Speaker 1: Ready for.
Speaker 2: Greetings things gems, arms, germains Germans, earthworms and spaceworm Germians.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, yeah, yeah, we keep adding to the list.
Speaker 2: But no matter who you are, you are welcome on
Speaker 2: the ships. And this week a lot of you are
Speaker 2: going to be welcome in a different way because we
Speaker 2: decided to give advice from outer space, completely unqualified two
Speaker 2: gay girls.
Speaker 1: But at least it's solicited this time. Yeah, yeah, we
Speaker 1: have we You should only listen to us insomuch as
Speaker 1: you should take everything we say with a grain of
Speaker 1: salt and understand that we're just sharing our life experience,
Speaker 1: which may not ring true for you, and it may
Speaker 1: not work for you, but perhaps it's worked for us,
Speaker 1: and who knows, maybe we can help somebody.
Speaker 2: Yeah, or at least inspire you to change your situation.
Speaker 2: We're going to end to a question. I saw some questions,
Speaker 2: so maybe not all that.
Speaker 1: Yes, So we put out a question box on across
Speaker 1: our social medias and people submitted and we actually have
Speaker 1: no idea who sent what because our producer took over
Speaker 1: and it's just each question individuals.
Speaker 2: And they are completely anonymous, so don't worry. Yeah, we'll
Speaker 2: be posting the list later now, No, it is completely anonymous,
Speaker 2: but we're going to be reading some of these for
Speaker 2: the first time. So if you did, if you were
Speaker 2: one of those earthlings that gave us a question or
Speaker 2: ask for advice, thank you so much.
Speaker 3: We appreciate it.
Speaker 2: Thank you. So do you want to kick us off, babe?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd want to just kick us off first by
Speaker 1: saying that I think that you and I are the
Speaker 1: kinds of people who have lots of discussions about life together.
Speaker 1: I mean, granted, we are a couple, so that would
Speaker 1: make sense, but it's kind of like a hidden superpower
Speaker 1: of yours, and we do talk about it where I
Speaker 1: feel like you have a special knack for reading people
Speaker 1: and actually finding like the truth in a situation. I
Speaker 1: don't feel for your personal for your personal situations the
Speaker 1: case now, I don't think it's always the case for
Speaker 1: your personal situations. I think that's how it is, Like
Speaker 1: you always give better advice than than than what you follow.
Speaker 3: But you are.
Speaker 1: Excellent at identifying the problem and offering a solution. I know,
Speaker 1: because sometimes we'll leave like a situation, a stressful environment,
Speaker 1: or like we're discussing something you know, and then you'll
Speaker 1: just give me like bullet point after bullet point after
Speaker 1: bullet point after bullet point of your observations, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: what do I tell you? I'm like, please just tell
Speaker 1: this person, Please.
Speaker 3: Just share everything that you said.
Speaker 1: Person, whoever it is that we're talking about, or whatever
Speaker 1: it is we're talking about at the moment. I'm always like, God,
Speaker 1: I wish I could have recorded that.
Speaker 3: Well, I feel and play it back. I feel like
Speaker 3: you give well.
Speaker 2: Actually see, I feel like what you do is give
Speaker 2: great advice and you're not afraid to then take those
Speaker 2: what you analyze and then take it to.
Speaker 1: To the to the situation or the person. Yeah, I'm working.
Speaker 2: I'm working.
Speaker 1: I'm the soliciting part of the advice. I'm working on
Speaker 1: like number one, the first advice I'll give you today.
Speaker 3: It's not part of the list.
Speaker 1: This is a bumus is don't give advice unless someone's
Speaker 1: asking for it.
Speaker 2: That's a good one.
Speaker 3: That's what I know. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: She means well, I do I really do thank you.
Speaker 1: I really do mean well. I really do mean well.
Speaker 2: You just mean well a lot.
Speaker 1: I love you. It's okay, moving on better than me anyway.
Speaker 3: I think the sweet spots like somewhere.
Speaker 2: I feel like if we refuse to get together to
Speaker 2: one person, there perfect people will give you all.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 2: First one, Okay, how can I make my baby sleep
Speaker 2: more than three hours? Because we have a lot of
Speaker 2: friends who have babies, and I have a feeling maybe
Speaker 2: this came from one of those wink wink, but I.
Speaker 3: Will say this. I don't know. I'm not a professional.
Speaker 1: I've never had a child, I've never struggled with putting
Speaker 1: my baby to sleep.
Speaker 3: But I did learn.
Speaker 1: Recently that you should not sleep train your baby until
Speaker 1: after a year old. It just has negative psychological implications
Speaker 1: on how they feel towards not only their parents, but
Speaker 1: their surroundings and life in general. So I don't know
Speaker 1: how to get them to sleep longer than three hours, but.
