feel like that 383 00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:27,359 Speaker 1: bothers me if I'm on a date or with someone 384 00:21:27,400 --> 00:21:30,720 Speaker 1: in there looking at their phone or don't seem interested 385 00:21:30,760 --> 00:21:34,359 Speaker 1: in my conversation. Yeah, and you're taking a picture of 386 00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:36,480 Speaker 1: your not you, but you know, for example, you take 387 00:21:36,520 --> 00:21:39,520 Speaker 1: a picture of your food or what you're doing, they 388 00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:43,240 Speaker 1: don't really even care you know, who you're with, or 389 00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:45,440 Speaker 1: or the fact that you actually are doing it. Now, 390 00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:47,840 Speaker 1: I think there's just too much of that in general 391 00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:51,480 Speaker 1: that we just do as a society. So those things 392 00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,280 Speaker 1: significantly rubbed me the wrong way. And so if you 393 00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:57,200 Speaker 1: found somebody that I guess was the opposite. That would 394 00:21:57,240 --> 00:22:00,360 Speaker 1: be that'd be great. That'd be my advice. I mean, 395 00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:02,720 Speaker 1: if I ever was on it, like one of the 396 00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:04,560 Speaker 1: first dates of a guy and took my phone out 397 00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:06,360 Speaker 1: to take a photo of my meal, I hope you'd 398 00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:11,560 Speaker 1: be I hope that would be you'd run. Yeah, that's yeah. 399 00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:14,520 Speaker 1: Maybe that's my third taking a picture of your food. Okay, okay, 400 00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:16,600 Speaker 1: So I'm going to ask you specific questions and you 401 00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,879 Speaker 1: just say deal breaker or not? Okay, okay, okay, she 402 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:25,159 Speaker 1: doesn't cook, not a deal breaker, bad in bed. Oh, 403 00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:34,600 Speaker 1: for heaven's sake, pass low libido. Um, that's okay, that's fine. 404 00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:38,280 Speaker 1: I wouldn't say a deal breaker. Okay, bad personal hygiene, 405 00:22:39,520 --> 00:22:45,120 Speaker 1: Yeah that is doesn't want kids. Well, for me, that's 406 00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:51,960 Speaker 1: kind of a deal breaker. Um. Different religion or no religion. Nope, 407 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:55,960 Speaker 1: that's okay, all right, all right, so kind of happened 408 00:22:56,119 --> 00:22:57,639 Speaker 1: was that? Like half and half and he was kind 409 00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:00,359 Speaker 1: of indifferent about a few? Yeah? All right, right, Well 410 00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:03,639 Speaker 1: this is interesting. Yeah, thanks Mike, Yeah, thanks for thanks 411 00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:09,000 Speaker 1: for hopping on and chatting with us today. Everyone passes here. 412 00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:12,840 Speaker 1: Should we get many of these? Oh? Yeah, we have 413 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,520 Speaker 1: a we have another question for you since we have it. 414 00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:17,480 Speaker 1: We have a bunch of ask a guy questions, so 415 00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:20,720 Speaker 1: if you have time, sure hit me up. All right, 416 00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:24,080 Speaker 1: this is from Macy. She says, Hi, gals and Mike. 417 00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:26,399 Speaker 1: I've been talking to a guy for a couple of 418 00:23:26,480 --> 00:23:29,359 Speaker 1: months now and his communication is starting to decrease. We 419 00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:31,560 Speaker 1: see each other every week and he says he's still 420 00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:35,680 Speaker 1: interested but would rather communicate over snapchat than text. I'm 421 00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:39,480 Speaker 1: not asking seven communication that would drive me insane, but 422 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:41,399 Speaker 1: would like to know he's interested enough to have a 423 00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:44,879 Speaker 1: real conversation rather than keep a snapchat streak alive. But 424 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 1: I'm not sure how to convey that to him. Any 425 00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:49,040 Speaker 1: ideas would be appreciated, or should I just drop this 426 00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:52,840 Speaker 1: guy out together? Help? Yeah? I think she answered a 427 00:23:52,960 --> 00:23:58,200 Speaker 1: question right, Yeah, Yeah, that's a move on. Yeah, that 428 00:23:58,359 --> 00:24:01,280 Speaker 1: is bad. It's hard because I always wonder, like how 429 00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:03,359 Speaker 1: old are these people? Because I think when you're like 430 00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:07,360 Speaker 1: eighteen and that certain age group, you're kind of that's 431 00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:10,440 Speaker 1: what everyone does. Is it would bother me personally, but 432 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:12,680 Speaker 1: that's kind of what they do. But if he's older 433 00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:16,520 Speaker 1: and like in the mid to late twenties, I feel 434 00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:19,280 Speaker 1: like that's bad. I still think it's bad. No, matter 435 00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:22,560 Speaker 1: what if anybody just wants to have a snapchat chat 436 00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:24,800 Speaker 1: especially but I'm saying like text, like I don't love 437 00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:27,600 Speaker 1: talking on the phone, but I know like in a relationship, 438 00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:30,280 Speaker 1: you if you can't see each other all the time, 439 00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:34,960 Speaker 1: that's how you communicate. But the snapchat is that's bad, sketchy, 440 00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:39,640 Speaker 1: so sketchy. Uh, Mazie, I'm not a guy, but I'm 441 00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:43,880 Speaker 1: gonna say, drop this guy all together? What do you think, Mike? 442 00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:48,400 Speaker 1: I concur how to present and if possible without any 443 00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:50,639 Speaker 1: of us getting fired, maybe on our next surveys we 444 00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:54,840 Speaker 1: put some sort of age grouping in there, figure out 445 00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:57,879 Speaker 1: where they fall, because I do think that's important that 446 00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:00,040 Speaker 1: we don't want to get fired for Asian discrimination to 447 00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:03,280 Speaker 1: by the way we do. Yeah, we definitely don't want that. 448 00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:07,560 Speaker 1: I know. I almost feel like she tells him like, hey, 449 00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:10,159 Speaker 1: if we're going to have this relationship and we you 450 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:12,200 Speaker 1: like me and I like you, then we talk more 451 00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:14,520 Speaker 1: than snapchat and text and if he's not down with it, 452 00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:17,560 Speaker 1: and then by yeah or just on snapchat, say just 453 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:22,120 Speaker 1: text me. I don't open my san text. There's certainly 454 00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:25,280 Speaker 1: an element of how younger people communicate. If I don't 455 00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:28,160 Speaker 1: think I've ever left a voicemail for my son because 456 00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:30,240 Speaker 1: I don't think he knows how to get it, and 457 00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:32,400 Speaker 1: I don't even think he checks it, and I don't 458 00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:34,360 Speaker 1: know my mailbox has been full for like a year. 459 00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:39,080 Speaker 1: Leaving me a voicemail is basically sending me an invite 460 00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:45,440 Speaker 1: over Facebook, like I'll never see it. All right, Well, 461 00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:47,760 Speaker 1: thank you so much for being on here. Thanks for 462 00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:52,360 Speaker 1: giving us some advice, and our listeners too. I take 463 00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:55,720 Speaker 1: care of all right. Bye. Okay, So this next caller 464 00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:57,760 Speaker 1: is one of my friends from college, and I feel 465 00:25:57,760 --> 00:25:59,680 Speaker 1: like she can really help