1 00:00:01,880 --> 00:00:04,960 Speaker 1: Hey everyone, It's Jay Sheddy and I'm thrilled to announce 2 00:00:05,000 --> 00:00:07,840 Speaker 1: my podcast tour. For the first time ever, you can 3 00:00:07,880 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 1: experience on purpose in person. Join me in a city 4 00:00:12,200 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 1: near you for meaningful, insightful conversations with surprise guests. It 5 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:20,439 Speaker 1: could be a celebrity, top wellness expert, or a CEO 6 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:25,079 Speaker 1: or business leader. We'll dive into experiences designed to experience growth, 7 00:00:25,360 --> 00:00:29,159 Speaker 1: spark learning, and build real connections. I can't wait to 8 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: meet you. There are a limited number of VIP experiences 9 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: for a private Q and a intimate meditation and a 10 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:39,360 Speaker 1: meet and greet with photos. Tickets are on sale now. 11 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:43,520 Speaker 1: Head to jsheddy dot me forward slash Tour and get 12 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:44,200 Speaker 1: yours today. 13 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:48,159 Speaker 2: Irrelevant of whether you have money or not, when you 14 00:00:48,200 --> 00:00:50,919 Speaker 2: are poor, when you're broke, when you're struggling financially, it 15 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 2: feels really hard to feel abundant and rich. But in 16 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 2: order to get out of it, it's not feeling worse 17 00:00:57,240 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 2: about it. It's starting to feel better about me, better 18 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 2: about my values, my character, my kindness, my generosity, and 19 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 2: seeing how can I add value to others? How can 20 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:10,919 Speaker 2: I get into a richness inside of me to serve 21 00:01:11,319 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 2: and take care of me at the same time. 22 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 1: The number one health and wellness podcast, Jay Sety Jay 23 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 1: Setty sly set. The world in which we're living today 24 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:27,840 Speaker 1: doesn't seem to distribute wealth in a way that allows 25 00:01:27,880 --> 00:01:30,320 Speaker 1: people to access it. Some people have been set up 26 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 1: really badly. They had poor access to education, They didn't 27 00:01:34,240 --> 00:01:37,440 Speaker 1: really know what jobs were available. People are working really 28 00:01:37,480 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 1: really hard and not taking that much home. People are 29 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:43,479 Speaker 1: coming at it from a place of pain, of desperation, 30 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:46,920 Speaker 1: of stress. So everyone already knows that money is stressful. 31 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:50,720 Speaker 1: And your first point here is make money easy. Yes, 32 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:53,320 Speaker 1: And so I want to ask you when someone's coming 33 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:56,440 Speaker 1: at money. Our relationship with money is already at a 34 00:01:56,480 --> 00:01:59,600 Speaker 1: place kind of like finding love. We're desperate for it, 35 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:03,240 Speaker 1: we're stressed by it, we're paralyzed by it, we feel 36 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 1: the pressure for it. What do you do when you're 37 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:08,280 Speaker 1: feeling all of that? What's the first thing you need 38 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 1: to do? 39 00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:10,880 Speaker 2: The step one is you need awareness. And again you 40 00:02:10,919 --> 00:02:13,079 Speaker 2: probably say this so often, and people have probably heard 41 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:15,680 Speaker 2: this so frequently, but if you don't have awareness on 42 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:20,760 Speaker 2: your attachment style towards money and how your nervous system 43 00:02:21,120 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 2: is when you receive money or when money leaves you 44 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 2: when you have to pay your bills or give money away. 45 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 2: I want people to create just a scenario of awareness 46 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:33,920 Speaker 2: around how you feel and how you think when you 47 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 2: receive money, when you pay money, when you look at 48 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 2: your bank account, when you open your purse, your wallet, 49 00:02:39,760 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 2: and just notice how do I feel? Do I have 50 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 2: shallow breathing? Do I feel relaxed? Do I feel anxious? 51 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 2: Do I feel scarce? Do I feel abundant? Just Step 52 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:53,320 Speaker 2: one is have awareness on how do I feel and 53 00:02:53,360 --> 00:02:56,960 Speaker 2: how do I think about my money? The money I have, 54 00:02:57,400 --> 00:02:59,519 Speaker 2: the money that's coming in and the money that's going out. 55 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 2: That's step one. And when you can just have awareness 56 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:06,320 Speaker 2: around it, you can start to say, is my relationship 57 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:07,960 Speaker 2: the one that I want to be having? Do I 58 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 2: feel really secure around money? If not, okay, what's something 59 00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 2: I can think about? First? Let me think about my 60 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 2: money story, the story of my life around money. We 61 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 2: grow up as kids and we watch our parents in 62 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 2: their relationship, and we tend to develop the relationship style 63 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 2: of our parents. Unless we learn how to heal as 64 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:33,280 Speaker 2: a teenager and have some type of breakthrough. We're creating 65 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 2: some type of attachment style based on what we see 66 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 2: with our parents. But think about all the conversations your 67 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 2: parents had around money, and if your parents didn't have 68 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 2: a secure relationship, if they fought, did they fight about money? 69 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:47,680 Speaker 2: Were you involved in the conversation about how expensive things 70 00:03:47,720 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 2: were about your school or sports or programs that they 71 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:53,520 Speaker 2: had to pay for they can afford. Did they argue, 72 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 2: did they have challenges? Did they get divorced? Money is 73 00:03:57,680 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 2: one of the biggest reasons people get divorced. It's one 74 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:03,080 Speaker 2: of the biggest arguments in marriage as well. So just notice, 75 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 2: is my nervous system, is my body? Is my energy? 76 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 2: Are my thoughts stressed out around money? Do I feel 77 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 2: scarce or do I feel abundant? That's kind of step one, 78 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 2: And then step two is understanding your money's story, because 79 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 2: when you can reflect on your money's story, you can 80 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:23,359 Speaker 2: see what your money personality style is today and for 81 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:26,160 Speaker 2: many years, and we can talk about both of us 82 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 2: thinking about our past. For many years, I didn't understand 83 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:33,280 Speaker 2: money growing up. We didn't have a lot growing up. 84 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:37,240 Speaker 2: We weren't completely poor, but I wasn't as well off 85 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:38,919 Speaker 2: as the other kids in my class, So I always 86 00:04:38,920 --> 00:04:41,160 Speaker 2: felt a little bit beneath everyone else, and so my 87 00:04:41,279 --> 00:04:43,600 Speaker 2: belief system was around that I'm just a little bit 88 00:04:43,680 --> 00:04:45,440 Speaker 2: under everyone else. Everyone else is doing a little bit 89 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:47,800 Speaker 2: better than us. Sure we have a home and I'm 90 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:51,440 Speaker 2: going to school, but everyone's got rollerblades, I'm in sneakers. 91 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:54,159 Speaker 2: People have Nintendo. I don't have one. I'm reading a book, 92 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:55,599 Speaker 2: whatever it is. It was like I was a little 93 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 2: bit beneath and that started to shape my story in 94 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 2: my personality style. So I felt very insecure around money. 95 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:04,039 Speaker 2: And when I got it, I got really excited, but 96 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:05,719 Speaker 2: I didn't know what to do with it. So I 97 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:08,880 Speaker 2: was also afraid I was insecure and I was just 98 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:11,919 Speaker 2: unsure of it, and it really started to shape my 99 00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:14,839 Speaker 2: personality style. Now. When I was in my teen years, 100 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 2: my dad started to make more money and started to 101 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:19,200 Speaker 2: teach me a little bit, but I was still like, 102 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:21,240 Speaker 2: just I want to be a teenager. I don't want 103 00:05:21,240 --> 00:05:23,599 Speaker 2: to think about this stuff. It seems confusing. I just 104 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:28,040 Speaker 2: want to have fun. In my twenties, when I got 105 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:31,600 Speaker 2: done playing football, I went to go pursue football, got 106 00:05:31,640 --> 00:05:33,440 Speaker 2: injured and I was on my sister's couch for a 107 00:05:33,520 --> 00:05:35,560 Speaker 2: year and a half and I had no money, and 108 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 2: I just felt like, how am I going to make 109 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:39,480 Speaker 2: this work. How am I going to make money? I 110 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:41,039 Speaker 2: don't know what my skills are. I don't know what 111 00:05:41,080 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 2: my talents are. This is in two thousand and eight 112 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:45,599 Speaker 2: when the economy was crashing, so it kind of felt 113 00:05:45,600 --> 00:05:48,159 Speaker 2: like it is right now with inflation going up so 114 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:50,679 Speaker 2: much right now and people worried about money in the future. 115 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:55,799 Speaker 2: I didn't understand, and I needed to find money mentors 116 00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:58,560 Speaker 2: to start teaching me how to learn about how I 117 00:05:58,560 --> 00:06:01,880 Speaker 2: can receive money and spend it in a more efficient way. 118 00:06:02,400 --> 00:06:04,160 Speaker 2: And that was kind of the journey of me starting 119 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:06,120 Speaker 2: to figure this out. But if we don't have the 120 00:06:06,200 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 2: tools or the money knowledge, then we're always going to 121 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:12,840 Speaker 2: be stuck in our money story as our money personality style. 122 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:15,800 Speaker 2: And so it's getting to understand awareness. How does it 123 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:19,279 Speaker 2: feel when I receive money and I spend money? What 124 00:06:19,440 --> 00:06:21,719 Speaker 2: is the history of the story around money for me? 125 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 2: Did my parents fight that I feel anxious around money? 126 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:27,239 Speaker 2: I used to steal a lot when I was a kid, 127 00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 2: so I had some wounds around money. I had people 128 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:32,480 Speaker 2: steal from me as well. So I just had all 129 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 2: these different wounds that I had to address and get 130 00:06:34,839 --> 00:06:37,479 Speaker 2: clear on, and I had to learn how to start 131 00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 2: healing those money wounds. And again, I know this is 132 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:42,719 Speaker 2: the place to come to create more wholeness, to be 133 00:06:42,760 --> 00:06:45,240 Speaker 2: healthier in your life, and to become more healed. And 134 00:06:45,279 --> 00:06:47,359 Speaker 2: that's what I want for people to start to reflect 135 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:50,279 Speaker 2: on their money story, write down some of these things 136 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:53,400 Speaker 2: so you have awareness first off, on why you think 137 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:55,919 Speaker 2: and feel the way you do around money. Then you 138 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:59,119 Speaker 2: can start to see how your personality style towards money 139 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 2: now is either helping you create more abundance or keeping 140 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 2: you in scarcity, in lack. And from there we can 141 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:06,839 Speaker 2: start to have some breakthroughs. 142 00:07:06,960 --> 00:07:10,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, let's talk about all three because as I'm listening 143 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:13,760 Speaker 1: to you, I'm thinking that for most of us, when 144 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:17,320 Speaker 1: we get aware, we actually realize we don't even want 145 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 1: to look at our finances now, right, That's how we 146 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:24,120 Speaker 1: all feel because we're so scared and there's been such 147 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:27,440 Speaker 1: a fear built around money that it's like I don't 148 00:07:27,440 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 1: even want to know because I'm so scared. Now when 149 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:32,560 Speaker 1: I get my paycheck, I'm thinking, oh God, I hope 150 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 1: this covers my rent, my groceries, my bills, whatever else 151 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:38,960 Speaker 1: I've got to cover. And then that becomes your stress point, 152 00:07:39,480 --> 00:07:41,640 Speaker 1: and then you're thinking oh gosh, I haven't got enough 153 00:07:41,640 --> 00:07:43,600 Speaker 1: to spend on this thing that I really wanted to do, 154 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:45,760 Speaker 1: or I wanted to do something for my kids, or 155 00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:48,080 Speaker 1: whatever it may be. So now there's stress. And so 156 00:07:48,120 --> 00:07:50,239 Speaker 1: I think for most people, when you actually get awareenes 157 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 1: you start realizing it's stress. 158 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:55,720 Speaker 2: And it's never enough, and it's never enough, never making enough. 159 00:07:55,840 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 2: And also, I've got one hundred thousand in student loan debt. 160 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:00,880 Speaker 2: I have this other credit because I wanted to go 161 00:08:00,920 --> 00:08:02,640 Speaker 2: on a trip, or I had a medical expense that 162 00:08:03,240 --> 00:08:06,720 Speaker 2: unexpected that came up. Like so many people are struggling 163 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:08,960 Speaker 2: to be figuring out how to get out of debt. 164 00:08:09,040 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 2: They have this weight that's carrying them back. But they 165 00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:13,960 Speaker 2: still want to feel like they're free to live a 166 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:16,160 Speaker 2: life of their dreams. They want to be able to 167 00:08:16,160 --> 00:08:17,480 Speaker 2: go on a trip with a friend a few times 168 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 2: a year. They want to go to those expensive concerts. 