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Speaker 2: This Jamaica mushs different. No, don Jamaica mushals it was different.

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Speaker 1: So I'm sitting on lists are battery each chair, no,

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Speaker 2: There's a tree on the beach, bitch. And he said

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Speaker 2: We fucked in a trick. That's why she calls him tree.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, what was the tree? She we didn't get there,

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Speaker 1: He the next day told my best friends, Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: sure that's why we ended up.

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Speaker 2: In a tree. This happens so literally, He's like, let's

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Speaker 1: Like I've never fucked in a tree, And I said,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, a little baked up because.

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Speaker 1: I've never said dick and smelled the tree before, mind you,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I will do that. I'm like, I'm literally

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Speaker 2: is there was day two for Mandy, for everybody, for everyone. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: And now I'm talking about this tree, nigga.

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Speaker 4: Be She's like, I want to I want to see

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Speaker 2: They a bunch of you ready. So the jungle area

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Speaker 1: Honestly, every day is hump Day, but everybody else three

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Speaker 1: Anyways, guys, welcome to another You got decisions. We have

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Speaker 1: I know NBS and inspired single af. We have a

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Speaker 1: the founder, the creator, the fucking pioneer herself of Jacko Bliss.

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Speaker 2: Baby, and if you haven't yet, make sure you join.

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Speaker 2: Y'all.

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Speaker 1: I'm doing it again next year, running it back again.

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Speaker 1: If you want to hear all of the nasty, filthy

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Speaker 2: I had to think about what I was going to

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Speaker 1: Like I'm not like, I'm not sharing everything I did

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Speaker 1: Did you get did you get fucked by Ser Marvelous

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Speaker 2: I said, fuck that. I used my hand motion. If

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Speaker 2: Let me live Jamaica tea. I literally brought this. I said,

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Speaker 2: You don't do this. Don't do this, you know how much.

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Speaker 1: Anyways, listen into Invious and Inspired single af Hey, Mandy

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Speaker 1: and Wheezy, Ope you're both doing well. First, I just

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Speaker 1: New York Times bestsellers. Discovering you both many years ago

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Speaker 1: was truly a gift. Finding you has meant so much

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Speaker 1: to me, especially seeing two corporate women transition into such

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Speaker 2: I'm loving Noah's bard. It's beautiful, sexy and honest.

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Speaker 1: I'm reading it in small breaks because it's making me

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Speaker 1: Mandy that Mexico threesome story and Wheezy your freedom and

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Speaker 1: I've listened to y'all and the guests and tried, but

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Speaker 2: My belly would be on my mind constantly.

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Speaker 1: I fear reading your book and hearing about the fullness

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Speaker 2: I've I'm scared I've missed my chance for fun sexual experiences.

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Speaker 1: your book and I'm already so expired inspired by y'all

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Speaker 1: and who you are. I've attached my photo. Feel free

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Speaker 1: How how can you feel seen, desirable and whole while

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Speaker 3: I'll be honest. The more of been watching different shows

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Speaker 2: So we all know. I'm a TLC girl. Mandy's the

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Speaker 3: So what I'm learning through this experience, through this experience

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Speaker 3: And there's this weird juxtaposition of how do we let

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Speaker 3: and for that, I think it varies for each person.

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Speaker 3: And this is why I think dating coaches actually matter,

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Speaker 2: And so we've had a few dating coaches on that

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Speaker 3: Advice you're watching on horrible Decisions is per different women,

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Speaker 3: I'm having with men versus Mandy, you know what I'm saying, Like,

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Speaker 3: it's all different, right, So I really think that dating

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Speaker 3: coaches get to hear your real story. This is beyond therapy.

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Speaker 3: Therapy is the deep shit that we're all insecure about.

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Speaker 3: But if dating coach actually figures out what the fuck.

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Speaker 1: You're saying on a first date, I'll string out your excess.

