1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,200 Speaker 1: Happy holidays. Here's one of our favorite moments of twenty 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:08,800 Speaker 1: twenty four. I don't know where I got this. Signs 3 00:00:08,800 --> 00:00:09,479 Speaker 1: that you're a flake. 4 00:00:09,600 --> 00:00:12,000 Speaker 2: Do you think that you could qualify as being a 5 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:13,520 Speaker 2: flake when it comes to certain things? 6 00:00:13,560 --> 00:00:14,440 Speaker 3: Certain things? I'm sure. 7 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:15,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, it depends on what you ask. 8 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:18,840 Speaker 1: I'm sure. So I went down the list. 9 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 2: I'm thinking, Okay, let me see how many of these 10 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:23,320 Speaker 2: things apply to me, and maybe you should play along 11 00:00:23,360 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 2: as well. Signs are a flake who people cannot rely on. 12 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:32,840 Speaker 2: Number one, you arrive late to everything. 13 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:38,279 Speaker 1: I don't do yet, Yeah, you know everything. I mean, 14 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:38,879 Speaker 1: don't you have that? 15 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:40,480 Speaker 2: And I know we have a mutual friend or two, 16 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 2: but I know we have other people in our own circles, 17 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 2: outside the circle who are late every single time. 18 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:49,479 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean it's just a known fat It's infuriating. 19 00:00:50,040 --> 00:00:52,160 Speaker 4: I find it rude. My sister's one of these people, 20 00:00:52,320 --> 00:00:55,800 Speaker 4: and her response is that she's optimistic and that is 21 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:56,880 Speaker 4: why she's late to everything. 22 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 1: They're faster, okay, but she never does right. 23 00:01:02,160 --> 00:01:05,640 Speaker 2: Signs you're a flake. Your non committal, like you never 24 00:01:05,680 --> 00:01:08,640 Speaker 2: commit to anything. If someone says, hey, can we we're 25 00:01:08,640 --> 00:01:11,560 Speaker 2: having a dinner party, you never ever commit You're. 26 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:13,840 Speaker 1: Like m and you wait until. 27 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 2: Sometimes later, well I am too, Yeah, I'll have to 28 00:01:17,680 --> 00:01:18,039 Speaker 2: let you know. 29 00:01:18,160 --> 00:01:19,680 Speaker 1: Or maybe there's nothing wrong with saying that. 30 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 3: Oh, I guess I do that. 31 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 2: Hey, have you ever been invited to a dinner or 32 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 2: something and you you really want to ask? Well, who 33 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:27,760 Speaker 2: else is going to be there? 34 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 1: All the time? 35 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:30,480 Speaker 4: That's the make or break right there? 36 00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 2: I know, but it's it's so obvious, right, it's like, 37 00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 2: did you invite? I mean, because they're in this make 38 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:39,920 Speaker 2: or break there are people that they are friends with. 39 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 1: I don't want to hang out with. 40 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:43,000 Speaker 3: Absolutely, but I do have one person I can ask 41 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:45,880 Speaker 3: that too, and she knows right away. Sometimes even before 42 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:47,039 Speaker 3: I ask, she'll give me the list. 43 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 1: She'll say, Hey, by the way, is going to be here? Oh? 44 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 2: Ways that you could be considered a flake. You're always 45 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:58,279 Speaker 2: keeping your options open. You know, sometime you feel stressed 46 00:01:58,280 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 2: about all the options you have at your disposal. You'd 47 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:02,840 Speaker 2: like to leave things to the last minute because you 48 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 2: have that grass is always greener on the other side 49 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:08,760 Speaker 2: syndrome going on. Yeah, I guess that kind of falls 50 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:12,799 Speaker 2: in place with the noncommittal thing totally. You always fall 51 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 2: behind with deadlines. See this is why I never create deadlines. 52 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:23,440 Speaker 2: You know, deadlines, especially in the workplace, in a professional atmosphere, 53 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 2: people say, okay, I need this done. I need it 54 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 2: done by five pm to day. The big thing here 55 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:31,239 Speaker 2: at a iHeart is end of business day. It must 56 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:32,760 Speaker 2: be done by the end of the business day today. 