Speaker 2: I do well. I don't know how to get them
Speaker 2: to sleep more than three hours, But what you can
Speaker 2: do is bring that baby over to us, and you
Speaker 2: can sleep more.
Speaker 3: Than three Amazing advice.
Speaker 2: And also whiskey all over the gums. Okay, don't think
Speaker 2: that that's a dog. That we are great babysitters and
Speaker 2: that I can't attest to. And we've been left alone
Speaker 2: with many a baby and we've done just fine. Oh,
Speaker 2: we can also watch you sleep in a super non
Speaker 2: creepy way like.
Speaker 1: Okay, next one, honey girl.
Speaker 3: If I could answer that, I would being out of space.
Speaker 1: The question was how do we get out of this
Speaker 1: fascist era? I wasn't even prepared to enter it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think that what we can do is speak up
Speaker 1: about the things that we care about. Don't be afraid
Speaker 1: to speak your mind. I've learned that there are more
Speaker 1: people in the world who don't know better or are
Speaker 1: unaware or uneducated on certain topics than people who are
Speaker 1: truly inherently wishing others harm. So try to give others
Speaker 1: grace during this period because I think that emotions are high.
Speaker 1: Don't be afraid to cut people off. Don't be afraid
Speaker 1: to set that boundary. I don't care if it's your mother,
Speaker 1: your cousin, your your your sister, your best friend. You know,
Speaker 1: don't surround yourselves with reminders of the things of stress
Speaker 1: you out no matter what it is.
Speaker 3: Politics and news.
Speaker 1: And you know, the past couple of weeks have been
Speaker 1: pretty hectic since the inauguration, and I think in a bunch.
Speaker 3: Of different ways we're feeling it.
Speaker 1: But how do you survive. How do we get out
Speaker 1: of this fashisterical together?
Speaker 2: Together? There you go, not a question but admiration. You
Speaker 2: ladies are amazing and fun.
Speaker 3: Ah, thank you?
Speaker 2: Did you write that? John? Did you write that? John? No?
Speaker 2: Thank you? In all honesty, we really do appreciate anybody
Speaker 2: that that tunes in and joins us up here in space.
Speaker 2: And whether it be to have a laugh or to
Speaker 2: let her know too, right? Yeah, Like tell us what
Speaker 2: you want to hear us talk about? And who do
Speaker 2: you want to hear talk that.
Speaker 1: You enjoyed something or you didn't enjoy something?
Speaker 3: You know em and I are I don't want to
Speaker 3: hear that I do.
Speaker 1: Please send them, send the feedback my way. I'll relate
Speaker 1: to send the booby picks my way.
Speaker 2: Okay, don't worry, I'll share them with you. Okay. How
Speaker 2: do I stop having dreams about my ex? Why is
Speaker 2: this happening seven years later? Shit?
Speaker 3: You know what?
Speaker 2: I will tell you this again. I don't know how
Speaker 2: to stop the dreams, but I think you need to
Speaker 2: find the root of the problem, because clearly there's still
Speaker 2: some kind of emotion you haven't processed, or something you
Speaker 2: haven't let go. I don't know the details. So I
Speaker 2: don't know if if things ended well and maybe you
Speaker 2: still have feelings for this person, or maybe things didn't
Speaker 2: end well. Maybe you even have PTSD or trauma, and
Speaker 2: that can manifest in a lot of ways, especially in
Speaker 2: your dreams. So yeah, I would say maybe if you're
Speaker 2: able to find a therapist that can help you process
Speaker 2: the root of the problem and work on those steps,
Speaker 2: and then I'm sure that in a while the dreams
Speaker 2: might stop, or maybe they'll turn to the dreams about.
Speaker 1: Me I love you, Yeah exactly. I retweet that dreams
Speaker 1: are a product of our subconscious They're a product of
Speaker 1: our thoughts, they are a product of our fears. So
Speaker 1: if you're dreaming about somebody repeatedly, one part of me
Speaker 1: wants to tell you maybe that's a sign. The other
Speaker 1: part of me wants to say, just what I'm said,
Speaker 1: go to the root of it, Try to figure out
Speaker 1: what it is that, what are these dreams have in common,
Speaker 1: what kind of dreams are they?
Speaker 3: How are you feeling?
Speaker 1: There's plenty of literature and Carl Jung did a lot
Speaker 1: of study on the interpretation of dreams, and you can
Speaker 1: take of that what you will, but definitely I think
Speaker 1: it's more than anything, just an indication, a little censor
Speaker 1: light that perhaps there's something else going on that maybe
Speaker 1: you're not facing or aren't aware of, or maybe you
Speaker 1: lack closure or or you know, but uh, why is
Speaker 1: it happening?
Speaker 3: I don't know who? Girl or home boy follow up
Speaker 3: to write and say what the heck?
