WEBVTT - Surprising Postpartum Symptoms 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:08.440 Oh baby, my baby, belof I need you, Oh how 0:00:08.760 --> 0:00:12.680 I need you? What do you you expect? As a production 0:00:12.920 --> 0:00:16.520 of I Heart Radio, I'm your host, Heiny Murkoff, and 0:00:16.720 --> 0:00:19.560 I'm a mom on a mission, a mission to help 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:26.800 you know what to expect every step of the way. Congratulations, 0:00:26.840 --> 0:00:30.680 The heavy lift of pregnancy and the possibly even heavier 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:34.920 lift of labor and delivery is over and now comes 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:38.920 the easy lift. Instead of carting around a watermelon sized belly, 0:00:39.320 --> 0:00:42.720 you get to snuggle your tiny bundle of joy and 0:00:42.880 --> 0:00:48.120 savor that fresh baby sweetness and e l c figure 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:50.959 out how to pee again, why your feet are so 0:00:51.080 --> 0:00:55.600 puffy and why that nurse keeps coming into your room 0:00:55.600 --> 0:01:00.840 pumping on your poor aching belly and calling it uterine massage. 0:01:01.280 --> 0:01:04.360 Even if you sail through pregnancy and have the easiest 0:01:04.520 --> 0:01:08.360 labor and delivery on record, and especially if you didn't, 0:01:08.400 --> 0:01:12.200 your body has been stretched and pushed to the max 0:01:12.360 --> 0:01:16.080 and it needs a chance to recover. Let's face it, 0:01:16.400 --> 0:01:19.720 giving birth comes with more than a baby. It comes 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:23.600 with a whole lot of new symptoms and new questions, 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:28.360 wondering what you can expect when you're all finished expecting. Today, 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:31.840 M and I are here to deliver the good, the bad, 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:37.200 and the very unexpected about your postpartum recovery, whether you're 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:40.319 still in the hospital, trying to rest up at home, 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:43.240 or just trying to plan ahead so you'll be ahead 0:01:43.240 --> 0:01:47.280 of the game. We've got your postpartum questions covered, so 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:51.200 you know what to expect every step of the way. 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:54.560 So as we all know by now, I didn't have 0:01:54.760 --> 0:01:57.600 a clue of what to expect until I wrote What 0:01:57.680 --> 0:02:02.240 to Expect, so everything was the rise. Now, Emma, what 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:06.880 would you say surprise you most about postpartum? What were 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:10.280 the physical symptoms that threw you for a loop? Okay, 0:02:10.360 --> 0:02:13.079 so I remember the first time I got out of bed, 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:16.160 I looked in the mirror and I was like, holy shit, 0:02:16.600 --> 0:02:21.600 my boobs look amazing. In my entire life, they had 0:02:21.800 --> 0:02:25.519 never looked this good. I mean, I guess maybe they hurt, 0:02:25.560 --> 0:02:30.000 but I didn't even care. I was like wow. Emotionally, 0:02:30.480 --> 0:02:33.960 with Lennox, I was like on euphoria. It was amazing. 0:02:34.120 --> 0:02:36.760 I was happy. I was like wow, for the first 0:02:36.800 --> 0:02:39.400 time in my life. I didn't use my phone, but 0:02:39.520 --> 0:02:43.480 with Sevy I was. I had horrible postparmed depression, so 0:02:43.520 --> 0:02:46.040 I didn't really even like him. Um, so I didn't 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:47.480 really want to be around him. And I know that's 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:49.520 hard to say. Now I can say it like and 0:02:49.600 --> 0:02:52.760 be like, you know, this is my journey. But at first, 0:02:52.800 --> 0:02:55.880 obviously it's really hard to accept. But with Lennox it 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:58.960 was completely different, and I was like, I got this. 0:02:59.840 --> 0:03:03.040 I think the only thing for me. I thought that 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:06.519 right away my belly would be gone and it wasn't. 