169 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:22,400 Speaker 2: They want to have fun still, but they're unfortunately in 170 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:24,720 Speaker 2: a lot of debt. So there's something that's pulling them 171 00:08:24,760 --> 00:08:27,000 Speaker 2: back as they're trying to go forward, and they feel 172 00:08:27,040 --> 00:08:29,720 Speaker 2: like there's no way to break free. They think about 173 00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:34,080 Speaker 2: the rising costs of eggs, the inflation, how everything is 174 00:08:34,120 --> 00:08:36,440 Speaker 2: just constant. You can't afford a home anymore. All these 175 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 2: things seem impossible to break through. But people want to 176 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:44,000 Speaker 2: feel free, but they don't feel emotionally free because of 177 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:46,600 Speaker 2: all the baggage they have in their life. And that's 178 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:48,959 Speaker 2: what I want people to start to feel, is how 179 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:53,839 Speaker 2: can you feel emotionally free so that your money can 180 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:57,320 Speaker 2: come to you effortlessly and when it leaves you, it's 181 00:08:57,360 --> 00:09:00,200 Speaker 2: not a bad thing. And the more we relax, more 182 00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 2: we can receive. And so if I'm tight and I'm 183 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:05,400 Speaker 2: always anxious, or I'm not willing to look at my 184 00:09:05,440 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 2: bank account because I'm afraid of what's in there, how 185 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:12,079 Speaker 2: are we able to receive more and spend more freely? 186 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:15,280 Speaker 2: And I think for many years I was able to. 187 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:18,360 Speaker 2: I learned how to make money, but I didn't learn 188 00:09:18,400 --> 00:09:20,800 Speaker 2: how to spend money, and so I just hoarded it 189 00:09:20,840 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 2: because I was afraid to go back being broken my 190 00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:24,720 Speaker 2: sister's couch. I didn't want to go be broke again, 191 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:27,199 Speaker 2: so I just stashed it away into my bank account 192 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 2: and just like okay, I would have just wait for 193 00:09:28,920 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 2: it to grow so I feel safe. But that was 194 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 2: almost like a prison in a sense. Emotionally because I 195 00:09:34,640 --> 00:09:36,960 Speaker 2: didn't feel free to spend it. I was still sleeping 196 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:39,800 Speaker 2: on friends couches. I had a million dollars in the bank, 197 00:09:39,840 --> 00:09:42,160 Speaker 2: and I was sleeping on friends couches. I was sitting 198 00:09:42,200 --> 00:09:44,719 Speaker 2: in the middle seat, the cheapest seat I could on 199 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 2: buses or on planes, and I'd always be like, man, 200 00:09:47,559 --> 00:09:51,000 Speaker 2: I'm so uncomfortable. The next day, like my back hurts, 201 00:09:51,040 --> 00:09:54,520 Speaker 2: like I'm just I'm not feeling free because I was afraid. 202 00:09:54,920 --> 00:09:57,800 Speaker 2: I was anxious to lose money, and that is not 203 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:02,280 Speaker 2: emotional freedom, that is not healing. And I remember thinking 204 00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 2: to myself, God, I've got that. I'm starting to make money. 205 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:06,679 Speaker 2: It was like years into my business. I was like, 206 00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 2: I'm financially free, but I'm still trapped. What is holding 207 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:13,080 Speaker 2: me back? And I realized a lot of it was 208 00:10:13,080 --> 00:10:15,800 Speaker 2: my money story and my money personality style that I 209 00:10:15,840 --> 00:10:17,800 Speaker 2: need to start working on. And I don't know if 210 00:10:17,800 --> 00:10:19,800 Speaker 2: it's the thing that you ever like, I've arrived and 211 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:23,080 Speaker 2: I'm perfect and now I'm like this zen master at money. 212 00:10:23,160 --> 00:10:26,480 Speaker 2: It's a constant back to awareness. It's a constant practice 213 00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:29,080 Speaker 2: of awareness and breaking through those limitations. 214 00:10:29,320 --> 00:10:31,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think what I'm thinking about when I'm hearing 215 00:10:31,080 --> 00:10:33,640 Speaker 1: you is if me and you went back to a 216 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 1: place in our life where we really didn't have money. Yes, 217 00:10:38,240 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 1: And you think about someone who's in that position, who's 218 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:43,520 Speaker 1: listening to us right now, and in their head they're thinking, 219 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:49,040 Speaker 1: but how do I become abundant when I don't have well, 220 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 1: Like my natural thing is like I'm just struggling to 221 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:53,280 Speaker 1: pay my next bill, and me and you have both 222 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:56,360 Speaker 1: been in those situations. I remember when I was growing up. 223 00:10:56,520 --> 00:10:59,200 Speaker 1: I grew up in a house where we had just enough. 224 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:02,679 Speaker 1: That was the language my parents used. We have just enough, 225 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 1: and my parents would often argue about money. I remember 226 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:08,640 Speaker 1: I wasn't allowed to buy cool shoes and stuff I'd 227 00:11:08,640 --> 00:11:11,520 Speaker 1: have like the knockoff, cheapest brand from whatever, which was. 228 00:11:11,559 --> 00:11:13,320 Speaker 1: I actually didn't have an issue with that. I didn't 229 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:15,040 Speaker 1: have an issue with any of it because we had 230 00:11:15,080 --> 00:11:18,240 Speaker 1: food and that was my normality. But it's really interesting 231 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:21,079 Speaker 1: because the amount of times growing up. I started working 232 00:11:21,120 --> 00:11:24,520 Speaker 1: when I was fourteen, and I think that gave me 233 00:11:24,559 --> 00:11:28,560 Speaker 1: a really interesting sense of how hard it was to 234 00:11:28,640 --> 00:11:31,360 Speaker 1: make money. Because I started working at fourteen, I used 235 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:35,840 Speaker 1: to get paid two pounds per street that I delivered newspapers, 236 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:39,280 Speaker 1: So imagine there's a hundred houses, it's going to take me. 237 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:42,280 Speaker 2: Like not per house, no, no, no street, per street. 238 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 1: So I did five streets, and so I'd get ten 239 00:11:44,800 --> 00:11:46,720 Speaker 1: pounds at the end of the week if I did 240 00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:49,520 Speaker 1: five streets and each street would take me at least 241 00:11:49,520 --> 00:11:52,280 Speaker 1: an hour. Maybe I don't know, something like that. And 242 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:55,160 Speaker 1: so I'd walk around, I'd pull this thing and I'd 243 00:11:55,160 --> 00:11:58,160 Speaker 1: deliver it, and I got an understanding of how hard 244 00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:01,280 Speaker 1: it was to make money. But then that became a 245 00:12:01,360 --> 00:12:04,240 Speaker 1: story for me, going to your point, making money is hard, 246 00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:08,439 Speaker 1: making money is hard, and that there's only a certain 247 00:12:08,440 --> 00:12:11,040 Speaker 1: amount of money you're allowed to make at this level, 248 00:12:11,240 --> 00:12:13,520 Speaker 1: like you're a fourteen year old. Then I worked in retail. 249 00:12:13,559 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 1: I stacked shelves at a grocery store. I worked at 250 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:18,800 Speaker 1: a store called Morrison's, which is like working at Walmart. 251 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:22,560 Speaker 1: And there I remember, I got paid like five pounds 252 00:12:22,600 --> 00:12:24,800 Speaker 1: an hour, and then you get like time and a 253 00:12:24,840 --> 00:12:28,040 Speaker 1: half if you work the weekends in the evenings. All 254 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:30,600 Speaker 1: of this to say that I probably spent my whole 255 00:12:30,640 --> 00:12:34,360 Speaker 1: life only seeing zero in my bank account because everything 256 00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:36,720 Speaker 1: that would come in would pay for my phone bill, 257 00:12:37,040 --> 00:12:39,840 Speaker 1: my car insurance that I paid for whatever it was 258 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:41,559 Speaker 1: that I was taking care of so I wasn't relying 259 00:12:41,600 --> 00:12:44,240 Speaker 1: on my parents apart from I lived in their home obviously, 260 00:12:45,120 --> 00:12:47,520 Speaker 1: But I always felt like money came in, money went out, 261 00:12:47,760 --> 00:12:52,080 Speaker 1: And my story around money was people who have money 262 00:12:52,200 --> 00:12:55,240 Speaker 1: are doing something bad. So I lived in a home. 263 00:12:55,280 --> 00:12:58,040 Speaker 1: Whenever we went to a friend's home and they had 264 00:12:58,040 --> 00:13:00,520 Speaker 1: a nice home, my family would always say, oh, yeah, 265 00:13:00,559 --> 00:13:02,719 Speaker 1: but they do dodgy stuff to make money. All the 266 00:13:02,800 --> 00:13:05,600 Speaker 1: language around money was people with money are doing bad stuff. 267 00:13:05,960 --> 00:13:07,200 Speaker 1: So in my head it was like, Oh, if you 268 00:13:07,240 --> 00:13:10,400 Speaker 1: have money, then you must be doing shady stuff because 269 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:12,320 Speaker 1: we don't have money and we're not doing anything right. 270 00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:14,080 Speaker 2: You must be hurting people to make. 271 00:13:13,960 --> 00:13:17,200 Speaker 1: Money correct in some way, exploiting advantage, Yeah, take your 272 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:21,800 Speaker 1: advantage whatever. So everything you're saying is so true because 273 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:23,040 Speaker 1: then when I got to a point in my life 274 00:13:23,080 --> 00:13:25,720 Speaker 1: where I was just trying to do good and I 275 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:28,560 Speaker 1: had something like one hundred and fifty two hundred million 276 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:30,599 Speaker 1: views on content and you have no money, I was 277 00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:33,559 Speaker 1: four months away from being I I met you around 278 00:13:33,600 --> 00:13:36,520 Speaker 1: this time this time, and it was really interesting to 279 00:13:36,559 --> 00:13:40,120 Speaker 1: me because that was the time that I was actually 280 00:13:40,160 --> 00:13:42,120 Speaker 1: doing this work, which is why this book so powerful, 281 00:13:42,160 --> 00:13:45,880 Speaker 1: Because I realized that I couldn't even with one hundred 282 00:13:45,880 --> 00:13:48,760 Speaker 1: and fifty two hundred million views. It wasn't that that 283 00:13:48,880 --> 00:13:54,400 Speaker 1: made money because my story and my personality style was anxious. 284 00:13:54,640 --> 00:13:57,400 Speaker 1: I felt like it was wrong to make money, Like 285 00:13:57,440 --> 00:13:59,600 Speaker 1: that's actually what it was. I felt like making money 286 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:03,959 Speaker 1: was bad. And so until I got to that, did you. 287 00:14:03,880 --> 00:14:06,120 Speaker 2: Believe you're worthy of making more money? 288 00:14:06,160 --> 00:14:09,439 Speaker 1: I believed I was worthy, but I believe that you 289 00:14:09,440 --> 00:14:11,240 Speaker 1: had to be bad to make money. 290 00:14:11,320 --> 00:14:12,880 Speaker 2: Wow. So you didn't want to be bad. You don't 291 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:14,880 Speaker 2: want to have a lot of money and associate I 292 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:17,000 Speaker 2: have a lot of money, and now I'm bad. 293 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:18,600 Speaker 1: Correct, I'm bad and wrong. 294 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:20,520 Speaker 2: And I'm hurting others in order to tell it myself. 295 00:14:20,520 --> 00:14:23,040 Speaker 1: Correct because good people are poor wow. Right, Like to 296 00:14:23,080 --> 00:14:25,680 Speaker 1: be a good person of good character means to not 297 00:14:25,760 --> 00:14:26,280 Speaker 1: have money. 298 00:14:26,440 --> 00:14:29,400 Speaker 2: Wow. And that was based on a belief system that you. 299 00:14:29,400 --> 00:14:32,160 Speaker 1: Developed over time that I didn't even know, Like if 300 00:14:32,200 --> 00:14:34,440 Speaker 1: you would have told me about this eight years ago, 301 00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:35,840 Speaker 1: to me, I don't know, which is why I think 302 00:14:35,880 --> 00:14:38,840 Speaker 1: these reflections are so important. People. So when you're in 303 00:14:38,960 --> 00:14:41,480 Speaker 1: that place, taking your story as well, taking my story, 304 00:14:42,080 --> 00:14:44,880 Speaker 1: how do we start to rewrite that story now that 305 00:14:44,880 --> 00:14:45,600 Speaker 1: we're aware. 306 00:14:45,880 --> 00:14:47,640 Speaker 2: Well's so powerful that you said that. And I remember 307 00:14:47,640 --> 00:14:51,920 Speaker 2: this vividly because I met you on Halloween twenty seventeen, 308 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:56,920 Speaker 2: right eight years ago, and I said, like, cancel the day, 309 00:14:57,000 --> 00:14:58,040 Speaker 2: Let's just hang out all day. 310 00:14:58,160 --> 00:14:59,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, you had a book coming out of that. 311 00:14:59,320 --> 00:15:01,960 Speaker 2: I had a book of that about that day on Halloween, 312 00:15:02,400 --> 00:15:05,080 Speaker 2: which is called the Basket Masculinity. Anyways, how do we 313 00:15:05,120 --> 00:15:08,520 Speaker 2: rewire our brain around money to create more abundance. 314 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:10,320 Speaker 1: When you have nothing, when you have lack? 315 00:15:10,360 --> 00:15:12,520 Speaker 2: How do we rewire our brain to create abundance when 316 00:15:12,520 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 2: you have nothing and you don't know how to earn 317 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:16,680 Speaker 2: more money. The first thing I think you need to 318 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:20,720 Speaker 2: be aware of is that your beliefs dictate your behaviors. 319 00:15:21,080 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 2: So if you believe that money is bad or people 320 00:15:26,040 --> 00:15:28,480 Speaker 2: who make a lot of money are bad and take 321 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:32,440 Speaker 2: advantage of others, and therefore me having lack right now 322 00:15:32,520 --> 00:15:34,080 Speaker 2: means I'm a good person and I don't want to 323 00:15:34,080 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 2: become a bad person, then that belief is going to 324 00:15:36,160 --> 00:15:38,840 Speaker 2: dictate your behaviors and you're going to stay in lack. 325 00:15:38,920 --> 00:15:41,240 Speaker 2: You're going to stay in scarcity, and you're going to 326 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:45,000 Speaker 2: see opportunities that only give you just enough as opposed 327 00:15:45,040 --> 00:15:49,200 Speaker 2: to opportunities that could create incredible wealth for yourself financially, 328 00:15:49,280 --> 00:15:52,080 Speaker 2: but also an emotional wealth that you've never had before. 329 00:15:52,800 --> 00:15:54,240 Speaker 2: So that's one of the things you want to understand. 330 00:15:54,280 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 2: It's first that your beliefs dictate your behaviors. 331 00:15:57,200 --> 00:15:59,000 Speaker 1: That's a big one, by the way, That's huge. Yeah, 332 00:15:59,040 --> 00:16:00,600 Speaker 1: like that. I just want to plant that out for people, 333 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:01,120 Speaker 1: like that's so. 334 00:16:01,200 --> 00:16:04,520 Speaker 2: True because your belief. Your belief got you to a 335 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:07,840 Speaker 2: place of I am impacting hundreds of millions of people 336 00:16:08,000 --> 00:16:11,720 Speaker 2: from these videos that I created with my talents, but 337 00:16:11,760 --> 00:16:13,200 Speaker 2: I don't know how to make money with them, and 338 00:16:13,240 --> 00:16:15,480 Speaker 2: I don't know if I actually should because then I 339 00:16:15,560 --> 00:16:17,880 Speaker 2: could be bad and wrong or people could perceive me 340 00:16:18,040 --> 00:16:21,320 Speaker 2: as I did something bad to make this money correct 341 00:16:21,320 --> 00:16:24,040 Speaker 2: And I'm a spiritual person, I'm a monk, I've done 342 00:16:24,040 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 2: all these things. I don't want to have that life, 343 00:16:27,040 --> 00:16:28,400 Speaker 2: but I want to make an impact and I don't 344 00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:29,760 Speaker 2: want to be poor. So I think a lot of 345 00:16:29,800 --> 00:16:31,760 Speaker 2: people are struggling with that mindset. 346 00:16:31,920 --> 00:16:33,480 Speaker 1: What are the other ones you hear? What are the 347 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:35,160 Speaker 1: other focusing on that belief? 348 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:35,600 Speaker 2: Spherit? 349 00:16:35,880 --> 00:16:37,880 Speaker 1: What are you hearing from people about there? But that's 350 00:16:37,920 --> 00:16:41,720 Speaker 1: my belief and that's very much my history and story. 351 00:16:41,760 --> 00:16:44,200 Speaker 1: As you said, what other stuff do you hear from people? 