1 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:04,960 Speaker 1: The one and only am. 2 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:08,959 Speaker 2: I feel that after the father of my daughters, the 3 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 2: perspective of what love is, of what a partner is, 4 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:17,280 Speaker 2: of all those things changed for me, says I'll take 5 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:21,040 Speaker 2: all of it privately, Okay, publicly, the image publicly. 6 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:27,360 Speaker 1: He has a lot of girlfriends. They're all beautiful, they're 7 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: all very respectful. He texts with a lot of them 8 00:00:30,160 --> 00:00:30,760 Speaker 1: all day long. 9 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:33,680 Speaker 2: No no, no, no, no turn out. 10 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:39,280 Speaker 1: Hey, yeah he does. What up? 11 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:39,800 Speaker 2: Y'all? 12 00:00:39,880 --> 00:00:43,920 Speaker 1: Welcome back to my podcast, Cheeky's and Chill. I'm going 13 00:00:43,960 --> 00:00:46,159 Speaker 1: to keep today's in show super short so we can 14 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 1: get right into the episode. We're gonna be talking about 15 00:00:49,159 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 1: trust and relationships with the one and only a Mara 16 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:55,280 Speaker 1: La Negra, everything from cell phone passwords to the dues 17 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:58,000 Speaker 1: and the domes of social media. So stay tuned. This 18 00:00:58,080 --> 00:01:06,440 Speaker 1: is Cheeky's and Chill. Okay, y'all sitting right here with 19 00:01:06,520 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: me today is the one and only amar La Negra. 20 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 1: Not only is she a reality TV star, a model, 21 00:01:13,200 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 1: and singer, she's also the host of Mike Kultura's Exactly 22 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:20,520 Speaker 1: A'mara podcast. Season two is now out, you guys, Okay, 23 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:23,320 Speaker 1: so check it out. So, Amana, what's up. Welcome to 24 00:01:23,400 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 1: Cheeky's and. 25 00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 2: Cho Gang Ging Gang. Oh my god, thank you so 26 00:01:26,800 --> 00:01:28,600 Speaker 2: much for having me. By the way, Mommy, you know, okay, 27 00:01:28,640 --> 00:01:31,480 Speaker 2: I'm a fan of yours. I've been following you on 28 00:01:31,520 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 2: social media. I think you're so cool. I love your 29 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 2: your cosmetics, I love your vibe, your energy. By the way, 30 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:41,640 Speaker 2: you're extremely bodied and I'm loving it. So I am 31 00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 2: so glad to be on your show. Thank you so 32 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 2: much for having me. 33 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 1: Oh, thank you, of course. I'm so excited. I'm excited 34 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:50,800 Speaker 1: to talk to you. You know that one time when 35 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:53,760 Speaker 1: we met, I think it was in Univision, right at Univision, 36 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:56,200 Speaker 1: and I was like, dude, there's something about this girl, 37 00:01:56,400 --> 00:01:59,400 Speaker 1: just her energy. And we've been following each other since then. 38 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:02,240 Speaker 1: It's been like over two years. So same to you. 39 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:07,520 Speaker 1: So fine, so fine, as the Royal Twins shout out 40 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:13,520 Speaker 1: to the girls. Yeah okay, So I'm sure you know 41 00:02:13,639 --> 00:02:16,560 Speaker 1: what we're gonna talk about today, and I hope you're 42 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:18,080 Speaker 1: okay with it. I mean, I know how you are, 43 00:02:18,120 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: which is why I wanted to have this conversation with 44 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: you. You're I know, you're very open it is, which is 45 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:27,360 Speaker 1: something I absolutely love about you. Well, we're gonna talk 46 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:33,040 Speaker 1: about partners, Okay, relationships and trust and social media and everything. 47 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 1: How hard or easy do you think it is to 48 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 1: trust a partner these days? Like to fully trust a partner? 49 00:02:39,760 --> 00:02:42,160 Speaker 2: Oh, why you're supposed to trust them? Oh okay, I 50 00:02:42,200 --> 00:02:45,119 Speaker 2: didn't know that far. No, so I don't trust them. 51 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:48,120 Speaker 2: That's messed up for me to say that, for me 52 00:02:48,160 --> 00:02:50,239 Speaker 2: to say that, but I don't want to sound im. Okay, 53 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 2: I'm all traumatized, but okay I am. I'm not gonna 54 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:53,600 Speaker 2: even lie. 55 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:54,080 Speaker 1: You know. 56 00:02:54,160 --> 00:02:59,280 Speaker 2: I've gone through so many breakups, bad relationships, things like that. No, 57 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:05,520 Speaker 2: I see those muid icosa and lamor namos and funny enough, 58 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 2: I want to clarify something because the people get this 59 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:11,080 Speaker 2: messed up. Sometimes it'll be like if I'm also you're famous, 60 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:12,919 Speaker 2: or oh my god, you have such a nice body, 61 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 2: you're so pretty, you have money. Guys are trash and 62 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:20,960 Speaker 2: a whichever level, not all of them, but most. 63 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:22,160 Speaker 1: Of most of them. 64 00:03:22,200 --> 00:03:25,799 Speaker 2: So I feel that after my the father of my daughters, 65 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 2: I think the perspective of a relationship, of what love is, 66 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:33,120 Speaker 2: of what a partner is, of all those things changed 67 00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:36,320 Speaker 2: for me. So, yeah, you're supposed to trust them, But 68 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 2: can you really trust them in these days? I don't 69 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 2: think so. 70 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: Okay, so it's safe to say that you're single right. 71 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 2: Now, Mommy, I am single and Radomingo look at me. 72 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:46,040 Speaker 2: I had twins and I am bodied and I am ready. 73 00:03:46,040 --> 00:03:48,280 Speaker 2: And let me see you something. I've been celebrated for 74 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:51,800 Speaker 2: like eight months, Mommy, mina nice and titan juicing. Let's go. 75 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: No, man, just shot off, not even a finger, Mammy. 76 00:03:56,320 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 2: See, I haven't done nothing, not even a finger. 