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:12.360 And I remember I was like, wait a second, I 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:16.280 have these amazing boobs, but I also look pregnant. So 0:03:16.280 --> 0:03:19.520 so when I asked my Facebook moms what surprised them 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:23.120 most about postpartum, one thing that I did here over 0:03:23.160 --> 0:03:27.840 and over again was, you know, I didn't expect breastfeeding 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:31.239 to be that hard. I thought it was a natural process. 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:34.480 It's just kind of come naturally. And so many moms 0:03:34.520 --> 0:03:37.960 said they regretted not taking a class or reading up 0:03:38.000 --> 0:03:44.000 in advance, because then they felt completely unprepared. You have 0:03:44.120 --> 0:03:45.880 thoughts on this, cop I do. I have a lot 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:47.840 of thoughts on this topic. Um. First of all, I 0:03:47.880 --> 0:03:50.280 couldn't breastfeed, and that was hard to accept with my first. 0:03:50.600 --> 0:03:53.280 With my second, I let it go easier. But I 0:03:53.320 --> 0:03:55.480 thought that was just like this most like organic thing 0:03:55.480 --> 0:03:58.400 on earth. But it wasn't in terms of classes. I 0:03:58.440 --> 0:04:02.520 did one lamas or whatever it's called class and I quit. 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:05.400 I just couldn't do it, Like, I'm just not that person. 0:04:05.920 --> 0:04:09.600 So you asked the same question of your mom. There 0:04:09.680 --> 0:04:11.360 were some of the things that you heard. I heard 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:14.920 some really interesting ones that I've never actually heard before. Um, 0:04:15.080 --> 0:04:19.360 someone set their joints felt wobbly after birth. Yeah, that's 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:24.120 the hormone relaxing, which is appropriately named so it's it 0:04:24.240 --> 0:04:27.360 loosens up all your ligaments, which is great when you're 0:04:27.400 --> 0:04:29.839 getting ready for childbirth because you want everything to be 0:04:29.880 --> 0:04:33.200 all loosened up so baby can come out. But the 0:04:33.279 --> 0:04:36.680 flip side, it can take months for that relax and 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:40.320 to leave the building, and in the meantime everything is 0:04:40.320 --> 0:04:43.680 so wobbly, and plus you've stretched everything out quite a 0:04:43.680 --> 0:04:48.440 bit while you're waiting for the relaxing to tighten back 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:52.479 up again. You need to support yourself at least some 0:04:52.560 --> 0:04:54.880 of the time. With a belly band really takes the 0:04:54.960 --> 0:04:59.680 pressure off. You're a big fan, love belly bandit. Okay, 0:04:59.680 --> 0:05:02.000 so this is actually really I had no idea this 0:05:02.080 --> 0:05:03.760 was a thing because I didn't have a C section. 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:08.159 One of my followers said that they were bleeding even 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:11.719 with a c section. Yep. So here's the thing. I 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:14.719 thought that a lot of moms are super surprised. But 0:05:14.960 --> 0:05:18.200 the blood has accumulated during the nine months of pregnancy, 0:05:18.240 --> 0:05:21.039 the blood and the tissue that was, you know, keeping 0:05:21.040 --> 0:05:25.640 your baby nourished in your uterine lining. So the thing 0:05:25.839 --> 0:05:29.640 is it only has one exit, only one way it 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:33.320 can leave, and that's through your vagina. So whether you 0:05:33.360 --> 0:05:35.280 had a c section or you had a vaginal birth, 0:05:35.680 --> 0:05:39.440 that blood's gotta go. You're going to have heavy bleeding 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:43.479 at first clots, that's the tissue. I remember the first 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:45.520 time I got out of bed after I had you 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:48.760 and there was this gush of blood because of course 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:52.000 when you're lying down, it all accumulates and then you 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:56.680 stand up, and so be prepared for that um If 0:05:56.720 --> 0:05:59.760 you get home from the hospital and it started tapering 