WEBVTT - You've Got Decisons: Envious & Inspired but SINGLE AF (Ft. Jasmine)

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<v Speaker 1>So we go back to the room and I'm excited

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm going to meet them.

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<v Speaker 2>They got the VIP section ready over at the pool, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I get completely naked in front of this man that

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<v Speaker 1>I just met, okay thirty minutes ago, and I say,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna be adventurous.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna put my butt plug in. Yeah. So this

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<v Speaker 2>of the room. Well, now we're all getting naked.

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<v Speaker 1>We just went and I'm like, I literally go on

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<v Speaker 1>the bed and I told my thing and I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>let me put the cover work is Chris was like,

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna put this buck plug in front of this guy?

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<v Speaker 2>I say, well, you're gonna turn.

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<v Speaker 1>Around, but I got a focused guys, and it's like

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<v Speaker 1>a it's a regular sign.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not small this day. This is Thursday. Okay, this

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<v Speaker 2>is day one. No, this is Thursday night. So this

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<v Speaker 2>is he just landed my friends landing. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm literally as naked in the room and I

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<v Speaker 1>decided to put a book plug in my ass in

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<v Speaker 1>front of this man. So we go to the pool.

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<v Speaker 1>Immediately pull up to the pool, shake my home show.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody in my book plugs. It's cute. Inspired me to

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<v Speaker 2>wear mine to the newde Pool for that day. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I was inspired people.

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<v Speaker 1>So anyways, we go, we sit and literally it's casual.

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<v Speaker 1>It's casual. We're sitting there taking drinks, We're talking. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I've learned about this, but I just have I just

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<v Speaker 1>suck cop upside down in the water that night.

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<v Speaker 2>That's O d I did. I'm just did you have breathed?

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<v Speaker 1>I had a sewing. Oh, same difference. That the same difference. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and I even had a hair tied. That was like

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<v Speaker 1>like I could go in the water to keep the

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<v Speaker 1>roots down, you know, because I wanted to look ready

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<v Speaker 1>ready your from sucking and dick, it looked.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm such a dolphin. I literally was floating on the

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<v Speaker 2>top of the water.

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<v Speaker 1>And He'll find you might be one of the aliens

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<v Speaker 1>because it's the way your work.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have the same human bodies, Like how are

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<v Speaker 2>you not falling?

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<v Speaker 1>And I literally was just laying on the floor on

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<v Speaker 1>air and you're not how they were sitting out the

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<v Speaker 1>fucking pool. He was sitting outside of it, so like

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<v Speaker 1>it's just balls hanging, dick hanging, and I'm laying upside

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<v Speaker 1>down in the water and I'm like literally swimming and looking.

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<v Speaker 2>At his ball you got the stars, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>this is sound great.

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<v Speaker 3>Girl.

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<v Speaker 2>This Jamaica mushs different. No, don Jamaica mushals it was different.

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<v Speaker 2>And he was taking only double dose that night. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know what dosage we did.

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<v Speaker 1>All I know is he said he never done a

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<v Speaker 1>bit fining the dose and he's say I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you're with me, you're saying you're safe strangers. So he

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<v Speaker 1>takes truth for the first time.

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<v Speaker 2>And at this point, the other guy that I thought

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<v Speaker 2>killed my.

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<v Speaker 1>Friend was my fault serial killer all week because at

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<v Speaker 1>this point, nigga, you killed my friend.

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<v Speaker 2>Even though she's a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>So anyways, he pulled up. We actually start flirting first

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm done in the trans and me and this guy.

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<v Speaker 1>Even though he's with me and he's attractive, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't getting no play bitch. Apparently as soon as

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<v Speaker 1>he saw me parting with this nigga, he just the

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<v Speaker 1>whole I think I saw when he came up the

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<v Speaker 1>hat becaus.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, we get a little territorial. You

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<v Speaker 2>know what's crazy. My best friend peeped it too.

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<v Speaker 1>He didn't know, so immediately I started playing with this

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<v Speaker 1>nigga about him ordering Coke zero.

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<v Speaker 2>And ship, and I said, hey, hey, hey, don't judge us.

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<v Speaker 2>Coke zero judges you're gonna do it. Well, I see,

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<v Speaker 2>is that how I flirt right diabetic?

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<v Speaker 1>Look, that's great? Okay, okay, I mean that mad Sagar

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<v Speaker 1>all right, that's not the flirt I talked ship.

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<v Speaker 2>So clearly I'm flired with this guy. Because he walked up,

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<v Speaker 2>he looked like my ex. I was like, oh, yeah, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>this nigga. Immediately like hand around my.

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<v Speaker 1>Wrist and then Dick just gets hard and start poking me.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, he's still ordering shots and now you

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<v Speaker 1>are again. But now I'm like feeling his energy. Damn,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm feeling his energy.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I reached down. Literally I just started dad

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<v Speaker 2>sounded like people, good time. Literally, where are you from?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 2>No, we're having a.

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<v Speaker 1>Full conversation about like where we're from, coke zero things,

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<v Speaker 1>stroking his dick under the wall.

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<v Speaker 4>If I would have had my waterproof cards out, we

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<v Speaker 4>would have been playing speeds.

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<v Speaker 1>That is so where at this time station. I'm choking

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<v Speaker 1>his big Then he starts kissing my ear and then I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Just like fuck it. We're gonna go fuck. So I

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<v Speaker 2>take him over to the cave. There's a cave.

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<v Speaker 1>There's no no, no, we're not there yet, the cave

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<v Speaker 1>with waterfall, because we both like, I didn't know till

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<v Speaker 1>later that he has like he can't.

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<v Speaker 2>Perform in front of bad people. Oh you performance anxiety.

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<v Speaker 2>He guess that sometimes he lost it my day too,

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<v Speaker 2>because I don't know I was yet. He's been to parties,

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<v Speaker 2>he's been to these things. He can't. So go to

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<v Speaker 2>the cave where the waterfall is covering us.

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<v Speaker 1>My fucking Condon bag is floating in the water, and

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<v Speaker 1>now he's fucking the ship out of me. Then we

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<v Speaker 1>take it out the cave. He lays me on the

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<v Speaker 1>side of the pool in front of the cave. It

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<v Speaker 1>starts smoking to me, but the.

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<v Speaker 2>Mat is like it's uncomfortable's uncomfortable. It all last very

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<v Speaker 2>long there, and I said, let's go to the beach.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to fuck on the beach.

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<v Speaker 1>At this point, mind you lick, he don't fuck the

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<v Speaker 1>ship out of me. I'm like, oh, this feels great.

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<v Speaker 1>So we go to the beach and it's fairly empty

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<v Speaker 1>because at this point it's probably two o'clock three o'clock

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<v Speaker 1>and everybody's at the pool. Everyone's at the pool, so

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<v Speaker 1>the beach is empty except for a couple. One couple

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<v Speaker 1>is on the beach and they're fucking. So we end

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<v Speaker 1>up getting like two rolls on the benches away from

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<v Speaker 1>them and start fucking.

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<v Speaker 2>Look at mind. Look there is no warm water. You

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<v Speaker 2>can't see it now. This one is gone. But I

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<v Speaker 2>still my elbows were were were not only wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm sitting on lists are battery each chair, no,

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<v Speaker 1>the beach chairs the day shattered scars because you you

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<v Speaker 1>don't realize you didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>Great is the chair the chair and.

