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Speaker 1: What's up, West Up. This is like our first taping

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Speaker 1: of lip Service in twenty nineteen, and we're very excited

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Speaker 1: her because so many things have happened. Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: But I'm Angela, I'm Larry, I'm man put so listen.

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Speaker 1: This is gonna be fun because Larry All and I

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Speaker 1: are two unmarried never been married before women, Rico Love

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Speaker 1: is married, and Ronnie and Shamario obviously married as well.

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Speaker 1: So we're gonna hear all different points of views on

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Speaker 1: different things today. But I have been watching Real Housewives

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Speaker 1: of Atlanta, I have to say, and we've discovered a

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Speaker 1: lot of things about you too as a couple, and

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Speaker 1: we're gonna get into it today. We love This is

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Speaker 1: the second time on the show, and he's like our therapist.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you're here. I definitely do not have the answers.

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Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know about that. I think you

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Speaker 1: might have something before you guys, perspective, before you guys

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Speaker 1: got here. Right, we were talking about blow jobs with

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Speaker 1: a condom? Right? Is that only for prostitutes? Yes, that's

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Speaker 1: the process. Yeah, I don't even if you if you're

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Speaker 1: comfortable with latex, if you're comfortable with latext if that's

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Speaker 1: some whole ship. Yeah, what does it taste like? It's safety?

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Speaker 1: Safety tastes like safety. That's not fun, you guys, I

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Speaker 1: don't think I've ever done that before, so yeah, I

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Speaker 1: definitely think I'm not a prostitude. But Rico, you never

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Speaker 1: asked a woman to put a condom on? Liked about you.

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Speaker 1: We're talking to women, we're talking about what you're putting

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Speaker 1: a condom on? Distress episode. Everybody. We know you guys

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Speaker 1: were wild back in the day. They never talked to

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Speaker 1: sure you always use condoms for every year, but not

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Speaker 1: all right, right, like you put the condom on after that,

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Speaker 1: Sometimes you put two of them down, so neither of

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Speaker 1: you have ever tried it. What you mean to get

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Speaker 1: prefer that? Yeah, yeah, it just feels like I mean,

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Speaker 1: was years ago when I was a label called Brick

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Speaker 1: Them Off Records and they were trying to sign that.

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Speaker 1: They were trying to sign me Bone Rushers label. He

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Speaker 1: one of the girls put a condom on me before

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Speaker 1: do you think it's easier to be married in this business,

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Speaker 1: have to understand it. In certain aspects, men mature way

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Speaker 1: You know what's It's not about that. It's about all

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Speaker 1: the things you didn't pass well for Ronnie. And let's

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Speaker 1: But that's all. That's really all it was. But it

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Speaker 1: potentially can be. Right, I don't think it's a fake thing.

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Speaker 1: I'm saying, when you're deciding that we're gonna be a couple,

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Speaker 1: I knew that he was the one for me from

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Speaker 1: the very beginning. Like it took him like three years. Okay,

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Speaker 1: like I'm proposed, and I really you know, I was

425
00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:06,199
Speaker 1: against marriage. No, no, not all. It was like literally

426
00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:07,879
Speaker 1: the next day it was supposed to be just at

427
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:10,160
Speaker 1: the house, just friends, end up being like a bunch

428
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:12,439
Speaker 1: of family and friends. But it wasn't something that I

429
00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:15,320
Speaker 1: was like, you know, I never I never in my

430
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:20,320
Speaker 1: life envisioned myself no, no, But it was a situation

431
00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:23,680
Speaker 1: where I believe when you love somebody and you really

432
00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:26,959
Speaker 1: care about them, you compromise. And I think that that

433
00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:28,920
Speaker 1: compromise should be recognized. I think that a lot of

434
00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:30,919
Speaker 1: people may listen to that and say, oh, that's the

435
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:33,880
Speaker 1: wrong reason to marry a person, and I can respect

436
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:36,120
Speaker 1: your point of view, but I also believe that when

437
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:39,360
Speaker 1: you care about somebody enough, you're gonna compromise to that. There,

438
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:41,719
Speaker 1: if you know something gonna make them happy, you do

439
00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:45,879
Speaker 1: it because it makes them happy to get married. And

440
00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 1: I think that a lot of times. Um it's where

441
00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:51,119
Speaker 1: as women get old a lot of times. They're not

442
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:54,280
Speaker 1: trying to say everybody's situation. The pressure is on by strangers,

443
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:56,880
Speaker 1: you know, people you don't even know because of social media.

444
00:24:57,160 --> 00:24:59,920
Speaker 1: A stranger will try to make you feel like girl,

445
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,360
Speaker 1: if you don't got no ring on your finger, that'sh

446
00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 1: don't mean nothing. It's like you don't that you have

447
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:07,960
Speaker 1: for yourself could have been Oh by this age, I

448
00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:10,119
Speaker 1: thought I would be married by now. And it's just

449
00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:12,919
Speaker 1: that it doesn't necessarily always have to be. I believe

450
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:16,440
Speaker 1: that that sacrifice um counts for something. Though. I think

451
00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:18,359
Speaker 1: that that's like a lot of people may look at

452
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:19,800
Speaker 1: it and be like, I don't want somebody just do

453
00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:21,920
Speaker 1: it just because they have to know. I think that

454
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:25,680
Speaker 1: that was the level of love that I share in respect.

455
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:29,359
Speaker 1: I have to say, I can't do anything for you

456
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:32,080
Speaker 1: right now, I'm being sued by a hundred people. I

457
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:34,360
Speaker 1: got this going on. I got that at least, So

458
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,720
Speaker 1: what I want to do to show you that I'll

459
00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 1: compromise something that I may not necessarily want to do

460
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:43,080
Speaker 1: because it will make you happy. And I thought that

461
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:45,159
Speaker 1: that's a testament of love. And I think a lot

462
00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:47,199
Speaker 1: of people, if you look at it from that perspective.

463
00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:49,679
Speaker 1: You may agree, but obviously you know, people have their

464
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 1: own perspective and their own and that's just the truth

465
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,400
Speaker 1: and the contract that Did you say that we need

466
00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:57,720
Speaker 1: a prenup? Nope, But like I said, I never doubt

467
00:25:57,840 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 1: but this, I would never worry about anything like that.

468
00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 1: She never ever was about no money with me. She

469
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:06,920
Speaker 1: never was about no, um, you gotta do this, you

470
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:09,840
Speaker 1: gotta beat this. All differences were based upon the mistakes

471
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:13,320
Speaker 1: and errors I made. It wasn't about my Our issues

472
00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:16,200
Speaker 1: are have nothing to do with her being a horrible

473
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 1: It's all about the decisions I made. Decisions. Yeah, but

474
00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:22,840
Speaker 1: just you know, being young and will and give money

475
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 1: and cheating and going crazy like that or not being

476
00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:29,240
Speaker 1: um including her and the plings that I should have

477
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:32,919
Speaker 1: been including her in difference between cheating and disrespectfully cheating.

478
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:36,520
Speaker 1: So I think that what happens is what happens is,

479
00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:39,719
Speaker 1: and it's and it's it's definitely bringing somebody to the

480
00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:44,880
Speaker 1: crab and you're rocking in the same day. That's disgusting.

481
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:47,080
Speaker 1: That's that's no. But never I don't want to say

482
00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:49,720
Speaker 1: that I was ever on that level. I would never

483
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 1: fire room. I think I think it becomes it becomes

484
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:02,520
Speaker 1: a cycle. I think the cycle begins with you did

485
00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 1: something wrong, You're trying to correct this error. But then

486
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 1: as we deal with people, their energy and attitude towards

487
00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 1: you is still paying you back for the wrong that

488
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 1: you did. So now when they give you this certain

489
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:14,480
Speaker 1: negative energy, you feel like, all right, I'm gonna go

490
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 1: do this again. And now you keep doing it, and

491
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:18,879
Speaker 1: now the energy doesn't change, and then your reaction to

492
00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:21,440
Speaker 1: their energy does not change. It takes for somebody to

493
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 1: either say I need to step back and separate myself

494
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:26,119
Speaker 1: from this situation, or I need to figure out a

495
00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:28,400
Speaker 1: way to react to this in a way that's gonna

496
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:31,639
Speaker 1: be productive. If I keep reacting to your bitterness and

497
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:34,440
Speaker 1: your anger with my actions that made you bitter and

498
00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 1: anger in the first place, is a never in the cycle.

499
00:27:37,080 --> 00:27:39,120
Speaker 1: So what you have to decide as a person, whether

500
00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:41,119
Speaker 1: you're gonna be with that person or not. What you

501
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 1: have to decide as a person is I'm not gonna

502
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:45,679
Speaker 1: treat you how. I'm not gonna retaliate to you with

503
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 1: my actions. What I'm gonna do is I'm gonna respond

504
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 1: to you out of love, and I've decided that I'm

505
00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:54,240
Speaker 1: only gonna respond to everybody out of love. And that's

506
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 1: you know, and that's real because what happens is I

507
00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 1: started realizing that if I if I want to be

508
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 1: right or if i'm because they are situation scenarios where

509
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:04,480
Speaker 1: I know that I'm right, but I have to understand it.

510
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:08,080
Speaker 1: Being right ain't always right. And sometimes you gotta say no,

511
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:11,639
Speaker 1: matter what I say, you're angry. So let me step

512
00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:13,879
Speaker 1: back and figure out a way to get you un angry.

