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<v Speaker 1>Natively and pot is a production of iHeartRadio in partnership

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<v Speaker 1>with Reason Choice Media.

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<v Speaker 2>Nobody knows the troubles I've seen.

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<v Speaker 3>Welcome Home to That was pretty terrible. I had dreams

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<v Speaker 3>coming out to an audience he's a hater, and that

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<v Speaker 3>was not what I expected. I wanted people standing up,

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<v Speaker 3>walk off stage real quick, Andrew, I got a court

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<v Speaker 3>walk off stage.

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<v Speaker 4>No, no, no, this is the compromise.

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<v Speaker 5>We're actually going to bring on a third special host

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<v Speaker 5>tonight and maybe y'all give that person a little more love.

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<v Speaker 5>But let me let me just say before we get

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<v Speaker 5>too far into this one, it is a complete pleasure,

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<v Speaker 5>joy privileged to be in the great state of Georgia.

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<v Speaker 4>Uh.

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<v Speaker 5>My mother lives in Georgia, was born in Georgia. Down

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<v Speaker 5>in South Georgia. Valdosta is where she's at. Uh, but

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<v Speaker 5>raised in this area called Clydesville. I actually don't know

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<v Speaker 5>if it's Clyettesville, the Clydesville.

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<v Speaker 6>You know they're not in here.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, But the point is is that they are watching Bacari,

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<v Speaker 5>which a rude ass. Anyway, I just wanted to say

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<v Speaker 5>we are down one of our co hosts today, Angela

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<v Speaker 5>Raie and she wanted to be here with everything in

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<v Speaker 5>her But the day before yesterday, her father had to

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<v Speaker 5>go to the emergency room and they discovered some issues

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<v Speaker 5>that required her him going into surgery today. And so

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<v Speaker 5>she's back in Seattle with her family, tending to her parents.

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<v Speaker 4>But right now and touch.

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<v Speaker 5>And agree, we will simply invoke God have your way,

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<v Speaker 5>and we know what will be perfect.

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<v Speaker 6>Man man, amen, amen, amen. I love that. So one

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<v Speaker 6>of the things that.

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<v Speaker 3>We remember about Angela most importantly is that she actually

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<v Speaker 3>thought that Florida and M University.

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<v Speaker 6>Isn't that what it's called.

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<v Speaker 4>No, sir, you wouldn't know.

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<v Speaker 3>And Morehouse College had a rivalry, and what I kept

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<v Speaker 3>telling me, we didn't have a rivalry there.

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<v Speaker 6>Val I do want.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway, So I want everyone who's in the room who

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<v Speaker 3>actually went to an HBC, you just to clap really

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<v Speaker 3>quickly so people know that you all are in here.

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<v Speaker 6>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>And for everybody else who didn't go to an HBC.

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<v Speaker 3>You will go to the next topic, which is to

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<v Speaker 3>bring on. What we want to do is make sure

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<v Speaker 3>that everybody knows that we have a host who uh

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<v Speaker 3>was She actually was here before I was.

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<v Speaker 4>She sure was a four hundred episodes.

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<v Speaker 3>For a four hundred episodes, and there is a little

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<v Speaker 3>thing on Wikipedia right now this says she left because

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<v Speaker 3>I came. So I'm glad that we are going to

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<v Speaker 3>be able to address that today. But she was phenomenal

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<v Speaker 3>in MSNBC. She's a New York Times best selling author.

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<v Speaker 3>She has another book out right now, none other than

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<v Speaker 3>Tiffany Kraus.

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<v Speaker 4>Welcome Home to the Natives.

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<v Speaker 2>Leaning on the podcast, face everybody.

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<v Speaker 5>Did you can we get a thank you for all

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<v Speaker 5>the priming we did for your standing ovation in the room.

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<v Speaker 6>I know they ain't even clap for us.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean after Bacari kicked me off the podcast, that

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<v Speaker 1>you can do.

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<v Speaker 4>There's that.

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<v Speaker 3>I just told everybody I was Beyonce and that we

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<v Speaker 3>had a pharaoh, and we realized who Pharaoh was as

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<v Speaker 3>soon as she left the group.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't even know.

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<v Speaker 6>Who Pharaoh was.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, I'm gonna say this is the d I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>just give a little brief lesson on the dangers of

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<v Speaker 1>AI because on my last show I said this being silly,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, well, when Bakari joined, he said, he's

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<v Speaker 1>Beyonce and there can only be one Beyonce in this group,

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<v Speaker 1>and so he put it in his contract that I

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<v Speaker 1>had to leave when he came. Because AI cannot detect

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<v Speaker 1>sarcasm when you google dwhy did Tiffany leave native Land?

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<v Speaker 1>That was the answer that came up.

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<v Speaker 6>Yes, it came up.

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<v Speaker 1>People wouldn't see me out and they were like, gird,

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<v Speaker 1>can't believe Bakari, And I was like me either, me either.

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<v Speaker 6>So I have haters I didn't even know.

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<v Speaker 5>But know the good news is you had haters before,

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<v Speaker 5>but now they have a reason, Bakari to hate all

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<v Speaker 5>you think. No serious note, I also know that we

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<v Speaker 5>have some maybe less famous people to you to the

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<v Speaker 5>audience here, but very famous to me. My dad's sister,

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<v Speaker 5>my aunt Patricia Gilham Sam's is here with my cousin

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<v Speaker 5>La Laura and Blake and Sage and missus Sam. So

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<v Speaker 5>I just want to thank them because I am because

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<v Speaker 5>you are.

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<v Speaker 1>So can I give a quick shout out? You must

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<v Speaker 1>please A dear, dear, dear friend of mine who is

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<v Speaker 1>now mister popular in Atlanta. But Joelan Martin is a

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<v Speaker 1>representative with Remy Martin and he I've known him my

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<v Speaker 1>entire life. He is my family.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh I mean remy family.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh Remy Martin Gartree roomy for everybody. He is here somewhere,

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<v Speaker 1>I think somewhere in the back table. But he has

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<v Speaker 1>known me my whole life since I was fifteen. So

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<v Speaker 1>when you see him doing promoting events out for Remy Martin,

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<v Speaker 1>show him some love. Thank you, Joelan, wherever you are.

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<v Speaker 6>We are nothing without all of you all.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely amazing thing is when when black folks try to

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<v Speaker 3>do things in black spaces, it becomes really really interesting sometimes.

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<v Speaker 3>And so on a It's what night, Tuesday, on a

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<v Speaker 3>Tuesday night for all of you all to be here,

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<v Speaker 3>I just want to say that with ay tickets. My

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<v Speaker 3>mom and dad would always tell me the two most

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<v Speaker 3>important words in the English language are the words thank you,

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<v Speaker 3>and they're not nearly said enough. And so before we

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<v Speaker 3>begin tonight's pod, I just want to simply say thank you,

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<v Speaker 3>thank you for your time, and thank you for your treasure.

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<v Speaker 3>And in the words of the great American poet Dwayne

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<v Speaker 3>Carter also known as Lil Wayne, we ain't shit without y'all,

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<v Speaker 3>and so thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 6>For all like you all being here.

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<v Speaker 3>Y'all have a seat, so we actually one of the

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<v Speaker 3>things we want to talk about first is and one

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<v Speaker 3>of the things since Tiffany is here is the first

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<v Speaker 3>I called it the five and a half year point

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<v Speaker 3>and Andrew and I got into a fight in the

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<v Speaker 3>car on the way over here because it fam they

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<v Speaker 3>don't know how to do math, but you're a joke.

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<v Speaker 6>Five and a half years.

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<v Speaker 3>Of Donald Trump, and I wanted to hear because many

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<v Speaker 3>people don't realize like that, that's been five and a

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<v Speaker 3>half years of consistently, every single day just being beat

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<v Speaker 3>down and put upon by the news that's coming.

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<v Speaker 5>Before you go. I want to defend my math. First

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<v Speaker 5>of all, it hasn't been a five consistent years. Oh

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<v Speaker 5>my god, it was broken up by four years of Biden.

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<v Speaker 5>But really, the thought I had was Donald Trump one

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<v Speaker 5>point zero has turned out to be He's got all

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<v Speaker 5>the awfulness that was there the first time, but now

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<v Speaker 5>he has the mechanisms, the levers of the government. The

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<v Speaker 5>people who are willing to be sick aphantic committed simply

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<v Speaker 5>to him and not to the Constitution, not to their olds,

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<v Speaker 5>not to the country on its two hundred and fiftieth birthday.

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<v Speaker 4>And so I think two point oh.

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<v Speaker 5>Trump is exceptionally more dangerous because he's he is I

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<v Speaker 5>think there is a mental situation that that needs to

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<v Speaker 5>be worked out. I think there is some issue of

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<v Speaker 5>aging just ohd. But more importantly, now it's not just old,

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<v Speaker 5>it's old and henre and more than that, dangerous when

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<v Speaker 5>you're so hateful and at his court, he's hateful and

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<v Speaker 5>so now that he doesn't have to care about public

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<v Speaker 5>opinion anymore, I think the next two years, Donald Trump

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<v Speaker 5>now a deer in the headlights, with Democrats hopefully winning

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<v Speaker 5>back control. Dictators before they die, do their most extreme work,

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<v Speaker 5>their most dangerous work, their most terrifying work. And so

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<v Speaker 5>I just think we ought to prepare ourselves for what's

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<v Speaker 5>still to come, because if Democrats flipped the House and

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<v Speaker 5>the Senate, y'all, we got another thing coming up with

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<v Speaker 5>this president, he's gonna he's going to take action and

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<v Speaker 5>ask questions later.

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<v Speaker 3>So thank you for showing us how you did math

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<v Speaker 3>and narrator, he did not show up.

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<v Speaker 4>I did do math five.

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<v Speaker 3>But what I would what I wanted to do is

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<v Speaker 3>ask Tiffany, like over the last year and a half,

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, we My dad always says the difference between

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<v Speaker 3>Donald Trump and Richard Nixon is that Richard Nixon had

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<v Speaker 3>shame and Donald Trump has none, all right, And so

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<v Speaker 3>what over the last what are the highlights and low

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<v Speaker 3>lights over the last year and a half, because we

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<v Speaker 3>both of y'all, that's what I want to know. What

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<v Speaker 3>have you seen that has shocked the conscience? What have

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<v Speaker 3>you seen that's been like hmmm? And what do you

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<v Speaker 3>look forward to over the next year and a half

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<v Speaker 3>before we get to the elections or half a year

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<v Speaker 3>before we get into the next election cycle.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think the highlight has been the unmasking. I

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<v Speaker 1>think there's not a lot of surprise to us. We've

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<v Speaker 1>always known and this is not anything new to the country.

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<v Speaker 1>I hate when I hear people say this is not

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<v Speaker 1>who we are, this is not America. It's actually pretty consistent.

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<v Speaker 1>Even a modest student of American history understands how consistent

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<v Speaker 1>it is. The challenge, though I have kind of putting

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<v Speaker 1>this in the highlight, is it has tapped into our

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<v Speaker 1>imagination in a lot of ways because I hear you

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<v Speaker 1>Andrew like, oh, let the Democrats take control again. And

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if I'm on that anymore. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I am not too keen to save something that never

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<v Speaker 1>really served us in the first place.

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<v Speaker 6>And that's not what It's not.

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<v Speaker 1>The Democratic Party, but it is democracy itself because Donald

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<v Speaker 1>Trump was elected through a democratic system. When Roe was overturned,

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<v Speaker 1>that happened through a democratic system. So when you're navigating

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<v Speaker 1>this space with people whose beliefs are rooted in your

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<v Speaker 1>oppression and destruction, I don't know how we coexist with

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<v Speaker 1>those people in a democratic society. Now, obviously this means

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<v Speaker 1>we have to go out and fight on every front. So, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>we have to go out and vote, Yes we have

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<v Speaker 1>to go out in canvas. Yes we got to write

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<v Speaker 1>a check when we can. But I wonder, okay, so

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<v Speaker 1>if Democrats get control, then what we gonna do with it?

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<v Speaker 1>Because you see now never Trumpers, well named never Trumpers,

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<v Speaker 1>posting things like abolish ice. Now, there was a wing

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<v Speaker 1>of the Democratic Party when that was happening. They didn't

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<v Speaker 1>like that. And so now when you see never Trumper's this,

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<v Speaker 1>and certain people in the Democratic Party, it is appalling.

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<v Speaker 1>I am pissed off about it because you're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>so it wasn't such a radical idea, It wasn't so

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<v Speaker 1>bad when we were out there screaming this on the streets.

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<v Speaker 1>I think in the Democratic Party, you still see the

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<v Speaker 1>suppression of black women and other black voices when it

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<v Speaker 1>comes to who's getting a contract to help you reach community,

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<v Speaker 1>community validators, when it comes to who's getting backed, when

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<v Speaker 1>it comes to who they think is a viable candidate.

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<v Speaker 1>And as Black women, I have to say, we are

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<v Speaker 1>so tired of that shit. Right now. It feels like

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<v Speaker 1>we are still begging to be heard, begging to lead

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<v Speaker 1>in a space that routinely mutes our voices and dismisses us.

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<v Speaker 1>So looking at all the lows of Donald Trump, it

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<v Speaker 1>has pierced for me something in my spirit. Where I

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<v Speaker 1>look at what's happening, nothing is a surprise because we

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<v Speaker 1>already saw it's really to correct both, y'all, math it's

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<v Speaker 1>been ten years, because he came on the scene in

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<v Speaker 1>sixteen and has been a terror ever since. And so

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<v Speaker 1>when I look at there's no surprise, and I look

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<v Speaker 1>at this isn't I'm not a Kamala Harris Sika fan.

