Speaker 1: The one and only. I feel that after the father
Speaker 1: of my daughters, the perspective of what love is, of
Speaker 1: what a partner is, of all those things changed for me.
Speaker 1: I'll take all of it privately, okay, publicly the image
Speaker 1: public vacan. He has a lot of girlfriends. They're all beautiful,
Speaker 1: they're all very respectful. He Texas with a lot of
Speaker 1: them all day long. No no, no, no, no, no
Speaker 1: time now yeah he does. What up? Y'all? Welcome back
Speaker 1: to my podcast, Cheeks and Chill. I'm going to keep
Speaker 1: today's in show super short so we can get right
Speaker 1: into the episode. We're gonna be talking about trust and
Speaker 1: relationships with the one and only A Mara, everything from
Speaker 1: cell phone passwords to the dudes and the don'ts of
Speaker 1: social media. So stay tuned. This is Cheeks and Chill. Okay,
Speaker 1: y'all sitting right here with me today is the one
Speaker 1: and only. Not only is she a reality TV star,
Speaker 1: a model, and singer, she's also the host of Mike
Speaker 1: Coutura's Exactly Amara podcast. Season two is now out, you guys, Okay,
Speaker 1: so check it out. So Amada, what's up? Welcome to
Speaker 1: Chickens and Chill. Gang Gang Gang, Oh, my god, thank
Speaker 1: you so much for having me. By the way, Mammy,
Speaker 1: you know, okay, I'm a fan of yours and I've
Speaker 1: been following you on social media. I think you're so cool.
Speaker 1: I love your cosmetics, I love your vibe, your energy.
Speaker 1: By the way, you're extremely bodied and I'm loving it.
Speaker 1: So I am so glad to be on your show.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for having me. Oh, thank you,
Speaker 1: of course. I'm so excited. I'm excited to talk to you.
Speaker 1: You know that one time when we met, I think
Speaker 1: it was in Univision, right at Univision, and I was like, dude,
Speaker 1: there's something about this girl, just her energy. And we've
Speaker 1: been following each other since then. It's been like over
Speaker 1: two years. So yeah, same to you. So fine, as
Speaker 1: the Royal Twins shout out to the girls a man,
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, okay. So I'm sure you know what we're
Speaker 1: gonna talk about today, and I hope you're okay with it.
Speaker 1: I mean, I know how you are, which is why
Speaker 1: I wanted to have this conversation with you. You know,
Speaker 1: I know you're very open it is, which is something
Speaker 1: I absolutely love about you. Well, we're gonna talk about partners, okay,
Speaker 1: relationships and trust and social media and everything. How hard
Speaker 1: or easy do you think it is to trust a
Speaker 1: partner these days? Like to fully trust a partner? Oh
Speaker 1: whit you're supposed to trust them? Oh okay, I didn't
Speaker 1: know that part No, so I don't trust them. That's
Speaker 1: messed up for me to say that, Julio, for me
Speaker 1: to say that, But I don't want to sun them. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm all traumatized, but okay I am. I'm not gonnaven lying.
Speaker 1: You know. I've gone through so many um breakups, bad relationships,
Speaker 1: things like that, not see the mui the chosa and
Speaker 1: funny enough, I want to clarify something because people get
Speaker 1: this messed up. Sometimes they'll be like you're famous or
Speaker 1: oh my god, you have such a nice body, you're
Speaker 1: so pretty, you have money. Guys are trash and even
Speaker 1: whichever level, not all of them but most most of them. Um.
Speaker 1: So I feel that after my the father of my daughters,
Speaker 1: I think, ak okay, the perspective of a relationship, of
Speaker 1: what love is, of what a partner is, of all
Speaker 1: those things changed for me. So, yeah, you're supposed to
Speaker 1: trust them, but can you really trust them? In these days?
Speaker 1: I don't think so, Okay, so it's safe to say
Speaker 1: that you're single right now, Mommy, I am single. I'm ready, Tomingo,
Speaker 1: look at me. I had twins and I am body
Speaker 1: and I am ready. And let me see you something.