us with this email from 466 00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:03,520 Speaker 1: Lizzie about saying I love you to your boyfriend. First, 467 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:08,960 Speaker 1: is Katie there? Hi, Hi, I've been heard your voice 468 00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:13,719 Speaker 1: in so long. Oh my gosh, I miss you too. Okay, 469 00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:17,960 Speaker 1: So we are talking about this um email we got 470 00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:20,639 Speaker 1: from a listener, and everyone was kind of throwing out 471 00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:23,359 Speaker 1: their opinions and I'm like, wait, I know someone personally 472 00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:26,000 Speaker 1: who had the same situation. So I'm going to read 473 00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:28,639 Speaker 1: you the email and I want your I want you 474 00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:33,240 Speaker 1: to give us some insight. Okay, Okay. So her name's 475 00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:34,960 Speaker 1: Lizzie and she said I wanted to ask you for 476 00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:38,080 Speaker 1: some relationship advice. I've been dating my boyfriend for five 477 00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:41,600 Speaker 1: months now and we have a really solid, happy relationship. Recently, 478 00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:43,280 Speaker 1: I've been getting the urge to say I love you, 479 00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:45,280 Speaker 1: but he hasn't said it to me yet. I tried 480 00:26:45,320 --> 00:26:47,560 Speaker 1: to bring it up casually the other day by mentioning 481 00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:49,400 Speaker 1: that one of my friends posted a picture with her 482 00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:51,760 Speaker 1: boyfriend of one month with the caption I love you. 483 00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:54,439 Speaker 1: This led into conversation where he revealed he does not 484 00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:56,480 Speaker 1: plan on saying I love you until he is down 485 00:26:56,520 --> 00:26:58,920 Speaker 1: on one knee proposing. I told him that it would 486 00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:00,840 Speaker 1: be hard for me to wait until point to hear 487 00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:02,679 Speaker 1: it or say it, and he said that if I 488 00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:04,560 Speaker 1: felt it, that I should feel free to say it. 489 00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:06,560 Speaker 1: I just feel like his response was sort of a 490 00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:08,080 Speaker 1: cop out, and I don't want to be the only 491 00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:10,840 Speaker 1: one making myself vulnerable. Should I tell him I love 492 00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:13,280 Speaker 1: him when he pretty much guaranteed he won't say it back. 493 00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:16,160 Speaker 1: Shouldn't he be the one to say it first? For context, 494 00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:18,360 Speaker 1: I am twenty five and he's thirty. We've both been 495 00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:21,800 Speaker 1: in serious relationships that ended badly, but ety years removed 496 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:28,719 Speaker 1: from them. Thinks in advance. Okay, first, all, uh, very 497 00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:34,960 Speaker 1: old fashioned and very southern. I absolutely think that the 498 00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:38,800 Speaker 1: boys should say I love you first, thank you, thank you. 499 00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:42,760 Speaker 1: So I totally get it what I'm okay, So Tanya 500 00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:47,239 Speaker 1: is here too, and hi Katie, and I was like, 501 00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:50,040 Speaker 1: I don't think it matters who says. At first, I 502 00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:53,280 Speaker 1: didn't know that that was like a Southern tradition. Well, 503 00:27:53,320 --> 00:27:56,120 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, don't call the boy they kind 504 00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:58,520 Speaker 1: of thing. I'm very not Southern, and I still I 505 00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:02,640 Speaker 1: believe that, believe that. Um well, I was like Lizzie. 506 00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:05,120 Speaker 1: You know, we had been dating, we did a year 507 00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:09,280 Speaker 1: before he proposed and said I love you, and um, 508 00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:11,840 Speaker 1: you know, after three or four months, I was like, okay, 509 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:13,720 Speaker 1: I love this boy and I want to marry him. 510 00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:19,280 Speaker 1: But I held back the urge to to say I 511 00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:22,840 Speaker 1: love you because I knew that he would not say it. 512 00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:24,840 Speaker 1: Was kind of like her. We hadn't really talked about it, 513 00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:27,159 Speaker 1: but I knew him and I knew how he was, 514 00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:30,040 Speaker 1: and I knew he probably did not want me to 515 00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:34,760 Speaker 1: stay at first. Um and I still remember that where 516 00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:37,200 Speaker 1: I was exactly how it was when he first told 517 00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:39,280 Speaker 1: me he loved me and then got done on one knee. 518 00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:42,719 Speaker 1: And it was something that I will remember forever and 519 00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:46,280 Speaker 1: something I'm so glad I waited for. So did y'all 520 00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:48,560 Speaker 1: have a conversation though, where he had mentioned that he 521 00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:53,280 Speaker 1: wasn't gonna state until he proposed. Yes, he, um, you know, 522 00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:56,040 Speaker 1: had said in a past relationship he had used you know, 523 00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:59,239 Speaker 1: I love you, and um, both of them ended up 524 00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:02,800 Speaker 1: hurt because they obviously didn't end up married, and um 525 00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:05,600 Speaker 1: I was the same way. And then um, you know, 526 00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:08,120 Speaker 1: he said, I've kind of made a decision that I'm 527 00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:12,000 Speaker 1: not going to say I love you until I know 528 00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:14,120 Speaker 1: I want to marry someone until I can put a 529 00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:17,720 Speaker 1: ring on on their finger. So that's what that's what 530 00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:19,840 Speaker 1: I said. I said, he maybe he was hurt in 531 00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:22,600 Speaker 1: a relationship where he had said it and then it ended. 532 00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:25,000 Speaker 1: It said that they both ended they were in serious 533 00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:27,360 Speaker 1: relationships that ended badly, So that could have been the 534 00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:30,440 Speaker 1: cause of why it hurt so much. Scars, man, they 535 00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:36,880 Speaker 1: go deep, they too. There was another question I was 536 00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:39,960 Speaker 1: going to say something about so you would tell her 537 00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:44,280 Speaker 1: that she waited out, like waited out. I don't don't 538 00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:47,960 Speaker 1: assume the worst in his reasoning, correct, And you know, 539 00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:51,240 Speaker 1: I mean and you know, five months, you know is 540 00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:54,280 Speaker 1: long and it's not long, you know, it's it's still new. 541 00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:56,560 Speaker 1: Things are still fresh, you know, you're still getting to 542 00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:59,840 Speaker 1: know each other. And um, and I would say you 543 00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,160 Speaker 1: like I said, I waited a year and I still 544 00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:06,320 Speaker 1: didn't think it was coming anytime soon. He completely surprised 545 00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:09,240 Speaker 1: me as a blue and and I think, you know, 546 00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:12,400 Speaker 1: I just think waited out a little bit longer, you know, 547 00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:16,360 Speaker 1: and UM, make sure he's serious, to make sure you 548 