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<v Speaker 1>But she was a well qualified candidate, the most qualified candidate.

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<v Speaker 1>And when I look at you saw this half witted

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<v Speaker 1>idiot and said I would rather vote for him than her,

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<v Speaker 1>it makes me question, y'all really hate us, You really

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<v Speaker 1>hate us, So I'm a little disheartened and heartbroken. So

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<v Speaker 1>I don't really have highlights other than like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know y'all in this room, but I know every single

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<v Speaker 1>last one of y'all in this room, and so I'm

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<v Speaker 1>blessed to be part of a community because where I

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<v Speaker 1>see y'all, I feel safe, and I think this environment

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<v Speaker 1>has highlighted that for me more than anything.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't applause to that because I don't know that

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<v Speaker 5>I have a point of disagreement about your analysis on

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<v Speaker 5>where the country has failed. But in two hundred and

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<v Speaker 5>fifty years, a country, to quote angela ride that was

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<v Speaker 5>built by us for free, is not one that we

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<v Speaker 5>should just let folks gallivant around and celebrate and take

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<v Speaker 5>no part in appreciating the role that black folks have

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<v Speaker 5>contributed to bending the arc of justice a little more

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<v Speaker 5>our way. And while it's not perfect, it's absolutely not perfect.

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<v Speaker 5>It'd be hard to wake up doing this work, working

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<v Speaker 5>every day in a system that yes, rejects you, doesn't

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<v Speaker 5>like you, figures out ways to create quicksand for every

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<v Speaker 5>step that we take. But there are wrinkles in this

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<v Speaker 5>thing where we've seen moments where we have been able

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<v Speaker 5>to thrive.

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<v Speaker 4>Where we can think long enough to just take a.

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<v Speaker 5>Deep breath and say, who, I'm so glad that this

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<v Speaker 5>isn't yesterday, but I'm still hopeful that tomorrow will be better.

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<v Speaker 4>I know that I rejoice in.

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<v Speaker 5>The fact that coming from where I came from, with

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<v Speaker 5>the my mother and my father and the way they

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<v Speaker 5>had to work, and the way I in which I

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<v Speaker 5>saw their lifestyles rejected, and then to have a son

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<v Speaker 5>go on and be the first of their kids to

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<v Speaker 5>graduate from high school and then go on to college

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<v Speaker 5>and compete for the highest office in the land in Florida.

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<v Speaker 4>I know that there are steps.

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<v Speaker 5>We didn't get there, but there's steps, and there's cracks,

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<v Speaker 5>and their folks will come by and us and do better.

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<v Speaker 5>What I'm hopeful for about twenty twenty six is that

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not being a cheerleader for the Democrats. But what

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<v Speaker 5>I do want is somebody who's going to put handcuffs

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<v Speaker 5>on the Trump administration based off of the lawlessness that.

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<v Speaker 4>They exhibited over these last four years.

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<v Speaker 5>Every candidate who is running for office, we have to

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<v Speaker 5>ask them, because Democrats are terribly afraid of saying, oh,

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<v Speaker 5>we're gonna impeach and oh, we're going to investigate because

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<v Speaker 5>they're afraid they'll lose Republicans if they say we're going

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<v Speaker 5>to hold them accountable. But you cannot get my vote,

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<v Speaker 5>I will show up at a poland I will vote

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<v Speaker 5>at blank ballot if I can't hear from you that

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<v Speaker 5>you believe one hundredth one thousand percent in account of

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<v Speaker 5>and these next two years must be committed to holding

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<v Speaker 5>these people accountable. If we don't do it, y'all, if

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<v Speaker 5>they don't in Congress, lock some people up, and there

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<v Speaker 5>are a lot of them to be locked up.

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<v Speaker 4>If they don't claw back some.

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<v Speaker 5>Of the money, they'll monuments called clause where the president

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<v Speaker 5>has taken just the grift. His family's getting richer and

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<v Speaker 5>richer by the billions. Well, everything that we have to

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<v Speaker 5>go and pay for in a grocery store costs more money.

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<v Speaker 5>They're over there, his son don't even work for the government,

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<v Speaker 5>is negotiating a peace treaty on the behalf of who

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<v Speaker 5>And we wonder why the peace treaties keep failing. Then

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<v Speaker 5>the president comes out and makes a positive statement and

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<v Speaker 5>the markets go crazy and they get another winfall of money.

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<v Speaker 5>So I'm just saying if folks don't go to jail,

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<v Speaker 5>that's how I could be. I'm not a Democrat and

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<v Speaker 5>two twenty eight, but as if we don't lock some

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<v Speaker 5>people up.

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<v Speaker 3>I hear you, and I think that I'm a little

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<v Speaker 3>bit more firm than both of you guys in my stands,

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<v Speaker 3>not saying that you're wrong, because I would just footnote

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<v Speaker 3>both of the things that you all say.

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<v Speaker 6>But elections are about choices. I don't I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think people fully grasp but that when you

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<v Speaker 3>go to that ballot box and most elections you have

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<v Speaker 3>an A or a B. Right, And I know that

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<v Speaker 3>the weariness that we have is that black folk in

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<v Speaker 3>this room, regardless of where we come from or our

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<v Speaker 3>plot in life, are usually voting to mitigate harm. Of course,

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<v Speaker 3>that's that is how we vote, That's how we approach voting, right,

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, And that's an unfortunate stance. One of one

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<v Speaker 3>of the things that I've always told people is that

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<v Speaker 3>one of one of my goals in life is to

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<v Speaker 3>make sure that black folks can get out of out of.

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<v Speaker 6>Saying the word survive and begin to say the word thrive.

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<v Speaker 3>Like that's where I want us to be and I

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<v Speaker 3>recognize the difficulty because Tiffany articulated that, like I don't

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<v Speaker 3>have and I call names and because I don't care,

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<v Speaker 3>but I don't have the utmost faith in the King Jefferies, right,

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<v Speaker 3>I just he doesn't for me. It doesn't when I

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<v Speaker 3>take a shower at night and I'm in this singing

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<v Speaker 3>Joe Deasy to show to after party in the hotel,

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<v Speaker 3>like I'm.

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<v Speaker 6>Not thinking about how y'all don't know that album next next.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, anyway, so I'm not thinking about how King Jefferies

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<v Speaker 3>is going to take me to the Promised Land.

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<v Speaker 6>Like that's not that's not my my goal.

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<v Speaker 5>On line, I don't think we should be by the

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<v Speaker 5>way b I think we make a mistake when we

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<v Speaker 5>keep casting individuals but are safe.

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<v Speaker 6>But see, my goal is different. But my goal is different.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't I don't have a Messiah complex, which is

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<v Speaker 3>what a lot of black folks have. And I'm talking

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<v Speaker 3>to us, like a lot of us have this complex

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<v Speaker 3>where we're waiting on the next great We're waiting on

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<v Speaker 3>Barack Obama like democrats, Black folk, we had this thing

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<v Speaker 3>where we're waiting on Barack Obama, waiting on JFK. Worriiting

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<v Speaker 3>on this person like a codal personality. I'm not waiting

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<v Speaker 3>on that. My goal is very simple because I firmly

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<v Speaker 3>believe that every ounce of change we've ever had in

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<v Speaker 3>this country has been because of black blood that flowed

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<v Speaker 3>through the streets. And when I say that, I'm talking

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<v Speaker 3>about like sixty four to sixty five Voting Rice Act

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<v Speaker 3>is because white people were able to see us get

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<v Speaker 3>beat on the Edmon Pettus Bridge.

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<v Speaker 6>Right.

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<v Speaker 3>The sixty eight Fair Housing Act is all because LBJ

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<v Speaker 3>had to do something with black folk because they saw

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<v Speaker 3>King get assassinated. In South Carolina, we didn't have a

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<v Speaker 3>conversation about the Confederate flag until nine people, including my

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<v Speaker 3>friend Clym, were killed in a church.

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<v Speaker 6>Right.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't have a conversation about criminal justice reform unless

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<v Speaker 3>you have Danella Fraser, black woman seventeen years old, takes

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<v Speaker 3>her camera out and sees George Floyd with a knee

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<v Speaker 3>in the back of his neck for over nine minutes.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm very cognizant of the fact that the price

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<v Speaker 3>for change for black people in this country is really,

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<v Speaker 3>really high. And what I'm trying to do with my

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<v Speaker 3>life is dry that cost down and so that's how

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<v Speaker 3>I kind of look at the political spectrum, like what

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<v Speaker 3>is going to make Sadie and Stokely have to not

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<v Speaker 3>pay what Abraham Lincoln call kind of the the the

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<v Speaker 3>ultimate price of our angels in order to have the

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<v Speaker 3>change that they deserve. And so I'm just trying to

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<v Speaker 3>cost drive the cost of change for black folk down.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think that that is why I see it

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<v Speaker 3>more clear eyed in terms of the alternatives we have

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<v Speaker 3>at the ballot box while trying to hold Democrats accountable.

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<v Speaker 3>For me, it's a very easy choice under most circumstances.

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<v Speaker 5>For a lot of people, is not an easy choice

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<v Speaker 5>when they compare that My life was in heale before,

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<v Speaker 5>it's been inhale through Democrats, and I'm not sure what's

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<v Speaker 5>going to change after them.

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<v Speaker 4>And for the.

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<v Speaker 5>First time, I'm prepared to lean a little bit in

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<v Speaker 5>into that reality that a lot of folks lives, they

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<v Speaker 5>don't don't experience tangible at home changes in their lives,

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<v Speaker 5>meaning it didn't get radically better.

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<v Speaker 4>No, no, no, let me just finish this one.

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<v Speaker 5>It didn't get radically better when Democrats were in charge

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<v Speaker 5>of the House, Senate and the presidency. We still were

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<v Speaker 5>mitigating against harm because the political climate didn't create room.

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<v Speaker 3>For we webs because you didn't get a single payer system.

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<v Speaker 3>No still have you still have people who you still

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<v Speaker 3>have for example, you still have rural health care systems

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<v Speaker 3>that are able to thrive. You still have to get it.

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<v Speaker 3>Who are able to be on their healthcare to their

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<v Speaker 3>the age of twenty six, I get it. There are

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<v Speaker 3>women in this room that had C sections and those

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<v Speaker 3>were considered to be pre existing conditions and they were

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<v Speaker 3>excluded from getting health care that now can get health

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<v Speaker 3>care because of what we now call Obamacare, they call

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<v Speaker 3>the Affordable Care Act.

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<v Speaker 5>Right, but the a lot of things that we often

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<v Speaker 5>give them from Washington is not what they are actually

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<v Speaker 5>asking for. So we've got We've seen people who send

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<v Speaker 5>millions or billions from down from the federal government, and

0:20:00.359 --> 0:20:01.040
<v Speaker 5>the folks say.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't need a check, I needed a job. I

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<v Speaker 4>wanted the opportunity.

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<v Speaker 5>I needed you simply to take your foot off my

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<v Speaker 5>neck and open the door and I can go in

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<v Speaker 5>and do the work. Most black men I was talking

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<v Speaker 5>to during these elections, including mine.

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<v Speaker 4>Was like Gillowians, and you for no handout. We ain't

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<v Speaker 4>never got no handout.

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<v Speaker 5>They were putting their shoulder to the wheel day after day,

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<v Speaker 5>understanding that they had to put sweat, equity, body, ancestral

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<v Speaker 5>equity into getting just a thing out of it. I'm

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<v Speaker 5>prepared this election to simply say, you mentioned you will vote,

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<v Speaker 5>that there's a time and a season for everything, and

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<v Speaker 5>I think this may not, in twenty six be the

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<v Speaker 5>season where we hear Democrats cast incredible visions for what

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<v Speaker 5>they're going to do over the next two years for

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<v Speaker 5>the country.

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<v Speaker 4>Because they can't do it.

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<v Speaker 5>Donald Trump will still be president and he can steal

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<v Speaker 5>veto I don't need that from them for twenty six.

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<v Speaker 5>I want you to reconcile the terra that has been

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<v Speaker 5>wrought on all of us over these last several years

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<v Speaker 5>of this administration, hold people accountable, slow this man down

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<v Speaker 5>and the damage that he is causing. And in twenty

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<v Speaker 5>twenty eight, if you're running for president, vision cast tell

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<v Speaker 5>me what your your hope's highest ambitions and dreams are.

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<v Speaker 6>I just think that's such.

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<v Speaker 1>A I hear you. I appreciate the point. I don't disagree.

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<v Speaker 1>I just think it's for both of you all. It

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<v Speaker 1>feels like such a low bar for all that we

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<v Speaker 1>have done, and.

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<v Speaker 6>Bar is in hell right now.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. Hey, that's what I'm saying. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just done with that low bar. Like you're saying, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>can we have a society where we don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>make a blood sacrifice for change? And you're saying, you know, can.

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<v Speaker 4>All you can do is be breathing?

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<v Speaker 1>And I got you right, But like you're saying, can

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<v Speaker 1>they lock up some of the Trump people? And that

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<v Speaker 1>seems like the most basic shit of all.

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<v Speaker 4>That's what It's going to be the hardest thing they.

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<v Speaker 1>Do, even if it's the hardest thing they do, though,

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<v Speaker 1>Like my politics are not Democrat, my politics are Black,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm really exhausted with trying to convince a party

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<v Speaker 1>that we disproportionately uphold of our humanity. And you talked

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<v Speaker 1>about Abraham Lincoln. Another thing Abraham Lincoln said is after enslavement,

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<v Speaker 1>he was like, you know what, maybe we can't live

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<v Speaker 1>together like we we y'all ain't never gonna forgive what

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<v Speaker 1>we did to y'all, and y'all not gonna ever forgive

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<v Speaker 1>us for what we did. And I'm starting to let me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll just give you two seconds. See what I can't

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<v Speaker 1>get into minutes.