Speaker 1: I've been celibate for like eight months, Mommy, mina nice
Speaker 1: and tight and juicy. Let's go. No manches shot up,
Speaker 1: not even a finger, mommy, seeing I haven't done nothing,
Speaker 1: not even a finger, No munches, Nana. I mean I
Speaker 1: kiss one guy one time. Okay, okay, so you know what,
Speaker 1: And I believe you because a while ago, years ago,
Speaker 1: like more than seven years ago, I was celibate for
Speaker 1: almost a year, for almost a year, and that ship
Speaker 1: was like but it was because I was going through
Speaker 1: my own ship. But like now, I don't know, I'm
Speaker 1: going through some type of shift. That's a whole other episode. No, no, no, timeout, wait, timeout,
Speaker 1: hold on, chiggies. Now, tell me if you can relate
Speaker 1: to this feeling as an influencer, a public figure, a celebrity,
Speaker 1: a singer and artist, as somebody that's in the spotlight
Speaker 1: right yeah, sexually, do you ever feel that it's a
Speaker 1: little bit, for example, it's weird, don't judge me. I
Speaker 1: don't care. If you want my pussy, you have to
Speaker 1: sign this NDA. I made them sign a doc sign
Speaker 1: signed this NDA, and then you can hit it. I
Speaker 1: don't care how fine you are. I don't trust you.
Speaker 1: I don't trust you if afterwards you're like, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: or you leak a picture or anything. I'm sewing for
Speaker 1: everything you don't have. So do you ever feel a
Speaker 1: bit awkward? Like having said to someone is crazy? Because
Speaker 1: my team and I have joked around about that I'm
Speaker 1: in a serious relationship brand I've been with my guy
Speaker 1: for almost two years. Did he sign that NDA? No?
Speaker 1: I have not had him sign an NDA. Oh I know.
Speaker 1: And it's crazy because we were talking about about marriage
Speaker 1: right because he was I know, I know she's looking
Speaker 1: at me. You guys, like what I know listen, Because
Speaker 1: we were talking about like he was like he wants
Speaker 1: to marry me, you know, And I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: I okay, that's a conversation that needs to be had,
Speaker 1: like I need to take my time. Yeah. Anyways, and
Speaker 1: I was like, would you sign a prenup? He said absolutely,
Speaker 1: Like I would not. I don't care about that, you know,
Speaker 1: but I've never thought about asking him to sign an NDA.
Speaker 1: What you gotta be all the way messed up? I mean,
Speaker 1: if you want this good, if you want this good
Speaker 1: good I give you want me to do you the
Speaker 1: pretzel and turn into a poor star and do all
Speaker 1: the all the good stuff that I know how to do.
Speaker 1: You got to sign this so I can feel comfortable
Speaker 1: because you and they sign it straight. Yeah, because the
Speaker 1: moment you make me feel like you don't want to
Speaker 1: sign it. Yeah, that's fishy. That's the red flag, mommy,
Speaker 1: red flag right there. If you don't care, sign me
Speaker 1: this dog sign real quick, just send it back. You
Speaker 1: could read it. It just basically means I'm gonna sue
Speaker 1: your ass for one million dollars if you decided to
Speaker 1: come out here doing interviews or don't get nice so
Speaker 1: we're not doing the Britney Spears over here. You got
Speaker 1: me all the way with a stuff No, Bobby, No,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Okay. So have you always been like that
Speaker 1: or did you learn the hard way? I learned the
Speaker 1: hard way, and I learned actually I kind of got
Speaker 1: like this after not the one before, but the one
Speaker 1: after before that one, the relationship I was with I
Speaker 1: was with him for a while, and one day he
Speaker 1: sends me this picture of me sleeping naked. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm comfortable enough to you know, we have sex. I
Speaker 1: just lay there and I go to sleep. You took
Speaker 1: a picture of me naked, and then you send it
Speaker 1: to me like, oh I missed this, da da da,
Speaker 1: And I said, wait, what when did you take this picture?
Speaker 1: I didn't even know this, like why would you do that?
Speaker 1: That's just weird like so and almost made me feel
Speaker 1: like I don't know. And when I sleep, I knocked out,
Speaker 1: like the whole world can fall apart and I don't
Speaker 1: even know. So it made me feel like when I'm
Speaker 1: not sleep, when I'm sleeping, what are you doing? And
Speaker 1: if I'm not, you know I'm sleeping. Even at one
Speaker 1: point we were having sex. You know, you're all caught up.