513
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:15,800
Speaker 1: So now that you're not angry, we can have a

514
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 1: real conversation. Because when somebody's upset, Oh, I can't talk

515
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:23,119
Speaker 1: when I'm upset. But that's the thing. Everybody wants to

516
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 1: talk when you're upset. When when we get into it,

517
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 1: like she wants to fix it right away, get heated,

518
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:35,040
Speaker 1: and I'm like, yo, I just need a minute. He's

519
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 1: a scorpio. I may I just need a minute. But

520
00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:43,600
Speaker 1: the first day, but to room and she'll follow me

521
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 1: right now, don't go to bad man door and she's

522
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 1: knocking on the door, like breaking the window. But how

523
00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 1: to argue effectively because I know when I'm in the

524
00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 1: middle of an argument, I can't talk to you at

525
00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:00,080
Speaker 1: that time because I don't want to say any in

526
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:05,400
Speaker 1: the same way one active listening all the time. I

527
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:08,520
Speaker 1: understand that, but if there's a time that's one of

528
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:12,719
Speaker 1: the things that helped us even in our marriage counseling

529
00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:15,480
Speaker 1: and our marriage coaching, and we say this all the time,

530
00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 1: is that active listening night before we understand understood how

531
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 1: to do that. It's okay, you're sitting waiting to fire back.

532
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 1: I'm not even hearing. What the hell all up? As

533
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:30,719
Speaker 1: soon as I find an opportunity to come with my

534
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 1: perspective about this argument, I'm coming right. But we learned

535
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 1: how to active listen to each other, which is when

536
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:41,719
Speaker 1: you're saying something, I have to repeat what it is

537
00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 1: that you just said to me and then everything. Then

538
00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 1: you're gonna tell me what it is that I missed

539
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:50,240
Speaker 1: out on it. Then I'm gonna repeat that. It was

540
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:53,520
Speaker 1: so helpful for us in our relationship because now you

541
00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 1: gotta come off of your perspective and actually sit there

542
00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:59,640
Speaker 1: and figure out where the other person that I'll say,

543
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 1: I'll say, are you following me? Is this making sense

544
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:06,920
Speaker 1: to you? Because I can repeat it gonna break. I'm

545
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 1: not gonna lie because I'm gonna tell you why even

546
00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 1: when I'm saying that right then, it made me cringe

547
00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:13,320
Speaker 1: because it made it would make me feel like you're

548
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:15,520
Speaker 1: talking down to me, or you're talking to me like

549
00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 1: a child. Do you follow me? Do you just below

550
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 1: the belt in an argument? Say? Can you repeat to

551
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 1: me what I just said? See, that's the way you

552
00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 1: say this, because now when you say that, I don't

553
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 1: feel I feel like the way like I would have

554
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:34,320
Speaker 1: felt like I was being talked to you like a child. Again,

555
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 1: But that's a difference. That's the difference. So now my

556
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 1: perspective is operated out of love. So if you're operating

557
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 1: out of love, even though that thing makes you feel

558
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:44,440
Speaker 1: like you're talking like a child, which I would love

559
00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:46,960
Speaker 1: you would say when you say that in that way,

560
00:30:47,040 --> 00:30:48,520
Speaker 1: it makes me feel like you're talking to me like

561
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:50,320
Speaker 1: a child. That's not what I would have said. But

562
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 1: I don't talk to me like no mother child your clothes.

563
00:30:56,960 --> 00:30:58,920
Speaker 1: But if a person says that to me, if a

564
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 1: person says that to me, I take an offense to

565
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:03,240
Speaker 1: how you're speaking to me like that, then I'm gonna

566
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 1: have to correct it. Now. If I don't correct it,

567
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 1: if I continue to do that to you, and I

568
00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:09,960
Speaker 1: don't correct how you asked me. You specifically said, this

569
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:13,120
Speaker 1: makes me uncomfortable. If I don't respond to that with love,

570
00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 1: then now I'm being pettis. Now I can tell the

571
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 1: question cause me and lari'all got into it earlier over this. Okay, wait, wait,

572
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:25,120
Speaker 1: what right? Just say we were discussing. This is really

573
00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 1: for you. I love this. So if you found a

574
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:31,200
Speaker 1: lipstick in your man's car and it's different because you

575
00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:33,959
Speaker 1: guys are married, but he tells you, Okay, it's my

576
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 1: sister's or it's my mom's lipsticks, do you believe him

577
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 1: or not. I believe him, Thank you. That's why I

578
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:44,040
Speaker 1: do believe him, because we built that trust over the years.

579
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 1: Like so I'm gonna believe him if it was, you know,

580
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:51,840
Speaker 1: in a new situation. That's I'm saying, a new situationation

581
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 1: where you don't really know the person. I haven't built

582
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 1: that trush and that communication and all that, then I

583
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:01,040
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm gonna say this. I can because I

584
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:05,000
Speaker 1: don't have no problem excepting accountability. So we show a

585
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 1: nose about me. So there have been the situations where

586
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 1: I've been very truthful, but because I lied in the past,

587
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 1: because I did things in the past. It kind of

588
00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:18,760
Speaker 1: like eliminates. That's why I think forgiveness, truth forgiveness, honest

589
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:22,360
Speaker 1: forgiveness is important because I've been accused of things that

590
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 1: I'm seriously didn't do right and there's no there's no way.

591
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 1: It's just so much. But I just think it's no

592
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 1: way getting ubber. Somebody was going on you was doing

593
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 1: using them old skins, Runnye gave you them olds from

594
00:32:46,960 --> 00:33:04,719
Speaker 1: the house in your belts, Like, no, but I just

595
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 1: think you already got yourself got a massage. No. But

596
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 1: I just think that when you do so much, it

597
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:28,280
Speaker 1: is difficult to build that trust back, especially with somebody

598
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:30,400
Speaker 1: not honest but how they feel. See, I'm a communicator,

599
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:33,400
Speaker 1: so communicate. I enjoy it because I love to learn

600
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:35,360
Speaker 1: and find out what can you know? I want to

601
00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 1: be a better person at all levels and the aspects

602
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 1: of my life. But it's difficult because so many people

603
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:42,840
Speaker 1: don't know how to communicate, especially people from our community.

604
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 1: So it's difficult when you want to communicate and you're

605
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 1: really trying to You're like, I don't have all the answers,

606
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 1: but this is how I feel. But if I'm telling

607
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:55,040
Speaker 1: you that, you know, like even early on in relationships

608
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 1: when you say, you know the lipstick thing and then

609
00:33:58,160 --> 00:34:00,720
Speaker 1: the man says, yo, that's from myself stuff, and it's

610
00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:03,560
Speaker 1: really from my sister. But you're getting it, you know

611
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:06,480
Speaker 1: you It just keeps coming up, you know, days later,

612
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:09,000
Speaker 1: like y'all, I don't believe what the hell is going on.

613
00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:14,440
Speaker 1: It just makes you feel like I gotta coming out right.

614
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:16,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell y'all what happened, though, I'm gonna tell

615
00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:18,760
Speaker 1: you all the whole sec and she ain't even explain

616
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:21,200
Speaker 1: it right, all right. So the first time I've seen

617
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:23,319
Speaker 1: I got in the car and seen a lipstick and

618
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:25,960
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, somebody got their little lipstick here,

619
00:34:26,080 --> 00:34:30,959
Speaker 1: trying to know that it was Matt. But I say,

620
00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:32,799
Speaker 1: I say stuff like that, I don't just be like,

621
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 1: oh this bitch lipstick that I'm like, okay, somebody marketing

622
00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:38,399
Speaker 1: a territory. So he's like, what what are you something? Oh,

623
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:40,640
Speaker 1: now I gotta be my sisters whatever that I'll never

624
00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:43,359
Speaker 1: sit over there, so I don't even know what's over there. Okay, cool,

625
00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:46,400
Speaker 1: skip that I ain't bringing up again nothing. So that

626
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:49,440
Speaker 1: now a day past, two days, my my friend in

627
00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:51,920
Speaker 1: the car and are we talking and she says something

628
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:54,840
Speaker 1: about lipstick. I was like, oh, it's probably something inside

629
00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 1: of the door, like a joke, right, But that's what

630
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:00,319
Speaker 1: I do, Like, I mean, I do that on show.

631
00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 1: I do That's just me and you know my personality.

632
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:07,280
Speaker 1: I'm like that. So um he was like a condom

633
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:13,359
Speaker 1: you so that he goes, no, what do you mean?

634
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 1: He was like, no, I told you, like my ex girlfriend,

635
00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 1: she probably just left of it, but film it was

636
00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:22,400
Speaker 1: just sister. But did tell me. I don't have to

637
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:24,640
Speaker 1: tell you all that. All I did was ask her,

638
00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:27,959
Speaker 1: how would you feel like? But this is what I'm saying.

639
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 1: I listened to you the first time. He was like, oh,

640
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:32,439
Speaker 1: it's probably He didn't say it is, but he said

641
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 1: probably my sister's So I ain't think nothing. Ever, I

642
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 1: don't really know you like that. This is new like

643
00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:39,320
Speaker 1: so that's cool. You get what I'm saying. So that

644
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:41,759
Speaker 1: now the next time you say that, now you're a liar.

645
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:43,759
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna tell you why you're a liar. Because

646
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 1: if you would have been like, I don't know whose

647
00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 1: it is, it's probably it could be anybody. I would

648
00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:50,479
Speaker 1: have took that a little better than you. Specifically, saying,

649
00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 1: now it's ex girlfriends broke. Who is it? What morning?

650
00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:58,279
Speaker 1: Maybe he was, maybe he was you never know, never

651
00:35:58,440 --> 00:36:02,439
Speaker 1: days might be all Kelly got molested by you. I'm

652
00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:07,360
Speaker 1: like that assistant brothership. Yeah when he went specific the

653
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:10,800
Speaker 1: second time a brown, Yeah, I feel that. Do you

654
00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:13,759
Speaker 1: give what I'm saying? So that's why I said that, Like,

655
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 1: I wasn't about to just let that kind of slide

656
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:18,280
Speaker 1: and let that go. Now look at you, funny, because

657
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:20,880
Speaker 1: like you're like a low key you, a little liar.