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<v Speaker 4>To finish my point.

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<v Speaker 1>The point is he's like, maybe we can't live together.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I have been bearing witness for my entire

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<v Speaker 1>forty seven years. Y'all supposed to gat a good girl.

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<v Speaker 3>I've never I have never say the number I got

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<v Speaker 3>thirty years, last.

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<v Speaker 1>One of these forty seven years, and my entire forty

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<v Speaker 1>seven years. And I know it's people older than me

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<v Speaker 1>who have forgot more than I know, seeing terror, seeing

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<v Speaker 1>our blood spill, and I just have not seeing a

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<v Speaker 1>space where we can coexist peacefully. Like I'm not. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>out of the business of trying to change hearts and minds.

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<v Speaker 1>You know I don't. And you know, Bakari, like when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm the times I'm at CNN, don't make fucking small

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<v Speaker 1>talk with me. Don't turn to me during the commercial break.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't give a damn where you're oldest, think about

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<v Speaker 1>going to college, or where y'all going on summer vacation.

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<v Speaker 1>You here advocating for some bullshit that's rooted in people

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<v Speaker 1>shooting a mom in the face and a nurse in

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<v Speaker 1>the back. Don't say shit to me. That's how I feel,

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<v Speaker 1>And so I'm angry right now. Don't tell me you

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<v Speaker 1>an ally show me. We'll let you know if you

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<v Speaker 1>an ally show me what you're doing. So I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>so aligned to say, oh, let's get out there and

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<v Speaker 1>elect more Democrats, because a lot of times what they

0:23:40.560 --> 0:23:43.280
<v Speaker 1>say is I can win those Trump voters. I can

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<v Speaker 1>reach across the aisle, my good friend. Don't tell me that.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell me how you're gonna dance with the one who

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<v Speaker 1>brung you. Tell me how you gonna keep me inspired

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<v Speaker 1>to get out. And every single time they walk in

0:23:52.320 --> 0:23:54.280
<v Speaker 1>the middle of the road on APAX, they walk in

0:23:54.280 --> 0:23:56.080
<v Speaker 1>the middle of the road, on the genocide, they walk

0:23:56.080 --> 0:23:59.479
<v Speaker 1>in the middle of the road on they are deplorable people.

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<v Speaker 1>They are racist, vile people who uphold this man under

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<v Speaker 1>the guise of Christianity. And I'm just exhausted with it.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm not saying don't vote. Yeah, we're gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>out and vote and do everything. If mid terms happen,

0:24:11.160 --> 0:24:18.320
<v Speaker 1>we will go out and show up there. But no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>because I think this is an important point. You say

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<v Speaker 1>they gonna happen.

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<v Speaker 6>They are everybody.

0:24:23.160 --> 0:24:25.800
<v Speaker 1>Seems to be waiting for some invisible line to be

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<v Speaker 1>crossed with Donald Trump, because it is totally behind us.

0:24:30.000 --> 0:24:33.440
<v Speaker 1>So the idea that we're taking for granted that midterms

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<v Speaker 1>will happen, Maybe some form of midterms will happen. Will

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<v Speaker 1>it be free and fair elections? I don't know, Or

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<v Speaker 1>could it be that there's some sort of thing that happens,

0:24:43.600 --> 0:24:45.800
<v Speaker 1>a terrorist attack. It's too dangerous for us to have

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<v Speaker 1>mid terms. So he's gonna say, Nope, ain't no voting.

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<v Speaker 1>The more that we go along under the naivete of

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<v Speaker 1>this is what we've always known, then that's.

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<v Speaker 6>More dangerous for us.

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<v Speaker 1>We have to be wise that some shit is gonna go.

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<v Speaker 6>We need to be prepared.

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<v Speaker 3>Folk have always been under the guys in the reality

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<v Speaker 3>that some shit is going to go down. I mean,

0:25:04.440 --> 0:25:07.760
<v Speaker 3>we come from a people where our grandparents in this

0:25:07.880 --> 0:25:10.840
<v Speaker 3>room literally had to count the number of jellybeans in

0:25:10.880 --> 0:25:13.760
<v Speaker 3>a jar in order to be able to cast a ballot.

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<v Speaker 3>When I ran for office the first time in two

0:25:15.520 --> 0:25:18.000
<v Speaker 3>thousand and six, this wasn't a long time ago, but

0:25:18.040 --> 0:25:20.199
<v Speaker 3>in two thousand and six, we had white folk to

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<v Speaker 3>get out and they actually cranked a salt off shotgun

0:25:23.320 --> 0:25:25.800
<v Speaker 3>in front of the on three twenty one in Denmark,

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<v Speaker 3>South Carolina and got out the car because I had

0:25:28.320 --> 0:25:30.800
<v Speaker 3>a line of voters outside and they walked around their

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<v Speaker 3>truck the entire day. So I am not Yeah, I

0:25:35.280 --> 0:25:38.360
<v Speaker 3>believe that all the things you're saying are true. However,

0:25:38.400 --> 0:25:43.520
<v Speaker 3>I also believe that there's nothing that we haven't overcome

0:25:43.680 --> 0:25:46.440
<v Speaker 3>and should we have to is a totally different conversation

0:25:46.840 --> 0:25:49.119
<v Speaker 3>because we all agree that the answer is we should not.

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<v Speaker 3>I as like a random acide. I think, I don't

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<v Speaker 3>know how many millennials are in the room, but you're

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<v Speaker 3>not going to cheer to this, But I do think.

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<v Speaker 3>I do think millennials are the first generation. Black Millennials

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<v Speaker 3>are the first generation in American history to actually leave

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<v Speaker 3>the country worse uh than the one that we inherit it.

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<v Speaker 4>They haven't begun to make their mark in complete total.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know that well, I mean, unless we get

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<v Speaker 3>on our horse right now, I think, I mean, how

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<v Speaker 3>much more.

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<v Speaker 6>First of all, we're forty.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, I'm glad.

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<v Speaker 3>You know there there are generations before us. I mean

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<v Speaker 3>every twenty six, but I mean every I mean every

0:26:32.280 --> 0:26:35.199
<v Speaker 3>movement for change was led by young people. And all

0:26:35.240 --> 0:26:37.199
<v Speaker 3>I'm saying is my analysis of where we are right

0:26:37.240 --> 0:26:38.920
<v Speaker 3>now is pretty pretty desperate.

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<v Speaker 6>Let me let's I actually.

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<v Speaker 5>Think a lot of young people have been the ones

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<v Speaker 5>holding Democrats accountable to your.

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<v Speaker 4>Point on the general No, no, no, no, millennials gen.

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<v Speaker 5>Z ors owe us a whole lot and we're and

0:26:52.000 --> 0:26:54.520
<v Speaker 5>I'm part of the very tail end.

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<v Speaker 3>So so let me let me ask you, but let

0:26:56.080 --> 0:26:58.440
<v Speaker 3>me tell let the question so you can respond real quick.

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<v Speaker 3>So what you're what you're I am saying that in

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<v Speaker 3>our time frame of adulthood, like we've gone backwards.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, but you're saying that millennials.

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<v Speaker 4>No, I didn't tell you. That wasn't what you said.

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<v Speaker 4>We have absolutely no, that's like fundamentally what I said.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, but millennials are not responsible for the transgression, is

0:27:21.680 --> 0:27:25.560
<v Speaker 5>what I'm saying. We as a country have absolutely gone back. So,

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<v Speaker 5>first of all, Barack Obama was president of the United

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<v Speaker 5>States when Mitch McConnell.

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<v Speaker 4>Decided to steal two US.

0:27:32.040 --> 0:27:35.000
<v Speaker 5>Supreme Court seats that put a Supreme Court in place that,

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<v Speaker 5>for the first time in American history, took rights away

0:27:37.800 --> 0:27:39.119
<v Speaker 5>from people instead of giving them.

0:27:39.160 --> 0:27:41.320
<v Speaker 3>Donald Trump became President of the United States, where many

0:27:41.359 --> 0:27:43.359
<v Speaker 3>of our same friends were talking about. Donald Trump and

0:27:43.480 --> 0:27:45.480
<v Speaker 3>Hillary Clinton were the lesser of two evils.

0:27:45.200 --> 0:27:48.200
<v Speaker 5>And many forty four to sixty five year old black

0:27:48.240 --> 0:27:50.399
<v Speaker 5>men were voting the wrong way at that time and

0:27:50.440 --> 0:27:51.479
<v Speaker 5>in marginal ways.

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<v Speaker 4>We lost ground in very pivotal stume, not because of it,

0:27:54.880 --> 0:27:56.160
<v Speaker 4>on you were blaming.

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<v Speaker 6>What all I'm saying.

0:27:57.280 --> 0:28:03.320
<v Speaker 3>Is is that we are literally like in heroically like objectively.

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<v Speaker 6>It's literally, it's it's an objective fact. We are the

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<v Speaker 6>first generation. If you look at if.

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<v Speaker 4>We are the first generation where we've lost rights. Correct,

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<v Speaker 4>that's correct. My point is is that.

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<v Speaker 5>This is this is the bigger point, which is this

0:28:17.240 --> 0:28:19.439
<v Speaker 5>is the bigger point I'd like to go to. I

0:28:19.480 --> 0:28:21.600
<v Speaker 5>agree with you on that. Maybe I got confused the

0:28:21.640 --> 0:28:22.639
<v Speaker 5>tequila is showing up.

0:28:22.680 --> 0:28:26.320
<v Speaker 4>I don't know the one drinking the tequila is showing up.

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<v Speaker 4>That's my point.

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<v Speaker 5>But but what what I think I get your point.

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<v Speaker 5>If elections happen, if this happens, if that happens. The

0:28:36.920 --> 0:28:39.959
<v Speaker 5>reason I don't think the analysis was complete, which is

0:28:40.680 --> 0:28:42.760
<v Speaker 5>they stole ballats. They came down here with a Sippia

0:28:42.760 --> 0:28:45.320
<v Speaker 5>and took ballats out of Georgia. They attempted to do

0:28:45.440 --> 0:28:50.120
<v Speaker 5>the same thing in Arizona. The president has already lit

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<v Speaker 5>what we like to call trial balloons. That is, you

0:28:52.800 --> 0:28:55.840
<v Speaker 5>put an idea out there and see how much pushback

0:28:55.880 --> 0:28:58.280
<v Speaker 5>you get to that idea before you come forward and

0:28:58.320 --> 0:29:00.600
<v Speaker 5>say this is the policy I'm gonna pu or it

0:29:00.760 --> 0:29:04.400
<v Speaker 5>is not. He has floated several trial balloons and has

0:29:04.440 --> 0:29:08.240
<v Speaker 5>been swatted back by people taking actions saying you cannot

0:29:08.240 --> 0:29:10.040
<v Speaker 5>go there, mister President. And I got to tell you,

0:29:10.080 --> 0:29:12.320
<v Speaker 5>I hate to acknowledge them, but many of those people

0:29:12.320 --> 0:29:14.240
<v Speaker 5>who have done the swatting back have been Republicans that

0:29:14.240 --> 0:29:16.200
<v Speaker 5>have said, if you go that far, you will not

0:29:16.240 --> 0:29:18.040
<v Speaker 5>have my support. In fact, I'll be on the other

0:29:18.080 --> 0:29:21.080
<v Speaker 5>side of that. They don't get no credit. But the

0:29:21.120 --> 0:29:23.800
<v Speaker 5>fact is still the fact. And right now he ain't

0:29:23.800 --> 0:29:26.840
<v Speaker 5>listening to Democrats. He doesn't care for Democrats, and they

0:29:26.840 --> 0:29:29.080
<v Speaker 5>have the majority of the Senate and the majority of

0:29:29.120 --> 0:29:31.600
<v Speaker 5>the House. And until the Speaker of the House decides

0:29:31.640 --> 0:29:33.760
<v Speaker 5>to put a check on the president, he's going to

0:29:33.840 --> 0:29:37.239
<v Speaker 5>keep running roughshod. So will the elections happen? And am

0:29:37.280 --> 0:29:40.440
<v Speaker 5>I gong ho about them? I'm gung ho about getting

0:29:40.440 --> 0:29:42.560
<v Speaker 5>the man out of office, putting a check on him,

0:29:42.560 --> 0:29:44.400
<v Speaker 5>and trying to rescue us from the bowels of hell

0:29:44.800 --> 0:29:45.720
<v Speaker 5>that he's driven us to.

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<v Speaker 6>I agree with that, and then.

0:29:47.120 --> 0:29:50.400
<v Speaker 5>We can build on dreams and aspirations beyond him.

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<v Speaker 6>And see they don't they just bully me.

0:29:52.720 --> 0:29:54.200
<v Speaker 4>No, you say wrong things.

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<v Speaker 3>See actually I think I had anyway, So uh one

0:30:00.560 --> 0:30:04.120
<v Speaker 3>of the we anticipated to have a fully political discussion

0:30:04.160 --> 0:30:07.920
<v Speaker 3>with you guys for the entire hour of our discussion,

0:30:08.480 --> 0:30:11.120
<v Speaker 3>right and talk about Donald Trump, in which we did.

0:30:11.240 --> 0:30:15.600
<v Speaker 3>But we have a special guest that's joining us as well.

