1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,040 Speaker 1: I told my wife our relationship is far from equal, 2 00:00:03,080 --> 00:00:05,240 Speaker 1: but she doesn't care, so I'll try to keep this short. 3 00:00:05,360 --> 00:00:08,680 Speaker 1: Both in our thirties and have been together for seventeen years. 4 00:00:08,880 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 1: I mail am the sole provider for my family of 5 00:00:12,320 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 1: six partner and kids, two high energy dogs. I work 6 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:17,880 Speaker 1: five days a week and sometimes work on weekends if 7 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:20,200 Speaker 1: we need a little more cash. So far, what I'm 8 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 1: getting is like op. Just feels like overworked and it's 9 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:24,959 Speaker 1: not equal. My partner is a stay at home mom 10 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:27,639 Speaker 1: and hasn't worked since our eldest was born by her 11 00:00:27,680 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 1: own choices. Comes from polythrowaway on the best of Reddit 12 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 1: or updates subreddit. So I wake up at five am 13 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: and take the dogs out, prepare kids lunches, slash snacks, 14 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 1: and sure all school essentials such as bags, et cetera 15 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:40,600 Speaker 1: at the front door. Then head to work in a 16 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:44,280 Speaker 1: physically demanding job. Kids are picked up for daycare school 17 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:47,560 Speaker 1: at seven due to after school activities and clubs, et cetera. 18 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:50,240 Speaker 1: Whether they're not home until six. I come home at seven, 19 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:54,240 Speaker 1: make dinner most nights, help with homework, do Beth time 20 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:57,760 Speaker 1: for the little ones, bedtime. Dude, I thought maybe it 21 00:00:57,840 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: was like his wife was named Beth. Do bath time 22 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 1: for the little ones, do dishes, take our dogs for 23 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:05,679 Speaker 1: a longer walk, put little ones in bed. If the 24 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:07,800 Speaker 1: house is a mess, and then I will of course 25 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:09,319 Speaker 1: clean it. What is she doing so. 26 00:01:09,240 --> 00:01:11,480 Speaker 2: She's a stay at home mom but she doesn't do anything? 27 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:14,520 Speaker 1: What is she staying at home for? I pay for everything, 28 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:19,559 Speaker 1: mortgage bills, insurance, groceries, clothes, toys, technology, after school activities, dates, 29 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: a woman to deep clean the house once a month. 30 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:24,039 Speaker 1: My partner wants to go on a two week long 31 00:01:24,160 --> 00:01:26,920 Speaker 1: vacation with her friends, which will overlap with the weekend 32 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:29,479 Speaker 1: I had planned with my brother, who I rarely get 33 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:31,560 Speaker 1: to see as we live so far away. She wants 34 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 1: me to cancel my trip as she's tired and needs 35 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:36,920 Speaker 1: a break. We got into an argument over it in 36 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 1: which unkind things were said on both sides. But I 37 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:43,440 Speaker 1: am unwilling to budge on this. How do I get 38 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:45,600 Speaker 1: through to her that I need some rest? TLDR. I 39 00:01:45,600 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 1: pay for everything, do housework, childcare, et cetera. While wife 40 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:50,160 Speaker 1: is a stay at home mom, she wants to go 41 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:52,080 Speaker 1: on a two week long vacation with her friends, which 42 00:01:52,080 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 1: means I won't be able to go on a weekend 43 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:55,440 Speaker 1: trip with my brother, which was planned well in advanced 44 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:57,400 Speaker 1: We argued in which she told me I need to 45 00:01:57,440 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 1: help out more, and I basically said, what's in the title? 46 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 1: How do I get through to HERU? There is an update, 47 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:06,360 Speaker 1: there's more additional information. But I would love to know 48 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 1: from all of you. What do you think you would 49 00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:10,680 Speaker 1: say to your wife? 50 00:02:10,720 --> 00:02:13,280 Speaker 3: This is giving the dog that is on the couch 51 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:15,600 Speaker 3: and they do like a really big sigh after being 52 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 3: home all day for sleeping for sixteen hours. 53 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:21,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know sometimes it's tiring sleeping so long. 54 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:23,080 Speaker 2: You're like, I need a little bit more sleep. Like, 55 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:25,639 Speaker 2: look at Ava, has she been doing nothing? 56 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 1: Well? She went on a walk this morning. She did 57 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 1: took her Do you take her to the dog park? No? 58 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:30,480 Speaker 1: I took her to the dog park yesterday and she 59 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:32,480 Speaker 1: got along with the dogs. Why she not got it along? 60 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:34,400 Speaker 1: She just was anti social. But too is like there 61 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 1: with the watch them, to watch them. I mean, how 62 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:41,360 Speaker 1: do you get through to her? You just say like, hey, 63 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:44,240 Speaker 1: I feel a little bit overwhelmed. 64 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like I'm doing a lot of I 65 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:47,600 Speaker 2: feel a lot of the slack. 66 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 1: I feel well, I feel like right now, like this 67 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 1: is what's on my plate? Just so you know, blah 68 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah blah blah. I would love to 69 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:58,440 Speaker 1: know what you feel like you're doing that is is 70 00:02:58,480 --> 00:02:59,960 Speaker 1: making you so stressed and tired. 71 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:02,000 Speaker 2: I'd love to know what you feel like you're doing. 72 00:03:02,040 --> 00:03:05,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, sorry, that's like what do you what are you 73 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:09,359 Speaker 1: doing that makes you so tired? And maybe that would 74 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 1: allow you to see from her perspective first before going 75 00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 1: into her. But I think again, you've got to get 76 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:16,079 Speaker 1: curious before. 77 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 2: I got to get curious, before you get. 78 00:03:18,160 --> 00:03:24,120 Speaker 1: Get yeah, ooh serious before confrontational chaira Tyler says, ooh 79 00:03:24,200 --> 00:03:26,919 Speaker 1: is she cheating? What is she spending all that time 80 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:31,200 Speaker 1: doing self care? All right, Kiara, that's a little bit fast, 81 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 1: ye Come on Reddit so we got some additional info. 82 00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 1: Hello all, Sorry, I haven't replied to many comments, but 83 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 1: I have read most of them. I've seen a couple 84 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:41,520 Speaker 1: questions I like to answer and figure that making a 85 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 1: post would be better than applying to individual comments. My 86 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 1: children are between sixteen and six. My wife doesn't take 87 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 1: anyone to their club slash activities. Younger children's school finishes 88 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 1: at three pm. Their clubs are in the school. Older 89 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:57,520 Speaker 1: kids finishes at three thirty. They stay in a club 90 00:03:57,600 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 1: until four thirty, then go to youth group with their 91 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 1: cousins until they come home. My eldest make it their 92 00:04:02,480 --> 00:04:04,480 Speaker 1: way to and from school on their own, while my 93 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:07,200 Speaker 1: youngest are picked up and dropped off. Kids are of 94 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:09,800 Speaker 1: course able to eat breakfast at home, but often enjoy 95 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:12,760 Speaker 1: eating with their friends before school at eight. My wife 96 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 1: doesn't walk the dogs because she doesn't like to, and frankly, 97 00:04:15,720 --> 00:04:18,359 Speaker 1: they don't like her. I enjoy my time walking dogs 98 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:20,520 Speaker 1: because it allows me some time to think. We have 99 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:23,599 Speaker 1: a large yard with doghouses, toys, and some agility equipment 100 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 1: for them to use while I'm gone. They also get 101 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 1: mental stimulation through congs and puzzle toys which have been 102 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:32,160 Speaker 1: prepared and stored in the freezer. What does my wife 103 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:32,800 Speaker 1: do all day? 104 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 2: That's the real question. 