00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:20,960 Speaker 1: know they're they're on the same um, I guess on 549 00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:23,920 Speaker 1: the same path. They have the same thoughts like probably 550 00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:25,680 Speaker 1: this is going to end the marriage, and you know, 551 00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:28,120 Speaker 1: they can talk about things like that. But I would 552 00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:31,440 Speaker 1: I would just wait because it's such a sweet something 553 00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:34,720 Speaker 1: you never forget, something you always remember. And I did. 554 00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:37,440 Speaker 1: I just think I think she should wait. And now 555 00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:40,960 Speaker 1: Katie is married to this guy and also has two 556 00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:48,760 Speaker 1: little kids. Yes, I do waited out. I do like 557 00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:51,200 Speaker 1: the fact that as soon as he when he told 558 00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:52,920 Speaker 1: you I love you, you were like, oh my gosh, 559 00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:55,960 Speaker 1: this is the moment like that is yes, yeah, I 560 00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:59,640 Speaker 1: love that. Well, thank you for coming on and talking 561 00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:05,760 Speaker 1: with that is of course. I know. I'm glad that 562 00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:08,000 Speaker 1: everyone gets to here. Our first time you're talking so long. 563 00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:15,600 Speaker 1: All right, well know I'll I need a textion. We'll 564 00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:18,440 Speaker 1: catch up for real soon. All right, love you by, 565 00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:24,760 Speaker 1: thanks Katie. Bye. There you go. Worked for Katie, It'll 566 00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:27,520 Speaker 1: work for you, Lizzie. I know. I so I should 567 00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:29,800 Speaker 1: have asked her, like at what point, like what if 568 00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:32,840 Speaker 1: you're two years in You're like, okay, I know, I mean, 569 00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:36,120 Speaker 1: I don't know, but I said the exact same thing. 570 00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:38,240 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm going to wait my next time 571 00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:42,400 Speaker 1: to say it until after he does, okay, because you 572 00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:44,400 Speaker 1: know me, I feel everything times a hundred, So I 573 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:50,440 Speaker 1: just like blur like one weekend, I'm in love with you. 574 00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:54,880 Speaker 1: I think we're gonna get married. Good, Um, I like 575 00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:58,240 Speaker 1: this next one. So I you know what I'm all 576 00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:02,440 Speaker 1: about asking the guy. But sometimes I feel like the 577 00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:07,239 Speaker 1: girls have the answers to you know what I'm saying. Well, 578 00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:11,640 Speaker 1: we've watched enough shows like I feel like, you know, 579 00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:14,800 Speaker 1: I say something intelligent and like with a lot of depth, 580 00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:16,720 Speaker 1: and then you come in with we watch a lot 581 00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:19,000 Speaker 1: of shows. I feel like, I like, he's just not 582 00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:21,120 Speaker 1: that in you. I watched it recently this past a 583 00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:23,720 Speaker 1: week and I'm I feel like I'm gig even, which 584 00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:26,000 Speaker 1: is the main girl, and I feel like we've lived 585 00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:28,560 Speaker 1: through so many experiences, and I feel like we've watched 586 00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:31,640 Speaker 1: so many shows and movies that we really I've cut 587 00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:34,520 Speaker 1: we can really cover the spectrum. Do you think? Yeah? 588 00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:37,320 Speaker 1: I mean I think I just think that a lot 589 00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:40,400 Speaker 1: of things happened in real life maybe or are more 590 00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:43,360 Speaker 1: like where wasted, like where we may gather our advice 591 00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:45,360 Speaker 1: from that we give like we know people like, look, 592 00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:49,200 Speaker 1: you knew somebody that this happened to. She gave great right, Well, 593 00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:54,640 Speaker 1: whether you wanted advice or not, Dean is on the line, Deer, Hi, deaners, 594 00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:57,680 Speaker 1: what are you doing? I'm just working on my deep 595 00:32:57,760 --> 00:32:59,640 Speaker 1: right now? How are you? Oh, you're such a you 596 00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:02,760 Speaker 1: would have a man create. You're so manly you work 597 00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:07,080 Speaker 1: on I know, um we have we're doing ask a 598 00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:12,520 Speaker 1: guy questions, and so we thought who better? Everyone planet 599 00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:16,400 Speaker 1: Everyone loved your sexy rasp last week two weeks in 600 00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:18,200 Speaker 1: a row. I'm a little bit healthier now, so maybe 601 00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:22,960 Speaker 1: the sexy rass is gone. But oh yeah, you were sassy. 602 00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:24,880 Speaker 1: Did you like the turtle dancing that I tied to 603 00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:29,360 Speaker 1: and that literally looked just like your dance moves? Ad 604 00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:33,600 Speaker 1: that's probably right Okay, So this is an email from 605 00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:37,040 Speaker 1: Lindsay and she said, Hi, back Antania. I need some 606 00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:40,160 Speaker 1: advice on a guy I've been talking to. For context, 607 00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:43,040 Speaker 1: I'm twenty four. We met at a local brewery and 608 00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:46,320 Speaker 1: somehow got ahold of each other's instagrams, as we all do. 609 00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:49,600 Speaker 1: He's been replying to my Insta stories over the past 610 00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:53,240 Speaker 1: month and we'll have conversation conversations, messaging back and forth, 611 00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:55,200 Speaker 1: but he has never asked me to hang out. I 612 00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:58,000 Speaker 1: feel like he's interested because he keeps messaging me, but 613 00:33:58,080 --> 00:34:00,520 Speaker 1: none of the messages have been super flirtation, just either. 614 00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:03,200 Speaker 1: Do you think he would be messaging me if he 615 00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:05,800 Speaker 1: wasn't interested. Help. I've never talked to a guy through 616 00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:10,080 Speaker 1: social media like this before, so I don't know what's normal. Ps. 617 00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:13,320 Speaker 1: I know Dean comes into studio after you, guys, so 618 00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:15,239 Speaker 1: would be interesting to hear what he has to say 619 00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:18,440 Speaker 1: as well. Well. Two birds with one stone this is perfect. 