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Speaker 3: Thank you nephew.

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Speaker 1: Subject room temperature, water and dish soap. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I found out that my new boyfriend is very special.

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Speaker 1: I thought he was special in a lot of ways,

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Speaker 1: but I didn't know he was special special till our

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Speaker 1: recent trip to my oldest daughter's graduation. We've been dating

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Speaker 1: for four months and I took a chance and invited

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Speaker 1: him to go with me. It was a three hour drive,

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Speaker 1: and I had expected him to offer to drive. The

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Speaker 1: day before, he asked me when was I picking him up?

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Speaker 1: That let me know he had no plans of driving

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Speaker 1: us there. Along the way, he told me that he

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Speaker 1: does not drive on the interstate because big trucks stress

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Speaker 1: him out. I noticed him looking really anxious when cars

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Speaker 1: sped by us. We went by my daughter's college and

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Speaker 1: he didn't want to get out because he informed me

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Speaker 1: that he doesn't like crowd.

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Speaker 3: I asked him.

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Speaker 1: How he was going to do at the graduation, and

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Speaker 1: he said he didn't plan to go. He just wanted

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Speaker 1: to ride with me so I wouldn't have to drive alone.

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Speaker 1: That first night together in the hotel was really awkward,

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Speaker 1: and I just have to tell you guys all about it.

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend ran a big tub of water that wasn't hot,

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Speaker 1: and it wasn't cold. He said it had to be

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Speaker 1: room temperature. He filled the tub with dishwashing liquid that

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Speaker 1: he brought from his house. First off, I don't understand

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Speaker 1: sitting in the tub in a hotel room. He didn't

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Speaker 1: wash it out first, and he didn't wash it out first.

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Speaker 1: Then he sat his behind in the bubbles that were

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Speaker 1: it by dish soap. I didn't hear any splashing or

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Speaker 1: washing off or anything similar, so I asked if he

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Speaker 1: was okay. He said he would be in there soaking

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Speaker 1: for at least thirty minutes, so it was okay. So

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Speaker 1: it was okay if I went on to sleep. I've

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Speaker 1: dated a lot of weirdos since my divorce. But he

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Speaker 1: takes the cake. Do I talk to.

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Speaker 3: Him about this? Or should I break up with him?

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Speaker 1: I don't think there's really too much to talk about,

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Speaker 1: because this guy finds falls under the heading of what

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Speaker 1: do you need him for? I mean, he didn't drive you,

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Speaker 1: he didn't help you drive, He was afraid of the expressway,

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Speaker 1: got anxious when he saw big trucks and cars speeding

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Speaker 1: by you.

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Speaker 3: He doesn't like crowds.

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Speaker 1: He didn't tell you he wasn't going to the graduation

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Speaker 1: because he doesn't like crowds. It is a lot, So again,

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Speaker 1: what do you need this guy for? He told you

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Speaker 1: to go to sleep while he was soaking in the tub,

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Speaker 1: So I.

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Speaker 3: Guess you don't need him for sex either.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you called him a weirdo who takes a cake,

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Speaker 1: and all these to me.

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Speaker 3: Are red flags for you.

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Speaker 1: So I'd say pay attention because how he is now

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Speaker 1: is how he's going to be if you guys do

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Speaker 1: decide to.

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Speaker 3: Be in a relationship.

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Speaker 1: And I think you've seen all you need to see

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Speaker 1: with this guy, and I don't think you guys are

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Speaker 1: gonna make it next Steve.

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Speaker 4: This letter's real clear to me, room temperature, water, dish soap.

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Speaker 4: Letna just break this down what you're dealing with him.

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Speaker 4: You got a new bar fear and this special and

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Speaker 4: you thought he was specially in a lot of ways.

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Speaker 4: But you ain't know he was special special till y'all

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Speaker 4: took a trip to your oldest daughter's graduation. Now that

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Speaker 4: means you all are in your forties. Your oldest daughter's graduation,

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Speaker 4: you took a trip to that. I'm assuming that the

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Speaker 4: girl must be in college. I'm assuming that So y'all

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Speaker 4: been dating foremost and you invited you. He took a chance,

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Speaker 4: invited him.

