WEBVTT - Toxic Relationships with Amara La Negra 0:00:03.560 --> 0:00:07.600 The one and only. I feel that after the father 0:00:07.720 --> 0:00:10.879 of my daughters, the perspective of what love is, of 0:00:10.880 --> 0:00:13.239 what a partner is, of all those things changed for me. 0:00:16.840 --> 0:00:20.520 I'll take all of it privately, okay, publicly the image 0:00:20.520 --> 0:00:26.960 public vacan. He has a lot of girlfriends. They're all beautiful, 0:00:27.120 --> 0:00:29.880 they're all very respectful. He Texas with a lot of 0:00:29.880 --> 0:00:33.040 them all day long. No no, no, no, no, no 0:00:33.080 --> 0:00:40.560 time now yeah he does. What up? Y'all? Welcome back 0:00:40.600 --> 0:00:44.199 to my podcast, Cheeks and Chill. I'm going to keep 0:00:44.240 --> 0:00:46.600 today's in show super short so we can get right 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:49.559 into the episode. We're gonna be talking about trust and 0:00:49.600 --> 0:00:53.760 relationships with the one and only A Mara, everything from 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:55.920 cell phone passwords to the dudes and the don'ts of 0:00:56.040 --> 0:01:04.800 social media. So stay tuned. This is Cheeks and Chill. Okay, 0:01:04.880 --> 0:01:07.839 y'all sitting right here with me today is the one 0:01:07.840 --> 0:01:12.200 and only. Not only is she a reality TV star, 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:15.880 a model, and singer, she's also the host of Mike 0:01:15.920 --> 0:01:20.440 Coutura's Exactly Amara podcast. Season two is now out, you guys, Okay, 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:23.319 so check it out. So Amada, what's up? Welcome to 0:01:23.360 --> 0:01:26.520 Chickens and Chill. Gang Gang Gang, Oh, my god, thank 0:01:26.520 --> 0:01:28.160 you so much for having me. By the way, Mammy, 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:30.760 you know, okay, I'm a fan of yours and I've 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:33.600 been following you on social media. I think you're so cool. 0:01:33.760 --> 0:01:37.080 I love your cosmetics, I love your vibe, your energy. 0:01:37.160 --> 0:01:40.679 By the way, you're extremely bodied and I'm loving it. 0:01:40.920 --> 0:01:42.800 So I am so glad to be on your show. 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:45.759 Thank you so much for having me. Oh, thank you, 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:49.320 of course. I'm so excited. I'm excited to talk to you. 0:01:49.320 --> 0:01:51.800 You know that one time when we met, I think 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:54.880 it was in Univision, right at Univision, and I was like, dude, 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:58.280 there's something about this girl, just her energy. And we've 0:01:58.320 --> 0:02:00.440 been following each other since then. It's been like over 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:05.640 two years. So yeah, same to you. So fine, as 0:02:05.640 --> 0:02:09.160 the Royal Twins shout out to the girls a man, 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:13.880 Yeah yeah, okay. So I'm sure you know what we're 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:17.079 gonna talk about today, and I hope you're okay with it. 0:02:17.160 --> 0:02:18.480 I mean, I know how you are, which is why 0:02:18.480 --> 0:02:20.200 I wanted to have this conversation with you. You know, 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:25.200 I know you're very open it is, which is something 0:02:25.240 --> 0:02:29.359 I absolutely love about you. Well, we're gonna talk about partners, okay, 0:02:29.520 --> 0:02:34.160 relationships and trust and social media and everything. How hard 0:02:34.240 --> 0:02:36.880 or easy do you think it is to trust a 0:02:36.960 --> 0:02:39.880 partner these days? Like to fully trust a partner? Oh 0:02:39.880 --> 0:02:42.400 whit you're supposed to trust them? Oh okay, I didn't 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:45.720 know that part No, so I don't trust them. That's 0:02:45.760 --> 0:02:48.120 messed up for me to say that, Julio, for me 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:50.240 to say that, But I don't want to sun them. Okay, 0:02:50.280 --> 0:02:53.400 I'm all traumatized, but okay I am. I'm not gonnaven lying. 