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<v Speaker 1>He's spoking me and he's like, I'm gonna make that

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<v Speaker 1>pussy square And you know I talked ship, you ain't

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<v Speaker 1>gonna make my pussy square. Baby on the goddamn chair,

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<v Speaker 1>back to back. He just has me squirting on the

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<v Speaker 1>beach and I was something, fucking yeah, that beautiful. He's

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<v Speaker 1>just looking out the fucking like the where the shrooms

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<v Speaker 1>hitting him. He stops, He's like, we should go fucking

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<v Speaker 1>that tree.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a tree on the beach, bitch. And he said

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<v Speaker 2>when I said tree, I thought his name was bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>We fucked in a trick. That's why she calls him tree.

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<v Speaker 2>So he just because baby sitting.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, what was the tree? She we didn't get there,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm like, yeah, we're here now. Ironically, the other

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<v Speaker 3>is tall exactly were those he he's a tree mighty.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the funny part.

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<v Speaker 1>He the next day told my best friends, Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think those shrimps hit me. I said, I'm pretty

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<v Speaker 1>sure that's why we ended up.

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<v Speaker 2>In a tree. This happens so literally, He's like, let's

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<v Speaker 2>sucking a tree.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I've never fucked in a tree, And I said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, me neither, and I don't like we

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<v Speaker 1>should like try to fucking this tree. So literally, the

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<v Speaker 1>tree is like a tree that's kind of big down

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, the branch curved. So at first he

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<v Speaker 1>wants both of us to climb the tree. Climb bitch

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<v Speaker 1>this nigga end of the like Tarzan, no lie, he said,

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<v Speaker 1>I got this, and he starts climbing the tree. He

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<v Speaker 1>gets on the tree branch and sits on it, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, well, I don't think I'm gonna be able

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<v Speaker 1>to go there, so let's just like this.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, a little baked up because.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want you to understand that everybody who saw

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<v Speaker 1>y'all probably thought y'all were losing.

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<v Speaker 2>Y'all know, Yeah, this is huge.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so he climbs the tree. He sits down on

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<v Speaker 1>the tree, and I'm like, okay, here we go. So

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<v Speaker 1>I grabs Ad to make sure he doesn't like, he

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't fall, and I immediately just go to go to

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<v Speaker 1>work and start sucking his dick while he's in this tree.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never said dick and smelled the tree before, mind you,

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<v Speaker 1>It's gotta be my experience of this. Of this is

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<v Speaker 1>literally smelling the tree. Because I'm going like this, I

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<v Speaker 1>never smelled moss and leaves and bark while I'm sucking

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<v Speaker 1>a dick, and so maybe the shrooms had my sexes up.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I will do that. I'm like, I'm literally

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<v Speaker 2>fucking this, nigga. Day one. This is day one. This

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<v Speaker 2>is there was day two for Mandy, for everybody, for everyone. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so him, my best friend, everyone just got there. So

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<v Speaker 2>we leave the tree and we go back to the pool.

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<v Speaker 2>And now I'm talking about this tree, nigga.

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<v Speaker 1>But here I go, Hey, I don't want anyone to

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<v Speaker 1>know that we just fucked, So come come, like if

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<v Speaker 1>for me, you can't that.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I don't know, because I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I think I wanted to like not be linked to

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<v Speaker 2>a nigga that quickly. I want people think that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but you're talking a tree. And also there were still

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<v Speaker 2>people coming the next day, so no, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 2>no no no.

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<v Speaker 1>The first day there was seventy people. But I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I didn't meet everybody that first night.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I didn't just want him to.

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<v Speaker 4>Be She's like, I want to I want to see

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<v Speaker 4>all your friends. I want to see I want to

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<v Speaker 4>see the variety. I want to see the best. I

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<v Speaker 4>want to see what you want.

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<v Speaker 2>They a bunch of you ready. So the jungle area

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<v Speaker 2>so you could technically the jungle air was so nice.

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<v Speaker 2>The playrooms.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes. So then we come back into the pool separately,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm excited I come and you were there, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I talked to a group of girls that I had

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<v Speaker 1>been seeing throughout the day and I was like, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>I just fuck this nigga in the tree. His name

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<v Speaker 1>Tree if he ain't e sqirt like five to and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm bragging about this nigga.

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<v Speaker 2>No. Finally he get in the pool and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh that's tree bitch. Everybody there's host this nigga. You

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<v Speaker 2>up day.

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<v Speaker 1>Honestly, every day is hump Day, but everybody else three

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<v Speaker 1>day day.

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<v Speaker 2>There's about twenty eight days out of the month that

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<v Speaker 2>it's hump day.

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<v Speaker 1>I am God's favorite, so three days out of the

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<v Speaker 1>month I'm not humping and someone else.

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<v Speaker 2>Is his real favorite because they don't get a period

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<v Speaker 2>at all. They just ad oh, ballad ballot.

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<v Speaker 1>I do wonder if each nigga got a menopause, hope,

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<v Speaker 1>like one who just don't get periods anymore? I mean

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<v Speaker 1>in control, you don't get a period, or you might

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<v Speaker 1>just spot randomly. And I think niggas will pass the spot.

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<v Speaker 2>They will, it will. I feel like I don't care.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a vampire. My nigga like get more than normal.

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<v Speaker 2>That's disgusting, all right, I'm the horniest during that time,

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god. And it'd be like I preak even

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<v Speaker 2>watch a romantic movie. No need ice cream. You know

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<v Speaker 2>what happened Kevi on stage.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyways, guys, welcome to another You got decisions. We have

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<v Speaker 1>a letter this week that says, wait, we got a guest.

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<v Speaker 1>I know NBS and inspired single af. We have a

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<v Speaker 1>guest helping us break down this email. We have Jazz,

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<v Speaker 1>the founder, the creator, the fucking pioneer herself of Jacko Bliss.

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<v Speaker 2>Baby, and if you haven't yet, make sure you join.

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<v Speaker 1>Patreon, because baby, we talk about the time that was

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<v Speaker 1>had chuckle Bliss travel group.

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<v Speaker 2>Y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing it again next year, running it back again.

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<v Speaker 1>If you want to hear all of the nasty, filthy

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<v Speaker 1>things that took place. I'm not even gonna lie Wesi.

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<v Speaker 2>I had to think about what I was going to

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<v Speaker 2>share it. That's how bad it was.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm not like, I'm not sharing everything I did

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm embarrassed to even share on our goddamn platform.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you get did you get fucked by Ser Marvelous

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<v Speaker 1>like you said you we'll talk about it, We'll talk

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<v Speaker 1>about it round back away And.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, fuck that. I used my hand motion. If

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<v Speaker 2>you go over to Patreon, she discussed being a not

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<v Speaker 2>an amuse amused for Marlous.

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't fucked by Sir Marvelous, but I was finger

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<v Speaker 1>popped graciously, So go on over to Patreon. This patreon

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<v Speaker 1>dot com backslash horrible decisions. There is so much over

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<v Speaker 1>there shared. I will tell you now, ladies, have a

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<v Speaker 1>pennyliner in your panties before you listen to it. And

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<v Speaker 1>Fellas put a goddamn now, oh it's it's it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>wild like it doesn't like it wasn't real life.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyways, Let's get into.