57 00:02:33,320 --> 00:02:33,680 Speaker 5: Eh. 58 00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:36,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a floating timeline, isn't it. 59 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:39,160 Speaker 4: Can we let them like who's business day in China? 60 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:40,320 Speaker 4: It might still be going. 61 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 2: Ways that you could perceive be perceived as a little flaky. 62 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 2: You're very quick to make promises. Sometimes you don't stop 63 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 2: and think about what you're promising to do, and you 64 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 2: get done. 65 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 1: Right. 66 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:57,960 Speaker 2: How about spontaneity. Sometimes spontaneity makes other people nervous. Look 67 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:02,119 Speaker 2: Spontanady's fun, right, Like oh, let's just let's let let's 68 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:03,800 Speaker 2: just go to their important catch a flight out of here. 69 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 1: Where are we going? I don't care, ye, let's just well. 70 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:10,720 Speaker 2: It drives other people into an anxiety, a high level 71 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 2: of anxiety, like, well, they have kids, they have to 72 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:14,919 Speaker 2: make plans, they have to do like scary gets mad 73 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:16,720 Speaker 2: and his friends who are married with kids. 74 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:18,239 Speaker 1: Hey, hey man, let's go let's go out and have 75 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: dinner tonight. Well I can't. 76 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:21,680 Speaker 2: Oh man, you always say no, Well, I know they 77 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 2: have to get a babysitter. There's things they gotta do them. 78 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 3: Like ten minutes where he's walking out the door. 79 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 6: I'm the king of last minute because in my world 80 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 6: I can make those snap decisions and just gohy no. 81 00:03:31,480 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 1: But you gotta keep you on it. It's not just 82 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 1: your world when you involve other people. 83 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:36,200 Speaker 6: Right, but does that make me a flake? 84 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:38,600 Speaker 1: Is that a flake? Yes? 85 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 2: No, you come not a flake, but you come across 86 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 2: as being a little a little much, a little bit. 87 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:45,680 Speaker 4: I get it. 88 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: You're you're in the same boat. 89 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're not easy to trust. 90 00:03:52,640 --> 00:03:53,760 Speaker 1: Now what is this? Let me rea. 91 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:55,760 Speaker 2: It might urge you feelings when people say that they 92 00:03:55,760 --> 00:03:57,680 Speaker 2: can't trust you, but it makes sense, especially if you 93 00:03:57,960 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 2: said you'd be there for them, but then at the 94 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 2: last minut it how about a rain check? 95 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 1: Can we do this another time? Okay? 96 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:04,440 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's not cool. 97 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: That's not good. 98 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 2: You say yes when you really don't want to do things. See, 99 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 2: I'm guilty of that. 100 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:10,640 Speaker 1: I think we all been there. 101 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:14,080 Speaker 2: You say yes, you're like uh, and then you find 102 00:04:14,080 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 2: that last minute excuse to get out of it. All right, 103 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:20,800 Speaker 2: I don't know what about you, Like, what's your weakness 104 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 2: that you wish you could or you should focus in 105 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 2: on and try to fix. 106 00:04:26,080 --> 00:04:29,800 Speaker 4: Probably the committal thing. I'm really noncommittal about everything in 107 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:31,520 Speaker 4: my life, even you know, when it comes to work, 108 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:34,480 Speaker 4: signing contracts and stuff, I sweat. I'm like, oh, how 109 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:36,120 Speaker 4: many years come on? I don't know what I'm gonna 110 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:37,800 Speaker 4: be doing by then. But I think I should be 111 00:04:37,839 --> 00:04:39,920 Speaker 4: a little more committal with things and just say yes 112 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:42,480 Speaker 4: and then be excited about the thing I said yes too, 113 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:44,400 Speaker 4: instead of looking at it like a sentence. 