105 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:36,839 Speaker 1: That's a real question. Honestly, she's not isolated. She often 106 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: tells me of things she's done with her friends, sister, mother, 107 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:40,719 Speaker 1: et cetera. 108 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:41,360 Speaker 2: Mystery. 109 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 1: She goes to the gym, does and enjoys her hobbies, 110 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:47,919 Speaker 1: such as embroidery design, knitting in some jewelry design. She 111 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:50,600 Speaker 1: changes what she likes to do, says it keeps things 112 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:54,000 Speaker 1: fresh houseworkwise. She does the laundry. I fold and distribute 113 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 1: it later. So you mean she puts stuff in a watch. 114 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:01,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, she throws into the laundry. 115 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: That's the easiest part. The hardest part is folding it. 116 00:05:03,560 --> 00:05:07,440 Speaker 1: She will give dogs water and prepared meals slash enrichment. 117 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:09,839 Speaker 1: What does that mean like throwing the ball every once 118 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:12,360 Speaker 1: in a while. We have those robot vacuums and air 119 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:14,960 Speaker 1: purifiers to deal with dog hair, but my wife will 120 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:18,719 Speaker 1: vacuum if needed. I wipe countertops, put dishes in dishwasher 121 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:21,160 Speaker 1: after meals. Older kids take care of their own rooms 122 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 1: slash bathrooms for an allowance. Have you ever not truly 123 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: noticed something until it's right in front of her face. 124 00:05:26,240 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 1: I was so mad because I wanted to go to 125 00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:30,120 Speaker 1: my brother and she wanted to go on vacation with 126 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:32,920 Speaker 1: her friends. Yes, she wants me to pay for it. Well, 127 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:34,800 Speaker 1: she doesn't have an income, so I guess she needs 128 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:36,840 Speaker 1: to get a job. And things have been like this 129 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:39,760 Speaker 1: for so long. They didn't see how unfair and imbalanced 130 00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:42,799 Speaker 1: things were until I truly started to look at how 131 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:45,400 Speaker 1: our duties were distributed. You've all given me a lot 132 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:48,360 Speaker 1: to think about. I'll answer some comments later and there 133 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:52,560 Speaker 1: is an update, but I think it's Yeah, I think 134 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:54,440 Speaker 1: it is one of those moments where it's like this 135 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 1: has been going on for so long. It's probably been 136 00:05:56,560 --> 00:05:58,680 Speaker 1: a slow creep of Opie taking on more and more 137 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 1: of responsibilities in the house. Yeah, and he's just realizing 138 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:04,360 Speaker 1: now because he's overwhelmed that this is not what he 139 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: wants to be doing, this is not how he wants 140 00:06:06,320 --> 00:06:09,520 Speaker 1: to be treated, and this is not what a fair 141 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:13,200 Speaker 1: and equal partnership looks like. And maybe you know, she 142 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 1: hasn't really thought about it, so like, give her the 143 00:06:15,440 --> 00:06:19,479 Speaker 1: opportunity to realize that what she's doing is not is 144 00:06:19,560 --> 00:06:22,560 Speaker 1: not work, is not working. I mean, yeah, it's not 145 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:24,839 Speaker 1: working for you, op It's not working in the relationship. 146 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:26,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you need to be you need to be 147 00:06:26,640 --> 00:06:29,160 Speaker 2: communicative before it just breaks down. 148 00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:32,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, op I would talk to your your wife 149 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:35,680 Speaker 1: asap and be like, hey, like, I'm feeling overworked and 150 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:38,599 Speaker 1: overwhelmed right now, and I know it seems like you 151 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:40,480 Speaker 1: might be too. Can you tell me, like why you're 152 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:43,360 Speaker 1: feeling like that, and both try to understand each other 153 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:46,560 Speaker 1: and try to understand her first, even though you feel slighted. 154 00:06:46,640 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: I think it will turn out better if you try 155 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 1: to understand her first and then give your side. Indeed, 156 00:06:51,839 --> 00:06:55,640 Speaker 1: seek to understand before you seek to be understood. So 157 00:06:55,920 --> 00:07:00,760 Speaker 1: here is the update, and Sophia, it is not good. Ah, 158 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:04,279 Speaker 1: but it's not totally bad. I know I knew it 159 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:10,080 Speaker 1: because apparently I've sprouted a backbone. Let's go OPO. A 160 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 1: lot has happened and I feel like my world is 161 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:16,040 Speaker 1: falling apart. This will be long. The following two paragraphs 162 00:07:16,040 --> 00:07:18,440 Speaker 1: are some more background. The update will be marked with 163 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 1: updates so you guys can find it faster taildr at 164 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:24,120 Speaker 1: the bottom. But let's get into some of the contacts. 165 00:07:24,200 --> 00:07:27,920 Speaker 1: So you suggested that I enable her behavior, and I'd 166 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 1: like to address that, which maybe you have op. 167 00:07:30,240 --> 00:07:31,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe you just kind of let her do it. 168 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:33,200 Speaker 1: Have you ever thought that it's your fault? 169 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:35,360 Speaker 2: Have you ever thought that maybe you're not doing enough? 170 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 1: Yeah? Exactly, Maybe you should just stop complaining. We're being joking, 171 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:41,040 Speaker 1: by the way. To explain how things got this way 172 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 1: to begin with, my wife worked from age sixteen to twenty, 173 00:07:44,240 --> 00:07:47,040 Speaker 1: but I'd often come home after work during these early 174 00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 1: stages of her pregnancy and she would tell me how 175 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:52,240 Speaker 1: bad the morning sickness had been, and how she was 176 00:07:52,280 --> 00:07:54,760 Speaker 1: getting in trouble at work for being late or not 177 00:07:54,840 --> 00:07:57,440 Speaker 1: turning up due to the issues she was having. One night, 178 00:07:57,520 --> 00:08:00,680 Speaker 1: after a long discussion about things, she said that it 179 00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:03,080 Speaker 1: would be better and better for her and the baby 180 00:08:03,400 --> 00:08:06,240 Speaker 1: if she stayed home during the pregnancy. I was reluctant 181 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:09,000 Speaker 1: at first because we weren't exactly swimming in cash, but 182 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:11,920 Speaker 1: ultimately the health of my wife and child were more 183 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 1: important than a few months of added stress. To save money, 184 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 1: we moved in with my wife's older sister and her husband. 185 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 1: We split rent and utilities, but were still saving some money. 