1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:03,520 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:03,560 --> 00:00:07,760 Speaker 1: advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more, please 3 00:00:07,760 --> 00:00:11,799 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click 4 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 1: submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live 5 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 1: on the air, just like we're going to read this 6 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:20,720 Speaker 1: one right here, right now. Okay, all right, ladies and gentlemen, 7 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 1: it is that time. It is time for the Strawberry 8 00:00:22,720 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: Letter with my good friend Shirley Strawbar. Thank you, junior subject. 9 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 1: I'm dating her brother in law, Dear Stephen. Shirley, I 10 00:00:31,360 --> 00:00:35,400 Speaker 1: recently met a wonderful man and we instantly had a connection. 11 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 1: I am a widow and his wife died earlier this year. 12 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:41,760 Speaker 1: When we met, he looked familiar to me, but I 13 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:45,240 Speaker 1: thought that it was just a coincidence. After a few dates, 14 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 1: we talked more about his wife that had died, and 15 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:52,880 Speaker 1: he told me her name. I knew his wife, and 16 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:56,680 Speaker 1: when I put two and two together, I realized why 17 00:00:56,680 --> 00:00:59,840 Speaker 1: he was so familiar to me. His deceased wife was 18 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:02,960 Speaker 1: the sister of one of my good friends. I knew 19 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:05,360 Speaker 1: all about him and their family, but I hadn't met 20 00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: him before I told him about the connection I had 21 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:10,960 Speaker 1: with that family, and he said that it was totally 22 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:13,200 Speaker 1: fine and normal for him to move on and he 23 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,720 Speaker 1: can help if help it if he's attracted to me. 24 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:18,440 Speaker 1: So we've been dating for a little over a month 25 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 1: and my friend is asking about the great guy I 26 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:25,840 Speaker 1: met and wants all of the details. I just told 27 00:01:25,840 --> 00:01:28,479 Speaker 1: her that the guy is great, has a nice home, 28 00:01:28,600 --> 00:01:32,039 Speaker 1: cooks and cleans, and the sex is phenomenal. But that 29 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 1: was all before I knew it was her brother in law. 30 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 1: Now it will be really awkward to tell her who 31 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:39,679 Speaker 1: the man is. He and I have discussed how we 32 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:41,959 Speaker 1: should let my friend know, but there is never a 33 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:44,400 Speaker 1: good time to bring it up to her. This should 34 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:46,679 Speaker 1: not be a big problem, but I feel like it 35 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:50,720 Speaker 1: will be again. It's the best sex I've sex ever, 36 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 1: and we have been all over his house, her sister's house. 37 00:01:55,720 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 1: I feel kind of bad, but I'm truly falling for 38 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 1: this man. I don't want to lose her friendship. But 39 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 1: this man says he could see us being together forever. 40 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 1: He says he's crazy about me too. What should we do? 41 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: While I mean, you've been together a month, stay together, 42 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 1: see how it goes. I mean, I think that's what 43 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 1: you guys should do. You're two grown people. You were 44 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 1: two innocent people who, just like in the movies, you 45 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 1: met and fell in love or you're starting to fall 46 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 1: for each other. You know, that's pretty much it. It 47 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:30,080 Speaker 1: was nothing sneaky or deedious or premeditated about it. You 48 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:33,240 Speaker 1: guys weren't cheating, you know, before your spouse has died 49 00:02:33,320 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 1: or anything like that. So I just say, you don't 50 00:02:37,560 --> 00:02:41,760 Speaker 1: owe anyone anything any explanations. Necessarily, when you get around 51 