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Speaker 1: Are you bringing up that nothing ever works out? That's

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Speaker 2: Like no, it's a new person, have a new attitude

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Speaker 3: But a dating coach does uncover all these things, and

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Speaker 3: I know it's pricey, but I've just heard.

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Speaker 1: So many good reviews from people to get dating coaches.

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Speaker 1: Even if they don't get to.

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Speaker 1: someone who's battling with their desirability and you know, sexual

435
00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:38,040
Speaker 1: prowess in their thirties.

436
00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:42,200
Speaker 2: So I'm out in these dating streets heavy and hard.

437
00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:44,119
Speaker 2: I'm on hinge.

438
00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:47,359
Speaker 4: I'm on Tender. And one of the things that I

439
00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:50,720
Speaker 4: do is I look at how I curate my profile.

440
00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:53,359
Speaker 4: What kind of pictures am I putting out there? What

441
00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:58,000
Speaker 4: am I saying? So tender and each one is kind

442
00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:01,159
Speaker 4: of set up differently. Oh, so tender, I put in

443
00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:04,159
Speaker 4: I don't suck dick. If you want me to suck dick,

444
00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:07,000
Speaker 4: there is a hookup. Tender is more hookup. I don't

445
00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:11,200
Speaker 4: put that in there, But on Hinge I put I'm

446
00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:14,520
Speaker 4: ethically non monogamous. So now they have like this new

447
00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:17,160
Speaker 4: feature where it's like it's a match note, so people

448
00:22:17,240 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 4: get a second chance. It's like read this and if

449
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:24,639
Speaker 4: you still want to pursue this, wowhead, then then click it.

450
00:22:24,760 --> 00:22:27,359
Speaker 4: So I put in there I'm ethically non monogamous and

451
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:31,840
Speaker 4: if this is not for you, cool, don't don't hit

452
00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:34,200
Speaker 4: me up. But I think one of the biggest things

453
00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:39,240
Speaker 4: for me evolving was figuring out what I wanted because

454
00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:43,920
Speaker 4: I used to dim myself, dim my sexuality, dim how

455
00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:47,280
Speaker 4: much I love sex to fit into what I thought

456
00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:51,400
Speaker 4: was what I wanted, which a traditional relationship, And once

457
00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 4: I became more comfortable with I don't traditional, it's not

458
00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:58,920
Speaker 4: for me, then I was able to date better and

459
00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:02,719
Speaker 4: meet more quality people and meet more people closely align

460
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 4: with what I want in a future partner.

461
00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:08,880
Speaker 3: Do we think it's safe to say, though, I would

462
00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:11,880
Speaker 3: argue the ninety percent of women maybe even ninety five

463
00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:14,520
Speaker 3: want a boyfriend when they go on to app Do

464
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:15,440
Speaker 3: y'all think that's true?

465
00:23:16,920 --> 00:23:17,359
Speaker 2: Not today?

466
00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:19,360
Speaker 4: I don't think so today. Do you think the percentage

467
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:21,280
Speaker 4: of women is that are looking for a relationship. I

468
00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:24,840
Speaker 4: think there's still maybe like fifty percent fifty. You think

469
00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:27,520
Speaker 4: it's fifty now, I mean, and that's what the sidle.

470
00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:31,280
Speaker 4: The studies keep showing how much, especially in your thirties

471
00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:34,520
Speaker 4: and forties, how many women are choosing themselves and to

472
00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:38,600
Speaker 4: be single because they're happy or like they feel more

473
00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:42,520
Speaker 4: in charge of their autonomy in this lane because they're

474
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:46,040
Speaker 4: making money, They're focused on their health more. They realized

475
00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:48,240
Speaker 4: if they have kids or they don't, they either don't

476
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:50,879
Speaker 4: want anymore or they're just happy where they're at. I

477
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:52,960
Speaker 4: don't want to know them make them less happy, So

478
00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:53,679
Speaker 4: but I don't know.