77 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:01,760 Speaker 1: No much chisna that. 78 00:04:02,360 --> 00:04:04,160 Speaker 2: I mean? I kiss one guy one time. 79 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:07,520 Speaker 1: Okay, okay, so you know what, And I believe you 80 00:04:07,560 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 1: because a while ago, years ago, like more than seven 81 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:13,680 Speaker 1: years ago, I was celibate for almost a year, for 82 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:16,279 Speaker 1: almost a year, and that shit was like but it 83 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:17,960 Speaker 1: was because I was going through my own shit. But 84 00:04:18,160 --> 00:04:20,920 Speaker 1: like now, I don't know, I'm going through some type 85 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:23,600 Speaker 1: of ship. That's a whole other episode. Butt away, No. 86 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:26,039 Speaker 2: No, no, no, time out? Wait, wait, time out? Hold on, 87 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:27,919 Speaker 2: cheeky's now, tell me if you can relate to this 88 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:32,279 Speaker 2: feeling as an influencer, a public figure, a celebrity, a singer, 89 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 2: an artist. Look at that as somebody that's in the spotlight, 90 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:38,920 Speaker 2: right yeah, sexually. Do you ever feel that it's a 91 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 2: little bit okay? For example, it's weird, don't judge me. 92 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:43,839 Speaker 2: I don't care. If you want my pussy, you have 93 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 2: to sign this NDA. I made them sign a dog 94 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 2: sign sign this NDA, and then you can hit it. 95 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 2: I don't care how fine you are. I don't trust you. 96 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:57,760 Speaker 2: I don't trust you. If afterwards you're like oh, then, 97 00:04:57,960 --> 00:05:00,200 Speaker 2: or you leak a picture or anything, I'm suing for 98 00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:02,640 Speaker 2: everything you don't have. So do you ever feel a 99 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 2: bit awkward? 100 00:05:03,600 --> 00:05:07,880 Speaker 1: Like having said to someone is crazy? Because my team 101 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:09,680 Speaker 1: and I have joked around about that I'm in a 102 00:05:09,720 --> 00:05:12,080 Speaker 1: serious relationship brand I've been with my guy for almost 103 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:12,599 Speaker 1: two years. 104 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:14,000 Speaker 2: Did he sign that NDA? 105 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 1: No? I have not had him sign an dah. I know. 106 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:21,799 Speaker 1: And it's crazy because we were talking about about marriage 107 00:05:21,839 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 1: right because he was I know, I know, she's looking 108 00:05:23,720 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: at me. You guys like what I know, Mom, listen, 109 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 1: because we were talking about like he was like he 110 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 1: wants to marry me, you know, and I was like okay, 111 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 1: I I okay, that's a conversation that needs to be had, 112 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:34,040 Speaker 1: like I need to take my time. 113 00:05:34,279 --> 00:05:34,599 Speaker 2: Yeah. 114 00:05:34,640 --> 00:05:36,720 Speaker 1: Anyways, and I was like, would you sign a prenup, 115 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 1: he said, absolutely, like I would not. I don't care 116 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:42,480 Speaker 1: about that, you know, but I've never thought about asking 117 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:43,520 Speaker 1: him to sign an DA. 118 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:47,039 Speaker 2: You got me all the way messed up. If you 119 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:49,120 Speaker 2: want this good, If you want this good good, gi 120 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 2: me and you want me to do you the pretzel 121 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:53,240 Speaker 2: and turn into a poorn star and do all the 122 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:54,680 Speaker 2: all the good stuff that I know how to do. 123 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:57,680 Speaker 2: You gotta sign this so I can feel comfortable because. 124 00:05:57,400 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 1: You got and they sign it straight up? 125 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, because the moment you make me feel like you 126 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 2: don't want to sign it. Yeah, that's spishy, that's that's 127 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:08,240 Speaker 2: a red flag, mommy, red flag right there. If you 128 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 2: don't care, sign with this dog side real quick. Just 129 00:06:10,200 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 2: send it back. You can read it. It just basically 130 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:15,040 Speaker 2: means I'm a suio as for one million dollars if 131 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 2: you decided to come out here doing interviews or does 132 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:19,960 Speaker 2: it get nice so we're not doing the Britney spears 133 00:06:19,960 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 2: over here. You got me all the way with no 134 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:23,160 Speaker 2: baby no, I'm sorry. 135 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:25,960 Speaker 1: Okay, So have you always been like that or did 136 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:27,080 Speaker 1: you learn the hard way? 137 00:06:27,320 --> 00:06:29,720 Speaker 2: I learned the hard way, and I learned Actually I 138 00:06:29,839 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 2: kind of got like this after my not the one before, 139 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:34,720 Speaker 2: but the one after before that one, uh, the relationship 140 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:36,159 Speaker 2: I was with. I was with him for a while 141 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:38,839 Speaker 2: and one day he sends me this picture of me 142 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:41,359 Speaker 2: sleeping naked. I mean, I'm comfortable enough to you know, 143 00:06:41,520 --> 00:06:43,240 Speaker 2: we have sex. I just lay there and I go 144 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:45,240 Speaker 2: to sleep. You took a picture of me naked, and 145 00:06:45,279 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 2: then you send it to me like, oh I missed this, 146 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:49,160 Speaker 2: Da da da, And I said, wait, what when did 147 00:06:49,160 --> 00:06:50,760 Speaker 2: you take this picture? I didn't even know this, Like 148 00:06:50,800 --> 00:06:53,080 Speaker 2: why would you do that? That's just weird? Like yeah, 149 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:54,760 Speaker 2: So it almost made me feel like I don't know. 150 00:06:54,800 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 2: And when I sleep, I knocked out, like the whole 151 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:58,240 Speaker 2: world can fall apart and I don't even know. So 152 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 2: it made me feel like when I'm not sleep, when 153 00:07:00,680 --> 00:07:02,560 Speaker 2: I'm sleeping, what are you doing? And if I'm not, 154 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:05,240 Speaker 2: you know, I'm sleeping. Even at one point we were 155 00:07:05,279 --> 00:07:08,200 Speaker 2: having sex. You know, you're all caught up. He turned 156 00:07:08,200 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 2: on the phone like under the pillow and started recording, 157 00:07:11,360 --> 00:07:13,720 Speaker 2: and then he sent it to me one day like oh, 158 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:15,840 Speaker 2: it was good last night, And I was like, why 159 00:07:15,880 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 2: would you do that? 160 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 1: Yeah? 161 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:19,400 Speaker 2: And then if you did it in that way and 162 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:22,040 Speaker 2: I didn't even know, I God knows how many times 163 00:07:22,040 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 2: you recorded me or you did something without me knowing. 