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:02.560 off and then you notice is starting again, one thing 0:06:02.640 --> 0:06:05.440 to consider as your overdoing things and you need a 0:06:05.520 --> 0:06:07.839 little bit more rest. But if it continues to be 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:11.159 or suddenly is very heavy or has a fell smell, 0:06:11.520 --> 0:06:14.640 it just smell like a period. Otherwise, if you have 0:06:14.720 --> 0:06:17.920 any kind of sudden heavy bleeding, than definitely call your 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:19.719 doctor right away or if you're still in the hospital, 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:23.599 called the nurse um. A lot of people said that 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:26.520 mommy brain was a thing. I know that's a thing 0:06:26.600 --> 0:06:29.000 because I sometimes like literally have to sit there and 0:06:29.040 --> 0:06:33.600 be like, okay, what is my name? Yep, yeah, so 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:37.200 it's a thing. I get it. I feel you grow solidarity. No, 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:40.520 for sure, you know, of course it's the hormones. Your 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:44.960 brain shrinks eight percent when you're pregnant, but it doesn't 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:49.120 bounce right back, so there's sleep deprivation. There's lots of 0:06:49.160 --> 0:06:51.799 reasons why you're pouring your o J into your coffee 0:06:51.920 --> 0:06:55.800 or your coffee into your cereal. Okay, um, what about 0:06:55.839 --> 0:06:59.600 contractions while nursing in the first two weeks. These are 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:02.440 called after pains, but you have them whether or not 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:06.920 your breastfeed. You just feel them more intensely when you're breastfeeding. 0:07:07.160 --> 0:07:12.560 That's because you're releasing oxytocin. And oxytocin is a hormone 0:07:12.560 --> 0:07:15.400 that helps your uterus contract after you give birth, and 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:17.920 that's a good thing. You wanted to contract, but I mean, 0:07:17.960 --> 0:07:22.160 you thought labor was over. These can be prettieddarn painful, 0:07:22.600 --> 0:07:24.920 and you're definitely going to notice the more after your 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:28.640 second or third baby or subsequent babies, because just like 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:31.360 you do with kicks and racks and hicks, everything sort 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:33.280 of you know, as I like to say, has that 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:38.000 lived in Look your uterus, your uterine muscles, your abdominal muscles, 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:40.800 and so everything is more relaxed. So it can be 0:07:41.240 --> 0:07:46.680 pretty painful. What about the pain of stitches? D I know, 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:51.040 I know, and I had a basiotomies because that's what 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:53.840 they did back in the day. Thankfully they don't do 0:07:53.920 --> 0:07:57.800 those routinely anymore. But you know, if you tear at all, 0:07:57.960 --> 0:08:00.240 you're going to have stitches. But the thing is, your 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:03.920 baby is like what eight nine pounds, seven eight pounds, 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:07.880 They're not going to pass through without leaving a mark, 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:10.720 and it's gonna hurt, right, But if you have stitches, 0:08:11.080 --> 0:08:13.760 think about it this way. It's a wound like any 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:16.680 other and it's going to take time to heal um 0:08:17.040 --> 0:08:19.360 and like any stitches you have, they're gonna take time 0:08:19.400 --> 0:08:21.560 to heal. One thing you need to do is keep 0:08:21.600 --> 0:08:23.400 your hands off of it because a lot of moms 0:08:23.440 --> 0:08:27.680 want to touch to see how it's recovering. Don't do that. 