352 00:16:44,520 --> 00:16:47,800 Speaker 2: The biggest shift that will create abundance in your life 353 00:16:48,600 --> 00:16:52,560 Speaker 2: is a mindset habit in unlocking wealth for yourself. And 354 00:16:52,600 --> 00:16:55,520 Speaker 2: one of the big lies, one of the big blocks 355 00:16:55,520 --> 00:17:00,120 Speaker 2: that holds people back from financial opportunity is that I 356 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:04,240 Speaker 2: I cannot be generous with my time, my wisdom, my knowledge, 357 00:17:04,320 --> 00:17:08,400 Speaker 2: or my secrets to others because if I am, they 358 00:17:08,480 --> 00:17:10,600 Speaker 2: will take it and run with it and I will 359 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:13,000 Speaker 2: be left with nothing. So therefore I'm going to hoard 360 00:17:13,080 --> 00:17:16,200 Speaker 2: my energy. I'm going to hold my time, my knowledge 361 00:17:16,600 --> 00:17:19,000 Speaker 2: and only keep it to me so that others don't 362 00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:22,320 Speaker 2: have good ideas or have my health. And from all 363 00:17:22,359 --> 00:17:26,159 Speaker 2: the different billionaires and millionaires and financial leaders in the 364 00:17:26,160 --> 00:17:28,479 Speaker 2: world that I've interviewed, I know you've interviewed a lot 365 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:31,920 Speaker 2: of them, there is a question. I would always ask 366 00:17:31,960 --> 00:17:37,080 Speaker 2: individuals who've made incredible amounts of money and that keeps 367 00:17:37,119 --> 00:17:40,280 Speaker 2: helping them create more wealth year after year, and they 368 00:17:40,280 --> 00:17:42,879 Speaker 2: all say the same thing, those who have had a 369 00:17:42,920 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 2: sustainably good heart in the process, is that you have 370 00:17:45,800 --> 00:17:48,720 Speaker 2: to have a generous mindset. So the mindset habit is 371 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:50,480 Speaker 2: the first thing that you have to think about when 372 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:54,200 Speaker 2: creating abundance with your money, but also feeling abundant internally, 373 00:17:55,040 --> 00:17:57,200 Speaker 2: and it's coming with generosity. So if you feel like 374 00:17:57,240 --> 00:17:59,360 Speaker 2: you're stuck right now, if you feel like you have nothing, 375 00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:01,840 Speaker 2: this was what you were at eight years ago when 376 00:18:01,840 --> 00:18:04,680 Speaker 2: I met you. This was where I was at fifteen 377 00:18:04,760 --> 00:18:06,679 Speaker 2: years ago, when I was on my sister's couch. I 378 00:18:06,720 --> 00:18:09,919 Speaker 2: had no money, I was in student loan debt. I 379 00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:12,479 Speaker 2: was sleeping on her couch. I didn't think I had 380 00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:14,760 Speaker 2: any skills. I didn't have a college degree yet. I 381 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:16,280 Speaker 2: was like, how am I going to make money if 382 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:17,920 Speaker 2: I don't know how to make money and I don't 383 00:18:17,920 --> 00:18:20,240 Speaker 2: have any talent or skill and I'm in debt. It 384 00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:24,040 Speaker 2: didn't understand it. It felt impossible. And the thing that 385 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:27,159 Speaker 2: I shifted when I started meeting money mentors is I 386 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:29,920 Speaker 2: needed to learn the first habit, which is the mindset habit, 387 00:18:29,960 --> 00:18:32,800 Speaker 2: which is a habit of generosity and gratitude. 388 00:18:32,960 --> 00:18:35,320 Speaker 1: What did that look like then? What was the practical step? 389 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:38,720 Speaker 2: What it looks like was how do I meet money people. 390 00:18:38,760 --> 00:18:41,200 Speaker 2: People who have money, people who have success, people can 391 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:43,680 Speaker 2: teach me knowledge. I needed to come with a sense 392 00:18:43,720 --> 00:18:48,399 Speaker 2: of energy, of curiosity, of possibilities, and of joy. I 393 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:51,119 Speaker 2: literally wrote a list down of all these different things 394 00:18:51,119 --> 00:18:52,920 Speaker 2: that I thought were my talents. I go, how can 395 00:18:52,960 --> 00:18:55,560 Speaker 2: I make money? I don't have any skills. I played 396 00:18:55,560 --> 00:18:57,840 Speaker 2: football and now I'm injured. What can I do for people? 397 00:18:58,400 --> 00:19:00,480 Speaker 2: But I was like, well, I'm really curious. Maybe I 398 00:19:00,480 --> 00:19:03,120 Speaker 2: can just ask people questions. And never did I think 399 00:19:03,160 --> 00:19:05,399 Speaker 2: in a million years that I could have a twelve 400 00:19:05,480 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 2: year old podcast just asking questions and make millions of 401 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:11,679 Speaker 2: dollars a year. I never thought that was possible. I 402 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:13,480 Speaker 2: was in my early twenties and I was like, you 403 00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:15,159 Speaker 2: know what, I've got a lot of energy. I've got 404 00:19:15,160 --> 00:19:18,080 Speaker 2: a lot of passion, So let me bring passion and 405 00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:22,680 Speaker 2: energy to other people and excitement. And that energy was infectious. 406 00:19:22,800 --> 00:19:27,920 Speaker 2: And there's a currency that's tied to that energy of passion, joy, excitement, curiosity. 407 00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:31,720 Speaker 2: That currency may not look like money, but for those 408 00:19:31,840 --> 00:19:35,160 Speaker 2: who are older, who have no more passion, they're burnt out, 409 00:19:35,200 --> 00:19:39,000 Speaker 2: they're exhausted, it is the highest form of currency. They 410 00:19:39,119 --> 00:19:42,800 Speaker 2: want that. They crave that energy. They've burned themselves out 411 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:45,240 Speaker 2: for decades. They want to feel young again, they want 412 00:19:45,240 --> 00:19:47,560 Speaker 2: to feel curious, again. They want to feel excited again. 413 00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:50,679 Speaker 2: And when you come to someone with that energy, you 414 00:19:50,720 --> 00:19:56,560 Speaker 2: are bringing a different mindset. So the mindset of curiosity, joy, passion, presence, 415 00:19:56,840 --> 00:19:59,240 Speaker 2: like just connecting with someone and ask them a question, 416 00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:03,000 Speaker 2: is such a valuable currency. So we have to look 417 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:07,480 Speaker 2: into these untapped skills talents inside of us that are 418 00:20:07,560 --> 00:20:11,240 Speaker 2: hidden to others, but inside of us they can create magic. 419 00:20:12,040 --> 00:20:14,400 Speaker 2: That's one of them. Another one is just being generous 420 00:20:14,440 --> 00:20:19,359 Speaker 2: with your time, with your resources, with your ideas and 421 00:20:19,480 --> 00:20:20,680 Speaker 2: helping others succeed. 422 00:20:21,119 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 1: I love that because I didn't even know that then, 423 00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:26,200 Speaker 1: but I was doing it unconsciously. Yes, you were so 424 00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:31,119 Speaker 1: I really wanted to interview incredible people, but I didn't 425 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:33,240 Speaker 1: have a platform at the time when I met you, 426 00:20:33,680 --> 00:20:36,159 Speaker 1: and so I'd partner it up with Nasdak. And by 427 00:20:36,200 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 1: the way, just to be really clear with everyone, I 428 00:20:37,520 --> 00:20:40,800 Speaker 1: didn't get paid to do this. So Nasdak had something 429 00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:43,520 Speaker 1: where everyone's using Facebook Live and I said, Hey, could 430 00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:47,199 Speaker 1: I have an hour in the Nasdak building whenever I 431 00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:49,639 Speaker 1: have an amazing guest that says yes, so that I 432 00:20:49,640 --> 00:20:53,920 Speaker 1: can interview them on Nasdak Live. And they would put 433 00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:56,520 Speaker 1: the picture up on the middle of Times Square on 434 00:20:56,560 --> 00:20:58,440 Speaker 1: a billboard, So now I could reach out to people 435 00:20:58,440 --> 00:20:59,040 Speaker 1: I look it up to. 436 00:20:59,240 --> 00:21:00,600 Speaker 2: That's the reason why I'm on the show. 437 00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:01,080 Speaker 1: Exactly. 438 00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:02,920 Speaker 2: I didn't know who you were until I saw, hey, 439 00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:04,399 Speaker 2: I can get you on a billboard on Times Square. 440 00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:06,359 Speaker 2: I go, that's value to value. 441 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:08,600 Speaker 1: Right now, I'm being generous and I'm trying to find 442 00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:11,240 Speaker 1: a way because I don't have anything to offer. But 443 00:21:11,280 --> 00:21:13,040 Speaker 1: I admire you. And it was all people I admired. 444 00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:15,439 Speaker 1: It was yourself, it was Ryan Holiday said yes, Me 445 00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:17,560 Speaker 1: and Ryan had met maybe once before that, but Ryan 446 00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:19,359 Speaker 1: came on that show, and there were a bunch of 447 00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:22,000 Speaker 1: other authors. Deepak Choper came on that show with me, 448 00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:24,439 Speaker 1: and it was all people that I'd admired, looked up 449 00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:28,280 Speaker 1: to for a long time, and exactly that that's first 450 00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:30,439 Speaker 1: of all, we became great friends off of it. But 451 00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:33,359 Speaker 1: the point is, it's exactly what you're saying that even 452 00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:36,160 Speaker 1: though I felt I had nothing to offer, I had 453 00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:39,000 Speaker 1: to find a way to create something to offer someone 454 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,760 Speaker 1: of value. I didn't get paid for it for that show, 455 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:43,600 Speaker 1: I didn't get paid to run it. I didn't make 456 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:46,719 Speaker 1: any money from it, but it created an opportunity for 457 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:48,960 Speaker 1: me to connect with friends to connect with people that 458 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:51,879 Speaker 1: were doing incredible things. Yes, and of course allowed me 459 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:54,240 Speaker 1: to showcase my talents so that then I could show 460 00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:56,880 Speaker 1: it to other people. I remember I had Ryan Harwood 461 00:21:56,880 --> 00:22:00,280 Speaker 1: on the show who founded Pure Wow, and he just 462 00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:03,120 Speaker 1: sold it to Gary Vee. That's how I met Gary. 463 00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:05,920 Speaker 1: So Ryan came on my show and he was just like, Jay, 464 00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:08,040 Speaker 1: I love you. You're a great interviewer, Like you have 465 00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:11,280 Speaker 1: such great energy. He really liked my passion and he said, 466 00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:13,119 Speaker 1: you got to come meet Gary. And I was like, 467 00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:15,120 Speaker 1: no way, Like I love Gary. And so he took 468 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:17,000 Speaker 1: me to meet Gary for the first time. We had 469 00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:19,160 Speaker 1: a meeting in his office, and that's how I built 470 00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:21,160 Speaker 1: my relationship with him. It was all thanks to Ryan. 471 00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:24,000 Speaker 1: And so when you think about it now, I've never 472 00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:26,320 Speaker 1: thought about it until what you're saying now. When I 473 00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:28,639 Speaker 1: look back, Ryan's been on the podcast like four times 474 00:22:28,680 --> 00:22:32,439 Speaker 1: now whatever. I love his books. So many relationships came 475 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:34,280 Speaker 1: out of that. And so I think when you live 476 00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:36,639 Speaker 1: in a world of I have nothing to offer and 477 00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:39,920 Speaker 1: I don't have anything, it becomes really hard to create. 478 00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:43,320 Speaker 2: And most people think when I have nothing, I need 479 00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:46,320 Speaker 2: to take from someone else. Yes, I don't have anything, 480 00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:49,000 Speaker 2: So I can't give anything if I don't have it. 481 00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:50,680 Speaker 2: So I need someone to give me money right now 482 00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:54,640 Speaker 2: because I'm broke, I'm poor, I'm stuck, I'm stressed, I'm anxious. 483 00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:57,960 Speaker 2: I can't think out of myself. And this first habit 484 00:22:58,320 --> 00:23:02,800 Speaker 2: is really gratitude and generosity is the gateway to abundance. 485 00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:06,040 Speaker 2: And it may not mean you're gonna make money right away. 486 00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,240 Speaker 2: You didn't make money by having me on the show 487 00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:11,199 Speaker 2: right away, but we became friends. I helped you, you 488 00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:14,199 Speaker 2: helped me. Over time, we helped each other create more 489 00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:18,439 Speaker 2: abundance together, not only financially, which we've done together, but 490 00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:23,640 Speaker 2: a type of richness that isn't about money. And this 491 00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:26,600 Speaker 2: book again it's it's a money book, but it's really like, 492 00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:28,840 Speaker 2: it doesn't matter how much money you have if you 493 00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:31,080 Speaker 2: don't feel like you have a rich life inside of you, 494 00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:34,040 Speaker 2: that's real. It does not matter how much is in 495 00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 2: your bank account, how big your net worth is. If 496 00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:39,600 Speaker 2: you don't feel like you have an abundant life, if 497 00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:42,600 Speaker 2: you're stressed, if you're overwhelmed, if you're anxious, if you're 498 00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:47,520 Speaker 2: constantly in drama, that is not abundance. A high net 499 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:51,280 Speaker 2: worth does not mean you are free, and the goal 500 00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:54,840 Speaker 2: is for us to feel free every moment of our 501 00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:58,480 Speaker 2: lives as often as possible and allow money to be 502 00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:03,480 Speaker 2: a tool to create in credible opportunities, memories, moments where 503 00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:05,480 Speaker 2: you can be generous with it with the people you 504 00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:08,639 Speaker 2: care about, the cause you care about, the institutions you 505 00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:12,719 Speaker 2: care about, to serve more people and feel good about 506 00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:15,520 Speaker 2: doing it, not feel bad about doing it. And that's 507 00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:19,359 Speaker 2: part of this process. Most people, when they lack money, 508 00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:22,040 Speaker 2: they want to take from others. They want someone to 509 00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:24,520 Speaker 2: help them, and you need to flip it on its 510 00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:26,640 Speaker 2: head and say, how can I help others even when 511 00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:29,200 Speaker 2: I have nothing? That is the time to be more 512 00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:33,520 Speaker 2: generous and more gratitude and say thank you for this opportunity, 513 00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:35,399 Speaker 2: even if you have to just lie to yourself for 514 00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:37,960 Speaker 2: a moment and say I'm stuck, I'm on my sister's couch, 515 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:39,840 Speaker 2: i have no money, I'm four months and four months 516 00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:41,359 Speaker 2: I'm going to be out of an apartment and I 517 00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:44,040 Speaker 2: don't know where the money is coming. Just say thank 518 00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,800 Speaker 2: you God, thank you your nervous for this opportunity to learn, 519 00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:50,120 Speaker 2: this opportunity to grow, because I'll never be here again. 