0:30:15.720 --> 0:30:17.360
<v Speaker 3>I want you to bring her out first, and then

0:30:17.400 --> 0:30:20.560
<v Speaker 3>I want a table set for discussion that I think

0:30:20.760 --> 0:30:22.920
<v Speaker 3>that black men and black women need to have in

0:30:22.960 --> 0:30:25.760
<v Speaker 3>a room such as this, because if we can't have

0:30:25.800 --> 0:30:29.040
<v Speaker 3>that discussion in this room, my fear is where can.

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<v Speaker 6>We have it?

0:30:30.360 --> 0:30:37.000
<v Speaker 4>And nobody knows.

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<v Speaker 1>So time to reset the gender balance on this stage.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to bring to this stage doctor key Hallman,

0:30:46.080 --> 0:30:48.480
<v Speaker 1>if she can make her way to this stage. She

0:30:48.840 --> 0:30:51.719
<v Speaker 1>is a fixture here in Atlanta. She has a shop

0:30:52.320 --> 0:30:57.280
<v Speaker 1>just across in the Ponts Market. She's an investor, a businesswoman,

0:30:57.680 --> 0:31:00.160
<v Speaker 1>and she does a lot of civic work in the community.

0:31:00.760 --> 0:31:03.080
<v Speaker 1>But she can tell you more specifically what she does

0:31:03.080 --> 0:31:05.960
<v Speaker 1>as soon as her microphone starts working. She's coming right now,

0:31:06.000 --> 0:31:11.360
<v Speaker 1>come on out.

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<v Speaker 6>We thank you, thank you so uh.

0:31:14.880 --> 0:31:17.080
<v Speaker 3>Andrew and I we were having a discussion, and the

0:31:17.160 --> 0:31:21.040
<v Speaker 3>reason we were is as we were preparing for today.

0:31:21.640 --> 0:31:24.880
<v Speaker 3>I just felt it wasn't just and I think that

0:31:25.080 --> 0:31:28.200
<v Speaker 3>the four of us would agree for us to have

0:31:28.240 --> 0:31:33.520
<v Speaker 3>a conversation without talking about the cultural happenstances of the day,

0:31:33.720 --> 0:31:37.640
<v Speaker 3>and happenstances probably is not the word that describes the

0:31:37.680 --> 0:31:42.280
<v Speaker 3>weight of it. However, on Monday morning, I believe it was.

0:31:42.360 --> 0:31:44.560
<v Speaker 3>I can't recall the exact date I woke up and

0:31:44.600 --> 0:31:48.720
<v Speaker 3>sent a Senate Was it Monday? I can't even recall

0:31:48.720 --> 0:31:52.440
<v Speaker 3>my days or running together. I sent a text to

0:31:52.480 --> 0:31:55.760
<v Speaker 3>our group chat because one of my friends and I

0:31:55.760 --> 0:31:58.480
<v Speaker 3>don't I would. I'm gonna let Andrew describe him as

0:31:58.960 --> 0:32:04.640
<v Speaker 3>he was just Fairfax actually, And the crazy part about

0:32:04.680 --> 0:32:06.760
<v Speaker 3>it was I had been talking to Justin a few

0:32:06.840 --> 0:32:11.520
<v Speaker 3>times over the past year, and I was I would

0:32:11.600 --> 0:32:15.040
<v Speaker 3>expect the message to be that Justin had killed himself,

0:32:17.880 --> 0:32:20.800
<v Speaker 3>and that probably is a troublesome reality for a lot

0:32:20.880 --> 0:32:25.240
<v Speaker 3>of people in the room. However, the text message read

0:32:25.320 --> 0:32:28.920
<v Speaker 3>that Justin had not only killed himself, but he killed

0:32:28.960 --> 0:32:30.240
<v Speaker 3>his wife first.

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<v Speaker 6>And then the.

0:32:32.960 --> 0:32:35.880
<v Speaker 3>Text message got a little bit worse that his son

0:32:36.080 --> 0:32:39.160
<v Speaker 3>was actually the person who called nine one one, as

0:32:39.240 --> 0:32:42.320
<v Speaker 3>both his children were in the home. I mean then,

0:32:42.360 --> 0:32:47.120
<v Speaker 3>we just saw recently in Shreveport where a gentleman who

0:32:47.200 --> 0:32:50.400
<v Speaker 3>had kind of called out for help on social media

0:32:50.560 --> 0:32:55.600
<v Speaker 3>had then gone back and killed eight young people. And

0:32:55.680 --> 0:33:00.360
<v Speaker 3>we've seen his kids like ages. I don't know the ages,

0:33:00.400 --> 0:33:03.640
<v Speaker 3>but I know the youngest one was one one through nine.

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<v Speaker 3>I believe is right, but I'm not sure, and I

0:33:05.360 --> 0:33:07.440
<v Speaker 3>don't want to misquote it because I want to make

0:33:07.440 --> 0:33:11.640
<v Speaker 3>sure that we actually give this portion of the conversation

0:33:12.360 --> 0:33:17.560
<v Speaker 3>the gravity that it deserves. And so I wanted to

0:33:17.640 --> 0:33:19.960
<v Speaker 3>be able to have to This is my level set.

0:33:19.960 --> 0:33:21.720
<v Speaker 3>And y'all can cuss me out and say I'm wrong,

0:33:21.760 --> 0:33:22.960
<v Speaker 3>and I've been wrong before.

0:33:23.320 --> 0:33:26.360
<v Speaker 5>I just want to evoke Mayor made her from a

0:33:26.400 --> 0:33:28.880
<v Speaker 5>graduate of FAM you who was the vice mayor of

0:33:28.920 --> 0:33:30.040
<v Speaker 5>a city down in Florida.

0:33:30.160 --> 0:33:32.120
<v Speaker 4>She worked for my campaign for governor.

0:33:31.840 --> 0:33:37.400
<v Speaker 5>A beautiful spirit, two years married, and was killed by

0:33:37.400 --> 0:33:43.200
<v Speaker 5>her husband, who repeatedly reported to his family that he

0:33:43.440 --> 0:33:47.320
<v Speaker 5>saw after committing the heinous murder, that he just couldn't

0:33:47.320 --> 0:33:49.440
<v Speaker 5>take it anymore. He just couldn't take it anymore. And

0:33:49.440 --> 0:33:51.960
<v Speaker 5>we don't have We don't have the full picture of

0:33:51.960 --> 0:33:55.280
<v Speaker 5>what that is. But something is going on.

0:33:55.600 --> 0:33:57.840
<v Speaker 3>So I wanted a space and this is where I

0:33:57.840 --> 0:34:00.360
<v Speaker 3>can be completely wrong, but I don't care about jumping

0:34:00.360 --> 0:34:03.360
<v Speaker 3>off a ledge with you all. I wanted space, particularly

0:34:03.400 --> 0:34:05.920
<v Speaker 3>with Tiffany here, who hoes me accountable on everything, and

0:34:06.520 --> 0:34:08.040
<v Speaker 3>this is our first converse. I know you've been on

0:34:08.080 --> 0:34:10.600
<v Speaker 3>the show, but our first conversation together. I wanted a

0:34:10.640 --> 0:34:14.560
<v Speaker 3>space where we could have a conversation about ensuring that

0:34:14.600 --> 0:34:20.480
<v Speaker 3>we hold individuals accountable for their actions, assuring ourselves that

0:34:20.520 --> 0:34:23.520
<v Speaker 3>we're lifting up Serena Fairfax, for example, who's been left

0:34:23.520 --> 0:34:28.240
<v Speaker 3>out of a lot of the conversations, and not butt.

0:34:28.520 --> 0:34:30.560
<v Speaker 3>I don't want to say butt because it negates everything

0:34:30.600 --> 0:34:33.800
<v Speaker 3>before it, but and also having a space for black

0:34:33.840 --> 0:34:35.880
<v Speaker 3>men to be able to call out when they have

0:34:36.040 --> 0:34:39.239
<v Speaker 3>issues of mental health or issues that they're going through,

0:34:39.280 --> 0:34:42.480
<v Speaker 3>and making sure that their screams are not in vain,

0:34:43.480 --> 0:34:45.920
<v Speaker 3>because I feel like both of those things are happening

0:34:46.520 --> 0:34:49.040
<v Speaker 3>and we're missing the pulset on both of them. And

0:34:49.160 --> 0:34:52.399
<v Speaker 3>until we actually have a conversation such as this, where

0:34:52.440 --> 0:34:55.000
<v Speaker 3>we're sitting in a room such as this, where we

0:34:55.080 --> 0:35:01.040
<v Speaker 3>can chastise a little, hold accountable, but also breathe. I

0:35:01.040 --> 0:35:03.520
<v Speaker 3>don't think that we can fix this problem unless we

0:35:03.600 --> 0:35:06.760
<v Speaker 3>have real conversations about what's going on in our community.

0:35:07.520 --> 0:35:08.840
<v Speaker 3>And so that's how I open it up.

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<v Speaker 1>Tiffany, thank you so honoring that Justin was your friend,

0:35:14.000 --> 0:35:17.520
<v Speaker 1>and I'm honoring you all for allowing this safe space.

0:35:17.680 --> 0:35:19.799
<v Speaker 1>And we want this to be an interactive conversation, so

0:35:19.920 --> 0:35:21.719
<v Speaker 1>we will open the mic because we want to hear

0:35:21.760 --> 0:35:26.239
<v Speaker 1>from you all too. You know, I'll just focus on

0:35:26.440 --> 0:35:28.240
<v Speaker 1>Justin for now because I think that was the tipping

0:35:28.280 --> 0:35:33.600
<v Speaker 1>point for this conversation. So when this first happened, I

0:35:33.640 --> 0:35:39.160
<v Speaker 1>was absorbing it all. I knew Justin as well. What

0:35:39.440 --> 0:35:45.040
<v Speaker 1>started to transpire after that, This wasn't when people started

0:35:45.040 --> 0:35:48.200
<v Speaker 1>posting pictures and making remarks about him and this is

0:35:48.239 --> 0:35:52.680
<v Speaker 1>my frat brother, and you know, almost like celebratory of him.

0:35:53.000 --> 0:35:57.160
<v Speaker 1>These were not trumpers, These weren't in cells, they hadn't

0:35:57.200 --> 0:36:01.120
<v Speaker 1>been red pilled, you know, like these were dudes we know,

0:36:01.360 --> 0:36:04.640
<v Speaker 1>we rock with, we love and I think it's black women.

0:36:04.719 --> 0:36:06.520
<v Speaker 1>We had to sit back and look at that, like

0:36:06.600 --> 0:36:11.480
<v Speaker 1>are you fucking kidding me? Like this man murdered his

0:36:11.640 --> 0:36:15.600
<v Speaker 1>wife and was his children in the house and knew

0:36:15.640 --> 0:36:19.160
<v Speaker 1>that they would find him as a scene, thinking, feeling person.

0:36:19.200 --> 0:36:22.319
<v Speaker 1>I did have empathy. I remember talking to you about

0:36:22.360 --> 0:36:25.400
<v Speaker 1>it in our chat when you you know, kind of

0:36:25.440 --> 0:36:27.840
<v Speaker 1>framed it and I was like, yeah, there was a

0:36:27.840 --> 0:36:30.600
<v Speaker 1>part of me that didn't want white run media to

0:36:30.600 --> 0:36:34.600
<v Speaker 1>get a hold of this narrative and you know, do

0:36:34.680 --> 0:36:39.960
<v Speaker 1>what they do with our stories. But my empathy and

0:36:40.000 --> 0:36:41.640
<v Speaker 1>I had this space to work this out with you

0:36:41.719 --> 0:36:45.920
<v Speaker 1>all privately and now publicly because I was asking, you know,

0:36:46.040 --> 0:36:48.800
<v Speaker 1>my my empathy first went to the wife. She's the

0:36:48.840 --> 0:36:52.400
<v Speaker 1>biggest victim in all of this. And I did wonder,

0:36:52.560 --> 0:36:54.640
<v Speaker 1>how did Justin get to that point? How did that

0:36:54.800 --> 0:37:01.680
<v Speaker 1>darkness usurp him? And I asked our friend Aaron Haynes,

0:37:01.800 --> 0:37:06.600
<v Speaker 1>president of n ABJ, wonderful journalist with the nineteenth You know,

0:37:06.719 --> 0:37:11.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm not wrong for having wondered what happened with Justin?

0:37:12.840 --> 0:37:14.600
<v Speaker 6>You're now you're sitting where we're.

0:37:14.480 --> 0:37:17.480
<v Speaker 1>Sitting like well, I asked, probably what we.

0:37:17.520 --> 0:37:19.120
<v Speaker 6>What do we not do? What do we not see?

0:37:19.440 --> 0:37:22.240
<v Speaker 1>But that was a different question because I was asking,

0:37:22.560 --> 0:37:27.040
<v Speaker 1>am I wrong for thinking in this moment? You know, gosh,

0:37:27.040 --> 0:37:31.040
<v Speaker 1>what happened with justin and Aaron responded in a way

0:37:31.040 --> 0:37:33.240
<v Speaker 1>that I just kind of had to hold and she said,

0:37:33.440 --> 0:37:36.040
<v Speaker 1>your empathy for him ended the moment he shot his

0:37:36.080 --> 0:37:39.360
<v Speaker 1>wife in the head and left his kids to find her.