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<v Speaker 1>Ours wearing the fish neck literally war it just for

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<v Speaker 1>the episode over the Patreon and watch the video on

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<v Speaker 1>this because this fitch is still wearing her dufty wine clothes.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me live Jamaica tea. I literally brought this. I said,

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<v Speaker 2>we've been to be talking about Jamaica. Did you wear

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<v Speaker 2>it there? Yes, yes, Jamaica. She has I want Jamaica.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't do this. Don't do this, you know how much.

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<v Speaker 1>My best friend was like, Bitch, everyone knows you're in Jamaica.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to have the flag or all these

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<v Speaker 1>Jamaica clothes off, So mind you. I'll set her my

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<v Speaker 1>little fashion oble. She said, bruh, can you not go

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<v Speaker 1>to the island that you're from looking like a white tourist.

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<v Speaker 2>That's not to get braids and beans and everything was Jamaican.

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<v Speaker 1>But because here's the thing, right, everything was themed out

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<v Speaker 1>but for dinners and stuff you had to have clothes on.

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<v Speaker 2>So bitch ill bought all the little Jamaican dresses. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not gonna lie the way you be thinking it's cute.

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<v Speaker 2>So I put on one of these outfits recently to

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<v Speaker 2>go to a pool. My homegirl. She goes, where are

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<v Speaker 2>you going to grill?

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, I'm often to go back up, Like,

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<v Speaker 3>isn't funny where it is Jamaica.

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<v Speaker 1>It's funny because whenever you see the girls on the

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<v Speaker 1>little rafts, they all had Jamaican outfits on.

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<v Speaker 4>Bitch, who was going to the Bamboo Rafts stated we

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<v Speaker 4>did the excursions because every.

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<v Speaker 2>Had a T shirt ahead Jamaica. Everybody says, oh, everybody

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<v Speaker 2>goes to the rest.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>One of the craziest videos I've ever seen on the

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<v Speaker 3>internet was a girl on the raft.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I'll remember this video, but it

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<v Speaker 2>was on Twitter. She was getting fucked with no no,

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<v Speaker 2>no oh. She was getting sucked by.

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<v Speaker 3>The so she was getting fingered at first, and then

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<v Speaker 3>the dude was about to fuck her and she goes, no,

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<v Speaker 3>get a condom and he got a plantastic bag.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, And that is the level of horny. I

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<v Speaker 2>never want to be Whoa again. On Patreon apparently I

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<v Speaker 2>went to Jamaica horny.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyways, listen into Invious and Inspired single af Hey, Mandy

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<v Speaker 1>and Wheezy, Ope you're both doing well. First, I just

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<v Speaker 1>want to give you all your flowers congratulations on being

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<v Speaker 1>New York Times bestsellers. Discovering you both many years ago

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<v Speaker 1>was truly a gift. Finding you has meant so much

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<v Speaker 1>to me, especially seeing two corporate women transition into such

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<v Speaker 1>a dope space.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm loving Noah's bard. It's beautiful, sexy and honest.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm reading it in small breaks because it's making me

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<v Speaker 1>reflect on my own love life and relationship life. Thirty

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<v Speaker 1>three year old British born black woman, and I've always

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<v Speaker 1>struggled to see myself as sexual.

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<v Speaker 2>I lost my virginity later than some wasn't.

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<v Speaker 1>Really bothered at the time, and post university I mostly

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<v Speaker 1>had hookups rather than real dating experiences. I've had one

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<v Speaker 1>brief relationship in twenty nineteen and otherwise been very casual.

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<v Speaker 1>Mandy that Mexico threesome story and Wheezy your freedom and

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<v Speaker 1>softness with your current partner.

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<v Speaker 4>Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>I've listened to y'all and the guests and tried, but

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<v Speaker 1>I still don't feel seen at all. I've tried approaching

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<v Speaker 1>people on dating apps and even paid on apps, but

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<v Speaker 1>it hasn't really worked. Are men afraid of approaching women

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<v Speaker 1>these days? Dating in the States seems so much fun. Also,

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<v Speaker 1>one thing I've been curious about during a threesome or

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<v Speaker 1>being intimate with other people in the room, how do

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<v Speaker 1>you feel okay with your bodies, especially around other women.

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<v Speaker 2>My belly would be on my mind constantly.

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<v Speaker 1>I fear reading your book and hearing about the fullness

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<v Speaker 1>of your experiences makes me both envious and inspired. I

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<v Speaker 1>guess my question is how can I feel seen, desirable

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<v Speaker 1>and whole while dating is a thirty something with limited experience?

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<v Speaker 2>I've I'm scared I've missed my chance for fun sexual experiences.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry for the long message, I just wanted to share

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<v Speaker 1>how much your work inspires me. I'm only halfway through

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<v Speaker 1>your book and I'm already so expired inspired by y'all

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<v Speaker 1>and who you are. I've attached my photo. Feel free

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<v Speaker 1>to judge. Not gonna judge you because girl, you're beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't see a belly? But that's right, where's

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<v Speaker 1>the belly?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't see? I I gotta zoom in this girl

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<v Speaker 2>was ki on the camera? I didn't. Oh she is okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so let me judge the altfhit. I'm just playing. So

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<v Speaker 2>the you're traveling, you out, you look like you and

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<v Speaker 2>Europe stopping in that picture? Maybe is little She's British,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I'm saying. Yeah, but she's still traveling.

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<v Speaker 2>So the question is Europe is cold, but she's a

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<v Speaker 2>crop tops not belly.

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<v Speaker 1>How how can you feel seen, desirable and whole while

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<v Speaker 1>dating as a thirty something with limited experience? That don't

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<v Speaker 1>think any of us have limited experience but for those

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<v Speaker 1>first three things, but we.

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<v Speaker 3>All probably have a friend or family member that does.

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<v Speaker 3>I'll be honest. The more of been watching different shows

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<v Speaker 3>and talking to different people, I've learned a few things.

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<v Speaker 2>So we all know. I'm a TLC girl. Mandy's the

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<v Speaker 2>Bravo girl.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a new show on TLC called Match Me Abroad,

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<v Speaker 1>and there's a girl on there who claims she's been

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<v Speaker 1>on seventy five first dates.

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<v Speaker 2>Now it's a lot. That to me is a lot.

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<v Speaker 3>Then we're having a conversation. I'm watching what my mammy's like,

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<v Speaker 3>not really like, how many you think you've been on?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, I don't know, maybe, but eventually it gets

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<v Speaker 3>to another one. It seems like what she's saying is

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<v Speaker 3>the seventy five leader nowhere. Oh okay, so you know

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<v Speaker 3>what I'm saying, my first dates and they don't go nowhere.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So you're hotter than her. You are a really

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<v Speaker 2>cute girl. This girl was not.

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<v Speaker 1>However, I would even say to me when I heard

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<v Speaker 1>this letter, I'm like, what she looked like? Because you

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<v Speaker 1>assume if someone's not getting nowhere, they're unattractive, which isn't

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<v Speaker 1>the case, right, that's just what society.