164 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:27,800 Speaker 2: So I'm not bored that. Let me tell you, because 165 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:30,240 Speaker 2: if tomorrow say still, it won't be the you know, 166 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 2: sex tape. Got like, Mommy, I'm not gonna stress Sagama 167 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 2: only fans, which I've never done it. Sagamo made a 168 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:40,160 Speaker 2: Lingeride lubricants eto, We're gonna We're gonna make an empire 169 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:42,880 Speaker 2: out of it. Yeah, but you just can't trust people 170 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:44,840 Speaker 2: like that these days, especially when you're in the spotlight, 171 00:07:44,880 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 2: because people always, you know, trying to see what they 172 00:07:46,640 --> 00:07:47,440 Speaker 2: can take out of you. 173 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's because you know what, More than ever, it's 174 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 1: I feel like it's more like that, you know what 175 00:07:52,160 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 1: I mean. Like I had an ex boyfriend, okay I 176 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 1: didn't even know, Like we broke up, and he says, well, 177 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:00,280 Speaker 1: I have a video of you. I never even that 178 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:03,280 Speaker 1: he took it, like when we were having sex obviously 179 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:06,160 Speaker 1: doggy style, if you guys want to know. And he 180 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:09,240 Speaker 1: took the video and I was like, no, you don't. 181 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:10,680 Speaker 1: He said, oh, yeah I do, and he showed it 182 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: to me. He's like, so if you ever blah blah blah, 183 00:08:12,600 --> 00:08:14,840 Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, hell no. But see that's 184 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 1: one thing. You try to threaten me with something like 185 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:20,640 Speaker 1: that and be like, go ahead, and you didn't learn girls, 186 00:08:20,680 --> 00:08:22,280 Speaker 1: you know, because I like to give people the benefit 187 00:08:22,280 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 1: of the doubt, and I think with this guy, he's 188 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 1: just so different. 189 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:27,440 Speaker 2: But oh my god, what sign are you? 190 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:28,560 Speaker 1: I'm a cancer? 191 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:30,600 Speaker 2: Oh my god? Cancers? 192 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:30,840 Speaker 1: Yeah? 193 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 2: You guys are you're you're like Deliverer's be getting along 194 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:36,880 Speaker 2: very well? Yeah, like slightly hopeless, romantic and have it. 195 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:37,319 Speaker 1: I know. 196 00:08:37,360 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 2: Okay, yoyo, get the seed. Okay, as your new best friend, 197 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 2: you're gonna talk to your attorney because your man loves you. 198 00:08:44,360 --> 00:08:46,360 Speaker 2: And I'm sorry, please don't hate me. Be like babily, 199 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:47,920 Speaker 2: you already know you know we've been together. Ready, we've 200 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:50,120 Speaker 2: already smashed a couple of he's a favorite. Just send 201 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:52,400 Speaker 2: this little bit so I feel comfortable, you know, just 202 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:54,679 Speaker 2: just find this right here. And they were. 203 00:08:54,480 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 1: Good, okay, well okay, well, I mean, hey, you're right. 204 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:00,880 Speaker 1: If he has nothing to have, then he'd be like, okay, 205 00:09:00,920 --> 00:09:03,000 Speaker 1: well this is I don't know, some people might he 206 00:09:03,080 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 1: might be offended. Y wailos, if you have nothing to hide, 207 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:08,560 Speaker 1: if you want to make me feel protected and safe, 208 00:09:08,600 --> 00:09:09,760 Speaker 1: maybe he'll do it. I don't know. 209 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:18,200 Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no, no, no offended mommy Mida, 210 00:09:18,800 --> 00:09:23,000 Speaker 3: No yes, okay, if you'll offended off you don't wanna. 211 00:09:23,160 --> 00:09:24,880 Speaker 2: They don't want to sign the damn paper you're over 212 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:27,960 Speaker 2: here smashing me. No no, no, they didn't doing splits. 213 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:29,720 Speaker 2: I'll have the crazy stuff. You don't want to send. 214 00:09:29,720 --> 00:09:31,000 Speaker 2: This damn paper is over. 215 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: Okay, Well all right, Well that's you know what I'm 216 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:35,760 Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna keep that in mind. 217 00:09:35,800 --> 00:09:37,000 Speaker 2: Now that we have that established. 218 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:47,280 Speaker 1: Now that we have that established, what do you think 219 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:50,320 Speaker 1: about sharing your passwords the the you know, the passwords 220 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:51,559 Speaker 1: to your phonees? Like, how do you feel did you 221 00:09:51,640 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 1: ever do that with any of your axes? 222 00:09:53,400 --> 00:09:55,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, mommy, when I was younger or whatever. But Omita, 223 00:09:55,640 --> 00:09:57,800 Speaker 2: as a grown as woman in the place that I 224 00:09:57,840 --> 00:10:00,920 Speaker 2: am in my life right now, being exactly a Mama 225 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:04,000 Speaker 2: Mida is not worth it, is it? Literally, don't ever 226 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 2: ask your man for his password. Don't ask for minds. 227 00:10:06,800 --> 00:10:08,520 Speaker 2: Not that I have anything to hide. Maybe I do, 228 00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:10,880 Speaker 2: but not that I do. It's just not worth it 229 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:14,240 Speaker 2: because these gendra, if you look, you shall find men 230 00:10:14,600 --> 00:10:16,640 Speaker 2: be knowing how to do things, and you know, exactly. 231 00:10:16,640 --> 00:10:19,040 Speaker 2: They have the they have the fake app. You know, 232 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:21,439 Speaker 2: it looks like a calculator, but it's really another thing. 233 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:24,719 Speaker 2: They have the you know this is my sister uncle Ad. 234 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:27,560 Speaker 2: I don't why. It is really the side chick, side 235 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:31,840 Speaker 2: bitch and and it's like baga god, you know, like, 236 00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:35,280 Speaker 2: don't look because you're going to find And that's another thing. 