620 00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:22,960 Speaker 1: And also I guess the guy is a doctor. She said, PPS, 621 00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:25,439 Speaker 1: he's a doctor. Good for him. So he's a keeper, 622 00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:29,600 Speaker 1: is what he's saying. Doctor in a brewery is pretty 623 00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:36,239 Speaker 1: much alright. My My advice is that because it's kind 624 00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:37,960 Speaker 1: of what I have done in the past as well, 625 00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:42,040 Speaker 1: is by responding to the Instagram stories or whatever it is. 626 00:34:42,239 --> 00:34:43,520 Speaker 1: I think what he's trying to do is open a 627 00:34:43,560 --> 00:34:46,719 Speaker 1: dialogue and like have a conversation. And I mean I 628 00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:48,560 Speaker 1: think I talked even with you about this, Like, I 629 00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:50,759 Speaker 1: don't if I'm interested in someone, I won't like ask 630 00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:52,839 Speaker 1: them to hang out, but I would like to build 631 00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:55,319 Speaker 1: a rapport with them beforehand. And then if the girl 632 00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:57,239 Speaker 1: takes the initiative to ask me out, I think that's 633 00:34:57,239 --> 00:34:59,320 Speaker 1: all the better. So if this girl, in my opinion, 634 00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:01,359 Speaker 1: it sounds like he likes her and like he's trying 635 00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:04,120 Speaker 1: to talk to her. He's like he's almost like finding 636 00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:06,200 Speaker 1: things to talk to her about. You know, why don't 637 00:35:06,239 --> 00:35:09,279 Speaker 1: you Why don't you ask girls out? Why don't you 638 00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:12,759 Speaker 1: make the initiative? I think that I don't know. I 639 00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:16,560 Speaker 1: don't want to be too presumptuous by asking someone out, 640 00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:18,279 Speaker 1: you know, And though it might be able to have 641 00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:22,080 Speaker 1: casual conversation, maybe like get like a an ongoing inside 642 00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:27,120 Speaker 1: joke between the two of you, guys, I can't. I can't, Okay, 643 00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:29,840 Speaker 1: So what if she's like old fashioned is just waiting 644 00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:31,760 Speaker 1: for you to make the move. You'll just dance around 645 00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:34,759 Speaker 1: each other for ever. I mean, I think that there's 646 00:35:34,760 --> 00:35:36,640 Speaker 1: a timeline to it. I don't know exactly what it is, 647 00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:39,000 Speaker 1: but if it's taking forever, do you make a move? 648 00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:44,359 Speaker 1: I personally, I'm sure that I have. I would say 649 00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:46,600 Speaker 1: that it's not the majority of what I do, though, 650 00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:49,279 Speaker 1: it's so interesting to me, you know what. I am 651 00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:52,000 Speaker 1: glad that we do ask a guy, because I would 652 00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:55,319 Speaker 1: never think that. Okay, but here's the thing. Dean has 653 00:35:55,560 --> 00:36:03,919 Speaker 1: girls like just messing. He literally left and right girl, Dean, Yes, 654 00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:06,279 Speaker 1: it is because like the messages I get that are 655 00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:09,200 Speaker 1: like introduced me to Dean, like it's crazy, he doesn't 656 00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:11,879 Speaker 1: have to do anything. See, girls are making this so 657 00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:16,320 Speaker 1: easy for you. We're actually enabling you. I say, we, 658 00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:19,400 Speaker 1: not me. The woman is able to take the initiative 659 00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:21,799 Speaker 1: and make that happen. I'm sure on the flip side, 660 00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:24,000 Speaker 1: if a girl finds it more appealing when a guy 661 00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:26,400 Speaker 1: does it. But I'm just saying, from my perspective, totally 662 00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:30,359 Speaker 1: very interesting. Well, you know what, Dean, I took the 663 00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:33,000 Speaker 1: bull by the horn and I did the I did 664 00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:35,480 Speaker 1: the first move this past weekend. So I feel like 665 00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:37,440 Speaker 1: you'd be really proud of me. Wait, let me hear 666 00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:40,000 Speaker 1: the story talked about it. Yeah, we already talked about 667 00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:42,719 Speaker 1: the cliff notes version. I met a guy and I 668 00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:44,279 Speaker 1: guess I kind of turned him down because he tried 669 00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:46,320 Speaker 1: to like get in touch with me via Facebook or Instagram, 670 00:36:46,360 --> 00:36:50,160 Speaker 1: and I was kind of being like, right, sounds like yeah, 671 00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:52,200 Speaker 1: and um, so I said, you know what, I kind 672 00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:53,960 Speaker 1: of like this guy. I ended up finding his number 673 00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:57,480 Speaker 1: and I texted him and we're potentially gonna get drinks 674 00:36:57,480 --> 00:37:00,239 Speaker 1: this week. And how do you feel about it? Like, 675 00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:02,960 Speaker 1: you do you feel different about if he were to 676 00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:05,879 Speaker 1: ask you. I feel empowered and I feel alive. I'm 677 00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:08,520 Speaker 1: just really hoping he makes the plan. Otherwise I'll be sad. 678 00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:12,160 Speaker 1: She feels empowered and alive until nothing happened, Yeah, that 679 00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:15,560 Speaker 1: I'll be sad. So you have settled or you haven't 680 00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:17,480 Speaker 1: settled on a date. We haven't settled on a date. 681 00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:19,399 Speaker 1: So that's it's just kind of I'm waiting for him 682 00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:20,839 Speaker 1: to like make the move. I feel like I gave 683 00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:22,919 Speaker 1: him the handkerchiefs, so now he needs to follow through 684 00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:27,959 Speaker 1: this ankerchief analogy. I don't think it's working. I think 685 00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:30,480 Speaker 1: I think to Lindsay could back to Linday's point, I 686 00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:32,359 Speaker 1: think that she should take the initiative and ask him out, 687 00:37:32,440 --> 00:37:34,520 Speaker 1: especially if he's a doctor. I'm sure he's super busy, 688 00:37:34,920 --> 00:37:37,000 Speaker 1: and it's like it would be refreshing to have someone 689 00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:40,040 Speaker 1: I guess take the initiative on their own part. All right, 690 00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:44,279 Speaker 1: so interesting this really, I'm glad we called Dean. Yeah, well, 691 00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:46,839 Speaker 1: she wanted to hear Dean's opinion, so there. I mean, 692 00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:48,440 Speaker 1: I don't know who she's gonna listen to because I 693 00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:52,440 Speaker 1: have an imposing opinion, but she wanted Dean's opinions, so 694 00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:55,160 Speaker 1: maybe she'll make the move and then they'll be like, 695 00:37:55,920 --> 00:38:00,719 Speaker 1: you know, happily ever after through Dean and Meredith. Yeah, 696 00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:03,239 Speaker 1: I was I was gonna reference it, but I'm like, 697 00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:05,759 Speaker 1: we've referenced Gray so much, so I'm glad you did 698 00:38:05,760 --> 00:38:09,720 Speaker 1: that for us. Thank you, Dean, Thank you as always, 699 00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:18,720 Speaker 1: we love you. That was so it's so interesting, Okay, 700 00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:21,759 Speaker 1: but it's hard. These ask a guy things are difficult 701 00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:25,200 Speaker 1: because everyone doesn't put it into perspective for you, like, 702 00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:28,520 Speaker 1: these are the guys we're dealing with. But this is 703 00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:33,439 Speaker 1: but this Dean is different because he is somewhat he's 704 00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:35,719 Speaker 1: like a boy band, like he's like one direction. The 705 00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:39,719 Speaker 1: girls react literally, the girls that throw themselves at him, 706 00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:41,880 Speaker 1: he doesn't, so for him to have to, I almost 707 00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:43,680 Speaker 1: feel like I want him to meet a girl where 708 00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:46,359 Speaker 1: he has to make the first move or they don't 709 00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:48,120 Speaker 1: like he likes her so much that he has to 710 00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:51,320 Speaker 1: without her making just to like, I feel like guys 711 00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:54,239 Speaker 1: are a little bit more insecure and self conscious than 712 00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:57,319 Speaker 1: we think. You know, they're a little insecure about making 713 00:38:57,360 --> 00:39:01,360 Speaker 1: the first move too. Yeah, I mean everyone insecurities, guys 714 00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:03,640 Speaker 1: and girls. It's like that fear of rejection is a 715 00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:09,160 Speaker 1: human thing, not a gender thing. True. Yeah, becas drop 716 00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:13,560 Speaker 1: in the knowledge today, go ahead and quote tweet me 717 00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:18,760 Speaker 1: on that one. But wow, I mean really interesting advice. 