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<v Speaker 3>Wants to think if men aren't locking it down, et cetera.

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<v Speaker 3>Guess what we walk around us, the ugly people with

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<v Speaker 3>babies and happy families all the time. You know why

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<v Speaker 3>they are dating better than us. And what I learned

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<v Speaker 3>from watching this girl is that a lot of the

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<v Speaker 3>way she dates is a problem, whether it's her attachment theory,

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<v Speaker 3>he attachment style, maybe how hard she goes, how people.

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<v Speaker 2>Pleasing she is.

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<v Speaker 3>So she goes on a date and they're filming it

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<v Speaker 3>and the dude is like just a erratic and he

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<v Speaker 3>is like fucking around about hot sauce puts in his eye,

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<v Speaker 3>just being wild, and she doesn't say that she's uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 3>She was like uncomfortable, but saying it to the side

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<v Speaker 3>of the camera, like just not expressing herself at all.

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<v Speaker 3>So what I'm learning through this experience, through this experience

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<v Speaker 3>watching her and other friends, is they aren't.

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<v Speaker 1>Vocal in dating experiences. They're letting men lead because they

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how to say.

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<v Speaker 2>What they want.

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<v Speaker 3>And there's this weird juxtaposition of how do we let

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<v Speaker 3>a man be a man if you're dating men but

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<v Speaker 3>also feel like we're being desired without being too forthcoming,

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<v Speaker 3>and for that, I think it varies for each person.

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<v Speaker 3>And this is why I think dating coaches actually matter,

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<v Speaker 3>because the person is watching the footage of her and

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<v Speaker 3>they're commenting back.

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<v Speaker 2>And so we've had a few dating coaches on that

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<v Speaker 2>get to talk about that. But in reality, all the.

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<v Speaker 3>Advice you're watching on horrible Decisions is per different women,

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<v Speaker 3>per different men they're dating. And who knows what conversations

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<v Speaker 3>I'm having with men versus Mandy, you know what I'm saying, Like,

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<v Speaker 3>it's all different, right, So I really think that dating

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<v Speaker 3>coaches get to hear your real story. This is beyond therapy.

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<v Speaker 3>Therapy is the deep shit that we're all insecure about.

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<v Speaker 3>But if dating coach actually figures out what the fuck.

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<v Speaker 1>You're saying on a first date, I'll string out your excess.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you bringing up that nothing ever works out? That's

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<v Speaker 1>a big fucking downer too, Like don't tell me how

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<v Speaker 1>it never works out and you're tired of going on

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<v Speaker 1>day and you're blah blah blah blah blah.

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<v Speaker 2>Like no, it's a new person, have a new attitude

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<v Speaker 2>with it.

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<v Speaker 3>But a dating coach does uncover all these things, and

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<v Speaker 3>I know it's pricey, but I've just heard.

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<v Speaker 1>So many good reviews from people to get dating coaches.

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<v Speaker 1>Even if they don't get to.

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<v Speaker 3>The finish line of like marriage, if that's what they want,

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<v Speaker 3>they still seem to like learn something about dating that's helpful.

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<v Speaker 2>So that would be my advice a dating coach. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>my advice. Actually, I might be a little lengthy too, Jason.

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<v Speaker 1>What would your advice be for someone, because I wonder

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<v Speaker 1>if it'll be similar, What would your advice be for

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<v Speaker 1>someone who's battling with their desirability and you know, sexual

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<v Speaker 1>prowess in their thirties.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm out in these dating streets heavy and hard.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm on hinge.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm on Tender. And one of the things that I

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<v Speaker 4>do is I look at how I curate my profile.

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<v Speaker 4>What kind of pictures am I putting out there? What

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<v Speaker 4>am I saying? So tender and each one is kind

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<v Speaker 4>of set up differently. Oh, so tender, I put in

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<v Speaker 4>I don't suck dick. If you want me to suck dick,

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<v Speaker 4>there is a hookup. Tender is more hookup. I don't

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<v Speaker 4>put that in there, But on Hinge I put I'm

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<v Speaker 4>ethically non monogamous. So now they have like this new

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<v Speaker 4>feature where it's like it's a match note, so people

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<v Speaker 4>get a second chance. It's like read this and if

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<v Speaker 4>you still want to pursue this, wowhead, then then click it.

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<v Speaker 4>So I put in there I'm ethically non monogamous and

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<v Speaker 4>if this is not for you, cool, don't don't hit

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<v Speaker 4>me up. But I think one of the biggest things

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<v Speaker 4>for me evolving was figuring out what I wanted because

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<v Speaker 4>I used to dim myself, dim my sexuality, dim how

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<v Speaker 4>much I love sex to fit into what I thought

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<v Speaker 4>was what I wanted, which a traditional relationship, And once

0:22:51.440 --> 0:22:55.560
<v Speaker 4>I became more comfortable with I don't traditional, it's not

0:22:55.680 --> 0:22:58.920
<v Speaker 4>for me, then I was able to date better and

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<v Speaker 4>meet more quality people and meet more people closely align

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<v Speaker 4>with what I want in a future partner.

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<v Speaker 3>Do we think it's safe to say, though, I would

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<v Speaker 3>argue the ninety percent of women maybe even ninety five

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<v Speaker 3>want a boyfriend when they go on to app Do

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<v Speaker 3>y'all think that's true?

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<v Speaker 2>Not today?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think so today. Do you think the percentage

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<v Speaker 4>of women is that are looking for a relationship. I

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<v Speaker 4>think there's still maybe like fifty percent fifty. You think

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<v Speaker 4>it's fifty now, I mean, and that's what the sidle.

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<v Speaker 4>The studies keep showing how much, especially in your thirties

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<v Speaker 4>and forties, how many women are choosing themselves and to

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<v Speaker 4>be single because they're happy or like they feel more

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<v Speaker 4>in charge of their autonomy in this lane because they're

0:23:42.560 --> 0:23:46.040
<v Speaker 4>making money, They're focused on their health more. They realized

0:23:46.520 --> 0:23:48.240
<v Speaker 4>if they have kids or they don't, they either don't

0:23:48.240 --> 0:23:50.879
<v Speaker 4>want anymore or they're just happy where they're at. I

0:23:50.920 --> 0:23:52.960
<v Speaker 4>don't want to know them make them less happy, So

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<v Speaker 4>but I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>If they're not looking when they're on that dating app

0:23:56.320 --> 0:23:58.159
<v Speaker 3>for relationships, I think that's.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually that would be my advice.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I think, you know, focusing on kind of

0:24:04.200 --> 0:24:08.160
<v Speaker 1>what JAS said, focusing on what you want and also

0:24:08.320 --> 0:24:11.440
<v Speaker 1>figuring out how to be confident enough to say it

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<v Speaker 1>to a man. So what's the hardest part? So you said,

0:24:14.080 --> 0:24:16.800
<v Speaker 1>how like a lot of women will dim themselves. I'm

0:24:16.840 --> 0:24:18.320
<v Speaker 1>not going to hold you like. I was just with

0:24:18.480 --> 0:24:20.639
<v Speaker 1>one of my boyfriends. He came to Atlanta, and it

0:24:20.720 --> 0:24:23.320
<v Speaker 1>was so funny because we're just openly talking about how

0:24:23.400 --> 0:24:26.720
<v Speaker 1>we interact with the other people in our lives and

0:24:28.200 --> 0:24:30.320
<v Speaker 1>we out and bitches is asking him for money for

0:24:30.480 --> 0:24:32.080
<v Speaker 1>like food and gas and shit.