0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:57.720 You know. I've gone through so many um breakups, bad relationships, 0:02:57.800 --> 0:03:01.959 things like that, not see the mui the chosa and 0:03:05.000 --> 0:03:07.600 funny enough, I want to clarify something because people get 0:03:07.600 --> 0:03:11.320 this messed up. Sometimes they'll be like you're famous or 0:03:11.400 --> 0:03:13.040 oh my god, you have such a nice body, you're 0:03:13.080 --> 0:03:17.519 so pretty, you have money. Guys are trash and even 0:03:17.919 --> 0:03:22.120 whichever level, not all of them but most most of them. Um. 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:25.760 So I feel that after my the father of my daughters, 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:30.160 I think, ak okay, the perspective of a relationship, of 0:03:30.160 --> 0:03:32.200 what love is, of what a partner is, of all 0:03:32.200 --> 0:03:35.720 those things changed for me. So, yeah, you're supposed to 0:03:35.760 --> 0:03:37.960 trust them, but can you really trust them? In these days? 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:40.000 I don't think so, Okay, so it's safe to say 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:43.320 that you're single right now, Mommy, I am single. I'm ready, Tomingo, 0:03:43.400 --> 0:03:45.280 look at me. I had twins and I am body 0:03:45.320 --> 0:03:47.320 and I am ready. And let me see you something. 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:50.240 I've been celibate for like eight months, Mommy, mina nice 0:03:50.320 --> 0:03:54.200 and tight and juicy. Let's go. No manches shot up, 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:58.120 not even a finger, mommy, seeing I haven't done nothing, 0:03:58.680 --> 0:04:02.760 not even a finger, No munches, Nana. I mean I 0:04:02.920 --> 0:04:06.560 kiss one guy one time. Okay, okay, so you know what, 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:09.080 And I believe you because a while ago, years ago, 0:04:09.400 --> 0:04:12.440 like more than seven years ago, I was celibate for 0:04:12.520 --> 0:04:15.560 almost a year, for almost a year, and that ship 0:04:15.760 --> 0:04:17.240 was like but it was because I was going through 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:20.200 my own ship. But like now, I don't know, I'm 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:25.679 going through some type of shift. That's a whole other episode. No, no, no, timeout, wait, timeout, 0:04:25.720 --> 0:04:27.680 hold on, chiggies. Now, tell me if you can relate 0:04:27.680 --> 0:04:31.760 to this feeling as an influencer, a public figure, a celebrity, 0:04:31.800 --> 0:04:35.880 a singer and artist, as somebody that's in the spotlight 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:38.920 right yeah, sexually, do you ever feel that it's a 0:04:38.920 --> 0:04:42.479 little bit, for example, it's weird, don't judge me. I 0:04:42.480 --> 0:04:43.919 don't care. If you want my pussy, you have to 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:47.359 sign this NDA. I made them sign a doc sign 0:04:47.600 --> 0:04:50.680 signed this NDA, and then you can hit it. I 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:52.720 don't care how fine you are. I don't trust you. 0:04:52.800 --> 0:04:56.159 I don't trust you if afterwards you're like, oh yeah, 0:04:57.920 --> 0:05:00.200 or you leak a picture or anything. I'm sewing for 0:05:00.200 --> 0:05:02.640 everything you don't have. So do you ever feel a 0:05:02.640 --> 0:05:06.560 bit awkward? Like having said to someone is crazy? Because 0:05:07.440 --> 0:05:09.440 my team and I have joked around about that I'm 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:11.360 in a serious relationship brand I've been with my guy 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:14.880 for almost two years. Did he sign that NDA? No? 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:18.280 I have not had him sign an NDA. Oh I know. 0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:21.760 And it's crazy because we were talking about about marriage 0:05:21.800 --> 0:05:23.680 right because he was I know, I know she's looking 0:05:23.680 --> 0:05:26.480 at me. You guys, like what I know listen, Because 0:05:26.520 --> 0:05:28.200 we were talking about like he was like he wants 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:29.640 to marry me, you know, And I was like, okay, 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:32.880 I okay, that's a conversation that needs to be had, 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:35.159 like I need to take my time. Yeah. Anyways, and 0:05:35.200 --> 0:05:37.600 I was like, would