Speaker 1: He turned on the phone like under the pillow and
Speaker 1: started recording, and then he sent it to me one
Speaker 1: day like oh it was good last night, and I
Speaker 1: was like, why would you do that? Yeah? And then
Speaker 1: if you did it in that way and I didn't
Speaker 1: even know, I god knows how many times you recorded
Speaker 1: me or you did something without me knowing. So I mean,
Speaker 1: let me tell you because if Tomorrow said, sal you know,
Speaker 1: sex tape got late Mummy, I'm not gonna stress Zagatman
Speaker 1: only fans, which I've never done it. Sagaman a lingerie lubricants.
Speaker 1: We're gonna We're gonna make an empire out of it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but you just can't trust people like that these days,
Speaker 1: especially when you're in the spotlight, because people always, you know,
Speaker 1: trying to see what they can take out of you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's because, you know what, More than ever, it's I
Speaker 1: feel like it's more like that, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like I had an ex boyfriend gay I didn't even know,
Speaker 1: Like we broke up, and he says, well, I have
Speaker 1: a video of you. I never even you that he
Speaker 1: took it, like when we were having sex obviously doggy
Speaker 1: style if you guys want to know. And he took
Speaker 1: the video and I was like, no, you don't. He said, oh,
Speaker 1: yeah I do, and he showed it to me. He's like,
Speaker 1: so if you ever blah blah blah, and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh hell no. But see that's one thing. You try
Speaker 1: to threaten me with something like that and be like
Speaker 1: go ahead, and you didn't learn girl, okay, you know,
Speaker 1: because I like to give people the benefit of the doubt.
Speaker 1: And I think with this guy, he's just so different.
Speaker 1: But oh my god, what sign are you? I'm a cancer?
Speaker 1: Oh my god? Cancers? Yeah, you guys are you're you're
Speaker 1: like libers. We get along very well, like slightly hopeless romantic.
Speaker 1: I know. Okay, you don't get the seed. Okay, as
Speaker 1: your new best friend, you're gonna talk to your attorney
Speaker 1: because your man loves you. And I'm sorry, please don't
Speaker 1: hate me like probably you really know, you know, we've
Speaker 1: been together ready, we've already smashed. He's a favorite. Just
Speaker 1: sign this so I feel comfortable, you know, just to
Speaker 1: sign this right here. And they were good, okay, well okay, well,
Speaker 1: I mean, hey, you're right. If he has nothing to hide,
Speaker 1: then he'd be like, okay, well this is I don't know.
Speaker 1: Some people might he might be offended. If you have
Speaker 1: nothing to hide, if you want to make me feel
Speaker 1: protected and safe, maybe he'll do it. I don't know. No,
Speaker 1: no, no no, no, no, no, no offended mommy mita no, yes,
Speaker 1: okay if you offended, offended, you don't want to you
Speaker 1: don't want to sign the damn paper. You're over here
Speaker 1: smashing me no, no no, no, didn't splits. I'll type the
Speaker 1: crazy stuff and you don't want to send this damn
Speaker 1: paper is over? Okay, well all right, well that's you
Speaker 1: know what I'm gonna I'm gonna keep that in mind.
Speaker 1: Now that we have that established. Now that we have
Speaker 1: that established, what do you think about sharing your passwords
Speaker 1: the you know, the passwords to your phone's Like, how
Speaker 1: do you feel did you ever do that with any
Speaker 1: of your axes? Yeah, mummy, when I was younger or whatever.
Speaker 1: But Omida, as a grown as woman in the place
Speaker 1: that I am in my life right now, being exactly
Speaker 1: a maa mamma Mida is not worth it, is it? Literally,
Speaker 1: don't ever ask your man for his past word. Don't
Speaker 1: ask for minds, not that I have anything to hide.
Speaker 1: Maybe I do, but not that I do. It's just
Speaker 1: not worth it because then if you look, you shall
Speaker 1: find men be knowing how to do things, and you
Speaker 1: know exactly they have the they have the fake app
Speaker 1: you know that looks like a calculator, but it's really
Speaker 1: another thing. They have the you know this is my
Speaker 1: sister uncle a d I don't and it's really the
Speaker 1: side chick, side bitch and it's like god, you know, like,
Speaker 1: don't look because you're going to find And that's another thing.
Speaker 1: Ladies don't go on social media. And I'm more than me.