186 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:25,640 Speaker 1: The pregnancy wasn't easy on her. She was often cranky, uncomfortable, 187 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:28,000 Speaker 1: and as a result, could be quite mean, rude, and 188 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 1: a bit handsy. Oof. Fuck does that mean hansy as 189 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 1: in like frisky or as handsy as and she like 190 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:37,079 Speaker 1: slapped the shit out of you? Yeah? Which one of 191 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 1: those is bad? So after further discussions with my wife 192 00:08:40,080 --> 00:08:42,560 Speaker 1: and her sisters, I took on more of the household duties, 193 00:08:42,760 --> 00:08:45,199 Speaker 1: such as cooking, et cetera. When my eldest was born, 194 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 1: my wife's sister helped with childcare while I was at 195 00:08:48,120 --> 00:08:50,400 Speaker 1: work for the first year, but after she and my 196 00:08:50,440 --> 00:08:52,720 Speaker 1: wife had a fight when he was about a year 197 00:08:52,760 --> 00:08:55,160 Speaker 1: old and we moved into our own place. But my 198 00:08:55,280 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 1: wife struggled during the day when I wasn't there to help, 199 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:01,200 Speaker 1: so we ultimately decided to put him in another day 200 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:01,840 Speaker 1: care facility. 201 00:09:01,920 --> 00:09:04,800 Speaker 2: So it seems like she just can't do anything anything. 202 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:06,560 Speaker 1: I would drop him off on my way to work 203 00:09:06,559 --> 00:09:08,280 Speaker 1: and would pick him up on my way back. Why 204 00:09:08,320 --> 00:09:10,320 Speaker 1: doesn't she do that? When I finished? 205 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 2: Literally, what is she doing? 206 00:09:12,280 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 1: One of us would cook dinner while the other watched 207 00:09:14,280 --> 00:09:17,040 Speaker 1: the baby. Back when we had no pets, so household 208 00:09:17,120 --> 00:09:19,360 Speaker 1: duties weren't too much and could be handled by a 209 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:22,280 Speaker 1: couple hours cleaning on Saturday or Sunday when we could 210 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:24,320 Speaker 1: split it between us. Bowl When my son was three, 211 00:09:24,400 --> 00:09:27,200 Speaker 1: my wife's sister offered to get her a job where 212 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:29,200 Speaker 1: she worked. My wife had to do an interview, but 213 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:31,800 Speaker 1: my sister in law was confident she would get the position. 214 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: My wife was reluctant and nervous about returning to work, 215 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:37,920 Speaker 1: but attended the interview and was offered the job. Okay, 216 00:09:38,200 --> 00:09:40,360 Speaker 1: I don't remember much of our celebrations that night, but 217 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:43,720 Speaker 1: it ended in the conception of our second child. My 218 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:46,120 Speaker 1: wife told me when she'd been stuck at her new 219 00:09:46,200 --> 00:09:48,079 Speaker 1: job for just over a month about the pregnancy. She 220 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:50,240 Speaker 1: stuck it out a couple more weeks, but was fired 221 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:51,600 Speaker 1: due to not turning out. 222 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:53,240 Speaker 2: For shit, why is she not doing She. 223 00:09:53,200 --> 00:09:55,040 Speaker 1: Doesn't sound very accountable. 224 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:56,320 Speaker 2: That's the thing. It's like, you could absolutely go on 225 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:58,760 Speaker 2: maternity leave if you need to, but there is a 226 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:00,960 Speaker 2: way to do it that won't get you fired. 227 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:04,400 Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, it sounds like the same kind of things 228 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:06,320 Speaker 1: that are coming up in her work. 229 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:08,719 Speaker 2: All right, what is happening at home? 230 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:11,000 Speaker 1: Yeah? I asked one of her doctors about the issues 231 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:13,679 Speaker 1: she was having so early on in the pregnancy back pain, 232 00:10:13,840 --> 00:10:16,480 Speaker 1: leg pain, nausea, But my wife would cut me off 233 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 1: before I could finish and ask me to leave the room. 234 00:10:19,320 --> 00:10:22,120 Speaker 2: I wonder if she's just kind of exaggerating all these things. 235 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:24,319 Speaker 1: I think she's exaggerating to get out of work. 236 00:10:24,520 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like, oh, it's on my back pain. Oh 237 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:29,959 Speaker 2: everything hers, I can't work. And then she's like and 238 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:31,959 Speaker 2: then she talked to the doctor. She's like, actually, everything's fine, 239 00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:32,679 Speaker 2: to worry about it. 240 00:10:32,840 --> 00:10:36,080 Speaker 1: When we got home, she berated me for speaking to 241 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:38,480 Speaker 1: her doctor like she was a child, and told me 242 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:41,120 Speaker 1: that if she wants something brought up to her doctor 243 00:10:41,280 --> 00:10:44,600 Speaker 1: regarding her pregnancy, that she would do it herself. I 244 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:47,200 Speaker 1: had embarrassed her because she knew her body and knew 245 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:49,800 Speaker 1: what was normal and what wasn't. I still thought the 246 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:52,160 Speaker 1: issues had to be addressed with her doctor, but whenever 247 00:10:52,280 --> 00:10:55,120 Speaker 1: I brought it up, her mood swings would get worse. 248 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:57,559 Speaker 1: I feel like, that's like deflecting, you know, it's like 249 00:10:57,679 --> 00:11:00,480 Speaker 1: not like it's so like he can't get the truth 250 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:01,520 Speaker 1: out exactly. 251 00:11:01,679 --> 00:11:04,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like, oh, it's your faults. Yeah, even though op, 252 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:05,559 Speaker 2: he's just worried about her. 253 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 1: My mother in law came to live with us when 254 00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:10,640 Speaker 1: my second was born for a short while when I 255 00:11:10,679 --> 00:11:13,160 Speaker 1: returned to work after my paternityle when my daughter was 256 00:11:13,200 --> 00:11:16,320 Speaker 1: born about four months old, my wife expressed she was 257 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:20,200 Speaker 1: having difficulty looking after her by herself during the day, 258 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:23,040 Speaker 1: but my mother in law, who had her own life responsibilities, 259 00:11:23,080 --> 00:11:25,040 Speaker 1: couldn't come back and stay in Definitely, we had a 260 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:27,280 Speaker 1: two bedroom department then, and having her sleep on the 261 00:11:27,320 --> 00:11:29,280 Speaker 1: couch didn't seem fair to me, so we enrolled my 262 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:32,080 Speaker 1: daughter in daycare while my son was at nursery. My 263 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:34,960 Speaker 1: son went to daycare after nursery as well, so I'd 264 00:11:34,960 --> 00:11:37,160 Speaker 1: pick them both up around six pm and head home. 265 00:11:37,320 --> 00:11:40,080 Speaker 1: My wife promised she would speak to her doctor about 266 00:11:40,080 --> 00:11:43,000 Speaker 1: the possibility of depression, et cetera, and her mood did 267 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:46,000 Speaker 1: improve with additional help with the children. So she's just 268 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:50,120 Speaker 1: staying home all day during the day, yeah, which, like 269 00:11:50,200 --> 00:11:52,320 Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, like like an idle mind 270 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:53,160 Speaker 1: is the devil's stay. 271 00:11:53,559 --> 00:11:54,760 Speaker 2: Like it made that way worse. 272 00:11:54,840 --> 00:11:55,920 Speaker 1: It makes it way worse. 273 00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:57,720 Speaker 2: Like if you're just at home, like doing nothing and 274 00:11:57,720 --> 00:11:59,439 Speaker 2: you're already not in a great mood. 275 00:11:59,559 --> 00:12:04,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like you know, there is like depression sourced from imbalance, 276 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:07,640 Speaker 1: like chemical imbalances from pregnancy and stuff, but also a 277 00:12:07,679 --> 00:12:10,880 Speaker 1: lot of depression is like are you running and like exercising, No, 278 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:12,480 Speaker 1: Like are you hanging out with friends? 