Speaker 1: All right? So this one says, how can young artists
Speaker 1: stay true to themselves while building a career in a
Speaker 1: competitive industry? You and only you know your vision and
Speaker 1: there's a reason for that. It's because you were meant
Speaker 1: to make that vision a reality. There will always be naysayers.
Speaker 1: Sometimes people love you and they're afraid for you. Sometimes
Speaker 1: they see something in you they wish they had. Sometimes
Speaker 1: it's a conditioning, sometimes it's a lack of knowledge. What
Speaker 1: you can do to be true to yourself is remember
Speaker 1: why you're doing what you're doing, and what you love
Speaker 1: about what it is that you're doing, and hold fast
Speaker 1: to that. A couple of episodes ago, we had Malon
Speaker 1: Ricky here and they were talking about their friends who
Speaker 1: are in a band who essentially put their heads down
Speaker 1: and they harness their sound and they committed and they
Speaker 1: were steadfast and.
Speaker 3: Year after year after year after year.
Speaker 1: They kept working on themselves, working on themselves, and it
Speaker 1: paid off in the long run. I don't think it's
Speaker 1: about the competitiveness in the industry that you should focus in,
Speaker 1: because there are many industries that are competitive. I think
Speaker 1: it's just about remaining authentic and doing things your way
Speaker 1: because you're unique.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I will add, like even that conversation we had
Speaker 2: with Alan Stone, you know, and a lot of musicians,
Speaker 2: so we've talked to on and off this couch. The
Speaker 2: tough part is that because it's such a competitive industry,
Speaker 2: any kind of artists that you are, when you get
Speaker 2: offered an opportunity that makes you feel like we'll open
Speaker 2: a door for bigger opportunities to really share who you are,
Speaker 2: I think that's what it becomes tough, and that's when
Speaker 2: being realistic you have to you have only you know
Speaker 2: that answer, Like Jon said, you have to weigh it
Speaker 2: out yourself. Because I come from a lot of artistic
Speaker 2: privilege and my parents, who didn't have doors opened for them,
Speaker 2: they had to kick them down and they were the
Speaker 2: first people to be like, no, we're staying true to ourselves.
Speaker 2: We're not going to change our name. And that's something
Speaker 2: that to me is super serious. It comes out in
Speaker 2: other ways, I'm kind of like a musical snob. But
Speaker 2: like Alan said, like if there aren't people like that,
Speaker 2: if there aren't people who are staunchly themselves and doing
Speaker 2: their music their way, then everything would just sound the
Speaker 2: same and be exactly the same. But also I will say,
Speaker 2: if there's an opportunity that comes along that you think
Speaker 2: is going to open the door, what I'd say is,
Speaker 2: if you feel like that's okay for you, do it,
Speaker 2: but don't let it turn into an excuse to dilute
Speaker 2: your art. Every time you do something, That's what I
Speaker 2: would say, Find the right moments, find the right reasons.
Speaker 2: I've done things in my career and Jem knows that
Speaker 2: I always put my heart into it and I give
Speaker 2: it my best, But it's not necessarily something that I
Speaker 2: would that I would do.
Speaker 3: You would put it on your tombstone.
Speaker 1: Right, You're not going to be like this one time?
Speaker 2: Right? But anyway, Yeah, that's a tough one question.
Speaker 3: She's talking about, and you don't.
Speaker 2: I don't know what you're talking Okay, Okay, next one. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I want to take a closer look at the space
Speaker 2: between my peepee and boo boo hole. Any suggestions this
Speaker 2: is very inappropriate. That's really inappropriate.
Speaker 3: It's very inappropriate, and it has Emily Estemis.
Speaker 2: No. First of all, that's super inappropriate. I'm offended. Second all,
Speaker 2: you're gonna need three things. That's a three side mirror
Speaker 2: and a pilates reformer. Oh yeah, some of these are
Speaker 2: kind of intense. I know. Thank god they're animals. All right, well,
Speaker 2: let's let's pause. I can have yeah, five, we'll be
Speaker 2: right back for things. All right, welcome back.
Speaker 3: You ready for more? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Okay. I want to make a big life change, but
Speaker 2: everyone says it's too risky. Do I be brave or reckless? Okay?
Speaker 2: First of all, context it depends what this changes. If
Speaker 2: the changes that you want to become a serial killer,
Speaker 2: don't do it. I'm just saying like context is key. However,
Speaker 2: I would venture to guess that when you that they
Speaker 2: think it's too risky, maybe it's something along. Maybe it
Speaker 2: could be leaving a job or moving or a relationship
Speaker 2: or you know, trying out women, which is a great idea.