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:44,120 Speaker 1: to it, you can tell your friend. I would suggest 52 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 1: you guys tell them, tell them together. But in the meantime, 53 00:02:48,480 --> 00:02:51,639 Speaker 1: if I were you, I would stop talking to your 54 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 1: friend about your new man because it will only make 55 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:57,240 Speaker 1: her want to know more and more about him. And 56 00:02:57,639 --> 00:02:59,840 Speaker 1: is it awkward, Yes, I agree it's a bit aw 57 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:02,839 Speaker 1: but again, it was innocent the way you guys met. 58 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:05,640 Speaker 1: So I mean, we're all grown here. Things happen, life 59 00:03:05,680 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 1: goes on, and you know you weren't friends with his wife. 60 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 1: You were friends with his wife's sister, and this thing 61 00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:18,799 Speaker 1: just happened. It's nobody's fault, so you know, I mean, 62 00:03:18,919 --> 00:03:22,840 Speaker 1: I just say, be adults here. You know they'll find 63 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:25,240 Speaker 1: out sooner or later. But I don't think there's any 64 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: time frame or time limit on when you have to 65 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 1: tell a person or anything. You guys decide it's your 66 00:03:30,919 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: life and you have to deal with it how you 67 00:03:33,480 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 1: want to deal with it. Steve. Uh, sorry, Shirley, Sorry, 68 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:47,080 Speaker 1: I read a different letter. I'm confused. I'm confused. Subject 69 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:51,120 Speaker 1: is I'm dating her brother in law. Let us starts 70 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:55,320 Speaker 1: with this woman obviously has met this really wonderful man 71 00:03:56,360 --> 00:04:00,840 Speaker 1: and they instantly had a connection. The lady that writes 72 00:04:00,880 --> 00:04:04,760 Speaker 1: the letter is a widow and the man she met 73 00:04:04,800 --> 00:04:10,640 Speaker 1: that had this wonderful connection his wife died earlier this year. Now, 74 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:14,840 Speaker 1: just listening to that opening line, I recently met a 75 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 1: wonderful man and we instantly had a connection. I'm a 76 00:04:18,040 --> 00:04:21,679 Speaker 1: widow and his wife died earlier this year. This letter 77 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:25,839 Speaker 1: is about a lot of old people. That's what this is. 78 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 1: What just wants you to put some age on this 79 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:33,880 Speaker 1: letter right here, it's just too many people dying. And 80 00:04:34,600 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 1: in the first sentence, you're on a dating this damn 81 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:45,680 Speaker 1: near a dating site for people who look life feeling empty, 82 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:51,120 Speaker 1: ain't got nobody loved one going away? Come to the 83 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:57,719 Speaker 1: here after dating site, because that's what tender for old people. Yeah, 84 00:04:57,760 --> 00:05:02,840 Speaker 1: this this is the old This ain't swipe right, swipe left. 85 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:09,359 Speaker 1: This is her. I'm swipe right. When we met, he 86 00:05:09,400 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 1: looked familiar to me, but I thought it was just 87 00:05:11,640 --> 00:05:14,600 Speaker 1: a coincidence. A few dates we talked more about his 88 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 1: wife that had died, and he told me her name. 89 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 1: I knew his wife, and when I put two and 90 00:05:23,720 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 1: two together, Wait a minute, hol see that's a line 91 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:30,600 Speaker 1: that through me. After he told her her nature, this 92 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:33,880 Speaker 1: is woman said, I knew his wife, and then I 93 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:36,120 Speaker 1: put two and two together. I realized why he was 94 00:05:36,160 --> 00:05:41,320 Speaker 1: so familiar to me. Excuse me. His deceased wife was 95 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:45,880 Speaker 1: the sister of one of my good friends. I knew 96 00:05:45,920 --> 00:05:48,839 Speaker 1: all about him and their family, but I hadn't met 97 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:52,120 Speaker 1: him before. Wait a minute, lady, you're confusing me. You 98 00:05:52,240 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 1: just said you realized why he was so familiar to you, 99 00:05:57,600 --> 00:05:59,600 Speaker 1: and then you said, I knew all about him and 100 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 1: his FAMMI, but I hadn't met him before. Why was 101 00:06:02,960 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 1: he so familiar to you if you ain't met him before, 102 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 1: See Shannon, that's why I said, I think she leaving 103 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 1: something out. Yeah, I agree, sister in law. Yeah, but 104 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:19,760 Speaker 1: she knew him. That's why he sounded, So that's why 105 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:22,719 Speaker 1: he was so familiar. I don't think sounded. I think 106 00:06:22,720 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 1: he recognizing him because he kept looking at him. I can't. 107 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:28,839 Speaker 1: I told him about the connection I had with that family. 