you sign a prenup? He said absolutely, 0:05:37.640 --> 0:05:40.400 Like I would not. I don't care about that, you know, 0:05:40.800 --> 0:05:43.880 but I've never thought about asking him to sign an NDA. 0:05:44.120 --> 0:05:46.520 What you gotta be all the way messed up? I mean, 0:05:46.520 --> 0:05:48.360 if you want this good, if you want this good 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:50.360 good I give you want me to do you the 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:53.160 pretzel and turn into a poor star and do all 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:54.680 the all the good stuff that I know how to do. 0:05:54.839 --> 0:05:56.800 You got to sign this so I can feel comfortable 0:05:57.000 --> 0:06:01.279 because you and they sign it straight. Yeah, because the 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:03.240 moment you make me feel like you don't want to 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:06.719 sign it. Yeah, that's fishy. That's the red flag, mommy, 0:06:06.800 --> 0:06:09.039 red flag right there. If you don't care, sign me 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:10.760 this dog sign real quick, just send it back. You 0:06:10.760 --> 0:06:12.960 could read it. It just basically means I'm gonna sue 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:15.919 your ass for one million dollars if you decided to 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:18.640 come out here doing interviews or don't get nice so 0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:20.560 we're not doing the Britney Spears over here. You got 0:06:20.560 --> 0:06:22.280 me all the way with a stuff No, Bobby, No, 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:25.440 I'm sorry. Okay. So have you always been like that 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:27.800 or did you learn the hard way? I learned the 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:30.240 hard way, and I learned actually I kind of got 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.720 like this after not the one before, but the one 0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:35.240 after before that one, the relationship I was with I 0:06:35.240 --> 0:06:37.479 was with him for a while, and one day he 0:06:37.640 --> 0:06:39.760 sends me this picture of me sleeping naked. I mean, 0:06:39.800 --> 0:06:42.359 I'm comfortable enough to you know, we have sex. I 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:44.360 just lay there and I go to sleep. You took 0:06:44.360 --> 0:06:45.719 a picture of me naked, and then you send it 0:06:45.760 --> 0:06:47.200 to me like, oh I missed this, da da da, 0:06:47.240 --> 0:06:49.839 And I said, wait, what when did you take this picture? 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:51.640 I didn't even know this, like why would you do that? 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:54.120 That's just weird like so and almost made me feel 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:56.039 like I don't know. And when I sleep, I knocked out, 0:06:56.080 --> 0:06:57.640 like the whole world can fall apart and I don't 0:06:57.640 --> 0:06:59.800 even know. So it made me feel like when I'm 0:06:59.839 --> 0:07:02.080 not sleep, when I'm sleeping, what are you doing? And 0:07:02.120 --> 0:07:04.480 if I'm not, you know I'm sleeping. Even at one 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:07.400 point we were having sex. You know, you're all caught up. 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:10.040 He turned on the phone like under the pillow and 0:07:10.120 --> 0:07:13.080 started recording, and then he sent it to me one 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:14.880 day like oh it was good last night, and I 0:07:15.000 --> 0:07:17.760 was like, why would you do that? Yeah? And then 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:19.840 if you did it in that way and I didn't 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:22.600 even know, I god knows how many times you recorded 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:25.920 me or you did something without me knowing. So I mean, 0:07:27.000 --> 0:07:30.240 let me tell you because if Tomorrow said, sal you know, 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:33.640 sex tape got late Mummy, I'm not gonna stress Zagatman 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:37.520 only fans, which I've never done it. Sagaman a lingerie lubricants. 