Speaker 2: But what I will say is that I think that
Speaker 2: it's not reckless. I think it is brave actually to
Speaker 2: make life big life changes. And I think we've actually
Speaker 2: been conditioned to be really comfortable with comfort, like crave
Speaker 2: comfort and be afraid of change. But the one true
Speaker 2: thing that is constant in this life is change.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I heard somebody say, like it was an actor
Speaker 2: or somebody that was talking about this the other day
Speaker 2: and they're like, because they had gone through like really
Speaker 2: dark times in their life and you know, they were
Speaker 2: struggling with something and their friends said, you know, for
Speaker 2: all we know, like this isn't a this isn't a pretend,
Speaker 2: Like this isn't a pass of your life, Like this
Speaker 2: is your one life, you know, so so live it
Speaker 2: in that way. You know, if you want to move,
Speaker 2: live everywhere you want to live, you know you don't
Speaker 2: you're not happy at your job, you know, find a
Speaker 2: way to get out of it. It's not I know that.
Speaker 2: You know, this world can be daunting and financial situations
Speaker 2: make it really difficult, but also fear and those things
Speaker 2: can be louder than all of the possibilities of what
Speaker 2: can happen. So start thinking about ways that you can
Speaker 2: achieve this goal and think about the positive things that
Speaker 2: it's going to bring to your life and all the
Speaker 2: new experiences and things you're going to learn, and also
Speaker 2: the comfort of knowing that there's very few things in
Speaker 2: this life that you can't go back from, or you
Speaker 2: can't change, or you can't evolve from. There are things
Speaker 2: that are, but especially when it's a choice you're making,
Speaker 2: you can always change your mind again, So you know,
Speaker 2: I would say that, and I would also say, ask yourself,
Speaker 2: why these questions? Why these people think it's reckless. Maybe
Speaker 2: they're afraid, Maybe they have some valid reasons that maybe
Speaker 2: you can think about and not only ease their mind,
Speaker 2: which you don't owe them, but if you're feeling insecure,
Speaker 2: maybe be able to ease your mind to go through
Speaker 2: that exercise of listening to their concerns. But yeah, follow
Speaker 2: your heart and you do you and don't let anybody
Speaker 2: talk you out of something that may be the best,
Speaker 2: the best thing ever again, unless it's that you're gonna
Speaker 2: be a circule. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I always say consider the source. If the person that
Speaker 1: is giving you ironically advice in this in this subject
Speaker 1: or in a specific arena, isn't somebody who you admire
Speaker 1: in that same specific arena, be a little bit more
Speaker 1: reserved with how much of their advice you usually take.
Speaker 3: The people who love us always.
Speaker 1: Have the best intentions, but that doesn't necessarily mean that
Speaker 1: they know what's in our best interest. So, like EM said,
Speaker 1: you really should weigh out all of the pros and cons. Again,
Speaker 1: your intuition is a is a guiding light for all
Speaker 1: of our intention is a guiding light for all of us.
Speaker 1: And if it's speaking something to you, then you should
Speaker 1: definitely listen. And I think that being brave is not
Speaker 1: something that you do in the absence of fear. It's
Speaker 1: walking towards your fear. So sometimes if it scares you,
Speaker 1: that's a good thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So yeah, if it's something that you really want to
Speaker 1: do and it's something that you have your mind set to,
Speaker 1: like EM said, this is our one life and it's
Speaker 1: your story and you get to write it, So do
Speaker 1: it all right. I'm struggling with being productive when it
Speaker 1: feels like the whole world is falling apart.
Speaker 2: Girl retweet retweet Rex.
Speaker 1: Back to kind of an earlier question. Again, we were
Speaker 1: not meant to work forty hours a week.
Speaker 3: We just weren't.
Speaker 1: We were meant to pick berries in a cave. We
Speaker 1: can like go down the rabbit hole of like, you know,
Speaker 1: capitalism and economy, but that's not going.
Speaker 3: To offer you anything.
Speaker 1: If you're struggling to be productive when it feels like
Speaker 1: the world is falling apart, that makes sense. That makes
Speaker 1: total sense that you feel that way, because it's an
Speaker 1: alarming time right now, and it absolutely makes sense for
Speaker 1: anyone to feel overwhelmed or like they can't get their footing,
Speaker 1: or like they're struggling to do the things that maybe
Speaker 1: we did even just a year ago.
Speaker 3: Start small, Start small.
Speaker 1: I always find that when I fall off of something
Speaker 1: or when I'm not reaching a certain goal of myself,
Speaker 1: I try to give myself small wins. They don't even
Speaker 1: have to be in terms of productivity or in our career,
Speaker 1: in the area of career. It can just be a
Speaker 1: small thing that you can just do and be proud
Speaker 1: of yourself for doing, whether it's eating a.
Speaker 2: Certain way or even just going for a walk.
Speaker 1: For a walk, or maybe it's reading five pages of
Speaker 1: your book you know today, and celebrate each of those
Speaker 1: milestones because you're doing the work. You're doing the work,
Speaker 1: you're making the change. And if you take one step
Speaker 1: every day verse taking none, you'll take you'll take thirty steps.