0:37:39.719 --> 0:37:41.560
<v Speaker 1>I know this is your friend, Bakari. So I say

0:37:41.640 --> 0:37:45.720
<v Speaker 1>this with love and sympathy. But it did feel hurtful

0:37:45.920 --> 0:37:51.359
<v Speaker 1>to see how black men couched this conversation after all,

0:37:51.520 --> 0:37:53.839
<v Speaker 1>like we are just it feels like it's not who's

0:37:53.840 --> 0:37:56.400
<v Speaker 1>suffering more. It feels like we are the face of

0:37:56.400 --> 0:37:59.400
<v Speaker 1>the enemy right now. Shit feels like it's a black.

0:37:59.120 --> 0:38:01.120
<v Speaker 6>Women don't answer, chime in, but I want you to know.

0:38:01.120 --> 0:38:02.080
<v Speaker 1>I want doctor key.

0:38:02.480 --> 0:38:07.440
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but I said in silence as well. So I

0:38:07.520 --> 0:38:13.319
<v Speaker 3>literally made no public statement, no public remark other than

0:38:13.360 --> 0:38:16.360
<v Speaker 3>to lift up the kids, which may actually be the

0:38:16.400 --> 0:38:21.080
<v Speaker 3>public remark that is necessary during this time because.

0:38:22.320 --> 0:38:25.399
<v Speaker 6>I I don't know. I just didn't know. I don't

0:38:25.480 --> 0:38:27.320
<v Speaker 6>I still don't know. I don't know how to grapple

0:38:27.360 --> 0:38:27.560
<v Speaker 6>with it.

0:38:27.600 --> 0:38:29.040
<v Speaker 1>And I don't know if this is a mental health

0:38:29.080 --> 0:38:30.080
<v Speaker 1>conversation either.

0:38:30.440 --> 0:38:31.480
<v Speaker 4>Well I think so it is.

0:38:31.840 --> 0:38:35.719
<v Speaker 1>It this is Let me just say why, Because there

0:38:35.760 --> 0:38:39.879
<v Speaker 1>are men who I know who struggle with depression. I

0:38:39.960 --> 0:38:42.520
<v Speaker 1>struggle you sitting in between what I want to say,

0:38:42.520 --> 0:38:44.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to say, but I know that the

0:38:44.600 --> 0:38:48.080
<v Speaker 1>people on this state struggle with depression, including myself. I

0:38:48.280 --> 0:38:50.759
<v Speaker 1>never thought I'm gonna go home and shoot my loved

0:38:50.800 --> 0:38:51.439
<v Speaker 1>one in the head.

0:38:51.600 --> 0:38:56.279
<v Speaker 5>I agree, I agree to if I so, Aaron asked

0:38:56.280 --> 0:38:59.720
<v Speaker 5>you your empathy and stated pretty firmly, your empathy should

0:38:59.719 --> 0:39:01.000
<v Speaker 5>have been did it when he did what he did?

0:39:01.440 --> 0:39:04.200
<v Speaker 5>And maybe the empathy is one part of it, but

0:39:04.320 --> 0:39:08.280
<v Speaker 5>should your curiosity, your wonder of how we got here?

0:39:08.560 --> 0:39:12.120
<v Speaker 5>And I don't think that should end because I knew

0:39:12.200 --> 0:39:19.080
<v Speaker 5>someone who was upstanding, who broke barriers, who when we talked,

0:39:19.120 --> 0:39:23.080
<v Speaker 5>talked a bunch about his family and his kids. And

0:39:23.320 --> 0:39:26.200
<v Speaker 5>I think it's one of those spaces that more than

0:39:26.239 --> 0:39:27.320
<v Speaker 5>one thing can be true.

0:39:27.400 --> 0:39:29.120
<v Speaker 4>At a time I was abhoard.

0:39:29.320 --> 0:39:31.640
<v Speaker 5>I mean, maccary was the one who told me about

0:39:31.760 --> 0:39:34.799
<v Speaker 5>Justin and then all the messages came in. We campaigned together,

0:39:34.880 --> 0:39:37.080
<v Speaker 5>he came down to Florida and we spent a good

0:39:37.080 --> 0:39:41.960
<v Speaker 5>deal of time together. And in the years since, but

0:39:42.160 --> 0:39:47.840
<v Speaker 5>since sexual alleged sexual misconductor and assault allegations came down,

0:39:48.480 --> 0:39:50.480
<v Speaker 5>you saw a man who went from being Lieutenant governor

0:39:50.480 --> 0:39:54.160
<v Speaker 5>of the state, the second in command, a former Confederate

0:39:54.160 --> 0:40:00.439
<v Speaker 5>headquarters state to someone who couldn't be employed. And I'm

0:40:00.480 --> 0:40:04.200
<v Speaker 5>sure huge breakdowns on the household, the family, and then

0:40:04.239 --> 0:40:06.640
<v Speaker 5>you're like, man, my wife and I haven't been on

0:40:06.719 --> 0:40:10.759
<v Speaker 5>the best at know certain points. I have not had

0:40:11.040 --> 0:40:18.280
<v Speaker 5>suicidal aviation or the thought of killing anybody. But mostly

0:40:18.320 --> 0:40:22.319
<v Speaker 5>it's because I could never. One I wouldn't touch a

0:40:22.320 --> 0:40:25.440
<v Speaker 5>woman like that, but two, I could never orphan my children.

0:40:26.040 --> 0:40:28.839
<v Speaker 5>I could, I just don't. It feels me as most

0:40:28.880 --> 0:40:32.239
<v Speaker 5>selfish thing anybody could consider. And if you were in

0:40:32.280 --> 0:40:35.920
<v Speaker 5>that moment, it's like, nah, that's my kid's mother, if

0:40:36.000 --> 0:40:37.799
<v Speaker 5>nothing else, and you hate her guts because you're going

0:40:37.800 --> 0:40:41.600
<v Speaker 5>through a process. She's got people depending on her, your

0:40:41.680 --> 0:40:45.399
<v Speaker 5>people spawn of you depending on her, and I don't

0:40:45.440 --> 0:40:47.480
<v Speaker 5>know how you scar them for life in that way,

0:40:47.520 --> 0:40:49.360
<v Speaker 5>and a whole bunch of other reasons. But I do

0:40:49.480 --> 0:40:52.240
<v Speaker 5>think if we don't, if we if we can only

0:40:52.280 --> 0:40:55.759
<v Speaker 5>say one of his one is bad and the other

0:40:55.800 --> 0:40:58.480
<v Speaker 5>one's good, and that's how the story goes down, and

0:40:59.440 --> 0:41:02.520
<v Speaker 5>nobody deserve to be killed, right the action should never

0:41:02.560 --> 0:41:05.040
<v Speaker 5>have taken place, But I don't think it should begin

0:41:05.120 --> 0:41:09.040
<v Speaker 5>and end with That's the monster, and here's the victim,

0:41:09.280 --> 0:41:13.000
<v Speaker 5>and stay away from monsters from here too. Fourth, because

0:41:13.000 --> 0:41:15.319
<v Speaker 5>I think we lose a lot in the thread, we

0:41:15.400 --> 0:41:16.520
<v Speaker 5>lose a lot in the nuance.

0:41:16.719 --> 0:41:17.000
<v Speaker 1>Doctor.

0:41:17.920 --> 0:41:19.800
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I want you to try. Sure.

0:41:19.880 --> 0:41:24.160
<v Speaker 7>So I do think there's time for curiosity. But what

0:41:24.239 --> 0:41:26.600
<v Speaker 7>was saddening to me is that before we could get

0:41:26.640 --> 0:41:33.480
<v Speaker 7>to curiosity, we neglected mourning. We neglected that a black woman,

0:41:34.400 --> 0:41:40.640
<v Speaker 7>a human being, was murdered and there is no point

0:41:40.800 --> 0:41:45.000
<v Speaker 7>in her children lifetime. Could we ever imagine what they

0:41:45.000 --> 0:41:49.800
<v Speaker 7>would carry inside of them? And if we can go deeper,

0:41:49.840 --> 0:41:52.760
<v Speaker 7>I don't know if they've lost people in their lives,

0:41:53.320 --> 0:41:56.840
<v Speaker 7>but these two children saw their bodies of their parents

0:41:58.280 --> 0:42:02.520
<v Speaker 7>handed down by their father. So before we started to

0:42:02.640 --> 0:42:07.440
<v Speaker 7>post about our our brother, our friend, a dignitary, can

0:42:07.480 --> 0:42:12.279
<v Speaker 7>we take a moment and pause for the trauma, the

0:42:12.440 --> 0:42:16.920
<v Speaker 7>neglect to take care of yourself so you don't kill

0:42:17.400 --> 0:42:21.960
<v Speaker 7>and decimate young people's future because they're going to carry that.

0:42:22.800 --> 0:42:26.120
<v Speaker 7>So I'm like Tiff, I think there's a time for

0:42:26.239 --> 0:42:31.520
<v Speaker 7>conversation on mental illness. But we also should question the

0:42:31.640 --> 0:42:35.160
<v Speaker 7>character of those who want to post a picture for

0:42:35.200 --> 0:42:43.800
<v Speaker 7>a proximity and affiliation and privilege before we.

0:42:43.719 --> 0:42:45.239
<v Speaker 5>Take a moment.

0:42:46.760 --> 0:42:49.600
<v Speaker 7>To more in the life of a loss that was

0:42:49.719 --> 0:42:54.880
<v Speaker 7>callously killed because a person did not take care of themselves.

0:42:55.440 --> 0:43:01.000
<v Speaker 6>I agree with you in Tiffany.

0:43:02.000 --> 0:43:05.240
<v Speaker 3>To a point, like I agree on all the stuff

0:43:05.280 --> 0:43:07.960
<v Speaker 3>that happened after this, and like that's some bs, that's

0:43:08.080 --> 0:43:11.520
<v Speaker 3>just not we did we black men, we did some

0:43:11.600 --> 0:43:14.160
<v Speaker 3>of us, because I hate the generalization, did not carry

0:43:14.160 --> 0:43:18.920
<v Speaker 3>ourselves appropriately. But like, and now we get to a

0:43:18.960 --> 0:43:21.560
<v Speaker 3>point where we're gonna have a few moments for questions

0:43:21.560 --> 0:43:24.640
<v Speaker 3>and answers, and I'll tell you about those in a second.

0:43:25.200 --> 0:43:28.880
<v Speaker 3>But when when when you all say, and not to

0:43:28.920 --> 0:43:30.319
<v Speaker 3>pick on you all, because I've heard it a.

0:43:30.239 --> 0:43:30.640
<v Speaker 6>Lot, but.

0:43:32.120 --> 0:43:40.080
<v Speaker 3>Now is the time for morning before curiosity or now

0:43:40.239 --> 0:43:43.440
<v Speaker 3>is the time for grieving? And I think there are

0:43:43.440 --> 0:43:45.880
<v Speaker 3>a lot of black men, and maybe I'm alone in this,

0:43:46.320 --> 0:43:53.719
<v Speaker 3>that say, before this happened, there wasn't space for conversation

0:43:53.840 --> 0:43:58.640
<v Speaker 3>about mental health with us, Like we're not talking about

0:43:58.640 --> 0:44:02.080
<v Speaker 3>the conversation we're having I think after because the black

0:44:02.080 --> 0:44:03.960
<v Speaker 3>men that I know are like Andrew, Gillian and myself,

0:44:03.960 --> 0:44:06.879
<v Speaker 3>we find it to be a born. But what we're

0:44:06.960 --> 0:44:11.520
<v Speaker 3>talking about is before it happens, is there space for

0:44:11.560 --> 0:44:14.160
<v Speaker 3>black men to be to try to be the head

0:44:14.160 --> 0:44:17.080
<v Speaker 3>of their household and also talk to you about their anxiety.

0:44:17.280 --> 0:44:20.080
<v Speaker 1>What would that have looked like because they were already separated.

0:44:20.120 --> 0:44:21.839
<v Speaker 1>So I'm just curious, you know, I don't you mean

0:44:21.880 --> 0:44:23.480
<v Speaker 1>in the home there wasn't space for that kid.

0:44:23.840 --> 0:44:26.920
<v Speaker 3>No, No, And I'm not because I don't know enough about now.

0:44:26.960 --> 0:44:28.719
<v Speaker 3>I took it out to a fifty thousand foot view

0:44:28.840 --> 0:44:31.160
<v Speaker 3>and talking culturally, I'm not talking about sena.

0:44:30.880 --> 0:44:33.080
<v Speaker 1>Culturally, what does it look like for us? I have

0:44:33.120 --> 0:44:35.520
<v Speaker 1>a conversation before somebody shoots their wife.

0:44:35.280 --> 0:44:37.919
<v Speaker 7>And then and that asks a question as well. And see,

0:44:38.000 --> 0:44:39.919
<v Speaker 7>this is why both of us at the same time.

0:44:39.960 --> 0:44:41.800
<v Speaker 3>Please, I'm like out here just trying to say that,

0:44:41.960 --> 0:44:45.319
<v Speaker 3>like niggas got problems and we are like I'm just

0:44:45.480 --> 0:44:48.080
<v Speaker 3>My only point is that like we are out here

0:44:48.080 --> 0:44:51.000
<v Speaker 3>trying to deal with our household and go outside and

0:44:51.040 --> 0:44:52.520
<v Speaker 3>deal with the eels of the world.

0:44:52.560 --> 0:44:53.000
<v Speaker 6>We're trying.

0:44:53.120 --> 0:44:53.600
<v Speaker 7>We are too.

0:44:54.160 --> 0:44:57.719
<v Speaker 6>No, this is and we are too Yeah, this is not.

0:44:58.320 --> 0:45:01.400
<v Speaker 6>This is not the oppressional limp. I'm not saying.