658
00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:23,239
Speaker 1: So now I gotta watch you if you lie about

659
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:32,200
Speaker 1: maybe it's maybe everybody's boy, Maybe it's his Saturday nights. Okay,

660
00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:36,440
Speaker 1: Now let me ask you this. Since you guys were

661
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:38,720
Speaker 1: very open about your open relationship, what are the rules

662
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:41,040
Speaker 1: that you guys said. I know you said fresh and

663
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:44,480
Speaker 1: Murray you could only date other women. Yeah, yeah, it

664
00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:46,879
Speaker 1: wasn't going down. I didn't want another man. I had,

665
00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:49,439
Speaker 1: you know, the dick that I needed right here at home.

666
00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:59,480
Speaker 1: I'm joking. I got the tick that I needed right there.

667
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:04,920
Speaker 1: The dick's not here. You know. We got together when

668
00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 1: I was twenty one, So there was a lot of

669
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:09,040
Speaker 1: things that I wanted to experience that I didn't experience.

670
00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 1: And it was at a time where I was not

671
00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:13,880
Speaker 1: in a very good place, and I was like, Okay,

672
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:17,360
Speaker 1: well let's go into an open relationship. And I know

673
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:22,080
Speaker 1: you're not going to um do it unless I say

674
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:24,799
Speaker 1: you're not gonna allow me to sleep with other women,

675
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 1: unless I say you can sleep with women yourself. Was

676
00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 1: he cheating already? Were you cheating? No? Not no cheating,

677
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:36,360
Speaker 1: No cheating. I mean it came out of the blue. Honestly.

678
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:40,080
Speaker 1: We were actually working on our music UM around the time,

679
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:43,360
Speaker 1: and it just kind of came out of nowhere, and

680
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:47,360
Speaker 1: I know she was in a place, in a state

681
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 1: of brokenness. I remember this after the fact, like even

682
00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:53,680
Speaker 1: while we were working on our music UM, I was

683
00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:57,359
Speaker 1: kind of laser focused, feeling like, Yo, finally we're gonna

684
00:37:57,440 --> 00:38:00,400
Speaker 1: be able to do something that is different print you know,

685
00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:04,040
Speaker 1: there's that balance that the music industry needs and we

686
00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:07,359
Speaker 1: can talk about love and relationship when now it's all

687
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 1: about sex and drugs. Yeah, it was just a build up, right,

688
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:13,400
Speaker 1: And she felt like I wasn't really he was listening

689
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 1: to me like I had opinions, and he was just like, no,

690
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:18,440
Speaker 1: we're gonna do it this way, and I'm like, we

691
00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:20,800
Speaker 1: need to get a manager because we neither one of

692
00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 1: us have time to manage our career. You don't have time,

693
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:25,360
Speaker 1: and he just wasn't listening to me, and it just

694
00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:27,040
Speaker 1: I just kept feeling like I was just getting broken

695
00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 1: down and broken down more so. I was in a

696
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:31,560
Speaker 1: state up brokenness. And I started when I when you're

697
00:38:31,560 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 1: in a state like you start making self center choices

698
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 1: when you're in that state, and um, I wasn't really

699
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:40,919
Speaker 1: including my husband and the decisions that I was making,

700
00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:43,840
Speaker 1: we weren't making them as one. And that was just

701
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 1: the way that I dealt with the pain at the time.

702
00:38:45,840 --> 00:38:50,120
Speaker 1: And it was actually that that separation and the openness

703
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:53,120
Speaker 1: that brung us closer together. We had to go through

704
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:56,080
Speaker 1: that in order to get where we are today. You know, this,

705
00:38:56,520 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 1: this was our journey. This was our path that we

706
00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:01,800
Speaker 1: went through. And you know, marriage, no marriages are like

707
00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:04,839
Speaker 1: everybody's gonna go through there. You guys are married right now.

708
00:39:05,080 --> 00:39:08,560
Speaker 1: I've never been, but like marriages like fingerprints, like nothing.

709
00:39:08,719 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 1: No marriage is exactly alike. Yes, yes, So like that

710
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:15,439
Speaker 1: was our journey, that was our path, and that path

711
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:18,880
Speaker 1: bung us into purpose ultimately. Yeah, that's why because when

712
00:39:18,960 --> 00:39:22,040
Speaker 1: it started, you know, it was almost like I was

713
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:28,760
Speaker 1: going to be included to a certain yeah, probably like okay,

714
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:31,400
Speaker 1: it sounds real spicy at first, like yeah, if you

715
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 1: know you let me sleep with women, then you know

716
00:39:34,200 --> 00:39:42,120
Speaker 1: we might be able to have a little Kay, she's

717
00:39:42,120 --> 00:39:49,920
Speaker 1: going to without you? Right then I'm gonna go on

718
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:52,880
Speaker 1: ahead and make my thing happen. And it was totally separate.

719
00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:55,880
Speaker 1: It just turned into this total like two separate, like

720
00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:58,520
Speaker 1: a totally separate relationship. Waits, did you guys ever do

721
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:01,839
Speaker 1: the threesome? No? We never did the family not even

722
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:03,879
Speaker 1: she went over there and fell and fell in love

723
00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:06,680
Speaker 1: to a certain I didn't fall in love. I knew

724
00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:08,839
Speaker 1: that I was never gonna leave you. Ron. You were

725
00:40:08,880 --> 00:40:12,400
Speaker 1: always mine, you were always my husband. I made the

726
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 1: vows with you down the road. Come on, man, don't

727
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:19,560
Speaker 1: it felt like you guys felt like the marriage was

728
00:40:19,600 --> 00:40:22,360
Speaker 1: almost gonna end though over that. Yeah, I mean we

729
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:27,000
Speaker 1: sat at um the little bar in our town house, right.

730
00:40:27,400 --> 00:40:29,319
Speaker 1: You know, we had a real house. Don't talk about

731
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:33,120
Speaker 1: no townhouse. It was the townhouse. It yeah, it was,

732
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:38,359
Speaker 1: you know, it was a single family home in the townhouse, right,

733
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 1: And y know, we actually right there word on word,

734
00:40:42,040 --> 00:40:44,840
Speaker 1: you know, after computer trying to figure out how we

735
00:40:44,960 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 1: were going to separate everything, like I'm talking about divorce

736
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:53,080
Speaker 1: was imminent, like she sorted to that point, just everything

737
00:40:53,239 --> 00:40:55,279
Speaker 1: like okay, we opened it up and for me, okay,

738
00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:59,800
Speaker 1: as a man, open relationship okay. And I say this

739
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:02,080
Speaker 1: all the time. You think when Eddie Murphy said in

740
00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:05,640
Speaker 1: his little comedy special, y'all same old salteam crackers. After

741
00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:08,040
Speaker 1: a certain amount of time, right, and they say, after

742
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 1: about seven years you start kind of getting the eggs

743
00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:12,720
Speaker 1: to do a little something. And it was right around

744
00:41:12,800 --> 00:41:16,840
Speaker 1: that same time, seven years in and so wife he

745
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 1: comes and she's like, yo, let's have the open thing.

746
00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:21,800
Speaker 1: Maybe we can do it three something, you know, boom,

747
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:23,920
Speaker 1: you can handle your business. And I'm thinking, as a

748
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:28,239
Speaker 1: man like ship, okay, this might be good. Like so

749
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:33,840
Speaker 1: she's over there, I'm over here, and ultimately, jealousy, you know,

750
00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:37,080
Speaker 1: and envy and all these different things beginning to creep in.

751
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:39,200
Speaker 1: And you don't know that at the time, you just

752
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:42,600
Speaker 1: thinking what you're dick. Ultimately, you know, like yeah, okay,

753
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:45,279
Speaker 1: I'm I'm I can get some different pussy. But at

754
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:48,160
Speaker 1: the same time I can rock with my wife. But

755
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:53,200
Speaker 1: you come home and wife he ain't there, and it's like, okay, ship,

756
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 1: Well what the hell is wife he doing? And I

757
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:56,840
Speaker 1: don't know what she was thinking. I'm sure at some

758
00:41:57,400 --> 00:42:00,080
Speaker 1: some point it's the same thing. She's at home and

759
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:03,120
Speaker 1: hubbies out, like, damn, what the hell has my husband doing?

760
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:05,840
Speaker 1: Who was he with? And that was the thing that

761
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:08,920
Speaker 1: separated us. And she had an apartment, you know, I

762
00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 1: had a place myself and you guys had your own

763
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 1: places on the side. Yeah, I mean it went down

764
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:18,880
Speaker 1: and it's even painful to talk about you. So what

765
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:22,200
Speaker 1: happens to the other people that were in the relationship

766
00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 1: that you have to be like like, I'm working it out. Yeah,

767
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 1: can you still Are you allowed to still like speak? No,

768
00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:31,399
Speaker 1: totally block cut off. You can't even talk to these

769
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:33,880
Speaker 1: people if you're working. When you started working. When we

770
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:36,319
Speaker 1: started working on our relationship, we had to cut all

771
00:42:36,400 --> 00:42:37,880
Speaker 1: of that off. That's the only way to do it.

772
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:41,000
Speaker 1: Did anybody go crazy like started doing weird ship or

773
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:43,960
Speaker 1: trying to break you all up? Yeah? Yes, I mean

774
00:42:44,080 --> 00:42:47,200
Speaker 1: kind of sort of, but you know not not no

775
00:42:47,400 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 1: psycho like type ship that wouldn't go away, Like to

776
00:42:51,680 --> 00:42:57,759
Speaker 1: call your sister when you have three sims, right, who

777
00:42:57,800 --> 00:42:59,680
Speaker 1: do you choose? Is it people that you know or

778
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:02,799
Speaker 1: is it like random people that y'all pick up together? Yeah,

779
00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:04,840
Speaker 1: I thought, I mean back when I was, you know,

780
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:07,320
Speaker 1: throwing all that, we haven't done nothing. But it's like

781
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:10,840
Speaker 1: I think that it was always somebody a friend, somebody

782
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:13,719
Speaker 1: you know you're talking about with his wife. What you

783
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:17,840
Speaker 1: do three songs with your wife? Used to you know,

784
00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 1: somebody you got guys both knew and we're friends. Man,

785
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:23,200
Speaker 1: you always let you always let her pick the girl.