0:07:38.680 --> 0:07:40.920 We're gonna We're gonna make an empire out of it. Yeah, 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:43.560 but you just can't trust people like that these days, 0:07:43.640 --> 0:07:45.880 especially when you're in the spotlight, because people always, you know, 0:07:45.920 --> 0:07:48.160 trying to see what they can take out of you. Yeah, 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:50.160 it's because, you know what, More than ever, it's I 0:07:50.160 --> 0:07:52.480 feel like it's more like that, you know what I mean? 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:56.200 Like I had an ex boyfriend gay I didn't even know, 0:07:56.440 --> 0:07:58.200 Like we broke up, and he says, well, I have 0:07:58.240 --> 0:08:00.440 a video of you. I never even you that he 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:03.720 took it, like when we were having sex obviously doggy 0:08:03.760 --> 0:08:06.400 style if you guys want to know. And he took 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:09.560 the video and I was like, no, you don't. He said, oh, 0:08:09.600 --> 0:08:11.200 yeah I do, and he showed it to me. He's like, 0:08:11.240 --> 0:08:13.040 so if you ever blah blah blah, and I was like, 0:08:13.560 --> 0:08:15.520 oh hell no. But see that's one thing. You try 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:17.080 to threaten me with something like that and be like 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:20.800 go ahead, and you didn't learn girl, okay, you know, 0:08:20.880 --> 0:08:22.800 because I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:25.360 And I think with this guy, he's just so different. 0:08:25.480 --> 0:08:28.600 But oh my god, what sign are you? I'm a cancer? 0:08:29.200 --> 0:08:31.880 Oh my god? Cancers? Yeah, you guys are you're you're 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:35.240 like libers. We get along very well, like slightly hopeless romantic. 0:08:37.040 --> 0:08:40.199 I know. Okay, you don't get the seed. Okay, as 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:43.040 your new best friend, you're gonna talk to your attorney 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:45.320 because your man loves you. And I'm sorry, please don't 0:08:45.320 --> 0:08:47.120 hate me like probably you really know, you know, we've 0:08:47.120 --> 0:08:49.920 been together ready, we've already smashed. He's a favorite. Just 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:52.640 sign this so I feel comfortable, you know, just to 0:08:52.640 --> 0:08:57.319 sign this right here. And they were good, okay, well okay, well, 0:08:57.360 --> 0:09:00.000 I mean, hey, you're right. If he has nothing to hide, 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:01.680 then he'd be like, okay, well this is I don't know. 0:09:01.720 --> 0:09:05.640 Some people might he might be offended. If you have 0:09:05.679 --> 0:09:07.280 nothing to hide, if you want to make me feel 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:10.320 protected and safe, maybe he'll do it. I don't know. No, 0:09:10.320 --> 0:09:19.520 no, no no, no, no, no, no offended mommy mita no, yes, 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:23.240 okay if you offended, offended, you don't want to you 0:09:23.240 --> 0:09:25.120 don't want to sign the damn paper. You're over here 0:09:25.160 --> 0:09:28.319 smashing me no, no no, no, didn't splits. I'll type the 0:09:28.360 --> 0:09:30.120 crazy stuff and you don't want to send this damn 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:33.000 paper is over? Okay, well all right, well that's you 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:35.760 know what I'm gonna I'm gonna keep that in mind. 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:38.440 Now that we have that established. Now that we have 0:09:38.520 --> 0:09:49.040 that established, what do you think about sharing your passwords 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:50.960 the you know, the passwords to your phone's Like, how 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:52.320 do you feel did you ever do that with any 0:09:52.320 --> 0:09:54.920 of your axes? Yeah, mummy, when I was younger or whatever. 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:57.559 But Omida, as a grown as woman in the place 0:09:57.600 --> 0:09:59.760 that I am in my life right now, being exactly 0:09:59.840 --> 0:10:03.240 a maa mamma Mida is not worth it, is it? Literally, 0:10:03.480 --> 0:10:05.680 don't ever ask your man for his past word. Don't 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:08.040 ask for minds, not that I have anything to hide. 