718 00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:23,080 Speaker 1: I know that I would say, what by this loser 719 00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:26,000 Speaker 1: that can't ask you out on a date? You just 720 00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:30,879 Speaker 1: are you kidding me? You've had the exact same he asked. 721 00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:36,480 Speaker 1: You have your own Facebook. It's so bad, I am 722 00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:39,839 Speaker 1: You're all over the place right now because you're like 723 00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:45,920 Speaker 1: your advice is like it's hard because I see I 724 00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:48,520 Speaker 1: see both sides. I see wanting to be pursued, and 725 00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:51,319 Speaker 1: then I see I hear from the deans, and I'm like, 726 00:39:54,480 --> 00:40:00,880 Speaker 1: what if this is the same doctor, that's his move, yeah, 727 00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:08,839 Speaker 1: ask if their own that would be so amazing. Oh 728 00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:14,359 Speaker 1: I wish we had his age. Oh yeah, because there's 729 00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:17,280 Speaker 1: only it and I wonder where she's from. That's okay, 730 00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:19,080 Speaker 1: we don't, I don't. I don't even want to go there. 731 00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:21,160 Speaker 1: If that were the same person, that would really stressed 732 00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:24,600 Speaker 1: me out. For everyone. Okay. So everywhere I've looked on 733 00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:27,320 Speaker 1: social media anywhere, I've seen the fab fit Fun box 734 00:40:27,400 --> 00:40:31,000 Speaker 1: and this winter box that just arrived is by far 735 00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:32,920 Speaker 1: the best one in my opinion. And every time I 736 00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:35,759 Speaker 1: see it, someone showing their favorites off and so I'm like, 737 00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:39,560 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I didn't know that was in it too. Um. 738 00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:42,960 Speaker 1: As you all know, Fatfit Fund is a subscription box 739 00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:46,360 Speaker 1: and it has full size fashion, beauty, fitness, and lifestyle products. 740 00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:49,239 Speaker 1: So you're getting a box and every it's not like 741 00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:54,360 Speaker 1: miniature sample sizes. Everything's full size and you pay each season. 742 00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:57,440 Speaker 1: But each box is a value of over two hundred dollars. 743 00:40:57,520 --> 00:41:00,320 Speaker 1: In the winter box is valued at over three dollars. 744 00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:02,600 Speaker 1: This could be a good gift to you know, I know, 745 00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:05,720 Speaker 1: it was like the gift that keeps on giving all year. Wow, 746 00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:10,239 Speaker 1: so like you're everyone. If you give someone a fab 747 00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:12,400 Speaker 1: Fit Fun box, they're getting a Christmas gift from you 748 00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:16,799 Speaker 1: every season essentially, you know. So we have we have 749 00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:19,560 Speaker 1: the man Crates for the guys. We have fat Fit 750 00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:23,839 Speaker 1: Fun for the girls, or for everyone or for everyone. 751 00:41:24,840 --> 00:41:26,839 Speaker 1: You know what they say, A wise person once said, 752 00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:30,239 Speaker 1: it's not about it's a human thing. It's not a 753 00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:35,880 Speaker 1: gender thing. Thanks for reminding me. All all the boxes, 754 00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:40,040 Speaker 1: all the boxes we have are for everyone. Um. So 755 00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:42,480 Speaker 1: some of the products in the Winter box, the Kate 756 00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:47,440 Speaker 1: Summerville Expolicate Intensive Treatment is something that I've used on 757 00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:49,279 Speaker 1: a regular basis before I even knew that it was 758 00:41:49,280 --> 00:41:53,600 Speaker 1: in this box. Um. There's a Baby Dakota poncho which 759 00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:55,799 Speaker 1: I love. Baby Da Code all their stuff and the 760 00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:59,600 Speaker 1: ponchos are so everyone's been traveling in them and cozing 761 00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:02,279 Speaker 1: up all that the weather is colder. Um. They have 762 00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:07,880 Speaker 1: Point Studio aloe and few socks. Yes, yes, I know. 763 00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:12,680 Speaker 1: They have a Hava mineral hand cream which I have 764 00:42:12,760 --> 00:42:18,440 Speaker 1: that is so good. It's like it's not just like 765 00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:21,880 Speaker 1: hand cream, it's the like deep moisturizing hand cream. And 766 00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:23,600 Speaker 1: you know, I'm obsessed with hand cream. I don't go 767 00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:29,640 Speaker 1: anywhere without hand cream. I don't know why loves hand cream. 768 00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:32,800 Speaker 1: They have homemade by Aisha Curry and it's a little 769 00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:36,319 Speaker 1: mug and it's super cute. And then um, they have 770 00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:38,280 Speaker 1: a ton of other stuff. I've seen so many people. 771 00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:42,359 Speaker 1: Is lavender spray in there? Yeah? Lavender spray. I've been 772 00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:47,600 Speaker 1: using this every night. It is divine. I don't know 773 00:42:47,680 --> 00:42:51,120 Speaker 1: what it does, but it's the most soothing sent to 774 00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:53,800 Speaker 1: fall asleep too. It's supposed to give you more RESTful sleep, 775 00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:55,759 Speaker 1: and it has been doing me wonders. I need that 776 00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:58,920 Speaker 1: because I've not been sleeping restled. For Thanksgiving, I was like, 777 00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:01,320 Speaker 1: I'm gonna take this to my parents house. I love it. 778 00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:04,080 Speaker 1: Oh good? Yeah, so happy you're happy with your fabbit 779 00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:06,880 Speaker 1: fun box? Um okay, So all of the products we 780 00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:11,120 Speaker 1: listed and more and it's only but for you, it's 781 00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:13,480 Speaker 1: even less. Go to fab fit fun dot com and 782 00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:16,040 Speaker 1: these promo code Becca to get ten dollars off the 783 00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:19,160 Speaker 1: winter box. That's fab fit fun dot com. And don't 784 00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:25,400 Speaker 1: forget the promo code Becca. Um okay, yeah, I'm excited 785 00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:33,640 Speaker 1: about that. Bango, Hey everybody, bigg eas here. It's been 786 00:43:33,680 --> 00:43:37,360 Speaker 1: a while. Is that supposed to be a joke on 787 00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:49,759 Speaker 1: my name. Oh sure, yeah, good one. I'm in right now. 788 00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:52,239 Speaker 1: It sounds like you're in like a gymnasium right now. 789 00:43:54,080 --> 00:44:02,000 Speaker 1: Oh h we lost him. You didn't like that. Okay, 790 00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:03,839 Speaker 1: let's just preview it with this word while we try 791 00:44:03,880 --> 00:44:07,560 Speaker 1: to call him back. Hi, Baca, Tanya, Amy and Mark 792 00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:11,840 Speaker 1: and everyone else Easton. I haven't asked a guy question 793 00:44:11,880 --> 00:44:13,920 Speaker 1: that I hope you all can answer or get answered. 