237 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 2: Ladies don't go on social media. Gate did more the 238 00:10:40,920 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 2: love of my life? He loves me. He wha while 239 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:47,240 Speaker 2: while you're doing that, the side bitch is over there 240 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:49,280 Speaker 2: giving likes and ready the gate. Oh you guys are 241 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 2: so cute together. 242 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:52,360 Speaker 1: I've seen that happen. 243 00:10:52,880 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 2: I know. So don't don't look. You're gonna find it. 244 00:10:57,480 --> 00:11:00,480 Speaker 2: He is if you want to know, Yes, you wanted 245 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:02,480 Speaker 2: to know the truth. Yes, he's talking to another bitch. 246 00:11:02,520 --> 00:11:05,000 Speaker 2: He's talking to another girl. He is. Please don't think 247 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:08,160 Speaker 2: that he's not. They can he only talks to me, Ada. Listen, 248 00:11:08,440 --> 00:11:11,280 Speaker 2: men always talk to several girls. You are the main one, 249 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 2: you're the number one, But after one comes to three 250 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 2: and four, nor mine. You know, he has the one 251 00:11:17,080 --> 00:11:20,480 Speaker 2: that tells him that you're so sex you're so like a. 252 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:22,120 Speaker 1: Her. 253 00:11:22,160 --> 00:11:26,200 Speaker 2: But they like to feel Okay, their ego pumped up, 254 00:11:26,720 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 2: except yours, not yours. Cheek is yours only half times 255 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:30,199 Speaker 2: and only talks to you. 256 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 1: I don't just make that, hear. I was like, damn, 257 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:37,760 Speaker 1: Giry got me thinking, no, but you know what, I 258 00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 1: think that every guy goes through that part or that 259 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:43,880 Speaker 1: phase or whatever the hell you want to call it. 260 00:11:43,920 --> 00:11:46,320 Speaker 1: Of like, yes, he he's a little bastard and he 261 00:11:46,360 --> 00:11:48,840 Speaker 1: does all kinds of fucked up ships his girl, you 262 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:53,680 Speaker 1: know what I mean? And ya momento, he said, yeah, 263 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:56,439 Speaker 1: I'm tired of this. I want to be right, yeah, for. 264 00:11:56,440 --> 00:11:56,959 Speaker 2: Like a week. 265 00:11:57,440 --> 00:12:01,520 Speaker 1: Okay, see, I mean because I can't even amag because 266 00:12:01,640 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 1: to me, you're a very sexy like woman and very 267 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:08,840 Speaker 1: intelligent and a full package. They've they've done this to you, 268 00:12:08,920 --> 00:12:10,200 Speaker 1: They've like hurt you this way. 269 00:12:10,440 --> 00:12:12,640 Speaker 2: I mean, say it all trash. It's just if someone 270 00:12:12,760 --> 00:12:14,559 Speaker 2: more trash than others, you just have to pick between 271 00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:17,480 Speaker 2: the dumpster. But the truth of the matters. No, no, no, no, guys. 272 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:18,920 Speaker 2: I love you guys so much. You guys are so 273 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:21,559 Speaker 2: important to us in this world. And yes, there's a 274 00:12:21,600 --> 00:12:24,040 Speaker 2: lot of important parts of your that we need. But 275 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:29,280 Speaker 2: besides that, they very much I feel that the more 276 00:12:29,280 --> 00:12:32,480 Speaker 2: honest you are with yourself, the less it hurts with time. 277 00:12:32,960 --> 00:12:35,000 Speaker 2: And as much as I laugh about it and joke 278 00:12:35,040 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 2: around it, you know, is the truth. I think that 279 00:12:37,040 --> 00:12:39,880 Speaker 2: sometimes when you just stop lying to yourself or you know, 280 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:42,360 Speaker 2: you live in this fantasy world of perfection of what 281 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:45,720 Speaker 2: a relationship should be like, and realistically that's not the truth. 282 00:12:45,960 --> 00:12:49,120 Speaker 2: I think the society and TV and overall they sell 283 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:52,319 Speaker 2: us this facade, even even as a child of princesses 284 00:12:52,400 --> 00:12:58,480 Speaker 2: and prince and it's like, is that reality? Is that true? 285 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:02,240 Speaker 2: For the most part is most relationships that have lasted 286 00:13:02,280 --> 00:13:05,319 Speaker 2: many years have gone through the rotal coasters of emotions 287 00:13:05,360 --> 00:13:09,600 Speaker 2: of you know, cheating partners of men or women that 288 00:13:09,640 --> 00:13:12,920 Speaker 2: have had children. Outside of the relationships of many things. 289 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:16,080 Speaker 2: That's really where quote unquote love starts. When you're able 290 00:13:16,120 --> 00:13:19,720 Speaker 2: to forgive, when you're able to be you know, patient 291 00:13:19,960 --> 00:13:22,800 Speaker 2: in the process. So I just feel like me being 292 00:13:22,880 --> 00:13:26,880 Speaker 2: honest with myself. Shit happens, you know, and you have 293 00:13:26,920 --> 00:13:28,920 Speaker 2: to be and it's the truth. Shit happens. And it's 294 00:13:28,960 --> 00:13:31,600 Speaker 2: like you you may eat at eating vegetables every day, 295 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:33,199 Speaker 2: but one day you're gonna get speck of it and 296 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:35,640 Speaker 2: another day you may want to have noodles, so you 297 00:13:35,720 --> 00:13:37,360 Speaker 2: think they're not gonna go out there and have the nods. 298 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:43,079 Speaker 1: That's it, you know what noodles? 299 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:45,120 Speaker 2: I love you? 300 00:13:45,200 --> 00:13:49,280 Speaker 1: Oh my god. Okay, So I feel like from what 301 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:51,040 Speaker 1: I see and from what I know, like you're a 302 00:13:51,160 --> 00:13:54,160 Speaker 1: very confident woman. Are you like in a relationship, like, 303 00:13:54,200 --> 00:13:57,240 Speaker 1: for instance, are you that girlfriend that it's like, you know, 304 00:13:57,320 --> 00:13:59,439 Speaker 1: we talked about the past code, right, yeah? Do you 305 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:01,400 Speaker 1: you don't feel like it's necessary? Then you don't feel 306 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:03,320 Speaker 1: like it's necessary for you to have his past code 307 00:14:03,360 --> 00:14:06,679 Speaker 1: and he has yours? Not do you feel like about Like, 308 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:09,360 Speaker 1: for instance, if you see your man liking and commenting 309 00:14:09,440 --> 00:14:11,560 Speaker 1: on another girl's page, not necessarily in a flirty way, 310 00:14:11,600 --> 00:14:13,800 Speaker 1: but it's like, oh, get a girl like she's working out. 311 00:14:13,880 --> 00:14:16,280 Speaker 1: Let's say, yeah, she's a good looking girl. How would 312 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:16,920 Speaker 1: you react to that? 313 00:14:17,520 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 2: You got me all the way messed up? What the 314 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:22,560 Speaker 2: hell are you giving this a damn liking her picture 315 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:26,080 Speaker 2: publicly trying to embarrass me? Have you lost your damn mind? 316 