Speaker 3: In a month, You'll get somewhere. You will, you will.
Speaker 1: So if you're struggling with being productive, being productive, I
Speaker 1: hear you, I really do.
Speaker 2: One more thing to add. And I'll speak for myself
Speaker 2: because when I feel like the world is falling apart,
Speaker 2: that's when for me I try a lot to connect
Speaker 2: to the earth as opposed to the world, because like us,
Speaker 2: humans really have a way of like messing everything up.
Speaker 3: But nature is perfect. So cute, huh is it? We're
Speaker 3: so cute?
Speaker 2: Yeah, super cute. But anyway, but nature is perfect, then
Speaker 2: there's so many components to this world that that are
Speaker 2: you know, you, that are beautiful and will make you
Speaker 2: feel connected to a part of yourself that maybe the
Speaker 2: world isn't isn't in sync with right now. That's why
Speaker 2: I say, like, go for a walk and observe an animal,
Speaker 2: and you know, maybe go to a garden or if
Speaker 2: you live by a body of water that's always been
Speaker 2: great for me, and just open up that part of
Speaker 2: yourself so you can start to make your own.
Speaker 3: World, you know.
Speaker 2: Anyway, Okay, bars On, bars what are good strategies to
Speaker 2: handle anxious thoughts when they start to overwhelm me. Ooh girl,
Speaker 2: I am anxiety, and then we're all who know, a
Speaker 2: great person to answer.
Speaker 3: Things that help me.
Speaker 2: Personally me. Exercise is a big one, any form of exercise, movement, movement,
Speaker 2: you know. But also like sometimes like when you expel
Speaker 2: that anxious energy somewhere else, you know, then it moves
Speaker 2: through you instead of like staying there or just like
Speaker 2: being dormant until it gets until you get triggered again.
Speaker 2: So I would say, like move the energy in some way,
Speaker 2: whether it's like I don't know, dance, walking, you know,
Speaker 2: change of change of scenery. Also for me, like even
Speaker 2: like drawing or like some kind of creative thing. If
Speaker 2: there's anything creative that you do, even if it's doodling
Speaker 2: or whatnot, that's that seems to be helpful me. And
Speaker 2: breathing exercises. I know that it seems like all these
Speaker 2: things seem like cliches, but they're cliches for reason two.
Speaker 1: Work.
Speaker 2: The tough part is actually doing them. And I know
Speaker 2: what it feels like to be in the middle of
Speaker 2: like really really bad anxiety and you feel like you
Speaker 2: can't even get to those things. But just like Jim
Speaker 2: previously said, to like small little things like obviously, if
Speaker 2: you think about, oh my god, I got to do
Speaker 2: thirty minute meditation every day, it's gonna seem super daunting.
Speaker 2: But if you say, you know what, I'm going to
Speaker 2: do one one minute breathing exercise, you know it helps.
Speaker 2: It helps. And also doing these things before you feel
Speaker 2: anxious is helpful. And then because you can, you know,
Speaker 2: move that energy around before it even gets you know,
Speaker 2: out of hand.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, this person's talking about anxious thoughts. So I
Speaker 1: just want to say one thing, and it kind of
Speaker 1: piggybacks on the whole meditation thing. If meditation, which I
Speaker 1: really should meditate more, really should take my own advice.
Speaker 1: But if meditation teaches us one thing, it's it teaches
Speaker 1: us a lot. But one of the things that I've
Speaker 1: learned in meditating is how to have more grace with
Speaker 1: our own thoughts. You're not gonna win or feel better
Speaker 1: by trying to battle your anxiety like an otherworldly force,
Speaker 1: because we are this complex world that we are experiencing.
Speaker 1: When the anxious thought answers your mind, there's nothing that
Speaker 1: you have to do. You can simply acknowledge that the
Speaker 1: thought has entered your mind. If you want to try
Speaker 1: to understand where where that thought came from or what
Speaker 1: it is that brought you to that place. Maybe that'll
Speaker 1: help you. Or you can simply just say, Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: having this thought right now and I'm feeling a little
Speaker 1: bit anxious, and that's okay, and you have your moment
Speaker 1: and then you simply let it go. Sometimes I think
Speaker 1: we work ourselves up with like not allowing ourselves the
Speaker 1: space to feel the things that we feel, and we
Speaker 1: end up like screwing ourselves over in the end. Feeling
Speaker 1: anxiety is part of just being a human being, and
Speaker 1: sometimes you just have to feel it for a second.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you just have to have the anxious things. Remind
Speaker 1: yourself it's just a thought. It doesn't mean anything. It
Speaker 1: doesn't rule your life. You don't have to react to it,
Speaker 1: you don't have to make a decision based off of it.
Speaker 1: It can just be an anxious thought and that's it,
Speaker 1: and that's it.
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Speaker 1: Okay, what are the best ways to build a support
Speaker 1: system in a new No?
