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Speaker 1: Now it is time for today's Strawberry Letter. And if

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Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, if you need advice on

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Speaker 1: dating and work and sex and parenting and more, please

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Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey f M and

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Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. Okay, and we could be reading

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Speaker 1: your letter live on the air just like this one

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Speaker 1: right now. Hey, before we start, do anybody how Erica

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Speaker 1: bad dude number Steve might have it? Steve, I just

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Speaker 1: want to man, she looks so good last night. That

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Speaker 1: that comfort that she had on but made it look

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Speaker 1: with me lanting. That's your fun looking confident. Did you

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Speaker 1: see it now? Yes? It was gold comforters. Treatment are

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Speaker 1: not gonna do like girl, Eric blackout Curt like blackout

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Speaker 1: Curt look good. I needed with that hat on. I

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Speaker 1: need all in the Starberry Letter, let's go said all right,

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Speaker 1: here we go. Subject my old man and his old lady.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I am thirty three years old, and

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Speaker 1: uh who is madly in love with the sixty three

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Speaker 1: year old man. We have been dating for over a year,

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Speaker 1: and we spend a lot of time together. I am

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Speaker 1: only thing that is stopping us from being together is

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Speaker 1: the fact that he is best friends with my child's grandparents.

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Speaker 1: I'm very close to them and we have a great

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Speaker 1: they would be heartbroken and I would be ashamed if

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Speaker 1: they found out. That's the one thing that is keeping

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Speaker 1: us from being together, not even the fact that he

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Speaker 1: is married. Yes, that's right, he's married, and I'm okay, Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: oh that yes, that's right. He's married, and I'm okay

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Speaker 1: with that. Because she is basically just at the house

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Speaker 1: as his roommate, I get treated like I'm the wife.

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Speaker 1: He takes me on vacations, we are always out together

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Speaker 1: in public, and he bought me a house recently. This

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Speaker 1: is the best relationship that I've ever been in, and

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Speaker 1: the sex is the best I've ever had. He tells

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Speaker 1: me daily that he loves me, not his wife, but

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Speaker 1: he has not made any effort to get rid of

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Speaker 1: the wife. I told him that I'm ready to let

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Speaker 1: the world know about us, but he has to move

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Speaker 1: in with me so I won't look stupid when people

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Speaker 1: find out we're a couple. I don't want my child's

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Speaker 1: grandparents to see me as a home wrecker either. I

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Speaker 1: want to live peacefully with my man, but his wife

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Speaker 1: is in the way of our happily ever after, How

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Speaker 1: do you think I should handle this situation? Please? Help you?

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Speaker 1: Aren't you kidding me right now? I mean, come on,

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Speaker 1: You've got to know that this is a goat nowhere relationship.

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Speaker 1: He's not going to leave his wife. Don't you think

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Speaker 1: if if he was going to leave her, he would

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Speaker 1: have done it by now. You guys have been dating

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Speaker 1: for over a year. Uh, you know he would have

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Speaker 1: put in for a divorce, talked to his wife about

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Speaker 1: a divorce, since you know, he treats you like the

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Speaker 1: wife and she's just the roommate. Listen, that's just what

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Speaker 1: he's telling you. You're not there, You don't know. He

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Speaker 1: probably still sleeps in the bed with her, like most

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Speaker 1: married men do. They sleep in the bed with their

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Speaker 1: guess what else happens. There's some sets going on, girl,

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Speaker 1: Come on now, But but but still he's doing it. Okay,

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Speaker 1: she's not just a roommate like he's telling you. You

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Speaker 1: want to spend the rest of your life with him? Okay, well,

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Speaker 1: well he's married. You can't do that, all right. The

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Speaker 1: only thing you're concerned with is that your child's grandparents

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Speaker 1: are friends with him. That's what you're concerned about, not

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Speaker 1: But no, um, you don't want them to see you

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Speaker 1: as a home wrecker. You don't. You want to live peacefully,

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Speaker 1: but you want to live peacefully in a good relationship,

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Speaker 1: not in a relationship with somebody else's man. This is

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Speaker 1: not your man. You're not gonna be happily ever after

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Speaker 1: in this relationship. It's not gonna happen, all right, So

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Speaker 1: this man go. Uh, let's go to junior. Come on, junior. Question,

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Speaker 1: Sixty three minus thirty three that's thirty years. Okay, it's

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Speaker 1: thirty years difference. Now I got the answer to this.

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Speaker 1: The Bible say we promised three staring ten. That's seventy,

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Speaker 1: he's sixty three. Answer is seven. Y'all have seven years

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Speaker 1: to the rest of his life. That's it. Love it

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Speaker 1: might well, do you think seven years is all you

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Speaker 1: medical records don't to make sure he healthy, so you

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Speaker 1: At sixty nine and a half. That's all you got

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Speaker 1: seven years, it's my ass. He's got a wife, Junior. Yeah, well, hey,

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Speaker 1: that ain't my problem. She wanted to live. She got

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Speaker 1: seven years. That's all I'm saying. All right, thank you.

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Speaker 1: Here's the thing. This man is up in age, like

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Speaker 1: Junior said, with sixty three, his life is already complicated.

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Speaker 1: We're trying to take here two houses at one time.