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:31.120 Leave it be, use your peri bottle, and I know 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:38.400 which peribottle you like to recommend. It changes the game. Yeah, 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:41.120 so the whole idea is to keep the area clean 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:44.760 without rubbing. You don't want to do rubbing. Something else 0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:48.160 you can try is a sits path, you know, or 0:08:48.600 --> 0:08:51.559 putting cold pax in your maxipads, some of them postpartum 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:56.200 ND where it comes with cold pax. And then keegels. 0:08:56.200 --> 0:08:58.679 You're not going to feel them as you do them 0:08:58.760 --> 0:09:01.880 right away, but do them anyway because that's going to 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:05.560 help tone the area and bring blood flow back, the 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:08.240 good kind of blood flow back to your paraanegum um. 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:13.200 And also sit on a doughnut pillar. I cannot recommend 0:09:13.280 --> 0:09:16.520 that more. I literally would not go anywhere without my doughnut. 0:09:16.640 --> 0:09:21.440 It's saved me. Okay, what about all of those emotions? 0:09:21.679 --> 0:09:25.080 So many people talk about this, it's a big thing. Yeah, 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:29.319 talk to me. So your emotions initially are going to 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:31.079 be all over the map. I mean you could feel 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:35.520 anything from just completely overwhelmed, um like who is this 0:09:35.640 --> 0:09:38.240 stranger sniffing at my breast? You can also feel like 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:41.440 over the moon excited. So there are all kinds of 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:44.080 ways you can feel initially and we're going to talk 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:47.800 about that a little bit later, but just be prepared 0:09:47.880 --> 0:10:03.520 to go with the flow at first. Okay, So, if 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:06.840 you're wondering what to expect after delivery, postpartum is one 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:10.080 of the most common trending topics in the what to 0:10:10.160 --> 0:10:14.400 Expect community, and one we ask for your biggest surprises 0:10:14.600 --> 0:10:18.640 of postpartum and your best tips for surviving and thriving. 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:24.000 You definitely were not shy about sharing. Now. A lot 0:10:24.080 --> 0:10:29.640 of people talked not fondly about the uterine massages or 0:10:29.679 --> 0:10:33.960 fundel massages um you get after delivery. Massage does sound 0:10:34.000 --> 0:10:38.040 like fun and you know, restorative after you've just given birth, 0:10:38.160 --> 0:10:41.120 and who doesn't like a good massage? But um, not 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:45.400 so much with this kind it can hurt like a mother. Emma, 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:48.000 do you remember that? Did I have one? Yeah? You 0:10:48.040 --> 0:10:52.600 always have one. Sometimes moms only need one after after delivery, 0:10:52.640 --> 0:10:56.280 and sometimes depending on their needs, they might need more UM. 0:10:56.320 --> 0:10:59.920 And it's to help the u uterus contract and prove 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:02.920 an excessive leading. I think it's coming back to me. 0:11:03.000 --> 0:11:05.840 I was so like freaked out after Sevy because I 0:11:05.880 --> 0:11:11.040 was so like just disconnected, so I don't really remember anything. Well, 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:15.040 that's probably good in this case because my mom's report 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:18.400 as so painful. And you know, even if the nurse 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:21.000 is super nice, you know they're coming in and they're 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:24.959 pounding on your abdomen. It can hurt, and you're gonna 0:11:24.960 --> 0:11:27.520 have one, whether you have vaginal birth or c section. 