520 00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:52,199 Speaker 2: Interview I don't know if you've had Ken Honda on, 521 00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:55,879 Speaker 2: but he really and he's so cool. I love this 522 00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:59,280 Speaker 2: approach to this and he's talking similar style about how 523 00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:02,240 Speaker 2: do you just live a rich life irrelevant of whether 524 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,240 Speaker 2: you have money or not. And again, this is what 525 00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:06,879 Speaker 2: I want people to get to. When you are poor, 526 00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,960 Speaker 2: when you're broke, when you're struggling financially, it feels really 527 00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:13,720 Speaker 2: hard to feel abundant and rich, and we want to 528 00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:17,960 Speaker 2: start shifting our thoughts or emotions and our energy on. Okay, 529 00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:20,760 Speaker 2: I know I'm in this financial situation. It doesn't feel good, 530 00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:23,159 Speaker 2: But in order to get out of it, it's not 531 00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:27,040 Speaker 2: feeling worse about it. It's starting to feel better about me, 532 00:25:27,680 --> 00:25:31,520 Speaker 2: better about my values, my character, my kindness, my generosity, 533 00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:34,960 Speaker 2: and seeing how can I add value to others. And 534 00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:36,520 Speaker 2: that's the first thing we need to be thinking about. 535 00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:39,280 Speaker 2: How can I get into a richness inside of me 536 00:25:39,520 --> 00:25:43,080 Speaker 2: to serve others and take care of me at the 537 00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:46,200 Speaker 2: same time. And one of the practices or these social 538 00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:50,240 Speaker 2: experiments or exercises similar to you that Ken has is 539 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:52,800 Speaker 2: that whenever money comes to him, whether it's a check, 540 00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:55,919 Speaker 2: whether it's a Venmo payment, whatever might be, he just 541 00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,400 Speaker 2: says thank you to that money. He looks at that number. 542 00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:01,520 Speaker 2: If it's a penny, if it's a million dollars, if 543 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,960 Speaker 2: it's your normal check you get coming in in the 544 00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:06,240 Speaker 2: mail every two weeks, he looks at it and says 545 00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:10,760 Speaker 2: thank you, and literally opens his heart and loves that 546 00:26:10,880 --> 00:26:13,520 Speaker 2: money that comes to him. He says, thank you. Where 547 00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:15,480 Speaker 2: do you want to go? Do you want to go 548 00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:17,479 Speaker 2: to my bank account? Do you want to go to 549 00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:19,000 Speaker 2: my savings? Do you want to go to investments? Do 550 00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:20,879 Speaker 2: you want to go towards paying off debt? Do you 551 00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:22,919 Speaker 2: want me to give you away? And it might be 552 00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:26,639 Speaker 2: a weird kind of like exercise, but I love this 553 00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:29,439 Speaker 2: approach to just being mindful of money when it comes, 554 00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:32,680 Speaker 2: say thank you. And then when you pay bills, when 555 00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:35,320 Speaker 2: you pay off debt, say thank you as well. Thank 556 00:26:35,359 --> 00:26:37,600 Speaker 2: you for allowing me to pay off this debt. Thank 557 00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:40,000 Speaker 2: you for paying myself on bill so I can call 558 00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:42,439 Speaker 2: my friends and family that I love. Thank you for 559 00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:47,000 Speaker 2: the ability to live a richer life. And when we 560 00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:50,640 Speaker 2: start to approach money in that way, it doesn't mean 561 00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:52,639 Speaker 2: money's going to fall from the sky and come to 562 00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:55,760 Speaker 2: us abundantly, but we're going to start to feel more 563 00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:59,679 Speaker 2: rich and abundant internally, which that energy is what will 564 00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:04,880 Speaker 2: act more opportunities. Those opportunities could lead to millions. This 565 00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:08,920 Speaker 2: hostess that came to you, she brought that thankful energy, 566 00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:13,639 Speaker 2: that present energy, that loving, joyful, curious energy, and it 567 00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:17,880 Speaker 2: created an abundance of opportunities and connection. 568 00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:20,679 Speaker 1: You've reminded me of two really amazing things that I 569 00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:22,800 Speaker 1: love that I want to throw out because they're not us, 570 00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:25,199 Speaker 1: it's about other people. Last night, I was at a 571 00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:27,280 Speaker 1: premiere of a new show coming out in Hulu called 572 00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:30,399 Speaker 1: Deli Boys. It's a full South Asian cast. I was 573 00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:32,520 Speaker 1: really excited to be just at the premiere and just 574 00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,240 Speaker 1: seeing my friends, like, you know, do this amazing thing. 575 00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:39,200 Speaker 1: And it was fascinating because me and Lily Sing were together, 576 00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:41,399 Speaker 1: you know Lily, and so me and Lily were together 577 00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:44,080 Speaker 1: and were hanging out and this guy said, hey, can 578 00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:45,879 Speaker 1: I film you for two seconds? He was working at 579 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,000 Speaker 1: the event, and I believe this is what he does 580 00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:50,200 Speaker 1: on his own. I don't know his name, but I'll 581 00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:53,040 Speaker 1: have to find it. And he took a quick swipe 582 00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:54,600 Speaker 1: of Lily like one show and she was like, oh 583 00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:55,719 Speaker 1: my god, Jay, you got to do this. He took 584 00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:57,959 Speaker 1: a quick side with me. He edited it on the 585 00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:02,000 Speaker 1: spot and he created this amazing real of the event, 586 00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:03,720 Speaker 1: like and he was just doing it with quick and 587 00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:05,280 Speaker 1: he was taking like two seconds of our time. I 588 00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,439 Speaker 1: merely both turn around and go, is this what you do? 589 00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:09,679 Speaker 1: Like how can we work with her? And like, you know, 590 00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:11,600 Speaker 1: because it was it was such a great skill and 591 00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:14,159 Speaker 1: he was showcasing his talent. He didn't ask us, he 592 00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:16,200 Speaker 1: didn't charge us, he didn't ask for us or anything. 593 00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:18,159 Speaker 1: He showed us his talent, and all of a sudden 594 00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:20,240 Speaker 1: both of us were like this. A few months ago, 595 00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:22,840 Speaker 1: I went to a restaurant that I had never been 596 00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:26,160 Speaker 1: to with some friends. This wasn't like a fancy restaurant 597 00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:28,199 Speaker 1: just you know, it was a great restaurant, but it 598 00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:32,440 Speaker 1: wasn't like fancy or anything like that. The lady who 599 00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:37,840 Speaker 1: was hosting, she had so much energy and so much passion. 600 00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:40,080 Speaker 1: She was like taking our order. But then when we 601 00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:42,600 Speaker 1: asked her for a recommendation, she knew every detail and 602 00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:45,880 Speaker 1: like she got three job offers at that table, Me 603 00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:47,720 Speaker 1: and my friend and everyone like what do you do? 604 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,880 Speaker 1: What do you want to do? Like, yeah, let's hire you. 605 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,960 Speaker 1: Because we just there was such an energy, And so 606 00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:56,640 Speaker 1: what you're saying is so true because I'm now looking 607 00:28:56,680 --> 00:28:59,840 Speaker 1: back at my own life and thinking about moments where 608 00:28:59,880 --> 00:29:03,600 Speaker 1: I've had that visceral reaction to someone. And she was 609 00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:04,960 Speaker 1: like this what I want to do? This my dream? 610 00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:06,400 Speaker 1: And one of my mates was like, all right, well 611 00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:08,960 Speaker 1: let's connect, Like you know, he thinks she could work 612 00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:11,200 Speaker 1: with him. But it was again the same thing you're saying. 613 00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:12,400 Speaker 1: It was just energy and passion. 614 00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:14,600 Speaker 2: Energy she didn't have any other she didn't have. It 615 00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:18,120 Speaker 2: didn't matter about her college. It doesn't matter what skill 616 00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:21,480 Speaker 2: other skills you have. If you have energy, passion, and 617 00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:25,080 Speaker 2: a curiosity to care about someone, you can go so 618 00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,880 Speaker 2: far in that potential relationship. Speaking about you know, hostess 619 00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:33,360 Speaker 2: or waiters or waitresses, there were studies that psychologists did 620 00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:37,520 Speaker 2: around tipping and waiters, and I don't know the exact statistic. 621 00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:39,320 Speaker 2: I know is over a certain amount, but I don't 622 00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:42,480 Speaker 2: know the exact percentage. But there are three things that 623 00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:44,840 Speaker 2: you can do as a waiter to make more money. 624 00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:48,240 Speaker 2: It is higher tips based on psychology and these studies. 625 00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:52,280 Speaker 2: One is just introducing yourself and saying your name. My 626 00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:54,880 Speaker 2: name is Lewis Howes, what's your name? Thanks for being 627 00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:58,600 Speaker 2: here today. Saying your name creates a deeper connection. I 628 00:29:58,640 --> 00:30:02,280 Speaker 2: agree making a recommend of something you said. She was 629 00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:05,320 Speaker 2: making recommendations, and you know, making a recommendation, Hey, I 630 00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:07,640 Speaker 2: really recommend this if you're into this or these are 631 00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:10,400 Speaker 2: the best two options I would recommend gets you a 632 00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:14,000 Speaker 2: higher chance of getting a better tip and complimenting the 633 00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:17,480 Speaker 2: person on their food choice. I'll have the burger or 634 00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:21,680 Speaker 2: the vegan burger. That's a great choice. Those three things 635 00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:24,880 Speaker 2: will increase your ability to earn more tips. And it's 636 00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:27,360 Speaker 2: not like you had some other skill. You just created 637 00:30:27,440 --> 00:30:30,600 Speaker 2: connection with someone and you were trying to bring that 638 00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:34,520 Speaker 2: energy to them. And money is an energy and how 639 00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:38,000 Speaker 2: we think and how we feel will dictate the energy 640 00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:42,200 Speaker 2: we have towards it. And also you create money through 641 00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:45,920 Speaker 2: your energy. And so she had a certain energy with you, 642 00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,280 Speaker 2: and you're like, man, this is amazing. You're recommending it 643 00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:50,840 Speaker 2: to millions of people about this person that you just 644 00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:52,920 Speaker 2: met for the first time. It's like you could create 645 00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:57,760 Speaker 2: so many opportunities for not only financial abundance, but spiritual 646 00:30:57,760 --> 00:31:04,320 Speaker 2: abundance by bringing generosity, curiosity, energy, joy and love to 647 00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:07,480 Speaker 2: someone's life. And it doesn't have to take hours. This 648 00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:10,640 Speaker 2: was five minutes of this person's time. She got three 649 00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:13,800 Speaker 2: job offers over that night. Yeah, she could have had 650 00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:16,280 Speaker 2: a different energy and said okay, here's your table, sit down, 651 00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,200 Speaker 2: and she would have had nothing. But she could have 652 00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:21,920 Speaker 2: went to Harvard and had all these other skills, and 653 00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,360 Speaker 2: none of that would have mattered without the energy she brought. 654 00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:27,000 Speaker 1: People who don't know this story or have forgotten about it, 655 00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:30,160 Speaker 1: like de Rock and Gary Vee, like that's their journey, right, 656 00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:32,880 Speaker 1: Like de Rock basically went up to Gary and was like, Hey, 657 00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:35,560 Speaker 1: I'll just edit videos for you for free. 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I would 711 00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:23,680 Speaker 1: edit it, I would edit videos, I will consult, I'll 712 00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:26,920 Speaker 1: run your social media. Those weren't things I wanted to 713 00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:29,360 Speaker 1: do with my life, but I needed to create a 714 00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:32,200 Speaker 1: foundation from which I could then invest that into what 715 00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:35,360 Speaker 1: I wanted to do. And actually that year, everything I 716 00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:38,279 Speaker 1: made I invested in the start in this podcast. So 717 00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:41,200 Speaker 1: everything I made this year went into launching on purpose 718 00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:43,879 Speaker 1: because that's not what I wanted to do. I didn't 719 00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:46,400 Speaker 1: want to edit other people's videos, I didn't want to 720 00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:50,239 Speaker 1: launch social media profiles. I didn't want to coach and consult. 