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:10.280 Maybe I do, but not that I do. It's just 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:13.360 not worth it because then if you look, you shall 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:16.040 find men be knowing how to do things, and you 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:18.200 know exactly they have the they have the fake app 0:10:18.800 --> 0:10:20.760 you know that looks like a calculator, but it's really 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:23.400 another thing. They have the you know this is my 0:10:23.480 --> 0:10:26.200 sister uncle a d I don't and it's really the 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:31.800 side chick, side bitch and it's like god, you know, like, 0:10:31.920 --> 0:10:35.200 don't look because you're going to find And that's another thing. 0:10:35.640 --> 0:10:40.040 Ladies don't go on social media. And I'm more than me. 0:10:40.120 --> 0:10:42.839 Vie the love of my life. He loves me. He 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:46.839 will while while you're doing that, the side bitch is 0:10:46.840 --> 0:10:49.120 over there giving likes and read indicate, oh, you guys 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:53.160 are so cute together. I've seen that happen. I know, 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:58.200 so don't don't look. You're gonna find it. He is 0:10:58.400 --> 0:11:00.640 if you want to know, Yes, you wanted to know 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:02.880 the truth. Yes, he's talking to another bitch. He's talking 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:05.400 to another girl. He is. Please don't think that he's not. 0:11:05.600 --> 0:11:08.680 They can know he only talks to me. Listen, men 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:11.240 always talk to several girls. You are the main one, 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:14.000 you're the number one. But after one comes to three 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:16.720 and four, nor mine. You know, he has the one 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:23.240 that tells them there you're so set or her bood 0:11:22.400 --> 0:11:26.160 or as they like to feel, their ego pumped up, 0:11:26.679 --> 0:11:29.600 except yours, not yours, is yours only had it only 0:11:29.679 --> 0:11:34.400 talks to me, I just made that here. I was like, 0:11:34.480 --> 0:11:36.679 damn girl, you got me thinking no, But you know what, 0:11:37.480 --> 0:11:41.720 I think that every guy goes through that part or 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:43.679 that phase or whatever the hell you want to call 0:11:43.720 --> 0:11:46.280 it of Like, yes, he's a little bastard and he 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:48.680 does all kinds of fucked up shit to his girl, 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:53.880 you know what I mean. And he's saying, yeah, I'm 0:11:53.880 --> 0:11:56.320 tired of this. I want to be right, yeah for 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:59.520 like a week. Okay, see, I mean because I can't 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:03.080 even Ama Amara, because to me, you're a very sexy 0:12:03.120 --> 0:12:07.760 like woman and very intelligent and a full package. They've 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:10.320 they've done this to you, They've like hurt you this way. 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:13.120 Ninya say they're all trash. It's just somehime more trash 0:12:13.160 --> 0:12:15.000 than others. You just have to pick between the dumpster. 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:17.480 But the truth of the matter, no, no, no, made that. No, guys. 0:12:17.520 --> 0:12:18.920 I love you guys so much. You guys are so 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:21.559 important to us in this world. And yes there's a 0:12:21.559 --> 0:12:24.000 lot of important parts of your that we need. But 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:28.480 besides that that you very much. Um. I feel that 0:12:28.880 --> 0:12:31.600 the more honest you are with yourself, the less it 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:34.560 hurts with time. And as much as I laugh about 0:12:34.559 --> 0:12:36.480 it and joke around it, you know it's the truth. 