0:45:02.120 --> 0:45:05.960
<v Speaker 3>I am not saying that black women are not that

0:45:06.040 --> 0:45:08.239
<v Speaker 3>is that is with this every time.

0:45:08.360 --> 0:45:10.719
<v Speaker 4>So listen, don't don't go I know where you're going.

0:45:11.239 --> 0:45:11.640
<v Speaker 4>It is.

0:45:12.000 --> 0:45:14.560
<v Speaker 6>But what I'm saying is every time, every time a.

0:45:14.560 --> 0:45:17.080
<v Speaker 5>Man can have an issue without it being approximate to

0:45:17.120 --> 0:45:18.160
<v Speaker 5>what a woman is going.

0:45:18.080 --> 0:45:19.520
<v Speaker 6>Like every time it's on this merit.

0:45:19.680 --> 0:45:22.120
<v Speaker 3>Every time I tell you that I am struggling, it

0:45:22.160 --> 0:45:25.080
<v Speaker 3>does not mean reflexively that you were not.

0:45:26.520 --> 0:45:30.640
<v Speaker 6>That's like, thank you for some help in orders, Jesus,

0:45:30.680 --> 0:45:32.719
<v Speaker 6>do we have commercials I need? I try.

0:45:33.280 --> 0:45:35.479
<v Speaker 5>I try to let you off the balcony by saying

0:45:35.520 --> 0:45:37.720
<v Speaker 5>that the easy way you want to keep going.

0:45:41.200 --> 0:45:42.120
<v Speaker 4>You've got a question.

0:45:42.160 --> 0:45:45.160
<v Speaker 5>But I just want to define in my mind mental health,

0:45:45.840 --> 0:45:48.680
<v Speaker 5>because a lot of people think you must be diagnosed

0:45:49.120 --> 0:45:52.080
<v Speaker 5>and be on some medication for years and be getting

0:45:52.120 --> 0:45:53.000
<v Speaker 5>therapy and counseling and.

0:45:52.960 --> 0:45:54.480
<v Speaker 4>That kind of thing. And that is a form of it.

0:45:54.880 --> 0:45:58.520
<v Speaker 5>But there is also the psychosis, which means in this moment,

0:45:58.680 --> 0:46:02.160
<v Speaker 5>at this state of time, the argument we happen to

0:46:02.200 --> 0:46:04.920
<v Speaker 5>be in right now. This is why the legal system

0:46:04.960 --> 0:46:08.440
<v Speaker 5>separates different types of murder first, second, third degree.

0:46:08.640 --> 0:46:11.360
<v Speaker 4>It matters that the thing you just told me was

0:46:11.400 --> 0:46:14.239
<v Speaker 4>so piercing. I couldn't see a thing.

0:46:14.400 --> 0:46:16.680
<v Speaker 6>I saw red and as a footnel.

0:46:16.680 --> 0:46:18.759
<v Speaker 3>Real quick before you can fill you let me and

0:46:18.800 --> 0:46:22.960
<v Speaker 3>we should have said no one is excusing the act.

0:46:24.400 --> 0:46:26.640
<v Speaker 3>There is literally no one, and I don't want anyone

0:46:26.680 --> 0:46:30.960
<v Speaker 3>to leave this room thinking that we are downplaying or

0:46:31.080 --> 0:46:35.920
<v Speaker 3>excusing the act. All I'm trying to find space for

0:46:36.320 --> 0:46:39.279
<v Speaker 3>is men to not get to that point and have

0:46:39.400 --> 0:46:44.360
<v Speaker 3>space before the act, before the breaking point, before whatever, however,

0:46:44.480 --> 0:46:48.000
<v Speaker 3>the psychoe, whatever the term is. I want there to

0:46:48.040 --> 0:46:50.840
<v Speaker 3>be a space for black men to be able to breathe.

0:46:51.200 --> 0:46:53.560
<v Speaker 3>Not saying that y'all ain't suffocating, Tiffany, but what I'm

0:46:53.600 --> 0:46:56.320
<v Speaker 3>saying is for black men to be able to breathe

0:46:56.320 --> 0:46:57.680
<v Speaker 3>and articulate the issues there.

0:46:57.760 --> 0:47:00.520
<v Speaker 5>And I think what happened here is that y'all many

0:47:00.560 --> 0:47:05.239
<v Speaker 5>people could not breathe. Yeah, many people couldn't breathe after

0:47:05.360 --> 0:47:08.719
<v Speaker 5>learning the news, and we're very upset that before we

0:47:08.800 --> 0:47:11.680
<v Speaker 5>could understand the story of those who were victims and

0:47:11.760 --> 0:47:16.320
<v Speaker 5>people we had already gone on to sounded like excusing.

0:47:16.160 --> 0:47:19.279
<v Speaker 6>What to Lo Loys Tiffany talks. Lol.

0:47:19.560 --> 0:47:21.520
<v Speaker 1>I know that I was just about to say, where's Lolo?

0:47:21.640 --> 0:47:23.040
<v Speaker 1>Can we get mikel and.

0:47:23.040 --> 0:47:27.080
<v Speaker 3>So so like questions have question marks, will answer anything

0:47:27.120 --> 0:47:30.640
<v Speaker 3>you all have. We have about seventeen minutes you go first,

0:47:30.640 --> 0:47:32.640
<v Speaker 3>and Lolo is gonna bring the mic out wherever she

0:47:32.760 --> 0:47:33.440
<v Speaker 3>is and give round of.

0:47:33.400 --> 0:47:37.640
<v Speaker 6>Applause to Loo. We cannot survive with that's.

0:47:37.480 --> 0:47:40.080
<v Speaker 1>Not Lo lost in for Lolo stepping.

0:47:39.760 --> 0:47:40.839
<v Speaker 4>In for Lo Lo.

0:47:40.840 --> 0:47:44.359
<v Speaker 6>Lolo was drinking tequila too, So it's okay, there's wave

0:47:44.400 --> 0:47:45.520
<v Speaker 6>your hand, all right.

0:47:45.760 --> 0:47:47.319
<v Speaker 3>So, yes, we have a question over here, but let

0:47:47.560 --> 0:47:49.120
<v Speaker 3>let us have hers, and then we'll come to you.

0:47:54.480 --> 0:47:56.759
<v Speaker 2>Who cares about truth in the last more than.

0:47:56.760 --> 0:48:01.879
<v Speaker 6>Say it, just tell us your name if you don't mind,

0:48:02.000 --> 0:48:02.720
<v Speaker 6>all right, one.

0:48:02.600 --> 0:48:06.400
<v Speaker 7>Second, go ahead, it's sure. So I think it's important

0:48:06.440 --> 0:48:09.600
<v Speaker 7>to note here that we're not neglecting the mental health

0:48:10.000 --> 0:48:14.000
<v Speaker 7>and the empathy for black men. So to say that

0:48:14.080 --> 0:48:18.680
<v Speaker 7>we should not bypass morning, it's not neglecting another systemic

0:48:18.760 --> 0:48:22.160
<v Speaker 7>issue around mental health. And this is not a conversation

0:48:22.920 --> 0:48:25.160
<v Speaker 7>against black women and black men. I think we have

0:48:25.239 --> 0:48:28.080
<v Speaker 7>to be careful with the narratives that we lead with. Yes,

0:48:28.280 --> 0:48:31.719
<v Speaker 7>this conversation is about how it was handled, and so

0:48:31.840 --> 0:48:35.439
<v Speaker 7>how it was handled, we rushed to proximity to talk

0:48:35.440 --> 0:48:39.719
<v Speaker 7>about status and all those things, and we bypass Serena's name.

0:48:40.800 --> 0:48:42.960
<v Speaker 7>I think we do need to take a moment and

0:48:43.040 --> 0:48:46.080
<v Speaker 7>pause for that. And I also think when you all

0:48:46.120 --> 0:48:49.400
<v Speaker 7>asked the question around when do black men heal, I

0:48:49.440 --> 0:48:51.960
<v Speaker 7>say this, with love, create spaces so you all can

0:48:52.040 --> 0:48:53.400
<v Speaker 7>heal and breathe.

0:48:53.560 --> 0:48:55.000
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I.

0:48:56.560 --> 0:48:59.000
<v Speaker 3>Hear that, and I don't disregard it, and I do

0:48:59.080 --> 0:49:01.960
<v Speaker 3>my best. But the problem is that many of us

0:49:02.000 --> 0:49:07.879
<v Speaker 3>find those spaces in Tequila, you know. We find those

0:49:07.880 --> 0:49:11.319
<v Speaker 3>spaces at Platinum twenty one. I mean, we find those

0:49:11.360 --> 0:49:14.400
<v Speaker 3>spaces because you can't walk outside in this world and

0:49:14.480 --> 0:49:15.959
<v Speaker 3>be a black man and think it's gonna be easy.

0:49:15.960 --> 0:49:18.520
<v Speaker 3>And I'm not saying that it's easy for anyone.

0:49:18.160 --> 0:49:19.960
<v Speaker 4>Else, but it is.

0:49:20.480 --> 0:49:22.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying that you're Let me just respond really

0:49:22.960 --> 0:49:24.520
<v Speaker 1>quickly and then we'll go to the question. But it

0:49:24.560 --> 0:49:28.399
<v Speaker 1>feels like you're saying black women heal us, and we

0:49:28.480 --> 0:49:31.760
<v Speaker 1>are also trying to your point there we should translate itself.

0:49:31.920 --> 0:49:34.680
<v Speaker 3>And I'm not saying that at all. No, no, no, no, no,

0:49:34.680 --> 0:49:37.319
<v Speaker 3>no space. No, that's not what I'm saying. I'm not

0:49:37.360 --> 0:49:40.040
<v Speaker 3>asking for I'm not asking for help, per se.

0:49:40.239 --> 0:49:40.839
<v Speaker 4>Yeah you are.

0:49:41.200 --> 0:49:44.879
<v Speaker 6>I'm just we are. We are, But it's the space too.

0:49:46.239 --> 0:49:47.960
<v Speaker 6>It's however, what does look.

0:49:47.800 --> 0:49:50.360
<v Speaker 5>Like much of much of what we are suffering from

0:49:50.400 --> 0:49:53.560
<v Speaker 5>both you and I First of all, my father, if

0:49:53.600 --> 0:49:56.960
<v Speaker 5>you were living, would have me bent overtaking a whooping

0:49:57.040 --> 0:49:59.920
<v Speaker 5>if I talked about therapy and sitting down with a

0:50:00.360 --> 0:50:03.879
<v Speaker 5>talking about our problems outside of the household.

0:50:03.400 --> 0:50:06.120
<v Speaker 4>And whose business is? What business? We all have?

0:50:06.560 --> 0:50:10.120
<v Speaker 5>Inherited people who didn't know how, couldn't do it better,

0:50:10.520 --> 0:50:13.880
<v Speaker 5>but didn't know how to, and then they created this

0:50:14.000 --> 0:50:15.960
<v Speaker 5>model of what we're then supposed to live up to,

0:50:16.040 --> 0:50:19.359
<v Speaker 5>how we comport ourselves, how we are burdened in this way,

0:50:19.400 --> 0:50:22.799
<v Speaker 5>in that way, and then we're teaching the same, yeah,

0:50:22.880 --> 0:50:25.040
<v Speaker 5>damn broken thing to those who come after. I'm not

0:50:25.200 --> 0:50:27.920
<v Speaker 5>and you're not. But that's because I don't know who

0:50:27.960 --> 0:50:29.359
<v Speaker 5>did it for you. But it was my wife who

0:50:29.400 --> 0:50:33.040
<v Speaker 5>told me, if you don't get shown to somebody and talk,

0:50:33.680 --> 0:50:36.000
<v Speaker 5>don't think about coming back in this house, not with me,

0:50:36.120 --> 0:50:37.520
<v Speaker 5>and not with these kids, and not with this. Is

0:50:37.520 --> 0:50:39.960
<v Speaker 5>that the third And so it took somebody saying it

0:50:40.080 --> 0:50:43.600
<v Speaker 5>was okay. There was there was an invitation to go.

0:50:43.640 --> 0:50:45.279
<v Speaker 3>And I just don't want black women to feel like

0:50:45.320 --> 0:50:47.520
<v Speaker 3>we're asking for more of a load on your plate.

0:50:48.000 --> 0:50:55.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm just trying to ask for just space to breathe. Yes, Hello, my.

0:50:55.640 --> 0:50:58.359
<v Speaker 8>Name is Joshua Ricardo mckett says, and I just want

0:50:58.360 --> 0:51:01.520
<v Speaker 8>to say, like, I love you guys. You guys inspired me.

0:51:01.560 --> 0:51:04.799
<v Speaker 8>I watched your show. You guys are amazing, incredible. I mean,

0:51:05.480 --> 0:51:09.640
<v Speaker 8>especially Tiffany Crass. You're like You're one of my biggest inspirations. Like,

0:51:09.680 --> 0:51:12.759
<v Speaker 8>I love you. And I just have to say this,

0:51:14.920 --> 0:51:18.120
<v Speaker 8>is it okay for black men to show their emotions

0:51:18.160 --> 0:51:20.600
<v Speaker 8>all the time? Because I don't want to take this

0:51:20.640 --> 0:51:22.840
<v Speaker 8>the wrong way. I mean it's like with black women,

0:51:23.120 --> 0:51:26.000
<v Speaker 8>I don't know this easier hard, but you guys can

0:51:26.080 --> 0:51:29.399
<v Speaker 8>do that. But when it comes to black men, it's

0:51:29.480 --> 0:51:31.400
<v Speaker 8>like we have to be the strong ones.

0:51:31.520 --> 0:51:32.759
<v Speaker 6>But there are times.