Speaker 2: No, why do you think that's? No?
Speaker 3: I don't know, but just the question. Okay, wow, what?
Speaker 1: Okay, guys, I'm gonna get through this question.
Speaker 3: Then you'll understand what we're having a hard time.
Speaker 1: What are the best ways to build a support system
Speaker 1: in a new place when you're missing the fam? So
Speaker 1: this is a hard question for me because got it,
Speaker 1: it's I talk about it. It sounds like someone died
Speaker 1: and nobody's died. But I do feel sad because my
Speaker 1: little sister, who you guys have heard of for three seasons, Amber,
Speaker 1: who is hands done, one of the best parts of
Speaker 1: my life and one of the best just probably the
Speaker 1: best friend I've ever had, and an undeniable pillar upholding
Speaker 1: my entire support system, and just my buddy in life,
Speaker 1: is moving. So I don't know who sent this question,
Speaker 1: but it reminds me of her. So of course I'm
Speaker 1: a little bit sad, but I'm going to try to
Speaker 1: get out of my feelings for a second and be useful.
Speaker 1: What are the best ways to build a support system
Speaker 1: in a new place when you're missing the fan? So
Speaker 1: I'm going to think of this as as if I
Speaker 1: was telling my sister first, if you're in a new
Speaker 1: place and you're missing your family, that is totally okay
Speaker 1: and expected. Moving is so fun. As somebody in m
Speaker 1: can can also share with this as somebody who's left
Speaker 1: the city that I grew up in and lived in
Speaker 1: other places, it's an incredible experience. I genuinely think that
Speaker 1: everybody should leave their hometown at least once, even if
Speaker 1: you go back to it. I think that there's just
Speaker 1: something that you learn about the world and your own
Speaker 1: sovereignty when you do something like that, when you go
Speaker 1: to a brand new place where you maybe don't know
Speaker 1: anybody or maybe no just one person, and have that experience,
Speaker 1: and that's absolutely something that you should be excited about.
Speaker 1: Building a new support system is really tricky. There is
Speaker 1: a chance you might not, and thank god, in today's
Speaker 1: day and age, you don't necessarily have to. Parts of
Speaker 1: my support system are friends of mine who don't.
Speaker 3: Even live in this state.
Speaker 1: I have friends who don't even live in this country,
Speaker 1: and they've become a part of my support system through
Speaker 1: years of trust and years of intentional building of our relationships.
Speaker 1: So I don't think that your focus should be about
Speaker 1: building a new support system. But if you are trying
Speaker 1: to make new friends and you're trying to meet new people,
Speaker 1: do things that you've never done before. Sign up for
Speaker 1: a class, find yourself working instead of from your culture,
Speaker 1: your dining table on your computer, go to the cafe,
Speaker 1: or go to a restaurant, or go to a meetup,
Speaker 1: or go to a community event, or sign up for
Speaker 1: and I don't know, an organized charity event. Put yourself
Speaker 1: out there. Put yourself out there. Don't be afraid to
Speaker 1: be vulnerable. Don't be afraid to make the first move,
Speaker 1: because chances are that there's going to be somebody else
Speaker 1: out there that you're going to encounter who's going to
Speaker 1: be just as afraid or uneasy as making that first
Speaker 1: move as you are. And embrace it. Embrace, embrace all
Speaker 1: parts of the newness because it's it's honestly beautiful.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think the older you get, the harder it
Speaker 2: becomes to make friends. And I think, specifically like support system,
Speaker 2: I would be careful because you know, it takes a
Speaker 2: long time to get to know somebody, and you don't
Speaker 2: just want to open yourself up to anybody just because
Speaker 2: you're missing your family. That would be one thing that
Speaker 2: I would just add in there, because I'm a very friendly,
Speaker 2: very open person and sometimes too much, and I don't
Speaker 2: want to be that person who's like, oh, the world's sucks,
Speaker 2: everybody sucks. But you know, like your family is your family.
Speaker 2: Nobody nobody's going to replace them. But luckily also we
Speaker 2: live in a world where FaceTime really is a tool
Speaker 2: that can ease a little of that, and the phone
Speaker 2: is always there, and those are tools that are helpful.
Speaker 2: You know, we have we have people in our lives
Speaker 2: who have family in Cuba whose siblings are having babies
Speaker 2: that they haven't even met yet because they can't and
Speaker 2: no amount of people that they meet and no amount
Speaker 2: of friendships that they make are gonna make that go away.
Speaker 3: So or feel that or feel that that place.
Speaker 2: Yeah, or feel that place, but yeah, like enjoy yourself
Speaker 2: and be open and go and do things like she
Speaker 2: said that are of things of interest to you.
Speaker 3: Who knows take a pilates class.