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:28,920 Speaker 2: If you're gonna like this gang's picture or whatever, please 317 00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:30,720 Speaker 2: do it privately her DM like the rest of the 318 00:14:30,760 --> 00:14:33,240 Speaker 2: guys do. Okay, that's how the men do it. You 319 00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:35,200 Speaker 2: talk to her in the DMS because I already know 320 00:14:35,240 --> 00:14:38,520 Speaker 2: you're gonna do it. Don't like her publicly. And here's 321 00:14:38,520 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 2: another thing, ladies. When you go to your man's instagram boom, 322 00:14:42,200 --> 00:14:44,320 Speaker 2: check this out. And I found this out too, because 323 00:14:44,400 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 2: I'm the low I am a little bit of a 324 00:14:45,880 --> 00:14:47,480 Speaker 2: stalker and I know you're not supposed to do it, 325 00:14:47,560 --> 00:14:48,240 Speaker 2: but I can't help it. 326 00:14:48,600 --> 00:14:49,600 Speaker 1: So you go. 327 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:51,840 Speaker 2: Then you go and you go to their you go 328 00:14:51,920 --> 00:14:53,480 Speaker 2: to your mass page and you go see their you 329 00:14:53,560 --> 00:14:57,280 Speaker 2: know who they're following. But if you guys follow you 330 00:14:57,360 --> 00:15:00,200 Speaker 2: know a lot of people in common, the one that 331 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:03,760 Speaker 2: you both follow will show up first and then the rest. 332 00:15:04,040 --> 00:15:07,400 Speaker 2: But if you create another page from your Instagram, like 333 00:15:07,400 --> 00:15:10,680 Speaker 2: a bootleg page, it will show them in order who 334 00:15:10,760 --> 00:15:13,880 Speaker 2: they're following. What did you know them? So every time 335 00:15:13,920 --> 00:15:16,080 Speaker 2: it's just to follow new skank boom, you could see 336 00:15:16,160 --> 00:15:17,640 Speaker 2: who it is and I go right in there and 337 00:15:17,640 --> 00:15:19,240 Speaker 2: I'd be looking like, what the hell are you? 338 00:15:22,760 --> 00:15:22,880 Speaker 1: Hell? 339 00:15:22,920 --> 00:15:26,800 Speaker 2: Are you talking to my man? Okay, now, so that's 340 00:15:27,040 --> 00:15:28,920 Speaker 2: that's how you're doing, mommy, that's how you that's how 341 00:15:28,960 --> 00:15:29,760 Speaker 2: you stuck on the load. 342 00:15:30,360 --> 00:15:33,320 Speaker 1: So a burner account, yeah, but it can Okay, ah, 343 00:15:33,440 --> 00:15:35,800 Speaker 1: it is so much work, and it's like you're gonna 344 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:38,680 Speaker 1: do it anyways, I just say, don't embarrass me publicly, 345 00:15:38,760 --> 00:15:40,320 Speaker 1: don't talk to the skank publicly. 346 00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:44,160 Speaker 2: Your little gut that meaning boort out the pictures and 347 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:45,960 Speaker 2: she's taking a picture of the gain a baby stoit 348 00:15:46,040 --> 00:15:48,080 Speaker 2: with half of her ass. Oh why are you? I 349 00:15:48,160 --> 00:15:51,200 Speaker 2: don't like other men's pictures publicly. I'm not gonna ever 350 00:15:51,280 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 2: embarrass you that way because we were gonna be like, yo, 351 00:15:53,400 --> 00:15:56,640 Speaker 2: isn't that Blasi Blasi's girl? So why are you doing it? 352 00:15:57,200 --> 00:16:00,400 Speaker 1: Okay, okay, all right? Is that bad my being? 353 00:16:00,520 --> 00:16:07,280 Speaker 2: Am I being conna get possessive? It can say you 354 00:16:07,520 --> 00:16:12,680 Speaker 2: look meet up, want Taro's wants. I'll take all of 355 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:19,360 Speaker 2: it privately, okay, publicly the image DND yeah, the image publicly? 356 00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:23,080 Speaker 2: Seo bien I. 357 00:16:23,120 --> 00:16:24,840 Speaker 1: Feel I'm I'm there with you if you're gonna like 358 00:16:25,040 --> 00:16:27,320 Speaker 1: like a picture, because like my boyfriend, for instance, follows 359 00:16:27,360 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 1: all kinds of models, pretty girls, all his girlfriends then 360 00:16:30,080 --> 00:16:35,160 Speaker 1: muchas amigassas like beautiful girls, and of course I'm like, 361 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:37,040 Speaker 1: he's gonna like the pictures, and I'm like I've gotten 362 00:16:37,080 --> 00:16:39,160 Speaker 1: to the point where after a year I'm just like 363 00:16:39,320 --> 00:16:43,280 Speaker 1: j i''m not gonna look I'm not. I have to understand, like, 364 00:16:43,640 --> 00:16:45,360 Speaker 1: these are his friends and these are the people that 365 00:16:45,440 --> 00:16:47,680 Speaker 1: he has followed before I was in his life. So 366 00:16:47,840 --> 00:16:50,640 Speaker 1: I've worked on with my therapists to be more confident 367 00:16:51,200 --> 00:16:54,520 Speaker 1: because I also don't want him to limit me. Of course, 368 00:16:54,560 --> 00:16:56,600 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be disrespectful and like write anything on 369 00:16:56,680 --> 00:16:58,400 Speaker 1: some other guy's page. You know what I mean? You 370 00:16:58,560 --> 00:17:01,440 Speaker 1: have to I agree with you, like I'm a public figure, 371 00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:04,800 Speaker 1: you know, like you have to understand that and respect that. 372 00:17:05,280 --> 00:17:08,560 Speaker 1: So I completely I get you. I get you. It's 373 00:17:08,680 --> 00:17:11,119 Speaker 1: just I know I was a lot more you're I'm 374 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:14,800 Speaker 1: with toxic on my past relationship. But it also has 375 00:17:14,840 --> 00:17:16,560 Speaker 1: to do with how he was, I think, and the 376 00:17:16,640 --> 00:17:18,760 Speaker 1: things that he was doing, because he was doing bad 377 00:17:18,800 --> 00:17:21,240 Speaker 1: things and it made me feel like, oh wait uh, 378 00:17:21,400 --> 00:17:23,440 Speaker 1: he made me doubt him. 379 00:17:23,680 --> 00:17:26,680 Speaker 2: I also feel that sometimes, let's be honest, women, we 380 00:17:26,920 --> 00:17:30,760 Speaker 2: normally like to blame ourselves when our significant other does something. 381 00:17:30,840 --> 00:17:33,240 Speaker 2: Will find all the reasons why we messed up. Yeah, 382 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:37,200 Speaker 2: but men also cause women to act crazy. Let's talk 383 00:17:37,240 --> 00:17:40,240 Speaker 2: about it. It's not always just us. You must have 384 00:17:40,400 --> 00:17:43,920 Speaker 2: done something, your behavior must have changed. For example, women 385 00:17:43,960 --> 00:17:47,159 Speaker 2: may cheat and our behavior will continue to be the same. Men, 386 00:17:47,240 --> 00:17:49,600 Speaker 2: in the other hand, you'll act different. You wanted to 387 00:17:49,640 --> 00:17:51,920 Speaker 2: get a chart that Colonia work out and do the most, 388 00:17:51,960 --> 00:17:53,480 Speaker 2: and you're acting weird. 389 00:17:53,520 --> 00:17:54,040 Speaker 1: This is not you. 390 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:57,679 Speaker 2: Something's happening. So you must be doing something that's going 391 00:17:57,760 --> 00:18:00,720 Speaker 2: to cause a woman to react to certain type of ways. So, well, yeah, 392 00:18:00,800 --> 00:18:02,560 Speaker 2: maybe I am a little toxic. Maybe I am a 393 00:18:02,640 --> 00:18:05,399 Speaker 2: little crazy. I'm not like that with every man. Some 394 00:18:05,600 --> 00:18:07,199 Speaker 2: men know how to bring it out of me more 395 00:18:07,280 --> 00:18:07,800 Speaker 2: than others. 396 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:09,680 Speaker 1: That is true. That is absolutely true. 397 00:18:09,680 --> 00:18:12,160 Speaker 2: I don't know. Maybe I do have problems games having. 398 00:18:12,080 --> 00:18:13,760 Speaker 1: No no, no, no, I don't think you have problems. 399 00:18:13,800 --> 00:18:15,159 Speaker 1: I think you've been through a lot. I think you 400 00:18:15,640 --> 00:18:20,080 Speaker 1: haven't found a man that values you for the woman 401 00:18:20,160 --> 00:18:23,359 Speaker 1: that you are. And I'm telling you because here's the thing, 402 00:18:23,520 --> 00:18:25,399 Speaker 1: this is fucking crazy. I'm telling you. This is a 403 00:18:25,400 --> 00:18:27,800 Speaker 1: whole other episode. We gotta get together and talk about it. 404 00:18:27,880 --> 00:18:31,840 Speaker 1: But my past relationships before this one, they were very toxic. 