279 00:12:12,520 --> 00:12:12,559 Speaker 4: No? 280 00:12:12,760 --> 00:12:15,120 Speaker 1: Are you doing something that you're passionate about that you like, No. 281 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:17,160 Speaker 2: You're letting yourself It really does not help. 282 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:19,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, you're you're you're not gonna you're not gonna be 283 00:12:19,400 --> 00:12:21,480 Speaker 1: able to do the things that are necessary to pull 284 00:12:21,480 --> 00:12:23,959 Speaker 1: you out of depression. And like, like I think humans 285 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:25,840 Speaker 1: just need to be busy in doing things that we 286 00:12:25,920 --> 00:12:27,679 Speaker 1: care about and it doesn't seem like she's doing that. 287 00:12:27,800 --> 00:12:30,000 Speaker 1: My wife took on cooking and cleaning duties then, but 288 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:32,559 Speaker 1: struggled as well. I would often come home to burn 289 00:12:32,640 --> 00:12:35,440 Speaker 1: slash ruined food and would need to make something else anyway, 290 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:37,440 Speaker 1: So I ended up cooking dinner most nights so we 291 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:40,800 Speaker 1: wouldn't be wasting food during a week and away for 292 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:43,480 Speaker 1: a friend's wedding. When my daughter was five, I suggested 293 00:12:43,520 --> 00:12:45,320 Speaker 1: that my wife go back to work. Both kids were 294 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:47,360 Speaker 1: in school now, and I thought we could improve our 295 00:12:47,400 --> 00:12:50,600 Speaker 1: lifestyle with two incomes. We had recently bought a house 296 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:52,679 Speaker 1: because the apartment was too small for us and the 297 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:55,840 Speaker 1: children needed their own room. She seemed hesitant, which I 298 00:12:55,960 --> 00:12:58,240 Speaker 1: understood after being out of work for so long, but 299 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:00,800 Speaker 1: she agreed. She applied for several position but had no 300 00:13:00,960 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 1: luck with interviews or callbacks. We found out she was 301 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:07,240 Speaker 1: pregnant with our third not long after that, and returning 302 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:10,199 Speaker 1: to work was put on hold again. I feel like 303 00:13:10,240 --> 00:13:11,920 Speaker 1: she gets pregnant just in the nick of time. 304 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:14,480 Speaker 2: He's like, you have to go back to work. She's like, oh, 305 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:16,480 Speaker 2: here it is, ah, I can't. 306 00:13:16,640 --> 00:13:19,440 Speaker 1: The pregnancy was difficult, as expected, but again my mother 307 00:13:19,480 --> 00:13:21,640 Speaker 1: in law came to stay when I had to return 308 00:13:21,640 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 1: to work. 309 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:23,760 Speaker 2: Kimily finds his weaponized and confidence. 310 00:13:23,800 --> 00:13:25,600 Speaker 1: Absolutely, yeah, that's exactly what its. 311 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:28,920 Speaker 2: Especially with the burning of the food. It's like, come on, come. 312 00:13:28,760 --> 00:13:31,480 Speaker 1: On, Like, yeah, you can burn your first couple. 313 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:33,199 Speaker 2: Of meals, but you got to get better. 314 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:36,320 Speaker 1: After a while. It's like, come on, get your everything. Yeah. 315 00:13:36,400 --> 00:13:38,520 Speaker 1: She stayed for a while, but had to return to 316 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:41,480 Speaker 1: her own home eventually. Before she left, my wife told 317 00:13:41,480 --> 00:13:44,079 Speaker 1: me that she feared she would struggle with our second daughter, 318 00:13:44,400 --> 00:13:46,640 Speaker 1: just as she had with the first two. I tried 319 00:13:46,679 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 1: to reassure, but she seemed to become insanely depressed. The 320 00:13:50,360 --> 00:13:52,880 Speaker 1: second her mother left. I would return home with an 321 00:13:52,880 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 1: eight and five year old to a screaming baby and 322 00:13:55,880 --> 00:13:59,520 Speaker 1: nothing done around the house. Her mood and actions affected 323 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:02,679 Speaker 1: the entire house. So reluctantly I put her second daughter 324 00:14:02,840 --> 00:14:05,360 Speaker 1: in daycare as well, but I told my wife she 325 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:07,959 Speaker 1: had to talk to her doctor and that we'd no 326 00:14:08,040 --> 00:14:10,440 Speaker 1: longer be having any more Cheapa. 327 00:14:10,320 --> 00:14:12,440 Speaker 2: Definitely don't have. She can't even handle the ones that 328 00:14:12,480 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 2: you do have. 329 00:14:14,040 --> 00:14:16,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I mean, I think Op needs to get 330 00:14:16,880 --> 00:14:21,440 Speaker 1: a visactomy like aysaph. But the thing that's like, that's scary. 331 00:14:21,640 --> 00:14:24,160 Speaker 1: Is what it seems like she's doing is like she's 332 00:14:24,200 --> 00:14:26,760 Speaker 1: like and maybe I don't know if this is true, 333 00:14:26,760 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 1: but it almost feels like she's intentionally getting pregnant somehow. 334 00:14:29,920 --> 00:14:32,280 Speaker 1: Every time she needs to go back to work a 335 00:14:32,280 --> 00:14:36,840 Speaker 1: little bit, it feels like too perfect, you know, suspicious. 336 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:40,840 Speaker 2: I'm suspicious. It's just she's just not a partner. They're 337 00:14:40,840 --> 00:14:44,120 Speaker 2: not partners. He's having to look after another child, basically, and. 338 00:14:44,120 --> 00:14:46,480 Speaker 1: It's Brittany Beach has a good comment. She doesn't want 339 00:14:46,520 --> 00:14:48,960 Speaker 1: to be a mother and she doesn't want to work, like, 340 00:14:49,080 --> 00:14:51,360 Speaker 1: she doesn't want to do either. She's just being a mother, 341 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:52,360 Speaker 1: so she doesn't have. 342 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:54,360 Speaker 2: To work exactly, Like she just wants to stay home 343 00:14:54,400 --> 00:14:55,240 Speaker 2: and do nothing. 344 00:14:55,400 --> 00:14:57,760 Speaker 1: And Kimberly Fine says she's finding hard to love her 345 00:14:57,800 --> 00:15:00,880 Speaker 1: manipulation tools after the person and who was obligated a 346 00:15:00,880 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 1: lover what doesn't want to stay with the ovulated weather 347 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:07,120 Speaker 1: wasn't around a baby her Further, Yeah, like the husband's 348 00:15:07,120 --> 00:15:09,080 Speaker 1: not playing her games anyway. I told my wife she 349 00:15:09,120 --> 00:15:11,040 Speaker 1: had to talk to her doctor and that we'd no 350 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:13,960 Speaker 1: longer be having any more children. She was and we 351 00:15:14,000 --> 00:15:16,359 Speaker 1: had a huge fight about it. But I got a vasectomy, 352 00:15:16,800 --> 00:15:18,880 Speaker 1: and she accepted me nice. I think that's the way 353 00:15:18,880 --> 00:15:21,120 Speaker 1: to go. We've always used protection. My wife is on 354 00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:23,880 Speaker 1: birth control, and I always used condoms, but given that 355 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:26,480 Speaker 1: it had already failed twice for us. When my first 356 00:15:26,560 --> 00:15:28,880 Speaker 1: was conceived after my twenty first, I was so drunk. 357 00:15:28,920 --> 00:15:31,680 Speaker 1: I don't think I wore one. Our second after celebrating 358 00:15:31,680 --> 00:15:34,080 Speaker 1: her new job, and our third at our friend's wedding, 359 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:36,440 Speaker 1: I didn't want it to happen again, but obviously the 360 00:15:36,520 --> 00:15:40,200 Speaker 1: universe had other plans for us, and our third daughter 361 00:15:40,640 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 1: was born two years after a second when we were 362 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:48,560 Speaker 1: celebrating a promotion i'd gotten out sport before. I think 363 00:15:48,680 --> 00:15:53,240 Speaker 1: after because of vasectomy doesn't mean, like you, you definitely 364 00:15:53,280 --> 00:15:54,000 Speaker 1: can't have kids. 365 00:15:54,040 --> 00:15:56,000 Speaker 2: Well, it's like very very low. 366 00:15:57,280 --> 00:16:00,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's much lower. And they were using protection. But 367 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:04,120 Speaker 1: I guess when they celebrate, you know, they celebrate in. 368 00:16:04,120 --> 00:16:04,960 Speaker 2: Style really hard. 369 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:09,360 Speaker 1: Yeah. Obviously, this is a brief summary of events, and 370 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:11,560 Speaker 1: there have been several other moments throughout the years when 371 00:16:11,560 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 1: I've suggested she go back to work, but I thought 372 00:16:13,680 --> 00:16:16,440 Speaker 1: i'd try to provide further background for those who are 373 00:16:16,480 --> 00:16:18,720 Speaker 1: curious about how we got to where we are. Someone 374 00:16:18,760 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 1: asked if my wife has had a break recently. She 375 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:24,360 Speaker 1: has never taken two weeks away before, but she goes 376 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:26,600 Speaker 1: away a couple times every year for weekend trips with 377 00:16:26,680 --> 00:16:29,560 Speaker 1: family and friends. The longest she has been gone is 378 00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:31,880 Speaker 1: a week. In regards to the dogs and why they 379 00:16:31,880 --> 00:16:34,000 Speaker 1: don't like her, she doesn't like them. He thinks the 380 00:16:34,040 --> 00:16:37,840 Speaker 1: mental stimulation to provide through Kong toys, games, puzzles, et cetera. 381 00:16:38,400 --> 00:16:41,440 Speaker 1: Is unnecessary, but freaks out if their energy levels are 382 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:44,240 Speaker 1: too high. One is a German shepherd, which I was 383 00:16:44,280 --> 00:16:47,080 Speaker 1: gifted for on my birthday, and the other is a 384 00:16:47,120 --> 00:16:51,400 Speaker 1: German Shepherd malannoise mix my wife brought home because she 385 00:16:51,520 --> 00:16:54,000 Speaker 1: thought our GSD needed a friend. 