721 00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:53,040 Speaker 1: But I had those skills. And I think this is 722 00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:55,600 Speaker 1: one of the things sometimes is that we all have 723 00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:59,160 Speaker 1: skills that are valuable somewhere, and they may not be 724 00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:01,000 Speaker 1: the skills that you want to do for the rest 725 00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:01,480 Speaker 1: of your. 726 00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:03,160 Speaker 2: Life, but the season of life. 727 00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:04,760 Speaker 1: And the season of life, and I think there's something 728 00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:07,000 Speaker 1: to be said for that, because we all want to 729 00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:10,120 Speaker 1: be paid for what we love doing. But even my 730 00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:12,799 Speaker 1: life today, there's a lot of things I have to do, 731 00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:14,799 Speaker 1: and there's a lot of things I love to do, 732 00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:16,280 Speaker 1: and that's life. 733 00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:18,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, and like you said, the seasonal side of things, 734 00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:21,040 Speaker 2: Like when I was just getting started making money. This 735 00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,080 Speaker 2: is in two thousand and eight, two thousand and nine, 736 00:35:23,080 --> 00:35:26,480 Speaker 2: twenty ten. I was using LinkedIn as a platform and 737 00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:31,239 Speaker 2: a tool to meet CEOs, executives and business leaders, and 738 00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:34,360 Speaker 2: I was helping them originally with their LinkedIn profile and 739 00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:36,360 Speaker 2: it's just saying, hey, how can I help you optimize 740 00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:39,160 Speaker 2: your profile? I see that it's missing some things here, 741 00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:41,360 Speaker 2: I'll do it for free. And I did this to 742 00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:44,040 Speaker 2: build relationships with them, and through that they just all 743 00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:45,840 Speaker 2: wanted to help me and give back to me. And 744 00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:48,120 Speaker 2: then eventually someone said, hey, i'll pay you for this. 745 00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:50,080 Speaker 2: This is really helpful. And I was like, oh, I 746 00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:52,400 Speaker 2: can make money on LinkedIn. It's not what I wanted 747 00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:53,840 Speaker 2: to do, but I had a skill to do it 748 00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:56,080 Speaker 2: right then. So I did that for a few years, 749 00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:59,480 Speaker 2: and once I had that foundation, I used that money 750 00:35:59,480 --> 00:36:01,400 Speaker 2: to launch this School of Greatness as well, because I 751 00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:04,080 Speaker 2: had a couple of years of runway now and I 752 00:36:04,080 --> 00:36:06,080 Speaker 2: didn't want to do that forever, but I did it 753 00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:09,120 Speaker 2: for the season. I got skills, I made money, and 754 00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:12,120 Speaker 2: I created a sense of freedom for myself to do 755 00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:13,560 Speaker 2: what I really wanted to do later. 756 00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:15,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, what do you have to say to people who 757 00:36:15,120 --> 00:36:17,560 Speaker 1: are saying that you can manifest money? Do you agree 758 00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:19,520 Speaker 1: with that idea of It's an interesting story. 759 00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:22,239 Speaker 2: I was in New York last week and I said 760 00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:23,800 Speaker 2: to myself, and I have a lot of these different 761 00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:27,040 Speaker 2: exercises and games in the book to just give people 762 00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:30,160 Speaker 2: as social experiments. I think it's really powerful to give 763 00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:33,919 Speaker 2: yourself experiment because I think when you experiment, you allow 764 00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:38,760 Speaker 2: yourself to explore possibilities. And when you create an experiment 765 00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:41,400 Speaker 2: for yourself, you allow for the idea of magic to 766 00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:43,920 Speaker 2: enter your life. So I want you to just as 767 00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:46,520 Speaker 2: you're watching or listening, I want you to say, I 768 00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:50,280 Speaker 2: allow for magic and abundance to manifest in my life. 769 00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:53,600 Speaker 2: I'm going to create a possibility that this can happen 770 00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:57,200 Speaker 2: in my life, a moment, a synchronicity, someone might call 771 00:36:57,200 --> 00:36:59,920 Speaker 2: me out of the blue, someone might hand me money randomly. 772 00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:00,839 Speaker 1: I'm going to allow for. 773 00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:03,440 Speaker 2: This moment to happen, in this magic to happen. So 774 00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:05,120 Speaker 2: I said to myself, I want to follow my own 775 00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:08,200 Speaker 2: practices right. And I went to see our friend Mel 776 00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:10,680 Speaker 2: Robbins in Boston, and then I was in New York 777 00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:12,520 Speaker 2: for a few days and I just said to myself, 778 00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:15,680 Speaker 2: money comes to me abundantly and freely, and I see 779 00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:18,799 Speaker 2: it everywhere. I just said this to myself every morning 780 00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:20,279 Speaker 2: when I woke up and when I went out of 781 00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:22,840 Speaker 2: the hotel, I said, money comes to me abundantly and freely, 782 00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:27,200 Speaker 2: and I see it everywhere. And I'm a magnet for money. 783 00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:29,479 Speaker 2: I'm a magnet for money. I just kept saying this energy. 784 00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:31,160 Speaker 2: I'm a magnet for money. I was just playful, this 785 00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:34,680 Speaker 2: social experiment. And when I was at Mel's, a penny 786 00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:36,640 Speaker 2: dropped on the floor. Someone was carrying a box and 787 00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:38,960 Speaker 2: a penny fell and I said, oh, look, money comes 788 00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:41,960 Speaker 2: to me. I see it everywhere. It's a penny, and 789 00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:43,520 Speaker 2: there's a point to this story. And I pick it 790 00:37:43,560 --> 00:37:45,560 Speaker 2: up and I say, Mel, do you want this? And 791 00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:47,080 Speaker 2: she goes, no, it's yours. And I go, thank you. 792 00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:50,400 Speaker 2: I receive because when I relax, I receive, and I'm 793 00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:53,239 Speaker 2: a magnet for money. Even it was a penny, I 794 00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:55,080 Speaker 2: could notice it, and I was like, all right, it 795 00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:57,839 Speaker 2: came to me. See here's a win, here's a little win. 796 00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:00,319 Speaker 2: Let me do this again. The next day, go to 797 00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:02,680 Speaker 2: a New York City and I'm in the subway and 798 00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:05,320 Speaker 2: it's freezing right now in New York. It's like fifteen degrees. 799 00:38:05,760 --> 00:38:07,720 Speaker 2: And I'm just saying this to myself in the subway, 800 00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:09,560 Speaker 2: and I was like, get off the subway. I go 801 00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:12,839 Speaker 2: up the stairs and it's freaking filthy in the New 802 00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:14,759 Speaker 2: York subway, right and the stairs are dirty. And I 803 00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:17,520 Speaker 2: see a penny heads up, and I thought to myself, 804 00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:21,279 Speaker 2: this is filthy, this is dirty. It's not valuable, it's 805 00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:23,279 Speaker 2: not enough money. I don't need to pick this up. 806 00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:25,239 Speaker 2: But I was like, no, I'm doing this experiment. Money 807 00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:28,120 Speaker 2: comes to me abundantly and freely. I'm a magnet for money, 808 00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:31,160 Speaker 2: and I'm gonna manifest money, right And so I see 809 00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:32,680 Speaker 2: it's heads up, I pick it up, put it in 810 00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:34,319 Speaker 2: my pocket, and I just say, thank you, money for 811 00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:36,600 Speaker 2: coming to me. The next day, I put it on 812 00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:38,520 Speaker 2: my bedside table. I don't think anything of it. The 813 00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:40,440 Speaker 2: next day, I wake up and I look at this penny, 814 00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:43,720 Speaker 2: and I said, because I'm doing this experiment every day, 815 00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:45,920 Speaker 2: I'm a magnet for money. Money comes from me abundantly 816 00:38:45,960 --> 00:38:48,839 Speaker 2: and freely. And I look at it as a reminder. 817 00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:52,439 Speaker 2: These two pennies. Look, this is a reminder that money 818 00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:55,080 Speaker 2: came to me. Maybe it's not thousands of dollars or 819 00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:58,160 Speaker 2: millions of dollars. It's not something that's magically right here, 820 00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:01,960 Speaker 2: but it's a reminder that something is possible. And I 821 00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:03,200 Speaker 2: flipped over this one penn. 822 00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:03,320 Speaker 3: No. 823 00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:05,319 Speaker 2: I looked at the penny because it was heads up, 824 00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:08,520 Speaker 2: and I noticed something. I go, oh, that's really interesting. 825 00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:12,480 Speaker 2: It said nineteen forty five on this penny. That's an 826 00:39:12,480 --> 00:39:15,360 Speaker 2: eighty year old penny. And I go, huh, that's unique. 827 00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:17,040 Speaker 2: I haven't seen a penny that old in a long time. 828 00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:19,560 Speaker 2: And I flip it over and I noticed something and 829 00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:21,319 Speaker 2: I get chills thinking about it. I notice it's a 830 00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:22,840 Speaker 2: wheat penny. I don't know if you know what a 831 00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:26,480 Speaker 2: wheat penny is. So a wheat penny looks different than 832 00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:29,640 Speaker 2: a normal penny. It's got like two stalks of wheat 833 00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:32,680 Speaker 2: on the outside of the penny. It says old penny. 834 00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:36,280 Speaker 2: And I look it up and I google nineteen forty 835 00:39:36,320 --> 00:39:41,600 Speaker 2: five wheat penny value and one just sold. I kid, 836 00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:43,640 Speaker 2: you know, I get chills thinking about it. One just 837 00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:46,200 Speaker 2: sold guess for how much? I have no idea four 838 00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:50,160 Speaker 2: thousand dollars. No online one sold for four thousand dollars. 839 00:39:50,239 --> 00:39:52,239 Speaker 2: Now it's all based on the condition and all these 840 00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:55,080 Speaker 2: different things like who knows. Maybe it's worth twenty dollars, 841 00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:57,359 Speaker 2: maybe it's worth five thousand dollars, maybe it's worth one 842 00:39:57,400 --> 00:40:00,359 Speaker 2: hundred dollars. But the idea is that there was more 843 00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:04,920 Speaker 2: value inside of that penny than what met the eye originally, 844 00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:10,040 Speaker 2: and the experiment of let me be open to possibilities 845 00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:12,080 Speaker 2: for money to come to me, and what I thought 846 00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:16,040 Speaker 2: was two pennies might be two thousand dollars and all 847 00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:17,960 Speaker 2: I had to do was be willing to look for it, 848 00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:21,240 Speaker 2: be willing to pick it up and say I receive 849 00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:24,239 Speaker 2: thank you. If I didn't look for if I didn't 850 00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:27,440 Speaker 2: set that intention, if I didn't see the possibilities in 851 00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:30,160 Speaker 2: front of me, I may not have received that penny 852 00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:32,799 Speaker 2: that could have been worth thousands. And it's the same 853 00:40:32,840 --> 00:40:35,840 Speaker 2: thing in life. We may not see the opportunity in 854 00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:37,600 Speaker 2: front of us right now. We may not reach out 855 00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:39,759 Speaker 2: to the people we already know and say, hey, this 856 00:40:39,840 --> 00:40:41,680 Speaker 2: is what I'm looking to create in my life. I 857 00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:44,680 Speaker 2: have these skills, I have these talents. Is there anything 858 00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:46,200 Speaker 2: that you need right now that I can be of 859 00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:49,560 Speaker 2: service for you with? And that's for that first year. 860 00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:53,000 Speaker 2: How you created multiple six figures in that first year 861 00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:56,120 Speaker 2: when you had nothing was reaching out to hundreds of people. 862 00:40:56,640 --> 00:40:59,680 Speaker 2: That was you either setting the intention, seeing that there 863 00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:04,000 Speaker 2: might be possibilities, and doing the work to manifest hundreds 864 00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:08,240 Speaker 2: of thousands that first six months. So by doing that effort, 865 00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:12,399 Speaker 2: setting the intention by saying I'm open to possibilities, I'm 866 00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:14,759 Speaker 2: open to receiving opportunities that come to me, but I 867 00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:16,200 Speaker 2: have to be willing to look for them. I have 868 00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:17,600 Speaker 2: to be willing to ask for them. I have to 869 00:41:17,640 --> 00:41:20,960 Speaker 2: be willing to put myself out there and receive and say, yes, 870 00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:23,160 Speaker 2: thank you, I will do this work. And that's what 871 00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:25,000 Speaker 2: I think people need to be thinking about. Can you 872 00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:28,600 Speaker 2: manifest millions? Yes, if you're willing to set a clear intention, 873 00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:31,040 Speaker 2: if you're willing to reach out and say here's what 874 00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:33,600 Speaker 2: I'm willing to offer and add value in I want 875 00:41:33,600 --> 00:41:37,279 Speaker 2: to help you achieve these goals, you're creating more potential 876 00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:38,720 Speaker 2: to manifest money. 877 00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:41,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that Penny story because I'll tell you 878 00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:43,799 Speaker 1: a bit about what I do, and I do a 879 00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:45,440 Speaker 1: similar thing and it comes from my tradition. 880 00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:46,920 Speaker 2: So do you have a money mantra? 881 00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:50,920 Speaker 1: No? I don't say something, but I'll tell you about it. Yeah. 882 00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:55,759 Speaker 1: So in our tradition, there's a god or a goddess 883 00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:59,319 Speaker 1: for each aspect of society money and so there is 884 00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:02,680 Speaker 1: God and there's there's one God, but then there's loads 885 00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:05,680 Speaker 1: of different gods for different departments of society, kind of 886 00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:08,000 Speaker 1: like you have a president or a prime minister, and 887 00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:09,840 Speaker 1: then you have like the cabinet and that who's the 888 00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:13,600 Speaker 1: money god. So it's a goddess called Luxhmi. That's lu me, yeah, 889 00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:15,280 Speaker 1: and lux me means wealth or fortunes. 890 00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:17,160 Speaker 2: It's like luxury almost luxury. 