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Speaker 1: time now yeah he does. What up? Y'all? Welcome back

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Speaker 1: to my podcast, Cheeks and Chill. I'm going to keep

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Speaker 1: today's in show super short so we can get right

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Speaker 1: a model, and singer, she's also the host of Mike

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Speaker 1: Coutura's Exactly Amara podcast. Season two is now out, you guys, Okay,

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Speaker 1: so check it out. So Amada, what's up? Welcome to

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Speaker 1: Chickens and Chill. Gang Gang Gang, Oh, my god, thank

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Speaker 1: you so much for having me. By the way, Mammy,

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Speaker 1: you know, okay, I'm a fan of yours and I've

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Speaker 1: been following you on social media. I think you're so cool.

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Speaker 1: I love your cosmetics, I love your vibe, your energy.

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Speaker 1: By the way, you're extremely bodied and I'm loving it.

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Speaker 1: So I am so glad to be on your show.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for having me. Oh, thank you,

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Speaker 1: of course. I'm so excited. I'm excited to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: You know that one time when we met, I think

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Speaker 1: it was in Univision, right at Univision, and I was like, dude,

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, okay. So I'm sure you know what we're

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Speaker 1: relationships and trust and social media and everything. How hard

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Speaker 1: or easy do you think it is to trust a

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Speaker 1: whit you're supposed to trust them? Oh okay, I didn't

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Speaker 1: know that part No, so I don't trust them. That's

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Speaker 1: messed up for me to say that, Julio, for me

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Speaker 1: I'm all traumatized, but okay I am. I'm not gonnaven lying.

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Speaker 1: You know. I've gone through so many um breakups, bad relationships,

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Speaker 1: I don't think so, Okay, so it's safe to say

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Speaker 1: that you're single right now, Mommy, I am single. I'm ready, Tomingo,

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Speaker 1: smashing me no, no no, no, didn't splits. I'll type the

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Speaker 1: the you know, the passwords to your phone's Like, how

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Speaker 1: of your axes? Yeah, mummy, when I was younger or whatever.

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Speaker 1: But Omida, as a grown as woman in the place

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Speaker 1: a maa mamma Mida is not worth it, is it? Literally,

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Speaker 1: How about that? Yeah, because I want to be part

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Speaker 1: he ate or not? Okay, I'm gonna make sure that

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Speaker 1: he eats and he's very well. He's feeling just fine, ma'am. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just not bored. Oh my god,

421
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Speaker 1: does that make me toxic? Well, you know what I think.

422
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Speaker 1: I think it's it's gottack in, you know what I mean. Like,

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you, I was very uncomfortable with it. And

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Speaker 1: now that we do dinners and we hang out and

425
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Speaker 1: I have their numbers, what do you be into swinging? No?

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Speaker 1: Not yet, girl. Well sometimes sometimes I'm like, oh, that

427
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Speaker 1: girl's pretty, you know, but I haven't we have I

428
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Speaker 1: have not yet had a threesome yet. Yeah, I'm not.

429
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Speaker 1: I'm saying yet because I've thought about it. Oh wait,

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Speaker 1: welcome to the team. Neither have I. I've never had

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Speaker 1: a threesome. Yeah, I've thought about having an orgy in

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Speaker 1: my mind. It doesn't mean I'm actually gonna go ahead

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Speaker 1: and do it. Yeah. No. And here's the thing though,

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Speaker 1: we're talking about that. I've talked to my boyfriend or

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Speaker 1: I've talked to it like it always sucks it. It's like, oh, yeah,

436
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Speaker 1: we could do it with another girl. I'm like, okay, well,

437
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Speaker 1: what if it's a threesome with another guy. Oh no, no,

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Speaker 1: no, no no, okay, no wait, see that's not fair. So

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Speaker 1: I'm just like, well, we're not gonna go into into

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Speaker 1: like the threesomething because every time I think, anytime you

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Speaker 1: bring someone else in the relationship, it's gonna mess things up.

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Speaker 1: So don't even open up that. Don't open that kind

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Speaker 1: of worms. No, no, meta. Let me tell you something

444
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Speaker 1: I work with. I work with this event called Mocha

445
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Speaker 1: Fest and they were just here. We went to cam Koon.