794 00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:17,120 Speaker 1: I'm single now after a really hard break up and 795 00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:20,399 Speaker 1: feeling ready to get back on the scene finally. When 796 00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:22,200 Speaker 1: I was first single, I was on dating apps and 797 00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:24,080 Speaker 1: ran into a few guys I knew from high school 798 00:44:24,120 --> 00:44:26,320 Speaker 1: that I always thought were attractive, and ended up hooking 799 00:44:26,440 --> 00:44:28,880 Speaker 1: up with two of them. After a few months by myself, 800 00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:31,560 Speaker 1: I went back on one of the apps out of 801 00:44:31,600 --> 00:44:35,000 Speaker 1: boredom preach and matched with another guy from my high 802 00:44:35,040 --> 00:44:37,320 Speaker 1: school who I never really knew back in the day, 803 00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:39,880 Speaker 1: but who I was actually always interested in. This sounds 804 00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:42,560 Speaker 1: really pathetic, weird, but bear with me. I'm interested in 805 00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:44,839 Speaker 1: getting to know him, and he seemed interested in me too. 806 00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:47,560 Speaker 1: We even exchange numbers. Nothing ever came of it, and 807 00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:49,359 Speaker 1: I can't help but wonder if it's because he heard 808 00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:51,399 Speaker 1: from those other two guys, by the way, they are 809 00:44:51,480 --> 00:44:56,120 Speaker 1: his friends, that we've slept together. Basically, my question is, 810 00:44:56,320 --> 00:44:58,320 Speaker 1: do you guys care if a girl they may be 811 00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:00,560 Speaker 1: interested in has slept with their friends in the past. 812 00:45:00,760 --> 00:45:02,879 Speaker 1: Should I even attempt to ask this guy out for real? 813 00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:06,160 Speaker 1: Or just leave all? Leave it all entirely in the past. 814 00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:11,440 Speaker 1: Thank you all, Ben. This is interesting, Ben, because I 815 00:45:11,480 --> 00:45:14,479 Speaker 1: think the answer is different. Oh he's back. I think 816 00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:16,800 Speaker 1: that the answer is different for men and for women 817 00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:19,160 Speaker 1: on this Okay, okay, Ben, we have a we have 818 00:45:19,239 --> 00:45:22,239 Speaker 1: it before you drop again. We have an email from 819 00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:24,400 Speaker 1: a listener and I'm going to just sum it up 820 00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:27,840 Speaker 1: with her question. Yeah, do guys care if a girl 821 00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:30,160 Speaker 1: they may be interested in has slept with their friends 822 00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:32,480 Speaker 1: in the past. Should I even attempt to ask this 823 00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:34,719 Speaker 1: guy out for real? Or just leave all, leave it 824 00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:39,520 Speaker 1: all entirely in the past. Um? Yeah, I'd say they 825 00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:42,360 Speaker 1: probably care. I hate to say that because I'd like 826 00:45:42,440 --> 00:45:44,879 Speaker 1: to I like to tell myself that you know, your 827 00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:49,120 Speaker 1: past doesn't affect the present, but I think I definitely 828 00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:54,680 Speaker 1: think it does. Um. Mostly just don't in all. Honestly, 829 00:45:54,800 --> 00:45:56,319 Speaker 1: I don't know if this is a good or bad thing. 830 00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:59,160 Speaker 1: But I can just I think I'm too prideful, and 831 00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:01,840 Speaker 1: I think I could see it being if you have 832 00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:05,040 Speaker 1: some like more douche baggy friends, like they would always 833 00:46:05,200 --> 00:46:09,959 Speaker 1: hold that over your head for those are really bad friends. No, yeah, 834 00:46:09,960 --> 00:46:11,680 Speaker 1: I would think so, but I think like a lot 835 00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:14,440 Speaker 1: of guys out there just don't respect that, and I 836 00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:16,400 Speaker 1: think they would say I think they would talk about 837 00:46:16,440 --> 00:46:18,840 Speaker 1: it or bring it up, but I just don't think. 838 00:46:20,480 --> 00:46:22,400 Speaker 1: I only that's right, but I feel like in the 839 00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:24,200 Speaker 1: back of my head it would just always be there. 840 00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:27,480 Speaker 1: M m. Yeah, that's interesting. You can see that. So 841 00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:33,279 Speaker 1: you having been on the Bachelorette where like I guess 842 00:46:33,320 --> 00:46:35,520 Speaker 1: you're not friends, but kind of your friends are, like 843 00:46:35,640 --> 00:46:39,560 Speaker 1: you know, the people that you're she's also dating. Would 844 00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:43,240 Speaker 1: that have bothered you if you had ended up with Caitlin. Oh, 845 00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:48,560 Speaker 1: that's a good question, um, Or would you have been 846 00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:51,759 Speaker 1: able to like, because you're killing me here, I'd like 847 00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:53,800 Speaker 1: to say that you can look past it and that scenario. 848 00:46:53,920 --> 00:46:55,520 Speaker 1: Now I'm going back on what I just said. Yeah, 849 00:46:55,520 --> 00:46:59,560 Speaker 1: I'd like to think just because during that the bachelor, 850 00:46:59,600 --> 00:47:02,040 Speaker 1: like it is so expedited and you are trying to 851 00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:05,600 Speaker 1: figure something out that is a lifelong commitment, and if 852 00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:08,080 Speaker 1: that is something that's important to you before you make 853 00:47:08,120 --> 00:47:12,280 Speaker 1: that commitment, then I could see people, you know, stepping 854 00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:14,040 Speaker 1: into that and being physical with each other and then 855 00:47:14,080 --> 00:47:16,839 Speaker 1: afterwards saying, yeah, like I've realized through that that I'm 856 00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:19,520 Speaker 1: in love with this other person. And I think then 857 00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:22,280 Speaker 1: as that just because you're just because of the situation 858 00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:25,040 Speaker 1: you're in. Maybe I don't want to say a double stand, 859 00:47:25,080 --> 00:47:27,520 Speaker 1: but maybe it is like maybe just the Bachelor is 860 00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:30,840 Speaker 1: a unique position that you have to move on and 861 00:47:30,880 --> 00:47:34,400 Speaker 1: move forward because that person shows you. I always thought 862 00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:38,160 Speaker 1: like there's no better compliment, I think, and on the 863 00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:40,799 Speaker 1: Bachelor when you get down on one d at the end, 864 00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:43,799 Speaker 1: because you're saying from all these beautiful people that data 865 00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:47,040 Speaker 1: always really interesting, cool, exciting people, that we've gone these 866 00:47:47,040 --> 00:47:49,759 Speaker 1: great dates together, I'm choosing you because you're the one 867 00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:51,920 Speaker 1: that I love and we're going to start this together. 868 00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:55,160 Speaker 1: But in that it's a there is a journey, there 869 00:47:55,280 --> 00:47:57,879 Speaker 1: is a story that has to unfold, and and part 870 00:47:57,880 --> 00:48:01,239 Speaker 1: of that story is I think getting too you know, 871 00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:05,799 Speaker 1: I know the other people physically right, Yeah, they don't 872 00:48:05,880 --> 00:48:07,320 Speaker 1: get it to double stinging. I just I mean, I 873 00:48:07,840 --> 00:48:09,920 Speaker 1: know what I just said earlier was that it would 874 00:48:10,040 --> 00:48:15,280 Speaker 1: it would bother me, or would bother most men. I think, um, 875 00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:18,040 Speaker 1: but maybe, you know, maybe if I think it all 876 00:48:18,080 --> 00:48:20,120 Speaker 1: comes back to communication. If you can communicate and you 877 00:48:20,120 --> 00:48:22,760 Speaker 1: can explain, and you can say, hey, you know, this happened. 