479
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:56,160
Speaker 3: If they're not looking when they're on that dating app

480
00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,159
Speaker 3: for relationships, I think that's.

481
00:23:58,080 --> 00:23:59,960
Speaker 2: Actually that would be my advice.

482
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:04,119
Speaker 1: I mean, I think, you know, focusing on kind of

483
00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:08,160
Speaker 1: what JAS said, focusing on what you want and also

484
00:24:08,320 --> 00:24:11,440
Speaker 1: figuring out how to be confident enough to say it

485
00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:14,040
Speaker 1: to a man. So what's the hardest part? So you said,

486
00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:16,800
Speaker 1: how like a lot of women will dim themselves. I'm

487
00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:18,320
Speaker 1: not going to hold you like. I was just with

488
00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:20,639
Speaker 1: one of my boyfriends. He came to Atlanta, and it

489
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:23,320
Speaker 1: was so funny because we're just openly talking about how

490
00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 1: we interact with the other people in our lives and

491
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:30,320
Speaker 1: we out and bitches is asking him for money for

492
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:32,080
Speaker 1: like food and gas and shit.

493
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:34,000
Speaker 2: Like that, and I was like, it was like, yeah,

494
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:34,600
Speaker 2: it's not bad.

495
00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:37,520
Speaker 1: Like one girl asked me for her nails, so I

496
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 1: immediately said, listen, I'm going to get my nails on Friday,

497
00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:42,720
Speaker 1: and I need you to pay for them. Like, even,

498
00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:46,200
Speaker 1: I think opening your ears to how you see someone

499
00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:48,800
Speaker 1: else treat someone. If you're talking to someone you're dating,

500
00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:52,159
Speaker 1: and this man says he really likes steakhouses but invites

501
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:53,560
Speaker 1: you to Dave and Busters.

502
00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:54,160
Speaker 2: That's alarming.

503
00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:56,880
Speaker 1: Like, I think you have to really see and hear

504
00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:59,320
Speaker 1: how a man dates and how he's showing up to

505
00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:02,080
Speaker 1: treating you. And then if you hear he's treating all

506
00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:04,320
Speaker 1: these other women a certain way, don't feel like you

507
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:07,359
Speaker 1: can't get that same treatment exact, but demand that same treatment.

508
00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:11,880
Speaker 2: I gotta be honest. I don't leave room for men

509
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:15,400
Speaker 2: to really tell me about other women that much. Well,

510
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:15,960
Speaker 2: but like.

511
00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 1: He's boyfriend, he was like, and my boyfriend number two,

512
00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:22,320
Speaker 1: Like how we met was how we met, but he

513
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:26,200
Speaker 1: knows there's four guys right now. So for us, even

514
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:28,240
Speaker 1: it was so crazy because we just had a conversation

515
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:32,760
Speaker 1: and he was like, yeah, like I was jealous when

516
00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:34,280
Speaker 1: you were getting up.

517
00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:34,840
Speaker 2: We went to it.

518
00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:37,520
Speaker 1: Anyways, well we went out and he was like, I

519
00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 1: was jealous when this happened, and I was like, okay,

520
00:25:41,480 --> 00:25:43,920
Speaker 1: I said, that's a normal human feeling. You're going to

521
00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:48,000
Speaker 1: feel jealousy and let me know if I violate you

522
00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:50,800
Speaker 1: or across the boundary. But like, so we're open right

523
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 1: now about who our other partners are. So that's why

524
00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 1: I said that. But for the for the person who

525
00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 1: wrote in who's curious about feeling more desirable, I want

526
00:25:58,600 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 1: to lead.

527
00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:02,160
Speaker 2: Into that unseen. That's a big one. Feeling seen.

528
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:04,680
Speaker 1: Well, and this is gonna sound a little crazy, but

529
00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:07,960
Speaker 1: if you in Europe, bitch, they have them. One of

530
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 1: the places that has made me and my friends feel

531
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:14,159
Speaker 1: so confident about about ourselves. And even I heard it

532
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:17,760
Speaker 1: happened at Jamaica. Baby go to a new beach. Yes,

533
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,920
Speaker 1: in the UK they have the times.