891 00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:19,799 Speaker 1: Maybe that's where it comes from. But luxury is the 892 00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,920 Speaker 1: goddess of fortune or the goddess of wealth, and so 893 00:42:23,120 --> 00:42:26,400 Speaker 1: you would never ever put your foot on a goddess. 894 00:42:27,160 --> 00:42:30,040 Speaker 1: So whenever you're walking the streets and you see pennies around, 895 00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:32,640 Speaker 1: you're never meant to just walk past them. You actually 896 00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:34,120 Speaker 1: meant to pick them up and put them to your head. 897 00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:36,440 Speaker 1: So that's kind of like part of our culture. And 898 00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:38,120 Speaker 1: so whenever I'm walking around the streets of New York 899 00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:40,000 Speaker 1: or La wherever I am, or subways, I do the 900 00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:42,440 Speaker 1: same thing. Interesting, I'll always pick it up and it's 901 00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:44,080 Speaker 1: really funny because someone who's with me will be like, 902 00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:45,960 Speaker 1: what are you doing? Like, you know, like, why are 903 00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:48,920 Speaker 1: you doing that? I'm like, because I'm showing respect. I'm 904 00:42:48,920 --> 00:42:52,480 Speaker 1: actually showing respect to the goddess of fortunes. And so 905 00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:54,400 Speaker 1: that's what it is, is like, I'm showing respect to 906 00:42:54,440 --> 00:42:56,720 Speaker 1: the goddess of fortune by picking it up and usually 907 00:42:56,800 --> 00:42:58,880 Speaker 1: give that money to charity or whatever it may be. 908 00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:00,840 Speaker 1: It's not it's not trying to keep on it. You 909 00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:03,480 Speaker 1: may give it away whatever. But the point is you're saying, 910 00:43:03,600 --> 00:43:07,799 Speaker 1: I'm not disrespecting the goddess of fortune. Wherever I see it, 911 00:43:07,880 --> 00:43:10,799 Speaker 1: that's beautiful because I want to have a respectful relationship 912 00:43:10,840 --> 00:43:13,840 Speaker 1: with money. I actually really love practices like that because 913 00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:15,840 Speaker 1: I think it goes back to the point you're making 914 00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:19,800 Speaker 1: that we have a relationship with everything. Every time you 915 00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:21,680 Speaker 1: have a relationship with your body, you have relationship with 916 00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:24,120 Speaker 1: your mind, you have a relationship with your partner, and 917 00:43:24,160 --> 00:43:26,360 Speaker 1: you have a relationship with money. And so speaking to 918 00:43:26,560 --> 00:43:30,319 Speaker 1: money and speaking about money is something you have to 919 00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:32,759 Speaker 1: do if you want to love that thing and you 920 00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:34,560 Speaker 1: want it to love you back. Right, if you never 921 00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:37,320 Speaker 1: talk about your partner and you never talk to your partner. 922 00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:38,880 Speaker 1: How are they going to love you? And how are 923 00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:39,400 Speaker 1: you going to love this? 924 00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:42,640 Speaker 2: Imagine you're you know, Rody for the next month. You 925 00:43:42,680 --> 00:43:44,799 Speaker 2: never say thank you, Yeah, you never look her in 926 00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:48,000 Speaker 2: the eyes, you never speak to her, you avoid her constantly. 927 00:43:48,120 --> 00:43:50,839 Speaker 2: Imagine like your relationship's going to suffer. You know, I'm 928 00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:53,160 Speaker 2: sure you guys will figure it out, but imagine if 929 00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:57,319 Speaker 2: that's a lifetime of a relationship, it cannot survive. And 930 00:43:57,320 --> 00:43:59,600 Speaker 2: here's a great question that I want everyone to ask 931 00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:02,920 Speaker 2: themselves and another exercise that I want everyone to think 932 00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:05,839 Speaker 2: about right now, whether you're watching or listening, I want 933 00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:09,160 Speaker 2: you to comment on the YouTube below what opened up 934 00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:11,440 Speaker 2: for you during this moment. And I'm going to give 935 00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:16,200 Speaker 2: you the exercise Jay. So imagine this door opens and 936 00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:20,680 Speaker 2: it's a person, and this person is money. It's the 937 00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:23,839 Speaker 2: idea of money. It's a person that walks in, right 938 00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:30,000 Speaker 2: is money. And could you as an example for people 939 00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:33,279 Speaker 2: to imagine this as well, what does that person look 940 00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:38,000 Speaker 2: like when they come in? What would you do? What 941 00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:40,640 Speaker 2: would you say or not say? Could you share kind 942 00:44:40,680 --> 00:44:42,440 Speaker 2: of what that would be like for you? Money? A 943 00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:45,000 Speaker 2: person walks in, they are money, They're the representation of 944 00:44:45,040 --> 00:44:48,320 Speaker 2: your relationship with money, how would you show up and react? 945 00:44:48,440 --> 00:44:50,960 Speaker 1: So in our culture because it would be luxury walking 946 00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:53,759 Speaker 1: and I'll show you a visual. Ever afterwards, you would 947 00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:56,400 Speaker 1: actually bow down, like you'd have that, and that's a 948 00:44:56,440 --> 00:44:59,920 Speaker 1: sign of respect, not a sign of surrender or sebjugation, 949 00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:03,200 Speaker 1: but a sign of respect, Like you'd bow you'd offer 950 00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:05,719 Speaker 1: her whatever she wanted, Like you'd be like, what what 951 00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:06,960 Speaker 1: do you need? Like, what would you like? 952 00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:08,239 Speaker 2: What would you would you like? 953 00:45:08,239 --> 00:45:10,000 Speaker 1: A place to sit, kind of like a guest in 954 00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:11,759 Speaker 1: your like a generous home. You treat them like a 955 00:45:11,760 --> 00:45:13,600 Speaker 1: guest in your home. Yeah, like what would you like? 956 00:45:14,360 --> 00:45:16,440 Speaker 1: Can you can I get you somebody to drink? You know, 957 00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:18,959 Speaker 1: whatever it may be. Obviously she's the godess, she don't 958 00:45:18,960 --> 00:45:21,279 Speaker 1: need anything, but the point is that's how the hospitality 959 00:45:21,440 --> 00:45:23,239 Speaker 1: would still be carried through. 960 00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:23,880 Speaker 2: That's cool. 961 00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:26,719 Speaker 1: And then you'd thank her as well. Like there you'd 962 00:45:26,760 --> 00:45:29,560 Speaker 1: start every connection with the with the god or goddess 963 00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:34,840 Speaker 1: with gratitude, and it'd be like a genuine appreciation and 964 00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:37,279 Speaker 1: an ability to share how you feel, like I think 965 00:45:37,320 --> 00:45:40,359 Speaker 1: being vulnerable and saying hey, like it's been really tough 966 00:45:40,400 --> 00:45:42,520 Speaker 1: this month, Like I'm really struggling right now, like, this 967 00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:44,719 Speaker 1: is what I'm going through. I need your help, like 968 00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:47,200 Speaker 1: a prayer almost interesting of sorts. 969 00:45:47,480 --> 00:45:49,880 Speaker 2: That's beautiful. And I asked I've been asking a lot 970 00:45:49,880 --> 00:45:51,600 Speaker 2: of people this, and so I love to hear people's 971 00:45:51,640 --> 00:45:55,040 Speaker 2: responses and be honest. And the YouTube comments below of 972 00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:58,080 Speaker 2: your relationship with money? I asked someone close to me, 973 00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:01,640 Speaker 2: someone younger, probably in the late twenties. I asked them, 974 00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:03,920 Speaker 2: you know, if money walked in and you were at 975 00:46:03,920 --> 00:46:07,600 Speaker 2: a party, how would you respond? And they said, I 976 00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:10,640 Speaker 2: would run to the bar, I would not make eye contact. 977 00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:13,680 Speaker 2: I would gossip behind their back to other people there 978 00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:16,480 Speaker 2: about money. I would look down at them, but then 979 00:46:16,480 --> 00:46:18,359 Speaker 2: I would use them and abuse them because I would 980 00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:22,279 Speaker 2: really need money, and I would ghost them afterwards. And 981 00:46:22,360 --> 00:46:24,839 Speaker 2: I go and I go wow, And they were like, yeah, 982 00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:27,160 Speaker 2: I know it's really bad, but they're being honest. So 983 00:46:27,200 --> 00:46:29,120 Speaker 2: I want people to be honest, like what is your 984 00:46:29,160 --> 00:46:32,640 Speaker 2: relationship with money? And just imagine if you were money 985 00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:35,360 Speaker 2: and someone treated you that way. If they wanted to 986 00:46:35,400 --> 00:46:37,720 Speaker 2: look at you, they avoid you, they speak poorly behind 987 00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:39,880 Speaker 2: your back. They would use and abuse you when they 988 00:46:39,960 --> 00:46:42,680 Speaker 2: wanted you, and then they ghost you when they didn't 989 00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:44,879 Speaker 2: want to talk to you do you think money would 990 00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:46,719 Speaker 2: want to keep showing me up in your life if 991 00:46:46,719 --> 00:46:49,080 Speaker 2: they were a person, If they were a person, would 992 00:46:49,120 --> 00:46:51,960 Speaker 2: they want to be in your life? Or they feel, Ah, 993 00:46:52,040 --> 00:46:54,600 Speaker 2: this isn't a good relationship for me. And your show 994 00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:57,640 Speaker 2: is all about helping people get healed, healthy and whole. 995 00:46:58,239 --> 00:46:59,719 Speaker 2: And if you want to create a richer, more a 996 00:46:59,719 --> 00:47:02,880 Speaker 2: bunch in life, you have to create a healthy relationship 997 00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:06,560 Speaker 2: with money in your life. And look at it as 998 00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:10,080 Speaker 2: if this was a love of my life, not in 999 00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:13,520 Speaker 2: a worshiping like I worship it no matter what, but 1000 00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:16,319 Speaker 2: more of like this is like a person that I 1001 00:47:16,360 --> 00:47:18,640 Speaker 2: love and I want to treat them with care. I 1002 00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:21,520 Speaker 2: want to be a great host. How can I show up? 1003 00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:24,120 Speaker 2: And it doesn't mean it's always going to be perfect, 1004 00:47:24,120 --> 00:47:26,520 Speaker 2: but how can I show up and be generous, be kind, 1005 00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:31,680 Speaker 2: be patient, listen, be aware and be of service to it? 1006 00:47:31,960 --> 00:47:33,480 Speaker 1: Yeah? I didn't make a huge difference. 1007 00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:36,520 Speaker 2: Huge difference. I'm not saying you haven't had a beautiful, abundant, 1008 00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:40,239 Speaker 2: peaceful life as well with money, but I would bet 1009 00:47:40,320 --> 00:47:44,359 Speaker 2: to say that you've also experienced stress and overwhelm with 1010 00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:47,160 Speaker 2: money for sure, more than having no money. And a 1011 00:47:47,160 --> 00:47:50,160 Speaker 2: lot of people get blocked because they know that like, oh, 1012 00:47:50,960 --> 00:47:53,920 Speaker 2: more money, more problems is another like money lie right, 1013 00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:55,800 Speaker 2: or money like wound that people might have, Like I 1014 00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:57,399 Speaker 2: don't want to make more money because I see people 1015 00:47:57,480 --> 00:48:01,120 Speaker 2: who do have money, they're constantly stressed. They're not generous 1016 00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:03,480 Speaker 2: with it, they're stingy, they don't even tip it all. 1017 00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:05,839 Speaker 2: They're even more stingy with it and they have it. 1018 00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:07,880 Speaker 2: So what's the point of having it if they're not generous. 1019 00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:10,760 Speaker 2: I don't want to be like that. And there can 1020 00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:13,200 Speaker 2: be money traps or money wounds when you have money 1021 00:48:13,239 --> 00:48:15,960 Speaker 2: if you haven't learned how to heal that relationship. And 1022 00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:18,200 Speaker 2: so it's learning how to heal the red relationship so 1023 00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:22,200 Speaker 2: that when you grow your net worth, you also increase 1024 00:48:22,280 --> 00:48:27,000 Speaker 2: your self worth inside and feel peaceful about it. You 1025 00:48:27,080 --> 00:48:31,880 Speaker 2: expand your nervous system, your container to receive abundantly, so 1026 00:48:31,920 --> 00:48:35,520 Speaker 2: that it's not scary, it's not stressful. You can receive more, 1027 00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:37,920 Speaker 2: and you can give more because you know that the 1028 00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:40,439 Speaker 2: more you relax, the more you receive, and when you give, 1029 00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:43,320 Speaker 2: it's going to come back in some way. I struggled 1030 00:48:43,400 --> 00:48:46,440 Speaker 2: with that my first six, seven, eight years of making money. 1031 00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:49,200 Speaker 2: I hoarded money because I was afraid to go broke again, 1032 00:48:49,800 --> 00:48:52,279 Speaker 2: and it limited me in certain ways, and it made 1033 00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:54,080 Speaker 2: me feel stressful, and it made me feel like people 1034 00:48:54,080 --> 00:48:55,960 Speaker 2: were trying to take advantage of me and take my money. 1035 00:48:56,120 --> 00:49:01,280 Speaker 2: It doesn't feel rich having money and living in scarcity. 1036 00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:05,040 Speaker 1: Still, there was a beautiful thing that we'd always repeat 1037 00:49:05,080 --> 00:49:07,520 Speaker 1: in the monastery. It was like God doesn't see what 1038 00:49:07,560 --> 00:49:10,520 Speaker 1: you give, God sees what you hold back. And so 1039 00:49:10,840 --> 00:49:13,200 Speaker 1: there's not this you know, because we can sometimes become 1040 00:49:13,239 --> 00:49:16,040 Speaker 1: egotistical about how much we give, and it's like you 1041 00:49:16,080 --> 00:49:17,920 Speaker 1: got one hand behind your back, and that's you just 1042 00:49:17,960 --> 00:49:20,360 Speaker 1: made that point. It's that it's that pinch, it's that 1043 00:49:20,840 --> 00:49:24,319 Speaker 1: are you giving where there's a challenge to give? Yeah, 1044 00:49:24,360 --> 00:49:28,319 Speaker 1: because that's where we're healing. Because you can get really egotistical, like, hey, 1045 00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:30,400 Speaker 1: if you were worth a billion and you signed a 1046 00:49:30,400 --> 00:49:33,200 Speaker 1: million dollar check, like I know people that are making 1047 00:49:33,239 --> 00:49:36,640 Speaker 1: three million in interest a day, Like, so you writing 1048 00:49:36,680 --> 00:49:40,040 Speaker 1: a million dollar check is not the same. This also 1049 00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:42,000 Speaker 1: applies when you have very little. So my parents, who 1050 00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:46,600 Speaker 1: didn't make a lot when they were giving, felt it 1051 00:49:46,640 --> 00:49:49,160 Speaker 1: felt like a lot. And so like what we're saying 1052 00:49:49,280 --> 00:49:53,040 Speaker 1: is that that this thought of being a giver has 1053 00:49:53,120 --> 00:49:54,120 Speaker 1: to be care to us. 1054 00:49:54,320 --> 00:49:56,040 Speaker 2: You know, my dad was a lot like that too. 1055 00:49:56,800 --> 00:49:59,520 Speaker 2: He had strangers knocking on the door that somehow convinced 1056 00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:02,160 Speaker 2: him to to stay with us for like three months 1057 00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:05,600 Speaker 2: in the summer. Who are ah? And he just opened 1058 00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:08,880 Speaker 2: his doors and said yes, like okay. And so he 1059 00:50:08,960 --> 00:50:10,920 Speaker 2: was just like like your parents, like okay, you need 1060 00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:12,960 Speaker 2: a place to stay for a week, a month, two months. Cool, 1061 00:50:12,960 --> 00:50:14,799 Speaker 2: We'll figure it out. We'll feed you, We'll do this 1062 00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:16,520 Speaker 2: as long as we feel like you're doing something good 1063 00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:19,120 Speaker 2: and we're trying to support you. And I think it's 1064 00:50:19,320 --> 00:50:21,680 Speaker 2: don't have to give money to feel rich. Yes, you 1065 00:50:21,719 --> 00:50:25,239 Speaker 2: can be vandor your generous with your time, with your resources, 1066 00:50:25,239 --> 00:50:28,040 Speaker 2: in other ways, with your food. It's like you can 1067 00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:31,760 Speaker 2: give in other ways and create a richness of life. 1068 00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:35,719 Speaker 2: And that's the key is to feel rich and abundant 1069 00:50:35,760 --> 00:50:38,280 Speaker 2: and free. And if you feel that, when you start 1070 00:50:38,320 --> 00:50:42,080 Speaker 2: making money, you're going to continue to feel free. The 1071 00:50:42,120 --> 00:50:45,720 Speaker 2: biggest trap is when you feel scarce and you start 1072 00:50:45,760 --> 00:50:49,439 Speaker 2: making money and you still feel trapped, you still don't 1073 00:50:49,440 --> 00:50:52,760 Speaker 2: feel free. That isn't even greater prison in my mind, 1074 00:50:53,080 --> 00:50:55,520 Speaker 2: that you're living in scarcity when you have money. 