786
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 1: I think that's fair. That's the same. Yeah, Now you're

787
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:30,239
Speaker 1: not trying to make it seem like you're not maybe

788
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:36,040
Speaker 1: like her. It'll be the type of thing just like

789
00:43:36,480 --> 00:43:39,120
Speaker 1: you was feeling shorty already and you was you know,

790
00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 1: that's yeah, that's typical. I think, Yeah, so keep it.

791
00:43:42,680 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 1: I think there's been times where you know, you can

792
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:47,279
Speaker 1: bring a girl, but most times let the girl. Let's

793
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:49,719
Speaker 1: let the girl pick the girl. She's more comfortable because

794
00:43:49,719 --> 00:43:51,880
Speaker 1: you're gonna think, like, now you've already been plotting on

795
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:54,880
Speaker 1: this girl. Y'all been talking. This ain't nothing that you

796
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:57,359
Speaker 1: just came up with and pick that girl right there,

797
00:43:58,000 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 1: you've been you got a relationship with her. So I

798
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:05,160
Speaker 1: think you think sex gets better the more you know

799
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:07,520
Speaker 1: each other, like the longer you're in a relationship, or

800
00:44:07,560 --> 00:44:11,040
Speaker 1: you think the beginning was better the longer. For sure,

801
00:44:11,280 --> 00:44:13,920
Speaker 1: you don't really know what each other likes to you know,

802
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:16,600
Speaker 1: to be satisfied in the very beginning, and you just

803
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:19,319
Speaker 1: start learning. Like sometimes you even have to teach. Yeah,

804
00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:24,439
Speaker 1: you had to teach, she said. I don't think that's something.

805
00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:26,719
Speaker 1: I think you should always teach somebody how you want

806
00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:34,840
Speaker 1: to feel. That's just how to lick that clicker, you

807
00:44:34,880 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 1: go faster sometimes side I think open the curtains. Yeah,

808
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:44,879
Speaker 1: could be up and you don't know that you're going

809
00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 1: down thinking you rock it. You are not every situation

810
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:56,920
Speaker 1: you should teach people how you want to be treated.

811
00:44:57,000 --> 00:45:00,520
Speaker 1: And they're a wrong way to see dick. Ever, yes, yeah,

812
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:09,800
Speaker 1: that's the wrong way, like exactly, like what else besides

813
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:16,279
Speaker 1: teeth Sometimes people could just be extra rough with it

814
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:19,440
Speaker 1: or you know, like just whatever. You know, it's just

815
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:22,480
Speaker 1: all a preference ultimately, but there's a wrong way and

816
00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:25,080
Speaker 1: the right way to do everything. Like some people love

817
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 1: to be smacked in the room, like come on, you know,

818
00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:31,360
Speaker 1: like how would you know that you're willing unless the

819
00:45:31,440 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 1: person says, look, you're not giving it to me hard enough,

820
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 1: like you gotta smack me in the damn face, and

821
00:45:38,160 --> 00:45:40,319
Speaker 1: then just to see, like let me just smack her.

822
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:41,719
Speaker 1: See if she's like, oh no, no, no, I'm not

823
00:45:41,800 --> 00:45:46,520
Speaker 1: gonna do something like that. I think that I need

824
00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:48,759
Speaker 1: to smack of person. And I'm questioning whether or not

825
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:51,200
Speaker 1: I need to be in the room. Is But I

826
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:53,279
Speaker 1: think a fantasy plays a part and what you would

827
00:45:53,360 --> 00:45:55,759
Speaker 1: experiment with it's all about what you like if you

828
00:45:56,000 --> 00:45:57,840
Speaker 1: if you've been imagining this or you saw this in

829
00:45:57,880 --> 00:45:59,600
Speaker 1: a point or something like that, and then that's kind

830
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:01,920
Speaker 1: of made you feel it were not so unrealistic though.

831
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 1: I feel like we watched potes I think, but that's

832
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:07,400
Speaker 1: started time. But that that's that's what we're making try something.

833
00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:09,359
Speaker 1: Is that you imagining that, you know what I mean?

834
00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: I think you imagine that you saw that and you

835
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:14,279
Speaker 1: got a reaction, your body reacted to you. Let me

836
00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 1: try this. I think I might be into that, Like,

837
00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:18,719
Speaker 1: what's the thing you tried that your partner was like, No,

838
00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:23,040
Speaker 1: I think anybody always trying to you always tries to,

839
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:27,279
Speaker 1: you know, take it to the booty. And I don't

840
00:46:27,360 --> 00:46:31,120
Speaker 1: like it. No, no, no, it's no tongue or nothing

841
00:46:31,160 --> 00:46:34,719
Speaker 1: in your But yeah, we might have talked in the

842
00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:38,000
Speaker 1: beginning we ain't tossed. No, what about if we ain't tossed?

843
00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:46,440
Speaker 1: No salad dressing about that's gonna take a shower first,

844
00:46:47,440 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 1: you come upstairs, toss that salad. Like, look, there's no

845
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:56,480
Speaker 1: way you might need to take a ship before I talk.

846
00:46:57,560 --> 00:47:00,200
Speaker 1: That's a terrible time to take a ship. Ye, take

847
00:47:00,640 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 1: because then you have the residue. Yeah, y'all just made

848
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:10,440
Speaker 1: it so coming out, that's all I'm saying that. It's

849
00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:14,960
Speaker 1: also sound like what is this chocolatepecking it in the booty?

850
00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:17,959
Speaker 1: Don't want nothing going up? I want it only coming

851
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:21,759
Speaker 1: out to that because like I do want that ship,

852
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:31,120
Speaker 1: you know that? Yeah? Come on? She with like my guy, Yeah,

853
00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:33,400
Speaker 1: you can't just go around just doing that ship to

854
00:47:33,480 --> 00:47:35,719
Speaker 1: have you back right right? She likes spit dripping out

855
00:47:35,719 --> 00:47:44,719
Speaker 1: her ass like she likes to be like, don't what Yeah,

856
00:47:45,640 --> 00:47:54,719
Speaker 1: I mean if you have to like my tho, he's

857
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 1: used to know he's beyond you. What about masturbating together?

858
00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:05,600
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, she like I played with a clip before?

859
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:09,920
Speaker 1: Why you was hitting it? Yeah? Yeah, no, doubt that's

860
00:48:09,960 --> 00:48:13,439
Speaker 1: like masturbation, right, yeah, hardly, I mean because he's still

861
00:48:13,480 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 1: hitting it. It was. I mean, I'm masturbated without you know.

862
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:20,520
Speaker 1: But but what about her there? You wouldn't ever masturbate

863
00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:24,080
Speaker 1: in front of her, that's just you know, let me sexy.

864
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:27,239
Speaker 1: But like but like, but like he said, every relationship

865
00:48:27,360 --> 00:48:31,080
Speaker 1: is his own fingerprint. Yeah, fer prints on it. Yeah,

866
00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:37,720
Speaker 1: but faith time about a faith time tomorrow. You wouldn't

867
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:40,319
Speaker 1: like a mass in front of you? Yeah, I mean

868
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 1: I would like it. Okay, damn you should try it

869
00:48:44,600 --> 00:48:50,239
Speaker 1: when we get back to the the race. Who's going

870
00:48:50,320 --> 00:48:55,440
Speaker 1: to do it? Right? Right? What about you? Rico masturbation?

871
00:48:56,440 --> 00:48:59,800
Speaker 1: It's like, look said, I'm s I'm not I'm not

872
00:49:00,000 --> 00:49:01,560
Speaker 1: you on any of it. I'm not be on it.

873
00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 1: I think I think it's all. Have a good time,

874
00:49:04,280 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 1: enjoy it. I've done it before, you know, enjoy you

875
00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:09,279
Speaker 1: have a good time, like experiment. That's how you keep

876
00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:11,640
Speaker 1: things fresh. On alone, we make a mistake of keeping

877
00:49:11,960 --> 00:49:15,160
Speaker 1: you know, going through these you gotta reinvent your relationships.

878
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 1: You were like wow, I never like the last time

879
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 1: you were like wow, this is different. I don't know,

880
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:24,759
Speaker 1: well for me, the last time it's been a little

881
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:28,600
Speaker 1: challenging for us because we have seventeen month olds, right,

882
00:49:29,239 --> 00:49:34,000
Speaker 1: so right, Yeah, So we took a trip to Chicago

883
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:37,239
Speaker 1: to perform. We finally released our first single, Love Comes

884
00:49:37,280 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 1: Through and Shamari Step mom Um. We did a charity

885
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:44,919
Speaker 1: thing out there, and so it was a little trip

886
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:46,920
Speaker 1: away from the boys for a couple of days. So

887
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:51,800
Speaker 1: that was good money, just being in the hotel, nothing

888
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:54,439
Speaker 1: to worry about. We performed our song, had a little

889
00:49:54,480 --> 00:49:57,440
Speaker 1: fifteen minutes set where you know, we did eight Old

890
00:49:57,480 --> 00:50:00,279
Speaker 1: Wade and Poison, a couple other little things and did

891
00:50:00,320 --> 00:50:04,279
Speaker 1: two of our new joints and after that that night

892
00:50:04,360 --> 00:50:09,400
Speaker 1: it just was like, you know, kind of like magical kindling,

893
00:50:09,560 --> 00:50:13,080
Speaker 1: you know, especially since you shipped that moment together. Can

894
00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:15,800
Speaker 1: you ship that performance? So it's like it's almost like

895
00:50:15,840 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 1: a reward for it's almost extra insect. Night was a

896
00:50:19,160 --> 00:50:22,160
Speaker 1: great night. Yeah, it was what do y'all get your

897
00:50:22,200 --> 00:50:24,560
Speaker 1: new tricks from? So like say, you're just like, let