386 00:16:54,320 --> 00:16:57,760 Speaker 2: Oh wait wait, people in the comments are saying, not 387 00:16:57,840 --> 00:16:58,360 Speaker 2: his kid. 388 00:16:58,680 --> 00:17:01,720 Speaker 1: I'm thinking not his kids. Yeah, I'm thinking not his kid. 389 00:17:02,080 --> 00:17:04,320 Speaker 1: That's what she's doing every time. 390 00:17:04,520 --> 00:17:06,720 Speaker 2: Maybe that's what she's been doing all day all not. 391 00:17:06,760 --> 00:17:10,840 Speaker 1: Her kids, run that his kids rather. Yes, they have 392 00:17:10,960 --> 00:17:13,679 Speaker 1: been to training and were originally in doggie daycare for 393 00:17:13,720 --> 00:17:16,880 Speaker 1: the first couple of years. But onto the update, I suppose, 394 00:17:16,920 --> 00:17:20,199 Speaker 1: so that was all context. Now we're onto the real update, 395 00:17:20,640 --> 00:17:22,000 Speaker 1: the real one, the real one. 396 00:17:22,080 --> 00:17:24,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, some people are saying that she got to besseected 397 00:17:24,640 --> 00:17:27,840 Speaker 2: me after the third dog, I mean the third child. 398 00:17:28,320 --> 00:17:31,480 Speaker 1: So yeah, gotta have asseected me after the third child. Yes, 399 00:17:31,520 --> 00:17:34,280 Speaker 1: but now has a third daughter, because it was two 400 00:17:34,400 --> 00:17:37,119 Speaker 1: daughters and one boy. So now there's four children. 401 00:17:37,800 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 2: There's four Oh okay, yeah, I don't trust that that 402 00:17:41,400 --> 00:17:42,479 Speaker 2: daughter is is. 403 00:17:42,880 --> 00:17:46,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, four kids and John just stepped in, So TLDR 404 00:17:46,800 --> 00:17:51,200 Speaker 1: for John for Johnny Boy, easy back, I'm fixed. 405 00:17:51,760 --> 00:17:54,359 Speaker 4: How are your knees stronger than ever? 406 00:17:54,520 --> 00:17:55,720 Speaker 1: Show me those things? Dude. 407 00:17:55,800 --> 00:17:58,000 Speaker 4: He laid me down and made me stretch. 408 00:17:58,720 --> 00:18:01,680 Speaker 5: Yeah, it's basically just like the exercises for like six 409 00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:05,240 Speaker 5: to eight weeks of y Yeah, precise strength training to 410 00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:06,520 Speaker 5: come out stronger. 411 00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:08,119 Speaker 4: Than ever before. But I was literally like, I don't know, 412 00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:09,960 Speaker 4: he was bending me. 413 00:18:09,920 --> 00:18:11,679 Speaker 1: Over and it was just it was just it was 414 00:18:11,760 --> 00:18:14,160 Speaker 1: just looking at that that Crotchell read. Yeah. 415 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:16,119 Speaker 5: He was like, actually, you know, it's so funny. He 416 00:18:16,200 --> 00:18:17,919 Speaker 5: was like, hey, so, like, what do you do for 417 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:20,359 Speaker 5: the Oh, like I'm a content creator. He's like, oh, 418 00:18:20,359 --> 00:18:21,800 Speaker 5: you work for oh yeah yourself? 419 00:18:21,840 --> 00:18:22,480 Speaker 1: Okay. Yeah. 420 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:23,719 Speaker 5: I was like, yeah, but I do like a lot 421 00:18:23,760 --> 00:18:25,159 Speaker 5: of like Man on the Street stuff. We're gonna do 422 00:18:25,200 --> 00:18:27,359 Speaker 5: like a lot more of it. And he's like, oh, so, 423 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:31,280 Speaker 5: like hoktua, and I'm like actually exactly, like like like 424 00:18:31,359 --> 00:18:34,640 Speaker 5: we're we're out five to six hours getting like pounding 425 00:18:34,640 --> 00:18:36,440 Speaker 5: the pavement, getting as many interviews. 426 00:18:36,040 --> 00:18:38,800 Speaker 1: As I can. That's so funny, My god, shout out 427 00:18:38,840 --> 00:18:41,800 Speaker 1: to him. I forgot hawk to a girl. Yeah, how 428 00:18:41,840 --> 00:18:43,200 Speaker 1: is that talk to a podcast? 429 00:18:43,240 --> 00:18:43,280 Speaker 3: Is? 430 00:18:43,280 --> 00:18:44,240 Speaker 4: It's gonna get her on the show? 431 00:18:44,280 --> 00:18:47,840 Speaker 1: So number three still number three, number three. 432 00:18:47,400 --> 00:18:49,400 Speaker 3: Of the podcast. Let me look it up, but I'm 433 00:18:49,400 --> 00:18:51,879 Speaker 3: pretty sure it's that. Oh yeah, we gotta get her 434 00:18:51,880 --> 00:18:55,080 Speaker 3: on dude. Fourth on the list of the most popular 435 00:18:55,320 --> 00:19:00,520 Speaker 3: podcasts in the US. Yeah, it rated nine ten on 436 00:19:00,560 --> 00:19:01,960 Speaker 3: the I M d B. 437 00:19:04,320 --> 00:19:08,280 Speaker 1: I M d B. Wait what what are the. 438 00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:09,280 Speaker 3: Number ten on Spotify? In comedy? 439 00:19:09,480 --> 00:19:11,880 Speaker 4: Okay, that's that's that's impressive. 440 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:12,840 Speaker 1: That's still impressive. 441 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:13,560 Speaker 4: That's impressive. 442 00:19:13,600 --> 00:19:17,000 Speaker 1: What are we on Spotify? Are we ranked on Spotify? 443 00:19:18,080 --> 00:19:25,000 Speaker 1: Number ten? Yo? Let's go number tend That's not bad. 444 00:19:25,119 --> 00:19:26,040 Speaker 4: That's that's pretty good. 445 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:29,159 Speaker 1: That ain't bad. Where are we? Where are we on 446 00:19:29,200 --> 00:19:30,440 Speaker 1: the comedy podcast though? 447 00:19:30,480 --> 00:19:31,040 Speaker 3: Oh look at that. 448 00:19:31,119 --> 00:19:34,680 Speaker 5: Look Look who's underneath us? 449 00:19:34,880 --> 00:19:37,600 Speaker 4: Look who's underneath us? 450 00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:44,040 Speaker 2: Yes, you guys, yes, Oh my. 451 00:19:43,840 --> 00:19:46,320 Speaker 4: Gosh, we didn't. 452 00:19:47,920 --> 00:19:51,640 Speaker 5: Honestly, we've been we've been beating them on the whole 453 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:54,359 Speaker 5: for a long term for a while. Yeah for a 454 00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:59,720 Speaker 5: rihile next is Morgan. We're doing Okay, No one doesn't answer. 455 00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:04,720 Speaker 5: I talked to you in front of a Trader joke. 456 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:08,400 Speaker 4: Come on, I think I got I think you guys 457 00:20:08,400 --> 00:20:09,400 Speaker 4: are getting all the teachers. 458 00:20:10,160 --> 00:20:11,040 Speaker 3: I got a sign up, broke. 459 00:20:11,280 --> 00:20:13,439 Speaker 5: It really would be good to get into in a 460 00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:15,800 Speaker 5: real podcast beat. That would just make me happy. 461 00:20:15,960 --> 00:20:18,760 Speaker 1: Wait, I didn't tell you this, but when I was 462 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:21,200 Speaker 1: when I was at Comic Con, you know the guy 463 00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:25,760 Speaker 1: uh do you know? Uh no, cap on God, he's 464 00:20:25,800 --> 00:20:35,080 Speaker 1: the biggest douche ever. And start he was, he was terrible. 465 00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:38,160 Speaker 1: So I we saw I saw him on the thing 466 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:43,480 Speaker 1: and he his camera guy starts hert grassing Christian and 467 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:46,560 Speaker 1: like like touching him and stuff, and like I didn't 468 00:20:46,560 --> 00:20:48,920 Speaker 1: see this. I didn't see this, but like like he 469 00:20:49,000 --> 00:20:52,080 Speaker 1: was like like asking like Christians, like Christian A bunch 470 00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:54,639 Speaker 1: of questions. So I started asking his camera guy about 471 00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:56,840 Speaker 1: or him who he was acting as a camera guy. 472 00:20:56,840 --> 00:21:00,199 Speaker 1: A bunch of questions. But then apparently this guy, the 473 00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:02,440 Speaker 1: guy kept like touching Christian. You don't have Christian like 474 00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:04,679 Speaker 1: like you have to do a lot to not like 475 00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:08,840 Speaker 1: like upset Christian. Yeah, he was like apparently kept pushing 476 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:11,160 Speaker 1: and pushing, pushing and touching him, and Christians like, dude, 477 00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:12,880 Speaker 1: like you say, hey, like can you like back off. 478 00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:14,159 Speaker 1: I'm just trying to film. He's like, hey, can you 479 00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:15,800 Speaker 1: just back off? And then he's like, dude, if you 480 00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:20,560 Speaker 1: don't back off, I will push you. And this guy 481 00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:25,800 Speaker 1: was the he was the worst person. And I was like, oh, dude, 482 00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:28,320 Speaker 1: I've seen like some of your stuff online, like it's 483 00:21:28,400 --> 00:21:30,199 Speaker 1: like it's you know, some of it's kind of funny. 484 00:21:30,800 --> 00:21:34,080 Speaker 1: And he's like, yeah, whatever, dude. And then right, yeah, 485 00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:39,959 Speaker 1: basically something like that, dude, and and and like and 486 00:21:39,960 --> 00:21:43,879 Speaker 1: and literally at that moment, someone from the OK fam 487 00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:45,399 Speaker 1: was like s. 488 00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:51,400 Speaker 4: Yes and so low. 489 00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:54,440 Speaker 1: Then we so and then I was so excited. We 490 00:21:54,480 --> 00:21:55,399 Speaker 1: took a picture together. 