1075 00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:57,440 Speaker 1: I mean there's so many people right now that have 1076 00:50:57,480 --> 00:50:59,880 Speaker 1: the pressure to save money because we've been doing my 1077 00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:02,640 Speaker 1: making money. Yes, but they're espressure to save money. And 1078 00:51:02,680 --> 00:51:06,719 Speaker 1: how do you find that balance between spending comfortably if 1079 00:51:06,719 --> 00:51:10,000 Speaker 1: you have the ability, versus like saving for your future 1080 00:51:10,080 --> 00:51:12,600 Speaker 1: or your family. How do you think about that version? 1081 00:51:12,760 --> 00:51:15,160 Speaker 2: Well, I think when you can live beneath your means 1082 00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:19,320 Speaker 2: and feel abundant, you've won. So when you live beneath 1083 00:51:19,360 --> 00:51:22,439 Speaker 2: your means and you don't need extra stuff, you've won. 1084 00:51:22,800 --> 00:51:27,040 Speaker 2: I just watched The Count of Monte Cristo the other nights. 1085 00:51:27,120 --> 00:51:30,640 Speaker 2: It's an incredible movie of a guy who has nothing, 1086 00:51:30,760 --> 00:51:33,440 Speaker 2: who was born by you know, back in the I 1087 00:51:33,440 --> 00:51:35,799 Speaker 2: don't know, seventeen hundreds or something at a period piece. 1088 00:51:36,120 --> 00:51:38,640 Speaker 2: He was born of like a clerk, a guy who 1089 00:51:38,680 --> 00:51:41,840 Speaker 2: makes no money, and his friend was born of like 1090 00:51:41,960 --> 00:51:44,400 Speaker 2: some general who had a lot of money or something. 1091 00:51:45,120 --> 00:51:49,560 Speaker 2: And this poor kid that grew up friends didn't have anything, 1092 00:51:50,040 --> 00:51:53,799 Speaker 2: but he had the world. He had no money, no possessions, 1093 00:51:54,160 --> 00:51:56,919 Speaker 2: but he just approached life was like, man, but here's 1094 00:51:56,920 --> 00:51:58,920 Speaker 2: a piece of string, here's a rock that I can 1095 00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:02,240 Speaker 2: play with. I can just imagine the beauty of the world. 1096 00:52:02,360 --> 00:52:06,440 Speaker 2: And he appreciated everything even though he had no money. 1097 00:52:06,480 --> 00:52:09,040 Speaker 2: And I think in some ways it's so hard to 1098 00:52:09,040 --> 00:52:11,520 Speaker 2: look at that when we see Instagram and TikTok where 1099 00:52:11,520 --> 00:52:15,760 Speaker 2: everyone has things. When you see everyone else having fun 1100 00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:18,600 Speaker 2: with money and going on that trip with their girlfriends, 1101 00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:21,880 Speaker 2: or buying that expensive car to show after their guy friends, 1102 00:52:22,200 --> 00:52:25,040 Speaker 2: or getting the nice watches or having the cool shoes, 1103 00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:27,640 Speaker 2: and you're thinking, oh, if I could really have money, 1104 00:52:27,719 --> 00:52:29,440 Speaker 2: then I could have these things that would make me 1105 00:52:29,560 --> 00:52:33,400 Speaker 2: feel cool or feel better. But if we can approach 1106 00:52:33,440 --> 00:52:36,000 Speaker 2: life and just be like man, life is so good 1107 00:52:36,600 --> 00:52:40,279 Speaker 2: with what I have. That is true wealth, that is 1108 00:52:40,320 --> 00:52:43,680 Speaker 2: true abundance and happiness. And it doesn't mean you shouldn't 1109 00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:45,600 Speaker 2: strive to create more. If you want more, if you 1110 00:52:45,600 --> 00:52:47,520 Speaker 2: want to have nice shoes or a nice watch cool, 1111 00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:49,920 Speaker 2: You've got to learn how to make money, and you 1112 00:52:49,920 --> 00:52:52,040 Speaker 2: want to learn how to make money easy, not make 1113 00:52:52,080 --> 00:52:56,040 Speaker 2: money hard. And that is a process in developing these skills, 1114 00:52:56,080 --> 00:52:59,160 Speaker 2: these talents within you and seeing how you can monetize 1115 00:52:59,239 --> 00:53:02,839 Speaker 2: those skills. And I'm not saying don't splurge on certain 1116 00:53:02,880 --> 00:53:04,560 Speaker 2: things if you want to, but you have to understand 1117 00:53:04,560 --> 00:53:07,920 Speaker 2: the consequences if you're going to splurge on something to 1118 00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:11,200 Speaker 2: have fun with friends or go on trips and spend 1119 00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:14,200 Speaker 2: this money that you maybe don't have, just know there 1120 00:53:14,440 --> 00:53:17,120 Speaker 2: might be a consequence to that later. If you have 1121 00:53:17,160 --> 00:53:18,840 Speaker 2: to use a credit card, you have to pay that 1122 00:53:19,000 --> 00:53:23,000 Speaker 2: debt with interest later. So just know there's a cost 1123 00:53:23,480 --> 00:53:27,759 Speaker 2: to splurging or spending when you don't have it. I'm 1124 00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:32,160 Speaker 2: a big fan of saving and investing so that you 1125 00:53:32,200 --> 00:53:35,920 Speaker 2: can have freedom in the future and feel rich continually 1126 00:53:36,280 --> 00:53:39,600 Speaker 2: and not needing to buy things to feel richer. 1127 00:53:39,840 --> 00:53:42,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, what about this idea of I want to make 1128 00:53:42,640 --> 00:53:44,799 Speaker 1: money quick, Like I just want to make a million 1129 00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:47,239 Speaker 1: dollars in a week. I want to find that hack 1130 00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:50,279 Speaker 1: that solves my money problems. Like, what's your take on that? 1131 00:53:50,360 --> 00:53:51,040 Speaker 1: Is that possible? 1132 00:53:51,080 --> 00:53:54,160 Speaker 2: I've got money wounds, and it's because I wanted to 1133 00:53:54,200 --> 00:53:57,720 Speaker 2: make easy money in my past, not make money easy. 1134 00:53:58,480 --> 00:54:01,160 Speaker 2: And I don't know anyone that doesn't want to make 1135 00:54:01,200 --> 00:54:04,560 Speaker 2: easy money, Like our ego wants it to come to 1136 00:54:04,640 --> 00:54:06,600 Speaker 2: us now. And you want to find the quick hack 1137 00:54:06,680 --> 00:54:09,560 Speaker 2: or the quick investment that's got a ten X in 1138 00:54:09,640 --> 00:54:12,960 Speaker 2: two months. Sure, there's always outliers that figure out a 1139 00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:15,040 Speaker 2: way to do that. But every time I've tried to 1140 00:54:15,080 --> 00:54:17,759 Speaker 2: do that. I've lost my money and it's been painful, 1141 00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:20,000 Speaker 2: and I'm like, Okay, I think I've learned that lesson, 1142 00:54:20,000 --> 00:54:24,160 Speaker 2: But there's this new quick, easy money opportunity, and every 1143 00:54:24,160 --> 00:54:26,440 Speaker 2: time I do it again, I'm like, what was I thinking? 1144 00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:30,040 Speaker 2: You see that Others act like there's a way to 1145 00:54:30,040 --> 00:54:32,640 Speaker 2: do it so easy. If you just invest in crypto, 1146 00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:34,640 Speaker 2: if you just invest in this, if you just do 1147 00:54:34,760 --> 00:54:37,640 Speaker 2: this thing, you're gonna make quick and easy money. I 1148 00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:41,040 Speaker 2: don't know anyone who's made hundreds of millions, millions or 1149 00:54:41,080 --> 00:54:45,560 Speaker 2: billions who's lived that way. They might have invested and 1150 00:54:45,600 --> 00:54:49,520 Speaker 2: gone all in on one business and created generational wealth, 1151 00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:52,200 Speaker 2: or maybe they went all in on investing in one 1152 00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:55,319 Speaker 2: main stock that ended up ten or twenty x thing 1153 00:54:55,360 --> 00:55:00,200 Speaker 2: over time, but going to quick make easy money way 1154 00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:03,719 Speaker 2: doesn't usually work, and it's painful lessons you have to 1155 00:55:03,760 --> 00:55:06,399 Speaker 2: live afterwards. So I don't know if you ever made 1156 00:55:06,480 --> 00:55:07,640 Speaker 2: quick easy money. 1157 00:55:07,760 --> 00:55:10,839 Speaker 1: No, No, I haven't for sure, And I probably made 1158 00:55:10,960 --> 00:55:14,120 Speaker 1: mistakes when I had a bad relationship with money. 1159 00:55:14,440 --> 00:55:14,840 Speaker 2: Yeah. 1160 00:55:14,920 --> 00:55:18,080 Speaker 1: I remember my one of my mentors in like twenty 1161 00:55:18,160 --> 00:55:22,480 Speaker 1: thirteen told me to invest in crypto, and at the 1162 00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:25,239 Speaker 1: time I thought to myself. It was a scale I've 1163 00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:28,319 Speaker 1: only got like I only like at that time in 1164 00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:33,400 Speaker 1: my life, I probably had one thousand dollars right saved 1165 00:55:33,719 --> 00:55:35,719 Speaker 1: because I'd just come out, I just started working. I 1166 00:55:35,719 --> 00:55:38,439 Speaker 1: didn't have the money, so I was thinking thousand dollars, 1167 00:55:38,480 --> 00:55:40,320 Speaker 1: what's it going to do? Obviously I was stupid. 1168 00:55:40,360 --> 00:55:41,239 Speaker 2: I know that. 1169 00:55:41,360 --> 00:55:43,120 Speaker 1: Also one of them been quick, it would have been 1170 00:55:43,160 --> 00:55:44,680 Speaker 1: taking fifteen years. 1171 00:55:44,719 --> 00:55:47,279 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the thing. It's like we can always look 1172 00:55:47,280 --> 00:55:49,120 Speaker 2: back and say, oh, our friend told us to invest 1173 00:55:49,160 --> 00:55:51,080 Speaker 2: in this thing ten years ago, and if I imagine 1174 00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:53,520 Speaker 2: if I did a ten year Yeah, just like any stock, Yeah, 1175 00:55:53,960 --> 00:55:57,279 Speaker 2: in wait ten years, it should go up if the 1176 00:55:57,280 --> 00:55:58,440 Speaker 2: company continues to do well. 1177 00:55:58,520 --> 00:55:59,840 Speaker 1: No, I've never made easy money. 1178 00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:03,040 Speaker 2: Well here's that. Actually, you actually have made easy money 1179 00:56:03,120 --> 00:56:06,560 Speaker 2: after putting in a decade plus of work, a decade 1180 00:56:06,560 --> 00:56:10,160 Speaker 2: of developing skills, of monetizing your skills, and following the 1181 00:56:10,200 --> 00:56:13,560 Speaker 2: seven habits we talk about in this book, which is, yeah, 1182 00:56:13,600 --> 00:56:15,479 Speaker 2: you can make easy money. Now you can get paid 1183 00:56:15,960 --> 00:56:18,400 Speaker 2: hundreds of thousands of dollars to speak for sixty minutes 1184 00:56:18,440 --> 00:56:21,920 Speaker 2: because you've added so much value in the world for 1185 00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:25,600 Speaker 2: the past decade plus and even a decade before that 1186 00:56:25,760 --> 00:56:29,040 Speaker 2: of spiritual practice before you even learn how to make money. 1187 00:56:29,280 --> 00:56:33,240 Speaker 2: So two decades, two decades of how do I develop 1188 00:56:33,520 --> 00:56:36,600 Speaker 2: skills within me to serve people, whether it be one 1189 00:56:36,640 --> 00:56:40,120 Speaker 2: on one, one to ten one to ten thousand, How 1190 00:56:40,120 --> 00:56:44,239 Speaker 2: do I develop those skills to serve and give generously? 1191 00:56:44,800 --> 00:56:48,480 Speaker 2: You have followed this mindset perfectly, which is a mindset 1192 00:56:48,480 --> 00:56:51,880 Speaker 2: of generosity and gratitude, and that's all you did for 1193 00:56:52,000 --> 00:56:54,799 Speaker 2: essentially the last two decades. How can I learn how 1194 00:56:54,800 --> 00:56:58,200 Speaker 2: to become a better human? How can I give generously? 1195 00:56:58,680 --> 00:57:01,080 Speaker 2: And how can I be appreciative and grateful for the 1196 00:57:01,160 --> 00:57:03,839 Speaker 2: life that I have? And you had no money for 1197 00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:06,800 Speaker 2: almost four years as a monk, but I would bet 1198 00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:10,879 Speaker 2: that you lived a beautifully rich life. You didn't need 1199 00:57:10,920 --> 00:57:15,520 Speaker 2: the money to feel rich. You felt provided for, You 1200 00:57:15,600 --> 00:57:19,600 Speaker 2: had nature, you had community, you were learning, you got 1201 00:57:19,600 --> 00:57:22,040 Speaker 2: to be on purpose, you got to serve, and what 1202 00:57:22,120 --> 00:57:26,080 Speaker 2: a beautiful gift to receive. And you had no money 1203 00:57:26,120 --> 00:57:28,200 Speaker 2: in your bank account, but you were probably one of 1204 00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:30,840 Speaker 2: the richest people that you knew. And that is beautiful, 1205 00:57:31,400 --> 00:57:32,840 Speaker 2: That is abundant. 1206 00:57:32,640 --> 00:57:38,280 Speaker 1: And that's something that definitely doesn't change with the financial change. 1207 00:57:38,360 --> 00:57:41,080 Speaker 2: If I have no money right now, how can I 1208 00:57:41,120 --> 00:57:43,040 Speaker 2: get to a place where you were at where I 1209 00:57:43,040 --> 00:57:46,040 Speaker 2: had the richest, most abundant life because I was working 1210 00:57:46,080 --> 00:57:48,800 Speaker 2: on me. I was a giver. I was generous with 1211 00:57:48,840 --> 00:57:51,440 Speaker 2: my time and my energy and my resources with whatever 1212 00:57:51,480 --> 00:57:53,800 Speaker 2: I had. And then how can I start to earn 1213 00:57:53,880 --> 00:57:59,680 Speaker 2: more money? Make money easy by feeling effortless internally expanding 1214 00:57:59,720 --> 00:58:02,760 Speaker 2: my nervous system so that it can receive more and 1215 00:58:02,840 --> 00:58:06,680 Speaker 2: feel safe. That is a rich upond in life. 1216 00:58:06,400 --> 00:58:08,760 Speaker 1: And that's what we're all really looking for. 1217 00:58:08,880 --> 00:58:11,400 Speaker 2: And me and you both know people who have hundreds 1218 00:58:11,440 --> 00:58:14,640 Speaker 2: of million dollars that they've exited companies and they're not happy. 1219 00:58:15,320 --> 00:58:19,360 Speaker 2: It doesn't mean having more money equals happiness. You start 1220 00:58:19,440 --> 00:58:21,440 Speaker 2: to learn how to heal you and have a healthy 1221 00:58:21,480 --> 00:58:24,440 Speaker 2: relationship with yourself and money even when you have it. 1222 00:58:24,640 --> 00:58:28,280 Speaker 1: When you're looking for a quick fix and a quick win, 1223 00:58:29,360 --> 00:58:32,400 Speaker 1: the problem is the speed at which you win is 1224 00:58:32,480 --> 00:58:34,760 Speaker 1: the speed of which you lose. Yes, right, So if 1225 00:58:34,800 --> 00:58:36,800 Speaker 1: you think i'll put money into this now, I'll make 1226 00:58:36,840 --> 00:58:39,280 Speaker 1: something in a week, chances are, like you said, you 1227 00:58:39,360 --> 00:58:41,600 Speaker 1: lose it immediately. You lose it a day, You lose 1228 00:58:41,640 --> 00:58:44,680 Speaker 1: it in the day. And the reason that happens is 1229 00:58:44,720 --> 00:58:48,920 Speaker 1: because you actually don't know why you're putting your money there. 1230 00:58:48,920 --> 00:58:50,960 Speaker 1: So it goes back to your first point of awareness. 1231 00:58:51,240 --> 00:58:53,320 Speaker 1: It goes back to something you call the mapping habit, 1232 00:58:53,760 --> 00:58:57,520 Speaker 1: the plan, because what's going on is you're saying, I 1233 00:58:57,560 --> 00:58:59,360 Speaker 1: want this stab and now I want this step in immediately, 1234 00:58:59,400 --> 00:59:02,560 Speaker 1: I want this step quickly. So I know zero about 1235 00:59:02,560 --> 00:59:06,360 Speaker 1: this crypto. I know zero about this property. I've had 1236 00:59:06,400 --> 00:59:10,600 Speaker 1: friends literally gamble away their life savings because they heard 1237 00:59:10,640 --> 00:59:13,800 Speaker 1: all their friends were making money through crypto. When people 1238 00:59:13,840 --> 00:59:15,479 Speaker 1: say to me, I've got this much funny, what should 1239 00:59:15,480 --> 00:59:17,240 Speaker 1: I invest? And I'm like, what do you know about 1240 00:59:17,440 --> 00:59:20,120 Speaker 1: invest in that? What do you actually know about? What 1241 00:59:20,200 --> 00:59:23,480 Speaker 1: do you actually have experienced knowledge wisdom in because guess what, 1242 00:59:23,880 --> 00:59:26,240 Speaker 1: because of that, you'll make money on it, because you 1243 00:59:26,320 --> 00:59:28,919 Speaker 1: actually understand it. Again, it goes back to the point 1244 00:59:28,920 --> 00:59:32,120 Speaker 1: of respect. If we don't respect our audience, it doesn't grow. 1245 00:59:32,240 --> 00:59:34,120 Speaker 1: If you don't respect your community, it doesn't grow. If 1246 00:59:34,120 --> 00:59:37,120 Speaker 1: you don't respect your clients, it doesn't grow. By us 1247 00:59:37,120 --> 00:59:39,160 Speaker 1: saying I want to make money, but I know nothing 1248 00:59:39,200 --> 00:59:43,520 Speaker 1: about this industry, it means I'm disrespecting the industry. And sure, 1249 00:59:43,560 --> 00:59:45,480 Speaker 1: there may be one person who had some lucky story 1250 00:59:45,520 --> 00:59:47,720 Speaker 1: that they tell you about. But the truth is most 1251 00:59:47,760 --> 00:59:49,880 Speaker 1: of us are not going to get there. So if 1252 00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:51,080 Speaker 1: you have a little bit of money and you're like Jay, 1253 00:59:51,080 --> 00:59:52,960 Speaker 1: I've only got one hundred dollars to invest, Lewis have 1254 00:59:53,040 --> 00:59:54,880 Speaker 1: only got a thousand dollars to invest, and you ask 1255 00:59:54,960 --> 00:59:57,160 Speaker 1: me where to put it, put it in what you know? 1256 00:59:57,640 --> 01:00:00,120 Speaker 1: Put it in yourself if that's all you know, who 1257 01:00:00,200 --> 01:00:02,680 Speaker 1: is yourself and your skills. And I think so many 1258 01:00:02,680 --> 01:00:05,240 Speaker 1: of us are looking for that ticket. But actually that 1259 01:00:05,280 --> 01:00:07,960 Speaker 1: investment in yourself will pay so many dividends. 