114 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:47,839 Speaker 2: Well, I'm in the committal bandwagon as well, because a 115 00:04:47,839 --> 00:04:50,560 Speaker 2: lot of times and you guys know, people ask me, oh, 116 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 2: can you come do this? You want to go to 117 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:54,280 Speaker 2: this party? I'm like no, I don't even think about it. 118 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:57,760 Speaker 2: It's like, nah, I'd rather not and I don't want 119 00:04:57,760 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 2: to commit to that. And maybe it's the last minute. 120 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:01,000 Speaker 2: If you have room for me, maybe I'll go. That's 121 00:05:01,040 --> 00:05:03,560 Speaker 2: not good for you if you're planning out a table 122 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:04,680 Speaker 2: setting or something. 123 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:05,400 Speaker 1: That's what you foggy. 124 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:11,280 Speaker 7: Definitely procrastination, Oh god, yes, mine's procrastination. Like for example, 125 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:13,800 Speaker 7: with work, like emails, they pile up and then before 126 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:15,560 Speaker 7: I'm like, you know what, I'll answer that email later. 127 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:17,520 Speaker 7: I'll answer that email later, and then I don't want 128 00:05:17,520 --> 00:05:19,520 Speaker 7: to get back to it, and then it's last minute 129 00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:21,480 Speaker 7: and I'm trying to burn through them all. I need 130 00:05:21,520 --> 00:05:22,280 Speaker 7: to get better about that. 131 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:26,520 Speaker 4: Okay, But the deadline thing, when people give you a deadline, 132 00:05:26,920 --> 00:05:29,400 Speaker 4: don't ask me about it until the deadline comes, because 133 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 4: I will wait until that deadline and then drop everything 134 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 4: I need to do at that time, and people get 135 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:35,200 Speaker 4: really stressed. Well, the deadline is tomorrow. 136 00:05:35,240 --> 00:05:36,239 Speaker 1: I'm like, right, and it's today. 137 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:37,160 Speaker 4: Why are you asking this? 138 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:41,719 Speaker 3: It's the all mark your assignments or reports? They most 139 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 3: kids wait till the very last minute to get it 140 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:46,360 Speaker 3: done and hands it in like very rare. Do kids 141 00:05:46,400 --> 00:05:46,919 Speaker 3: work ahead? 142 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:48,600 Speaker 1: You know I'm an old kid. 143 00:05:48,600 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 7: Then it really does feel good when you do it 144 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 7: ahead of. 145 00:05:51,520 --> 00:05:52,200 Speaker 1: Time and get it done. 146 00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:52,880 Speaker 4: I wouldn't know. 147 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: I have no idea you have to do? What does 148 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 1: that feeling feel like? Wait, Daniel, what about you? 149 00:05:57,600 --> 00:05:57,760 Speaker 5: Yeah? 150 00:05:57,839 --> 00:06:00,560 Speaker 3: Same thing like just like saying I want to do something, 151 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:03,400 Speaker 3: saying yes, and then leading up to it, humming and 152 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:06,000 Speaker 3: hiring about it. Why did I say yes? I shouldn't 153 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:08,440 Speaker 3: have said yes? And then and then I wind up 154 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:10,599 Speaker 3: going and enjoying myself and having a good time. 155 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:11,320 Speaker 1: So that was cool. 156 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:12,239 Speaker 6: Yeah. 157 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:15,680 Speaker 2: My thing with Alex is I'll say, hey, x y Z, 158 00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 2: they invited us to their house this tonight for a 159 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:21,440 Speaker 2: dinner party, and he'll go, okay, let's go, and then 160 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:23,680 Speaker 2: he'll get home from herk NA. 161 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 1: What do you mean? Na? 162 00:06:25,440 --> 00:06:27,279 Speaker 2: That means that means that puts me in the middle. 163 00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:28,800 Speaker 2: Now I have to call them and come up with 164 00:06:28,800 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 2: an excuse. Nay what Yeah, scary. 165 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:35,600 Speaker 6: Mine is rsvping for a wedding because I wait till 166 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 6: the very last minute and then beyond the deadline, well 167 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:38,560 Speaker 6: beyond the deadline. 