108 00:06:29,080 --> 00:06:31,320 Speaker 1: He said, totally fine and normal for him. Move on 109 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 1: here here she did, I finished, when we come back, 110 00:06:37,560 --> 00:06:43,839 Speaker 1: Yeah she did. He did not say that. All right, listen, 111 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 1: coming up part two of Steve's response to today's Strawberry Letter. 112 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:49,400 Speaker 1: I'm dating her brother in law. That's coming up at 113 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:55,240 Speaker 1: twenty three after the hour right after this. You're listening, 114 00:06:56,240 --> 00:06:59,440 Speaker 1: all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters subject. 115 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: I'm dating her brother in law. Well, at least two 116 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 1: old people and rode in and one old man she 117 00:07:06,279 --> 00:07:10,440 Speaker 1: didn't rode in. Here. She's a widower, and she met 118 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:12,800 Speaker 1: a man whose wife died earlier. Then she's a lot 119 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:15,560 Speaker 1: of death in his first sentence, and then it and 120 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 1: then when we met, he looked familiar to me, See Shelley. 121 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 1: He looked familiar to me, but I thought it was 122 00:07:22,040 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 1: just coincident. After a few days we talked more about 123 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:26,800 Speaker 1: his wife that had died. He told me her name. 124 00:07:27,200 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 1: I knew his wife, and then I put two and 125 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 1: two together. I realized why he was so familiar to me. 126 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:37,920 Speaker 1: His deceased wife was the system of my one of 127 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:41,080 Speaker 1: my good friends. I knew all about him and their family, 128 00:07:41,120 --> 00:07:44,680 Speaker 1: but I hadn't met him before, meaning Sherley. She had 129 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 1: not been formally introduced, but she'd been in the same 130 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:55,400 Speaker 1: room vicinity, party, barbecue something. I knew all about him 131 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 1: in the family, but I hadn't met him before. I 132 00:07:57,160 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 1: told him about the connection I had with that family. 133 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 1: He said, it's fine, normal for him to move on. 134 00:08:03,120 --> 00:08:08,960 Speaker 1: Here she dad, and he can't help it. He did 135 00:08:09,080 --> 00:08:14,560 Speaker 1: say that his head. No, he said, I'm totally fine. 136 00:08:14,560 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 1: It's normal for him to move on. Hell, she dad, 137 00:08:19,120 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: and he can't be helping if he's attracting me. And 138 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:25,840 Speaker 1: you fine, you find that she did what you want 139 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:29,360 Speaker 1: me to do. So we've been dating for a little 140 00:08:29,360 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 1: over a month and my friend is asking about this 141 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:34,839 Speaker 1: great guy, mad and want all the details. Now this 142 00:08:34,960 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: is just a month. Now. I keep telling y'all about dined. 