491 00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:57,919 Speaker 3: They really do come in up the best times ever. 492 00:21:57,960 --> 00:22:03,280 Speaker 1: Best dude, best time, best time. And then like I 493 00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:06,520 Speaker 1: had like a little chat chat with her. She says 494 00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:09,399 Speaker 1: she watched his on TikTok and I went back and 495 00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:12,640 Speaker 1: I'm like, don't worry, bro, You'll get out there one day. 496 00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:14,240 Speaker 4: Dude. 497 00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:18,080 Speaker 1: Let's then but it was it was dude, he was 498 00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:20,800 Speaker 1: like not a nice person at all. 499 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:24,399 Speaker 5: Person to me, I'm like, if you like create something 500 00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:26,320 Speaker 5: and someone like goes up and it's like, oh, like 501 00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:29,440 Speaker 5: I enjoy your stuff, I'm like, you're the greatest person 502 00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:32,879 Speaker 5: that's ever existed. You've you've given me your time and 503 00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:36,600 Speaker 5: enjoy it. So like the the level of like recognizing 504 00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:39,960 Speaker 5: you and saying your name and then anything more than that, 505 00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:43,720 Speaker 5: like they have invested in you as a creator, right, So. 506 00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:46,680 Speaker 1: Which I feel like we have like the best were 507 00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:48,879 Speaker 1: the best. We have like the best literally literally we 508 00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:52,960 Speaker 1: have the best. Also, every time one of y'all have 509 00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:57,800 Speaker 1: come in uh uh in like person, it's always been 510 00:22:57,800 --> 00:23:01,280 Speaker 1: a vibe so great, like always. 511 00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:03,080 Speaker 4: Such an amazing positive experience. Okay, here we go. 512 00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:07,000 Speaker 3: Hundred and sixty one in the comedy. Let's go but 513 00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:08,560 Speaker 3: eleven and improv. 514 00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:10,600 Speaker 1: That's not that's not bad. There we go. 515 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:11,520 Speaker 2: That's not bad. 516 00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:13,760 Speaker 1: So yeah, that's sorry. That was my that my hot. 517 00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:14,400 Speaker 4: That was good. 518 00:23:14,600 --> 00:23:18,600 Speaker 1: All that, by the way, is on camera. So exposed. 519 00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:21,400 Speaker 3: Let's please let's make a list of all the people 520 00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:22,280 Speaker 3: we get exposed. 521 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:24,360 Speaker 4: Dude, Let's let's just get in a bunch of podcasts 522 00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:25,920 Speaker 4: before that would be so. 523 00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:28,520 Speaker 3: We have we have like one, we got five people 524 00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:29,000 Speaker 3: in the list. 525 00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:31,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, we just have. We just have people that have 526 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:33,879 Speaker 1: like just not given us the respect. 527 00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:37,560 Speaker 4: We just which that is. That is exactly how beefs starts. 528 00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:40,760 Speaker 4: It's like one thing of disrespect and then we blow 529 00:23:40,800 --> 00:23:43,760 Speaker 4: it out of proportion. That is exactly how it's supposed 530 00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:44,080 Speaker 4: to work. 531 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:47,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, not a pokemon, says who are they though? Oh, 532 00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:50,400 Speaker 1: no one, no one, Who are they though? I don't 533 00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:51,680 Speaker 1: even know that's it. 534 00:23:52,640 --> 00:23:53,680 Speaker 4: I never heard of them. 535 00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:55,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, never heard of I'm gonna hang this on my wall. 536 00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:00,800 Speaker 1: I love it so much, dude, hanging out of your 537 00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:03,119 Speaker 1: wall and we're number one. Let's get into this update. 538 00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:05,160 Speaker 1: As one of you suggested, I took a day off work. 539 00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:08,119 Speaker 1: I generally wasn't feeling too good either, but I intended 540 00:24:08,119 --> 00:24:10,000 Speaker 1: to speak to my wife about the situation while the 541 00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:12,199 Speaker 1: children were at school. Kids all at for school. By 542 00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:14,680 Speaker 1: seven ish, my wife came downstairs at eleven forty five 543 00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:17,080 Speaker 1: and seemed very shocked to see me. She asked what 544 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,280 Speaker 1: I was doing home, and I explained I took a 545 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:21,880 Speaker 1: sick day as I wasn't feeling well. The first words 546 00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:24,240 Speaker 1: out of her mouth were, but we need the money. 547 00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:27,359 Speaker 1: You don't look that bad, dude. I think someone's coming 548 00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:29,240 Speaker 1: over to the house. I think someone's coming over the 549 00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:31,560 Speaker 1: house while he's gone, and that's why she's worried. 550 00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:37,440 Speaker 3: So she does have another job given out hands ooh smart. 551 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:39,560 Speaker 1: I made a face and she quickly asked what was 552 00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:42,040 Speaker 1: wrong and asked me if she could get anything. I 553 00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:43,720 Speaker 1: asked for a water and we sat on the couch, 554 00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:46,360 Speaker 1: but soon her phone rang and she went off into 555 00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:48,680 Speaker 1: the kitchen to talk. She came back a while later 556 00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:50,840 Speaker 1: and asked if I wanted to get something to eat, 557 00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:52,919 Speaker 1: and I said we could make something from the kitchen. 558 00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:55,320 Speaker 1: She said she wanted to go out, and I said 559 00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:57,600 Speaker 1: we could order takeout, but I wasn't in the mood 560 00:24:57,600 --> 00:24:59,520 Speaker 1: to go out. The dogs had been sitting by the 561 00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:02,560 Speaker 1: chest free waiting in the pantry for their lunchtime Enrichmond 562 00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:04,679 Speaker 1: for ten minutes now, and I asked if she was 563 00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:07,080 Speaker 1: going to feed them. She flopped onto the couch and 564 00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:09,320 Speaker 1: asked me to get it. I said no. She asked 565 00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:11,560 Speaker 1: again and I said no again. She glared at me, 566 00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:13,600 Speaker 1: but eventually got up and gave it to them. She 567 00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:15,520 Speaker 1: asked me to take her out again several times and 568 00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:18,000 Speaker 1: I kept saying no, I was starting to get a migraine, 569 00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:20,760 Speaker 1: which I told her, but she kept asking, suggesting we 570 00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,399 Speaker 1: should go shopping, she could get her nails done and 571 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:26,000 Speaker 1: we could enjoy the day together. I refused, said we 572 00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:28,520 Speaker 1: had something to talk about, and she said we would 573 00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:32,200 Speaker 1: then just went upstairs. We came back down forty minutes later, 574 00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:35,000 Speaker 1: rested up and said if I wasn't going to take 575 00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:37,359 Speaker 1: her out, she'd go herself. I tried to get her 576 00:25:37,359 --> 00:25:39,280 Speaker 1: to sit down so we could talk, but she blew 577 00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:42,200 Speaker 1: me a kiss at the door and rushed outside without 578 00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,159 Speaker 1: even locking it. While she was out, I took some 579 00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:46,359 Speaker 1: of your advice and canceled the cleaning lady we have. 580 00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:49,000 Speaker 1: I apologized to her, as I really did like her, 581 00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:51,280 Speaker 1: but she was very understanding, and I think we parted 582 00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:54,359 Speaker 1: on good terms. She returned home at eight pm and 583 00:25:54,480 --> 00:25:56,560 Speaker 1: immediately asked where dinner was. 584 00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:59,760 Speaker 3: Oh my god, audacity. 