405 00:18:32,400 --> 00:18:35,440 Speaker 1: One was very controlling over me. And then the second 406 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:38,520 Speaker 1: one that I jumped into right away, then I became 407 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:41,440 Speaker 1: a little bit more possessive of him and he would 408 00:18:41,480 --> 00:18:43,560 Speaker 1: do things that just were out a line. He just 409 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:45,560 Speaker 1: was never ready to be in a relationship. He didn't 410 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:48,679 Speaker 1: know how to be a good partner and I had 411 00:18:48,720 --> 00:18:50,760 Speaker 1: to learn and I thank him for that. And now 412 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:54,400 Speaker 1: that I'm in a healthy relationship, I'm starting to see 413 00:18:55,119 --> 00:18:57,840 Speaker 1: things that I did wrong in my past relationships, you 414 00:18:57,880 --> 00:18:59,520 Speaker 1: know what I mean, and things that I can change 415 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:02,480 Speaker 1: to better myself. But that doesn't take away all the 416 00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:05,800 Speaker 1: fucked up shit they did to me. Because one time 417 00:19:06,920 --> 00:19:12,760 Speaker 1: one of my expert friends like, I see era tooskaas 418 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:14,960 Speaker 1: you need to take responsibility and accountability for what you 419 00:19:15,119 --> 00:19:18,320 Speaker 1: did to bring that out in me, because I just 420 00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:20,200 Speaker 1: didn't wake up and want to be like no, no, no, 421 00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:22,679 Speaker 1: it was because you had done a lot of things 422 00:19:23,000 --> 00:19:25,280 Speaker 1: see to cause me to feel that way, to be like, okay, 423 00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:27,399 Speaker 1: well why are you hiding your phone or you know 424 00:19:27,440 --> 00:19:30,320 Speaker 1: what I mean? Yeah, so I get you. I get you. 425 00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:39,400 Speaker 2: Now let me ask you this when you were when 426 00:19:39,440 --> 00:19:43,040 Speaker 2: you said that your your significant other now has you 427 00:19:43,080 --> 00:19:46,280 Speaker 2: know a lot of female friends that that he follows 428 00:19:46,440 --> 00:19:48,840 Speaker 2: or that he knows this and that. Do you ever 429 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:52,439 Speaker 2: feel or question that maybe he's entertaining any of them, 430 00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:54,800 Speaker 2: that maybe he was with any of them. Do you 431 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:56,920 Speaker 2: are you guys cool? Are you cool with any of 432 00:19:57,040 --> 00:20:00,000 Speaker 2: those girls? Do you see them? Like? How is that relationship? 433 00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:04,080 Speaker 1: You know? He was very straight up from the beginning, 434 00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:05,840 Speaker 1: and I think we were both on the same page 435 00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:08,400 Speaker 1: because we came from very difficult relationships, so we were 436 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:12,040 Speaker 1: very aware of that. So he's like, hey, I want 437 00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:15,080 Speaker 1: you to meet my friends. So it so happened to 438 00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:17,720 Speaker 1: be that it was like two guys and like five girls. 439 00:20:18,680 --> 00:20:21,040 Speaker 1: And so he has a lot of girlfriends. Yeah, and 440 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:24,560 Speaker 1: they're all beautiful and I know them, And that's something 441 00:20:24,880 --> 00:20:28,480 Speaker 1: very different for me because where I was like, well, 442 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:31,639 Speaker 1: you know, I grew up with a man should not 443 00:20:31,760 --> 00:20:34,040 Speaker 1: be best friends or have a best friend as like 444 00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:36,480 Speaker 1: a female best friend. It was kind I grew up 445 00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:38,840 Speaker 1: with that mentality, and this has been very different for me. 446 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:42,719 Speaker 1: But they're all very respectful. He texts with a lot 447 00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:43,720 Speaker 1: of them all day long. 448 00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:47,680 Speaker 2: Yeah. No, no, no, no, no, no time out. Yeah 449 00:20:47,880 --> 00:20:53,240 Speaker 2: he does no, no, no, excuse me, sir, sir, ma'am, 450 00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:59,399 Speaker 2: ma'am sir, it's not happening now. But what type of 451 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:01,120 Speaker 2: conversing are we wait? 452 00:21:01,359 --> 00:21:03,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, and he does. He talks to him a lot. 453 00:21:04,119 --> 00:21:07,000 Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, we we need to talk to 454 00:21:07,119 --> 00:21:09,360 Speaker 2: them a lot. It's a wee thing, you know. Let's 455 00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:11,680 Speaker 2: do a group chat. How about that? Yeah, because I 456 00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:13,600 Speaker 2: want to be part of the conversation. Huh, what are 457 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:14,400 Speaker 2: you guys parking about? 458 00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:14,960 Speaker 1: You know? 459 00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:17,240 Speaker 2: Please, ma'am, do not be ready. 460 00:21:17,280 --> 00:21:17,440 Speaker 1: Mind. 461 00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:20,080 Speaker 2: They get good morning, they get good morning, they get 462 00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:21,679 Speaker 2: good night, they get How are you framed that you eat? 463 00:21:23,880 --> 00:21:25,640 Speaker 2: If he ate or not? Okay, I'm gonna make sure 464 00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:28,800 Speaker 2: that he eats, and he eats very well. He's feeling 465 00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:31,399 Speaker 2: just fine, ma'am. Okay, I don't know. 466 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:33,800 Speaker 1: I'm just not bored. Oh my god, does that make 467 00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:34,400 Speaker 1: me toxic? 468 00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:35,000 Speaker 2: Well? 469 00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:38,240 Speaker 1: You know what I think. I think it's it's got again, 470 00:21:38,480 --> 00:21:40,159 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like I'm telling you, I 471 00:21:40,240 --> 00:21:42,320 Speaker 1: was very uncomfortable with it. And now that we do 472 00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:44,600 Speaker 1: dinners and we hang out and I have their numbers, 473 00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:47,160 Speaker 1: what do you be into swinging? No? Not yet, girl? 474 00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:49,399 Speaker 1: Well sometimes sometimes I'm like, oh that girls pretty, you know, 475 00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:52,359 Speaker 1: but I haven't we have I have not yet had 476 00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:56,000 Speaker 1: a threesome yet. Yeah, I'm saying yet because I've thought 477 00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:57,960 Speaker 1: about it. Oh wait, welcome to the team either, have 478 00:21:58,080 --> 00:21:59,560 Speaker 1: I I've never had a threesome. 