Speaker 1: So this morning I stroke up conversation with a girl
Speaker 1: just because she was so good and I always love
Speaker 1: the people who are the best, and I was like, dude,
Speaker 1: you inspire me because it's my second pilates class after
Speaker 1: I haven't gone to a plate class in ages. And
Speaker 1: of course I'm like totally out of shape and I'm
Speaker 1: having trouble with all of the movements, and this girl
Speaker 1: was just like powering through and I was like walking
Speaker 1: out the door. I turned around, I heard the door
Speaker 1: behind me, and she walked out our behind me. I'm like, dude,
Speaker 1: you're so inspiring. And we ended up talking there for
Speaker 1: a few minutes, and who knows, maybe next class I'll
Speaker 1: talk to her again or say hello, or we'll remember
Speaker 1: each other. Don't worry about finding a new support system.
Speaker 1: If you have a support system that works for you,
Speaker 1: that's probably going to remain your support system.
Speaker 3: And that's okay, that's okay.
Speaker 2: Anyway, go What advice would you give to someone who's
Speaker 2: interested in taking singing lessons?
Speaker 3: Ooh, my advice would be do it.
Speaker 2: My advice would be do it. I think that more
Speaker 2: people should sing, and I think that not everybody might
Speaker 2: be the best singer, but everybody can become a better singer.
Speaker 2: And even if you're tone deaf, sing your heart out.
Speaker 2: I think singing is one of the really amazing ways
Speaker 2: to transcend here or you know, making music. But your
Speaker 2: voice is such a personal thing it's very scary. So
Speaker 2: advice if you're going to take singing lessons, Number one
Speaker 2: something you can do is start taking better care of
Speaker 2: your voice because now you're going to be using it
Speaker 2: in a completely different way with a lot You're moving
Speaker 2: different You're moving the muscles of your voice because your
Speaker 2: vocal cords are essentially work like muscles, and when you sing,
Speaker 2: they vibrate and they slap against each other, and we
Speaker 2: don't do that when we talk. We don't talk it
Speaker 2: is melodically. So you're literally going to be doing something
Speaker 2: completely foreign to you if you hasn't saying so mucus
Speaker 2: is a big thing in that, you know, you can
Speaker 2: start steaming your face, start to get all that mucus off.
Speaker 2: What else you can start maybe finding some songs or
Speaker 2: music that you like, like singers that inspire you, so
Speaker 2: you can show your teacher. Maybe look up some examples
Speaker 2: of what a singing lesson is like, because a lot
Speaker 2: of people think that a singing lesson is you go
Speaker 2: and you sing a song and you get better. It's
Speaker 2: not like that. A lot of it is exercises that
Speaker 2: are tough, but it's running through different exercises uh huh
Speaker 2: that are going to start to actually get your voice ready.
Speaker 2: So don't have an expectation that you're going to a jam.
Speaker 1: A good singing coach isn't going to make you. Probably
Speaker 1: just sing yeah.
Speaker 2: And then the other thing I'd say is, like, whoever
Speaker 2: it is that is your singing coach, like a go
Speaker 2: on their social media or go where they have examples
Speaker 2: of their teaching style or.
Speaker 1: So that that's something that I want people to be
Speaker 1: aware of because you and I talk about this all
Speaker 1: the time, where we'll scroll on TikTok and we see
Speaker 1: these like viral vocal coaches that are actually they have
Speaker 1: hundreds of thousands of following really bad and they are
Speaker 1: teaching their students improper forms. And it's not just improper form.
Speaker 1: It's similar to pilates. If you have improper technique when
Speaker 1: you're doing something like singing, you can.
Speaker 3: Really hurt yourself.
Speaker 1: So my one piece of advice is, while there are
Speaker 1: people out there, my mom is one of them, who
Speaker 1: are really great at their jobs and they don't necessarily
Speaker 1: have the technical credentials, like maybe they don't have the
Speaker 1: official degree to back that up. There's a lot of
Speaker 1: ways that people become well versed in any subject, but
Speaker 1: I would try to go to somebody who like maybe
Speaker 1: has some classical training or has studied music or musical
Speaker 1: what would it be nice?
Speaker 2: Even then, it's just really tough.
Speaker 1: It's really tough. You have to be careful. My one
Speaker 1: piece of advice is is be careful because sometimes you
Speaker 1: think things sound good and they to a trained ear
Speaker 1: don't actually sound good, and you can tell that it's
Speaker 1: I played drums wrong for a long time and I
Speaker 1: ended up causing me a really bad nerve injury. Where
Speaker 1: I knew had teachers, right, I had different drum teachers.