898
00:50:24,640 --> 00:50:28,480
Speaker 1: me try this like new thing, like where you pull

899
00:50:28,560 --> 00:50:33,560
Speaker 1: it out from where you pull it out because you know,

900
00:50:33,680 --> 00:50:39,600
Speaker 1: our boys sleep in the bed with us. Sorry, I'm

901
00:50:39,719 --> 00:50:42,480
Speaker 1: sorry about that. Even if they end the damn cribs

902
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:45,160
Speaker 1: for some reason like you, oh, yeah, we got him

903
00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:49,719
Speaker 1: in the crib as you know, you boy, you pull

904
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:52,439
Speaker 1: your joints down like you're getting it ready, and yeah,

905
00:50:56,480 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 1: what are you doing to our mom? We got to

906
00:51:05,280 --> 00:51:07,640
Speaker 1: the point where okay, like they just seem like they

907
00:51:07,760 --> 00:51:10,600
Speaker 1: feel more comfortable of course now in the bed than

908
00:51:10,680 --> 00:51:13,480
Speaker 1: they do in their cribs. So okay, they're in the bed,

909
00:51:13,560 --> 00:51:15,839
Speaker 1: and then we gotta be mindful because you know, now

910
00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:19,319
Speaker 1: they get up and walk around up and walk off

911
00:51:19,360 --> 00:51:22,080
Speaker 1: the damn bad or what have you. But you know,

912
00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 1: a couple of times we had to get some squeakers

913
00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:32,319
Speaker 1: in Chase that's right next to the hurry like they're

914
00:51:32,560 --> 00:51:41,160
Speaker 1: looking at me. I think he's looking at like, yeah,

915
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:49,280
Speaker 1: she can't get it off, like in that capacity about

916
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:53,120
Speaker 1: them possibly waking up my daughter. Little sir, if I

917
00:51:53,160 --> 00:51:58,840
Speaker 1: hear a voice, you can't. If I hear a voice,

918
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:00,919
Speaker 1: I mean, if I hear that voices, then of course

919
00:52:01,000 --> 00:52:09,480
Speaker 1: we're there. It's just not the same. How do you

920
00:52:09,520 --> 00:52:11,960
Speaker 1: think this show has been for you guys, Real Housewives

921
00:52:11,960 --> 00:52:14,439
Speaker 1: of Atlanta When you look at it and you see

922
00:52:14,480 --> 00:52:17,920
Speaker 1: it and you're like, like, sometimes isn't like that? Or

923
00:52:18,320 --> 00:52:21,360
Speaker 1: do you feel like, okay, that represents me. Well, you

924
00:52:22,560 --> 00:52:25,719
Speaker 1: know you they edited you know, like we're not executive

925
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:28,320
Speaker 1: producers of the show, so like they're editing things and

926
00:52:28,400 --> 00:52:30,520
Speaker 1: we're like, why didn't they put this in there? She

927
00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:33,120
Speaker 1: was a facial reaction that somebody made. There was an

928
00:52:33,120 --> 00:52:36,080
Speaker 1: expression towards something else, and it was just like, yeah,

929
00:52:36,239 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 1: it's just like all piece together sometimes and so it's

930
00:52:39,520 --> 00:52:41,480
Speaker 1: takes some some things are taken out of content, like

931
00:52:41,520 --> 00:52:44,239
Speaker 1: you and Marlow are definitely not cool with each other

932
00:52:44,360 --> 00:52:46,719
Speaker 1: right now at this point. No, because she was coming

933
00:52:46,760 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 1: after me the whole season it started. Why do you

934
00:52:49,040 --> 00:52:53,000
Speaker 1: think that is? She's not a wife, she's not a mother.

935
00:52:53,560 --> 00:52:55,880
Speaker 1: She you know, she doesn't have the things that I have.

936
00:52:56,200 --> 00:52:58,680
Speaker 1: So she just looked at me like I was a target.

937
00:52:58,800 --> 00:53:01,719
Speaker 1: Like it could be jealousy, who knows, But because I

938
00:53:01,760 --> 00:53:04,600
Speaker 1: don't know, I don't know much about these shows. So

939
00:53:04,760 --> 00:53:06,640
Speaker 1: what is it like we're on this show and we

940
00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:09,200
Speaker 1: just hang out with people that we don't like. Did

941
00:53:09,280 --> 00:53:11,239
Speaker 1: you know Marlo before? No? I didn't know Marlo. So

942
00:53:11,400 --> 00:53:14,360
Speaker 1: that's what I don't understand. How the Candy and Me

943
00:53:14,440 --> 00:53:17,640
Speaker 1: and Porscha went to elementary middle school. They just put

944
00:53:17,719 --> 00:53:20,840
Speaker 1: them they basically just gonna put you together with people,

945
00:53:20,960 --> 00:53:24,880
Speaker 1: so maio some people. Yeah, So if she's trying to

946
00:53:24,960 --> 00:53:28,200
Speaker 1: get in a situation, I'm not sure about her, but

947
00:53:28,400 --> 00:53:30,319
Speaker 1: like she might be in a situation where she wants

948
00:53:30,360 --> 00:53:32,520
Speaker 1: to be a main cast member. So what she's gonna do,

949
00:53:32,920 --> 00:53:35,160
Speaker 1: She's gonna come out of the main cast member. So

950
00:53:35,320 --> 00:53:37,680
Speaker 1: that gives him more light. So now since she's the

951
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:41,480
Speaker 1: newest cast. I was on Loving Hip Hopply I was

952
00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:46,480
Speaker 1: on Loving was like fromself, that's all it is. You know,

953
00:53:46,640 --> 00:53:50,560
Speaker 1: everybody's trying to secure their spots, so that but you

954
00:53:50,760 --> 00:53:52,799
Speaker 1: it's not that much securing in the world when you've

955
00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:56,120
Speaker 1: been on the Housewives for six seasons and you don't

956
00:53:56,120 --> 00:53:59,160
Speaker 1: have a peach and I come on first time and

957
00:53:59,640 --> 00:54:05,520
Speaker 1: have a you know, the main cast, you like there

958
00:54:05,680 --> 00:54:07,840
Speaker 1: doing some ship. So like that's another reason why I

959
00:54:07,920 --> 00:54:10,000
Speaker 1: think she's just coming out. She was already successful as

960
00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:12,480
Speaker 1: a person. Ye already was doing my thing before, like

961
00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:15,359
Speaker 1: I even came on the house If I'm not gonna

962
00:54:15,400 --> 00:54:17,719
Speaker 1: lie back and forth, it's so funny because she'd be

963
00:54:17,760 --> 00:54:22,080
Speaker 1: going off. She's like, listen, friends of the show. I'm like, damn,

964
00:54:24,840 --> 00:54:27,480
Speaker 1: it was funny. Yes, we had not Ronnie, do you

965
00:54:27,560 --> 00:54:29,480
Speaker 1: get upset when you see that? And you're like, if

966
00:54:29,560 --> 00:54:32,719
Speaker 1: y'all don't stop with my wife, not at all, Like

967
00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:37,320
Speaker 1: for me when we agreed to jump into that world,

968
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:41,440
Speaker 1: that's what comes with it. Ultimately, if you're not a fighter,

969
00:54:42,000 --> 00:54:44,440
Speaker 1: if you're not jumping in, then you're gonna be the

970
00:54:44,520 --> 00:54:48,520
Speaker 1: one that they're labeling as boring. Like I know my

971
00:54:48,680 --> 00:54:51,440
Speaker 1: wife is not rocking like that. So every now and

972
00:54:51,520 --> 00:54:55,439
Speaker 1: then it's like, yo, what happened? Okay, cool, you made

973
00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:59,160
Speaker 1: that thing right. I was proud of Shimari ultimately when

974
00:54:59,280 --> 00:55:02,560
Speaker 1: she let Alo know what the fl was going on, like,

975
00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:06,319
Speaker 1: don't sit back, you know, like your mama didn't raise

976
00:55:06,400 --> 00:55:10,560
Speaker 1: you that way. It's not like we're confrontational people, but

977
00:55:10,719 --> 00:55:14,399
Speaker 1: I know one thing. When Samari feels disrespected, she turns

978
00:55:14,440 --> 00:55:18,759
Speaker 1: into a different beast. And Mollo crossed that line and

979
00:55:18,880 --> 00:55:22,279
Speaker 1: she had to get that thing on us. So we

980
00:55:22,400 --> 00:55:25,960
Speaker 1: just feel like, um, it's a platform, it's um, it's

981
00:55:26,080 --> 00:55:29,960
Speaker 1: eyeballs right out and feel like yeah, we feel like

982
00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:33,000
Speaker 1: it's it's the storm, you know, it's the monkes, it's

983
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:36,480
Speaker 1: it's the trenches, but it's it's the darkness, you know,

984
00:55:36,680 --> 00:55:39,560
Speaker 1: And my grandmother would always say it's darkness before the dawn.

985
00:55:39,680 --> 00:55:41,960
Speaker 1: So we're going through some ship right now with all

986
00:55:42,040 --> 00:55:45,439
Speaker 1: the comments and people saying, well, you know, Ronnie, why

987
00:55:45,480 --> 00:55:47,920
Speaker 1: did you accept doing that? Like we loved you from

988
00:55:47,960 --> 00:55:50,000
Speaker 1: new edition, like you need to get off the show,

989
00:55:50,080 --> 00:55:55,920
Speaker 1: and they're saying, but we feel like it's leading us

990
00:55:56,080 --> 00:56:01,120
Speaker 1: to allow us um to speak on our purpose ultimately,

991
00:56:01,239 --> 00:56:04,400
Speaker 1: and that's being marriage ambassadors, and a lot of people

992
00:56:04,400 --> 00:56:08,960
Speaker 1: are talking about being truthful, like we're being transparent. Like

993
00:56:09,560 --> 00:56:12,920
Speaker 1: ship stinks, like you know, anybody's acting like you know

994
00:56:13,239 --> 00:56:16,120
Speaker 1: it's a perfect world and it's not. We're not perfect,

995
00:56:16,440 --> 00:56:21,960
Speaker 1: but ultimately we're sharing because we care. We represent love

996
00:56:22,080 --> 00:56:25,560
Speaker 1: and compassion and forgiveness. That's what we represent. And some talent,

997
00:56:25,840 --> 00:56:30,040
Speaker 1: and what about you, Rico, would you ever consider doing something?