Speaker 1: Vie the love of my life. He loves me. He
Speaker 1: will while while you're doing that, the side bitch is
Speaker 1: over there giving likes and read indicate, oh, you guys
Speaker 1: are so cute together. I've seen that happen. I know,
Speaker 1: so don't don't look. You're gonna find it. He is
Speaker 1: if you want to know, Yes, you wanted to know
Speaker 1: the truth. Yes, he's talking to another bitch. He's talking
Speaker 1: to another girl. He is. Please don't think that he's not.
Speaker 1: They can know he only talks to me. Listen, men
Speaker 1: always talk to several girls. You are the main one,
Speaker 1: you're the number one. But after one comes to three
Speaker 1: and four, nor mine. You know, he has the one
Speaker 1: that tells them there you're so set or her bood
Speaker 1: or as they like to feel, their ego pumped up,
Speaker 1: except yours, not yours, is yours only had it only
Speaker 1: talks to me, I just made that here. I was like,
Speaker 1: damn girl, you got me thinking no, But you know what,
Speaker 1: I think that every guy goes through that part or
Speaker 1: that phase or whatever the hell you want to call
Speaker 1: it of Like, yes, he's a little bastard and he
Speaker 1: does all kinds of fucked up shit to his girl,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And he's saying, yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: tired of this. I want to be right, yeah for
Speaker 1: like a week. Okay, see, I mean because I can't
Speaker 1: even Ama Amara, because to me, you're a very sexy
Speaker 1: like woman and very intelligent and a full package. They've
Speaker 1: they've done this to you, They've like hurt you this way.
Speaker 1: Ninya say they're all trash. It's just somehime more trash
Speaker 1: than others. You just have to pick between the dumpster.
Speaker 1: But the truth of the matter, no, no, no, made that. No, guys.
Speaker 1: I love you guys so much. You guys are so
Speaker 1: important to us in this world. And yes there's a
Speaker 1: lot of important parts of your that we need. But
Speaker 1: besides that that you very much. Um. I feel that
Speaker 1: the more honest you are with yourself, the less it
Speaker 1: hurts with time. And as much as I laugh about
Speaker 1: it and joke around it, you know it's the truth.
Speaker 1: I think that sometimes when you just stop lying to
Speaker 1: yourself or you know, you live in this fantasy world
Speaker 1: of perfection of what a relationships should be like. And
Speaker 1: realistically that's not the truth. I think the society and
Speaker 1: TV and overall they sell us this facade, even even
Speaker 1: as a child of princesses and and prince and it's like,
Speaker 1: is that reality? Is that true? For the most part
Speaker 1: is most relationships that have lasted many years have gone
Speaker 1: through the rota culsters of emotions of you know, cheating
Speaker 1: partners of men or women that have had children. Outside
Speaker 1: of the relationships of many things. That's really where quote
Speaker 1: unquote love starts. When you're able to forgive, when you're
Speaker 1: able to be you know, um patient in the process.
Speaker 1: So I just feel like me being honest with myself.
Speaker 1: Shit happens, you know, and you have to be and
Speaker 1: it's the truth. Shit happens. And it's like you you
Speaker 1: may eat in vegetables every day, but one day you're
Speaker 1: gonna get sick of it, and another day when you
Speaker 1: may want to have noodles, so you think they're not
Speaker 1: gonna go out there and have the No, that's it,
Speaker 1: You're gonna wat noodles. I love you, Oh my god. Okay.
Speaker 1: So I feel like from what I see and from
Speaker 1: what I know, like you're a very confident woman. Are
Speaker 1: you like in a relationship, like, for instance, are you
Speaker 1: that girlfriend that it's like, you know, we talked about
Speaker 1: the past code, right, yeah? Do you don't feel like
Speaker 1: it's necessary? Then you don't feel like it's necessary for
Speaker 1: you to have his past code and he has yours?
Speaker 1: Now do you feel like about Like, for instance, if
Speaker 1: you see your man liking and commenting on another girl's page,
Speaker 1: not necessarily in a flirty way, but it's like, oh,
Speaker 1: get a girl like she's working out. Let's say, yeah,
Speaker 1: she's a good looking girl. How would you react to that?
Speaker 1: You got me all the way messed up? What the
Speaker 1: hell are you giving this a damn liking her picture publicly?