0:51:32.520 --> 0:51:36.520
<v Speaker 8>Where we should be able to cry and show emotions,

0:51:36.560 --> 0:51:38.960
<v Speaker 8>like can there be a space for that in a

0:51:38.960 --> 0:51:40.480
<v Speaker 8>way where we just show.

0:51:41.640 --> 0:51:45.080
<v Speaker 3>So why are people like shaking their heads? Like why

0:51:45.400 --> 0:51:51.000
<v Speaker 3>why are people like not like he yes, the answer

0:51:51.080 --> 0:51:56.879
<v Speaker 3>is yes, yes, Oh I'm with you. Yeah, it's it's

0:51:56.920 --> 0:52:00.040
<v Speaker 3>the answer is yes, And you should be able to

0:52:00.120 --> 0:52:03.640
<v Speaker 3>do that. And it doesn't mean that you're weaker, and

0:52:03.719 --> 0:52:06.440
<v Speaker 3>it doesn't mean that you're less than It means that

0:52:06.520 --> 0:52:09.960
<v Speaker 3>you actually go outside every day and touch grass.

0:52:10.400 --> 0:52:12.799
<v Speaker 5>But you have to give yourself the permission. I think

0:52:12.840 --> 0:52:16.759
<v Speaker 5>that's that's what's beneath it is. The society we live

0:52:16.800 --> 0:52:18.920
<v Speaker 5>in doesn't seem to make way for it, and so

0:52:18.960 --> 0:52:22.399
<v Speaker 5>we internalize that that's what everybody's demanding of us. When

0:52:22.440 --> 0:52:24.520
<v Speaker 5>when you stay to need, anybody who loves and cares

0:52:24.560 --> 0:52:27.400
<v Speaker 5>about you will say go get the thing you need.

0:52:27.880 --> 0:52:29.440
<v Speaker 5>They should say get what you need.

0:52:29.960 --> 0:52:32.680
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, just know whoever.

0:52:32.400 --> 0:52:35.040
<v Speaker 9>I don't even know, Hello, Hello, Hello, You all are

0:52:35.080 --> 0:52:39.359
<v Speaker 9>my favorite podcasts in the world, favorite in the whole.

0:52:39.400 --> 0:52:41.600
<v Speaker 4>And she has her own. So that's saying something.

0:52:43.000 --> 0:52:47.600
<v Speaker 9>So I'm going to date myself a little bit. I

0:52:47.640 --> 0:52:52.919
<v Speaker 9>think what we will say culturally is that's not what

0:52:52.960 --> 0:52:56.920
<v Speaker 9>we do right as a people. So I don't know

0:52:57.800 --> 0:53:01.240
<v Speaker 9>if it happened in the past. We didn't have social media,

0:53:01.320 --> 0:53:04.920
<v Speaker 9>so we didn't know, but that would be the first comment.

0:53:05.400 --> 0:53:05.840
<v Speaker 1>I think.

0:53:05.880 --> 0:53:11.799
<v Speaker 9>My comment to you guys, especially Andrew and Bacari, you

0:53:11.840 --> 0:53:15.040
<v Speaker 9>guys have a platform. I think I would like to

0:53:15.120 --> 0:53:21.239
<v Speaker 9>see more mentorship from black men to black men, and

0:53:21.560 --> 0:53:27.440
<v Speaker 9>you two, being the stellar men that you are, to

0:53:27.600 --> 0:53:31.800
<v Speaker 9>say it's okay to be emotional. I've seen you, Andrew,

0:53:32.320 --> 0:53:36.399
<v Speaker 9>and seen the podcast when you were vulnerable. I think

0:53:36.440 --> 0:53:41.759
<v Speaker 9>it's important that our men. You're not my father, your grandfather,

0:53:42.280 --> 0:53:46.640
<v Speaker 9>so it's okay to be emotional and Bacari, you said something.

0:53:47.000 --> 0:53:49.200
<v Speaker 9>I thought the text I would get would be that

0:53:49.320 --> 0:53:52.600
<v Speaker 9>he did something to himself. I think we've all had

0:53:52.719 --> 0:53:57.640
<v Speaker 9>friends or family that something's off. I know something's off.

0:53:57.960 --> 0:54:01.839
<v Speaker 9>We need to create space. It's all incumbent upon all

0:54:01.880 --> 0:54:05.520
<v Speaker 9>of us. But I think mentorship matters, and I think

0:54:05.760 --> 0:54:09.239
<v Speaker 9>when we have a mic, a platform, such as all

0:54:09.280 --> 0:54:12.600
<v Speaker 9>of us do in different spaces, we need to use

0:54:12.680 --> 0:54:15.560
<v Speaker 9>it and we need to help one another because we're

0:54:15.600 --> 0:54:19.880
<v Speaker 9>living in times like maybe not before. And that's coming

0:54:19.920 --> 0:54:24.279
<v Speaker 9>from a mother of two young men that are not

0:54:24.400 --> 0:54:28.600
<v Speaker 9>quite millennials, but they're living in this space in these times.

0:54:29.160 --> 0:54:32.680
<v Speaker 1>Thank you, thank you. I think we have a peer.

0:54:34.400 --> 0:54:42.120
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, they doing manav Songwhere are you you?

0:54:42.200 --> 0:54:42.279
<v Speaker 10>Men?

0:54:42.320 --> 0:54:45.720
<v Speaker 5>Said trauma early doctor about the trauma that this father

0:54:45.800 --> 0:54:46.800
<v Speaker 5>has done to his children.

0:54:47.280 --> 0:54:48.279
<v Speaker 4>So I have a question here.

0:54:48.360 --> 0:54:51.719
<v Speaker 11>Has trauma become so normalized in our community that we

0:54:51.840 --> 0:54:54.120
<v Speaker 11>no longer recognize when we're passing it to others.

0:54:54.440 --> 0:54:59.800
<v Speaker 6>Huge all own children, of course, but trauma's not the act.

0:55:00.040 --> 0:55:01.279
<v Speaker 3>I think a lot of people and I'm not a

0:55:01.280 --> 0:55:04.200
<v Speaker 3>psychologist or a psychiatrist. I've been to enough sessions though

0:55:04.200 --> 0:55:04.960
<v Speaker 3>to be dangerous.

0:55:06.960 --> 0:55:07.359
<v Speaker 6>Shout out.

0:55:07.440 --> 0:55:11.360
<v Speaker 5>My doctor says, don't confuse your google with.

0:55:11.080 --> 0:55:12.840
<v Speaker 3>I hate when people come to my laws and they

0:55:12.920 --> 0:55:17.279
<v Speaker 3>be like chet GPT. But trauma's not the act. A

0:55:17.280 --> 0:55:19.280
<v Speaker 3>lot of people think that trauma's when you get punched

0:55:19.320 --> 0:55:22.520
<v Speaker 3>in the face, and that's not trauma. Trauma's the reaction

0:55:22.680 --> 0:55:25.560
<v Speaker 3>to getting punched in the face, and trauma's how we

0:55:25.640 --> 0:55:29.200
<v Speaker 3>deal with it, right. And so a lot of these conversations,

0:55:29.200 --> 0:55:32.040
<v Speaker 3>for example, we've never had in settings like this because

0:55:32.080 --> 0:55:34.719
<v Speaker 3>of some shame, and I don't know how people are

0:55:34.719 --> 0:55:36.600
<v Speaker 3>going to receive it, but I think that one way

0:55:36.640 --> 0:55:38.279
<v Speaker 3>we can break the cycle, and I love to hear

0:55:38.320 --> 0:55:41.120
<v Speaker 3>my friends up here, is by allowing us to have

0:55:41.200 --> 0:55:44.279
<v Speaker 3>conversations in space like this, even by you showing up

0:55:44.280 --> 0:55:50.759
<v Speaker 3>and being here and going out and saying without fucking judgment,

0:55:53.400 --> 0:55:57.120
<v Speaker 3>like just sitting in it, and allowing people to have

0:55:57.280 --> 0:56:01.600
<v Speaker 3>different opinions and different thoughts about the way that they

0:56:01.680 --> 0:56:04.120
<v Speaker 3>feel and about the way that they process trauma.

0:56:04.120 --> 0:56:06.600
<v Speaker 6>I think it's so important.

0:56:08.320 --> 0:56:12.160
<v Speaker 11>Good evening. My name is Jessica. I first want to

0:56:12.600 --> 0:56:15.480
<v Speaker 11>just hold space for you, Baccari of just watching you

0:56:15.520 --> 0:56:18.120
<v Speaker 11>do what black people do every day of holding in

0:56:18.200 --> 0:56:20.400
<v Speaker 11>the trauma while being at work. I can see the

0:56:20.440 --> 0:56:22.279
<v Speaker 11>tension of what you're trying to manage it. I just

0:56:22.440 --> 0:56:24.840
<v Speaker 11>want you to know I see you. But my question

0:56:24.920 --> 0:56:27.680
<v Speaker 11>is really for black men, because I think for several

0:56:27.719 --> 0:56:30.560
<v Speaker 11>of us as women, whether it's our friends, our partners,

0:56:31.000 --> 0:56:34.120
<v Speaker 11>we have asked, we have sent the therapist, asked, would

0:56:34.640 --> 0:56:36.759
<v Speaker 11>would you come to this? Would you do that? What

0:56:36.920 --> 0:56:40.879
<v Speaker 11>is it that you all need or want that would

0:56:41.120 --> 0:56:44.040
<v Speaker 11>make the invitation so that you go through the door,

0:56:44.560 --> 0:56:46.759
<v Speaker 11>And whether the invitation has to come from us from

0:56:46.760 --> 0:56:50.279
<v Speaker 11>somewhere else, because at this point, it's not even we

0:56:50.360 --> 0:56:52.880
<v Speaker 11>need y'all to be okay, and we know that you're not.

0:56:53.440 --> 0:56:55.359
<v Speaker 11>And the more y'all are not okay, the more we're

0:56:55.400 --> 0:56:57.960
<v Speaker 11>not okay because we can't lean on you to protect us,

0:56:58.000 --> 0:56:59.600
<v Speaker 11>because now we're like, do we need to be protecting

0:56:59.600 --> 0:57:00.480
<v Speaker 11>ourselves from you?

0:57:01.840 --> 0:57:03.640
<v Speaker 4>And that's the and that's the goal.

0:57:03.440 --> 0:57:06.359
<v Speaker 11>Of the system, right to keep us pulled apart. That's

0:57:06.400 --> 0:57:09.120
<v Speaker 11>what happened in slavery. And so while I don't have

0:57:09.160 --> 0:57:12.640
<v Speaker 11>the capacity to hold anyone else, I'm still trying because

0:57:13.160 --> 0:57:17.560
<v Speaker 11>I love my brother, I love my father, I love y'all.

0:57:18.600 --> 0:57:19.919
<v Speaker 11>So what do y'all need and.

0:57:19.880 --> 0:57:20.760
<v Speaker 1>How do you need it?

0:57:21.600 --> 0:57:27.640
<v Speaker 5>That's a that's a beautiful question, and I appreciate your curiosity,

0:57:27.720 --> 0:57:30.080
<v Speaker 5>and it's the story to how do you get to

0:57:30.280 --> 0:57:33.120
<v Speaker 5>is as important as getting to and then going.

0:57:34.400 --> 0:57:35.479
<v Speaker 4>My wife asked me for.

0:57:35.400 --> 0:57:39.600
<v Speaker 5>You twelve years You're married, going, going, going, going, going,

0:57:39.640 --> 0:57:42.000
<v Speaker 5>And I'm a city commissioner and I'm a mayor of

0:57:42.040 --> 0:57:43.720
<v Speaker 5>a city, and who were going to talk to that's

0:57:43.760 --> 0:57:45.680
<v Speaker 5>not going to run out in the street and tell

0:57:45.720 --> 0:57:50.200
<v Speaker 5>everything that we say. I don't trust you know, I

0:57:50.200 --> 0:57:53.880
<v Speaker 5>don't trust my business. And in their in their mouths,

0:57:54.720 --> 0:57:56.439
<v Speaker 5>in their ears, which I assumed then.

0:57:56.440 --> 0:57:58.000
<v Speaker 4>Comes out their mouths to other people.

0:57:58.360 --> 0:58:01.120
<v Speaker 5>I think my parents were part of of it in

0:58:01.160 --> 0:58:03.680
<v Speaker 5>the sense that we were taught. I mean, we were disciplined.

0:58:03.720 --> 0:58:06.600
<v Speaker 5>If you spoke outside, spoke about what happened in this house.

0:58:06.640 --> 0:58:09.680
<v Speaker 5>And so no, So let me tell you the.

0:58:11.040 --> 0:58:13.840
<v Speaker 4>Lead up to it is that there are a lot

0:58:13.880 --> 0:58:14.720
<v Speaker 4>of no's.

0:58:15.520 --> 0:58:18.000
<v Speaker 5>There are a lot of instances where you're going to

0:58:18.040 --> 0:58:22.600
<v Speaker 5>think we are not listening, are summarily dismissing you having

0:58:22.720 --> 0:58:26.960
<v Speaker 5>heard you once, even though it's your thousandth time we've

0:58:27.080 --> 0:58:27.480
<v Speaker 5>heard you.

0:58:27.520 --> 0:58:30.640
<v Speaker 4>A thousand times, and we still feel like.