998
00:56:31,640 --> 00:56:34,480
Speaker 1: Why not? Because we've seen you on the artist side

999
00:56:34,520 --> 00:56:37,320
Speaker 1: of things. But I wouldn't. I just don't feel comfortable

1000
00:56:37,360 --> 00:56:39,640
Speaker 1: put my personal situation out there. I don't know somebody

1001
00:56:39,680 --> 00:56:41,759
Speaker 1: else who does. But I will say this and this

1002
00:56:41,920 --> 00:56:46,279
Speaker 1: is not I look at running devotes a legend, right,

1003
00:56:46,760 --> 00:56:54,640
Speaker 1: So so when you did say your fans feel that way,

1004
00:56:55,239 --> 00:56:56,560
Speaker 1: I didn't know you was on the show because I

1005
00:56:56,560 --> 00:57:00,200
Speaker 1: don't watch, but but I will say this, and it

1006
00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:01,920
Speaker 1: should be being honest, cause I'm a fan. I'm a

1007
00:57:02,000 --> 00:57:04,520
Speaker 1: true fan. Is that you do feel like I don't

1008
00:57:04,560 --> 00:57:07,080
Speaker 1: want to see that. I'm from the era of if

1009
00:57:07,080 --> 00:57:08,880
Speaker 1: I don't even want to know, I don't want to

1010
00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:10,399
Speaker 1: know if you're on the stage, you know what I mean.

1011
00:57:10,640 --> 00:57:12,440
Speaker 1: But we're in a different era. We're in a new

1012
00:57:12,520 --> 00:57:14,960
Speaker 1: time where people want to know the backstory. So I

1013
00:57:15,080 --> 00:57:17,760
Speaker 1: respect that, but I do know that I'm that type

1014
00:57:17,800 --> 00:57:19,960
Speaker 1: of fan. I'm the type of fan of like to

1015
00:57:20,000 --> 00:57:22,640
Speaker 1: see that hip hop. No, but I don't. I wasn't

1016
00:57:22,760 --> 00:57:25,840
Speaker 1: loving hip hop, but I was. I was in loving

1017
00:57:25,920 --> 00:57:30,120
Speaker 1: hip hop talking doing straight music. I'm not trying to

1018
00:57:30,200 --> 00:57:34,040
Speaker 1: say he has to be I never saw. I don't

1019
00:57:34,040 --> 00:57:35,640
Speaker 1: know who anything about what he does in there. But

1020
00:57:35,960 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 1: I'm just saying like I'm a different type of fan,

1021
00:57:38,640 --> 00:57:40,720
Speaker 1: so I can't understand the new type of fan. You

1022
00:57:40,760 --> 00:57:42,240
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So if you asked me for

1023
00:57:42,320 --> 00:57:46,640
Speaker 1: my personal how I personally view I personally view New

1024
00:57:46,680 --> 00:57:50,520
Speaker 1: Addition as a deity, viewed them as like gods of music.

1025
00:57:50,920 --> 00:57:54,160
Speaker 1: So when I go and see when when when you know,

1026
00:57:54,440 --> 00:57:56,320
Speaker 1: let's not even go way back. I remember going to

1027
00:57:56,640 --> 00:58:00,200
Speaker 1: any Heartbreak tour and and and when they had he's

1028
00:58:00,240 --> 00:58:03,480
Speaker 1: sweating and uh seven or two opening up, and you know,

1029
00:58:03,800 --> 00:58:06,960
Speaker 1: just being there and under experiencing one of my first concerts.

1030
00:58:07,080 --> 00:58:10,800
Speaker 1: And I love that so too. I'm from an error away.

1031
00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:12,720
Speaker 1: I didn't want to know the personal ship. Yeah, I

1032
00:58:12,840 --> 00:58:14,560
Speaker 1: just wanted you to be the star and on TV.

1033
00:58:14,800 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 1: But I do know that things have changed and if

1034
00:58:16,760 --> 00:58:19,160
Speaker 1: you want to exist in today's climate, we can't exist

1035
00:58:19,280 --> 00:58:23,120
Speaker 1: as we were back in the day. So I'm from

1036
00:58:23,160 --> 00:58:25,400
Speaker 1: that same I can tell on the show, I'd be like, Ronnie,

1037
00:58:25,440 --> 00:58:29,160
Speaker 1: don't want to talk about it, and it's wild because

1038
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:32,919
Speaker 1: you know, you sweep the dirty laundry under the rug,

1039
00:58:33,040 --> 00:58:35,560
Speaker 1: you keep that in the closet, right, And I think

1040
00:58:35,680 --> 00:58:38,040
Speaker 1: that's one of the things that led to the success

1041
00:58:38,160 --> 00:58:41,120
Speaker 1: of the New Edition stories, because we really didn't let

1042
00:58:41,240 --> 00:58:45,920
Speaker 1: people in on that world. So when it came, it's like, y'all, okay,

1043
00:58:46,040 --> 00:58:52,240
Speaker 1: probably wait to see what the hell these cast the

1044
00:58:52,600 --> 00:58:55,280
Speaker 1: bug that's love. She picked the bugger out. Now you

1045
00:58:55,360 --> 00:59:08,160
Speaker 1: gotta eat that. I've been looking at I've been trying

1046
00:59:08,160 --> 00:59:10,120
Speaker 1: to think of the perfect time and just get it out.

1047
00:59:10,200 --> 00:59:11,880
Speaker 1: But you know what, I'm like, it's no, no perfect

1048
00:59:13,240 --> 00:59:21,000
Speaker 1: remember when Bobby dug But like I said this, like

1049
00:59:21,120 --> 00:59:24,000
Speaker 1: I said, I do understand we have to be mature

1050
00:59:24,080 --> 00:59:26,520
Speaker 1: enough to have our perspective, but we also have to

1051
00:59:26,640 --> 00:59:30,600
Speaker 1: understand that things change. We can't expect everybody to move

1052
00:59:30,680 --> 00:59:33,280
Speaker 1: the way we envisioned and moving as a fan because

1053
00:59:33,280 --> 00:59:35,320
Speaker 1: as a fan, it's reality is that come into play

1054
00:59:35,360 --> 00:59:37,120
Speaker 1: and you do have to take your career to the

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00:59:37,240 --> 00:59:40,760
Speaker 1: next level. But I don't. I don't like. I don't

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00:59:40,760 --> 00:59:43,600
Speaker 1: like to see black women fighting each other. It's about nothing,

1057
00:59:43,640 --> 00:59:45,240
Speaker 1: especially when you don't have to. That's why I always

1058
00:59:45,240 --> 00:59:47,480
Speaker 1: feel like, well you don't know us. If you don't like,

1059
00:59:47,560 --> 00:59:49,080
Speaker 1: I want you to stop hanging around. You know. So

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00:59:49,200 --> 00:59:51,000
Speaker 1: those shows kind of confused me a lot because it's

1061
00:59:51,040 --> 00:59:53,200
Speaker 1: like they put you all together like the people who

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00:59:53,200 --> 00:59:57,680
Speaker 1: are successful, and I'm right there, I'm right there with you.

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00:59:57,680 --> 01:00:01,280
Speaker 1: You know. One of us Mari's favorite shows, not back

1064
01:00:01,320 --> 01:00:03,120
Speaker 1: in the day, but you know a few years back,

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01:00:03,280 --> 01:00:06,200
Speaker 1: was The Bad Girls Club, right, And I'm like, yo,

1066
01:00:06,320 --> 01:00:08,560
Speaker 1: why are you watching this Bad Girls Club? Right? So

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01:00:08,680 --> 01:00:13,120
Speaker 1: one day on that one day, so one day I'm like, okay,

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01:00:13,160 --> 01:00:14,920
Speaker 1: well let me just sit down. You know, we we

1069
01:00:15,120 --> 01:00:17,640
Speaker 1: just lounged them into that. I'm just checking it out,

1070
01:00:17,760 --> 01:00:20,240
Speaker 1: like okay, cool, okay yo, hold on, hold on, wait,

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01:00:20,320 --> 01:00:29,400
Speaker 1: turn that in. Let it be a marathon. You'd everything

1072
01:00:29,440 --> 01:00:32,960
Speaker 1: that happens. I showed one episode of The Kardashians and

1073
01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:34,840
Speaker 1: it was when Kim lost a ring in the water.

1074
01:00:35,640 --> 01:00:39,600
Speaker 1: That was the only episode of it. So yeah, dropped

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01:00:39,640 --> 01:00:42,360
Speaker 1: in the water. And I've only watched the Love and

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01:00:42,440 --> 01:00:46,360
Speaker 1: Hip Hop that I've been on. But but but anytime

1077
01:00:46,400 --> 01:00:49,080
Speaker 1: they asked me to be on it, I always tell them,

1078
01:00:49,480 --> 01:00:51,320
Speaker 1: if it's about music, we can talk about it. So

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01:00:51,520 --> 01:00:53,840
Speaker 1: I do a music conference every year do We Love

1080
01:00:53,920 --> 01:00:57,040
Speaker 1: Music Conference, and it's developed songwriters and producers and artists.