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Speaker 2: To go with you.

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Speaker 4: It was a three hour drive. You expected him to

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Speaker 4: offer the drive. The day before he asked you when

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Speaker 4: you was gonna pick him up. That let me know

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Speaker 4: he had new plans of driving us there along the way.

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Speaker 4: He ain't even off of the drive now because along

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Speaker 4: the way he told me that he does not drive

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Speaker 4: on the interstate because big trucks stress him out. What

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Speaker 4: did your perk ass.

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Speaker 3: Just say, excuse me.

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Speaker 4: If I'm a woman and I'm riding in the car

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Speaker 4: with my man and he tell me the reason he

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Speaker 4: does not drive on the interstate, is costs, big trucks

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Speaker 4: stress him out. The next words out of my mouth

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Speaker 4: will be, what did your perk.

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Speaker 1: Ass just say to his face?

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Speaker 4: Now here she is driving all around these big trucks.

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Speaker 4: Her man, her Man said that stressed me out. And

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Speaker 4: then you notice him looking really anxious when cars sped

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Speaker 4: by us. So now you have slowed it down for

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Speaker 4: his scary ass, and now he looking anxious when cars speedback,

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Speaker 4: his shoulders going up by his ears. Every time a

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Speaker 4: car go by, he in the car whip it.

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Speaker 2: What is hey? Man?

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Speaker 4: We went by my daughter's college. He didn't want to

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Speaker 4: get out because he informed me he don't like crowd. Okay,

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Speaker 4: hold on, he's scared of big trucks. He don't like

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Speaker 4: little costs passing. Nah, he's scared of people too crowd

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Speaker 4: because what is a crowd?

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Speaker 2: People?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 4: So y'all stay, y'all got to stay one on one.

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Speaker 4: I asked him when I was going hi, he was

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Speaker 4: gonna do it to graduation. I ain't going, no Daniel graduation.

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Speaker 4: What if you thought I was going graduation for you know,

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Speaker 4: if you're gonna be there? He said, he just wanted

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Speaker 4: to ride with me, so I wouldn't have to drive alone.

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Speaker 2: I might as well be by myself. You'll pour casts

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Speaker 2: up in here.

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Speaker 3: Hold on, Steve, hang on to that thought.

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of your response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject

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Speaker 1: room temperature, water and dish soap.

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Speaker 3: Right after this, you're listening hard Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: room temperature, dish soap.

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Speaker 4: Oh, this woman dating this little classic litve this little

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Speaker 4: ragged ass man.

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Speaker 2: You done found this little boy right here.

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Speaker 4: He asked Kim Tolam music going to your graduation daughter's graduation,

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Speaker 4: graduating from college. He said he'll go with you, But

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Speaker 4: then he asked you when you picking him up, you

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Speaker 4: gonna pick his ass up, y'all. Riding on the freeway,

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Speaker 4: he informs you out on the freeway he don't like

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Speaker 4: to drive on the interstate called big truck stressed him out. Okay,

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Speaker 4: Then you found out he looked anxious when cars sped

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Speaker 4: by him. So now you'd have slowed it down for

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Speaker 4: his punk ad. Now he's still jumping every time a

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Speaker 4: car go by.

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Speaker 2: He jumped. Now he whipped you're killing me with the

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Speaker 2: truck and the whipper. Lord, no, they moved in two

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Speaker 2: sads by the way.

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Speaker 3: Walk walk, Are you crazy?

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Speaker 4: I got this be in this car be if you

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Speaker 4: don't shut your ass.

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Speaker 2: This is her.

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Speaker 4: Talking to him right. I went to my daughter's college.

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Speaker 4: He didn't want to get out because he informed me

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Speaker 4: he don't like crying. What so now he's scared a

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Speaker 4: big truck, fast car and people. I asked him how

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Speaker 4: he was gonna do it to graduate. He I ain't

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Speaker 4: gonna graduation.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna grad.

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Speaker 4: And then you know, it's gonna be.