878 00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:25,000 Speaker 1: Maybe I don't regret it, but it happened, and now 879 00:48:25,040 --> 00:48:27,160 Speaker 1: I want to invest in you in our relationship and 880 00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:29,160 Speaker 1: move on past that. Will you forgive me for that 881 00:48:29,520 --> 00:48:31,600 Speaker 1: and for and kind of forget it? I think that 882 00:48:31,680 --> 00:48:33,360 Speaker 1: actually I think you can move on, But I do 883 00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:37,080 Speaker 1: think it would. That's conversation need to take place. Yeah, yeah, 884 00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:40,080 Speaker 1: I agree. I mean because I dated someone who had 885 00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:43,879 Speaker 1: relationship with one of my friends and it was book 886 00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:46,480 Speaker 1: a first hander right here. It was like a lot 887 00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:49,800 Speaker 1: of communication about it, Like because I would have feelings 888 00:48:50,520 --> 00:48:53,920 Speaker 1: that I did a long time. Yeah, I would too. 889 00:48:55,160 --> 00:48:57,680 Speaker 1: That is such a good question though, I mean, I mean, 890 00:48:58,040 --> 00:49:00,279 Speaker 1: you know now that when you asked me, I wasn't 891 00:49:00,280 --> 00:49:02,399 Speaker 1: prepared to answer it. But now that I'm going through 892 00:49:02,400 --> 00:49:05,560 Speaker 1: my head and thinking, it's just life is so weird, 893 00:49:05,560 --> 00:49:08,560 Speaker 1: and life is tough, and relationships are hard, and we 894 00:49:08,640 --> 00:49:10,200 Speaker 1: all have our past and we all have the things 895 00:49:10,239 --> 00:49:13,240 Speaker 1: we've done, and I just think when you enter into relationship, 896 00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:15,920 Speaker 1: you're both kind of throwing up the white plague and saying, 897 00:49:15,920 --> 00:49:17,719 Speaker 1: you know, I surrender to all the things I've done 898 00:49:17,719 --> 00:49:20,160 Speaker 1: in the past. I starnder all the mistakes I've made. 899 00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:21,920 Speaker 1: Or maybe they're not mistakes, maybe they're just things that 900 00:49:21,960 --> 00:49:24,719 Speaker 1: have happened. But it's led me to you. And now 901 00:49:24,760 --> 00:49:26,120 Speaker 1: that it's led me to you, how are we going 902 00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:28,440 Speaker 1: to move forward and make this the best and healthiest 903 00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:31,959 Speaker 1: relationship aside from all the other craziness has taken place 904 00:49:31,960 --> 00:49:33,960 Speaker 1: in our lives. And I think that's so important. But 905 00:49:34,120 --> 00:49:36,440 Speaker 1: I do believe that that could be a great foundation 906 00:49:36,480 --> 00:49:38,480 Speaker 1: to the rest of your life. Well you know what 907 00:49:38,520 --> 00:49:41,320 Speaker 1: the rascal flots say? What do they say? God bless 908 00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:49,480 Speaker 1: the broken road? That should we get Should we get 909 00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:52,640 Speaker 1: some deal breakers from Ben before we get them offline? Oh? Yeah, 910 00:49:52,920 --> 00:49:54,920 Speaker 1: we want to. We we have some deal breakers. We 911 00:49:54,960 --> 00:49:56,640 Speaker 1: want to ask you if these are deal breakers for 912 00:49:56,680 --> 00:49:58,920 Speaker 1: you in a relationship. Please I would love to hear them, 913 00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:02,200 Speaker 1: because we feel like they're they're very different. Um amongst 914 00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:08,080 Speaker 1: the genders. Okay, she doesn't cook, No, I love the cooks. 915 00:50:08,239 --> 00:50:14,319 Speaker 1: A deal breaker bad in bed um? Honestly, no, it's 916 00:50:14,320 --> 00:50:18,560 Speaker 1: not because I think I don't even know what that means, honestly, 917 00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:21,799 Speaker 1: Like what does that mean? Like they're not like they 918 00:50:21,840 --> 00:50:26,239 Speaker 1: don't have like like they're not bendy. Just kidding, I 919 00:50:26,239 --> 00:50:32,839 Speaker 1: don't I don't know. Uh No, I really don't think 920 00:50:32,840 --> 00:50:35,160 Speaker 1: it should deal breaker because I and this. It's just 921 00:50:35,800 --> 00:50:37,719 Speaker 1: I think if you find the right person, then it 922 00:50:37,760 --> 00:50:41,200 Speaker 1: will be what I always argue that too. I think 923 00:50:41,480 --> 00:50:47,680 Speaker 1: to U low libido, bendy, I kicked it over, not bendy, 924 00:50:47,800 --> 00:50:52,880 Speaker 1: uh low libido. Um yeah, yeah, I would think it 925 00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:55,320 Speaker 1: would be like in a long term relationship, just because 926 00:50:55,640 --> 00:50:58,760 Speaker 1: you don't want to constantly feel self conscious of yourself, 927 00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:00,759 Speaker 1: like if you're in a mirror. If you're married and 928 00:51:01,239 --> 00:51:03,359 Speaker 1: you want your wife for in my case, a wife 929 00:51:03,360 --> 00:51:04,839 Speaker 1: would be come onto me, and I want to come 930 00:51:04,880 --> 00:51:07,000 Speaker 1: on to her, and we want to have that spicy, 931 00:51:07,160 --> 00:51:10,839 Speaker 1: you know, sex life. Then if she's like constantly turned 932 00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:13,719 Speaker 1: me down, I think I'd get really confused. Yeah, yeah, 933 00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:20,440 Speaker 1: that would be tough. Um bad personal hygiene. Um yeah, 934 00:51:20,760 --> 00:51:22,479 Speaker 1: it would be a deal breaker if they weren't willing 935 00:51:22,480 --> 00:51:25,319 Speaker 1: to work on it. That could gives this look on 936 00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:28,400 Speaker 1: the personal hygiene that I dated a guy with halitosis 937 00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:30,279 Speaker 1: and I had to say past it because he was 938 00:51:30,320 --> 00:51:34,960 Speaker 1: such an amazing guy. Can ended up not working out. However, 939 00:51:36,120 --> 00:51:39,480 Speaker 1: the heletoss was not the It was not the deal breaker. 940 00:51:40,760 --> 00:51:45,840 Speaker 1: I mean I cannot imagine like past dealing with that 941 00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:49,239 Speaker 1: every day. I can't either talk about love lobido, I 942 00:51:49,280 --> 00:51:53,560 Speaker 1: mean restl I'm like not touching you. Yeah, I mean 943 00:51:53,600 --> 00:51:56,080 Speaker 1: there's always instances where your frestonal is like everybody has 944 00:51:56,160 --> 00:51:58,840 Speaker 1: that going on. But if it's just a constant like 945 00:51:59,160 --> 00:52:00,960 Speaker 1: thing where every time time they open up their mouth, 946 00:52:01,040 --> 00:52:03,360 Speaker 1: you're like a little bit thrown back, Like how in 947 00:52:03,400 --> 00:52:05,919 Speaker 1: the world are you investing? Are like going deeper into 948 00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:08,920 Speaker 1: that relationship? I could not agree more. Okay, she doesn't 949 00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:12,919 Speaker 1: want kids, Yeah, deal breaker, Definitely. I want kids so bad. 950 00:52:13,360 --> 00:52:19,439 Speaker 1: She's an atheist deal breaker for me, Yeah, thank you. Yeah. 951 00:52:19,600 --> 00:52:23,040 Speaker 1: Mostly because my faith and my belief in God is 952 00:52:23,080 --> 00:52:25,799 Speaker 1: so strong. I believe in Jesus and I believe in 953 00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:28,880 Speaker 1: what He's done, and my whole life is based on that. 954 00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:31,320 Speaker 1: Like when I have troubles or when I have issues, 955 00:52:31,440 --> 00:52:33,400 Speaker 1: or when things are bothering me, like that's where my 956 00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:36,680 Speaker 1: foundation lies. And if I constantly need to be explaining 957 00:52:36,680 --> 00:52:40,400 Speaker 1: myself and defending myself against my faith, which is my foundation, 958 00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:42,560 Speaker 1: Like it would be it would be hard. I've dated 959 00:52:42,560 --> 00:52:44,839 Speaker 1: people that don't that don't believe the same thing I do, 960 00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:48,680 Speaker 1: and they're great people and I love them dearly, but um, 961 00:52:48,719 --> 00:52:50,920 Speaker 1: we just will constantly never on the same page. Like 962 00:52:50,960 --> 00:52:53,600 Speaker 1: there was just an understanding. I have this debate. This 963 00:52:53,680 --> 00:52:55,080 Speaker 1: was like two weeks ago, when out with the guy 964 00:52:55,360 --> 00:52:58,080 Speaker 1: and he was atheist, and Mark was trying to convince 965 00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:00,200 Speaker 1: me to give it another shot, and I said not 966 00:53:00,200 --> 00:53:02,240 Speaker 1: as a deal breaker for me, like that's my whole life. 967 00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:06,480 Speaker 1: I can't. Why would I even entertain a second date. Yeah, 968 00:53:06,520 --> 00:53:08,399 Speaker 1: I mean it's it's kind of I would just it's 969 00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:12,240 Speaker 1: it's so much of my identity and so I couldn't. 970 00:53:12,640 --> 00:53:14,360 Speaker 1: I just didn't want to. I wouldn't want to hide that, 971 00:53:14,440 --> 00:53:17,560 Speaker 1: and I would want to actually grow in that. I think. 972 00:53:17,719 --> 00:53:20,359 Speaker 1: I also wasn't opposed to you having the second date 973 00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:23,359 Speaker 1: because I was interested in like hearing more about it. 974 00:53:23,440 --> 00:53:25,360 Speaker 1: I know, if you could have gone deeper into that. 975 00:53:25,440 --> 00:53:27,960 Speaker 1: I was a really nice guy, but I just was like, 976 00:53:28,000 --> 00:53:30,920 Speaker 1: there's no point and there was not enough otherwise for 977 00:53:30,960 --> 00:53:33,600 Speaker 1: you to be too interested. Okay, And finally she hates 978 00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:38,000 Speaker 1: the Chicago Cubs. Well deal breaker, absolute deal breaker, not 979 00:53:38,120 --> 00:53:42,799 Speaker 1: at off. I actually really liked um so in my 980 00:53:42,880 --> 00:53:47,200 Speaker 1: past relationship we did we'd like two different basketball teams, 981 00:53:47,200 --> 00:53:49,320 Speaker 1: and it caused for a lot of fun because we'd 982 00:53:49,320 --> 00:53:51,480 Speaker 1: watch games when they played each other and you'd kind 983 00:53:51,480 --> 00:53:53,560 Speaker 1: of like if you're and argue and yelled the screen, 984 00:53:53,600 --> 00:53:56,000 Speaker 1: and then you know, we could we would constantly charing 985 00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:57,640 Speaker 1: for different things, which added like a little bit of 986 00:53:57,680 --> 00:53:59,600 Speaker 1: tension our relationship, which is actually kind of fun. And 987 00:53:59,600 --> 00:54:02,600 Speaker 1: if I yeah and so, I mean I would if 988 00:54:02,640 --> 00:54:07,520 Speaker 1: he doesn't want to go to cut games, I mean, yeah, 989 00:54:08,239 --> 00:54:11,279 Speaker 1: a little healthy tension. Name I know, I like that competition. 