0:24:31.920 --> 0:24:34.000
<v Speaker 2>Like that, and I was like, it was like, yeah,

0:24:34.080 --> 0:24:34.600
<v Speaker 2>it's not bad.

0:24:35.040 --> 0:24:37.520
<v Speaker 1>Like one girl asked me for her nails, so I

0:24:37.520 --> 0:24:40.919
<v Speaker 1>immediately said, listen, I'm going to get my nails on Friday,

0:24:40.920 --> 0:24:42.720
<v Speaker 1>and I need you to pay for them. Like, even,

0:24:42.760 --> 0:24:46.200
<v Speaker 1>I think opening your ears to how you see someone

0:24:46.240 --> 0:24:48.800
<v Speaker 1>else treat someone. If you're talking to someone you're dating,

0:24:49.040 --> 0:24:52.159
<v Speaker 1>and this man says he really likes steakhouses but invites

0:24:52.160 --> 0:24:53.560
<v Speaker 1>you to Dave and Busters.

0:24:53.440 --> 0:24:54.160
<v Speaker 2>That's alarming.

0:24:54.400 --> 0:24:56.880
<v Speaker 1>Like, I think you have to really see and hear

0:24:57.440 --> 0:24:59.320
<v Speaker 1>how a man dates and how he's showing up to

0:24:59.400 --> 0:25:02.080
<v Speaker 1>treating you. And then if you hear he's treating all

0:25:02.119 --> 0:25:04.320
<v Speaker 1>these other women a certain way, don't feel like you

0:25:04.440 --> 0:25:07.359
<v Speaker 1>can't get that same treatment exact, but demand that same treatment.

0:25:08.080 --> 0:25:11.880
<v Speaker 2>I gotta be honest. I don't leave room for men

0:25:12.000 --> 0:25:15.400
<v Speaker 2>to really tell me about other women that much. Well,

0:25:15.640 --> 0:25:15.960
<v Speaker 2>but like.

0:25:16.200 --> 0:25:19.040
<v Speaker 1>He's boyfriend, he was like, and my boyfriend number two,

0:25:19.160 --> 0:25:22.320
<v Speaker 1>Like how we met was how we met, but he

0:25:22.480 --> 0:25:26.200
<v Speaker 1>knows there's four guys right now. So for us, even

0:25:26.240 --> 0:25:28.240
<v Speaker 1>it was so crazy because we just had a conversation

0:25:28.880 --> 0:25:32.760
<v Speaker 1>and he was like, yeah, like I was jealous when

0:25:33.320 --> 0:25:34.280
<v Speaker 1>you were getting up.

0:25:34.359 --> 0:25:34.840
<v Speaker 2>We went to it.

0:25:35.000 --> 0:25:37.520
<v Speaker 1>Anyways, well we went out and he was like, I

0:25:37.600 --> 0:25:40.480
<v Speaker 1>was jealous when this happened, and I was like, okay,

0:25:41.480 --> 0:25:43.920
<v Speaker 1>I said, that's a normal human feeling. You're going to

0:25:43.960 --> 0:25:48.000
<v Speaker 1>feel jealousy and let me know if I violate you

0:25:48.080 --> 0:25:50.800
<v Speaker 1>or across the boundary. But like, so we're open right

0:25:50.840 --> 0:25:53.240
<v Speaker 1>now about who our other partners are. So that's why

0:25:53.240 --> 0:25:55.520
<v Speaker 1>I said that. But for the for the person who

0:25:55.600 --> 0:25:58.560
<v Speaker 1>wrote in who's curious about feeling more desirable, I want

0:25:58.600 --> 0:25:58.920
<v Speaker 1>to lead.

0:25:58.880 --> 0:26:02.160
<v Speaker 2>Into that unseen. That's a big one. Feeling seen.

0:26:02.400 --> 0:26:04.680
<v Speaker 1>Well, and this is gonna sound a little crazy, but

0:26:04.720 --> 0:26:07.960
<v Speaker 1>if you in Europe, bitch, they have them. One of

0:26:08.040 --> 0:26:10.760
<v Speaker 1>the places that has made me and my friends feel

0:26:10.920 --> 0:26:14.159
<v Speaker 1>so confident about about ourselves. And even I heard it

0:26:14.240 --> 0:26:17.760
<v Speaker 1>happened at Jamaica. Baby go to a new beach. Yes,

0:26:18.920 --> 0:26:21.920
<v Speaker 1>in the UK they have the times.

0:26:23.280 --> 0:26:28.280
<v Speaker 2>Mad beaches' sexualized. I'm not talking. I don't count K's Europe.

0:26:28.359 --> 0:26:31.520
<v Speaker 1>Sorry, but even if you said she travels in Spain,

0:26:31.800 --> 0:26:37.200
<v Speaker 1>there's mad there's mad coaches in Europe, like majority of Europe.

0:26:37.200 --> 0:26:38.440
<v Speaker 2>If there's a beach, there's a beach.

0:26:38.560 --> 0:26:40.800
<v Speaker 1>Also some anyways, like to finish because I wanted to

0:26:40.880 --> 0:26:44.720
<v Speaker 1>land this plane real quick. Because the conversation around desirability

0:26:44.760 --> 0:26:47.560
<v Speaker 1>and feeling comfortable even in sex was a conversation I

0:26:47.640 --> 0:26:50.719
<v Speaker 1>had a lot with with women in Jamaica. And it's

0:26:50.760 --> 0:26:52.359
<v Speaker 1>a conversation I had when I went to Gunnison, and

0:26:52.400 --> 0:26:55.800
<v Speaker 1>it's a conversation that I often have. We're so consumed

0:26:55.800 --> 0:26:58.240
<v Speaker 1>and you talked You've talked about this sweezy too, about

0:26:58.400 --> 0:27:03.240
<v Speaker 1>aesthetics online wherever is photoshopped and finished and perfect and cinched,

0:27:03.320 --> 0:27:05.919
<v Speaker 1>and we have this unrealistic view about what.

0:27:06.080 --> 0:27:06.840
<v Speaker 2>Bodies look like.

0:27:07.560 --> 0:27:09.560
<v Speaker 1>And so when you go to like a nude beach

0:27:10.160 --> 0:27:11.840
<v Speaker 1>and a lot of them people are regular, some of

0:27:11.880 --> 0:27:15.280
<v Speaker 1>them even have their kids. You get to see real body, yes,

0:27:15.720 --> 0:27:19.400
<v Speaker 1>and boy is it just kind of like it's reassuring

0:27:19.520 --> 0:27:22.399
<v Speaker 1>to how you exist in your own body to just

0:27:22.480 --> 0:27:26.240
<v Speaker 1>see real bodies. And again it's not sexualized, but you're

0:27:26.640 --> 0:27:30.359
<v Speaker 1>walking around and seeing, oh, this is what's under everyone's clothes,

0:27:30.720 --> 0:27:34.080
<v Speaker 1>and there's stretch marks, there's saggy city, there's a football,

0:27:34.280 --> 0:27:35.119
<v Speaker 1>there's cell You're.