534
00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:28,280
Speaker 2: Mad beaches' sexualized. I'm not talking. I don't count K's Europe.

535
00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:31,520
Speaker 1: Sorry, but even if you said she travels in Spain,

536
00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:37,200
Speaker 1: there's mad there's mad coaches in Europe, like majority of Europe.

537
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:38,440
Speaker 2: If there's a beach, there's a beach.

538
00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 1: Also some anyways, like to finish because I wanted to

539
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:44,720
Speaker 1: land this plane real quick. Because the conversation around desirability

540
00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:47,560
Speaker 1: and feeling comfortable even in sex was a conversation I

541
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:50,719
Speaker 1: had a lot with with women in Jamaica. And it's

542
00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:52,359
Speaker 1: a conversation I had when I went to Gunnison, and

543
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 1: it's a conversation that I often have. We're so consumed

544
00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 1: and you talked You've talked about this sweezy too, about

545
00:26:58,400 --> 00:27:03,240
Speaker 1: aesthetics online wherever is photoshopped and finished and perfect and cinched,

546
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:05,919
Speaker 1: and we have this unrealistic view about what.

547
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 2: Bodies look like.

548
00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:09,560
Speaker 1: And so when you go to like a nude beach

549
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 1: and a lot of them people are regular, some of

550
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 1: them even have their kids. You get to see real body, yes,

551
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:19,400
Speaker 1: and boy is it just kind of like it's reassuring

552
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:22,399
Speaker 1: to how you exist in your own body to just

553
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:26,240
Speaker 1: see real bodies. And again it's not sexualized, but you're

554
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:30,359
Speaker 1: walking around and seeing, oh, this is what's under everyone's clothes,

555
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:34,080
Speaker 1: and there's stretch marks, there's saggy city, there's a football,

556
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:35,119
Speaker 1: there's cell You're.

557
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:38,840
Speaker 2: Like, like, real bodies look like your body, and girl,

558
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:40,479
Speaker 2: you gotta do a body. I'm looking at it here.

559
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 1: So I would say to feel more desirable or confident

560
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:47,119
Speaker 1: in your body, to find a way to get around

561
00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:51,119
Speaker 1: actually seeing real people, seeing real people, But it's also looking.

562
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:53,639
Speaker 4: My grandmother used to tell me. I'd be like, Grandma,

563
00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:55,440
Speaker 4: I'm fat, I'm ugly. She's like looking in the mirror.

564
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:57,840
Speaker 4: And then I'll be like, well, if I look in

565
00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,639
Speaker 4: the mirror and I see that I'm or ugly or

566
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:03,639
Speaker 4: I'm not attractive. But it took me a while and

567
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:06,159
Speaker 4: took me older. It took me actually going someplace like

568
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:10,000
Speaker 4: Hito to understand when she said, look in the mirror,

569
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:13,440
Speaker 4: and it's not so much visually what you see, but

570
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:17,720
Speaker 4: it's like that's your truest form. And if you can't

571
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:20,360
Speaker 4: look in the mirror and learn to love you at

572
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:24,240
Speaker 4: your most vulnerable, you're not going to be able to

573
00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:28,880
Speaker 4: love yourself. And when you go to Hito or any

574
00:28:29,000 --> 00:28:34,159
Speaker 4: kind of nude space in a non sexualized way, I

575
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:36,280
Speaker 4: couldn't tell you what half the people look like naked

576
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:39,320
Speaker 4: on that trip, but I can tell you about the

577
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 4: conversations that I had with people and the connections that

578
00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 4: I made with people, and it's kind of like you're there,

579
00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 4: You're nude and you're bearing it all, so I have

580
00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 4: nothing to hide. If a person is attracted to me,

581
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:59,000
Speaker 4: they're genuinely attracted to me, because you're going to see

582
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 4: the cellular You go and see these stretch march, you

583
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 4: go and see the belly.