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01:00:57,040 --> 01:00:59,360
Speaker 1: And this year we're having it July twelve or thirteen

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01:00:59,400 --> 01:01:04,160
Speaker 1: in Milwaukee Conscion. And what's cool about it is they

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01:01:04,200 --> 01:01:05,760
Speaker 1: asked me to be on Love and Hip Hop Miami

1084
01:01:05,880 --> 01:01:08,040
Speaker 1: this year and I told him I'll be on it,

1085
01:01:08,160 --> 01:01:10,480
Speaker 1: but it has to be us during the Wheel of

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01:01:10,560 --> 01:01:12,960
Speaker 1: Music conference, and I put my logo on the back

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01:01:13,280 --> 01:01:15,720
Speaker 1: and it's promoting the conference, and it was actually all

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01:01:15,880 --> 01:01:19,440
Speaker 1: me and like four females including Trina Um, dre Zy,

1089
01:01:19,960 --> 01:01:23,400
Speaker 1: you know, Ms Mulatto and Um just female rappers up there,

1090
01:01:23,480 --> 01:01:25,600
Speaker 1: just kind of having a discussion. So I used it

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01:01:25,640 --> 01:01:28,480
Speaker 1: as a platform to promote my brand. So I'm not

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01:01:28,680 --> 01:01:31,800
Speaker 1: totally against appearing on them and using the platform because

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01:01:31,800 --> 01:01:34,160
Speaker 1: I've been on the early love and Hip hops with

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01:01:34,320 --> 01:01:36,120
Speaker 1: Olivia and you know a few people, but it was

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01:01:36,200 --> 01:01:41,240
Speaker 1: always Marie. It was always them discussing music and trying

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01:01:41,240 --> 01:01:43,320
Speaker 1: to get my point of view and perspective as far

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01:01:43,400 --> 01:01:45,640
Speaker 1: as their career is concerned. And you actually have an

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01:01:45,640 --> 01:01:49,360
Speaker 1: album coming out, so so use it as a vehicle

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01:01:49,480 --> 01:01:52,120
Speaker 1: they show. That's the first episode they showed us in

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01:01:52,200 --> 01:01:55,560
Speaker 1: the studio thing Love Comes Through by Me and Mari

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01:01:56,000 --> 01:02:01,080
Speaker 1: available on all platforms right now. Platforms also, So I

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01:02:01,120 --> 01:02:05,600
Speaker 1: got album right now called even King Stunt Go I mean,

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01:02:05,760 --> 01:02:07,680
Speaker 1: and and for us, that's what it is. We felt

1104
01:02:07,720 --> 01:02:11,000
Speaker 1: like okay with Marriage Ambassadors not to say that again.

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01:02:11,720 --> 01:02:14,520
Speaker 1: You see, you're hat married for Life. Married for Life

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01:02:14,560 --> 01:02:16,560
Speaker 1: has had his story for life. We're doing Married for

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01:02:16,680 --> 01:02:19,480
Speaker 1: Life walk every single year. This is the third annual

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Speaker 1: Married for Life Walk coming up April seven in Atlanta, Georgia,

1109
01:02:23,280 --> 01:02:25,640
Speaker 1: and we have like five hundred couples and and it's

1110
01:02:25,920 --> 01:02:29,760
Speaker 1: they we walked together who'll probably be way more than that.

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01:02:30,080 --> 01:02:31,960
Speaker 1: You gotta do one in New York. So it could

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01:02:31,960 --> 01:02:35,560
Speaker 1: be Juices for Life and Mary for Like that makes sense, Yeah,

1113
01:02:35,560 --> 01:02:41,560
Speaker 1: because juice, Yeah, the juice bar right after that Married

1114
01:02:41,640 --> 01:02:45,400
Speaker 1: for Life. Walk Hear what I'm saying, after that two miles,

1115
01:02:45,440 --> 01:02:49,080
Speaker 1: they're gonna need something to let me. Oh my god,

1116
01:02:53,600 --> 01:02:58,320
Speaker 1: how do we increase the amount of eyeballs that are

1117
01:02:58,400 --> 01:03:01,600
Speaker 1: on us so that we can speak to family and

1118
01:03:01,720 --> 01:03:04,600
Speaker 1: speak to community and all these different things. And if

1119
01:03:04,640 --> 01:03:06,440
Speaker 1: we got to walk through the mud to a certain

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01:03:06,520 --> 01:03:09,600
Speaker 1: extent until we can get to that position transparent so

1121
01:03:09,720 --> 01:03:12,640
Speaker 1: that people can relate to the challenges that we've gone

1122
01:03:12,680 --> 01:03:15,280
Speaker 1: through and know that you can win that faith fight

1123
01:03:15,440 --> 01:03:18,960
Speaker 1: and be happier and stronger and love after you go

1124
01:03:19,040 --> 01:03:21,480
Speaker 1: through those challenges. Then we're gonna be as transparent as

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01:03:21,560 --> 01:03:24,520
Speaker 1: possible because that helps. As Mary couples, you'll ever have

1126
01:03:24,720 --> 01:03:27,040
Speaker 1: like and for YouTube we go married, do you ever

1127
01:03:27,120 --> 01:03:29,080
Speaker 1: have like a dry period? Because I always hear people

1128
01:03:29,160 --> 01:03:31,800
Speaker 1: talking about we haven't had sex and months and it's

1129
01:03:31,840 --> 01:03:35,680
Speaker 1: done it And like, what's the longest dry period that

1130
01:03:35,800 --> 01:03:40,160
Speaker 1: you've ever had? Oh? My god, probably about what maybe

1131
01:03:40,400 --> 01:03:43,200
Speaker 1: about four or five months? It was longer than that.

1132
01:03:45,840 --> 01:03:51,240
Speaker 1: Through our stuff at least eight nine months. And do

1133
01:03:51,280 --> 01:03:53,360
Speaker 1: you remember the first time y'all had sex again? After that?

1134
01:03:53,840 --> 01:03:57,280
Speaker 1: I don't remember specific because it has to be like

1135
01:03:57,400 --> 01:04:00,320
Speaker 1: monumental because you know when that happens, because my friends

1136
01:04:00,320 --> 01:04:02,840
Speaker 1: had a mary complaint all the time. They'd be like,

1137
01:04:02,960 --> 01:04:07,960
Speaker 1: we never have sex, and sometimes he sleeps on the couch. Right, honestly,

1138
01:04:08,120 --> 01:04:12,720
Speaker 1: No that happened. What's that? Excuse me? She said? Sometimes, Uh,

1139
01:04:12,920 --> 01:04:14,800
Speaker 1: the husband would sleep on the couch. Yeah, but not

1140
01:04:14,880 --> 01:04:18,160
Speaker 1: even sleep on the couch. It's just because I'm watching

1141
01:04:18,200 --> 01:04:22,360
Speaker 1: the ESPN and I fall asleep. You're watching port on

1142
01:04:22,440 --> 01:04:31,720
Speaker 1: the comply. I don't like the mad and sleeping on

1143
01:04:31,760 --> 01:04:34,360
Speaker 1: the couch that's happened. I mean, I can probably count

1144
01:04:34,400 --> 01:04:37,720
Speaker 1: on one hand the times that I went downstairs feeling like,

1145
01:04:38,040 --> 01:04:39,840
Speaker 1: you know, I just don't want to talk about it

1146
01:04:40,000 --> 01:04:43,080
Speaker 1: right now, and again I'm watching TV or something. Then

1147
01:04:43,120 --> 01:04:45,040
Speaker 1: I end up falling to sleep on the couch. It's

1148
01:04:45,080 --> 01:04:47,040
Speaker 1: not like y'all, I'm just going to sleep on the

1149
01:04:47,120 --> 01:04:50,480
Speaker 1: couch tonight, you know. Yeah. All right, Well, look they're

1150
01:04:50,480 --> 01:04:54,000
Speaker 1: telling me you scuts haven't eating dinner. But I do

1151
01:04:54,120 --> 01:04:56,320
Speaker 1: appreciate you all. This was very interesting because you know,

1152
01:04:56,480 --> 01:04:59,240
Speaker 1: Laura Elena have not been married. So I love to

1153
01:04:59,320 --> 01:05:02,960
Speaker 1: hear the perspect America because it is a challenging thing,

1154
01:05:03,160 --> 01:05:05,520
Speaker 1: you know, clearly for a lot of people. But I

1155
01:05:05,600 --> 01:05:07,720
Speaker 1: love to see that you guys have gone through your challenges,

1156
01:05:07,800 --> 01:05:10,800
Speaker 1: come through on the other side. So in love, love

1157
01:05:10,840 --> 01:05:13,000
Speaker 1: each other. They got an album coming out together when

1158
01:05:13,160 --> 01:05:16,880
Speaker 1: they have ultimate blessing on our anniversary? Are how long

1159
01:05:16,960 --> 01:05:22,360
Speaker 1: we've been married? Thirteen years? So on our thirteenth anniversary,

1160
01:05:22,520 --> 01:05:27,000
Speaker 1: we will release the album. Yes, March ten, two thousand nineteen. Yes, yes,

1161
01:05:27,240 --> 01:05:31,120
Speaker 1: it's it's it's exciting times, exciting times for us. Is

1162
01:05:31,160 --> 01:05:37,280
Speaker 1: it finished? Nope, I've never finished working on music. We

1163
01:05:37,360 --> 01:05:41,040
Speaker 1: feel like we're gonna do maybe two more joints. But um,

1164
01:05:41,720 --> 01:05:48,320
Speaker 1: since two thousand, thirteen thirteen we started working on music,

1165
01:05:48,400 --> 01:05:54,160
Speaker 1: so well, like a few months and crazy, you know,

1166
01:05:54,280 --> 01:05:56,280
Speaker 1: all of them ain sick like out of the fifty,

1167
01:05:56,400 --> 01:06:00,160
Speaker 1: i'd probably say thirty of them joints like ready can

1168
01:06:00,200 --> 01:06:03,440
Speaker 1: lists even still to this day. So it's a process.

1169
01:06:04,000 --> 01:06:07,640
Speaker 1: It's so we got albums out right now, even King

1170
01:06:07,760 --> 01:06:11,720
Speaker 1: Star available right now, even get that, go get that,

1171
01:06:12,320 --> 01:06:15,600
Speaker 1: and um, what can we expect from you? Um, it's

1172
01:06:15,640 --> 01:06:18,240
Speaker 1: a lot going on. You know. Um, I just executive

1173
01:06:18,280 --> 01:06:22,040
Speaker 1: produced Big Crits project. Um, me and myself and t I.