585 00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:02,560 Speaker 1: Old dacity, Oh my god. I told her the kids 586 00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:04,639 Speaker 1: and I had already ate. She asked where her dinner 587 00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:06,639 Speaker 1: was and I told her she'd have to make something 588 00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:09,119 Speaker 1: for herself. She said she'd just order something and I 589 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:11,199 Speaker 1: told her no. This gave her a pause and she 590 00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:13,719 Speaker 1: looked at me like I just told her she had 591 00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:16,320 Speaker 1: to start. She said she couldn't cook, and I told her, 592 00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:19,840 Speaker 1: I know, she's perfectly capable of making something. We have 593 00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:21,879 Speaker 1: plenty of food. It's not like she has to be 594 00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:25,000 Speaker 1: Gordon Ramsay to stick a tin of soup or something 595 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:27,440 Speaker 1: on the stove. She left again and returned thirty minutes 596 00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:31,080 Speaker 1: later with McDonald's for herself, which set the younger kids off. Yes, 597 00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:33,160 Speaker 1: they had already ate, but she walked in the door 598 00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:36,200 Speaker 1: finishing her burger and drink with an empty bag and 599 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:39,640 Speaker 1: a mcflurry tub. Our youngest asked why she didn't bring 600 00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:42,240 Speaker 1: her any ice cream, and my wife said, Daddy didn't 601 00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:42,800 Speaker 1: allow me to. 602 00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:45,919 Speaker 4: Dude, I really hate that. 603 00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:48,200 Speaker 1: I did not say this, and I swear took more 604 00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:50,000 Speaker 1: strength than I'd like to admit not to yell at 605 00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,040 Speaker 1: her in front of our daughter. When the kids were 606 00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:54,240 Speaker 1: in bed, I asked her to sit and talk about 607 00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:56,639 Speaker 1: the situation regarding our trips. She asked if I had 608 00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,480 Speaker 1: rescheduled with my brother, and I fermally told her no 609 00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:02,320 Speaker 1: and that I wouldn't be I tried to have a conversation. 610 00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:05,760 Speaker 1: I explained I felt her duties were incredibly uneven and 611 00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:08,040 Speaker 1: that I'd like for her to take on more responsibilities 612 00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:10,560 Speaker 1: with the children and the house. She argued that she 613 00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:12,600 Speaker 1: does enough, and I asked her to make a list. 614 00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:13,880 Speaker 1: What does she do? Oh? 615 00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:16,280 Speaker 3: No comparing lists. 616 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:19,840 Speaker 1: She put laundry down, beating the dog, making doctor's appointment, 617 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:22,200 Speaker 1: and grocery shopping. And I brought out my own list 618 00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:25,879 Speaker 1: with everything I've told you guys so far, and added 619 00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:29,280 Speaker 1: that I created the dog's meals. She simply has to 620 00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:31,840 Speaker 1: give it to them. I fold and distribute the laundry, 621 00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:35,080 Speaker 1: take kids to the doctor's appointments, and that the groceries 622 00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:38,080 Speaker 1: are ordered through an app on her phone, delivered to 623 00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:39,639 Speaker 1: the house and I put them away. 624 00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:41,760 Speaker 4: She just uses an app. 625 00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:44,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, she just probably do Amazon priming those groceries. 626 00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:46,679 Speaker 3: Probably she already has on set list, so she just 627 00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:47,879 Speaker 3: has to press bye again. 628 00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,840 Speaker 1: You know, Rue, it's not that hard. It takes five minutes. 629 00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,639 Speaker 5: Also, the level of free sponsors in this episode is 630 00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:54,480 Speaker 5: too high. 631 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:59,119 Speaker 1: Saw I at a lot. She got up. Then I 632 00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:01,040 Speaker 1: asked what she was doing, and she said she was 633 00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:03,399 Speaker 1: going upstairs. I didn't argue. I didn't want it to 634 00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:05,919 Speaker 1: resolve to an argument and wake the kids up. She 635 00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:08,440 Speaker 1: was visibly shaking with anger. A while later, I went 636 00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:11,119 Speaker 1: upstairs as well. She was on the phone to someone. 637 00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:13,359 Speaker 1: When I entered the room, she demanded I leave and 638 00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:15,760 Speaker 1: go sleep on the couch. I refused and climbed to bed. 639 00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:18,240 Speaker 1: She hung up the phone and demanded again that I 640 00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:20,600 Speaker 1: sleep on the couch, and again I refuse. She grabbed 641 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,680 Speaker 1: me and physically tried to drag me out. That resulted 642 00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:25,679 Speaker 1: in a fight, and I ended up sleeping on the 643 00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:28,200 Speaker 1: couch because she was going to wake the kids up again. 644 00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:30,280 Speaker 1: The following days were much of the same. I have 645 00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:32,720 Speaker 1: stopped folding and putting away her laundry. I do it 646 00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:34,879 Speaker 1: for myself and the younger kids, and my two oldest 647 00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:37,359 Speaker 1: take their piles and put them away themselves. I still 648 00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:39,360 Speaker 1: cook for the kids, but have told my wife that 649 00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:41,360 Speaker 1: she has to make her own meals. Petty I know. 650 00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:44,320 Speaker 1: I think my eldest heard us arguing because he asked 651 00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:45,920 Speaker 1: if he could take the dogs out for a couple 652 00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:48,360 Speaker 1: walks with his friends during the week. He says he's 653 00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:50,760 Speaker 1: enjoying it, but I think he and my wife had 654 00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:53,160 Speaker 1: an argument the other day because he's been very distant 655 00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:55,840 Speaker 1: with her and things feel off. He asked me about 656 00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,160 Speaker 1: three times if I love him, and of course I 657 00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:00,200 Speaker 1: told him there's nothing he could ever do to make 658 00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:02,200 Speaker 1: me not. Yes, I've tried to talk to him about it, 659 00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:03,840 Speaker 1: but he doesn't want all right, I have I have 660 00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:06,719 Speaker 1: an ICU oldest found out that the wife is cheating 661 00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:08,800 Speaker 1: and wants to tell him. 662 00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:14,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why he wants that reassurance. 663 00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:16,240 Speaker 1: Yep, because he's like, if I tell you anything that 664 00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:17,360 Speaker 1: could mess up your marriage. 665 00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:20,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, because because the wife probably knows and said, if 666 00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:22,160 Speaker 3: you ever tell him, YadA YadA YadA. 667 00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:25,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, he'll never love you. Dude, dude, no way, no way, 668 00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:27,600 Speaker 1: my ICUs. 669 00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:31,440 Speaker 4: My Reddit IQ, he's seeing high, he's seeing them. 670 00:29:31,560 --> 00:29:31,800 Speaker 5: Use. 671 00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:33,480 Speaker 1: Yes, I've tried to talk to him about it, but 672 00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:34,960 Speaker 1: he doesn't want to talk yet, and I need to 673 00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:37,120 Speaker 1: respect that. I think pushing him could be a mistake. 