0:12:36.520 --> 0:12:38.400 I think that sometimes when you just stop lying to 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:41.080 yourself or you know, you live in this fantasy world 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:44.000 of perfection of what a relationships should be like. And 0:12:44.080 --> 0:12:47.000 realistically that's not the truth. I think the society and 0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:50.680 TV and overall they sell us this facade, even even 0:12:50.720 --> 0:12:56.160 as a child of princesses and and prince and it's like, 0:12:56.440 --> 0:12:59.720 is that reality? Is that true? For the most part 0:12:59.880 --> 0:13:03.520 is most relationships that have lasted many years have gone 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:07.200 through the rota culsters of emotions of you know, cheating 0:13:07.240 --> 0:13:10.920 partners of men or women that have had children. Outside 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:14.160 of the relationships of many things. That's really where quote 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:17.000 unquote love starts. When you're able to forgive, when you're 0:13:17.000 --> 0:13:20.720 able to be you know, um patient in the process. 0:13:21.080 --> 0:13:23.960 So I just feel like me being honest with myself. 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:27.199 Shit happens, you know, and you have to be and 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:29.360 it's the truth. Shit happens. And it's like you you 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:32.120 may eat in vegetables every day, but one day you're 0:13:32.120 --> 0:13:34.200 gonna get sick of it, and another day when you 0:13:34.240 --> 0:13:36.160 may want to have noodles, so you think they're not 0:13:36.160 --> 0:13:40.000 gonna go out there and have the No, that's it, 0:13:42.080 --> 0:13:46.560 You're gonna wat noodles. I love you, Oh my god. Okay. 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:50.120 So I feel like from what I see and from 0:13:50.120 --> 0:13:52.920 what I know, like you're a very confident woman. Are 0:13:52.960 --> 0:13:54.880 you like in a relationship, like, for instance, are you 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:57.840 that girlfriend that it's like, you know, we talked about 0:13:57.840 --> 0:14:00.079 the past code, right, yeah? Do you don't feel like 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:02.120 it's necessary? Then you don't feel like it's necessary for 0:14:02.160 --> 0:14:04.240 you to have his past code and he has yours? 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:07.280 Now do you feel like about Like, for instance, if 0:14:07.280 --> 0:14:10.200 you see your man liking and commenting on another girl's page, 0:14:10.240 --> 0:14:12.080 not necessarily in a flirty way, but it's like, oh, 0:14:12.160 --> 0:14:14.520 get a girl like she's working out. Let's say, yeah, 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:16.960 she's a good looking girl. How would you react to that? 0:14:17.480 --> 0:14:19.320 You got me all the way messed up? What the 0:14:19.360 --> 0:14:23.120 hell are you giving this a damn liking her picture publicly? 0:14:23.320 --> 0:14:26.080 Trying to embarrass me? Have you lost your damn mind? 0:14:26.200 --> 0:14:28.920 If you're gonna like this gang's picture or whatever, please 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:30.720 do it privately her DM like the rest of the 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:33.240 guys do. Okay, that's how the men do it. You 0:14:33.360 --> 0:14:35.200 talk to her in the DMS because I already know 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:38.520 you're gonna do it. Don't like her publicly. And here's 0:14:38.520 --> 0:14:41.960 another thing, ladies, when you go to your man's Instagram, boom, 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:44.280 check this out. And I found this out too, because 0:14:44.360 --> 0:14:45.840 I'm the low I am a little bit of a 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:47.520 stalker and I know you're not supposed to do it, 0:14:47.560 --> 0:14:50.120 but I can't help it. So you go and you 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:52.040 go and you go to there, you go to your 0:14:52.080 --> 0:14:53.960 man's page and you go see either you know who 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:58.400 they're following. But if you guys follow you know a 0:14:58.440 --> 0:15:00.840 lot of people in common. The one that you both 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:04.080 follow will show up first and then the rest. But 0:15:04.240 --> 0:15:07.480 if you create another page from your Instagram, like a 0:15:07.480 --> 0:15:11.480 bootleg page, it will show them in order who they're following. 