Speaker 1: Trying to embarrass me? Have you lost your damn mind?
Speaker 1: If you're gonna like this gang's picture or whatever, please
Speaker 1: do it privately her DM like the rest of the
Speaker 1: guys do. Okay, that's how the men do it. You
Speaker 1: talk to her in the DMS because I already know
Speaker 1: you're gonna do it. Don't like her publicly. And here's
Speaker 1: another thing, ladies, when you go to your man's Instagram, boom,
Speaker 1: check this out. And I found this out too, because
Speaker 1: I'm the low I am a little bit of a
Speaker 1: stalker and I know you're not supposed to do it,
Speaker 1: but I can't help it. So you go and you
Speaker 1: go and you go to there, you go to your
Speaker 1: man's page and you go see either you know who
Speaker 1: they're following. But if you guys follow you know a
Speaker 1: lot of people in common. The one that you both
Speaker 1: follow will show up first and then the rest. But
Speaker 1: if you create another page from your Instagram, like a
Speaker 1: bootleg page, it will show them in order who they're following.
Speaker 1: Did you know them? So every time it's just to
Speaker 1: follow a new skank boom, you could see who it
Speaker 1: is and I go right in there and I'd be
Speaker 1: looking like, well the hell are you fla hell are
Speaker 1: you talking to my man? Okay, now, so that's that's
Speaker 1: how you do it, mommy, that's how you that's how
Speaker 1: you stock on the low. So a burner account. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it came okay, so much work, and it's like
Speaker 1: you're gonna do it anyways. I just say, don't embarrass
Speaker 1: me publicly, don't talk to the gang publicly. Bora pictures
Speaker 1: and she's taking a picture of the gain a baby's
Speaker 1: with half of her ass? Why are you I don't
Speaker 1: like other men's pictures publicly, I'm not gonna ever embarrass
Speaker 1: you that way because we were gonna be like, yo,
Speaker 1: isn't that Blasi Blasi's girl? So why are you doing it? Okay? Okay,
Speaker 1: all right? Is that bad? Am I being a being?
Speaker 1: Come get possessive meet up. I'll take all of it privately, okay,
Speaker 1: publicly the image, yeah, the image publicly Baccano being, I
Speaker 1: feel I'm there with you if you're gonna like like
Speaker 1: a picture, because like my boyfriend friend Stance follows all
Speaker 1: kinds of models, pretty girls, all his girlfriends then muchez
Speaker 1: amigas like beautiful girls, and of course I'm like, he's
Speaker 1: gonna like the pictures, and I'm like, I've gotten to
Speaker 1: the point where after a year, I'm just like, y,
Speaker 1: I don't am not gonna look I'm not. I have
Speaker 1: to understand, like these are his friends and these are
Speaker 1: the people that he has followed before I was in
Speaker 1: his life. So I've worked on with my therapist to
Speaker 1: be more confident because I also don't want him to
Speaker 1: limit me. Of course, I'm not going to be disrespectful
Speaker 1: and like write anything on some other guy's page. You
Speaker 1: know what I mean, you have to I agree with you,
Speaker 1: like I'm a public figure, you know, like you have
Speaker 1: to understand that and respect that. So I completely I
Speaker 1: get you. I get you. It's just I know I
Speaker 1: was a lot more you'm with toxic on my past relationship.
Speaker 1: But it also has to do with how he was
Speaker 1: I think, and the things that he was doing because
Speaker 1: he was doing bad things and it made me feel like,
Speaker 1: oh wait, he made me doubt him. I also feel
Speaker 1: that sometimes, let's be honest, women, we normally like to
Speaker 1: name ourselves when our significant other does something, will find
Speaker 1: all the reasons why we messed up. Yeah, but men
Speaker 1: also cause women to act crazy. Let's talk about it.
Speaker 1: It's not always just us. You must have done something,
Speaker 1: your behavior must have changed. For example, women may cheat
Speaker 1: and our behavior will continue to be the same. Men,
Speaker 1: in the other hand, you'll act different. You want to
Speaker 1: get colonia, work out and do the most, and you're
Speaker 1: acting weird. This is not you. Something's happening, So you
Speaker 1: must be doing something that's going to cause a woman
Speaker 1: to react a certain type of ways. So, yeah, maybe
Speaker 1: I am a little toxic. Maybe I am a little crazy,
Speaker 1: and I like that with every men. Some men know
Speaker 1: how to bring it out of me more than others.