479 00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:02,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, I thought about having an orgy in my mind, 480 00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:03,960 Speaker 2: it doesn't mean I'm actually gonna go ahead and do it. 481 00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:06,920 Speaker 1: Yeah. No. And here's the thing though with talking about that, 482 00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:09,080 Speaker 1: I've talked to my boyfriend or I've talked to it 483 00:22:09,200 --> 00:22:11,680 Speaker 1: like it always sucks and it's like, oh yeah, we 484 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:13,280 Speaker 1: could do it with another girl. I'm like, okay, well 485 00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:16,119 Speaker 1: what if it's a three soome with another guy? Oh no, no, no, no, okay, 486 00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:18,560 Speaker 1: no wait, see that's not fair. So I'm just like, well, 487 00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:20,719 Speaker 1: we're not gonna go into into like the threesome thing 488 00:22:21,240 --> 00:22:23,400 Speaker 1: because every time I think, anytime you bring someone else 489 00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:26,160 Speaker 1: in the relationship, it's gonna mess things up. So don't 490 00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:28,120 Speaker 1: even open up that. Don't open that kind of worms. 491 00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:30,800 Speaker 2: No, no, meta. Let me tell you something I work with. 492 00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:33,479 Speaker 2: I work with this event called Mocha Fest and they 493 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:35,280 Speaker 2: were just here. We went to kankun They were just 494 00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:37,600 Speaker 2: you know, the Dominican Republic, and you know they they 495 00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:40,879 Speaker 2: do they do like swingings then they do. They're very 496 00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:43,360 Speaker 2: sexually liberated type of event. And I was like, wow, 497 00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:45,879 Speaker 2: just being there made very open mind into looking into it. 498 00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:48,679 Speaker 2: In my mind, I want to see that of how 499 00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:50,440 Speaker 2: would it be to have a threesome with like another man, 500 00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:52,680 Speaker 2: and you say all those things when you're horning, but 501 00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:57,080 Speaker 2: then once you're done is like a fa like what 502 00:22:57,200 --> 00:22:59,520 Speaker 2: would you do that? But in the moment you're like, oh, yeah, 503 00:22:59,560 --> 00:23:01,960 Speaker 2: I had such a great idea. It's a mom I 504 00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:04,159 Speaker 2: don't know, that's just me in my mind. Yeah, but 505 00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:08,439 Speaker 2: I think that you you should be sexually liberated issue 506 00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:12,760 Speaker 2: experiment to where you're comfortable. I think that also with 507 00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:16,560 Speaker 2: your significant other. I mean, whoever's gonna cheat, they're gonna cheat, regardless. 508 00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:19,400 Speaker 2: I do think that it's important to be sexually open 509 00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:21,960 Speaker 2: and liberated with your partners so they don't necessarily feel 510 00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:24,760 Speaker 2: the need to go explore somewhere else, and you know, 511 00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:27,160 Speaker 2: have fun and be cool with each other even though 512 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:37,800 Speaker 2: get regardless, regardless behind your head, when they see the 513 00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:40,520 Speaker 2: next gang, they're gonna be like, oh, because that's how 514 00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 2: they are. Women. In the other hand, be fun in love. 515 00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:47,240 Speaker 2: He anyone you and her children really married, they're not 516 00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:51,920 Speaker 2: thinking about that. But that comes with time maturity. And 517 00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:54,280 Speaker 2: I'll tell you this much, my daughter's really made me 518 00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:57,719 Speaker 2: become even more grounded. I've always been very humble. I've 519 00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:00,800 Speaker 2: always been real cool world down on Earth, having two girls, 520 00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:04,760 Speaker 2: having two babies, being a single mother at this point 521 00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:07,720 Speaker 2: when I thought that I would have my fairy tale. 522 00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:10,080 Speaker 2: When I thought that, you know, I've been waiting for 523 00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:12,760 Speaker 2: so long or you know, I'm thirty two now I waited. 524 00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:14,960 Speaker 2: I've been a good girl. I haven't been messing around 525 00:24:15,000 --> 00:24:16,920 Speaker 2: with anybody. I do things right. I'm a good daughter, 526 00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:19,440 Speaker 2: I'm a good mother, like I'm a good woman. I 527 00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:21,120 Speaker 2: thought I would have my fairy tale, and it didn't 528 00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:23,520 Speaker 2: turn out that way. So it just put things in 529 00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:26,680 Speaker 2: perspective for me of like, you have to be realistic 530 00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:29,359 Speaker 2: to what life may be for you. It may not 531 00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:31,080 Speaker 2: always turn out to be the way that you plan, 532 00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:32,680 Speaker 2: and you have to be prepared for that. And in 533 00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:35,280 Speaker 2: the meantime, you have to live. Sometimes we don't really 534 00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:37,840 Speaker 2: live were we want things to be so perfect and 535 00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:39,640 Speaker 2: so righty, No want to set a sea and that's 536 00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:42,240 Speaker 2: okay too. So I don't know. I just think that 537 00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:44,400 Speaker 2: my mentality has changed a lot now. 538 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:47,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I bet, especially after having two girls, and I think, 539 00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:49,960 Speaker 1: like you you are their prime example, you know, so 540 00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:53,320 Speaker 1: it's like you la, it just forces you to be like, hey, 541 00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:55,960 Speaker 1: I want to show these girls how to be better 542 00:24:56,040 --> 00:24:58,439 Speaker 1: than me and every way I'm a saying credit right. 543 00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:00,560 Speaker 1: I don't have kids yet, but I could just assume 544 00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,320 Speaker 1: it's a huge responsibility. You have two girls, you know, two, 545 00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:06,560 Speaker 1: so you take care of them girls. 