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:14.320 Did you know them? So every time it's just to 0:15:14.320 --> 0:15:16.440 follow a new skank boom, you could see who it 0:15:16.520 --> 0:15:17.880 is and I go right in there and I'd be 0:15:17.920 --> 0:15:23.040 looking like, well the hell are you fla hell are 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:27.200 you talking to my man? Okay, now, so that's that's 0:15:27.240 --> 0:15:28.920 how you do it, mommy, that's how you that's how 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:32.360 you stock on the low. So a burner account. Yeah, 0:15:32.360 --> 0:15:35.120 but it came okay, so much work, and it's like 0:15:35.360 --> 0:15:38.200 you're gonna do it anyways. I just say, don't embarrass 0:15:38.200 --> 0:15:43.800 me publicly, don't talk to the gang publicly. Bora pictures 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:45.800 and she's taking a picture of the gain a baby's 0:15:45.960 --> 0:15:48.360 with half of her ass? Why are you I don't 0:15:48.400 --> 0:15:51.680 like other men's pictures publicly, I'm not gonna ever embarrass 0:15:51.720 --> 0:15:53.320 you that way because we were gonna be like, yo, 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:58.880 isn't that Blasi Blasi's girl? So why are you doing it? Okay? Okay, 0:15:58.920 --> 0:16:00.840 all right? Is that bad? Am I being a being? 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:14.160 Come get possessive meet up. I'll take all of it privately, okay, 0:16:14.200 --> 0:16:23.080 publicly the image, yeah, the image publicly Baccano being, I 0:16:23.120 --> 0:16:25.000 feel I'm there with you if you're gonna like like 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:27.440 a picture, because like my boyfriend friend Stance follows all 0:16:27.520 --> 0:16:30.520 kinds of models, pretty girls, all his girlfriends then muchez 0:16:30.880 --> 0:16:35.320 amigas like beautiful girls, and of course I'm like, he's 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:37.080 gonna like the pictures, and I'm like, I've gotten to 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:39.320 the point where after a year, I'm just like, y, 0:16:40.480 --> 0:16:42.480 I don't am not gonna look I'm not. I have 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:45.000 to understand, like these are his friends and these are 0:16:45.000 --> 0:16:46.640 the people that he has followed before I was in 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:49.680 his life. So I've worked on with my therapist to 0:16:49.720 --> 0:16:52.920 be more confident because I also don't want him to 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:55.680 limit me. Of course, I'm not going to be disrespectful 0:16:55.720 --> 0:16:57.720 and like write anything on some other guy's page. You 0:16:57.760 --> 0:16:59.560 know what I mean, you have to I agree with you, 0:16:59.600 --> 0:17:02.560 like I'm a public figure, you know, like you have 0:17:02.640 --> 0:17:06.760 to understand that and respect that. So I completely I 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:09.840 get you. I get you. It's just I know I 0:17:09.960 --> 0:17:12.679 was a lot more you'm with toxic on my past relationship. 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:15.919 But it also has to do with how he was 0:17:16.000 --> 0:17:18.000 I think, and the things that he was doing because 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:20.600 he was doing bad things and it made me feel like, 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:24.440 oh wait, he made me doubt him. I also feel 0:17:24.440 --> 0:17:27.719 that sometimes, let's be honest, women, we normally like to 0:17:27.800 --> 0:17:31.200 name ourselves when our significant other does something, will find 0:17:31.240 --> 0:17:33.880 all the reasons why we messed up. Yeah, but men 0:17:34.080 --> 0:17:37.800 also cause women to act crazy. Let's talk about it. 0:17:37.800 --> 0:17:41.200 It's not always just us. You must have done something, 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:44.400 your behavior must