0:11:28.240 --> 0:11:31.840 Now something else. I know you're super eager to talk 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:38.720 about the first poop out. Okay, So this I remember 0:11:38.720 --> 0:11:41.720 because I was literally sitting on the toilet the whole 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:46.600 entire time texting my friend. I was like texting her, 0:11:46.720 --> 0:11:48.800 I was like, it's coming. I'm scared. I'm scared. She's like, 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:50.480 just let it go. I'm like, yeah, I'm scared. It's 0:11:50.520 --> 0:11:52.000 good to her and she's like, just let it go. 0:11:52.080 --> 0:11:55.920 So and then afterwards looks like I did it and 0:11:55.960 --> 0:11:58.480 it doesn't feel great. But I remember, like there's a 0:11:58.520 --> 0:12:02.440 lot of blood. Yeah. Now, um. One thing that a 0:12:02.480 --> 0:12:05.600 lot of moms mentioned about their first poop is that 0:12:05.880 --> 0:12:10.400 the stool softener is your friend. Yea, So if they 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:12.360 don't give it to you, and they will, but just 0:12:12.440 --> 0:12:15.440 in case they forget, make sure you ask for your 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:18.120 school softener. They're gonna give you some to take home 0:12:18.160 --> 0:12:21.440 with you, but just in case, have some at home, 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:24.640 because the softer your school is going to be, clearly 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:27.160 the easier it's going to be to push out and 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:30.840 the less painful. Also, when you're on the potty, put 0:12:30.840 --> 0:12:33.760 a stool under your feet and lean forward, one of 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:38.560 those called squatty potties. People like, yeah, I mean there's 0:12:38.600 --> 0:12:42.040 a product for everything. Um, And then you can use 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:45.680 a little lubrication just like when your your baby's constipated, 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:48.000 so that it can slide out more easily. But even 0:12:48.040 --> 0:12:50.640 more importantly, get up as soon as you can and 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:54.400 you're able, so that you can get literally things moving. 0:12:54.640 --> 0:12:58.680 Drink lots and lots of water, and those hospital carps 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:02.959 are going to clog you up, so bring some healthy snacks, 0:13:02.960 --> 0:13:06.640 some something whole grain, some fruit, dried fruit, and try 0:13:06.800 --> 0:13:11.640 probiotics because those can definitely help and no harm. I 0:13:11.640 --> 0:13:14.040 think for me it was the wipe being that was 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:16.240 the situation, like the worst part of it. So that's 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:19.760 why my little frieda baby Freedom Mom squirt bottle came 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:22.520 in hand. You scored it, squired and then dab a 0:13:22.559 --> 0:13:26.880 little dabble, do you, yes, absolutely, and don't forget to 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:31.920 wipe from front to back. That's important, especially when you're 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:36.880 trying to prevent infection postpartum. Okay, now peeing because you 0:13:36.960 --> 0:13:39.920 gotta pee. This is kind of ironic because you spent 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:43.080 most of your pregnancy peeing and then you give birth 0:13:43.160 --> 0:13:45.440 and all of a sudden, like you feel like you 0:13:45.520 --> 0:13:48.880 can't pee, and they are on top of you at 0:13:48.880 --> 0:13:51.360 the hospital. Did you pee? Did you pee? How much 0:13:51.400 --> 0:13:53.640 did you pee? They want you to pee into a 0:13:53.679 --> 0:13:57.280 basin so they can measure your output. First of all, 0:13:57.320 --> 0:13:59.920 pee lying down is really hard. If you had an epidural, 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:03.320 you had a casseter, so that's one thing um, and 0:14:03.360 --> 0:14:06.280 if you had a c section, everything's going to take longer, 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:10.160 but it regardless. Your poor bladder has taken a beating 0:14:10.679 --> 0:14:13.959 during labor and delivery, especially if you had a vaginal 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:17.600 on birth, it may feel paralyzed. You also have a 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:20.760 lot of swelling, and the swelling makes it harder to pee. 0:14:21.440 --> 0:14:25.640 The old tricks apply. Run some water because that can 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:29.920 inspire you, run the faucet and also runs some water 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:34.840 over your pareneum because that can inspire you as well. 