584
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:04,280
Speaker 2: You're going to see everything. And then when I put

585
00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:05,520
Speaker 2: the clothes on, it's just like.

586
00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:10,640
Speaker 4: Now I'm flexing because I already know what's under here.

587
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 4: But when I put my clothes on, I feel stronger

588
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:15,280
Speaker 4: and I feel empowered because if I can sit and

589
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 4: have a conversation with somebody but ass naked and it

590
00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 4: just be a really good, deep conversation of just connecting

591
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 4: with people, it's like you've already seen the worst.

592
00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 2: I liked that.

593
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 1: You can say that, you do. You know that there

594
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:30,880
Speaker 1: was a dating show. It was called Dating Naked. Yes,

595
00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 1: it's they literally had people because Dating.

596
00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 4: Naked, I promise you there's people on the trip who

597
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 4: have these beautiful bodies stacked like the and there's guys

598
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 4: who were ripped. And at one point I used to

599
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:52,160
Speaker 4: be intimidated by guys who were super you know, athletic,

600
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 4: because I've always been a big girl. I've always been

601
00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:58,480
Speaker 4: a big girl I've never been skinny a day in

602
00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 4: my life, and one day I was like, I can

603
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 4: get him.

604
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:06,120
Speaker 2: I'm worthy of him.

605
00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:10,120
Speaker 4: Just because I'm chubby or I'm plump doesn't mean that

606
00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:12,840
Speaker 4: I can't back someone who's got an eight pack and

607
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 4: who's an athlete.

608
00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:18,520
Speaker 2: I believe that's the skinny girl rhetoric.

609
00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:21,240
Speaker 1: Actually, Like one of my bigger homegirls were saying to me,

610
00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:23,880
Speaker 1: like this, just always be wondering how I get niggas.

611
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, is like and it's always a certain type of bitch,

612
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying.

613
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:30,840
Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm from the South, so no

614
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:33,160
Speaker 3: one ever was really like really like I'm not even

615
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 3: trying to like I know that may sound ridiculous to some,

616
00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:38,760
Speaker 3: but no one really around me growing up.

617
00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:39,560
Speaker 2: Everybody was kind of that.

618
00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:40,840
Speaker 1: I was always the one that was kind of like

619
00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:43,760
Speaker 1: made fun of because I ain't had no ass when

620
00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:47,240
Speaker 1: you from down South. I've been seeing girls that would

621
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:49,840
Speaker 1: stick my whole life with whether it be quote unquote

622
00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:52,680
Speaker 1: fit niggas whatever, Like I've seen that in New York.

623
00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:54,520
Speaker 1: I know the body type is different, but like you

624
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:56,760
Speaker 1: mentioned too, going back down to Georgia, like seeing ass,

625
00:30:56,800 --> 00:30:59,720
Speaker 1: seeing real bodies like that shit is a real thing.

626
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:09,480
Speaker 3: Now, what I will say is outside of the sex club,

627
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 3: I think the euro nude beaches is great if it's

628
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:14,920
Speaker 3: not sexually related. And the nude beaches are for families

629
00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 3: and shit in Europe. But go to a women's only

630
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 3: spot it's nude, that ship.

631
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:25,680
Speaker 1: Will like even like the bath the bath house bath houses. Yeah,

632
00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 1: so you could get new that's a good You're right,

633
00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:28,280
Speaker 1: look at me.

634
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 3: Making accessibility in the UK less than you think, Like

635
00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:35,400
Speaker 3: it's super cold, there's not going to be a beach

636
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 3: can go to that's requiring a lot of travel, super basic.

637
00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 3: I just went to one in La called Wi Spa Wi,

638
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 3: and I been hearing about it because it's twenty four hours,

639
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 3: so I'm thinking it's gonna be this couple's night. Yeah,

640
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:48,240
Speaker 3: not at all, completely separate.