0:27:35.080 --> 0:27:38.840
<v Speaker 2>Like, like, real bodies look like your body, and girl,

0:27:38.880 --> 0:27:40.479
<v Speaker 2>you gotta do a body. I'm looking at it here.

0:27:40.920 --> 0:27:44.280
<v Speaker 1>So I would say to feel more desirable or confident

0:27:44.320 --> 0:27:47.119
<v Speaker 1>in your body, to find a way to get around

0:27:47.320 --> 0:27:51.119
<v Speaker 1>actually seeing real people, seeing real people, But it's also looking.

0:27:51.280 --> 0:27:53.639
<v Speaker 4>My grandmother used to tell me. I'd be like, Grandma,

0:27:53.640 --> 0:27:55.440
<v Speaker 4>I'm fat, I'm ugly. She's like looking in the mirror.

0:27:56.320 --> 0:27:57.840
<v Speaker 4>And then I'll be like, well, if I look in

0:27:57.920 --> 0:28:00.639
<v Speaker 4>the mirror and I see that I'm or ugly or

0:28:00.720 --> 0:28:03.639
<v Speaker 4>I'm not attractive. But it took me a while and

0:28:03.800 --> 0:28:06.159
<v Speaker 4>took me older. It took me actually going someplace like

0:28:06.280 --> 0:28:10.000
<v Speaker 4>Hito to understand when she said, look in the mirror,

0:28:10.240 --> 0:28:13.440
<v Speaker 4>and it's not so much visually what you see, but

0:28:13.560 --> 0:28:17.720
<v Speaker 4>it's like that's your truest form. And if you can't

0:28:17.800 --> 0:28:20.360
<v Speaker 4>look in the mirror and learn to love you at

0:28:20.520 --> 0:28:24.240
<v Speaker 4>your most vulnerable, you're not going to be able to

0:28:25.200 --> 0:28:28.880
<v Speaker 4>love yourself. And when you go to Hito or any

0:28:29.000 --> 0:28:34.159
<v Speaker 4>kind of nude space in a non sexualized way, I

0:28:34.200 --> 0:28:36.280
<v Speaker 4>couldn't tell you what half the people look like naked

0:28:36.400 --> 0:28:39.320
<v Speaker 4>on that trip, but I can tell you about the

0:28:39.400 --> 0:28:43.520
<v Speaker 4>conversations that I had with people and the connections that

0:28:43.600 --> 0:28:46.480
<v Speaker 4>I made with people, and it's kind of like you're there,

0:28:47.440 --> 0:28:50.760
<v Speaker 4>You're nude and you're bearing it all, so I have

0:28:50.920 --> 0:28:54.120
<v Speaker 4>nothing to hide. If a person is attracted to me,

0:28:55.000 --> 0:28:59.000
<v Speaker 4>they're genuinely attracted to me, because you're going to see

0:28:59.360 --> 0:29:01.440
<v Speaker 4>the cellular You go and see these stretch march, you

0:29:01.520 --> 0:29:02.280
<v Speaker 4>go and see the belly.

0:29:02.280 --> 0:29:04.280
<v Speaker 2>You're going to see everything. And then when I put

0:29:04.320 --> 0:29:05.520
<v Speaker 2>the clothes on, it's just like.

0:29:06.120 --> 0:29:10.640
<v Speaker 4>Now I'm flexing because I already know what's under here.

0:29:11.000 --> 0:29:13.240
<v Speaker 4>But when I put my clothes on, I feel stronger

0:29:13.280 --> 0:29:15.280
<v Speaker 4>and I feel empowered because if I can sit and

0:29:15.400 --> 0:29:18.520
<v Speaker 4>have a conversation with somebody but ass naked and it

0:29:18.880 --> 0:29:23.680
<v Speaker 4>just be a really good, deep conversation of just connecting

0:29:23.720 --> 0:29:26.080
<v Speaker 4>with people, it's like you've already seen the worst.

0:29:26.160 --> 0:29:26.480
<v Speaker 2>I liked that.

0:29:26.520 --> 0:29:28.080
<v Speaker 1>You can say that, you do. You know that there

0:29:28.160 --> 0:29:30.880
<v Speaker 1>was a dating show. It was called Dating Naked. Yes,

0:29:31.000 --> 0:29:35.240
<v Speaker 1>it's they literally had people because Dating.

0:29:35.120 --> 0:29:39.080
<v Speaker 4>Naked, I promise you there's people on the trip who

0:29:39.280 --> 0:29:44.800
<v Speaker 4>have these beautiful bodies stacked like the and there's guys

0:29:44.880 --> 0:29:47.440
<v Speaker 4>who were ripped. And at one point I used to

0:29:47.520 --> 0:29:52.160
<v Speaker 4>be intimidated by guys who were super you know, athletic,

0:29:52.800 --> 0:29:56.560
<v Speaker 4>because I've always been a big girl. I've always been

0:29:56.600 --> 0:29:58.480
<v Speaker 4>a big girl I've never been skinny a day in

0:29:58.560 --> 0:30:02.320
<v Speaker 4>my life, and one day I was like, I can

0:30:02.440 --> 0:30:02.800
<v Speaker 4>get him.

0:30:04.680 --> 0:30:06.120
<v Speaker 2>I'm worthy of him.

0:30:06.960 --> 0:30:10.120
<v Speaker 4>Just because I'm chubby or I'm plump doesn't mean that

0:30:10.200 --> 0:30:12.840
<v Speaker 4>I can't back someone who's got an eight pack and

0:30:13.080 --> 0:30:14.400
<v Speaker 4>who's an athlete.

0:30:14.520 --> 0:30:18.520
<v Speaker 2>I believe that's the skinny girl rhetoric.

0:30:18.640 --> 0:30:21.240
<v Speaker 1>Actually, Like one of my bigger homegirls were saying to me,

0:30:21.360 --> 0:30:23.880
<v Speaker 1>like this, just always be wondering how I get niggas.

0:30:24.040 --> 0:30:27.000
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, is like and it's always a certain type of bitch,

0:30:27.480 --> 0:30:28.120
<v Speaker 2>you know what I'm saying.

0:30:28.600 --> 0:30:30.840
<v Speaker 3>I don't know if I'm from the South, so no

0:30:30.920 --> 0:30:33.160
<v Speaker 3>one ever was really like really like I'm not even

0:30:33.240 --> 0:30:35.360
<v Speaker 3>trying to like I know that may sound ridiculous to some,

0:30:36.400 --> 0:30:38.760
<v Speaker 3>but no one really around me growing up.

0:30:38.800 --> 0:30:39.560
<v Speaker 2>Everybody was kind of that.

0:30:39.640 --> 0:30:40.840
<v Speaker 1>I was always the one that was kind of like

0:30:41.320 --> 0:30:43.760
<v Speaker 1>made fun of because I ain't had no ass when

0:30:43.760 --> 0:30:47.240
<v Speaker 1>you from down South. I've been seeing girls that would

0:30:47.240 --> 0:30:49.840
<v Speaker 1>stick my whole life with whether it be quote unquote

0:30:49.880 --> 0:30:52.680
<v Speaker 1>fit niggas whatever, Like I've seen that in New York.