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:37.920 There are no secrets between you and your nurse, right, No, 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:41.920 They're going to see everything and here everything. So what 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:45.960 were your p experiences? Emma. Um, see, the p doesn't 0:14:46.000 --> 0:14:48.880 really like stand out as much as the poo. It 0:14:48.960 --> 0:14:53.080 can burn, Yeah, definitely burn. So straddle you pee a 0:14:53.160 --> 0:14:55.040 drop and then it's like testing the water. So it's 0:14:55.080 --> 0:14:59.080 like putting your feet in the pool. It's I don't know, 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:00.920 you gotta do with though. You don't want to like 0:15:01.080 --> 0:15:04.160 implode with pa. Well, no, and they won't let you 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:08.240 leave the hospital unless you're peeing normally. And so again, 0:15:08.280 --> 0:15:11.400 if you've had a catheter, they may have to reinsert 0:15:11.440 --> 0:15:14.680 it just to get the recipe out. But yeah, work 0:15:14.720 --> 0:15:18.520 on drinking lots of water. What about night sweats? Did 0:15:18.520 --> 0:15:21.640 you have night sweats? Girlfriend? I had all day sweats. Honestly, 0:15:22.160 --> 0:15:25.120 one mom said it was like someone dump buckets of 0:15:25.160 --> 0:15:28.440 water on her multiple times a night and she had 0:15:28.480 --> 0:15:30.840 to sleep on towels and changed the sheets through the night. 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:37.400 You have all of this accumulated fluid, which you may 0:15:37.440 --> 0:15:40.800 be happy to get rid of, but maybe that's not 0:15:40.960 --> 0:15:43.600 the number way you number one way you feel like 0:15:43.640 --> 0:15:46.880 getting rid of it, but you're gonna sweat so um. 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:52.640 On kind of a related topic, women talked about being smelly. Okay, 0:15:52.680 --> 0:15:56.360 so first of all, there's lots of sources of smelliness 0:15:56.400 --> 0:16:00.160 after you give birth because there's the lochia. So that's 0:16:00.200 --> 0:16:04.320 like having your period, but you can't wear a tampon, 0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:08.040 so you've got this big pad full of blood. You 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:10.080 may be as soon as mal comes in any way, 0:16:10.160 --> 0:16:13.000 covered in spit up. You know. The other thing is 0:16:13.040 --> 0:16:18.080 that babies actually use their mom's scent as a honing device. 0:16:18.200 --> 0:16:21.680 So you know, your sweat is your baby's like radar. 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:26.080 So because you're sweating a lot, and you have this 0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:30.880 distinctive odor around your armpits and your breasts, and that's 0:16:30.920 --> 0:16:32.880 why they tell you not to, you know, wash your 0:16:32.920 --> 0:16:36.400 breast with soap, among other things, but the baby is 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:42.760 actually attracted to that scent. Another postpartum surprise is hair 0:16:42.960 --> 0:16:46.520 loss for some moms anyway. You know, some moms expected 0:16:46.560 --> 0:16:48.560 to have him right away and then they think, oh, 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:51.520 I you escape this entirely, and it really kicks in 0:16:52.240 --> 0:16:55.800 close sort of two to four months postpartum, and it 0:16:55.800 --> 0:16:59.040 gets really bad at four months. You know. Of course, 0:16:59.040 --> 0:17:01.920 that's because all you hold onto your hair during pregnancy 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:05.320 annal with all those hormones, and then it's it's just 0:17:05.400 --> 0:17:09.080 got to go. So another thing that mom's talked about 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:16.560 was accepting their postpartum bodies. Um, what were your thoughts 0:17:16.560 --> 0:17:19.399 when you saw your postpartum body. I thought my TETs 0:17:19.440 --> 0:17:25.360 looked amazing. Um, I thought that my stomach looked like 0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:28.399 I've never seen it before. I've always been pretty like 0:17:28.520 --> 0:17:31.199 fit and so like after you have a baby, I 0:17:31.280 --> 0:17:34.200 was like, wait, whose stomach is this? But hey, it's mine. 