143 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:40,679 Speaker 1: They rule, but it don't apply to them because they old. Okay, 144 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:44,240 Speaker 1: I met and wont all the details. I just told 145 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:47,360 Speaker 1: her that the guy is great, he got nice home 146 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 1: cooking clean and the sex is phenomenal. That's the line 147 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 1: in the letter that's gonna get you jumped on. When 148 00:08:58,880 --> 00:09:05,280 Speaker 1: you tell your friend you dating her dad sisters ex 149 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 1: husband that you saw after barbec you've been around us, 150 00:09:12,480 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: she gonna swear them down. You was looking at his ass. 151 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:20,880 Speaker 1: I promise you she is because it's her sister and 152 00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:26,600 Speaker 1: you her friend. Women, ain't that open mind that y'all 153 00:09:26,640 --> 00:09:29,160 Speaker 1: stop spreading that light that you are because you're not. 154 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:39,440 Speaker 1: Surely yes we are, No, you're not. The guy's great 155 00:09:39,559 --> 00:09:42,760 Speaker 1: nice home, could clean in the sexiest phenomenal. But that 156 00:09:42,840 --> 00:09:45,360 Speaker 1: was all before I knew it was her brother in law. Well, 157 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:49,520 Speaker 1: it's her brother in law and y'all being everywhere and 158 00:09:49,559 --> 00:09:52,720 Speaker 1: to hit her crazy part NICs really awkward to tell 159 00:09:52,760 --> 00:09:55,560 Speaker 1: her who the man is? You damn right because it's 160 00:09:55,600 --> 00:10:00,320 Speaker 1: her dad sister's husband here, and I've discovered that's how 161 00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:02,920 Speaker 1: we should let my friend know. But there's never a 162 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:04,719 Speaker 1: good time to bring it up to her. Hell no, 163 00:10:04,800 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 1: it ain't no good time. This should not be a 164 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:09,440 Speaker 1: big problem, but I feel like it will be. You 165 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:12,040 Speaker 1: don't feel like it will be. You know it's gonna 166 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:17,240 Speaker 1: be because you know your girlfrid crazy, And you're gonna 167 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:21,480 Speaker 1: tell her that this phenomenal sex you didn't hand was 168 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:25,559 Speaker 1: with her dead sister's man that you are familiar with. 169 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:30,480 Speaker 1: You just couldn't place it. And again it's the best 170 00:10:30,559 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 1: sex ever. And we've been all over his house, all 171 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 1: on her sister's walls, her sister. You ain't on her 172 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:50,440 Speaker 1: sister kitchen table. You ain't that her sister robo h yours, 173 00:10:50,840 --> 00:10:58,520 Speaker 1: her sister bad you funky for you? Oh no, you 174 00:10:58,760 --> 00:11:04,679 Speaker 1: ain't gonna disgrace my sister memory You was after Barbie Q, 175 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:07,960 Speaker 1: looking at him that whole time. I knew the way 176 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:11,400 Speaker 1: you're looking at her. I'm truly falling for this man. 177 00:11:11,480 --> 00:11:13,720 Speaker 1: I don't want to lose her friendship. But this man 178 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 1: says he could see us being together forever. He says 179 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:22,079 Speaker 1: he's crazy about me too. What should we do? Well, 180 00:11:22,559 --> 00:11:28,000 Speaker 1: Shirley got one thing. Y'all should tell her together now. 181 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:31,679 Speaker 1: The reason I'm suggesting that you tell her together is 182 00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 1: so that when she opened fire, When she opened fire, 183 00:11:40,559 --> 00:11:45,160 Speaker 1: there will be some options, because if you are there 184 00:11:45,240 --> 00:11:49,520 Speaker 1: by herself, then you gonna get shot. At least she 185 00:11:49,559 --> 00:11:53,920 Speaker 1: could decide if she gonna shoot it her or him. 186 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:56,520 Speaker 1: But don't you go into this thing naive. Now you 187 00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:59,920 Speaker 1: all gonna have to tell her because if she find out, 188 00:12:00,840 --> 00:12:04,800 Speaker 1: Oh my god, then you're worse. Sneaking round and you 189 00:12:04,920 --> 00:12:07,400 Speaker 1: knew where he knew and she knew and y'all met 190 00:12:07,440 --> 00:12:11,280 Speaker 1: at the party. Oh, it's gonna be It's gonna be 191 00:12:11,440 --> 00:12:15,400 Speaker 1: horrible if she finds out and you all don't tell her. 192 00:12:16,880 --> 00:12:20,000 Speaker 1: I think your friendship but this woman is over, and 193 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:23,800 Speaker 1: I think this life Withduce new Man has begun. But 194 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:26,920 Speaker 1: oftentimes you can't get to the next level without shedding 195 00:12:27,000 --> 00:12:30,080 Speaker 1: some waiting. Y'all about to find out a lot about 196 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:32,160 Speaker 1: y'all's friendship. I wish I was a look the kid 197 00:12:32,280 --> 00:12:45,040 Speaker 1: right there. There'll be times when you won't know, but 198 00:12:45,120 --> 00:12:47,439 Speaker 1: there's gonna be some dog days for that right there. 199 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:53,280 Speaker 1: Good luck, lady. Hey all right, listen to us, film 200 00:12:53,280 --> 00:12:55,320 Speaker 1: it and send it to us. 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