641
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 2: At one point it was so nude, you were like,

642
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:57,400
Speaker 2: they gotta be fucking here. No, I it was just

643
00:31:57,480 --> 00:31:58,400
Speaker 2: all ages nude.

644
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 3: So I was seeing really old grannies surely young, not

645
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:06,320
Speaker 3: really young, but like really old. And it just made

646
00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 3: me think to myself because you know, at first, when

647
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 3: you go anywhere nude, we can all attest to this,

648
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:12,320
Speaker 3: even hedonism. The first segment is you look in a

649
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:15,120
Speaker 3: lot and then it becomes normal mm hm. In this spot,

650
00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:16,680
Speaker 3: I was just like, oh shit, oh my god, am

651
00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 3: my tit's gonna fall down like that. And then after

652
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Speaker 3: an hour, I'm just like, why am I even doing this?

653
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Speaker 3: Like I'm thirty four years old? Now I'm young, and

654
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:27,800
Speaker 3: I well like who knows and the comfortability and the

655
00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 3: way that like you just start to become one. And

656
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:33,720
Speaker 3: also you will realize how much more beautiful your body

657
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Speaker 3: is being amongst other people because there isn't, like you said,

658
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Speaker 3: this perfection. But I think the women's spas are a

659
00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 3: little bit better because if you're attracted to men, a

660
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:43,360
Speaker 3: sex club or a nude beach may put you in

661
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:45,400
Speaker 3: an alarming situation because now men can look at you,

662
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Speaker 3: women definitely make you feel safer.

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Speaker 2: I think just we all know that how that feels.

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Speaker 3: But number one, your confidence has got to go up,

665
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Speaker 3: because that's why you're feeling like this on dates or

666
00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:00,160
Speaker 3: maybe not. That could attribute to why not having luck

667
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 3: because men love having confidence, right and like confident women.

668
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:06,160
Speaker 3: Now I would say the first thing to just jump

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Speaker 3: starting that it's like my breakup call of action for

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Speaker 3: any bitch.

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Speaker 2: I know, okay, bit, we need the new fits. Bitch.

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Speaker 3: If I got a new gym fit, I'm gonna get

673
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Speaker 3: up and through the gym. We need to do hair

674
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Speaker 3: and a new fits. Now you live in You got

675
00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 3: grades in this and I live in them. I'm telling

676
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 3: you the new fits. Dressing for your body type. For example,

677
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 3: if you don't like your belly, but we don't see

678
00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 3: your belly, fine, whatever, you have a crop tap on

679
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:30,480
Speaker 3: this picture if you're mentioning a belly while you putting

680
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Speaker 3: that all, so something's off here?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 2: The pants were hot? No?

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Speaker 1: No, no, I'm saying leg well yeah, start if you

684
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Speaker 1: see I don't think her outfit didn't fit her body.

685
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 1: But because the pants were hot, but point one period,

686
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Speaker 1: that doesn't matter because we could still see it if

687
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Speaker 1: it's pants, right, Start dressing for whatever you think your

688
00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:50,479
Speaker 1: body is missing, and then you'll feel more confident.

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Speaker 3: For example, sometimes I don't love my legs. If I

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00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 3: wear mini things like to my knee, I feel like

691
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Speaker 3: I look shorter. So now I actually got to wear

692
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Speaker 3: a little bit shorter skirts. I like seeing my shoulders.

693
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Speaker 3: I think they're the best attribute. You need to figure

694
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Speaker 3: out what your favorite things about your body are and

695
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Speaker 3: start act senting them. I was having dinner this week,

696
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Speaker 3: we're filming this during your New York Fashion.

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Speaker 2: Week with a homegirl mind who's a stylist, and she

698
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Speaker 2: was like.