990 00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:14,640 Speaker 1: I think that's fine. These are great questions. By the way, 991 00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:17,000 Speaker 1: you do a great together. This is a really good podcast. 992 00:54:18,840 --> 00:54:22,239 Speaker 1: You always know what to say. No, you really are 993 00:54:22,360 --> 00:54:24,759 Speaker 1: You're good. This is fun And I could play this 994 00:54:24,760 --> 00:54:27,560 Speaker 1: game all the time. You're making me think, Okay, we'll 995 00:54:27,640 --> 00:54:29,720 Speaker 1: keep you in we'll keep you in mind for our future. 996 00:54:29,760 --> 00:54:32,160 Speaker 1: Asking guys thinking a lot. We've been thinking a lot today. 997 00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:34,960 Speaker 1: I feel like we've come to a lot of big conclusions. Yeah, 998 00:54:35,000 --> 00:54:37,560 Speaker 1: it's been very it's been a Eureka, it's been a Eureka, 999 00:54:37,600 --> 00:54:40,520 Speaker 1: our for sure, Ben, I'm so glad we got you 1000 00:54:40,560 --> 00:54:44,800 Speaker 1: back on the phone. It was truly truly our pleasure, 1001 00:54:44,920 --> 00:54:49,000 Speaker 1: pleasure having you. I couldn't think of the words. Alright, well, 1002 00:54:51,080 --> 00:54:55,439 Speaker 1: same to you, been by bye? Have a same flight? 1003 00:54:55,680 --> 00:54:57,920 Speaker 1: Is that where he's going? Is gonna well he's in 1004 00:54:57,960 --> 00:55:04,440 Speaker 1: there for he's going somewhere. Um wait, okay, I was 1005 00:55:04,440 --> 00:55:06,919 Speaker 1: gonna say, please, don't tell me we're out of time 1006 00:55:06,960 --> 00:55:10,319 Speaker 1: for this. Okay, Okay, I know Tanya. Tanya isn't a rush, 1007 00:55:10,360 --> 00:55:13,480 Speaker 1: but it's fast. It's like two seconds. Okay, Tanny is 1008 00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:17,040 Speaker 1: trying to leave me, but we're doing the Gray's anatomy quiz. 1009 00:55:17,160 --> 00:55:19,080 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to leave you. You're trying to know 1010 00:55:19,200 --> 00:55:21,720 Speaker 1: you're trying, all right, So here's how it's gonna work. Okay, 1011 00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:23,719 Speaker 1: we'renn have time to go first, so I'm not throwing 1012 00:55:23,760 --> 00:55:26,080 Speaker 1: it out there was too confusing. So one at a time. 1013 00:55:26,120 --> 00:55:28,880 Speaker 1: But if you don't get it or get it wrong, 1014 00:55:29,120 --> 00:55:31,680 Speaker 1: the other person can steal. How is there a time 1015 00:55:31,680 --> 00:55:34,680 Speaker 1: frame though they have a certain amount of time to answer. Sure, 1016 00:55:34,680 --> 00:55:36,759 Speaker 1: we'll give you ten seconds to answer the question. How 1017 00:55:36,760 --> 00:55:41,920 Speaker 1: do we how are we timing that? Do I do it. Okay, okay, okay, 1018 00:55:42,200 --> 00:55:45,480 Speaker 1: I'm just really nervous. First is going first because she's 1019 00:55:45,480 --> 00:55:54,120 Speaker 1: technically a guest Specta's podcast. Just ask man Crates, Yeah, Kanye. 1020 00:55:54,200 --> 00:56:04,680 Speaker 1: Question number one, name Meredith's three children Zola and uh Bailey? 1021 00:56:05,200 --> 00:56:09,920 Speaker 1: Zola Bailey and she had three I can't remember the 1022 00:56:10,000 --> 00:56:20,680 Speaker 1: last dame Zola Bailey And all right for the steel? Becca, 1023 00:56:22,760 --> 00:56:33,080 Speaker 1: Zola Bailey and Bailey? Yeah, what happened? And Christopher ellis 1024 00:56:35,080 --> 00:56:40,920 Speaker 1: well they never referenced this child? Alright, Becca? How did 1025 00:56:40,920 --> 00:56:47,279 Speaker 1: Addison find out Derek was cheating? Oh? Richard called her 1026 00:56:49,920 --> 00:56:53,319 Speaker 1: tin you for the steel. She only found out when 1027 00:56:53,360 --> 00:56:56,640 Speaker 1: she showed up to get him back when she found 1028 00:56:56,640 --> 00:57:01,680 Speaker 1: the women's panties in his pocket. Oh interesting, Oh wait, 1029 00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:03,840 Speaker 1: you didn't mean initially you meant that was in the 1030 00:57:04,320 --> 00:57:06,840 Speaker 1: when they were in the on call room at prom. 1031 00:57:06,920 --> 00:57:10,640 Speaker 1: That was like because she didn't know, she didn't know. Whatever, 1032 00:57:10,760 --> 00:57:14,319 Speaker 1: we missed it. Next question, this is yours technical. Who 1033 00:57:14,360 --> 00:57:20,520 Speaker 1: is Sophia's father? Who is Sophia's father? It is Dr 1034 00:57:20,840 --> 00:57:25,200 Speaker 1: Mixed Teamy. His name is Eric Dane and his that's him. 1035 00:57:25,440 --> 00:57:30,200 Speaker 1: But what's his character's name? Oh, doctor Sloan, very good? 1036 00:57:30,240 --> 00:57:33,120 Speaker 1: That is one point for time. Everything I know except 1037 00:57:33,160 --> 00:57:38,480 Speaker 1: for the one Rebecca named April and Jackson's two kids 1038 00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:40,880 Speaker 1: I don't know have two kids. Oh, I see this 1039 00:57:40,960 --> 00:57:45,400 Speaker 1: is the son that didn't make it. His name was 1040 00:57:46,760 --> 00:57:50,960 Speaker 1: Jackson Jr. T for the Steel. I think his name 1041 00:57:51,000 --> 00:57:55,280 Speaker 1: was going to be Matthew. That was her exit. Samuel 1042 00:57:55,360 --> 00:57:58,000 Speaker 1: and Harry Samuel I knew. I wouldn't have guessed Harriet, 1043 00:57:58,000 --> 00:58:00,280 Speaker 1: but I knew Samuel all right. A couple more their 1044 00:58:00,320 --> 00:58:03,680 Speaker 1: actual child I know. Let's review the scar. Tanya has one. 1045 00:58:03,880 --> 00:58:07,040 Speaker 1: Becca has zero. I've never been so disappointed myself. Tanya, 1046 00:58:07,080 --> 00:58:10,160 Speaker 1: you'll get this one. I think he's a random In 1047 00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:15,560 Speaker 1: season six, see Illa Grace merged with what hospital Seato 1048 00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:20,600 Speaker 1: Grace they merged with Mercy West. Her questions are way 1049 00:58:20,640 --> 00:58:24,120 Speaker 1: easier than mine. It's m I know. I'm just telling you. 1050 00:58:25,240 --> 00:58:27,240 Speaker 1: This is for you, Becca, And if you don't get this, 1051 00:58:27,280 --> 00:58:29,400 Speaker 1: Tany is the winner. She's already I think, going to 1052 00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:30,800 Speaker 1: be the winner if I don't get If you get it, 1053 00:58:30,800 --> 00:58:33,600 Speaker 1: we'll add another one. Denny missed getting on the top 1054 00:58:33,640 --> 00:58:37,840 Speaker 1: of the transplant list by how many seconds? You know? 1055 00:58:37,920 --> 00:58:49,080 Speaker 1: Tany has watched this episode so many times? Six gets 1056 00:58:49,080 --> 00:58:52,400 Speaker 1: to text whatever she wants from Becca's phone next week. Okay, 1057 00:58:54,600 --> 00:58:56,200 Speaker 1: give me a whole week to think of who I 1058 00:58:56,240 --> 00:58:58,840 Speaker 1: want to text and what I want to text them. 1059 00:58:59,120 --> 00:59:02,640 Speaker 1: Just remember going to play this game multiple times, and 1060 00:59:02,680 --> 00:59:07,600 Speaker 1: so if you start a Awara Karma, Taylor Swift believes 1061 00:59:07,600 --> 00:59:11,240 Speaker 1: in Karen So do I all right? This is good? 1062 00:59:11,440 --> 00:59:14,440 Speaker 1: Everything too that I text this is yeah. I hate this. 1063 00:59:14,520 --> 00:59:16,760 Speaker 1: Actually I totally thought I was gonna win that, and 1064 00:59:16,760 --> 00:59:20,080 Speaker 1: I'm very just I'm gonna start just like reading Grey's Anatomy, 1065 00:59:20,440 --> 00:59:25,120 Speaker 1: like trivia, just to never lose. Um. Thank you to 1066 00:59:25,240 --> 00:59:28,160 Speaker 1: my Mike. I would just like our listeners if they 1067 00:59:28,200 --> 00:59:30,720 Speaker 1: have suggestions of anything that I who I could text 1068 00:59:30,760 --> 00:59:32,880 Speaker 1: from Becca's phone or what I could text them, please 1069 00:59:32,960 --> 00:59:37,880 Speaker 1: let us know. Wow, you're so evil. UM wrapping it up. 1070 00:59:38,240 --> 00:59:40,840 Speaker 1: Thank you to Mike, Dean and Ben for being our 1071 00:59:41,000 --> 00:59:46,360 Speaker 1: wonderful ask a Guy advice givers. And UM, please keep 1072 00:59:46,400 --> 00:59:48,680 Speaker 1: the emails coming. This is so fun for us to read. 1073 00:59:48,920 --> 00:59:52,120 Speaker 1: Email us at scrubbing in iHeart media dot com. Um, 1074 00:59:52,160 --> 00:59:55,160 Speaker 1: Tany is gonna plot what she's gonna text and who 1075 00:59:55,160 --> 00:59:57,640 Speaker 1: she's going to text from my phone next week. I'm 1076 00:59:57,680 --> 01:00:00,240 Speaker 1: also going to do the same thing because We're going 1077 01:00:00,320 --> 01:00:01,920 Speaker 1: to do this game again, and I'm going to do 1078 01:00:01,960 --> 01:00:04,080 Speaker 1: it on the spot, okay, and then hopefully we'll have 1079 01:00:04,120 --> 01:00:07,920 Speaker 1: an update on Dr Slava. Yeah, hopefully we haven't. Slavin's 1080 01:00:08,000 --> 01:00:13,400 Speaker 1: on so much like Saliva when you say, um, we'll 1081 01:00:13,440 --> 01:00:19,320 Speaker 1: talk to you next week. Stay bendy. Everybody, time of 1082 01:00:19,400 --> 01:00:25,600 Speaker 1: death is do you want to call it? Yeah? P 1083 01:00:25,840 --> 01:00:32,400 Speaker 1: m oh good