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Speaker 2: Some more people in there, somebody you and people gonna

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Speaker 2: be pulling up in that cart. They heard.

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Speaker 4: He said, he just wanted to ride with you so

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Speaker 4: you wouldn't be alone. Might as well be alone. Your

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Speaker 4: procass in the car scared, sha can holler and quivering.

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Speaker 4: First night together in the hotel was really awkward. My

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Speaker 4: boyfriend ran a big tub of water that wasn't hot,

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Speaker 4: room temperature. He filled the table dishwashing liquid that he

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Speaker 4: bought from his house. Listen, listen to me. The only

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Speaker 4: thing could have made this worse is if he'd have

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Speaker 4: had a book a glass of wine, because I'm just

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Speaker 4: gonna tell you, ladies right now, if your man gets

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Speaker 4: in a bubble bath, which is okay, ain't nothing wrong

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Speaker 4: with a man taking a bath, Ain't none wrong with that.

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Speaker 4: But if he got a glass of wine and a book,

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Speaker 4: some candles.

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Speaker 2: Were gonna have some questions. We we we we we

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Speaker 2: we we we we we we just gonna have some questions.

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Speaker 4: And I'm telling you I don't mind a man taking

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Speaker 4: a bath. A lot of men take baths, laxes of

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Speaker 4: hard dead.

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Speaker 2: Work, got it here.

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Speaker 4: But if his ass has a glass of wine, white

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Speaker 4: or red, but really if it's white though, and if

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Speaker 4: he like one camera.

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Speaker 2: And his ass gets a novel or novel.

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Speaker 4: And he tied his head up, I'm telling you right

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Speaker 4: now his head up, we got a damn problem, lady.

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Speaker 4: So now, first off, I don't understand sitting in the

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Speaker 4: tub in the hotel that he didn't wash out. First,

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Speaker 4: then he said it's behind in the bubbles that were

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Speaker 4: or washing off anything.

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Speaker 2: So I asked if he was okay.

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Speaker 4: He said it'd be there soaking for at least thirty minutes,

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Speaker 4: so it's okay if I go to sleep. Now, I've

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Speaker 4: dated a lot of weird old since my divorce, but

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Speaker 4: he takes the cake.

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Speaker 2: Do I talk to him about this? Or should I

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Speaker 2: break up with him?

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Speaker 4: First of all, why would you stay with him?

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Speaker 2: You got a man that can't drive on the freeway.

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Speaker 4: You got a man that don't know where to go,

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Speaker 4: don't like going there, we're in crowds. You got a

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Speaker 4: man that runs room temperature bubble bath water and don't

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Speaker 4: like talking and soaking it every night for thirty minutes.

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Speaker 4: And you want to know should you break up with

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Speaker 4: him or talk to him about this? It's nothing to

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Speaker 4: talk about. You tell her you got a man that's

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Speaker 4: got some issues. Why you think he was available? How

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Speaker 4: you think you just found him out of nowhere? How

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Speaker 4: you thought this was your just your damn lucky day?

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Speaker 2: And now let me talk to you.

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Speaker 4: First of all, where did you find this tender, soft ass,

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Speaker 4: scary ass man? Where was he at? Now, let me

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Speaker 4: explain something to you, lady. You need to start evaluating

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Speaker 4: now how and who you dated? Because you said you've

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Speaker 4: dated a lot of weirdos since my divorce. See, you

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Speaker 4: have a propensity for picking weirdos. So now your pick

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Speaker 4: scale is off. You need to stop picking. You need

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Speaker 4: to talk to God and let God have a man

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Speaker 4: find you because your pickers off. You said in your letter,

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Speaker 4: I've dated a lot of weird olds since my divorce,

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Speaker 4: but he takes the cake.

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Speaker 2: A lot of weirdos weirdos.

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Speaker 4: So you go out and your idea of dating a

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Speaker 4: man is you always picking weirdos.

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Speaker 2: See, it's something wrong with your picker. So guess what

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Speaker 4: You need to stop picking because it's all Your picker

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Speaker 4: is broken. You done picked his punk ass. This ten

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Speaker 4: traffic and people, and.

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