Speaker 1: That is true, That is absolutely true. I don't know.
Speaker 1: Maybe I do have problem with schemes having no no, no no, no,
Speaker 1: I don't think you have problems. I think you've been
Speaker 1: through a lot. I think you haven't found like a
Speaker 1: man that values you for the woman that you are.
Speaker 1: And I'm telling you because here's the thing, this is
Speaker 1: fucking crazy. I'm telling you this a whole other episode.
Speaker 1: We gotta get together and talk about it. But my
Speaker 1: past relationships before this one, they were very toxic. One
Speaker 1: was very controlling over me. And then the second one
Speaker 1: that I jumped into right away, then I became a
Speaker 1: little bit more possessive of him, and he would do
Speaker 1: things that just were out a line. He just was
Speaker 1: never ready to be in a relationship. He didn't know
Speaker 1: how to be a good partner, and I had to
Speaker 1: learn and I thank him for that. And now that
Speaker 1: I'm in a healthy relationship, I'm starting to see things
Speaker 1: that I did wrong in my past relationships, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, and things that I can change to
Speaker 1: better myself. But that doesn't take away all the fuck
Speaker 1: up shit they did to me because one time my
Speaker 1: one of my export friends like I Seexica. Yeahs, you
Speaker 1: need to take responsibility and accountability for what you did
Speaker 1: to bring that out in me, because I just didn't
Speaker 1: wake up and want to be like no, no, no.
Speaker 1: It was because you had done a lot of things
Speaker 1: seeing to cause me to feel that way, to be like, Okay,
Speaker 1: well why are you hiding your phone or you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? Yeah, yeah, so I get you. I
Speaker 1: get you. Now let me ask you this when you
Speaker 1: when you said that you're you're significant other? Now, has
Speaker 1: you know a lot of female friends that that he
Speaker 1: follows or that he knows this and that little do
Speaker 1: you ever feel or question that maybe he's entertaining any
Speaker 1: of them, that maybe he was with any of them?
Speaker 1: Do are you guys cool? Are you cool with any
Speaker 1: of those girls you see them? Like? How is that relationshi?
Speaker 1: You know, he was very straight up from the beginning,
Speaker 1: and I think we were both on the same page
Speaker 1: because we came from very difficult relationships, so we were
Speaker 1: very aware of that. So he's like, hey, I want
Speaker 1: you to meet my friends. So it so happened to
Speaker 1: be that it was like two guys and like five girls,
Speaker 1: and so he has a lot of girlfriends. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: they're all beautiful and I know them, and that's something
Speaker 1: very different for me because where I was like, well,
Speaker 1: you know, I grew up with a man should not
Speaker 1: be best friends or have a best friend as like
Speaker 1: a female best friend. It was kind of I grew
Speaker 1: up with that mentality and this has been very different
Speaker 1: for me. But they're all very respectful. Um. He texts
Speaker 1: with a lot of them all day long. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: no, no no, no, no time out. Yeah he does no, no, no,
Speaker 1: excuse me, sir, sir, ma'am, ma'am sir, No, sir, it's
Speaker 1: not happening. No, but what type of covers are we? Wait? Yeah,
Speaker 1: and he does. He talks to him a lot. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: we we need to talk to them a lot. It's
Speaker 1: a wee thing. You know. Let's do a group chat.
Speaker 1: How about that? Yeah, because I want to be part
Speaker 1: of the conversation. What are you guys talking about? You know?
Speaker 1: To please, ma'am, do not be ready. Mind they get
Speaker 1: good morning, they get good morning, they get good night,
Speaker 1: they get how are your frame that you eat? If
Speaker 1: he ate or not? Okay, I'm gonna make sure that
Speaker 1: he eats and he's very well. He's feeling just fine, ma'am. Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just not bored. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: does that make me toxic? Well, you know what I think.
Speaker 1: I think it's it's gottack in, you know what I mean. Like,
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, I was very uncomfortable with it. And
Speaker 1: now that we do dinners and we hang out and
Speaker 1: I have their numbers, what do you be into swinging? No?