674 00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:39,240 Speaker 1: Thursday night, my wife asked if we could have a 675 00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:41,080 Speaker 1: drink as I had to leave on Friday to see 676 00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:43,040 Speaker 1: my brother. I had a few drinks, but honestly, it 677 00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:44,680 Speaker 1: went right to my head, and honestly I just wanted 678 00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:47,280 Speaker 1: to sleep. She kept trying to initiate spicy sleep, but 679 00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:48,440 Speaker 1: I wasn't in the mood. 680 00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:50,880 Speaker 3: Because she trying to have another kid. The trip's coming up, 681 00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:53,080 Speaker 3: and she might have another kid, so that's why she's like, Oh, 682 00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:53,960 Speaker 3: let's make it happen. 683 00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:54,960 Speaker 4: Push president dude. 684 00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:57,080 Speaker 1: As soon as soon as he asked her to do 685 00:29:57,160 --> 00:29:59,240 Speaker 1: any kind of work, what did she do? She gets pregnant, 686 00:29:59,280 --> 00:29:59,880 Speaker 1: She gets. 687 00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:00,560 Speaker 3: Mag the other guy. 688 00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:02,160 Speaker 4: I'm pregnant. I can't do it. 689 00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:04,480 Speaker 1: I woke up Friday morning and my wife was gone, 690 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:07,280 Speaker 1: so is her suitcase. I've texted and called, but there's 691 00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:09,720 Speaker 1: been no answer other than a text telling me we 692 00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,120 Speaker 1: talk about it when she's back. She ignored me and 693 00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:15,200 Speaker 1: went on our trip regardless, and I am furious. I 694 00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:17,120 Speaker 1: have left her some cash in the bank account. She 695 00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:19,960 Speaker 1: has the card too, but have removed everything else into 696 00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:20,880 Speaker 1: another account. 697 00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:22,800 Speaker 4: That's a big one. That's a big one. 698 00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:24,760 Speaker 1: I had to call my brother why wouldn't be coming 699 00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:26,800 Speaker 1: to see him? And he arrived here on Saturday with 700 00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:29,560 Speaker 1: my nephew and two nieces. The house is very full, 701 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:31,680 Speaker 1: but honestly, it feels more open than it has in 702 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:34,480 Speaker 1: a long long time. The kids seemed relaxed, and so 703 00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:37,040 Speaker 1: did the dogs. Like literally, everything's better when she leaves. 704 00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:40,719 Speaker 3: That's crazy. It's like whenever in the office, Luke leaves 705 00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:43,400 Speaker 3: and everything's better. The Michael's nephew. 706 00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:46,280 Speaker 1: I just watched this house. Oh, yes, that's an old one. 707 00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:47,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, I watched it last night. 708 00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:49,400 Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't know what will happen with my wife, 709 00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:51,640 Speaker 1: but I am done. I can't afford in a lawyer 710 00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:53,960 Speaker 1: right now, and unfortunately I don't know any who could 711 00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:55,719 Speaker 1: give me a deal or do me a favor. But 712 00:30:55,800 --> 00:30:58,560 Speaker 1: this marriage is over. It should have been over a 713 00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:03,360 Speaker 1: long time ago. And there is it updates. Oh my goodness. Okay, 714 00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:06,080 Speaker 1: So John, what are your conspiracy theories right now? 715 00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:09,400 Speaker 5: Sounds like I think your conspiracy theory of the kid 716 00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:11,600 Speaker 5: knows that she's cheating, she's trying to coerce him into 717 00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:14,719 Speaker 5: not doing it. Still, back to the vasectomy, I'm like, 718 00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:17,080 Speaker 5: how could she have given birth to the to the 719 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:17,800 Speaker 5: last one? 720 00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:21,560 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, like like if a sectomy isn't perfect. 721 00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:23,880 Speaker 4: But with protect with protection every do we know? 722 00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:24,479 Speaker 1: Do we know? 723 00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:27,200 Speaker 4: Like was it like protection was used every time? 724 00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:29,120 Speaker 1: I don't know if it's every time. It seems like 725 00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:32,160 Speaker 1: whenever they celebrate, there's like all right, taking off the 726 00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:36,040 Speaker 1: taking off the protection, right, So maybe not, but I 727 00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:38,600 Speaker 1: feel like it's kind of a little suspicious. 728 00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:41,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't like it unless she has a freezer 729 00:31:42,040 --> 00:31:45,200 Speaker 3: full of his little guys and she. 730 00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:48,360 Speaker 1: Melts turkey bases each time. 731 00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:50,920 Speaker 4: Oh wow, that would be crazy. 732 00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:54,040 Speaker 1: Every sloppy copy is just like we can't you can't 733 00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:57,480 Speaker 1: use uh wait yeah, if it, if it. 734 00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:00,320 Speaker 3: But I was thinking the like the round thing that 735 00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:02,880 Speaker 3: they used to protect and then she pours it into 736 00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:04,200 Speaker 3: a little the protection. 737 00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:06,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, she pours it. 738 00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:09,440 Speaker 1: Mixes with spit. Are you are you screwed? Yep? Really yep? 739 00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:13,240 Speaker 3: Actually yeah, because whenever you donate whatever you can, you 740 00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:16,560 Speaker 3: can't have any other substance in the in the vile. 741 00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:18,280 Speaker 1: But I feel like that's like just like if you're 742 00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:20,440 Speaker 1: trying to be like super precise with. 743 00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:22,680 Speaker 3: It, well it does mess up because it's like other 744 00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:25,160 Speaker 3: like bacteria and stuff. 745 00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:28,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like not it's not it's not good. 746 00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:31,800 Speaker 3: Probably you over tome it just isn't, right, Is that true? 747 00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:32,280 Speaker 1: Yeah? 748 00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:36,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, don't ask you. I know it's true. 749 00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,120 Speaker 1: I don't know if that's true because like, like doesn't 750 00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:44,400 Speaker 1: Drake put hot sauce in his protection, so like it 751 00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:46,480 Speaker 1: won't won't get pregnant. But there's no science based on 752 00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:47,080 Speaker 1: that there. 753 00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:50,720 Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, there's no science. But yeah, that's true. 754 00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:56,479 Speaker 1: Actually a little little, little burning. But I think that's true. 755 00:32:57,000 --> 00:33:01,240 Speaker 4: What he does that for their no, for his pleasure. 756 00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:04,880 Speaker 3: We'll see what AI says. Yes, you can save little 757 00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:07,440 Speaker 3: guys in your mouth if it's kept in its Joe 758 00:33:07,600 --> 00:33:11,080 Speaker 3: like form. However, saliva can have a negative effect on 759 00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:16,280 Speaker 3: sperm mobility and activity. High conversations of saliva can cause 760 00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:20,160 Speaker 3: a shaking momentum in twelve percent of sperm infertile couples. 761 00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:26,120 Speaker 3: Large amounts of saliva can impair sperm mobility in infertile couples. 762 00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:30,080 Speaker 3: Sperm can survive outside of the body for fifteen to 763 00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:33,800 Speaker 3: thirty minutes in a suitable environment. However, sperm quickly die 764 00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:37,080 Speaker 3: when exposed to air and semen starts to dry. Oral 765 00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:41,680 Speaker 3: spicy sleep and swallowing little guys can increase the. 766 00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:46,320 Speaker 1: Continue with the story. We're going, We're going