Speaker 2: But this is what I'm saying about musicians, Like, if
Speaker 2: you play an instrument technically, anybody can be a teacher,
Speaker 2: but that doesn't mean that they know how to teach
Speaker 2: or what to teach. There are a lot of amazing
Speaker 2: players who have terrible technique, and if you learn bad technique,
Speaker 2: you could sound great, but you could really over times
Speaker 2: start to mess up your instrument, in which case for
Speaker 2: me was my hands.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Luckily I started singing later, and when I started singing,
Speaker 2: I started taking lessons and the coach that you know
Speaker 2: that we all use tour is. He's not even it's
Speaker 2: not even so much that he's a singer. He is
Speaker 2: a scientist of the voice, and he focuses completely on
Speaker 2: vocal health and how to sharpen your instruments as best
Speaker 2: you can. And it's really impressive, you know, like they're
Speaker 2: exercised exercises that he does that you can do that
Speaker 2: are safe right after vocal surgery.
Speaker 1: You know, like like a good kung fu master. You'll
Speaker 1: know your teacher is good if they stress the basics,
Speaker 1: if they stress.
Speaker 3: Technique, and also just have fun.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: I know it's a nerve wracking thing, but it's it's
Speaker 2: a really liberating thing, so you enjoy it.
Speaker 3: Whoo all right.
Speaker 1: All right, my co worker steals my ideas and never
Speaker 1: gives me credit.
Speaker 3: What do I do?
Speaker 2: Stop telling them your ideas?
Speaker 1: Number One, I would clock that coworker and never tell
Speaker 1: them anything again. Personally, I might be a little petty
Speaker 1: in this department, So really take this with a grain
Speaker 1: of salt. I've been listening to the Mel Robin's podcast
Speaker 1: and she's stressing a lot about this mind's shift called
Speaker 1: that she calls the let them theory and maybe you've
Speaker 1: heard of it, and it's basically, UH an empowering way
Speaker 1: to approach any obstacle so that you aren't impacted by
Speaker 1: the thing before you and you learn to accept that
Speaker 1: there are really very few things that we can control
Speaker 1: in our life. And if you're somebody who likes to control,
Speaker 1: I'm one of those people. Don't shame yourself. That's part
Speaker 1: of our natural instinct. It's in our instinct to want
Speaker 1: to control. It's how we keep ourselves safe. But if
Speaker 1: you have somebody who is stealing your ideas and isn't
Speaker 1: giving you credit, let them. Let them steal your idea
Speaker 1: next time. Don't share anything with them. Yeah, don't create
Speaker 1: a Sometimes you just have to take a mental note
Speaker 1: about a person and just be like, hmm, okay, now
Speaker 1: I understand and I see you clearer.
Speaker 3: Let them show you their colors.
Speaker 2: Ooh wait, I have a better idea. Okay, come up
Speaker 2: with a really terrible idea. It's going to get them fired.
Speaker 2: Let them steal it.
Speaker 3: I guess tired. Problem solved.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, we're clearly really good at this.
Speaker 2: All right, Well, there is one more piece of advice.
Speaker 2: Just kidding, it's not advice, it's news and it's everybody. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's a long one today, Okay. This week in outer space,
Speaker 2: NASA mission finds the Benu asteroid contains material needed for life,
Speaker 2: included in the long list of materials available to view
Speaker 2: and its entirety on their website. The three most important
Speaker 2: materials found were from Role Please, a pair of crocs,
Speaker 2: an orange the Song seasoning packet and Meryl Streep Essential for.
Speaker 3: Life, and a national.
Speaker 2: It's not amazing, go online and see the rest of
Speaker 2: the list, because it's amazing some of the things that
Speaker 2: are in there, including l clippers. Surprising all right, next,
Speaker 2: two stranded NASA astronauts port things. They've been up there
Speaker 2: so long. Sunny Williams and Butch Wilmore participated in their
Speaker 2: first spacewalk together on the outside of the ISS. They said,
Speaker 2: it doesn't seem like they're gonna get us off this
Speaker 2: thing anytime soon, so we figured we'd try and walk home,
Speaker 2: and wouldn't you know, after doing the calculations, their journey
Speaker 2: would indeed be long, but still shorter than trying to
Speaker 2: go five exits in Miami rush hour traffic. Happy spacewalking, y'all,
Speaker 2: all right, last in outer space. Boom Supersonic successfully broke
Speaker 2: the sound barrier with the XB one this month in
Speaker 2: a major milestone. This pathfinder vehicle is designed to demonstrate
Speaker 2: technologies and capabilities that Boom plans to employ a few
Speaker 2: years from now on a commercial jet called overture marking
Speaker 2: yet another way to waste billions of dollars that can
Speaker 2: help the world. So manned babies can fly giant toys
Speaker 2: in the air that go room room and yeah, all
Speaker 2: and this has been nice news.
Speaker 3: Wow, let me tell you something. What are you doing later?
Speaker 1: They take you on a date?
Speaker 2: Damn where we're going?
Speaker 1: I don't know, but you're on fire today and I'm
Speaker 1: with it. Se communications, No, that was really good. That
Speaker 1: was really good. Earthly head Stars.
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