Speaker 1: Not yet, girl. Well sometimes sometimes I'm like, oh, that
Speaker 1: girl's pretty, you know, but I haven't we have I
Speaker 1: have not yet had a threesome yet. Yeah, I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm saying yet because I've thought about it. Oh wait,
Speaker 1: welcome to the team. Neither have I. I've never had
Speaker 1: a threesome. Yeah, I've thought about having an orgy in
Speaker 1: my mind. It doesn't mean I'm actually gonna go ahead
Speaker 1: and do it. Yeah. No. And here's the thing though,
Speaker 1: we're talking about that. I've talked to my boyfriend or
Speaker 1: I've talked to it like it always sucks it. It's like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: we could do it with another girl. I'm like, okay, well,
Speaker 1: what if it's a threesome with another guy. Oh no, no,
Speaker 1: no, no no, okay, no wait, see that's not fair. So
Speaker 1: I'm just like, well, we're not gonna go into into
Speaker 1: like the threesomething because every time I think, anytime you
Speaker 1: bring someone else in the relationship, it's gonna mess things up.
Speaker 1: So don't even open up that. Don't open that kind
Speaker 1: of worms. No, no, meta. Let me tell you something
Speaker 1: I work with. I work with this event called Mocha
Speaker 1: Fest and they were just here. We went to cam Koon.
Speaker 1: They were just in the Dominican Republic, and you know
Speaker 1: they do um they do like swingings and they do
Speaker 1: they're very sexually liberated type of event. And I was like, wow,
Speaker 1: just being there made me very open mind into looking
Speaker 1: into it. In my mind of how would it be
Speaker 1: to have a threesome with like another man And you
Speaker 1: say all those things when you're horning, but then once
Speaker 1: you're done, is like, what would you do that? But
Speaker 1: in the moment you're like, oh, yeah, that's had such
Speaker 1: a great idea. I don't know, that's just me in
Speaker 1: my mind. Yeah, but um, I think that you should
Speaker 1: you should be sexually liberated. He should experiment to where
Speaker 1: you're comfortable I think that um also with your significant other. Meta.
Speaker 1: Whoever's gonna cheat, they're gonna cheat regardless. I do think
Speaker 1: that is important to be sexually open and liberated with
Speaker 1: your partners so they don't necessarily feel the need to
Speaker 1: go explore somewhere else, and you know, have fun and
Speaker 1: be cool with each other, even though get regardless, regardless,
Speaker 1: behind your head, when they see the next gang, they're
Speaker 1: gonna be like, oh, because that's how they are. Women
Speaker 1: neither hand be fun enough. Hoone's and her children really married.
Speaker 1: They're not thinking about that. But that comes with time, maturity.
Speaker 1: And I'll tell you this much, my daughter's really made
Speaker 1: me become even more grounded. I've always been very humble.
Speaker 1: I've always been real cool, real down to earth, having
Speaker 1: two girls, having two babies, having being a single mother
Speaker 1: at this point, when I thought that I would have
Speaker 1: my fairy tale. When I thought that, you know, I've
Speaker 1: been waiting for so long, or you know I'm thirty
Speaker 1: two now, I waited. I've been a good girl. I
Speaker 1: haven't been messing around with anybody. I do things right.
Speaker 1: I'm a good daughter. I'm a good mother, like I'm
Speaker 1: a good woman. I thought I would have my fairy
Speaker 1: tale and it didn't turn out that way. So it
Speaker 1: just put things in perspective for me of like, you
Speaker 1: have to be realistic to what life may be for you.
Speaker 1: It may not always turn out to be the way
Speaker 1: that you plan, and you have to be prepared for that.
Speaker 1: And the meantime, you have to live. Sometimes we don't
Speaker 1: really live were we want things to be so perfect
Speaker 1: and so right. You no want to set us see,
Speaker 1: and that's okay too. So I don't know. I just
Speaker 1: think that my mentality has changed a lot now, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I bet, especially after having two girls, and I think,
Speaker 1: like you, you are their prime example, you know, so
Speaker 1: it's like you. It just forces you to be like, hey,
Speaker 1: I want to show these girls how to be better
Speaker 1: than me in every way. I'm a saying I don't
Speaker 1: have kids yet, but I could just assume it's a
Speaker 1: huge responsibility. You have two girls, you know, two, so
Speaker 1: it's scare of them girls. It is a lot of responsibility.