446
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Speaker 1: They were just in the Dominican Republic, and you know

447
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Speaker 1: they do um they do like swingings and they do

448
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Speaker 1: they're very sexually liberated type of event. And I was like, wow,

449
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Speaker 1: just being there made me very open mind into looking

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Speaker 1: into it. In my mind of how would it be

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Speaker 1: to have a threesome with like another man And you

452
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Speaker 1: say all those things when you're horning, but then once

453
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Speaker 1: you're done, is like, what would you do that? But

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Speaker 1: in the moment you're like, oh, yeah, that's had such

455
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Speaker 1: a great idea. I don't know, that's just me in

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Speaker 1: my mind. Yeah, but um, I think that you should

457
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Speaker 1: you should be sexually liberated. He should experiment to where

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Speaker 1: you're comfortable I think that um also with your significant other. Meta.

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Speaker 1: Whoever's gonna cheat, they're gonna cheat regardless. I do think

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Speaker 1: that is important to be sexually open and liberated with

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Speaker 1: your partners so they don't necessarily feel the need to

462
00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:25,440
Speaker 1: go explore somewhere else, and you know, have fun and

463
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Speaker 1: be cool with each other, even though get regardless, regardless,

464
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Speaker 1: behind your head, when they see the next gang, they're

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Speaker 1: gonna be like, oh, because that's how they are. Women

466
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Speaker 1: neither hand be fun enough. Hoone's and her children really married.

467
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Speaker 1: They're not thinking about that. But that comes with time, maturity.

468
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Speaker 1: And I'll tell you this much, my daughter's really made

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Speaker 1: me become even more grounded. I've always been very humble.

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Speaker 1: I've always been real cool, real down to earth, having

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Speaker 1: two girls, having two babies, having being a single mother

472
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Speaker 1: at this point, when I thought that I would have

473
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Speaker 1: my fairy tale. When I thought that, you know, I've

474
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Speaker 1: been waiting for so long, or you know I'm thirty

475
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Speaker 1: two now, I waited. I've been a good girl. I

476
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:16,199
Speaker 1: haven't been messing around with anybody. I do things right.

477
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Speaker 1: I'm a good daughter. I'm a good mother, like I'm

478
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Speaker 1: a good woman. I thought I would have my fairy

479
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Speaker 1: tale and it didn't turn out that way. So it

480
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Speaker 1: just put things in perspective for me of like, you

481
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Speaker 1: have to be realistic to what life may be for you.

482
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Speaker 1: It may not always turn out to be the way

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Speaker 1: that you plan, and you have to be prepared for that.

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Speaker 1: And the meantime, you have to live. Sometimes we don't

485
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Speaker 1: really live were we want things to be so perfect

486
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Speaker 1: and so right. You no want to set us see,

487
00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:41,959
Speaker 1: and that's okay too. So I don't know. I just

488
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:44,880
Speaker 1: think that my mentality has changed a lot now, Yeah,

489
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Speaker 1: I bet, especially after having two girls, and I think,

490
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Speaker 1: like you, you are their prime example, you know, so

491
00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:53,320
Speaker 1: it's like you. It just forces you to be like, hey,

492
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Speaker 1: I want to show these girls how to be better

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Speaker 1: than me in every way. I'm a saying I don't

494
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Speaker 1: have kids yet, but I could just assume it's a

495
00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:05,040
Speaker 1: huge responsibility. You have two girls, you know, two, so

496
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:09,199
Speaker 1: it's scare of them girls. It is a lot of responsibility.

497
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:12,600
Speaker 1: It does make you mature, it makes you be I

498
00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 1: became like a mama bear. I became fearless. If I

499
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:18,960
Speaker 1: was a workaholic before, I work even harder now and

500
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 1: and now even for my dating scene. Things have changed

501
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:25,320
Speaker 1: because it's not just about the now I'm thinking about

502
00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 1: banake Bobby. You're gonna come over here, I splo, Okay,

503
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Speaker 1: You're gonna add all these damn miles into my total

504
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:34,560
Speaker 1: for nothing? And what am I gonna gain out of this? Ah? No,

505
00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:36,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna getting nothing out of it. And then on

506
00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:38,639
Speaker 1: top of that, even if I like you, are you

507
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Speaker 1: a good man enough for me to bring around my daughters?

508
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:43,800
Speaker 1: You know? Now, it's just it's not just about me.

509
00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 1: Once you become a mother. For the girls out there listening,

510
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Speaker 1: you know, the feeling you can relate is like, are

511
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Speaker 1: you cool enough to be around my kids? How you

512
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 1: act around them? You never know? So dating now has

513
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,119
Speaker 1: changed for me. Now it's more like a grown woman,

514
00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:00,159
Speaker 1: Like it's not even so much about having fun. It's like,

515
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:02,640
Speaker 1: I'm a grown woman. Now, what do you really bring

516
00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 1: to the table? Because I know I didn't bring the table.