0:30:52.760 --> 0:30:54.520
<v Speaker 1>I know the body type is different, but like you

0:30:54.640 --> 0:30:56.760
<v Speaker 1>mentioned too, going back down to Georgia, like seeing ass,

0:30:56.800 --> 0:30:59.720
<v Speaker 1>seeing real bodies like that shit is a real thing.

0:31:06.600 --> 0:31:09.480
<v Speaker 3>Now, what I will say is outside of the sex club,

0:31:09.520 --> 0:31:12.440
<v Speaker 3>I think the euro nude beaches is great if it's

0:31:12.520 --> 0:31:14.920
<v Speaker 3>not sexually related. And the nude beaches are for families

0:31:14.920 --> 0:31:18.000
<v Speaker 3>and shit in Europe. But go to a women's only

0:31:18.040 --> 0:31:20.920
<v Speaker 3>spot it's nude, that ship.

0:31:20.880 --> 0:31:25.680
<v Speaker 1>Will like even like the bath the bath house bath houses. Yeah,

0:31:25.720 --> 0:31:27.840
<v Speaker 1>so you could get new that's a good You're right,

0:31:27.880 --> 0:31:28.280
<v Speaker 1>look at me.

0:31:30.280 --> 0:31:33.640
<v Speaker 3>Making accessibility in the UK less than you think, Like

0:31:33.800 --> 0:31:35.400
<v Speaker 3>it's super cold, there's not going to be a beach

0:31:35.480 --> 0:31:38.040
<v Speaker 3>can go to that's requiring a lot of travel, super basic.

0:31:38.440 --> 0:31:40.880
<v Speaker 3>I just went to one in La called Wi Spa Wi,

0:31:41.640 --> 0:31:44.520
<v Speaker 3>and I been hearing about it because it's twenty four hours,

0:31:44.840 --> 0:31:46.680
<v Speaker 3>so I'm thinking it's gonna be this couple's night. Yeah,

0:31:46.800 --> 0:31:48.240
<v Speaker 3>not at all, completely separate.

0:31:50.160 --> 0:31:54.080
<v Speaker 2>At one point it was so nude, you were like,

0:31:54.120 --> 0:31:57.400
<v Speaker 2>they gotta be fucking here. No, I it was just

0:31:57.480 --> 0:31:58.400
<v Speaker 2>all ages nude.

0:31:59.280 --> 0:32:03.040
<v Speaker 3>So I was seeing really old grannies surely young, not

0:32:03.160 --> 0:32:06.320
<v Speaker 3>really young, but like really old. And it just made

0:32:06.360 --> 0:32:08.360
<v Speaker 3>me think to myself because you know, at first, when

0:32:08.360 --> 0:32:10.080
<v Speaker 3>you go anywhere nude, we can all attest to this,

0:32:10.160 --> 0:32:12.320
<v Speaker 3>even hedonism. The first segment is you look in a

0:32:12.360 --> 0:32:15.120
<v Speaker 3>lot and then it becomes normal mm hm. In this spot,

0:32:15.240 --> 0:32:16.680
<v Speaker 3>I was just like, oh shit, oh my god, am

0:32:16.680 --> 0:32:18.920
<v Speaker 3>my tit's gonna fall down like that. And then after

0:32:19.000 --> 0:32:20.960
<v Speaker 3>an hour, I'm just like, why am I even doing this?

0:32:21.480 --> 0:32:24.320
<v Speaker 3>Like I'm thirty four years old? Now I'm young, and

0:32:24.400 --> 0:32:27.800
<v Speaker 3>I well like who knows and the comfortability and the

0:32:27.840 --> 0:32:29.800
<v Speaker 3>way that like you just start to become one. And

0:32:29.920 --> 0:32:33.720
<v Speaker 3>also you will realize how much more beautiful your body

0:32:33.800 --> 0:32:36.640
<v Speaker 3>is being amongst other people because there isn't, like you said,

0:32:36.680 --> 0:32:39.000
<v Speaker 3>this perfection. But I think the women's spas are a

0:32:39.040 --> 0:32:41.360
<v Speaker 3>little bit better because if you're attracted to men, a

0:32:41.440 --> 0:32:43.360
<v Speaker 3>sex club or a nude beach may put you in

0:32:43.400 --> 0:32:45.400
<v Speaker 3>an alarming situation because now men can look at you,

0:32:45.800 --> 0:32:47.600
<v Speaker 3>women definitely make you feel safer.

0:32:47.760 --> 0:32:50.040
<v Speaker 2>I think just we all know that how that feels.

0:32:51.040 --> 0:32:55.400
<v Speaker 3>But number one, your confidence has got to go up,

0:32:55.560 --> 0:32:58.080
<v Speaker 3>because that's why you're feeling like this on dates or

0:32:58.120 --> 0:33:00.160
<v Speaker 3>maybe not. That could attribute to why not having luck

0:33:00.160 --> 0:33:02.920
<v Speaker 3>because men love having confidence, right and like confident women.

0:33:03.120 --> 0:33:06.160
<v Speaker 3>Now I would say the first thing to just jump

0:33:06.240 --> 0:33:08.720
<v Speaker 3>starting that it's like my breakup call of action for

0:33:08.880 --> 0:33:09.320
<v Speaker 3>any bitch.

0:33:09.400 --> 0:33:12.800
<v Speaker 2>I know, okay, bit, we need the new fits. Bitch.

0:33:12.800 --> 0:33:14.239
<v Speaker 3>If I got a new gym fit, I'm gonna get

0:33:14.280 --> 0:33:16.000
<v Speaker 3>up and through the gym. We need to do hair

0:33:16.120 --> 0:33:18.600
<v Speaker 3>and a new fits. Now you live in You got

0:33:18.680 --> 0:33:20.600
<v Speaker 3>grades in this and I live in them. I'm telling

0:33:20.640 --> 0:33:23.800
<v Speaker 3>you the new fits. Dressing for your body type. For example,

0:33:24.000 --> 0:33:25.760
<v Speaker 3>if you don't like your belly, but we don't see

0:33:25.800 --> 0:33:28.040
<v Speaker 3>your belly, fine, whatever, you have a crop tap on

0:33:28.160 --> 0:33:30.480
<v Speaker 3>this picture if you're mentioning a belly while you putting

0:33:30.520 --> 0:33:32.200
<v Speaker 3>that all, so something's off here?

0:33:32.320 --> 0:33:32.440
<v Speaker 1>Right?

0:33:32.520 --> 0:33:33.400
<v Speaker 2>The pants were hot? No?

0:33:33.480 --> 0:33:35.960
<v Speaker 1>No, no, I'm saying leg well yeah, start if you

0:33:36.040 --> 0:33:38.720
<v Speaker 1>see I don't think her outfit didn't fit her body.

0:33:41.240 --> 0:33:43.760
<v Speaker 1>But because the pants were hot, but point one period,

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<v Speaker 1>that doesn't matter because we could still see it if

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<v Speaker 1>it's pants, right, Start dressing for whatever you think your

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<v Speaker 1>body is missing, and then you'll feel more confident.