Speaker 1: It does make you mature, it makes you be I
Speaker 1: became like a mama bear. I became fearless. If I
Speaker 1: was a workaholic before, I work even harder now and
Speaker 1: and now even for my dating scene. Things have changed
Speaker 1: because it's not just about the now I'm thinking about
Speaker 1: banake Bobby. You're gonna come over here, I splo, Okay,
Speaker 1: You're gonna add all these damn miles into my total
Speaker 1: for nothing? And what am I gonna gain out of this? Ah? No,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna getting nothing out of it. And then on
Speaker 1: top of that, even if I like you, are you
Speaker 1: a good man enough for me to bring around my daughters?
Speaker 1: You know? Now, it's just it's not just about me.
Speaker 1: Once you become a mother. For the girls out there listening,
Speaker 1: you know, the feeling you can relate is like, are
Speaker 1: you cool enough to be around my kids? How you
Speaker 1: act around them? You never know? So dating now has
Speaker 1: changed for me. Now it's more like a grown woman,
Speaker 1: Like it's not even so much about having fun. It's like,
Speaker 1: I'm a grown woman. Now, what do you really bring
Speaker 1: to the table? Because I know I didn't bring the table.
Speaker 1: I made the damn table. How about that I set
Speaker 1: that ship up? Yeah? No, I totally get it. I
Speaker 1: totally get it. And I see you on Instagram and
Speaker 1: you hustle girls, you know Las Casas the transportation like
Speaker 1: you're singing like I'm like, dude, I admire your hustle
Speaker 1: one hundred percent. Thank you. And if you guys don't actually,
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Speaker 1: you'll see you know, my transportation, my girls less royal twins. Ummm,
Speaker 1: they're also working. No, what do you think the diapers
Speaker 1: in the formulas expensive? I put them to work right away. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: that your baby influencers. I saw that. I'm like, that
Speaker 1: is so cute. Hey, listen, it's a good way to
Speaker 1: empower them. I agree, I absolutely What are you thinking?
Speaker 1: Do you want to be a mother? Do you want
Speaker 1: to have children? You know what? I go in and
Speaker 1: out see kiato, I want to steal. I'm finally living
Speaker 1: this maybe that where I just feel free? Yes, and
Speaker 1: I want to continue with that and do my thing.
Speaker 1: And I've raised children like my siblings, so it's like
Speaker 1: I would love that, and it happens, I'll welcome it
Speaker 1: with happiness, you know. So I'm just chilling. I'm not
Speaker 1: on birth control. I'm not trying, and I'm not not
Speaker 1: trying you feel me. I'm just doing my thing. Okay,
Speaker 1: but let me let let's let's let's um figure all
Speaker 1: those things out after that, damn NDA. But yeah, for sure,
Speaker 1: I think he's a beautiful thing. I love it. Oh
Speaker 1: my god. You guys heard it here on Chickens and Chill.
Speaker 1: Mada asked her to get the NDA. Girls you already know,
Speaker 1: don't trust it. Okay, keep your eyes open and you know,
Speaker 1: be open to love, but also be open into protecting
Speaker 1: your heart, protecting yourself. As women, we have to empower
Speaker 1: each other and this is a good tip to out
Speaker 1: to the girls out there listening. So with that being said, chiggies,
Speaker 1: I might be happy. Thank you so much for having
Speaker 1: me on your show. I'm so grateful. I'm such a fan.
Speaker 1: I admire you so much. I can't wait for my
Speaker 1: girls to meet you in speed believe it or not,
Speaker 1: Because you don't know how many women you know check
Speaker 1: out your page and the things that you've done in
Speaker 1: the way that you inspire us, and I'm just so
Speaker 1: proud of you. Oh, thank you am likewise, honestly that,
Speaker 1: and thank you for taking the time to be here
Speaker 1: on Chiggies and Chill. And thank you because I know
Speaker 1: you are in dr and you made it happen so
Speaker 1: much as yes, and I will see you soon. And
Speaker 1: you guys know we always end every episode of Chickens
Speaker 1: and Chill with a quote, and the quote for today
Speaker 1: is a healthy relationship is one where two independent people
Speaker 1: just make a deal that they will help make the
Speaker 1: other person the best version of themselves. So there you
Speaker 1: have it, you guys, thank you so much for listening
Speaker 1: to Chickis and Chill. Amara, Thank you so much you
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