0:58:32.320 --> 0:58:35.040
<v Speaker 5>We still feel like there's not real permission because when

0:58:35.040 --> 0:58:38.280
<v Speaker 5>something goes wrong in the house and this thing is needed,

0:58:38.320 --> 0:58:40.720
<v Speaker 5>you're still going to look at me. And I don't

0:58:40.720 --> 0:58:42.560
<v Speaker 5>want you to look at me and think I can't

0:58:42.560 --> 0:58:46.080
<v Speaker 5>do it, because I shared with you that it's real

0:58:46.240 --> 0:58:48.600
<v Speaker 5>hard for me right now.

0:58:48.600 --> 0:58:50.040
<v Speaker 4>It's real hard for me to deal with that.

0:58:50.080 --> 0:58:53.600
<v Speaker 5>So I thank God for my Unpat who called me

0:58:53.680 --> 0:58:57.480
<v Speaker 5>every single day. At my lowest point, I hadn't answer

0:58:57.520 --> 0:59:00.680
<v Speaker 5>the phone most any of those days, but she kept

0:59:00.680 --> 0:59:02.280
<v Speaker 5>calling the next day and the next day, and one

0:59:02.360 --> 0:59:05.840
<v Speaker 5>day I picked up and she said, thank you God,

0:59:05.880 --> 0:59:08.320
<v Speaker 5>And I just want to know that you're doing okay.

0:59:08.320 --> 0:59:10.440
<v Speaker 5>I want to hear your voice. And I'm so thankful

0:59:10.440 --> 0:59:14.360
<v Speaker 5>that there were people who weren't judging me and saying

0:59:14.440 --> 0:59:16.320
<v Speaker 5>he's just disrespectf We want to ask the phone, da da,

0:59:16.360 --> 0:59:18.280
<v Speaker 5>Dad dad. They had nothing to do with anybody other

0:59:18.360 --> 0:59:21.280
<v Speaker 5>than myself, And I was thankful that there was enough

0:59:21.320 --> 0:59:23.600
<v Speaker 5>love there by people to keep going, keep asking.

0:59:23.600 --> 0:59:25.880
<v Speaker 4>So what I would say is keep asking.

0:59:25.960 --> 0:59:28.680
<v Speaker 5>I never know when that trickle, when that thing switches

0:59:28.720 --> 0:59:31.000
<v Speaker 5>over and you say I need it and I'm ready,

0:59:31.720 --> 0:59:33.640
<v Speaker 5>but you can't get in a person more ready than

0:59:33.640 --> 0:59:34.680
<v Speaker 5>they can get themselves.

0:59:35.040 --> 0:59:36.960
<v Speaker 4>Your constant reminder is.

0:59:36.920 --> 0:59:39.439
<v Speaker 5>The primer, and I think we have to keep doing

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<v Speaker 5>that until the jump is ready.

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<v Speaker 6>How do we? How do we get there before? Though?

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't want to infer your question, but how

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<v Speaker 3>do we get there before we hit rock bottom? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>Like, how do we? Yeah? How do we? That's your prayer? Right,

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<v Speaker 6>how do we?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sure Serena had the same prayer, right, So how

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<v Speaker 3>do you get there?

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<v Speaker 5>And I think admittedly most people are going to have

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<v Speaker 5>to fall flat face before it's like you realize, Man,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm losing this.

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<v Speaker 4>I've lost this. I've lost this.

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<v Speaker 5>If I lose anything else, my house and home, my

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<v Speaker 5>everything will be gone, my children might be gone.

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<v Speaker 4>And then that's when I.

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<v Speaker 5>Think people, if it gets desperate enough, people will look

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<v Speaker 5>for help.

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<v Speaker 6>Two more We got about four more minutes or two

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<v Speaker 6>more questions, but doctor Keith.

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<v Speaker 1>Went the way in and then we'll come to you

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<v Speaker 1>in the back.

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<v Speaker 7>If i'll share a brief story about an experience that

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<v Speaker 7>I had with my dad, And this is probably eight

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<v Speaker 7>months after my mother passed away. She passed away at

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<v Speaker 7>fifty years old, and my parents were married for thirty years,

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<v Speaker 7>but they had their complications, and when my mother passed,

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<v Speaker 7>they were in a complicated season, and so as the children.

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<v Speaker 7>We were mad at our dad for so many things.

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<v Speaker 7>And in one conversation with my dad again this was

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<v Speaker 7>eight months later, I stopped being mad at him and

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<v Speaker 7>I said, well, Daddy, how do you feel? And he

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<v Speaker 7>took a moment and he exhaled. He said, I think

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<v Speaker 7>I just started to breathe again, and that I have

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<v Speaker 7>been so depressed for the last eight months. I didn't

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<v Speaker 7>even know my father knew the word depression because he's

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<v Speaker 7>a Mississippi man. I've only seen him strong. So for

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<v Speaker 7>all the daughters in the audience who are close to

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<v Speaker 7>their fathers, I was able to take my father's walls

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<v Speaker 7>down and in a moment, and now we talk about

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<v Speaker 7>his emotions and we talk about his feelings about everything.

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<v Speaker 7>And after that conversation and after all our conversations, and

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<v Speaker 7>I was like that I always thought that you were

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<v Speaker 7>a superman, and now you're even more invincible. Because he

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<v Speaker 7>was able to show me the softness in him and

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<v Speaker 7>a human in him, and I think that gave him

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<v Speaker 7>the invitation to be that more vulnerable with me. It's

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<v Speaker 7>not that I was less mad at him, but I

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<v Speaker 7>was more empathetic that we all carry things, and so

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<v Speaker 7>I think black men need the invitation. And if you're

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<v Speaker 7>a daughter, maybe you can take the wall down of

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<v Speaker 7>your father and learn more about the things that black

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<v Speaker 7>men carry.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, doctor Keith.

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<v Speaker 6>We got our last question in the back.

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<v Speaker 10>Okay, thank you. My name is Phoenix. First thing I

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<v Speaker 10>want to say is, and it took me a long

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<v Speaker 10>time to say this, I have a mental disability, illness,

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<v Speaker 10>whatever you want to call it.

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<v Speaker 4>I've had it for a long time. My question is simple.

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<v Speaker 10>Now, we had some people while you were talking disagree

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<v Speaker 10>with some of the things that you were saying.

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<v Speaker 4>I believe Wakari.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm used to that, and it's okay, it's okay. My

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<v Speaker 6>question is this and that I'm.

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<v Speaker 10>Gonna be real.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm trying to be real.

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<v Speaker 10>Brief with the story. On my job, I take something

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<v Speaker 10>called modern mobility. Should most of y'all don't know what

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<v Speaker 10>that is, but that's for people who have disabilities. When

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<v Speaker 10>they found out, the people I work with found out,

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<v Speaker 10>I was thinking a big bus, they sit there, pointed

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<v Speaker 10>at the bus, pointed at me.

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<v Speaker 6>The whole crew laughed in my face.

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<v Speaker 10>Now, I know a lot of y'all say, well, you know,

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<v Speaker 10>and I'm not excusing the gentleman that killed his wife

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<v Speaker 10>or that killed his children.

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<v Speaker 4>That's insane.

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<v Speaker 6>But when you have this.

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<v Speaker 10>Type of dishonor that's the best way I can put it.

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<v Speaker 10>Going on with our people, how how do you expect

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<v Speaker 10>people to to behave? How you expect them to give?

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<v Speaker 10>I go to counseling three times a week. I do

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<v Speaker 10>everything I need to do to be a better person.

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<v Speaker 10>But still it's a nightmare and it's so much shame.

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<v Speaker 10>Wait a minute, I'm a I'm a black man, I

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<v Speaker 10>have a job, I make money. But you can't have

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<v Speaker 10>a mental disability because something's wrong with you.

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<v Speaker 4>Old that nigga crazy? Oh this is and all this stuff.

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<v Speaker 10>So I ask everyone in here and the people on stage,

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<v Speaker 10>what did you do with that?

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<v Speaker 6>Thank you?

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you for that, Andrew, I.

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<v Speaker 5>Just I simply gonna say that it those people, it's

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<v Speaker 5>a greater reflection on their herb than it is on

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<v Speaker 5>your psycheoasis, your state of affairs. People have a way

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<v Speaker 5>of really projecting onto others the insecurities that they feel

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<v Speaker 5>with themselves. I told I shared this on the last

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<v Speaker 5>week's show, where you know, after the race, and I

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<v Speaker 5>was at my lowest low.

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<v Speaker 4>People would you know, would say really cruel and very.

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<v Speaker 5>Cutting and biting things, things that you don't think you

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<v Speaker 5>could muster for a person if you didn't know them intimately.

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<v Speaker 5>And I had to come to and I told my

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<v Speaker 5>wife this because she was very upset about a celebrity

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<v Speaker 5>who had said something about her. And I said, Jay

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<v Speaker 5>that Letty don't know you from Tom Adams cat and

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<v Speaker 5>the fact that she wrote to you a long inbox

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<v Speaker 5>email cussing you from left to right about your life

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<v Speaker 5>decisions isn't because she's so concerned with your life decisions.

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<v Speaker 5>It's because something about our situation has triggered likely in

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<v Speaker 5>experience that she's had in her life, and that was

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<v Speaker 5>slight differences here and there, but she couldn't say to

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<v Speaker 5>that person what needed to be said, and so she's

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<v Speaker 5>projecting it and she's saying it to us, and it's

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<v Speaker 5>now our job to say that's none of my business.

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<v Speaker 5>None of that is my business. So if you got

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<v Speaker 5>heat for me, that is what it is. But I'm

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<v Speaker 5>not the cause of the pain that you're experiencing right now.

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<v Speaker 5>So I just I think you ought to know that

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<v Speaker 5>because it helps to It helps in those situations to

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<v Speaker 5>be able to clearly see these haters, the folks who

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<v Speaker 5>are distracting the name called and all that stuff. They

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<v Speaker 5>are screaming for help, screaming for it, terrified with what

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<v Speaker 5>it means if they get it, so they keep abusing

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<v Speaker 5>hurt people, hurt people.

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<v Speaker 4>That saying is real.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that at the end of the day, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>we have this, We have a trauma that has not

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<v Speaker 3>been dealt with for a very long period of time,

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<v Speaker 3>and we keep persevering. Every generation perseveres that much more

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<v Speaker 3>than the next. I want to give this young lady

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<v Speaker 3>to my far left stand up a round of applause,

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<v Speaker 3>players paring up here and sharing. We didn't I don't

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<v Speaker 3>think that she anticipated this conversation with us. I'm glad

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<v Speaker 3>you all beared with us for this conversation. I before

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<v Speaker 3>we uh, before we end, I do want us to

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<v Speaker 3>remember in your gospel music singing or your prayers at night.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if y'all still say your now. I

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<v Speaker 3>laim he's down in the big city of Atlanta where

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<v Speaker 3>all eat lamb chops and have ivy walls every Sunday

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<v Speaker 3>for breakfast. I want you to all to remember Papa

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<v Speaker 3>Ray and Angela Ray's father the Devil, that the Gospel

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<v Speaker 3>doesn't teach us that they should not have a weapon.

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<v Speaker 3>He just says that the weapons shall not prosper. So

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<v Speaker 3>let that be our prayer. And then Tiffany. We're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>let Tiffany take us out because she is our blessing.

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<v Speaker 3>And as you see, Tiffany has fans everywhere, so go ahead.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, thank you. I just want to say, really

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<v Speaker 1>quickly to the king in the back who shared his story,

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<v Speaker 1>that the people who are small enough to make fun

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<v Speaker 1>of you would never have the courage to stand up

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<v Speaker 1>in a room like this and share what you shared.

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<v Speaker 1>So I want to honor you, brother, I want to

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<v Speaker 1>honor your vulnerability, and I want to thank you for

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<v Speaker 1>having the trust in us to receive your story with

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<v Speaker 1>care and grace. And the next time that happens, I

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<v Speaker 1>hope you can remember Andrew's words. It is more about

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<v Speaker 1>them than it is about you. And I see you,

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<v Speaker 1>and we see you for the king who you are,

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<v Speaker 1>so thank you for that. I want to thank everybody

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<v Speaker 1>for coming out. I will give a shameless plug if

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<v Speaker 1>you guys don't mind a lot of the conversations that

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<v Speaker 1>we had tonight. I have a new book coming out

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<v Speaker 1>May fifth, thank you. It is Love Me, a Letter

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<v Speaker 1>to Black Women in a toxic country, career and relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>It's available everywhere books are sold today, but you'll get

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<v Speaker 1>it on mayfe I'll be joining Native Land Pod. The

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<v Speaker 1>episode will drop April thirtieth. Yeah, so we'll be back

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<v Speaker 1>together again and truly this space. It's so touching to

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<v Speaker 1>hear everybody say this is your favorite podcast and you

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<v Speaker 1>all listen. I just thank you that y'all still pity

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<v Speaker 1>them and listen. After I left, shit.

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<v Speaker 6>It got better.

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<v Speaker 4>I miss her every day.

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<v Speaker 1>I miss these guys, but I'm blessed to still talk

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<v Speaker 1>to them all the time. But it just means so

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<v Speaker 1>much to us that you all the things that y'all

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<v Speaker 1>could be doing, that you would show up here with

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<v Speaker 1>us tonight and these spaces for this type of conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel safe with you all because us loving each

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<v Speaker 1>other has always been the key to our survival. So

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<v Speaker 1>whatever you took from tonight, I hope you leave here

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<v Speaker 1>tonight with a little more love and care for each

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<v Speaker 1>other's feelings. And emotions and carry each other with delicateness

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<v Speaker 1>because that's what we need right now.

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<v Speaker 4>Welcome home, Welcome home home, y'all, Thank you guys.

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<v Speaker 6>Make sure you tip your waitresses. Good night, Drive home safe.

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