1174
01:06:22,280 --> 01:06:24,600
Speaker 1: We we've developed a television show that we're working on,

1175
01:06:24,800 --> 01:06:27,880
Speaker 1: and we went through the final stages of writing the

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01:06:27,920 --> 01:06:29,680
Speaker 1: script and putting the script together. We got a few

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01:06:29,880 --> 01:06:34,200
Speaker 1: few people, few networks that's trying to get Yeah, okay, So, um,

1178
01:06:34,400 --> 01:06:36,800
Speaker 1: it was something we developed a few years ago. But

1179
01:06:36,920 --> 01:06:39,120
Speaker 1: we kind of like Tip is just a real stand

1180
01:06:39,200 --> 01:06:41,520
Speaker 1: up guy because I wrote this concept a few years

1181
01:06:41,560 --> 01:06:43,880
Speaker 1: ago and I gave it to him, and um, some

1182
01:06:43,960 --> 01:06:46,240
Speaker 1: people run off with your idea for like three or

1183
01:06:46,240 --> 01:06:47,960
Speaker 1: four years later. Hear me, but say, you remember that

1184
01:06:48,000 --> 01:06:51,000
Speaker 1: concept you gave me. I got like five networks, So

1185
01:06:51,000 --> 01:06:54,080
Speaker 1: I'm like what and he you know, we've been going

1186
01:06:54,120 --> 01:06:55,720
Speaker 1: back and forth with the script and we've been doing

1187
01:06:55,720 --> 01:06:57,280
Speaker 1: a lot of cool things with that as far as

1188
01:06:57,320 --> 01:06:58,800
Speaker 1: that concerned. So we've been having a lot of fun.

1189
01:06:59,080 --> 01:07:00,840
Speaker 1: I've been working a lot of different artists, you know.

1190
01:07:00,920 --> 01:07:05,200
Speaker 1: I'm just developing and doing Vico Love Presents, um where

1191
01:07:05,200 --> 01:07:07,640
Speaker 1: I'm just kind of developing new acts and branding new artists.

1192
01:07:08,000 --> 01:07:12,240
Speaker 1: But also in Miami left that's got to happen. Also,

1193
01:07:12,280 --> 01:07:15,400
Speaker 1: I wanted people understand, um, it's a story to be

1194
01:07:15,520 --> 01:07:17,560
Speaker 1: told about people in this game who are able to

1195
01:07:17,600 --> 01:07:20,439
Speaker 1: weather storms. And I went to a very tough time

1196
01:07:20,960 --> 01:07:23,479
Speaker 1: past few years, being sued by so many different people

1197
01:07:23,560 --> 01:07:26,240
Speaker 1: and being wrongly accused of business dealings and things like that,

1198
01:07:26,720 --> 01:07:29,480
Speaker 1: and actually losing lawsuits and a lot of times that

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01:07:29,520 --> 01:07:31,520
Speaker 1: can be career ending and that could be like almost

1200
01:07:31,600 --> 01:07:33,880
Speaker 1: life ending tragedies. And I was able to overcome all

1201
01:07:33,920 --> 01:07:37,120
Speaker 1: those things and bounce back and get my everything back right,

1202
01:07:37,160 --> 01:07:40,960
Speaker 1: and without even people even knowing that's the that's the

1203
01:07:41,240 --> 01:07:47,240
Speaker 1: not even sometimes characters, it's true character be able to

1204
01:07:47,280 --> 01:07:49,520
Speaker 1: bounce back. But it's a blessing when you were able

1205
01:07:49,560 --> 01:07:53,040
Speaker 1: to go through it in private, because sometimes the media

1206
01:07:53,080 --> 01:07:55,040
Speaker 1: will get ahold and find out you being sued, to

1207
01:07:55,120 --> 01:07:57,320
Speaker 1: find out this company had went under fund, out this

1208
01:07:57,520 --> 01:08:00,080
Speaker 1: to happened, and this you know, so um to be

1209
01:08:00,120 --> 01:08:01,560
Speaker 1: able to go through those things and come through it

1210
01:08:01,640 --> 01:08:04,160
Speaker 1: on the other side, I don't want to say unscathed,

1211
01:08:04,320 --> 01:08:06,920
Speaker 1: but I know it was just a difficult period for me,

1212
01:08:06,960 --> 01:08:09,480
Speaker 1: And that's why this project missed so much. Just release

1213
01:08:09,560 --> 01:08:11,520
Speaker 1: it for the people, because I never as telling Angel

1214
01:08:11,560 --> 01:08:13,840
Speaker 1: I was never going to do another project, but be

1215
01:08:13,960 --> 01:08:15,680
Speaker 1: able to do it and go through so much and

1216
01:08:15,840 --> 01:08:17,719
Speaker 1: come back on the other side. I'm very much inspired

1217
01:08:17,760 --> 01:08:21,960
Speaker 1: by you all because I never ever believed in marriage.

1218
01:08:22,000 --> 01:08:23,760
Speaker 1: I never believe in it. I never believe that they

1219
01:08:23,800 --> 01:08:26,160
Speaker 1: could work. I never believe that. Um it was. I

1220
01:08:26,280 --> 01:08:27,920
Speaker 1: just never was a fan of it because I never

1221
01:08:28,000 --> 01:08:31,479
Speaker 1: had examples around me on successful marriages. So to see

1222
01:08:31,840 --> 01:08:35,720
Speaker 1: black love is inspiring, and um I'm praying that you

1223
01:08:35,840 --> 01:08:39,599
Speaker 1: guys continue to weather all storms. And I'm just happy

1224
01:08:39,640 --> 01:08:41,000
Speaker 1: to be in the presence of people who I can

1225
01:08:41,120 --> 01:08:44,519
Speaker 1: learn something from because that's what always went through affect

1226
01:08:44,520 --> 01:08:47,560
Speaker 1: your marriage. Um it was very very It's one of

1227
01:08:47,560 --> 01:08:49,639
Speaker 1: those things where you know, I don't even really want

1228
01:08:49,680 --> 01:08:51,120
Speaker 1: to even get into it, but it's just one of

1229
01:08:51,160 --> 01:08:54,040
Speaker 1: those things where it's just so heavy on all parties,

1230
01:08:54,360 --> 01:08:57,200
Speaker 1: especially Like I said, it's difficult to have empathy for

1231
01:08:57,280 --> 01:09:00,800
Speaker 1: anybody who hurts you. So when you're going through rough

1232
01:09:00,920 --> 01:09:03,040
Speaker 1: times and you're and you're with somebody who you feel

1233
01:09:03,080 --> 01:09:05,160
Speaker 1: like did you wrong at a period of time, you

1234
01:09:05,320 --> 01:09:07,280
Speaker 1: almost like it's almost like somebody could watch you go

1235
01:09:07,400 --> 01:09:12,439
Speaker 1: through it and not be effective karma. But what they

1236
01:09:12,479 --> 01:09:16,240
Speaker 1: don't understand is I was I was planted, not buried.

1237
01:09:16,520 --> 01:09:20,280
Speaker 1: So a lot of times when you plant, people confused

1238
01:09:20,280 --> 01:09:22,880
Speaker 1: that for being buried, and when you're being watered, you're

1239
01:09:22,920 --> 01:09:25,679
Speaker 1: going into something bigger than what it was. So people

1240
01:09:25,800 --> 01:09:29,360
Speaker 1: around you can't what you gotta understand to pay you

1241
01:09:31,200 --> 01:09:34,240
Speaker 1: what you have to understand there is Man does not

1242
01:09:34,400 --> 01:09:37,040
Speaker 1: dictate karma to me. And that's why I don't even

1243
01:09:37,120 --> 01:09:38,840
Speaker 1: believe in karma. I believe you read what you so

1244
01:09:39,080 --> 01:09:43,080
Speaker 1: that's biblical. So karma is man made. Karma is another

1245
01:09:43,200 --> 01:09:45,599
Speaker 1: person's way of trying to dictate to you what you deserve.

1246
01:09:46,040 --> 01:09:47,880
Speaker 1: And God is the only person that could dictate to

1247
01:09:47,960 --> 01:09:50,599
Speaker 1: me what I deserved. So even at my roughest times,

1248
01:09:50,760 --> 01:09:53,120
Speaker 1: I look back on it and I say I was planning.

1249
01:09:53,560 --> 01:09:55,800
Speaker 1: I wasn't buried. And a lot of times people who

1250
01:09:55,920 --> 01:09:58,320
Speaker 1: you've wrong because in life we were not perfect and

1251
01:09:58,360 --> 01:10:01,960
Speaker 1: we could wrong people. Sometimes times as we go through things,

1252
01:10:02,120 --> 01:10:04,519
Speaker 1: it's difficult for them to have empathy for us because

1253
01:10:04,560 --> 01:10:06,639
Speaker 1: they're human. That doesn't make them bad people. That doesn't

1254
01:10:06,680 --> 01:10:09,439
Speaker 1: make they didn't But sometimes it's human. They can watch

1255
01:10:09,520 --> 01:10:11,760
Speaker 1: you and say, well, that's what you get, not understanding,

1256
01:10:12,720 --> 01:10:15,000
Speaker 1: but not understanding, like no there saying what I get?

1257
01:10:15,080 --> 01:10:17,960
Speaker 1: This is the blessing. This is what's gonna make me stronger.

1258
01:10:18,360 --> 01:10:20,559
Speaker 1: This is the thing that I was just to see before.

1259
01:10:21,040 --> 01:10:23,439
Speaker 1: And as a seed, I was recognizing, praised for being

1260
01:10:23,479 --> 01:10:26,120
Speaker 1: this amazing seed. But now that the seed is planted

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