168 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:40,560 Speaker 1: I hate going to weddings, so. 169 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 6: It's like, oh my god, what's my answer going to be? 170 00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:46,000 Speaker 1: And then I usually wind up going, but I you know, 171 00:06:46,279 --> 00:06:49,599 Speaker 1: that's monstrous, man, I tell them too late. Sorry, But 172 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:50,760 Speaker 1: if you don't want to go, don't go. 173 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:52,040 Speaker 2: I mean it gets to the point where if you 174 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 2: just don't want to go, be absolute about it, don't 175 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:56,040 Speaker 2: don't like. I think the whole point of that that 176 00:06:56,080 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 2: one on this list is commit commit to doing it 177 00:06:58,839 --> 00:07:01,839 Speaker 2: or commit to not doing it, and just once you 178 00:07:01,839 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 2: commit either way, stick with it. 179 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:04,440 Speaker 1: Yeah. 180 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:07,719 Speaker 2: Yeah, Tanisha Online twenty has a suggestion for all of 181 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 2: us when people invite us somewhere. 182 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:11,320 Speaker 1: Yes, Tanisha, help us out with this. 183 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:14,800 Speaker 5: Yeh, so I have the best response for when someone 184 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:17,640 Speaker 5: asked to come out somewhere. I always say, oh, that 185 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:22,400 Speaker 5: sounds fun, so I'm not necessarily committing to it, But 186 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:24,480 Speaker 5: I also don't want to shoot down their plans so 187 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 5: they feel bad about, you know, not being interested in going. 188 00:07:30,520 --> 00:07:32,680 Speaker 2: If if I asked Tanisha, if I said, Hey, we're 189 00:07:32,720 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 2: getting together for dinner tonight, if you told me that 190 00:07:35,520 --> 00:07:37,240 Speaker 2: sounds fun, I think I would assume. 191 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:39,239 Speaker 1: You were going to be there. Is that wrong? Maybe 192 00:07:39,240 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 1: maybe I shouldn't think that. 193 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 5: Yeah, maybe you shouldn't. I'm just letting you know that 194 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:45,720 Speaker 5: it sounds like a fun plant, but I'm not telling 195 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 5: you that I'm going to be there. 196 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree, I agree that sounds awesome. It doesn't 197 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:53,760 Speaker 3: mean I'm committing to go. 198 00:07:54,280 --> 00:07:58,840 Speaker 1: That sounds like a commitment to me. Can I just 199 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:01,520 Speaker 1: point out all the time in the most. 200 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 6: When scared almost having a party, Hey, that sounds like 201 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 6: a great time. 202 00:08:06,960 --> 00:08:10,200 Speaker 2: Have a blast now. My favorite line is, hey, tell 203 00:08:10,200 --> 00:08:11,280 Speaker 2: her when I said hello. 204 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:15,920 Speaker 4: But he leaves to think he's going because he's like, 205 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 4: have a great time. 206 00:08:17,080 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: Tell him. 207 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:19,520 Speaker 4: I said, Hi, but if you were to just leave it, 208 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:20,840 Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, that sounds like a great time. 209 00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:22,880 Speaker 1: Want to see your ass there? 210 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:25,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, Tenisha, I don't know. Ts you better be your 211 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:27,000 Speaker 2: dinner tonight. I'm telling you right now. 212 00:08:28,680 --> 00:08:30,800 Speaker 5: I'll tell you what, Elvis, that sounds like a lot 213 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:31,200 Speaker 5: of fun. 214 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:36,560 Speaker 2: There you go, all right, Tenisha, thank you for listening today. 215 00:08:36,600 --> 00:08:37,720 Speaker 2: We appreciate your contribution. 216 00:08:38,559 --> 00:08:40,880 Speaker 6: That's as brilliant as it is offensive. By the way, 217 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:44,120 Speaker 6: when people do that that you think that they're committing 218 00:08:44,160 --> 00:08:44,560 Speaker 6: but they're not. 219 00:08:44,720 --> 00:08:46,800 Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, what was it? What was the other 220 00:08:46,840 --> 00:08:48,400 Speaker 1: line that Lee Schreger used the other day. 221 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:51,959 Speaker 4: When somebody says or shows you a picture, you're supposed 222 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:53,600 Speaker 4: to be like, well, that isn't that something? 223 00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 7: Yeah? 224 00:08:54,559 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 1: Exactly, you don't. 225 00:08:55,760 --> 00:08:59,640 Speaker 2: Like something something that something, which could be like that's 226 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 2: crap for that's right. 227 00:09:00,880 --> 00:09:02,000 Speaker 1: I'm not going to commit either way. 228 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:05,079 Speaker 4: Like pictures of people's children. He's like, oh, that's something, Oh, 229 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:05,840 Speaker 4: that's something.