546 00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:10,560 Speaker 2: It is a lot of responsibility. It does make you mature, 547 00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:13,720 Speaker 2: it makes you be Okay, I became like a mama bear. 548 00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:17,000 Speaker 2: I became fearless. If I was a workaholic before, I 549 00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:20,119 Speaker 2: work even harder now. And and now even for my 550 00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:22,600 Speaker 2: dating scene, things have changed because it's not just about 551 00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:24,800 Speaker 2: thee I see that one and I like, now I'm 552 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,159 Speaker 2: thinking about mayakie, Bobby, You're gonna come over here, may 553 00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:30,600 Speaker 2: I explode? Okay, You're gonna add all these damn miles 554 00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:32,880 Speaker 2: into my todo for nothing? And what am I gonna 555 00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:35,199 Speaker 2: gain out of this? Ah No, I'm not gonna get 556 00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:36,920 Speaker 2: nothing out of it. And then on top of that, 557 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:39,399 Speaker 2: even if I like you, are you a good man 558 00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:41,600 Speaker 2: enough for me to bring around my daughters? You know, 559 00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:44,040 Speaker 2: now it's just and it's not just about me. Once 560 00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:45,960 Speaker 2: you become a mother. For the girls out there listening, 561 00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:48,359 Speaker 2: you know, the feeling you can relate is like, are 562 00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:50,680 Speaker 2: you cool enough to be around my kids? How you 563 00:25:50,800 --> 00:25:55,400 Speaker 2: act around them? Youreco you never know. So dating now 564 00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:58,120 Speaker 2: has changed for me. Now it's more like a grown woman, 565 00:25:58,280 --> 00:25:59,919 Speaker 2: Like it's not even so much about having fun. It's 566 00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:02,440 Speaker 2: like I'm a grown woman. Now, what do you really 567 00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:04,640 Speaker 2: bring to the table? Because I know I didn't bring 568 00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:06,680 Speaker 2: the tape. I made the damn table. How about that? 569 00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:11,119 Speaker 1: I set that ship up. Yeah, No, I totally get it. 570 00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:13,480 Speaker 1: I totally get it. And I see you on Instagram 571 00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:16,720 Speaker 1: and you hustle girls, you know, so las gasas the 572 00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:20,960 Speaker 1: transportation like you're singing like I'm like, dude, I admire 573 00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:24,440 Speaker 1: your hustle one hundred percent. Thank you. And if you 574 00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:28,040 Speaker 1: guys don't actually, can you share your your socials with 575 00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:30,280 Speaker 1: us so that if they don't follow you, they go 576 00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:31,159 Speaker 1: follow you. Please? 577 00:26:31,640 --> 00:26:34,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, for sure. Guys, go check me out at 578 00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:37,600 Speaker 2: Amara la Negra a l N Amara a l N. 579 00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:41,200 Speaker 2: You can also check out my podcast at exactly Amada 580 00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:44,760 Speaker 2: exactly a Mata and then in there you'll see, you know, 581 00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:49,560 Speaker 2: my transportation, my girls less royal twins. Mammy. Second, they're 582 00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:51,840 Speaker 2: also working. No, what do you think the diapers in 583 00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:54,840 Speaker 2: the formula is expensive? I put them to work right away. No, no, no, no, 584 00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:56,600 Speaker 2: your baby influencers. 585 00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:00,480 Speaker 1: I saw that, I was like, that is so cute. 586 00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:03,359 Speaker 2: Hey, listen, it's a good way to empower them. I agree, 587 00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,080 Speaker 2: I absolutely are you thinking, do you want to be 588 00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:07,679 Speaker 2: a mother? Do you want to have children? 589 00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:10,520 Speaker 1: You know what? I go in and out see Kiero 590 00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:16,240 Speaker 1: always get like I want to Still I'm finally living 591 00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:19,880 Speaker 1: this where I just feel free. Yes, and I want 592 00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:21,840 Speaker 1: to continue with that and do my thing. And I've 593 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:24,480 Speaker 1: raised children like my siblings, so it's like I would 594 00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:28,640 Speaker 1: love that and if it happens, I'll welcome it with happiness. 595 00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:30,960 Speaker 1: You know. So I'm just chilling. I'm not on birth control. 596 00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:32,680 Speaker 1: I'm not trying, and I'm not not trying. You feel me. 597 00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:33,560 Speaker 1: I'm just still with thing. 598 00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:37,160 Speaker 2: Okay, let me let let's let's let's figure all those 599 00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:40,439 Speaker 2: things out after that. Damn n da. But yeah, for sure, 600 00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:43,520 Speaker 2: I think it's a beautiful thing. I love it. Oh 601 00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:43,840 Speaker 2: my god. 602 00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:45,840 Speaker 1: You guys heard it here on Jigi's and chill I 603 00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:47,879 Speaker 1: might have asked her to get the NDA. 604 00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:51,119 Speaker 2: Girls you already know, don't trust it, Okay, keep your 605 00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:54,080 Speaker 2: eyes open, and you know, be open to love, but 606 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:57,320 Speaker 2: also be open into protecting your heart, protecting yourself as women, 607 00:27:57,359 --> 00:27:59,320 Speaker 2: we have to empower each other and this is a 608 00:27:59,359 --> 00:28:01,560 Speaker 2: good tip to give out to the girls out there listening. 609 00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:04,040 Speaker 2: So with that being said, Chiky's I might be happ 610 00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:05,560 Speaker 2: Thank you so much for having me on your show. 611 00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:08,080 Speaker 2: I'm so grateful. I'm such a fan. I admire you 612 00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:10,400 Speaker 2: so much. I can't wait for my girls to meet 613 00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:17,119 Speaker 2: Tom in speed As believe it or not, because you 614 00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:19,239 Speaker 2: don't know how many women you know check out your 615 00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:20,639 Speaker 2: page and the things that you've done in the way 616 00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:23,000 Speaker 2: that you inspire us. And I'm just so proud of you. 617 00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:28,760 Speaker 1: Oh, thank you, Amra likewise honestly, and thank you for 618 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:30,760 Speaker 1: taking the time to be here on Chiki's and Chill. 619 00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:33,960 Speaker 1: And thank you because I know you are in dr 620 00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:36,879 Speaker 1: and you made it happen so much as it and 621 00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:38,960 Speaker 1: I will see you soon. 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