517
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:07,280
Speaker 1: I made the damn table. How about that I set

518
00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 1: that ship up? Yeah? No, I totally get it. I

519
00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 1: totally get it. And I see you on Instagram and

520
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:18,240
Speaker 1: you hustle girls, you know Las Casas the transportation like

521
00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:21,399
Speaker 1: you're singing like I'm like, dude, I admire your hustle

522
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:25,879
Speaker 1: one hundred percent. Thank you. And if you guys don't actually,

523
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Speaker 1: can you share your your socials with us so that

524
00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:32,120
Speaker 1: if they don't follow you, they go follow you. Please? Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: for sure, guys, go check me out at Amda la

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Speaker 1: al Na and you can also check out my podcast

527
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Speaker 1: at exactly Amada exactly amada um and then in there

528
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Speaker 1: you'll see you know, my transportation, my girls less royal twins. Ummm,

529
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Speaker 1: they're also working. No, what do you think the diapers

530
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Speaker 1: in the formulas expensive? I put them to work right away. No, no, no,

531
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Speaker 1: that your baby influencers. I saw that. I'm like, that

532
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Speaker 1: is so cute. Hey, listen, it's a good way to

533
00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:05,320
Speaker 1: empower them. I agree, I absolutely What are you thinking?

534
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:07,080
Speaker 1: Do you want to be a mother? Do you want

535
00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:09,399
Speaker 1: to have children? You know what? I go in and

536
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:16,240
Speaker 1: out see kiato, I want to steal. I'm finally living

537
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:19,520
Speaker 1: this maybe that where I just feel free? Yes, and

538
00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:21,480
Speaker 1: I want to continue with that and do my thing.

539
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:23,639
Speaker 1: And I've raised children like my siblings, so it's like

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00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:27,959
Speaker 1: I would love that, and it happens, I'll welcome it

541
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 1: with happiness, you know. So I'm just chilling. I'm not

542
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:32,040
Speaker 1: on birth control. I'm not trying, and I'm not not

543
00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 1: trying you feel me. I'm just doing my thing. Okay,

544
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:36,919
Speaker 1: but let me let let's let's let's um figure all

545
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:40,399
Speaker 1: those things out after that, damn NDA. But yeah, for sure,

546
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 1: I think he's a beautiful thing. I love it. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god. You guys heard it here on Chickens and Chill.

548
00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:49,440
Speaker 1: Mada asked her to get the NDA. Girls you already know,

549
00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:53,119
Speaker 1: don't trust it. Okay, keep your eyes open and you know,

550
00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:55,720
Speaker 1: be open to love, but also be open into protecting

551
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:58,120
Speaker 1: your heart, protecting yourself. As women, we have to empower

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Speaker 1: each other and this is a good tip to out

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00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:03,400
Speaker 1: to the girls out there listening. So with that being said, chiggies,

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Speaker 1: I might be happy. Thank you so much for having

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Speaker 1: me on your show. I'm so grateful. I'm such a fan.

556
00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:09,720
Speaker 1: I admire you so much. I can't wait for my

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Speaker 1: girls to meet you in speed believe it or not,

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Speaker 1: Because you don't know how many women you know check

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Speaker 1: out your page and the things that you've done in

560
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Speaker 1: the way that you inspire us, and I'm just so

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Speaker 1: proud of you. Oh, thank you am likewise, honestly that,

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Speaker 1: and thank you for taking the time to be here

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Speaker 1: on Chiggies and Chill. And thank you because I know

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Speaker 1: you are in dr and you made it happen so

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Speaker 1: much as yes, and I will see you soon. And

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Speaker 1: you guys know we always end every episode of Chickens

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Speaker 1: and Chill with a quote, and the quote for today

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Speaker 1: is a healthy relationship is one where two independent people

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Speaker 1: just make a deal that they will help make the

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Speaker 1: other person the best version of themselves. So there you

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Speaker 1: have it, you guys, thank you so much for listening

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Speaker 1: to Chickis and Chill. Amara, Thank you so much you

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Speaker 1: and I will catch you guys here on the next

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Speaker 1: episode of Chickies and Chill los Amo, do you need

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Speaker 1: all your questions. Just leave me a voice message. All

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