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Speaker 1: He's doing it. But that's what I'm saying, Tommy, I've

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Speaker 1: heard you speak of this before. This is selfishness in

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Speaker 1: terms of thank you, to come in and destroy what

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Speaker 1: he's got working right now. You know how complicated it

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Speaker 1: is to pay two mortgages to satisfy two household Sometime

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Speaker 1: he probably know what a house he is. Look over

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Speaker 1: there and go oh oh, my god, I'm I'm with

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Speaker 1: my wife. Oh, let me get let me get ahold

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Speaker 1: of myself. Leave this man alone. Don't complicate he's got

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Speaker 1: all types of diseases, probably happen. Question, don't complicate this

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Speaker 1: man's life any more. Okay, please damn don't be selfish.

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Speaker 1: He got diseases, he get the probably probably got diabetes

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Speaker 1: or something. He's saying, don't need a headache, not STDs, Tommy,

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Speaker 1: he saying, no, I didn't say. Yeah. That's thinking. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's what you're thinking, Tommy, Jay always thinking diabetically. But

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Speaker 1: go ahead, all right, all right, listen, hang hang onto that.

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Speaker 1: We'll let you finish that up and we'll hear from

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Speaker 1: the nephew. We're part two of the guy's responses right

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry letter. And uh, let's were you finished with

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Speaker 1: your response? Jay finished? I just call out how selfish

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Speaker 1: and why would you want to destroy that? All right?

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Speaker 1: Sometimes people are just so selfish. All right, this letter,

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Speaker 1: before we get to the nephew, the subject is my

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Speaker 1: old man and his old lady. Thirty three year old

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Speaker 1: woman wrote this letter. She's madly in love with the

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Speaker 1: sixty three year old man. They've been dating for over

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Speaker 1: a year. They spent a lot of time together. He

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Speaker 1: they have going on. She says, it's the best sex

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Speaker 1: He just bought her a house. She wants to live

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Speaker 1: he's still got a wife who's in the way, she says,

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Speaker 1: and does. She wants to know what should she do?

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Speaker 1: How should she handle this situation? Tommy, it's on you,

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Speaker 1: all right. You know what bothers me is. I can't

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Speaker 1: stand a small number two. I can't staying a selfish

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Speaker 1: number two that doesn't realize you got a good thing going.

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Speaker 1: You got everything you want. You want to live the

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Speaker 1: rest of your life with this man. You can. You

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Speaker 1: live it in the house he bought you. You live

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Speaker 1: it from over there. Baby. He giving you everything. You're

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Speaker 1: getting good sex. You gotta out, you go on vacations.

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Speaker 1: See you know what, I'm gonna write a book to

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Speaker 1: these twols because these tools kill me. Yeah, it's it's

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Speaker 1: it's it's the two I gets. So when I talk

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Speaker 1: in life. You have chosen two, be the two, ride

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Speaker 1: it out. Know your number. It's like you're the one

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Speaker 1: a woman at the house. If he's sixted something, she

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Speaker 1: sixted something to somebody. Somebody fis to die. So why

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Speaker 1: is you worried about this? What Julia said, don't know

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Speaker 1: about get past setting it? So we just didn't know.

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Speaker 1: We did the math at seven. Why why are we

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Speaker 1: Didn't a selfish too? And I tell I tell tools

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Speaker 1: Know your place. You can't do this. You decided to

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Speaker 1: lay that air night with you really? Really, ain't nobody

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Speaker 1: you already saying you got good loving, you got a

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Speaker 1: nice house, You're gonna vacation, not somebody got to stay.

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Speaker 1: Not somebody got late with you here at night. This

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Speaker 1: their relationship. He wants to you won't share the world.

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Speaker 1: Get a globe and say it to it. She doesn't.

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Speaker 1: She wants to let the world know about that glow

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Speaker 1: and say it. Say it to that and say whatever

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Speaker 1: you want to say. You don't get You don't get

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Speaker 1: to share this baby. You get to you get to

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Speaker 1: enjoy what he's giving you, but you don't get to

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Speaker 1: how it's going. Well, can't What about her child's grandparents.

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Speaker 1: They think she's in a You need trying to get them.

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Speaker 1: You need try to get them put in a home.

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Speaker 1: What yeah, yeah, get them out your weight, because that's

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Speaker 1: bothering you. There's two people right there. Get them admitted.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Get them in a home.

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Speaker 1: When the retirement community did. You need to get them

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Speaker 1: in there. Then you won't see them. They won't see that, y'all.

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Speaker 1: Living is to live peacefully with this man, But his

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Speaker 1: wife is in the way of their happily. Ever after,

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Speaker 1: she said, who's in the way when you're in the

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Speaker 1: this this is true selfish number two stuff right here.

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Speaker 1: You got everything you want, good loving, new house, vacations, y'all,

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Speaker 1: y'all even out in public, gonna have dinner stuff. What

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Speaker 1: more do you want? Selfishness? She files? This is fineme,

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Speaker 1: She files. I mean, I'm just listening. I hoped, I

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Speaker 1: just hope you're a bad example for twols. You really are.

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Speaker 1: You can find a man her own age, okay, that's

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Speaker 1: That's what she can do. Well, yeah, you could do that,

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Speaker 1: I mean, but that wouldn't make a good straw. We

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Speaker 1: thing that got me in this letter is when she

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