1260 01:00:08,160 --> 01:00:09,720 Speaker 2: Is this is why I'm glad you said this, because 1261 01:00:09,720 --> 01:00:11,920 Speaker 2: a week ago someone literally asked me, if I have 1262 01:00:12,000 --> 01:00:14,360 Speaker 2: a thousand dollars right now to invest, where should I 1263 01:00:14,440 --> 01:00:16,919 Speaker 2: invest in? And everyone says, put it in crypto, put 1264 01:00:16,920 --> 01:00:18,880 Speaker 2: it in real estate funds, put in all these things. 1265 01:00:19,480 --> 01:00:22,200 Speaker 2: Don't listen to any of that. When I had no money, 1266 01:00:22,600 --> 01:00:24,760 Speaker 2: there was two things that I needed to create more 1267 01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:28,440 Speaker 2: of a currency within me, and that was courage and confidence. 1268 01:00:29,120 --> 01:00:32,560 Speaker 2: I lacked the courage to develop certain skills. When I 1269 01:00:32,600 --> 01:00:35,440 Speaker 2: had courage to go all in on learning public speaking 1270 01:00:35,520 --> 01:00:38,120 Speaker 2: or learning how to write, I didn't know those skills. 1271 01:00:38,480 --> 01:00:41,880 Speaker 2: Actually lacked those skills and I was afraid to be 1272 01:00:41,920 --> 01:00:44,440 Speaker 2: a failure at those things by trying them, but by 1273 01:00:44,480 --> 01:00:46,880 Speaker 2: having the courage to invest my time and energy in 1274 01:00:46,920 --> 01:00:50,320 Speaker 2: a public speaking class, in a writing coach. I didn't 1275 01:00:50,360 --> 01:00:53,400 Speaker 2: have the skills, but I developed the courage. That courage 1276 01:00:53,520 --> 01:00:57,440 Speaker 2: created the actions to create confidence. That confidence created a 1277 01:00:57,480 --> 01:01:03,680 Speaker 2: currency within me of that belief dictated my behaviors to 1278 01:01:03,760 --> 01:01:06,120 Speaker 2: start charging more, to go out there and ask for more, 1279 01:01:06,200 --> 01:01:08,800 Speaker 2: to put myself out there in bigger ways. And so, 1280 01:01:08,880 --> 01:01:10,919 Speaker 2: if you have one thousand dollars or five thousand dollars 1281 01:01:11,000 --> 01:01:12,200 Speaker 2: right now and you want to figure out where to 1282 01:01:12,240 --> 01:01:15,560 Speaker 2: invest it, invested in courage to learn new skills that 1283 01:01:15,600 --> 01:01:18,840 Speaker 2: will give you confidence, that would be an incredible currency 1284 01:01:18,880 --> 01:01:20,120 Speaker 2: that you'll have forever. 1285 01:01:20,440 --> 01:01:22,600 Speaker 1: I mean, Lewis, I'm so excited for people to read 1286 01:01:22,600 --> 01:01:26,800 Speaker 1: this book. Honestly, I love this conversation because we're both 1287 01:01:26,840 --> 01:01:30,200 Speaker 1: sitting here as people who, like you said, not finished 1288 01:01:30,200 --> 01:01:32,760 Speaker 1: our money journey either where where you know I've got 1289 01:01:32,800 --> 01:01:35,120 Speaker 1: so many years left to learn so much more. The 1290 01:01:35,160 --> 01:01:38,320 Speaker 1: reason why I empathize with it is I never ever 1291 01:01:38,400 --> 01:01:42,720 Speaker 1: thought I'd be financially abundant, mentally or physically, and I 1292 01:01:42,760 --> 01:01:43,720 Speaker 1: know you feel the same way. 1293 01:01:43,960 --> 01:01:46,560 Speaker 2: I never never figured out how to make money same. 1294 01:01:46,800 --> 01:01:49,560 Speaker 1: I've really empathized with everyone who's listening, going I'm stuck. 1295 01:01:49,600 --> 01:01:51,920 Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure this out. But I really do 1296 01:01:51,960 --> 01:01:55,439 Speaker 1: believe it starts with this, because this is the work 1297 01:01:55,480 --> 01:01:58,360 Speaker 1: you'll have to do whether you make money tomorrow or 1298 01:01:58,360 --> 01:02:00,400 Speaker 1: in ten years. And no matter how what you make, 1299 01:02:00,480 --> 01:02:02,400 Speaker 1: you're still going to have to do this work. Yes, 1300 01:02:02,560 --> 01:02:05,480 Speaker 1: in this book, because even if you find a way 1301 01:02:05,560 --> 01:02:08,680 Speaker 1: to make money and you become really, really financially successful, 1302 01:02:08,960 --> 01:02:11,520 Speaker 1: you will never feel free in that financial success without 1303 01:02:11,520 --> 01:02:14,360 Speaker 1: doing this work. And you'll still feel anxious, and you 1304 01:02:14,480 --> 01:02:18,320 Speaker 1: still feel stressed, and you still feel all of that right. 1305 01:02:18,400 --> 01:02:20,120 Speaker 2: I tell a story in the book about I used 1306 01:02:20,160 --> 01:02:23,320 Speaker 2: to live in an apartment building here in La It's 1307 01:02:23,360 --> 01:02:25,320 Speaker 2: really sad. There's a lot of wealthy people in this 1308 01:02:25,360 --> 01:02:28,680 Speaker 2: building that I lived in, a lot of celebrities and billionaires. 1309 01:02:28,800 --> 01:02:31,440 Speaker 2: I was the poorest person there. Which is another lesson, 1310 01:02:31,480 --> 01:02:33,800 Speaker 2: which is to put yourself in rooms. Always be where 1311 01:02:33,800 --> 01:02:37,160 Speaker 2: you can mastermind with people, and be around proximity about 1312 01:02:37,320 --> 01:02:39,200 Speaker 2: people who have more so you can learn from them. 1313 01:02:39,240 --> 01:02:41,360 Speaker 2: But I was on a trip and I came back 1314 01:02:41,400 --> 01:02:44,800 Speaker 2: from a trip, driving back into the valet of my building, 1315 01:02:45,480 --> 01:02:48,560 Speaker 2: and there was a tent in the valet, like in 1316 01:02:48,600 --> 01:02:51,320 Speaker 2: the driveway, and I kind of jokingly said to the 1317 01:02:51,400 --> 01:02:53,640 Speaker 2: valley attendant as I pulled into the building, I said, 1318 01:02:54,240 --> 01:02:57,120 Speaker 2: someone didn't jump, did they, kind of like joking, And 1319 01:02:57,160 --> 01:02:59,200 Speaker 2: the guy looked at me with like a serious face, like, yeah, 1320 01:02:59,240 --> 01:03:01,600 Speaker 2: it just happened like minutes ago, and I was I 1321 01:03:01,640 --> 01:03:04,320 Speaker 2: was like, this can't be real. It was like, what, 1322 01:03:04,960 --> 01:03:07,800 Speaker 2: there's billionaires in here, there's millionaires in here, there's celebrities 1323 01:03:07,840 --> 01:03:10,600 Speaker 2: in here. Is like, why would anyone in this building 1324 01:03:11,000 --> 01:03:13,560 Speaker 2: take their own life? And it was kind of like 1325 01:03:13,680 --> 01:03:17,560 Speaker 2: just this shock to me because I learned later who 1326 01:03:17,600 --> 01:03:20,480 Speaker 2: this person was. Someone did jump off the building right 1327 01:03:20,520 --> 01:03:23,480 Speaker 2: before I came back, and he was worth hundreds of 1328 01:03:23,520 --> 01:03:26,320 Speaker 2: millions of dollars net worth if you just googled his name. 1329 01:03:26,680 --> 01:03:28,760 Speaker 2: And I was just thinking, why would someone worth so 1330 01:03:28,880 --> 01:03:32,200 Speaker 2: much money take their life? And I don't want to 1331 01:03:32,520 --> 01:03:36,560 Speaker 2: assume what really happened, But it doesn't mean having all 1332 01:03:36,560 --> 01:03:38,320 Speaker 2: the money in the world is going to solve all 1333 01:03:38,360 --> 01:03:40,000 Speaker 2: your problems, and you're going to feel like you can 1334 01:03:40,080 --> 01:03:43,160 Speaker 2: love and accept yourself, that you have self worth. So, 1335 01:03:43,200 --> 01:03:44,840 Speaker 2: like you said, you may learn how to make a 1336 01:03:44,840 --> 01:03:46,720 Speaker 2: lot of money. But if you haven't learned how to 1337 01:03:46,760 --> 01:03:49,520 Speaker 2: heal your relationship with you, then all the money in 1338 01:03:49,560 --> 01:03:52,200 Speaker 2: the world can't save your life and can't make you 1339 01:03:52,360 --> 01:03:55,440 Speaker 2: feel rich, can't make you feel abundant, can't make you 1340 01:03:55,440 --> 01:03:59,840 Speaker 2: have beautiful relationships with friends, family, colleagues. And that's real. 1341 01:04:00,160 --> 01:04:03,560 Speaker 2: Real wealth comes in life when you have deep, meaningful relationships. 1342 01:04:04,200 --> 01:04:06,440 Speaker 2: And something I want to acknowledge that you do really 1343 01:04:06,440 --> 01:04:11,640 Speaker 2: well is you follow this first habit, the mindset habit 1344 01:04:11,920 --> 01:04:15,200 Speaker 2: so well, which is how can I be generous with 1345 01:04:15,240 --> 01:04:18,880 Speaker 2: my time, my energy, my love for friends, family, colleagues, 1346 01:04:19,280 --> 01:04:23,360 Speaker 2: your community. This community feels it. Everyone listening and watching 1347 01:04:23,440 --> 01:04:27,600 Speaker 2: right now feel your generosity you're giving hearts and your 1348 01:04:27,640 --> 01:04:32,040 Speaker 2: gratitude for them, whether it be individually or collectively, they 1349 01:04:32,120 --> 01:04:36,080 Speaker 2: feel it. And most people, they want to make more money, 1350 01:04:36,640 --> 01:04:41,840 Speaker 2: but they don't have that generosity, that grateful spirits, and 1351 01:04:42,160 --> 01:04:45,400 Speaker 2: they want the quick fix. They want to make easy 1352 01:04:45,480 --> 01:04:50,400 Speaker 2: money quick, not make money easy. And the billionaires that 1353 01:04:50,440 --> 01:04:53,440 Speaker 2: I know, you know, and the millionaires that we know, 1354 01:04:53,520 --> 01:04:56,760 Speaker 2: we've interviewed and I'll ask them this question, what do 1355 01:04:56,800 --> 01:05:00,640 Speaker 2: you think the key to creating more financial abundance every year? 1356 01:05:00,640 --> 01:05:04,400 Speaker 2: After year is for you. Every billionaire or mega millionaire 1357 01:05:04,400 --> 01:05:08,160 Speaker 2: will say giving more. I make more when I give 1358 01:05:08,240 --> 01:05:11,600 Speaker 2: more that year, whether it be giving more to charities, 1359 01:05:11,640 --> 01:05:13,560 Speaker 2: whether it be giving to people in my life, whether 1360 01:05:13,560 --> 01:05:15,600 Speaker 2: it be giving back to my community, giving back to 1361 01:05:15,640 --> 01:05:19,200 Speaker 2: my employees, my business, finding ways to give more and 1362 01:05:19,280 --> 01:05:22,440 Speaker 2: almost give where it feels a little uncomfortable, like, oh, 1363 01:05:22,680 --> 01:05:25,439 Speaker 2: that was a big check. I just wrote. Oh man, 1364 01:05:25,800 --> 01:05:29,920 Speaker 2: I care about this cause, this charity. I feel safe 1365 01:05:29,960 --> 01:05:34,360 Speaker 2: giving this amount, but what really would make it uncomfortable? 1366 01:05:34,760 --> 01:05:36,640 Speaker 2: Or I go to church every week and I typically 1367 01:05:36,640 --> 01:05:39,320 Speaker 2: give this, but what would make me feel a little uncomfortable. 1368 01:05:39,960 --> 01:05:42,400 Speaker 2: Most of these people say the more they give when 1369 01:05:42,440 --> 01:05:46,600 Speaker 2: it's the most uncomfortable. Somehow they just keep earning more. 1370 01:05:46,800 --> 01:05:48,800 Speaker 2: And I'm not saying you should give all your money 1371 01:05:48,800 --> 01:05:51,800 Speaker 2: away and you're going to earn more back, but having 1372 01:05:51,840 --> 01:05:54,320 Speaker 2: that mindset of generosity, and you do this very well 1373 01:05:54,600 --> 01:05:57,600 Speaker 2: where you give your community. Whenever there's some type of 1374 01:05:57,840 --> 01:06:00,520 Speaker 2: breakdown in the world, you're one of the first people say, 1375 01:06:00,560 --> 01:06:03,200 Speaker 2: how can we give? How can we rally the troops? 1376 01:06:03,440 --> 01:06:06,680 Speaker 2: You give first, You rally the troops. They let's give back. 1377 01:06:07,040 --> 01:06:09,800 Speaker 2: The fires happened, stuff happened, in India a couple of 1378 01:06:09,840 --> 01:06:13,240 Speaker 2: years ago. Stuff's always happening, and you say we're gonna give. 1379 01:06:13,560 --> 01:06:16,760 Speaker 2: I don't know if that seems something conscious you think about, like, oh, 1380 01:06:16,840 --> 01:06:20,080 Speaker 2: by giving more every year, it helps me make more, 1381 01:06:20,240 --> 01:06:23,439 Speaker 2: but also I feel richer. And when you do that 1382 01:06:23,640 --> 01:06:27,120 Speaker 2: with everyone in your life, whether you're the hostess and 1383 01:06:27,160 --> 01:06:32,760 Speaker 2: you give curiosity, love, passion, fun, playfulness, you're giving something 1384 01:06:32,800 --> 01:06:35,440 Speaker 2: in that moment. If you can write a check for 1385 01:06:35,560 --> 01:06:39,360 Speaker 2: something that is a cause and you give, it's because 1386 01:06:39,400 --> 01:06:42,280 Speaker 2: you can, and you do it generously, it's just going 1387 01:06:42,320 --> 01:06:45,800 Speaker 2: to make you richer inside, and you're creating an energy 1388 01:06:45,960 --> 01:06:47,680 Speaker 2: of abundance to attract more. 1389 01:06:47,920 --> 01:06:50,480 Speaker 1: I think for me it was watching my parents. So 1390 01:06:50,760 --> 01:06:52,800 Speaker 1: for all the other things I said about just enough 1391 01:06:52,840 --> 01:06:56,960 Speaker 1: and everything, my parents always gave in charity. A home 1392 01:06:57,120 --> 01:07:00,720 Speaker 1: was always a home where everyone was welcome, would happily 1393 01:07:00,720 --> 01:07:03,920 Speaker 1: cook dinner for everyone, even though you know, we didn't 1394 01:07:03,920 --> 01:07:07,600 Speaker 1: have everything, and so my parents had this generous heart. 1395 01:07:07,600 --> 01:07:08,320 Speaker 1: At the same. 1396 01:07:08,160 --> 01:07:12,200 Speaker 2: Time, they probably felt rich in that for sure, generally. 1397 01:07:12,040 --> 01:07:14,400 Speaker 1: Sure, and they did it when we didn't have a 1398 01:07:14,400 --> 01:07:16,480 Speaker 1: lot like my parents. Now, when I realized how much 1399 01:07:16,520 --> 01:07:18,320 Speaker 1: my parents made and how much the game and charity. 1400 01:07:18,640 --> 01:07:22,240 Speaker 1: The proportions were pretty off, and I think for me, 1401 01:07:22,360 --> 01:07:25,120 Speaker 1: I just felt so fortunate and I feel so lucky, 1402 01:07:25,360 --> 01:07:28,120 Speaker 1: and I feel so grateful that I have been able 1403 01:07:28,160 --> 01:07:30,560 Speaker 1: to find abundance in my life that I feel like 1404 01:07:30,640 --> 01:07:34,479 Speaker 1: the only natural reaction to that has to be to give. 1405 01:07:35,120 --> 01:07:38,160 Speaker 1: When I came back to LA with the fires and everything, 1406 01:07:38,440 --> 01:07:40,040 Speaker 1: I was just grateful to come back to a home. 1407 01:07:40,560 --> 01:07:43,000 Speaker 1: But not everyone I know came back to a home, 1408 01:07:43,600 --> 01:07:46,880 Speaker 1: and so I felt grateful that I had a home, 1409 01:07:47,160 --> 01:07:48,520 Speaker 1: and so I was like, Okay, what can we do? 1410 01:07:48,920 --> 01:07:51,040 Speaker 1: And so I think it comes from a place of gratitude. Again, 1411 01:07:51,120 --> 01:07:53,480 Speaker 1: it comes from a place of seeing my parents be 1412 01:07:53,520 --> 01:07:56,160 Speaker 1: so generous even though they had nothing to give. Actually, 1413 01:07:56,920 --> 01:08:00,120 Speaker 1: and it ultimately comes to me because I just feel 1414 01:08:00,160 --> 01:08:03,400 Speaker 1: like there's no better use for it in the long 1415 01:08:03,480 --> 01:08:05,480 Speaker 1: run than that, And I do believe it will come 1416 01:08:05,520 --> 01:08:07,160 Speaker 1: back in its own way. I don't give it because 1417 01:08:07,160 --> 01:08:09,400 Speaker 1: I want it back. I give it because I believe 1418 01:08:09,440 --> 01:08:11,720 Speaker 1: there's a need. But I do deeply believe that it 1419 01:08:11,720 --> 01:08:13,760 Speaker 1: will come back in its own way, and it always has. 1420 01:08:14,280 --> 01:08:17,960 Speaker 1: The book's called Make Money Easy, Create Financial Freedom, and 1421 01:08:18,000 --> 01:08:21,120 Speaker 1: live a richer life. Lewis hows Lewis, I'm so grateful, 1422 01:08:21,200 --> 01:08:24,000 Speaker 1: genuinely for this conversation. It's left me feeling so rich. 1423 01:08:24,040 --> 01:08:26,439 Speaker 1: I've always felt rich in our friendship, and I'm really 1424 01:08:26,439 --> 01:08:28,599 Speaker 1: glad that you wrote about it in this way because 1425 01:08:29,160 --> 01:08:31,000 Speaker 1: I think there's lots of great money experts out there 1426 01:08:31,040 --> 01:08:34,320 Speaker 1: who are growing really good sound financial advice. 1427 01:08:34,439 --> 01:08:34,960 Speaker 2: Yeah that's not. 1428 01:08:35,320 --> 01:08:37,960 Speaker 1: That's not what this is, and I think we need 1429 01:08:38,000 --> 01:08:39,840 Speaker 1: all of it. But I think this is a deep 1430 01:08:39,840 --> 01:08:42,760 Speaker 1: part because I know for me personally, this has been 1431 01:08:42,800 --> 01:08:45,439 Speaker 1: really deep work, and you put it into a book, 1432 01:08:45,800 --> 01:08:48,160 Speaker 1: and so I'm so grateful. Let people get to exercise. Brother, 1433 01:08:48,360 --> 01:08:50,519 Speaker 1: Thank you for doing this. Everyone who's been listening or 1434 01:08:50,560 --> 01:08:53,600 Speaker 1: watching read the book, learn the Habits. Tag me and 1435 01:08:53,680 --> 01:08:56,879 Speaker 1: Lewis on Instagram on TikTok. Let me know what's resonating 1436 01:08:56,880 --> 01:08:58,880 Speaker 1: with you, what's connected with you. I want to hear 1437 01:08:58,920 --> 01:09:01,439 Speaker 1: your stories. I want to hear what skill you invested in. 1438 01:09:01,560 --> 01:09:03,080 Speaker 1: I want you to turn up at your job, even 1439 01:09:03,120 --> 01:09:04,960 Speaker 1: if you hate it. I want you to turn up 1440 01:09:04,960 --> 01:09:07,599 Speaker 1: to it with all the love that you possibly have. 1441 01:09:08,000 --> 01:09:10,840 Speaker 1: See whose mind you blow, who gets impressed by what 1442 01:09:10,880 --> 01:09:13,639 Speaker 1: you're doing. Someone's gonna be able to shift your life 1443 01:09:13,680 --> 01:09:16,400 Speaker 1: at some point. And it's going to start with you. 1444 01:09:16,880 --> 01:09:19,760 Speaker 1: But just don't underestimate the value of these things that 1445 01:09:19,960 --> 01:09:23,280 Speaker 1: sound simple and they sound like I've got to figure 1446 01:09:23,280 --> 01:09:25,200 Speaker 1: out something more complex. No, no, no, this is where 1447 01:09:25,200 --> 01:09:27,600 Speaker 1: it starts, and this will mean that at the end 1448 01:09:27,640 --> 01:09:30,360 Speaker 1: of it, you'll be happy. So thank you to Lewis, 1449 01:09:30,479 --> 01:09:32,360 Speaker 1: thank you to each and every one of you. And yeah, 1450 01:09:32,439 --> 01:09:33,840 Speaker 1: make money easy, appreciate it. 1451 01:09:34,400 --> 01:09:34,760 Speaker 2: I love you. 1452 01:09:35,160 --> 01:09:38,040 Speaker 1: If you love this episode, you love my conversation with 1453 01:09:38,240 --> 01:09:43,080 Speaker 1: Dr Joe Dispenser on why stressing overthinking negatively impacts your 1454 01:09:43,120 --> 01:09:46,120 Speaker 1: brain and heart and how to change your habits that 1455 01:09:46,160 --> 01:09:49,000 Speaker 1: are on autopilot. Listen to it right now. 1456 01:09:49,200 --> 01:09:52,519 Speaker 3: How many times do we have to forget until we 1457 01:09:52,600 --> 01:09:55,639 Speaker 3: stop forgetting and start remembering. That's the moment of change. 1458 01:09:55,720 --> 01:09:58,160 Speaker 3: Who cares how many times you fell off the bicycle? 1459 01:09:58,200 --> 01:10:00,360 Speaker 3: If you ride the bicycle, now you're right the bike