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:37.240 I remember crying on the floor of a Victory's secret 0:17:37.400 --> 0:17:41.560 pink dressing room because literally from that like mean girl quotes, 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:47.600 nothing fits me but swoopants. But that's so true, true everybody. 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:50.439 And like as much as I tell people embrace it, 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:54.639 embrace it, like I don't follow that advice, And um, 0:17:54.720 --> 0:17:57.400 that's so it's important to admit. Yeah, but I think 0:17:57.480 --> 0:18:00.280 other people look beautiful after the having the baby. I'm smart. 0:18:00.400 --> 0:18:03.760 You think you're just harder on yourself because that's just 0:18:03.800 --> 0:18:05.840 how we are operating. But for me, like when I 0:18:05.840 --> 0:18:10.080 see a mom with stretch marks or her tommy, I'm like, oh, 0:18:10.160 --> 0:18:12.040 you know, you just made a baby. That's amazing. But 0:18:12.080 --> 0:18:15.359 if I see it myself, I'm like, it's hard to 0:18:15.400 --> 0:18:18.920 embrace it. But I feel like it's so important. Making 0:18:19.040 --> 0:18:22.359 babies hard work. Let's face it. You're creating a human 0:18:22.400 --> 0:18:26.320 being from scratch, and you've got the badges that you 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:30.399 should wear proudly. And I feel like it's helping that 0:18:30.520 --> 0:18:34.919 moms are sharing their bodies on Instagram. Maybe not so 0:18:35.000 --> 0:18:38.120 much as the celebrity bodies because you know, maybe they 0:18:38.160 --> 0:18:41.879 had a trainer, but real mom bodies are good for 0:18:41.920 --> 0:18:46.240 others to see. Now you're linear, Negra, the black lines. 0:18:46.440 --> 0:18:49.320 Still have it? You still have it. I love it. 0:18:49.960 --> 0:18:53.720 I love mine. It's still because at this point, because 0:18:53.720 --> 0:18:56.680 it fades, you know, months, you get it more after 0:18:56.720 --> 0:18:59.600 the second one. Sorry, faded. It's like my tattoo on 0:18:59.640 --> 0:19:03.400 my foot. It but it's still there, so I can 0:19:03.440 --> 0:19:07.080 still see mine, like if I really really really focus. 0:19:07.200 --> 0:19:10.000 It's like, you know, when you first have the first 0:19:10.440 --> 0:19:14.000 positive pregnancy test and you can barely see the exact 0:19:14.400 --> 0:19:17.600 posting online. You do you see wine? I see one? 0:19:17.600 --> 0:19:19.960 Do you see a wine? But a lot of moms 0:19:20.320 --> 0:19:25.160 are surprised to be so puffy after they deliver, right, 0:19:25.240 --> 0:19:27.560 I was so puffy in my face. I looked like 0:19:27.640 --> 0:19:33.480 a cabbage patch doll. They're so cute though, So that's because, well, 0:19:33.520 --> 0:19:36.120 first of all, you had epidurals both times, and they 0:19:36.160 --> 0:19:38.960 pump you full of fluids. You can look super swollen 0:19:39.040 --> 0:19:42.040 after you leave the hospital. Now, you just got to 0:19:42.040 --> 0:19:45.080 remember that if there's excessive swelling once you get home, 0:19:45.280 --> 0:19:47.760 and especially if it's above the near in places like 0:19:47.800 --> 0:19:51.920 you wouldn't normally expect swelling, then definitely call your doctor. 0:19:52.640 --> 0:19:56.119 But something I want to say about pregnancy weaking and 0:19:56.480 --> 0:19:58.680 how long it takes to lose it. I mean, we've 0:19:58.680 --> 0:20:00.880 said this before, you've heard this before, but it takes 0:20:00.920 --> 0:20:02.960 nine months to gain it, and you've got to give 0:20:03.000 --> 0:20:07.639 yourself at least that long to lose it. Oh at least. 0:20:08.040 --> 0:20:10.600 I mean, you went right to get some new sweats, right, 0:20:10.640 --> 0:20:12.719 because I think maybe the ones you brought were too 0:20:12.760 --> 0:20:14.879 tight or yeah, I was in it to win it, 0:20:14.960 --> 0:20:17.000 you know, I was committed to the sweats. With the 0:20:17.040 --> 0:20:20.320 second one, I ordered extra large men's sweatpants because I 0:20:20.359 --> 0:20:22.760 was wearing a diaper. I don't need anything tight at 0:20:22.800 --> 0:20:27.040 that point. I need something loose. And you wanted high waisted, 0:20:27.160 --> 0:20:30.280 especially if you had a C section, because I was 0:20:30.280 --> 0:20:33.240 gonna put pressure on the scar. But lounge pants, you 0:20:33.240 --> 0:20:36.359 need the tie. You