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Speaker 3: Bitch, here's what I get paid for pulls number one

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00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 3: from designers. Two because people know I'm lit and they

701
00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:19,239
Speaker 3: like my clothes, and three because I actually know how

702
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:22,239
Speaker 3: to dress someone's body period. He's like, I dressed women

703
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Speaker 3: that are six feet and above and like they've hated

704
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Speaker 3: their bodies their whole life. They're famous, they're doing XYZ,

705
00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 3: they might be playing a sport, but they hate their bodies.

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Speaker 2: Right, I know how to dress them and make them

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Speaker 2: feel comfortable. And the more I'm hearing.

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Speaker 3: About how we all kind of don't know because I

709
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:39,920
Speaker 3: really don't know the perfect fit for me.

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Speaker 1: That is the goal we all need in our thirties.

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Speaker 1: What the fuck is the best outfit on me? And

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00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 1: you know why we all need that. Let's just say

713
00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:48,400
Speaker 1: you have a random date or something to go to.

714
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Speaker 1: Are we going to keep picking the same shit that.

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Speaker 3: We always wear that makes us feel comfortable, or actually

716
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:56,319
Speaker 3: start buying things that are the right fit, like real shit.

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Speaker 3: That's got to be number one on the list, go

718
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Speaker 3: in the closet, pick the top three, and then recreate.

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Speaker 2: Those men skirt hate to see me coming. I was

720
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:08,680
Speaker 2: gonna say, it's yours. The skirt and skirt, a.

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00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 4: Skirt, a tennis skirt, address cleavage. My problem area for

722
00:35:13,719 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 4: me is the belly area. So guess what I'm gonna

723
00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:19,440
Speaker 4: do everything to bring your eyes up or bring your

724
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Speaker 4: eyes below it. So I'm in the short skirts or

725
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:23,800
Speaker 4: my cleavage is gonna be out. And I have I

726
00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 4: don't have the biggest chest, but guess what Victoria's Secrets

727
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Speaker 4: has those bras.

728
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Speaker 2: Do the two sizes up. I call it my marketing.

729
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Speaker 4: I'm like, this is just marketing and packaging, which you

730
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:38,680
Speaker 4: see here is all marketing and packaging. But I accentuate

731
00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:42,839
Speaker 4: the things that I like, love about myself, and those

732
00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:45,040
Speaker 4: are the things that give me confidence. So when I

733
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Speaker 4: go out, hey, you know, yes, you're gonna.

734
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Speaker 2: Get legs, you you're gonna get get cleavage, and buy

735
00:35:51,719 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 2: it twice. Every color, Hello, every color, it's yours.

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Speaker 1: Leather, anything anything leather. I know. I stay away from

737
00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:07,360
Speaker 1: like blazers and things that make me look bulky because

738
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Speaker 1: I feel like my breasts are big and not that

739
00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 1: I have big shoulders, but anything that's gonna make me

740
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:16,279
Speaker 1: look wider, I don't, especially after losing weight. And I

741
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:20,640
Speaker 1: like I like a loose bottom and a tight top.

742
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Speaker 1: I'm big on I'm big on the bottom, but I'm

743
00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:26,640
Speaker 1: small up tops, so I like. I like that.

744
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:31,960
Speaker 2: And then long dresses. My legs are short, so me

745
00:36:32,040 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 2: and a mini dress or mini skirt. I don't really

746
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Speaker 2: do that too often.

747
00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 1: Like I like, you know, long things because I'm sure

748
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 1: so I'm not a fan of my legs, so I

749
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Speaker 1: like you now.

750
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:49,240
Speaker 2: Kill you will slay those bikini pictures though, that's actually

751
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:52,640
Speaker 2: my best out. I will do with Batman bikini.

752
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:55,319
Speaker 3: But see air because some things can make your legs

753
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:58,320
Speaker 3: look shorter. But can't you actually get to see can't

754
00:36:58,480 --> 00:36:59,520
Speaker 3: you get to see the hips?