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<v Speaker 3>For example, sometimes I don't love my legs. If I

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<v Speaker 3>wear mini things like to my knee, I feel like

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<v Speaker 3>I look shorter. So now I actually got to wear

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<v Speaker 3>a little bit shorter skirts. I like seeing my shoulders.

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<v Speaker 3>I think they're the best attribute. You need to figure

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<v Speaker 3>out what your favorite things about your body are and

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<v Speaker 3>start act senting them. I was having dinner this week,

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<v Speaker 3>we're filming this during your New York Fashion.

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<v Speaker 2>Week with a homegirl mind who's a stylist, and she

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<v Speaker 2>was like.

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<v Speaker 3>Bitch, here's what I get paid for pulls number one

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<v Speaker 3>from designers. Two because people know I'm lit and they

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<v Speaker 3>like my clothes, and three because I actually know how

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<v Speaker 3>to dress someone's body period. He's like, I dressed women

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<v Speaker 3>that are six feet and above and like they've hated

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<v Speaker 3>their bodies their whole life. They're famous, they're doing XYZ,

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<v Speaker 3>they might be playing a sport, but they hate their bodies.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, I know how to dress them and make them

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<v Speaker 2>feel comfortable. And the more I'm hearing.

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<v Speaker 3>About how we all kind of don't know because I

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<v Speaker 3>really don't know the perfect fit for me.

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<v Speaker 1>That is the goal we all need in our thirties.

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<v Speaker 1>What the fuck is the best outfit on me? And

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<v Speaker 1>you know why we all need that. Let's just say

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<v Speaker 1>you have a random date or something to go to.

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<v Speaker 1>Are we going to keep picking the same shit that.

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<v Speaker 3>We always wear that makes us feel comfortable, or actually

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<v Speaker 3>start buying things that are the right fit, like real shit.

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<v Speaker 3>That's got to be number one on the list, go

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<v Speaker 3>in the closet, pick the top three, and then recreate.

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<v Speaker 2>Those men skirt hate to see me coming. I was

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<v Speaker 2>gonna say, it's yours. The skirt and skirt, a.

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<v Speaker 4>Skirt, a tennis skirt, address cleavage. My problem area for

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<v Speaker 4>me is the belly area. So guess what I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 4>do everything to bring your eyes up or bring your

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<v Speaker 4>eyes below it. So I'm in the short skirts or

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<v Speaker 4>my cleavage is gonna be out. And I have I

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<v Speaker 4>don't have the biggest chest, but guess what Victoria's Secrets

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<v Speaker 4>has those bras.

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<v Speaker 2>Do the two sizes up. I call it my marketing.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, this is just marketing and packaging, which you

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<v Speaker 4>see here is all marketing and packaging. But I accentuate

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<v Speaker 4>the things that I like, love about myself, and those

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<v Speaker 4>are the things that give me confidence. So when I

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<v Speaker 4>go out, hey, you know, yes, you're gonna.

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<v Speaker 2>Get legs, you you're gonna get get cleavage, and buy

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<v Speaker 2>it twice. Every color, Hello, every color, it's yours.

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<v Speaker 1>Leather, anything anything leather. I know. I stay away from

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<v Speaker 1>like blazers and things that make me look bulky because

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like my breasts are big and not that

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<v Speaker 1>I have big shoulders, but anything that's gonna make me

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<v Speaker 1>look wider, I don't, especially after losing weight. And I

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<v Speaker 1>like I like a loose bottom and a tight top.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm big on I'm big on the bottom, but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>small up tops, so I like. I like that.

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<v Speaker 2>And then long dresses. My legs are short, so me

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<v Speaker 2>and a mini dress or mini skirt. I don't really

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<v Speaker 2>do that too often.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I like, you know, long things because I'm sure

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm not a fan of my legs, so I

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<v Speaker 1>like you now.

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<v Speaker 2>Kill you will slay those bikini pictures though, that's actually

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<v Speaker 2>my best out. I will do with Batman bikini.

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<v Speaker 3>But see air because some things can make your legs

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<v Speaker 3>look shorter. But can't you actually get to see can't

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<v Speaker 3>you get to see the hips?

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<v Speaker 2>The hers? I like the little girl, like the little

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<v Speaker 2>thunk that.

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<v Speaker 1>Sunset photoshop, And I could wear a bikini every day

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<v Speaker 1>and it not be a problem. That is exactly what

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<v Speaker 1>the fuck I would wear every single day. Like, I

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<v Speaker 1>love bikinis. If you follow me on Instagram, you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>see me. Then I'm looking the thing now with Actually, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>this one is interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>My thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel sexiest in is oversized clothes, and recently I

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<v Speaker 1>started wearing tighter shit, and my nigga's like, you look

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<v Speaker 1>great in this. I don't know why you don't wear

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<v Speaker 1>tighter clothes more often. He's like, but when you have

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<v Speaker 1>on your overside clothes, you walk different, you talk different.

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<v Speaker 2>Like that's just something you must feel in your head.

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<v Speaker 2>It makes you sexier.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, so it actually does come across sexier. I

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<v Speaker 1>think my favorite things to wear are.

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<v Speaker 3>Definitely baggy pants because I don't feel like if I

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<v Speaker 3>wear tight pants, they'd be like, damn, her booty kind

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<v Speaker 3>of small.

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<v Speaker 2>So I like baggy because I think that my hips

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<v Speaker 2>are nice.

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<v Speaker 1>Like it's weird the things that we're uncomfortable with, and

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<v Speaker 1>I believe I have a nice body naked.

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<v Speaker 4>Sometimes in clothes, I feel like it doesn't translate yes,

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<v Speaker 4>so I don't have an ass. And I think that's

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<v Speaker 4>why I love skirts, because I get to my big

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<v Speaker 4>booty friends can't wear the skirt the same way that

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<v Speaker 4>I do. It's exactly so I feel like when I

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<v Speaker 4>wear oversized clothes, I feel like I look dumpy. I'm

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<v Speaker 4>just starting to like, yes, yeah, I'm just starting to

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<v Speaker 4>like kind of get back into oversized. So, like, my

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<v Speaker 4>career is in fashion, so I'm around clothes and style

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<v Speaker 4>all day long, and so it having an eye and

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<v Speaker 4>seeing what you see things, I'm like, oh, that looks

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<v Speaker 4>so dope. I want to try that, but it's not

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<v Speaker 4>for my body. So now how do I recreate this

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<v Speaker 4>look for my body? And it could just be maybe

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<v Speaker 4>I don't do bottom and top oversize. Maybe I just

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<v Speaker 4>do an oversized top, which you yeah, if you hide

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<v Speaker 4>up pregnant, Carti says she wasn't hiding.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyways.

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<v Speaker 1>Basically, overall advice is maybe lean into a dating coach,

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<v Speaker 1>lean into finding confidence in your body by going somewhere

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<v Speaker 1>to see other bodies and just get the confidence as

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<v Speaker 1>well to be able to communicate your once needs and

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<v Speaker 1>desires from the men that you're dating, and don't allow

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<v Speaker 1>them to leave.

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