have changed. For example, women may cheat 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:47.160 and our behavior will continue to be the same. Men, 0:17:47.200 --> 0:17:49.600 in the other hand, you'll act different. You want to 0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:52.760 get colonia, work out and do the most, and you're 0:17:52.800 --> 0:17:56.080 acting weird. This is not you. Something's happening, So you 0:17:56.160 --> 0:17:58.480 must be doing something that's going to cause a woman 0:17:58.520 --> 0:18:01.040 to react a certain type of ways. So, yeah, maybe 0:18:01.080 --> 0:18:03.280 I am a little toxic. Maybe I am a little crazy, 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:05.919 and I like that with every men. Some men know 0:18:05.960 --> 0:18:07.760 how to bring it out of me more than others. 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:10.040 That is true, That is absolutely true. I don't know. 0:18:10.320 --> 0:18:12.520 Maybe I do have problem with schemes having no no, no no, no, 0:18:12.640 --> 0:18:14.280 I don't think you have problems. I think you've been 0:18:14.320 --> 0:18:18.119 through a lot. I think you haven't found like a 0:18:18.280 --> 0:18:20.640 man that values you for the woman that you are. 0:18:21.280 --> 0:18:23.720 And I'm telling you because here's the thing, this is 0:18:23.720 --> 0:18:26.080 fucking crazy. I'm telling you this a whole other episode. 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:28.560 We gotta get together and talk about it. But my 0:18:28.640 --> 0:18:32.600 past relationships before this one, they were very toxic. One 0:18:32.680 --> 0:18:35.600 was very controlling over me. And then the second one 0:18:35.600 --> 0:18:38.639 that I jumped into right away, then I became a 0:18:38.640 --> 0:18:41.520 little bit more possessive of him, and he would do 0:18:41.640 --> 0:18:43.679 things that just were out a line. He just was 0:18:43.760 --> 0:18:45.639 never ready to be in a relationship. He didn't know 0:18:45.680 --> 0:18:48.760 how to be a good partner, and I had to 0:18:48.880 --> 0:18:50.840 learn and I thank him for that. And now that 0:18:50.920 --> 0:18:55.480 I'm in a healthy relationship, I'm starting to see things 0:18:55.920 --> 0:18:57.920 that I did wrong in my past relationships, you know 0:18:57.960 --> 0:18:59.840 what I mean, and things that I can change to 0:19:00.160 --> 0:19:02.680 better myself. But that doesn't take away all the fuck 0:19:02.760 --> 0:19:06.840 up shit they did to me because one time my 0:19:06.880 --> 0:19:12.800 one of my export friends like I Seexica. Yeahs, you 0:19:12.840 --> 0:19:15.320 need to take responsibility and accountability for what you did 0:19:15.680 --> 0:19:18.639 to bring that out in me, because I just didn't 0:19:18.680 --> 0:19:20.280 wake up and want to be like no, no, no. 0:19:20.320 --> 0:19:22.680 It was because you had done a lot of things 0:19:22.920 --> 0:19:25.280 seeing to cause me to feel that way, to be like, Okay, 0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:27.399 well why are you hiding your phone or you know 0:19:27.440 --> 0:19:29.960 what I mean? Yeah, yeah, so I get you. I 0:19:30.040 --> 0:19:39.080 get you. Now let me ask you this when you 0:19:39.240 --> 0:19:42.840 when you said that you're you're significant other? Now, has 0:19:42.920 --> 0:19:45.680 you know a lot of female friends that that he 0:19:45.760 --> 0:19:48.439 follows or that he knows this and that little do 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:52.200 you ever feel or question that maybe he's entertaining any 0:19:52.200 --> 0:19:54.320 of them, that maybe he was with any of them? 0:19:54.640 --> 0:19:56.840 Do are you guys cool? Are you cool with any 0:19:56.840 --> 0:19:59.960 of those girls you see them? Like? How is that relationshi? 0:20:00.640 --> 0:20:04.119 You know, he was very straight up from the beginning, 0:20:04.119 --> 0:20:05.800 and I think we were both on the same page 0:20:05.840 --> 0:20:08.400 because we came from very difficult relationships, so we were 0:20:08.600 --> 0:20:12.040 very aware of that. So he's like, hey, I want 0:20:12.080 --> 0:20:15.080 you to meet my friends. So it so happened to 0:20:15.119 --> 0:20:17.719 be that it was like two guys and like five girls, 0:20:18.680 --> 0:20:21.000 and so he has a lot of girlfriends. Yeah, and 0:20:21.200 --> 0:20:24.560 they're all beautiful and I know them, and that's something 0:20:24.840 --> 0:20:28.560 very different for me because where I was like, well, 0:20:28.720 --> 0:20:31.679