755
00:36:59,600 --> 00:37:02,160
Speaker 2: The hers? I like the little girl, like the little

756
00:37:02,200 --> 00:37:02,799
Speaker 2: thunk that.

757
00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 1: Sunset photoshop, And I could wear a bikini every day

758
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:12,400
Speaker 1: and it not be a problem. That is exactly what

759
00:37:12,520 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 1: the fuck I would wear every single day. Like, I

760
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:17,960
Speaker 1: love bikinis. If you follow me on Instagram, you're gonna

761
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:21,719
Speaker 1: see me. Then I'm looking the thing now with Actually, okay,

762
00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:22,720
Speaker 1: this one is interesting.

763
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:23,799
Speaker 2: My thing.

764
00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:27,960
Speaker 1: I feel sexiest in is oversized clothes, and recently I

765
00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:31,040
Speaker 1: started wearing tighter shit, and my nigga's like, you look

766
00:37:31,080 --> 00:37:32,200
Speaker 1: great in this. I don't know why you don't wear

767
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:34,480
Speaker 1: tighter clothes more often. He's like, but when you have

768
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 1: on your overside clothes, you walk different, you talk different.

769
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:39,680
Speaker 2: Like that's just something you must feel in your head.

770
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 2: It makes you sexier.

771
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:43,520
Speaker 1: He's like, so it actually does come across sexier. I

772
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:47,080
Speaker 1: think my favorite things to wear are.

773
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:50,360
Speaker 3: Definitely baggy pants because I don't feel like if I

774
00:37:50,400 --> 00:37:52,560
Speaker 3: wear tight pants, they'd be like, damn, her booty kind

775
00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:52,920
Speaker 3: of small.

776
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:55,239
Speaker 2: So I like baggy because I think that my hips

777
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 2: are nice.

778
00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:58,080
Speaker 1: Like it's weird the things that we're uncomfortable with, and

779
00:37:58,160 --> 00:37:59,960
Speaker 1: I believe I have a nice body naked.

780
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:03,680
Speaker 4: Sometimes in clothes, I feel like it doesn't translate yes,

781
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:07,560
Speaker 4: so I don't have an ass. And I think that's

782
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 4: why I love skirts, because I get to my big

783
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:15,320
Speaker 4: booty friends can't wear the skirt the same way that

784
00:38:15,400 --> 00:38:21,480
Speaker 4: I do. It's exactly so I feel like when I

785
00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:24,440
Speaker 4: wear oversized clothes, I feel like I look dumpy. I'm

786
00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 4: just starting to like, yes, yeah, I'm just starting to

787
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:31,640
Speaker 4: like kind of get back into oversized. So, like, my

788
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 4: career is in fashion, so I'm around clothes and style

789
00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 4: all day long, and so it having an eye and

790
00:38:41,719 --> 00:38:44,120
Speaker 4: seeing what you see things, I'm like, oh, that looks

791
00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 4: so dope. I want to try that, but it's not

792
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:49,920
Speaker 4: for my body. So now how do I recreate this

793
00:38:50,120 --> 00:38:52,920
Speaker 4: look for my body? And it could just be maybe

794
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:56,239
Speaker 4: I don't do bottom and top oversize. Maybe I just

795
00:38:56,280 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 4: do an oversized top, which you yeah, if you hide

796
00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:03,800
Speaker 4: up pregnant, Carti says she wasn't hiding.

797
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:06,160
Speaker 2: Anyways.

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00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:12,480
Speaker 1: Basically, overall advice is maybe lean into a dating coach,

799
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:17,520
Speaker 1: lean into finding confidence in your body by going somewhere

800
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:21,120
Speaker 1: to see other bodies and just get the confidence as

801
00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 1: well to be able to communicate your once needs and

802
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:28,399
Speaker 1: desires from the men that you're dating, and don't allow

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00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 1: them to leave.

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Speaker 2: That's our advice to you. We hope you help. We

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Speaker 2: hope we helped you.

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