need the tie. Wi yeah, yeah, yeah. 0:20:36.520 --> 0:20:40.800 So um. Many moms reported loving their new boobs. We 0:20:40.920 --> 0:20:44.240 already heard that you loved yours, and then a lot 0:20:44.320 --> 0:20:47.080 of them said they love their stretch marks. I love 0:20:47.119 --> 0:20:49.560 when people on Instagram poster stretch marks and add like 0:20:49.600 --> 0:21:05.639 glitter to it. Oh so cute. What were some of 0:21:05.640 --> 0:21:08.840 the things that mom's told you were the most helpful 0:21:09.040 --> 0:21:11.960 or that you found the most helpful postpartum? That freed 0:21:12.000 --> 0:21:14.480 the baby, That freed the baby. Score bottle saved me 0:21:14.520 --> 0:21:17.840 because it's got that curved head and it really gets 0:21:17.840 --> 0:21:20.159 in there, and plus you can use it afterwards as 0:21:20.200 --> 0:21:24.160 like a bi day, So there's um. Some practical things 0:21:24.240 --> 0:21:27.920 that moms on Instagram were all about. Breast gel pads 0:21:28.520 --> 0:21:31.280 really smart, the ones that you can cool and warm. 0:21:31.320 --> 0:21:35.720 Disposable underwear. That's a must because the last thing you 0:21:35.720 --> 0:21:38.960 want to do is like scrub panties that have blood 0:21:39.040 --> 0:21:43.440 and after birth, when you're dealing with any born um 0:21:43.480 --> 0:21:46.840 help really important. Having someone cook meals for you, like 0:21:46.880 --> 0:21:50.280 a family member, family support. You know a lot of 0:21:50.320 --> 0:21:53.760 things people love having, Like the gift is food delivery. 0:21:53.960 --> 0:21:56.359 Food delivery service. Maybe someone gives it to you for 0:21:56.400 --> 0:21:58.480 a week so you don't have to worry about breakfast, lunch, 0:21:58.600 --> 0:22:02.600 or dinner. Just gus on your grown family. Also the 0:22:02.680 --> 0:22:06.840 gift of being able to rest, having somebody watch the baby, 0:22:07.119 --> 0:22:09.840 let you nap off and on a few times a day. 0:22:10.359 --> 0:22:12.479 My two picks are the freedom the underwear and they 0:22:12.480 --> 0:22:16.080 donut Donut And I feel like many moms were all 0:22:16.119 --> 0:22:20.719 about the nipple butter. Yes, yeah, but I feel it 0:22:20.760 --> 0:22:23.040 has to be said that some moms really wanted their 0:22:23.080 --> 0:22:27.160 space and felt COVID was a blessing in disguise. I'm 0:22:27.160 --> 0:22:30.120 sure our silver lining because you didn't have a thousand 0:22:30.160 --> 0:22:36.119 people hovering over you gives you some uninterrupted bonding time. Now, 0:22:36.800 --> 0:22:39.240 one thing I have to say is that you've got 0:22:39.240 --> 0:22:41.399 to listen to your body, because your body is going 0:22:41.440 --> 0:22:45.080 to tell you when it's time to slow down. It's 0:22:45.119 --> 0:22:48.119 going to tell you if something's not quite normal. Because 0:22:48.160 --> 0:22:52.080 most of the symptoms you're gonna get postpartum are normal, 0:22:52.280 --> 0:22:56.800 the vast majority are normal. But they can be super uncomfortable, 0:22:56.840 --> 0:22:59.280 they can be super annoying. But when you have a 0:22:59.320 --> 0:23:02.879 doubt about symptom, I can't emphasize this enough. This is 0:23:02.920 --> 0:23:05.160 the first time you're gonna be using your mom gut 0:23:05.480 --> 0:23:10.000 if you feel something's wrong, if the bleeding seems too excessive. 0:23:10.280 --> 0:23:13.920 If you are in a lot of pain, if you 0:23:13.960 --> 0:23:15.879 have a blood pressure cuff and you notice your blood 0:23:15.880 --> 0:23:19.160 pressure is elevator, you have a racing heartbeat, trouble breathing, 0:23:19.280 --> 0:23:23.600 chest pain, leg pain, lots of excessive swelling, make sure 0:23:23.640 --> 0:23:26.280 you call the doctor right away. And I want to 0:23:26.320 --> 0:23:29.600 add something really fast. I think that you know, especially 0:23:29.640 --> 0:23:31.560 you mom Um, you're very like you don't want to 0:23:31.560 --> 0:23:35.600 bother anybody, but I feel like it's important in this situation, 0:23:35.640 --> 0:23:38.760 Like for me, Um, I'm sure if you guys follow me, 0:23:38.800 --> 0:23:40.879 you know the time I saved lenox is life because 0:23:40.920 --> 0:23:44.719 I had mom intuition. If I hadn't bugged the doctor 0:23:44.800 --> 0:23:47.679 on a Sunday, Lenox wouldn't be here today. And the 0:23:47.720 --> 0:23:50.120 same thing goes for your own health. And I think 0:23:50.119 --> 0:23:53.840 it's very important to always listen to that little voice 0:23:53.880 --> 0:23:57.280 in your head, even if it's wrong, because what if 0:23:57.320 --> 0:24:01.719